When I was a teenager, I wanted relationship desperately. But my vision of relationships was very scarce. I am actually so so so glad that God saved me from unnecessary pain. Currently I am 22 and I don’t have a boyfriend and yes sometimes I am sad because of it, but I know that I need this season of singleness. I learn so much about life, people, and myself. Above all I learn to trust God and His plan that never fails. 💛
As a 16 year old girl, i have to say that it is hard for me to hear your advice. However i 100% agree with you. i should focus on God more and seek him more, not everyday day dream about having a relationship. When everything is right, my beloved one will come in the witness of God. God bless me to act decently and think deep before i do anything since i am still so immature. Thank you God and in Jesus's name, Amen!!!!
I am 16, and this video definitely applies to me! My first "thing" with a guy was only a couple months ago. It definitely was not worth it at all, we barely talked. Looking back now, my mind was extremely clouded, and I lost valuable friends over the whole situation. I NEED TO REMEMBER THAT MY VALUE DOESNT COME IN MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS! 😌☺️
Totally agree I'm 15 and have made a promise to myself about a year ago that I wouldn't start dating till about 12 grade.🌸 And it's good because I can work on Improving myself and growing in my relationship with GOD.
@@DrummerBoy04 wow thank u for commenting and reminding me of this comment I havent seen it in 2 years. I am officially 18 now and in 12th grade and have kept my promise with myself and God, I still feel I need to grow more with God before I am ready for any relationship but I trust His timing and for now I'm content. I know that word or frase get thrown around alot on the Christian community, ' being content in yr singleness' but for once I finally am, and that doesnt mean I dont long for a relationship and that's fine, that longing is from God He didnt create us to be along, but He also has a perfect plan and I'm going to stick to His plan for my life instead of trying to rely on myself and fail🥰 and it's hard keeping that promise and it sucks being single sometimes but then I have to remind myself of all the promises God has for me and a right relationship at the wrong time is still a wrong relationship. I dont want to jump ahead in Gods plan I want to do it in His amazing and perfect timing.
@@DrummerBoy04 its hard but I know u can do it and not in yr own strength but in Gods. When you are feeling weak or tempted ask for His strength, when you're feeling lonely ask Him for His comfort so He can draw near to u. When yr tired and fed up ask for His energy and motivation, when you're at the edge of yourself seek Him nomatter if u feel like it or not, because when you get to the end of yourself then that's when you truly find God. If you ask He promises to give you all of these things and it doesnt always mean material things, but the fruits of the spirit love, joy, peace, patience (this one is hard for being single🙈) kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. Ask for these things and He will graciously give them to you. And remember God is on yr side, sometimes we need a reminder of that like we forget He created us so that He can love us and when we where going to be disconnected from that love He died for that love He died for you so that you can have a relationship with Him. He has SOOOOO much grace for you, no matter how many times u mess up its never to bad or your never NEVERR to far gone. You can be forgiven in an instant if u just come to Him and confess and say yr sorry. Just speak to Him like Hes yr best friend, and when u dont spend time with Him He gets jealous of whatever or whoever is taking up yr time. He loves you and wants to spend time with you remember that, and you are going fail like I gave soo many times, but the closer you get to God, the further you get away from sin and evil and the devil has to flee, it doesnt mean you'll be perfect only God is,but it means you'll have slowly but surely got better and better. And it's not about being perfect it's just about letting God love you and growing with Him. I pray this motivates you, and sorry its soo long😅🙈
@@bareheartpod It fills me with Joy knowing that you are doing well still and God has amazing plans for us all. Personally I have been struggling with depression and I want to have a better attitude about myself before I love on someone else. But I'm so happy to know that even though we (as Christians) are spread far apart we still find ways to communicate for God's good. Again I emphasize God has an amazing plan for you!
24 here. Haven't dated anyone yet. I want to be a better man for my future spouse by turning away from my porn addiction and finishing my studies. Please pray for me and other single Christians struggling with sin.
Nobody should view being single as a curse or there’s something ‘wrong’ with you but should be taken as a opportunity to not only discover yourself but actually discover what you really want in a relationship. I find what really helps me is to pray for my future husband (rather if I already know him or not) I don’t do that out of loneliness, but I think it’s something that God wants to hear, once-in-a-while. Jeremiah 29:11
I've never been in a relationship before. Only ever came sort of close once. Twenty years old and I've never dated. It used to bother me, because it's something I've wanted since I was a little girl and I dreamed of meeting my prince charming, haha. But I truly am grateful that God has given me this time to grow, to experience life, to equip me, and to just allow me to be hidden in Him. I know He's preparing me for the day He opens up those new opportunities and allows me to venture down the path that's been blocked from me for so long. I know life would have been drastically different had I begun dating at the age most girls usually start.
