+A Estes I did not say that all men were evil. I did not support the generalization of men. If I did mean that, then I would comment something along the lines of 'All men are evil'. I simply supported the statement that not all people are what they seem. Something that everyone needs to learn in a world like this. Sorry if there was some confusion in my comment.
Often times when we see someone who was a soldier freak out over a loud noise we understand and empathize with them, what they've gone through is extremely difficult and it must be nearly impossible to defeat those triggers. Then we turn around and see a rape victim get triggered over cologne or a type of shirt or a song on the radio and tell them to quit being sensitive. I've never been on the ground during a war, and never been shot at. I've also never been raped, but I would just imagine that if you looked inside the head of the soldier and the rape victim when they experience their trigger, you wouldn't be able to tell the difference.
What gets me the hardest is watching her uncontrollably shake while she spoke. To every leaving hate comments about how "dramatic" she is, fucking look at her. It's real.
Gavin Clements It's extremely hard to tell people about what struggle you've gone through. If you looked into her mind, I guess dramatic would be the first thing you'd think. You don't understand. They don't 'celebrate someone's victim hood'. They support them, and what they've been through. And they tell them that it's okay, that they got through this. They celebrate the fact that they survived.
Faizan Manzoor well its not racist...thats two totally different things.. But for some its a trigger warning for dysphoria. I myself get lots of anxiety over being misgendered and that leads to a lot of dysphoria for me.
I'm crying. The part about being a babysitter gets me because my niece constantly asks about why I have scars on my wrists and why I'm not allowed to be around knives even though I'm a 'grown up', why my mother, her grandmother, checks and re-checks the locks constantly because the one time, the door wasn't locked. Why her mother, my older sister, cries when someone screams too loud and why why why. The only thing we can say is that there was a bad man. And she still keeps asking.
+Devout Pessimist I don't know why people only want good comments on youtube. It doesn't make sense... This video is retarded, and if you don't agree then good :D
If you pay attention to what she is saying then you can realise she is telling a story of what happened to her. If you don't understand it is because you listened but you did not comprehend.
+Wonder_Walls What about if 1. you listened and understood and it was bullshit and 2. you listened and did not understand because it was bullshit filtered through some pretentious scheme which is less about structure and form and more about purposefully oblique in order to gain attention?
Mikhail Winter but this isn't a matter of opinion she clearly is telling a sort of story about her personal experience. You're wrong because you are literally incorrect, not because you don't agree with me
You do not understand what poetry is and you don't understand what the medical profession states in regards to trigger warnings. You seem very sure of yourself and willing to say what is "Clear" on very tenuous ground. Not only that, you dismiss what ever someone else says very quickly. You need to grow up and put aside the social justice mentality which would never allow you to learn anything.
people know that they shouldn't make fun of a man in a wheel chair, but when it comes to a woman with ptsd ( a mental disorder), or any mental disorder in fact, that THIS is okay to make fun of?
There are no types of PTSD that are more valid than others. Just because there are soldiers suffering from PTSD doesn't mean people that didn't are less valid.
I'm really not fucking okay with this comment. I was sexually abused from age 8-12, I still have nightmares, and flashbacks to the point where I think I am still in the point where I was being raped. So am I making a mockery of ptsd? and I was diagnosed after a suicide attempt at 12, its been years since I was last abused and 5 mental hospitalizations and I'm still suffering with this.
Monolith Guy do you not realize some rapists can and will use physical force instead of drugs or manipulation. Victims can end up extremely physically and mentally injured.
Monolith Guy it was traumatizing enough for me to attempt suicide at the age of twelve and have many times where I can't tell the difference between reality and not. to the point where I see my abuser when he's not there, to the point where I can't tell my own mother from the man who raped me for four years. so yeah I would rather feel like I lost a leg then this.
+spicecrop so being raped and becoming emotionally scarred for it makes her a feminazi? feminists don't think guys are terrible people, they think terrible people are terrible people, gender is irrelevant, abuse is abuse.
Jetoye Andrews Horse shit. Feminist are man haters and blame men for everyting. If you are not aware of this then you don't know much about feminism. FYI, men get raped. But feminist don't give a shit about that.
***** please look up the definition of feminism, and MANY feminists care about the male struggle including me. Sure there are some extremists just like there are with every group but that doesn't define the movement
feminists do care but its not their job to i mean why do feminists care about male rape victims but when one man tells another he was raped he is called a "pussy" or "gay" or he just doesnt want to come out and talk about it? feminists care more about victims of rape more than most men do. someone has some deep seated misogyny
Mack Moreno hi! I know I’m super late but the way I interpret this phrase is that she finds it easy to get herself into extremely dangerous situations without intending to (hence Russian roulette = abuse from an ex-boyfriend).
It's poetry like this that help those that suffer depression. this may be based on true events that happened to her, but for myself, I've been through bad situations where I felt like "I was looking down the barrel of a loaded gun" and this explains emotions for me that I could not put in words
Holy fucking shit I can't believe the comments here! Did you even listen? She's talking about looking into a loaded gun, what happened there? Did you miss that part? Did you assume it was figurative? Did you somehow manage to believe this poem *isn't* driven by her real life emotions, that she's lying? Or is it just really difficult for people to fathom how traumatising it must be to have experienced that? ... Well, maybe that's easier for people who have never experienced anything traumatic... I guess that's where my ability to empathise stops. But seriously... Have some respect, people. If you aren't so sure whether the emotion in "HE WILL KILL ME" is sincere, take it from me: it is. You don't lie about that sort of thing. You don't.
not to take away from the fact that her message is legitimate but I have a different interpretation of the poem. the loaded gun is the boyfriend/stalker. she has seen men do terrible things but still she stared down the barrel of the loaded gun (the stalker) and she believed that if she was gentle enough or nice enough that he wouldn't hurt her. but he went off and she was the casualty of that. it sounds like he broke in and raped her and had pictures for blackmail. I'm assuming he said he would kill her if she told anyone. and so when her friend said he could get her a gun she declined to take it because she believes that she is not gentle enough to not pull that trigger when she herself is triggered or when he gets out and the cycle starts over. but this is just my interpretation. I don't believe she ever had a gun held to her head, I believe it is just a metaphor for men being violent and the violence she experienced.
I don't think she is asking the listener to post trigger warnings on everything that triggers her, rather she is pointing out how even the smallest of things can trigger her thoughts back to him and the crime he committed against her. I believe she is trying to get society to realize that even though she might have had a panic/anxiety attack over something everyone else would consider small, to her they are large and very real. She is making the connections between her triggers and why they are triggers. I think most of society either believes that triggers don't exist (I would call those people ignorant) or that triggers have to be directly related to the event it is triggering. Such as someone who self harms. Most of society would probably believe that the only acceptable trigger would be seeing another person self harm or seeing a razor blade sitting on a table. But their triggers could be any number of things, a fight between two strangers, a child getting spanked at a store. But when that gives them an anxiety attack, most of society won't recognize it because it wasn't DIRECTLY related to the event. Just my opinion though.
