I lived in Gloucester and was a patient of Dr. Sharpe. He was deeply weird even to look at and one of the most arrogant people I've ever met. This event was a huge shock to our community . Karen was a beloved friend to many. It was incredibly sad.
My dad went to him to check a mole and came home exclaiming what a looney tune the guy was. He was playing video games while my dad sat and waited for him to check his mole, right in the same room. It was shortly after that we heard about the murder. She should have gotten out after the first baby and stayed out!
Wow! That shows just how small the world can seem at times. Say hi to your dad from me/us, he just became known worldwide for having visited a crazy murderous trans dermatologist and lived to tell the story. That's one amazing story and a great comment. Take care and tell your dad to stay away from mad dermatologists in the future, after all, he has a family to worry over:)
bro imagine being one of the people that voted for him. that surreal moment when one of the cool smart kids from school shows up in the newspaper is one heck of a surprise.
Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening when a cross-dressing dermatologist murders his wife like this.
There should be PSA "AUTOGYNEPHILES ARE POWER SEEKING NARCISSISTS DON'T ALLOW THEM TO MANIPULATE YOU". I dated one that left to blow his married boyfriend that wanted to get rid of me then he punched HIMSELF in the face so he could claim he was defending my honor and could garner sympathy. His other friend told me he faked the fight and bloody nose, I told him he was sick for saying that and never to speak to me again. Turned out to be true. Dude is a fuckin doctor. Fuckin cray cray, thought I was gonna be his beard, incubator, house slave, arm candy. Maybe get him dressed up and pegged between boyfriend visits. What's worse is I didn't avoid trans people after that, I was too kind "not all of them are narcissistic misogynists". Yeah right 😂
“Richard’s felonious fatuous forehead fork folly forwarded him to a mental hospital…” and “Karen forged a fable to the medical staff, she told them not to focus on the forehead fork fiction because it was fictitious and fabricated.” 😂😅 These phrases were formed in a fine and fantastic fashion. What a funny and fabulous way to describe this unforeseen fact. Thank you for the fun and fanciful analysis, Dr. Grande.❤
"then they finally decided to go to the correct location...they should have taken the advice of her brother and sent the best officers" 🤣🤣😂 completely straight face. Love it!
Yep. To all the ladies listening: NEVER support your husband through his education. He will dump you on the sidewalk like garbage when he's done with you. Don't marry a man (or date one for that matter) who isn't done with his education and/or settled into his career
Autogynephiles enjoy living off of people. It's part of their "being treated like a stupid spoiled slut/bimbo/woman" fantasy. They love to go into prostitution, live off parents, the state, take take take. I think they like to become doctors not just for the power and status but because the education process is long and if someone else is paying then they're happy to stay in school forever. I'm surprised this guy became successful. Back in the day "trans women" tended to be trustfund babies or transition once they were in power or retired, now the government provides and people are losing their kids. "girls just wanna have fun" 🙄😂 SICK SAD WORLD 🤡
Dr. Sharpe was my doctor. I saw some compassion in him. I found him to be intense yet professional. He had a lot of his young childrens art work in his office. He was a very intense super-critical person with some sincere compassion. Really unique guy. I feel so sorry for his family. I remember he would call his wife to schedule his calendar. So I think they were both co-dependent on eachother for security. I saw her once in his office she was very kind and pretty.
i think it's insane that you are trying to paint him as pitiable or some poor soul. by the time he commited murder, they were apart, divorced, a restraining order was in place, they were living separetely. even if you believe that they were co-dependant, which i doubt they were (what you describe is a man obssesed with his wife and children in a toxic way, you don't add anything from the other side in that regard to make it look remotely reciprocated), by that point she was fully away, independant and functional on her own. He deserves no compassion unless somehow you indentify personally with him or your own bigotries are shinning through. which should make you question why that is the case and take a step to work on yourself. "intense" "super critical" """unique""" you are painting the image of someone who is a walking red flag, not a poor compassionate soul. and even then, you were his patient. i promise you: you didn't know him at all. i know people tend to believe they do, but no. a proffesional enviormment is different from a personal one, and people who have unhealthy personalities are stil concsious of how they come across unless they are 100% detached from reality. he clearly to some degree masked his issues to different degrees of success, but enough to allow him to maintain a job and a career path. and that's what you got to know, and even then you percieved some of the red flags. but you are spinning it as a poor compassionate soul. i feel bad for his wife, and their children. he? he can rot in hell. the facts are the facts.
Another excellent analysis by Dr. Grande. Such a tragedy for all...His insecure wife put up with so much abuse...and the poor children. No winners here. 😪
You are very great at showing respect for this woman and mother, describing how she wanted to stand on her own and be free but why she couldn’t. Sadly. 💜
The effects of testosterone are basically a one-way street. So a 54yo male, to pull off a 54yo female, generally requires a 'million billion' in surgeries.
Good Evening Dr. G., Ironic that Sharpe could treat skin, yet be so uncomfortable in his own. The alliteration of the letter “f” was fabulous…a welcome interval from the unfolding tragedy . Your smooth, keen and thoughtful analysis was calming. Thank you! Also, kudos on the redo of your studio. New cactus?
My mother and father divorced when i was three years old and my mother often used to beat us with whatever she was finding at her disposal after drinking so much many times letting us to sleep outside even though our grandmother bought her a house especially so that all of us could live a better life. My childhood was a living hell until i was able to grow up and leave the house eventually working hard and being able to live a decent and normal life so whoever uses this as an excuse to harm another is just being extremely selfish.
I actually can't believe he found the success he did, given that they were both unestablished and was raising a child while both attending college. That's EXTREMELY hard to do and usually the men will just work to provide. Not try for Bachelor's degree, masters , and medical school. She had to support HIM and get abused all the while through /feel TRAPPED! I can't believe she even finished nursing school!
Narcissists can commit suicide when they experience a devastating narcissistic collapse- like this dermatologist who lost his medical license and medical career stuck in jail and his main narcissistic supply dead and narcissistic supply from within himself during the narcissistic collapse phase wasn’t enough to keep him regulated and live anymore
I always figured that narcissists got their attention from everyone, everywhere. Doesn't seem like any narcissist would limit their supply of attention to just one person, lest they be a lazy narcissist.
