I didn’t expect to but I cried watching this. You never know that that fatherless little girl is still crying out even as an adult. I commend your dad for listening to you and allowing you to express your hurt without diminishing your feelings. Such a beautiful conversation
That’s beautiful I’d like to get to that point I have the same thing about my dad and I love my dad I will go all out for my dad but I don’t think he see me I don’t never see me but how I would want mountains for my dad but now I love him and he’s at but 82 years old , he’s the only one left
Even as a therapist. This is one of THE best father-daughter conversations that I’ve heard. Thank you for sharing. Blessings on your journey forward! I’m sharing this to my private group now.
I did love to see this convo. I am a girl who was raised with both parents. They were married for 54 years and he passed this year in Feb. I'll be turning 40 on the 25th of this month and have really been on an emotional rollercoaster. Father's are wonderful if they allow themselves to be. I am/was blessed.
I hear the part about forgiveness, but I’m not even ready. Mom was murdered, dad didn’t step up. Threw us on his sister. Had 2 more kids with another woman that ended up in the system. I feel like I’m mad for me and my brothers. Now he has grandkids he don’t know. He can acknowledge everyone but his kids and grandkids and that pisses me the hell off.
Love all of your content, but this one LeToya. So many of us are dealing with “daddy issues”😩we definitely need more discussions like this. I find it’s important for you to know a person’s upbringing in order to get a full understanding of why people are the way they are. Glad you all were able to mend and grow your relationship🙏🏽
This was really great. Thank you for sharing abt your relationship with your dad. I love that you were able to forgive your dad; I know first hand forgiveness start with you(the individual)& that's were true healing starts. Again, thanks for sharing & your doing an amazing job. 👏🏽 ❤💯
This was so good. I too forgave my father. He lived in our house,but still was not there. He never ever said, "I love you". I sent him a card when he was in a nursing home. The nurse said he cried. He died 2 weeks later. I was so glad I forgave him. I found myself with men who treated me like I didn't matter. I see I was going by what I saw/felt from my father. I'm glad you still have the chance to have your parents. Mine have passed away. Keep up the good work.❤️
I’m sad to hear that bout your parents, Dawn i don’t think you are the only one, 90 percent of black women don’t really know how to find love or actually know what it feels like to have a real love.. cause we never received it from our own Fathers, so we continue to pick the wrong men to be with. My new man is God !!!
Girl I am sitting in my parked car in my driveway and you got me out here so long I’m now bawling in the car and even stayed in the car until it started down pour raining and now I’m stuck. Thank you for this video- a lot to take away- my father has passed and I always wished we could have had a conversation like this- very therapeutic- a lot to love about this video❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for your transparency 💕
This is so close to home Toya I’m trying to forgive, my dad for the same thing he has done to our family even in my.late 40s therapy is helping me through this!💜💪🏼⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Yes Sis Same Thing Here & A Key l’ve Learned From Not Only Toya But Therapy Also. Having Grace 🙏🏾 ls Key. Along With Becoming A Parent. I Realized WE Don’t Always Have All The Answers. So I Have To Extend Grace As Well As Ask For lt
@@NYCCHOCOLATE7777 if it wasn’t for my faith in the Almighty I don’t think I’ll be able to speak to my dad, at this given moment in time my siblings and I are trying our best though.
@@hiddenbeauty8769 l So Understand Sis And Agree. But Another Thing l’ve Learned ls Being A Parent ls The HARDEST Job l’ve Ever Had. And No One Gives You An Handbook Or Manual. You Learned By Experience, Life & Environment. That ls Why Understanding, Communication & Grace With LOVE Is Needed.🙏🏾
I am a man that is 44 that has never met my father, I was raised mainly by my aunt and mama. I lost my aunt and mama 5 days apart in 2020. Through therapy and work with a healer, I have learned that my dad did not know how to be a father to me. Also I have learned that my mama did not know how to be a mother. Childhood trauma is real. While my mama was living I tried to have conversations around my feelings and how other family member treated me. Many of those conversations fail on deaf ears. Because of my mama’s life, after the age of 12 she chose not to have empathy for me has a human being. From my perspective I come from a dysfunctional narcessist family structure. Because I had not done the mental work on myself, I never got to have this type conversation with my mama or aunt. I have to forgive my mama every morning so I do not have a bad day. LeToya thank you so much for being honest with your father and allowing the public to see this conversation.
Latoya I want to say Thank you for doing this. Sincerely. I am 31 years old southern girl from Louisiana with two kids a 10 year old girl and 8 year old boy and I have never met my dad before he’s from Houston Tx and I am so hurt I carry a lot of pain from that. This episode is really encouraging to me I know I need to meet him but I’m have so many mixed emotions. Thank you again for sharing your story you give me courage.
At 23 years old, this really hit home for me Toya 🥺 not only did this video let me know that I’m not alone, but it even encouraged me to forgive. I truly appreciate the authenticity and transparency of your channel 🤍
When I tell you I am crying real tears oh lawdddddd 😭 this help me to heal the inner girl as 36 year woman & someone who desires to forgive my own father and love the time we have left ❤️ thank you Ma’am
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues. His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Watching for only 6 minutes I’m impressed by his acknowledgment of being out of touch. Wow I’m so happy he said that, because we all have these moments because most of us are on autopilot without realizing it. Tuning in is necessary.
