God Is Telling You to END a Friendship If . . .
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- What does the Bible say about bad friends? When should you end a friendship? What are the signs of a bad friend you should no longer be friends with? As Christians, here are 4 signs God will often use to tell us we should no longer be friends with someone.
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You will find a better friend. Don't be afraid to be alone and content with your life while waiting to meet a good friend
YES & AMEN … that is currently me right now !!
God will be your faithful friend forever.
Just lost a friend today ,told her the good news
I'm learning this now! I'm a Christian and I'm losing friends left and right and it seems so random.
amen
I'm a loner. I only have 3 friends. The Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. They talk to me via text messages.
Do you actually receive text messages from God?
Because I know someone who claims he does.
LV1214 its a joke. Reading the bible = txt message. Get it?
Keep it like that don't get anymore friends holy spirit
You have more friends than me. I have 2
Lmao they don’t message me.
The best prayer is,
"Lord remove anybody out of my life that means me no good, serves me no good purpose, and is not real & loyal. Bless me the discernment to realize and give me the strength to let go and don't look back." It works like a charm. However sometimes the person is not necessarily a bad person. They served their purpose and their season in your life has come to an end (i.e.Orpah left Naomi and Ruth).
Well said!
Word
Amen ❤️
💯💯
Amen
In my opinion, I feel as if some people use the word "FRIEND" to loosely! My mom taught me at a young age NOT to consider everyone that I hung around as MY FRIEND! 😊 I'm so thankful and blessed that I listened to the wisdom of my mother. I only had 1 real so-called worldly friend of 18 years up until yesterday. God wanted me to end the "friendship" years ago, but I disobeyed Him. So....God allowed her to contact me via phone call, the call plus ALL of her past and present actions towards me...made it a lot easier to end the friendship and let her go in love and peace. YES...I'm hurting today, BUT I BELIEVE that GOD will bring me a TRUE Christian sister and we can praise, worship and honor God together, pray for one another, and also hold each other accountable as we navigate along the narrow road that we are supposed to follow as True Believers in Jesus Christ 😊
God sends me dreams about people, and majority of the time he reveals truths about a person, it may break my heart but I see it as a heads up. Move on, ask to be sent the right people, don’t be desperate enough to hang with someone who doesn’t even like you.
Lucky, I wish I had discernment, sometimes I'm not sure if someone should be in my life or not so i'm always stuck.
@@antoinette7030 Ask God,He will show you
God also showed me through a dream
Me too but not all the time
I've dreamt about sth like three times, same meaning but different dreams
Love it. Whoever is reading this know that God can turn any situation around trust in Him alone. You are one step closer to victory, healing and a miracle have faith in God.
God bless!
Thank u for this. Amen 🙏🏾
Amen!
Thank u
Amen
Now a days I just feel like I’m so done with people around me like I’m just so tired of everything around me! I really need God to help me
You are in my prayers sweet girl in Jesus name Amen. God bless you
You have God❤️❤️✝️FOREVER
Same here from now on I’m focusing on God because he’s been a real friend and Father to me like no one has he’s always there for me despite me focusing on other things and he never lets or fails me down. Jesus is now my only friend and that’s the only friend I need.
same.
Please God help us both, Abigail and I. In Jesus name.
I was battling with this question today, praying and asking God for wisdom for it!! Glory be to God Amen 🙌🏽♥️
Amen!
Wow, I needed this! I am currently trying to let go of two toxic relationships from my friends. They have broken my heart many times, and I’ve forgiven and tried too many times. It is easy to want revenge and to call them out, but this is not what I am called to do as a child of God. I believe and pray for good friends
God bless as yo follow the Lord
Same
Same. I need to work on myself. Feeling super angry and betrayed
When God is no longer center in a friendship He brought together, it will fail. I was backsliding and so was my friend, our friendship was removed because we were both toxic. Mostly my actions were gravely disrespectful and there was no Christ present, so we didn’t respond right to one another. Point two is so true!! Reconciliation is a whole other thing from forgiveness. I don’t desire a friendship with her again, even though our last falling out was on me, because there are things overall that I was not alright with. I did apologize and she rejected it, but I wanted to admit my wrongs after denying them for awhile. As I spend more time with the Lord, I’m understanding the purpose of friendships for His kingdom cause. It’s beyond our own desires for this temporary life. But it’s also a gift, that we need to be mindful of. Love this video!