I watched the trial where he pretended to be crazy. It was almost unbearable watching his contorted facial expressions and listening to his malingering.
My grandchildren's father, his girlfriend and her mother are all narcissists. Ugly, awful, hateful people. My 14 year old granddaughter is counting the minutes, hours and days until she no longer must live in her father's home. I pray to God it will be soon. 🙏
She had a restraining order. The guy had beat her in the past, and was stalking her. Prime scenario for future attacks or killing. What the hell is wrong with our system.
He made those choices. Many people who come from abusive households don't go on to abuse others because they have their brains to recognize it was wrong. Please stop making excuses for murderers.
@@farmerchick3040 its not an excuse its an understanding. Trauma and mental health is important, because sometimes that stuff can turn u into a monster without mindfulness
He had a choice to not do these things...and a choice to seek therapy. My father was APD. I won't go into the things he did to the three of us kids, but I did intensive therapy over many years to deal with the PTSD, Anxiety, and Depression. I did not want to be my father. Even my father being APD...he had a choice too.
@@farmerchick3040 Peoples brains rewire according to the abuse. They dont always know right from wrong, or that they need therapy. Everyone experiences and responds differently, and in their own timeframe
@@pitbull6527 he had a choice, but he also had experience that helped shaped them into a monster. at some point during the abuse he lost his empathy for others.
This is so sad and typical of abusive relationships. This is typical of the cycle of violence repeating itself. I'm even more upset about Karen's parents not protecting her or their grandchildren. I can't imagine how traumatic it was for the babysitter and the children to see her murdered like this
I blame her. Not the parents. She knew he was an abuser within the first year of marriage. She was afraid of proving her parents right. They have nothing to do with it.
@@dila4834 I suggest reading about the "battered woman syndrome" and then seeing how much to blame Karen was for what had happened to her. Because I think it's very telling that he killed her AFTER he lost control over her.
@@robburrows2737 That's true. I grew up in a violent home and I am not abusive. Unfortunately, other problems do come up. Like the codependency between these two
I watched this case many years ago on Court TV. Even after all this time, I still remember how strange Sharp was and how on the stand at trial how he kept his eyes closed the entire time when being questioned. His wife appeared to be such a nice and good person, who got messed up w the wrong guy. Her life must have been sheer hell.
Very good explanation. Esp about why Karen stayed with the rancid creep. Here in the UK, police can refuse to drop violence charges esp if they believe the victim has been coerced or manipulated into withdrawing the complaint. I wish the cops had charged him at the outset anyway. I hope their children have since thrived.
What a life, she never had one! I'm glad I don't put out. I dated an Autogynephile accidently. No kids then ESCAPED. He's a doctor. Horrifying narcissists.
So. Please take this with a grain of salt. This is my first video of yours. I love true crime. And I hate asmr. But after watching your video I get it. The way you speak is so calming and comforting. I like to listen to cases to help my insomnia. You my clinical diagnosistian friend, have a new subscriber
This case had a lot of interesting angles. It’s sad how Richard perpetrated the violent 9behavior he learned at the hands of his father on Karen. It’s also sad that Karen couldn’t seem to get away from the relationship, even though she knew almost from the beginning that marrying Richard was a bad idea. Thanks for analyzing this one Dr. Grande-and thank you for lightening the subject up with your trademark humor.
Three words "battered woman syndrome". Yes, it's actually a thing. And yes, it's explains a lot about Karen's behavior through out her relationship with her husband. Including the fact that she unfortunately lost her life after he lost his control over her. Control he thought of as absolute. Meaning that she wouldn't use the fact that he'd most of his wealth over to her (as a measure for to fight being sued for malpractice) to finally get away from him.
I think you hit this one out of the park. Loved the many puns about 'skin' being he was a dermatologist! You may not smile much but you definitely have a sense of humor. Love it.
Dissociation is normal for everybody to experience in small amounts. I've never heard of anyone who believes it doesn't exist. That being said, it's a stupid defense for murder. Most people dissociate at the movies, for example, because you can feel like that two hour movie "flew by" (if it was good lol). You don't lose your sense of right and wrong in that moment. How absurd.
Truth! It's a weird feeling when it happens. Sometimes, putting myself into loud, bustling, crowded, situations can do it for me. It doesn't happen often, but it's a strange experience when it does.
At one time I had the opportunity to fill-in for his regular secretary when he was a dermatologist. He was very demanding and rude. We witnessed him demeaning his wife Karen in front of everyone. She was so kind and sweet. May she rest in peace.😥🙏🏻💜
What did he think taking his wife's birth control pills was going to do for him? I totally get where she was coming from in terms of not wanting to admit failure to her family. What a tragic case. I think that Richard was brilliantly insane. It sounds like he had narcissistic rage for sure amongst other psychological conditions. I feel bad for their children.
A true narcissistic sociopath.He lacked so much self awareness that he didn’t realise he was making Karen and their home like how his dad did. You’d think him being that smart, he would recognise and try and break the chain
Agreed. Narcissists don't have the ability to do this though. They're essentially weak overgrown children who refuse to accept responsibility for their wrongs (even the fairly self aware ones.)
How many times did you have to shoot all the words with "f"? You've done an outstanding video. I don't think I could have ever gotten through those perfect words with a straight face if I could have done it at all. I know you analyze serious situations but I appreciate your humor.
Despite your deadpan demeanour/demeanor, listening to your analysis, Dr. Grande, is like tuning-in to story-time! Subject matter aside, you are able to make your analysis an enjoyable listen with your highly honed wordsmith skills -- the many word-plays, and, as with here, throwing in a good smattering of alliterations, always make me smile. 👍Thank you.
Clearly a smart guy, but a miserable human being. I wonder how his life would have turned out if he had been raised in a loving, supportive environment.
