Mom of 12 Day in my life: Mara’s 16th birthday (lots of driving and shopping!!)
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- Опубліковано 9 сер 2023
- I feel like I spent all day driving 😭 Andrew made his pledge to the marines, I’m sick to my stomach yet so proud! Mara had a fabulous sleepover/pool party birthday to celebrate her sweet 16! We are lucky to have so many awesome people in our lives ❤️ #thismadmama #largefamily #largefamilyliving #familyvlog #bigfamilyvlog #shopping #cooking #vlogging #largefamilyshopping #marines #12kids #largefamilyLife #largefamilyLove #driving
Questions. 1. You aren't seriously putting a baby to bed on the floor alone? 2. You expect young children to get ready for bed on their own and punish them if they don't? 3. You know you have to brush their teeth? 4. If you dont give them a bath, surely you would at least wash their face and hands while brushing their teeth? 5. Would you go to bed yourself before knowing your kids were safe sleeping? 6. Why do you spend so much money one some kids birthdays, and not the same amount on others?
I couldn’t have said it better myself. I think she is trying to be friends with her teens and thus ends up ignoring the littles. Completely agree. Kids need to be taught. Parents are the first teachers. She should already be teaching them since she homeschool them. But with kids you need to redirect, reinforce good habits, manners, routines, and demonstrate healthy living. You can’t expect kids to know how to clean up and to get ready for bed and brush their teeth when you don’t reinforce it all the time. Kids are hard. And you have 12 of them. Also monsters for a 16, why the caffeine is too much.
1. The floor in my room is safer than the bed, but I’d like you to show me any other time you’ve seen me do that. Stop acting like this is his every night when you’ve seen it ONCE 2. I do expect them to get ready for bed, I don’t understand what more you think I’m supposed to be doing?? 3. Why can’t an 8 year old brush her own teeth?? She knows how 4. They get their baths in the morning…why do they need multiple a day??? Who does that? You must not have a water bill if that’s what you’re doing 5. I go to bed because I work there…I’m up editing videos until 4am so I can be awake by 9:30am 6. My spending depends on several factors, such as, how much I have at that point, if that child has demonstrated that they both WANT and will actually take care of the things they receive.
@@thismadmama But the rest gets help brushing their teeth then? The younger ones? Yes a bath in the morning is awesome, but you should still wash their hands and face and get then changed in to clean PJ's before bed. And no, I would never expect young kids to het ready for bed themselves. Bedtime is supposed to be quality time. Brush teeth, brush hair, find PJ's, tuck in, read a book, kisses good night.
And no, sleeping on the hard floor is not ok. No matter what. At least put down a mattress, if you don't want a playpen or bed. There are so many safe sleeping options out there, all moms know that. Straight on the floor is not one of them.
@@Lee_Anne123 I believe we all have the right to speak out if we feel children are being mistreated. It's actually an obligation. She has the means to get the baby a safe bed. She spends money on expensive food and jewellery, so it's not a money issue. Would you put your baby to bed on the hard floor? If so, I hope someone around speaks up. Children deserve more.
@Hilde008 Not everyone lives like you do and that doesn't make it a crime. Not everyone has a Pinterest home. If you are uncomfortable with this lifestyle you do not have to watch. I bet you consider yourself a Christian, don't you? And there you are judging and feeling superior.
So you spend money on your favorites like $100 pants, crop tops, steak&lobster at outback, piercings, shopping sprees, dolls, snacks, candy, take out, etc. but can't be bothered to buy your baby a pack n play or a crib so he's not sleeping on the floor? You can put a Montessori mattress on the floor too. How is this acceptable to you? Don't you want better for your kids? Such a shame.
He would crawl right off of it so what’s the point?
@@thismadmamaMine did the same and roamed around the room but when they were finally ready to sleep they went back onto the matress because it's comfortable. That poor baby is going to be so uncomfortable sleeping on hard floor, you should be ashamed honestly. At least give him the option but 100% he's going to go to sleep on the matress when he's ready not the hard floor.
@@thismadmamathat’s a piss poor excuse
Why do you feel comfortable openly airing you neglect a BABY?
I really hope she doesn't have anymore
You did not just leave that baby in the dark on the hard floor to sleep.
You cannot truly believe this was okay to do.
No way. Alone on the floor! Surrounded by filth, garbage, hazards etc ... wtf is going on here!!!???
The other little guy with overgrown filthy fingernails, dirt on his face. Going to bed in a button up dress shirt.
