My mother struggled with the care of her mother when Alzheimer's hit. We all pitched in but it very often falls to one care giver. There's too much to mention and commiserate over. Wishing your dad all the help and support he can get.
I've been the sole caregiver for my mom (strokes) for over 10 years. You are correct that it often falls to one person, my sister comes in on Saturdays for a few hours, but there may be good reasons for that. As the oldest I already had a small retirement check, so when I boarded up my business I still have some income - no one else can afford to do that in my family... there was no question that someone had to step up. We have seem the nursing home option, and trust me they would have stolen everything that she worked for her entire life, and she would have been dead the 1st year. This does not even address the moral issue of children abandoning their parent to strangers...
My dad had Alzeimers and a few years later my mum(this summer) had a stroke. They are both gone now, luckily my mum didn't have to suffer too long. Dad held out for a few years. It's a truly tough thing to give that level of care, I know. Especially to someone you love. I hope your dad gets all the support he can possibly get. Dementia is a horrible disease. Made me think if there's something you want to do, do it whilst you are healthy. Bless you.
I'm sorry to hear about your mother. My father, who was a teacher, passed suffering the same. Well done helping out at home. Your life speaks of wisdom and layers of richness I'm sure passed on from your parents.
I'm taking care of both my parents who have dementia. It's not easy but you do the best you can. I think you did an excellent job with the hard dodger and it compliments your boat.
Kevin, so sorry to hear about what your folks are now facing at home. What many of your subscribers see in your postings is the " wonderful life" of a nautical rovers but do not understand the difficulties of a sailor's life at sea when illness and death hits our loved ones ashore. Times apart weigh very heavily indeed offshore...Barb and I are thinking of you, thanks for posting and keeping it real my friend. T
@@howtosailoceans1423 Kevin, have been thinking alot about you since your most recent posting. I was notified of the death of my parents about ten years apart while out at sea and once when Barb was ill as well. So I know what you are facing my friend. Very difficult when the gravitational pull of shore side events and responsibilities are presented. You handled it beautifully with this posting guiding your subscribers thru what is real in our sailing world. BTW ...in another light I saw you were described by a subscriber as a " SAILING ROCK STAR" after posting on Alan's site the other day. Me thinks you are a ROCK STAR SON as well. Take Care T
Well done Kevin lovely video as always. Sorry to hear about your mam dementia is so hard especially for the caregivers who knew her in her prime. Take care of your dad its so easy to get burnout. Your dad must be so proud of you off on your sailing voyages using the talent that he helped nurture in you. Wishing you good luck and fair winds always
Spent the first week in September in Maine with the wife on our bi-annual vacation our first time there. Thanks for allowing us to be apart of your life and getting a peak at what real sailing is.
Great content Kevin, so much enjoy just getting straight into the vid without the 'ad nauseam' intros of other channels that seem to go on and on.... Glad to see you out there and it will be interesting how the perspex rear 'window' works out...... seems ingenious 👍
That coast is very similar to West Scotland and the islands of inner and outer Hebrides. Tides, reefs, rocks. Lots of anchorages. There is a constant test of navigation skills. The weather can change a lot too, from calm and sunny to wet, windy, foggy over days.
Those parts are probably a bit rougher, bearing the brunt of the North Atlantic, but I like lots of anchorages. May have to visit your neck of the woods ...
Ahoy!! Great to see you back on the water again. I’m sorry to hear about your Mum. My father had Alzheimer’s me it’s heartbreaking. Hats off to you for pitching in and helping out your dad. Looking forward to more of your journeys. Thanks again for taking us along.
The Basin on the New Meadows! Visited there many times on family vacations 30 years ago. Great memories that I haven’t thought about in a long time. Holbrook’s wharf in Cundy’s Harbor just across the river is worth a visit too. Doesn’t get much more Downeast than that. Thanks for the memories 😊
Sending good wishes to your parents. Went through the same and it is so hard to watch their difficulties without ‘fixing’ the situation. A good dose of warm fellowship and love goes a long way.
I sailed out of maine last week. Loved it but was nice to be out of Lobster Pot central south of Gloucester. No Prop for you to catch on which is nice.
I follow another sailor obsessed with night tec electronics from stem to stern. Boy, am I glad to follow in a single hull, gaff rigged cutter, with lines about and blue water. Maine is a fine sail if ya like crab pots a plenty.
