I had NO dificulty in putting my mothers ashes in the sea. She was free from this material body, what in this world would make me attach to the material ? No way ❤ I let her go with peace in my heart. Everytime I remember her is by listening to her favorite song or preparing a meal she loved 🥰 She’s free now
This issue of disposing of ashes reminds me of my poor Grandma's problem several years ago. She was clearing out her sister's home after she's passed, and in a closet, she found FOUR boxes of cremains. It was her sister's husband, his parents, and their son's. My Grandma was in her 80s, and in a terrible state mentally, as everyone she loved was dying, one by one. And now she had these four boxes of forgotten cremains, plus her sister's cremains which she had just received. She ended up going to the beach in the dark of night to dispose of them because she didn't have the bandwidth to obtain the permits. I think this speaks to a responsibility we all have but don't always fulfill: to consider thoughtfully what we want our family to do with our remains after we're gone, and then put it in writing. Make the arrangements. Is it fun? No. But by sparing yourself the trouble now, you're shoving these decisions and burdens onto your loved ones, at a time when they're already going to be emotional and distressed. It's easy to put these things off in our minds, especially when we're younger, but unfortunate things happen to people every day. Look at your loved ones and give them the gift of decisions made so they don't have to.
My husband wanted his ashes spread where he spent many good days in his childhood, and I also left some at the base of a bridge that he worked on and was proud of having worked on.
This is the podcast for me. I'm trying to kick that scarcity mindset. I've always been a saver and felt that I never have enough money. But, the reality is actually different because I have that belief, I keep manifesting lack through acquiring debt. Addicted to struggle is my old mindset. Time to break free!
Great video as always! And thank you for reducing the starting price of the Patreon subscription to $5. Some of your viewers live in developing/middle-income countries where spending $20-$30 per month on a monthly subscription would be a bit much financially. For instance, a subscription to Apple Music here in India costs just ₹99 per month (around $1.25) for the individual plan, whereas in countries like the United States it costs around $10.99 per month. This is because companies change their pricing to reflect the purchasing power of consumers in the country where the service is offered. I wish Patreon did that as well. Adjusted their prices based on location. Thanks for all your great work! I've really learned a lot from The Minimalists and you guys have added tremendous value to my life over the years, and continue to do so! Greetings from Delhi, India...
The idea of taking the ashes on a memory walk is a very nice idea. Its definitely been socially discouraged (at least in my exofriendly online circles) to dump a large amount of ash in one place, including the sea, but you can take the ashes and sprinkle a bit where their favorite places were, if thats how you want to honor their memory. Other people who don't want you do that, can use the ashes in plants that prefer alkaline soil, and sprinkle a bit for those.
This episode for me is up there with one of my favourites. I really like the insights from you all. To quote Joshua "It's a scam because we try to find a short cut to our identity" in relation to the clothing we wear
I struggle with what to do with my dad's ashes as well. I have a fire pit in the backyard where I gather around with friends and loved ones and decided that the most fun thing I could do is add Dad's ashes to the fire pit. The only time he's involved is when there's fun and laughter.
With respect to the ashes question, please keep in mind that certain religions have very specific requirements to interment of ashes. For example, the Catholic Church requires that ashes be interred in consecrated ground. If this woman's mother was practicing a religion that has any such requirements, she should honor her mother by following mother's church requirements.
My dad told me that once people become wealthy, they get psycho about protecting the wealth because for them it's not about money anymore- it's about status and power.
Absolutely love all your answers to the question on why luxury is a scam. I found repeatedly that while purchase and ownership may bring joy, it's just temporary and as a consumer, it's impossible to keep going forever. On the other hand, I found joy most in seeking to create my own art and something original that is my own.
Hmm, I never thought of the reason we make money is to buy luxury goods. I thought it was to have security, food, shelter… but luxury items have never appealed to me. As my husband and I have become more financially secure we spend money on nice meals, quality food, buying a generator because are power goes out all the time, making our outdoor space beautiful, we basically live on our patio. So at 64 I’m focused on making life easy and comfortable- nothing for show. As a friend of mine said, who has done well financially, I’ve bought designer bags and Target bags and in the end I don’t see much difference. They’re just a bag. She goes for the Target bags. Maybe that’s why she doesn’t have financial concerns.
