Let's Talk About Postpartum Depression (+ BABY BLUES)
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- Опубліковано 14 кві 2020
- Postpartum depression, baby blues, emotions after having a baby and how to have realistic expectations about being a new mom. I share my experience from when I was a new mom, symptoms of PPD and Baby Blues and some empathetic tips on overcoming baby blues.
I have been getting messages recently from moms who are wondering if something is wrong with them because they recently had their babies but they are not happy. They wonder if they are sick, they don't know if it is postpartum depression, baby blues, or if they are just simply bad moms because they don't enjoy their new role as mommy. As much as I wish I could respond personally to each message I am living the quarantined life and juggling too many things as it is, so this video is my heartfelt response to those women. When I had my first baby I too struggled with feeling like I was broken. I had anxiety, I couldn't sleep, I didn't like being a mom, I felt lost, trapped, I wondered if motherhood would ever get better. I scoured the internet looking for hope and found very little. As time went on my baby got a little more sturdy, and I got a little more rest, I began to feel more like myself and eventually... 4 years later .. I had a 2nd baby. My postpartum experience the 2nd time around has been significantly different. I have a better understanding now that everything about the new mom journey comes in temporary stages, even though the stages feel milesssss long when you are inside of them (sleep regressions anyone?). Becoming a mom is a full on life flip, hormones go crazy, our body grows, stretches, & then once the baby arrives it bleeds, leaks, and gradually shrinks back to a new maternal version of itself. Everything is different. While we love our babies & are grateful for the gift of new life, it is still a scary, fragile, sensitive & exhausting season of life which is allowed to make us feel crazy sometimes. This video is an "I see you" to struggling moms. It is a friendly, "You are normal," to any mom who feels like they are suffering in their new role. Along with all of the normal new mom challenges, there is a a unique & new intensity right now as we are navigating a global pandemic. Family is not able to come visit and help us out as readily as before. Baby showers were cancelled. There aren't guests in the hospital to cheer us on and bring us donuts. Loneliness is exaggerated because we literally can't hug as freely as we are used to, and we are expressing our feelings through screens rather than in person on couches with cups of hot coffee in hand. If you are a new mom, living the new mom season in the midst of Covid19, you are doing SO SO good. Give yourself grace. Allow yourself space to feel crazy or ask for more help than normal. You CAN do this and motherhood does get easier and more fulfilling in time. I SO believe in you mama.
** If you are struggling with Postpartum Depression please contact a mental health professional as soon as possible. You are not alone and help is readily available to you.
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"A baby is born and then a Mum is born..." I'm only in my first trimester and that brought tears to my eyes.
I felt a disconnect with motherhood with my first daughter and with my second one I fell into a deep post partum depression. A failed vbac, a colic baby, a move at 6 weeks pp, a failed au pair arrangement and then going into the winter. WOW. As a medical practitioner, I was aware of what was happening and determined to "fix" it. 3 years later after hitting my head against a brick wall, I decided to talk to my gp about meds. I'm happy to report that I now have the motivation and inspiration to do life again. I can laugh again. I'm smiling more...
I also hope women take it easy on themselves if they don't bond with their baby the very second it is born! You have never met this little person before! Give yourself time and in meeting your baby's needs your bond will grow. ♥️
Finally, an online mom who is real, relatable and more helpful than you know! THANK YOU!
Girl I needed this today 😩😍
This quarantine is making my maternity leave even longer, and I feel like I'm going crazy! I've had so many breakdowns and have been struggling to take care of myself throughout the day.
This was so helpful and inspiring 💞
Heather Hughes Im sorry you are struggling!! I can’t imagine having to go through quarantine on top of feeling all the normal crazy feelings! You’re doing SO good
Me too hun... I was meant to return to work next Monday but got let go a few weeks ago, and it's tough no longer having an end in sight
I am facing the same , I am in maternity leave and this quarantine is adding extra pressure on me to be depressed along with postpartum
Im with you sis
I’m 16 weeks postpartum and this exactly how I felt and sometimes still feel. Motherhood did not come naturally to me and like you Jess, it was never a lifelong dream of mine so when I fell pregnant I struggled with the realisation that I was about to become a mum. When my little girl was born I was terrified and felt completely overwhelmed as I didn’t have a clue on how to take care of a baby and nor had I ever been interested in children before. Luckily I had a lot of support both from family/husband. I also sought help from the hospitals psychiatrist/psychologist and social workers which have helped immensely. I love my daughter so much and I’m still trying to get the hang of this motherhood thing however, I’m definitely feeling better and more confident as a mother now
Aww I wish I could hug you! I'm so happy you have support. Everything will fall into place. I promise, there is an "end" to these awful feelings. The bad days become fewer and fewer over time 💕
The heavens declare the glory of God,
and the sky above proclaims His handiwork.