Because she's too tired to bathe him and too lazy to clean the baby's bed for him to sleep.
Showing the world your neglect of your children? She must really not know better. All those kids and no basic parenting skills.
Better than him roaming the house alone at 3am or falling off my bed. Cribs don't work on toddlers who climb.
@@thismadmamayou can buy bed guard rails to protect him if he rolls out of bed. Alternatively, you could buy some foam mats and put them either side of his crib/bed if he were to climb and fall. You're just lazy and neglectful of your youngest kids. It baffles me as to why you kept having more if you clearly don't show the same amount of care to your youngest babies the way you do your eldest children. Get help
@thismadmama you don't see a better alternative? There's no way he's climbing out of a crib. He can barely stand up.
Why would you want the world to see your house is filthy, your kids are unbathed, and sleeping on dirty blankets and pillows.
They are fed a constant stream of the crappiest processed foods and sugary drinks.
It's a horror show of neglect.
Why do you want the world to see this stuff?
@@thismadmamaplaypens are great though 😊
45:38 why are you laughing? That baby is so developmentally far behind! It’s not funny
The pediatrician says he's advanced, actually
@@thismadmamaJust how? How could he be advanced?
@thismadmama I've had 5 kids, and I can tell he's behind. You've had TWELVE, how can you not know?? I'd find a new pediatrician
why is he on the floor
He's literally not. He's absolutely normal. You have no idea what you're talking about.
42:57 wtf. He's convinced the cancer was giving him a hug in his belly and this horrible mom is like "no! No it wasn't nice, what was it trying to do to you" the little guy says "it was nice actually " and she's like "no no it wasn't" LISTEN TO YOUR KID AND STOP PUTTING YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT SOMETHING ONTO HIM! HE'S LITERALLY TELLING YOU HOW HE FEELS AND YOU DISMISS IT. You don't even talk to him, but when he shows you the phone you play the game? That kid looks like he hasn't been cleaned in like 2 weeks poor thing
We're not pretending that the cancer was his friend. He was upset we killed it!!! I was reminding him that everything he went through was to save his life.
@@thismadmama he's a toddler and the way you speak clearly doesn't resonate with him. As hard as that must've been, he obviously felt good feelings during it.. which is understandable if you really dig deep and think like a toddler. My daughter was also in the hospital and she only remembers the good things, and that's GOOD!! He probably got spoiled in that hospital, hospitals are amazing when kids are sick.. they give the kids so many toys, the play spaces are fun, a TV right in front of your bed, cupcakes and popsicles with dinner. He was probably on pain medication which makes your body feel good. The point is, he saw something good in it and I understand as a parent it was incredibly difficult to go through that but you shouldn't push your feelings onto him. Listen to his words, and validate his feelings, don't dismiss your children's feelings.. even if they go against how you're feeling. People give you good advice and you choose to ignore it for some reason. Please try and do better for your children
Have you ever noticed how she also looks like she never brushes her hair?
@@aimeebaldwin5600 no not really, she looks like how someone who feeds cold cans of food to children would look, no surprise there... she's a mess
@@aimeebaldwin5600Who cares if she brushes her hair????
1. why is your infant sleeping on the floor
2. why is Donnie drinking caffeine at 11pm at night
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She surely could afford at least a pack n play..
It's become clear she's not very bright. She doesn't have an understanding of basic life skills, childcare, and nutrition.
They probably have support and classes available to her that will teach her the basics.
I hope she reaches out and learns instead of begging for money and gifts. That hasn't improved things for the kids.
@@laurie2968 I think she is like a friend I used to have. Loved her children dearly but it takes more than love and unfortunately, she was just too lazy. Lost all her kids in the end, just like this lady. Her friends tried and tried to help but it made no difference because she just couldn't be bothered.
Do you sleep on the living room with the baby? That’s so unsafe to just leave him on the floor like that all night.
He's in my room.
@@thismadmamaon the floor in your room? I’m genuinely confused
You treat that baby like a dog.
@@WeAreCaylee true! My dogs sleep on the couch
@@WeAreCayleeamen. My dog has multiple beds, toys and gets fed regularly. The baby is treated worse than a dog.
So why is Modi sleeping on the floor? Where is Donnie’s pajamas? And why did you have Mara’s party at a friends house? Shouldn’t you host?
Hi, Veronica here. I don’t have a pool. That’s why we didn’t have the party at my house. Not to mention, Mara wanted to have fun with her friends without her younger siblings clinging to their legs. Just because we’re a large family doesn’t mean my older kids are bound to their younger siblings. They are free to live their own lives.
