I'm only A woman, me too. I have two kids by this man that told me he never had intentions to be with me but told me he did just to continue having sex with me until he found his soulmate.
I'm only A woman absolutely nothing you went through was wasted concentrate on what you have now to help you learn and grow such as this channel,We both unfortunately belong to the same club but there’s always hope
I’m 37 years old and I wish I heard this when I was 20 years old. This could’ve saved me a whole lot of heartache. Now that I have a daughter these are the kinds of teachings that I’m taking for myself and will pass on to my daughter. Thank you! ❤️
I wish I knew this too I have a daughter and we aren't going to do certain things when it comes to men and relationships to help her not to make the same mistakes
Hello from Sydney Australia. Coming from a Single parent dwelling my Mum and Dad separated when I was very young never got a chance to have these types of talk with Dad who passed over 2015.You are a very special .man of God and have opened my eyes to the ways of the opposition sex.Wish you had been on the net twenty years ago .thank you.and God bless you always......Maylene Heydon.
🙏!! My friends told me I ask too many questions, first my feelings were hurt and then I was thinking oh that’s why some of them were being tagged alone. Granted a man can tell you anything but the Holy Spirit will reveal! And if the man can not answer my questions and they have to laugh before answering...I already know he is a liar
Now see, we on the same thing. Questions are cool but observing is where its at. Then he won't have a playbook to "act" from. You can get all the answers to these questions and more by observing him and having indirect conversation.
i.pinimg.com/236x/e5/fc/0d/e5fc0da0ebec85311da585159f219fa0.jpg (Trust a person's "patterns". People lie. Actions don't). Get the book: "Act like a lady, think like a man" by Steve Harvey. He spells it ALL out about how men are and why they do what they do. You'll be glad you did! Always pay more attention to what a man DOES more than what he says, and ALWAYS run a background check on everybody!!! (Mugshots.com, "Beenverified.com) Your life may depend on it.
Also, pay attention to eye contact, body language and quick, confident responses. The Holy Spirit discernment in you will sound the alarm above all else. Do not ignore, please.
I love what you said about the quick, confident responses. My brother said Scott my ex, he had an answer for everything and no one has an answer for EVERYTHING.
And during the dating process, ask the Lord for the spirit of Discernment & the Wisdom of God to proceed with the relationship accordingly. Cause people can say ANYTHING. They can even pretend with action also. Only God can show you a persons true intention ♥️God bless
I agree. I once went on a date and had the guy ask me if he was on a job interview because I was asking him lots of questions. I replied, "well it's not a "job" interview but it is an interview." Needless to say he didn't stick around. Good riddance! Lol
Yes his knowledge is beneficial to all women of all religions ...not sure why he mumbles ..when he mentions other religions ...when he talked about Buddhism and chanting ...there are a lot of amazing people in the world who are not Christian ..and Buddhism was able to be spread peacefully..not through war ...I guess if someone needs blood or an organ and the donor is non Christian or Buddhist it will be refused ..sad
wow.. very shocked at the "a man who cannot abstain from sex before marriage cannot abstain from sex outside marriage." interesting. I love Pastor RC Blakes....i'm so addicted to his messages
There really should be a class on how to be a good father, it's a shame 53 yrs old and it's the first time I have heard these questions. No wonder my marriage failed. Awesome teaching, thank you.
Q #1- 8:50 -Are you a believer? Q #2- 12:12 -What matters most? Q #3- 15:53 -Why me? Q #4- 19:26 -What is your vision? Q #5- 22:55 Can we go to your church or meet your parents? Q #6- 26:52 Do you have children? Q #7- 28:52 Sex before marriage? Q #8- 32:23 Man vs Woman role? Q #9- 35:23 What have you learned about me?
Preach..sistren...especially if he is older...sis listen....I have been single for one year and 1/2 month....i'm too busy looking after my pre-teen daughter, and bettering myself day by day.
Great questions! I also usually ask the following questions: Did you have a pleasant or difficult childhood experience? How’s your relationship with your parents? Do you have any friends? What type of friends do you have? Who are the special people in your life? What have you learned the most? How do you handle stress? What bothers you the most? What gives you comfort? What is your take on making a living and the workplace? How’s your credit? How do you feel about dating? How do you feel about animals?
Either I’m nosy as all get out or I paid attention over the years. The guy I’m seeing I asked these questions to him in the first two weeks. Lol! Most that first week and a few the next week. It stunned me that he made it through. Most guys I meet run for the hills with me asking questions. In recent years I found it to be a blessing from God. No wasting my time, mister. At first I thought it was some curse but God stepped in. What wonderful teachings you share with us. Thank you! God bless your ministry!
My sentiments exactly!! I had a very "old school" father where we've never discussed anything in regards to relationships or how men should treat me whatsoever, and that kills me because I'm a Daddy's girl still! But thank God it's never too late to still learn. Thank God for Pastor Blake!
i.pinimg.com/564x/3a/dc/d2/3adcd293da8e385239d9116f481181d2.jpg A man that loves a woman will NEVER be kept a secret. If he's keeping you a "secret" from his mother, friends, family, co-workers, etc. he's probably married, has a girlfriend, living with someone, or gay. Most important also: "Rule #1: NEVER be #2".
Sometimes we women build up the idea man in our minds, and when someone comes around and fit that picture we don't want to know the truth. I'm ashamed to say it but its stupid and true. This is all so much easier said then done. Keep praying ladies. ❤
@@Keaira_Johnson EXACTLY! I was shocked to see how many likes this comment had. This comment is very, very, very true for a lot of people, but lots don't want to acknowledge the truth. That's the quickest way to get stuck in the dark!!!
