When I’m feeling healthy, I compliment them on what I’m jealous of…I might ask them how they accomplished it. When I see the work involved I either try their suggestions or decide I don’t want to go through all that. Either way I try to keep it moving. When I’m feeling unhealthy, I might stew over it and ask, God, why not meeee?? Either way I make it about me, not the other person.
I have been jealous before but i stopped myself and said if they made a better decision how can u get jealous yeah it can piss u off particularly when its someone thats not deserving but being jealous wont change a thing besides u looking bad
@@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500 They noticed you and want you to notice them. They are basically an annoying parasite, trying to feed off something about you, while hating you at the same time. It could be your look, your hair, something about your appearance. Or your confidence or a skill you have, or even your good ideas or the way you speak. Then there's those who feel they've got to keep up with others so will copy purchases or hobbies. At the end of the day they want your attention so don't give it to them ! They can't deal with their emotions which are like a leaky bag of rotten tomatoes that they swing around -- that's the snarky remarks, or straight up copying. Don't let the smelly tomato juice hit you !
Yes they want to be like us and also stare us up and down and put us down a lot. If they are family they can't be happy around us and they just want to make us feel like we are not valued. Jealous people don't like us because they don't Love their lives.
Outsmart the haters; jealousy is a weakness. They are very weak. They will end up sabotaging them selves or living very unhappy lives while they carry animosity towards their target. They have poison. Just don't give them any reactions. Let them hang out their kind...same jealous people belong to each other. Don't mingle too much or tell them anything. Don't let them know anything. Whoever goes on their side is An enemy and God will always open doors. I experienced this . When a door closes, another opens. If you always operate in love they can't do much.
1. They tend to tear you down 2. They hate your advice 3. They undermine your success 4. They engage in petty arguments 5. They express blind hatred towards you 6. They copy you 7. They’re constantly competitive
Yes!! Lol...but mine came from a man. Absolutely nuts. The copying & competing was like something I've never experienced...not even from insecure girls. Creepy as hell.
@@monicanath4859 i used to hate when an old neighbor copied everything i did then i realized its because she didnt hv her own style. I should hv been flattered
Admiration always turns to envy. It always starts with them admiring all that I do, who’s in my circle, what my male friends do for me, my children, my level of independence, my achievements, my sense of style-just whatever. The next phase is they try to emulate what comes natural to me. Then they discover that they can’t do what I do, go where I go, kick with who I kick it with (because #1 it ain’t me, it’s God using me as a vessel-my daily prayer). Then the hate starts. I promise I’m not exaggerating or tooting my own horn. I eventually just cut them off and keep it moving
I def dont underestimate. This is y I'd never feel flattered or would want ppl jealous of me. Bc I've experienced what I call fn creep ass females. & dudes, idk. I think alot of em r simply pos's anyways. Not saying females aren't. But at least I have a better chance of fighting them off. Also, I think ppl get jealous of anything. Like anything anything! But last time someone tried to claim I was jealous was by the ex mom in law in relation to her son & his dad. It's like if I didn't think u were out ur mind b4...
I'm not worried about the danger. She's already caused enough stress to last more than a lifetime. I'm over the arrogance from one person. My biggest concern is that she's trying to turn my friends against me. The "real" friends know the truth.
I have literally been stalked for 13/14 yrs now. They are truly sick ppl. They focus on us instead of their empty soulless vessels. What a waste of skin .
No matter how much you do or give /sacrifice of yourself for them it will never be enough. Best to walk away from shitty people. Inner peace is priceless.
Correct i actually said to a jealous individual who constantly watches etc it doesn't matter what i do it will never be enough for you because you are determined to belittle me.
I cut off all of the jealous people from my life and I couldn’t be happier. Better people actually gravitate toward you once you rid yourself of the jealous person’s toxic energy, so don’t be afraid that you will be alone. Not true. You will end up with better.
I think a lot of people are just jealous of you because you CLEARLY enjoy being you, and they want you to want to be them! Especially, if they see themselves as the cream of the crop, and you give them compliments for their achievements, and then go right on being you and loving it. It’s like…they can’t understand that! Lol… kinda sad, but…Whattayagonna?
I think it is rather perception. Compliments etc are given because i feel insecure myself and know what it is like. And i know good words can fuel ppl. I didn't expect being positive attacts so much negativity. And the joke is it caused my depression and ppl be like "be more positive". And im like "are you serious?" 😂😂😂
OMG !!!! This statement is soooooo true. I am dealing with this right now so when I came across this comment my mouth flew wide open. Life is sooo good. Just simply be yourself.😍🤗
Tell me if I’m wrong people. The person who is jealous, envious and insecure will not only show it in what they say, their body language etc, but you can see it in their eyes. Their eyes show pure evilness while what’s coming out of their mouth may be saying otherwise.
You can avoid these people,but they still come around and make problems for you. It doesn’t really end. They can turn others against you,and the sad thing is, a lot of times it works
Jealousy manifests through passive aggressive behaviour. It took me a while to realise that a former friend was actually jealous and displaying passive aggressive tactics to undermine, minimise or denigrate me, my accomplishments, different aspects of my life in general. And her opinion was always the correct one. Only her experiences, her advice mattered. A lot of my comments or opinions, which she solicited regularly, were dismissed or ignored altogether. Interestingly, she never tried these tactics in front of others, only when we were alone. Pretty insecure, juvenile behaviour on her part. I stopped socializing with her. It was a good decision on my part.
They hate that you are confident in who you are and that you are not insecure. They hate that you can be alone while they need people and validation. They talk about you constantly in order to feel better about themselves
And these are dangerous to your health, emotionally, financially most times and lastly spiritually. Im glad to be alone daily. I feel happier & healthier. Thank God
Some people are really sneaky about how they smear someone. They will start with a compliment Then a criticism so it seems more genuine. Or, they will act like a victim to make the other person seem like the villain. People can be very manipulative.
Most of the people who are jealous of me are female family members. In-laws, aunts and cousins. Even my husband’s niece is jealous of me. They either put me down, bully, insult, stalk me on social media, copy me repeatedly, secretly compete with me, ghost me, or stop talking to me altogether. It’s annoying so I had to cut them off.
I realized......my "bestie" is jealous of me. Im starting to realize it in the way she acts. In the energy she gives off and the way it changes. In the way she copies me. In the attitude she gets when talking about certain things. It really bothers me. We used to be so close, but things have changed so much and I used to never have to put up a wall. We used to flow so well, but not anymore
Going through this too. This "friendship" started as a workplace friendship and now we've started going out to bars together. I'm starting to pick up on her back handed compliments and her saying in a joking manner "I was starting to get jealous that everyone was looking at you dance." I'm like huh? Smh
Very true. Wouldnt have believed it if i hadnt experienced it myself. Never ever show the good in your life. Be like a pirate and bury your treasure. And never tell your wounds. They will enjoy hurting you. I know it sounds crazy and stupid but this is ppl.
@@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500 I love that: Be like a pirate and keep your treasure buried. But, on the other hand we've had people come up to us in the street and say it's so nice to see a couple laughing and being jolly together. (It might be because I'm disabled...yes I think that might be part of it. I guess people don't imagine a disabled woman could be in a happy relationship.) Which has been wonderful compliments to receive, but I think I will take your good advice and keep certain treasures buried.
I had to leave a job I loved when my co workers began to give me a cold shoulder and spoke to me only when it was necessary. I found that a co worker was spreading rumors that clearly would ruin my reputation. The upper management informed me of it and they said rumors die on their own. After 2 weeks, I quit my job. I viewed it as a form of bullying, and was upset she was not reprimanded for her toxic behavior.
Jealous people have deep insecurities and these people often do not live a long time, as they have a lot of emotional pain to work through and if left undealt with, those emotions often turn into disease.
Good analysis, better avoid jealousy, it can ruin your health and shorten your life, from now on I will be very careful not to be jealous of anyone. Thank you for posting such a good comment.
What if the person has more then you and they are still jealous of you . They are evil . I’ve in that situation right now but I’m going to close the door .
Same! Less money, less looks, less intelligence, less literally everything good. And they HATE. What is this? It should be vice versia. Explanation? Please help.
It's about your ability to be happy and at peace. You draw more attention than I they. If they are not having conflict with at least one person, they feel useless.
Hello, I am a 73-year-old woman that does have plenty of people jealous of me. From my own daughter, of course my deceased husband sexual prostitutes, to board members. In all of these cases I chose to just to continue one be myself and be kind. This attitude has served me well.