I have been thinking about this for a while now about items in my closet that I spent way too much money for. As I went through them I realized that the labels on them were just a symbol of what I was willing to pay for. For example, the coats that were way too expensive for me but, I wanted them to show that I could afford them when I could very easily buy a used version of them at the thrift store or not own one at all. I was caught up in the idea that if I own this thing I will be happy when actually I felt guilty for spending that much on it.
With my family's ashes, l mixed some into a pot of their favorite plant or flowers so I can remember them and scattered the rest and trashed the container.
Great talk from a great podcast, The idea of scarcity is real in the world. Nobody can have everything needed at the moment, and depriving ourselves of other stuff helps us to maintain our budget constraints depending on our preferences.
@45:51 That one about some of our thoughts are mirrored from our surrounding and culture really made me contemplate internally and i was like, "oh shhh!"
My dad's ashes were mailed to me over 10 years ago. They are still in a box in my closet because I can't bring myself to open it. It's not something I want to have, but at the same time it's not something I can part with either. Could be a Schrödinger situation, if I don't open the box maybe he's still alive...
Even though they were divorced, both my parents' ashes were spread in a meadow by a lake in the foothills of Mammoth Lakes, California. Our family liked to go backpacking in that wilderness area. Back to nature, right!
Is it just me, or did they completely misunderstand the first caller? I was under the impression she was always saving money, even when she didn't need to. But they say she's wondering about wanting too much, and shouldn't.
One thing about ashes if the deceased is Catholic: The Catholic Church has allowed cremation as a option, but they do not support spreading of the ashes. They should be kept together, and ideally, placed in consecrated grounds, like a Catholic cemetery. So, regardless of your religious beliefs, if the deceased was Catholic (or whatever their belief system was), you should honor their beliefs by treating their mortal remains in a manner consistent with their beliefs.
There are currently 63 National Parks. It’s a bucket list of mine to go to every National Park! However, I don’t think I’ll get to all of them. I had this thought that after my demise, my kids should cremate me and split my ashes into 60+ mini urns. Then anytime they visit a National Park that I didn’t get to, they could take an urn and discreetly* leave it somewhere in the park. That way I could continue visiting new parks, but also they could say every time they visit that park in the future that they are going to visit their dad! * Yes, I know it is technically illegal to leave cremains in a national park, but it is easier to ask forgiveness than for permission! 😂
Impulsive shopping on a lower income because I feel if anything happens I’ll at least have food and all but all my extra money goes to groceries. It’s very excessive. Any advice?
Luxury is the privilege to CHOOSE your discomforts. Why do rich people still do some hard drugs or go sky diving? Or go to spas where they exfoliate you raw with hot rocks so you can get smooth skin and relaxed muscles? Luxury doesn't always mean painless. It just means the power to choose certain pains and avoid others.
What’s one thing you own because of scarcity?
💄💄💄 Lipsticks 2, or 3 of EACH...Yikes!!! 😬
Children’s otc meds.
Soap…. Bars and liquid 🧼🛀
Had a small house. No have a big one
Floss! I never ever ever want to not be able to floss my teeth 😅
I love Malabama's voice so much It brings me joy and comfort. I wonder what she looks like.
My wife found her on Instagram :)
Me too- I love her voice 😊
Except her laugh 😖😖😖I can’t stand it
I LOVE her laugh!!!
We could all use malabama in our lives, BUT, my gf will have to do
I had NO dificulty in putting my mothers ashes in the sea. She was free from this material body, what in this world would make me attach to the material ? No way ❤ I let her go with peace in my heart. Everytime I remember her is by listening to her favorite song or preparing a meal she loved 🥰 She’s free now
This issue of disposing of ashes reminds me of my poor Grandma's problem several years ago. She was clearing out her sister's home after she's passed, and in a closet, she found FOUR boxes of cremains. It was her sister's husband, his parents, and their son's. My Grandma was in her 80s, and in a terrible state mentally, as everyone she loved was dying, one by one. And now she had these four boxes of forgotten cremains, plus her sister's cremains which she had just received. She ended up going to the beach in the dark of night to dispose of them because she didn't have the bandwidth to obtain the permits.