Every week I look forward to another video from Leave it to LeToya. It’s such a breathe of fresh air to see US as black women doing something positive! Be blessed! ❤️
My dad passed away when I was 14. So he never saw me grow up or meet his grandsons. He remembers me as a child. We never mended our relationship but in my mind I know he loved me. I'm his only child. His sole heir. I look mostly like him. I think me being outspoken at times most likely us him lol. You're fortunate to be able to get another chance at having a relationship with one another.
This was sooo beautiful! I've always desired to be a daddy's girl, but it never happened for me. In 2020 I decided to face alot of my FEARS, I needed to heal from my daddy issues and trauma. So,I face my GOLIATH. It was the hardest conversation of my life. In the end My father apologized and I was able to start the healing process.
I am moved by the authenticity of this conversation. It’s in these moments that the realness of what many of us have experienced can be shown the way of reconciliation. Thank you and continue to make great and necessary content.
This is beautiful. We tried but my father could not go there. But I'm glad to see someone could have a healing process with their absent father. My father died before we could have that healing process occur.
I loved this..my father died on Mother’s Day this year. We didn’t get to reconcile but I forgave him many years ago and was happy to hear he accept The Lord as his savior before leaving this earth. Sometimes you gotta take a step back and see what our parents went through and extend grace.
I sent this to my children, Because there were so many parts I and them could identify with. You are helping others through your life stories. God Bless you
Speechless but so rewarding to hear the similarities of my father daughter relationship. I loved the transparency and “Real Talk” Letoya shares !!! Phenomenal 💕
I relate this to my coming out story with both my parents at 30. I had my first break up during the pandemic. I didnt understand heartbreak, i had no one to talk to. I was processing emotions like a child and I just wanted my mother and father to tell me itll be okay. The thing was i hide my orientation since childhood. So my second issue was my abandonment of my true self since child hood out of fear of being unloved. That day not only did i get the comfort i needed...i came out and both my parents accepted me. Still lots to unpack but the healing process is my miracle
Whew , Latoya why did you do this to us !!! Wow , this was such a therapeutic conversation. I’ve had a present dad and this has still brought me to tears !
Its such a blessing you could even talk to your Dad I found my biological father at 37 im going on 40 and he actually blocked and ignored my calls it hurt me all over again I so wish I could have that closure even at 40 yrs old.. this had me in tears...
Wow...what a touching and transparent moment. What I am most happy about is that you two got it right before there was a death notice or funeral involved. I salute the both of you bc the repair of the relationship took maturity forgiveness and correction. I am in tears as I watched this bc I am a daddy's girl and I can't image what life would be like without him fathering me. Thank you for sharing!!!!
This was such an honest conversation. Thank you for letting us in and for showing that sometimes as children we have to take the initiative with our parents and be a peacemaker. I love that you were resolved to forgive him and gave him grace so he can be a good grandfather to your children.
I loved this video ❤️ My daddy too was the first man to break my heart and unfortunately me and my father never patched things up before he passed away. (He was very stubborn and set in his ways) I just say to the men with kids, your presence in your child’s life and your dedication really means the world to them. Just keep that in mind.
I understand her totally 100% . Ive always taken care of me and two daughters with the help of God. I’ve never had a man to take care of me and my children. I thank God he helped me stand thru trials, tests and temptations
This conversation was SO beautiful! I am literally sitting here crying. God bless you and your Dad Letoya. I pray that the good LORD gives both of you many more years to make memories together!
This was very relatable! I had some of the same conversations with my father as well in order to heal. I was letting that burden of the past. It helped me me a better parent, because I didn’t want my children to feel that way. We are great now! I’m glad that you have shared such a vulnerable part of your life with the world. It is also nice to see that you two came together and setting your differences aside. Bless your hearts with a lifetime of love, peace, and happiness.
Whoa.That was a lot thanks Latoya for being do transparent.Thanks to daddy for also being so humble and honest...It's great that he is now a better parent to you now in your 40's.God is great.Thank God for Grace
This was so sweet, powerful and beautiful! I smiled, laughed and got so emotional during this episode. I thought about my father raising seven girls and doing the best he could do. Mother not always there, but he was always physically in the home. Sure he had shortcomings, but we all do. Wish he was here to say, "thank you ".
I applaud Toya. So many of us can relate. My absent father lived right in the house with us. Everything looked good to people on the outside locking in. My siblings from other mothers thought we had everything and envied us. It was my mom being the provider. This segment made me cry. The absence does affect your relationships.
This conversation was so beautiful I love how both of you shared but in a respectful way and no one got defensive just healing and I know that took many conversations over the years but this episode will help heal soooo many broken/on pause relationships if we didn’t learn anything during Covid don’t waste time Forgive/ask for forgiveness today life is way to short thank you for this blessing 🙏🏼❤️
❤❤😢 Y’all transparency with us was Beautiful !!! I am a daddy’s girl, but I loss my dad in 2017 and a day doesn’t go by I reflect on a memory of him. ❤️❤️❤️
I love this and so glad you and your dad relationship. Can totally relate on the absence of a father. He acknowledged me but never fathered me. He had passed.