First of all when we are teens we think we know all things. Most teens desire a relationship and won’t hear any advice specially if it comes from their parents. Now being 27 I see how it could’ve been prejudicial since the idea of getting into a relationship is with the mind set for marriage. At 16 you don’t really know how to make small decisions even more be in a relationship that most likely won’t lead to marriage. I think even some people in there early 20’s should get in a relationship. I know maturity doesn’t come from age but experience but we should all learn how to put our wishes and Dreams on the hands of God and put Him first of anything else before seek another person. I’m still doing that too and sometimes is hard not having someone but our main focus has to be God!
Met my husband to be when I was 16... he was 22. He always respected me and wanted to get to know me for who I was and we developed a lovely relationship. Unlike my peers he genuinely had marriage in mind
Completely understand all your points and as a 17 year old I know what you meant when you discussed thinking every girl could be your soul mate. However, with the rest of the world and society encouraging relationships and sex having a Christian girlfriend can really help to block out society’s views
I do agree with 95% of this. I dated at 15 and that was definitely a mistake. But I do believe I know 16 year olds who would be ready. I'm 17 now and wouldn't believe I'm ready to do so again. But I have seen a few where it has been really spiritually mature and thought out. So my personal thoughts are make sure your relationship with Christ is solid first. Without that a dating relationship will be empty. And pray and ask him. Make sure your communication with him is solid. As you said of course. But there are most definitely spiritually solid 16 and 17 year olds who I think would be ready. So discernment is key
Thanks for posting this on UA-cam, I am turning sixteen soon. I do have a good friend of the opposite sex who also has my view on dating. We stay friends and our main focus is to help each other grow in our faith. We think it's dangerous to date as a teenager even though we constantly get ridiculed by our friends in our church. They keep saying that we should get together and nonsense like that. This video really motivated me thank you very much.
I agree. I’m a 17 yr old guy and I know a lot of people who date my age and none of them have lasted. Most of them don’t even understand the point of a Godly relationship. The main focus should be God and a lot of people at that age are not as close with God and their priorities aren’t where they should be.
I'm 20 and I'm still not ready for relationships yet lol. 😭😂 Even God made it pretty clear to me that I need to wait for now. For me part of my problem is that I obsess and get distracted from my relationship with God, as well as I end up looking to satisfy my emotional desires sometimes instead of truly showing love if I'm not careful. God has been teaching me how to be better about this though.
The best advice I've heard is 'don't touch, don't kiss' and you won't stir up things reserved for marriage. (Wish I'd had that advice when I was young.
I agree. I’m 16 going on 17 and all I was worried about was dating but I realised that I wouldn’t be fulfilled. So I stopped her I got in another predicament. However I learned what true love is and grew closer to God. It is very rare but sometimes these stories happen. And as for other comments. I don’t like to argue but this is the best advice to give anyone so don’t bash it. Not everyone’s story is the same
I got married at 16 lol and still married now. I’m 29 now and my husband is 30 we have been married for 12 years and have 4 children together 3 girls and a baby boy. I wouldn’t recommend getting married young at all and I pray that my children don’t date or marry young because it was hard but I’m glad that’s my story ❤ I was a very mature 16 year old and even to this day have never been drunk or done anything “ silly “ I was a really good young mom and it’s what I was born to do.
This hit home rly hard. This is sumn my mentor has been trying to tell me, but me being a dumb 17 year old who just wants a gf, i wasn’t listening. But everything u said in this video is what he’s told me, and it helped so much. Thnx man!
