Emotional Damage Ft. Tefi !! -- Two Hot Takes Podcast FULL EP
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Tefi. My favorite TikTok celebrity guru graces us with her takes and relationship advice this episode! Has the "emotional damage" song been on repeat in your head? No.. just me? Well these stories may cause some emotional damage for you all because they're out there..
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Story 1 Not Allowed at Dinner: 00:11:55
Story 2 TW Spit Story: 00:21:00
Story 3 BF of 12 years Chose BF:00:33:05
Story 4 Made Wife Think Son Went Missing: 01:01:05
Story 5 Affair Wedding Joke: 01:15:06
Celebrity Beef Rapid Fire: 01:21:44
I agree with the dad , a child's safety is never negotiable.
Exactly. He was not wrong to put the fear in her that she clearly needed. Stupid mother.
Could care less about her husband “teaching her a lesson.” Not cruel. And if it was, oh well 🤷🏻♀️
hard agree
Absolutely!
This girl will change her tune when she has kids. If my husband did this I would LOSE my mind. And she promised she would stop! Wtf. No. The wife is the asshole. 100%
Absolutely! I don’t care if the mom’s feelings are hurt. That could be life or death. She would never forgive herself if something happened.
Hey for those who are curious about the first story' Not Allowed at Dinner: 00:11:55' , OP posted an update after the video was released;
" Update: I left my husband
First, I want to say thank you to everyone who commented on my post. I wasn’t expecting it to get as many comments as it did. I’m trying to go through and read everyone’s comments, but obviously that has taken some time, and I’m still not done.
This week has been a bit crazy, but I feel like I made enough progress to justify an update. Here’s what’s happened.
Your comments gave me the confidence to confront my husband about why I wasn’t invited, and I wouldn’t settle for a cagey answer. So I asked him about it calmly, and he said something like “oh, it’s just the family decision.” So I said “I’m your family, though, I deserve to know why.”
He said some very vague stuff like “well, you just don’t fit in as well as everyone else,” and I asked him what that meant. He couldn’t really explain it.
I was thinking about how a lot of you were concerned about the racial dynamics of my relationship. Personally, I had never thought much about it. No one in his family has ever made a racist comment toward me or toward anyone else. But I wanted to cover my bases, so I asked my husband if I was excluded because I was half black.
My husband said, and I quote, “no, it’s not because of that. You know I don’t care about that.” The way he said it implied that someone cared, so I asked who cared. He said nobody. I asked if it was his mom who cared, and he hesitated and said “maybe.”
After a long conversation of prodding him, here’s the story I eventually got:
His mom is not a fan of me. My race might factor into it, but he said it’s also my personality and my political beliefs and the fact that we went to my parents’ house on Christmas Day the first year we started dating. His mom told him that he should think about finding someone who “suited him better,” and she encouraged him to take some time away from me. She said the family dinners would be a great opportunity for him to be with his family, where he “fit in.” I was invited sometimes because the dinners weren’t always an excuse to get away from me. But some of them were.
I was obviously devastated after hearing that. But it also felt good to finally hear an explanation. I asked him if he thought he needed even more space from me. He didn’t even have time to answer before I went into the bedroom and started packing some clothes.
I’ve been staying at my sister’s house for a few days now. I haven’t contacted my husband. I’m giving him his space. We’ll probably end up separating or getting a divorce, but right now it’s too early to tell.
This was so hard to type out, but everyone was so supportive and I felt like I owed it to you all. Thank you again for your kindness."
hate the take about the baby in the car... her baby could have died or got kidnapped MANY times and we cannot excuse that. To excuse that is insane.
No exactly. The baby’s actual life was being put in active danger ALL THE TIME
exactly what i thought. she needed to know what it feels like to finally stop
@@kennedyc9235 Exactly, it's all the worse of she's leaving the baby in the car on hot days. Cars get hot within minutes. So leaving a baby or a pet in a car on a hot day, is asking for disaster.
The mother was in the wrong for leaving the baby by itself in the car. But the father didn’t have to take the baby out and act like the child was missing. Especially when the wife has Postpartum depression.