Day to day pours out speech,
and night to night reveals knowledge.
Psalm 19:1-2
Thank you for making this video! I had my first baby 4 months ago and really struggled with the transition into motherhood even though it is what I had always wanted for my life. I feel like I’ve finally settled into motherhood and a lot of the negative emotion i was experiencing in the weeks following my daughters birth have thankfully gone away. We don’t talk enough about how hard the transition can be for a lot of women and I’m grateful for people like you who take the time to address these issues. Mommas have to support one another!
omg that dress is BEAUTIFUL on you
Julia Goldsmith-Pinkham thank you!!
So beautiful!
The fact that you stated that pregnancy and delivery and the whole process is actually just crazy insane! I just had my first last month and it’s still just mind blowing to think about the whole thing honestly!
this video is so spot on. i did not have ppd or baby blues but was still shocked by the transition and lack of sleep and hormones. the description of post-birth life/thoughts is so accurate. this advice is excellent. i wanted to watch wholesome shows, i was craving that! i watched downton abby and ted lasso
This is exactly what I needed. 4 weeks in and haven’t seen any family or friends due to lockdown.
That really sucks! I’m sorry you’re going through that.
Im sorry!! You’re doing so good! It will be such a relief when all this is over 🙈
Im so sorry, I am pregnant and I am happy but worried as well because of this hole cover 19. I wanted to accomplish more but this will be a different life for me.
I’ve really been struggling and am 6 weeks postpartum. I needed this right now. Thank you!
I love that you touched on some women feeling amazing and glowing when theyre pregnant but that you felt quite vulnerable.
I'm currently pregnant and feel that theres so much stress to it that no one talks about as everyone just expects you to be excited about just the baby all the time, which is lovely but pregnancy really does take a toll and i don't think people talk about it enough so thank you :) 💙
Thank you so much for this video. My baby is almost 3 weeks old and I’m really struggling mentally much more than I thought I would be. Will definitely be joining your group - think it might be exactly what I need. Also just love your approach to motherhood and life, you have such a calming presence!
I really love your mom videos! I started watching when I was pregnant, my mom had found your birth story video. I was really blessed to have a mom who did not mislead me about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood. When I became pregnant, I work with and mentor a close group of young women who come from very different walks of life and have different opinions on what they’d like for their future family, it was very important to me to give them honest expectations of these experiences. I feel your videos do the same and I think that is just a vital resource to exist out there. Motherhood is really hard and I think culturally we lie to women about what “is” and “should be.” Your honesty and vulnerability on this topic is so refreshing and I really believe you may be saving moms and their relationship with their babies! ❤️ keep doing what you’re doing! ❤️
You are such a light, Jess. Thank you for the content you make. You are so real and so helpful and encouraging. I needed this.
such good timing! I have a history of severe depression and am worried about PPD. I'm 38w5d and it helps SO MUCH to hear what's normal and what's not. thank you jess
Jill Evans it’s not normal to want to harm yourself or your baby. That’s an emergency ❤️ congratulations! I’ve always had depression and have had ppd for 6 months now. If you’d like any advice, I’m here!
Thank you! You speak to me. I didn't like pregnancy or delivery and the first several months with my son were difficult (in a much better place now and in love with my son). I was not the glowing, oh I love pregnancy, this is beautiful, I definitely cried a lot. I felt bad that I wasn't reflecting the sentiments of my friends saying the exact opposite of how I was feeling. I've watched your videos for awhile, through my pregnancy and when my baby was born (Aug/19) and until now! Thank you for posting your content, I look forward to every post. You have helped me so much :) You are a wonderful person.
This was such a perfect description of where I am at right now after having my first baby. I was so excited about being a mom, I wasn’t fully prepared for how much my life would change. You summed it up perfectly when you talked about how we are used to having our own personal needs met, and then when you become a mom all of that gets put on hold. It’s created a strange loneliness in me. I love my son with my whole heart, but some days I just feel lost and like I desperately need a day for someone to completely pour back into me. I hate saying that because I feel so selfish feeling that way. But I think it’s normal. I have loved watching The Office as well postpartum even though I’ve seen it so many times. It’s a lightheartedness that I need. 🥰
Your aura and personality are so beautiful. Every time I watch one of your videos I just want to hug you and say thank you for making me feel normal and ok. You have a beautiful soul. 💜 Thank you for being so real and open.