I can definitely relate until I had this kind of conversation with my dad I know I wouldn't have the relationship I have with him now. My parents divorce when I was around 12/13 and I went through basically the same thing. I feel every man and woman needs to watch this interview.
God said, "Such a beautiful spirit who is worthy". It's a pleasure to know the true spirit in the trueness of your presence. So beautiful in every way. Thank you for sharing with us. ❤
As a person who didn’t have either parents as I would have preferred and lost my father before I could reconcile my feelings- this was healing.. thank you for sharing yourself and to your father, thank you for your courage- you spoke for many fathers who may never get the chance or find the words. Thank you both.
A real tear jerker,but I appreciated the realness of your dad. We as children now adults can understand our parents were young and didn't have a clue really about reality and parenting skills, which they had to learn from others, other than their parents. Getting those tru feelings out n being able to forgive is hard when the other parent isn't around or in &out of our lives, forgiveness is hard, but much needed to be able to prosper in life and move on knowing we don't have built in anger towards a person who wasn't in our lives that was supposed to be there. I enjoyed this, and it helped me understand from a man's point of view, since I had a abstinent father myself and still do, but I've forgave him, I'm in my 40's and don't need extra weight holding me back from being a woman without a dad, I had to forgive and move on! I had to understand he didn't have a clue and I'm good with that, he apologized,I'm healed 🙏🏾💯‼️
Girl yes this resonated. I've had these conversations with my dad. As I prepare to marry my fiance, I can finally feel taken care of emotionally by my guy. He's my foundation.
My God, I'm a work and I'm crying, trying not to let these folks see me crying. I needed to see this. I come from a two parent household and my parents are still together. This made me acknowledge (even though I say it often) how great my parents were and are and now how great they are to my husband and my children. I just had to text them both and let them know how much I TRULY appreciate them and love them. I cried again while texting them too. LOL. Thank you LeToya for being transparent.
I don't advocate for forgiving absent parents and mending relationships just because they have aged and soon to cross over to the RIP. They need to take full accountability for their selfish choices since every parent can make a conscious decision to be involved in a child's life whether separated or not.
I really hate how this selfish black men leave their kids for a black woman to sacrifice for and raise and come during their old age ...for what? I hate this forgiveness talk is promoted to black women when no one give bw any 2nd chances.
I agree but I also think it’s important to forgive for you and not for them. My dad wasn’t present and I’ve forgiven him but I don’t have a relationship with him because he continues to be in denial about him not being there.
@@keishacox3735 You don't need forgiveness for yourself for someone's else's wrong choices, one needs to accept , learn and keep moving forward there's always better days
Atieno Odhiambo forgiveness is the main part of the healing process, it also gives closer for all parties involved, another thing is that the Lord wants us to forgive so that we shall be forgiven by him and that we may inherit the kingdom of Heaven, forgiveness is pretty major.
This conversation exhibited vulnerability and purity!!! Love the honesty and bravery from both you and your Dad!!! May this discussion touch someone and give them the strength to forgive and move forward.
Thank You Soo much for this conversation with your father! I'm in tears, I wish I could have this conversation wish my dad when I bring it up I immediately get yelled at and shut down. My mom and were 16 & 17 when I was born , I didn't meet my father until I was 16 and was going through so much at the time a lot of emotions .Thank God your father did sit and talk with you.
Soooo relatable!! I am bawling bc my dad and I are currently losing our relationship/bond bc of the bad habits he has so much more! You’re show is dope! This was beautiful to watch!
Im so glad that you and your Father have a good relationship now.... this talk you had was everything. I cried when he said everything he had left was yours. It broke me. I have lost both parents and I was definitely a Daddy's Girl, when my Daddy died I sunk into a deep depression for months...thankful I've made it through!! I encourage friends and family members that don't have good relationships with Mother's and Fathers to have sit downs such as this oftentimes it can be a blessing. Thank you both for sharing your story...Peace
I kept avoiding this vid because I like many other black chilldren never got to really have a proper relationship with my father. It seems some people that have experienced a lot of trauma lack desire in loving themselves & others.
I’m a 40 year old woman and I reconnected with my Father in 2019 because of my healing process I was able to forgive him. On my own terms I was able to let him no I literally didn’t need him in a father role but I needed to know him as a human being. I literally still address him on first name bases however we are building a relationship on knowing each other’s as adults on the journey. He is the best grand dad and I appreciate it he was literally there when I needed him as an adult in my later years. I’m grateful to God and I love our relationship now
Beautiful and much needed convo. I can definitely relate because I had to forgive my Dad . We have a beautiful relationship now. Thanks for sharing your journey with us.
Definitely needs to be conversations like this with all parents I had many conversations like this with my papi before he passed 😩😪 missing my daddy right now
This is a very powerful episode. Yes I got teary eyed I am proud of her dad for admitting his faults and being able to help her in the end. Reminds me of my dad and how he showed back up in my life and formed a bond with my kids before he passed.