@@deanna.rodrigues Don't excuse the wife because of what she has AND they didn't know at the time what the wife has when the husband takes the baby out of the car
I completely disagreed with Tefi with baby in the car story. I don’t even leave my dog in the car. Let alone a baby! I support the father on this.
Agreed. Love her but she was so far off base. Her brief fear is nothing compared to him not even being able to trust his wife not to endanger the life of his baby any time she takes him out
💯 agree. I would have done the exact same thing.
The dad may have taken it too far, but a child should never be left alone in the car under ANY circumstances.
Same dude. She lied to him and said that she wouldn’t do it again… she lied to her husband about something so important that isn’t just a small issue like she made it out to be.. i mean, it’s not even a mistake… it’s her being careless and negligent and putting her child in danger. Then she makes it so much worse lying to the father of that child about not doing it anymore… she obviously wasn’t going to stop doing this unless something big happened. She’s just lucky that it was her husband and not a stranger. I do feel sorry for her though. I know how post partum affects mothers and it’s truly heartbreaking to see a mother go thru that. So I don’t think that she’s an asshole or anything. She just needed some help. But yeah.. Tefi made no sense. I think she was just reaching to make this out to be some like.. attack on women but really it was just a parent protecting their child n if the genders were reversed you know she would have supported the mom for doing it to the dad.
AGREED! I had extremely bad PPD but I never once ever even thought about leaving my daughter ALONE. I won’t even put her into daycare till she can communicate for herself. No no.
On the first story, there is an update! She left her husband.
Thank God. She deserves better
Is there a link to the reddit story? I would like to read it...
Thank you. I really needed to read that.
I would love this link to story
FINALLY
If the baby died in the car the mother would have been held responsible for murder. I can understand how angry the father is because I've heard too many stories of what could happen to a baby in seconds.
My jaw literally dropped when she shared her opinion on leaving a baby/young child in the car. It’s never okay. Maybe he didn’t handle it in the best way but he had the right to be upset and I honestly wouldn’t trust her with my child. I’m honestly just floored anyone can think it’s okay to leave your child alone in the car.
I think he did a good job because communicating clearly didn't work and if he had taken the baby in the store it still wouldn't have worked, and if he had yelled at her about what happened then the store would've have called the police and the wife possible gone to jail or CPS could've taken the kid away and if that didn't happen the wife would've thought that she had more ammo to fire at the husband
Nobody said it was ok to leave the kid. Tefi just didn’t agree with the husband way of dealing it
The husband was manipulative and in no way did tefi say she was pro leaving babies in the car
It wasn’t a mistake she made, it was repeated negligence. If those are the only breaks you get, find a friend who will watch the baby for an hour while you do what you need to but there’s no excuse to leave a baby unattended in a vehicle
I'm fully on the dad's side with the baby in the car story. I would've done the same thing, taking the child to show them how easy it is for someone else to kidnap the child. He talked to her, she didn't listen. I'd be scared to let my child be her responsibility too.
the guy who "taught" her a lesson I think should have let her freak out longer SHE IS IRRESPONISIBLE and already said she wouldn't, people like her do not learn and not to mention separating is not gonna fix HER LEAVING HER BABY ALONE...too many kids go missing because of idiot parents, yall prob don't get it cuz you aren't a mother but A LIFE OF SOMEONE YOU CREATED...you do what you need to protect them. She needed to feel that shock an scare to remember that feeling so she doesn't do it again. If he did not she would have deff done it again, I have been with my bebe since she was made....24/7 and I NEVER would do this.
Omg I agree! I would have went home and let her call the cops and make a fool of herself. It is wild to leave your baby alone like that and be so nonchalant about it.
I'd let her call the cops and 100% would get locked up for child endangerment.
I disagree with Tefi and the 12 year friendship story. I had to let go of a friend of over 20 years because of how badly she treated me. If she came back now apologizing, I would forgive her (already have) but no, we can’t be friends. You think her friend of 12 years who THREW away the friendship FIRST over a boy is loving her well? Absolutely not, I would not call that love. Forgive her and move on.
