MESSAGE TO NIGERIANS IN DIASPORA

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  • @AishaYesufuTV
    @AishaYesufuTV  Місяць тому +3

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  • @olabodeakinola9849
    @olabodeakinola9849 2 місяці тому +72

    AVOID TOXIC GENEROSITY….:Give once….you elicit appreciation; Give twice…you create appreciation; Give three times….you create expectations; Give four times….it becomes entitlement; Give five times…you establish dependency. Stop giving: you become the enemy.This applies to everything in life. It’s very simple stop enabling your people and focus on yourself…..This is why I always say:TRADITION IS THE ENEMY OF PROGRESS….Food for thought! Be blessed and it is well with you!

    • @stephendufe7838
      @stephendufe7838 2 місяці тому +3

      I learnt this a long time ago.

    • @adeyanjufasan6716
      @adeyanjufasan6716 2 місяці тому +4

      Great traditions boost progress..many of them are the foundation of today’s successful countries and companies….

    • @olabodeakinola9849
      @olabodeakinola9849 2 місяці тому +4

      @@adeyanjufasan6716 , Well, I guess there is a problem of semantic differentials with the word tradition…I wonder what your definition of “great traditions” are! Read it again!

    • @titant2694
      @titant2694 2 місяці тому

      lol 😂 @ toxic generosity

    • @olabodeakinola9849
      @olabodeakinola9849 2 місяці тому

      @@titant2694 ,I guess you can use a simpler version of “toxic generosity”…..Here you go:Teach your folks to carry their own bucket of water, so they may appreciate the value of very drop! I hope it’s simpler enough for you to grasp without”Lol”…..FOPDOODLE.

  • @sarahg.5067
    @sarahg.5067 2 місяці тому +132

    This is not for only Nigerians but all Africans in the diaspora.

    • @inyeneukpong1203
      @inyeneukpong1203 2 місяці тому +6

      True

    • @firstsecrets
      @firstsecrets Місяць тому +1

      ✅ 🚀 ❤ 😎 💜 👉Well articulated

    • @tombimashri8149
      @tombimashri8149 Місяць тому +1

      Truth nd after helping nd helping they will laugh at you nd begging will never stop. People stop worrying abt people back home put yourself FIRST. THIS LADY IS GOOD

    • @firstsecrets
      @firstsecrets Місяць тому

      @@tombimashri8149 Well said

  • @Iyanjebu
    @Iyanjebu 2 місяці тому +89

    Completely agree!......Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm.

  • @judeogbonnaya2975
    @judeogbonnaya2975 2 місяці тому +73

    Most people living in abroad are beginning to wake up. We understand your message. Most people in Nigeria and elsewhere are greedy and heartless especially your family members. Human beings are very difficult to be satisfied. Love from Sydney.

    • @ositadinmaodiligaba4893
      @ositadinmaodiligaba4893 2 місяці тому +5

      Yes my dear, you are absolutely right. I woke up, and I am staying woke for real.

  • @silvernkeirukaiheanetu7290
    @silvernkeirukaiheanetu7290 2 місяці тому +179

    I was living like that, but when I traveled home, I found out that the people I was killing myself to please are living better than me. They have time to rest, to party, every weekend new aso ebi, they eat well enough wear expensive clothes, before I'll buy clothes, I'll think twice about it. All their problems, feeding, school fees, and rent hospital bills are on my head. When I returned back to base, I realized that I had been making a lot of mistakes and that I had not been taking good care of myself. My mentality changed completely. Now, I'm ready to help those who are putting efforts to succeed

    • @AishaYesufuTV
      @AishaYesufuTV  2 місяці тому +26

      Fantastic! That’s always the thing. You that earn the money will think twice before spending those that don’t have no problem spending it with sense of entitlement

    • @nkemdirimiheanacho8764
      @nkemdirimiheanacho8764 2 місяці тому +12

      Aisha, I thank you and will thank you again. I was a nobody to most but since I came here from my independent struggle, people are landing me into mental, financial, and above all my health. Incessant headache as there's never a day, 2 or 3 person must call or send account number not even a text for money with every confidence. Oh myself! Unlearn and learn, please.
      Please, Aisha, if there's a tip on how to learn saying NO, help me and do POST on that 😢.
      Thanks immensely. This an eye opener

    • @stellaike3092
      @stellaike3092 2 місяці тому

      Please, learn to ignore o. Aisha has said it. you cannot help the poor when you are in the grave. A word is enough for the wise. Be wise o.​@@nkemdirimiheanacho8764

    • @silvernkeirukaiheanetu7290
      @silvernkeirukaiheanetu7290 2 місяці тому +19

      @@AishaYesufuTV . It was a great lesson to learn. They asked me why I was looking bad. That I should buy a better wig and buy better clothes to wear. They asked me not to go out until I change my looks. After that trip, I cried and promised to care of ME before others. I’ve not stopped giving because it’s in my nature to give but I don’t allow their entitlement nature to weigh me down anymore. I learnt a lesson. God bless you ma. Keep saying the truth.