This was beautiful, and as woman in her forties who had her father die when she was 5, I feel everything you talked about. You did help me understand something, why it's so hard for me to stay in a relationship because I have never been provided for by a man. Wow thank you
I so loved this. I cried because I’m a daddy’s girl through and through. But I’m fatherless in a different way. My dad passed away in car accident when i was 12 years old. So my hurt is constant. Because after 12 he was not there for different milestones in my life and i feel like my life turned out differently because he wasn’t here anymore. Thank you for this. I love your channel and i have always been a huge fan of you from day 1.❤️
Healing is so important. Very poignant thing your dad said; God showed up to fill in and speak for him. That's what faith in God will do. Even when you don't have; God has it. So many are lost and bewildered based on lack and not so good choices. But, God always has it! Very touching video.
I found myself crying like this was my moment. So many parents miss out on so much of their childrens life because they have no understanding about life. Our parents were trying to get over their pains and lack of knowledge. It hurts but as adults you learn to sprout to a certain expectation that may or may not lead to a abundantly clearer life of expectancy and understanding. But the clarification is awaken
This made me cry, it made me think about my relationship with my dad or lack there of and why I am the way I am when it comes to relationships. It starts with my first heartbreak and that is my dad, I tell him all the time I forgive him but I never told him how it made me feel and how all his broken promises affected me. I say this to say I really enjoyed this episode
This was beautiful. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things you can do but sometimes the outcome is worth it. I had similar experiences with my Dad as a child. As an adult we now have the best relationship and he’s a great grandfather. God Bless!
I from New Orleans and I love the both of you because this has happened to many times in our community and the fact that you are soo strong Latoya, it made me become more than a fan,I'm your brother. Peace and blessings to you 😘😘🎹🎹😘😘🎹🎹🥂
Wow! I haven't seen Darryl Luckett since i was his neighbor in Stafford. I remember D had taken me to a Motown review to see you perform with destiny's child. I'm so proud to see the elevation he's had with you! Great and inspiring moment! Good deal D! Thanks Latoya for sharing!
I live the same father issues in my life as well. As a young girl my mother and father divorced when I was younger. But my father remarry and move on with his life. He is deceased (2022) but I never had that father/ daughter moments. Be blessed and enjoy your father while he is here on the side. Forgive, Love and be happy . That all the really matter.🙏❤️🙏❤️
I didn’t expect to but I cried watching this. You never know that that fatherless little girl is still crying out even as an adult. I commend your dad for listening to you and allowing you to express your hurt without diminishing your feelings. Such a beautiful conversation
Yaaaaas! Amen 🙏🏾! Bless Latoya & her dad’s relationship. Great conversation!!!
What a joke after all this time of doing absolutely nothing!
That’s beautiful I’d like to get to that point I have the same thing about my dad and I love my dad I will go all out for my dad but I don’t think he see me I don’t never see me but how I would want mountains for my dad but now I love him and he’s at but 82 years old , he’s the only one left
I couldn't have said it any better. 🤎
Sis this one got me as well it home for me in so many ways...
Even as a therapist. This is one of THE best father-daughter conversations that I’ve heard. Thank you for sharing. Blessings on your journey forward!
I’m sharing this to my private group now.
I wish I could have an open convo like this with both of my parents. This is healing.
My mama ain't gone do nothing but argue tooth and nail, and deny, deny, deny or all the sudden have a case of amnesia. Lmao!
@@candicedawson4264 mine talks in riddles🥴😅
@@candicedawson4264 is she a Gemini sounds like mine lmao!! I done started to call her "Dory" since she got amnesia now lol.
I did love to see this convo. I am a girl who was raised with both parents. They were married for 54 years and he passed this year in Feb. I'll be turning 40 on the 25th of this month and have really been on an emotional rollercoaster. Father's are wonderful if they allow themselves to be. I am/was blessed.
Wheeeew Toya, this to close to home for me hun. I swear, even in my 40s my dad's absence is a problem for me. I'm so over him.
I hear the part about forgiveness, but I’m not even ready. Mom was murdered, dad didn’t step up. Threw us on his sister. Had 2 more kids with another woman that ended up in the system. I feel like I’m mad for me and my brothers. Now he has grandkids he don’t know. He can acknowledge everyone but his kids and grandkids and that pisses me the hell off.
I get it for sure
So sad. Pray for him. Nothing you can do. Let go of the anger, he doesn’t deserve that space in your brain. I had too.
@@keishacox3735 so why you praying for him .
Love all of your content, but this one LeToya. So many of us are dealing with “daddy issues”😩we definitely need more discussions like this. I find it’s important for you to know a person’s upbringing in order to get a full understanding of why people are the way they are. Glad you all were able to mend and grow your relationship🙏🏽
Definitely!