With the friend story, if I were OP, I don’t know if I could get over the first not believing me from the start. Yes she apologized, but not until the ex confessed he lied about her coming onto him- why did it take that long and him confirming it in order to believe your friend of 12 years? How can OP trust that she won’t believe some other bullshit someone says about her. You’re friends should defend you, and this friend won’t defend OP
One thing I noticed is that no one even gave her a chance to communicate what actually happened, her perspective. Instead her “friend” and all the other “friends” changed and treated her differently based solely off of the word of her boyfriend.
It seems like you've never been in a relationship with a manipulator. They stomp any kind of doubt out of you if you don't believe them.
I see both sides. The friend definitely fucked up but I mean, she’s human. I think if OP still loves her she should give her another chance but keep her on a short leash. Watch her behavior carefully and if she starts exhibiting some of the same problematic tendencies, then she can cut the cord for good and feel at peace knowing she gave her another chance and the friend is the one who squandered it. Good friendships are hard to find so I wouldn’t necessarily turn someone away for one fuck up if I think they’ve truly changed and learned from it.
100% agree with your take
Yes this! When they were having the 'heart to heart' she even said she didn't reach out earlier cause she still wasn't sure what to believe. That situation is more than the usual new relationship 'but Im in lurv' fog, there was no trust there when there should have been. I wouldnt let her back in my life in any capacity.
Being willing to break a window for a dog locked in the car with the window down but not a baby seems backwards
This gets me all the time.
She is my favorite guest you’ve ever had on the podcast ! What a fantastic episode.
I am a mother. I will not ever leave my child in a car alone. Inexcusable, this was not a mistake. She’s done it before, something terrible will happen one day. Well deserved
I’m team dad teaching a lesson 🤷🏻♀️ I’m 38 weeks pregnant so maybe I’m emotional but… where are her motherly instincts? That is so scary.
By far the coolest guest on the show, such a good vibes all the way.
I love the tefi morgan combo!!!! I love both of y’all sooo much! You both get me through my day!
Tefi is hilarious 😂😂 she had me dying of laughter at her stories 😂 please bring her back on in future podcasts
Ok, in the story about the kid in the car seat, I 100% agree with the dad. Not only is leaving your baby in the car reckless and illegal, but it's just straight-up neglect. I have an eight month old, and never once would I ever leave my kid in the car alone. Not only is there the chance of kidnapping or getting too hot, but people will also call the police on you for doing something like that. You could potentially be deemed an unfit parent and have your child taken away. It's just not worth the risk. I honestly can't understand how a person could rationalize doing this, especially when she promised not to. Major breach of trust.
I absolutely love Tefi's energy... I hope you bring her back!!
for the story about the kid being left in the car- he did NOT take it too far. The mother needed to know that her neglectful actions could have horrible consequences. And it isn't just kidnapping! Like the commenter said, leaving kids in the car when it's hot out CAN be deadly. I didn't know them personally of course, but my mom has told me several times about the family she knew growing up who's son died because their dad left him in the car.
My postpartum was different. I just completely stopped taking care of me. Basically I woke up, did what my baby needed, put him to sleep, and then I slept. ALL that I did was exactly what he needed. No more, no less. But I legitimately stopped enjoying taking care of my son for about a month and kinda really wished that I could just go to sleep one day. No actual self harm plans, just a desire to not exist. Thankfully I am in groups for past drug use, so I already had a doctor looking at my brain. We had to wrestle with a couple meds, but prozac seems to help a LOT. It has let me lift the weight enough to get some good habits going, and I'm getting there. Forever a work in progress.
This was seriously one of the most hilarious episodes. Please have her back on. I have followed all accounts lmao. Omg. So funny.
Purposely leaving a child alone in an unsafe situation is an act of negligence and I will die on this hill.
Sahm here and you do no EVER leave a kid in the car. Ever. Dad may have been a little extreme. But he’s the parent in the right here for sure.
