31.13: That is the first time I've ever seen Victoria lose her composure and shed light on her family situation. That little tremor in her voice made me get a lump in my throat. I hope that whatever is going on behind the scenes with the emotion that she showed there, she and her family are happy and together
I got a dog and my husband hated her. She had severe separation anxiety. I got help, lots of advice and lots of google and spent hours training her, not just to be calm but how to play, socialise at the park, meet new people and just how to dog it. She was a rescue that had her tail broken was 60% underweight, got severe HGE and all by 5 months old. But after all those hours of training, my husband loves her to bits. Success is about how much you REALLY love your dog and getting good advice.
Separation anxiety is such a hard thing to overcome. When I first took in our lab (a stray), she was severely anxious when we had to leave. The first time we crated her, she pulled on her crate so bad she popped a weld a cut her face. This was a week in. Took a few stitches right above her eye. It took putting her in the crate for a few minutes at a time and walking out of the room. I would let her out after she settled down for a few minutes. It took a couple months, but she finally learned that we would come back, and started sleeping when we put her in the crate. They can really hurt themselves and damage property in their panic.
Amazing how your husband hated her when there was responsibility and work to do. But loves her now that you've done all the responsibility and work. Did it ever occur to you that your husband hated your dog as an excuse to get out of responsibility for it? Did it ever occur to you that your husband's attitude is what caused the anxiety in your dog in the first place? Keep the dog, trash the husband.
Excellent work👍 As for this video, I am currently only at the 15:20 mark and this episode has already got to me more than once. Why is Victoria surprised by his reaction? After enough disappointments and struggles, and I am assuming there has also been broken promises, a fair number of people can't just be like, okay, one apology was made so down go all the walls, and everything is all good, just rainbows and unicorns. After enough garbage, proof is needed. Personally myself, I think he handled it quite well considering everything that was going on😇
“I wanted a dog trainer, not a marriage counsellor”. He doesn’t know 😂😂😂😂 I would love to know how Scooby turned out. He’s a beautiful doggo. I got teary when he reached the 2 minute goal 🥹🥹🥹
@@Negin.Namagucci it bothered me so much when the wife said she needs his help, and the husband said he wants his wife to say "i was wrong, i screwed up [getting a dog]." no, jackass, what do you NEED in order to step up and help this dog who needs YOU? not a debasing groveling ego-stroke from your wife. what a deeply insecure sad sack excuse for a man.
I get that it’s uncomfortable but when he said that it made me so mad cuz 1) it’s all connected and 2) it seems you may need one even if you don’t want one
@@Negin.Namaguccinot really. His house is f**ked, windows are shattered, garrage is damaged. I would have lost ky sh*t as well. Houses these days are expensive and major damages like these would p*ss anyone off
@@arrow2380 Still that doesn’t mean he’s in the right either. Even if he did not want a dog, he still has to be committed in some way or another. A dog is like a baby, if you leave all the responsibility on the mom because you didn’t want to have a baby, then you’re a scumbag. And the fact he just blames blames blames instead of taking action regardless shows how much of a coward he is. It may be the wife’s dog, but that doesn’t mean she has to do the brunt of the work!
I actually laughed at her walking out like that. That was fantastic🙈 but then immediately got weepy seeing her lose composure talking about being away from her family. She's just such an incredibly intuitive person, and to make such a quick emotional response and connection like that is, well, incredible!
The husband hits almost every trigger I have. My ex did the same over our children. He was jealous of any time spent with the kids. Wouldn't help with them at all and when I confronted him about it was told you wanted them I didn't. Well got rid of him and got a dog. My life was so much better. 😂
my ex did the same with my dogs, if I spent any time with them he got jealous and mad (of the dogs), so I kicked him out and now I have a new bf and still live with my puppies
I have a dog with extreme separation anxiety. He had a rough start to life, to say the least. I worked with my vet, a trainer, and ultimately for his safety he got put on prozac. He was trying to chew through his hefty metal crate which is what prompted meds. He still has anxiety, but with medication (at a lower dose than at first) he's able to be home alone and chill. Every dog is different. Now I work from home, but he still snoozes the day away, or moves up and downstairs. I can leave him and his siblings all day if needed and they are ok. Takes time and patience and love and compassion..❤
Sending your dog lots of love 💕, mine suffers trauma and anxiety from her past , we rescued her , whilst she has been having training sessions she's been having Nutripaw calming treat every day , it's helped her anxiety levels thank goodness, they have natural ingredients, as nothing else has been working to help her .
Do you REALLY want to solve the problem? Do you want it more than to cling to a training ideology? If so, find a competent BALANCED trainer. First, forget the "difficult past" and the "why". Stop coddling the dog because of its difficult past and just focus on HOW to solve the problem without any empathy or guilt. The answer for separation anxiety is generally, get it off the meds, IMMENSE structure... respecting thresholds, authority over entering and exiting the crate, always under command while in the house, no free roaming (downstay or place), no free feeding, cut affection to near ZERO, strict obedience, make the windows and doors HOT (not covered).... yes that means an eCollar with a remote camera, crate the dog when you are not home in a secure and safe crate that they can't break out of. This couple tried some of the right tools. They just didn't know how to use them which is why you need a balanced trainer to guide you. Greg mentioned that they were 4 months into the training! FOUR MONTHS to get a dog to say 3 minutes alone. OH PLEASE. I promise you, with a good balanced trainer, you will see tremendous results in a short timeframe... no meds and no window coverings, and you will see a tremendous change and your dog and your relationship with your dog will completely change once you become the leader that your dog needs. You will be happier. Your dog will be happier, and you can eventually have the affectionate and satisfying relationship with your dog that you dream of.... much faster and much more easily than is presented in this video. Also, Victoria said that this is the most extreme case that she has seen and was so dramatic about fixing separating anxiety. I don't think she has seen extreme. You know when separation anxiety is extreme??? It's when the dog literally rips out all of its own teeth trying to get out of the crate because it's so out of its mind and you come home to a pool of blood. That's when you had better have a REALLY good trainer.
my thoughts as soon as i saw the dogs reactions, i was like separation anxiety to the max, something happened very badly in his life before they got him , he's terrified their going to leave him.
@@samwdavis The fact that you said to use an electric collar, made me dismiss everything else you said. No free roaming? No affection? You sure found a lof of ways to say you don't know the first thing about dogs. Or you watch other "dog trainers" that use shock collars and pain to train dogs and think that's acceptable.
Scooby is just so sweet..I really hope his anxiety dissipates for good, and it’s so nice to see this couple work through resentments and frustration, and come through stronger
18:28 and other times. She just expects him to get over everything just like that. His stress is through the roof. She can't expect change at the snap of a finger. He is not even barking at her, he even said, that it's a start, so he is showing even then that he is willing to do his part. Just don't expect a lot of the stress to go away so quickly, because he had so much of it that, that is what would have had to happen for him to react the way she wanted him to at that point in time.
"It's not my job to take care of the dog." "It's not my job to clean the garage." "Its not my responsibility to repair the house." "Playing music will get old quickly." "I need more than an apology" Man...do you do anything productive at all?
Like yeah, I understand he's upset and frustrated with this dog he didn't want (justifiably), but the fact is that the dog is here now and he can do at least a little bit for it. Nobody is asking him to do everything, and he shouldn't have to. His reactions just seem kind of petty and childish to me.