For every single close-minded bigot in the comments who are whining about the overuse of the phrase "trigger warning" and whatever negative ties it may have acquired, saying things like "everything is called a trigger warning nowadays" and talking about the apparent over sensitivity of women, how about realizing that that was the poet's intention? To use the phrase over and over again, to tie it to everything because that is what the paranoia caused by PTSD does to you: everything becomes a possible threat; everything suddenly holds danger because that thing that used to be safe (in this case her ex-boyfriend) suddenly isn't, which often leads the victim to believe that now, anything else that seems safe could in reality be dangerous. Please try to be compassionate, or at least not spread your hate speech on such a moving video. It's very easy to dismiss other people's problems if you haven't been in their shoes.
this will forever be one of my favorite slam poetry poems to watch. I have never been in such a situation, but this poem still puts me through all sorts of emotions. If only people were more capable of empathy for those who undergo such traumatic life experiences.
Laura Ingriselli yes I have never been through this either but her emotion is beyond belief. Her emotion is amazing you can tell she hurts but is telling her story. I wish her well and everyone who had been through this or similar
I personally loved it. I don't understand how it turned into a conversation about "freedom of speech" being censored? She's talking about her personal triggers & obviously doesn't expect a "trigger warning" label put on everything she talks about. ....I found it to say the opposite, as If to say she's so immensely scarred by her experience (PTSD) that some days somethings or almost everything can be a trigger. If it was prevented by the people she told then maybe "everything" in her life wouldn't be a trigger. Someone said that she needs to learn to deal with life experiences..., they should consider themselves blessed they never had a traumatic experience & should educate him/her self on the signs of PTSD rather than the social injustice of using a label, one that this woman spoke neither in favor for nor opposition too. Some of the comments are a trigger for my impatience & being annoyed by the lack of compassion. :)
***** I respect that everyone is entitled to their opinions. It doesn't even bother me that you & i have a complete opposite takes on what she's saying or in your opinion, not saying. ..I wrote what I did more as a response to those turning the opportunity to express how they feel about her video, as you & i did, into a debate on things having nothing to do with what she's speaking or not speaking about. Regardless of whether or not you, I, or we love, hate, agree or disagree, some people use it as a forum to discuss every political view (as well as other miscellaneous topic) on their minds & that's annoying. ...In my opinion anyway. I'd rather have an intellectual, rational & grownup discussion with someone who disagrees with my interpretation, like urself, than read another comment of someone whining about some played out debate because the people around them, IRL, are sick of hearing them talk. They should make a video on whatever it is they want to complain about today & then ppl, like me, can keep scrolling. I've literally seen videos on DIY projects with comments about presidential candidates mentioned. But like I said, you may disagree with me but at least you're not boring me with ur opinions about non related topics lol. I personally think she's speaking from personal experience... if she wasn't, then it would be very presumptuous of her to explain a feeling she knows nothing about except for the notes taken in "women's studies". But one side note, I'm pretty sure that those classes teach both men & women more than material in which they can use to post "childish & self absorbed" videos. I think they're more about those individuals who have made history, literally, because of accomplishments, actions, strides made bc of their courage ect ect. But that's again, just this one woman's, who's never taken one course in those classes, opinion. ;)
+kristina mejil "I'd rather have an intellectual, rational & grownup discussion with someone who disagrees with my interpretation, like urself". So you agree that if someone doesn't agree with you then they are not an intellectual person? Okay I get it, you are very smart. And just in case you didn't know, those classes do not teach them both sides of the argument. It breeds people like Anita, and other feminists which are no good to our society.
+Yami what? lmfao. I apologize. ...but idk if u meant to type "not an intellectual". actually whether some1 agrees or disagrees doesn't determine their intellect. my statement was more a jab at the many that choose video comments to crash & use as their personal sounding board.
poetry is limitless. take it how you do, there's no right way. but I think if you don't walk away from this in tears, moved, something may be wrong with your mind.
I found this poem before the whole "triggered" meme and it's so horrible to see this comment section is now filled with so many idiotic teens jumping onto this bandwagon of making fun of something they don't even understand.
“I say it because I’m waiting for it to stop feeling like a lie” “bad men smile so wide they will swallow you, and you, you will convince yourself that you asked him to” these 2 lines hit me so hard, I feel this so deeply..
I am new slam poet and I would like to say to you. Thank you. Thank you for showing me that poetry isn't a waste. Thank you for showing me that one day, maybe my words will make someone cry with joy, like yours did to me.
I love(hate) how she didn't even mention being assaulted but we all know that's what happened. I'm so sad for her. Even now she looks so traumatized and upset.
This poem made me sob, but it feel like such a relief to hear someone say these things, these words that i am at times afraid to say. so thank you from the bottom of my heart!
so many negative comments. she did very very well. this was the first poem that gave me goosebumps because she felt it. she meant every word. she's scared and she made it into something so powerful. she expressed herself and to me, that's what poetry is about. letting out all your feelings and making something beautiful with it.
the comments section makes me wanna throw up but this is very powerful. its actually so painful to see such bullshit responses to a woman's account of abuse
Damn.... I have so much respect for this girl,lady,woman. Someone deserving of respect. Not inspiration for something like this. Someone who needs happiness, not because she should but because she can.
to the girl who spoke this. thank you. i needed this in my life. i put my first "boyfriend" away as well. i have ptsd as well. this gave me chills and made me cry
Thank you Karina Stow. I used to write nearly every day, but then he-who-cannot-be-named ruined that for me too. I wanted to thank you because you got me to write again. So thank you, really. Thank you.
This channeled some emotions I haven't felt for a while. Like, whenever I see a rape/molestation scene in a movie without blatant warning I cry hysterically and have panic attacks and flashbacks and stuff. I think you can see why. This was so powerful.
I watched this because I use poetry to express my feelings, and I was curious to how the writer felt, especially considering the poem. As I watched the video, i related a lot to what she was saying. Anything can really be a trigger, even things that don't make sense.
