I usually never bother to react to comments, but today I feel like I should. No one, and I mean NO one, is allowed to tell others how to mourn. There is no "right amount" of grief people are supposed to show, not now, not ever. Someone can act strong and put together and still be torn apart on the inside. It's called "strength" and "survival" and it is supposed to be admired and not condemned. And I am honestly tired to hear how she has it so much easier because of her career or her wealth. She DOESN'T. She lost her husband, her best friend and the father of her children. And no matter how much money she has on her bank account or in how many fancy meetings she sits - this cannot be changed. We should stop putting each other down and attacking each other, especially when we absolutely don't know the last thing about people like her. We don't know how she feels and what she goes through when she's all by herself, not watched by millions. If her interview seems rehearsed then, OH MY GOD, maybe she did rehearse it because it makes it a bit easier when she talks about her dead husband and recalls the day of his death. She did write a book and yes, of course there's marketing and a lot of money behind it. But if this book just helps one person on earth deal with the worst thing that could ever happen, losing someone you love and cherish, then it was fucking worth it. Go on, Sheryl. Lean in more. You can do it. Thank you.
Thank you Liz O'Neill! I was so pleased to read a post that wasn't judgmental and cynical and downright cruel to and about this woman. One of life's greatest lessons is learning to be GRATEFUL!!
I thought this interview was beautiful and touching and actually I teared up watching it. It's a comedy show, and yet I think Stephen (who also experienced a tragic loss he alludes to) handled the interview very well, and she spoke well about this topic that is close to her heart. I don't think she wrote the book to make money, she already has tons of money. She does seem genuine in wanting to share her experience and her relationship to gratitude with others. The comments section was really disappointing. :/
RX Videos Thank you for your insightful and thoughtful reply, that will certainly spark an interesting conversation. As I can tell from your words, you are for sure a lovely gentleman that knows an awful lot about women, feminism and the daily challenges we face. But I also think you might forgot an important thing, and I feel terrible to have to correct you, a true alpha male. Us Feminazis don't need kitchens like regular people, but prefer to feast on the raw meat of our male victims. It's much easier and saves a lot of time that we can then use to spread our weird ideas of equality online. I hope you have a lovely day!
She's such a great role model. To be able to talk on national television about her husband passing away after only 2 years and not be an emotional wreck is really incredible. After 10 years I still can't talk to people about my father passing away. Will definatly be buying her book.
Some strange comments here; amazes me how many cynical people there are, seemingly lacking in all empathy. If someone could write a good book an how, not only to deal with personal grief, but explain how others close to someone that has experienced a loss should or can respond to that person's loss, I'd read that book. How many of us have been to a funeral of a child and wondered to themselves, "what do I say to my friend who has just laid their child to rest." If someone can help me with that, I would appreciate it. I have had this experience, and I was utterly unprepared, virtually unable to articulate an intelligible thought. I have an large family, six kids, and I cannot fathom the loss of one of them, nor can I fathom what anyone could say to console me. Before anyone criticizes my large family, it was created by the merger of two families, a second marriage for both myself and my second spouse. That was a mid 90's merger, so we've raised that family and are out of the nesters now and have 22 grandchildren.
Everyone loses someone at some point, but seriously her personal situation (having kids, having a $1B fortune through Facebook, selling books, having tons of attention and friends, having a great and stimulating job), is less worse than the average person losing someone.
Those of you commenting heartless things, Come on people, be human. Not everything is like movies where rich people do things for some secret mission. Be real. There are real people in the world.
Thank you, Sheryl. What you went through is huge, and worse, you have to do it right in the public eye. Brave woman, you are!!! Thank you for sharing this with us!
I watch this, somehow wondering if preparing for grief will help me actually get through it when I do experience it one day. I don't think it will, for some reason. Grief seems to be that lifelong struggle that we all have in common, yet it is so personal and isolating.
On the one hand, I'm sorry for the grief she went through. On the other, it's a little gross how she's using it for profit and the talk show rounds. But I guess I can't fault her for living in a modern society trained to make people share everything for popularity, no matter how personal. Though before your heart breaks too much for her, she's doing the rounds by a script. She's saying the exact same thing, word for word, in each show she's popping up on.
She's lucky to have all the people around her. When you are lower on the status rung, that support isn't there. No one is "going thru" anything with me to help.
Idk if anyone else watching knows this but... Sheryl's husband was a true .. Man - He helped Sheryl understand her self worth better (e.g., helped her negotiate a better contract with Facebook before starting to work there) AKA helped her become better (we all want a partner who helps us become better and better right?) - He showed in action as a husband that he loves her by actually sharing the workload at home (not just letting the woman do all the house chores) - Although he earned less than Sheryl, he supported her every step of the way and had his own self worth understanding so high that his woman's socially higher status wouldn't let him bring him and her down He was a man of great honor. I personally cried my eyes out upon seeing Sheryl's msg/status on FB after his passing... :''( Wishing the best for Sheryl and her family...