Wow! My story exactly. My fault. Now I can see a headway. Thank you
I feel like I can relate in some way,in my friendship I get like I was given 2 options either let go and or the two of you better start changing but neither of us changed and it needed to end and also I regret making a malice choice in my friendship and God doesn’t like ugly
I feel this way about my atheist friend! I’ve witnessed to him multiple times,I’ve invested 2 years into our friendship! But lately I feel like God is telling me to take time away from him. I pray every day for his salvation! But,we still have that friction between us. It’s hard,but ultimately I think God wants me to draw away from him. Prayers please!🙏🏻❤️
Yes, that sounds more like a ministry than a friendship, so I would listen to what you sense and set new boundaries
I had the same scenario, except there had been a romantic component to the relationship. Because of recent events and because I had been praying for his salvation for years, I contacted him again to witness to him about how the BIBLE is now showing itself to be completely accurate. His response? Wanting to reactivate the relationship! ARGH! So yes, sometimes GOD is telling you
Let go of the ftiendship.
You've tried for way too long. I've had athiest friends as well. I prayed and then they just stopped talking to me. God will make them flee from you sometimes. But it's just better to let go because eventually might end up conforming to his ways
@@txwarriorbride5112 wowwww sending my hugs im so amazed.. I experienced the same
I’m in the same situation. I have an atheist friend who has been in my life for the past 15 years. I love him dearly but I believe he may have more feelings for me. And Lately our faith has been clashing. Just not sure what I should do, but I’ve been praying for his salvation and guidance from the Lord.
I've had some bad friends over the past few years, and now that I'm alone during quarantine its been really hard trying to find the right people I need in my life. If you can pray for me that I can develop some good friendships that will help me grow in my walk with God that would be greatly appreciated
Me too, no friends since covid 19. I'm happier than I've ever been. Reading my Bible & thankful to God for my own peaceful contented company.
This video came just on time, after I'm a Christian I don't have really close friends because it turned out that everybody that I meet has their own agenda and some are not genuine. I think it is hard to confide in friends because if we don't have an honest heart is not real friendship even if they are Christian. What they call friends in these days is just having fun or doing something convenient. No good in the sigh of the Lord Jesus, because he transforms our heart that we can't lie so we can love each other with an honest heart, is wise to listen to God at all times about friendship; because now you are a new creation in Christ.
Yes, listening to God is key!
I don’t have any friends either. 💜
Korger we can find a bunch of friends, but real friends that know your pains and sufferings and stay with forever Are rare, only Jesus 😊
Reyna Ro
Definitely! I love God our Father.
@@korger1481 same 10 years in the faith and only jesus as my friend. Good godly friends are rare treasure. I had believers want to be my friend but i noticed connecting with them affected my faith and relationship with jesus so i ended these ''friendships''
This video couldn't have come at a better time. Was in a close friendship with someone for nearly 8 years, it was toxic from time to time, but we got along for the most part and neither of us wanted to be alone (small town), yet recently God put it heavy on my heart to let this person go. Eventually, exactly as mentioned in the video, this person found a love interest and I was pushed aside abruptly. God's timing is perfect, and even though it's difficult to come to terms with the hurt, God will pull you through it, just keep your focus on Jesus. He is top priority!
Romans 6:19; 2 Timothy 2:22. To be friends with the world you are enemy to God ! Especially when they continually disrespect & disregard you and never listen. Too stressful.
God bless as you follow the Lord!
Yes. Very stressful and challenging
Beverley Reid
I had a revelation: talking or reasoning with an individual who doesn’t believe in the same radical way as the radical believer is like talking to the devil! He will try to challenge you every time (just as he did Eve in the Garden); so why waste time giving them time other than to witness to them and if they don’t receive your “Word” then it’s time to dust your feet off put your shoes on and get to stepping away from them so The Lord can deal with them. Don’t give place to the devil.
I’m not in the saving business I’m in the witnessing business as Jesus saves and It’s best to draw people (by our lifestyle) to Christ.
Because our lives are to be read as living epistles of God. And when they see your life and want to know ... let The Lord use you! God bless you my brothers and sisters! Stay prayerful God is soon to come!!
Thank you so much Mark. Sometimes you think there is everything wrong with you but what I have also learnt is that God wants us to rely more on Him and the Holy Spirit. We ought to stop using friends as crutches. When we are hurt, instead of picking up the phone and calling a friend: just go on your knees and cry out to God. Then God will lead the right help to you. I have learnt that.
Say that again ❤
I needed this that's why I'm here. God already sent signs, I was just too stubborn to acknowledge. Her betrayal is the closure. I'm now alone in my workplace since they all sided with her, but I am filled with love from my family and true friend.
God will bring loving friends in your life just continue to trust him
Yesterday, I ended up my friendship with my three bff's! but you know what, I can't feel anything. Like before when I dont know Our God, I dont want to be alone but now that I know I HAVE GOD TO MY LIFE, I can tell that 'EVEN IF EVERYONES LEAVE ME, I HAVE LORD JESUS WHO ALWAYS STAY BY MY SIDE". Then back to the story, I tell them that 'Ilove them, but Im not happy!' then I Pray, I want to ask God if that's a right decision, I ask Him for forgiveness cuz I hurt my friends...