that was beyond incredible! very good timing for this to come up on my feed as I am currently going through a court case with my abusive first boyfriend
Liam Neeson movies Lopsided smiles Dandelion fields Fake marriage proposals Grass stained knees Ketchup lips Warning: I put my first boyfriend away I say at parties because I am a dangerous girl Because I am better at Russian roulette than beer pong I have stared down the barrel of a loaded gun This blonde girl stared back at me She doesn’t look anything like me If I didn’t look anything like me Maybe he wouldn’t be able to find me My mother makes me dye it back Tells me judges don’t trust bleach blondes How is it abusive if he never hit you she asked Trigger Trigger warning Plastic tiaras and performance chefs No one will love you like I do Warning: I sleep with a baseball bat under the bed Carry hot pink pepper spray in my purse like lipstick My friend Dalton tells me he could get me a gun Warning: No one will love you Warning: I do not know my own triggers They are the way a stranger walks down the street Or the way my lover’s lips form around a word I put my first boyfriend away I say at parties because everything is a trigger Because there is no safety on my mouth I say it because I am waiting for it to stop feeling like a lie Trigger I sign the papers Trigger I called the hotlines Trigger He sat in a jail Trigger cell Until he didn’t And I sat in a stairwell Shaking with the recoil of everything we’d done to each other I walk to work even though I’m too small to be a babysitter today Need someone to watch me today To cut my apple slices for me Hold my hand across intersections Keep me away from knives Trigger and cars Trigger and men on the street Trigger who look like knives and cars I don’t believe in lying to children But when she asks me what’s wrong I still tell her the storybook version I tell her that once a bad man broke into my home I wish I’d also told her that bad men look like respectable young men Trigger That bad men will compliment your Nana on her lemon squares Bad men write love poems Trigger Bad men smile so wide they will swallow you And you, you will convince yourself you asked him to Stalkers Trigger Can’t be convicted Trigger Unless they’re victims Trigger Prove They feared for their lives How do you prove fear How do you put months of held breaths And will you please come with me And he will kill me Trigger He will kill me Trigger He will kill me Trigger But I told you so on my gravestone because they can’t ever say she didn’t scream loud enough In a ziplock baggie for the ladies and gentlemen of the jury Trigger warning Loaded questions Trigger Filling every chamber of my heart with ammunition Trigger warning Cock Trigger Always a weapon Trigger Always an ultimatum Trigger He shoots me Underage Underweight Trigger Contorted In his favorite trigger positions Tells me he knows how to upload the pictures Trigger Without leaving behind any fingerprints Trigger warning Aim Loving someone Trigger Is handing them a map of your weak spots Trigger Fire Trigger Fire Trigger Fire No warning shots My friend Dalton tells me he could get me a gun I tell him I have seen a gun go off And yet I can’t shake the habit Of staring down barrels Believing that I am gentle enough To touch the trigger Without pulling
Thanks for this! I got the gist of it from just listening, but I always understand language better when I can see the text. (Is that universal, or just me, I wonder?)
+Yami lmfao, I couldn't help but laugh. Some think the naked body is art bt I don't think ur one of those people Yami....I could be wrong. I personally think that art is subject to the viewer's creative "3rd eye".....& No Yami, that's not the same thing u were speaking of. I'm an artist but I don't like everyone else's art. I like her expression of an experience many woman can relate too yet not all are strong enough to talk about it nevermind put the asshole behind bars. If you can't appreciate the "art" at least give this woman props for having the strength to do what alot of women & most men could never do if in the same awful situation. I can't even respond to that other guy....He can't even acknowledge that some people have a mind of their own but you, you're at least funny about it. I think u actually read everyone's comments unlike the guy making comments just to get all the women on here all fired up... only people w/ no life do things like that... I think her expression is either going to have one loving it or hating it but either way she caught the attention of those that claim they don't think she was ever attacked & she's just a spoiled college women that took too many woman's studies classes....I think she got exactly what she wanted in making this poem. ...she got people talking about date rape, abuse, triggers ect. art or not, she has done something good for other women struggling. Unfortunately those that are too afraid to speak up will see some men's reactions & feel as though they won't be believed either...God forbid it ever happens to those same doubter's mothers, daughters, sisters or lovers/girlfriend ect... then maybe they would have a little bit more respect for what she's trying to do....
I understand her to the point it hurts. Although I was not raped, I was molested as a child and have triggers. My PTSD is real, so are my night terrors and tears. To everybody that is making fun of her or calling her dramatic, unless you know what she has gone through, please kindly shut the fuck up.
Everyone in this comment section: y'all are so SENSITIVE Also everyone in this comment section: *loses their shit when the word trigger is in front of them*
For real. People love to talk about how sensitive SJWs are, but talk about any gender issue for a second, and you'll be attacked with men whining things like, "why does everything have to be about gender?" and "feminists are crazy lol." How do these people not see the contradiction when they're dramatically screaming and throwing a fit about how sensitive everyone else is?
For fucks sake, for every hate comment this got. Learn the difference between Feminist and Femi-nazi. Learn what victim means. Listen carefully to the poem and try to understand because the people who try to understand, most likely will understand. You clicked on this. If you are tired of rape poems or poems about people who are victims maybe the world needs to stop giving victims material to write these, by stopping rape. If you want someone to not be a victim, don't let them become one. Protect them with your fucking life. For every one who doesn't understand what a feminist is or how seriously rape is, think of this, you had a terrible thing happen to you that scarred you for life. And when you try to talk about it, no one listens and whenever you think of it all you can remember is the details of it that you don't want to relive because oh god reliving that isn't living, it's hell itself so just think... Please for one second, try to imagine yourself in this girls shoes.
This was well performed and touching. People really have gotten tired of the constant victim mentality of other people, though, as you probably know. Femi-nazis are causing a big problem for women by crying wolf and claiming rape culture and "men don't know they rape" and false statistics, blaming large groups of society for a small subset, etc. There needs to be discernment, waiting for evidence to come out, too much jumping to conclusions on all sides. Women are usually physically smaller and weaker than men, so like all people taking steps for self-defense may be a good idea. Rape investigations need to be even handed too, of course, and rapists should be punished severely. If people are found to have made false rape charges, they need to be punished as well, if it was intentionally done that is. If rape can't be proven, in any just system, that means no one is punished. If a rapist isn't punished because it can't be proven, we have to accept that this can happen but it doesn't make "rape culture". People charged of any type of crime may walk free if it can't be proven. The flip side is that innocent people charged of a crime may walk free as well. It would be worse to punish the innocent than try for 100% convictions. I just wanted to remind people of how a system of laws works. It isn't perfect and there are policies and other aspects that need reform, too, but the basic concept is valid.
I know that slam poetry and "trigger warnings" are related to third wave feminism. But you guys are so very quick to jump on the hate train. I don't like the new internet feminists either, guys. Usually they're whiny babies crying about how oppressed they are by some dude whistling at them on the street. However, the girl in this video clearly went through something traumatic. From what I can gather she was assaulted by a guy and that left her with some form of PTSD. Even though lots of people on the internet these days throw around the word "trigger" for every little thing that makes them uncomfortable, we should still take actual cases of PTSD seriously. She's not attacking men, she's not blaming all men for what happened to her and she's not even promoting feminism. You all need to get off your soapbox and think for a second before complaining about college kids being babies and feminists hating men.