He would have had a much better chance of not being what he turned out to be. Becoming a narc is a choice they make. It's nut curable and they will likely never be anyone different that how they are. They are very sick and dangerous people. I pity anyone who ends up with one.
He was a muring , abusive POS. Just because he was a cross dresser doesn’t mean he deserves pity. His poor wife is the one that deserves pity not that self scented psychopath.
I wonder how his (and other people's) lives would have been immeasurably better and happier if not for the Cult of Intelligence/ Cult of Death (CIA, DoD and pals)?
Good evening Dr.Grand🧩e. I so look forward to seeing you. Your analysis & evaluation of each story you bring to us is so thorough & insightful. I always complement you on your ability to fit so much information into such a short amount of time. Thank you again for being my constant!✨
The cyclical trend of high functioning abusers has been driven by generations of entitlement. The lack of empathy and awareness about the damage done to the lives of the people who are victims is so tragic, as is obvious from this person who had to grow up with it. It is sad that people who have money don’t use it to get help for themselves and their families.
In many ways these situations are replay of the slave culture that is part of American history. Someone feeling that they're the master and that they, through Terror can enslave those less powerful. The damage is lifelong. Often collusion protects the perpetrators, perfectly.
Hi Dr Grande, I watch you every time you come home. I just think you are so smart and I love your dry sense of humor. I get happy when I see you have a new vlog. Have a blessed day
I loved the alliteration run, very cool. I also dislike Christmas, but I don't try to make it miserable for anyone else, mostly because the reason I dislike Christmas is because my abusive former step-father used to do that.
His behaviour and facial expressions on the stand were quite strange! Look up the case and you will not be disappointed. Thanks for your hard work. Keep up the the coverage of these unusual cases.
I used to converse with him while he was in prison. I was a psych student and told him I wanted to write about him. He called the murder "the tragedy," claimed he did not remember anything from it, and asked me if I would contact a person he was dealing with from 20/20 news show and vouch for his character 🤔
@@anotherlittlepieceofmyart Thanks! Oh man... the perfect mix. Must have been scary and fascinating to speak with someone like him. At the same time, I hope I never come across someone like that in real life.
@An_Drea_Calling It really was. I was shocked that he wrote back, and did it so quickly. I had written to several high profile inmates and he was the only person to reply. He is a fascinating person. I still have the letters and hoped to put a book together, but I never noticed a lot of interest in the case.
Omg-the alliteration about the fork cracked me up. I had to tap back at least 3 times to hear it again! Again I love your delivery and story telling. Such a sad case.
i lived in the expensive San Francisco Area and needed a roomate, for about 6 months i had a roomate who was transgender male to female and had gone to thailand for sex re-assignment surgery before i met her. Very sweet lady. She was really smart and a workaholic, who worked 2 jobs 7 days per week about 10 -12 hrs per day as an electrical engineer to save money to buy a house, so i rarely ever saw her, because i worked 3pm - 1130pm and every other weekend.
A lot of men who murder and abuse women want to transition to female and get access to women’s prisons. Why wouldn’t they want to shoot fish in a bucket? See Donna Perry, Karen White, Richard Speck…
I have a trans sister who has other mental health issues as well. On top of my mom being a very cold person, she would also say that she wished she had a girl and would mention the name she had in mind. Now my sister goes by that name. Maybe people are “born” trans like they say, but I believe it can also be a response to trauma during childhood.
@@user-account-not-found I'm Gen X and childfree, currently single. I'm heterosexual, but I'm very happy now single, not dating. It doesn't surprise me at all if young kids chose to be childfree and I think it's healthy to not be promiscuous. There are too many STD's and the risks of unwanted pregnancies. That kids chose celibacy doesn't mean they're not dating (I chose not to date, hence celibacy for me). I've been there, done that. Not interested in wasting my time on men who doesn't deserve it. I'm just weird and can't have casual sex like most people of my generation.
@@zenawarrior7442 Hello my friend, so pleased you're mum is still having good days. The family says too say hello. 😜😚❤💙💙💙✉☕🌷🌸🌹🍀 BTW Steve asked if your mum is on Aricept , It may have a different name in America, but you can put it in your search engine. It really helps people like your mum who have dementia. ❤💙💖-
Dude no kidding! I was across the room from my phone and said “oh what the f?!” And immediately ran over to rewind and I’ve been in the comments ever since 😂
@@wormwoodcocktail every mental illness is autogynephilia to u people. whatever ur smoking must be the same shit dr. sharpe was on to make him lose his mind
Dr. G. This was a story I've never heard before. Good one. No pun intended. I don't want to seem morbid. But Hollyweird hasn't nothing on your stories Dr. G.😉👍🏾
GRANDE'S UNDRESSING 🧠 HE LOOKS CAREFULLY EACH CASE UNIQUE HE EVALUATES ALLOWING THE VIEWER A PEEK HE UNDRESSES MANY LAYERS TRYING TO BUTTON-UP EACH ONE THROUGH A SLY SENSE OF HUMOR USUALLY IT'S WELL DONE AND WE SHAKE OUR HEADS IN AGREEMENT MOST OF THE TIME CASE CLOSED AND EVALUATED UNTIL ANOTHER HE'LL FIND
Good evening Dr. Grande. As always an excellent analysis. My question is why do women( including myself back in the 90s) stay with me who are abusive? Have a wonderful week.
No doctor here. Was in an emotionally abusive relationship and I can tell you that women stay because they dont think they deserve better. Very low self esteem. Along with never having a healthy relationship with a man in their lives (fathers, step fathers…etc)
If you respect and love yourself you would not stay in such a relationships We want to be validated and to be loved but inwardly we do not feel we deserve love Past abuse makes this much worse Co- dependence tend to attract abusive Narc relationships We think if we just love more and harder and do more then this person who is abusing us will see the light and wake up and love us Sadly this does not work All we can do is get out ,heal and move forward
That’s strange, i have a friend who crossdresses.. Also has a jealousy for his sister. I heard crossdressing is always related to jealousy of women, rather than adoration.
Probably was abused and saw that his sister never faced such abuse. The mistreatment of boys in society is making boys and men want to be women and girls, because they see how society cares about them more, sadly.