My parents have a very anxious Chilean rescue dog, shes terrified of other dogs and can be quite difficult to walk, she also needs to share her living space with my cat whos a bit older and not fond of other animals in her living space I think the amount of love and compassion you show your pet will make a world of difference in life, my dogs is so well loved by my entire family (including myself before I moved out for college), she loves just lazing around the house with whoever she can find and running around the backyard, she never bothers my cat and we have not had any issues with her to this day I personally think your dog's composure says more about their owners than the dog
@@j800r_aswell true, but a dog requires attention from everyone. If you have a problem that bothers you, instead of complaining like what the husband always does and blames everyone else, you fix the problem.
@@diamehikoru2must be nice to be able to distance yourself from a problem in a home just because you didn’t want it to happen. Does that work with leaks/plumbing, broken appliances, fires, natural disasters and accidental children too?
I get that Greg never wanted a dog in the first place but with him not doing anything to help out with Scooby and just dumping all the responsibilities onto Laura it feels like he’s doing all of this just to spite her
I hate seeing this. My housemates moved into my house when I had 2 dogs (the old one passed away in 21), and they had no respect for either dog. They still hardly respect my dog but at the bare minimum they at least let her out sometimes. It doesn't matter who gets the dog, if you live with animals of any kind you need to respect them as another living being at the very least
Ive been watching this show for months now and it really help me understand our dog more and i keep pushing my whole family to watch Victoria. Yelling , hitting, and dragging the dog really not good for the dog which everyone in my family do so i show them how praising and rewarding good behavior helps me and the dog. Now I’m the dogs favorite human 😂, now they also want to mimic what i do so they can get the dogs loyalty.
The sheer disconnect between the two is fricking amazing in the first two minutes wife: we got him from a shelter. We were instantly in love, the whole family! husband: I didn´t bring the dog here. I didn´t really want the dog bruh who gets a pet without consulting their partner first?? that´s so selfish
I think what bothers me is the massive resistance to help. It's your dog, your job. If you take the dog out of it, it comes down to the fact that you are a family. Family helps one another. For better or worse. Be there for one another, if you see each other struggling, step in.
There's a total lack of respect on her part and selfishness to bring a dog into the home without having a conversation. I totally understand him as.the same thing happened to me.
These videos are great because show that if there is a problem, there is a way to fix it if you put 110% effort in and support each other to help your dog. It's lovely to see all these dogs start their journeys to happy futures.😄
How does Laura live with such a selfish man on a daily basis 🥺 the fact that the son who initially wanted the dog isn't helping either shows how much of his father's behavior has rubbed on him
Well the man was honest & he said that he doesn't want anything to do with the dog. When living in a family you have to talked through or that happens. If the dog was less destructive, maybe he would have warmed up to the dog. Many times in the show this negligence happens because one family members wanted a pet & brought the dog without others consent.
Doggy daycare when they go to work would 1) save their house, 2) have the dog supervised and playing with other dogs for 8 hrs, 3) wear out all his energy.
Oh man I would never. My husband worked at a couple of local doggy daycares in the area and all of them were horrific. Dog fights all day, mixing reactive dogs together, poop and pee everywhere. Idk. He couldn't do it. I hope other doggy daycares are better, but I would feel weird leaving a dog there
@@dietotakushe has. I believe the dogs (tiny barking fluffy dogs that I can't spell) belonged to a few friends who lived together but never bothered to potty train them. They didn't want to clean up the poop, pee, take for walks, nothing. She told them to find them a new home. She literally just stopped training
@@her-myoh-nee1324 there was more than one group of friends letting little dogs potty inside and not cleaning it up? I remember the 4 girls and how she told them the dogs *should* be rehomed but she did teach them and they all kept their dogs. although now that I think about it I seem to remember there being a stray/rescue named peanut butter that ended up being rehomed, but I don't know if Victoria was involved in that.
@@dietotakuyou are correct. The pitbull mix peanut butter. She told them the dog should be rehomed. But tried to help them see if they could keep her. They decided to rehome her at the very end. Which wasn’t a surprise two of the kids never wanted her and couldn’t stand her. The other animals were afraid of her. And the mom after realizing the amount of work the dog needed she realized she had to much on her plate as a single mom who worked full time, had 3 kids, and had 3 other dogs and I think 3 cats as well. And she couldn’t give peanut butter what she needed.
It amazes me how many of these I watch and you look around and these problem dogs you don't see toys for thedogs. You don't see dog beds in the rooms, you dont see 'doggy things' in the homes of dogs with these problems. Dogs need more than just food and water. I'm disabled and my dogs are medical alert service dogs and retired service dogs so there with me 24/7, and even so I still have a kennel open for them to retreat into when they want to get away from people and have there own space. I have dog beds all over so they have there own places to lay down on the floor, and blankets on the spots on the furniture ment for them so they can burrow and snuggle without worry on my furniture. There is a basket of toys in each room that they get things out of, and i have trained them to put there toys away when there done playing so they don't get under my wheelchair. So even if I decide to go next door and not take my dog with me, they don't stress out. They have toys, beds, treats, chew things, and they know I'll be back.
The husband should be ashamed because he even dose Marshal Arts but yet doesn’t take the time to take care of Scooby and not evening allowing his son to help and blaming his wife for everything. Shame on him 😡
@@nickyjones867my dad didn't agree on some of my decisions. But as soon as I got into trouble cuz of MY decisions, my dad was right there to help! He never said things like "that was your fault! Its not my responsibility" you know why? Cuz that's exactly what a loving family does! Being there for each other, no matter what!!!
My dog has a mild case of separation anxiety, and we helped him deal with it. He loves to be around people and have lots of affection and love surrounding him, and when he doesn’t, he gets stressed. I wish this family helped their dog more.
Good for you!! So many people in this comment section are being way too harsh on the father/husband, including Victoria. 38:08 Victoria needs to stop and just back off. She has been on his case far too much and the others far too little. The solutions and understandings are there. Meaning that he will be fine so long as the failures are not occurring on the regular.
Scooby is a beautiful boy ❤ best of luck buddy! Thank goodness for Victoria, and the family coming together for him. I bet he's gonna be a great dog with consistency and positive reinforcement 😊
I had a dog like this with this level of separation anxiety. Honestly after every other Avenue the only thing that really works is medication. Cause no matter how much excersise and attention you give the dog when your around a dog with separation anxiety still goes bonkers the second you leave. Combine medication with ALOT of desensitizing to the triggers. And alot of exercise when with the dog. Then you can get to something slightly manageable. But separation anxiety like this requires medical treatment.
@@JEM471025 no it doesn't. It REQUIRES COMMITMENT from the owners to teach him INDEPENDENCE which is calming for the dog, builds his confidence and comfort level and for God's sake STOP enabling the dog with so much affection.... you're rewarding him for bad behavior. You set boundaries with your children, you TEACH your children independence and help them DEVELOP confidence... Animals are no different. They've got a LOT of committed work to do TOGETHER TO undo 6 years of THEIR bad "training " They've instilled in this poor dog. But NO it does not REQUIRE medication. There's no "wonder drug" to magically "fix" his trained or learned behavior.
