Hi cc....what i want to say is that most of us as mothers, we can relate, the anxiety of being a 1st time mom I think we all had to go through, the fact that ur life has to change forever and it's no longer about you. So the words that ur mom said to you are very powerful, when it's difficult, focus on the positive, appreciate ur husband, they are not perfect but the fact that he is there for you is a lot, appreciate the little things he does, you are blessed, not all women have the support that you have. Just have that positive mind set and you will be at ease even with urself. Parenting is rewarding at the end, you will enjoy it. Love and light cc, we are enjoying ur vlogs the Madikanes❤❤❤
Ohh wandomeleza Thokoza 😢am alone kuyo yonke lento mna baby daddy is miles away shame ngenxa yomsebenz i hardly sleep but the wise words zoba " be grateful umntana uphume ephila" ndiyawathatha sisi lomazwi ayandomeleza thank you so much for this vlog my baby is 19 days old funeka ndivuke esalele ndihlambe ndifuthe coz ndithungiwe ngaphants ,ndenze isdudu ndisaqala usenza avuke akhala. Ndim breastfeed ke funeka ahlambe yey kuninz but ke ndomelele ngom ngenxa yakho enkos ke nkwali❤❤❤
@@LwandokaziPaliso-uk8hf ohw maarn I’m so happy mommy to hear that I helped. Kuzoya kuba ngcono… xolisa umoya wakho, kuyedlula akuzuhlala kunjalo❤️❤️ pray and xa elele nawe phungula apha caleni kwakhe.. nasemini vala umnyango Ulale naye. No one warned us uba kunzima kunje guys😭😭
Sana m not a mom yet sana but the way you explained how it feels ngala wave, jonga you explained it very clear. I could imagine your pain sana cause woow xa ubethwe yila wave, imilenze uyalabalaba awukwazi uphefula ingathi uzofa cause nabantu ababoni you sinking… but m proud if you mommy you fort my love. Thank you for sharing this cause nyan they do no tell us uba kunje but now I have an idea… Cause nam at the back of my mind M like its much better when you have a husband cause niyancedisana. So expectations sana can kill umntu. Thanx once again for sharing this. The main reason I do not have a kid ndoyika ubayi single mom sana. Much love bbe❤❤❤❤❤
Ohw undivile kakuhle wena… kula milenze ilabalabayo napha kulanto yoba people don’t usually see you uya ubhekela kubo.. ohw listening is a beautiful skill that you have ❤❤ haymaarn I love that . Nam I was so scared of being a single mom, please do find a husband first then make your little family ❤😚😚🫶🫶 all the best
Im not a mom and not planning yet but you have actually addressed all the anxiety i have when it comes to being a mom. Thank you for your transparency, honesty and vulnerability. You are doing a great job mommy ❤️❤️
Sana the anxiety of being a single mother to twins ube uqala noba nguMama womntu othembele kuwe ngento yonke..but u have to snap out of it very fast..I'm a single mother to twins ezina 3months next week..it's a lot shame
Ohw yhini Bawo. I can’t imagine your stress🥺. Qina faz one day you’ll look back and be so proud of yourself ❤️❤️❤️ uThixo uzabanawe don’t worry bazokhula abantwana.
Uzobaryt sisi nyamezela nd take everything one step at a time,Uzoba proud abt u soon,nd uzobe uzihleka ezi feelings when you reflecting bck kuzo❤be strong cc nd enjoy the journey nd appreciate all the support you get noba ingakanani❤❤
Yho hay sana uyandikhalisa, this is scary. But ndavuya kwakhona xa uthetha about the joys you're also experiencing. Loved this vlog, you are the most real person I've ever followed. Appreciate you and uBhut'Malusi. We will keep supporting you.
Enkosi mntase for sharing this, it boosted my energy. Ndino 3 months nam yoh akatefi kanje and mind you lo mntu atefayo kudala ndimfuna desperately so! But am hoping as he grows he will be nice❤
Hello everyone. What Thokoza is saying all the right things. Support is everything and expressing is also as equally important so that people around u can bottle feed when u need rest. Kudos to my family and baby daddy shame. I had soo much support. I would be given 8 hrs of sleep everyday. We literally took shifts between me, my aunts and Baby daddy equally. We were all so tired. A new mom guys needs some undisturbed sleep as Thokoza is saying. I wish this video can be seen by most people with someone expecting in their family so they can know how to support them well. Also hiring a stay in helper for support is an option
Sana umntana uyakhalisa, ndirhalela omnye kodwa yooooooooh sana depression ehamba naye ibuhkungu... kodwa kids are very beautiful nina... be strong sana lam, you will pass eso stage akhule lomntu ebengathi zange ahluphe
Whoow ❤I enjoyed u kumamela I experience yakho ngendlalifa sanalam. Anxiety is normal for a new mom. Enjoy motherhood usazoyiva it's a very nice and wonderful journey. Proud of u Madikanes❤
Oh maan sbari wethu is trying by all means to defend himself 🤣🤣🤣🤣 kamxolele mtase yini❤❤❤❤ Oh mtase iPTSD is the most painful and very few understand it and it leads to neglecting the child if one has no support ❤❤❤
Yho! I can relate sana, the anxiety 🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️mna nawe same same, I even used to ask my mom uba wena wawusenza njani ukundithulisa abe exakwe ndim sana ndiphethwe yi anxiety. Very very dangerous to be alone during that time. Shout out to those who manage on their own🙌🏽
Yhoo i feel you sana Tokoza mna i would be up all night alone utatakhe ulele sana and when i tell him you must atleast show support. Mna i would sleep while holding the baby during the day ngenxa yodinwa🤤😫 Thina Mothers we are strong shame❤❤
I know ndisuka apho umntana ongalaliyo and ufuna ndimphathe, this will pass now he’s two years, ube strong stadwa and most importantly always pray for amandla for the day because sometimes as a first time mom uyezive ngathi you are failing lomntu oxhomekeke kuwe and you become so stressed, the part yongaske ungavuki yet awuzoyifumna😅😊 because you need to breastfeed wenze yonke into for this little human being ♥️
