Oh, Lydia, you have no idea how wonderful it is to finally hear someone say this out loud. To bravely say we have changed. We have suffered and we have, I believe, unconsciously shut down parts of ourselves in self-preservation. You did not fail, you learned, you grew, and in small wonderful ways, changed. Thank you for this video. I cried, for the first time since it all started, I let some of what I was bottling up, go.
Don't stress Lidia, we are all struggling to find our balance again post covid. It's a global phenomenon, I work as a mental health professional, and everyone has been impacted by covid. It's going to be a long journey. You're doing great, keep on keeping on ❤
Your Vlogs are part of my evening routines. My husband always asks me is it Lydia day today 😅 just so he doesn't interrupt my relaxing time catching up with you. I've even got him onto Ali's channel. So i love your vlogs, please don't stop you are doing great!! However, if you feel like you need a break to find the motivation and passion to vlog again please take it as well....I'll hop on right back to watching once you do come back again. Keep it up!!
My Nonni wore Oscar and when I was in high school she came to one of my choir performances. We were in the balcony so I could not see the theater floor. I immediately smelled her perfume and said to my friend "my grandma is here". I looked over the edge and there she was sitting below me. I love that memory.
Thank you for posting this video. I have ocd and it can get really bad. I’m currently in survival mode and I’m trying to remember that it’s ok to fail and to stop telling my toxic parents and “friend” everything. I’m in therapy. Slow and steady. I have thyroid problems and despite the treatments over the years, my brain fog has never went away. It’s horrible. Be patient. It’ll come.💕💕💕
You are so not alone. I’ve always had brain fog because of my fibromyalgia but since covid it’s gotten a million times worse. My cognitive function is so messed up now, which is really frustrating for me. I’ve always taken pride in being “smart” and doing a PhD, like my brain has always felt like my biggest asset and the one thing I really had going for me. I’ve never felt that beautiful or other things that society values but I was always smart. Now I lose track of what I’m saying, sometimes mid sentence. I get so self-conscious at work (I’m a writing instructor) and always worry my students will doubt my qualifications to teach them. I also notice it a lot when I’m editing my vlogs. My brain struggles to hold a thought or process things. I try not to beat myself up about it. Collectively we’ve all been through a global trauma. The pandemic was more traumatic for some than others but it still impacted all of us and our brains are still adjusting and recovering. ❤
Lovely to hear you speak honestly and openly about your business and your feelings and emotions about the challenges you have faced, I have a lot of respect for you for that.
Thanking for sharing your thoughts regarding failing and shifts in your brain. I'm having a similar experience with my thinking process. My 38 year old daughter passed away suddenly last August. I also experienced a professional/personal loss in my career. I've always been a very enthusiastic and optimistic person - but these experiences have had a deeply profound impact. Your sharing has helped me not feel alone in my recalibration. Thank you.
That is terrible. You see, for optimistic people it may be even worse, because of how important it is for the whole life to be positive and joyful and then this happens, and of course, it's impossible to be as cheerful during times like this, which hurts even more because you're not a pessimistic person by nature, who is used to a more "negative" look on life. Take one day at the time and try to be around nature more, it helps bring the right thought process. May God bring you peace and love
I am so sorry for your incredible loss. We are not supposed to bury our beautiful children. It is a great tragedy. I am so very sorry and I will keep you in my prayers. It is just important now for you to remember to eat and put one foot in front of another each day. Much love to you. 💕💕💕💕
I am so very saddened to hear of your daughter’s passing. I understand your pain as we lost our daughter and only child to cancer 5 years ago. She was 33. Life can really pile it on sometimes. Recalibrating here too. Hugs and comfort coming your way.
Your videos are the highlight of my week. You make me laugh, you make me think, you’ve inspired me and I cried when you were having a bad day when your dad was ill. You don’t need to apologise for anything and you are so not the world’s worst vlogger. You’re one of the best in my books.
Thank you for creating a happy and safe place on the internet. Much of what is out there on the internet scares me, but I always come back to your channel and feel inspired🌷 I am also super excited for the vintage/pre-loved edit. I am enjoying changing the way I shop, in this manner. There are so many unique and beautiful items that can be found shopping pre loved, and it feels nice to give another life to fashion without adding to use of more of the earths resources 😊
I’m so glad to hear someone describe how are you did feeling of losing almost a piece of our minds during Covid time. I have dyslexia as well and I thought it was hard to think and process before 2020, but now with three kids and after Covid it’s even harder. Thank you for putting into words how I’ve been feeling 🤍
Our greatest setbacks can be our greatest learnings. You inspire me! I scroll through any influencer indorsement if it seems disingenuine. Most of us can tell if we watch enough.
I had an Oscar De la Renta dress for a high school prom! I remember people telling me I was the only girl that looked like I was actually going to prom…I thought we where supposed to wear big fluffy dresses to prom, but I was the only one that did. The dress was so pretty!
Lydia, I've been watching your videos for years, since your final video in the old house and moving into this home you and Ali have created for yourselves. I just want to say that your content is so enjoyable and I feel like you've really allowed your personality to shine through the last 2 vlogs and it makes me adore and appreciate you so much more! Also, the moment from this video that made me stop and type out this comment was watching you get up into your garden beds (at the 40 minute mark). Having watched you grow the last few years and work on yourself through the pandemic (I remember all the big feelings you had, they made me feel not so alone during those trying times), seeing you in your element in your garden, it showed me that sometimes we fail at the things we think we want so that we can later succeed in the things we need. I am but a stranger and a subscriber, but I look up to you and I'm proud of how far you've come. Sending lots of love from Montreal, Canada
I started watching your vlogs during covid. It was a sweet respite from all the heaviness. From the outside looking in you have blossomed, literally since then. It has been a pleasure to watch you ground deeply into what connects us all, nature and family. We have what I would consider to be collective PTSD. The world turned upside down and there has been no clear resolution and that is why it so good that you speak to it from time to time as you feel called to do so. It is healing to hear you say the quiet part out loud. Thank you for that.
Pre loved fashion and accessories are where it’s at! Would absolutely love you to do a preloved edit. For those that enjoy the quality and sometimes uniqueness of higher end pieces but can’t necessarily afford the higher end price tag, for those looking at an investment piece, for those that are interested in more circular fashion and looking to adjust their shopping habits. It would be really interesting to see what you find and pre loved places you recommend shopping at.