IM HAPPY, CUZ I CAN TELL TO EVERYONE THAT I"VE CHANGED! LORD CHANGED ME FOR THE BETTER! AND NOW I"VE MET THE PEOPLE WITH THE SAME WANT AND NEEDS, AND THAT"S JESUS...WE WANT TO SERVE AND WORSHIP GOD! IM SO HAPPY, THANKYOU LORD, THANKYOU FOR ALWAYS REMINDING ME THAT YOU"RE ALWAYS WITH ME!! PRAISE THE LORD!!
and just want to say thankyou for this vid. for giving me a assurance that my decision on letting my friends go, is okay!
"TRUST THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART."
Proverbs 3:5
I just had to cut off a friend recently who turned out to be a wolves in sheep's clothing and has been acting like a Narcissist. Out of nowhere she started acting jealous and envious towards me and mimics and copies everything that I do. She has been watching me on social media and commenting and liking everything that I like.
Wow I can so relate to this !! Hopefully all is well now and they’re still cut off from your life
My Lord....I just ended an 18 year friendship because of this exact same thing! I couldn't take it anymore, I exposed those evil spirits living in her and told her how I was feeling about what she does...she laughed in my face. The next day she uninvited me to her wedding ceremony (which is in a few days) Oh well, God wanted me to end this friendship a long time ago and I was disobedient. I repented and asked God to forgive me.😊
@@ledonnathompson-cheek9540 So glad you ended that friendship. You will now have peace in your life
I think in general, if a friendship gets one sides, it is a good chance that you need to end the friendship.
Wow!!!🙏🏾 Everything this man is saying is from God himself!! Timing is crazy
The Scriptures are so important! God bless :)
I had to end a 20 year friendship recently. I acknowledged that feelings were developing. He responded that he was emotionally unavailable. That was the closure I needed. #3
At least he told you.
I lost a good friend of mine. We went our ways. I blocked her and the hardest thing to go thru. I keep over thinking it and reviewing it in my head. I can't believe we are not friends anymore !!
Thank you for this timely video. I'm planning to breakup with a Christian man today whom I loved dearly but our relationship over 9 months was fraught with anxiety and unnecessary temptation. I believe especially in the last few months I also moved backwards in my faith despite trying to seek God with a pure heart. Please pray for grace, compassion and forgiveness for both of us as we heal and steps moving forward in our individual lives. Thank you!
How did it go?
Why didn't he propose?
Lord Jesus please remove anyone who is harmful to my life with you. Amen
I had a Christian friend of the same gender and we were really good friends. But we started getting waaay too close emotionally and it became very unhealthy, and we had to cut it off because of this bizarre unhealthy emotional connection between us, as she started to take the place of God in my life and vice versa. It was very painful and hurts cause we’ll never see each other again but Jesus is worth it. The final sign you mentioned is a confirmation again that cutting off our friendship was right.
@nashaleatpo We've actually been in very infrequent contact for the last few months, and since we've been in contact, I've realized how that friendship that we had will never be rekindled and that we're just very different people. We're also in different countries so we never see each other physically or even video call which is good. Since being back in contact with her, God has completely healed us both of the emotional connection. We message very infrequently and I think the contact will just fizzle out at some point. It's interesting cause had we not re-initiated contact, I would've still missed her as badly as I had been when I wrote that first comment. God is good. Thanks so much for asking btw! :)
@@Laura-pq8mt I had a similar friendship when I was a freshman in high school and also in middle school. I grew attached to these people and they became idols in my life. If was really unhealthy and eventually I ended up with a broken heart. I also reconnected with them but it’s not the same anymore. We don’t talk much and one of them almost never responds to my texts anymore which is a clear sign for me to move on. Thank you for sharing its nice to know that I am not the only one :)
I pray that my uncle and i reconcile and become best friends again. I love talking to this guy. He's smart, silly, and sweet although he has shyness. Its something so endearing about our friendship that God brought. Long story and testimony
Yes..rely on God words some friendship is toxic for you.Pray for every friends who come into your life
I'm praying for every person on here in Jesus Yashuas name Amen.
Thank you. I need it. Please pray for me. My name is Jenny. I'm hurting
He hit right on the nose when he talked about how two friends of the opposite sex can have issues of feelings involve. Especially if one friend uses the other for emotional comfort and then when they date just push them to the side. This has happened to me! I didn’t even realize it until watching this video. I did know I was no longer a priority in their life because they said in a nutshell they only had time for their gf and friends and own life. They talked about just keeping contact every few months. Ah uh! I ended it! It was hard but glad I did. Don’t settle your worth people.
Friendship may be hard to come by, but we don’t have to settle for people that could care less about us. Thank you for this video! I have some more clarity now
Wow... I had been wondering whether to end the friendship with one of my formerly very close friends due to how worldly I noticed her getting in just the last few years. I've been looking for wisdom for it for quite a while.
Now I know, with 2/4 points applying, that it's time to let go of it.
