I think it is the Russians who say, "You will not long remember the friends you have laughed with; you will never forget the ones you have cried with."
That’s dumb, what kind of asshole sees a casual acquaintance crying and bot console them in some matter. Also let’s not base laughter on the Russian standard, I’ve read soviet era jokes a plenty and meh
I’m here all day long for this comment. I feel you- I understand. But, I’m happier knowing you are on such an important journey. The rest will fall as it should. ✌️🤍✨
The biggest majority of your so called friends will try to take advantage of your good nature. Im in my 50's now and what I got out of life is that all your TRUE friends you can count on one hand and still have fingers left
Those arent friends--they are temporary buddies for pleasure (as Artistotle stated). Real friendship is give and take real friends dont prey on your good nature or exploit you, they try to support and uplift you.
Even if I’m an introvert, I value what little friends I have. Without them, I don’t know how I could get through life. Friendships makes us less lonely and they know a real part of ourselves. Even if I’m an introvert and don’t talk much I really love and cherish my friends. They bring out the hidden me, where I can be who I am. I thought I could get through life by myself. But it’s so lonesome, and TOO peaceful. Nothing is wrong if it’s just me, and it’s so.. routine. It’s so boring if it’s just me. But my friends always break that. They bring chaos and problems and the most random things. I am thankful.
"Friendship is essential to life and is beautiful and precious." (Aristotle). BTW Friendship is the foundation to Marriage. Some by-pass forming a friendship and become intimate right away. This usually leads to a disastrous marriage! "The greatest of all friendships is Marriage." (St. Thomas Aquinas) Cheers! From Canada.
Friends exist but you have to change your definition of what a friend is, that ride or die, through the good and bad with undying loyalty is almost non-existent. If you expect as much you will always be disappointed, rather look at them as relationships of convenience meaning your not setting the bar too high for them, your just enjoy thier company for however long it last. A true friend is someone who has an opportunity to betray you and they choose to defend you.
It's not non-existent but it's strongly dependent on the circumstances. We live in times where we can get by easier than ever by ourselves and there are less wars in the world which means less opportunity to form strong bonds. All interpersonal relationships have been eroding, including marriage. We don't even have mandatory military service anymore in our country (which was the case 15 years ago) and that was one of the places where one can find friends for life. I don't like the idea that the notion of friendship could be construed as "relationship of convenience" or some kind of trade. If it has come down to that, then it was never a friendship to begin with.
That's so true we should be taught these things in our school system then there wouldn't be room for so many emotional tragedies in people lives because we would no the difference and real realities of what a true and fake friend are just the moment type of friend!!!!!
The people who are bitter (and it's justified that they are) in the comment section about someone screwing you over or whatnot, the video explains the type of friendship you had. Accidental friendships do not last long, and that is the truth. Long term friendships are for the most part iron clad. You can have fights with your friends, you can have fall outs, and other bad things can happen and you can STILL be friends because you reconcile and the time you spent together as friends helps you through that. "Through thick and thin" is not just a pretty phrase that was put there, it's actually the truth. I should also mention that long time friendships are RARE in nature. You are not going to have thousands of long time friends. Of course, there is the possibility of a long time friend stabbing you in the back...it's very possible and to exclude the possibility would be foolish. However it's far more likely that someone with something to gain (Friendship of benefit) would backstab you over a life long friend. Life long friends are considered "Best friends" for a reason. They actually treat you like family and would walk through the fire with you. This is coming from someone who has had terrible friendship breakups as well. If there is one thing I truly believe in, it's friendship. It kept me alive all these years after going through cancer and chemo and then the late effects from said cancer after I stopped chemo years ago.
It is such a Blessing to find a good friendship built with right intention and from the Heart. *virtues *trust *admiration *awe I hope this will happen...for everyone.
Don't expect from others - that which you don't give to self and others. This requires a Conscious Mature Mind (have Empathy) - over the ever apparent Ego Mind (Judgemental).
The only person I know who has a true friend is my father. They've lived through childhood abuse, war, famine, and homelessness. They met in an orphanage (in Somali of all places) and clicked do to both secretly planning their "great" escape. Now my dads a truck driver who makes 20k a month and guess who bought him his first truck? His best friend who's now a millionaire from opening his own electric company in Somalia. Sadly he's infertile (which is basically a death sentence in Somali because no woman will come near you) and desperately wanted someone to pass down his wealth to so my father donated his sperm in order for him to have a family. My uncle married a lady promising her a child and she certainly got a child. These two give me hope that true friendship does exist. Some people are just lucky to find them early.
Banana So a person who's infertile can't help another unfortunate person who lost their parents to grow up in a loving home? Everything we do doesn't coordinate with nature. We don't just form bonds with our genetic offspring. That's what makes us empathetic creators.
Don X I always thought the more popular someone is the more likely he'll turn narcissistic/superficial. Having too much attention can go to someones head. Most people can lose their humbleness or humility quite easily so that isn't a crowd you should be looking at to make life-long true friends.
I LOVVVVEEEE how this young man so flippantly including **PARENTS** in his list of people who may potentially feel jealousy towards you as their child. I hope his words reach any abused people in younger generations especially so they know they're not the crazy ones and that it's somethingwrong with them, when who is really screwed up are their parents. As controversial and objectionable as a concept that may be, it doesn't make it any less common. Not that it's the majority of parents, or even the average parent(s), but parents literally being jealous of their children, and secretly harboring resentment and hopes that they fail to achieve their goals and dreams or don't outshine them, is way more common than people know or want to admit. Great video and important overall message.
What is considered to be true friendship is a very rare thing my in today's society, because most people are out for personal gain, or in other words people today are very self centered. A true friendship is impossible under these circumstances.
I met a potential friend last week. She was intelligent, had lots of reasonable ideas about the world, friendly, and we had many common interests. Unfortunately, when it was time to end the conversation, I lacked the courage to ask for contact information so that a friendship is possible. Such is life.
Zeayo I used to do that, was too intimidated to (dare) ask for a (potential) friend's contact details. So I made a point of giving them mine, as it was less threatening for me. I also felt it was kinder, giving them control over who initiates the (next) contact. Then I was advised that by doing that, I was being less than assertive, leaving the responsibility for initiating contact to the other person. I was also advised, it is (ultimately) flattering for the other person if you ask for their contact details...God knows!
Next time invite them somewhere instead of saying the typical "can i get your number" like for example "this weekend im gonna be doing so and so if youd like to join me" and hand them your phone. Did this on so many girls lol
Zeayo ~ it's easy bro, you can do it! with a matter of fact tonality Say, " this was a great conversation and I would love to continue by exchanging phone numbers." OR say " this was a great conversation! Here's my Facebook Instant Message information....etc Another great one is to be bold if you're sitting by her or someone and very smoothly type your phone number into her phone and text yourself. You'll feel the body language Clues when it's time to make the maneuver 👍 If she has an excuse or husband or refuses respond by saying "it was nice talking to you" with a sincere friendly tone and then move on. I read an article the other day that said there are three million single black women in America and there are three females to every male on the planet. There's always plenty more people to socialize with!!! It's kind of like sales .. two buyers out of every 10 presentations lol
The way it was explained to me when I was a teenager is much simpler, not dissing this video, but I think they have the order wrong: First is relationship based on pleasure. Nothing wrong with that. But the friendship is gone once either person wants to breakaway. Second is based on utility. Doesn't have to be heartless or mindless but still relies on when A leaves B for C because B no longer serves A. Nothing wrong with that either. The third is based on wanting what is best for your friend for their sake. You are devoting actions, mentalities, behaviours - you are doing your best to provide a relationship where you truly nurture the parts of listening to each other and communicating with each other without over reactions without dramatic judgement.