How did you fail ? You just learned a new way to run your business, your career. You haven’t failed at all. If anything you have excelled. And you have come out the other side an even better woman. You have a lot to be proud of Lydia. Go easy on yourself. 👍♥👍
@@judyannkiwi She adapted. That’s not a fail. We all had to adapt to a new way of life during lockdown. It’s when we came out the other side of lockdowns, it messed with our brains. 👍♥👍
please keep vlogging lyds!! I’ve been following since the beginning and I would be totally lost without you! you are raising me in a way. This community needs you!!❤️
Thank you for talking about Covid and how we’ve all changed. You’re right, it takes a long time to progress trauma. Also, I love how you’re wearing your hair. It shows your beautiful face and the lovely earring you’ve been wearing to perfection. PS, I love you’re vlogs more then ever. Watching you grow and change is a joy.
I’ve recently come over from your TikTok, and can I say I absolutely LOVE just watching your day and hearing you talk. You are so classy and graceful but so down to earth. Please don’t stop doing what you’re doing!!!! 💐
Covid brain is reality. Not just brain fog, but a list of over 20 symptoms that people might have post Covid. My brain doesn't function at all. I keep forgetting things - from one moment to another. If I go back and read what I used to write a year or so ago, I get very upset - to the point of an anxiety attack, in fear of never being myself again regarding intellectual capacities. My hair fell off. And that's nothing comparing with consequences people are dealing with after the infection. Regarding ego thing - I love when you manage to do introspection to the point that you have a break through that will be beneficial for you in so many ways. It's not just becoming more likable for others, t's becoming more happy with yourself for being better person. Ego is something we all have - it's a great servant, ill master, just as money is. Having it under control is the key. Introducing humbleness and down to earth attitude, with charm is a winner, in my experience. You can't fight your personality. But you can be the best version of yourself, but tweaking what needs to be dealt with in order that likability raises. It's little things people pick up on - turning back to people, or treating gift less than appreciative, even if it's just an empty box. Camera is cruel. People are also. You're doing well by acknowledging issues, for a start.
Lydia darling, you still inspire so many of us with your weekly vlogs, even us older ladies enjoy your lovely quaint little life in the countryside that you so kindly share with us. I agree with you how we are all feeling after the global pandemic and even now it feels its no way near being over with the struggles in our country right now. It's all about growth and how the world evolves along with us. Change is good and I've never seen you so happy as you are right now. I loved the vlog of you and Carrie too, just 2 best friends having some time out to be silly together, it's what life is all about. 💚
Many of us were impacted by covid, as a family we lost a great deal, my husband lost his job in the aircraft industry, i had to close my business and the thing that broke me, my mum died of covid. She managed to call us from the hospital and said she was scared but was breathing too hard to say any more, that is the last time i heard my mum and she died alone there. I pretty much hate the world now, don't leave the house much and find that my mind doesn't remember things like it used to. I wish i was one of the people who could say the worst thing that happened was being locked up for a few months.
I can honestly say that this type of content: you being honest and real, makes me LOVE ur vids so much more. I love seeing u so real and vulnerable. I understand you want to be positive and make that type of content, but its just a breath of fresh air when you are so honest. Would love to see that side of u more🥰💜
As a florist, I encourage you to give men flowers. We forget they might have have special ladies at home or in their lives...there may be people working in the office or other taxi drivers that might appreciate them too. My Grandfather was a gardener and he still loves flowers (and whisky 😉). So many men like candles and fragrances now and would probably like flowers for themselves too. ❤ At the end of the day it seems the flowers went to the right person, but definitely keep men in mind for the future. X
It's never easy to fail, and let's face it, as adults we do a lot of that - it may be a launch that fails, a relationship that falters, a mistimed comment, failing an exam (or even not getting as good a grade as expected) a job that isn't what you thought it'd be or a myriad of other things. Thats why it always gets my goat when parents dont let their children lose at a game - it may be a tiny thing, but it helps to learn the process and makes us better able to cope. Of course, its also equally important that losing is balanced by succeeding - we need to experience both in equal amounts. 😍
Lydia we don't fail , you lived your dream. You're a successful girl who's realistically humorous ❤, generous to the extremes. Extraordinary influencer who has highly interesting content 😅. I actually wear such dresses in Mumbai and get compliments 🎉. You hv achieved audience who are cream ppl in subscribers fmly 💕. Vast knowledgeable creator has vast audience 😊. Who's smile is a million dollar 😄. Which is so contagious that i smile too sitting in Mumbai home 😂. Just adore everything you are sharing ❤. Love your honesty and loving nature..
@lydiamillen I am at the part of your vlog that you are questioning if you should continue vlogging and it literally broke my heart. I'm sure you hear this constantly but you make such a huge impact on all of our lives. We all adore you and your vlogs.
Lydia, I've only recently discovered your videos and I love them! Your energy and attitude are wonderful. I'm also a shirt dress lover and a doggie mummy but not (yet) a gardener but you may be inspiring me to make the most of my little courtyard. Please don't stop vlogging in your own special way!
I understand what you mean about how the industry seems to be moving. That’s one reason I stick with you. There is always a synergy with you and the brands you show us and bring to our attention. It’s always natural and organic to you. I’m sure most of your followers feel this way too.
I can relate to your post pandemic brain example. I'm trying my best to go back to my former lifestyle pre-pandemic and my mind is not wanting it but I'm pushing through
I absolutely loved your product! I still to this day use it, the quality is so good on the gloves. One day I would love to know more about how you “failed” because in my eyes it was awesome!! Still is! 🎉
I had a similar realization a few months ago. I learned so much about myself during and after covid and I was so good at analyzing things and inquiring about how I felt and making concisions actions that I forgot how to just let things/myself exist. My brain was in overdrive and I had to retrain it to be more calm.
It is so important to fail every once in a while. It helps us evolve & grow. Failure also teaches us empathy & compassion. Without suffering, failure or mistakes, we get comfortable & stay stagnant. Honestly, failure & mistakes are life’s greatest teachers.
It’s so funny you mentioned the post-Covid brain. I was thinking recently that I just don’t have the same intensity for work that I used to. Some of it is that my job is mostly remote now, but overall I’m just more chill. I never had the chance to slow down. For over 30 years I was in a very intense career dealing with huge egos. After lockdown I just feel like I can’t be upset by the job anymore. Too many people lost family and friends and freaking out about a minor work issue doesn’t feel relevant. But I still kind of miss my old intensity. It was super unhealthy, but man I got shit done!!