Love this. Such a great time to post this too during quarantine when moms already feel so isolated after birth. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm 12 weeks pregnant with my first and I'm so glad I have your videos :)
Thank you so much for your honesty, your courage, your rawness and realness.
When you are taking and experiencing how you feel, is like you are taking the words out of my mouth.... I feel the exact same way.
My baby is 4 week old and I love him, but I don't really like being a mom. Never really imagined myself being one.... But here I'm 🤷♀️
Thank you for your video I thought I'm the only one, it is so comforting to know I'm not alone.
Your Eloise story I'm living now.... 😔
I'm in month 4 of postpartum and I can definitely relate this video!! I went through the baby blues and I am currently experiencing postpartum depression symptoms but have not been diagnosed either. Something that has really helped me through these couple months is being completely transparent with my husband. Sharing how I feel even though it sounds crazy and uncomfortable to talk about. We've had nights where I would just cry and he would comfort and embrace me. But that is exactly what I needed - someone to listen and be present with me. Thank you for this video💛
Your videos have helped me and my mental health so much, thank you for creating this lovely, supportive community!
Wowww Jessica!!! 🥰🙏🏼 this is one of the best videos I have seen so far about this topic.. thank you soooo much for telling the truth and sharing with us.. you just described exactly what I’m feeling and going through and the fact that my family was suppose to be here to help me and now I find my self alone with my my husband and our 2 months old son who demands 24/7 attention.. this is really crazy indeed but seeing videos like yours makes me feel so much better knowing that I’m not alone feeling like this and that it will pass! 💗🙌🏼💆🏻♀️
Thank you Jess! Wow that spoke to me! I didn't really dream to be a mom either. Pregnancy wasn't something I enjoyed. My delivery was so incredibly different then I expected and ended in a c-section. Breastfeeding, not natural at all! Recovering from surgery. So many emotions, so many new things... With that said, it does get easier. With my second I felt so much more prepared. I knew what to expect and how it was going to change my life. I knew the areas where I would need help. I also started watching a show, it was The Middle. Also Friends. That helped bring some comedy to my life this time around and gave me an outlet while I was nursing through the night. Still didn't get enough sleep but expected it. Just wish there was a way to know all these things the first time! Thanks for making videos like these so other moms can be more prepared. I wish I had this 4 years ago.
So thankful i came across your channel Jess. Thank you for being so amazing. This channel has helped me so so so much!
I had my first baby in July. I wish I could have watched this before I had her. Great video. Made me emotional. ❤️
Thank you for this video
I’m 16 weeks pregnant and yesterday I had a breakdown because I have not enjoyed my pregnancy. I’m grateful that God blesses me with a baby but I’ve literally experienced every single pregnancy on top of my heart issues and I’m just over it !!! Plus I’m feeling depressed especially during the lockdown
I felt exactly like you described with your first baby. Thank you for sharing this video. I feel less guilty and ashamed of experiencing these feelings the first 3 weeks of my baby's life. THANK YOU.
I'm currently 5mpp with my first babe. And I'm STRUGGLING big time. I love him more than anything in the world and I just feel like he deserves a better mama 💙💙💙💙
I can't wait to get through this dark time..
Thank you for being you Jess and helping us all
So happy you posted this video! By nature, I am a very happy person. However, after having my first baby I experienced depression/anxiety and it scared me. I never realized just how common baby blues/ PPD was. But it did go away after a month or two. I love your channel.
Love, a happy nurse in Oregon;-)
Love you!! Love the FB page too. I had a traumatic birth experience and terrrrrible baby blues and I was shocked because I assumed you had to have depression prior to get it and you don't!
Kaylene K thank you! Im so glad you like the group! Im sorry you had a traumatic birth experience 🙈 that is so hard. It is crazy how baby blues can affect anyone even if we haven’t struggled before!