Thank You, Mark for providing just the wisdom I needed to know what God was trying to tell me. 💞
Thank You Pastor Mark. I know it's time to end my engagement. I was walking on a treadmill with satan. Going no where fast. I've had a tough time seeing through the facade. Discerning God's plan for me. You've helped me realize the last 1.75 yrs have not been God's devine plan. It's been my selfish needs. I looked past clues I was looking for Love in the wrong places. My need of wanting to be wanted due to prior rejections led the way. I strayed from God finding my way back. Thank to you and your videos. Thanks again & God Bless
Wow. Another timely message. Had lunch today with a sister in "faith" that I love dearly, but realized that sometimes you have to follow GOD's call on your life, regardless of how crazy it sounds to others. We know that without faith it is impossible to please GOD, and so stepping out in FAITH requires listening to HIS voice only. I am sure that Abraham's friends and family thought he was crazy, as did the people of Noah's day. But they listened to GOD's voice instead. And when people didn't believe, as when the Israelites did not obey HIM to go into the Promised Land, they angered HIM with their unbelief. I would rather be thought foolish by man than to doubt GOD and anger HIM. HE has proved HIMSELF faithful to me my entire life. 😍🙏🎶
So glad this was timely for you!
Remember in the council of many wise people there is wisdom. And continue to pray for those that you move away from. You may be the seed that was sown.
God bless!
Literally just today, I ended a friendship with my friend I had ever since 6th grade by preaching the Gospel in text. She's a Satanist, and I got worried for her. I told her about God and the Lord. But, she just told me to stop texting me. But I will never be ashamed for sharing the word about God and the Lord. I felt like our friendship was weakening a bit as well, so I didn't get hurt that much in the process. But bless her heart, Lord. ❤
I don't know why I'm watching this, I have no friends lol.
I think God is preparing you to watch out for fake people when you do find one.
I feel the same Michael
I expressed a boundary to friend after stating I was gonna be there for her. But it was too much for me. Mentally draining and emotionally heavy. I got push back. I walked away. I couldn’t put myself on fire to support her anymore.
Currently going through this! God is teaching me a very painful lesson don’t bite off more than I can chew! You run yourself in the ground trying to be everything to people when they and you, and all of us needs to be running to God to help us not people 💯% of the time..
I thank God I realized that that friend of mine was not the right person. He almost let me to backsliding
Thank you so much for this! I was talking to my brother earlier today about someone who I used to be in a relationship about nine (9) years ago and have not spoken to since the relationship ended as it's ending resulted because of his infidelity. That person has been actively seeking; through a friend and my brother; to reconnect with me. I told my brother that it would not be wise because we both are on different paths and I don't see how reconciling any kind of relationship would be beneficial. I have also dialled back on the mutual friend we have because God has shown me that she relates information about me to him. Your video confirmed that my decisions were the right ones🙂
So glad this was helpful to you!
I had the same situation with a mutual friend of an ex. He was playing into the drama of both sides. He was the last connection I had to a painful past. We were friends for 20 years( since middle school) I had to let him go.
God is definitely speaking through you not only have I thought of this issue with lifelong friend's who are just standing still in life, but this actually came up recently with a female friend of mine as well. Great work 🙏
Lord give me good friends from God anyone that is not true take them out of my life AMEN protect me and my peace Amen
God is amazing.
God help me cut a relationship with My brother and sister's.
I thank God for doing that I appreciate you alot.
Love you God
In Jesus Name Amen
Alicia😇🙌🕊️
I hear you. I had to walk away from my destructive, gossip slaying, toxic family
God bless!
If I also have a bad relationships with my parents ,should I cut this🙄
Why ?
2 years I also cut all ties with 2 of my sisters!!
When you have Jesus as your Saviour you will never be alone and you will be surrounded with the right people in due time... 👊🏼🙏🏼💖
Everything that you say is so true in my life lately with my best friend, she is marrying an Atheist , telling lies all the time , and says that she is a christian, but getting drunk. I feel rage towards her, and feel like God is telling me to avoid her no matter what. She is not the same sweet christian girl that I once knew, and will not listen to any scripture pertaining to marrying an unbeliever that has repeatedly told her that he does not believe in the Savior Jesus Christ, this sickens me. she thinks that she can make him worship God. He has told her that he wants money instead of her, this makes me sick. May God give me strength to move on with my life , and say good bye.
Honestly for me, I’ve lost a lot of friends. None of it had to do with them being toxic or bad (at least I don’t think so) They all left due to the fact that their parents chose to leave. When I was younger, this hurt a lot because I never understood why they left. I blamed myself for awhile. Maybe God was saving me from getting hurt in the future. Idk. But because of this, I struggle with having friends because I don’t want to get hurt.
A healthy church community is really important
This was actually at school. But I did leave that school. So I’m glad I did, I’m still working on my trusting issues.