Channel for Positivity l Understanding l Justice Sandberg is a feminazi cunt who preaches that men are expendable and she's completely out of touch with the common woman.
She's so robotic. It's like she's not even there. She should write a new book, 'How I became a billionaire and emotionless: Ten steps to success and having no soul'.
After losing my father recently, It isnt easy to communicate with siblings. We have different ways of handling the grieving process. I just want to remembered happy times with my father, but my sister only talks about his stroke. And I think after certain time, we need to let go. I dont want relive the stroke, but she keeps bringing it back. So, I dont call her anymore.
I believe that maybe she's done so many interviews about the book, that she learned the answers to the questions very well. That's why they sound a little bit robotic. Check out her Ellen interview. Almost same answers. And if to be honest when people/celebrities go on media tours to promote their projects, all their answers sound the same, because they get the same questions. #SoGiveHerABreak
You call your cousin to say happy 50th birthday, and then proceed to tell her that your husband will never be 50. What the fuck? That's really not right.
It probably feels that way because she has done many interviews on this book already. After a while, it becomes rote. Plus, she has to put up a really thick shield in order to not fall apart every time she talks about her loss publicly. I couldn't do it. I still find myself getting weepy talking about losses that happened decades ago.
peopl are saying she sounds like she is given a corporate speech and I say you can't blame her. I mean this lady runs the operations department of the entire Facebook, you better be sure that corporate speech is not just something you thought off head, it has to be concise, consistent and most importantly a part of you. She can't slip in any statement she makes as facebook's COO, I repeat any statement, i'm sure those who follow the financial markets understand what i'm saying. I believe it's now a part of her to keep given statements that her exactly the same when leading such a huge company. lol i'm guessing she is not a big fan of youtube so she didn't know that these videos would all come together. The weakness of timeline, videos don't come back lol welcome to youtube Sheryl where videos don't go down.
There is no death. Shakespeare once said that "all the world is a stage and all of the women are actors and actresses and each in his life plays many roles" What he may or may not have known is that all of the material world is a stage. And there is only one actor....You!
Surprised by all the hate in the comments. Considering she's written a book about it, I'm sure she has talked about all this stuff a bunch of times before between 2015 and now, so I'm sure a lot of this has been said by her plenty of times before, but that doesn't make her insincere. She's spent two years grieving her husband - I doubt this the first time she's ever thought about it or tried to process her thoughts on the matter
When she says "losing someone suddenly is the unimaginable" and Stephen has lived that, too, what does she mean? Has Stephen had a tragic and unexpected loss in his life?
OK, look - Sheryl has done dozens of interviews in the last two weeks on this, where everyone asks the same questions and where she has specific things she wants to get across. YOU try and look and sound sincere when you are repeating the same phrases hour after hour, day after day. And I am endlessly frustrated that grievers are held to this ridiculous standard that they must be sobbing and out of control in order for us to "believe" that she is grieving. Who cares if you believe her? And how dare you ascribe your own demands on someone who has clearly had her heart broken by the one of the most tragic experiences anyone can go through. I wonder if you realize that comments like that make it MUCH harder for grievers to heal at all, because of judgemental nonsense like that. People get numb to protect themselves from the avalanche of pain and suffering that this level of loss creates. I truly hope you never go through what she has and never get exposed to that level of insensitivity.
She seems like a good person who has experienced a lot of pain, HOWEVER it would have helped a whole lot more if she didn't rehearse this whole thing and just reacted a bit more naturally and genuinely.
mm1996 it's tough to share something like this on TV with an audience without breaking down. She had to rehearse it so she doesn't break down. She's not an actress (which we r used to seeing on the show). She's just like everyone else. So she cannot control her emotions if she spoke candidly.
why does she have to do the interviews again and again trying to narrate the same story and proving the audience she is indeed mourning for her husband
I'm not sure I would agree with the "feeling lucky to grow old" premise. Growing old can be hell for a lot of people. My own father is having a terrible time with it (Alzheimer's, physical ailments, etc.), and I've know plenty of others who have suffered thru old age. I think we might be better off as a society to try and teach people not to fear the inevitable. I think too many are terrified of death and go to ridiculous lengths to avoid it. For us Christians, there really shouldn't be anything to fear. I'm looking forward to the next life myself, and certainly don't want to delay that transition in any way.
Thank you for sharing this :) I think in addition to comedy (which the Late Show does very well) it's important to also discuss these topics that most would prefer not too. I don't understand all the negative comments here?