If you come into a new situation and they try and turn everyone against you before they even get to know you telling lies and calling you names. The hard thing is being kind to this person and then finding out they were lying to you and playing the victim to take advantage of your kindness to benefit themselves
It’s sad but I have a grown daughter that does this and because she’s my daughter I was naïve about it and let u do me DIRTY until i said enough- it broke my heart cuz WHY MY CHILD 😞
I had a friend who betrayed my trust but I forgave and trusted again until she started to undermine my integrity and value as a person by pointing out differences, by comparing me to someone else. I’ve since distanced myself and am much happier. I’ve learned to deal with it more openly the next time someone treats me like that.
jealousy is spiteful and sarcastic.NEGATIVE SPIRITS.Some People do NEGATIVE things and try to act like you did it. They won't apologize,but they will Carry on as though nothing is wrong and the same thing will continue down the road. Can't have a relationship with that type of attitude.🙏💜
True. It is not a true & healthy situationship. U cant win over a jealous insecure person cuz they will have u on pins & needles. I dont choose to be in hell anymore
My brother’s real hatred and jealousy shown after the unexpected death of my husband and my mother’s death nine days later. I moved back to my home state. They had no concern for my children. No answer when I asked if I had offended them for some reason. Their brutality and ugliness drove me to move further away. Sick people with secrets to hide. Secrets that were revealed by a childhood friend. The trauma as a child changed the direction of my life. I’ve always sought to live a good and kind life. I have and continue to engage in attaining better mental health Their sickness traumatically affected my well being since childhood. Their shallow, hypocritical and base behaviors are theirs and theirs alone. My diagnosis? Depression, anxiety and complex PTSD. I have also traveled and lived far away from them. I discovered that I would not be able to live closer to my family home when I was seven years old! What occurred then, changed the direction of my life.
Sometimes I wonder if my toxic friend from high school was secretly jealous of me. He was really mean and tried to casually hurt my feelings like it wasn't a big deal. I stayed away from him and the majority of the friends group throughout senior year because if it. I snapped at him shortly after we graduated because it really pissed me off that he acted as if he was never hurtful to me. I simply reversed his own negative behavior back to him just so he'd get an idea of what I endured. I'm just grateful that I never had to deal with him since.
I’ve experienced being ignored by coworkers while everyone else compliments my work & presentations. They always copy my uniqueness and ideas meanwhile tell me I shouldn’t pursue them. These examples of jealousy really affects my mental health in the workplace bc I have no one to address them with, and it hurts me. So thank you for addressing this issue in this video . I’ve learned that I should use this negativity to motivate myself-:)))👍😊
Mine are worse. Three ganged against me🤣🤣🤣🤣I am on my own, with my Jesus. They declared me dead while still alive🙈 Simply because they wish to be me. How possible.
My " friend" invites me over to his place and always has a passive aggressive behaviour towards me. I work as a Mortuary Technician, and I'm a certified Crime Scene Cleanup Technician, and he is always tearing me down and telling me anybody can do what I do. I've been trying to understand why he behaves nasty towards me, and for those reasons I'm here watching these videos. I will slowly avoid being around him, and focus my time/energy with those who are supportive as well as respectful. I can't be around people like him and feel anxious because of his passive aggressive ways. Thank you for these very informative videos a positive boost for my self esteem. [Subscribed] 👍🏽
Ppl who try to make you smaller feel small themselves. He is insecure. Distance yourself from that kind. Dont come to their slaughter parties. Believe me i know what you are going trough. My problem: i cant get rid of them 😂😂😂. Positive point: you can.
I take my hat off to you doing what your job entails! Wow! Keep being YOU, and if possible I'd drop this 'Friend' like a hot coal! What a piece of work! I've done just that and believe me it's the best feeling! 👌 I've got my pets, and they're the best, they never judge, criticise or stab me in the back. Looking after my little Furry Family is all I'm concerned about. Down with the losers! 👎
Something I've noticed is when there's a jealous sister situation, if they can't express that in the family then they will project it harshly else where, like onto a female friend, and harm them instead.
It’s a terrible feeling having sisters who are jealous or envious of you. My situation involves my older sister and it’s been this way for as long as I can remember. The most unfortunate part is that as we’ve grown older her jealous behavior has gotten worse. My only solution is to avoid her as much as possible because of her envy, meanness, fakery & plotting behavior. It is toxic & exhausting.
Noone is more jealous than my sister and the thing is she has so much more than I have (materially) But I'm always happy (mostly) and she is always miserable and very mean to me and others I tell my friends I don't know what happened to me but I'm just not jealous of anyone. 🥰
Jealousy never improves your life but instead draws in negative energy, causing your own Suffering @The opinions of others are not The main goal of our own life. #***Feeling or opinions of others , we can't Stop adjusting ourselves.
My older sister totally told my mom on me and blame for me everything she did and my mom came in my room. Threatened to kick me out if I didn't do what she did. I ain't though and she wonders why I act out is cause of her anger and her yelling,threatening me. But I'm glad I'm getting Job so I can move out to my own places and free from my mom and older sister.
The most egoistical, self-centered, narcissistic people I’ve known, would constantly claim that everyone was jealous of them, and wanted to be them, etc., etc. Interesting video, gang.
I went through this recently with a guy “friend” of mine at work recently. At first, he gave me weird vibes and was a bully towards me while being nice to others at my workplace. There is an audit that I usually do and he would get up all in my busy. Last fall, I gave in a started to talk to him. After talking to him for a minute, I had came to find him to be pretty cool and we had great conversations. This would last to a few months ago. We didn’t talk for awhile over something things that I thought he knew. Yep months ago, we started to talk again and it was ok for about two weeks until he started getting crazy. He made a comment about my work clothes. One day at lunch, he showed me a meme that a friend of his had sent him and I laughed at it. He asked a question and I gave him a response. I guess he didn’t like what I said since he sulked over it for the rest of our lunch hour. He picked up his backpack, said he was taking it with him to put his lunch bag back up since he didn’t trust me and called me fake. The next day, he comes up to me to ask if I was ok in an aggressive voice tone, I ignored him, and he stormed off. He even told me that he can’t wait until he doesn’t see my face there anymore. We haven’t spoke since. Funny enough. Later found out that he was running his mouth about me and this audit that I do about how I am trying to get people into trouble, which is not true. Funny thing is, I am leaving my job soon and moving to a new state. I have told some of my coworkers and a few of his friends. I hope word has gotten back to him. I don’t plan to say goodbye to him.
Damn. That sounds like a guy I used to work with. He would be really cool with me and even made it clear that he was very into me. I was flattered but we're both married so, no. I thought we could be adults and work together, and move past it. I was very, very wrong. Long story short, he got fired.
Oh yes at my work place my best friend became my worst enemy all because I got the position that she wanted and also because I buy a bigger SUV...oh yes she try to put the whole building against me....but thank God I'm stronger than a bull...Lord I pray for her insecurities
Yes, I've had a few jealous & envious people that took their hardest shot at me... How I reacted toward the punches of these people...at first they got on my last nerve & they hurt me deeply...I was devastated at the time, then eventually plucked up the courage to pull myself together & start afresh. I earnestly prayed about it, God stepped in, He raised me up & made me one resilient woman... And to date, I forgive people that are not even sorry...but forgive those who persecute you...living in forgiveness is of utmost importance...AND I feed jealous/envious people with a long hand spoon, preventing the venomous bite because such people are dangerous, unhealed & they are capable of the worst unimaginable... Then above all, never forget to pray for them🙏I've learned to love people from a distance, while having maintained a contrite heart only by the grace of God🙏💝
Jealously is a learned emotion and it is also the one emotion that I am most terrified of. I've been alive for 33 years now and I've seen A good couple of EXTREME types of jealousy and unfortunately because the jealous person in this situation was unable to control themselves the situation ended up in extreme violent and now they are facing a ten-year sentence in prison. I don't know about y'all but I'm cool off of all that jealousy stuff. For me it just makes more sense to walk away wipe your hands clean be done with it and move on with your life then to sit there and with an obsession over something that you cannot control I don't know maybe it's just me but yeah.
Wow. You’re describing my soon to be ex-husband who I’m currently divorcing. It always left me so drained and confused as to why on earth he was acting like that. You don’t expect the person you’re married to to be spending the focus of their life on tearing you down, looking for things to argue about and criticize you about, especially things that make no sense.
The jealousy look is so sinister as well. When you see this look cut this person out of your life. I had to cut my entire family out of my life because of jealousy. When I get enough money saved i am moving down south to make a new life for myself. Jealousy results in Homicide it is an extremely dangerous trait.There are so many insecure humans in our society that are jealous. Men murder women because of hatred and jealousy toward them . Women bunny boilers go to great lengths to destroy other women. I think all humans are insane. That’s where the term comes from insanity jealous.