I hate everything about the husband. He is arrogant, ignorant, selfish, self-centred, doesn’t really want help with the dog, he wants Victoria to fail, so he has an excuse to get rid of the dog. It doesn’t matter how much his wife apologises and grovels (which she shouldn’t need to do), he will never be satisfied, he just wants her to feel bad/guilty forever. He’s a waste of space. He needs to go more than anyone.
Why? He didn't want the dog, he is at fault for not putting his foot down right at the start. Yes he now needs to help sort the dog out but I really do understand why he is so angry with his wife
@@karenlloyd1705 but here is the thing, he will not accept her apologies or even acknowledge them. When people have justified anger or feel wronged, apologies serve to prove they are right and valid their feelings and prove the other acknowledges their bad behavior. However, apologies do not work when the anger is motivated by a need of power and control, or pettiness. In this situation, he doesn’t want things to be sorted out, he just wants to make his wife feel bad and get her to listen to him, which can be seen in the way he reacts to her apologies. People like you need to realize that feelings, like anger, are some of the best tools manipulators, abusers, and narcissists use to control others.
greg buddy. it's not enough effort on YOUR part. you own the house, even my father who is a literal baby boomer born in 1954 helps clean up after messes. he would never leave this type of damage
Just got my pup Golden a year ago. Watched allot of victoria's video's. Helpt me a lot. My Golden is the sweetiest dog ever and a good listener. Thank you so much!
My dog had really bad separation anxiety for a while and this made me really sad 😭, he'd been returned before multiple times and as soon as we left the room he tore it to shreds. You just have to show the dog that you'll come back and that you love them like they love you.
What a vile man he is. I can totally see why the dog is so stressed and the poor wife feels put upon. The husband was wrong when he said he doesn't need marriage counselling. He definitely needs it. I hope the wife and pup are happy now, I really do. Much love sweetheart 😢😢
I'm current pregnant, in my first trimester. When my husband and I got our dog 4 years ago, I was the primary person who cared for him. Now, my husband walks our dog to keep me out of the summer heat and prevent any falls. He's shocked at how well our dog behaves on the leash and how good his recall is when he plays off leash. It takes a village for a dog to be part of the pack
The first walk through of the destruction was very familiar. My girl had the same anxiety when i left her alone for the first long time for 7 hours only a couple months after rescuing her. We now have another puppy and many toys and with training too we see a lot of improvement. Being alone is so hard for pack animals.
He is a VERY emotionally immature child, he hates his wife, he hates his family, he can’t put away any frustration to buckle down and do work for the sake of any other living being. He blames everyone on earth rather than himself or even to just say, “it’s my house, so no matter who made the mess, it needs to be cleaned”. Selfish and useless attitude. I can’t believe that anyone was ever attracted to him.
While it is not good to speak ill of the dead... he is such a prime example of toxic masculinity. Not to mention has zero respect for his wife or family.
I love dogs however they are a huge committment and a lot of effort and love I can't blame the husband for being upset There should have been a family discussion first I hope that everything can work out and they can all fall in love with the pooch..❤
Victoria go all in for this dog trying her best to get into his heart by doing what he is passionate about and leave... So much respect to how far she is willing to do to get the message imbedded
That's why I'm against having fish or rats. My husband wants them but I know that It's gonna be my responsibility to take care of them, and I don't want to take care of such pets, I personally find them tedious. He doesn't want to get a dog but I'm okay since I know that I'll be the one feeding, walking and caring for it but that is smth I accept. But since neither one of us wants what the other one wants, we just don't get any pets at all. Which is the best responsible thing we can do.
I'm Not Giving Greg Any Passes On How He Treated His Wife But Agree She Should Have Had A Discussion With Greg Beforehand In Adopting A Dog Knowing He Didn't Want A Dog.. I've Read In Other Comments That Greg Passed Away But Couldn't Find Anything About Greg's Passing, If So Sending Prayers To This. Family Members!! Greg Seemed To Come Around With Helping Scooby And His.Wife!!
I so needed this video! My border collie is not destructive, but definitely doesn't do too well without me!! We only have each other, and I pay him way too much attention! He's perfect in most respects, but I also don't like being parted from him! I have learned a lot to help us both in this video ❤️❤️
This is why we need laws that people who don’t know anything about dogs, can’t have dogs. That dog was tortured for having a panic attack. This goes for all animals, you don’t know cats? You don’t get a cat. It’s so unfair to the animals
Love comment and what is the worst is that house/ family including dog all suffer as a result. Like " Laura's " comment about windows ( make more " neighborly " lol ) if Scooby happy I ( we ) as viewers of this are happy, ty husband ( like to say Greg if wrong name sorry ) for more understanding of dog.
This reminds me of our dog Maggie because she had severe separation anxiety as well because when my younger brother Patrick would go out anywhere she would just get really! Upset sp much she would messed up his bed room when ever Patrick would leave the house because she really! Wanted to be with him 24/7
As someone who has had animals dumped onto them without wanting them, I totally understand the husbands frustration here. To be honest, this family should've rehomed the dog long ago. They clearly cannot handle or properly take care of this dog.
I really don't think a house should get a dog with the "Your dog your responsibility " mentality. I think If you want a dog and the rest of your family doesn't, then you shouldn't get one. It just doesn't work.
I never understand how in most of these, one partner is always saying “your dog, your responsibility” like they’re not talking to a wife or a husband, but a child
Honestly, It's not gonna work out for this family. When Victoria says "You didn't want this dog, but he's here now and you have to help him." No, you don't. You give the dog to someone who will actually appreciate them and not feel disdain towards it and his wife. Is he a saint? No. But the dog would be better off elsewhere.
This woman shouldn’t have gotten the dog without his permission. Then later in force the responsibility upon him while he never even had a chance to say yes or no. She is to be blamed for sure. Then she is the one who enabled the dog to have severe detachment disorder. People like her shouldn’t get a dog!
This really isn’t on the wife or the dog or on anybody. The wife tried to do a good thing, it went wrong but she doesn’t deserve the crap her husband is giving her and I don’t think she really did anything wrong here. The husband just wants his ego stroked.
To be fair, the husband had every right to be angry, but there has to be a time and point to forgive and move on. Holding onto the past doesn't help anything.
Honestly he didn't even have to forgive, just accept that it happened and deal with the consequences. The way he was expressing his frustration was making the situation worse, unfortunately. I really think couples therapy would have helped these two.
Ok first of all, the fact that the dog stayed in the house, must mean that he at some point accepted the dog being there. Probably when he was a puppy he didn't cause that much trouble so he was indifferent, then when the trouble began he bailed out. No buddy, if he really didn't want a dog, the dog shouldn't have been allowed to stay even for a day in their house. But then, the absolute lack of empathy he shows to his wife is shocking. Even if it's all her fault, if you care about someone you want to help them, not pin them down, guilt them to oblivion, then make them feel worse about it. What's the point of family if you can't turn to it when you make mistakes and need help? Edit: Ok glad he showed some signs of care and understanding at the end.
Another case of humans being selfish by bringing a dog home when they shouldn't!!! They dont need this dog!! The husband told the wife he didnt want a dog and she brought one home anyway. Now shes crying because she wants help with the dog?? These humans created this highly anxious unstable dog.