I feel for Sheryl and just watched her at Ellen in an IDENTICAL interview with same answers, key words, reactions , gestures...now I m very skeptical and a bit cautious as if she s trying to cope or simply "milk" all that this tragedy provided ...It s sometimes daunting to me how "performance" has become the core behavioural and gestural pattern for the majority of the American people leading to a culture that is a constant stage on and off griff...
She shouldn't tell people who don't know what to say to others going through extreme grief to bring up that grief. This lady doesn't seem to have a good grasp on an socio-psychology and is using EXTREMELY anecdotal evidence that worked for her.
she is so rehearsed that I can't even believe that she is talking about the death of her own husband. I used to follow her, read Lean in and was about to buy Option B... until I watched the interviews she has given.
I curious to know if she's not good at speaking candidly to large crowds and that's why she's reciting some lines. This entire interview reads like a late night infomercial. Granted, the book is a product, an honorable product perhaps. But, given the personal nature of why it exists, the interview should've been a little more personal and candid. This appearance didn't help in my opinion. I sense politics in her future 😕
Lorena Wieshamm it probably is but that's probably how she gets through it. And if I died and my husband wrote a book about it I wouldn't give a fuck I doubt he'd be bothered by it.
i think there are much less taxing ways she can make money lol. She has way more money than this book will get her. Some people get to a certain point of wealth that they might actually do things they believe will be good for others. Just cause she'll make a little money from this book doesn't mean she doesn't have other good motives.
I know what you mean, but it could be that shes said these things in so many interviews all over the world that shes become self conscious that she might appear unenthusiastic so is trying (too hard?) to sound inspired/inspiring and that might be why its coming across as a bit inauthentic in parts. Ive seen better interviews shes done and this book looks genuinely interesting so i still intend to give it a look.
I stopped at 1:56. It's an interview not a TED talk. I come to Colbert for interviews that skew toward real conversation. If I wanted this canned garbage I'd watch Fallon.
the situation is so terrible and I feel so bad that she's had to go through something like this, but did anyone else feel that her interview was beyond where rehearsed and contrived as all get-out?! She didn't come across as genuine in any shape or form. It's almost unbelievable she went through this how disingenuous she comes across.
Wow I can't believe all the negative comments on this. WTF is wrong with people?! You think there's something fishy about the marketing of this? Guess what, if you were rich and powerful and had this happen to you, maybe you'd do the same damn thing and want to help others who are going through the same thing. Grow a fucking heart people, and a brain while you're at it.
I know she suffered a great tragedy and I mean no disrespect, but I get the feeling that she's not being sincere when she talks about her grief. Also are the anti-Semitic comments really appropriate?
Because of her phrasing, her expressions and her body language. She did not engage with Colbert, she gave a couple of rehearsed monologues (which even sounded rehearsed, which made it noticeable), and that little "thoughtful" gesture at 2:00 was horribly hammy. No one is claiming, nor is it tasteful to claim this even about your worst enemy (and I am not a huge fan of Sheryl Sandberg), that their grief over the death of a loved one is insincere. But this interview (if you can call it one) seemed very ill-equipped to articulate that grief or her response to it. I don't want to knock her for it, appearing on celebrity-circuit talk shows is not her day job, and it must be difficult to be composed and eloquent on national television about a personal topic. But this still sounds like a shallow canned advert. Tbh, everything on chat shows are canned adverts but the people involved are skillful enough to hide it, usually. Now you may not think this is important, and that calling her out on something that seems so insignificant is sexism (or at least sexism lite), but the authenticity of emotion is one of the few bastions left that have not been hollowed out by corporatisation. Grief and emotion are messy, it's not always TV friendly, it can make the rest of the world meaningless, it can make you do dark and desperate things - and we'll be damned if we let them airbrush it out of existence.
Up hers and her so-called tragic loss. It sure is easy to adjust when you've got wealth. The rest of us actually live in tragic circumstances not just take a vacation there. Fuck you.
Talk is cheap. Why not do something great for your employees? These executives are actors, not real workers. Society has changed so much, yet the fundamentals remain the same.
Watched this last night live. Glad to see I wasn't the only one picking up on something ........ off, about her demeanor. Not going to doubt her grief and her progression through loss, but there's a piety about her presentation that doesn't sit right with me. Like it's not genuine. Somebody mentioned "rehearsed" which is accurate. Everybody deals with grief in their own way, but this just seems to be profiteering, authoring about a very sudden and unexpected death. Maybe because she's been on the tour and has spoken about it so often now, Dave's death doesn't really affect her as deeply anymore, but this holier than thou persona is off-putting.
BrokeredHeart sometimes we need rehearsal because deep down we feel like breaking down but we don't feel comfortable doing that in public. Hence rehearsal helps to make us look composed and put together. Different people have different way of coping
It should be said that the term 'Suck' meaning to whine and wallow in self pity and basically act like a child not getting their way, (Example: Don't be such a little suck, and clean your room!) doesn't exist in may parts of America... and that explains some of the reaction there, including Stephen's. No, she didn't mean oral sex. I'm all for comedy, but come on..Grow up.