Enkosi sis for sharing this because I gave birth ngo 2020 Nov and it was a total adjustment had to drop out of school(college)because i couldn't trust anyone with my child then last year I went total depression because people couldn't understand
Jonga mna I have nieces and nephews but I was not aware until it was me. We should all talk about these things for awareness ❤. I’m so sorry for what you went through. May God comfort you ❤❤❤❤
O Tata ingaske bayazi siyathanda ukuva amazwi enkuthazo avela kubo about the role that we play in raising the baby and running a house hold.. "I'm proud of you umfazi wam you doing a great job in raising our boy or girl" I so proud of you both wanga u Thixo anganisikelela nikhule nibambene.. I love you guys❤❤❤
@@sibongilemkumatela5567 Enkosi mhimhi and Unyanisile we want those words of encouragement ❤️❤️ I remember uMalusi the other day ndamfownela ndathi udlule ngobosi awaphumi la mabele I was sooo stressed. Ndathi I’m so worried I’m not doing well tuu🥺. Wafika shame ne stofu sokwehlisa, wandicenga uba ndinyamezele ekuncanciseni. I remember xa ehambayo he hugged me and said ‘ you’re doing a great job’ don’t stress yourself too much🥺🥺❤️❤️… ndayiva oxygen ibuya ndatsho ndaphefumla. I need to do another vlog on this and touch ezinye izinto. There is a lot to exhaust and very important le topic …
Mntase abantwana nabo abafani..omnye might not cry every night. And 1 other thing you must know it's only a start ooTata don't really help sele emdala egula ebusuku uba alone🤨 All the best Mntase in this new journey..we welcome you ❤❤
Uyaz’ thanda indaba lo bhutana omncinci 😊😂I’m lucky ke mna coz hubby uba onboard ekushushuzeleni.Last born ye2 inonyaka ngoku,Kodwa even today uyand’cedisa. He once said he fell asleep e theatre,wavuswa ngu nurse & I’m glad that he stopped doing calls😊. It gets better with time also,emini mommy try to sleep as much as you can,especially if you have someone to help you ❤
@@Aseza17 yhooo umntu nguwwe vhaa 😭😫SBWL ❤️ kaloku once alale , you want to take a bath , you want eat , you want to cikica laa washing yakhe . Kuningi uphetha ungaqalanga😭😭
Hi mommy yazi the way uyibalisa ngayo it's exactly the way it is n it's not easy n the depression is real n yabona Wena umvile Shem but bigup to you mommy but one thing I will tell you even if it's a second child Sana kuyafiwa cthandwasam kodwa we are strong bafazi love you lots n am very proud of u mama❤❤❤
Mntase jonga ndakuva vha, the anxiety nokudinwa yhooo but I guess it gets better with time. I was stressed nam when ibele liyeka uphuma but on the other hand I was happy because it then meant ndizafumana uncedo nyana ngoncanciswa whilst ndiphumla😢❤
Hi mama ka boy,it's my first time watching your vlog...I have already subscribed mommy ❤❤ all I can say stick to your language,to express yourself fluently..love you guy's.
Thank you for watching. I think I’m going to keep speaking English, as not perfect as it is I’m hoping it will improve. Let’s look at the bigger picture… should the channel grow then I end up on TV. I need my English to have improved and there is no other place to practice than here. Also I’m not only talking to Xhosa people. I’m trying to accommodate everyone. ❤
@41:15 yho hle Thokoza mhlobam wena you went through my exact feeling.. Worse kwelocala loba as much as your partner is there but they don't do much umntana xa ekhala aziswe kuwe as if uneMagic zothuthuzela, ndivele ndibenengcwangu ke xa ezobuza uba utheni ungamtshintshi ndikhe ndambuza uba angamtshintshi nje yena, like ingathi uya complainer qho ngezinto endingazenzi right but yena akenzi nenye... Aibo athi wena awumchebi umntana inzipho, awumcleani indlebe ne lwimi I'm like can't he just do ezizinto ndingazenzanga without making me feel like am a failure or a bad mom
@@QhayiyaMatomela hay ndingaligeza ngulo wakho, haibo endaweni yoba ancome!! Also siyayibona lento ihlukanosayo kusobakho umntana. Maka cleane ndlebe athi sharaap ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ love and light mama you doing sooo good ! 🫶😚
My always reminds me how i asked her kuth is thing of motherhood permant and she said even sesikhulile yen she is still worried if uphuma uya emsebemzin she always says a small prayer for protection
Hi family Yhoo I enjoyed vlog yakho thanks ngosi updater hey wna u are blessed marn awyazi anxiety yoba ngumzali ube uyisingle parent yetwins but I managed ukuzenzela izinto ndindodwa, badala ngok bana16 years. Khange ndilive igama lika boy. But I enjoyed levlog
Zithandwa zam 💖👌💖👌💖 jonga Bhukula kusekusasa xa ungumdlezane awulali sana thina umoya sthandwa sam uNxuba asikuko noba akaku support bayalala abatata shame....ndadivuka ndodwa mna but now I understand shame ❤❤❤❤ngxesi
I don't even have question or anything specific for you guys. I just know that whatever you bring for us, I'll be here watching because I enjoy your authentic videos. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Whatever feels comfortable for you all to try ningayenza, don't try everything people mention apha please sibone ngani seningabantu esingabaqhelanga. 🙈 Not that I'm against changes but umzekelo andina picture yenu doing Couples pranks😅😅❌
Yhooo cc wayethi xa elila ebusuku ndimlinganise cc cz wayencanca engekhomanzi eryt but ndizibuza ulilelani worse at nyt yhooo zihle kum sana inyembezi yhooo
I am going to be a new mother again after 12 years! I have not thought much about how difficult the first few weeks are! Ndimfuna apha qha! 🤦🏽♀️😅 U just brought me back to reality. Secondly, I was under the impression that you were still working as a nurse. When did you stop? Why the pressure to go back during what was obviously such a difficult time?