Omg i hate that guy!!! Oblivious, Non helpful, No respect, No partnership, No family oriented. You matters well live by yourself because he is no use at all
Children, houses, cars, dogs THEYRE TWO YES ONE NO situations. Things that impact everyone's environment absolutely must be this case, because it ends like this.
22:19 DOGS ARE NOT HUMANS but even if they were we coddle kids and they turn out as spoiled entitled people who don't know boundaries. How, with a communication barrier present, does she think that the outcome would be better with a dog.
Im seeing alot of hate on the husband. I want people to understand while he should not have behaved like that to the dog or his wife, He did not want the dog. She did not respect that he did not want a dog, getting a dog is a family decision not just one person. If that one person that wants a dog still gets a dog despite the other family members making it clear they did not want one than that person is responsible for the care of the dog. Im not saying you cant hate on him, im saying hate on him for the right reasons, You should be upset about how he adresses his family not the fact that he doesn't want to take responsiblity for something he didn't want.
It's been SIX YEARS. Regardless if he wanted the dog or not, after that much time he accepts part of the blame for the destruction with his inaction. It's partly his fault that $1000 worth of damage turned into $15000. Not that I have much faith in people who think shock collars are an appropriate response to clear signs of separation anxiety in a dog.
@@ASentientPlantthis episode is not about that. There issues weren’t anything the dog does on the regular. It was literally just the separation anxiety. And the owners didn’t realize separation anxiety was a thing in dogs. So that’s why they handled it so poorly. They said he’s sweet and well behaved on the regular but goes bonkers when left alone. I had a dog with that level of separation anxiety. There’s no amount of exercise that changes that without medical treatment. To treat that it’s a combination of lots of exercise when with the dog, a lot of desensitizing to a lot of there triggers, leaving them with items that have your scent which helps them self sooth, plus medication. It’s actually very difficult to manage.
It's messed up when the partner does NOT want a Dog or animal. And the other goes against it. The wife SHOULD be responsible. She's the one that wanted the Dog, NOT her Husband. In my Marriage. I wanted cats. So I am fully responsible for my cats. I care for them and trained them. With that, my Husband has grown to love em and will help out, but I know I wanted em and am fully responsible❤
My sister got a dog I hated it for awhile than as me and the dog started to play I started to love being with the dog and even when I hated the idea and started to love it I always tried to help my sister take care of the dog I trim her fur,help her bathe the dog,get stuff out her mouth,clean her cage,clean her mats and I even trained the dog how to go upstairs and give me a fist bump
When was this episode filmed? Since we know most of the episodes are “timeless” so they can be shown for years, it would still be interesting to know the year it was filmed, and it would also be interesting to have some follow-up videos showing how the families and dogs are faring now.
if someone in your family doesn't want an animal, you don't get the animal, easy peasy. i don't blame him because dogs are a huge commitment and responsibility, especially this dog. and it's a commitment i love, but the same way i wouldn't want anyone dropping a child on my doorstep, this guy didn't want this dog, and all the responsibility that came with him.
31.13: That is the first time I've ever seen Victoria lose her composure and shed light on her family situation. That little tremor in her voice made me get a lump in my throat. I hope that whatever is going on behind the scenes with the emotion that she showed there, she and her family are happy and together
Yeah I was like, _please_ someone go _hug her._ 🥺 (Who isn't all sweaty).
I felt so bad when I heard that. I didn’t really think about her situation at all
It was fr the first time i’ve ever saw her get emotional and it breaks my heart
Yes, sounds like there may have been a children or child or parents at home that she was away from that rely on her. I totally get it.
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I got a dog and my husband hated her. She had severe separation anxiety. I got help, lots of advice and lots of google and spent hours training her, not just to be calm but how to play, socialise at the park, meet new people and just how to dog it. She was a rescue that had her tail broken was 60% underweight, got severe HGE and all by 5 months old. But after all those hours of training, my husband loves her to bits. Success is about how much you REALLY love your dog and getting good advice.
I love this comment ❤
Thank you xx
Separation anxiety is such a hard thing to overcome. When I first took in our lab (a stray), she was severely anxious when we had to leave. The first time we crated her, she pulled on her crate so bad she popped a weld a cut her face. This was a week in. Took a few stitches right above her eye.
It took putting her in the crate for a few minutes at a time and walking out of the room. I would let her out after she settled down for a few minutes. It took a couple months, but she finally learned that we would come back, and started sleeping when we put her in the crate.
They can really hurt themselves and damage property in their panic.
Amazing how your husband hated her when there was responsibility and work to do. But loves her now that you've done all the responsibility and work. Did it ever occur to you that your husband hated your dog as an excuse to get out of responsibility for it? Did it ever occur to you that your husband's attitude is what caused the anxiety in your dog in the first place? Keep the dog, trash the husband.
Excellent work👍
As for this video, I am currently only at the 15:20 mark and this episode has already got to me more than once. Why is Victoria surprised by his reaction? After enough disappointments and struggles, and I am assuming there has also been broken promises, a fair number of people can't just be like, okay, one apology was made so down go all the walls, and everything is all good, just rainbows and unicorns. After enough garbage, proof is needed. Personally myself, I think he handled it quite well considering everything that was going on😇
“I wanted a dog trainer, not a marriage counsellor”. He doesn’t know 😂😂😂😂
I would love to know how Scooby turned out. He’s a beautiful doggo. I got teary when he reached the 2 minute goal 🥹🥹🥹
He’s so mean
@@Negin.Namagucci it bothered me so much when the wife said she needs his help, and the husband said he wants his wife to say "i was wrong, i screwed up [getting a dog]." no, jackass, what do you NEED in order to step up and help this dog who needs YOU? not a debasing groveling ego-stroke from your wife. what a deeply insecure sad sack excuse for a man.
I get that it’s uncomfortable but when he said that it made me so mad cuz 1) it’s all connected and 2) it seems you may need one even if you don’t want one
@@Negin.Namaguccinot really. His house is f**ked, windows are shattered, garrage is damaged. I would have lost ky sh*t as well. Houses these days are expensive and major damages like these would p*ss anyone off
@@arrow2380
Still that doesn’t mean he’s in the right either. Even if he did not want a dog, he still has to be committed in some way or another. A dog is like a baby, if you leave all the responsibility on the mom because you didn’t want to have a baby, then you’re a scumbag.
And the fact he just blames blames blames instead of taking action regardless shows how much of a coward he is. It may be the wife’s dog, but that doesn’t mean she has to do the brunt of the work!
I actually laughed at her walking out like that. That was fantastic🙈 but then immediately got weepy seeing her lose composure talking about being away from her family. She's just such an incredibly intuitive person, and to make such a quick emotional response and connection like that is, well, incredible!
As someone who suffers severe anxiety my heart breaks for how terrible this dog must be feeling.
Hope ur doing ok .I know how crippling it can be .If you're not on medication I would suggest seek a GP .
The husband hits almost every trigger I have. My ex did the same over our children. He was jealous of any time spent with the kids. Wouldn't help with them at all and when I confronted him about it was told you wanted them I didn't. Well got rid of him and got a dog. My life was so much better. 😂
Ah, so the kids also approved of the dog as the new father (jk)
@samanthastaley8836 This comment reeks of toxic femininity.