I am not sure if this is just a really difficult thing for her to talk about and so she has a script so to speak? It does feel a bit rehearsed but I don't want to believe that its as it seems.
yikes. so much negativity here. not everyone is a great public speaker guys. and what if her preparation for the interview is the only way for her to keep her composure and not to break down and cry? last point: colbert is amazing at interviews.
I love this message. Unfortunately, this woman comes across as very fake and disingenuous 😳 Every comment and reference she makes to the audience, it's REALLY like a person impersonating the "right way" to behave. No doubt she has real grief, but her presentation of it is far to Clinical and therefore does not seem Personal, AT ALL 😕
"Shame on these people", She most Probably got the job she did because of Contacts and was leading a privileged life. What if your Husband died, people die all the time and those people don't have money. You are well connected to get on Stephen Colbert's show, No one needs Lessons from you. Shame on You, using your links/connections to sell a memoir to your husband and pretending it to be a motivational book. Come lead a normal persons life and then lecture
The current late night concept is extremely mundane and repetitive. Everyone complaining about Sheryl being repetitive or excessively rehearsed, must also note the similarities in questions during these interviews. Perhaps if Craig Ferguson was still doing the Late Late show, he would have done a better job at having a conversation with her than just interviewing her.
Colbert is a trained actor and performer. Sheryl Sandberg is not. Furthermore, all of the interviews on the late night talk shows are rehearsed and largely scripted. Lastly, who are you to judge the genuineness of a person who suffered through the loss of her spouse?
I can't be sure whether or not Stephen was just performing during this interview, but knowing that he lost his father and 2 of his brothers from a plane crash, makes me believe he’s actually sincere :)
JP51ism I was referring to an ebook . when I heard about the book I immediately went online to download it , so it would help me through the stress of college . but unfortunately I have to pay . I don't have money !
She shouldn't tell people who don't know what to say to others going through extreme grief to bring up that grief. This lady doesn't seem to have a good grasp on an socio-psychology and is using EXTREMELY anecdotal evidence that worked for her.
I usually never bother to react to comments, but today I feel like I should. No one, and I mean NO one, is allowed to tell others how to mourn. There is no "right amount" of grief people are supposed to show, not now, not ever. Someone can act strong and put together and still be torn apart on the inside. It's called "strength" and "survival" and it is supposed to be admired and not condemned. And I am honestly tired to hear how she has it so much easier because of her career or her wealth. She DOESN'T. She lost her husband, her best friend and the father of her children. And no matter how much money she has on her bank account or in how many fancy meetings she sits - this cannot be changed. We should stop putting each other down and attacking each other, especially when we absolutely don't know the last thing about people like her. We don't know how she feels and what she goes through when she's all by herself, not watched by millions. If her interview seems rehearsed then, OH MY GOD, maybe she did rehearse it because it makes it a bit easier when she talks about her dead husband and recalls the day of his death. She did write a book and yes, of course there's marketing and a lot of money behind it. But if this book just helps one person on earth deal with the worst thing that could ever happen, losing someone you love and cherish, then it was fucking worth it. Go on, Sheryl. Lean in more. You can do it. Thank you.
Thank you Liz O'Neill! I was so pleased to read a post that wasn't judgmental and cynical and downright cruel to and about this woman. One of life's greatest lessons is learning to be GRATEFUL!!
Thank you for your kind words. And yes. Being grateful is the way to go! I hope you have a lovely day!
I thought this interview was beautiful and touching and actually I teared up watching it. It's a comedy show, and yet I think Stephen (who also experienced a tragic loss he alludes to) handled the interview very well, and she spoke well about this topic that is close to her heart. I don't think she wrote the book to make money, she already has tons of money. She does seem genuine in wanting to share her experience and her relationship to gratitude with others. The comments section was really disappointing. :/
+Liz O'Neill I usually don't reply to sophomoric feminazis like you but today I feel like I should. Go back to the kitchen please!
RX Videos Thank you for your insightful and thoughtful reply, that will certainly spark an interesting conversation. As I can tell from your words, you are for sure a lovely gentleman that knows an awful lot about women, feminism and the daily challenges we face. But I also think you might forgot an important thing, and I feel terrible to have to correct you, a true alpha male. Us Feminazis don't need kitchens like regular people, but prefer to feast on the raw meat of our male victims. It's much easier and saves a lot of time that we can then use to spread our weird ideas of equality online. I hope you have a lovely day!
her voice carries a great impact. the way she talks is so powerful. i love her
steven's insight on suffering is very touching
"I don't wanna lean in, I wanna lie down." - Ali Wong.
She's such a great role model.