Aristotle's Ethics was an unfinished work, a compilation of notes ... he said a lot in praise of friendship, but he also said the best life doesn't need friends, it's complete in itself and has no need of companionship. It seems to me he was plainly thinking of different times in life ... the young need friendships for learning and fun, but once you're older, other people are a drain on your time, especially if you are able to learn on your own and the other people have problems that need your attention. If you're trying to get something done and your friends aren't helpful, they're just going to annoy you. If you've already had great friendships, there's no real point in trying to spend time together (which is characteristic of friendship, he says) ... an occasional get together is probably best for older people. ;)
Love is a friendship inspires by beauty and truth and sustains by loving kindness. The rule of friendship means that there must be a mutual understanding between them; each supplying what the other lacks and trying to benefit the other: always using sincere and friendly words. Therefore, the expression of love must be kind and gentle- not some diamonds in the sky. No master fall from the sky.
Thanks, I've not understood categories of friendship in this way before, and feel some relief in the possibility of improving my situation on this front. I can barely stand the low integrity garbage I currently count as my friendships. I spend too much energy ruminating on the disappointments and dissatisfaction but without many prospects. I can see real potential in joining with others with similar values toward some good.
Wonderful visuals. The best part is when silent slide with a statement (as a question) comes up. This makes it even more immersive. Also, it feels good (like a sense of accomplishment) to learn a concept from Aristotle. ✌
The Bible (A book read for over 2000 years) has a great deal to say about friendship and many other life and death issues, I highly commend the reading of this great book to everyone.
To the extent a person is virtuous, is the extent to which they will not betray you. Choose your friends according to the cardinal virtues of prudence, temperance and fortitude. Only just men can make good friends.
Interesting video. I agree that Friendship of good is most desirable, however I find that it's a lot more vague in how to go about obtaining one. My understanding, after thinking a bit about it, is that a friendship will start as either on of utility or pleasure before potentially becoming one of good. I speak from experience where some university friends or work colleagues have become terrific friends, and I'd put them more towards the friendship of good category than one purely of utility or pleasure any more.
Its less of an obtainment and more of a cultivation or grown (hence the use of a plant for symbolism) because only time will tell whether the friendship lasts through the inevitable obstacles and test of time.
Fck yes! It's like having someone to share the basic burdens of living needing to eat, a place to sleep, someone for company and safe sex. If built on deeper values it's what makes life beautiful, if not built on anything but the convenience, it will feel shallow.. and that's why they fight, without even knowing they don't feel bad because of each other, but because something's missing.
@@MikhaelAhava nah, I married my best friend and my god it's such a blessing to have each other no matter what. Sharing your life with your closest friend is incredible.
Friendship requires commitment. This is a huge responsibility. Unless you take it seriously, stay a loner wolf for the sake of people who never asked for it to begin with.
Man. The philosophers need to make a comeback. All this law of attraction has people in some weird delusional state that can be called 'functional' sanity. If you value truth then God be with you. The endurance needed to outshine pain against the decline of our society will be pivotal to potentially saving it.
If you are under the idea that your wife should be your best friend, make sure you meet her when you are struggling the most. Financially and emotionally that is. If she sticks it out with you then you have the benefit of having both her utility and pleasure. A true friendship that can't be cultivated when you are well off usually, because what you will attract then is either people wanting utility or pleasure but no friendship or love.
I have a friend and friendship we go back several years but at times I feel I’m the only one making an effort. I always message/make contact first, asking how she is, how things are going and general chit chat. I’m always the one who suggests and arranges catch up coffee or takeaway nights. I sometimes wonder if she would ever be bothered if I didn’t text, message or make contact. (I know I’m being silly and apologise for moaning)
You’re definitely not being silly and shouldn’t apologize for the why you feel. Friendships, like any relationship, is a two way street and requires effort from both ends.
@@kolacao8134 I haven’t said anything I just carry on being the one who messages first or suggests catches up but have to admit I don’t do it as often as I used to. She still doesn’t text first or suggest the catch up.
Brene Brown says “ Discomfort over resentment” is always the right answer. You should tell her how you feel because you value her friendship and do it with kindness and compassion for you both. If she doesn’t respond, the juice isn’t worth the squeeze, sadly and it’s unhealthy to let it continue. Good luck.
@@pearljam619 your first comment was 6 months ago and now this one is from a week ago. Y'all need to have that uncomfortable talk and prepare yourself for whatever result. And then decide for yourself if you want to stay
doge fm When life(or people)let you down, you have to let go of the hate and bad feelings. I know how you feel, I know people are not trusted and they deceive you(may be emotionally) you have to let go of the hate because its a punishment you give yourself for what others have done. Anyway, what really bothers you?
doge fm I think I understand. What I want to say, even if someone harms you, that's their problem, because it actually doesn't harm you, it harms them. It shows who they are, not who you are. After the pleasure comes the pain. Of course, there is pain after something, but why don't we see what's good in bad rather than seeing what's bad in good. I am not so much into that optimistic stuff but this idea sometimes helps. I hope I understand you and I am clear.
I believe there is also the "romantic intention" friendship between members of the opposite sex, where one party is 'friends' in the hope that something more might develop. They then unceremoniously dump the 'friendship' as soon as they realize nothing more is going to happen or they meet someone else. They always say you can tell someone's goodness of character by how well they treat people from whom they stand nothing to gain.
Today, so many live under the hallucination that friendships are a thing of quantity and they'll be the first to talk about how many friends they have. If you pay close attention, nearly all of those friendships are superficial or very shallow and have no basis in reciprocity. Of course, if you only work 40 hours a week then you have plenty of time to waste on those sorts of fickle friendships.
WHY DOES THIS NOT HAVE MORE FUCKING UPVOTES?! Thank you for speaking the goddamn truth. This guy spoke a truth bomb and everyone just bloody ignored it!
Exactly, despite all the mumbo jumbo about Fartbook being a wonderful social networking tool have you noticed that no noteworthy game changers have come via Fartbook? Plenty of jibber jabber of course but nothing important.