I can relate to Harry. My mom died (cancer) when I was 15, and I didn't believe she was gone, either. I went through years of numb denial, which I guess could have been lessened with some family counseling. (My family didn't believe in therapy, either). Some early intervention could have spared Harry (and myself) from some future problems.
“People would let him treat their skin but he made their skin crawl” Dr. Grande you are so funny!
He’s Ed Gein reborn.
Yeah. Sometimes his jokes don't work but usually they do and sometimes they're downright hilarious. That one was hilarious.
That made me laugh so hard. My father is a derm and a jerk. I’m going to use that next time I’m gossiping with my brother
@@wormwoodcocktail that's an insult to ed gein
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I lived in Gloucester and was a patient of Dr. Sharpe. He was deeply weird even to look at and one of the most arrogant people I've ever met. This event was a huge shock to our community . Karen was a beloved friend to many. It was incredibly sad.
I never much cared for Karen.
My dad went to him to check a mole and came home exclaiming what a looney tune the guy was. He was playing video games while my dad sat and waited for him to check his mole, right in the same room. It was shortly after that we heard about the murder. She should have gotten out after the first baby and stayed out!
What seriously.....🤪😁😵
He sounds like Sam Bankman Fried
Wow! That shows just how small the world can seem at times. Say hi to your dad from me/us, he just became known worldwide for having visited a crazy murderous trans dermatologist and lived to tell the story. That's one amazing story and a great comment. Take care and tell your dad to stay away from mad dermatologists in the future, after all, he has a family to worry over:)
Yes, isn't it weird that she waited until he had transferred 2.9 million dollars to her, before she started having an affair and decided to leave him?
@@thebeatnumber haha yeah. Quite weird
The fact that he was prom king has to be the most surprising and impressive accomplishment he had
He was successful in college. That’s also shocking.
Honestly could see him putting thousands of votes in the ballot box for himself lol
bro imagine being one of the people that voted for him. that surreal moment when one of the cool smart kids from school shows up in the newspaper is one heck of a surprise.
Ikr?? I was surprised too! Maybe it was a school prank...?
Pretty much every prom king turns out just like this. Those deals with Satan come at a cost, you know.
“It’s as if the grinch was a dermatologist.” 🤣 I love your videos. Your voice is so calming.
Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening when a cross-dressing dermatologist murders his wife like this.
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@@curtisjeffries9640 :)
Good one.
There should be PSA "AUTOGYNEPHILES ARE POWER SEEKING NARCISSISTS DON'T ALLOW THEM TO MANIPULATE YOU". I dated one that left to blow his married boyfriend that wanted to get rid of me then he punched HIMSELF in the face so he could claim he was defending my honor and could garner sympathy. His other friend told me he faked the fight and bloody nose, I told him he was sick for saying that and never to speak to me again. Turned out to be true. Dude is a fuckin doctor. Fuckin cray cray, thought I was gonna be his beard, incubator, house slave, arm candy. Maybe get him dressed up and pegged between boyfriend visits. What's worse is I didn't avoid trans people after that, I was too kind "not all of them are narcissistic misogynists". Yeah right 😂
A situation LIKE that one
In loving memory of Karen Hatfield 🙏🏽 ❤️ 🙏🏽 ❤️
Who needs court tv when we have Dr. Grande!
@R Voit trutv lol garbage
@R Voit lol what makes y’all say that?
I hope the children in this situation are safe and have found some semblance of peace. My heart goes out to them.
...and got the money and property. I'll bet lawyers made out on this one. The kids got an undisclosed "trust"...
@@PaparoxxIm sure they'd rather have their parents. Poor girl injures her eye then has her mother shot!
“Richard’s felonious fatuous forehead fork folly forwarded him to a mental hospital…” and “Karen forged a fable to the medical staff, she told them not to focus on the forehead fork fiction because it was fictitious and fabricated.” 😂😅
These phrases were formed in a fine and fantastic fashion. What a funny and fabulous way to describe this unforeseen fact.
Thank you for the fun and fanciful analysis, Dr. Grande.❤
LOL. My head began to explode under the alliteration.
😊💙Agreed
I found myself laughing a little too hard when he said that. I love Dr. Grande.
baddddd!
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"then they finally decided to go to the correct location...they should have taken the advice of her brother and sent the best officers" 🤣🤣😂 completely straight face. Love it!
What a superb burn, Dr. Grande!
Dr grande did a vice pres. review at the end there's the outtakes when he's can't keep a straight face. priceless Recommend Dr grande therapy
More than one woman has put a guy thru school and gotten the raw end of the deal.
Yep. To all the ladies listening: NEVER support your husband through his education. He will dump you on the sidewalk like garbage when he's done with you. Don't marry a man (or date one for that matter) who isn't done with his education and/or settled into his career
@@TheSouthIsHot Yes, they will only get forked in the end
Autogynephiles enjoy living off of people. It's part of their "being treated like a stupid spoiled slut/bimbo/woman" fantasy. They love to go into prostitution, live off parents, the state, take take take. I think they like to become doctors not just for the power and status but because the education process is long and if someone else is paying then they're happy to stay in school forever. I'm surprised this guy became successful. Back in the day "trans women" tended to be trustfund babies or transition once they were in power or retired, now the government provides and people are losing their kids. "girls just wanna have fun" 🙄😂 SICK SAD WORLD 🤡
@Fig Plucker noted
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Dr. Sharpe was my doctor. I saw some compassion in him. I found him to be intense
yet professional. He had a lot of his young childrens art work in his office. He was a
very intense super-critical person with some sincere compassion. Really unique guy.
I feel so sorry for his family. I remember he would call his wife to schedule his calendar.
So I think they were both co-dependent on eachother for security. I saw her once in his
office she was very kind and pretty.
i think it's insane that you are trying to paint him as pitiable or some poor soul. by the time he commited murder, they were apart, divorced, a restraining order was in place, they were living separetely. even if you believe that they were co-dependant, which i doubt they were (what you describe is a man obssesed with his wife and children in a toxic way, you don't add anything from the other side in that regard to make it look remotely reciprocated), by that point she was fully away, independant and functional on her own.