To be able to talk on national television about her husband passing away after only 2 years and not be an emotional wreck is really incredible. After 10 years I still can't talk to people about my father passing away.
Will definatly be buying her book.
Some strange comments here; amazes me how many cynical people there are, seemingly lacking in all empathy. If someone could write a good book an how, not only to deal with personal grief, but explain how others close to someone that has experienced a loss should or can respond to that person's loss, I'd read that book. How many of us have been to a funeral of a child and wondered to themselves, "what do I say to my friend who has just laid their child to rest." If someone can help me with that, I would appreciate it. I have had this experience, and I was utterly unprepared, virtually unable to articulate an intelligible thought. I have an large family, six kids, and I cannot fathom the loss of one of them, nor can I fathom what anyone could say to console me. Before anyone criticizes my large family, it was created by the merger of two families, a second marriage for both myself and my second spouse. That was a mid 90's merger, so we've raised that family and are out of the nesters now and have 22 grandchildren.
Having just watched her interview on The Ellen Show, I feel like she prepared all of these lines for several interviews.
Because she is consistent with what she believes in.
Everyone loses someone at some point, but seriously her personal situation (having kids, having a $1B fortune through Facebook, selling books, having tons of attention and friends, having a great and stimulating job), is less worse than the average person losing someone.
Those of you commenting heartless things, Come on people, be human. Not everything is like movies where rich people do things for some secret mission. Be real. There are real people in the world.
Agreed, so disappointed by the cynicism in these comments
Thank you, Sheryl. What you went through is huge, and worse, you have to do it right in the public eye. Brave woman, you are!!! Thank you for sharing this with us!
Underrated comment🙌
I watch this, somehow wondering if preparing for grief will help me actually get through it when I do experience it one day. I don't think it will, for some reason. Grief seems to be that lifelong struggle that we all have in common, yet it is so personal and isolating.
I love her last line; ''lucky getting older'' which gives a message of gratitude and love who we are :)
I really hope Stephen Colbert does more of these serious and somber interviews
hahahhaha ------ so true, but you forget - he is responsible for comedy, remember (LOL)
On the one hand, I'm sorry for the grief she went through.
On the other, it's a little gross how she's using it for profit and the talk show rounds.
But I guess I can't fault her for living in a modern society trained to make people share everything for popularity, no matter how personal.
Though before your heart breaks too much for her, she's doing the rounds by a script. She's saying the exact same thing, word for word, in each show she's popping up on.
She's lucky to have all the people around her. When you are lower on the status rung, that support isn't there. No one is "going thru" anything with me to help.
Idk if anyone else watching knows this but...
Sheryl's husband was a true .. Man
- He helped Sheryl understand her self worth better (e.g., helped her negotiate a better contract with Facebook before starting to work there)
AKA helped her become better (we all want a partner who helps us become better and better right?)
- He showed in action as a husband that he loves her by actually sharing the workload at home (not just letting the woman do all the house chores)
- Although he earned less than Sheryl, he supported her every step of the way and had his own self worth understanding so high that his woman's socially higher status wouldn't let him bring him and her down
He was a man of great honor. I personally cried my eyes out upon seeing Sheryl's msg/status on FB after his passing... :''( Wishing the best for Sheryl and her family...
+Channel...remarkably beautiful & apt post :)
what a photogenic profile picture
damn right
Channel for Positivity l Understanding l Justice Sandberg is a feminazi cunt who preaches that men are expendable and she's completely out of touch with the common woman.
Heroic Love ...anyone using the 'word' feminazi is probably an expendable male.
I don't understand the harsh comments. I was touched by this, and will take these words with me.
She's so robotic. It's like she's not even there. She should write a new book, 'How I became a billionaire and emotionless: Ten steps to success and having no soul'.
The answer to a Jew........
I will never joke about getting older. Because if you are living that long you are lucky 👌
After losing my father recently, It isnt easy to communicate with siblings. We have different ways of handling the grieving process. I just want to remembered happy times with my father, but my sister only talks about his stroke. And I think after certain time, we need to let go. I dont want relive the stroke, but she keeps bringing it back. So, I dont call her anymore.
Poor friend turns 50 and gets a phone call. "hey lucky you you're fifty.live it up because my dead husband didn't make it to 50" Jesus, Happy birthday
Man I love Stephen
These people are the reason for faded respect and empathy in this world
She is so lucky to have lots of support and attention. There are so many women to go through pain with nothing.
I believe that maybe she's done so many interviews about the book, that she learned the answers to the questions very well. That's why they sound a little bit robotic. Check out her Ellen interview. Almost same answers. And if to be honest when people/celebrities go on media tours to promote their projects, all their answers sound the same, because they get the same questions. #SoGiveHerABreak
she was lovely. glad she shared her story.
Did I just watch a telemarketing advert for a book.The only thing missing was
"but wait there's more"
#savagery.jpg 😂
ALL the guests sell something. The previous guest was selling her play. Why is everybody so critic of this one?