This was really great. Thank you for sharing abt your relationship with your dad. I love that you were able to forgive your dad; I know first hand forgiveness start with you(the individual)& that's were true healing starts. Again, thanks for sharing & your doing an amazing job. 👏🏽 ❤💯
Letoya is a beautiful woman and gifted love your music and voice this really is encouraging God bless you 🙏❤️
@@LeaveItToLeToyaWhat became of the mistress ?
This was so good. I too forgave my father. He lived in our house,but still was not there. He never ever said, "I love you". I sent him a card when he was in a nursing home. The nurse said he cried. He died 2 weeks later. I was so glad I forgave him. I found myself with men who treated me like I didn't matter. I see I was going by what I saw/felt from my father. I'm glad you still have the chance to have your parents. Mine have passed away. Keep up the good work.❤️
I’m sad to hear that bout your parents, Dawn i don’t think you are the only one, 90 percent of black women don’t really know how to find love or actually know what it feels like to have a real love.. cause we never received it from our own Fathers, so we continue to pick the wrong men to be with. My new man is God !!!
Girl I am sitting in my parked car in my driveway and you got me out here so long I’m now bawling in the car and even stayed in the car until it started down pour raining and now I’m stuck. Thank you for this video- a lot to take away- my father has passed and I always wished we could have had a conversation like this- very therapeutic- a lot to love about this video❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for your transparency 💕
TySun looks so much like your dad! This was a very therapeutic episode. The episodes just get better and better. Thanks for putting in the time sis.
This is so close to home Toya I’m trying to forgive, my dad for the same thing he has done to our family even in my.late 40s therapy is helping me through this!💜💪🏼⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Yes Sis
Same Thing Here & A Key l’ve Learned From Not Only Toya But Therapy Also.
Having Grace 🙏🏾 ls Key. Along With Becoming A Parent. I Realized WE Don’t Always Have All The Answers. So I Have To Extend Grace As Well As Ask For lt
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@@NYCCHOCOLATE7777 if it wasn’t for my faith in the Almighty I don’t think I’ll be able to speak to my dad, at this given moment in time my siblings and I are trying our best though.
@@hiddenbeauty8769 l So Understand Sis And Agree. But Another Thing l’ve Learned ls Being A Parent ls The HARDEST Job l’ve Ever Had. And No One Gives You An Handbook Or Manual. You Learned By Experience, Life & Environment. That ls Why Understanding, Communication & Grace With LOVE Is Needed.🙏🏾
I am a man that is 44 that has never met my father, I was raised mainly by my aunt and mama. I lost my aunt and mama 5 days apart in 2020. Through therapy and work with a healer, I have learned that my dad did not know how to be a father to me. Also I have learned that my mama did not know how to be a mother. Childhood trauma is real. While my mama was living I tried to have conversations around my feelings and how other family member treated me. Many of those conversations fail on deaf ears. Because of my mama’s life, after the age of 12 she chose not to have empathy for me has a human being. From my perspective I come from a dysfunctional narcessist family structure. Because I had not done the mental work on myself, I never got to have this type conversation with my mama or aunt. I have to forgive my mama every morning so I do not have a bad day. LeToya thank you so much for being honest with your father and allowing the public to see this conversation.
May God Bless You Stay Strong ❤️
Latoya I want to say Thank you for doing this. Sincerely. I am 31 years old southern girl from Louisiana with two kids a 10 year old girl and 8 year old boy and I have never met my dad before he’s from Houston Tx and I am so hurt I carry a lot of pain from that. This episode is really encouraging to me I know I need to meet him but I’m have so many mixed emotions. Thank you again for sharing your story you give me courage.
To clarify I carry a lot of pain for him not being present in my life.
At 23 years old, this really hit home for me Toya 🥺 not only did this video let me know that I’m not alone, but it even encouraged me to forgive. I truly appreciate the authenticity and transparency of your channel 🤍
When I tell you I am crying real tears oh lawdddddd 😭 this help me to heal the inner girl as 36 year woman & someone who desires to forgive my own father and love the time we have left ❤️ thank you Ma’am
I don't have a relationship with my father so I understand how you felt, but yall have me at work fighting tears.
JEZEBEL MOMS RAISE JEZEBEL WOMEN
a man does not just get up and go unless you are married to jezebel let her go confront her mom. My friend had the same issue. He was mad that his dad left. he has anger issues.
His therapist asked him to confront his fears, today him and his dad are closer guess who refused to talk about it, guess who is mad about his new journey HINT - MOM
the problem is not the divorce, the problem is what lies moms tell their kids about their divorce, they turn the dads in to monsters, poison the well for the fathers, poison the kids brain the kids then repeat the sins of the mom, the devil is winning
Watching for only 6 minutes I’m impressed by his acknowledgment of being out of touch. Wow I’m so happy he said that, because we all have these moments because most of us are on autopilot without realizing it. Tuning in is necessary.
I felt it when Letoya said " I never felt like a man fully had my back..
I haven't reached the forgiven process yet..
Every week I look forward to another video from Leave it to LeToya. It’s such a breathe of fresh air to see US as black women doing something positive! Be blessed! ❤️
My dad passed away when I was 14. So he never saw me grow up or meet his grandsons. He remembers me as a child. We never mended our relationship but in my mind I know he loved me. I'm his only child. His sole heir. I look mostly like him. I think me being outspoken at times most likely us him lol. You're fortunate to be able to get another chance at having a relationship with one another.