True I'm going through this at my work place, it's horrible, when one person turned everyone against you for no reason.. Now even my line manager who just joined our team is siding with her.. I used to to a job higher than what I'm doing now, and I'm doing it because it's less stressed than my previous job.. I guess that's what made one woman in my team bulling me.. Everything I tried to say in her present she would look down on me or engaged in a sarcastic way in front of the whole team.. Another thing if she is taking with others and see me coming, she would say something that everyone with her would turn around and look at me or you see them laugh before I joined them.. She started the job 4 months before me.. When I joined them every one asked where I've worked before, I told them and I don't think she was expecting about the I done before joining the team. I really feel hurt and I have to stand on my own especially when she is around just to avoid the nastiness. I listen to your video yes I could see myself and how I've been treated. 🙏 Thank you that's opened my eyes..
It's horrible and I sympathise. I went to this class started by a lady in her nice house. There were about 8 women, we all began together. On the very first evening a woman sat next to me and had her hands in my things and made it very obvious she didn't like me for some reason. I never spoke a word to her in all the sessions I attended. By the second class she had invited all the other women to her home for a little party and this was made obvious to me. There were many catty remarks and in jokes they were all laughing about, not being paranoid by obviously some of it was at my expense. She did something and I finally shot her a dirty look, and she said it had given her chills, so the teacher lady told me off for it ! I thought thanks a lot, you have seen what I'm putting up with here. When it came time for us all to sit the exam at the end she had me come at a different time to the others because they had created such a horrible atmosphere for me be in. I asked my friend one day why she thought I could be having such a hard time with this group of women, she was an older lady than me and a lot wiser. She said just look at you, they are jealous because you're lovely and talented. I'm not used to compliments so was shocked. It was really nice of her to say those things. The same is probably true of you too. You I'm sure are lovely and obviously have talents which upsets the hell out of other people and makes them jealous of you.
@@flowerjpotter1629 The same thing has happened to me consistently. A mannish woman told me that years ago, not related to anything, “You’re always going to have problems with women.” I was shocked. She said “You’re beautiful and women are always going to be jealous.” The frustrating thing is, I was raised not to focus on my looks, and I’m not into makeup and girly stuff. I don’t color or style my hair, I just have it long. Maybe this only makes them more vindictive.
This video was and is 100% accurate, all of it extremely informative for someone who was and are perhaps naive. Or just really has not had this nightmare of an experience. The information given was explained as I have experienced it in real life. And from reading the previous comments so have many of you. I was minding my own business, doing me. One day I ran into a whole situation and the choas began. I ran into the person that was sent by the enemy (satan), to teach me about this life’s experience called jealousy, hatred, envy, insecurity, belittling others, competing with you, lying on you. The whole mass of confusion. Meaning the person has/still has issues and needs mental help. I do agree with many of you it is extremely annoying. I have taken the high road and chose to distance myself from my stalker/demented person. Realizing in the United States of America, Mental Health needs to be stepped up a lot more in our communities rather than shut down and ignored. Not after some bizarre incident occurs or someone loses their lives. This issue is real and can be dangerous depending on just how sick this person is. Especially, when they do the smear campaign to turn others against you. Sick and twisted (issues that need addressing). I appreciate each of you sharing your experiences. Hopefully, the video and comments will actually help others. I am so glad it found me and I am sharing it with family and real friends to help them. As the video stated we can’t fix them. But on Sunday,I heard a Minister say pray for them when they are like this. Do not talk about them and do not be unkind to them. But show love, if you are around them. I agree they can really make life utterly miserable. However, as a Believer in Jesus Christ, with HIM, nothing is impossible. “For God so loved the world, that HE gave HIS only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 (KJV)
I always felt like when they gossip about you and you answer by defending yourself you are proving what the gossiper is saying. U will know cause they will manipulate you and the circumstances to fasly expose u Don't just ignore them and continue to shine . Even If you did fall into the trap they will still be exposed in this case someone else is going to come along ..lepord don't change they spots remember that. They gone come along and expose them for you.so u get your justice threw that person who expose them. We got to learn how to ignore sometimes instead of reacting.
Yes this so true.. I kinda got to know there are certain people who copy me through social media.and to be very honest I feel happy about myself 😌👍 ..and yes I encounter jealous people every day.. so I try to be low key
I am not jealous about anyone l Love myself more No Problem for me if other hate me.Jesus Loves me so much more Amen.In Jesus Holy and Mighty Name Amen 💕💕💕
Petty arguments: My sister asks me why I'm turning on the lights on the porch at night(at my house). And I simply answer cause I always do that. And she claims I don't want to tell her the real reason and starts to be aggressive and makes a huge deal out of it. I knew where this was going she has done the same thing years ago. And she would say things like why do you need light I can see in the dark...why are you too stupid to see in the dark....this costs electricity.....my dog doesn't like your lights etc, and she goes on about how bad I am for turning on the lights. It's just ridiculous how she can make an argument over something like that.
Maybe she's mental. Lights on a porch at night are pretty normal. Deters people from snooping around. As you can see from the UA-cam ring camera videos. LED lights are cheap now.
That sounds exactly like my younger sister. She had an uncanny habit of pulling a petty argument out of the air and turning it into a verbal tirade. When I refused to agree with her opinion, that drove her nuts to the point that would shout like she had lost her mind and she has physically attacked me a few times because she had no good counter-argument. I don't talk to her any more and my life is more peaceful.
I don’t agree that you have to show them respect when they are creating false rumors against you. That doesn’t work, you actually have to confront them.
I've experienced all of these and sometimes being kind to these people and being the bigger person doesn't help. They may think you are weak and continue to damage your reputation. Know when and how to confront them to make it stop. If it's friends, cut them off, if it's coworkers report them to the right authority and if that authority is too incompetent to do the right thing about it, call them out and deal with it appropriately else it will never stop. Just ensure you don't hurt your reputation in the process. Sometimes you can cut them off altogether and only interact with them when absolutely necessary. Also, when you do interact, be as direct as possible, no Mr Nice guy. That'll put them in their place. Don't let anyone make your life miserable. I would rather that person leaves because they see me as a threat than leave for them. PS: Some toxic and jealous people are also here commenting about how others are jealous of them and whatnot. They don't tell us how they have been jealous and acted in a toxic manner towards other. 😂😂 The irony of it all.
I am not a jealous, insecure woman and im not insecure about people. I strive for my own everything & i feel happiest when i can have what i want. I dont steal from stores or people and i give same respect to others who respect me. I no God loves me every day and this comforts me mentally, physically, emotionally, financially & spiritually. I am satisfied w/my Lord & Savior
All my girl cousin are jealous of me no matter how much love I try to show em they will not reciprocate the energy but keep tabs on my every day life & its sooo annoying like why can’t we live & love ❤️ I’m such a good person even towards their kids. Haters going to hate they hate to show love back but I know it’s probably because I get a lot of attention & love from others. My oldest cousin who is 10 years older. I admire & loved growing up shock me I realize she was jealous of how I look when she made a comment about dark skin girls being jealous of her in front this guy she started seeing because I’m darker & I was wondering why would she even say that I guess because I’m younger pretty & smaller then her she felt threatened by me when I had nothing but love & respect for her & yes she is brighter but that don’t make you cuter. Insecure people hate ppl with confidence but I like to call it Godfidence because I’m a spiritual woman who just want to be able to get alone with everyone.
This narrator stated to express "kindness" towards those that envy you. Well, it is hard to be kind to people like that. Envious or jealous people get on my damn nerves. It is hard to be "kind" to people that are like this to you.
It is really hard to be kind to people who are constantly attacking you. Remind yourself that it is about them. Not you. They have weaknesses and attack what they think is worth having. They are ppl who werent loved as children. Some become haters some become victims. Always this unhealthy relationship thing. And they attack what endangers their self worth. It is survival. Not justified critique if they dont know you. Dont be mad. It is wounded unloved people who hadnt good parents to take care of them. And all the rage and unjustice they sufferen when they were small will be revenged as adults. Because the feeling you had as a kid never leaves you. Believe me i know what it is like to feel worthless and easily intimidated. I went through that rage state as a kid. And got rid of it as a teenager. Was lucky to have parents who talked to me and made me think about my feelings and actions. But some people are less lucky. Parents being asses abuse them and they become hateful insecure ppl themselves. It is abandonment and abuse. And you got to suffer because you might appear healthy, confident, etc (doesnt need to be true, perception is enough)
true I have been kind to everyone but lately I flipped script an gave them a taste of their own medicine and they don't like it but if they don't do the crime then they won't do the time 😂
My eldest sister, unfortunately, is the most jealous person in my life. She always undermines my success , she is good in catching my mistakes - actually usually those are not mistakes but she always finds ways to make me sound mistaken (for example using religion) in front of others. She always make me feel guilty about things that are out of my responsibility (for example blaming me for study and work abroad - being away from my family). I am now 35 and I have seen enough pattern from her.