@@Tkconnie Yes!! As I've gotten older I have had the desire to know the truth about things I'm attaching myself to no matter how uncomfortable it is. It could save you years of having to recover!!
ashley seabrian /yup! Love his "tone" of delivery and complete, sensible , biblical information. He's not just throwing scripture at you and "Don't".😔👏👏👏
Once was Silly but now I'm found, blind but now I see. Data, Data, Data, Queens ask questions... so powerful. Never thought a couple of random videos would change my life. Only 16 years late but better now than never I'm still in mid 30's and in college "Again"...I will need this
i.pinimg.com/originals/e0/8a/5b/e08a5b061e0f96a176d588d9cc26a1ab.jpg "Hearts rarely get broken when legs are kept CLOSED". Make SURE you teach them this! They will "weed out" a lot of liars, players, con artists, etc. when they keep sex OUT of the game. Bless you for educating these young ladies. This HIV/AIDS epidemic is out of control! Please also get the DVD "COVER" by Jim Duke (Amazon.com) about the "down low" lifestyle men are involved in also. (Aunjunae Ellis, Patti Labelle, Leon, etc) star in it. Christian-based movie.
I remember after a date just recently a guy asked if he could come in and I said no!!! I gathered my data and I don’t want to continue. Thanks Rev for the advice
The reply, "You're so beautiful, etc" is so over the top. As I gotten older and wiser I began to see it as a red flag. Brother please, you don't even know me. I am not just beauty alone.
True indeed London Li that's why we have been led here at this time. Pray all is well with you and that you have asked these questions since watching this a year ago. Stat Blessed
You MUST ask questions, the hard ones. Make him think! When I was single I knew a man wasn't for me when he was bothered by my questions. I let them go and I'm married to my life love❤
I am in tears!!!!! I needed this video. I am struggling with a relationship that is unequally yolked. I am a Christian (born & raised) & he is a unbeliever. I know he is not for me, and I am struggling letting it go. I truly appreciate this video from the bottom of my heart. I pray that the Lord will keep me until he brings me my true Godly husband. Jesus, Please Help me!!!!! 😭😭😭😭
I was looking for DIY ankle weights, but ran across this channel and video, lol. I guess God was tired of me doing it myself by choosing the wrong men and carrying the weight of wrong relationships! Thank you so much for your videos! I needed this more than I needed those ankle weights, lol.
F.A. H. In one of the first conversations getting to know a guy, a guy told me that because I hadn’t slept with my last boyfriend, we hadn’t actually dated, we were just friends. That was the last conversation I had with him.
Sadly, Most men think, dat they have the 'right' to have sex with a woman on the 1st date. They can get very upset, if you do not want it. Bless you lady
I'm learning a lot from you sir.. Thank u and I don't feel like your bashing men it's more of a therapy for women to understand their worth and learn NOT to settle!
I listen to RC Blakes sermons like I’m in school and refreshing my memory on these principles on a regular basis.Thank u for ur honesty u keep it real spiritually and practically. I’m still waiting on my godly husband. It get lonely but the wait worth it. I’m want a serious relationship with the the Lord and work on my goals.
RC I am 35 and you are teaching me all I never knew! I thank God for you! I watch you daily. My goal is to watch all you’ve posted and buy all your books. Thank you!
Ma aunt linked me to your video. She been counseling me in the right direction since I've been of age. This video and the questions within taught me that I have A LOT to improve on with regards to myself, my priorities and my preferences. Thank you. And amma go thank her too.
Vana Phill and that's your Q to leave because that means they haven't prepared for it and you don't want one thought about and made up, you want honestly up front.
hey ,if anyone else trying to find out dating tips for guys from girls try Remonteben Impress Her Trick (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my partner got cool results with it.
I asked my date this question sex b4 marriage? He was foreign to abstinence. I was done! He was too. Cause we didn't call each other. He did after but I just knew ....not for me. This man is not my husband. #questionsarenecessary The right questions that is....
And to think about all of the men who weren't meant for me... However, I look at this as something positive and an eye opener because I have grown so much from my past mistakes and it's amazing hearing the truth knowing I'm still blessed, God does have someone specially made for me and I will continue to seek God and save myself for my husband along with asking these 9 questions. Loved this!!
I think it's better to focus on God's purpose in your life, single or not. Sometimes not everyone is going to have someone, live for the present and let God work on ur future.
"Tyrone" was probably scared you were going to find out he's a felon, been in jail/prison, has a wife, 6 kids, no job, no car, no home/apartment, on drugs, alcohol and on parole. Remember, if an employer or the bank asks questions before they hire you or lend you money and find out your background; why shouldn't you? Isn't your life valuable and aren't you entitled to know what "risks" are involved being with this person?
You Are So Right!!!! I asked all kinds of questions and turned 41 and was not married. Then I took advice from a friend who told me to stop asking so many questions and this “old” friend came along and I didn’t ask the RIGHT questions and got all caught up! I’m telling you, if he is saved but doesn’t have a vision that you can “help”, it’s not for you. Then you spend years trying to heal!! And I never went to his church!!! He never invited me!!!!!!!!
If I knew about these 9 questions before...I wouldn't have dated my ex narcissist boyfriend because he could have failed. Thanks a lot. Those who are still coming are in deep trouble...
Amy Morale you are so right. Even when you question them, especially about their marital status, they will lie big time and say that they are divorced, knowing well that they are still attached.