Great addition to your dodger, love the simplicity of the lashings, a sailor solution. Kudos to your dad for caring for his wife, blessings to you and your family.
Thank you for another great video! I am sorry to hear about the dementia, and empathize with you having to spend time helping your parents. My father has Parkinson's and my mother recently had her hips replaced. The result was that I have been helping out for a few years, doing the various jobs around the house, making breakfast, lunch, etc. I wish you and your family well. You have inspired me with your projects and how you sail. I have not been able to devote a proper amount of time to rebuilding the one boat, but thanks to you, I am now working out the details of what I need to do. I was originally going to renew the Volvo MD6A engine, but now it is a very low priority. Instead, I am going to use the 4 horse outboard and build a sculling oar until I decide if I need or want the inboard. If I get rid of the ancient engine, I'll gain just over 400 lbs of load (175 Kg) and a fair amount of storage space! Your hard dodger has given me some thoughts too. Thanks again and Fair winds!
Good on you for helping out your folks. My mom is having the same issue. Dad’s gone now so she’s in a memory care home. Not an easy thing to go through.
@@howtosailoceans1423 My mom stayed home as long as we could keep her there but at some point they need more supervision and care than the family could keep up with. If you can find one that is more like an assisted living “residence” you’ll feel a lot better about having her there and my mom actually helps with the household chores. Like cleaning and cooking.
Just bought a wooden L.Francis H. Cat Yawl. Going to Gloucester and Maine. Finished the bottom work and she’s floating like a cork on Martha’s Vineyard. Looking forward to some peaceful Maine coastline this summer. Thanks for the videos and inspiration my friend.
Good to see you on the water. That bit of coast looks delightful to visit and weave through. The phase of life your parents are going through can be challenging, they are lucky to have your support. Keep getting out on RA Kevin, it will do you a lot of good.
Your boat really is looking beautiful Kevin I can see you have been painting and I love the colour white you have used. Pilot house is just the job too. You could have a permanent monitor built in to it somehow.
Looking forward to your travels around the Maine coast, keeping your mother and all of her caretakers in my prayers, beautiful scenery your parents must have loved sailing adventures in this area, something to remember and cherish. Fair winds.
Ayuh. Don't expect you'll be cruising Downeast to our neck of the woods, but if you do decide to head up this way, give us a heads up Kevin. Hope you enjoyed the visit with your folks. You just missed the annual pirate festival in Eastport but there is still plenty of this & that going on. The annual wild blueberry harvest is now wrapping up, so you might want to get your fill of fresh Maine wild blueberries while you're in the neighborhood. 👍
Those lobster pots would age me Kevin. You must surely have picked some up in the past. How hard was it to free yourself? I guess one would be well-advised to have a warm wet-suit when sailing in those waters in case you need to go over the side. Fair winds.
Ruth Avery just sails right over them--they float right off the end of the long keel. However, a friend of mine with a catamaran has a much harder time, with two propellers on struts and two spade rudders. How's the new boat coming along?
@@howtosailoceans1423 It's crab traps in the Chesapeake. So far "Just Add Water", my Pearson 31-2, hasn't snagged one on my watch, just off the West River.
Same here with the maternal dementia problem which in our case interferes with CPAP therapy resulting in every 2-4 hours putting the face mask back on. Love seeing the laptop sitting on the companionway cover - icing on the cake.
When are you going to get a fish finder or two on that boat? One facing fore and one facing aft and you have forward and rear facing running sonar, as well as a good idea of where to find dinner. wonder units of a few years ago are like $40 each on Ebay brand new.
Had to laugh towards the end, you hear a "thud" followed by an "Owww". That had to be Keith hitting his head on the new hard dodger. You'll get used to it soon.
Hey Kev. Glad to see your well. So sorry to hear about your Mom. That's a tough one to swallow. How long will you be at your parents? Thinking I would drop you another care package. Don
Don! I love seeing UA-cam/Facebook sailors on others' pages. What a community. I sold my 272, but still keep up with the O'Day pages. Picked up a Catalina 30 at the end of last year. You have to come out here! So much more varied than Channel Islands/Catalina!