I am 14 and I am in a healthy godly relationship and this is the girl I plan to marry. Yes I agree with you in some cases, but in others I find it okay as long as it’s a Godly relationship with boundaries. She brings me closer to Jesus and is a wonderful and amazing Christian girl. My brother had his first girlfriend when he was 15 and that is his wife right now. Jesus loves you all! God bless (: ❤️🙏
Don't recommend this or agree with it. I got married at 16 😱 29 yrs later. Yes still married with my husband . I told my husband I didn't want to have baby's untill I'm 30' yrs old. So we did💗. My last baby was born in my 40'. I saw so much when I grew up. I told Heavenly Father , I just wanted one husband in my life. He was and is the best thing that ever happened to me. Nevertheless , I don't recommend this to no one or my own children. I renewed my life to Jesus in 2015 and it was because of my children. I tell them they have so much to do . Working in God's relationship and school and so on. My husband and I grew up together and so true that " love conquers all" God bless you 💗❤️💜
Accept Jesus as your Lord and savior and repent you shall be saved give it a try i mean accepting Jesus is a great thing cause if you do your safe from hell you might think hell isnt real but it is and heaven isnt boaring ppl think heaven is boaring but infact you can fly in heaven accrpt Jesus as your Lord and savior repent and allways remember God does Love you........
Mary would have been between 13 and 16 when she had Jesus that was common practice for the time. Now my question is why is something that the mother of Jesus did with the approval of God not appropriate for us?
@@JJustJ-yb9wh you watch this channel so you know very well that that is not part of the moral law. Dating and reproduction are parts of the moral law very different things this is what we call a straw man you're attacking an argument I didn't make
@@JJustJ-yb9wh all though you take this a step further if I intentionally used two different sets of fabric on a garment and that garment ripped because the patches didn't hold correctly which is what this is a warning about that would be a sin because I'm not being a good Steward for what God has given me
When I was a teenager, I wanted relationship desperately. But my vision of relationships was very scarce. I am actually so so so glad that God saved me from unnecessary pain. Currently I am 22 and I don’t have a boyfriend and yes sometimes I am sad because of it, but I know that I need this season of singleness. I learn so much about life, people, and myself. Above all I learn to trust God and His plan that never fails. 💛
Thanks so much for sharing that Domi :)
@he was no God loves you he will surely give you a good life partner when time comes don't worry his plans are for only for our bright future
As a 16 year old girl, i have to say that it is hard for me to hear your advice. However i 100% agree with you. i should focus on God more and seek him more, not everyday day dream about having a relationship. When everything is right, my beloved one will come in the witness of God. God bless me to act decently and think deep before i do anything since i am still so immature. Thank you God and in Jesus's name, Amen!!!!
I was your age and I know is hard to focus in faith but trust the lord he will guide you and when you're confused pray, seek the lord he is good
Since you’re 18 now, wanna go out with m-
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I am 16, and this video definitely applies to me! My first "thing" with a guy was only a couple months ago. It definitely was not worth it at all, we barely talked. Looking back now, my mind was extremely clouded, and I lost valuable friends over the whole situation. I NEED TO REMEMBER THAT MY VALUE DOESNT COME IN MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS! 😌☺️
Amen!
Started Dating when I was 16, she was 17. Now we’re in our 20’s and getting ready for marriage. Always an exception to the rule!
Totally agree I'm 15 and have made a promise to myself about a year ago that I wouldn't start dating till about 12 grade.🌸 And it's good because I can work on Improving myself and growing in my relationship with GOD.
@jana on the internet thanx nice to know others wait🤗💓
100% agree with you! I'm 17 but I want to focus on my relationship with God before I commite to being there for another person.
@@DrummerBoy04 wow thank u for commenting and reminding me of this comment I havent seen it in 2 years. I am officially 18 now and in 12th grade and have kept my promise with myself and God, I still feel I need to grow more with God before I am ready for any relationship but I trust His timing and for now I'm content. I know that word or frase get thrown around alot on the Christian community, ' being content in yr singleness' but for once I finally am, and that doesnt mean I dont long for a relationship and that's fine, that longing is from God He didnt create us to be along, but He also has a perfect plan and I'm going to stick to His plan for my life instead of trying to rely on myself and fail🥰 and it's hard keeping that promise and it sucks being single sometimes but then I have to remind myself of all the promises God has for me and a right relationship at the wrong time is still a wrong relationship. I dont want to jump ahead in Gods plan I want to do it in His amazing and perfect timing.