+Tim Van Aelst As an academic i tend to view things academically, naturally, and what i see are academically lazy people labeling people "third wave feminists". If you don't like Anita Sarkeesian go get a degree and argue on her level, when you are a man/boy wearing a pickachu onesie whining that you are a victim of a third wave feminist its a little hard to swallow. When you are one of the 1000s that follow Anita's every move hoping for your chance to find an open window to post a rape threat you are making a case for third wave feminism, not against it. I am not going to say I agree with every random feminist on every topic, some of them can be a little far fetched, but many of these topics are only trending among white males trying to prove their victimhood. Its kind of ridiculous to me that a male that never takes public transit would feel victimized by "manspreading". While the word is new there have been informal rules of seating etiquitte for public transit since the invention of public transit. The British are a rigid enough society that they outlined sitting with your legs at less than a 45 degree angle for the comfort of others in the 19th century, its not exactly new to third wave feminists. I was raped by cop, I get nervous anytime I see a cop. I understand that for some women being followed by strangers could be unnerving. This is part of having been a victim of a crime that society doesn't see as a crime. Its fine for cops to rape and murder little minority boys, the system wasn't made for justice for me. I don't see it as taking away my rights by learning to respect other people.
gisforgary Okay so 1. super creepy how you refer to guys as "males" and even "white males" (your racism is showing) and 2. what's your point...? You don't know my views on any of the subjects you just used in your comment. You don't like the fact that I used "Third wave feminism" as a blanket term but you have no idea what exactly I'm even referring too. I'm not complaining about anything to do with stuff like BLM or manspreading and I'm not making rape threats against Anita Sarkeesian?? Nor did I mention anything about how I feel victimized. Did I just misinterpret your comment or something or did you really just attack me for no reason??
I have listened to this poem many times and thought it was very powerful. But now I am in a situation like this one and I finally understand the feeling of being terrified of someone like this. Of sleeping with a weapon beside your bed and constantly being on hyper alert. I’m trying to build a case against this person but I am terrified of what he is going to do next.
why are people saying she complaining to the internet, in what way is she complaining? shes made a poem, an art form. she's converted her pain into art to share with the world as many people do with every form of art. leave her alone, she is damn good at what she is doing maybe you should get a fucking hobby and make something as powerful as her instead of just complaining about something not even aimed at anyone BUT YET people are still feel targeted because they are that shallow
How personally attacked do you have to feel to leave a thousand comments on a video you don't even like? Just go man, don't waste your time being an idiot on the internet
This may be an old comment, but I’m also directing this to those who like to doomscroll. In the slam poetry/spoken word scene, humming and clicking are quieter, respectful alternatives to clapping in the middle of the performance. I understand why it can be annoying, just wanted to share some perspective. How’s it going these days?
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"Loving someone, trigger, is handing them a map of your weak spots"
TRASH
"I wish I had told her that bad men looked like respectable young men." SO true.
+A Estes I did not say that all men were evil. I did not support the generalization of men. If I did mean that, then I would comment something along the lines of 'All men are evil'. I simply supported the statement that not all people are what they seem. Something that everyone needs to learn in a world like this. Sorry if there was some confusion in my comment.
+A Estes not all men, just bad men
Yep, I think we're all being trained to ignore our gut feeling and judge people by some easily fakeable superficial criteria instead.
+Ryan McGlasson because every bad person is obvious enough that you can tell by looking at them... God please shut the fuck up.
+dan bracket wtf are you on about ha
"Loving someone is handing them a map of your weak spots." So true, so perfectly true.
Good line for a wedding speech
Often times when we see someone who was a soldier freak out over a loud noise we understand and empathize with them, what they've gone through is extremely difficult and it must be nearly impossible to defeat those triggers. Then we turn around and see a rape victim get triggered over cologne or a type of shirt or a song on the radio and tell them to quit being sensitive. I've never been on the ground during a war, and never been shot at. I've also never been raped, but I would just imagine that if you looked inside the head of the soldier and the rape victim when they experience their trigger, you wouldn't be able to tell the difference.
Boyd Hopkins and even the person who
You’d think doesn’t have a trigger you would be wrong
Even neglect can cause PTSD... asking people to “suck it up” because their brain is triggered by similar events to their trauma is,, horrible.
Thank you.
A soldier is a lot different from a little girl who’s triggered by ketchup
you didn’t get the poem that’s an ignorant thing to say her ptsd is just as valid
You really don’t get that do you ? @@mattarchey4436
"You will convince yourself you asked him to" truth 100% truth
What gets me the hardest is watching her uncontrollably shake while she spoke. To every leaving hate comments about how "dramatic" she is, fucking look at her. It's real.
Jessica Wut Just because you believe something doesn't make it true.
Gavin Clements you won't understand if you aren't a survivor.
Gavin Clements It's extremely hard to tell people about what struggle you've gone through. If you looked into her mind, I guess dramatic would be the first thing you'd think. You don't understand. They don't 'celebrate someone's victim hood'. They support them, and what they've been through. And they tell them that it's okay, that they got through this. They celebrate the fact that they survived.
Houser380Plays Listen to your own words.
hey_im_hala Okay... Anything else you wanna add. I'm not really sure what that is supposed to mean.
"Bad men smile so wide they will swallow you, and you, you will convince yourself that you asked him to"
"How is it abuse if he never hit you?"
ediot she is talking about SEXUAL ABUSE not necessarily physical abuse.... SIGH!!!!😬😬
@@jerolrichards877 She's quoting the poem not asking a question.
Jerol Richards it could be sexual abuse or it could be mental. Or both
Faizan Manzoor well its not racist...thats two totally different things.. But for some its a trigger warning for dysphoria. I myself get lots of anxiety over being misgendered and that leads to a lot of dysphoria for me.
@@jerolrichards877 or she can be talking about cyberbully u fucking jackass
I'm crying. The part about being a babysitter gets me because my niece constantly asks about why I have scars on my wrists and why I'm not allowed to be around knives even though I'm a 'grown up', why my mother, her grandmother, checks and re-checks the locks constantly because the one time, the door wasn't locked. Why her mother, my older sister, cries when someone screams too loud and why why why. The only thing we can say is that there was a bad man. And she still keeps asking.
@Random UA-camr ....bc I stole one and hurt myself, this was years ago now though and I'm doing better now thankfully
that was some intense shiver, I hope I'm not the only person that got goosebumps
Destiny Son You definitely weren't
No, me too.
***** that was unnecessary lmao
+Devout Pessimist Please reserve your ignorance for yourself. Leave if you must.
+Devout Pessimist I don't know why people only want good comments on youtube. It doesn't make sense... This video is retarded, and if you don't agree then good :D
If you pay attention to what she is saying then you can realise she is telling a story of what happened to her. If you don't understand it is because you listened but you did not comprehend.
+Wonder_Walls What about if 1. you listened and understood and it was bullshit and 2. you listened and did not understand because it was bullshit filtered through some pretentious scheme which is less about structure and form and more about purposefully oblique in order to gain attention?
its no one else's fault that you don't get it lmao
You didn't answer my point and still seem think that if someone disagrees with you they must be wrong. That's a ridiculous way to approach life.
Mikhail Winter but this isn't a matter of opinion she clearly is telling a sort of story about her personal experience. You're wrong because you are literally incorrect, not because you don't agree with me
You do not understand what poetry is and you don't understand what the medical profession states in regards to trigger warnings. You seem very sure of yourself and willing to say what is "Clear" on very tenuous ground. Not only that, you dismiss what ever someone else says very quickly. You need to grow up and put aside the social justice mentality which would never allow you to learn anything.
You can feel the pain she's been through ....
The pain was likely self-inflicted. Delusional fool. Her angst comes through in this drivel as the end result of a blamestorming session.
+bigjoedummy haha fuck off
+bigjoedummy do you choke on your own vomit regularly?