People will always hurt us sadly, but God does protect us. I knew people in my life christian and non believers that slipped into drugs and back into the world. Yet he said to me "stay focused on the plans I have for you." We either walk with the wise or we are walking with fools.
You must have an abundance mindset - always believe you can find another friend who will be close. You don't realize it but most of us single ppl (especially early 20s like me) feel lonely but we act too cool instead of opening up to ppl who would like to be friends.
If you love The person believe in the person But they harm you then you let go. I had a best friend the best friend I've ever had I loved her dearly we had fun we were very much alike but she and her husband had severe anger issues. I can't let somebody damage me like that. I had to cut off the friendship. To this day that's one of the hardest things I've ever done I still miss her. Never found another friend like her
Thank you for sharing. May God be your healer. How did she and her husband take you distancing yourself from them?
I'm good. I know who my friends are and are not. And I dont quit on what God calls me to do. Everything else is in His hands and Im content.
AGW, You really have a good understanding of the Bible and relating it to the problems and confusion we have with others and ourselves.
Finally a video about friendship. Yesterday I asked God before u want me to get into a relationship, give me some friends. He showed many time that I should get into a relationship cause I'm healed. Now I found a video about friendship yay
I'm personally struggling with bad frienships right now, when i was not with Christ i used to have this friends who judged others really really harshly, and I used to be a part of it too, but now that Christ and the Holy Spirit have changed me and the way that i think of my life I have become different. The problem is that these bad friendships that keep judging people and talking slander, cussing, lusting continously and keep sining, treat me like the man I used to be, (because I met God in the middle of this friendships), so since they are with me in college, whenever I try to be better and do not sin, those people come and talk and treat me the same way they used to before and being honest the only thing i do is be quiet and get away for them as fast as I can. But I do not know if I should get away from them for good and do not be friends with them, or talk out and try to convert them, because I am aware that Jesus said that we should not hang around with mockers and fools, because they will affect us with ther attitudes, but Jesus also had dinner with the pharisees and said to be kind to everyone despite of their sins, so im genuinely confused on what to do, Should i get away from them?, or should i try to be with them even if they sin and just me as a person decide to not hang with them?, I would love to preach the gosspel to them, but im not sure they'll listen, in my community religion is genuinely ignored and most of the time people tend to get bullied for it and being quite sincere I do not know how to preach the gosspel, I just recently converted and I haven't done it before so im lost at how to begin talking, without judging and while being understanding of people's free will to walk away form it and their beliefs. And whenever I feel like talking about it or lead them into Christ I feel like im judging thm myself and preaching that Im better when I am not, we are all equally sinners and Jesus is the one who has paid for all our sins. I am truly lost, I don't want to judge them for not believing in Christ but I don't wat to live their lifestyle anymore, I am simply not that person anymore, but even if I say im from God now they just mock me and keep treting me again like I was the same guy and I get sad from it.
Im sorry if i wrote A LOT lol, but it's something that has been in my chest for weeks and i needed to vent a bit about it. Great video by the way, love the way you insert the bible verses you talk about in the same video. Hope you read this comment, God bless. If someone has a thought or advice be open to tell me pls I thank all the advices and other perspectives, thanks for reading..
I prayed about this and this just popped up. God really is amazing! ❤️He keeps blowing my mind. Glory be to God.
Thanks Mark. God bless you.
Wow what a sermon this really makes me think back in February and MarchI'm definitely going to have to put my faith into God if I want a spouse
God bless!
Noah Helmuth same here
I recently lost a real good friend I spoke to every day. Heartbroken but I am realizing that it wasnt good for me. Just dont know what to do because I really dont talk to many other people.
Same I only have a few friends
My old closest friend picked his guy friends over me who he hardly knows
I feel like a new path is setting up for me maybe I'll find a new friend who values my company and effort in being a friend
All my close friends are leaving me and I don't even know why. Getting lesser friends too. It's so depressing. Feel like my life is declining too early...If only I'm strong enough to move on.
I know what it's like getting lesser friends. But keep your head up. Keep trusting in the Lord. Spend time with Him, keep seeking him, get to know him more and find your delight in Him. Pray to him and ask for his help, guidance, strength, comfort and peace in this situation and he shall surely be with you.
I will be praying for you also 🙏🏽 God bless 🙌🏽
I’m here cause my friends can’t except I never spend time with my family and when I’m busy with my family and stuff they get mad and say cuss words and say they want to stab me in the back and block me and told me to stop talking to them. This has really showed me who are my real friends and who aren’t. Trust me when I say you may have tons of friends but many of them will ditch you at the time you need them or when you mess up one thing. I’m pretty used to this because every year there somebody who does not like me or befriends me. Life has helped me see that the friends I’ve almost let go are the ones I should hold on to. I’m here because they stopped talking to me and when my grandma died one of them called me sensitive and told me to buff up and stop crying about it. Then she goes on saying that she was there for me. There’s more but I just don’t think our friendship is good and it needs to end
This really fits with a family situation I'm in.
so glad this was timely!