The Holy Ghost never lies though. Take it to the throne in prayer, ask God for confirmation if this person is for you -- if He sent him to you. Discernment is a gift to be exercised, watch what they do consistently.
I found your site which I'm so glad I did. You're a good teacher and a man of God. I had to step out of a relationship because I knew we weren't equally yoked but he is trying to regain re-entry. Your teaching is encouraging me to stand my grounds.
Your daughter is so blessed to have you lighting the way. Newly returned to the game of dating ( now divorced) I thank you for the wisdom I need to remember.
I ask and it does one of two things: either they are intrigued, confident and full of integrity and don’t mind the questions or the questions anger them and put them on the defense and they run.
Pastor Blakes... him being saved is not enough for me, some of the so called brothers who would even pass as faithful before their pastors are lukewarm, mediocre, and casual with the things of God. they say the right things have the right answers to most of any questions you throw at them but when it comes down to it, they are weak and carnal in their dealings and that freaks the hell out of me more than dating a none believer..
Exactly! Some Christian man they might read bible everyday and know bible so well. But they just wearing the Christian mask and yes even worse than non believer!
I've listened to a whole load of dating channels. Wish I found you earlier before my dating ended. YOU ARE THE BEST BY FAR. I listened to a lot of unbeliever dating you tubers. There was wisdom in there but literally worldly. WE NEED YOU DAD
Even tho my daughter is 24 and still a virgin I truly plan on sharing some of these videos with her. Her dad has never been around much less having these talks with her I just feel so blessed she respects herself and also has a b.f who's a virgin.They had vowed 4yrs ago when they met that any hanky panky will be after marriage, even tho he lives in N.C and us in Indianapolis the trust and bond is there.
I was dating a guy for almost a year and I asked him what made him attracted to me and he said that question is weird and hanged up the phone on me and block me. And my heart broke and realize if I knew earlier I wouldn’t have wasted a year with him.
9 Dating Questions: (1) Are you a Christian/Spirituality? (2) What matters to you most? (3) What attracted you to me? (Ask within the first few conversations.) (4) What's your vision? (5) Can I come to church with you Sunday? (Ask after some time of hanging out and getting to know each other a.k.a. dating.) (6) Do you have any children? (Ask in the first few conversations.) (7) What's your position on sex before marriage? (8) What is the difference between a man's role versus a woman's? (9) What have you learned about me? (Ask [at least] after a month of dating.)
what is important to u have you ever cheated or abusive in s relationship have u ever been arrested or criminal record what for drug alcohol addiction if u got kids do u pay child support homosexual experiences have you ever had one What are your goals What do u want in life do u want to get married one day do u want kids are u Christian do u have venereal disease or have ever do u mind taking test before sex job?
WOW! Your words are amazing. Every daughter with and without a Father to sow into her life really needs to cherish your words. Thank you for allowing the Lord to use you.
Wow, wow , wow. This is such a blessing and teaching on truth. You nailed it ...9 questions; bam bam bam one right after the other. Please write a book on this.
Found this channel a few days ago I absolutely love it. Never had I ever found so much wisdom in one place. I wish I had this guidance growing up .... I am 37 years old so it’s still not too to late learn.
Thank You! Great message! I’ve watched this twice. Great speaker. Im 29 and I didn’t get to have father daughter talk with my dad because he passed.😢 thank you thank you. Please pray for me!
I learn a valuable lesson in a beginning relationship with a man. God did not put him in my life, He put me in his life. I learned a hard, hard lesson. I do not want to be unequally yoked. They drag you down to past behavior. I allowed him to drag me down and made a decision that has left me with an identity issue. I have bought your book. After 14 years of being single, I am happy there as I heal from this trainwreck with a femanine man who needs Jesus. Letting go and becoming a Queen.
it's up to us to feel it out... not that it is our fault... but it is up to us to discern... n to trust our intuition... n surrender it over too to your higher power or whatever name u want to call it; jesus christ, god, etc... to help u discern; to help u trust your intuition... to pay close attn... to notice... to help cover n protect you... to help him to reveal himself to you... to help you to see the mouse (or mice) if there indeed was a mouse (or mice) to see... n to respect what is, n act accordingly.
our choices are our responsibility... one way or another... is it unlawful and wrongful and sometimes even to the point of being harmful and criminal, for them to be abusively deceitful? of course. that is on them. it is not our fault. our safety and protection is our responsibility tho. it's up to us, and with the help of our creator... we can ask our higher power for spiritual cover and protection as well, and for assistance in discernment and healthy discrimination and assessing people whether they are worthwhile or not... helping us choose with our free will, what r the best n most right, mark making choices... in surrender to our creator's supreme will for the greatest good for us n for all.
“Players don’t like questions.” BOOM! TRUE!!!!!
Learned this as a teen
So true players don't answer questions.
The toxic dysfunctional controlling manipulating X despised questions and would call me NOSY 🙄 or get angry
Queens ask questions 👌😎💥
And some men tell you the answer you want to hear
Yep/ liars ...
You don't get what you expect, you get what you inspect.
RIGHT,RIGHT!!!
deep and true
@ Cataleya Pyro...and let the Church say, AMEN! Very true, my sister.
Wrong, but so true
brilliant I will try to remember that one thanks
There's no need for you ladies to wish you would have known before. Implement what you know NOW.
Oof, that’s true. Thank you!!
I was just thinking that! Praise god
@@missbee201 Praise God
@@veronika5052 You're Welcome❤
Amen!
"You don't get what you expect. You get what you inspect." I felt that!