This is the collab I've been waiting for!! My favorite comedian and my favorite podcaster!! I love you guys! Not sure why so many people are freaking out about Tefi's opinions lol. Daddy chill.
best guest fr i love her
I love Tefi! Miss the Tefi show so much, I really love this collab!
As a stay at home mom of a 3 month old, that mother should be ashamed of leaving her child in the car, it’s not hard to unclick the car seat and bring them inside with you, he was absolutely justified in doing what he did, she needed to learn the hard way what her actions were leading to.
Mom of three here and I’ve had post partum depression after every baby and I would NEVER leave my kid in the car while running into the store, no matter how long. Dad is not the asshole, but I do think the jump scare was a bit too much. Maybe just pulling him out and putting him in the car but parking next to hers and waiting and then being pissed. But that feeling you get as a mom when your child is missing is terrifying and traumatic.
Edit: OK so I commented before the end of the story, now I feel really bad! It’s still very unsafe to leave your kid in the car and I could never do that, but I’m glad that they were able to talk about it and figure out that there was something going on
this was literally my favorite episode ever
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The only reason Morgan is “agreeing” is because of the guest on this episode having a different opinion if it was Lauren or justin I garnered u she would be cussing the mother out
This has to be the episode I have laughed hardest with. Keep up the great work ❤
The child's safety is so much more important than the feelings of either parent. This is not a sexist thing. KIDS SHOULD NEVER BE LEFT IN THE CAR! I'm so glad this woman will never be a mother wtf.
Wow the friend break up segment really got to me. I've lost so many friends and its led to me to think that I am not a good friend or person. I always try to find the worst in myself when I know I am trying to be the best version of myself and I fail to see that not everything is my fault. I loved this episode, Tefi gives really good takes and applies them to real life.
Okay, I have loved a lot of the guest co-hosts, but Tefi has got to be my favorite so far. She’s so funny and rational and kind and shameless, she just vibes so well with Morgan, I would love to see her come back
Tefi is one of the best guests. I love how she's so protective of the girl in first story🤣🤣
My fav two hot takes so far!! Not just for the reddit post but for yalls commentary. Loved it!
“Who does he think he is” he is a parent just as much as the mother. The second that baby takes it’s first breath the dad’s decisions and opinions are equal to those of the mother.
I really appreciate this episode because I think I disagreed with all the things Tefi said but that’s good! It gave me new perspective on a lot of the topics and made me think about why i held my position and if still held my position after the points tefi made
I am a stay at home home with two toddlers and another baby on the way. I would NEVER leave my children in the car to run into a store. It’s hard yes, but it’s the best way to protect my children. Being a parent is not easy.
Now i need more tefi!!!
I don't agree with Tefi concerning the car, however I appreciate her perspective because Morgan then had to come up with something different the dad could do, that sends the same message. I had heard this story before, and I agree with the dad, but even he apologized, so yeah, he could've entered the store with the baby, which still shows the mother what she's doing wrong, and I hadn't thought of it before. And W dad for having a good talk with the wife, and her having the confidence to open herself up to the hubby, showing he really is doing his job right
“He should be in sales” is my new go to for insults
we need Tefi on THT like 100 more times
I'm sorry but I support the dad on this one. He might have taken the lesson too far. But a baby should never ever be left in a car for any reason. It's not a gendered issue.
bro what is tefi thinking w the car one.. like would genuinely like her to expand and hear her rationale bc damn
the second story i heard “he spits in our food” and SCREAMED 😭😭😭😭😭
I am a mother of a soon-to-be 2-year-old and I don't care if it's a dad or mom who leaves their kid in the car. Your child should never be left in the car. I don't care what season it is. I don't care if there's air conditioning nothing. He already took the what most people would call mature route and tried to talk to her about it and when he talked to her about it and she chose to clearly do the opposite because she clearly did it. Understand the risk she was taking. She needed to learn that fear. Parents who do this truly don't understand the risk they are taking.
I normally love all the guests but i really couldn’t get behind Tefi especially with the leaving a kid in the car thing and her talking about the alleged affair - as a brit i guess im more protective over royal family shit. Idk i just didnt enjoy this episode and lowkey disappointed- hopefully next week is better, maybe we’ll get Jerry back!
