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“People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down, they wish they had the courage to do the same.” - Kevin Hart😊
This is something I have really struggled with. Having had a very strict father and taught to obey very firm rules and made to feel that I have to be what everyone needs me to be, I'm a huge people pleaser. But gradually over the years I have become so miserable with being this way. It's not like it has helped me at all. People don't like me. But I'm creating a new identity, my best self that is not a people pleaser. In fact my new life involves going against so many societal standards and giving me a freedom that I have always wanted.
I'm a recovering people-pleaser. It has been a journey. A few weeks ago, just before the full moon and eclipse, I did some more letting go and fully chose me. Freedom ... wow!
Hello, beautiful free spirited soul. Yep, I hear you loud and clear. I’m a recovering ‘people pleaser’ myself. No more, never again!!Whatever you do in life, you will be judged and criticised, just as well do what makes YOU happy, follow your own bliss!!! Big hugs. Xxx 🤗👍🏻❤️✨✨✨
I absolutely LOVE this video Helena!! 💖 I was just discussing this with my husband. We cannot search for external validation- it will always feel empty. Our worth comes from self and being authentic to our core. It just feels so much Lighter to live true to you without worrying about the judgement of others. 💫🐈💕 I also love to put soothing sounds on- cat purrs being a favorite! 😊
Dear Helena, kindred spirit...your spirits soars every time you share life's lessons learnt from opening your heart even wider! People have to open their hearts to new experiences and be willing to accept that there will be times when we will face chaos and suffering, but once there is love which brings with it kindness,truth, compassion, humility and tolerance we can rise up from the brokenness stronger, focused and empowered! My heart bows to yours💚.
I kind of chuckled to myself when you mentioned that being your true honest self, people may start to not like you. I feel like "friends" Ive had liked the version of me I "made" for them or the childhood version of me they know. But not the *now* me. If they don't like the now me that's okay but I don't like being treated differently (not in a good way) because of that.
Hi Helena 👋, Just like many people, I used to care a lot about other people’s opinions regarding how they think I’m supposed to be growing up and living my life. Once I reconnected with my younger self, as well as started following certain people (like you, of course!) who inspire me to listen to my moral compass and inner voice, I finally learned that living life according to other people’s expectations never pays off, especially if it’s at the expense of my own authenticity. Even though I’m making progress with prioritizing my own moral compass and inner voice, I have to admit that I still have a long way to go. But like I said in my comment from your previous video, I’m feeling much more content with the way I’m making progress with living my life to the fullest. Sending you lots of love!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤗
Be you and stay true to yourself, your morals and what you stand for. You will attract the same energy you emit into this universe. Love yourself and stay genuine to your life values. You are worthy of this life and existence! Love your videos and mindset! You truly are a force in this world that radiates positivity and mindfulness.
Hi! You are also a person. With feelings, thoughts, dreams and all the other stuff. So it’s important to please yourself first and it still makes you a people pleaser. 🌸
Hello Helena, it’s videos like these that confirm as to why you are my favourite you tuber. You’re like a ray sunshine. Also, just had to say you have the most adorable wardrobe. Have a fantastic day. 🙂
Nice one as usual. I am really curious about trying hypnosis since I heard a lot about it recently from podcasts like Huberman Lab , and Rich roll with Dr. David Spiegel. Thing is, not everyone can be hypnotized, but those who can, will benefit from it.
It all depends on if one feels relaxed. Just by breathing, relaxing, and lowering our brain state, we can access the subconscious and rewrite new beliefs!
Thank you, Helena 🙏 This video came to me at such a perfect time, you have no idea. I am starting my journey of dropping the people pleaser role and being my unique self and it's a bit daunting, but calming at the same time ❤
Making plans, post divorce. Not giving a hoot what anyone has to say. Haven't really told anyone, so it's too my advantage. I am shining in my talents too. Photography, art, creative living, spaces, and loving my son and my animals.I'm working on a wtichy dollhouse right now. Books, cute dresses, Dr. Martens, libraries, museums, extra time outside and croissants it is! I rid myself of everything else, including people, thoughts, expectations.
Your rainbow earrings are so stinkin' cute!!! 😍 And I love what you said about Christ consciousness and deservingness! 👏🏽✨ It really helps me put things into perspective. I've started flirting with shadow work. Have you done this on your journey?
How magical! ✨ and ohhhhh yes. I’ve done a lot of it. Shadow work was basically May 2021 - august 2022 for me. Lol it’s a huge part of tapping into deservingness and worthiness ❤️ to be magnetic’s program is great for that!!