The purpose of dating is to gather the DATA. 'If a man doesn't have a vision he doesn't need help'! Wow. Straight up truth right there!
even if Queens ask questions dnt mean she'll get truthful answers..still gotta watch actions
Amber bellah, Right. Gotta look out of wolves in sheeps clothing!
Not just actions....watch his pattern as well. Super important.
Very true!A lot of ppl lie unfortunately.
Discernment
Patterns, speaks louder than actions. just pay attention, and eventually you'll see.
if he runs, let him goooo, pleeeaaasseee !!!!
Praise ye the LORD
🙌 let the trash take itself out
F.A. H. RUN TOO!!! Opposite direction 🙌🏾💯💃🏾
bye felicia!!😭😂😂
It’s 2020 and I’m still with this !
I really wish I wasn't such a "silly woman" and had a father to tell me all of these things before I experienced them through mistakes!
I'm only A woman, me too. I have two kids by this man that told me he never had intentions to be with me but told me he did just to continue having sex with me until he found his soulmate.
I thought it was love bc I never experienced love from my parents or otherwise.
Britany.. so sorry.. continue to find yourself you will find love...
Rosa, Thank You.
I'm only A woman absolutely nothing you went through was wasted concentrate on what you have now to help you learn and grow such as this channel,We both unfortunately belong to the same club but there’s always hope
“When someone tells you who they are...BELIEVE THEM.”
Many times they will not say but they will show pay attention...
The first time...
Amen
When someone shows you who they are... Believe it.
I keep telling ppl you wouldn't expect a cat to act like a dog or vice versa
I’m 37 years old and I wish I heard this when I was 20 years old. This could’ve saved me a whole lot of heartache. Now that I have a daughter these are the kinds of teachings that I’m taking for myself and will pass on to my daughter.
Thank you! ❤️
I wish I knew this too I have a daughter and we aren't going to do certain things when it comes to men and relationships to help her not to make the same mistakes
Same here. Now we know
When men will not answer my questions I’m done with them. Huge red flag.
Ya just turn around and run like a bull, the moment they feed you crap
Lara, I agree with you 150%. If they can't be transparent, they are hiding some things. Run Felicia Run!!!!
Hello from Sydney Australia. Coming from a Single parent dwelling my Mum and Dad separated when I was very young never got a chance to have these types of talk with Dad who passed over 2015.You are a very special .man of God and have opened my eyes to the ways of the opposition sex.Wish you had been on the net twenty years ago .thank you.and God bless you always......Maylene Heydon.
🙏!! My friends told me I ask too many questions, first my feelings were hurt and then I was thinking oh that’s why some of them were being tagged alone. Granted a man can tell you anything but the Holy Spirit will reveal! And if the man can not answer my questions and they have to laugh before answering...I already know he is a liar
foxxcgirl good for you.
I ve been married 18 years girls listen to him wow hes right on
sh ri b
Bottom line: stay silent and OBSERVE for as long as possible. They can't "mirror" what they don't know.
Now see, we on the same thing. Questions are cool but observing is where its at. Then he won't have a playbook to "act" from. You can get all the answers to these questions and more by observing him and having indirect conversation.
i.pinimg.com/236x/e5/fc/0d/e5fc0da0ebec85311da585159f219fa0.jpg (Trust a person's "patterns". People lie. Actions don't). Get the book: "Act like a lady, think like a man" by Steve Harvey. He spells it ALL out about how men are and why they do what they do. You'll be glad you did! Always pay more attention to what a man DOES more than what he says, and ALWAYS run a background check on everybody!!! (Mugshots.com, "Beenverified.com) Your life may depend on it.
😍😍😍
That's DEEP
That book is shallow and elementary. Not all its cracked up to be.
Also, pay attention to eye contact, body language and quick, confident responses. The Holy Spirit discernment in you will sound the alarm above all else. Do not ignore, please.
*That's it!*
I love what you said about the quick, confident responses. My brother said Scott my ex, he had an answer for everything and no one has an answer for EVERYTHING.
And during the dating process, ask the Lord for the spirit of Discernment & the Wisdom of God to proceed with the relationship accordingly. Cause people can say ANYTHING. They can even pretend with action also. Only God can show you a persons true intention ♥️God bless
This right here...
Amen🙏🏾
Amen
“You don’t get what you expect, you get what you inspect!”....Awesome!....Hallelujah Amen 🙏
Dating is to gather data. Thanks.
Richmond va
this is a short why of saying it
I Monae For sure. Friends first if at all.
I agree. I once went on a date and had the guy ask me if he was on a job interview because I was asking him lots of questions. I replied, "well it's not a "job" interview but it is an interview." Needless to say he didn't stick around. Good riddance! Lol
Cher A Good for you girl, stay strong.
I'm Buddhist, but I personally find this exquisitely beautiful, and righteous in the best possible way. I appreciate this so much. 🙏
I’m irreligious and tune in now and then.
This is wisdom from God Almighty Jesus Christ. This wisdom is not of Man.
❤️🙏🏽
Yes his knowledge is beneficial to all women of all religions ...not sure why he mumbles ..when he mentions other religions ...when he talked about Buddhism and chanting ...there are a lot of amazing people in the world who are not Christian ..and Buddhism was able to be spread peacefully..not through war ...I guess if someone needs blood or an organ and the donor is non Christian or Buddhist it will be refused ..sad
bcse it's from the only true God
I am 52 years old TODAY. I WISH ID KNOWN ALL THIS WHEN I WAS 22!!! Thank you for this message.
Me too
HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!!