@aalserihi2050 ♥️ i can relate with you 100% bc my 11 year old (!) niece does this to me DAILY. THIS KID WATCHES EVERYTHING I DO. she also gives me unsolicited advice left & right lol (she loves to be in control) and she literally interrupts me while i am speaking and then proceeds to CORRECT me (her aunt, an adult; 39 years old) CONSTANTLY and it’s so demeaning, straight up nasty & disrespectful. my niece also competes with me as well, it’s craZy! everything is a competition with her, EVERYTHING! this is her most used tactic to undermine me. worst of all, my niece is NEVER pulled privately aside, confronted, corrected, redirected, given a warning or experiences any consequences for her absolutely unacceptable behavior towards me by her mom (my younger sister), my mom (her grandma) or any other adults in our immediate family. my niece also calls herself the “BABY” of the family! unfortunately, i don’t feel comfortable addressing these concerns 1:1 with her as i am not her mother and my sister is even worse than my niece! also, my niece is quite volatile, hostile, aggressive, and SO DRAMATIC (she overreacts over the slightest inconvenience, etc) and a textbook narcissist / bully / mean girl. i know that i can confront her assertively, calmly and with love, but she’s so unpredictable and i need support. i am a very caring, kind, empathetic, loving, forgiving, peaceful person and her anger, temper tantrums, and / or rage attacks are frightening! anyways, thank you so much for sharing your story about your eldest sister - i just had to leave a comment bc i saw myself in your message as i am going through the same thing. (((bighug))) p.s: it’s been exactly 1 year since you left this message; ANY UPDATES? how’s everything going for you now? keep your head up & take care of yourself okay? 🫶🏻
@@nirlamejia Karma. Your neice is 11 and hideously spoilt! A narcissist in fact. She will grow up without any genuine, lasting friendships let alone a loving relationship. Unless she's corrected now she'll continue to manipulate and make very many people very unhappy.
I recently saw a YT video that referred to the Tall Poppy Effect. I think it said that was the Australian name for it. Said basically in there are two ways to create the best [thing]. You can build the best thing. Or you can create something not quite comparable, and tear all others down below your creation's level. So a jealous person will strive for some kind of sabotage.
Really good video! I've not really thought about people being jelous of me, before now. As I'm just "a regular guy, with a normal job" but some of these points happen all the time towards me. Especially from one spesific person on point 2, 3 and 4.
Yes I have they try to tell lies tarnish my reputation...but the truth always comes out about them...for that I lock them out of my life..these are toxic family members. Never been so happy.
Jealousy is a human trait. We are taught that it’s bad or unsavoury so people, like the two above me, hide this aspect of them in their shadow simply because they don’t want to be something so unacceptable. In reality it’s just human. It’s ok but it’s worth examining so the person can work on themselves
It takes a great deal of energy to be jealous and petty. Rather than being jealous, focus your energy on yourself. You'll feel empowered and better overall.
There is only one type of person I’m afraid of “ insecure one” you can take no proper action whatsoever to secure them … now if I find one , I run a 100 miles an hour 😊
I have literally experienced each one of these & it always surprises me because I try to uplift everyone around me. It’s okay though, I know where it’s coming from so I normally just ignore it
For example: a house renting person in ( Goa India) son is in a painting experience, I complimented him and showed his mother one of my objects I was working on ( a quite new idea in this field) ... and .. yes she turned her big head away 😬😂
Well... jealousy isn't always personal tho. I mean, I also wannabe a billionaire w/ a zoo, a theme park, w/ all my kids, & the vacation at the house but we can't all have that tho now can we. I remember when a lawyer tried to pull a compare & contrast thing w/ me. I was thinking in my head, now outta all the ppl you hafta deal w/ no matter the "ugly"... me out loud: I am not them. They r not me.
Fantastic video 🙏🏾thank you. I came across this at just the right time. All of my family at some point.. I had the singing one with Amy Winehouse years ago 🙈 it's because mine is deep like hers and I was insecure of it. I am proud now 💓
Have you ever been jealous of someone? How did you act?
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When I’m feeling healthy, I compliment them on what I’m jealous of…I might ask them how they accomplished it. When I see the work involved I either try their suggestions or decide I don’t want to go through all that. Either way I try to keep it moving. When I’m feeling unhealthy, I might stew over it and ask, God, why not meeee?? Either way I make it about me, not the other person.
I have been jealous before but i stopped myself and said if they made a better decision how can u get jealous yeah it can piss u off particularly when its someone thats not deserving but being jealous wont change a thing besides u looking bad
Ýes.
I try not to be jealous of anyone because we are all different, as a child I was told to be happy for others so happeness will come back to me
I've never been, I am a free soul and I have people jeloous of me everywherw
They mock you, and are angry all time towards you. They also watch you constantly to see what you do.
Why is it this that way? Why seeking contact to ppl you hate? Is this normal?
@@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500
They noticed you and want you to notice them.
They are basically an annoying parasite, trying to feed off something about you, while hating you at the same time.
It could be your look, your hair, something about your appearance.
Or your confidence or a skill you have, or even your good ideas or the way you speak.
Then there's those who feel they've got to keep up with others so will copy purchases or hobbies.
At the end of the day they want your attention so don't give it to them !
They can't deal with their emotions which are like a leaky bag of rotten tomatoes that they swing around -- that's the snarky remarks, or straight up copying. Don't let the smelly tomato juice hit you !
True, Joan
Sounds like my mother. She was jealous since I was 4 years old. I’ve cut all ties, best gift to myself.
Yes they want to be like us and also stare us up and down and put us down a lot. If they are family they can't be happy around us and they just want to make us feel like we are not valued. Jealous people don't like us because they don't Love their lives.
The best friend you can have is God and your self ❤ xx
So very true!
Amen!!!
amen 🥰
A to the men🙏🙏🙏🙏
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Family members can target you as well. They can gossip about you and try to get other family members to stop talking to you.
That's my own mother.
And apparently my stepmother and her dumbass, loser son who just went behind my back 😒
Yep that happened to me I went through hell
I also go through that through my iwn sister
Happened to me
Outsmart the haters; jealousy is a weakness. They are very weak. They will end up sabotaging them selves or living very unhappy lives while they carry animosity towards their target. They have poison. Just don't give them any reactions. Let them hang out their kind...same jealous people belong to each other. Don't mingle too much or tell them anything. Don't let them know anything. Whoever goes on their side is An enemy and God will always open doors. I experienced this . When a door closes, another opens. If you always operate in love they can't do much.
1. They tend to tear you down
2. They hate your advice
3. They undermine your success
4. They engage in petty arguments
5. They express blind hatred towards you
6. They copy you
7. They’re constantly competitive
Thanks
My ex wife
Spouse 😢
Yes!! Lol...but mine came from a man. Absolutely nuts. The copying & competing was like something I've never experienced...not even from insecure girls. Creepy as hell.
And extremely bossy- ignore their authority you can't make them better.
Matter a fact, become the total opposite.
Jealously is also someone bringing you down for your beauty
I am working in Asia and the locals hate me because of my life. They all try to isolate me while they gossip and plot against my future plans.
How?
@@marioashford2057 awh sorry i just saw this! hope your okay!
@@j3ss.j I am ok and thanks for the good support. I just want to say if your African American then don't work or retire in Asia.
@@ngekiny1246 They steal, lie, cheat, and spread false rumors if you have wealth. Their police and their government are corrupt.
I've had people be jealous of me. They copied me, gossiped about me, but smiled to my face. They really really hated me and ultimately it showed.
Precisely especially at work
good that means that you are fabulous! Too fabulous for them to handle.
I can totally relate to this. Jealous people try to act like you. It is actually really hilarious.
@@tslilbearshoppe9870 👍🏼
@@monicanath4859 i used to hate when an old neighbor copied everything i did then i realized its because she didnt hv her own style. I should hv been flattered
Admiration always turns to envy. It always starts with them admiring all that I do, who’s in my circle, what my male friends do for me, my children, my level of independence, my achievements, my sense of style-just whatever. The next phase is they try to emulate what comes natural to me. Then they discover that they can’t do what I do, go where I go, kick with who I kick it with (because #1 it ain’t me, it’s God using me as a vessel-my daily prayer). Then the hate starts. I promise I’m not exaggerating or tooting my own horn. I eventually just cut them off and keep it moving
You are so on point! Know exactly what you’re talking about-yes indeed I do
I felt everything you wrote. God bless you 🙏
You and I are in the same state 😪
Facts
I totally understand, same here, it's depressing and frustrating.
People really underestimate the danger of a jealous/envious person. Please beware.
I def dont underestimate. This is y I'd never feel flattered or would want ppl jealous of me. Bc I've experienced what I call fn creep ass females. & dudes, idk. I think alot of em r simply pos's anyways. Not saying females aren't. But at least I have a better chance of fighting them off. Also, I think ppl get jealous of anything. Like anything anything! But last time someone tried to claim I was jealous was by the ex mom in law in relation to her son & his dad. It's like if I didn't think u were out ur mind b4...
And stay away.