Your vlogs are something i look forward to every week ♥️. Best vlogs. Just the vibe. Doesnt have to be anything special just everyday life, chats and whatever 🍀🐾.
Its weird, ever since covid I also haven't been the same, I used to want to go places and do things on the weekends and now I am basically a homebody and fine with it. I am trying to do more just because I don't want to become so withdrawn from society....I go to work and do lots of interacting there but not really interested in doing much more any more. I think I stayed home with my husband for so long during covid we just got used to it. Thank God we bought the hot tub lol
I think this is normal. There’s still a real chance of getting sick too by being super active in the community with no mask etc- covid hasn’t gone away people still dying 😢
It would be great if Jo Good would interview you about the difference between influencing and content creation. You are two of my favorite women who are both intelligent and uplifting.
Thank you for you’re honesty ❤ when lockdown came, everywhere on the internet was this meme „if you can’t go outside go inside“ and I did. I meditated thrue the lockdown on a livestream with a monk for hours. My brain changed too, it was the best thing ever happened to me ❤ I love the way you evolve and I feel you’re vibe 🫶🏼
I did not have COVID, Thank God! But Lydia you're doing well by me with your videos, I enjoy your Vlogs and content, I've been watching Ali's channel and I like the ones you do together. Please don't give up.
I really believe you find more peace and happiness with less in your life. I just couldn’t cope with so many possessions- am I alone on this? And this is by no means a dig - just a thought…
@lizzyahill4482 I know how you feel it seems with some influences the more they have the less content they become they are only happy for a short time. It’s good to step back and realise less can bring more contentment
Firstly I would just like to say thank you for all your vlogs they are brilliant so please do not give up. You cheer me up when I am feeling low and since Covid struggle with anxiety, and depression so please don’t put yourself down you are an amazing person on the inside and the outside and wish I had a friend like you. Your vlogs are all great dogs, garden, days out, antique shopping and all your shopping vlogs because you show me things I can only dream of buying. Please keep up your hard work. Best wishes Christine.x
I also launched my business full time in 2020, and I too feel like my brain is full of bees - almost daily I just feel a fog lingering! I did get covid myself but I think living through that time has hit us all differently and we have to try and remember to be kind to ourselves (which I think can be hard sometimes to take a minute in our busy lives!) sending love xx
25:49 I had brain fog pretty intensely for about 5 months during and after having Covid. It’s come completely back to normal now. 26:49 You’re literally thriving Lydia. How do you think you had failed and what did you do to fail? Seems you’re extremely intelligent, have to be to be a content creator, it takes a lot of skills that not everyone has. It may not look it from the outside looking in to the content creators. Yes you’ve got a team behind you who are intelligent. Is it harder to be a content creator now that Covid is in the rear view mirror? Do you feel people are less interested in watching vloggers? Do you think people see influencers ( content creators, same thing just different wording ) as disingenuous? Do content creators look at themselves as celebrities? This is generalized questions not in your direction whatsoever. If you feel the tug to switch careers that is what you are meant to do. Follow your gut and not the crowd. You know, you could always take the entire summer off from vlogging and have a reset. Come back in September when you’ve recharged & can see vlogging with fresher eyes. 50:01 Your silliness is the best!!! ❤
Dear Lydia, then take some time off and take care of yourself. We all love you and want the best for you. We will all be here when you return. As you would say” Have a think. “ 💕💕💕
Very much related regarding shifting the brain thought process post covid. We lived in Melbourne Aus, during covid and did 12months of the strictest hard lockdown (not allowed to leave the house for more than 60mins and only for essential exercise,, only one person day allowed to do essential shopping per day etc) and I still feel the affects now. Big yes to a Vestaire edit!!
I'm so glad that attention is given to war survivors in the UK. I need clarification about the paintings, though. What did they have to do with war survivors? From The US Thank you.
Hi Lydia, I found your channel a couple of months ago and I must admit I binged watched some of your earlier vlogs and I can see how much you have grown and accomplished and it's amazing. Its so natural to grow and change and your channel shows it so well :)
What a wonderful charity to bring awareness for. Not enough people are brave enough to talk about the victims of war in Syria, Lebanon, and other parts of the Middle East. They have been dehumanised has illegals. When in fact these are vulnerable children, men and women who have lived through horrors that we can't even imagine. I have so much respect for you for talking about this topic. ❤❤
Have you heard of Dr. Amen? He’s based in California but he is pioneering brain health, fascinating to listen too but you can also do a brain assessment test online or make an appointment at on if his clinics to really understand your brain! It’s so cool!
You’re most definitely not dumb, Lovely! I think you’re realising you’ve left that whole person behind & evolved. Plus, you’re most likely no longer in survival mode. You live in forward thinking & possibilities now. It’s so wonderful to watch & grow with you. Big hugs to you all. Love, Us ♥️♥️♥️
My brain definitely doesn’t work the same! It really stresses me out sometimes but I guess it’s just one of those things. We slowed down so much during Covid, and now we have to speed back up again I think our brains are protesting!
YES, we have so much the same !! I create custom and 'personalized' bags in the US, mostly cosmetic and travel bags that are all botanical styles. I TOO have been longing for bags that don't exist yet and decided to make them. ❤ Def feeling this garden beauty aesthetic - for me it's because I so love gardening; we grow figs, carrots, blackberries, greens, and all manner of herbs including Rue, Mountain Mint, French Lavender, Self-Heal, Spearmint, Horsetail, Anise hyssop, Ironweed, Milkweed, Oregano, creeping Thyme, Sweet Melissa and Bee Balm. 🐝🐝 I have long wanted to get bees, congrats to Mr. Millen Gordon on his hives!! We have winter Honeysuckle on the south side of the house that the honeybees LOVE, hard core. 🌼🌼
Oh I love you chatty Lydia. So honest and natural. I totally get where your coming from with influencing. You've got this . Please don't change x x Glad Lumi is better too. They really keep us on our toes these little ones. Love to you x x❤❤❤
I love seeing the silly, imperfect, post-Covid Lydia; keep it coming! I think my ADHD got a million times worse during Covid because there was no structure and I am still trying to figure that out.
