I agree. So many can't afford a good therapist. And it can be so, so hard to help oneself if suffering from complex PTSD. Being so dysregulated makes it hard!
in my county , in New Hampshire, we have an excellent facility funded by local, state, federal and private sources, and small co-pays. they r busy, but not totally overwhelmed with patients. (i know that is not the case in many ares) The fees are extremely low, or even free in some cases i’m doing EMDT and DBT there , and they are good at prescribing the proper medications for PTSD, Bipolar, borderline, add, adhd, etc. they are very careful to avoid the crazy expensive meds, when there are far less expensive alternatives. Most prescribers don’t know how to do that. Ash
Does anyone else benefit from listening to Emma talk? I have watched and utilized a lot of her videos and self-help tools that she offers, but honestly her voice is so, so soothing and it helps ground me in certain situations. Thank you Emma you've helped me over the last 2 years from your videos and by helping me ground myself. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you so much for being so compassionate, laid back, and authentic. I love how you use story telling to relate to the human experience and break down terminology so that we can understand it. Thank you for being a beacon of light and paying it forward ❤
I think the best part is transmitting how much you care about our hearts. Your compassionate heart is beautiful. I wish you were my therapist. And maybe my mom but I’m older than you, lol. You make we want to cuddle on the couch and put my head on your lap. 😂🥹 🙏🏼 thank you for caring. The world needs more people like you 🌎
@@mandeepsaini4501 well I was thinking about the existential part of anxiety. For trauma, psychotherapy and these excellent videos are probably more relevant. Emma is brilliant and compassionate, have you reviewed more of her videos? For me it’s a continual process of healing but somewhat more better days than bad ones. Stay strong, patient and we’re rooting for you! 🙏🏻🌹💪
My period is coming so I get that kind of liberating earth-shattering crying session that lasts 4 hours. Honestly, I would rather cry for four hours every day and then have a mental energy to concentrate, than walk around with all that stuff bottled up and unable to concentrate for longer than there minutes. I would dance some shaman dances if that what it takes to bring in those healing four hour daily crying sessions, but they just wouldn't come
Writing prompts can be terrifying as now we see our thoughts and experience them not through the pen, but our whole body That's exactly why they work so well. Lovely prompts, appreciate all your helpful advice here
You are a angel on earth , thanks to spread your knowledge. When i have finantial conditions i will buy all your courses for me and to support this amazing job.
I need this right now. As I’m listening to you and the questions. I know the exact answer to the questions, I have known foe a long time now, however I still suffer even though I know my triggers. I’m going through it right now. I can’t stop. I have no tools.
People like you who love people enough to share this info are the ones who will go to heaven. Im not really that relogious but im just so thankful for kind hearted professionals. Abused children need help and its heartbreaking that even as adults the adults around us continue to fail us. I hope everyone can find peace and happiness because they all deserve to love life and love otheda
Absolutely love your channel and recommend it to most of my clients! Wondering if you could at some point do a video on anhedonia and coping skills? Thanks for all you do!
I am 19 and i really wanna fix myself and understand myself better.I have had alot of things happened to me throughout my childhood and teenage years so thank you for this video:)
Engrossing video.. Enlightening... Informative.. V. Kind of you... To be doing this I think sensitive people.. Go through such emotion.. and..yes..trauma..not only in childhood.. But also Otherwise experience.. Later Triggers these emotions and make one feel helpless
First, type in Google what you are going through and it will tell you the clinical name. Then type in the clinical name and ask if cognitive behavioral therapy can help. If so, then look for a CBT therapist.
I have gone a long way in my recovery from my traumatic experiences with Justin Smith. I am now at peace with those bullying memories now because of the grace of God.
Yes, the old feelings are accurate for the current situation. I'm still in the trauma situation. I'm still in danger. So I need to lean in to completing the biological response every time I'm still confronted with it. I think I'll focus on Peter Levine's work to get through it and listen to my body.
I’m not really sure how to tell the difference between healing and hardening. I had a trigger recently from someone yelling, and it reminded me of my drunk father yelling at me while I was being forced to sit at the kitchen table and listen to him. I think I resolved it by telling myself if I could survive that upbringing, I can survive some random person raising their voice at me. But I’m not sure if that’s resolved or just a coping skill.