It seems there are two sorts of relationships generally; ones based on the truth and ones based on lies; to do with vanity and purely physical and mental - rather than spiritual and philosophical - considerations. Obviously there’s a time to lie and a time to say certain truths, practically speaking. But differentiating one from the other is never difficult, because people who value the truth over their friendship cannot in fact offend each other by telling the truth, and they inadvertently (which is how you know it’s good) build the strongest friendships. This is why Aristotle said that while we love both the truth and our friends, we must love the truth first. I would amend his famous statement to conclude that, in fact, our only calling is to love the truth. A friend worth having loves the truth first and foremost; and not only would they not be offended by the truth, they would in fact be offended by being lied to for the purposes of maintaining a “friendship”. Actually though, someone who’s made the truth their ultimate concern wouldn’t be offended because they know, as Jesus said, that people who lie to make fake friends know not what they do - how could they? They’re corruption is not physical or even mental, but spiritual. He would sympathize with those people, but that sympathy would never cause them to lie and so would never reach the person anyway unless they had a change of heart. He who sacrifices the truth for friendship will have neither; but he who sacrifices friendship for the truth will have both. It’s like when Jesus said “he who dies will live, and he who lives will die”. If you die of the ego, which lies to you and convinces you to lie to others for whatever shallow reason, you can truly live. Whereas if you desperately cling to a broken and mangled “life” only for the purposes of convincing yourself (because inside you’re full of doubt because you know it isn’t true) that you’re alive; then really you’re dead already. This is how you know that the spirit or the soul is not an imaginary concept. In fact, the physical realm - like our bodies - exists only as a place for our spirits to interact in, and for the truth to either be created and reaffirmed or denied and destroyed. So in real sense, the physical realm doesn’t really exist; not except as a playground for the spirit; the battle between the truth and the lie. When I say it doesn’t exist, I just mean that in reality is has absolutely no bearing on the real fight - between truth and falsehood. This is mind blowing when you realize that evil cannot even fight a direct spiritual battle with good. All it can ever do is wage war within the physical world, and what that always - in every case - means is trying to inject the physical with spiritual qualities. In the purely physical, there is no good. Included in the physical are; the 5 senses, emotions, and thoughts. Many people will dispute the idea that emotions and thoughts are really physical. Emotions come from physical hormones rushing through our body. That’s all they are. They can have a practical purpose in some sense, but actually they don’t add anything of truth-value that wasn’t already there. I challenge anyone to give me an example of where emotions offer some value not already evident. Such examples will always invariable involve ignoring usually several red flags. Someone will say “because I was sad I was able to know that my relationship was unhealthy”, when they and everyone around them already knew that. The real question would be; why were they avoiding the truth they already knew to be the case? And wouldn’t you know it, the only possible answer is other so called conflicting emotions and thoughts. Book 2 coming soon… haha
Here because my shy introverted self need to learn to make friends lol. I want the kind of friends you have in Dead Poet's Society where you hang out in a cool secret hangout spot and read cool poetry together and support each other's art.
Qoutes about Frindship : "I think if I've learned anything about friendship, it's to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don't walk away, don't be distracted, don't be too busy or tired, don't take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff." Jon Katz "Friends are the family you choose." Jess C. Scott "Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend." Martin Luther King, Jr. "Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down." Oprah "The language of friendship is not words but meanings." Henry David Thoreau "Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together." Woodrow Wilson "True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable." David Tyson Gentry "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one." C.S. Lewis "Friendship consists in forgetting what one gives and remembering what one receives." Alexander Dumas "Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm & constant." Socrates "Friendship is like money, easier made than kept." Samuel Butler "A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow." Shakespeare "Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend's success." Oscar Wilde "I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better." Plutarch "Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit." Aristotle "A good friend can tell you what is the matter with you in a minute. He may not seem such a good friend after telling." Arthur Brisbane "There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate." Linda Grayson "Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend." Albert Camus "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." Elbert Hubbard "Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?" Abraham Lincoln "Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." Marcel Proust "Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity." Khalil Gibran "An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind." Buddha "It's the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter." Marlene Dietrich "My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me." Henry Ford "Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything." Muhammad Ali "Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it's all over." Octavia Butler "There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first; when you learn to live for others, they will live for you." Paramahansa Yogananda "Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes." Friedrich Nietzsche "Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival" C.S. Lewis "The friend who holds your hand and says the wrong thing is made of dearer stuff than the one who stays away." Barbara Kingsolver "I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar." Robert Brault "Sweet is the memory of distant friends! Like the mellow rays of the departing sun, it falls tenderly, yet sadly, on the heart." Washington Irving "How many slams in an old screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live 'em. How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give 'em." Shel Silverstein "Growing apart doesn't change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I'm glad for that." Ally Condie "We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one which makes the heart run over." Ray Bradbury "Never leave a friend behind. Friends are all we have to get us through this life-and they are the only things from this world that we could hope to see in the next." Dean Koontz "Tis the privilege of friendship to talk nonsense, and to have her nonsense respected." Charles Lamb "The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship." Ralph Waldo Emerson "A friendship that can end never really began." Publilius Syrus "Lovers have a right to betray you. Friends don't." Judy Holliday "No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow." Alice Walker "In prosperity our friends know us; in adversity we know our friends." John Churton Collins "You can always tell a real friend: when you've made a fool of yourself he doesn't feel you've done a permanent job." Laurence J. Peter "Every friendship travels at sometime through the black valley of despair. This tests every aspect of your affection. You lose the attraction and the magic. Your sense of each other darkens and your presence is sore. If you can come through this time, it can purify with your love, and falsity and need will fall away. It will bring you onto new ground where affection can grow again." John O'Donohue "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." Dale Carnegie "Some people go to priests, others to poetry, I to my friends." Virginia Woolf "The real test of friendship is can you literally do nothing with the other person? Can you enjoy those moments of life that are utterly simple?" Eugene Kennedy "Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief." Cicero "One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives." Euripides
I'm confident the last kind of friendship mentioned is now fully obsolete. I can attest to it as a forgotten vet whose "friends" viewed me as a disposable utility/stepping stone.
I'm with you on this one. I've been used and discarded by so many people I thought were true friends. Turned out each one was just in it for some advantage. My husband is the sole exception, and I thank God I married my best friend. This is why animals are better, lol. Their love is real and unconditional.
@@katashley1031 Well, unless they're carnivore and you don't feed them. Then it's conditional, lol. Romantic love is an illusion. It's really a trade. Nothing altruistic about it. Good thing you married your best friend or else you would've found that out by now. Our best friends are the only people who truly care about us. Not even our families do however harsh that sounds.
Not totally true. If you open the door and give people a chance (especially a stranger) to access you... people will surprise you with their generosity of time, patience, friendship and support when no one else will. But you must both keep the opportunity open (don't sit by yourself, don't be a closed book) and cultivate each Opportunity as it arises (like a flower that you water, initially nothing for your efforts in time you are rewarded by both green shoots and sweet colourful bloom). Take it from someone who knows. "A life well lived has both friendship and companionship" - Aristotle (I paraphrase)
BornToDoIt I have opened since I wrote this comment Right now in life I have met few of the best people in my life and cannot imagine my life without them. My friends maybe be few but they make my life a whole lot better.
This sketch board animation is really great. But i think i have this exact animation format in some other website too. Anyways really appreciate the effort and every thing that you put in this video to make us understand better. Thank you so much.