I'm not worried about the danger. She's already caused enough stress to last more than a lifetime. I'm over the arrogance from one person. My biggest concern is that she's trying to turn my friends against me. The "real" friends know the truth.
I have literally been stalked for 13/14 yrs now. They are truly sick ppl. They focus on us instead of their empty soulless vessels. What a waste of skin .
Yes , facts people can truly be evil 👍🏾
No matter how much you do or give /sacrifice of yourself for them it will never be enough. Best to walk away from shitty people. Inner peace is priceless.
That's Correct!!..
true
Correct i actually said to a jealous individual who constantly watches etc it doesn't matter what i do it will never be enough for you because you are determined to belittle me.
Correct
I cut off all of the jealous people from my life and I couldn’t be happier. Better people actually gravitate toward you once you rid yourself of the jealous person’s toxic energy, so don’t be afraid that you will be alone. Not true. You will end up with better.
Correct. Great comment.
I know that's right!!!
Amen to that
Im glad to be, live & stay alone it is the best for me
Thanks! I needed to hear this.
I think a lot of people are just jealous of you because you CLEARLY enjoy being you, and they want you to want to be them! Especially, if they see themselves as the cream of the crop, and you give them compliments for their achievements, and then go right on being you and loving it. It’s like…they can’t understand that! Lol… kinda sad, but…Whattayagonna?
Yes ma'am, absolutely true.
The absolute truth like " how dare they be authentic while I'm pretending on purpose"🥴🤫🤗
I think it is rather perception. Compliments etc are given because i feel insecure myself and know what it is like. And i know good words can fuel ppl. I didn't expect being positive attacts so much negativity. And the joke is it caused my depression and ppl be like "be more positive". And im like "are you serious?" 😂😂😂
@@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500 yup..no lies. That’s why they only have one time to act an ass after a compliment, then, I’m good! ¡No mas! 😂
OMG !!!! This statement is soooooo true. I am dealing with this right now so when I came across this comment my mouth flew wide open. Life is sooo good. Just simply be yourself.😍🤗
Tell me if I’m wrong people. The person who is jealous, envious and insecure will not only show it in what they say, their body language etc, but you can see it in their eyes. Their eyes show pure evilness while what’s coming out of their mouth may be saying otherwise.
So true! With age it becomes more obvious and that's when it's visible to all. Also their face tends to get crooked for some reason.
So true and they give off this negative energy and negative vibes that can just be so draining.
That's True!!
100% truth!
If body language and words dont match pay attention. Something is wrong.
Oftentimes, jealous people are hostile. They want what you have, but can’t figure out how to get the success you have, and are determined to ruin you
This is a constant in my life. I hate jealous co-workers! They are so toxic and always the victim.
You can avoid these people,but they still come around and make problems for you. It doesn’t really end. They can turn others against you,and the sad thing is, a lot of times it works
That’s really true!
Idc as long as im not close around. They can choke on it for all i care. Nobody loves me but God and i know the truth
You are right.
True… I have cut them offf and they keep coming back
They want your gifts but don't want to work for them
That part!!
Facts 💯
Right sad
Absolutely
Sad thing is even your dam families can have these traits .
So true
Facts
Sad isn't it
Sad but it's true mines act just like this
Sadder thing and the biggest tragedy - when your own mum is jealous of you.
Jealousy manifests through passive aggressive behaviour. It took me a while to realise that a former friend was actually jealous and displaying passive aggressive tactics to undermine, minimise or denigrate me, my accomplishments, different aspects of my life in general. And her opinion was always the correct one. Only her experiences, her advice mattered. A lot of my comments or opinions, which she solicited regularly, were dismissed or ignored altogether. Interestingly, she never tried these tactics in front of others, only when we were alone. Pretty insecure, juvenile behaviour on her part. I stopped socializing with her. It was a good decision on my part.
They hate that you are confident in who you are and that you are not insecure. They hate that you can be alone while they need people and validation. They talk about you constantly in order to feel better about themselves
I will never understand it and sad part is u couldbe a good person to them sad
Covert Narcissisim
I had one of those in my life. I've removed her from my life and I should have done it sooner!
An excellent decision on your part.
Toxic individuals who pretend to be a friend are difficult to fathom.
They are the most dangerous. You dont expect close ppl to sell you off. But this will make you slapping even more.
Indeed.
Those are real snakes in the grass.
Frenemies
Very much so true.
And these are dangerous to your health, emotionally, financially most times and lastly spiritually. Im glad to be alone daily. I feel happier & healthier. Thank God
Jealous people will make cutting remarks and claim they were just joking. It's always a bit of truth in joking.
You never l👀k good,trying to make someone else l👀k bad...
Exactly 💯
@@dominiquefelder1809 Thanks ..
Love this! 👍
@@beverleybalshaw9119 Thank you..
Some people are really sneaky about how they smear someone. They will start with a compliment
Then a criticism so it seems more genuine. Or, they will act like a victim to make the other person seem like the villain. People can be very manipulative.
Most of the people who are jealous of me are female family members. In-laws, aunts and cousins. Even my husband’s niece is jealous of me. They either put me down, bully, insult, stalk me on social media, copy me repeatedly, secretly compete with me, ghost me, or stop talking to me altogether. It’s annoying so I had to cut them off.
Cray cray!! They don't even realize how foolish they look. When light enters the room...the roaches scatter!!
I realized......my "bestie" is jealous of me. Im starting to realize it in the way she acts. In the energy she gives off and the way it changes. In the way she copies me. In the attitude she gets when talking about certain things. It really bothers me. We used to be so close, but things have changed so much and I used to never have to put up a wall. We used to flow so well, but not anymore
Going through this too. This "friendship" started as a workplace friendship and now we've started going out to bars together. I'm starting to pick up on her back handed compliments and her saying in a joking manner "I was starting to get jealous that everyone was looking at you dance." I'm like huh? Smh
Keep it to yourself, being humble, silent and self affirming is more important than outside validations.
Jealousy can be very dangerous very get away from them.
Most people are jealous, so be careful
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Very true. Wouldnt have believed it if i hadnt experienced it myself. Never ever show the good in your life. Be like a pirate and bury your treasure. And never tell your wounds. They will enjoy hurting you. I know it sounds crazy and stupid but this is ppl.
@@ifyourepeatalieoftenenough8500
I love that: Be like a pirate and keep your treasure buried.
But, on the other hand we've had people come up to us in the street and say it's so nice to see a couple laughing and being jolly together. (It might be because I'm disabled...yes I think that might be part of it. I guess people don't imagine a disabled woman could be in a happy relationship.)
Which has been wonderful compliments to receive, but I think I will take your good advice and keep certain treasures buried.
“Travel and tell no one, Live a true love story and tell no one, Live happily and tell no one, People ruin beautiful things”
- Khalil Gibran
Yes
I had to leave a job I loved when my co workers began to give me a cold shoulder and spoke to me only when it was necessary. I found that a co worker was spreading rumors that clearly would ruin my reputation. The upper management informed me of it and they said rumors die on their own. After 2 weeks, I quit my job. I viewed it as a form of bullying, and was upset she was not reprimanded for her toxic behavior.
Would've went to HR on all of them. They dismissed the bullying and you could sue for defamation with the lies
@@GhettoKeKe021 Or sue for hostile work environment.
Mean girl behaviour
I had someone ask every coworker I worked with if they liked me?...I had just started working there..years later I found out.
@@GhettoKeKe021does that really work?
Jealous people have deep insecurities and these people often do not live a long time, as they have a lot of emotional pain to work through and if left undealt with, those emotions often turn into disease.
Good analysis, better avoid jealousy, it can ruin your health and shorten your life, from now on I will be very careful not to be jealous of anyone. Thank you for posting such a good comment.
@@naeemqureshi3911 You are most welcome. We as humans have no reason to be jealous of one another. Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
From what I've witnessed, the meanest people live the longest, and the kindest people go too soon (what seems like before their time)
I don't know about that !
Have met some real old meanies.
Selfish miserly people can live a long time.
@@sensimania so true I agree too many badminded evil people
Always looking for flaws or failures foughts talking to you indirectly...low key taking digs
Yep! Am very familiar with this type of behavior.
What if the person has more then you and they are still jealous of you . They are evil . I’ve in that situation right now but I’m going to close the door .
It’s not about how much someone has.. it’s a personality disorder
I think usually it means the person worries that you will surpass them in what they have and/or jealous of the attention you get or your happiness.
Stuck in the same situation..i hope closing door is the optimal solution
Same! Less money, less looks, less intelligence, less literally everything good. And they HATE. What is this? It should be vice versia. Explanation? Please help.
It's about your ability to be happy and at peace. You draw more attention than I they. If they are not having conflict with at least one person, they feel useless.
Hello, I am a 73-year-old woman that does have plenty of people jealous of me. From my own daughter, of course my deceased husband sexual prostitutes, to board members. In all of these cases I chose to just to continue one be myself and be kind. This attitude has served me well.