Lauren F it’s so hard to leave family!!
@@amyjjewel it really is, but I believe the Lord has been showing me this for a while, before it gets worse
Lauren F I agree! I have felt this too I need to leave and possibly find my own place even I know that God will provide and I shouldn’t be afraid to take the steps needed I pray that you are able to take those steps too (:
Sometimes I feel so lonely and have no one to tell my most inner thoughts. I know there is God, but I feel he doesn’t hear me.
Ik it's 1 year late now but what can I say is, don't be let down for this feelings, he's actually listening to you! Everyday try to make a time to learn about Him and His Word and pray too, then with the time you will know he's with you ^^ God bless you
My good friend block me out of the blue and i ask him why he did that cause i was always there for him , he ignore me and we were really close its been 3 days i dont sleep well because of this situation and i know deep down i never been mean to him :/
If your watching this, this is a sign from the universe u must let go of toxic friendship🙏🙏🙏
It’s heartbreaking but it must be done in order to walk closely with God 🌹💗
I love the definition of forgiveness at 3:12! Sometimes forgiveness seems close to impossible to do in our flesh, but thinking about it that way shows how we all have the ability to do it just as we are commanded to.
Litterally right on time. God bless!
So glad!
I will watch this a little later. But this is the third video that I have seen in regards to this video in the past couple of days. I feel like He is speaking to me about a relative that I was close to. More then likely a few of them.
God bless! So glad this was relevant to you Ladenna :)
I went to Bible College for 1 year. The 1st day, I met a young Lady. We kinda wanted to be friend right away. We spent a lot of time together, talked all the time. And good Christian friends, we. kept it clean. Not even holding hands. 1 day she talked to me about how she wanted a guy to ask her out. And she looked right at me, like she was telling me what to do. Stupid me, I took a step to ask her out. At 1st, she was into it. But a day later, she backed off. She went to the dean of the school, told him what happened. And went onto say, she didn't go to Bible College to find a boy friend. The dean ask her to pray about it. She did, and God put on her heart I wasn't the 1 for her. Almost a week passed, and we were not talking. So, I asked her to talk. We did. She told me, I wasn't going to tell you this. But, I prayed about us, and God put it on my heart that you are not the 1 I will spend the rest of my life with. I had only being going to Church for a few years, so... I didn't understand this. We stayed friendly over the year, but she was SO distant. After the school year ended, I asked her to talk. I know I would not be going back for another year. We talked, it was her doing most of the talking 1st. I let her say what she wanted. I said how I felt. Telling her, it was tough staying at the school because it is a small school. And we were not talking but always in the same classes. We hugged, and ended the years actually becoming friends. 20 years later, I look at all that wasted time and how her and I missed out on a friendship.
I'm concerned. I haven't had a friend since kindergarten/first grade and I've got no idea how to be a good friend or keep friendships. I'm not well at communicating. -friendships are draining for me because I suck at them and have no idea what to do. :/
Same
Great topic! We hardly put emphasis on the importance of friendships. 👍
I was friends with a someone who I known since 2007, I allowed her to stay in my home gave up my room & would take out her to cheer her up and she made me feel like i embarrassed her after everything I did for her. I tried to reach out to her and start again she was like oh I have to think about being your friend again. I know god removed her for a reason but I can’t say it didn’t hurt
Could you do a video about starting a friends? I need Christian friends
I had the same problem once. Try activities involving yourself in church activities and group meeting and discussions... And just greeting à few people each time Service us over...youll be surprised how many good Christian friends you'll make. 🤗
@@abigailadu6183 thank you show much
Bless you-- yes our war is not against flesh and blood, pray for them , plant some seeds and then release them to the Lord, amen and amen
i receive signs from God that i should cut off my friends but i dont know how 🤧
Just obey God and he’ll take care of the rest
Timely video.
Realized I have some drinkers and gossipers which would bring temptation in my life, and also some who are probably good people but who bring drama and are more self-focused (often only primarily talking about their problems). Good to have the advice on the first part (temptation) but would appreciate prayer and advice on the second part. God bless!
Thank you for explaining difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. That helps me greatly. 💕🙏
Where was this video like 3 years ago.....
Glad you thought it was helpful, God bless!
Huhuhu yes
But even if I did not able to see this 3 years ago, it comes in a right time still.
Time to fully moved on and never again attempt to go back in the past.
Thankyou Jesus😭
@ Tonya a
This video has been in the Bible all all along .
We just have to read it .
Albeit this is a very good video!
The first one I can say , that was me years ago !!!!!!
GOD told me to get away from a person who led me to the Lord!!