I adore your videos, Jess. I gave birth to my first baby on April 2nd, and this one really hit home for me - brought me to tears. Thank you. ❤️
Hi, you’re an angel 🥰 I’ve been following you since I first found out I was pregnant, am 37 weeks along now. Thank you for this and for all the videos you share. ❤️❤️❤️
I also don’t love being a mom. I cried when my water broke. I was not ready! I went through everything you described. I delivered in November, but I still didn’t have any support. I was and am alone. I still have pp depression 5, going on 6 months after delivery. Life is hard. I love my baby more than anything, but I will probably never have another one. I don’t really mean it, but sometimes I say I wish I didn’t have a baby bc of what my life has become. He’s very fussy. I can hardly take care of myself like rn I’m sick with mastitis and I can’t take a nap bc I’m the only one who takes care of the baby. I ask his dad for help and don’t get any. I’m not myself anymore. I always knew having a baby would be hard. I never dreamed it would be this hard. I’m so thankful for your videos you have no idea how much you’ve truly helped me and my son 💞💞💞
Thank you so much for this video. I gave birth three weeks ago and was really struggling without family support due to COVID. Please keep making inspirational content. We need more people like you.
Perfect timing. Thank you🥰
I love your videos so so much because I feel the EXACT same way about motherhood! It does NOT come natural for me and I have to try really hard to love this role. Sometimes it sucks because you feel so limited to what you can do because a tiny human demands your attention all day long. Yes, its a blessing, yes I love my son so much but there are days when I wonder what I got myself into in the first place lol. I struggled with PPD after I had my son and it was so hard! thankfully, it didn't last long. But thank you for this video, I'm glad that I'm not the only mom out there that doesn't always love motherhood lol. Love you Jess!
Had my 3rd baby 3.5 weeks ago. This pregnancy and postpartum has been VERY different and harder than my other 2. Top it off with quarantine so no visitors, no help besides hubby who still gets to work but it gone most of the day. There is so much more going on then what I’ve mentioned here but this video was encouraging, to remember that I can do this and I’m not alone. Thank you 🙏🏻
so well said! thank you so much for normalising the topic! you are amazing.
I needed this. I'm 7 months in and wondering when the clouds lift.
Shannon Rising same.
❤️
I know this is about Post Partum Depression. But I've been just depressed so much lately that parts of this really helped me and I'm not even a mom. You're just so calming and positive and uplifting.
Ugh i needed this so bad. i just found out im 7 weeks and had no intention of being a mom. My husband is in the Navy and when the baby is due their is a high chance of him being deployed. We live 1000 miles away from all our family, i am so scared for all of this to happen. When you read about pregnancy online it all is made to seem its butterflies and rainbows, everyone who was ready to be moms and that was NOT me especially already having a history of anxiety/depression it scares the hell out of me. he is super excited and ready, i just felt like i was one of those who would never be ready... especially right now with a pandemic going on killing the mood. this helped me so much to realize im not alone! Thank you everyone in the comments helping me too and helping me calm my anxiety its comforting to know were all in this together.
I’m pregnant with #2 and I’m scared. I had terrible postpartum with my first son and I’m scared I’ll have it with my second son. But this time around I will be way more prepared. Thank you so much much for being real and exposing the truth of parenthood.
Super random! But I was up late trying to get some quiet moments while my husband and kids sleep. I was watching say yes to the dress and saw you!! It was super cool!!
18 weeks pregnant with our first baby and struggling with anxiety and depression. Pregnancy has only made this worse. I'm really nervous I wont be able to take care of my baby or myself. Glad I found your channel...
Great video! I'm gonna check out that Ted talk.
I have an anxiety disorder (GED) that's been pretty quiet the last few years, but it was really bad in my early-mis 20s.
Previous mental health issues makes you more at risk for ppd, so its definitely something I'm aware of. I try not to worry and fret about it, but the concept is still a bit scary.
Your videos give me so much hope
Wow! So liberating...
I have ppd and ppa my kiddo is 11.5 weeks. It has been hard but i definitely see the light at the end of the tunnel!
Just sent a request to be part of your Facebook group:) Thanks for being so raw and honest! I am 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby and honestly I share many of your feelings and in the outside I show I am happy and excited, but inside I am feeling down,overwhelmed,not sure of my identity anymore and not sure this is really what I wanted... I do ask God for forgiveness and talk to my daughter in the womb asking for her patience and to forgive mom for these feelings, but I do love her already and will take this as a growth opportunity. I watched Dr Alexandra Sacks Ted talk right before yours lol She talks about “Matrescence”, it’s such an eye opening conversation. Thanks Jessica:):)ps. I have been a nanny for many years but being your own child takes it to a whole new level... plus pandemic of 2020 and no parents/in laws in town for help definitely increases my anxiety:(
Thank you for this! I am due on Sunday and already feeling super isolated from my family and friends :(
Rah Leahy aw Im sorry! Im hope this all passes sooner than we think and your friends and family can come meet that beautiful new baby!