I'm proud of you grandma ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Be the better person and be the smarter one get away from them
No sarcasm intended, but that's not easy to do when both of you are stuck in a cramped workspace or a classroom.
If you come into a new situation and they try and turn everyone against you before they even get to know you telling lies and calling you names. The hard thing is being kind to this person and then finding out they were lying to you and playing the victim to take advantage of your kindness to benefit themselves
Just don’t give them attention
Don't allow them anywhere near you.
So true. This has happened to me
Yes I just out a fake friend recently
It’s sad but I have a grown daughter that does this and because she’s my daughter I was naïve about it and let u do me DIRTY until i said enough- it broke my heart cuz WHY MY CHILD 😞
If they r jealous they r not your friend and they do NOT love you!
Period!
exactly right..
That's why I can't have true friends, they tend to do all these things
Same sh!t crazy
I had a friend who betrayed my trust but I forgave and trusted again until she started to undermine my integrity and value as a person by pointing out differences, by comparing me to someone else. I’ve since distanced myself and am much happier. I’ve learned to deal with it more openly the next time someone treats me like that.
Jealousy is a dangerous and unfruitful emotion. One I don't welcome nor embrace. Be careful 🙏💜🌹
Even the Bible mentions jealousy in James 3:16; "For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice."
jealousy is spiteful and sarcastic.NEGATIVE SPIRITS.Some People do NEGATIVE things and try to act like you did it. They won't apologize,but they will Carry on as though nothing is wrong and the same thing will continue down the road. Can't have a relationship with that type of attitude.🙏💜
True. It is not a true & healthy situationship. U cant win over a jealous insecure person cuz they will have u on pins & needles. I dont choose to be in hell anymore
My brother’s real hatred and jealousy shown after the unexpected death of my husband and my mother’s death nine days later. I moved back to my home state. They had no concern for my children. No answer when I asked if I had offended them for some reason. Their brutality and ugliness drove me to move further away. Sick people with secrets to hide. Secrets that were revealed by a childhood friend. The trauma as a child changed the direction of my life. I’ve always sought to live a good and kind life. I have and continue to engage in attaining better mental health Their sickness traumatically affected my well being since childhood. Their shallow, hypocritical and base behaviors are theirs and theirs alone. My diagnosis? Depression, anxiety and complex PTSD. I have also traveled and lived far away from them. I discovered that I would not be able to live closer to my family home when I was seven years old! What occurred then, changed the direction of my life.
I don’t have anything for people to be jealous about, but I think maybe some people think so.
Sometimes I wonder if my toxic friend from high school was secretly jealous of me. He was really mean and tried to casually hurt my feelings like it wasn't a big deal. I stayed away from him and the majority of the friends group throughout senior year because if it. I snapped at him shortly after we graduated because it really pissed me off that he acted as if he was never hurtful to me. I simply reversed his own negative behavior back to him just so he'd get an idea of what I endured. I'm just grateful that I never had to deal with him since.
Once discovered…..no contact is your best defense……
Yes, agree
So true. Even if i like going somewhere weekly but i refuse to be around haters
True
I’ve experienced being ignored by coworkers while everyone else compliments my work & presentations. They always copy my uniqueness and ideas meanwhile tell me I shouldn’t pursue them.
These examples of jealousy really affects my mental health in the workplace bc I have no one to address them with, and it hurts me. So thank you for addressing this issue in this video . I’ve learned that I should use this negativity to motivate myself-:)))👍😊
They feel insecure in your presence. They monitor your abilities. They compare themselves with you. That is what i went through.
My siblings have done this to me for years. I just don't care anymore.
Mine are worse. Three ganged against me🤣🤣🤣🤣I am on my own, with my Jesus. They declared me dead while still alive🙈 Simply because they wish to be me. How possible.
My entire life has been filled with jealous people, my parents, entire family, my ex, even her parents. Many friends and acquaintances as well
Jealous people are also, I find, very spiteful. I have had two people I’ve known take something a step too far that I had already apologized for
My " friend" invites me over to his place and always has a passive aggressive behaviour towards me. I work as a Mortuary Technician, and I'm a certified Crime Scene Cleanup Technician, and he is always tearing me down and telling me anybody can do what I do. I've been trying to understand why he behaves nasty towards me, and for those reasons I'm here watching these videos. I will slowly avoid being around him, and focus my time/energy with those who are supportive as well as respectful. I can't be around people like him and feel anxious because of his passive aggressive ways. Thank you for these very informative videos a positive boost for my self esteem. [Subscribed] 👍🏽
This person isn't a genuine friend, they sound rude & condescending. I would bow out quickly before it gets worse.
Ppl who try to make you smaller feel small themselves. He is insecure. Distance yourself from that kind. Dont come to their slaughter parties. Believe me i know what you are going trough. My problem: i cant get rid of them 😂😂😂. Positive point: you can.
I take my hat off to you doing what your job entails! Wow! Keep being YOU, and if possible I'd drop this 'Friend' like a hot coal! What a piece of work! I've done just that and believe me it's the best feeling! 👌
I've got my pets, and they're the best, they never judge, criticise or stab me in the back. Looking after my little Furry Family is all I'm concerned about. Down with the losers! 👎
Forget about that person. He is jealous for you. Dont take him serious. Cut off from him. He is toxic.
I am so glad that I stumbled upon this video! I have been hurt a lot by my sisters, and even my husband concerning this cruel spirit of jealousy🙏🏽
Something I've noticed is when there's a jealous sister situation, if they can't express that in the family then they will project it harshly else where, like onto a female friend, and harm them instead.
I hope things get better for you.
Under and None Achievers (Nondescripts) from your Family, Friends and Colleagues are likely to be Jealous of You.
It’s a terrible feeling having sisters who are jealous or envious of you. My situation involves my older sister and it’s been this way for as long as I can remember. The most unfortunate part is that as we’ve grown older her jealous behavior has gotten worse. My only solution is to avoid her as much as possible because of her envy, meanness, fakery & plotting behavior. It is toxic & exhausting.
Noone is more jealous than my sister and the thing is she has so much more than I have (materially)
But I'm always happy (mostly) and she is always miserable and very mean to me and others
I tell my friends I don't know what happened to me but I'm just not jealous of anyone. 🥰
It's so rewarding to understand why certain folks behave the way they do. It makes more sense now. Evolving should never stop.
Jealousy never improves your life but instead draws in negative energy, causing your own Suffering
@The opinions of others are not The main goal of our own life.
#***Feeling or opinions of others , we
can't Stop adjusting ourselves.
I have been on both ends of this. It’s a cycle and lesson I had to learn the hard way and recent. Sad part it can leave your circle pretty small
Jealousy is cruel as the grave
A Bitter Person is jealous Person.In Jesus Holy and Mighty Name Amen.🦁🦁🦁
they are mean and they hurt my feelings they tear me down
My older sister totally told my mom on me and blame for me everything she did and my mom came in my room. Threatened to kick me out if I didn't do what she did. I ain't though and she wonders why I act out is cause of her anger and her yelling,threatening me. But I'm glad I'm getting Job so I can move out to my own places and free from my mom and older sister.
The most egoistical, self-centered, narcissistic people I’ve known, would constantly claim that everyone was jealous of them, and wanted to be them, etc., etc. Interesting video, gang.
I went through this recently with a guy “friend” of mine at work recently. At first, he gave me weird vibes and was a bully towards me while being nice to others at my workplace. There is an audit that I usually do and he would get up all in my busy. Last fall, I gave in a started to talk to him. After talking to him for a minute, I had came to find him to be pretty cool and we had great conversations. This would last to a few months ago. We didn’t talk for awhile over something things that I thought he knew. Yep months ago, we started to talk again and it was ok for about two weeks until he started getting crazy. He made a comment about my work clothes. One day at lunch, he showed me a meme that a friend of his had sent him and I laughed at it. He asked a question and I gave him a response. I guess he didn’t like what I said since he sulked over it for the rest of our lunch hour.
He picked up his backpack, said he was taking it with him to put his lunch bag back up since he didn’t trust me and called me fake. The next day, he comes up to me to ask if I was ok in an aggressive voice tone, I ignored him, and he stormed off. He even told me that he can’t wait until he doesn’t see my face there anymore. We haven’t spoke since. Funny enough. Later found out that he was running his mouth about me and this audit that I do about how I am trying to get people into trouble, which is not true.
Funny thing is, I am leaving my job soon and moving to a new state. I have told some of my coworkers and a few of his friends. I hope word has gotten back to him. I don’t plan to say goodbye to him.
Damn. That sounds like a guy I used to work with. He would be really cool with me and even made it clear that he was very into me. I was flattered but we're both married so, no.
I thought we could be adults and work together, and move past it.
I was very, very wrong.
Long story short, he got fired.