When I told her that God told me to back away from her if I wanted to grow in HIM, boy did she go off on me !! 😲😲😲😲😲😲
She hadnt spoke to me for over a year when I seen her at a home going.
But I grew in the Lord and now we speak , but only once a year on our birthdays.
She lives in another state from me now .
To everyone;
Read your word , your answer is in there .
I love the wisdom of the book of Proverbs !
Yes , it is hard at times to step away from "friends " .
But , are they really the right friends ?
Peace , safety, good health , good decisions and many blessings to all in Jesus name .
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Three years ago I became friends with a man my age (60) who is a high functioning alcoholic. He had previously been incarcerated but had been residing in a sober living group home while continuing to drink, and drive. During this time I cont'd witnessing, sharing God's wisdom, and setting boundaries~but found it necessary to take breaks periodically due to his rude behavior, mistreatment or poor boundaries when he was drinking. Eventually he found a church home on his own, gave his life to Christ, started a much better job and is saving to move into a place of his own. He genuinely seems less angry, more stable, did thank me once for my prayers and even claims to have not been drinking as of late. However based upon his previous consumption he would imo need med detox so my fear is that he remains in denial~since while he might have legit reduced his alcohol consumption I fear his new schedule or graveyard shift hours have just enabled him to better conceal his drinking or hide the effects. But now that he's in church, earning better money and saving for a home of his own he seemed to think this should enable us to be more than friends... I explained this was never the problem~which was the first time he actually listened without flying into a defensive rage. Yet from my pov marked the first sign we might sustain even a stable friendship and I know would take time to build trust since I'm still recovering from the cycle of turmoil and pattern of emotional/verbal abuse in the past~and am not entirely convinced that is all in his past. I only know that's in *my past* God is love +
I’ve been feeling something in my head towards are certain person. A part of me wants to leave. I wasn’t so sure if it was me or God maybe trying to tell me something.
I keep seeing too many signs. I really think it’s time to drift apart. Not necessarily end it but it will end some day if I stop talking to her
Thank you, this is so timely. God knows best.❤
Amen!
My ex friend joined a church which was good but she became bitter and changed into a toxic person with foolish ideas and theories. I tried warning her to not worship the church and to look at the Bible and compare it to what they say and see if what they say is true or not. She also broke my trust too. God showed me a dream of how evil she was becoming and she was influenced by Satan too. And so it was best to go our separate ways even though I tried helping her. She didn’t want any help.
I feel really bad cause now I do feel like this is confirmation for me to end the friendship. Currently dealing with the boy girl friendship😓. Wish I never caught feelings😕
how’d it go ?!
Needed it right now😄❤🙏
God bless!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger 🙏🙏🙏
Thanks! This is all really good stuff. I've really struggled to set boundaries with non-Christian friends. It's such an interesting dynamic because on the one hand I want to spread the gospel to them but I don't want to become corrupted by them. Do you have any tips on how to handle friendships with non-Christians?
Glad it was helpful!, this also may help: ua-cam.com/video/ymumHeIks-M/v-deo.html
Always on time 🙌🏾
All glory to God!
When leaving friends behind to please God it can be hard because you do not want to hurt anyone. But also you do not want to stay participating in activities that do not please God. I want my friends to be happy as well walking with the Lord but at the same It’s intimidating to tell them you’re changing your lifestyle and no longer see them a part of your life.
Thank you so much for this video! I am feeling guilty for not wanting to be friends with an unbeliever. I have tried to help them possibly become a believer and I always try to talk about Jesus with them but so far they just want to be my friend like in the past and not talk about Jesus. What happened is we have been friends before I became a believer. Now I am having trouble enjoying their friendship and I really want to find some friends who are believers. I don't want to hurt their feelings but I think I'm going to have to. Any advice is much appreciated! God bless you all! I have been Christian now for 3 years.
Im not perfect I come off toxic because I don’t know how to be sometimes….I have zero friendships. Im sinking.
A friend I've had for years who was in the room when I gave birth to my daughter.... And she basically mocks my religion and faith with our heavenly father.I'm so lost and hurt and know I must cut these people out .
Recently ended a friendship with a toxic person I've known since I was 13.
She was extremely two faced and negative and bitter and hateful. I was blinded to the kind of person she was for so long. And it's extremely painful to lose her. But I know it's for the best. I may be friendless now, but it's better than her poisoning my spirit and holding me back from my personal development.
Wow, you keep releasing videos dealing with a subject at the time either me or others are going through. And sometimes older videos show up in my recommendations that deal with current situations.
Kind of dealing with a toxic "friend" at the moment. I thought she wanted nothing to do with me, but a week later checks up on me, claims to care about me and my future. While insulting me, and really disliking being secretive, claims it's abuse. We were supposed to work together on a project, likely a devotional book, but soon she started worrying about other areas of my life and discouraging my ideas, especially future career ideas. Toxic Christian friends exist sadly, I wish it wasn't a thing.