    • @EdenHaven
      @EdenHaven 2 місяці тому +7

      How can I give you a hug. My dear eh, after working years eh, I started asking where is my savings? After tax return omo, I gave myself sense

  • @BeeSpace-zr8zj
    @BeeSpace-zr8zj 2 місяці тому +132

    I was working really hard when I came here newly and sending money here and there. At present I have borrowed myself sense. I only do my normal shift and go home, when people call I tell them I do not have.

  • @Ariseheal
    @Ariseheal 2 місяці тому +9

    You cannot help the poor by being in the grave. You nailed it all.

  • @ositadinmaodiligaba4893
    @ositadinmaodiligaba4893 2 місяці тому +64

    Wow! Very profound. My goodness, I can relate to all the points you made. Watching from US. While I was suffering and helping my nephew at ESUT, he was busy defrauding me. When I questioned him, he told me off and stated that “agbasia agua mail.” Meaning after the race, we would count the miles. Mind you he is younger than all my children. Just as you said, I deprived myself just so I can be of assistance, and to have him say that to me really woke me up. Needless to say that he educated me very well.

    • @kene6753
      @kene6753 2 місяці тому +9

      This is also the story of life for several decades one. Any family member I entered any type of business or financial assistance arrangement with has massively defrauded me. I was even massively defrauded by close family members when I was financing the burial of my older brother.
      Yet, I'm the "wicked" one.

    • @Miminawewe7
      @Miminawewe7 2 місяці тому +4

      @@ositadinmaodiligaba4893
      Ndi Igbo have this saying “Ozuni zucha onwe nwa, nwe nwa. Meaning after you have trained someone else’s child, he still remains his father’s.
      God loves you and that why you will always be ahead.

    • @chizobaumeh3571
      @chizobaumeh3571 2 місяці тому +8

      This is really sad my dear. May God help us all. I was doing 3 jobs so I can help. Infact I have brought my brother and his family here and 3 other people are still coming by end of this year. Others are still counting on us to bring them over. I must tell you It's not easy. Imagine Sacrificing without appreciation.

    • @ositadinmaodiligaba4893
      @ositadinmaodiligaba4893 2 місяці тому +2

      @@Miminawewe7 yes my dear, I have heard the saying especially from one of my aunts. I claim your blessing in Jesus name. Amen!!!

    • @zimtaeduke4501
      @zimtaeduke4501 2 місяці тому

      😊​@@Miminawewe7

  • @timipereallison2647
    @timipereallison2647 2 місяці тому +82

    I have been asking my diaspora friends to suspend sending money to their young siblings or friends in Nigeria for at least six months. Only send to perents. By the end of the six months, many of them will come to their senses and face the government. Like Aisha said, our diaspora remittances have made many people unable to confront the government. They don't even care to join protests because they can ask us for money.

    • @a.p4066
      @a.p4066 2 місяці тому +5

      Some parents are even worse than siblings. They use their children as their retirement plan and then it’s like nothing you give them is enough

    • @timipereallison2647
      @timipereallison2647 2 місяці тому +2

      ​@a.p4066 you are right.

    • @mn7024
      @mn7024 Місяць тому

      ​@@a.p4066understandable. I will for parents, especially my mum

    • @oshomaenigwana4527
      @oshomaenigwana4527 Місяць тому

      @@timipereallison2647 Thx I will try that

    • @AnthonyOkeremute-sy7id
      @AnthonyOkeremute-sy7id Місяць тому +1

      I like the way you link the lack of desire to protest to the subject matter

  • @iamjoycelewis
    @iamjoycelewis 2 місяці тому +17

    I am grateful for my parents and siblings, they have never pressured me. My siblings are hard workers and have done well for themselves back in Nigeria. The only people who tried to pressure me with demands were friends and acquaintances, I had to advise myself and avoid them instantly.

    • @gracelawani4332
      @gracelawani4332 2 місяці тому

      Lucky you, i wish i could say the same.