This is so accurate... I'll add that my baby was very colicky and that on top of everything else made me resent him. I lost my patience with him and all his needs. I immediately informed my dr and got on an anti-depressant. It helped me immensely. I soon was able to let go of that resentment and frustration and go back to that blissful feeling that I felt when he was born.
Thank you for this, I feel like I'm going crazy
This was very interesting. Thank you, Jess.
I would say my baby blues were mainly because of my episiotomy recovery. I felt like it didn't allow me to enjoy those first few weeks with my baby as much. I didn't mentally prepare for such a traumatic birth because the females in my family had very easy births (my mother had no contractions with my sister, waters broke then a push and she was out!) and I thought I'd follow suite.
And now, as my periods have come back to normal, meaning they absolutely kill, I've always had painful periods. I admit I really struggle looking after my son whilst I'm in pain. My hubby understands and does his utmost to help out in the couple of days where I'm just zoned out. But I'm dreading how it'll be when hubby goes back to work. Plus, my son is 8 months and very active. He's only going to get more active.
This was really helpful! I’m not having kids but I have a ton of friends who I know will need support.
Velvet Stonebraker thank you! You’re such a loving friend to watch it on behalf of them.
You are the most wonderful human ❤️
Thanks for your unique content Jess 😘👍 hi from Germany
You’re saying the exact thing I feel!
This is my first pregnancy and I am so scared of having post partum depression. My mom admitted she struggled with it with all 3 of her kids. My hormones have already made me such a roller coaster. Thank you for this Jess I needed to hear it
Katie Thompson i know it can be daunting but you will do so well! You might be pleasantly surprised with the ease you feel! That happens! And even if you do feel it you will know it is temporary and you’ll have support in the process! Im excited for you 💛
Thanks Jess ❤️ you’re such a beautiful person inside and out. I have followed you long before I got pregnant and I’m so thankful to have someone like you to follow through this wild journey. You’ve given me such insight on motherhood and life and helped me better my relationship with the Lord. Thanks for all you do. Prayers for your family during these crazy times
I really didn't feel that overwhelming love for my child for months, but I also knew that that was ok, it didn't mean that I didn't love her, just that I didn't feel that rush. I thought of it like how I know I love my partner even if I don't feel love for him at every moment of every day, and my partner is someone that I know and chose, and the baby I was just getting to know. What I didn't expect was that once she started eating solids instead of exclusively breastfeeding I felt a lot of sadness that was due to the hormonal shifts, but that passes too.
I have notifications on and I literally didnt get told about this video. UA-cam needs to get it together.
I was diagnosed with PPD after 9 months. Yeah. 9 months before getting help *high five* 🤷♀️ It took me 4 months to feel emotional love for my daughter. Everything felt like I was seeing it through a haze. SAM-e really helped. And talking about it with loved ones. I wish I had known that after about a year things would be night and day. In the thick of it, it feels like it will be forever.
I stretch out my hands to You;
my soul thirsts for You like a parched land. Selah
Psalm 143:6
You’re a star!
I just love you. You are such a loving cheer leader for women/moms, and so brave and inspiring. I experienced post partum depression and anxiety with my 2nd child, and I was completely shocked that it happened to me. I didn't have it with my first (just the baby blues that resolved). I have never in my life been suicidal and I was really embarrassed to be having such thoughts. I developed insomnia when my daughter was 5 weeks old, and began to lose my mind. I had an almost continuous negative thought pattern in my head of "you're a terrible mother and your family would be better off without you." Thank you for your brave vulnerability and your messages of hope. I wish I knew you in real life, because we seem to have such similar views on motherhood..and your personality is a true light in this world.
I got help and healing from my lord Jesus Christ and also with medicine. Don't ever give up mamas. Stay here ♡
I know the TED talk you’re referring to, and I believe the word is matrescence. Referring to the birth of a mother ❤️
And YES to The Office 🙌🏽
Was the initial shock of having a baby/ realizing the lack of freedom as extreme the second time around? My daughter just turned two and I finally feel like myself again for the most part. I want her to have a sibling but don't know if I can go through the PPD again. I would definitely have to work. I stayed home for 5 months with my daughter and felt so isolated. My husband always said that I wished I was the dad, which was true!