I get what you mean about the post covid brain. So many people have been impacted in so many ways. But please don't stop vloging!!!! You're such an inspriration ❤ And your vlogs are amazing ❤ Mondays and Thursdays are my favorite days because of your vlogs😄🥰 Thanks so much for sharing Art of Hope ❤
Love, love, love your first dress (love all your dresses), but this one and your hair and your shoers and your earrings and above all your heart, Lydia. Beautiful.
Such a great vlog Lydia, funny, refreshing and super relatable. Only one negative that’s totally on me.., the Oscar de La shop visit is completely out of my comfort zone. Thank you for your joy. 🙌🌸
Dear Lydia, one thing I tell my coaching clients is that you are not a failure if you learned from the situation. So if you learned something you did not fail. Peace and Blessings!
The world went through something pretty traumatic, and then we all couldn’t wait to rush back to our regular lives. No-one processed any of what went on. We were so desperate to be “normal” again we shoved the experience to the back of our minds. I have no doubt this is playing out in many ways now
You’re doing wonderfully. I know we sometimes don’t feel like we’ve ‘got it’ but from here watching you , you’re like watching a friend. You need to give yourself some grace. We all fail but you’re doing it in front of thousands of people. We understand and it makes you more relatable. You’re inspiring not only from your successes but also by your not so successful efforts. All our brains are slightly off since Covid and we all need to adjust. Grace and time will repair it. You inspire me more than I can say . ❤❤
Please don't stop vlogging. I so look forward to your vlogs. I too find with age my brain works less. Perhaps with a busy life your brain just does not have the capacity to remember everything, but it is ok.
I think we are all different after Covid. It was such a scary and life altering time and we had to completely change our life perspective and perception. I do also think that not remembering everything is also a sign of how much more relaxed and content you are these days. I find my memory is completely heightened when I am anxious and stressed. It’s not always good for us even though it feels productive. Maybe we need to lean into that fog a bit more as it shows we are more relaxed. Your vlogs are a continuous joy to watch and it is lovely to see the content and relaxed way about you. ❤️
49:38 I’ve got a similar style belt, except mine was from BCBG and was 40 EUR. Mine has got a little chain that loops through one of the loops through. It’s supposed to be reminiscent of a chastity style belt from the Elizabethan era with a rock and roll punk metal twist. I absolutely love my belt, had it for years and it goes with everything from coats to dresses and pantsuits and gives it a little unusual detail to simple outfits. ❤
Love Oscar de la Renta outfits, so feminine. Was also going to suggest go direct for lingual braces. Had them for a year and straightened my teeth ti perfection. Unfortunately was not consistent with my night retainers so did some fine tuning a couple of years later with Invisalign. I found the year of lingual braces so much easier and fast working then 6 weeks of Invisalign. 💖
I also experience memory issues and brain fog. It's so irritating. I always remembered everything. Hope I can get it back with time. I wanted to address also your brand Glo by Lydia, and I think this is a swan story in the making. You have a great brand name, you just need a suitable product to make it shine. All the lessons you learned till now will make it an even bigger success in the future. You are a great businesswoman. You achieved so much.
We are all going through new chapters in our lives....and so are you...Covid is nearly over and we are now moving on to get back to our true lives. it's ok to say how you feel.....Failing is about growth..growth is what life is all about....know that and enjoy your feelings, failures and growth.
I just turned sixty five and that forgetfulness has gotten more noticeable. But we as women go through so many stages. Even at your age you’ll start to get brain foggy. The joys of women hood.
Please do the fashion edit segment on the blogs! and I know this sort of negates the eco element but could you also source a more budget friendly version of the gorgeous bits for us if there is one? 😊 I love your style but just not in my budget currently so that would be amazing, thank you xxx
I'm so happy you're pleased with the tooth reparation. It really is important (to those who care) to have things like that taken care of. For someone who's not bothered of course it's not a big deal.. and that's ok. But for someone who's in everyday mental struggle about details like that, it's best to get if fixed and be at peace. I'm thankful you're sharing these things online. Not everyone does and I'm sure many followers will find a similarly with your situation and be thankful as well. For the provided info but encouragement as well. 🩷
Fabulous vlog, please never stop what you do so amazing, i call it brain fog i have so much going on i find it hard sometimes to concentrate like i used too, how is your dad doing now? lumi is just the sweetest glad she is on the mend , thankyou for a lovely mon upload, xx
Oh, Lydia, you have no idea how wonderful it is to finally hear someone say this out loud. To bravely say we have changed. We have suffered and we have, I believe, unconsciously shut down parts of ourselves in self-preservation. You did not fail, you learned, you grew, and in small wonderful ways, changed. Thank you for this video. I cried, for the first time since it all started, I let some of what I was bottling up, go.
Sending you all my love x
As a refugee from the Bosnian war, it warmed my heart to hear about Art of Hope 🙏
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Don't stress Lidia, we are all struggling to find our balance again post covid. It's a global phenomenon, I work as a mental health professional, and everyone has been impacted by covid. It's going to be a long journey. You're doing great, keep on keeping on ❤
Yes! Hearing Lydia speak on this topic made me feel seen, too. Thank you for your words and support in validating all the emotions.
I can’t believe how you, seamlessly, manage to include so many different topics and make them so relatable, interesting and fun; really admirable.
Your Vlogs are part of my evening routines. My husband always asks me is it Lydia day today 😅 just so he doesn't interrupt my relaxing time catching up with you. I've even got him onto Ali's channel. So i love your vlogs, please don't stop you are doing great!! However, if you feel like you need a break to find the motivation and passion to vlog again please take it as well....I'll hop on right back to watching once you do come back again. Keep it up!!
You're the best! Thank you 🤍
My Nonni wore Oscar and when I was in high school she came to one of my choir performances. We were in the balcony so I could not see the theater floor. I immediately smelled her perfume and said to my friend "my grandma is here". I looked over the edge and there she was sitting below me. I love that memory.
That’s so sweet. 🩷👌🏾
Love this!