I stopped last year . I was working in Cape Town. I move to Mthatha just before I got married. I was hoping to get something close to my husband. I’ve been looking ever since.. unfortunately I got pregnant very early as soon as I came back. Kwanzima worse ufumana umsebenzi❤
Understand that you are the one who went through labour's pain amadoda akeva niks so sana mxolele coz they always justify noba sele encancile umntana wena nguwe ozotshutshuzela,,,,sorry nana but uzobaryt va❤❤❤😂😂😂
Ewe unyanisile, same applies kwi family u must not expect abantu bavuke bcs bazixelele abanamntana bona abazungalali bengazuhlamba washing yomntana and abaxoki, mna into endingayigxeka yile yolindela uba avuke and clean kodwa khange alale lisana. Ukuya kowenu xa unesana it's to learn izinto ongazaziyo ozobe uzixelelwa not uzenzelwa, Mna ndaboniswa once uhlanjwa njani then ndazihlambela. Xa usiya kokwenu awukwenzelwa uyofundiswa bt telling you what to do not by doing izinto for you. Even nasemzini uzombeka emqolo while usebenza akazuthathwa uzungathi abakucingeli mntase.
Ohhh mani..I'm also a first time parent to a 2 year 8 moths old...But owam shem wayelala shwiii ebusuku...Ndade ndabuza inesi bana haibo is it normal for umntana alala kangaka nah?? But shem he was first sweet ebusuku...
I enjoyed watching this video it made me realize why I don't want to have a baby at this age. It's not easy to be a parent and your life changes after having a baby😢❤. And as a young lady in her early 20s I also realized why I always find it important to have a baby when you are in a good place and have a child with someone who is willing to be there for you and your child.❤
Yhoo sis Thokoza Nam ndadikhalazela lonto apha endlini umyeni wam Sana alale ngoku umntana alilayo ade arhone sana ndibendiphela Nam ecaleni bubuthongo bt andinachoice I have to ndinakekele nyanam bt una2months ngoku ndisakhala yhoo uyasokolisa umntana omncinci
Mamam sana xa ekhala amzise kum ibengase ndikhale because xa esohlula yena mna nzomthini?😭 yho kunzima sheim ubane newborn ndandikhala oko xa engade alale ndibe mna ndisozelw😂
Ntomby wayi thatha lite into esasiythetha uba awulali day nd night xa unomntwana ,I told you Avuzwa wayengalali day nd night phofu ndine operation ebuhlungu 😢, mama akayenzi ke yoshishiza mntwana ebusu uthetha ephantsi kwe ngubo 😂but sadlula bakhula abantwana kuzodlula ntombo!
Hey mom .it's normal my love the first 3 month's ziyabila love after 3 month's kuzoba right. Enye into xa u-breastfeeda akufunekanga ukhathazeke or ustresse amabele aya-,re acta naye.❤
Yes breastfeeding for the first time is trauma yhooooo guys and the dilemma between using formula and breastfeeding 😢😢😢heee yhey TK wayithetha inyani esingayibalisiyo sana
I like to listen to your stories because you express your self and you really too be a new mom it's not an easy job be strong 😢
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Hi cc....what i want to say is that most of us as mothers, we can relate, the anxiety of being a 1st time mom I think we all had to go through, the fact that ur life has to change forever and it's no longer about you. So the words that ur mom said to you are very powerful, when it's difficult, focus on the positive, appreciate ur husband, they are not perfect but the fact that he is there for you is a lot, appreciate the little things he does, you are blessed, not all women have the support that you have. Just have that positive mind set and you will be at ease even with urself. Parenting is rewarding at the end, you will enjoy it. Love and light cc, we are enjoying ur vlogs the Madikanes❤❤❤
Yeah .. wise words . Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Ohh wandomeleza Thokoza 😢am alone kuyo yonke lento mna baby daddy is miles away shame ngenxa yomsebenz i hardly sleep but the wise words zoba " be grateful umntana uphume ephila" ndiyawathatha sisi lomazwi ayandomeleza thank you so much for this vlog my baby is 19 days old funeka ndivuke esalele ndihlambe ndifuthe coz ndithungiwe ngaphants ,ndenze isdudu ndisaqala usenza avuke akhala. Ndim breastfeed ke funeka ahlambe yey kuninz but ke ndomelele ngom ngenxa yakho enkos ke nkwali❤❤❤
@@LwandokaziPaliso-uk8hf ohw maarn I’m so happy mommy to hear that I helped. Kuzoya kuba ngcono… xolisa umoya wakho, kuyedlula akuzuhlala kunjalo❤️❤️ pray and xa elele nawe phungula apha caleni kwakhe.. nasemini vala umnyango Ulale naye.