Well done 👍💖💖💖
To say that about your own children is WILD. I’m sorry you had to deal with such a waste of oxygen, glad you’re doing better without him!
my ex did the same with my dogs, if I spent any time with them he got jealous and mad (of the dogs), so I kicked him out and now I have a new bf and still live with my puppies
I have a dog with extreme separation anxiety. He had a rough start to life, to say the least. I worked with my vet, a trainer, and ultimately for his safety he got put on prozac. He was trying to chew through his hefty metal crate which is what prompted meds.
He still has anxiety, but with medication (at a lower dose than at first) he's able to be home alone and chill.
Every dog is different.
Now I work from home, but he still snoozes the day away, or moves up and downstairs.
I can leave him and his siblings all day if needed and they are ok.
Takes time and patience and love and compassion..❤
I was surprised that didn’t mention medication in this episode
Sending your dog lots of love 💕, mine suffers trauma and anxiety from her past , we rescued her , whilst she has been having training sessions she's been having Nutripaw calming treat every day , it's helped her anxiety levels thank goodness, they have natural ingredients, as nothing else has been working to help her .
Do you REALLY want to solve the problem? Do you want it more than to cling to a training ideology? If so, find a competent BALANCED trainer. First, forget the "difficult past" and the "why". Stop coddling the dog because of its difficult past and just focus on HOW to solve the problem without any empathy or guilt. The answer for separation anxiety is generally, get it off the meds, IMMENSE structure... respecting thresholds, authority over entering and exiting the crate, always under command while in the house, no free roaming (downstay or place), no free feeding, cut affection to near ZERO, strict obedience, make the windows and doors HOT (not covered).... yes that means an eCollar with a remote camera, crate the dog when you are not home in a secure and safe crate that they can't break out of. This couple tried some of the right tools. They just didn't know how to use them which is why you need a balanced trainer to guide you. Greg mentioned that they were 4 months into the training! FOUR MONTHS to get a dog to say 3 minutes alone. OH PLEASE. I promise you, with a good balanced trainer, you will see tremendous results in a short timeframe... no meds and no window coverings, and you will see a tremendous change and your dog and your relationship with your dog will completely change once you become the leader that your dog needs. You will be happier. Your dog will be happier, and you can eventually have the affectionate and satisfying relationship with your dog that you dream of.... much faster and much more easily than is presented in this video. Also, Victoria said that this is the most extreme case that she has seen and was so dramatic about fixing separating anxiety. I don't think she has seen extreme. You know when separation anxiety is extreme??? It's when the dog literally rips out all of its own teeth trying to get out of the crate because it's so out of its mind and you come home to a pool of blood. That's when you had better have a REALLY good trainer.
my thoughts as soon as i saw the dogs reactions, i was like separation anxiety to the max, something happened very badly in his life before they got him , he's terrified their going to leave him.
@@samwdavis The fact that you said to use an electric collar, made me dismiss everything else you said. No free roaming? No affection? You sure found a lof of ways to say you don't know the first thing about dogs. Or you watch other "dog trainers" that use shock collars and pain to train dogs and think that's acceptable.
Scooby is just so sweet..I really hope his anxiety dissipates for good, and it’s so nice to see this couple work through resentments and frustration, and come through stronger
everytime when victoria almost starts to cry it breaks my heart 🥺🥺
18:28 and other times. She just expects him to get over everything just like that. His stress is through the roof. She can't expect change at the snap of a finger. He is not even barking at her, he even said, that it's a start, so he is showing even then that he is willing to do his part. Just don't expect a lot of the stress to go away so quickly, because he had so much of it that, that is what would have had to happen for him to react the way she wanted him to at that point in time.
"It's not my job to take care of the dog." "It's not my job to clean the garage." "Its not my responsibility to repair the house." "Playing music will get old quickly." "I need more than an apology" Man...do you do anything productive at all?
Nope, sure didn't. I don't know how she can stay married to him.
He trains MMA, the only Sport he knows is Bullshitdo
I feel like he's one of those "I work, therefore I am" kind of men.
Like yeah, I understand he's upset and frustrated with this dog he didn't want (justifiably), but the fact is that the dog is here now and he can do at least a little bit for it. Nobody is asking him to do everything, and he shouldn't have to. His reactions just seem kind of petty and childish to me.
I feel like he’s a narcissist. Must be a lot of stuff ride in him being a trained fighter
When you have a family of ppl, & only some ppl want the dog, not only does the family suffer, but the dog suffers as well.
My parents have a very anxious Chilean rescue dog, shes terrified of other dogs and can be quite difficult to walk, she also needs to share her living space with my cat whos a bit older and not fond of other animals in her living space
I think the amount of love and compassion you show your pet will make a world of difference in life, my dogs is so well loved by my entire family (including myself before I moved out for college), she loves just lazing around the house with whoever she can find and running around the backyard, she never bothers my cat and we have not had any issues with her to this day
I personally think your dog's composure says more about their owners than the dog
She is so good at talking to the owners, you can see she cares for the dogs and the owners❤
I have a dog with separation anxiety. i understand this, but i never gave up she’s now medicated, and when I'm home, i spend time with her
You all are responsible for your dog and take charge and exercise plus get dog toys to keep him entertained all day ❤
It is not fair for wife and he is being mean and selfish and disrespectful towards her he needs to help her ❤
She weren't innocent either. The only victim is the dog.
No, he doesn't. It's not his dog and it's ruined the house. Get the dog a better home with better people.
@@j800r_aswell true, but a dog requires attention from everyone. If you have a problem that bothers you, instead of complaining like what the husband always does and blames everyone else, you fix the problem.
@@j800r_aswellthe comment about cleaning the garage was the most petty thing I’ve seen in a while and I watch Real Housewives
@@diamehikoru2must be nice to be able to distance yourself from a problem in a home just because you didn’t want it to happen. Does that work with leaks/plumbing, broken appliances, fires, natural disasters and accidental children too?
I get that Greg never wanted a dog in the first place but with him not doing anything to help out with Scooby and just dumping all the responsibilities onto Laura it feels like he’s doing all of this just to spite her
Yeah, it's his way of punishing her for disobeying him. Not a healthy relationship at all.
Yeah, Just because someone married you doesn’t mean you get your way all the time.
When he complained that playing music for the dog was too much...
Oh he definitely is doing it to spite her
I hate seeing this. My housemates moved into my house when I had 2 dogs (the old one passed away in 21), and they had no respect for either dog. They still hardly respect my dog but at the bare minimum they at least let her out sometimes. It doesn't matter who gets the dog, if you live with animals of any kind you need to respect them as another living being at the very least
Ive been watching this show for months now and it really help me understand our dog more and i keep pushing my whole family to watch Victoria. Yelling , hitting, and dragging the dog really not good for the dog which everyone in my family do so i show them how praising and rewarding good behavior helps me and the dog. Now I’m the dogs favorite human 😂, now they also want to mimic what i do so they can get the dogs loyalty.
This is not the first time Victoria has walked out on the owners love it when she does that ❤
Poor Scooby. I think they also didn't exercise him enough and he was cooped out in that house all day.
I think it broke my heart a little when Victoria talked about being away from her family. I definitely teared up. Mad respect for what she does.
Something not right when a dog is hurting itself to get out the house. I wonder about how dad treats her behind the scenes.
it can't be good
That’s a really insightful point.