He deserves no compassion unless somehow you indentify personally with him or your own bigotries are shinning through. which should make you question why that is the case and take a step to work on yourself.
"intense" "super critical" """unique""" you are painting the image of someone who is a walking red flag, not a poor compassionate soul. and even then, you were his patient. i promise you: you didn't know him at all. i know people tend to believe they do, but no. a proffesional enviormment is different from a personal one, and people who have unhealthy personalities are stil concsious of how they come across unless they are 100% detached from reality. he clearly to some degree masked his issues to different degrees of success, but enough to allow him to maintain a job and a career path. and that's what you got to know, and even then you percieved some of the red flags. but you are spinning it as a poor compassionate soul.
i feel bad for his wife, and their children. he? he can rot in hell. the facts are the facts.
Another excellent analysis by Dr. Grande. Such a tragedy for all...His insecure wife put up with so much abuse...and the poor children. No winners here. 😪
You are very great at showing respect for this woman and mother, describing how she wanted to stand on her own and be free but why she couldn’t. Sadly. 💜
I've learned so much about psychology from you, Dr. Grande. Thank you.
my ex Husband R J cancelled myheat; turned off HEAT IN OUR HOME WHERE WE HAD minor children,...... pure anger& Hatred of WOMEN (ug)!
@@carolnahigian9518 - I hope he was punished as he deserved dear .
Tell us what your learned Jen. In a 10 page paper, 1/2 spaced , size 07 font. Due tomorrow morning 6am.
@@justincraig398 Such a comedian! 🤣
I've learned so much about myself 🤦♂️😩
There’s no way to dress up this murderer’s criminal action here to morally justify them.
I see what you did there
😂😂😂😂!
it's a travesty
I can't believe he was only 54 years old. He looked so much older in some of the pictures.
The effects of testosterone are basically a one-way street. So a 54yo male, to pull off a 54yo female, generally requires a 'million billion' in surgeries.
He didn't have his makeup on.
The fact that Dr. Grande can pull out JOKES FOR DAYS W A STRAIGHT FACE, AND VERY PROFESSIONAL BEDSIDE MANNER! 💯😂
What's professional about it? A flat affect is not the same as professional.
That is also a feature of sociopathy
His alliteration game is top drawer as well
Good Evening Dr. G., Ironic that Sharpe could treat skin, yet be so uncomfortable in his own. The alliteration of the letter “f” was fabulous…a welcome interval from the unfolding tragedy . Your smooth, keen and thoughtful analysis was calming. Thank you! Also, kudos on the redo of your studio. New cactus?
He's like Bob NEWHART. Lol.
You’re right! He kind of is! 😃
Lots of famous serial killers were cross dressers (not accusing anyone just a really weird pattern)
John Gacy. 🤡
It’s a mental disorder in and of itself only probably taken off DSM in the 70s along with other disorders so prevalent (and encouraged) these days.
Because crossdressing is an abomination to God.
True
It's a perversion. Evil
My mother and father divorced when i was three years old and my mother often used to beat us with whatever she was finding at her disposal after drinking so much many times letting us to sleep outside even though our grandmother bought her a house especially so that all of us could live a better life. My childhood was a living hell until i was able to grow up and leave the house eventually working hard and being able to live a decent and normal life so whoever uses this as an excuse to harm another is just being extremely selfish.
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Tragic story. Sins of the father. Generational curses. The ties that bind.😢
I actually can't believe he found the success he did, given that they were both unestablished and was raising a child while both attending college. That's EXTREMELY hard to do and usually the men will just work to provide. Not try for Bachelor's degree, masters , and medical school. She had to support HIM and get abused all the while through /feel TRAPPED! I can't believe she even finished nursing school!
That's called power
Narcissists can commit suicide when they experience a devastating narcissistic collapse- like this dermatologist who lost his medical license and medical career stuck in jail and his main narcissistic supply dead and narcissistic supply from within himself during the narcissistic collapse phase wasn’t enough to keep him regulated and live anymore
Bingo. And prison probably gave him few opportunities to steal women’s panties.
yeah anyone can commit suicide when they lose everything in their life.
Hello Duane, If you don't mind me asking, do you have a degree in psychology?
I always figured that narcissists got their attention from everyone, everywhere. Doesn't seem like any narcissist would limit their supply of attention to just one person, lest they be a lazy narcissist.
@R Voit it increases female hormones.
Stating this for a friend. Obtaining higher education is not a substitute for needed clinical treatment of one's self.
“Richard was…, creepy looking,…made their skin crawl…”😂 I shouldn’t be laughing but couldn’t help it.
The descriptors were hilarious. I watched the trial on court tv back in the day and all of those seem fitting. He acted like that during his trial.
He looks so upset in his pics. What a terrible guy and disgusting what he did. Great analysis, giving us info & smiles. Thanks Dr G😊💙💙
Blame the Dr.’s parents.
Unhappy Jagger.
I watched the trial where he pretended to be crazy. It was almost unbearable watching his contorted facial expressions and listening to his malingering.
@@jbirish2144 I can't even imagine how unbearable that could be🙄😐🤪
My grandchildren's father, his girlfriend and her mother are all narcissists. Ugly, awful, hateful people. My 14 year old granddaughter is counting the minutes, hours and days until she no longer must live in her father's home. I pray to God it will be soon. 🙏
God doesn’t exist so that’s a silly thing to do.
@@icturner23 That tired old comment is becoming passe'. Prove your assertion.
I can relate. Best wishes x
Prayers to you and your family. ♥️
I. C. Turner, maybe not for you. So sad.
She had a restraining order. The guy had beat her in the past, and was stalking her. Prime scenario for future attacks or killing.
What the hell is wrong with our system.
testosterone, cowardice & stupidity all mixed up in containers 6' tall
Its so sad that a child got abused then learned violence was the only correct answer, repeating the cycle
He made those choices. Many people who come from abusive households don't go on to abuse others because they have their brains to recognize it was wrong. Please stop making excuses for murderers.