Thank you for posting this video. I have ocd and it can get really bad. I’m currently in survival mode and I’m trying to remember that it’s ok to fail and to stop telling my toxic parents and “friend” everything. I’m in therapy. Slow and steady. I have thyroid problems and despite the treatments over the years, my brain fog has never went away. It’s horrible. Be patient. It’ll come.💕💕💕
You are so not alone. I’ve always had brain fog because of my fibromyalgia but since covid it’s gotten a million times worse. My cognitive function is so messed up now, which is really frustrating for me. I’ve always taken pride in being “smart” and doing a PhD, like my brain has always felt like my biggest asset and the one thing I really had going for me. I’ve never felt that beautiful or other things that society values but I was always smart. Now I lose track of what I’m saying, sometimes mid sentence. I get so self-conscious at work (I’m a writing instructor) and always worry my students will doubt my qualifications to teach them. I also notice it a lot when I’m editing my vlogs. My brain struggles to hold a thought or process things. I try not to beat myself up about it. Collectively we’ve all been through a global trauma. The pandemic was more traumatic for some than others but it still impacted all of us and our brains are still adjusting and recovering. ❤
You poor thing, my Aunty has fibromyalgia. Do you have any suggestions for what to take to easy the pain?
Lovely to hear you speak honestly and openly about your business and your feelings and emotions about the challenges you have faced, I have a lot of respect for you for that.
Thanking for sharing your thoughts regarding failing and shifts in your brain. I'm having a similar experience with my thinking process. My 38 year old daughter passed away suddenly last August. I also experienced a professional/personal loss in my career. I've always been a very enthusiastic and optimistic person - but these experiences have had a deeply profound impact. Your sharing has helped me not feel alone in my recalibration. Thank you.
That is terrible. You see, for optimistic people it may be even worse, because of how important it is for the whole life to be positive and joyful and then this happens, and of course, it's impossible to be as cheerful during times like this, which hurts even more because you're not a pessimistic person by nature, who is used to a more "negative" look on life. Take one day at the time and try to be around nature more, it helps bring the right thought process. May God bring you peace and love
I am so sorry for your incredible loss. We are not supposed to bury our beautiful children. It is a great tragedy. I am so very sorry and I will keep you in my prayers. It is just important now for you to remember to eat and put one foot in front of another each day. Much love to you. 💕💕💕💕
I am so very saddened to hear of your daughter’s passing. I understand your pain as we lost our daughter and only child to cancer 5 years ago. She was 33. Life can really pile it on sometimes. Recalibrating here too. Hugs and comfort coming your way.
@@karenreiter533 hugs to you and your family as well. 🌻
So sorry for your terrible loss 🌸
Your videos are the highlight of my week. You make me laugh, you make me think, you’ve inspired me and I cried when you were having a bad day when your dad was ill.
You don’t need to apologise for anything and you are so not the world’s worst vlogger. You’re one of the best in my books.
Thank you for creating a happy and safe place on the internet. Much of what is out there on the internet scares me, but I always come back to your channel and feel inspired🌷 I am also super excited for the vintage/pre-loved edit. I am enjoying changing the way I shop, in this manner. There are so many unique and beautiful items that can be found shopping pre loved, and it feels nice to give another life to fashion without adding to use of more of the earths resources 😊
I’m so glad to hear someone describe how are you did feeling of losing almost a piece of our minds during Covid time. I have dyslexia as well and I thought it was hard to think and process before 2020, but now with three kids and after Covid it’s even harder. Thank you for putting into words how I’ve been feeling 🤍
Our greatest setbacks can be our greatest learnings. You inspire me! I scroll through any influencer indorsement if it seems disingenuine. Most of us can tell if we watch enough.
I keep telling myself that 🤍
I had an Oscar De la Renta dress for a high school prom! I remember people telling me I was the only girl that looked like I was actually going to prom…I thought we where supposed to wear big fluffy dresses to prom, but I was the only one that did. The dress was so pretty!
I'm sure you looked amazing. 🤩
Lydia, I've been watching your videos for years, since your final video in the old house and moving into this home you and Ali have created for yourselves. I just want to say that your content is so enjoyable and I feel like you've really allowed your personality to shine through the last 2 vlogs and it makes me adore and appreciate you so much more! Also, the moment from this video that made me stop and type out this comment was watching you get up into your garden beds (at the 40 minute mark). Having watched you grow the last few years and work on yourself through the pandemic (I remember all the big feelings you had, they made me feel not so alone during those trying times), seeing you in your element in your garden, it showed me that sometimes we fail at the things we think we want so that we can later succeed in the things we need. I am but a stranger and a subscriber, but I look up to you and I'm proud of how far you've come. Sending lots of love from Montreal, Canada
Thank you Layla! Your comment means a lot to me. That part “sometimes we fail and the things we think we want…” wow thank you 🥰
I started watching your vlogs during covid. It was a sweet respite from all the heaviness. From the outside looking in you have blossomed, literally since then. It has been a pleasure to watch you ground deeply into what connects us all, nature and family. We have what I would consider to be collective PTSD. The world turned upside down and there has been no clear resolution and that is why it so good that you speak to it from time to time as you feel called to do so. It is healing to hear you say the quiet part out loud. Thank you for that.
I'm so so happy to see you vlogged the Oscar De la Renta event Lydia!! Thank you so much for taking us along to a London blogger event this time 🥰🥰🥰
Pre loved fashion and accessories are where it’s at! Would absolutely love you to do a preloved edit. For those that enjoy the quality and sometimes uniqueness of higher end pieces but can’t necessarily afford the higher end price tag, for those looking at an investment piece, for those that are interested in more circular fashion and looking to adjust their shopping habits. It would be really interesting to see what you find and pre loved places you recommend shopping at.
How did you fail ? You just learned a new way to run your business, your career. You haven’t failed at all. If anything you have excelled. And you have come out the other side an even better woman. You have a lot to be proud of Lydia. Go easy on yourself. 👍♥👍
Failed? I guess I missed that one. How on earth did u think that? Look at the accomplishments she has made. She is thinking crazy 😜
@@judyannkiwi She adapted. That’s not a fail. We all had to adapt to a new way of life during lockdown. It’s when we came out the other side of lockdowns, it messed with our brains. 👍♥👍
please keep vlogging lyds!! I’ve been following since the beginning and I would be totally lost without you! you are raising me in a way. This community needs you!!❤️
Thank you for talking about Covid and how we’ve all changed. You’re right, it takes a long time to progress trauma.
Also, I love how you’re wearing your hair. It shows your beautiful face and the lovely earring you’ve been wearing to perfection.
PS, I love you’re vlogs more then ever. Watching you grow and change is a joy.