@Vegans in the Wild over 50 Good question! In my personal opinion, you can tell the difference by really feeling in to it. Meaning, if you really have to force your way through it, gnashing your teeth, biting your lip, trying your utmost to supress your 'natural' inclination, then it's probably a coping mechanism. If you, however, are going through it with some degree of calmness, composure, believe that you'll manage and have it under control WITHOUT panicking, having a cold sweat, having the tendency to act out, numb yourself or flee the scene, then it's probably a sign that you've healed. Or at least on your way to fully heal yourself. So, all in all, the difference between coping and healing is, not so much WHAT you do, but HOW you experience it. Coping feels like dealing with a part of you that feels (somewhat) alien to you, thereby envoking a more erratic response. (Which is normal because you'd feel it doesn't really belong to you on a deep level) Whereas healing feels (far) more integrated. Evoking a (far) more measured response, characterized by some sense of calmness, composure. (How much depends on both the severity of the trigger and how much you've healed). Hope this helps you somewhat. By the way, like your username. I had a slight chuckle when reading it. Cheers and all the best to you!✌
Hardening is thinking that your father is yelling at you because you deserve it and you're trying to build a crust around yourself. Healing is when you look at the reality that your father is the one with the problem in that there is nothing wrong with you. No one in life deserves to be yelled at or attack.
@@brutallyhonesttherapy2024YesI think this is projective identification? When one refuses to take on another’s projection as if it defines one or really means anything other than their opinion.
1) What do you feel in your body? Describe. 2) What is the earliest age you remember feeling these sensations? 3) Can you create an image of yourself feeling these sensations? What else were you doing or might you have been doing when you felt these sensations? 4) Who else might have been there? 5) Is the current situation in any way similar? 6) Clarify: Are these old feelings accurate for the current situation?
I recently moved into central Texas. Only 2 months of living here I had an EF2 tornado go through my backyard & 6 months later I had an ice storm that made 2 oak trees fall on my house. Now every time the weather goes into a marginal or enhanced threat I get paralyzed with fear. What can I do to overcome this fear?
I have GAD, and a supportive husband. He's good at walking me through calming exercises etc. But, when I am feeling the most anxious and my nervous system really starts hurting I tell my husband how I'm feeling, and he invariably brings up his ex, the kids' school challenges, and other stressful topics. I end up even more on edge and eventually panic attacks start. I don't know why he does that or how to ask him to stop.
Not a freaking spider in my bed running across my field of vision while I try to watch a video on trauma 😭 retraimatizing me all over again friggin spider lol
What if you cant remember your childhood that well? I remember all the trauma from my teenage years (starting at 14 right at beginning of highschool) but i struggle really bad with recalling pretty much everything before that. Like, i remember the traumatic things that happened, but i cannot remember how my body felt. And the memories are extremely fuzzy now. Its very hard to recall my responses to things or details.
Also, I remember my trauma in school (bullied throughout entire secondary school time from age 5 - at least 14), my dad and mom getting divorced and my dad leaving to England etc .... but for some reason I can't remember a single GOOD thing from my childhood?? It confuses me... did something happen during life at home with my mom that was so traumatic that I completely blacked it out? Or was it just so noneventful that I just pushed it back and the real trauma took the forefront?? My mom and I started fighting really bad once I hit high-school and it's been shifty ever since. She deprived me of the nurturing I desperately needed throughout my teens because I was severely broken and unable to cope with life (she couldn't deal with it). I'd lash out to try and gain her attention and love but all I'd get is a cold shoulder and given a crisis help line. Anyways ..... from what I can recall my relationship with her wasn't always bad it was great before I turned into an angry, drinking, drug using, rebellion in my teens .. is it possible it wasn't actually great growing up and once I got older I finally realized it so that's why I got angry against my mom? Idk. Now I'm just rambling to myself.. I do this constantly in my head trying to fix myself and I've yet to come to any conclusions or answers.
@@northernlights27 It sounds a lot like my mom. Her mom had major depression and was never emotionally available. So when I was growing up, my mom was a little distant and never really there for me. If I had big emotions, I got yelled at. When bad things happened, she didn't understand why I didn't tell her. But it was very lonely, despite being in a big family. She's still awkward with affection.
How do you suggest coping with fear of recurrence? I have a heart arrhythmia (svt) and am always afraid of when the next attack will happen. I also have trauma from past episodes and tend to replay them in my head. Not sure how to work through this. Thank you!
Is it possible to do a video with suggestions for helping family members help someone with severe PTSD when they do become triggered? I understand there would not be a one size fits all suggestion, but maybe something for the different levels? I have a close family member who has been in many wrong place wrong time situations that have led to them having severe PTSD. Non-military, non violent reactions ( at least not in the situations they have been triggered in from my personal experience). It is very scary as a family member and not knowing what the best ways to help them are, or any ways to help them. Especially when they go into that memory and you don't know what it is. At least having some tools to try to help, especially when bringing up going to the hospital makes things worse for them and you are trying to get them to come back on your own.