Yep.. i think im more disliked than ever... But.. i also feel less stressed. I am not unkind aa much as i am learning to use my voice. A cousin of mine said something abrasive years ago and it sort of stifled me.. my aunt ( now deceased) told me, dont let anyone steal your voice.. I didn't realize i was allowing that.. 🫤.. your tribe will accept me and if people shun me.. well, good riddance. Speaking of ASMR .. i went to a listening experience the other day w my daughter.. an early mothers day gift. It was so Incredibly peaceful... The sounds of the Sonoran Desert.. i actually dozed off in the theater!! 😂.. my daughter had to nudge me awake! Best 45 minutes ever!! Love your beautiful videos! Thankyou! P.s. that floral print dress is charming. 😊
pleasing people is their game...there is no pleasing them...misery makes them happy. They haven't enough misery in their own life and need you to be miserable too, even then, they are still not happy. People need a bucket to dump in, because they are carrying a truckload of s*** they love to focus on, and you must too.
To find a sense of peace and improve your sleep, get started with Aura today for free. The first 500 people to use my link will also get 25% off + free trial to the Aura membership - www.aurahealth.io/simplejoys23
“People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down, they wish they had the courage to do the same.” - Kevin Hart😊
This is something I have really struggled with. Having had a very strict father and taught to obey very firm rules and made to feel that I have to be what everyone needs me to be, I'm a huge people pleaser. But gradually over the years I have become so miserable with being this way. It's not like it has helped me at all. People don't like me. But I'm creating a new identity, my best self that is not a people pleaser. In fact my new life involves going against so many societal standards and giving me a freedom that I have always wanted.
I'm a recovering people-pleaser. It has been a journey. A few weeks ago, just before the full moon and eclipse, I did some more letting go and fully chose me. Freedom ... wow!
Hello, beautiful free spirited soul. Yep, I hear you loud and clear. I’m a recovering ‘people pleaser’ myself. No more, never again!!Whatever you do in life, you will be judged and criticised, just as well do what makes YOU happy, follow your own bliss!!! Big hugs. Xxx 🤗👍🏻❤️✨✨✨
Yes! Ain’t that the truth!! Love it 🤗💕
I absolutely LOVE this video Helena!! 💖 I was just discussing this with my husband. We cannot search for external validation- it will always feel empty. Our worth comes from self and being authentic to our core. It just feels so much Lighter to live true to you without worrying about the judgement of others. 💫🐈💕 I also love to put soothing sounds on- cat purrs being a favorite! 😊
Dear Helena, kindred spirit...your spirits soars every time you share life's lessons learnt from opening your heart even wider! People have to open their hearts to new experiences and be willing to accept that there will be times when we will face chaos and suffering, but once there is love which brings with it kindness,truth, compassion, humility and tolerance we can rise up from the brokenness stronger, focused and empowered! My heart bows to yours💚.
I love your videos, thank you, you’ve opened my eyes in a wonderful way to live more free, laughing and embracing. Thank you!
I kind of chuckled to myself when you mentioned that being your true honest self, people may start to not like you. I feel like "friends" Ive had liked the version of me I "made" for them or the childhood version of me they know. But not the *now* me. If they don't like the now me that's okay but I don't like being treated differently (not in a good way) because of that.
At the right time ❤. Well said dear 😘. BTW your pink shoes are magical ✨️.
A ray of sunshine on a cloudy day. Thank you Helena🌻💕
I hope you can create a podcast channel! You have a very pleasant disposition and your voice makes me calm!😊
Thank you! ❤
Love this video and the settings you chose. Another wise message. Brevity, brilliance and beauty in this post🙏⭐️👏
I definitely struggle with people pleasing and social anxiety hoping one day to have your mindset x
Thanks 😊 🙏
Hi Helena 👋,
Just like many people, I used to care a lot about other people’s opinions regarding how they think I’m supposed to be growing up and living my life.
Once I reconnected with my younger self, as well as started following certain people (like you, of course!) who inspire me to listen to my moral compass and inner voice, I finally learned that living life according to other people’s expectations never pays off, especially if it’s at the expense of my own authenticity.
Even though I’m making progress with prioritizing my own moral compass and inner voice, I have to admit that I still have a long way to go. But like I said in my comment from your previous video, I’m feeling much more content with the way I’m making progress with living my life to the fullest.
Sending you lots of love!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤗
Thanks for this great Vlog with again so much wisdom ✨💖
I have just listened this in the right time, thank you so much for your inspiration, always 💚✨
Always appreciate yourself the way you are... Wonderful presentation 👍👍🌸
Be you and stay true to yourself, your morals and what you stand for. You will attract the same energy you emit into this universe. Love yourself and stay genuine to your life values. You are worthy of this life and existence! Love your videos and mindset! You truly are a force in this world that radiates positivity and mindfulness.