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This was sooo beautiful! I've always desired to be a daddy's girl, but it never happened for me. In 2020 I decided to face alot of my FEARS, I needed to heal from my daddy issues and trauma. So,I face my GOLIATH. It was the hardest conversation of my life. In the end My father apologized and I was able to start the healing process.
This was so therapeutic and carthetic. It's nice to hear someone take responsibility on both sides for their parts.
I clicked this so fast! I am dealing with Daddy issues at 50! You and your team are doing a great job! Keep up the great work! 💓💓💓
*It was refreshing to see you and your dad have an open difficult conversation. Accountability, acceptance and healing took place*
Thank you! I'm a daughter of a father who was not there and I really needed to hear that so that I can forgive my dad for not being around.
I am moved by the authenticity of this conversation. It’s in these moments that the realness of what many of us have experienced can be shown the way of reconciliation. Thank you and continue to make great and necessary content.
This hit home and hit hard. It's great to see the relationship you have with your Dad. I love the accountability he takes for the mistakes he made.
@Lucy Lash Great question. 😅
This is beautiful. We tried but my father could not go there. But I'm glad to see someone could have a healing process with their absent father. My father died before we could have that healing process occur.
This was heavy but I love it. It’s never to late to have a relationship with your father or mother!!
I loved this..my father died on Mother’s Day this year. We didn’t get to reconcile but I forgave him many years ago and was happy to hear he accept The Lord as his savior before leaving this earth. Sometimes you gotta take a step back and see what our parents went through and extend grace.
I sent this to my children, Because there were so many parts I and them could identify with. You are helping others through your life stories. God Bless you
Speechless but so rewarding to hear the similarities of my father daughter relationship. I loved the transparency and “Real Talk” Letoya shares !!! Phenomenal 💕
I relate this to my coming out story with both my parents at 30. I had my first break up during the pandemic. I didnt understand heartbreak, i had no one to talk to. I was processing emotions like a child and I just wanted my mother and father to tell me itll be okay. The thing was i hide my orientation since childhood. So my second issue was my abandonment of my true self since child hood out of fear of being unloved. That day not only did i get the comfort i needed...i came out and both my parents accepted me. Still lots to unpack but the healing process is my miracle
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If we knew in our twenties what we know now we would all have done something’s differently, such as life.. Tell the truth LeToya…🦋🦋🦋
My baby is a daddy’s girl and I’m so proud of him for being THAT dad
This is a powerful conversation. He owned it and you forgiving him changed both of your lives. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Whew , Latoya why did you do this to us !!! Wow , this was such a therapeutic conversation. I’ve had a present dad and this has still brought me to tears !
Powerful go to the man who was 1st person to break your heart. Your DAD.
Letoya, do you know the gift you just gave into the world! Thank you ♥️♥️♥️
This segment was AWESOME! I love how open and honest LeToya is with her guess and her life. "Leave It To LeToya" is a HIT!
This was amazing to watch!! So glad you and your Dad are back on track.
Its such a blessing you could even talk to your Dad I found my biological father at 37 im going on 40 and he actually blocked and ignored my calls it hurt me all over again I so wish I could have that closure even at 40 yrs old.. this had me in tears...
Wow...what a touching and transparent moment. What I am most happy about is that you two got it right before there was a death notice or funeral involved. I salute the both of you bc the repair of the relationship took maturity forgiveness and correction. I am in tears as I watched this bc I am a daddy's girl and I can't image what life would be like without him fathering me. Thank you for sharing!!!!
This was such an honest conversation. Thank you for letting us in and for showing that sometimes as children we have to take the initiative with our parents and be a peacemaker. I love that you were resolved to forgive him and gave him grace so he can be a good grandfather to your children.
I loved this video ❤️ My daddy too was the first man to break my heart and unfortunately me and my father never patched things up before he passed away. (He was very stubborn and set in his ways) I just say to the men with kids, your presence in your child’s life and your dedication really means the world to them. Just keep that in mind.
This had me in tears when he said what ever I have left is your I felted that #daddysgirl
I understand her totally 100% . Ive always taken care of me and two daughters with the help of God. I’ve never had a man to take care of me and my children. I thank God he helped me stand thru trials, tests and temptations
This conversation was SO beautiful! I am literally sitting here crying. God bless you and your Dad Letoya. I pray that the good LORD gives both of you many more years to make memories together!
This was very relatable! I had some of the same conversations with my father as well in order to heal. I was letting that burden of the past. It helped me me a better parent, because I didn’t want my children to feel that way. We are great now! I’m glad that you have shared such a vulnerable part of your life with the world. It is also nice to see that you two came together and setting your differences aside. Bless your hearts with a lifetime of love, peace, and happiness.