@@smosh91 I have been supporting Kevin for a long time. Love this guy! Simple videos and to the point. No BS! Congrats on the Catalina 30. More room for sure. I also upgraded to a double ender. World cruiser. 😆
Do you have any links/info about your wind-vane? I have a little double-ender and would love to add a trim tab like that but have had no luck looking around.
Hi Kevin, thanks for the inspiring sailing videos, I'm curious how you connect your laptop so it knows your location? I've been using Navionics on my cell phone but that's just too small a screen to be useful. Also, In your current sail through Maine will you be traveling near Little Cranberry Island?
Didn't get far enough downeast for Little Cranberry. Use a USB GPS receiver for a laptop ... www.thegpsstore.com/GPS-Units/Laptop-Tablet-GPS/USGlobalSat-BU353-S4-USB-GPS-Receiver
Awesome, thanks for the advice! I appreciate your channel and learn a lot from the things you share. I sail mostly around Long Island Sound but dream of sailing away, maybe someday I will get a chance to do so!
Sorry about your Mom Kevin. That is a devastating disease. Great vid as usual. Please always keep this channel about pure sailing buddy. If I see another vid with some dude’s chick crying about “scary” the big waves are I think I will literally puke…
I know you’re the real deal and I’m a wannabe, but your mini pilot house has no helm so don’t you still have to brave the elements to pilot your boat? Seems like Amel figured this out. Best of luck with sailing and caregiving.
Your mom should look into water fasting. Loren Lockman on UA-cam has supervised 15k people in 20+ years who have done long term water fasts and one of the most often experienced benefits they all experience is clearer thinking. Of course for real healing she'd need to be on a clean clean mostly raw fruit and veg diet for a good while.
My mother struggled with the care of her mother when Alzheimer's hit. We all pitched in but it very often falls to one care giver. There's too much to mention and commiserate over. Wishing your dad all the help and support he can get.
I've been the sole caregiver for my mom (strokes) for over 10 years. You are correct that it often falls to one person, my sister comes in on Saturdays for a few hours, but there may be good reasons for that. As the oldest I already had a small retirement check, so when I boarded up my business I still have some income - no one else can afford to do that in my family... there was no question that someone had to step up. We have seem the nursing home option, and trust me they would have stolen everything that she worked for her entire life, and she would have been dead the 1st year. This does not even address the moral issue of children abandoning their parent to strangers...
My dad had Alzeimers and a few years later my mum(this summer) had a stroke.
They are both gone now, luckily my mum didn't have to suffer too long. Dad held out for a few years.
It's a truly tough thing to give that level of care, I know. Especially to someone you love. I hope your dad gets all the support he can possibly get. Dementia is a horrible disease. Made me think if there's something you want to do, do it whilst you are healthy. Bless you.
I'm going to look at southern cross 31 this weekend ruth avery is the reason I love them
I'm sorry to hear about your mother. My father, who was a teacher, passed suffering the same. Well done helping out at home. Your life speaks of wisdom and layers of richness I'm sure passed on from your parents.
Your spirit is infectious, inspiring all sailors who love to voyage.
I'm taking care of both my parents who have dementia. It's not easy but you do the best you can. I think you did an excellent job with the hard dodger and it compliments your boat.
Thanks. I cannot imagine caring for both parents. I think that's simply beyond what I could do. You have my respect for that, and best wishes.
Kevin, so sorry to hear about what your folks are now facing at home. What many of your subscribers see in your postings is the " wonderful life" of a nautical rovers but do not understand the difficulties of a sailor's life at sea when illness and death hits our loved ones ashore. Times apart weigh very heavily indeed offshore...Barb and I are thinking of you, thanks for posting and keeping it real my friend.
T
Thanks Tom.
@@howtosailoceans1423 Kevin, have been thinking alot about you since your most recent posting.
I was notified of the death of my parents about ten years apart while out at sea and once when Barb was ill as well. So I know what you are facing my friend. Very difficult when the gravitational pull of shore side events and responsibilities are presented. You handled it beautifully with this posting guiding your subscribers thru what is real in our sailing world.
BTW ...in another light I saw you were described by a subscriber as a " SAILING ROCK STAR" after posting on Alan's site the other day. Me thinks you are a ROCK STAR SON as well.