The sheer disconnect between the two is fricking amazing in the first two minutes
wife: we got him from a shelter. We were instantly in love, the whole family!
husband: I didn´t bring the dog here. I didn´t really want the dog
bruh who gets a pet without consulting their partner first?? that´s so selfish
I think what bothers me is the massive resistance to help. It's your dog, your job. If you take the dog out of it, it comes down to the fact that you are a family. Family helps one another. For better or worse. Be there for one another, if you see each other struggling, step in.
There's a total lack of respect on her part and selfishness to bring a dog into the home without having a conversation. I totally understand him as.the same thing happened to me.
The guy looks like a big baby.
acts like one too
Like there's no possible way that he's a mix martial arts trainer...
I don't understand how he's acting like a baby? Maybe it's a woman thing to be happy go lucky even if your propery and furnitures are damaged.
He wears giant diapers
These videos are great because show that if there is a problem, there is a way to fix it if you put 110% effort in and support each other to help your dog. It's lovely to see all these dogs start their journeys to happy futures.😄
These videos are great because show if there is a problem way to fix it you put 110 effort in and support each other to help your
How does Laura live with such a selfish man on a daily basis 🥺 the fact that the son who initially wanted the dog isn't helping either shows how much of his father's behavior has rubbed on him
Everything is a man's fault, no matter what you do
Well the man was honest & he said that he doesn't want anything to do with the dog. When living in a family you have to talked through or that happens. If the dog was less destructive, maybe he would have warmed up to the dog. Many times in the show this negligence happens because one family members wanted a pet & brought the dog without others consent.
When a man acts like a petulant child then yes it is. When men take responsibility then things get sorted.
@@arrow2380excuse me, did WE watch the same Video???
Doggy daycare when they go to work would 1) save their house, 2) have the dog supervised and playing with other dogs for 8 hrs, 3) wear out all his energy.
My neighbor used doggy day care & his dog loved it! I had never heard of doggy day care but I think it's a fabulous idea
Oh man I would never. My husband worked at a couple of local doggy daycares in the area and all of them were horrific. Dog fights all day, mixing reactive dogs together, poop and pee everywhere. Idk. He couldn't do it. I hope other doggy daycares are better, but I would feel weird leaving a dog there
You have to find the right doggie daycare. Mine loved gong. It was his home away from home…
Yes but it’s not available for everyone
This poor dog needs a new home. I admire Victoria and think shes a great dog trainer. She needs to consider rehoming is not a failure
i wonder if she has ever actually coached a family through rehoming a dog they couldn't handle?
@@dietotakushe has
@@dietotakushe has. I believe the dogs (tiny barking fluffy dogs that I can't spell) belonged to a few friends who lived together but never bothered to potty train them. They didn't want to clean up the poop, pee, take for walks, nothing. She told them to find them a new home. She literally just stopped training
@@her-myoh-nee1324 there was more than one group of friends letting little dogs potty inside and not cleaning it up? I remember the 4 girls and how she told them the dogs *should* be rehomed but she did teach them and they all kept their dogs. although now that I think about it I seem to remember there being a stray/rescue named peanut butter that ended up being rehomed, but I don't know if Victoria was involved in that.
@@dietotakuyou are correct. The pitbull mix peanut butter. She told them the dog should be rehomed. But tried to help them see if they could keep her. They decided to rehome her at the very end. Which wasn’t a surprise two of the kids never wanted her and couldn’t stand her. The other animals were afraid of her. And the mom after realizing the amount of work the dog needed she realized she had to much on her plate as a single mom who worked full time, had 3 kids, and had 3 other dogs and I think 3 cats as well. And she couldn’t give peanut butter what she needed.
It amazes me how many of these I watch and you look around and these problem dogs you don't see toys for thedogs. You don't see dog beds in the rooms, you dont see 'doggy things' in the homes of dogs with these problems. Dogs need more than just food and water.
I'm disabled and my dogs are medical alert service dogs and retired service dogs so there with me 24/7, and even so I still have a kennel open for them to retreat into when they want to get away from people and have there own space. I have dog beds all over so they have there own places to lay down on the floor, and blankets on the spots on the furniture ment for them so they can burrow and snuggle without worry on my furniture. There is a basket of toys in each room that they get things out of, and i have trained them to put there toys away when there done playing so they don't get under my wheelchair. So even if I decide to go next door and not take my dog with me, they don't stress out. They have toys, beds, treats, chew things, and they know I'll be back.
I love how Victoria will call out the person adding to the problem.
The husband should be ashamed because he even dose Marshal Arts but yet doesn’t take the time to take care of Scooby and not evening allowing his son to help and blaming his wife for everything. Shame on him 😡
He didn’t want the dog though. He shouldn’t have to walk it etc. he shouldn’t be unkind to the poor thing, but it is not his responsibility
@@nickyjones867my dad didn't agree on some of my decisions. But as soon as I got into trouble cuz of MY decisions, my dad was right there to help! He never said things like "that was your fault! Its not my responsibility" you know why? Cuz that's exactly what a loving family does! Being there for each other, no matter what!!!
martial arts? The only thing he ever karate chopped was a double cheese stuffed crust XL pizza! 🙄
RIP Greg. The comments on his memorial page are heart breaking.
Well earned.
@@4_vaccuum_salesman_of_marr944 How tactless and indecent
My dog has a mild case of separation anxiety, and we helped him deal with it. He loves to be around people and have lots of affection and love surrounding him, and when he doesn’t, he gets stressed. I wish this family helped their dog more.
Good for you!! So many people in this comment section are being way too harsh on the father/husband, including Victoria. 38:08 Victoria needs to stop and just back off. She has been on his case far too much and the others far too little. The solutions and understandings are there. Meaning that he will be fine so long as the failures are not occurring on the regular.
Scooby is a beautiful boy ❤ best of luck buddy! Thank goodness for Victoria, and the family coming together for him. I bet he's gonna be a great dog with consistency and positive reinforcement 😊
31:20 really put it into my brain on how much work she really puts into her work
Man i hope things got better for them, and yea the husband passed away years ago. R.I.P
Once she brought the toys it kind of made me think that I actually hadn’t seen a single one prior, dogs need to chew and they need to play..
i wonder if having a sitter come by while they are at work to play with and walk him would help a bit.
Just having a sitter come in for a few hours probably wouldn't help--this is one neurotic dog!!!!
I had a dog like this with this level of separation anxiety. Honestly after every other Avenue the only thing that really works is medication. Cause no matter how much excersise and attention you give the dog when your around a dog with separation anxiety still goes bonkers the second you leave. Combine medication with ALOT of desensitizing to the triggers. And alot of exercise when with the dog. Then you can get to something slightly manageable. But separation anxiety like this requires medical treatment.
When the dog gets severely anxious in just minutes, a sitter in for a few hours wouldn't be any help
Most definitely but that's pricey and doesn't fire the real problem
@@JEM471025 no it doesn't. It REQUIRES COMMITMENT from the owners to teach him INDEPENDENCE which is calming for the dog, builds his confidence and comfort level and for God's sake STOP enabling the dog with so much affection.... you're rewarding him for bad behavior.
You set boundaries with your children, you TEACH your children independence and help them DEVELOP confidence...