I think this speaks to a responsibility we all have but don't always fulfill: to consider thoughtfully what we want our family to do with our remains after we're gone, and then put it in writing. Make the arrangements. Is it fun? No. But by sparing yourself the trouble now, you're shoving these decisions and burdens onto your loved ones, at a time when they're already going to be emotional and distressed.
It's easy to put these things off in our minds, especially when we're younger, but unfortunate things happen to people every day. Look at your loved ones and give them the gift of decisions made so they don't have to.
Minute 34 - TKs insight into what a scammer is VS actually adding value thru creation. Minute 40 - prisoners of abundance
My husband wanted his ashes spread where he spent many good days in his childhood, and I also left some at the base of a bridge that he worked on and was proud of having worked on.
This is the podcast for me. I'm trying to kick that scarcity mindset. I've always been a saver and felt that I never have enough money. But, the reality is actually different because I have that belief, I keep manifesting lack through acquiring debt. Addicted to struggle is my old mindset. Time to break free!
Great video as always! And thank you for reducing the starting price of the Patreon subscription to $5.
Some of your viewers live in developing/middle-income countries where spending $20-$30 per month on a monthly subscription would be a bit much financially.
For instance, a subscription to Apple Music here in India costs just ₹99 per month (around $1.25) for the individual plan, whereas in countries like the United States it costs around $10.99 per month.
This is because companies change their pricing to reflect the purchasing power of consumers in the country where the service is offered.
I wish Patreon did that as well. Adjusted their prices based on location.
Thanks for all your great work! I've really learned a lot from The Minimalists and you guys have added tremendous value to my life over the years, and continue to do so!
Greetings from Delhi, India...
some of us even live in degrading countries like russia with no payment options at all
The idea of taking the ashes on a memory walk is a very nice idea. Its definitely been socially discouraged (at least in my exofriendly online circles) to dump a large amount of ash in one place, including the sea, but you can take the ashes and sprinkle a bit where their favorite places were, if thats how you want to honor their memory. Other people who don't want you do that, can use the ashes in plants that prefer alkaline soil, and sprinkle a bit for those.
This episode for me is up there with one of my favourites. I really like the insights from you all. To quote Joshua "It's a scam because we try to find a short cut to our identity" in relation to the clothing we wear
I struggle with what to do with my dad's ashes as well. I have a fire pit in the backyard where I gather around with friends and loved ones and decided that the most fun thing I could do is add Dad's ashes to the fire pit.
The only time he's involved is when there's fun and laughter.
With respect to the ashes question, please keep in mind that certain religions have very specific requirements to interment of ashes. For example, the Catholic Church requires that ashes be interred in consecrated ground. If this woman's mother was practicing a religion that has any such requirements, she should honor her mother by following mother's church requirements.
My dad told me that once people become wealthy, they get psycho about protecting the wealth because for them it's not about money anymore- it's about status and power.
Abundance is causing us not to enjoy what we have as there is only so much we can focus on.
A great episode, thank you all - it's nice to have Ryan on the phone, it sounds like he's actually in the studio! I love what Malabama shared too xx
Absolutely love all your answers to the question on why luxury is a scam. I found repeatedly that while purchase and ownership may bring joy, it's just temporary and as a consumer, it's impossible to keep going forever. On the other hand, I found joy most in seeking to create my own art and something original that is my own.
TK... What you told the lady about her parents ashes was absolutely beautiful! Brought tear to my eyes.
Beautiful episode. Beautiful words from Joshua, TK and Malabama. Beautiful everything.
Hmm, I never thought of the reason we make money is to buy luxury goods. I thought it was to have security, food, shelter… but luxury items have never appealed to me. As my husband and I have become more financially secure we spend money on nice meals, quality food, buying a generator because are power goes out all the time, making our outdoor space beautiful, we basically live on our patio. So at 64 I’m focused on making life easy and comfortable- nothing for show. As a friend of mine said, who has done well financially, I’ve bought designer bags and Target bags and in the end I don’t see much difference. They’re just a bag. She goes for the Target bags. Maybe that’s why she doesn’t have financial concerns.
