“Unbelievably good instincts with regards to figuring out what other people’s motives were but were too ashamed of their suspicions” This quote resonates with me because I found it to perfectly explain situations I’ve been in. Too many times I had questioned myself if it was worth standing up to someone who was mistreating me or judging me badly only because I thought maybe I’d be getting out of line if I spoke up. I would just stop myself and think “Maybe this person isn’t actually trying to do XYZ. I’ll look stupid if I say something. I might just be overreacting if I call them out. I’m embarrassing myself just thinking that this person is trying to harm me in some way.” In hindsight and many bad experiences later, my suspicions were always correct whether they showed up sooner or later. Trust your gut, people! And if you end up misreading someone, you own up, explain yourself, apologize, and move on.
I'm a 34 year old man who is very high on the agreeable side. Bullied as a kid and used it as my defence mechanism, guess it just stuck. Anyway, it's served me well in the professional world until I got promoted and the project manager I'm currently reporting to is a controlling, reactive bully. She's putting all sorts of issues on my plate with no support and pointing to me as the cause of the project's woes. I needed this vid.
2:10 -- I was about to type a depressing thing about how I cannot be assertive.. until I heard him say that... So.. Im not going to make my comment.. **Goes in a corner**
does anyone know how i can gain more information about help for extrem agreeable person especially extrem agreeable men? are there books with this or can someone tell me if therapist know about this personal type or tell me if there is a realistic chance to ask jp about more information?
Propaganda Minister Hi there! I'm not a psychologist, but an avid lover of psychology as well as energy healing. Jordan Peterson has helped me immensely through this and I'd love to help out a bit. If you are comfortable, send me an email at kellyraeanne@gmail.com and I can send some links and suggestions. And/Or if you'd like, you can subscribe to my very grassroots channel where I talk alot about social issues from a sensitive person's perspective. Trying to help people who lack this courage to find it within. These themes will be common in my videos! Take care, Kelly
Peterson at his absolute best. Really knows his stuff here, from years of study and counselling. Really helpful for many of us. Wish I could say his worse was pseudo-profundity, and not far-right propaganda in climate-change denial and his Islamophobic bigotry.
I notice you don't question the charge of pseudo-profundity! Jimmy Dore, August 4, for denial. Tendencies? Flat-out Islamaphobe, like most of his buddies (Sam harris, but fucking et. al.), and really it's obvious if you follow him.
You didn't answer the second part of his question and your flat-out wrong. Being a critic of Islamic fundamentalism is not the same as being a bigot. He has been very cautious about how he deals with questions about Islam often stating that he has a lot more reading to do on the subject before offering an opinion.
"You're wrong." And I'm not, but I'm not chasing the comments down, which were more frequent early on. But he has equated Islamic fundamentalism with Islam, just as harris and Dawkins, for example, always do.
Go live in a highly Islamic area in the UK, like Nelson or Luton, and come back as virtuous as you are now. You are a prime example of the pretentious new generation snowflake, that has no experience or idea of Islam, but spouts his culturally sensitive ideology to feel better about himself when he has absolutely no idea about Islam. Do you have any Muslim friends? I highly doubt it
"you have to overcome your hesitancy to engage in conflict"
I feel my brain making more neural connections
Congratulations, you are a normal human being. Toddlers do that. Kids do that. Everbody does that.
Yeah its a refreshing feeling after all the braincells Ive lost from online games and the people in them
Synapses.
“Unbelievably good instincts with regards to figuring out what other people’s motives were but were too ashamed of their suspicions” This quote resonates with me because I found it to perfectly explain situations I’ve been in. Too many times I had questioned myself if it was worth standing up to someone who was mistreating me or judging me badly only because I thought maybe I’d be getting out of line if I spoke up. I would just stop myself and think “Maybe this person isn’t actually trying to do XYZ. I’ll look stupid if I say something. I might just be overreacting if I call them out. I’m embarrassing myself just thinking that this person is trying to harm me in some way.” In hindsight and many bad experiences later, my suspicions were always correct whether they showed up sooner or later. Trust your gut, people! And if you end up misreading someone, you own up, explain yourself, apologize, and move on.
Respect to this man for putting his personal discoveries into the gene pool, I don't know if I would have been that nice.
Dictionary definitions give an refreshed, organic, intimate meaning to a word, look up "gene pool".
There, I did it too.
Oh my god!! Thats me, ashamed of my critical intelligence, but covers it up with being agreeable.
Thank you sirv
That's some real truths right there...
thank you sir
Damn, that was quick but deep.
That's what she said
Tom Salgado thats what she said
Tom Salgado Tends to be the case with Dr. Peterson. He cuts deep quickly!
Teehee. That joke never gets old for me. Its always appropriate, and I always encourage it. :D
Just how she likes it. I bet the questioner appreciated it
Excellent video and advice
I'm a 34 year old man who is very high on the agreeable side. Bullied as a kid and used it as my defence mechanism, guess it just stuck.
Anyway, it's served me well in the professional world until I got promoted and the project manager I'm currently reporting to is a controlling, reactive bully. She's putting all sorts of issues on my plate with no support and pointing to me as the cause of the project's woes. I needed this vid.
You are so awsome 😍😍😍😍
2:10 -- I was about to type a depressing thing about how I cannot be assertive.. until I heard him say that...
So.. Im not going to make my comment.. **Goes in a corner**
does anyone know how i can gain more information about help for extrem agreeable person especially extrem agreeable men? are there books with this or can someone tell me if therapist know about this personal type or tell me if there is a realistic chance to ask jp about more information?
Propaganda Minister Hi there! I'm not a psychologist, but an avid lover of psychology as well as energy healing. Jordan Peterson has helped me immensely through this and I'd love to help out a bit. If you are comfortable, send me an email at kellyraeanne@gmail.com and I can send some links and suggestions. And/Or if you'd like, you can subscribe to my very grassroots channel where I talk alot about social issues from a sensitive person's perspective. Trying to help people who lack this courage to find it within. These themes will be common in my videos!
Take care,
Kelly
Kelly Day good luck in your chanel subscription guaranteed ..
I also want the info that you have on your email ..
Thanks SSS! I got your email. If I don't get to it tonight I will tomorrow on my day off. :)
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. Worked for me.
Peterson at his absolute best. Really knows his stuff here, from years of study and counselling. Really helpful for many of us. Wish I could say his worse was pseudo-profundity, and not far-right propaganda in climate-change denial and his Islamophobic bigotry.
Ken Johnson when has he denied climate change or displayed islamaphobic tendencies?
I notice you don't question the charge of pseudo-profundity! Jimmy Dore, August 4, for denial. Tendencies? Flat-out Islamaphobe, like most of his buddies (Sam harris, but fucking et. al.), and really it's obvious if you follow him.
You didn't answer the second part of his question and your flat-out wrong. Being a critic of Islamic fundamentalism is not the same as being a bigot. He has been very cautious about how he deals with questions about Islam often stating that he has a lot more reading to do on the subject before offering an opinion.
"You're wrong." And I'm not, but I'm not chasing the comments down, which were more frequent early on. But he has equated Islamic fundamentalism with Islam, just as harris and Dawkins, for example, always do.
Go live in a highly Islamic area in the UK, like Nelson or Luton, and come back as virtuous as you are now. You are a prime example of the pretentious new generation snowflake, that has no experience or idea of Islam, but spouts his culturally sensitive ideology to feel better about himself when he has absolutely no idea about Islam. Do you have any Muslim friends? I highly doubt it
No ones gonna talk about the food in Jordan’s teeth
Jordan blabs to much and uses big 50 cent PHD words all the time.