Do you feel safe overnight while modi is sleeping on the floor ?
Would it be better if I put him in my bed 3 feet off the floor? or alone in the next room? He won't stay in the toddler bed, this is safer.
@thismadmama does he have a mattress on the floor or is he sleeping on the hard floor?
@@thismadmama isn’t Donnie in your bed ? Why
Wouldn’t they
Switch places he’s older ? Or
Maybe Donnie can go to his bed but my baby on the floor just doesn’t seem right while I’m laying comfortably in my bed.
@@Dij101Cuz Donnie has cancer and his days are limited etc… meanwhile Modi’s head is filled with lord knows what which is why it’s so FAT. All of this is just a BS excuse of her being a shitty mother.
@@thismadmama you had plenty of money to splurge on Mara. Pack n plays are cheap. Priorities I guess.
My goodness I couldn’t put my business out there for everyone to judge. I may not do things the way you do, but as long as your children are cared for, that’s all that matters. You are VERY strong listening to all the hate and continuing to post your life. I admire you for that.
That’s the whole issue. They’re not cared for. Idk how CPS isn’t involved more frequently. They live in squalor and get fed junk food constantly.
CPS isn't involved because there's nothing going on that CPS takes children for. Sorry to burst your bubble, but foster homes give kids canned food too! In my state, you generally only lose your kids if you are on drugs, and sometimes not even then. There has to be drugs AND (domestic violence/homelessness/severe mental health issues/prostitution/dogsh!t everywhere etc). CPS gives literally zero f*cks if a house gets messy with toys or if a basement is used for storage. Majority of the "issues" you haters complain about, are things you guys made up and keep spreading back and forth to each other. Or things that were never issues to begin with, or things that might have been an issue if they had not immediately been remedied, but hey, you guys took screenshots (of the things I POSTED MYSELF) so like, obviously if there's a picture of something, it's still exactly like that and has never changed 🤪
@thismadmama it's not messy. It's the filth and garbage strewn about the house. Heaps of clothing. Dirty blankets and pillows where kids lay their heads to sleep. That's really sad for the children.
Who is looking after these younger children when you are out? Should that food not have been cooked? Was it frozen sausage with a pancake wrapped round it? What!?
Food stamps can buy a mega load of junk food!!!
Were you there when she swiped the card? How can you be certain she paid for the food with ebt?
@@holdendmb because she has said how much benefits she gets.
@@holdendmbbecause the cashier said she owed $300 when she has easily $800-1000 worth of food. That $300 total was after she swiped the food stamps
And I don’t judge those on food stamps but she continually prioritizes the teens snacks and junk and her smaller kids never have proper meals and it looks like she leaves out the frozen food to defrost and that’s how the kids eat it and she doesn’t heat it up so they’re eating cold defrosted frozen food
@@moniquebenavides with the amount of help she gets she could feed her kids well. But she doesn't even know how to shop.
Happy Belated Birthday. Sweet kids you have.
Donny is talking so good now so clever 😂😂happy birthday to Mara hope you have a beautiful day 💙☺️and well done Andrew I hope you're very happy 💙☺️
So proud of Andrew❤
Does Modi have a pack and play for the house ?
He has a bed but it’s full of toys and I was too tired to clean the boys room 😂 we’re doing a bedroom change with Andrew leaving
@@thismadmamayeah, it’s super funny how neglectful you are. My youngest is 2 months younger than modi and I can’t imagine just placing her on the living room floor to sleep as I walk back to my room… the disconnect is fucked.
@@thismadmamaso you're saying you're too lazy to sort his bed out? So you resort to him sleeping on the hard floor? Girl you have no shame
The way your oldest talks to you is just disrespectful aw hell nah I would ground her and teach her a lesson
Why don’t you parent and tell them to drink water instead if they’re thirsty? Exactly why they are thirsty. Those sugary and caffeine drinks dehydrate them.