I'm currently in semi crisis mode. Im attempting to get in with someone locally. Do you have any advice as to what I can do to prep for the first meeting? I've done some extensive work with past therapists, online therapists and just a ton of journaling and learning but recently have been dealing with a lot of feeling used, toxic situations, anger, bitterness, resentment and just difficulty breaking free. Im paying out of pocket so I want to make the best use of our time. Historically, they seem to think I want a friend but what I need is a clinician.
I get aggravated when I put pressure pn myself cause because can't do one thing or the other. When people don't like me or feel someone talk badly or what might imagine as someone talking bad about mr
In all transparency, haven't listened to the video at the time of commenting, but I have a question going into the video: What if journaling is triggering? Especially growing up in a house where my journals and other so called "private" journals were always read and used against me. So it's difficult for me to journal or write my deepest feelings down as I keep fearing they'll be read by someone who would then use it against me, or worse, stops loving me because of what's going on in my mind and heart.
Hello friend, thank you for these amazingly helpful and aligning and cool cognitive thinking videos you put out here!(: PLEASE help me… do you happen to have any advice or knowledge you could share with someone who fell deeply in love with a psychopath?
I’ve seen or been to about 7 or 8 different therapists in my life so far and you are the best and I really wish I could have you as my therapist. Any chance you know of a therapist in the Chatham Kent Ontario area that you would refer a single gal in her late thirties to?
Hi, Please tell how to get rid of hurt and angst against someone you thought were your friends, some argument occurs between you both, and you move on and start being friends again , but a few days later you realise they only talk to you when you ask them something and are not interested talking anymore, they have not been talking to you, just responding. for an experiment, you don’t talk to them for a whole day, and guess what they ignored you the whole day, and you find them bonding with someone you used to gossip about, now they are bitching about you with them, making mean comments when they are around , it hurts a lot, how should we address it? should we confront them? which you did previously but still they are continuing to do the same if not more, idk please help
Friends don't treat you the way you described so move on and find new friends. You cannot change them so don't try. Ignore them just the same way they ignore you, if not more so. An old saying my dad taught me was that if your boss doesn't like you then find a company where the boss does. That works in every situation.
@chaeintetsuya so sorry to hear about your wife and your after effects. Shrooms? I have heard this too lately. To be honest I just NOW looked it up online and do not feel comfortable with their effects
You're talkin about a very rare disease that may be 1% of the population of the world has. Everyone has a creative imagination, everyone can imagine what they're going to eat for dinner. However, if you have no visual perception of anyting, then you could be a psychopath with no empathy.
@@brutallyhonesttherapy2024 “Psychopathy, sometimes considered synonymous with sociopathy, is characterized by persistent antisocial behavior, impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited, and egotistical traits.” I think you may be projecting :)
Mam, i was taking medicine for anxiety, even though i am taking medicine, in some ways the unwanted thoughts occur, sometimes i feel frustrated, what to do mam ?? Pls tell any solution for this ??!
Please could anyone recommend trauma& grief therapy, tools anything.. associated with my fathers death. He walked into hospital just needing a tablet for sodium he unexpectedly became critical due to covid then sepsis then pneumonia im so devastated what he went through and obviously him not making it after weeks of hope and him fighting to live, im not coping, off work & im a lone parent. I dont know wear to begin any help would be so appreciated!
How are you okay being a member of a homophobic church? Being raised in your church is the reason I have trauma, anxiety attacks, and depression--because I was taught that I was doomed to never be allowed to be with the gender I loved and treated horribly by both members of the mormon church and the mormon church itself.