Queen we can still use this info. I'm also 52 yrs. Relearning my authenticity.
wow.. very shocked at the "a man who cannot abstain from sex before marriage cannot abstain from sex outside marriage." interesting. I love Pastor RC Blakes....i'm so addicted to his messages
There really should be a class on how to be a good father, it's a shame 53 yrs old and it's the first time I have heard these questions. No wonder my marriage failed. Awesome teaching, thank you.
Q #1- 8:50 -Are you a believer?
Q #2- 12:12 -What matters most?
Q #3- 15:53 -Why me?
Q #4- 19:26 -What is your vision?
Q #5- 22:55 Can we go to your church or meet your parents?
Q #6- 26:52 Do you have children?
Q #7- 28:52 Sex before marriage?
Q #8- 32:23 Man vs Woman role?
Q #9- 35:23 What have you learned about me?
Thank you!
Been searching the comment section for this exact comment. Thank you!
You all are totally welcome💛☀️✨
Queen Blockchain THANKS
Anytime, fam💛🙏🏽
A handsome dumb man is NOT ATTRACTIVE!!
Vincetta Williams nope!
Preach..sistren...especially if he is older...sis listen....I have been single for one year and 1/2 month....i'm too busy looking after my pre-teen daughter, and bettering myself day by day.
And godless for sure is unattractive
Heeeeeeey, I KNOW YOU!!!! HEY VINCE!!!
Agree
I appreciate how slowly and deliberately he talks and repeats important points so I can remember. Great video!
Me too!
Great questions! I also usually ask the following questions:
Did you have a pleasant or difficult childhood experience?
How’s your relationship with your parents?
Do you have any friends?
What type of friends do you have?
Who are the special people in your life?
What have you learned the most?
How do you handle stress?
What bothers you the most?
What gives you comfort?
What is your take on making a living and the workplace?
How’s your credit?
How do you feel about dating?
How do you feel about animals?
Oooo girl! These are excellent questions to ask! I had to take notes
Thanks for this!
Ok I’m stealing them thank you
Great questions to ask. I didn't realize I should have asked about the animals since I love my animals.
Excellent, wise questions.
Either I’m nosy as all get out or I paid attention over the years. The guy I’m seeing I asked these questions to him in the first two weeks. Lol! Most that first week and a few the next week. It stunned me that he made it through. Most guys I meet run for the hills with me asking questions. In recent years I found it to be a blessing from God. No wasting my time, mister. At first I thought it was some curse but God stepped in.
What wonderful teachings you share with us. Thank you! God bless your ministry!
Reading from the same script 😄
Wow, thank you!!! I watched and listened twice to make sure I didn't miss anything.
All I want to know is why my Daddy didn’t give me this info....I’m low key upset with him ....this is the info I need!!!
Brandi Royal Sometimes we assume that the mothers will handle it. We don’t know the importance of connecting with our daughters.😊
My sentiments exactly!! I had a very "old school" father where we've never discussed anything in regards to relationships or how men should treat me whatsoever, and that kills me because I'm a Daddy's girl still! But thank God it's never too late to still learn. Thank God for Pastor Blake!
THANK U FOR THIS INFORMATIN TO SEND MY FAMILY THAT US DATING.
Love this
A man keeping you a secret is the worse kept secret. I have done that and it is true that it will lead to sin every time.
i.pinimg.com/564x/3a/dc/d2/3adcd293da8e385239d9116f481181d2.jpg A man that loves a woman will NEVER be kept a secret. If he's keeping you a "secret" from his mother, friends, family, co-workers, etc. he's probably married, has a girlfriend, living with someone, or gay. Most important also: "Rule #1: NEVER be #2".
I'ma keep it real....I'm living in this situation now and trying to find my way out out
@@roses4me451 or he believes he is so far above you that he is embarrassed to be associated with you..
@@michelledavison2533 Very true!
All these questions should be asked over the phone...I call it the "pre interview" This will determine if he even gets a date with me! lol.
That is a big point
No you need to see their face
@@dansefureva7664 yes! N body language.
Sometimes we women build up the idea man in our minds, and when someone comes around and fit that picture we don't want to know the truth. I'm ashamed to say it but its stupid and true. This is all so much easier said then done. Keep praying ladies. ❤
This comment needs more likes!!
@@Keaira_Johnson EXACTLY! I was shocked to see how many likes this comment had. This comment is very, very, very true for a lot of people, but lots don't want to acknowledge the truth. That's the quickest way to get stuck in the dark!!!
@@Tkconnie Yes!! As I've gotten older I have had the desire to know the truth about things I'm attaching myself to no matter how uncomfortable it is. It could save you years of having to recover!!
Where were you 16 years ago? This would have saved me 14 years.
ashley seabrian i know what you mean. 😪😭😭
Me 2!! Thank God 4 You!!
ashley seabrian it would have saved me 19 years... Smh!
ashley seabrian Amen Ashley!!!!
ashley seabrian /yup! Love his "tone" of delivery and complete, sensible , biblical information. He's not just throwing scripture at you and "Don't".😔👏👏👏
Once was Silly but now I'm found, blind but now I see. Data, Data, Data, Queens ask questions... so powerful. Never thought a couple of random videos would change my life. Only 16 years late but better now than never I'm still in mid 30's and in college "Again"...I will need this
Yes!!
Mess up the game Pastor! I mentor a group of young christian women and you're confirming all that I've been teaching them. Thank you.