Crying my eyes out love it my Daddy is 75yrs old lost my mom in 2016 so talking to my dad is fun and I'm 50 yrs old
Whoa.That was a lot thanks Latoya for being do transparent.Thanks to daddy for also being so humble and honest...It's great that he is now a better parent to you now in your 40's.God is great.Thank God for Grace
This was so sweet, powerful and beautiful! I smiled, laughed and got so emotional during this episode. I thought about my father raising seven girls and doing the best he could do. Mother not always there, but he was always physically in the home. Sure he had shortcomings, but we all do. Wish he was here to say, "thank you ".
I applaud Toya. So many of us can relate. My absent father lived right in the house with us. Everything looked good to people on the outside locking in. My siblings from other mothers thought we had everything and envied us. It was my mom being the provider. This segment made me cry. The absence does affect your relationships.
So beautiful..nothing like a father daughter bond..unbreakable
This conversation was so beautiful I love how both of you shared but in a respectful way and no one got defensive just healing and I know that took many conversations over the years but this episode will help heal soooo many broken/on pause relationships if we didn’t learn anything during Covid don’t waste time Forgive/ask for forgiveness today life is way to short thank you for this blessing 🙏🏼❤️
I wasn't expecting to cry either, but when he said what I have left is yours. that took me out
I love this and I will admit that I cried too. That father/daughter bond is strong enough to withstand the test of time!
❤❤😢 Y’all transparency with us was Beautiful !!! I am a daddy’s girl, but I loss my dad in 2017 and a day doesn’t go by I reflect on a memory of him. ❤️❤️❤️
I love this and so glad you and your dad relationship. Can totally relate on the absence of a father. He acknowledged me but never fathered me. He had passed.
I can definitely relate until I had this kind of conversation with my dad I know I wouldn't have the relationship I have with him now. My parents divorce when I was around 12/13 and I went through basically the same thing. I feel every man and woman needs to watch this interview.
"Whatever I have left.... it's yours!" 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 My heart!
God said, "Such a beautiful spirit who is worthy". It's a pleasure to know the true spirit in the trueness of your presence. So beautiful in every way. Thank you for sharing with us. ❤
As a person who didn’t have either parents as I would have preferred and lost my father before I could reconcile my feelings- this was healing.. thank you for sharing yourself and to your father, thank you for your courage- you spoke for many fathers who may never get the chance or find the words. Thank you both.
I felt this interview and I feel like I have never received that feeling that someone got me too
A real tear jerker,but I appreciated the realness of your dad. We as children now adults can understand our parents were young and didn't have a clue really about reality and parenting skills, which they had to learn from others, other than their parents. Getting those tru feelings out n being able to forgive is hard when the other parent isn't around or in &out of our lives, forgiveness is hard, but much needed to be able to prosper in life and move on knowing we don't have built in anger towards a person who wasn't in our lives that was supposed to be there. I enjoyed this, and it helped me understand from a man's point of view, since I had a abstinent father myself and still do, but I've forgave him, I'm in my 40's and don't need extra weight holding me back from being a woman without a dad, I had to forgive and move on! I had to understand he didn't have a clue and I'm good with that, he apologized,I'm healed 🙏🏾💯‼️
Girl yes this resonated. I've had these conversations with my dad. As I prepare to marry my fiance, I can finally feel taken care of emotionally by my guy. He's my foundation.
My God, I'm a work and I'm crying, trying not to let these folks see me crying. I needed to see this. I come from a two parent household and my parents are still together. This made me acknowledge (even though I say it often) how great my parents were and are and now how great they are to my husband and my children. I just had to text them both and let them know how much I TRULY appreciate them and love them. I cried again while texting them too. LOL. Thank you LeToya for being transparent.
I don't advocate for forgiving absent parents and mending relationships just because they have aged and soon to cross over to the RIP. They need to take full accountability for their selfish choices since every parent can make a conscious decision to be involved in a child's life whether separated or not.
I really hate how this selfish black men leave their kids for a black woman to sacrifice for and raise and come during their old age ...for what?
I hate this forgiveness talk is promoted to black women when no one give bw any 2nd chances.
I agree but I also think it’s important to forgive for you and not for them. My dad wasn’t present and I’ve forgiven him but I don’t have a relationship with him because he continues to be in denial about him not being there.
@@keishacox3735 You don't need forgiveness for yourself for someone's else's wrong choices, one needs to accept , learn and keep moving forward there's always better days
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Atieno Odhiambo forgiveness is the main part of the healing process, it also gives closer for all parties involved, another thing is that the Lord wants us to forgive so that we shall be forgiven by him and that we may inherit the kingdom of Heaven, forgiveness is pretty major.
This conversation exhibited vulnerability and purity!!! Love the honesty and bravery from both you and your Dad!!! May this discussion touch someone and give them the strength to forgive and move forward.
Thank You Soo much for this conversation with your father! I'm in tears, I wish I could have this conversation wish my dad when I bring it up I immediately get yelled at and shut down. My mom and were 16 & 17 when I was born , I didn't meet my father until I was 16 and was going through so much at the time a lot of emotions .Thank God your father did sit and talk with you.
Soooo relatable!! I am bawling bc my dad and I are currently losing our relationship/bond bc of the bad habits he has so much more! You’re show is dope! This was beautiful to watch!