Oh yes at my work place my best friend became my worst enemy all because I got the position that she wanted and also because I buy a bigger SUV...oh yes she try to put the whole building against me....but thank God I'm stronger than a bull...Lord I pray for her insecurities
i been there so sad that your friends not happy about yours happiness.
Yes, I've had a few jealous & envious people that took their hardest shot at me... How I reacted toward the punches of these people...at first they got on my last nerve & they hurt me deeply...I was devastated at the time, then eventually plucked up the courage to pull myself together & start afresh. I earnestly prayed about it, God stepped in, He raised me up & made me one resilient woman... And to date, I forgive people that are not even sorry...but forgive those who persecute you...living in forgiveness is of utmost importance...AND I feed jealous/envious people with a long hand spoon, preventing the venomous bite because such people are dangerous, unhealed & they are capable of the worst unimaginable... Then above all, never forget to pray for them🙏I've learned to love people from a distance, while having maintained a contrite heart only by the grace of God🙏💝
Jealously is a learned emotion and it is also the one emotion that I am most terrified of. I've been alive for 33 years now and I've seen A good couple of EXTREME types of jealousy and unfortunately because the jealous person in this situation was unable to control themselves the situation ended up in extreme violent and now they are facing a ten-year sentence in prison. I don't know about y'all but I'm cool off of all that jealousy stuff. For me it just makes more sense to walk away wipe your hands clean be done with it and move on with your life then to sit there and with an obsession over something that you cannot control I don't know maybe it's just me but yeah.
Wow. You’re describing my soon to be ex-husband who I’m currently divorcing. It always left me so drained and confused as to why on earth he was acting like that. You don’t expect the person you’re married to to be spending the focus of their life on tearing you down, looking for things to argue about and criticize you about, especially things that make no sense.
He could be a Narcissist. This is what they do. Wishing you all the best as you move forward for a better life ❤
Tell me about it😢
It happened to me sadly 😢😢
The jealousy look is so sinister as well. When you see this look cut this person out of your life. I had to cut my entire family out of my life because of jealousy. When I get enough money saved i am moving down south to make a new life for myself. Jealousy results in Homicide it is an extremely dangerous trait.There are so many insecure humans in our society that are jealous. Men murder women because of hatred and jealousy toward them . Women bunny boilers go to great lengths to destroy other women. I think all humans are insane. That’s where the term comes from insanity jealous.
I had a coworker like this. It was horrible!
Look no further to know who might be your jealousy hater. They are your own siblings and very close friends period!
True... Who else 😊
True I'm going through this at my work place, it's horrible, when one person turned everyone against you for no reason.. Now even my line manager who just joined our team is siding with her.. I used to to a job higher than what I'm doing now, and I'm doing it because it's less stressed than my previous job.. I guess that's what made one woman in my team bulling me.. Everything I tried to say in her present she would look down on me or engaged in a sarcastic way in front of the whole team.. Another thing if she is taking with others and see me coming, she would say something that everyone with her would turn around and look at me or you see them laugh before I joined them.. She started the job 4 months before me.. When I joined them every one asked where I've worked before, I told them and I don't think she was expecting about the I done before joining the team. I really feel hurt and I have to stand on my own especially when she is around just to avoid the nastiness. I listen to your video yes I could see myself and how I've been treated. 🙏 Thank you that's opened my eyes..
It's horrible and I sympathise.
I went to this class started by a lady in her nice house.
There were about 8 women, we all began together.
On the very first evening a woman sat next to me and had her hands in my things and made it very obvious she didn't like me for some reason. I never spoke a word to her in all the sessions I attended. By the second class she had invited all the other women to her home for a little party and this was made obvious to me. There were many catty remarks and in jokes they were all laughing about, not being paranoid by obviously some of it was at my expense.
She did something and I finally shot her a dirty look, and she said it had given her chills, so the teacher lady told me off for it !
I thought thanks a lot, you have seen what I'm putting up with here.
When it came time for us all to sit the exam at the end she had me come at a different time to the others because they had created such a horrible atmosphere for me be in.
I asked my friend one day why she thought I could be having such a hard time with this group of women, she was an older lady than me and a lot wiser. She said just look at you, they are jealous because you're lovely and talented. I'm not used to compliments so was shocked. It was really nice of her to say those things.
The same is probably true of you too.
You I'm sure are lovely and obviously have talents which upsets the hell out of other people and makes them jealous of you.
@@flowerjpotter1629 The same thing has happened to me consistently. A mannish woman told me that years ago, not related to anything, “You’re always going to have problems with women.” I was shocked. She said “You’re beautiful and women are always going to be jealous.” The frustrating thing is, I was raised not to focus on my looks, and I’m not into makeup and girly stuff. I don’t color or style my hair, I just have it long. Maybe this only makes them more vindictive.
This video was and is 100% accurate, all of it extremely informative for someone who was and are perhaps naive. Or just really has not had this nightmare of an experience. The information given was explained as I have experienced it in real life. And from reading the previous comments so have many of you. I was minding my own business, doing me. One day I ran into a whole situation and the choas began. I ran into the person that was sent by the enemy (satan), to teach me about this life’s experience called jealousy, hatred, envy, insecurity, belittling others, competing with you, lying on you. The whole mass of confusion. Meaning the person has/still has issues and needs mental help. I do agree with many of you it is extremely annoying. I have taken the high road and chose to distance myself from my stalker/demented person. Realizing in the United States of America, Mental Health needs to be stepped up a lot more in our communities rather than shut down and ignored. Not after some bizarre incident occurs or someone loses their lives. This issue is real and can be dangerous depending on just how sick this person is. Especially, when they do the smear campaign to turn others against you. Sick and twisted (issues that need addressing). I appreciate each of you sharing your experiences. Hopefully, the video and comments will actually help others. I am so glad it found me and I am sharing it with family and real friends to help them. As the video stated we can’t fix them. But on Sunday,I heard a Minister say pray for them when they are like this. Do not talk about them and do not be unkind to them. But show love, if you are around them. I agree they can really make life utterly miserable. However, as a Believer in Jesus Christ, with HIM, nothing is impossible. “For God so loved the world, that HE gave HIS only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 (KJV)
I always felt like when they gossip about you and you answer by defending yourself you are proving what the
gossiper is saying. U will know cause they will manipulate you and the circumstances to fasly expose u
Don't just ignore them and continue to shine . Even If you did fall into the trap they will still be exposed in this case someone else is going to come along ..lepord don't change they spots remember that. They gone come along and expose them for you.so u get your justice threw that person who expose them. We got to learn how to ignore sometimes instead of reacting.
Interesting theory.....Sometimes being quiet can safe us from more harm. Hm.
Yes this so true.. I kinda got to know there are certain people who copy me through social media.and to be very honest I feel happy about myself 😌👍 ..and yes I encounter jealous people every day.. so I try to be low key
I am not jealous about anyone l Love myself more No Problem for me if other hate me.Jesus Loves me so much more Amen.In Jesus Holy and Mighty Name Amen 💕💕💕
Petty arguments: My sister asks me why I'm turning on the lights on the porch at night(at my house). And I simply answer cause I always do that. And she claims I don't want to tell her the real reason and starts to be aggressive and makes a huge deal out of it. I knew where this was going she has done the same thing years ago. And she would say things like why do you need light I can see in the dark...why are you too stupid to see in the dark....this costs electricity.....my dog doesn't like your lights etc, and she goes on about how bad I am for turning on the lights. It's just ridiculous how she can make an argument over something like that.
Maybe she's mental. Lights on a porch at night are pretty normal. Deters people from snooping around. As you can see from the UA-cam ring camera videos. LED lights are cheap now.
You must have squeaky clean character if thats the "best" "dirt" she could find on you.
That sounds exactly like my younger sister. She had an uncanny habit of pulling a petty argument out of the air and turning it into a verbal tirade. When I refused to agree with her opinion, that drove her nuts to the point that would shout like she had lost her mind and she has physically attacked me a few times because she had no good counter-argument. I don't talk to her any more and my life is more peaceful.
I don’t agree that you have to show them respect when they are creating false rumors against you. That doesn’t work, you actually have to confront them.
@Maria Sakala idk if they do it once, you can let it slide. Second time I’ve learned to address it
Well said, kindness doesn’t work it can hurt more
@@Cherryblossom18634 kindness can be abused. Some people will abuse you until you put an end to it yourself
The only solution is to no longer give them access to you or your life That toxic energy is not worth your peace of mind.
@@sandradukes3819 it’s truly the best response
Oooo i think this one might expose a few ppl lol
Been there, kinda still there, lol
It's a common issue every faces at some level. Hope we presented it well enough :-)
@@PlanetPsych Yes. Thank you.