Please don't stop vlogging!!! Your vlogs are so relaxing and inspirational 💕
I’ve recently come over from your TikTok, and can I say I absolutely LOVE just watching your day and hearing you talk. You are so classy and graceful but so down to earth. Please don’t stop doing what you’re doing!!!! 💐
It's lovely to see you so happy Lydia. You were just a bundle of giggles this vlog and I just love it for you
Covid brain is reality. Not just brain fog, but a list of over 20 symptoms that people might have post Covid. My brain doesn't function at all. I keep forgetting things - from one moment to another. If I go back and read what I used to write a year or so ago, I get very upset - to the point of an anxiety attack, in fear of never being myself again regarding intellectual capacities. My hair fell off. And that's nothing comparing with consequences people are dealing with after the infection.
Regarding ego thing - I love when you manage to do introspection to the point that you have a break through that will be beneficial for you in so many ways. It's not just becoming more likable for others, t's becoming more happy with yourself for being better person. Ego is something we all have - it's a great servant, ill master, just as money is. Having it under control is the key. Introducing humbleness and down to earth attitude, with charm is a winner, in my experience. You can't fight your personality. But you can be the best version of yourself, but tweaking what needs to be dealt with in order that likability raises. It's little things people pick up on - turning back to people, or treating gift less than appreciative, even if it's just an empty box. Camera is cruel. People are also. You're doing well by acknowledging issues, for a start.
Lydia darling, you still inspire so many of us with your weekly vlogs, even us older ladies enjoy your lovely quaint little life in the countryside that you so kindly share with us. I agree with you how we are all feeling after the global pandemic and even now it feels its no way near being over with the struggles in our country right now. It's all about growth and how the world evolves along with us. Change is good and I've never seen you so happy as you are right now. I loved the vlog of you and Carrie too, just 2 best friends having some time out to be silly together, it's what life is all about. 💚
Many of us were impacted by covid, as a family we lost a great deal, my husband lost his job in the aircraft industry, i had to close my business and the thing that broke me, my mum died of covid. She managed to call us from the hospital and said she was scared but was breathing too hard to say any more, that is the last time i heard my mum and she died alone there. I pretty much hate the world now, don't leave the house much and find that my mind doesn't remember things like it used to. I wish i was one of the people who could say the worst thing that happened was being locked up for a few months.
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I can honestly say that this type of content: you being honest and real, makes me LOVE ur vids so much more. I love seeing u so real and vulnerable. I understand you want to be positive and make that type of content, but its just a breath of fresh air when you are so honest. Would love to see that side of u more🥰💜
As a florist, I encourage you to give men flowers. We forget they might have have special ladies at home or in their lives...there may be people working in the office or other taxi drivers that might appreciate them too. My Grandfather was a gardener and he still loves flowers (and whisky 😉). So many men like candles and fragrances now and would probably like flowers for themselves too. ❤ At the end of the day it seems the flowers went to the right person, but definitely keep men in mind for the future. X
It's never easy to fail, and let's face it, as adults we do a lot of that - it may be a launch that fails, a relationship that falters, a mistimed comment, failing an exam (or even not getting as good a grade as expected) a job that isn't what you thought it'd be or a myriad of other things. Thats why it always gets my goat when parents dont let their children lose at a game - it may be a tiny thing, but it helps to learn the process and makes us better able to cope. Of course, its also equally important that losing is balanced by succeeding - we need to experience both in equal amounts. 😍
Lydia we don't fail , you lived your dream. You're a successful girl who's realistically humorous ❤, generous to the extremes. Extraordinary influencer who has highly interesting content 😅. I actually wear such dresses in Mumbai and get compliments 🎉. You hv achieved audience who are cream ppl in subscribers fmly 💕. Vast knowledgeable creator has vast audience 😊. Who's smile is a million dollar 😄. Which is so contagious that i smile too sitting in Mumbai home 😂. Just adore everything you are sharing ❤. Love your honesty and loving nature..
So wonderful to highlight the work of Art of Hope. Extremely important work and issue. I love that you are trying to do more of this kind of work.
I look forward to every single video you do. I adore your classy style and your sweet disposition.
That’s so kind of you to say thank you x
@lydiamillen I am at the part of your vlog that you are questioning if you should continue vlogging and it literally broke my heart. I'm sure you hear this constantly but you make such a huge impact on all of our lives. We all adore you and your vlogs.
Lydia, I've only recently discovered your videos and I love them! Your energy and attitude are wonderful. I'm also a shirt dress lover and a doggie mummy but not (yet) a gardener but you may be inspiring me to make the most of my little courtyard. Please don't stop vlogging in your own special way!
I understand what you mean about how the industry seems to be moving. That’s one reason I stick with you. There is always a synergy with you and the brands you show us and bring to our attention. It’s always natural and organic to you. I’m sure most of your followers feel this way too.
I can relate to your post pandemic brain example. I'm trying my best to go back to my former lifestyle pre-pandemic and my mind is not wanting it but I'm pushing through
I absolutely loved your product! I still to this day use it, the quality is so good on the gloves. One day I would love to know more about how you “failed” because in my eyes it was awesome!! Still is! 🎉
Your vlogs are the best Lydia. Love your content. Always ❤
I had a similar realization a few months ago. I learned so much about myself during and after covid and I was so good at analyzing things and inquiring about how I felt and making concisions actions that I forgot how to just let things/myself exist. My brain was in overdrive and I had to retrain it to be more calm.
It is so important to fail every once in a while. It helps us evolve & grow. Failure also teaches us empathy & compassion. Without suffering, failure or mistakes, we get comfortable & stay stagnant. Honestly, failure & mistakes are life’s greatest teachers.
It’s so funny you mentioned the post-Covid brain. I was thinking recently that I just don’t have the same intensity for work that I used to. Some of it is that my job is mostly remote now, but overall I’m just more chill. I never had the chance to slow down. For over 30 years I was in a very intense career dealing with huge egos. After lockdown I just feel like I can’t be upset by the job anymore. Too many people lost family and friends and freaking out about a minor work issue doesn’t feel relevant. But I still kind of miss my old intensity. It was super unhealthy, but man I got shit done!!
Your vlogs are something i look forward to every week ♥️. Best vlogs. Just the vibe. Doesnt have to be anything special just everyday life, chats and whatever 🍀🐾.