Sherry Nickerson 'mess up the game, Pastor' 🤣🤣🤣
i.pinimg.com/originals/e0/8a/5b/e08a5b061e0f96a176d588d9cc26a1ab.jpg "Hearts rarely get broken when legs are kept CLOSED". Make SURE you teach them this! They will "weed out" a lot of liars, players, con artists, etc. when they keep sex OUT of the game. Bless you for educating these young ladies. This HIV/AIDS epidemic is out of control! Please also get the DVD "COVER" by Jim Duke (Amazon.com) about the "down low" lifestyle men are involved in also. (Aunjunae Ellis, Patti Labelle, Leon, etc) star in it. Christian-based movie.
Amen
I remember after a date just recently a guy asked if he could come in and I said no!!! I gathered my data and I don’t want to continue. Thanks Rev for the advice
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The reply, "You're so beautiful, etc" is so over the top. As I gotten older and wiser I began to see it as a red flag. Brother please, you don't even know me. I am not just beauty alone.
As as woman, I know it's time to get serious because I barely know the answers to most of these questions..
True indeed London Li that's why we have been led here at this time. Pray all is well with you and that you have asked these questions since watching this a year ago. Stat Blessed
You MUST ask questions, the hard ones. Make him think! When I was single I knew a man wasn't for me when he was bothered by my questions.
I let them go and I'm married to my life love❤
What are some of your favorites to ask and make them squirm?
Thank you! Father daughter talk is what so many of us need.
“You don’t got no man, if he can’t answer questions”
Love ❤️ this!!🙏🏽
Amen! Never let a man keep you secret because sin is not far behind. Preach!
I want to pull out my folder and note pad 📝 and ask all 9 questions tomorrow 😂
Britney Jade, you are right😂. I really needed this in my life. I'm working on me but maybe one day God will send my husband.
Lmaaaooo😁😁😁😁😁😁
Britney Jade me too 😂
Britney Jade hehehe funny
😂😂😂😂😂
I'm adopting you as my dad.
Chibueze Johns me too
Chibueze Johns me too
That makes 3 of us! ❤
That means we’re all sisters because I am too lol
Asia Blue yes sistas! Lol.. let’s stay wise in God’s word🙏🏽. It gets challenging out there sometimes...Lol
Im Not even Christian but these questions are still relevant. I never confuse the message with the messanger. Very useful. ThAnkh you.
Hi, friend 🤗.
God loves you ❤️
I am in tears!!!!! I needed this video. I am struggling with a relationship that is unequally yolked. I am a Christian (born & raised) & he is a unbeliever. I know he is not for me, and I am struggling letting it go. I truly appreciate this video from the bottom of my heart. I pray that the Lord will keep me until he brings me my true Godly husband.
Jesus, Please Help me!!!!! 😭😭😭😭
Still relevant even in 2021....thank you Pastor Blakes. From South Africa 🇿🇦
I was looking for DIY ankle weights, but ran across this channel and video, lol. I guess God was tired of me doing it myself by choosing the wrong men and carrying the weight of wrong relationships! Thank you so much for your videos! I needed this more than I needed those ankle weights, lol.
The wrong are ankle weights!!!!! Lol
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some women actually think dating is having sex.
F.A. H. In one of the first conversations getting to know a guy, a guy told me that because I hadn’t slept with my last boyfriend, we hadn’t actually dated, we were just friends. That was the last conversation I had with him.
Sadly,
Most men think, dat they have the 'right' to have sex with a woman on the 1st date. They can get very upset, if you do not want it.
Bless you lady
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 true.
@@HaloHighlightz Wow, smh, all I can say is you dodged one.
they are wrong, a woman dont suppose tp sleep with a man until marriage or at least engagement, make him wait
I'm learning a lot from you sir.. Thank u and I don't feel like your bashing men it's more of a therapy for women to understand their worth and learn NOT to settle!
“THE POINT IS TO KNOW IT IS AN UNEQUAL YOKE BEFORE YOU GET YOKED.”
I listen to RC Blakes sermons like I’m in school and refreshing my memory on these principles on a regular basis.Thank u for ur honesty u keep it real spiritually and practically. I’m still waiting on my godly husband. It get lonely but the wait worth it. I’m want a serious relationship with the the Lord and work on my goals.
You are a blessing to so many Pastor Blakes, continue to let God use you.
Thank you Michel. This means a lot.
The humour is killing me😂😂!May the Lord add unto you more wisdom! Thank you pastor! All glory to our God
Alicia Kiarie he cracks me up! Love his videos.
You bring tears to my eyes. Every self-respecting woman should hear this!!!
RC I am 35 and you are teaching me all I never knew! I thank God for you! I watch you daily. My goal is to watch all you’ve posted and buy all your books. Thank you!
Ma aunt linked me to your video. She been counseling me in the right direction since I've been of age. This video and the questions within taught me that I have A LOT to improve on with regards to myself, my priorities and my preferences. Thank you. And amma go thank her too.
Queen ask questions. But these men do not want to answer the Queen's questions. Men can't stand it when i ask questions.
Vana Phill and that's your Q to leave because that means they haven't prepared for it and you don't want one thought about and made up, you want honestly up front.
hey ,if anyone else trying to find out
dating tips for guys from girls
try Remonteben Impress Her Trick (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my partner got cool results with it.
Vana Phill they are hiding something. Run away, Babe. Such a man is not worth your time.
Vana Phill ONLY SLICK COWARDZ DON'T RESPOND TO A QUEEN QUESTIONZ👸😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
that's your sign to keep it moving
Just not ask questions but I'm see if the answers match the actions.