Animals are no different. They've got a LOT of committed work to do TOGETHER TO undo 6 years of THEIR bad "training " They've instilled in this poor dog.
But NO it does not REQUIRE medication. There's no "wonder drug" to magically "fix" his trained or learned behavior.
I hate everything about the husband. He is arrogant, ignorant, selfish, self-centred, doesn’t really want help with the dog, he wants Victoria to fail, so he has an excuse to get rid of the dog. It doesn’t matter how much his wife apologises and grovels (which she shouldn’t need to do), he will never be satisfied, he just wants her to feel bad/guilty forever. He’s a waste of space. He needs to go more than anyone.
Why? He didn't want the dog, he is at fault for not putting his foot down right at the start. Yes he now needs to help sort the dog out but I really do understand why he is so angry with his wife
@@karenlloyd1705 but here is the thing, he will not accept her apologies or even acknowledge them. When people have justified anger or feel wronged, apologies serve to prove they are right and valid their feelings and prove the other acknowledges their bad behavior. However, apologies do not work when the anger is motivated by a need of power and control, or pettiness. In this situation, he doesn’t want things to be sorted out, he just wants to make his wife feel bad and get her to listen to him, which can be seen in the way he reacts to her apologies.
People like you need to realize that feelings, like anger, are some of the best tools manipulators, abusers, and narcissists use to control others.
@@Soy_boiall you said was sorry fixes everything
...and it's quite a bit of space, that he's wasting too.
greg buddy. it's not enough effort on YOUR part. you own the house, even my father who is a literal baby boomer born in 1954 helps clean up after messes. he would never leave this type of damage
Just got my pup Golden a year ago. Watched allot of victoria's video's. Helpt me a lot. My Golden is the sweetiest dog ever and a good listener. Thank you so much!
My dog had really bad separation anxiety for a while and this made me really sad 😭, he'd been returned before multiple times and as soon as we left the room he tore it to shreds. You just have to show the dog that you'll come back and that you love them like they love you.
What a vile man he is. I can totally see why the dog is so stressed and the poor wife feels put upon. The husband was wrong when he said he doesn't need marriage counselling. He definitely needs it. I hope the wife and pup are happy now, I really do. Much love sweetheart 😢😢
Well, IMHO, he doesn't need counselling, he needs divorce papers and a pile of his things on the sidewalk. But, hey, that's just me! 😉😂
I'm current pregnant, in my first trimester. When my husband and I got our dog 4 years ago, I was the primary person who cared for him. Now, my husband walks our dog to keep me out of the summer heat and prevent any falls. He's shocked at how well our dog behaves on the leash and how good his recall is when he plays off leash. It takes a village for a dog to be part of the pack
The first walk through of the destruction was very familiar. My girl had the same anxiety when i left her alone for the first long time for 7 hours only a couple months after rescuing her. We now have another puppy and many toys and with training too we see a lot of improvement. Being alone is so hard for pack animals.
the husband is annoying. horrible attitude.
He is a VERY emotionally immature child, he hates his wife, he hates his family, he can’t put away any frustration to buckle down and do work for the sake of any other living being. He blames everyone on earth rather than himself or even to just say, “it’s my house, so no matter who made the mess, it needs to be cleaned”. Selfish and useless attitude. I can’t believe that anyone was ever attracted to him.
@@jamess950agreed! Like his attitude the entire episode was so frustrating
While it is not good to speak ill of the dead... he is such a prime example of toxic masculinity. Not to mention has zero respect for his wife or family.
@@jamess950 i 100 agree
@@piedhartHe's dead??
I love dogs however they are a huge committment and a lot of effort and love
I can't blame the husband for being upset
There should have been a family discussion first
I hope that everything can work out and they can all fall in love with the pooch..❤
Victoria go all in for this dog trying her best to get into his heart by doing what he is passionate about and leave... So much respect to how far she is willing to do to get the message imbedded
That's why I'm against having fish or rats. My husband wants them but I know that It's gonna be my responsibility to take care of them, and I don't want to take care of such pets, I personally find them tedious. He doesn't want to get a dog but I'm okay since I know that I'll be the one feeding, walking and caring for it but that is smth I accept. But since neither one of us wants what the other one wants, we just don't get any pets at all. Which is the best responsible thing we can do.
Dump the man, keep the dog!
But she never bought any toys or anything to keep him occupied. It's nearly all obvious things.
That is so sad so forget the human and keep the destructive dog 😢
She didn't dump him, he died in 2018. It seems he was well loved looking at the tributes.
I'm Not Giving Greg Any Passes On How He Treated His Wife But Agree She Should Have Had A Discussion With Greg Beforehand In Adopting A Dog Knowing He Didn't Want A Dog.. I've Read In Other Comments That Greg Passed Away But Couldn't Find Anything About Greg's Passing, If So Sending Prayers To This. Family Members!! Greg Seemed To Come Around With Helping Scooby And His.Wife!!
OMG all dogs need people but not all people deserve dogs 🐕
Just like kids 😊😢 it's so sad how many un-expirianced owners there are 😢 so sad that they don't know how to take care of animals or thier dogs
30:12 Not the way she just walked out, he was so confused! 😂
Its always better to be 'right' than to move forward and improve your house or your marriage.
I used to be married to one of those types.
Ese perro tiene tanta energía! Necesita salir fuera a hacer deporte😢
Scooby está ansioso. Tiene mucha energía nerviosa.
I so needed this video! My border collie is not destructive, but definitely doesn't do too well without me!!
We only have each other, and I pay him way too much attention!
He's perfect in most respects, but I also don't like being parted from him!
I have learned a lot to help us both in this video ❤️❤️
My border collie and I are the same. We are all we've got - I'm just as guilty of being codependent as she is! We're working on it though.
This is why we need laws that people who don’t know anything about dogs, can’t have dogs. That dog was tortured for having a panic attack. This goes for all animals, you don’t know cats? You don’t get a cat. It’s so unfair to the animals
in fairness i think the husband agrees
Love comment and what is the worst is that house/ family including dog all suffer as a result. Like " Laura's " comment about windows ( make more " neighborly " lol ) if Scooby happy I ( we ) as viewers of this are happy, ty husband ( like to say Greg if wrong name sorry ) for more understanding of dog.
I just realized that this episode must have been filmed over 7 years ago. In 2018, Mr. Hunko 55 years of age passed away! RIP Gregory Hunko 🖤🖤🖤
Karma!
Oh no... That's sad to hear. I hope the family is ok...
@@marshasimpson261asinine comment.
That's awful news, that's way too young to pass away. Out of curiosity, do you know how he passed away?
Good
i audibly put my hand on my head and cursed when she said shock collar. for an anxious dog? so much worse- SO much WORSE.
"I wanted a dog trainer, not a marriage counselor." Who's gonna tell him...? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Tell him what 😂😂😂 you’re not the first person to say that and I’m confused. Was she a marriage counselor at some point ?😂
This reminds me of our dog Maggie because she had severe separation anxiety as well because when my younger brother Patrick
would go out anywhere she would just get really! Upset sp much she would messed up his bed room when ever
Patrick would leave the house because she really! Wanted to be with him 24/7
As someone who has had animals dumped onto them without wanting them, I totally understand the husbands frustration here. To be honest, this family should've rehomed the dog long ago. They clearly cannot handle or properly take care of this dog.