I actually DO tell them to drink water when they're thirsty. But you're supposed to drink sugary drinks at parties. Nobody goes to a birthday party and asks for water (but if they want water, they can just get water... My buying party drinks doesn't stop them from having water if they want it)
I loveeeee how your oldest dresses. Where does she get style inspo from? ❤
Every child deserves a bed to sleep in at night. This is awful cant even finish this video 😢
You are so dramatic 😂 sorry there were toys in the bed and I wasn't tryna stay up for 4 more hours cleaning and organizing before putting the baby to bed
I feel like sometimes the comments left are meant to be constructive criticism as to a different approach you could make. Instead you give strange reasoning behind why you choose to do certain things. As far as Modi left to sleep on a blanket in a corner of the room you could have simply layered cozy blankets or invest in a sleeping mat if you are uneasy about him falling off. It's just seems you are disconnected to the emotional needs of some children compared to others. I know the daily life with children can be overwhelming and exhausting but you have to remember they never asked to be born and kids don't naturally know how to do things without being taught and making it a routine. I'm saying this from a place of understanding as I've raised 4 boys under 5 who are all now I'm double digits, and I know how much it can feel draining at times. You need to prioritize the needs of ALL of them just just some.
He crawls in his sleep. So a mat would do nothing. He has a bed but there were toys in it.
I really hope she listens to your advice. You put everything perfectly. ❤️
Space and beds are for humans not toys. Why do they get a soft bed but he sleeps on a floor. Switch it lady.
Long day!! Good night family
Just subscribed hope it helps! Been watching u on tiktok forever. I love u all especially how true you all are to yourselves! Love it. Congrats to Andrew and Happy 16th Mara! Got u on loop hope it helps!!
It's late but happy birthday mara🎉😊
Modi is so cute! Love his chunkie little cheeks 😂❤
I like the different PoVs of the activities! Like the laundry. Its a nice touch to the editing.
Thank you!!! It’s so nice seeing a supportive comment! I’m getting to the point where I don’t even want to read comments anymore because there’s so many people nit-picking every little moment 😂 But seriously, thank you 😊
@@thismadmamait’s not nit picking, you’re literally neglecting your children and have the audacity to film them to profit off them. Your children deserve BETTER
Happy birthday Mara!! Looked like a fun party. Also Donnie talking about his cancer at the end melted my heart, he’s so sweet❤
Haha I loved the down by the bay singing.. it must never be a full moment with so many kids… I’m amazed at how you do it! My dad is the oldest of 12 born in Chiapas, Mexico in 1943 and I always wonder how my grandma must of done it with so many kids 😳
Your so concerned about missy lol 😂 Victoria like "shes fine" lol you spoil everyone❤
I do 😂🥰
That was a loud celery.
Lol did you pump gas twice in one day? Why didn’t you just put more in the first time? It lasts longer that way than putting a little in at a time
Yeah I normally put $100 in at a time and it lasts all week. I was in a rush the first time so I didn't put enough in and I had to go back.
What a huge accomplishment for Andrew. Happy birthday to Mara . Doni has the most adorable voice that I’ve ever heard. 🫠
the USA is really expansiv looking at that prices :o
Is that central square Walmart or a different one?
Happy Birthday to Mara. Donnie is adorable. ❤
I believe i read she is friends with ALICIA, D... go figure if true !!!!!😮
i love watching these so much! maras room is so adorable i neeed it
Wow, you must be so proud of Andrew. ❤🎉😊
I am, it is so bittersweet. My heart aches to see him go, I'll miss him so much, but I'm so proud seeing him fulfill a lifelong dream
I would honestly appreciate a video on what you use for your hair and how, because it looks like we have the exact same hair type
Also congratulations Andrew!! I know you’re a proud mama
No way I’m in the vlog in the comments at 23:54 haha 😂
I just stumbled on your page and I’m intrigued.
don’t be…
By intrigued, do you mean horrified?
like seriously horrified .
I am not judgemental because that many kids would be so hard. I have 2 and although my house is much cleaner, I only clean up after 5 people because my mother in law lives with us. I see that she loves her kids. Maybe there is some unfair treatment of the little girls from what I have seen. But she loves them. It would be hard to raise 12 kids on her own. Do I think its fair to have that many kids? Absolutely not. But I see she is trying. It hurts how judgemental people are. I am not perfect but I give my kids undivided attention. And that is important. But I like that she is real and raw and she shows us how they live. That is better than all of these people with perfect houses and everyone seems so perfect.
Ur doing a good job momma❤
A good job? How so? The house and kids are filthy. The baby was left to sleep on the floor!
What is good here?
This is a good job? I’m curious what you would consider a bad one?
@@laurie2968how many videos are you going to comment on with negative sh!t??? You must be very miserable with your own life. Cause people that are happy in there real life wouldn’t be watching someone they didn’t like commenting negative sh!t on every video!! I hope you improve your own life and find some happiness!!!
I love you and Victoria’s relationship and pray me and my girls have the same bond into adulthood as well! 🥹🙌🏼🤍