An artist in people pleasing cause common sense was gossiping about your greatness. Saying You're an ancient angel with generational wisdom from your heart. You have that peace in your heart that shines the beauty through your energy. Udagreatest. The sweetest Love for your own heart smiles because your specialness is amazingness. The kind of beauty sparking love in the universe and making the stars go cloud skipping raining abundance. With the highest quality of life's value in your heart. Your thoughts are like magic wishes coming true every day. They say don't be a people pleaser so I master the art of people pleasing ha ha you have been people pleased Ha ha you been people pleased sucker now ask your emotions how do feel. About bashing on the highest vibration tool there is called the Genius Genie Super charged gratitude machine. The fastest within healer over everything Maybe it's time to rename people pleasing to it's right full position As what it is greatness I have ran laps around my history all the way back to a child. Stomping all of my years to start again from a child like nature. There is nothing the past will be teaching me anymore. Mental solution cure is in the future subconscious programs. I don't care if the whole world believes you must play in baby cry me a river on the past. The past solved nothing for me. Creating new thoughts to teach my emotions to blush pretty colors for my heart to get excited. To be clear I ego smash that past with happiness You explore the past only for wisdom so you do not continue to repeat the same failure over and over. Trauma is beaten by the momentum of new thoughts becoming the new habit. Collecting the seconds of time with no distractions takes dominance over all programs becoming the subconscious habits That says I go against 100% on the methods of therapy Meaning cry me a river over past baby childhood crap. Because that method is not healing it is the method to study people's emotions I don't need no degrees To stand by the belief of my heart in knowing the facts to the path of reality healing from within . My anti social that be stopping my heart beat from my nervous system has absolutely nothing to do with the path to curing it. The future has the cure. Meaning Genius Genie Super charged gratitude machine Genius Genie habit creating machine the fastest mindset installer in all the lands Collecting the seconds of time with no distractions Practicing positive complimenting strangers and self genuinely repetitively into the subconscious Called the art of PEOPLE PLEASING To be honest I am beyond dumbfounded in how the world thinks the path of playing in traumatized drama town is the healing path. I would rather burying myself For the betrayal of my heart To go down that path. Oh what I did that already That is why I am extremely passionate against therapy and question if they even know how to install positive mindsets for momentum to happiness. Let's give attention to the past pain so we can collect enough seconds of time with no distractions and creating a ever lasting subconscious mindset that leads to prescription where you better listen like a slave because the degrees to learn the skills over ride your rights and of to a mental health home for your healing. Count me out I got this game all by myself Like warrior dancing on old paradigms Singing I got the wealthiest collection of seconds from no distractions Genius Genie habit creating machine Genius Genie Shadow reactor gps intuition radar with pinpoint accuracy lights ups the dark within sends the ego to play hulk smash The heart say no love for the programs of thoughts and emotions that don't serve the hearts dreams. Resistance against the heart gets no self love for being disrespectful But the heart forgives with love when ego smashed the thoughts and emotions in there right full place For the relentless repetition practice to new thoughts and emotion. Love from the heart pures out effortlessly free flowing abundance. Untill proven otherwise The lion within that be protecting the boundaries Will eat the Therapy game. Might be wise to only bring me solution that start off on the positive road and stays on the positive road. Trying to convince me that I must go to the negative road to reach the positive road to find happiness and to overcome triggers The lion shall bit unapologetically
This is so sad to me. So many can't afford to get help to get through all this
Yeah. We do our best with what we have... internet.
I agree. So many can't afford a good therapist. And it can be so, so hard to help oneself if suffering from complex PTSD. Being so dysregulated makes it hard!
Because we were meant to be this way.
No one wants to help because there’s no money in it.
So instead, they give us half-solutions and feel absolved
in my county ,
in New Hampshire,
we have an excellent facility funded by local, state, federal and private sources, and small co-pays.
they r busy, but not totally overwhelmed with patients.
(i know that is not the case in many ares)
The fees are extremely low, or even free in some cases
i’m doing EMDT and DBT there , and they are good at prescribing the proper medications for PTSD, Bipolar, borderline, add, adhd, etc.
they are very careful to avoid the crazy expensive meds, when there are far less expensive alternatives.
Most prescribers don’t know how to do that.
Ash
Yeah, eI wish everyone could get more help and support.
Does anyone else benefit from listening to Emma talk? I have watched and utilized a lot of her videos and self-help tools that she offers, but honestly her voice is so, so soothing and it helps ground me in certain situations.
Thank you Emma you've helped me over the last 2 years from your videos and by helping me ground myself. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
“Let’s get better at feeling” love it, thank you for all your effort, Emma!!
She is helping the underdogs, definitely.
Thanks :)
I see an amazing counselor every other week and I still love your videos. I talk with her about some of the topics too. Thank you for what you do ❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for being so compassionate, laid back, and authentic. I love how you use story telling to relate to the human experience and break down terminology so that we can understand it. Thank you for being a beacon of light and paying it forward ❤
I think the best part is transmitting how much you care about our hearts. Your compassionate heart is beautiful.
I wish you were my therapist. And maybe my mom but I’m older than you, lol. You make we want to cuddle on the couch and put my head on your lap. 😂🥹
🙏🏼 thank you for caring. The world needs more people like you 🌎
Can u please make a full video on death anxiety and existential anxiety and how to overcome it…
It’s really urgent
Check out Sri Nisarghatta-especially his book I Am That.