The amount of times I audibly gasp in my work building since discovering your podcast has my boss shook.
we need more Tefi
With the parents, the dad should have told her she had him right away, but he was ABSOLUTELY CORRECT in taking the son from her car. If she tried leaving him and getting full-custody, I doubt it would work because: child endangerment. The wife is knowingly endangering her son every time she does it. As somebody who used to work 80+ hours a week with kids (taking a poop was my break most days) and NEVER would I have the left the child unattended in an unlocked car. I think the husband did a great job in addressing the dangerous situation after, how he could've handled himself better, and how he took his wife having a hard time seriously.
Omg I enjoyed her poop story so much lol I was laughing so hard 😂
Dude Tefi is so funnnnyyy! I hope she comes back !!!
Story two is why I’m hesitant to eat at other peoples houses or at potlucks.
I was listening to this on Spotify I had to come to UA-cam to look at Tefi’s reactions
“C u next Tuesday “ love this!!!
I would have sat at the table right next to them and if they spoke to me I would tell them that they're being rude because I came to relax and eat alone .
The way Morgan is working to maintain her lower pitch of voice and longer pronunciation of words as in LA accent - the dedication:))
I’m certain the relaxed voice is absolutely amazing as well. Probably higher pitch.
for the story about the wife who can't go to her racist in-laws dinners
she posted an update! she talked to her husband, and he basically admitted his mom has an issue with her being black and from the start, MIL thought he needed someone who "suited him better". MIL told son that these family dinners could be a great time be with his family, where he could better "fit in". after hearing that, she decided to leave and is currently living with her sister!
The amount of times I screamed from their responses is insane - I am dying 😂
I know it’s an old episode but THE BABY STORY???
It isn’t about anger towards a mother - of course we are angry at her BUT it isn’t because we think a woman’s life after giving birth has to become all about caring for their child.
It’s about being a good fucking person with common sense. I’m no mother, still a bit too young for that, but it doesn’t take a genius to know that leaving a child in the car on their own is dangerous. Hell, if I’m driving with my little brother in the car I’ll make him get out with me for ANY stops no matter how quick I think I’ll be. If something happens, he’s young and he has no idea how to handle a car and isn’t strong enough to fight off any potential attackers.
All this anger should be directed at the women who decided to still leave her child in the car even after being aware of the dangers. Yes, OP is not HER parent, but he is the child’s parent and he has the right to do anything he wants when it comes to his child’s safety being risked.
I love tefi she’s so effortlessly funny
I didn't know who Tefi was before this but she's HILARIOUS and very lovable.
my favourite guest yet!!!
Tefi no. That baby aita take was not it. She deserves that scare, that’s extremely neglectful on her part. She’ll be ok. So many things could have happened to that baby. She needed that reality check.
It took me way too long to recognize Tefi! I used to watch her live show every day on UA-cam back in 2019! So glad to see she’s doing well
Tefi is SOOOO freaking funny! It would be great if you did more episodes together!
Honestly I love Tefi and the vast majority of this podcast was funny and a good conversation. I do not agree with her stance with the baby in the car but she gave pretty good advice on other stories and she gave her honest opinion which is the point of the podcast. I do not agree that a baby should ever be left alone in a car but she was giving her opinion by putting herself as the mom. A great podcast and I enjoyed this episode.
Story #1 he needs to stick up for his wife . Or divorce her . 😂
Please please please have Tefi on more often, gosh that Lady is FUN!
Tefi is a great guest, would love to see her on again.
I have 3 kids (all grown now :) I NEVER left them in the car, I was often all by myself (hubby was deployed) . You never leave the kiddo in the car. Never.
Tefi's poop story had me crying! 🤣
So its ok to leave a kid in a car because mommy might need a 5 min break??? Thats ridiculous!!! I completely disagree with her and am soooo happy that Morgan said so and didn't just agree because shes her guest. There are no oks to whether leave a kid in a car or not, how many more kids need to die o get kidnapped for people to learn!??? Im not a mom, but you dont fckn need to be one to have common sense and know this!! If she needs a break, talk to your husband!!! Dont you your kid in danger or else will get a break once he dies or gets taken!!