If you're the one putting in the effort for the intentional friendship, and your life long best friend stops putting it in, what the fuck do i do when that pillar erodes benesth me. The benefit and pleasure from thekr pressence taken from my foundation. I've never been good at self recognition or importance.
On slavery other thinkers living at the same time argued this man was wrong to think some people were "natural' slaves. So not only since has he been argued against.
hmmmm, these friend categories get pretty murky the more you try to identify the differences. You can utilize someone for pleasure and get pleasure in utilizing someone. But I suppose such is philosophy. More accurately Id imagine they should be labelled Practical and emotional friendships. But when someone's utility is purely to be a friend is that practical or emotional?
Explain Aristotle's views on non-citizens including women and slaves. Don't take authority-based arguments too serious and stop idolizing people. Rather, try to understand people and their works and then make up your own mind. If someone you like, has an opinion you disagree with, try to understand and argue, instead of blindly following or unfollowing.
I wish I had a friend like this : I'm in a room, holding a bloody knife, next to a murdered person who I just discovered. The cops are on their way, they're going to arrest me and I probably will get life. I make a quick call to my friend, explain the awkward situation to him. I tell him I just want him to know I didn't do it ; He says he believes me. I'm going to be OK.
what happens if you have a friendship because of something hard you both went through at age 12 and then this person became selfish and seeking only utility friendships leaving your virtuous friendship in the dust? I'm almost 40 and I still am there for her, but it's mainly because we are related now. she litterally does nothing for our friendship - ever. and she has changed her values to where she focuses on her image and friendships with wealthy people. I wish I knew what happened. what I should do if there's anything I can do?
Now I see why I don't have any friends. I'm the asshole. Guess I should pay more attention to the relationship I have with my dog, my kid, and my wife so I don't lose them too....
I am not Aristotle. It's 2019. There is no friendship. There is a temporary partnership based on mutual interests. If it lasts a long time, you can call it "permanent". It depends on how wise and developed people are.
Even if it isn’t permanent, I’ll always cherish what I’ve had and continue to have. Im an introvert and rarely talk and I only have a few friends but we’ve been through so much.. I’ll still call it friendship, even if it’s a “temporary partnership.” They know me and understand who I am inside, they know how I’ll finish a sentence and know me better than me. And I know them, their goals, their family, our favorite hang out place. Yet I am the wise one and they’re not. They’re still the same after so many years.. and we kept it that way. There is friendship. They aren’t forever but it is.. real. All the randomness, the experiences, the trips we went together.. it’s all so real. We’re going to all die, yet I wouldn’t dare give them up to live with immortality. It’s funny. They’ve never developed, they acknowledge me as being the wiser one.. yet it seems as though it doesn’t matter at all. It may seem like friendship is not real, not with the times we have now. But life isn’t a serious business, it’s a random series of event. They are real.. yet it’s so hard to actually find those that take the time to actually forge something.. it’s what I’ll always cherish.
Plus Saturn, with it's ring, is far easier to distinguish from other circles that wold be used to represent the other planets (the art style would make the other planets look like random circles save earth and representing astronomy with earth is stupid). Why do you ask?
J2 Dragon: excellent point. Saturn is an excellent graphic symbol, as you point out so ably, other planets would just be "other circles." And earth wouldn't be enough by itself to represent "astronomy." I wonder what kind of symbol they would like to see used to represent "astronomy?"
I think it is the Russians who say, "You will not long remember the friends you have laughed with; you will never forget the ones you have cried with."
Sam Gamgee Gold
"Мы легко можем забыть тех, с кем мы смеялись, но мы никогда не забудем тех, с кем мы плакали."
-Джебран Халиль Джебран
Cool.
I find this sounding wise, but shallow.
That’s dumb, what kind of asshole sees a casual acquaintance crying and bot console them in some matter. Also let’s not base laughter on the Russian standard, I’ve read soviet era jokes a plenty and meh
It's amazing how quickly a friendship will break down when one party can no longer get what they want from the other.
Right, that does it. Goodbye.
That's why you can't blame a person's actions or his personality to not able to procure or keep acquired friends suggest by a elder female ex partner.
Because genuine "friendship" is a myth. There is no such thing. You scratch their back if they scratch yours, simple as that.
@Clau Almeida people lack empathie , for a empath like myself it sucks to see
That wasn't real friendship
It’s hard to find someone with the same virtues as you when you go your own way on the path of enlightenment and creativity
I’m here all day long for this comment. I feel you- I understand. But, I’m happier knowing you are on such an important journey. The rest will fall as it should. ✌️🤍✨
You dont need the same virtues. You just need good virtues. Most people don't have that
@@freedomdividendnews5042 Are there bad virtues?
You don't make friends you recognize them. I don't know who said this originally but its the absolute truth
This is very true, however I believe you also cultivate the relationship that constitutes friendship.
@Heater64k Not if you know who you are
@@liamjames-hendriks4895 agree with you !!!
:( I WISH
I agree.
Hard these days to find people conscious enough to find people worthy of investing in a true friendship.
The biggest majority of your so called friends will try to take advantage of your good nature. Im in my 50's now and what I got out of life is that all your TRUE friends you can count on one hand and still have fingers left
Those type of friends are called confidants.. if you are lucky to have 2 or 3 then you’ve lived a good life
Those arent friends--they are temporary buddies for pleasure (as Artistotle stated). Real friendship is give and take real friends dont prey on your good nature or exploit you, they try to support and uplift you.
Even if I’m an introvert, I value what little friends I have. Without them, I don’t know how I could get through life. Friendships makes us less lonely and they know a real part of ourselves. Even if I’m an introvert and don’t talk much I really love and cherish my friends. They bring out the hidden me, where I can be who I am. I thought I could get through life by myself. But it’s so lonesome, and TOO peaceful.
Nothing is wrong if it’s just me, and it’s so.. routine. It’s so boring if it’s just me. But my friends always break that. They bring chaos and problems and the most random things. I am thankful.
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tf you on about man is speaking truth@@chinalundi9572
"Friendship is essential to life and is beautiful and precious." (Aristotle). BTW Friendship is the foundation to Marriage. Some by-pass forming a friendship and become intimate right away. This usually leads to a disastrous marriage! "The greatest of all friendships is Marriage." (St. Thomas Aquinas) Cheers! From Canada.
"If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love"
- Michel de Montaigne
The caveat to that doesn't usually work. When a man and woman meet. There is a spark. It begins. With friendship. Like an old shoe
Chinada*
Friends exist but you have to change your definition of what a friend is, that ride or die, through the good and bad with undying loyalty is almost non-existent. If you expect as much you will always be disappointed, rather look at them as relationships of convenience meaning your not setting the bar too high for them, your just enjoy thier company for however long it last. A true friend is someone who has an opportunity to betray you and they choose to defend you.
It's not non-existent but it's strongly dependent on the circumstances. We live in times where we can get by easier than ever by ourselves and there are less wars in the world which means less opportunity to form strong bonds. All interpersonal relationships have been eroding, including marriage. We don't even have mandatory military service anymore in our country (which was the case 15 years ago) and that was one of the places where one can find friends for life. I don't like the idea that the notion of friendship could be construed as "relationship of convenience" or some kind of trade. If it has come down to that, then it was never a friendship to begin with.