Take Care
T
Like your videos mate, up there with the best for sure,
How to sail the oceans where you don’t tack, you hang a right lol, purely technical sailing term that. Good to see you back, thanks.
Well done Kevin lovely video as always. Sorry to hear about your mam dementia is so hard especially for the caregivers who knew her in her prime. Take care of your dad its so easy to get burnout. Your dad must be so proud of you off on your sailing voyages using the talent that he helped nurture in you. Wishing you good luck and fair winds always
Another peaceful ride that went well with fresh sunday morning coffee...thank you
Spent the first week in September in Maine with the wife on our bi-annual vacation our first time there.
Thanks for allowing us to be apart of your life and getting a peak at what real sailing is.
The pure simple joy of sailing.
Great content Kevin, so much enjoy just getting straight into the vid without the 'ad nauseam' intros of other channels that seem to go on and on....
Glad to see you out there and it will be interesting how the perspex rear 'window' works out...... seems ingenious 👍
Thanks for coming onboard. Yes, the dodger is still in the trial phase, we'll keep you posted.
And painter's tape over the camera. I do the same.
That coast is very similar to West Scotland and the islands of inner and outer Hebrides. Tides, reefs, rocks. Lots of anchorages. There is a constant test of navigation skills. The weather can change a lot too, from calm and sunny to wet, windy, foggy over days.
Those parts are probably a bit rougher, bearing the brunt of the North Atlantic, but I like lots of anchorages. May have to visit your neck of the woods ...
@@howtosailoceans1423 It is definitely worth a visit.
@@howtosailoceans1423 Look up Plockton on the internet Kevin, would be great to see you and Ruth Avery.
Ahoy!! Great to see you back on the water again. I’m sorry to hear about your Mum. My father had Alzheimer’s me it’s heartbreaking. Hats off to you for pitching in and helping out your dad. Looking forward to more of your journeys. Thanks again for taking us along.
The Basin on the New Meadows! Visited there many times on family vacations 30 years ago. Great memories that I haven’t thought about in a long time. Holbrook’s wharf in Cundy’s Harbor just across the river is worth a visit too. Doesn’t get much more Downeast than that. Thanks for the memories 😊
Sending good wishes to your parents. Went through the same and it is so hard to watch their difficulties without ‘fixing’ the situation. A good dose of warm fellowship and love goes a long way.
I sailed out of maine last week. Loved it but was nice to be out of Lobster Pot central south of Gloucester. No Prop for you to catch on which is nice.
Its a relief to see you using an auxilliary lol
Congrats on passing 25K subscribers. Well deserved. Thanks for another nice vid!
Enjoyed two week days in the Basin. My favorite anchorage this season was Seal Bay.
A lovely little ship-boat, and I like your creative dodger set up. Thanks for taking us along.
Thanks for coming onboard, Steven.
Love the tune at the end! Good production, playing, and writing!
I follow another sailor obsessed with night tec electronics from stem to stern. Boy, am I glad to follow in a single hull, gaff rigged cutter, with lines about and blue water. Maine is a fine sail if ya like crab pots a plenty.
Great addition to your dodger, love the simplicity of the lashings, a sailor solution. Kudos to your dad for caring for his wife, blessings to you and your family.
Boothbay and the area around it are my favorite part of Maine. Beautiful area.
truely beautiful cruising area, thanks for the journey.
Thank you for another great video! I am sorry to hear about the dementia, and empathize with you having to spend time helping your parents. My father has Parkinson's and my mother recently had her hips replaced. The result was that I have been helping out for a few years, doing the various jobs around the house, making breakfast, lunch, etc. I wish you and your family well.
You have inspired me with your projects and how you sail. I have not been able to devote a proper amount of time to rebuilding the one boat, but thanks to you, I am now working out the details of what I need to do. I was originally going to renew the Volvo MD6A engine, but now it is a very low priority. Instead, I am going to use the 4 horse outboard and build a sculling oar until I decide if I need or want the inboard. If I get rid of the ancient engine, I'll gain just over 400 lbs of load (175 Kg) and a fair amount of storage space! Your hard dodger has given me some thoughts too.
Thanks again and Fair winds!
My boat is now indoors for winter, enjoy watching your videos this winter as well
Good on you for helping out your folks. My mom is having the same issue. Dad’s gone now so she’s in a memory care home. Not an easy thing to go through.