Glad you gave him grace and forgiveness.
Can you like this more than once..my goodness! Why am I crying? 😢 Such a deep, beautiful, heartfelt conversation. ♥️
Im so glad that you and your Father have a good relationship now.... this talk you had was everything. I cried when he said everything he had left was yours. It broke me. I have lost both parents and I was definitely a Daddy's Girl, when my Daddy died I sunk into a deep depression for months...thankful I've made it through!! I encourage friends and family members that don't have good relationships with Mother's and Fathers to have sit downs such as this oftentimes it can be a blessing. Thank you both for sharing your story...Peace
I kept avoiding this vid because I like many other black chilldren never got to really have a proper relationship with my father. It seems some people that have experienced a lot of trauma lack desire in loving themselves & others.
I’m a 40 year old woman and I reconnected with my Father in 2019 because of my healing process I was able to forgive him. On my own terms I was able to let him no I literally didn’t need him in a father role but I needed to know him as a human being. I literally still address him on first name bases however we are building a relationship on knowing each other’s as adults on the journey. He is the best grand dad and I appreciate it he was literally there when I needed him as an adult in my later years. I’m grateful to God and I love our relationship now
Beautiful and much needed convo. I can definitely relate because I had to forgive my Dad . We have a beautiful relationship now. Thanks for sharing your journey with us.
Beautiful, Dad's that stay struggle to. This was a wonderful conversation. Wish my Father was open enough to be honest.
Definitely needs to be conversations like this with all parents I had many conversations like this with my papi before he passed 😩😪 missing my daddy right now
This is the conversation I always wished I could of had with my father. Thank you for sharing with us. Bless your family💛
This is a very powerful episode. Yes I got teary eyed I am proud of her dad for admitting his faults and being able to help her in the end. Reminds me of my dad and how he showed back up in my life and formed a bond with my kids before he passed.
This was beautiful, and as woman in her forties who had her father die when she was 5, I feel everything you talked about. You did help me understand something, why it's so hard for me to stay in a relationship because I have never been provided for by a man. Wow thank you
I so loved this. I cried because I’m a daddy’s girl through and through. But I’m fatherless in a different way. My dad passed away in car accident when i was 12 years old. So my hurt is constant. Because after 12 he was not there for different milestones in my life and i feel like my life turned out differently because he wasn’t here anymore. Thank you for this. I love your channel and i have always been a huge fan of you from day 1.❤️
Hello Le Toya, this convo was so touching, had me in tears. I'm in my sixties never met my father. Left Jamaica when I was months old.
Healing is so important. Very poignant thing your dad said; God showed up to fill in and speak for him. That's what faith in God will do. Even when you don't have; God has it. So many are lost and bewildered based on lack and not so good choices. But, God always has it! Very touching video.
I found myself crying like this was my moment. So many parents miss out on so much of their childrens life because they have no understanding about life. Our parents were trying to get over their pains and lack of knowledge. It hurts but as adults you learn to sprout to a certain expectation that may or may not lead to a abundantly clearer life of expectancy and understanding. But the clarification is awaken
When he said what I have left is yours that was everything that was everything
Wow this was a tear jerker. I’m so grateful for my parents. I’m glad you could extend Grace.
This conversation and moment is what I desire.
The tears are flowing over here. This was a great convo.
After shedding some tears at the end, I needed to hear Mr. Luckett say "I'm over it"..cuz I truly needed that laugh. Blessings to you both.
Awwww her little boy looks so much like him! ❤️
I can relate to you LeToya. I fill when it comes to relationships, I don’t choose men who have to provide because I got this. I’m independent
This made me cry, it made me think about my relationship with my dad or lack there of and why I am the way I am when it comes to relationships. It starts with my first heartbreak and that is my dad, I tell him all the time I forgive him but I never told him how it made me feel and how all his broken promises affected me. I say this to say I really enjoyed this episode
EXCELLENT!!! Come what may, your Dad is a great man.
At the 8:05 moment Letoya got choked up but she kept it together. If self control was a person !
This was beautiful. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things you can do but sometimes the outcome is worth it. I had similar experiences with my Dad as a child. As an adult we now have the best relationship and he’s a great grandfather. God Bless!
I from New Orleans and I love the both of you because this has happened to many times in our community and the fact that you are soo strong Latoya, it made me become more than a fan,I'm your brother. Peace and blessings to you 😘😘🎹🎹😘😘🎹🎹🥂
Wow! I haven't seen Darryl Luckett since i was his neighbor in Stafford. I remember D had taken me to a Motown review to see you perform with destiny's child. I'm so proud to see the elevation he's had with you! Great and inspiring moment! Good deal D! Thanks Latoya for sharing!
This was so profound and needed! So much healing in one video. Thank you for sharing, Letoya! 🙏🏾❤️
I live the same father issues in my life as well. As a young girl my mother and father divorced when I was younger. But my father remarry and move on with his life. He is deceased (2022) but I never had that father/ daughter moments. Be blessed and enjoy your father while he is here on the side. Forgive, Love and be happy . That all the really matter.🙏❤️🙏❤️