@@Muddy-water yeah i have read everything what said in religions.. but it didn’t helped me unfortunately
@@mandeepsaini4501 well I was thinking about the existential part of anxiety. For trauma, psychotherapy and these excellent videos are probably more relevant. Emma is brilliant and compassionate, have you reviewed more of her videos? For me it’s a continual process of healing but somewhat more better days than bad ones. Stay strong, patient and we’re rooting for you! 🙏🏻🌹💪
Maybe NDEs books, articules, journals can give you an unique perspective on life..
My period is coming so I get that kind of liberating earth-shattering crying session that lasts 4 hours. Honestly, I would rather cry for four hours every day and then have a mental energy to concentrate, than walk around with all that stuff bottled up and unable to concentrate for longer than there minutes. I would dance some shaman dances if that what it takes to bring in those healing four hour daily crying sessions, but they just wouldn't come
I went into the ugly cry when you said I am safe or that’s what I heard. Definitely going to explore that more with my therapist.
You are always precisely and exactly right on time. Blessings to you🎰
Writing prompts can be terrifying as now we see our thoughts and experience them not through the pen, but our whole body
That's exactly why they work so well. Lovely prompts, appreciate all your helpful advice here
You are a angel on earth , thanks to spread your knowledge. When i have finantial conditions i will buy all your courses for me and to support this amazing job.
Thank you Emma❤
Thank you soooo much Emma! What a lovely person you are to try to help others through there trauma. I hope you and your family are well🥰
Just discovered your channel recently. You are amazing!
I need this right now. As I’m listening to you and the questions. I know the exact answer to the questions, I have known foe a long time now, however I still suffer even though I know my triggers. I’m going through it right now. I can’t stop. I have no tools.
Please make more videos about dissociation and trauma. They're very helpful
This is actually some of the best information I have ever heard on dealing with hurt of an isolated traumatic evemt. Thanks for posting this.
Thank you so much, Emma. I feel so fortunate to have stumbled upon your wonderful channel. ❤
How did you know I needed this ???
You are so thoughtful and helpful❤. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience.
People like you who love people enough to share this info are the ones who will go to heaven. Im not really that relogious but im just so thankful for kind hearted professionals. Abused children need help and its heartbreaking that even as adults the adults around us continue to fail us. I hope everyone can find peace and happiness because they all deserve to love life and love otheda
Absolutely love your channel and recommend it to most of my clients! Wondering if you could at some point do a video on anhedonia and coping skills? Thanks for all you do!
Thank you so much for making this video
I am 19 and i really wanna fix myself and understand myself better.I have had alot of things happened to me throughout my childhood and teenage years so thank you for this video:)
You are doing amazing work. These videos are a light in the darkness. this is what the I internet is supposed to be about. Sharing ideas that help.💚💚💚
Thank you 🙏
Thanks you really emma,trauma healing is a hard and long process but this is helping me a lot thx
You’re doing wonderful work - thank you 💕
Engrossing video..
Enlightening... Informative..
V. Kind of you... To be doing this
I think sensitive people.. Go through such emotion.. and..yes..trauma..not only in childhood.. But also
Otherwise experience.. Later
Triggers these emotions and make one feel helpless
Thank you for everything you do, Emma❤
Thanks
Thank you :)
Thank you a lot!
Your videos are so edifying and engaging.... Not to mention the tons of useful and practical strategies to enhance emotional intelligence😊
I really appreciate your videos helpful ❤
Perfect timing!
First, type in Google what you are going through and it will tell you the clinical name. Then type in the clinical name and ask if cognitive behavioral therapy can help. If so, then look for a CBT therapist.
Thanks!
Thank you
Really thank you
Outstanding video thank you 🙏🏾
Relevant topic with insightful and helpful content.... Many Thanks! 💫
Very insightful episode.....Helpful tools to help manifest the life we want...Clarity is the key to growth.
Emma any chance you can do a video on panic/anxiety attacks on a plane please!
Thank you, your explanations are spectacular 😊
I have gone a long way in my recovery from my traumatic experiences with Justin Smith. I am now at peace with those bullying memories now because of the grace of God.
Who is Justin smith?
Thanks Emma❤
Thank you for this wonderful video!
Thank you for the information emma❤️
Yes, the old feelings are accurate for the current situation. I'm still in the trauma situation. I'm still in danger. So I need to lean in to completing the biological response every time I'm still confronted with it. I think I'll focus on Peter Levine's work to get through it and listen to my body.
Thanks, Emma.💓
Your Fiddle Leaf looks awesome!
So insightful!
Really good work, thank you
Thank you so much for this channel.