You call your cousin to say happy 50th birthday, and then proceed to tell her that your husband will never be 50. What the fuck? That's really not right.
I feel like I'm listening to a seminar. Nothing about this interview feels genuine or sincere.
TV is not a genuine medium. This is meant to help people grieve or deal with it.
It probably feels that way because she has done many interviews on this book already. After a while, it becomes rote. Plus, she has to put up a really thick shield in order to not fall apart every time she talks about her loss publicly. I couldn't do it. I still find myself getting weepy talking about losses that happened decades ago.
peopl are saying she sounds like she is given a corporate speech and I say you can't blame her. I mean this lady runs the operations department of the entire Facebook, you better be sure that corporate speech is not just something you thought off head, it has to be concise, consistent and most importantly a part of you. She can't slip in any statement she makes as facebook's COO, I repeat any statement, i'm sure those who follow the financial markets understand what i'm saying. I believe it's now a part of her to keep given statements that her exactly the same when leading such a huge company. lol i'm guessing she is not a big fan of youtube so she didn't know that these videos would all come together. The weakness of timeline, videos don't come back lol welcome to youtube Sheryl where videos don't go down.
There is no death. Shakespeare once said that "all the world is a stage and all of the women are actors and actresses and each in his life plays many roles" What he may or may not have known is that all of the material world is a stage. And there is only one actor....You!
Surprised by all the hate in the comments. Considering she's written a book about it, I'm sure she has talked about all this stuff a bunch of times before between 2015 and now, so I'm sure a lot of this has been said by her plenty of times before, but that doesn't make her insincere. She's spent two years grieving her husband - I doubt this the first time she's ever thought about it or tried to process her thoughts on the matter
For those saying she wasn't sincere, time has passed, and she can't go on these shows blubbering. I thought she was beautiful and well spoken
When she says "losing someone suddenly is the unimaginable" and Stephen has lived that, too, what does she mean? Has Stephen had a tragic and unexpected loss in his life?
This video means a lot
OK, look - Sheryl has done dozens of interviews in the last two weeks on this, where everyone asks the same questions and where she has specific things she wants to get across. YOU try and look and sound sincere when you are repeating the same phrases hour after hour, day after day. And I am endlessly frustrated that grievers are held to this ridiculous standard that they must be sobbing and out of control in order for us to "believe" that she is grieving. Who cares if you believe her? And how dare you ascribe your own demands on someone who has clearly had her heart broken by the one of the most tragic experiences anyone can go through. I wonder if you realize that comments like that make it MUCH harder for grievers to heal at all, because of judgemental nonsense like that. People get numb to protect themselves from the avalanche of pain and suffering that this level of loss creates. I truly hope you never go through what she has and never get exposed to that level of insensitivity.
bardess5 exactly! They won't get it until it happens to them!
This! Thank you. This comments section makes me so sad. The world is too cynical, people have lost all empathy.
She seems like a good person who has experienced a lot of pain, HOWEVER it would have helped a whole lot more if she didn't rehearse this whole thing and just reacted a bit more naturally and genuinely.
Fair point. Perhaps it was too difficult for her to be completely honest about her true deep grief.
mm1996 it's tough to share something like this on TV with an audience without breaking down. She had to rehearse it so she doesn't break down. She's not an actress (which we r used to seeing on the show). She's just like everyone else. So she cannot control her emotions if she spoke candidly.
why does she have to do the interviews again and again trying to narrate the same story and proving the audience she is indeed mourning for her husband
Just like the rich to try to tell us common folk what it's like to experience something we all deal with every day.
For your information, sheryl is always sophisticated and first class, not because she practice that boldness infront of mirror...
I'm not sure I would agree with the "feeling lucky to grow old" premise. Growing old can be hell for a lot of people. My own father is having a terrible time with it (Alzheimer's, physical ailments, etc.), and I've know plenty of others who have suffered thru old age. I think we might be better off as a society to try and teach people not to fear the inevitable. I think too many are terrified of death and go to ridiculous lengths to avoid it. For us Christians, there really shouldn't be anything to fear. I'm looking forward to the next life myself, and certainly don't want to delay that transition in any way.
Thank you for sharing this :) I think in addition to comedy (which the Late Show does very well) it's important to also discuss these topics that most would prefer not too. I don't understand all the negative comments here?
Great insightful intro question and an amazing heartfelt response. SC is the greatest host.
She's genuinely remarkable and I loved her responses. May her husband's memory forever be a blessing.
I feel for Sheryl and just watched her at Ellen in an IDENTICAL interview with same answers, key words, reactions , gestures...now I m very skeptical and a bit cautious as if she s trying to cope or simply "milk" all that this tragedy provided ...It s sometimes daunting to me how "performance" has become the core behavioural and gestural pattern for the majority of the American people leading to a culture that is a constant stage on and off griff...