@@farmerchick3040 its not an excuse its an understanding. Trauma and mental health is important, because sometimes that stuff can turn u into a monster without mindfulness
He had a choice to not do these things...and a choice to seek therapy. My father was APD. I won't go into the things he did to the three of us kids, but I did intensive therapy over many years to deal with the PTSD, Anxiety, and Depression. I did not want to be my father. Even my father being APD...he had a choice too.
@@farmerchick3040 Peoples brains rewire according to the abuse. They dont always know right from wrong, or that they need therapy. Everyone experiences and responds differently, and in their own timeframe
@@pitbull6527 he had a choice, but he also had experience that helped shaped them into a monster. at some point during the abuse he lost his empathy for others.
This is so sad and typical of abusive relationships. This is typical of the cycle of violence repeating itself.
I'm even more upset about Karen's parents not protecting her or their grandchildren.
I can't imagine how traumatic it was for the babysitter and the children to see her murdered like this
I blame her. Not the parents. She knew he was an abuser within the first year of marriage. She was afraid of proving her parents right. They have nothing to do with it.
Not all abused kids become abusive. There has to be personal responsibility.
@@dila4834 I suggest reading about the "battered woman syndrome" and then seeing how much to blame Karen was for what had happened to her. Because I think it's very telling that he killed her AFTER he lost control over her.
@@robburrows2737 That's true. I grew up in a violent home and I am not abusive. Unfortunately, other problems do come up. Like the codependency between these two
@@user-account-not-found You stand up for others and yourself. Nothing wrong with that. Keep up the great work
From dad jokes to inordinate alliteration: Dr. Grande, you are a joy 🥰
Amusing alliteration added to amazing analysis.
I watched this case many years ago on Court TV. Even after all this time, I still remember how strange Sharp was and how on the stand at trial how he kept his eyes closed the entire time when being questioned. His wife appeared to be such a nice and good person, who got messed up w the wrong guy. Her life must have been sheer hell.
Same! His testimony was creepy as hell. I'll never forget it.
*Sharpe
Ditto! Absolutely one of the strangest defendants of all the trials I've followed on Court TV. If creepy was a person.
He probably kept his eyes shut because he thought if he couldn’t see you then you couldn’t see him. Classic baby man narcissist.
Very good explanation. Esp about why Karen stayed with the rancid creep.
Here in the UK, police can refuse to drop violence charges esp if they believe the victim has been coerced or manipulated into withdrawing the complaint. I wish the cops had charged him at the outset anyway.
I hope their children have since thrived.
Possibly, he was an AGP.
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The four plastic surgeries didn't help him much.
😂😂😂
True! 😅
Poor Karen. She was so young when the relationship started.
I hope their kids are doing ok.
She was selfish. Had kids with a bad character, tried to break up a marriage, etc.
I’m impressed you spelled “their” correctly.
What a life, she never had one! I'm glad I don't put out. I dated an Autogynephile accidently. No kids then ESCAPED. He's a doctor. Horrifying narcissists.
@@panushjo Good luck with your gender transition! Just stay out of women’s washrooms!
@@terrorists-are-among-us I am so sorry about your situation. Take care, these men are pure evil.
Your content has exceeded expectations as always, Dr.Grande 💜
💖 your analysis Dr. Grande. So very sad for his wife and children. 😥
So. Please take this with a grain of salt. This is my first video of yours. I love true crime. And I hate asmr. But after watching your video I get it. The way you speak is so calming and comforting. I like to listen to cases to help my insomnia. You my clinical diagnosistian friend, have a new subscriber
Hello Grande cacti, I hope you're all enjoying the festive season and getting enough sun.
A surprising case, always interesting to learn from Dr. Grande, and this time with poetic tongue twisters thrown in! Thanks Dr.
This case had a lot of interesting angles. It’s sad how Richard perpetrated the violent 9behavior he learned at the hands of his father on Karen. It’s also sad that Karen couldn’t seem to get away from the relationship, even though she knew almost from the beginning that marrying Richard was a bad idea. Thanks for analyzing this one Dr. Grande-and thank you for lightening the subject up with your trademark humor.
Three words "battered woman syndrome". Yes, it's actually a thing. And yes, it's explains a lot about Karen's behavior through out her relationship with her husband. Including the fact that she unfortunately lost her life after he lost his control over her. Control he thought of as absolute. Meaning that she wouldn't use the fact that he'd most of his wealth over to her (as a measure for to fight being sued for malpractice) to finally get away from him.
The important angle not mentioned is SIN.
I don't understand how people are so willing to blame violence on their past....you are not your past. He made these choices.
@@farmerchick3040 his past made him a wacko but he chose to pull the trigger.
I think you hit this one out of the park. Loved the many puns about 'skin' being he was a dermatologist! You may not smile much but you definitely have a sense of humor. Love it.
Dissociation is normal for everybody to experience in small amounts. I've never heard of anyone who believes it doesn't exist. That being said, it's a stupid defense for murder. Most people dissociate at the movies, for example, because you can feel like that two hour movie "flew by" (if it was good lol). You don't lose your sense of right and wrong in that moment. How absurd.
Truth! It's a weird feeling when it happens. Sometimes, putting myself into loud, bustling, crowded, situations can do it for me. It doesn't happen often, but it's a strange experience when it does.
I have it after being sexually abused as a child. It’s a horrible condition..
@@jakethedude100 have what?
2 hr terrible movie could feel like 4 hrs___LOL
your spin on the best police officers had me laugh out loud :D Thanks Dr G!
feel so bad for the children, sounds very hard to cope with
had his father not so abusive what kind of person would he have really been?
Amazing that someone could have so many personal things going on in his life including addiction and at the same time be so successful in business.
way more common than you would think.