Cannot believe scooby never had a toy in that home until he met victoria!
I really don't think a house should get a dog with the "Your dog your responsibility " mentality. I think If you want a dog and the rest of your family doesn't, then you shouldn't get one. It just doesn't work.
Screw that guy. I hope she got tf away from him. 😒😒
Yep. Men are not supposed to show emotions even if their house and windows and furnitures are destroyed.
@@arrow2380 No, it's the way he treats his wife, we're not mad about him for being mad about his windows and stuff being destroyed
He died in 2018 at age 55. It seems he was well loved in his community reading the tributes.
@meplife7313 home imposter
I never understand how in most of these, one partner is always saying “your dog, your responsibility” like they’re not talking to a wife or a husband, but a child
I love your work and your techniques and so sweet and big heart of gold and brilliant trainer ❤
Honestly, It's not gonna work out for this family. When Victoria says "You didn't want this dog, but he's here now and you have to help him." No, you don't. You give the dog to someone who will actually appreciate them and not feel disdain towards it and his wife. Is he a saint? No. But the dog would be better off elsewhere.
This woman shouldn’t have gotten the dog without his permission. Then later in force the responsibility upon him while he never even had a chance to say yes or no. She is to be blamed for sure. Then she is the one who enabled the dog to have severe detachment disorder. People like her shouldn’t get a dog!
This really isn’t on the wife or the dog or on anybody. The wife tried to do a good thing, it went wrong but she doesn’t deserve the crap her husband is giving her and I don’t think she really did anything wrong here. The husband just wants his ego stroked.
To be fair, the husband had every right to be angry, but there has to be a time and point to forgive and move on. Holding onto the past doesn't help anything.
Exactly. And it does nothing for your windows and furniture so you can keep complaining about it or do something about it.
Honestly he didn't even have to forgive, just accept that it happened and deal with the consequences. The way he was expressing his frustration was making the situation worse, unfortunately. I really think couples therapy would have helped these two.
Ok first of all, the fact that the dog stayed in the house, must mean that he at some point accepted the dog being there. Probably when he was a puppy he didn't cause that much trouble so he was indifferent, then when the trouble began he bailed out. No buddy, if he really didn't want a dog, the dog shouldn't have been allowed to stay even for a day in their house.
But then, the absolute lack of empathy he shows to his wife is shocking. Even if it's all her fault, if you care about someone you want to help them, not pin them down, guilt them to oblivion, then make them feel worse about it.
What's the point of family if you can't turn to it when you make mistakes and need help?
Edit: Ok glad he showed some signs of care and understanding at the end.
That’s what you call a narcissist.
This dog needs anxiety medicine desperately. He is suffering and he is in danger
Victoria is right dogs have very bad anxiety .
Another case of humans being selfish by bringing a dog home when they shouldn't!!! They dont need this dog!! The husband told the wife he didnt want a dog and she brought one home anyway. Now shes crying because she wants help with the dog??
These humans created this highly anxious unstable dog.
Good Job! Glad the entire family improved thru helping Scooby.
Speachless
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Omg i hate that guy!!! Oblivious, Non helpful, No respect, No partnership, No family oriented. You matters well live by yourself because he is no use at all
"i asked for her help as a dog trainer, not a marriage councilor"
Wow dude. Maybe you need a marriage counselor too.
Children, houses, cars, dogs THEYRE TWO YES ONE NO situations. Things that impact everyone's environment absolutely must be this case, because it ends like this.
22:19 DOGS ARE NOT HUMANS but even if they were we coddle kids and they turn out as spoiled entitled people who don't know boundaries. How, with a communication barrier present, does she think that the outcome would be better with a dog.
Im seeing alot of hate on the husband. I want people to understand while he should not have behaved like that to the dog or his wife, He did not want the dog. She did not respect that he did not want a dog, getting a dog is a family decision not just one person. If that one person that wants a dog still gets a dog despite the other family members making it clear they did not want one than that person is responsible for the care of the dog. Im not saying you cant hate on him, im saying hate on him for the right reasons, You should be upset about how he adresses his family not the fact that he doesn't want to take responsiblity for something he didn't want.
It's been SIX YEARS. Regardless if he wanted the dog or not, after that much time he accepts part of the blame for the destruction with his inaction. It's partly his fault that $1000 worth of damage turned into $15000. Not that I have much faith in people who think shock collars are an appropriate response to clear signs of separation anxiety in a dog.
I would love to know how this dog went since the show
Why isn't the dog being walked
Walking would help, but that dog is neurotic!!!! Walking wouldn't get rid of that....
There are other ways to exercise a dog, but it is odd, as the show usually addresses people's exercise routines for their dogs..
@@ASentientPlantthis episode is not about that. There issues weren’t anything the dog does on the regular. It was literally just the separation anxiety. And the owners didn’t realize separation anxiety was a thing in dogs. So that’s why they handled it so poorly. They said he’s sweet and well behaved on the regular but goes bonkers when left alone. I had a dog with that level of separation anxiety. There’s no amount of exercise that changes that without medical treatment. To treat that it’s a combination of lots of exercise when with the dog, a lot of desensitizing to a lot of there triggers, leaving them with items that have your scent which helps them self sooth, plus medication. It’s actually very difficult to manage.
@@bwenluck9812doesn't matter if it would get rid of it. A dog needs to walked either way.
NOT THE POKEMON CARDS SCOOBY
He finally accepted her apology. That was nice.
My dog has separation anxiety and I'm just glad it isn't this bad
It's messed up when the partner does NOT want a Dog or animal. And the other goes against it. The wife SHOULD be responsible. She's the one that wanted the Dog, NOT her Husband. In my Marriage. I wanted cats. So I am fully responsible for my cats. I care for them and trained them. With that, my Husband has grown to love em and will help out, but I know I wanted em and am fully responsible❤
the husband is pissing me off
My sister got a dog I hated it for awhile than as me and the dog started to play I started to love being with the dog and even when I hated the idea and started to love it I always tried to help my sister take care of the dog I trim her fur,help her bathe the dog,get stuff out her mouth,clean her cage,clean her mats and I even trained the dog how to go upstairs and give me a fist bump
OMG! That is so dangerous not safe for the dog 😮
When was this episode filmed? Since we know most of the episodes are “timeless” so they can be shown for years, it would still be interesting to know the year it was filmed, and it would also be interesting to have some follow-up videos showing how the families and dogs are faring now.
I bet after this episode the guy got a few calls for a look at them Pokémon cards in the garage 😂
A lot of hard work and patience you will see results soon ❤
SCOOBY WOULD BE HISTORY long ago.
No way would I have a chewing, peeing, pooping, destruction machine in my home.
this dog should not be alone for 7 hours!
Maybe they have no choice. Either way keep him in a crate or have a neighbor who the dog loves come and keep an eye on him.
Who knew Carmela soprano was such a dog lover
if someone in your family doesn't want an animal, you don't get the animal, easy peasy. i don't blame him because dogs are a huge commitment and responsibility, especially this dog. and it's a commitment i love, but the same way i wouldn't want anyone dropping a child on my doorstep, this guy didn't want this dog, and all the responsibility that came with him.
Ikr I agree Victoria Greg seriously grow up and be a man! ❤