I have been thinking about this for a while now about items in my closet that I spent way too much money for. As I went through them I realized that the labels on them were just a symbol of what I was willing to pay for. For example, the coats that were way too expensive for me but, I wanted them to show that I could afford them when I could very easily buy a used version of them at the thrift store or not own one at all. I was caught up in the idea that if I own this thing I will be happy when actually I felt guilty for spending that much on it.
With my family's ashes, l mixed some into a pot of their favorite plant or flowers so I can remember them and scattered the rest and trashed the container.
Great talk from a great podcast, The idea of scarcity is real in the world. Nobody can have everything needed at the moment, and depriving ourselves of other stuff helps us to maintain our budget constraints depending on our preferences.
I started the minimalism game again on Monday this week 😊
@45:51 That one about some of our thoughts are mirrored from our surrounding and culture really made me contemplate internally and i was like, "oh shhh!"
My dad's ashes were mailed to me over 10 years ago. They are still in a box in my closet because I can't bring myself to open it. It's not something I want to have, but at the same time it's not something I can part with either. Could be a Schrödinger situation, if I don't open the box maybe he's still alive...
Even though they were divorced, both my parents' ashes were spread in a meadow by a lake in the foothills of Mammoth Lakes, California. Our family liked to go backpacking in that wilderness area. Back to nature, right!
Thank you 🙏🏻
I appreciate you and all that you do to help others, including me. I needed to hear this today.
Wealth is what you do with abundance.🎉
Wichita, Kansas has a scattering garden where anyone can spread ashes. It’s a big, beautiful field in the country.
This episode was brilliant so many insightful take-aways 👏 thanks guys ❤
Absolutely !
love it...... belief clutter
Is it just me, or did they completely misunderstand the first caller? I was under the impression she was always saving money, even when she didn't need to.
But they say she's wondering about wanting too much, and shouldn't.
49:05 Do I have to have a Patreon account to see the free trial? When I click the link I don't see a free trial mentioned.
Hey Joshua. I have a coffee tree and make my own too
One thing about ashes if the deceased is Catholic: The Catholic Church has allowed cremation as a option, but they do not support spreading of the ashes. They should be kept together, and ideally, placed in consecrated grounds, like a Catholic cemetery. So, regardless of your religious beliefs, if the deceased was Catholic (or whatever their belief system was), you should honor their beliefs by treating their mortal remains in a manner consistent with their beliefs.
There are currently 63 National Parks. It’s a bucket list of mine to go to every National Park!
However, I don’t think I’ll get to all of them.
I had this thought that after my demise, my kids should cremate me and split my ashes into 60+ mini urns. Then anytime they visit a National Park that I didn’t get to, they could take an urn and discreetly* leave it somewhere in the park. That way I could continue visiting new parks, but also they could say every time they visit that park in the future that they are going to visit their dad!
* Yes, I know it is technically illegal to leave cremains in a national park, but it is easier to ask forgiveness than for permission! 😂
Wow, that's incredible! Perhaps start an online group and do this for others while you can, and set up the whole free system? It's an excellent idea.
@@melmckane2913 i think the whole legality issue would make it tough to set up a group to do this, although I do like that idea!
god I wish I had a best friend like that
body cream. I need to get rid of it, rediculous
Impulsive shopping on a lower income because I feel if anything happens I’ll at least have food and all but all my extra money goes to groceries. It’s very excessive. Any advice?
Maybe put the money into a 'for when we need groceries' savings pot instead?
Luxury is the privilege to CHOOSE your discomforts. Why do rich people still do some hard drugs or go sky diving? Or go to spas where they exfoliate you raw with hot rocks so you can get smooth skin and relaxed muscles? Luxury doesn't always mean painless. It just means the power to choose certain pains and avoid others.
It’s apoptosis. Cell apoptosis.
Money
August 28, 2023
Ashes and funerals
Isn't it obvious?
Inter ashes.
Toilet paper 😂😅.
To the commenter "kathy" when my nan past, my mum got us necklace pendants with some of her ashes in.