No one warned us uba kunzima kunje guys😭😭
😂😂😂 like that part sbari said uboy ufana naye ,which is true like father like son ncooh
Sana m not a mom yet sana but the way you explained how it feels ngala wave, jonga you explained it very clear. I could imagine your pain sana cause woow xa ubethwe yila wave, imilenze uyalabalaba awukwazi uphefula ingathi uzofa cause nabantu ababoni you sinking… but m proud if you mommy you fort my love. Thank you for sharing this cause nyan they do no tell us uba kunje but now I have an idea… Cause nam at the back of my mind M like its much better when you have a husband cause niyancedisana. So expectations sana can kill umntu. Thanx once again for sharing this. The main reason I do not have a kid ndoyika ubayi single mom sana.
Much love bbe❤❤❤❤❤
Ohw undivile kakuhle wena… kula milenze ilabalabayo napha kulanto yoba people don’t usually see you uya ubhekela kubo.. ohw listening is a beautiful skill that you have ❤❤ haymaarn I love that .
Nam I was so scared of being a single mom, please do find a husband first then make your little family ❤😚😚🫶🫶 all the best
Im not a mom and not planning yet but you have actually addressed all the anxiety i have when it comes to being a mom. Thank you for your transparency, honesty and vulnerability. You are doing a great job mommy ❤️❤️
Thank you Sino sisi ❤❤😚😚
Sana the anxiety of being a single mother to twins ube uqala noba nguMama womntu othembele kuwe ngento yonke..but u have to snap out of it very fast..I'm a single mother to twins ezina 3months next week..it's a lot shame
Ohw yhini Bawo. I can’t imagine your stress🥺. Qina faz one day you’ll look back and be so proud of yourself ❤️❤️❤️ uThixo uzabanawe don’t worry bazokhula abantwana.
oh sis ube strong,do it for them kuyolunga
Its alot mntase but its doable... Some of us are testimonies❤
Uzobaryt sisi nyamezela nd take everything one step at a time,Uzoba proud abt u soon,nd uzobe uzihleka ezi feelings when you reflecting bck kuzo❤be strong cc nd enjoy the journey nd appreciate all the support you get noba ingakanani❤❤
Whaaaaw. big ups to you mommy ❤❤🙌🏽
Yho hay sana uyandikhalisa, this is scary. But ndavuya kwakhona xa uthetha about the joys you're also experiencing. Loved this vlog, you are the most real person I've ever followed. Appreciate you and uBhut'Malusi. We will keep supporting you.
Thank you so much ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
When u became emotional and started crying ndakuncedisa sana😂😂 I really felt that ,shout out to u mommy u doing great ❤❤❤
Yhey😂😂 jonga …. Kwa motherhood akudlali faz. Lonto aniyithethi loo nyani.❤❤❤thank you for watching ❤❤
Enkosi mntase for sharing this, it boosted my energy. Ndino 3 months nam yoh akatefi kanje and mind you lo mntu atefayo kudala ndimfuna desperately so! But am hoping as he grows he will be nice❤
Eyyy I can imagine, kutefa lowam 3 months old sana😢
Abantwana 😭 ngase ndibayale nabo ba please be nice to your moms . They are going through a lot. No kuzaba right xelel❤
Hello everyone. What Thokoza is saying all the right things. Support is everything and expressing is also as equally important so that people around u can bottle feed when u need rest. Kudos to my family and baby daddy shame. I had soo much support. I would be given 8 hrs of sleep everyday. We literally took shifts between me, my aunts and Baby daddy equally. We were all so tired. A new mom guys needs some undisturbed sleep as Thokoza is saying. I wish this video can be seen by most people with someone expecting in their family so they can know how to support them well. Also hiring a stay in helper for support is an option
Baby you wer so lucky shout out to your family ❤❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏
Sana umntana uyakhalisa, ndirhalela omnye kodwa yooooooooh sana depression ehamba naye ibuhkungu... kodwa kids are very beautiful nina... be strong sana lam, you will pass eso stage akhule lomntu ebengathi zange ahluphe
True kids are beautiful, also the experience is amazing after the storm ❤❤❤
Being a mom alone is a job on its own, you are doing great mama just take everything as it comes otherwise you will be overwhelmd. ❤❤❤
Yeah , thank you so much for the kind words ❤❤
Whoow ❤I enjoyed u kumamela I experience yakho ngendlalifa sanalam. Anxiety is normal for a new mom. Enjoy motherhood usazoyiva it's a very nice and wonderful journey. Proud of u Madikanes❤
Enkosi sis Thoz ntombi ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Oh maan sbari wethu is trying by all means to defend himself 🤣🤣🤣🤣 kamxolele mtase yini❤❤❤❤
Oh mtase iPTSD is the most painful and very few understand it and it leads to neglecting the child if one has no support ❤❤❤
😂😂😂 masithetheni ngayo so that it doesn’t hit as hard kwabanye ❤
Yho! I can relate sana, the anxiety 🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️mna nawe same same, I even used to ask my mom uba wena wawusenza njani ukundithulisa abe exakwe ndim sana ndiphethwe yi anxiety. Very very dangerous to be alone during that time. Shout out to those who manage on their own🙌🏽
Yho sanaaa❤❤.. thanks for watching
Lv you kesana, akubulula xa qala bangu mama sana nyamezela,uyonqena filisha lamazinyo angaphambili
I love them yhaz.. they remind me of my late sister wayenawo. You’ll never understand that’s why kusithwa don’t comment on something esemntwini ❤
@@LuvuyoVaaltyn what’s up? Is everything okay back home. Your comments scream misery. Are you okay? ❤
I love you guys so much.... God bless you more and more nibahle❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ warm welcome to my baby boy 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you so much ❤
I just saw you guys and sana first thing I did I subscribed to this channel coz Wow Love Love Love this content indinika IThemba maarn
🥺❤️🤌ohw maarn , thank you so much for tuning in , WELCOME ❤
Wayenyanisile umamakho dear ndayifunda kum uba nyhani umntana funeka umve ndabeva ngqooo abam.....