+gisforgary what an academic response
Tlars thank you, thats why i have 4 degrees and you don't.
people know that they shouldn't make fun of a man in a wheel chair, but when it comes to a woman with ptsd ( a mental disorder), or any mental disorder in fact, that THIS is okay to make fun of?
There are no types of PTSD that are more valid than others. Just because there are soldiers suffering from PTSD doesn't mean people that didn't are less valid.
I'm really not fucking okay with this comment. I was sexually abused from age 8-12, I still have nightmares, and flashbacks to the point where I think I am still in the point where I was being raped. So am I making a mockery of ptsd? and I was diagnosed after a suicide attempt at 12, its been years since I was last abused and 5 mental hospitalizations and I'm still suffering with this.
Monolith Guy do you not realize some rapists can and will use physical force instead of drugs or manipulation. Victims can end up extremely physically and mentally injured.
Monolith Guy I also didn't mention STDS.
Monolith Guy
it was traumatizing enough for me to attempt suicide at the age of twelve and have many times where I can't tell the difference between reality and not. to the point where I see my abuser when he's not there, to the point where I can't tell my own mother from the man who raped me for four years. so yeah I would rather feel like I lost a leg then this.
7 years later and I still come back to this poem. Incredibly moving.
A story we so often see told by victims of domestic violence. Brought tears to my eyes.
People who are making fun of this obviously don't understand what it's about...
That is the point. Nobody understands this bullshit except for feminazis.
+spicecrop so being raped and becoming emotionally scarred for it makes her a feminazi? feminists don't think guys are terrible people, they think terrible people are terrible people, gender is irrelevant, abuse is abuse.
Jetoye Andrews
Horse shit. Feminist are man haters and blame men for everyting. If you are not aware of this then you don't know much about feminism. FYI, men get raped. But feminist don't give a shit about that.
***** please look up the definition of feminism, and MANY feminists care about the male struggle including me. Sure there are some extremists just like there are with every group but that doesn't define the movement
feminists do care but its not their job to i mean why do feminists care about male rape victims but when one man tells another he was raped he is called a "pussy" or "gay" or he just doesnt want to come out and talk about it? feminists care more about victims of rape more than most men do. someone has some deep seated misogyny
This gave me chills, absolutely amazing and so so touching.
"I'm better at Russian roulette than beer pong." Damn..
Dan Bracket_fredyfrankle1 narcissistic sociopath
I genuinely don't understand the impact of this phrase. Can you help me understand?
Mack Moreno hi! I know I’m super late but the way I interpret this phrase is that she finds it easy to get herself into extremely dangerous situations without intending to (hence Russian roulette = abuse from an ex-boyfriend).
Press x to doubt
I hate that being triggered has become a joke. It's a serious thing, and even telling someone now what your triggers are seems like you're kidding.
Buttered Dong someone finally said it
Buttered Dong THANK YOU
Buttered Dong If you mwan gettig offended and throwing a huge fit, not really.
Reptillian ger triggered doesn't mean to get offended... It means it is something that takes over your head so badly you are just breaking down
estoo G You can just say it's a flashback.
My heart was beating so fast during this.
+lina bena same
Same
This was a strong performance poem, with a strong message.
Am I the only one still watching this one? Can't get over it.
It's poetry like this that help those that suffer depression. this may be based on true events that happened to her, but for myself, I've been through bad situations where I felt like "I was looking down the barrel of a loaded gun" and this explains emotions for me that I could not put in words
Literally cannot stop watching this. Obsessed with this. The most intense thing I've ever seen.
+Cassie Maay ZOMBIESCEKS "most intense thing I've ever seen".. lol white people.
+A Estes he's telling that emo to get a life
LOL. Not emo, thanks though.
Watch a video of a woman being stoned to death in the Middle East. More intense than a college girl saying a poem
+hardpack187 SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU MORONIC FUCKING IDIOT
I keep coming back to watch this again. So powerful.
Holy fucking shit I can't believe the comments here! Did you even listen?
She's talking about looking into a loaded gun, what happened there? Did you miss that part? Did you assume it was figurative? Did you somehow manage to believe this poem *isn't* driven by her real life emotions, that she's lying? Or is it just really difficult for people to fathom how traumatising it must be to have experienced that? ... Well, maybe that's easier for people who have never experienced anything traumatic... I guess that's where my ability to empathise stops.
But seriously... Have some respect, people. If you aren't so sure whether the emotion in "HE WILL KILL ME" is sincere, take it from me: it is. You don't lie about that sort of thing. You don't.
i couldn't have said it better, my friend.
not to take away from the fact that her message is legitimate but I have a different interpretation of the poem. the loaded gun is the boyfriend/stalker. she has seen men do terrible things but still she stared down the barrel of the loaded gun (the stalker) and she believed that if she was gentle enough or nice enough that he wouldn't hurt her. but he went off and she was the casualty of that. it sounds like he broke in and raped her and had pictures for blackmail. I'm assuming he said he would kill her if she told anyone. and so when her friend said he could get her a gun she declined to take it because she believes that she is not gentle enough to not pull that trigger when she herself is triggered or when he gets out and the cycle starts over. but this is just my interpretation. I don't believe she ever had a gun held to her head, I believe it is just a metaphor for men being violent and the violence she experienced.
+Anouk Fleur you can't hide from life...
I don't think she is asking the listener to post trigger warnings on everything that triggers her, rather she is pointing out how even the smallest of things can trigger her thoughts back to him and the crime he committed against her. I believe she is trying to get society to realize that even though she might have had a panic/anxiety attack over something everyone else would consider small, to her they are large and very real. She is making the connections between her triggers and why they are triggers. I think most of society either believes that triggers don't exist (I would call those people ignorant) or that triggers have to be directly related to the event it is triggering. Such as someone who self harms. Most of society would probably believe that the only acceptable trigger would be seeing another person self harm or seeing a razor blade sitting on a table. But their triggers could be any number of things, a fight between two strangers, a child getting spanked at a store. But when that gives them an anxiety attack, most of society won't recognize it because it wasn't DIRECTLY related to the event. Just my opinion though.
+Megan Swanston on point
For every single close-minded bigot in the comments who are whining about the overuse of the phrase "trigger warning" and whatever negative ties it may have acquired, saying things like "everything is called a trigger warning nowadays" and talking about the apparent over sensitivity of women, how about realizing that that was the poet's intention? To use the phrase over and over again, to tie it to everything because that is what the paranoia caused by PTSD does to you: everything becomes a possible threat; everything suddenly holds danger because that thing that used to be safe (in this case her ex-boyfriend) suddenly isn't, which often leads the victim to believe that now, anything else that seems safe could in reality be dangerous. Please try to be compassionate, or at least not spread your hate speech on such a moving video. It's very easy to dismiss other people's problems if you haven't been in their shoes.
Yes to this comment right here. Just yes.
Lol.....Sure.
parker7ish yay. Thank you.
Lol at this point I can't take anyone seriously when they use the words hate speech or bigot
@@3e32b05 probably because you are a bigot
This is seriously amazing, I watch it rarely because it always leaves me in tears.