Its weird, ever since covid I also haven't been the same, I used to want to go places and do things on the weekends and now I am basically a homebody and fine with it. I am trying to do more just because I don't want to become so withdrawn from society....I go to work and do lots of interacting there but not really interested in doing much more any more. I think I stayed home with my husband for so long during covid we just got used to it. Thank God we bought the hot tub lol
I think this is normal. There’s still a real chance of getting sick too by being super active in the community with no mask etc- covid hasn’t gone away people still dying 😢
It would be great if Jo Good would interview you about the difference between influencing and content creation. You are two of my favorite women who are both intelligent and uplifting.
Fantastic idea!!!!!! I'd be interested in Lydia's thoughts as she's hit the nail on the head. She'd get on so well with Jo !
Thank you for you’re honesty ❤ when lockdown came, everywhere on the internet was this meme „if you can’t go outside go inside“ and I did. I meditated thrue the lockdown on a livestream with a monk for hours. My brain changed too, it was the best thing ever happened to me ❤
I love the way you evolve and I feel you’re vibe 🫶🏼
I did not have COVID, Thank God! But Lydia you're doing well by me with your videos, I enjoy your Vlogs and content, I've been watching Ali's channel and I like the ones you do together. Please don't give up.
I really believe you find more peace and happiness with less in your life. I just couldn’t cope with so many possessions- am I alone on this?
And this is by no means a dig - just a thought…
@lizzyahill4482 I know how you feel it seems with some influences the more they have the less content they become they are only happy for a short time. It’s good to step back and realise less can bring more contentment
Firstly I would just like to say thank you for all your vlogs they are brilliant so please do not give up. You cheer me up when I am feeling low and since Covid struggle with anxiety, and depression so please don’t put yourself down you are an amazing person on the inside and the outside and wish I had a friend like you. Your vlogs are all great dogs, garden, days out, antique shopping and all your shopping vlogs because you show me things I can only dream of buying. Please keep up your hard work. Best wishes Christine.x
Please don’t stop what your doing Lydia, I Absolutely love your videos….. you also look Fabulous!!!!!! 👍❤️
I also launched my business full time in 2020, and I too feel like my brain is full of bees - almost daily I just feel a fog lingering! I did get covid myself but I think living through that time has hit us all differently and we have to try and remember to be kind to ourselves (which I think can be hard sometimes to take a minute in our busy lives!) sending love xx
25:49 I had brain fog pretty intensely for about 5 months during and after having Covid. It’s come completely back to normal now.
26:49 You’re literally thriving Lydia. How do you think you had failed and what did you do to fail?
Seems you’re extremely intelligent, have to be to be a content creator, it takes a lot of skills that not everyone has. It may not look it from the outside looking in to the content creators. Yes you’ve got a team behind you who are intelligent.
Is it harder to be a content creator now that Covid is in the rear view mirror? Do you feel people are less interested in watching vloggers? Do you think people see influencers ( content creators, same thing just different wording ) as disingenuous? Do content creators look at themselves as celebrities?
This is generalized questions not in your direction whatsoever.
If you feel the tug to switch careers that is what you are meant to do.
Follow your gut and not the crowd.
You know, you could always take the entire summer off from vlogging and have a reset. Come back in September when you’ve recharged & can see vlogging with fresher eyes.
50:01 Your silliness is the best!!!
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I like to see you engaging with charities, Lydia. Thumbs up!🙌
Excuse me, you are brilliant at vlogging. Don’t stop please 😅
I’m not so sure any more 😂🙈
Dear Lydia, then take some time off and take care of yourself. We all love you and want the best for you. We will all be here when you return. As you would say” Have a think. “ 💕💕💕
Very much related regarding shifting the brain thought process post covid. We lived in Melbourne Aus, during covid and did 12months of the strictest hard lockdown (not allowed to leave the house for more than 60mins and only for essential exercise,, only one person day allowed to do essential shopping per day etc) and I still feel the affects now.
Big yes to a Vestaire edit!!
I heard this said on radio4 last week....
"Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again...." - Samuel Beckett. You didnt fail, your learnt 💓
If it bothers you, you can try and remove tarnish off the belt with a silver cloth, and a shoe repairer can repair the worn bit of leather.
I'm so glad that attention is given to war survivors in the UK. I need clarification about the paintings, though. What did they have to do with war survivors? From The US
Thank you.
Hi Lydia, I found your channel a couple of months ago and I must admit I binged watched some of your earlier vlogs and I can see how much you have grown and accomplished and it's amazing. Its so natural to grow and change and your channel shows it so well :)
Awh you should’ve given him the flowers, sure he would’ve enjoyed them just as much!
He didn’t want them otherwise I would have his words were “they’d be wasted” 🥺
What a wonderful charity to bring awareness for. Not enough people are brave enough to talk about the victims of war in Syria, Lebanon, and other parts of the Middle East. They have been dehumanised has illegals. When in fact these are vulnerable children, men and women who have lived through horrors that we can't even imagine. I have so much respect for you for talking about this topic. ❤❤
Have you heard of Dr. Amen? He’s based in California but he is pioneering brain health, fascinating to listen too but you can also do a brain assessment test online or make an appointment at on if his clinics to really understand your brain! It’s so cool!
Thank you for your vulnerable share. I truly believe and trust in the higher plan. Failures are always detours in the right direction 💛
As a Ukrainian, I am always grateful and glad to see this kind of initiative and support around the world. Thank you for being part of it 💙💛
YesPlease Lydia , I would love to see a vintage edit
You’re most definitely not dumb, Lovely! I think you’re realising you’ve left that whole person behind & evolved. Plus, you’re most likely no longer in survival mode. You live in forward thinking & possibilities now. It’s so wonderful to watch & grow with you. Big hugs to you all. Love, Us ♥️♥️♥️
My brain definitely doesn’t work the same! It really stresses me out sometimes but I guess it’s just one of those things. We slowed down so much during Covid, and now we have to speed back up again I think our brains are protesting!
I do the same thing with the Snap Dragons!!! I thank you for the hard work and care you put into your videos. Love from Pennsylvania, USA!