I just learned about memory care homes. Neither of my parents want to go the nursing home route, but they may have no other choice.
@@howtosailoceans1423 My mom stayed home as long as we could keep her there but at some point they need more supervision and care than the family could keep up with. If you can find one that is more like an assisted living “residence” you’ll feel a lot better about having her there and my mom actually helps with the household chores. Like cleaning and cooking.
@@tna2me197 Agree, there's no easy options
Big respect for you & Kev.
The most capable sailor on UA-cam…👍👍
I was wondering where you had got to. Good to see you again. Fair winds and happy days Kevin
Great stuff mate 👍
I am driving to Fla.to look at a International Folkboat 26 because of your content wish me luck !
Great! Enjoy.
Quite different to the VIs. Thanks for sharing. Enjoy & stay safe
beautiful coast
Just bought a wooden L.Francis H. Cat Yawl. Going to Gloucester and Maine. Finished the bottom work and she’s floating like a cork on Martha’s Vineyard. Looking forward to some peaceful Maine coastline this summer. Thanks for the videos and inspiration my friend.
Fair winds ... a Meadowlark?
Good to see you on the water. That bit of coast looks delightful to visit and weave through. The phase of life your parents are going through can be challenging, they are lucky to have your support. Keep getting out on RA Kevin, it will do you a lot of good.
I love cruising along Maine
The coast of Maine is special, for sure.
Your boat really is looking beautiful Kevin I can see you have been painting and I love the colour white you have used. Pilot house is just the job too. You could have a permanent monitor built in to it somehow.
Damariscove Island.. ;) Where to this winter?? Is it time to do the circle?
Still figuring out my winter plans.
Im surprised people in the other sailboats are waving hello.
Good health& sailing to you. May fair winds guide your parents safely along. Strength to them& the good son.🦋☮️
Looking forward to your travels around the Maine coast, keeping your mother and all of her caretakers in my prayers, beautiful scenery your parents must have loved sailing adventures in this area, something to remember and cherish. Fair winds.
Great video my friend.
Loving the new pilot house very sympathetic
Ayuh. Don't expect you'll be cruising Downeast to our neck of the woods, but if you do decide to head up this way, give us a heads up Kevin. Hope you enjoyed the visit with your folks. You just missed the annual pirate festival in Eastport but there is still plenty of this & that going on. The annual wild blueberry harvest is now wrapping up, so you might want to get your fill of fresh Maine wild blueberries while you're in the neighborhood. 👍
Are you in Eastport? Yeah, that's waaaay down east.
i love your videos!
Those lobster pots would age me Kevin. You must surely have picked some up in the past. How hard was it to free yourself? I guess one would be well-advised to have a warm wet-suit when sailing in those waters in case you need to go over the side. Fair winds.
Ruth Avery just sails right over them--they float right off the end of the long keel. However, a friend of mine with a catamaran has a much harder time, with two propellers on struts and two spade rudders. How's the new boat coming along?
@@howtosailoceans1423 It's crab traps in the Chesapeake. So far "Just Add Water", my Pearson 31-2, hasn't snagged one on my watch, just off the West River.
Same here with the maternal dementia problem which in our case interferes with CPAP therapy resulting in every 2-4 hours putting the face mask back on. Love seeing the laptop sitting on the companionway cover - icing on the cake.
Dear Sir,
Our love SV Ruth has refitted her bell to starboard.
This is a call for you captain to give her a ring.
Your a good guy
Sorry to hear that about you mum mine has to. It's hard work
When are you going to get a fish finder or two on that boat? One facing fore and one facing aft and you have forward and rear facing running sonar, as well as a good idea of where to find dinner. wonder units of a few years ago are like $40 each on Ebay brand new.
Had to laugh towards the end, you hear a "thud" followed by an "Owww". That had to be Keith hitting his head on the new hard dodger. You'll get used to it soon.
I have a couple of bumps on my head at this point, still training those muscles ...
Hey Kev. Glad to see your well. So sorry to hear about your Mom. That's a tough one to swallow. How long will you be at your parents? Thinking I would drop you another care package. Don
Thanks Don, I'll be around for another week or so ... but probably best to hold off until I get back down to Deltaville.