Wish I had learned this growing up. Would have saved a lot of heartache. The US education system is really lacking.
That's so true we should be taught these things in our school system then there wouldn't be room for so many emotional tragedies in people lives because we would no the difference and real realities of what a true and fake friend are just the moment type of friend!!!!!
It's been 3 years since you posted this comment. Have you been studying his works?
I think it’s worldwide ,education has failed us.
j'avoue
@@kristinemorley4337 I studied in the US in a french school and college is a joke compared to high school
The people who are bitter (and it's justified that they are) in the comment section about someone screwing you over or whatnot, the video explains the type of friendship you had. Accidental friendships do not last long, and that is the truth.
Long term friendships are for the most part iron clad. You can have fights with your friends, you can have fall outs, and other bad things can happen and you can STILL be friends because you reconcile and the time you spent together as friends helps you through that. "Through thick and thin" is not just a pretty phrase that was put there, it's actually the truth. I should also mention that long time friendships are RARE in nature. You are not going to have thousands of long time friends.
Of course, there is the possibility of a long time friend stabbing you in the back...it's very possible and to exclude the possibility would be foolish. However it's far more likely that someone with something to gain (Friendship of benefit) would backstab you over a life long friend. Life long friends are considered "Best friends" for a reason. They actually treat you like family and would walk through the fire with you.
This is coming from someone who has had terrible friendship breakups as well. If there is one thing I truly believe in, it's friendship. It kept me alive all these years after going through cancer and chemo and then the late effects from said cancer after I stopped chemo years ago.
Connect thoughts very well :-) with much kindness, do well and take care of your health :-)
It is such a Blessing to find a good friendship built with right intention and from the Heart. *virtues *trust *admiration *awe
I hope this will happen...for everyone.
Don't expect from others - that which you don't give to self and others.
This requires a Conscious Mature Mind (have Empathy) - over the ever apparent Ego Mind (Judgemental).
Which I don't give to self?
"A friend to everyone is a friend to no one." Aristotle
why?
@@euphoric4215zero focus
The only person I know who has a true friend is my father. They've lived through childhood abuse, war, famine, and homelessness. They met in an orphanage (in Somali of all places) and clicked do to both secretly planning their "great" escape. Now my dads a truck driver who makes 20k a month and guess who bought him his first truck? His best friend who's now a millionaire from opening his own electric company in Somalia. Sadly he's infertile (which is basically a death sentence in Somali because no woman will come near you) and desperately wanted someone to pass down his wealth to so my father donated his sperm in order for him to have a family. My uncle married a lady promising her a child and she certainly got a child. These two give me hope that true friendship does exist. Some people are just lucky to find them early.
Banana So basically people shouldn't adopt
Banana So a person who's infertile can't help another unfortunate person who lost their parents to grow up in a loving home? Everything we do doesn't coordinate with nature. We don't just form bonds with our genetic offspring. That's what makes us empathetic creators.
Banana Have you ever heard of something called artificial insemination? Nobody is "busting a nut" in anyone else.
Don X I always thought the more popular someone is the more likely he'll turn narcissistic/superficial. Having too much attention can go to someones head. Most people can lose their humbleness or humility quite easily so that isn't a crowd you should be looking at to make life-long true friends.
Don X I like how you keep referring him as Sal, given the topic of friendship hahah.
I like what you were saying- it makes sense, peace !
I LOVVVVEEEE how this young man so flippantly including **PARENTS** in his list of people who may potentially feel jealousy towards you as their child. I hope his words reach any abused people in younger generations especially so they know they're not the crazy ones and that it's somethingwrong with them, when who is really screwed up are their parents. As controversial and objectionable as a concept that may be, it doesn't make it any less common. Not that it's the majority of parents, or even the average parent(s), but parents literally being jealous of their children, and secretly harboring resentment and hopes that they fail to achieve their goals and dreams or don't outshine them, is way more common than people know or want to admit. Great video and important overall message.
What is considered to be true friendship is a very rare thing my in today's society, because most people are out for personal gain, or in other words people today are very self centered. A true friendship is impossible under these circumstances.
One word. Capitalism. That's what it does to people. Turns societies into individualistic sh*tholes
Its true. Better to have someone to share the experiences with. Thank you to all you good friends out there already.
"Enrolled in the platonic academy."
Ugh friendzoned again.
Friendzoned? A+
I'm the Donald that's gonna make Donalds great again.
Technically I'm Donald the 3rd, and there's coincidentally Donalds on the other side of the family.
I guess you could say I'm a ~pedigree~ Donald
Wow.
Friendship is that ship where only two can sit😊
I met a potential friend last week. She was intelligent, had lots of reasonable ideas about the world, friendly, and we had many common interests. Unfortunately, when it was time to end the conversation, I lacked the courage to ask for contact information so that a friendship is possible.
Such is life.
Zeayo I used to do that, was too intimidated to (dare) ask for a (potential) friend's contact details. So I made a point of giving them mine, as it was less threatening for me. I also felt it was kinder, giving them control over who initiates the (next) contact. Then I was advised that by doing that, I was being less than assertive, leaving the responsibility for initiating contact to the other person. I was also advised, it is (ultimately) flattering for the other person if you ask for their contact details...God knows!
You had a positive moment with a stranger was it necessary to attempt to "utilize" them for more?
Next time invite them somewhere instead of saying the typical "can i get your number" like for example
"this weekend im gonna be doing so and so if youd like to join me" and hand them your phone. Did this on so many girls lol
Zeayo ~ it's easy bro, you can do it! with a matter of fact tonality Say, " this was a great conversation and I would love to continue by exchanging phone numbers." OR say " this was a great conversation! Here's my Facebook Instant Message information....etc
Another great one is to be bold if you're sitting by her or someone and very smoothly type your phone number into her phone and text yourself. You'll feel the body language Clues when it's time to make the maneuver 👍
If she has an excuse or husband or refuses respond by saying "it was nice talking to you" with a sincere friendly tone and then move on. I read an article the other day that said there are three million single black women in America and there are three females to every male on the planet. There's always plenty more people to socialize with!!!
It's kind of like sales .. two buyers out of every 10 presentations lol
Zeayo ii
Nobody gets laid at Platonic Academy, for Platonic Academy wants to be "just friends."
A friendship is with who you choose to go on adventures.
The way it was explained to me when I was a teenager is much simpler, not dissing this video, but I think they have the order wrong: First is relationship based on pleasure. Nothing wrong with that. But the friendship is gone once either person wants to breakaway. Second is based on utility. Doesn't have to be heartless or mindless but still relies on when A leaves B for C because B no longer serves A. Nothing wrong with that either. The third is based on wanting what is best for your friend for their sake. You are devoting actions, mentalities, behaviours - you are doing your best to provide a relationship where you truly nurture the parts of listening to each other and communicating with each other without over reactions without dramatic judgement.