Kungona ndimvayo 🤣😭
Yhoo i feel you sana Tokoza mna i would be up all night alone utatakhe ulele sana and when i tell him you must atleast show support.
Mna i would sleep while holding the baby during the day ngenxa yodinwa🤤😫
Thina Mothers we are strong shame❤❤
😭😭😭mfazi ndini, suyithetha. Andigqibe utatakhe nge weekend athi usaya emajiteni. Njani Chomy? Hayi awuyi
I know ndisuka apho umntana ongalaliyo and ufuna ndimphathe, this will pass now he’s two years, ube strong stadwa and most importantly always pray for amandla for the day because sometimes as a first time mom uyezive ngathi you are failing lomntu oxhomekeke kuwe and you become so stressed, the part yongaske ungavuki yet awuzoyifumna😅😊 because you need to breastfeed wenze yonke into for this little human being ♥️
Enkosi sis for sharing this because I gave birth ngo 2020 Nov and it was a total adjustment had to drop out of school(college)because i couldn't trust anyone with my child then last year I went total depression because people couldn't understand
Jonga mna I have nieces and nephews but I was not aware until it was me. We should all talk about these things for awareness ❤. I’m so sorry for what you went through. May God comfort you ❤❤❤❤
😂😂😂 part yokuqibela ka tata yocula ayandiqiba .but thanx my people we learn lot from ur vlogs❤
@@ZukiswaMnisi ❤️🤣🤣🤣🤣enkosi vha..
O Tata ingaske bayazi siyathanda ukuva amazwi enkuthazo avela kubo about the role that we play in raising the baby and running a house hold.. "I'm proud of you umfazi wam you doing a great job in raising our boy or girl"
I so proud of you both wanga u Thixo anganisikelela nikhule nibambene.. I love you guys❤❤❤
@@sibongilemkumatela5567 Enkosi mhimhi and Unyanisile we want those words of encouragement ❤️❤️
I remember uMalusi the other day ndamfownela ndathi udlule ngobosi awaphumi la mabele I was sooo stressed. Ndathi I’m so worried I’m not doing well tuu🥺. Wafika shame ne stofu sokwehlisa, wandicenga uba ndinyamezele ekuncanciseni. I remember xa ehambayo he hugged me and said ‘ you’re doing a great job’ don’t stress yourself too much🥺🥺❤️❤️… ndayiva oxygen ibuya ndatsho ndaphefumla. I need to do another vlog on this and touch ezinye izinto. There is a lot to exhaust and very important le topic …
Nchoo!! ❤that assurance from hubby is very important it boosts you as mother. ❤❤
Ingoma ka Daddy no Boy😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂"wabulawa ngubani"my lovelly nd humble couple i love you guyz❤❤❤❤
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Mntase abantwana nabo abafani..omnye might not cry every night. And 1 other thing you must know it's only a start ooTata don't really help sele emdala egula ebusuku uba alone🤨 All the best Mntase in this new journey..we welcome you ❤❤
Your mum ws right sana you should be grateful ubuye naye umntana, i had 3 miscarriages, ukungena a theater uphume empty handed its traumatic. 😢😢
Ohw maarn 🥺🥺 love and light to you mama❤❤❤
Sthandwa usezakumbona xa e-over protective ngawe 😊 boyzzz ngomama wabo.... "Tata ka boy vulimehlo elinye" 😂😂😂😂😂 andisayihleki mani, enkosi we2 nge nice vlog ❤
😂😂😂😂bethuna. Thank you for watching ❤❤❤
Ohhhh bendinezoz'londa kwamna ndaqonda no more coz besek'phuma negazi kum yhooo🥺
@@sibuleledwakaza I’m now breastfeeding smoothly, if my husband didn’t encourage me to hang on no matter what ngendiyekile 😭❤️
Uyaz’ thanda indaba lo bhutana omncinci 😊😂I’m lucky ke mna coz hubby uba onboard ekushushuzeleni.Last born ye2 inonyaka ngoku,Kodwa even today uyand’cedisa.
He once said he fell asleep e theatre,wavuswa ngu nurse & I’m glad that he stopped doing calls😊.