YES, we have so much the same !! I create custom and 'personalized' bags in the US, mostly cosmetic and travel bags that are all botanical styles. I TOO have been longing for bags that don't exist yet and decided to make them. ❤ Def feeling this garden beauty aesthetic - for me it's because I so love gardening;
we grow figs, carrots, blackberries, greens, and all manner of herbs including Rue, Mountain Mint, French Lavender, Self-Heal, Spearmint, Horsetail, Anise hyssop, Ironweed, Milkweed, Oregano, creeping Thyme, Sweet Melissa and Bee Balm. 🐝🐝 I have long wanted to get bees, congrats to Mr. Millen Gordon on his hives!! We have winter Honeysuckle on the south side of the house that the honeybees LOVE, hard core. 🌼🌼
Oh I love you chatty Lydia. So honest and natural. I totally get where your coming from with influencing. You've got this . Please don't change x x Glad Lumi is better too. They really keep us on our toes these little ones. Love to you x x❤❤❤
We love the long vlog Lydia!! Please keep the chattyness :D
I love seeing the silly, imperfect, post-Covid Lydia; keep it coming! I think my ADHD got a million times worse during Covid because there was no structure and I am still trying to figure that out.
I get what you mean about the post covid brain. So many people have been impacted in so many ways. But please don't stop vloging!!!! You're such an inspriration ❤ And your vlogs are amazing ❤ Mondays and Thursdays are my favorite days because of your vlogs😄🥰 Thanks so much for sharing Art of Hope ❤
Love, love, love your first dress (love all your dresses), but this one and your hair and your shoers and your earrings and above all your heart, Lydia. Beautiful.
Such a great vlog Lydia, funny, refreshing and super relatable. Only one negative that’s totally on me.., the Oscar de La shop visit is completely out of my comfort zone. Thank you for your joy. 🙌🌸
Dear Lydia, one thing I tell my coaching clients is that you are not a failure if you learned from the situation. So if you learned something you did not fail. Peace and Blessings!
we never fail - fail stands for first attempt at initial learning keep going x
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Beautiful Lumi. Glad her paw is better. 🐾
Thank you for sharing. I definitely feel the brain fog. I love your vlogs - they bring me peace. ❤
The world went through something pretty traumatic, and then we all couldn’t wait to rush back to our regular lives. No-one processed any of what went on. We were so desperate to be “normal” again we shoved the experience to the back of our minds. I have no doubt this is playing out in many ways now
You’re doing wonderfully. I know we sometimes don’t feel like we’ve ‘got it’ but from here watching you , you’re like watching a friend. You need to give yourself some grace. We all fail but you’re doing it in front of thousands of people. We understand and it makes you more relatable. You’re inspiring not only from your successes but also by your not so successful efforts. All our brains are slightly off since Covid and we all need to adjust. Grace and time will repair it. You inspire me more than I can say . ❤❤
Dont worry most people fail then succeed. Thank you for being honesty❤ you can only go up from here.
Yes I'm so thankful to hear someone talk about it. My brain struggles now ❤
Please don't stop vlogging. I so look forward to your vlogs. I too find with age my brain works less. Perhaps with a busy life your brain just does not have the capacity to remember everything, but it is ok.
I think we are all different after Covid. It was such a scary and life altering time and we had to completely change our life perspective and perception.
I do also think that not remembering everything is also a sign of how much more relaxed and content you are these days. I find my memory is completely heightened when I am anxious and stressed. It’s not always good for us even though it feels productive. Maybe we need to lean into that fog a bit more as it shows we are more relaxed.
Your vlogs are a continuous joy to watch and it is lovely to see the content and relaxed way about you. ❤️
49:38 I’ve got a similar style belt, except mine was from BCBG and was 40 EUR. Mine has got a little chain that loops through one of the loops through. It’s supposed to be reminiscent of a chastity style belt from the Elizabethan era with a rock and roll punk metal twist. I absolutely love my belt, had it for years and it goes with everything from coats to dresses and pantsuits and gives it a little unusual detail to simple outfits. ❤
Love Oscar de la Renta outfits, so feminine.
Was also going to suggest go direct for lingual braces. Had them for a year and straightened my teeth ti perfection. Unfortunately was not consistent with my night retainers so did some fine tuning a couple of years later with Invisalign. I found the year of lingual braces so much easier and fast working then 6 weeks of Invisalign. 💖
I also experience memory issues and brain fog. It's so irritating. I always remembered everything. Hope I can get it back with time.
I wanted to address also your brand Glo by Lydia, and I think this is a swan story in the making. You have a great brand name, you just need a suitable product to make it shine. All the lessons you learned till now will make it an even bigger success in the future. You are a great businesswoman. You achieved so much.
I don't know when I'll stop saying this but you look
really beautiful without makeup!
We are all going through new chapters in our lives....and so are you...Covid is nearly over and we are now moving on to get back to our true lives. it's ok to say how you feel.....Failing is about growth..growth is what life is all about....know that and enjoy your feelings, failures and growth.
I just turned sixty five and that forgetfulness has gotten more noticeable. But we as women go through so many stages. Even at your age you’ll start to get brain foggy. The joys of women hood.
You are such a joy to watch. Style is 🔥. Content ❤. Watching from Toronto.
Please do the fashion edit segment on the blogs! and I know this sort of negates the eco element but could you also source a more budget friendly version of the gorgeous bits for us if there is one? 😊 I love your style but just not in my budget currently so that would be amazing, thank you xxx
The acoustics in your dressing room are so pleasant now!
Catching up on your vlogs. I don’t want you to be concise!! I like the chatty nature of it because it feels more like sitting with a friend. ❤
I'm so happy you're pleased with the tooth reparation.
It really is important (to those who care) to have things like that taken care of.
For someone who's not bothered of course it's not a big deal.. and that's ok.
But for someone who's in everyday mental struggle about details like that, it's best to get if fixed and be at peace.
I'm thankful you're sharing these things online. Not everyone does and I'm sure many followers will find a similarly with your situation and be thankful as well.
For the provided info but encouragement as well.
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Lydia, I think your vlogs are the best in out of everyone. Please don't stop.
Lydia babe poor beautiful lumi I'm so glad she is getting better and healing quickly bless her
Fabulous vlog, please never stop what you do so amazing, i call it brain fog i have so much going on i find it hard sometimes to concentrate like i used too, how is your dad doing now? lumi is just the sweetest glad she is on the mend , thankyou for a lovely mon upload, xx
we love your fashion videos so please we want more! it's always interesting with vintages and second hand so share them with us too!! ❤️💐✨