At one time I had the opportunity to fill-in for his regular secretary when he was a dermatologist. He was very demanding and rude. We witnessed him demeaning his wife Karen in front of everyone. She was so kind and sweet. May she rest in peace.😥🙏🏻💜
This as always was excellent Dr Grande. Your compassion shows through without compromising your professionalism. ❤️ From Oz🐨
What did he think taking his wife's birth control pills was going to do for him? I totally get where she was coming from in terms of not wanting to admit failure to her family. What a tragic case. I think that Richard was brilliantly insane. It sounds like he had narcissistic rage for sure amongst other psychological conditions. I feel bad for their children.
He probably had some delusions that taking female hormone treatments would make him a real woman. Typical autogynephile Ed Gein logic.
@@wormwoodcocktail I think you nailed it. I don't know why I didn't think of that. lol
@@dissidentfairy4264 I have a PhD in the behaviour of weird perverts. You didn’t think of it because you’re a normal person.
@@wormwoodcocktail I'm afraid you under estimate me. Normal is generic and boring! My mind is like a Rubik's Cube. It moves with the speed of light:-)
It's a form of estrogen, similar to feminizing hormone therapy. He was most likely trans.
Dr. Grande, could you address the question: have there been studies on how often those with narcissistic personality disorder commit suicide? Thanks!
Jeffery Epstien?
@@stevebutler812 But did he 🤔
@@Forgottenworlds777 Inquiring minds want to know. He was well connected but apparently his connections left him hanging
I read that the rate is a bit higher than the general population's suicide rate
I've read of numbers of around 15%.
A true narcissistic sociopath.He lacked so much self awareness that he didn’t realise he was making Karen and their home like how his dad did. You’d think him being that smart, he would recognise and try and break the chain
Agreed. Narcissists don't have the ability to do this though. They're essentially weak overgrown children who refuse to accept responsibility for their wrongs (even the fairly self aware ones.)
How many times did you have to shoot all the words with "f"? You've done an outstanding video. I don't think I could have ever gotten through those perfect words with a straight face if I could have done it at all. I know you analyze serious situations but I appreciate your humor.
I remember watching his trial on Court TV year's ago. Very bizarre.
I remember too because he acted so ridiculous throughout!
Now I wanna see it
Excellent job on the tongue twisters Dr Grande. Your humour is much appreciated.😂
Could it get any drier? I need some water.
Nothing better than seeing an upload from Dr. Grande - let’s get to speculating!
Really enjoyed your alliterative analysis -- certainly it yielded more truth than poetry...
Love your new set, especially the lighting!
Despite your deadpan demeanour/demeanor, listening to your analysis, Dr. Grande, is like tuning-in to story-time! Subject matter aside, you are able to make your analysis an enjoyable listen with your highly honed wordsmith skills -- the many word-plays, and, as with here, throwing in a good smattering of alliterations, always make me smile. 👍Thank you.
Clearly a smart guy, but a miserable human being. I wonder how his life would have turned out if he had been raised in a loving, supportive environment.
I wonder how his siblings are doing?
He would have had a much better chance of not being what he turned out to be. Becoming a narc is a choice they make. It's nut curable and they will likely never be anyone different that how they are. They are very sick and dangerous people. I pity anyone who ends up with one.
He was a muring , abusive POS. Just because he was a cross dresser doesn’t mean he deserves pity. His poor wife is the one that deserves pity not that self scented psychopath.
I wonder how his (and other people's) lives would have been immeasurably better and happier if not for the Cult of Intelligence/ Cult of Death (CIA, DoD and pals)?
Good evening
Dr.Grand🧩e.
I so look forward to seeing you. Your analysis & evaluation of each story you bring to us is so thorough & insightful.
I always complement you on your ability to fit so much information into such a short amount of time.
Thank you again for being my constant!✨
The cyclical trend of high functioning abusers has been driven by generations of entitlement. The lack of empathy and awareness about the damage done to the lives of the people who are victims is so tragic, as is obvious from this person who had to grow up with it.
It is sad that people who have money don’t use it to get help for themselves and their families.
In many ways these situations are replay of the slave culture that is part of American history.
Someone feeling that they're the master and that they, through Terror can enslave those less powerful. The damage is lifelong.
Often collusion protects the perpetrators, perfectly.
The most dangerous time is when you are leaving 💢😡
Hi Dr Grande, I watch you every time you come home. I just think you are so smart and I love your dry sense of humor. I get happy when I see you have a new vlog. Have a blessed day
I loved the alliteration run, very cool. I also dislike Christmas, but I don't try to make it miserable for anyone else, mostly because the reason I dislike Christmas is because my abusive former step-father used to do that.
Your step-father used to make Christmas miserable?
@@lindseyhendrix2405 yeah.
His behaviour and facial expressions on the stand were quite strange! Look up the case and you will not be disappointed. Thanks for your hard work. Keep up the the coverage of these unusual cases.
Definitely going to do so after finishing this! And high five for the same last name!! 😂🙏🏽
Thanks Dr. Grande. Much appreciation for your coverage of the story.
I used to converse with him while he was in prison. I was a psych student and told him I wanted to write about him. He called the murder "the tragedy," claimed he did not remember anything from it, and asked me if I would contact a person he was dealing with from 20/20 news show and vouch for his character 🤔
What vibes did you pick up? Was he charismatic, creepy, credible, manipulative?
@@An_Drea_Calling extremely intelligent, highly manipulative, and very charismatic.
@@anotherlittlepieceofmyart Thanks! Oh man... the perfect mix. Must have been scary and fascinating to speak with someone like him. At the same time, I hope I never come across someone like that in real life.
@An_Drea_Calling It really was. I was shocked that he wrote back, and did it so quickly. I had written to several high profile inmates and he was the only person to reply. He is a fascinating person. I still have the letters and hoped to put a book together, but I never noticed a lot of interest in the case.
Nice channel 😊
Ah, plastic surgery. I was wondering how he looked more like Cher than a cross dresser does when they're actually trying to look like Cher.
Sad that peoples minds can become so warped that it leads them to commit evil
Or to cross-dress.
@Will Rivers No, I just get to see more crazy people than 10 or 20 years ago when out. You can't possibly argue that's a good thing.
Omg-the alliteration about the fork cracked me up. I had to tap back at least 3 times to hear it again!