I know it’s off topic but you look extra pretty today!❤
I’m not really sure how to tell the difference between healing and hardening. I had a trigger recently from someone yelling, and it reminded me of my drunk father yelling at me while I was being forced to sit at the kitchen table and listen to him. I think I resolved it by telling myself if I could survive that upbringing, I can survive some random person raising their voice at me. But I’m not sure if that’s resolved or just a coping skill.
@Vegans in the Wild over 50
Good question!
In my personal opinion, you can tell the difference by really feeling in to it. Meaning, if you really have to force your way through it, gnashing your teeth, biting your lip, trying your utmost to supress your 'natural' inclination, then it's probably a coping mechanism.
If you, however, are going through it with some degree of calmness, composure, believe that you'll manage and have it under control WITHOUT panicking, having a cold sweat, having the tendency to act out, numb yourself or flee the scene, then it's probably a sign that you've healed. Or at least on your way to fully heal yourself.
So, all in all, the difference between coping and healing is, not so much WHAT you do, but HOW you experience it.
Coping feels like dealing with a part of you that feels (somewhat) alien to you, thereby envoking a more erratic response. (Which is normal because you'd feel it doesn't really belong to you on a deep level)
Whereas healing feels (far) more integrated. Evoking a (far) more measured response, characterized by some sense of calmness, composure. (How much depends on both the severity of the trigger and how much you've healed).
Hope this helps you somewhat.
By the way, like your username.
I had a slight chuckle when reading it.
Cheers and all the best to you!✌
Hardening is thinking that your father is yelling at you because you deserve it and you're trying to build a crust around yourself. Healing is when you look at the reality that your father is the one with the problem in that there is nothing wrong with you. No one in life deserves to be yelled at or attack.
@@brutallyhonesttherapy2024YesI think this is projective identification? When one refuses to take on another’s projection as if it defines one or really means anything other than their opinion.
Thanks.
I love you! Thank you!
@9:36 thank you so much!!!!
1) What do you feel in your body? Describe.
2) What is the earliest age you remember feeling these sensations?
3) Can you create an image of yourself feeling these sensations? What else were you doing or might you have been doing when you felt these sensations?
4) Who else might have been there?
5) Is the current situation in any way similar?
6) Clarify: Are these old feelings accurate for the current situation?
I recently moved into central Texas. Only 2 months of living here I had an EF2 tornado go through my backyard & 6 months later I had an ice storm that made 2 oak trees fall on my house. Now every time the weather goes into a marginal or enhanced threat I get paralyzed with fear. What can I do to overcome this fear?
I have GAD, and a supportive husband. He's good at walking me through calming exercises etc. But, when I am feeling the most anxious and my nervous system really starts hurting I tell my husband how I'm feeling, and he invariably brings up his ex, the kids' school challenges, and other stressful topics. I end up even more on edge and eventually panic attacks start. I don't know why he does that or how to ask him to stop.
Not a freaking spider in my bed running across my field of vision while I try to watch a video on trauma 😭 retraimatizing me all over again friggin spider lol
What if you cant remember your childhood that well? I remember all the trauma from my teenage years (starting at 14 right at beginning of highschool) but i struggle really bad with recalling pretty much everything before that. Like, i remember the traumatic things that happened, but i cannot remember how my body felt. And the memories are extremely fuzzy now. Its very hard to recall my responses to things or details.
Also, I remember my trauma in school (bullied throughout entire secondary school time from age 5 - at least 14), my dad and mom getting divorced and my dad leaving to England etc .... but for some reason I can't remember a single GOOD thing from my childhood?? It confuses me... did something happen during life at home with my mom that was so traumatic that I completely blacked it out? Or was it just so noneventful that I just pushed it back and the real trauma took the forefront??
My mom and I started fighting really bad once I hit high-school and it's been shifty ever since. She deprived me of the nurturing I desperately needed throughout my teens because I was severely broken and unable to cope with life (she couldn't deal with it). I'd lash out to try and gain her attention and love but all I'd get is a cold shoulder and given a crisis help line. Anyways ..... from what I can recall my relationship with her wasn't always bad it was great before I turned into an angry, drinking, drug using, rebellion in my teens .. is it possible it wasn't actually great growing up and once I got older I finally realized it so that's why I got angry against my mom? Idk. Now I'm just rambling to myself.. I do this constantly in my head trying to fix myself and I've yet to come to any conclusions or answers.
@@northernlights27 It sounds a lot like my mom. Her mom had major depression and was never emotionally available. So when I was growing up, my mom was a little distant and never really there for me. If I had big emotions, I got yelled at. When bad things happened, she didn't understand why I didn't tell her. But it was very lonely, despite being in a big family. She's still awkward with affection.