Torie Townsend *****Now THAT'S IT right there!!👍💛💥🍀🌻😊*****
Torie.. yes...
And patterns
Yeeeeeeeees!
Actions always speaks louder than words. Make sure a man’s video matches his audio.
Thank you Lord for giving me a father in Christ who is doing what my biological father didnt! God bless you Bishop!
I grew up so dysfunctional and had no guidance. Thank you for your videos.
I asked my date this question sex b4 marriage? He was foreign to abstinence. I was done! He was too. Cause we didn't call each other. He did after but I just knew ....not for me. This man is not my husband. #questionsarenecessary
The right questions that is....
LOVE LISTENING TO THIS MAN. PASTOR YOU KNOW THESE PIMPS MAD.
And to think about all of the men who weren't meant for me... However, I look at this as something positive and an eye opener because I have grown so much from my past mistakes and it's amazing hearing the truth knowing I'm still blessed, God does have someone specially made for me and I will continue to seek God and save myself for my husband along with asking these 9 questions. Loved this!!
+raven johnson smart move
Amen!
raven johnson yep
Sometimes Good doesn't bring a man to you!
(with love)
I think it's better to focus on God's purpose in your life, single or not. Sometimes not everyone is going to have someone, live for the present and let God work on ur future.
Wish I would've heard this before married my ex-husband
missyann Burrrell me and you
missyann Burrrell amen to that
BINGO!
missyann Burrrell me too
Me too
I was told by a boy man I was interrogating him. 😂😂😂🤣🤣
"Tyrone" was probably scared you were going to find out he's a felon, been in jail/prison, has a wife, 6 kids, no job, no car, no home/apartment, on drugs, alcohol and on parole. Remember, if an employer or the bank asks questions before they hire you or lend you money and find out your background; why shouldn't you? Isn't your life valuable and aren't you entitled to know what "risks" are involved being with this person?
You Are So Right!!!! I asked all kinds of questions and turned 41 and was not married. Then I took advice from a friend who told me to stop asking so many questions and this “old” friend came along and I didn’t ask the RIGHT questions and got all caught up! I’m telling you, if he is saved but doesn’t have a vision that you can “help”, it’s not for you. Then you spend years trying to heal!! And I never went to his church!!! He never invited me!!!!!!!!
If I knew about these 9 questions before...I wouldn't have dated my ex narcissist boyfriend because he could have failed. Thanks a lot. Those who are still coming are in deep trouble...
this helps me to understand the ins and outs of true commitment..#salute
John Gist
Right
So true
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John Gist truth king
Thank you for being a good man ...and protecting women from this ..I wish I would have heard this sooner ...
Michelle Plaskoff so true.
Asking questions is important, it gives you something to hold the man accountable to! Don’t sleep!
Yess Lawd, ask the RIGHT questions!!! If he avoids answering the questions then keep it moving. Collect the data and watch a man's actions!
questions are great, but they lie too and intentionally deceive you
Amy Morale amen! That’s so true and very common these days unfortunately
Amy Morale you are so right. Even when you question them, especially about their marital status, they will lie big time and say that they are divorced, knowing well that they are still attached.
Lie detector test. Only way to know.
@@thanddi Amen.
The Holy Ghost never lies though. Take it to the throne in prayer, ask God for confirmation if this person is for you -- if He sent him to you. Discernment is a gift to be exercised, watch what they do consistently.
I found your site which I'm so glad I did. You're a good teacher and a man of God. I had to step out of a relationship because I knew we weren't equally yoked but he is trying to regain re-entry. Your teaching is encouraging me to stand my grounds.
I have a 1st date this coming Friday with a guy that been talking to for a little over a week. I'm glad I ran across this video.
How did that date turn out? Are y’all married now?? 😁
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Your daughter is so blessed to have you lighting the way. Newly returned to the game of dating ( now divorced) I thank you for the wisdom I need to remember.
I ask and it does one of two things: either they are intrigued, confident and full of integrity and don’t mind the questions or the questions anger them and put them on the defense and they run.
Pastor Blakes... him being saved is not enough for me, some of the so called brothers who would even pass as faithful before their pastors are lukewarm, mediocre, and casual with the things of God. they say the right things have the right answers to most of any questions you throw at them but when it comes down to it, they are weak and carnal in their dealings and that freaks the hell out of me more than dating a none believer..
Discern the spirit
Test the spirit
Exactly! Some Christian man they might read bible everyday and know bible so well. But they just wearing the Christian mask and yes even worse than non believer!
This is very true
I agree watch their actions don't listen to their words
Vivian Shitubi I agree wholeheartedly. It’s very sad.
I've listened to a whole load of dating channels. Wish I found you earlier before my dating ended. YOU ARE THE BEST BY FAR. I listened to a lot of unbeliever dating you tubers. There was wisdom in there but literally worldly. WE NEED YOU DAD
Even tho my daughter is 24 and still a virgin I truly plan on sharing some of these videos with her. Her dad has never been around much less having these talks with her I just feel so blessed she respects herself and also has a b.f who's a virgin.They had vowed 4yrs ago when they met that any hanky panky will be after marriage, even tho he lives in N.C and us in Indianapolis the trust and bond is there.
Lucky her!
I was dating a guy for almost a year and I asked him what made him attracted to me and he said that question is weird and hanged up the phone on me and block me. And my heart broke and realize if I knew earlier I wouldn’t have wasted a year with him.
What you're attracted to in the beginning may not be enough to hold your interest later on... This is soooo true!!!
I wish I had these questions & asked them 13yrs ago😢.