Don! I love seeing UA-cam/Facebook sailors on others' pages. What a community. I sold my 272, but still keep up with the O'Day pages. Picked up a Catalina 30 at the end of last year. You have to come out here! So much more varied than Channel Islands/Catalina!
@@smosh91 I have been supporting Kevin for a long time. Love this guy! Simple videos and to the point. No BS! Congrats on the Catalina 30. More room for sure. I also upgraded to a double ender. World cruiser. 😆
Good boy
Best wishes to your family.
How many lobsta pots in this video?
Lobster pots are everywhere in these parts.
Lots of Pearson’s and Albergs in Maine I see…
Good one…..thx, Andrew
Fair winds ... and fewer fishing buoys to snag ...
Love my 3 T-shirts. Thanks.
Thanks for the support!
Maine Love it.
nice sail boat you have there, is that a Ketch?
The boat in the photo is a Friendship Sloop, a gaff cutter.
OK m8’ how many times, by now, have you hit your head into the dodger?
Boating in that area sounds a lot like sailing in the Puget Sound
So I hear, although I think the anchorages are better here ...
Thanks Kevin. Sorry to hear about yourMum
Two questions. 1. Does the dogger affect your point of sail?. 2. How to avoid not stepping on your solar panels?
1. So far I cannot detect any effect on sailing performance and 2. Um, ... tread carefully.
slowly sail into the anchor? Letting it spin you with the current?
Letting the anchor set by stopping the boat, and turning her head-to-wind.
are there many places off the coast of maine where you can anchor without paying a fee? thx
Yes there are.
@@howtosailoceans1423 great. I wonder if they chased people off during lockdown. thanks for your reply
Did you say "fire up the out board" ?!? I must have missed that addition! Lol
It was my last haulout vid, about three months ago ...
@@howtosailoceans1423 oh yes! I do remember that!
man there's a lot of lobster pot buoys there!
Yes indeed.
Do you have any links/info about your wind-vane? I have a little double-ender and would love to add a trim tab like that but have had no luck looking around.
Go to my website kevinboothbysailing.com and click on Boat Projects, you will find an article on the windvane.
@@howtosailoceans1423 Thank you so much for the reply! I'm off to enlighten myself.
So sorry to hear about your mother. It’s an awful affliction. My mother in law has it.
What size motor and how fast will it pish you?
3.5hp, in flat conditions about 3 knots at half throttle.
is this a westsail 32 ?
In the thumbnail is a Dictator, 31' Friendship Sloop.
M36@4:15
One of life's very bitter moments. Wish your father and you your God's indulgences.
Hi Kevin, thanks for the inspiring sailing videos, I'm curious how you connect your laptop so it knows your location? I've been using Navionics on my cell phone but that's just too small a screen to be useful. Also, In your current sail through Maine will you be traveling near Little Cranberry Island?
Didn't get far enough downeast for Little Cranberry. Use a USB GPS receiver for a laptop ... www.thegpsstore.com/GPS-Units/Laptop-Tablet-GPS/USGlobalSat-BU353-S4-USB-GPS-Receiver
Awesome, thanks for the advice! I appreciate your channel and learn a lot from the things you share. I sail mostly around Long Island Sound but dream of sailing away, maybe someday I will get a chance to do so!
Did you misspronounce Boothby harbour?
Lol!
Sorry about your Mom Kevin. That is a devastating disease. Great vid as usual. Please always keep this channel about pure sailing buddy. If I see another vid with some dude’s chick crying about “scary” the big waves are I think I will literally puke…
Thanks Paul, fair winds.
I know you’re the real deal and I’m a wannabe, but your mini pilot house has no helm so don’t you still have to brave the elements to pilot your boat? Seems like Amel figured this out. Best of luck with sailing and caregiving.
Not when the the self-steering windvane is engaged, which is most of the time when offshore.
Hello nice aereo video graphics 👌 😎 don't forget to become a remote pilot. Saludos Bro
BRASIL-sp
Very difficult to watch the progression of dementia.
Yes it is.
Your mom should look into water fasting. Loren Lockman on UA-cam has supervised 15k people in 20+ years who have done long term water fasts and one of the most often experienced benefits they all experience is clearer thinking. Of course for real healing she'd need to be on a clean clean mostly raw fruit and veg diet for a good while.