It gets better with time also,emini mommy try to sleep as much as you can,especially if you have someone to help you ❤
@@Aseza17 yhooo umntu nguwwe vhaa 😭😫SBWL ❤️ kaloku once alale , you want to take a bath , you want eat , you want to cikica laa washing yakhe . Kuningi uphetha ungaqalanga😭😭
Malusi😂😂😂😂uthi yi venting session. Aaah man I laugh and sob here
😂🥺yhuuu uyamvaaa , thank you for watching
Condradulations mrs& Mr Madikane ❤mommy cela uzame umbambela ibele klk bby ungazincanceli 😍
Lol ❤
Hi mommy yazi the way uyibalisa ngayo it's exactly the way it is n it's not easy n the depression is real n yabona Wena umvile Shem but bigup to you mommy but one thing I will tell you even if it's a second child Sana kuyafiwa cthandwasam kodwa we are strong bafazi love you lots n am very proud of u mama❤❤❤
Yhooo uthini na ngok! But I really believe the fact that ndi aware uba ziyakhamana then I’ll be prepared ❤❤❤
Thank you sithandwa, I just came back from church andavuya to see the notification kunini ndikrob I even repeated some Vlogs ❤️
😊😊thank you for watching vhaa❤❤❤🙏🙏
Mntase jonga ndakuva vha, the anxiety nokudinwa yhooo but I guess it gets better with time. I was stressed nam when ibele liyeka uphuma but on the other hand I was happy because it then meant ndizafumana uncedo nyana ngoncanciswa whilst ndiphumla😢❤
Ewe breastfeeding has its own emotional weight emntwini le yocaba soze uphefumle 😭🤣guys!! Hayi
Ndihlekiswa ile part ithi “Lomtana uyalithanda ibele”😂😂😂😂Ohw I love u maan guys
😂😂😂noynoooo❤❤
Hi mama ka boy,it's my first time watching your vlog...I have already subscribed mommy ❤❤ all I can say stick to your language,to express yourself fluently..love you guy's.
Thank you for watching. I think I’m going to keep speaking English, as not perfect as it is I’m hoping it will improve. Let’s look at the bigger picture… should the channel grow then I end up on TV. I need my English to have improved and there is no other place to practice than here.
Also I’m not only talking to Xhosa people. I’m trying to accommodate everyone. ❤
@@Tokoza_Makubalo OK mommy ,i get you🥰..
@41:15 yho hle Thokoza mhlobam wena you went through my exact feeling.. Worse kwelocala loba as much as your partner is there but they don't do much umntana xa ekhala aziswe kuwe as if uneMagic zothuthuzela, ndivele ndibenengcwangu ke xa ezobuza uba utheni ungamtshintshi ndikhe ndambuza uba angamtshintshi nje yena, like ingathi uya complainer qho ngezinto endingazenzi right but yena akenzi nenye... Aibo athi wena awumchebi umntana inzipho, awumcleani indlebe ne lwimi I'm like can't he just do ezizinto ndingazenzanga without making me feel like am a failure or a bad mom
@@QhayiyaMatomela hay ndingaligeza ngulo wakho, haibo endaweni yoba ancome!! Also siyayibona lento ihlukanosayo kusobakho umntana. Maka cleane ndlebe athi sharaap ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ love and light mama you doing sooo good ! 🫶😚
Junior is a splitting image of Dr Madikane aka Malusi.
Good ❤
Molwen mntase bendingasanikhumbuli ke ❤❤ enkosi mntase ow Petunana u boy wam uyakhula undincamisele kuye
@@asemahlebeauty4039 😚😚😚❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love you so much guys❤❤❤❤❤❤❤thank you for giving such authentic videos. Love you loads❤❤
Thank you Anele❤
I like your transparency about motherhood,yhoo akho lula but we soldier on
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Malusi is sooo humble yet funny
Oh maarn 🥺❤️, my husband is super humble shame. Just don’t upset him 😂
😂😂😂😂andayihleka ndisayiqala le video yhey yeka uSibari wethu 😂😂😂😂akanabele
😭😭😭 angade arhone mna ndixakeke ngumntana ofana naye!!
Ooooh tokoza sorry mntase kunjalo ubangu mama kabhabha ndandindodwa kulomzi endendele kuwo she is now at college ngu cc.❤❤❤❤🎉🎉
Yhooo ingathi yhintsomi, hazba uyawfika nini lo wam bethuna eVarsity 😂😂❤❤❤❤SBWL Chomy yhooo ungumlungu wena!
My always reminds me how i asked her kuth is thing of motherhood permant and she said even sesikhulile yen she is still worried if uphuma uya emsebemzin she always says a small prayer for protection
Worry ayipheli caba. If you have a piece of you egalavanta kulomhlaba. Whoaw 😭❤️
Hi family Yhoo I enjoyed vlog yakho thanks ngosi updater hey wna u are blessed marn awyazi anxiety yoba ngumzali ube uyisingle parent yetwins but I managed ukuzenzela izinto ndindodwa, badala ngok bana16 years. Khange ndilive igama lika boy. But I enjoyed levlog
Hi babe , thank you so much❤ gama lakhe Ngu Malusi-Junior Madikane.
@@Tokoza_Makubalo oh okay ke nana thanks, ❤
Zithandwa zam 💖👌💖👌💖 jonga Bhukula kusekusasa xa ungumdlezane awulali sana thina umoya sthandwa sam uNxuba asikuko noba akaku support bayalala abatata shame....ndadivuka ndodwa mna but now I understand shame ❤❤❤❤ngxesi
Hayi shame kwaabangcono!! ❤❤ phantse ndafa..
Akasemhle u bhonyongo bethunana.❤❤❤❤🎉
Ndakubetha bhonyongo😂
I don't even have question or anything specific for you guys. I just know that whatever you bring for us, I'll be here watching because I enjoy your authentic videos. ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Whatever feels comfortable for you all to try ningayenza, don't try everything people mention apha please sibone ngani seningabantu esingabaqhelanga. 🙈 Not that I'm against changes but umzekelo andina picture yenu doing Couples pranks😅😅❌
@@tandekilefada4903 haymaarn😂🤣🤣🤣 not pranks Chomy😫 ndazonqena maarn zona!