Same thing
Still relevant after 2,000 years. People have changed, but not that much.
I am more interested in friendships of the soul and heart. Utility friendships are fine and necessary, but the heart needs intimacy.
Aristotle's Ethics was an unfinished work, a compilation of notes ... he said a lot in praise of friendship, but he also said the best life doesn't need friends, it's complete in itself and has no need of companionship. It seems to me he was plainly thinking of different times in life ... the young need friendships for learning and fun, but once you're older, other people are a drain on your time, especially if you are able to learn on your own and the other people have problems that need your attention. If you're trying to get something done and your friends aren't helpful, they're just going to annoy you. If you've already had great friendships, there's no real point in trying to spend time together (which is characteristic of friendship, he says) ... an occasional get together is probably best for older people. ;)
Love is a friendship inspires by beauty and truth and sustains by loving kindness. The rule of friendship means that there must be a mutual understanding between them; each supplying what the other lacks and trying to benefit the other: always using sincere and friendly words. Therefore, the expression of love must be kind and gentle- not some diamonds in the sky. No master fall from the sky.
Thanks, I've not understood categories of friendship in this way before, and feel some relief in the possibility of improving my situation on this front. I can barely stand the low integrity garbage I currently count as my friendships. I spend too much energy ruminating on the disappointments and dissatisfaction but without many prospects. I can see real potential in joining with others with similar values toward some good.
Wonderful visuals. The best part is when silent slide with a statement (as a question) comes up. This makes it even more immersive.
Also, it feels good (like a sense of accomplishment) to learn a concept from Aristotle. ✌
Thanks for the kind words
Aristotle is great on friendship. His writing provides timeless quotes to study and absorb that benefit friendships.
Def added more perspective to my friendships! Perfect timing too!
The Bible (A book read for over 2000 years) has a great deal to say about friendship and many other life and death issues, I highly commend the reading of this great book to everyone.
A brother in arms is forever a brother in the heart
Hi bro
It's all good till one of them screw you over.
Ivan Drago that’s why don’t really have any friends.
Not all people are traitors .
More common in first world countries. Nonstop.
To the extent a person is virtuous, is the extent to which they will not betray you. Choose your friends according to the cardinal virtues of prudence, temperance and fortitude. Only just men can make good friends.
A loss aint a loss its a lesson. You may be hurt but you have also learned what to look out for
a friend is someone who helps you move your furniture into a new apartment.
a REAL friend is someone who helps you move a dead body, no hesitation.
This is not untrue.
what ?!?
Actually have a friend help me out with that it was the dog I've had since I was a kid but still a body
I would hope my real friends don't help me move a dead body.
Interesting video. I agree that Friendship of good is most desirable, however I find that it's a lot more vague in how to go about obtaining one. My understanding, after thinking a bit about it, is that a friendship will start as either on of utility or pleasure before potentially becoming one of good. I speak from experience where some university friends or work colleagues have become terrific friends, and I'd put them more towards the friendship of good category than one purely of utility or pleasure any more.
Its less of an obtainment and more of a cultivation or grown (hence the use of a plant for symbolism) because only time will tell whether the friendship lasts through the inevitable obstacles and test of time.
Pleasurable + Beneficial does created many permanent bonds in my life
This brings back some memories from Ethics class from my highschool :D
So in theory even a marriage can be an "utility friendship" if it isn't build on right values.
Ever heard of gold diggers?
Isn’t that what it’s about?
Fck yes! It's like having someone to share the basic burdens of living needing to eat, a place to sleep, someone for company and safe sex.
If built on deeper values it's what makes life beautiful, if not built on anything but the convenience, it will feel shallow.. and that's why they fight, without even knowing they don't feel bad because of each other, but because something's missing.
@@MikhaelAhava nah, I married my best friend and my god it's such a blessing to have each other no matter what. Sharing your life with your closest friend is incredible.
@@katashley1031 glad to hear that. Best wishes to the both of you. I can see if you’re already close friends you’d know each other quite a bit.
Friendship requires commitment. This is a huge responsibility. Unless you take it seriously, stay a loner wolf for the sake of people who never asked for it to begin with.
friendship of utility is all that ppl can even do these days
Man. The philosophers need to make a comeback.
All this law of attraction has people in some weird delusional state that can be called 'functional' sanity.
If you value truth then God be with you. The endurance needed to outshine pain against the decline of our society will be pivotal to potentially saving it.
If you are under the idea that your wife should be your best friend, make sure you meet her when you are struggling the most. Financially and emotionally that is. If she sticks it out with you then you have the benefit of having both her utility and pleasure. A true friendship that can't be cultivated when you are well off usually, because what you will attract then is either people wanting utility or pleasure but no friendship or love.
I agree.
Being Good and Doing Good for others ensure Long Term Meaningful Relationship for All.
I have a friend and friendship we go back several years but at times I feel I’m the only one making an effort. I always message/make contact first, asking how she is, how things are going and general chit chat. I’m always the one who suggests and arranges catch up coffee or takeaway nights. I sometimes wonder if she would ever be bothered if I didn’t text, message or make contact. (I know I’m being silly and apologise for moaning)
You’re definitely not being silly and shouldn’t apologize for the why you feel. Friendships, like any relationship, is a two way street and requires effort from both ends.
Did you tell them in a no confronting way? since not all people know how to maintain friendships
@@kolacao8134 I haven’t said anything I just carry on being the one who messages first or suggests catches up but have to admit I don’t do it as often as I used to. She still doesn’t text first or suggest the catch up.
Brene Brown says “ Discomfort over resentment” is always the right answer. You should tell her how you feel because you value her friendship and do it with kindness and compassion for you both. If she doesn’t respond, the juice isn’t worth the squeeze, sadly and it’s unhealthy to let it continue. Good luck.
@@pearljam619 your first comment was 6 months ago and now this one is from a week ago. Y'all need to have that uncomfortable talk and prepare yourself for whatever result. And then decide for yourself if you want to stay
I never knew about the 3rd type of friendship. Thanks!
Thank you so much, I really needed this.
You have such a great and informative channel!!! Why don’t you have 13 million subscribers
That's great. I hope y'all have friendships of good :)
Thank you
doge fm So do I, but it is possible to meet decent, good people. So keep searching a bit :)
doge fm why do you feel that way?
doge fm When life(or people)let you down, you have to let go of the hate and bad feelings. I know how you feel, I know people are not trusted and they deceive you(may be emotionally) you have to let go of the hate because its a punishment you give yourself for what others have done. Anyway, what really bothers you?
doge fm I think I understand. What I want to say, even if someone harms you, that's their problem, because it actually doesn't harm you, it harms them. It shows who they are, not who you are. After the pleasure comes the pain. Of course, there is pain after something, but why don't we see what's good in bad rather than seeing what's bad in good. I am not so much into that optimistic stuff but this idea sometimes helps. I hope I understand you and I am clear.
"If you take in a stray dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you. This is the chief difference between a dog and a man."
-- Mark Twain
Friendship does not exist. it's people believing the other has somethings to gain from companionship .