Temptation with friends I have dealt with. Mainly sexual temptation. What's sad is, those women were nice in general, but weren't serious about God at the time. It got so bad with a few of them that I had to keep distant.
So glad this was relevant for you, keep following the Lord no matter what!
Question: Were you communicating online or in person? And state the frequency.
@@emillenial624 Online and by phone. Almost every day the past month and a half. She deleted me off facebook last week, but then comes back to me recently asking about my life.
Tblazer She wants a mature, independent husband and claims she’s a perfect catch, but I don’t see how any man can put up with her.
Wow. My Daddy didn’t like my childhood best friend (he didn’t trust her). My big brother who’s known her our whole lives doesn’t trust her either (she told him something that she wouldn’t tell me), he even agreed with our daddy that I should break our friendship. Oh, and she’s not a believer, even though I’m a die- for-my-Lord girl. I’m NOT ashamed of the Gospel (even though sometimes my voice will shake when I speak)! I’ve just got to figure out how to end our friendship. Hugs and blessings 💙💙💙💙
God bless!
I remember a dream I had where I could know what people said about me and I saw my closest friends say stuff about me and I knew because very word someone say about me would appear on my face in black and I look at my face and saw horrible words I thought it was just a dream. Now my closest friends abandoned me because I spend too much time with family then them
This thing of cutting people off is too much now. Am not saying keep toxic people but accept people as they are and do self introspection before letting people go (sometimes you are the toxic person and you don't know it) Jesus didn't give up on us so why are we making it ok to give up on people? Pray for your relationships and expect the best from people. As Christians let us not be known for shutting people out in the name of the Lord. Let that be the last option.
Have you ever been with a narcissist?
@@korger1481 I have, but be careful not to classify everyone you don't get along with as a narcissist
nosibusiso xulu
I didn’t say everyone, but in this society there are a lot.
@@korger1481 yea she forget or don't know these types it's a despicable behaviour and evil spiritually influences /entities that moving with these types of people. There are a narcissis they gotta go. The Most High himself don't deal with rebrobrates she talking about praying for that relationship. She outta it The Father will put healthy people in your life she tripping talking like that.
YH YH
I agree!
I pray for them and let them go. They are so exhausting.
I dont have any. I love it this way i been thru so much abuse i dont trust a soul only God. I have no earth family since age 9 . But im so grateful to God he my family . All my praise & all my glory to you God i lovs you . And god bless ya'll too everyone . < 3 .
O Lord, please forgive me and her who was my best friend for having crossed path with one another during our time in work together that led us down a path of strong emotions when the Covid-19 crisis struck and broke us apart during lockdown. Please forgive us, heal us both, and give us strength and courage to let go of our respective dark and sinister past and move on as we continue on our own separate paths once again, guide us both and lead us down the path that you have designed for us. I will always pray that my friend Claire xxxx will always live a life that is full of joy, happiness, success, and worthy of your name. Amen.
Number one lol, if your wife says you should end it, you should probably end it!😂 God blessed me so much with my wife.
This video is a difficult one because every bit of it is the truth. The man I care for claims to be a christian, tells me that he loves me but is constantly putting me down and makes me feel like I'm not good enough.
Then he doesn’t love you....
lmao my mom told me god told her that i need to stop being friends with my bff and that he doesnt want me going down that path 😏
Because mother's knows best
God bless you
God knew I was suching for this yesterday. And I couldn't find it. And now you posted it. I'm crying. Thank you God
Hi mark. What if me and my girlfriend are always arguing with little things. Were both Christians. But i do not understand why we always fight. I always pray about her to love the Lord and she is gradually making an rffort to do it.since she backslided beforr. Is God telling me something about this? Were 5mos. Now. And we just argue last night. I'm tired of this cycle. Please comment something about this.
Whatever happens let the Lord's will be done into my life.
Love from a distance
Thanks for the video, it helps me a lot, and became the answer for me, explain so much..
i was blaming God, why let me being close friends with that guy (he hurts me a lot). by this video, reminds me that God was there telling me to move away from that guy (through other people who was told me to keep a distance).
Sometimes lonelines takes control of someones life, but it should be my decision to become "self independent", independent about my needs, that i am the one who could control it (the need to be love and being around by others) i dont want let anyone control this, but only God and me, and only God who can fullfill my needs through anything. Amen. thats why at that time He told me to find strengh in Him (i was stupid and childish to keep blaming on God) i realize it now, clearly.
I was wondering about a "friedship" i thought it was ,i wasnt sure , than this video was on and i was like 😯 this is the answer i did feel already but wasnt shure ...
My daily time with God..
And it was like God spoke trough this video
Any teen want to be friends? I haven't had a friend that has motivated me spiritually rn.
Search for the desert fathers aka orthodox monks. St Porphyrios in particular. They knew solitude. I'm your brother in Christ, and you are never alone!