Holly McLaughlin also curious about that.
Could you do a video on how Dr visits have been during the pandemic
This is exactly how i feel..
I enjoyed my pregnancy and delivery .. but taking care of my baby I am struggling 😢 .. I am desperate to get some help .. my husband is loaded with work so he doesn't get time to help .. omg I just have one and it is now impossible for me to think about having more ..
Hey Jess! I am trying to find some good postpartum nursing-friendly clothes for my sister who will be having my nephew this June and neither of us know where to find good stuff online that is affordable and cute. A lot to ask I know. Do you have any advice??
Last year about this time I found out I was pregnant and my hormones made me VERY negative. It was like first trimester depression, i this a real thing? I had dreams every night about death and being alone, I felt very distanced, alone and argued with my partner daily about him also making me feel that way and not being the support system I needed.. That pregnancy ended in miscarriage which I kind of assumed my negativity was my body's response trying to tell me about my loss..
I am having some very first symptoms of pregnancy again and noticing I'm feeling very down and lonely and blaming my partner for the way I feel, as if he isn't loving me enough or the right way right now. These never get resolved and push us further apart because I feel absolutely crazy and my loneliness can't be justified or actually fixed, it's all mental.. and its very reminiscent of the first time - also terrified of another miscarriage.
In these moments it actually feels like I am truly the most alone and very low and worthless - it always comes back to feeling alone. I feel like I won't even be able to get through a whole pregnancy without breaking apart or ruining my whole life in the process. Honestly have not be able to get these thoughts out at all anywhere, thanks to anyone who takes the time to read.
Also thank you Jess so much for sharing this and your whole story with PPD and just being so so kind. I have no children and that was my first pregnancy, watching your videos gives me so much hope and you are helping me to find god, to find peace and contentment with what I have and just trust in Him.
This is exactly what is happening in my life right now. To a tee. I'm so sorry for your loss. I am 18 weeks pregnant and a mess, I am ruining my relationship and worry sometimes there is no turning back, that ive done too much damage. Praying for you
@@tuesdayyoOh I'm so sorry, It's so exhausting to be at war with yourself like this + grow a baby - praying for you as well! I am just a few weeks pregnant now, I had a positive test after writing that so I AM going through the same thing again this time! The past week I started trying to blurt out when I'm feeling weird. Like, "I'm feeling emotional!, I'm grumpy right now" so.. he can take that as a sign to be more understanding, or sit and talk.. I think it helps him not take things as personally either. It doesn't always work because sometimes I'm just feeling things too strongly to be able to give him warning like that but I think it's helping!!
Where did you get your dress ♥️
Where is that dress from!
I never look pregnant till three weeks out from birth
I suffered postpardum deppression with my first child so bad I tried suicide but I survived it I was so bad
Jess, are those sponsored links listed in the description? That you get money for? Because it doesnt say so anywhere, but they look kind of sponsored. If they are affiliate links that you get money for you have to be transparent about it, and if they arent, then I'd suggest including a disclaimer saying they are not. There's so much badly labelled advertising on youtube and Instagram these days, that's it's better to be overly clear about is sponsored/affiliate than to bot say anything.
Well. I've learnt I have alot of push but no pull 😂
I love your videos. I watch them regularly and I really enjoy them. But I have one piece of constructive criticism which is: they are single dads there or gay-couples with children and It would be awesome if they also could be mentioned :)
Maria Skołożyńska Thank you :) I appreciate you watching & value your input. It’s true there are. As someone who was raised by lesbian moms and grew up in the LGBTQ+ community i am aware of the varieties of families in the world. I am able to see through UA-cam stats that the majority of my audience is moms & women so that’s why i speak primarily to them. My experience with baby blues and PPD is in the female context so i am not able to speak with authority on what the gay male or single dad feels in the first few weeks after his baby arrives. I have compassion for them but wouldn’t feel qualified to speak into their lives in this video because of my lack of knowledge on their experience. As i grow and learn more i may shift the way i communicate but for now i am doing my best to speak to the people i know are viewing my channel. I’ll be more aware of it in the future & if i see ways I am able to include them in future topics I will do that. 💛
@@jess_hover Thank you so much for your reply. I fully understand and appreciate your perspective. Also, you're right - sticking to your point of you and what you know is so uncommon currently on social media so great job, you are, just like I thought, a wise wise woman. Be well. Bless you, Maria :)