How do you suggest coping with fear of recurrence? I have a heart arrhythmia (svt) and am always afraid of when the next attack will happen. I also have trauma from past episodes and tend to replay them in my head. Not sure how to work through this. Thank you!
Is it possible to do a video with suggestions for helping family members help someone with severe PTSD when they do become triggered? I understand there would not be a one size fits all suggestion, but maybe something for the different levels?
I have a close family member who has been in many wrong place wrong time situations that have led to them having severe PTSD. Non-military, non violent reactions ( at least not in the situations they have been triggered in from my personal experience). It is very scary as a family member and not knowing what the best ways to help them are, or any ways to help them. Especially when they go into that memory and you don't know what it is. At least having some tools to try to help, especially when bringing up going to the hospital makes things worse for them and you are trying to get them to come back on your own.
I'm currently in semi crisis mode. Im attempting to get in with someone locally. Do you have any advice as to what I can do to prep for the first meeting? I've done some extensive work with past therapists, online therapists and just a ton of journaling and learning but recently have been dealing with a lot of feeling used, toxic situations, anger, bitterness, resentment and just difficulty breaking free. Im paying out of pocket so I want to make the best use of our time. Historically, they seem to think I want a friend but what I need is a clinician.
Trauma responses, It’s a gift and a curse.
great video 😍😍
I get aggravated when I put pressure pn myself cause because can't do one thing or the other. When people don't like me or feel someone talk badly or what might imagine as someone talking bad about mr
In all transparency, haven't listened to the video at the time of commenting, but I have a question going into the video:
What if journaling is triggering? Especially growing up in a house where my journals and other so called "private" journals were always read and used against me. So it's difficult for me to journal or write my deepest feelings down as I keep fearing they'll be read by someone who would then use it against me, or worse, stops loving me because of what's going on in my mind and heart.
Hello friend, thank you for these amazingly helpful and aligning and cool cognitive thinking videos you put out here!(: PLEASE help me… do you happen to have any advice or knowledge you could share with someone who fell deeply in love with a psychopath?
How can I take a session from you please tell me l really need to your help 🙏
It's hard to extract the actual journaling prompts from this, albeit these are all fine stories, quotes & references. Thank you though!
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I’ve seen or been to about 7 or 8 different therapists in my life so far and you are the best and I really wish I could have you as my therapist. Any chance you know of a therapist in the Chatham Kent Ontario area that you would refer a single gal in her late thirties to?
Hi, Please tell how to get rid of hurt and angst against someone you thought were your friends, some argument occurs between you both, and you move on and start being friends again , but a few days later you realise they only talk to you when you ask them something and are not interested talking anymore, they have not been talking to you, just responding.
for an experiment, you don’t talk to them for a whole day, and guess what they ignored you the whole day, and you find them bonding with someone you used to gossip about, now they are bitching about you with them, making mean comments when they are around , it hurts a lot, how should we address it?
should we confront them? which you did previously but still they are continuing to do the same if not more, idk please help
Friends don't treat you the way you described so move on and find new friends. You cannot change them so don't try. Ignore them just the same way they ignore you, if not more so. An old saying my dad taught me was that if your boss doesn't like you then find a company where the boss does. That works in every situation.
thank you very much, can you or someone else please explain to me the 4th question i didn't get it properly to ask it to my self
How can I take counseling with you?
I hear ya. Me too. Emma is gentle, calming and a kindred professional spirit❤
@chaeintetsuya so sorry to hear about your wife and your after effects. Shrooms? I have heard this too lately. To be honest I just NOW looked it up online and do not feel comfortable with their effects
From being in medical field myself...I find Nurse Practitioners & P.A.s practice more in natural methods.
So I'm honestly confused - you said there were 7 prompts and then said "here's 6" - are there 7? if so what's the 7th?
Could these excessive reactions come from copying what we saw as a child. A parent's way of overreacting most of the time? Thanks for the videos 🙏🏼🫶
Are you aware of any other methods that might help someone who suffers from Aphantasia and is unable to mentally visualize things?
Maybe draw a picture or find some art or photos online that fit ?
@Chaein Tetsuya I've heard that too. Some say microdose everyday and others say just one time with a shaman or guide helped tremendously.
You're talkin about a very rare disease that may be 1% of the population of the world has. Everyone has a creative imagination, everyone can imagine what they're going to eat for dinner. However, if you have no visual perception of anyting, then you could be a psychopath with no empathy.
@@brutallyhonesttherapy2024 “Psychopathy, sometimes considered synonymous with sociopathy, is characterized by persistent antisocial behavior, impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited, and egotistical traits.” I think you may be projecting :)
Mam, i was taking medicine for anxiety, even though i am taking medicine, in some ways the unwanted thoughts occur, sometimes i feel frustrated, what to do mam ?? Pls tell any solution for this ??!
Please could anyone recommend trauma& grief therapy, tools anything.. associated with my fathers death. He walked into hospital just needing a tablet for sodium he unexpectedly became critical due to covid then sepsis then pneumonia im so devastated what he went through and obviously him not making it after weeks of hope and him fighting to live, im not coping, off work & im a lone parent. I dont know wear to begin any help would be so appreciated!
I need u r help will u plzz help me with my problem plzz !!!
we really need to build psychology around not support groups ,because some people are surrounded by useless people.
Thank you so much for your help and knowledge. You are a wonderful therapist. 🩵
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How are you okay being a member of a homophobic church? Being raised in your church is the reason I have trauma, anxiety attacks, and depression--because I was taught that I was doomed to never be allowed to be with the gender I loved and treated horribly by both members of the mormon church and the mormon church itself.
Abcd
An artist in people pleasing
cause common sense
was gossiping about your greatness.
Saying
You're an ancient angel with generational wisdom from your heart.
You have that peace in your heart that shines the beauty through your energy.
Udagreatest.
The sweetest Love for your own heart smiles because your specialness is amazingness.
The kind of beauty sparking love in the universe and making the stars go cloud skipping raining abundance.
With the highest quality of life's value in your heart.
Your thoughts are like magic wishes coming true every day.
They say don't be a people pleaser so I master the art of people pleasing ha ha you have been people pleased
Ha ha you been people pleased sucker
now ask your emotions how do feel. About bashing on the highest vibration tool there is called the
Genius Genie Super charged gratitude machine.
The fastest within healer over everything
Maybe it's time to rename people pleasing to it's right full position
As what it is greatness
I have ran laps around my history all the way back to a child. Stomping all of my years to start again from a child like nature. There is nothing the past will be teaching me anymore.
Mental solution cure is in the future subconscious programs.
I don't care if the whole world believes you must play in baby cry me a river on the past.
The past solved nothing for me.
Creating new thoughts to teach my emotions to blush pretty colors for my heart to get excited.
To be clear I ego smash that past with happiness
You explore the past only for wisdom so you do not continue to repeat the same failure over and over.
Trauma is beaten by the momentum of new thoughts becoming the new habit.
Collecting the seconds of time with no distractions takes dominance over all programs becoming the subconscious habits
That says I go against 100% on the methods of therapy
Meaning cry me a river over past baby childhood crap.
Because that method is not healing it is the method to study people's emotions
I don't need no degrees
To stand by the belief of my heart in knowing the facts to the path of reality healing from within .
My anti social that be stopping my heart beat from my nervous system has absolutely nothing to do with the path to curing it.
The future has the cure.
Meaning
Genius Genie Super charged gratitude machine
Genius Genie habit creating machine the fastest mindset installer in all the lands
Collecting the seconds of time with no distractions
Practicing positive complimenting strangers and self genuinely repetitively into the subconscious
Called the art of PEOPLE PLEASING
To be honest I am beyond dumbfounded in how the world thinks the path of playing in traumatized drama town is the healing path.
I would rather burying myself
For the betrayal of my heart
To go down that path.
Oh what I did that already
That is why I am extremely passionate against therapy and question if they even know how to install positive mindsets for momentum to happiness.
Let's give attention to the past pain so we can collect enough seconds of time with no distractions and creating a ever lasting subconscious mindset that leads to prescription where you better listen like a slave because the degrees to learn the skills over ride your rights and of to a mental health home for your healing.
Count me out
I got this game all by myself
Like warrior dancing on old paradigms
Singing I got the wealthiest collection of seconds from no distractions
Genius Genie habit creating machine
Genius Genie Shadow reactor gps intuition radar with pinpoint accuracy lights ups the dark within sends the ego to play hulk smash
The heart say no love for the programs of thoughts and emotions that don't serve the hearts dreams.
Resistance against the heart gets no self love for being disrespectful
But the heart forgives with love when ego smashed the thoughts and emotions in there right full place
For the relentless repetition practice to new thoughts and emotion.
Love from the heart pures out effortlessly free flowing abundance.
Untill proven otherwise
The lion within that be protecting the boundaries
Will eat the Therapy game.
Might be wise to only bring me solution that start off on the positive road and stays on the positive road.
Trying to convince me that I must go to the negative road to reach the positive road to find happiness and to overcome triggers
The lion shall bit unapologetically
Thank you so much for this Emma! I was feeling hypervigilant and this helped me to calm down a bit🥲