I've experienced all of these and sometimes being kind to these people and being the bigger person doesn't help. They may think you are weak and continue to damage your reputation. Know when and how to confront them to make it stop. If it's friends, cut them off, if it's coworkers report them to the right authority and if that authority is too incompetent to do the right thing about it, call them out and deal with it appropriately else it will never stop. Just ensure you don't hurt your reputation in the process. Sometimes you can cut them off altogether and only interact with them when absolutely necessary. Also, when you do interact, be as direct as possible, no Mr Nice guy. That'll put them in their place. Don't let anyone make your life miserable. I would rather that person leaves because they see me as a threat than leave for them.
PS: Some toxic and jealous people are also here commenting about how others are jealous of them and whatnot. They don't tell us how they have been jealous and acted in a toxic manner towards other. 😂😂 The irony of it all.
I am not a jealous, insecure woman and im not insecure about people. I strive for my own everything & i feel happiest when i can have what i want. I dont steal from stores or people and i give same respect to others who respect me. I no God loves me every day and this comforts me mentally, physically, emotionally, financially & spiritually. I am satisfied w/my Lord & Savior
All my girl cousin are jealous of me no matter how much love I try to show em they will not reciprocate the energy but keep tabs on my every day life & its sooo annoying like why can’t we live & love ❤️ I’m such a good person even towards their kids. Haters going to hate they hate to show love back but I know it’s probably because I get a lot of attention & love from others. My oldest cousin who is 10 years older. I admire & loved growing up shock me I realize she was jealous of how I look when she made a comment about dark skin girls being jealous of her in front this guy she started seeing because I’m darker & I was wondering why would she even say that I guess because I’m younger pretty & smaller then her she felt threatened by me when I had nothing but love & respect for her & yes she is brighter but that don’t make you cuter. Insecure people hate ppl with confidence but I like to call it Godfidence because I’m a spiritual woman who just want to be able to get alone with everyone.
Godfidence!!!! I’ll borrow that word.
This narrator stated to express "kindness" towards those that envy you. Well, it is hard to be kind to people like that. Envious or jealous people get on my damn nerves. It is hard to be "kind" to people that are like this to you.
I agree with you. I need divine help to get there...
Just think of it like this it’s actually pissing them off when they can’t get to you and you just continue to show kindness and maintain happy
They say be kind because they don't want to be negative on their channel. But you & I know the options.
It is really hard to be kind to people who are constantly attacking you. Remind yourself that it is about them. Not you. They have weaknesses and attack what they think is worth having. They are ppl who werent loved as children. Some become haters some become victims. Always this unhealthy relationship thing. And they attack what endangers their self worth. It is survival. Not justified critique if they dont know you. Dont be mad. It is wounded unloved people who hadnt good parents to take care of them. And all the rage and unjustice they sufferen when they were small will be revenged as adults. Because the feeling you had as a kid never leaves you. Believe me i know what it is like to feel worthless and easily intimidated. I went through that rage state as a kid. And got rid of it as a teenager. Was lucky to have parents who talked to me and made me think about my feelings and actions. But some people are less lucky. Parents being asses abuse them and they become hateful insecure ppl themselves. It is abandonment and abuse. And you got to suffer because you might appear healthy, confident, etc (doesnt need to be true, perception is enough)
true I have been kind to everyone but lately I flipped script an gave them a taste of their own medicine and they don't like it but if they don't do the crime then they won't do the time 😂
My eldest sister, unfortunately, is the most jealous person in my life. She always undermines my success , she is good in catching my mistakes - actually usually those are not mistakes but she always finds ways to make me sound mistaken (for example using religion) in front of others. She always make me feel guilty about things that are out of my responsibility (for example blaming me for study and work abroad - being away from my family). I am now 35 and I have seen enough pattern from her.
@aalserihi2050 ♥️ i can relate with you 100% bc my 11 year old (!) niece does this to me DAILY. THIS KID WATCHES EVERYTHING I DO. she also gives me unsolicited advice left & right lol (she loves to be in control) and she literally interrupts me while i am speaking and then proceeds to CORRECT me (her aunt, an adult; 39 years old) CONSTANTLY and it’s so demeaning, straight up nasty & disrespectful. my niece also competes with me as well, it’s craZy! everything is a competition with her, EVERYTHING! this is her most used tactic to undermine me. worst of all, my niece is NEVER pulled privately aside, confronted, corrected, redirected, given a warning or experiences any consequences for her absolutely unacceptable behavior towards me by her mom (my younger sister), my mom (her grandma) or any other adults in our immediate family. my niece also calls herself the “BABY” of the family! unfortunately, i don’t feel comfortable addressing these concerns 1:1 with her as i am not her mother and my sister is even worse than my niece! also, my niece is quite volatile, hostile, aggressive, and SO DRAMATIC (she overreacts over the slightest inconvenience, etc) and a textbook narcissist / bully / mean girl. i know that i can confront her assertively, calmly and with love, but she’s so unpredictable and i need support. i am a very caring, kind, empathetic, loving, forgiving, peaceful person and her anger, temper tantrums, and / or rage attacks are frightening! anyways, thank you so much for sharing your story about your eldest sister - i just had to leave a comment bc i saw myself in your message as i am going through the same thing. (((bighug))) p.s: it’s been exactly 1 year since you left this message; ANY UPDATES? how’s everything going for you now? keep your head up & take care of yourself okay? 🫶🏻
@@nirlamejia
Karma.
Your neice is 11 and hideously spoilt! A narcissist in fact.
She will grow up without any genuine, lasting friendships let alone a loving relationship. Unless she's corrected now she'll continue to manipulate and make very many people very unhappy.
Telling someone straight up that you're jealous of them only sets both of you free from the negative side of it
I recently saw a YT video that referred to the Tall Poppy Effect. I think it said that was the Australian name for it.
Said basically in there are two ways to create the best [thing]. You can build the best thing. Or you can create something not quite comparable, and tear all others down below your creation's level. So a jealous person will strive for some kind of sabotage.
Really good video!
I've not really thought about people being jelous of me, before now. As I'm just "a regular guy, with a normal job" but some of these points happen all the time towards me. Especially from one spesific person on point 2, 3 and 4.
Yes, it's interesting how jealousy manifests hey
I’ve experienced this. Professionally I pray they lose whatever benefit they stole.
Yes I have they try to tell lies tarnish my reputation...but the truth always comes out about them...for that I lock them out of my life..these are toxic family members.
Never been so happy.
I sure do have a person who’s jealous & it’s annoying
Me too! Extremely annoying and irritating.
I think we've all been jealous, great video!!
Yes! Thank you!
Personally no.
I have no need to be jealous of anybody ever.
Jealousy is a human trait. We are taught that it’s bad or unsavoury so people, like the two above me, hide this aspect of them in their shadow simply because they don’t want to be something so unacceptable. In reality it’s just human. It’s ok but it’s worth examining so the person can work on themselves
@@lucibloom5966 jealousy is normal for some and abnormal for others. Just accept that you are a jealous person and let those who are not, be.
It takes a great deal of energy to be jealous and petty. Rather than being jealous, focus your energy on yourself. You'll feel empowered and better overall.
I deal with this behavior in church........OF ALL PLACES !!
😂😂😂
A "good" tree produces only "good" fruit...
They tell everyone your secrets, things that they shouldn’t tell anyone because they were told in confidence.
I love psychology
Me too. 😫 I'm a psychology junkie!
My experience has been very hurtful. I’ve had this happen two times.
There is only one type of person I’m afraid of “ insecure one” you can take no proper action whatsoever to secure them … now if I find one , I run a 100 miles an hour 😊
I never know when it’s coming and it hurts😔
Dealt with a lot of this behavior on the job .
I have literally experienced each one of these & it always surprises me because I try to uplift everyone around me. It’s okay though, I know where it’s coming from so I normally just ignore it
Everything that is happening right now makes me soul happy n I'm so proud of us. MY LOVE AND I
For example: a house renting person in ( Goa India) son is in a painting experience, I complimented him and showed his mother one of my objects I was working on ( a quite new idea in this field) ... and .. yes she turned her big head away 😬😂
Well... jealousy isn't always personal tho. I mean, I also wannabe a billionaire w/ a zoo, a theme park, w/ all my kids, & the vacation at the house but we can't all have that tho now can we. I remember when a lawyer tried to pull a compare & contrast thing w/ me. I was thinking in my head, now outta all the ppl you hafta deal w/ no matter the "ugly"... me out loud: I am not them. They r not me.
No.i.match energy. Period!!!
Fantastic video 🙏🏾thank you. I came across this at just the right time. All of my family at some point.. I had the singing one with Amy Winehouse years ago 🙈 it's because mine is deep like hers and I was insecure of it. I am proud now 💓
True jealous people are always after you
Can't give good advice to anyone anymore. Forget people they are all screwed up and everyone is in competition with anything you got going on.
I offered a tenant a job, he laughed at me. He's backed up in rent. I said I dont want to evict you. He laughed at me