If that spit one isn’t a troll I’m gonna riot
if this was a dad doing this, they would’ve been in court ASAP - bullshit that men get it easier especially when it comes to how they take care of their children.
I disagree with Tefi on the best friend story. Fuck that friend. I'm not going to deal with that someone who would drop me for something like that along with turning my other friends against me?! Fuck nah.
Could we get time stamps for the different posts?
We are awaiting the “a sh*t show” episode 😂😂😂😂
Dad has stated that the mom has made it a horrible habit of leaving the baby in the car. Mother had said she wouldn’t do it again. Yet she did. There’s no justifying after that. Was the way he did it a little extreme? Yeah, but in this situation, she’s playing with her child’s safety and life. Yes, everyone makes mistakes, but when it becomes a habit, it’s no longer a mistake anymore. It doesn’t matter if it’s the mother or the father doing it, no one should be leaving a baby alone in a car.
I really liked the nuance you guys brought to the story with the mom leaving her kid in the car, she was definitely in the wrong but I think we need to have more compassion for people who are clearly struggling mentally and seeing people call her a horrible mother in the comments is pretty upsetting. I'm glad that the husband is helping her get the help she needs, I don't think anyone is the asshole in that situation tbh
Nah I'm a mom who had depression amongst other mental health problems and I would never. That is absolutely not an excuse to put your child's life in danger. She's being a bad parent, I hope she gets help so she can be a good mom but right now she isn't and mental health problems are not an excuse for putting a babies life in danger.
I loved the ones with tefi must do more!!
I have two best friend break up experiences that rocked my world and both happened in the last year and a half. I feel for that OP
The mother was 100% in the wrong. The dad pretty much told her the first time to not leave the kid alone in the car and she still didn’t do what he told her to do, FOR THE CHILD’S SAKE. No the husband isn’t her fucking parent, but he is the fucking parent of her child and he has every right to call her out if she is going to be irresponsible. Not only that but leaving a child in a car is a CRIMINAL OFFENCE. Not only because of possible kidnapping but because they can die if the car gets too hot. In Australia, there is thousands of ads about not leaving kids in cars. I’m 21 and I wouldn’t do that because it’s illegal. And Tefi is making so many stupid excuses for the mother. Leaving your child in the car to take a “break” is not worth it if you are literally risking your child’s life. There are so many better ways to take a break without putting your baby’s life in danger. Can’t believe they are defending a literal crime and are defending a situation where the child could have been kidnapped or suffocated
I don’t know who the guest speaker was but damn did she ever piss me off this episode. 🤬
1st story would be ex husband 😒
I was waiting to hear you talk about the kid one. I’ve heard it on another channel. I’m with the dad
she’s so funny. i very much enjoyed this episode
She’s kinda annoying and didn’t let Morgan talk much
I agree
LOVED this episode, died laughing with tefi's stories
"Your brain is constantly trying to make you happy"....can I have your brain? Mine keeps running apocalypse scenarios lol. And that I'm never good for anything or anyone. The fight is hard and real.
Edit: spelling mistake.
I'm so excited for this episode!
I loveeeeeeee Tefi omg she's the best 😂
Im 22 and a year ago a random man broke into my moms car while i was in it and she was running an errand. He took the keys and it was terrifying. Im a full adult and this happened, the wife 100000000% deserved this
Ahhhh it’s Tefi 😭❤️❤️❤️
So excited to watch this episode!
Dad's not the asshole. That's so fucked to leave the kid in the car and unlocked on top of that! Not just that anyone could've kidnapped him at any point, but also if it's summer or even winter and she turns off the car, the baby could die. It took 6 mins for her to leave the gas station store and come back, but who knows how long she had already been inside before dad had arrived. Additionally mom leaving their baby in the car to run into the post office?! Idk what time of day shes going but that can easily take 15-30mins depending. Also, other people could've called the police/cps on them and opened a whole new can of worms (as they should).