This is literally my favourite poem. I find myself coming back to it years after I first found it.
Me too, i used it as a monologue once for high school theater
This is so real for me. Balled my eyes out. Such a great poem.
Same 🤗
this will forever be one of my favorite slam poetry poems to watch. I have never been in such a situation, but this poem still puts me through all sorts of emotions.
If only people were more capable of empathy for those who undergo such traumatic life experiences.
Laura Ingriselli yes I have never been through this either but her emotion is beyond belief. Her emotion is amazing you can tell she hurts but is telling her story. I wish her well and everyone who had been through this or similar
When you see all these comments saying how they feel disgusted by how people are putting hate on this girl and yet see none of those hate comments
This poem guided me through 2019 and in 2022 it is the solace that helps calm the waves of panic. Thank you endlessly to the poet.
I personally loved it. I don't understand how it turned into a conversation about "freedom of speech" being censored? She's talking about her personal triggers & obviously doesn't expect a "trigger warning" label put on everything she talks about. ....I found it to say the opposite, as If to say she's so immensely scarred by her experience (PTSD) that some days somethings or almost everything can
be a trigger. If it was prevented by the people she told then maybe "everything" in her life wouldn't be a trigger. Someone said that she needs to learn to deal with life experiences..., they should consider themselves blessed they never had a traumatic experience & should educate him/her self on the signs of PTSD rather than the social injustice of using a label, one that this woman spoke neither in favor for nor opposition too. Some of the comments are a trigger for my impatience & being annoyed by the lack of compassion. :)
***** I respect that everyone is entitled to their opinions. It doesn't even bother me that you & i have a complete opposite takes on what she's saying or in your opinion, not saying. ..I wrote what I did more as a response to those turning the opportunity to express how they feel about her video, as you & i did, into a debate on things having nothing to do with what she's speaking or not speaking about. Regardless of whether or not you, I, or we love, hate, agree or disagree, some people use it as a forum to discuss every political view (as well as other miscellaneous topic) on their minds & that's annoying. ...In my opinion anyway. I'd rather have an intellectual, rational & grownup discussion with someone who disagrees with my interpretation, like urself, than read another comment of someone whining about some played out debate because the people around them, IRL, are sick of hearing them talk. They should make a video on whatever it is they want to complain about today & then ppl, like me, can keep scrolling. I've literally seen videos on DIY projects with comments about presidential candidates mentioned. But like I said, you may disagree with me but at least you're not boring me with ur opinions about non related topics lol. I personally think she's speaking from personal experience... if she wasn't, then it would be very presumptuous of her to explain a feeling she knows nothing about except for the notes taken in "women's studies". But one side note, I'm pretty sure that those classes teach both men & women more than material in which they can use to post "childish & self absorbed" videos. I think they're more about those individuals who have made history, literally, because of accomplishments, actions, strides made bc of their courage ect ect. But that's again, just this one woman's, who's never taken one course in those classes, opinion. ;)
+kristina mejil "I'd rather have an intellectual, rational & grownup discussion with someone who disagrees with my interpretation, like urself". So you agree that if someone doesn't agree with you then they are not an intellectual person? Okay I get it, you are very smart. And just in case you didn't know, those classes do not teach them both sides of the argument. It breeds people like Anita, and other feminists which are no good to our society.
+Yami what? lmfao. I apologize. ...but idk if u meant to type "not an intellectual". actually whether some1 agrees or disagrees doesn't determine their intellect. my statement was more a jab at the many that choose video comments to crash & use as their personal sounding board.
it’s been years and i still find myself coming back to this video
Me too
poetry is limitless. take it how you do, there's no right way. but I think if you don't walk away from this in tears, moved, something may be wrong with your mind.
I just wanted to hug her while she shook.
Dan Bracket_fredyfrankle1 how in the fuck do you think that's funny?
KM -spongebobswaggerpants Same I just wanted to cry I can't believe how men would do this like what goes through there head would
I found this poem before the whole "triggered" meme and it's so horrible to see this comment section is now filled with so many idiotic teens jumping onto this bandwagon of making fun of something they don't even understand.
It honestly hurts my heart seeing so many people making fun of it or even calling her a liar/attention seeker
Oh we understand it. She is a narcissistic drama queen. Victimhood is currency now, and thanks to sheep like yourself this girl is loaded.
Stephen Carmody What the hell is wrong with you?
@@valeriesilva652 Nothing that I know of, why do you ask?
Stephen Carmody Just wanted to know what’s wrong with you after reading your ignorant comment.
“I say it because I’m waiting for it to stop feeling like a lie” “bad men smile so wide they will swallow you, and you, you will convince yourself that you asked him to” these 2 lines hit me so hard, I feel this so deeply..
Haven’t found anything that has hit home like this. Feels like a CPTSD episode.
i get chills every time I watch this . its so amazing .
I cringe but meh....
Flexing Like Minato well its different for everyone and that's okay
I saw this poem 3 years ago. I see it now and it’s the only thing that puts my pain into words. I’m waiting for my court case
I am new slam poet and I would like to say to you.
Thank you.
Thank you for showing me that poetry isn't a waste.
Thank you for showing me that one day, maybe my words will make someone cry with joy, like yours did to me.
I love(hate) how she didn't even mention being assaulted but we all know that's what happened.
I'm so sad for her. Even now she looks so traumatized and upset.
This poem made me sob, but it feel like such a relief to hear someone say these things, these words that i am at times afraid to say. so thank you from the bottom of my heart!
so many negative comments. she did very very well. this was the first poem that gave me goosebumps because she felt it. she meant every word. she's scared and she made it into something so powerful. she expressed herself and to me, that's what poetry is about. letting out all your feelings and making something beautiful with it.
I have watched this video so many times and I still get chills listening to it even now.
This is absolutely amazing.
Amazing. Simply amazing. It hit me deep down and helped me think of my own triggers.
the comments section makes me wanna throw up but this is very powerful. its actually so painful to see such bullshit responses to a woman's account of abuse
Ok
+max bjelland Ok
Cool
That just made me cry so hard. Fuck. I adore how much emotion she put into this. I wish I had seen it live myself.
Same here
Damn.... I have so much respect for this girl,lady,woman. Someone deserving of respect. Not inspiration for something like this. Someone who needs happiness, not because she should but because she can.
my daughter and I are crying, how beautiful and tragic at the same time.
to the girl who spoke this. thank you. i needed this in my life. i put my first "boyfriend" away as well. i have ptsd as well. this gave me chills and made me cry
Thank you Karina Stow. I used to write nearly every day, but then he-who-cannot-be-named ruined that for me too. I wanted to thank you because you got me to write again. So thank you, really. Thank you.
She starts shaking so bad, I feel so bad. I hope she was okay after performing this.
This channeled some emotions I haven't felt for a while. Like, whenever I see a rape/molestation scene in a movie without blatant warning I cry hysterically and have panic attacks and flashbacks and stuff. I think you can see why. This was so powerful.