Mmm I'm sorry for her loss but I was moved by Patton oswalt, he seemed genuine and speaking from his heart on his wife's passing...
She sounds like a b-actress trying out for a AAA movie.
crisis management 101... data privacy issues of FB.. diversion
She shouldn't tell people who don't know what to say to others going through extreme grief to bring up that grief. This lady doesn't seem to have a good grasp on an socio-psychology and is using EXTREMELY anecdotal evidence that worked for her.
I love her
Looks like facebook hired a little damage control for the comments. Aw bless you.
Thank you
she is so rehearsed that I can't even believe that she is talking about the death of her own husband. I used to follow her, read Lean in and was about to buy Option B... until I watched the interviews she has given.
I curious to know if she's not good at speaking candidly to large crowds and that's why she's reciting some lines. This entire interview reads like a late night infomercial. Granted, the book is a product, an honorable product perhaps. But, given the personal nature of why it exists, the interview should've been a little more personal and candid. This appearance didn't help in my opinion.
I sense politics in her future 😕
Lorena Wieshamm it probably is but that's probably how she gets through it. And if I died and my husband wrote a book about it I wouldn't give a fuck I doubt he'd be bothered by it.
She sounds like she is giving a corporate presentation
i think there are much less taxing ways she can make money lol. She has way more money than this book will get her. Some people get to a certain point of wealth that they might actually do things they believe will be good for others. Just cause she'll make a little money from this book doesn't mean she doesn't have other good motives.
I know what you mean, but it could be that shes said these things in so many interviews all over the world that shes become self conscious that she might appear unenthusiastic so is trying (too hard?) to sound inspired/inspiring and that might be why its coming across as a bit inauthentic in parts. Ive seen better interviews shes done and this book looks genuinely interesting so i still intend to give it a look.
I stopped at 1:56. It's an interview not a TED talk. I come to Colbert for interviews that skew toward real conversation. If I wanted this canned garbage I'd watch Fallon.
That man deserved so much more than to be used as marketing material...
Hi, now we are growing old .but life is alone .God bless you.
the situation is so terrible and I feel so bad that she's had to go through something like this, but did anyone else feel that her interview was beyond where rehearsed and contrived as all get-out?! She didn't come across as genuine in any shape or form. It's almost unbelievable she went through this how disingenuous she comes across.
every ted-talk,infomercial, snake-oil salesman. this woman is a Jedi master at selling books
She literally said the same thing she said in Ellens show.
Wow I can't believe all the negative comments on this. WTF is wrong with people?! You think there's something fishy about the marketing of this? Guess what, if you were rich and powerful and had this happen to you, maybe you'd do the same damn thing and want to help others who are going through the same thing. Grow a fucking heart people, and a brain while you're at it.
I know she suffered a great tragedy and I mean no disrespect, but I get the feeling that she's not being sincere when she talks about her grief.
Also are the anti-Semitic comments really appropriate?
What particularly makes you think she isn't sincere?
Because of her phrasing, her expressions and her body language. She did not engage with Colbert, she gave a couple of rehearsed monologues (which even sounded rehearsed, which made it noticeable), and that little "thoughtful" gesture at 2:00 was horribly hammy.
No one is claiming, nor is it tasteful to claim this even about your worst enemy (and I am not a huge fan of Sheryl Sandberg), that their grief over the death of a loved one is insincere. But this interview (if you can call it one) seemed very ill-equipped to articulate that grief or her response to it.
I don't want to knock her for it, appearing on celebrity-circuit talk shows is not her day job, and it must be difficult to be composed and eloquent on national television about a personal topic. But this still sounds like a shallow canned advert. Tbh, everything on chat shows are canned adverts but the people involved are skillful enough to hide it, usually.
Now you may not think this is important, and that calling her out on something that seems so insignificant is sexism (or at least sexism lite), but the authenticity of emotion is one of the few bastions left that have not been hollowed out by corporatisation. Grief and emotion are messy, it's not always TV friendly, it can make the rest of the world meaningless, it can make you do dark and desperate things - and we'll be damned if we let them airbrush it out of existence.
Souradeep, I think you explained it very well. Thanks for saving me having to try!
That's because she's trying to cry while talking about her late husband you dumb fuck. Of course she'll need to be rehearsed.
brusskey check out her interview on The View.
The way she talks is like she is reading a story from a novel.
Up hers and her so-called tragic loss. It sure is easy to adjust when you've got wealth. The rest of us actually live in tragic circumstances not just take a vacation there. Fuck you.
She's right...we are lucky if we grow old.
If the writing fails, keep your day job Sheryl, certainly acting is not for you.
awkward paid advertisement 🙊
Talk is cheap. Why not do something great for your employees? These executives are actors, not real workers. Society has changed so much, yet the fundamentals remain the same.