Thank you soooooo very much for caring and sharing. Setting us up for success and not failure.💜
"A man that cannot abstain from sex before marriage may not be able to abstain from sex outside marriage"very true
Great information! I believe it is never too late to learn about relationship.
9 Dating Questions:
(1) Are you a Christian/Spirituality?
(2) What matters to you most?
(3) What attracted you to me? (Ask within the first few conversations.)
(4) What's your vision?
(5) Can I come to church with you Sunday? (Ask after some time of hanging out and
getting to know each other a.k.a. dating.)
(6) Do you have any children? (Ask in the first few conversations.)
(7) What's your position on sex before marriage?
(8) What is the difference between a man's role versus a woman's?
(9) What have you learned about me? (Ask [at least] after a month of dating.)
AmpdPersonification THANK YOU
AmpdPersonification thanks haha
You don't get what you expect. You get what you inspect. Yes, I'm learning.
Thanks ...amen
what is important to u
have you ever cheated or abusive in s relationship
have u ever been arrested or criminal record what for
drug alcohol addiction
if u got kids do u pay child support
homosexual experiences have you ever had one
What are your goals
What do u want in life
do u want to get married one day
do u want kids
are u Christian
do u have venereal disease or have ever do u mind taking test before sex
job?
WOW! Your words are amazing. Every daughter with and without a Father to sow into her life really needs to cherish your words. Thank you for allowing the Lord to use you.
Quote worthy:" You don't get what you expect, you get what you inspect"!
I told my mom this os my spiritual father!!! Thank you for your expertise. Your changing lives everywhere💞
Wow, wow , wow. This is such a blessing and teaching on truth. You nailed it ...9 questions;
bam bam bam one right after the other. Please write a book on this.
I feel like with these questions being asked to the man I need to make sure that I'm accomplish in these areas also. Great questions!
Found this channel a few days ago I absolutely love it. Never had I ever found so much wisdom in one place. I wish I had this guidance growing up .... I am 37 years old so it’s still not too to late learn.
Dude... I LOVE YOU!!!!
You're like the parent I've always wanted but never had 💓bless you and love you. Please keep it up, we need you!!!
I have been sharing your video's dad, I tell everyone your're my spiritual father and to follow u. A great man of wisdom. I have learned so much.
I like and agree with your questions, However #1 should be ARE YOU MARRIED!
Fuckin WORD!!!
Best comment ever!!
Altho.... I asked that n the answer was a very confident no...
Errm yep u guessed it! LIAR!!!
Yes.
He won't say yes
You dont ask this while dating , you ask this during the normal phone conversations.. the answer determined the next move
@@jamaicanflavor3737 but you are likely to find out sooner or later . Or practice the days rules by Steve Harvey lol .
Asking the right questions is only beneficial if you're getting HONEST ANSWERS. Many aren't honest, so...😕
Dazzling Jewel Not true. Watch how they respond like he said. Discern if something is off.
TheRedFoxx. It IS TRUE. MANY are dishonest.
Now 'discerning' n praying & the Spirit of the Lord revealing TRUTH is DEFINITELY what one would have to do. That's the ONLY way to get it right. 👍🌾🌻
Not honest at all. Total Frauds
Follow this with paying attention to actions.
Thank You! Great message! I’ve watched this twice. Great speaker. Im 29 and I didn’t get to have father daughter talk with my dad because he passed.😢 thank you thank you. Please pray for me!
I learn a valuable lesson in a beginning relationship with a man. God did not put him in my life, He put me in his life. I learned a hard, hard lesson. I do not want to be unequally yoked. They drag you down to past behavior. I allowed him to drag me down and made a decision that has left me with an identity issue. I have bought your book. After 14 years of being single, I am happy there as I heal from this trainwreck with a femanine man who needs Jesus. Letting go and becoming a Queen.
sometime you ask question you get the wrong answer. they lie about themselves
Elizabeth Seton. YEP!! They sure do.
it's up to us to feel it out... not that it is our fault... but it is up to us to discern... n to trust our intuition... n surrender it over too to your higher power or whatever name u want to call it; jesus christ, god, etc... to help u discern; to help u trust your intuition... to pay close attn... to notice... to help cover n protect you... to help him to reveal himself to you... to help you to see the mouse (or mice) if there indeed was a mouse (or mice) to see... n to respect what is, n act accordingly.
our choices are our responsibility... one way or another... is it unlawful and wrongful and sometimes even to the point of being harmful and criminal, for them to be abusively deceitful? of course. that is on them. it is not our fault. our safety and protection is our responsibility tho. it's up to us, and with the help of our creator... we can ask our higher power for spiritual cover and protection as well, and for assistance in discernment and healthy discrimination and assessing people whether they are worthwhile or not... helping us choose with our free will, what r the best n most right, mark making choices... in surrender to our creator's supreme will for the greatest good for us n for all.
time remember devils are patient don't lower your guard house hunting watch out a man will say or bring you anywhere to get you to lift you skirt
Ok get to the point ,
am glad you said that because a kings have those questions also and as a matter of fact we require even more details
I'd like to know more details myself so agree
Starts at 9:13 min. The questions.
Thanks!
Thank you
milliondollar lady gurl!!!!! smh thanks for letting me know..lol wanna hear the questions but pressed for time kinda😶
milliondollar woman thank you 😊
milliondollar woman Thank you for the hint . I was getting anxious to hear the QUESTIONS!
I LOVE the fact you always base your teaching off of scripture!✊🏽♥️
I used to be a " PLAYER "...HE is on " POINT " !!!...