Glad i found a few good friendships. The other friendships are ego based i suppose.
I believe there is also the "romantic intention" friendship between members of the opposite sex, where one party is 'friends' in the hope that something more might develop. They then unceremoniously dump the 'friendship' as soon as they realize nothing more is going to happen or they meet someone else.
They always say you can tell someone's goodness of character by how well they treat people from whom they stand nothing to gain.
Today, so many live under the hallucination that friendships are a thing of quantity and they'll be the first to talk about how many friends they have. If you pay close attention, nearly all of those friendships are superficial or very shallow and have no basis in reciprocity.
Of course, if you only work 40 hours a week then you have plenty of time to waste on those sorts of fickle friendships.
WHY DOES THIS NOT HAVE MORE FUCKING UPVOTES?!
Thank you for speaking the goddamn truth. This guy spoke a truth bomb and everyone just bloody ignored it!
For real. 2 good friends and a dog are worth more than Zuckerberg's friendlist on Facebook
Exactly, despite all the mumbo jumbo about Fartbook being a wonderful social networking tool have you noticed that no noteworthy game changers have come via Fartbook? Plenty of jibber jabber of course but nothing important.
It seems there are two sorts of relationships generally; ones based on the truth and ones based on lies; to do with vanity and purely physical and mental - rather than spiritual and philosophical - considerations.
Obviously there’s a time to lie and a time to say certain truths, practically speaking.
But differentiating one from the other is never difficult, because people who value the truth over their friendship cannot in fact offend each other by telling the truth, and they inadvertently (which is how you know it’s good) build the strongest friendships.
This is why Aristotle said that while we love both the truth and our friends, we must love the truth first. I would amend his famous statement to conclude that, in fact, our only calling is to love the truth.
A friend worth having loves the truth first and foremost; and not only would they not be offended by the truth, they would in fact be offended by being lied to for the purposes of maintaining a “friendship”.
Actually though, someone who’s made the truth their ultimate concern wouldn’t be offended because they know, as Jesus said, that people who lie to make fake friends know not what they do - how could they? They’re corruption is not physical or even mental, but spiritual. He would sympathize with those people, but that sympathy would never cause them to lie and so would never reach the person anyway unless they had a change of heart.
He who sacrifices the truth for friendship will have neither; but he who sacrifices friendship for the truth will have both.
It’s like when Jesus said “he who dies will live, and he who lives will die”.
If you die of the ego, which lies to you and convinces you to lie to others for whatever shallow reason, you can truly live.
Whereas if you desperately cling to a broken and mangled “life” only for the purposes of convincing yourself (because inside you’re full of doubt because you know it isn’t true) that you’re alive; then really you’re dead already.
This is how you know that the spirit or the soul is not an imaginary concept.
In fact, the physical realm - like our bodies - exists only as a place for our spirits to interact in, and for the truth to either be created and reaffirmed or denied and destroyed.
So in real sense, the physical realm doesn’t really exist; not except as a playground for the spirit; the battle between the truth and the lie.
When I say it doesn’t exist, I just mean that in reality is has absolutely no bearing on the real fight - between truth and falsehood.
This is mind blowing when you realize that evil cannot even fight a direct spiritual battle with good.
All it can ever do is wage war within the physical world, and what that always - in every case - means is trying to inject the physical with spiritual qualities.
In the purely physical, there is no good.
Included in the physical are; the 5 senses, emotions, and thoughts.
Many people will dispute the idea that emotions and thoughts are really physical.
Emotions come from physical hormones rushing through our body. That’s all they are. They can have a practical purpose in some sense, but actually they don’t add anything of truth-value that wasn’t already there.
I challenge anyone to give me an example of where emotions offer some value not already evident. Such examples will always invariable involve ignoring usually several red flags. Someone will say “because I was sad I was able to know that my relationship was unhealthy”, when they and everyone around them already knew that.
The real question would be; why were they avoiding the truth they already knew to be the case? And wouldn’t you know it, the only possible answer is other so called conflicting emotions and thoughts.
Book 2 coming soon… haha
Here because my shy introverted self need to learn to make friends lol. I want the kind of friends you have in Dead Poet's Society where you hang out in a cool secret hangout spot and read cool poetry together and support each other's art.
You don't need Aristotle to know this. This is basic common sense.
This video makes sense. But good people you would want to be friends with are about as rare as leprechauns and virgins.
Not if you look hard enough
Theire not rare but we are not supposed to interfere with 'em
"...as rare as virgins."
There are plenty of "non-loser" virgins in Asia, so does it mean Asians are awesome friends? XD
Qoutes about Frindship :
"I think if I've learned anything about friendship, it's to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don't walk away, don't be distracted, don't be too busy or tired, don't take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff." Jon Katz
"Friends are the family you choose." Jess C. Scott
"Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend." Martin Luther King, Jr.
"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down." Oprah
"The language of friendship is not words but meanings." Henry David Thoreau
"Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together." Woodrow Wilson
"True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable." David Tyson Gentry
"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one." C.S. Lewis
"Friendship consists in forgetting what one gives and remembering what one receives." Alexander Dumas
"Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm & constant." Socrates
"Friendship is like money, easier made than kept." Samuel Butler
"A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow." Shakespeare
"Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend's success." Oscar Wilde
"I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better." Plutarch
"Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit." Aristotle
"A good friend can tell you what is the matter with you in a minute. He may not seem such a good friend after telling." Arthur Brisbane
"There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate." Linda Grayson
"Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend." Albert Camus
"A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." Elbert Hubbard
"Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?" Abraham Lincoln
"Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." Marcel Proust
"Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity." Khalil Gibran
"An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind." Buddha
"It's the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter." Marlene Dietrich
"My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me." Henry Ford
"Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything." Muhammad Ali
"Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it's all over." Octavia Butler
"There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first; when you learn to live for others, they will live for you." Paramahansa Yogananda
"Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes." Friedrich Nietzsche
"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival" C.S. Lewis
"The friend who holds your hand and says the wrong thing is made of dearer stuff than the one who stays away." Barbara Kingsolver
"I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar." Robert Brault
"Sweet is the memory of distant friends! Like the mellow rays of the departing sun, it falls tenderly, yet sadly, on the heart." Washington Irving
"How many slams in an old screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live 'em. How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give 'em." Shel Silverstein
"Growing apart doesn't change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled. I'm glad for that." Ally Condie
"We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one which makes the heart run over." Ray Bradbury
"Never leave a friend behind. Friends are all we have to get us through this life-and they are the only things from this world that we could hope to see in the next." Dean Koontz
"Tis the privilege of friendship to talk nonsense, and to have her nonsense respected." Charles Lamb
"The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, not the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship." Ralph Waldo Emerson
"A friendship that can end never really began." Publilius Syrus
"Lovers have a right to betray you. Friends don't." Judy Holliday
"No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow." Alice Walker
"In prosperity our friends know us; in adversity we know our friends." John Churton Collins
"You can always tell a real friend: when you've made a fool of yourself he doesn't feel you've done a permanent job." Laurence J. Peter
"Every friendship travels at sometime through the black valley of despair. This tests every aspect of your affection. You lose the attraction and the magic. Your sense of each other darkens and your presence is sore. If you can come through this time, it can purify with your love, and falsity and need will fall away. It will bring you onto new ground where affection can grow again." John O'Donohue
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." Dale Carnegie
"Some people go to priests, others to poetry, I to my friends." Virginia Woolf
"The real test of friendship is can you literally do nothing with the other person? Can you enjoy those moments of life that are utterly simple?" Eugene Kennedy
"Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief." Cicero
"One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives." Euripides
even a big nerd from 2000 years ago understands more about friendship than many in this age does.