@@DrummerBoy04 its hard but I know u can do it and not in yr own strength but in Gods. When you are feeling weak or tempted ask for His strength, when you're feeling lonely ask Him for His comfort so He can draw near to u. When yr tired and fed up ask for His energy and motivation, when you're at the edge of yourself seek Him nomatter if u feel like it or not, because when you get to the end of yourself then that's when you truly find God. If you ask He promises to give you all of these things and it doesnt always mean material things, but the fruits of the spirit love, joy, peace, patience (this one is hard for being single🙈) kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. Ask for these things and He will graciously give them to you. And remember God is on yr side, sometimes we need a reminder of that like we forget He created us so that He can love us and when we where going to be disconnected from that love He died for that love He died for you so that you can have a relationship with Him. He has SOOOOO much grace for you, no matter how many times u mess up its never to bad or your never NEVERR to far gone. You can be forgiven in an instant if u just come to Him and confess and say yr sorry. Just speak to Him like Hes yr best friend, and when u dont spend time with Him He gets jealous of whatever or whoever is taking up yr time. He loves you and wants to spend time with you remember that, and you are going fail like I gave soo many times, but the closer you get to God, the further you get away from sin and evil and the devil has to flee, it doesnt mean you'll be perfect only God is,but it means you'll have slowly but surely got better and better. And it's not about being perfect it's just about letting God love you and growing with Him. I pray this motivates you, and sorry its soo long😅🙈
@@bareheartpod It fills me with Joy knowing that you are doing well still and God has amazing plans for us all. Personally I have been struggling with depression and I want to have a better attitude about myself before I love on someone else. But I'm so happy to know that even though we (as Christians) are spread far apart we still find ways to communicate for God's good. Again I emphasize God has an amazing plan for you!
24 here. Haven't dated anyone yet. I want to be a better man for my future spouse by turning away from my porn addiction and finishing my studies. Please pray for me and other single Christians struggling with sin.
Nobody should view being single as a curse or there’s something ‘wrong’ with you but should be taken as a opportunity to not only discover yourself but actually discover what you really want in a relationship. I find what really helps me is to pray for my future husband (rather if I already know him or not) I don’t do that out of loneliness, but I think it’s something that God wants to hear, once-in-a-while. Jeremiah 29:11
Awesome Diana!
I've never been in a relationship before. Only ever came sort of close once. Twenty years old and I've never dated. It used to bother me, because it's something I've wanted since I was a little girl and I dreamed of meeting my prince charming, haha. But I truly am grateful that God has given me this time to grow, to experience life, to equip me, and to just allow me to be hidden in Him. I know He's preparing me for the day He opens up those new opportunities and allows me to venture down the path that's been blocked from me for so long. I know life would have been drastically different had I begun dating at the age most girls usually start.
First of all when we are teens we think we know all things. Most teens desire a relationship and won’t hear any advice specially if it comes from their parents. Now being 27 I see how it could’ve been prejudicial since the idea of getting into a relationship is with the mind set for marriage. At 16 you don’t really know how to make small decisions even more be in a relationship that most likely won’t lead to marriage. I think even some people in there early 20’s should get in a relationship. I know maturity doesn’t come from age but experience but we should all learn how to put our wishes and Dreams on the hands of God and put Him first of anything else before seek another person. I’m still doing that too and sometimes is hard not having someone but our main focus has to be God!
Good thoughts!
Thank you man, I needed to hear this right now.
Glad to hear it 😊
Met my husband to be when I was 16... he was 22. He always respected me and wanted to get to know me for who I was and we developed a lovely relationship. Unlike my peers he genuinely had marriage in mind
That's awesome you're so lucky.
Completely understand all your points and as a 17 year old I know what you meant when you discussed thinking every girl could be your soul mate. However, with the rest of the world and society encouraging relationships and sex having a Christian girlfriend can really help to block out society’s views
I do agree with 95% of this. I dated at 15 and that was definitely a mistake. But I do believe I know 16 year olds who would be ready. I'm 17 now and wouldn't believe I'm ready to do so again. But I have seen a few where it has been really spiritually mature and thought out. So my personal thoughts are make sure your relationship with Christ is solid first. Without that a dating relationship will be empty. And pray and ask him. Make sure your communication with him is solid. As you said of course. But there are most definitely spiritually solid 16 and 17 year olds who I think would be ready. So discernment is key
Thanks for posting this on UA-cam, I am turning sixteen soon. I do have a good friend of the opposite sex who also has my view on dating. We stay friends and our main focus is to help each other grow in our faith. We think it's dangerous to date as a teenager even though we constantly get ridiculed by our friends in our church.
They keep saying that we should get together and nonsense like that.
This video really motivated me thank you very much.
I agree. I’m a 17 yr old guy and I know a lot of people who date my age and none of them have lasted. Most of them don’t even understand the point of a Godly relationship. The main focus should be God and a lot of people at that age are not as close with God and their priorities aren’t where they should be.
Peer could be a factor too.