My ex was put into this exact situation by her first boyfriend. The pain and stress she had to deal with. It took all I had not to cry watching this
I watched this because I use poetry to express my feelings, and I was curious to how the writer felt, especially considering the poem. As I watched the video, i related a lot to what she was saying. Anything can really be a trigger, even things that don't make sense.
that was beyond incredible! very good timing for this to come up on my feed as I am currently going through a court case with my abusive first boyfriend
A Trump supporter used this video to make fun of Bernie supporters on twitter, I liked it so much that it brought me here. Great poetry.
What does this have to do with Bernie and that old racist psychopath?
Morgan Martin
Yea because all Trump supporters are racist psychopaths right?
He called trump an old racist psycopath lmao
OhGollyGoshIt'sVicFuentes
How is he racist? He's your president now deal with it.
Lol , nah. He called black people lazy, very racist towards latinx people. Etc. Google is free.
Liam Neeson movies
Lopsided smiles
Dandelion fields
Fake marriage proposals
Grass stained knees
Ketchup lips
Warning: I put my first boyfriend away
I say at parties because I am a dangerous girl
Because I am better at Russian roulette than beer pong
I have stared down the barrel of a loaded gun
This blonde girl stared back at me
She doesn’t look anything like me
If I didn’t look anything like me
Maybe he wouldn’t be able to find me
My mother makes me dye it back
Tells me judges don’t trust bleach blondes
How is it abusive if he never hit you she asked
Trigger
Trigger warning
Plastic tiaras and performance chefs
No one will love you like I do
Warning: I sleep with a baseball bat under the bed
Carry hot pink pepper spray in my purse like lipstick
My friend Dalton tells me he could get me a gun
Warning: No one will love you
Warning: I do not know my own triggers
They are the way a stranger walks down the street
Or the way my lover’s lips form around a word
I put my first boyfriend away
I say at parties because everything is a trigger
Because there is no safety on my mouth
I say it because I am waiting for it to stop feeling like a lie
Trigger
I sign the papers
Trigger I called the hotlines
Trigger
He sat in a jail
Trigger
cell
Until he didn’t
And I sat in a stairwell
Shaking with the recoil of everything we’d done to each other
I walk to work even though I’m too small to be a babysitter today
Need someone to watch me today
To cut my apple slices for me
Hold my hand across intersections
Keep me away from knives
Trigger
and cars
Trigger
and men on the street
Trigger
who look like knives
and cars
I don’t believe in lying to children
But when she asks me what’s wrong I still tell her the storybook version
I tell her that once a bad man broke into my home
I wish I’d also told her that bad men look like respectable young men
Trigger
That bad men will compliment your Nana on her lemon squares
Bad men write love poems
Trigger
Bad men smile so wide they will swallow you
And you, you will convince yourself you asked him to
Stalkers
Trigger
Can’t be convicted
Trigger
Unless they’re victims
Trigger
Prove
They feared for their lives
How do you prove fear
How do you put months of held breaths
And will you please come with me
And he will kill me
Trigger
He will kill me
Trigger
He will kill me
Trigger
But I told you so on my gravestone because they can’t ever say she didn’t scream loud enough
In a ziplock baggie for the ladies and gentlemen of the jury
Trigger warning
Loaded questions
Trigger
Filling every chamber of my heart with ammunition
Trigger warning
Cock
Trigger
Always a weapon
Trigger
Always an ultimatum
Trigger
He shoots me
Underage
Underweight
Trigger
Contorted
In his favorite trigger positions
Tells me he knows how to upload the pictures
Trigger
Without leaving behind any fingerprints
Trigger warning
Aim
Loving someone
Trigger
Is handing them a map of your weak spots
Trigger
Fire
Trigger
Fire
Trigger Fire
No warning shots
My friend Dalton tells me he could get me a gun
I tell him I have seen a gun go off
And yet I can’t shake the habit
Of staring down barrels
Believing that I am gentle enough
To touch the trigger
Without pulling
Thanks for this! I got the gist of it from just listening, but I always understand language better when I can see the text. (Is that universal, or just me, I wonder?)
+Mark Osmond No, it's the same for me :) Especially with lyrics and poems etc.
oh thank god for this 👏👏👏
Eliza Brown I'm sorry wtf Liam Neeson smiles. Am I missing something.
The Real this only shows how fucking ignorant you are
I love that I can feel the shaking in her bones from the stage flow through mine. (: keep it up I'd love to see more.
I always come back to this poem because it makes me sick every time , the pain is so palpable.
This is fucking powerful. Holy shit....... Bravo.
WHY ARE SOME.OF THE PEOPLE IN THIS COMMENT SECTION SO DENSE. like fuck. this is poetry... have they never heard of art?? or expression??? whyyyy
Yeah but this is some pretty shitty art. However, I couldn't say I could do any better
+OnStrike69 exactly so say nothing at all
Shitty liberal art
+Drew Golden I think my dick is art, but nobody else seems to agree. We all have different opinions :)
+Yami lmfao, I couldn't help but laugh. Some think the naked body is art bt I don't think ur one of those people Yami....I could be wrong. I personally think that art is subject to the viewer's creative "3rd eye".....& No Yami, that's not the same thing u were speaking of. I'm an artist but I don't like everyone else's art. I like her expression of an experience many woman can relate too yet not all are strong enough to talk about it nevermind put the asshole behind bars. If you can't appreciate the "art" at least give this woman props for having the strength to do what alot of women & most men could never do if in the same awful situation. I can't even respond to that other guy....He can't even acknowledge that some people have a mind of their own but you, you're at least funny about it. I think u actually read everyone's comments unlike the guy making comments just to get all the women on here all fired up... only people w/ no life do things like that... I think her expression is either going to have one loving it or hating it but either way she caught the attention of those that claim they don't think she was ever attacked & she's just a spoiled college women that took too many woman's studies classes....I think she got exactly what she wanted in making this poem. ...she got people talking about date rape, abuse, triggers ect. art or not, she has done something good for other women struggling. Unfortunately those that are too afraid to speak up will see some men's reactions & feel as though they won't be believed either...God forbid it ever happens to those same doubter's mothers, daughters, sisters or lovers/girlfriend ect... then maybe they would have a little bit more respect for what she's trying to do....
This was incredible. So much strength, it brought me to tears
i keep coming back to this
ive been sitting at my desk for 2 hours listing to slam poems
Same tho,
This is one of my favourite poems. Thank you for your bravery.
I love this poem and have watched it like 5 times. the passion behind it is real. your amazing.
"Loving someone is handing them a map of your weak spots..." 🙃
I understand her to the point it hurts. Although I was not raped, I was molested as a child and have triggers. My PTSD is real, so are my night terrors and tears. To everybody that is making fun of her or calling her dramatic, unless you know what she has gone through, please kindly shut the fuck up.
So sorry for what happened to you, I hope your life is going well now
If you’re gonna get mad at this or hate on this, why are you here?