Yhoooo first time mom is very difficult even use as doctors yhooo ndazaca tuuuu I loss weight in my twins
When it’s your own child awsazazi nezongcebiso ubuzinika ama patient 😭😭 yhoo
Abantu bam savuyi xa ndinibona am happy congrats guys baby boy❤🎉
😅😅❤❤❤❤thank you babe
❤❤❤Siyanibongela bakwaMadikane ngonana wethu❤❤🎉🎉
Thank you 😊❤
I can imagine 😢 mna I'm pregnant and alone, I'm not ready sana. 😂
@@mbalentlemila2798 🥺🥺bethuna ❤️❤️ love and strength mommy
It will get better with time mama ❤❤
Yhoo ububele buka first time mom🤣🤣
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Bantu bam njena jonga love you guys❤❤ Thanda lento ubonile wafunda lekelise ke standwa sam kukhulwa njalo❤❤
Amen 😂😂❤❤
@@Tokoza_Makubalo 😘😘😘
Yho sana thanks for this video ndivele ndibene stress xa ndicinga uba nomntana I don’t have a sister nomamam seke mdala yhuu ndivele ndiqonde bawo
😂zincame ntombo awnovimba abantu iisiblings. ❤
Yey kodwa indlela abazala ngayo abantu,nobaba bazo ingane bebaleke.Uyazibuza ukuthi benza njani ukukhulisa usana bodwa. Ave esekhulile uBoy,akakhali nokukhala uthule di.Or ukhala ebsuku😅?
Yhey you wonder benza njani nyhani abantu.. 🤣🤣uboy unamaxesha wakhe . He was in the mood that day. ❤
Yhooo cc wayethi xa elila ebusuku ndimlinganise cc cz wayencanca engekhomanzi eryt but ndizibuza ulilelani worse at nyt yhooo zihle kum sana inyembezi yhooo
@@Yamza_kaMbali 😭😭😭😭bethuna ay siyaphela sana, sifela ngaphakathi…
Usbari uthi akaloyilo sana😂😂😂❤❤sanithandi
😂😂eshe
😂😂😂😂 ingoma sana
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i like your videos so much they are so pure there's no exaggeration like ninini maarn 😍 keep up the good work mommy
Thank you babe ❤❤
I'm happy to see u guys again congrats luv u❤😊
Thank you babe ❤
I am going to be a new mother again after 12 years! I have not thought much about how difficult the first few weeks are! Ndimfuna apha qha! 🤦🏽♀️😅 U just brought me back to reality. Secondly, I was under the impression that you were still working as a nurse. When did you stop? Why the pressure to go back during what was obviously such a difficult time?
I stopped last year . I was working in Cape Town. I move to Mthatha just before I got married. I was hoping to get something close to my husband. I’ve been looking ever since.. unfortunately I got pregnant very early as soon as I came back. Kwanzima worse ufumana umsebenzi❤
Yooo Thokoza injalo cc xola ..ndino 3mths old ndivuka ndodwa cc yooo iyacaphukisa shm😊
Yho bethuna ❤❤
Sana, your baby boy keeps looking at you…. The boy really loves you❤️❤️❤️
😂😂wazini emncinci. Can’t wait Ade andibone kakuhle!! ❤❤❤
Understand that you are the one who went through labour's pain amadoda akeva niks so sana mxolele coz they always justify noba sele encancile umntana wena nguwe ozotshutshuzela,,,,sorry nana but uzobaryt va❤❤❤😂😂😂
Ewe unyanisile, same applies kwi family u must not expect abantu bavuke bcs bazixelele abanamntana bona abazungalali bengazuhlamba washing yomntana and abaxoki, mna into endingayigxeka yile yolindela uba avuke and clean kodwa khange alale lisana. Ukuya kowenu xa unesana it's to learn izinto ongazaziyo ozobe uzixelelwa not uzenzelwa, Mna ndaboniswa once uhlanjwa njani then ndazihlambela. Xa usiya kokwenu awukwenzelwa uyofundiswa bt telling you what to do not by doing izinto for you. Even nasemzini uzombeka emqolo while usebenza akazuthathwa uzungathi abakucingeli mntase.
Kuzolunga sisi Luu akho nix 😅🤣
@@ncebakazindikandika8777 true❤
😅😅😅😅 utthini ke xa sele ezala every year year uumntu ngathi akeva zintlungu,,,,usenjeni ke ngoba naaku kubalwa abantwana by uuhubby
Ndikwe mbi inja faz 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣yhuuu ndizithakathile ngale ndoda! ❤❤
Yhooo skies cc.kuzolunga mntase
Hi Mr&Mrs Madikane nd yo new dude in the block Madikane jr love u lots may God bless u guys❤❤❤❤🎉
Thank you so much babe ❤
ungandixelel nge breastfeeding ke faz yhooo kunzima vah,I was exclusively breastfeeding for 6 months i thought ndizoyeka xa ethi 1 yhoo wayencanca nelokhala ,he finally stopped breastfeeding at 22 months.umntu ebuya eskolwen anditsale ibele ,ubsuk bonke ndiyancancwa ingath he's covering for elaxesha ndiphangele ngalo yhoo kunzima maan.
Kanti abantu baqhele ukuthi kumnandi njeee and yes kumnandi later but why skip ubalisa the difficult part .. yho hayi . Thank you babe for watching ❤
Ohhh mani..I'm also a first time parent to a 2 year 8 moths old...But owam shem wayelala shwiii ebusuku...Ndade ndabuza inesi bana haibo is it normal for umntana alala kangaka nah?? But shem he was first sweet ebusuku...