I'm 20 and I'm still not ready for relationships yet lol. 😭😂
Even God made it pretty clear to me that I need to wait for now.
For me part of my problem is that I obsess and get distracted from my relationship with God, as well as I end up looking to satisfy my emotional desires sometimes instead of truly showing love if I'm not careful. God has been teaching me how to be better about this though.
I love your humor in this
Thanks!
The best advice I've heard is 'don't touch, don't kiss' and you won't stir up things reserved for marriage. (Wish I'd had that advice when I was young.
I agree. I’m 16 going on 17 and all I was worried about was dating but I realised that I wouldn’t be fulfilled. So I stopped her I got in another predicament. However I learned what true love is and grew closer to God. It is very rare but sometimes these stories happen. And as for other comments. I don’t like to argue but this is the best advice to give anyone so don’t bash it. Not everyone’s story is the same
This couldn't have come at a better time, thankyou! This is confirmation for what I believe God has been putting on my heart.
Really glad to hear that!
Lol when you said the at 16 you think you’re so smart and said “thank you for blessing me for all this wisdom” that was definitely me haha
I got married at 16 lol and still married now.
I’m 29 now and my husband is 30 we have been married for 12 years and have 4 children together 3 girls and a baby boy.
I wouldn’t recommend getting married young at all and I pray that my children don’t date or marry young because it was hard but I’m glad that’s my story ❤
I was a very mature 16 year old and even to this day have never been drunk or done anything “ silly “ I was a really good young mom and it’s what I was born to do.
This is a sign
This hit home rly hard. This is sumn my mentor has been trying to tell me, but me being a dumb 17 year old who just wants a gf, i wasn’t listening. But everything u said in this video is what he’s told me, and it helped so much. Thnx man!
This has helped me very much, especially with the way I think about these things. Thank you!
So true I agree.
How times have changed. I mean how old was Mary when she was engaged to Joseph? 15 or 16 right?
Dude your content is so underated
Thank you for this 🤗
I am 14 and I am in a healthy godly relationship and this is the girl I plan to marry. Yes I agree with you in some cases, but in others I find it okay as long as it’s a Godly relationship with boundaries. She brings me closer to Jesus and is a wonderful and amazing Christian girl. My brother had his first girlfriend when he was 15 and that is his wife right now. Jesus loves you all! God bless (: ❤️🙏
wish I had this mentality in high school
Don't recommend this or agree with it. I got married at 16 😱 29 yrs later. Yes still married with my husband . I told my husband I didn't want to have baby's untill I'm 30' yrs old. So we did💗. My last baby was born in my 40'. I saw so much when I grew up. I told Heavenly Father , I just wanted one husband in my life. He was and is the best thing that ever happened to me. Nevertheless , I don't recommend this to no one or my own children. I renewed my life to Jesus in 2015 and it was because of my children. I tell them they have so much to do . Working in God's relationship and school and so on. My husband and I grew up together and so true that " love conquers all"
God bless you 💗❤️💜
Happy for you
how do i get comfortable with people of the opposite gender?
Just practice having conversations with them
did you just say your ...20 omg . why is eveyone doing better than me .
Yeah, you definitely shouldn't steady date with someone, you should instead go on dates. Don't go with the same person multiple times in a row.
Accept Jesus as your Lord and savior and repent you shall be saved give it a try i mean accepting Jesus is a great thing cause if you do your safe from hell you might think hell isnt real but it is and heaven isnt boaring ppl think heaven is boaring but infact you can fly in heaven accrpt Jesus as your Lord and savior repent and allways remember God does Love you........
Lowkey i wanna have a gf in 17 why because i know college is torture thats why i need someone lol😂😂😂😂😂
Mary would have been between 13 and 16 when she had Jesus that was common practice for the time. Now my question is why is something that the mother of Jesus did with the approval of God not appropriate for us?
The culture of that time was completely different
@@JJustJ-yb9wh does culture set morality or does God set morality be careful because one of those two answers would be blasphemy
@@thefultzman1 is it a sin for you to wear clothes with mixed materials?
@@JJustJ-yb9wh you watch this channel so you know very well that that is not part of the moral law. Dating and reproduction are parts of the moral law very different things this is what we call a straw man you're attacking an argument I didn't make
@@JJustJ-yb9wh all though you take this a step further if I intentionally used two different sets of fabric on a garment and that garment ripped because the patches didn't hold correctly which is what this is a warning about that would be a sin because I'm not being a good Steward for what God has given me