Everyone in this comment section: y'all are so SENSITIVE
Also everyone in this comment section: *loses their shit when the word trigger is in front of them*
For real. People love to talk about how sensitive SJWs are, but talk about any gender issue for a second, and you'll be attacked with men whining things like, "why does everything have to be about gender?" and "feminists are crazy lol." How do these people not see the contradiction when they're dramatically screaming and throwing a fit about how sensitive everyone else is?
adia x THIS IS THE WORST POEM I'VE EVER HEARD STFU YOU DAMN TRIGGERED PIECE OF SHIT
Gemma Elizabeth Uno reverse card?
This is my most favorite slam poem. Good job karina
For fucks sake, for every hate comment this got. Learn the difference between Feminist and Femi-nazi. Learn what victim means. Listen carefully to the poem and try to understand because the people who try to understand, most likely will understand. You clicked on this. If you are tired of rape poems or poems about people who are victims maybe the world needs to stop giving victims material to write these, by stopping rape. If you want someone to not be a victim, don't let them become one. Protect them with your fucking life. For every one who doesn't understand what a feminist is or how seriously rape is, think of this, you had a terrible thing happen to you that scarred you for life. And when you try to talk about it, no one listens and whenever you think of it all you can remember is the details of it that you don't want to relive because oh god reliving that isn't living, it's hell itself so just think... Please for one second, try to imagine yourself in this girls shoes.
This was well performed and touching. People really have gotten tired of the constant victim mentality of other people, though, as you probably know. Femi-nazis are causing a big problem for women by crying wolf and claiming rape culture and "men don't know they rape" and false statistics, blaming large groups of society for a small subset, etc. There needs to be discernment, waiting for evidence to come out, too much jumping to conclusions on all sides. Women are usually physically smaller and weaker than men, so like all people taking steps for self-defense may be a good idea. Rape investigations need to be even handed too, of course, and rapists should be punished severely. If people are found to have made false rape charges, they need to be punished as well, if it was intentionally done that is. If rape can't be proven, in any just system, that means no one is punished. If a rapist isn't punished because it can't be proven, we have to accept that this can happen but it doesn't make "rape culture". People charged of any type of crime may walk free if it can't be proven. The flip side is that innocent people charged of a crime may walk free as well. It would be worse to punish the innocent than try for 100% convictions. I just wanted to remind people of how a system of laws works. It isn't perfect and there are policies and other aspects that need reform, too, but the basic concept is valid.
J and L "Femi-nazi's" don't go around killing innocent people, the word usage trivializes what Jewish people went through.
I've watched this so many times and it still moves me every time
That was powerful.
Been watching this a few times a year for almost a decade. Jesus
This gave me so many chills. Amazing.
i listen to this so much and i get goosebumps every time
I know that slam poetry and "trigger warnings" are related to third wave feminism. But you guys are so very quick to jump on the hate train. I don't like the new internet feminists either, guys. Usually they're whiny babies crying about how oppressed they are by some dude whistling at them on the street.
However, the girl in this video clearly went through something traumatic. From what I can gather she was assaulted by a guy and that left her with some form of PTSD. Even though lots of people on the internet these days throw around the word "trigger" for every little thing that makes them uncomfortable, we should still take actual cases of PTSD seriously.
She's not attacking men, she's not blaming all men for what happened to her and she's not even promoting feminism. You all need to get off your soapbox and think for a second before complaining about college kids being babies and feminists hating men.
Dope.
This comment is the best thing I've read all day. Amen!
+Tim Van Aelst As an academic i tend to view things academically, naturally, and what i see are academically lazy people labeling people "third wave feminists". If you don't like Anita Sarkeesian go get a degree and argue on her level, when you are a man/boy wearing a pickachu onesie whining that you are a victim of a third wave feminist its a little hard to swallow. When you are one of the 1000s that follow Anita's every move hoping for your chance to find an open window to post a rape threat you are making a case for third wave feminism, not against it.
I am not going to say I agree with every random feminist on every topic, some of them can be a little far fetched, but many of these topics are only trending among white males trying to prove their victimhood. Its kind of ridiculous to me that a male that never takes public transit would feel victimized by "manspreading". While the word is new there have been informal rules of seating etiquitte for public transit since the invention of public transit. The British are a rigid enough society that they outlined sitting with your legs at less than a 45 degree angle for the comfort of others in the 19th century, its not exactly new to third wave feminists.
I was raped by cop, I get nervous anytime I see a cop. I understand that for some women being followed by strangers could be unnerving. This is part of having been a victim of a crime that society doesn't see as a crime. Its fine for cops to rape and murder little minority boys, the system wasn't made for justice for me. I don't see it as taking away my rights by learning to respect other people.
gisforgary Okay so 1. super creepy how you refer to guys as "males" and even "white males" (your racism is showing) and 2. what's your point...? You don't know my views on any of the subjects you just used in your comment. You don't like the fact that I used "Third wave feminism" as a blanket term but you have no idea what exactly I'm even referring too. I'm not complaining about anything to do with stuff like BLM or manspreading and I'm not making rape threats against Anita Sarkeesian?? Nor did I mention anything about how I feel victimized.
Did I just misinterpret your comment or something or did you really just attack me for no reason??
Tim Van Aelst how did i attack you? are you a special snowflake? grow the fuck up, little white boy.
YO this is absolutely INCREDIBLE!!!
"No one will love you like I do" oh my god
This one really hit me hard. So broken right now that I didn't know I related to what she was saying until I felt the tears rolling down my cheek.
this made me cry, so amazing
Words can’t describe how much I love this!!
This... this gave me chills.. this is close to too real for me
I have listened to this poem many times and thought it was very powerful. But now I am in a situation like this one and I finally understand the feeling of being terrified of someone like this. Of sleeping with a weapon beside your bed and constantly being on hyper alert. I’m trying to build a case against this person but I am terrified of what he is going to do next.
why are people saying she complaining to the internet, in what way is she complaining? shes made a poem, an art form. she's converted her pain into art to share with the world as many people do with every form of art. leave her alone, she is damn good at what she is doing maybe you should get a fucking hobby and make something as powerful as her instead of just complaining about something not even aimed at anyone BUT YET people are still feel targeted because they are that shallow
This is the one poem I come back to every year since I’ve been like 12. 2 stalkers since then.. hits different now
The only thing that bothers me about this video is that fucking clicking and the 'mmmm....'
same
How personally attacked do you have to feel to leave a thousand comments on a video you don't even like? Just go man, don't waste your time being an idiot on the internet
Antonella A. Oh no, I like the poem, it's just the clicking...I don't feel personally attacked love
s anima oh sorry my comment wasn't for you, it was for one of the replies
This may be an old comment, but I’m also directing this to those who like to doomscroll. In the slam poetry/spoken word scene, humming and clicking are quieter, respectful alternatives to clapping in the middle of the performance. I understand why it can be annoying, just wanted to share some perspective. How’s it going these days?
Woah she was amazing at talking and writing that poem
Wow... this was good and full of emotion
There is so much power and raw emotion in this poem, it's absolutely beautiful
anyone who thinks this is over dramatic or doesn't make sense, then they're lucky. ignorant but lucky.
Such a beautiful and gracefully written poem. This story was told in a very real and powerful performance. So talented!
This is SO powerful!
Powerfully moving; thank you!!