I'm confident the last kind of friendship mentioned is now fully obsolete.
I can attest to it as a forgotten vet whose "friends" viewed me as a disposable utility/stepping stone.
I'm confident you are wrong for one reason. I value the last friendship more than anything.
I'm with you on this one. I've been used and discarded by so many people I thought were true friends. Turned out each one was just in it for some advantage. My husband is the sole exception, and I thank God I married my best friend. This is why animals are better, lol. Their love is real and unconditional.
@@katashley1031 Well, unless they're carnivore and you don't feed them. Then it's conditional, lol.
Romantic love is an illusion. It's really a trade. Nothing altruistic about it. Good thing you married your best friend or else you would've found that out by now. Our best friends are the only people who truly care about us. Not even our families do however harsh that sounds.
Friendship is love but with sufficient distance to avoid practical, sexual and romantic dependence.
Yeah - by definition. Because if it isn't, it is something else!!
That was very interesting! Thank you dear :D
Wonderful summary IMO
Friends are the best things in life
best video , I have watched this week.
A brilliant man 😊
I am here only because I think I have lost all of friends.
Not totally true.
If you open the door and give people a chance (especially a stranger) to access you... people will surprise you with their generosity of time, patience, friendship and support when no one else will.
But you must both keep the opportunity open (don't sit by yourself, don't be a closed book) and cultivate each Opportunity as it arises (like a flower that you water, initially nothing for your efforts in time you are rewarded by both green shoots and sweet colourful bloom).
Take it from someone who knows.
"A life well lived has both friendship and companionship" - Aristotle (I paraphrase)
BornToDoIt I have opened since I wrote this comment Right now in life I have met few of the best people in my life and cannot imagine my life without them. My friends maybe be few but they make my life a whole lot better.
This sketch board animation is really great. But i think i have this exact animation format in some other website too. Anyways really appreciate the effort and every thing that you put in this video to make us understand better. Thank you so much.
Just what I needed .
Great stuff bro! Just subscribed to your channel. Hope you continue growing!
If you're the one putting in the effort for the intentional friendship, and your life long best friend stops putting it in, what the fuck do i do when that pillar erodes benesth me. The benefit and pleasure from thekr pressence taken from my foundation. I've never been good at self recognition or importance.
On slavery other thinkers living at the same time argued this man was wrong to think some people were "natural' slaves. So not only since has he been argued against.
Good job on the video
Friends of Utility = Drug Dealing / Drug Dealing = Friends of Utility
Excellent!
Friendship is the foundation of all types of relationships. Better build a good one.
hmmmm, these friend categories get pretty murky the more you try to identify the differences. You can utilize someone for pleasure and get pleasure in utilizing someone. But I suppose such is philosophy. More accurately Id imagine they should be labelled Practical and emotional friendships. But when someone's utility is purely to be a friend is that practical or emotional?
May God bless you all
Explain Aristotle's views on non-citizens including women and slaves. Don't take authority-based arguments too serious and stop idolizing people. Rather, try to understand people and their works and then make up your own mind. If someone you like, has an opinion you disagree with, try to understand and argue, instead of blindly following or unfollowing.
Yes
I wish I had a friend like this : I'm in a room, holding a bloody knife, next to a murdered person who I just discovered. The cops are on their way, they're going to arrest me and I probably will get life. I make a quick call to my friend, explain the awkward situation to him. I tell him I just want him to know I didn't do it ; He says he believes me. I'm going to be OK.
You failed to mention the coveted Friendship with Benefits.
fukcing weeabos um I think you mean friendship of pleasure lol
fukcing weeabos
The thot meme has grown incredibly obnoxious
what happens if you have a friendship because of something hard you both went through at age 12 and then this person became selfish and seeking only utility friendships leaving your virtuous friendship in the dust? I'm almost 40 and I still am there for her, but it's mainly because we are related now. she litterally does nothing for our friendship - ever. and she has changed her values to where she focuses on her image and friendships with wealthy people. I wish I knew what happened. what I should do if there's anything I can do?
Should I send this to a friend (not friend)???
Fantastic video
Now I see why I don't have any friends. I'm the asshole. Guess I should pay more attention to the relationship I have with my dog, my kid, and my wife so I don't lose them too....
Thank you!!!
Where my Cap Bois At?
Great video!
Brilliant!
I am not Aristotle. It's 2019. There is no friendship. There is a temporary partnership based on mutual interests. If it lasts a long time, you can call it "permanent". It depends on how wise and developed people are.
Even if it isn’t permanent, I’ll always cherish what I’ve had and continue to have. Im an introvert and rarely talk and I only have a few friends but we’ve been through so much.. I’ll still call it friendship, even if it’s a “temporary partnership.”
They know me and understand who I am inside, they know how I’ll finish a sentence and know me better than me. And I know them, their goals, their family, our favorite hang out place.
Yet I am the wise one and they’re not. They’re still the same after so many years.. and we kept it that way.
There is friendship. They aren’t forever but it is.. real. All the randomness, the experiences, the trips we went together.. it’s all so real. We’re going to all die, yet I wouldn’t dare give them up to live with immortality.
It’s funny. They’ve never developed, they acknowledge me as being the wiser one.. yet it seems as though it doesn’t matter at all.
It may seem like friendship is not real, not with the times we have now. But life isn’t a serious business, it’s a random series of event.
They are real.. yet it’s so hard to actually find those that take the time to actually forge something.. it’s what I’ll always cherish.
Reason #3: real recognize real
Birds of a Feather flock Together...
i wish i had friends
Why is the planet Saturn a visual representation of 'astronomy' in your video?
Just curious...
Drago: there wasn't room enough or time to draw the entire universe on his paper in this video.
Plus Saturn, with it's ring, is far easier to distinguish from other circles that wold be used to represent the other planets (the art style would make the other planets look like random circles save earth and representing astronomy with earth is stupid).
Why do you ask?
J2 Dragon: excellent point. Saturn is an excellent graphic symbol, as you point out so ably, other planets would just be "other circles." And earth wouldn't be enough by itself to represent "astronomy."
I wonder what kind of symbol they would like to see used to represent "astronomy?"
Why not just draw a spiral with a few dots and show the whole galaxy?
I'm not suggesting it's a bad thing, I'm just curious
Greeks where educated by the Egyptians. Greeks plagiarized the information. Greek philosophy is mythology.
Who died and made him head of philosophy?
excellent!
The question is, where do you find the people that are good for your life ?
I played this at my wedding