Hi! You are also a person. With feelings, thoughts, dreams and all the other stuff. So it’s important to please yourself first and it still makes you a people pleaser. 🌸
Love that! 😍 that’s not what I mean in this video but I totally vibe that idea! ✨
Hello Helena, it’s videos like these that confirm as to why you are my favourite you tuber. You’re like a ray sunshine. Also, just had to say you have the most adorable wardrobe.
Have a fantastic day. 🙂
Wow thank you Trace!! 🤗 what a huge compliment! There are a lot of UA-camrs on the inter webs! I appreciate 💕
Love your video, love your words, love love love!✨🥰✨
i loooove the hat ur wearing!!! & i love this video too❤️
Thank you!! Glad you enjoyed it!
Thanks!
Oh thank you!!! I appreciate the support 🤗💕💕
Nice one as usual. I am really curious about trying hypnosis since I heard a lot about it recently from podcasts like Huberman Lab , and Rich roll with Dr. David Spiegel. Thing is, not everyone can be hypnotized, but those who can, will benefit from it.
It all depends on if one feels relaxed. Just by breathing, relaxing, and lowering our brain state, we can access the subconscious and rewrite new beliefs!
Thank you, Helena 🙏 This video came to me at such a perfect time, you have no idea. I am starting my journey of dropping the people pleaser role and being my unique self and it's a bit daunting, but calming at the same time ❤
You’ve got this!! Little by little over time. Have you tried meditation or subconscious belief work?
@@helenawoods Thanks ! Yes, I am doing both, but want to dedicate more time to it by doing it more consistently :)
Wonderful video 🙏
Helena, nice work. Which is the music that you put toward the end of the video? What's the soundtrack.
Best vlog of yours😍
Thankyou
Aw thank you!!
Making plans, post divorce. Not giving a hoot what anyone has to say. Haven't really told anyone, so it's too my advantage. I am shining in my talents too. Photography, art, creative living, spaces, and loving my son and my animals.I'm working on a wtichy dollhouse right now. Books, cute dresses, Dr. Martens, libraries, museums, extra time outside and croissants it is! I rid myself of everything else, including people, thoughts, expectations.
Sincerely nice ...😊
Your rainbow earrings are so stinkin' cute!!! 😍 And I love what you said about Christ consciousness and deservingness! 👏🏽✨ It really helps me put things into perspective. I've started flirting with shadow work. Have you done this on your journey?
How magical! ✨ and ohhhhh yes. I’ve done a lot of it. Shadow work was basically May 2021 - august 2022 for me. Lol it’s a huge part of tapping into deservingness and worthiness ❤️ to be magnetic’s program is great for that!!
@@helenawoods Sweet! Thanks for the rec! ❤️
Yep.. i think im more disliked than ever... But.. i also feel less stressed. I am not unkind aa much as i am learning to use my voice. A cousin of mine said something abrasive years ago and it sort of stifled me.. my aunt ( now deceased) told me, dont let anyone steal your voice.. I didn't realize i was allowing that.. 🫤.. your tribe will accept me and if people shun me.. well, good riddance. Speaking of ASMR .. i went to a listening experience the other day w my daughter.. an early mothers day gift. It was so Incredibly peaceful... The sounds of the Sonoran Desert.. i actually dozed off in the theater!! 😂.. my daughter had to nudge me awake! Best 45 minutes ever!! Love your beautiful videos! Thankyou! P.s. that floral print dress is charming. 😊
❤ what you do!
Thank you Karen! 💕
What software do you use for editing. And did you take any professional photography classes
Feeling warm
Under a moonbeam …. 💕🌝💫
Villain Era 🤘🏼
Yeeesss!! 🤘🏻🤘🏻🤘🏻:)
❤❤❤
nice cat sitting gig💛GOOOOIIIIII
Such a cutie! He will be making an appearance in the next vlog - Raoul the French puss! 🐈
@@helenawoods haha sitting with my sons two Kato's naginta the lovey dovey boy and Niko the king puma💕
Reality & vision,All people or 60% if like to live alone? Its ok? Need to know that people born 1900 to 190. 1990
pleasing people is their game...there is no pleasing them...misery makes them happy.
They haven't enough misery in their own life and need you to be miserable too, even then, they are still not happy.
People need a bucket to dump in, because they are carrying a truckload of s*** they love to focus on, and you must too.
WRONG I DESERVE NOTHING😂