Watched this last night live. Glad to see I wasn't the only one picking up on something ........ off, about her demeanor.
Not going to doubt her grief and her progression through loss, but there's a piety about her presentation that doesn't sit right with me. Like it's not genuine. Somebody mentioned "rehearsed" which is accurate.
Everybody deals with grief in their own way, but this just seems to be profiteering, authoring about a very sudden and unexpected death. Maybe because she's been on the tour and has spoken about it so often now, Dave's death doesn't really affect her as deeply anymore, but this holier than thou persona is off-putting.
BrokeredHeart sometimes we need rehearsal because deep down we feel like breaking down but we don't feel comfortable doing that in public. Hence rehearsal helps to make us look composed and put together. Different people have different way of coping
It should be said that the term 'Suck' meaning to whine and wallow in self pity and basically act like a child not getting their way, (Example: Don't be such a little suck, and clean your room!) doesn't exist in may parts of America... and that explains some of the reaction there, including Stephen's.
No, she didn't mean oral sex. I'm all for comedy, but come on..Grow up.
5,700 views I'm so early love me 😂😂😂
I am not sure if this is just a really difficult thing for her to talk about and so she has a script so to speak? It does feel a bit rehearsed but I don't want to believe that its as it seems.
This woman could have been in the cabinet but now you have to deal with Betsy DeVos.
I feel like I'm watching another pointless Ted Talk.
if you grow old,
you grow old.
yikes. so much negativity here. not everyone is a great public speaker guys. and what if her preparation for the interview is the only way for her to keep her composure and not to break down and cry?
last point: colbert is amazing at interviews.
Powerful
I understand and appreciate Ms. Sandberg's loss but this is insufferable and plastic.
So ironic that I am learning about Sheryl Sandberg in my Sociology class and about gender inequality women face in the workplace. Cool.
Love her
I love this message. Unfortunately, this woman comes across as very fake and disingenuous 😳 Every comment and reference she makes to the audience, it's REALLY like a person impersonating the "right way" to behave. No doubt she has real grief, but her presentation of it is far to Clinical and therefore does not seem Personal, AT ALL 😕
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"Shame on these people", She most Probably got the job she did because of Contacts and was leading a privileged life. What if your Husband died, people die all the time and those people don't have money.
You are well connected to get on Stephen Colbert's show, No one needs Lessons from you.
Shame on You, using your links/connections to sell a memoir to your husband and pretending it to be a motivational book. Come lead a normal persons life and then lecture
boo
The current late night concept is extremely mundane and repetitive. Everyone complaining about Sheryl being repetitive or excessively rehearsed, must also note the similarities in questions during these interviews.
Perhaps if Craig Ferguson was still doing the Late Late show, he would have done a better job at having a conversation with her than just interviewing her.
Colbert is just way more sincere than this woman... She seems completely scripted like a robot or preacher or something. Weird interview.
Colbert is a trained actor and performer. Sheryl Sandberg is not. Furthermore, all of the interviews on the late night talk shows are rehearsed and largely scripted. Lastly, who are you to judge the genuineness of a person who suffered through the loss of her spouse?
I can't be sure whether or not Stephen was just performing during this interview, but knowing that he lost his father and 2 of his brothers from a plane crash, makes me believe he’s actually sincere :)
Can anyone even be more fake?
Thank you satan for all your love.
-sheryl sandberg
Super fake.
Oh she looks like she did "lean into that suck"!
I'd have definitely helped her with that if I was her psychologist friend
To much..? ;)
Shery...my.service..without money
With you..
You no give money..any..dallas
That woman in the audience that's shrieking away needs to stop!!
The comments here are disgusting. Let her grieve
She looks like a skinny Janis Soprano
for those thinking she just their to sell books... SHES A FUCKING BILLIONAIRE !!
lmao wtf people.. the book sales is peanuts in today's digital world
Even though much of what she said seemed a bit fabricated, this hit me right in the feels.
you want to help ??? then why should a cash strapped student like me pay for your book
Not endorsing it but as an answer to having free access to any book, 1 word... Library.
I doubt it's money. She's worth over one billion dollars.
you have to pay for printing costs somehow, but it would be nice if she had a free ad supported E-book option.
Dead-Owl 911 I was specifically referring to an ebook. sorry didn't make it clear in my original comment
JP51ism I was referring to an ebook . when I heard about the book I immediately went online to download it , so it would help me through the stress of college . but unfortunately I have to pay . I don't have money !
#compromised
Definitely not Joe Biden
She shouldn't tell people who don't know what to say to others going through extreme grief to bring up that grief. This lady doesn't seem to have a good grasp on an socio-psychology and is using EXTREMELY anecdotal evidence that worked for her.
Love her