Again I love your delivery and story telling. Such a sad case.
Great use of alliteration! I love your dry sense of humor.
Having a low self esteem attracts bad partner choices!
Great analysis... Giggled at every tongue twister and pun.
i lived in the expensive San Francisco Area and needed a roomate, for about 6 months i had a roomate who was transgender male to female and had gone to thailand for sex re-assignment surgery before i met her. Very sweet lady. She was really smart and a workaholic, who worked 2 jobs 7 days per week about 10 -12 hrs per day as an electrical engineer to save money to buy a house, so i rarely ever saw her, because i worked 3pm - 1130pm and every other weekend.
I remember this case and I thought he wanted the state to pay for the surgery to transition. I thought he went to court over this.
A lot of men who murder and abuse women want to transition to female and get access to women’s prisons. Why wouldn’t they want to shoot fish in a bucket?
See Donna Perry, Karen White, Richard Speck…
@Pat Luxor And shown in Congress!
I have a trans sister who has other mental health issues as well. On top of my mom being a very cold person, she would also say that she wished she had a girl and would mention the name she had in mind. Now my sister goes by that name.
Maybe people are “born” trans like they say, but I believe it can also be a response to trauma during childhood.
The psychological aspects of some people's cross dressing or gender dysphoria is very interesting.
@A H no, it isn't.
@@user-account-not-found I'm Gen X and childfree, currently single. I'm heterosexual, but I'm very happy now single, not dating. It doesn't surprise me at all if young kids chose to be childfree and I think it's healthy to not be promiscuous. There are too many STD's and the risks of unwanted pregnancies. That kids chose celibacy doesn't mean they're not dating (I chose not to date, hence celibacy for me). I've been there, done that. Not interested in wasting my time on men who doesn't deserve it. I'm just weird and can't have casual sex like most people of my generation.
@Ryan R - So everyone has to be the same as you? Not everyone can be straight and not everyone wants kids.
Thank you Dr Grande, for the great content. Thank you Dr Grande you are the best .
Hello dear. I agree with your comment. Great visit w Mum today🥰💞💛💐🍭🍹🌃Hugs to you all...💌💫🌜🌠
@@zenawarrior7442 Hello my friend, so pleased you're mum is still having good days. The family says too say hello. 😜😚❤💙💙💙✉☕🌷🌸🌹🍀
BTW Steve asked if your mum is on Aricept , It may have a different name in America, but you can put it in your search engine. It really helps people like your mum who have dementia. ❤💙💖-
"There's only room for ONE dress in this closet!"
I watched the whole trial on Court Tv. He was an extremely strange man!
His corporate interests certainly go along with wanting to transition to female. Hair removal. Skin moisturizer etc.
Totally creepy. Autogynephilia. Ed Gein Buffalo Bill stuff.
It puts the lotion on its skin.
@@anyways661..... or it gets the hose again.
Intelligence is nothing without character and morals.
Never thought I’d say this but I’m here for the puns!😆 Never will they be enough, lol. Spot on analysis as usual😊
After Dr G said he started taking her birth control pills..I went right to the comments
Autogynephilia. He probably thought it was akin to HRT.
Dude no kidding! I was across the room from my phone and said “oh what the f?!” And immediately ran over to rewind and I’ve been in the comments ever since 😂
@@wormwoodcocktail it’s unproven
@@normanorman I’m sure you watched a ContraPoints video that says that. Too bad he’s an autogynephile.
@@wormwoodcocktail every mental illness is autogynephilia to u people. whatever ur smoking must be the same shit dr. sharpe was on to make him lose his mind
Dr. G. This was a story I've never heard before. Good one. No pun intended. I don't want to seem morbid. But Hollyweird hasn't nothing on your stories Dr. G.😉👍🏾
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Good evening Dr. Grande. As always an excellent analysis. My question is why do women( including myself back in the 90s) stay with me who are abusive?
Have a wonderful week.
No doctor here. Was in an emotionally abusive relationship and I can tell you that women stay because they dont think they deserve better. Very low self esteem. Along with never having a healthy relationship with a man in their lives (fathers, step fathers…etc)
If you respect and love yourself you would not stay in such a relationships We want to be validated and to be loved but inwardly we do not feel we deserve love Past abuse makes this much worse Co- dependence tend to attract abusive Narc relationships We think if we just love more and harder and do more then this person who is abusing us will see the light and wake up and love us Sadly this does not work All we can do is get out ,heal and move forward
Or maybe just that he’s threatened to kill you and the kids if you dare ever try to leave.
@@azulgaia7782 possible
@@azulgaia7782 another way is to make you feel stupid and useless without him
Intelligent and hilarious. I look forward to your videos. You are the greatest.
Prayers for her Children, and Family 🙏💔🙏💔🙏💔🙏💔
Who needs to research for a college paper when we have dr Grande 😊
The soft lights in the back are really nice!
I am soo happy Dr Grande to listen to your next video, thank you for your amazing work!
That’s strange, i have a friend who crossdresses.. Also has a jealousy for his sister. I heard crossdressing is always related to jealousy of women, rather than adoration.
Seems so 😬
Probably was abused and saw that his sister never faced such abuse. The mistreatment of boys in society is making boys and men want to be women and girls, because they see how society cares about them more, sadly.
Usually yes! Either this or the hobby is a result of chronic 🌽 addiction
Yep
You heard wrongly.
"But he made their skin crawl" Oh how ironic! He failed as a Dermatologist, then. :P
I can relate to Harry. My mom died (cancer) when I was 15, and I didn't believe she was gone, either. I went through years of numb denial, which I guess could have been lessened with some family counseling. (My family didn't believe in therapy, either). Some early intervention could have spared Harry (and myself) from some future problems.
“Just as he was rejected by his wife, he would later be rejected by a jury.” I don’t know why, but that made me laugh, and so did the skin puns. 😅
i can’t believe he stole those children’s mother and then stole their father by suicide. so sad
So he was a thief too. And wanted his 2+ million back after she paid for his education. That must've pushed her over the edge.