You are God’s fav sana sozeeee😂❤
I enjoyed watching this video it made me realize why I don't want to have a baby at this age. It's not easy to be a parent and your life changes after having a baby😢❤. And as a young lady in her early 20s I also realized why I always find it important to have a baby when you are in a good place and have a child with someone who is willing to be there for you and your child.❤
Very true maAsi ❤❤❤
Niyafana sana❤😂
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Hay inoba ambalwa amadoda avukayo girl, utata walo wam wayede avuke ksasa athi hayi khange alile, ndithi Haybooo! Bayadika banjalo sana😂😂but emini wayencedisa xa ekhona phoff,apheke nopheka isupper shame.
Bethunaaa 😭😭😭caba oko eburhuqa buthongo sana Ade angeva!! Nalo wam shame uyapheka but laaveki yokuqala iyafuna uqwalaselwa bafaz!!
Yhoo sis Thokoza Nam ndadikhalazela lonto apha endlini umyeni wam Sana alale ngoku umntana alilayo ade arhone sana ndibendiphela Nam ecaleni bubuthongo bt andinachoice I have to ndinakekele nyanam bt una2months ngoku ndisakhala yhoo uyasokolisa umntana omncinci
Hayi aba bhuti bethuna nithi batheni 😂😂Yhoo phof abantwana bafana nabo 😭❤
I love you guys thanks ❤❤❤
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Congratulations .mama notata ka boy❤❤
Thank you babe ❤
hey mommie thanks for posting
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Mamam sana xa ekhala amzise kum ibengase ndikhale because xa esohlula yena mna nzomthini?😭 yho kunzima sheim ubane newborn ndandikhala oko xa engade alale ndibe mna ndisozelw😂
🤣🫣 izamthini ke nyani wena. Phof kum kuye kuthwe ufuna ibele… ndith khawshishize umntana lo beke wathi ufuna ibele 😂😂😂😂. Uzoba right❤❤
i get your point very well you are expected to be isgora super women mtakabawo kodwa khange ulale ngumntana ekseni kufuneka act as if all is well.
Yhuuu😭😭
Ntomby wayi thatha lite into esasiythetha uba awulali day nd night xa unomntwana ,I told you Avuzwa wayengalali day nd night phofu ndine operation ebuhlungu 😢, mama akayenzi ke yoshishiza mntwana ebusu uthetha ephantsi kwe ngubo 😂but sadlula bakhula abantwana kuzodlula ntombo!
Ndayithatha light Chomy 🤣😂🤭yhoooo wandithiniii umntana, uyamazi ebusuku avele awaqhale amehlo 😭😭😭 kanti nangomso nangalamini! Whoaw hay sekungcono ngok, phantse ndafaa shishi. 😂
Tatakhe uthi uya Venter 😂😂😂Yhoo mommy ndandilila mna kqala worse kwi 1st month mntana engandilalisi tuu wabaright after 3 months I think ndajika kulo Postpartum depression 😂😂
It gets better ❤
😂😂bethuna anitsho kesana nitya tyum nisiyeke siyozivela 😭🫣.. thank you mommy❤
Hey mom .it's normal my love the first 3 month's ziyabila love after 3 month's kuzoba right. Enye into xa u-breastfeeda akufunekanga ukhathazeke or ustresse amabele aya-,re acta naye.❤
Noted , thank you Lebo ❤❤❤❤
We love you guys.
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Owu lv u guys ❤
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Hay mna 11years later I am still clouded ba umntana wesibini umqala ngaphi😅😅yhiiiyhoooo andizi mna mntase
😢 13 years later..andisoyiki okwesibini😅
😂😂so uphelele kulowo?
Yes breastfeeding for the first time is trauma yhooooo guys and the dilemma between using formula and breastfeeding 😢😢😢heee yhey TK wayithetha inyani esingayibalisiyo sana
Why kakade ingabaliswa? The specifics? Yhooo ha.a kunzima shame. Abantu baske bathethe uba kumnandi uncancisa.. phi?
@Tokoza_Makubalo tshini ndaxhoma for my first baby then for the second one noko kwababhetele but ubisi ndaluthenga sheem 😆 😂 😆 but ke sabaryt
The baby boy us so cute,he looks like his daddy ❤.
😊😊😊❤❤❤
Ndizamxelela uButi😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂🤣😂🤣😂 ohhhw Haike!! Zandigxothisa emzini
20:54 u hard on utata😂, plz mnike ithuba 😢😢......
Ndenzeni? Yhoo shuthi sorry ke ..
Yoh tata kancinci ,kancinci uncamisa sana lakhe
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Hi dear abafani abantwa na mybe ozolandela akazolila... Bayakhala cna mna ndandide ndicinge kukho umntu ozhiye into emdaka
😂😂 yho bayakhala cc ❤❤
Sunqena uvloga sifuna ubona umntwana haybo😂😂
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Angaske angabi dlavadlava😂😂😂😂
Yhooo phof umntu ufuna ushiywa nosana edlavdlava 😂😂😂bethuna! ❤
U lil one ngathi ufuna u commenter sana😂
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Yeah nhe, I relate kulento yonke❤️❤️
Power to us bafazi ❤❤❤😊😊😊
But you don't look so tired njengabantu abangalaliyo
Njani kaloku uba ndithi look like my problems 🫠🥰❤️
Lol.... Uba wedwa klk nono😅yamkela kwakulo wokuqala, bonke banjalo
😂😂😂 why bethuna yhooo
hy love ndiyavelana ngawe
I’m fine ngok bhabha vha❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏thank you