So glad you found someone who is good to you. You deserve it. After binge watching your videos this morning, I had a talk with my daughter today about how she should divide her finances when she gets married.
💯 I wish serial monogamy was more accepted. I love that you’re bringing awareness. Relationships are teachers, they’re for our growth. You wouldn’t stay in the same class in school for life! Sure, we occasionally hear of a couple who’s had a lifelong courtship that serves them both, but this is VERY rare. It certainly is not the norm. I wish I’d known this before marriage (but I was Mormon, so, you know). I’m still not sure how to help children with parents parting ways. I have 4 children and one of them has been struggling so hard with our divorce for the past 6 years. Random fun fact: My ex also married one of the women he was cheating with. They’ve been married 5 years now and he claims to be the happiest he’s ever been. He cheats on her too, I know because he propositioned a mutual friend and she had screenshots to prove it. He told her he’d never stop cheating, that the “thrill” is too great. Also his wife somehow accidentally invited me to their marriage counseling sessions, with the same marriage counselor we had, is that weird? The counselor specializes in “sex addiction.” I should have shown up, I’d love to sit in and listen! 😂
What a horrible horrible man!! I almost cried listening to this. Again I’m so sorry you had to live through all of this but I’m happy for you that you got out! You deserve so much happiness ❤
@@aprilm4423 that nineTEEN year old actually really doesn't fully understand. The adult exploiting that kid does: www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-teen-brain-7-things-to-know
@@aprilm4423actually in her other stories you hear about there being another man accompanying the 19yo before Jake paid for her. She’s probably a stuck with a pimp in the sw industry. Plz educate yourself more before you judge those, especially children. NineTEEN is still a kid, just cuz it’s legal doesn’t mean her brain has developed to where she knows the effects her decisions will have later in life. Coercion happens to adults too, so even with your point of her being an adult doesn’t mean she’s consenting because let’s face it pimps aren’t looking out for their best interest 🙃 but we’ll never know fully either…..So maybe work on having an ounce of sympathy instead did making assumptions
What bothers me almost as much as women being taught to tolerate abuse is the idea that a woman must have a man in her life. I love men. I think the right guy adds a lot to life. However, I've read several accounts of religious women finally getting out of an abusive relationship, but jumping immediately into serial dating as if their lives depended on it. Not a good idea and not a good example for the children.
That's terrible. I'm sorry he treated you like this. I've observed and realized (from my experience) that men treat women how they feel about them, which is a really hard pill for us to swallow. We take it as a negative reflection of our worth, but in reality, it has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them. Now, I look for signs that a guy hates me as my cue to jump ship and stop wasting my time. Men won't usually come out and say, "I hate you." but their actions will say it, which is why it's important for a woman to prioritize and love herself first. Was he always this way or was he sweet and nice in the beginning and grow worse over time?
I love your partnership vows!! As much as I love the idea of marriage for life, I truly do not think it is healthy for most people. It is the rare couple who can change and grow together, instead of apart. But it requires radical emotional honesty to be able to navigate that which is why a lot of people just don’t bother. Times are changing with younger people though. Because of relationship education, fewer and fewer people are willing to tolerate abuse - and that is a VERY good thing 😊
I think it's important for everyone to be able to read when they've overstayed their welcome. If it matters, they will walk beside you. If your partner doesn't care about you anymore, there's no point in staying in a relationship with a partner who is already left.
The hardest thing is walking away from family or a boyfriend/husband but Important to do because We have One life this one and drama hurt disrespect and harm is not your journey! If any person tell you - to live with disrespect or harm to you at any level they are a liar that came from pit of hell I did leave family or a boyfriend that tried to be disrespectful My life is awesome not putting up with that I’m rearing up for travel and retirement 🩷🩷
Stayed in an unfufilling relationship for 7yrs had kids, not together no more ..... I should have ran after we were out getting dinner with his cousin , while in line he tells me that I was on my own , buying my own dinner because he was going to buy his cousin ..... through out the relationship many many fights and disappoints after that
Amd lastly the issue is these narcissists you were the victim in that relationship if he wasnt what he was then yoid probably still be in that marriage. I believe that we should only be in one marriage for life but not when it turns out like that . The problem is the abuse . Unfortunately you were forced to leave that tbh you were given no choice because he destroyed the marriage
I don't really agree with serial monogomy either. I think people should spend time single and only date a person if they feel a really strong special connection. I just think romantic relationships are extremely overrated
Its funny because im currently going through something similar ive called him.out plenty and have told him to leave get the balls up and go but he wont go yet he will not stop with the lying and mind games silent treatments. Hes in a sense stalking me by refusing to leave. Its my damn house . So im thinking even if you told him to leave he probably wouldnt have done so. Isnt it interesting how they want their cake and they want to eat it too. Its as if they need a woman that they can pick on and put down and then go out and have a variety of women but keep it hidden. As if its their right to do that. I hate this ex of yours already. You definitely deserved so much better
she said many times that she did not... because no law enforced it, so she was left on the street with nothing, not even for his own children, after 24 years of being his servant basically
So glad you found someone who is good to you. You deserve it. After binge watching your videos this morning, I had a talk with my daughter today about how she should divide her finances when she gets married.
💯 I wish serial monogamy was more accepted. I love that you’re bringing awareness. Relationships are teachers, they’re for our growth. You wouldn’t stay in the same class in school for life! Sure, we occasionally hear of a couple who’s had a lifelong courtship that serves them both, but this is VERY rare. It certainly is not the norm. I wish I’d known this before marriage (but I was Mormon, so, you know). I’m still not sure how to help children with parents parting ways. I have 4 children and one of them has been struggling so hard with our divorce for the past 6 years.
Random fun fact: My ex also married one of the women he was cheating with. They’ve been married 5 years now and he claims to be the happiest he’s ever been. He cheats on her too, I know because he propositioned a mutual friend and she had screenshots to prove it. He told her he’d never stop cheating, that the “thrill” is too great. Also his wife somehow accidentally invited me to their marriage counseling sessions, with the same marriage counselor we had, is that weird? The counselor specializes in “sex addiction.” I should have shown up, I’d love to sit in and listen! 😂
What a horrible horrible man!! I almost cried listening to this. Again I’m so sorry you had to live through all of this but I’m happy for you that you got out! You deserve so much happiness ❤
That poor 19 year old. That poor kid.
@Ladybug2461 Her brain isn't fully developed, she's a dumb kid. That's legal child abuse.
Why? She knows what she did was wrong. She's an adult. Let her pay for her own mistakes; the rest of us have to. No sympathy. Not 🚫 sorry.
@@aprilm4423 that nineTEEN year old actually really doesn't fully understand. The adult exploiting that kid does: www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-teen-brain-7-things-to-know
@@aprilm4423 www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3621648/
@@aprilm4423actually in her other stories you hear about there being another man accompanying the 19yo before Jake paid for her. She’s probably a stuck with a pimp in the sw industry.
Plz educate yourself more before you judge those, especially children. NineTEEN is still a kid, just cuz it’s legal doesn’t mean her brain has developed to where she knows the effects her decisions will have later in life.
Coercion happens to adults too, so even with your point of her being an adult doesn’t mean she’s consenting because let’s face it pimps aren’t looking out for their best interest 🙃 but we’ll never know fully either…..So maybe work on having an ounce of sympathy instead did making assumptions
What bothers me almost as much as women being taught to tolerate abuse is the idea that a woman must have a man in her life. I love men. I think the right guy adds a lot to life. However, I've read several accounts of religious women finally getting out of an abusive relationship, but jumping immediately into serial dating as if their lives depended on it. Not a good idea and not a good example for the children.
Thank you for recording and posting this valuable educational video about your experience in life.
Awww I’m so happy you found a new man, a good one!
That's terrible. I'm sorry he treated you like this. I've observed and realized (from my experience) that men treat women how they feel about them, which is a really hard pill for us to swallow. We take it as a negative reflection of our worth, but in reality, it has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them.
Now, I look for signs that a guy hates me as my cue to jump ship and stop wasting my time. Men won't usually come out and say, "I hate you." but their actions will say it, which is why it's important for a woman to prioritize and love herself first.
Was he always this way or was he sweet and nice in the beginning and grow worse over time?
I love your partnership vows!! As much as I love the idea of marriage for life, I truly do not think it is healthy for most people. It is the rare couple who can change and grow together, instead of apart. But it requires radical emotional honesty to be able to navigate that which is why a lot of people just don’t bother. Times are changing with younger people though. Because of relationship education, fewer and fewer people are willing to tolerate abuse - and that is a VERY good thing 😊
I think it's important for everyone to be able to read when they've overstayed their welcome. If it matters, they will walk beside you. If your partner doesn't care about you anymore, there's no point in staying in a relationship with a partner who is already left.
Have you written out your entire story? It would make a really interesting book.
The hardest thing is walking away from family or a boyfriend/husband
but Important to do because
We have One life this one and drama hurt disrespect and harm is not your journey!
If any person tell you - to live with disrespect or harm to you at any level
they are a liar that came from pit of hell
I did leave family or a boyfriend that tried to be disrespectful
My life is awesome not putting up with that
I’m rearing up for travel and retirement 🩷🩷
Stayed in an unfufilling relationship for 7yrs had kids, not together no more ..... I should have ran after we were out getting dinner with his cousin , while in line he tells me that I was on my own , buying my own dinner because he was going to buy his cousin ..... through out the relationship many many fights and disappoints after that
Amd lastly the issue is these narcissists you were the victim in that relationship if he wasnt what he was then yoid probably still be in that marriage. I believe that we should only be in one marriage for life but not when it turns out like that . The problem is the abuse . Unfortunately you were forced to leave that tbh you were given no choice because he destroyed the marriage
I don't really agree with serial monogomy either. I think people should spend time single and only date a person if they feel a really strong special connection. I just think romantic relationships are extremely overrated
It makes me wonder how many people actually do want to be in long-term monogamous relationships, let alone marriages.
Its funny because im currently going through something similar ive called him.out plenty and have told him to leave get the balls up and go but he wont go yet he will not stop with the lying and mind games silent treatments. Hes in a sense stalking me by refusing to leave. Its my damn house . So im thinking even if you told him to leave he probably wouldnt have done so. Isnt it interesting how they want their cake and they want to eat it too. Its as if they need a woman that they can pick on and put down and then go out and have a variety of women but keep it hidden. As if its their right to do that. I hate this ex of yours already. You definitely deserved so much better
Did you get child support from Jake?
she said many times that she did not... because no law enforced it, so she was left on the street with nothing, not even for his own children, after 24 years of being his servant basically
You are not allowed to be happy - are you kidding 😂 how dare you!
All so familiar - these monsters are all the same, different skin
cluster b personality disorder. Dr. Ramany...