    • @rachaelfadairo3089
      @rachaelfadairo3089 2 місяці тому

      Same here. My family never pressured me it’s friends and acquaintances and some times cousins.

  • @Manatee1996
    @Manatee1996 2 місяці тому +31

    Well said Aisha. Majority of people in diaspora are sacrificial lambs for their family. Many work day & night for many of their families to live good in Nigeria, and eventually degenerate and some even have stokes or die in the process. Many are now learning from others people’s mistakes. Great message

  • @JamesOludipe-tc2wi
    @JamesOludipe-tc2wi 2 місяці тому +22

    I have many stories to back your point,as I mentioned before, you are one of the most brilliant Nigerians.
    Stay blessed.

    • @abinadabagbo1603
      @abinadabagbo1603 2 місяці тому +1

      Please tell us one or two from the stories. Such stories can be very educative.

    • @kene6753
      @kene6753 2 місяці тому +5

      ​@abinadabagbo1603 Every Nigerian or African in the diaspora has numerous such stories. Believe you me, if we all start sharing our experiences, Nollywood, Bollywood, and Hollywood combined would be flooded with movie scripts containing our war stories.

    • @abinadabagbo1603
      @abinadabagbo1603 2 місяці тому +1

      @@kene6753 😂

  • @onwordinkemdipatrick4063
    @onwordinkemdipatrick4063 2 місяці тому +25

    I just love the fact that your love for Nigeria, Nigerians and folks like us who have dependents back home is pure, sincere, true and real. Thank you Mama Yesufu.

  • @clementbabs
    @clementbabs 2 місяці тому +42

    He who have ears - let him/her hear - bitter raw factual truth !

  • @danesisadoh6411
    @danesisadoh6411 2 місяці тому +16

    What a great message. Nigerians in diaspora will do well to take this message seriously. Thank you 🙏🏾

    • @tdi8281
      @tdi8281 2 місяці тому +2

      Yes, It feels like she is forecasting and warning us as a true mother would.

  • @homeandaway2811
    @homeandaway2811 2 місяці тому +13

    The message is not only for Nigerians my sister. Its for almost ALL Africans in diaspora.

  • @chidinmaekwe3236
    @chidinmaekwe3236 2 місяці тому +5

    I’m truly emotional at how this priced Jewel of a sister Aisha has schooled all of us. Thank you so much darling. Remain blessed.🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @sophiabasil6065
    @sophiabasil6065 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you Aisha for putting this out here. You have saved a soul.

  • @eechaze12
    @eechaze12 2 місяці тому +7

    God bless you. You hit the nail on the head. Nothing wrong with helping but people back home need to roll their sleeves and work. Before you keep sending money to an adult ask him what he is doing for himself.

  • @blessingamadi286
    @blessingamadi286 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you, Aisha. I listened to this while on night shift, losing sleep so as to help others, I have to think twice

    • @KINGSLEYOLIVERADIZUE
      @KINGSLEYOLIVERADIZUE 15 днів тому

      HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE YOU HELPED, AS A PERSON OVER SEAS, SOME OF US DON'T DO YOUR MILLION TIMES SHIFT, BUT WE STILL HELP PEOPLE SO, SO MUCH BETTER. TELL ME, HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE YOU PAID THERE SCHOOL FEES, FROM SECONDARY TO UNIVERSITY, HOW MANY DO YOU PAY HOUSE RENT FOR, HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE IN YOUR MONTHLY PAY ROLL, BOTH YOUR RELATIONS AND NON RELATIONS. ALL THIS I DO HERE AND I AM NOT POOR OR BEGING FOOD AND AM NOT COMPLAINING.

  • @ng.kemzie7506
    @ng.kemzie7506 2 місяці тому +8

    Wise counsel as always. Thanks Aisha, You're absolutely right. I wish many more of the diasporans would have the opportunity to listen to this kind advice and learn. It's truly tempting and tedious for them abroad. Bills to pay , families back home at their own health risks.

  • @deewalgroup6015
    @deewalgroup6015 2 місяці тому +14

    Nagode Mama na. You can't help the poor by becoming poor. And you can't help the poor by being in the grave! Words on marble!

  • @annieajibola4246
    @annieajibola4246 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you Aisha for your words of wisdom, I’m based in the UK for over 42 years and I have always behaved like “I before others” and family extended members waged wars against me because wasn’t ready to kill my self for them when I know that they were doing very well even better I was when was working my fingers to the bones. I appreciate all that you said and I hope our people in the diaspora listen and take it on.👍❤️you are a⭐️

  • @yombehm4098
    @yombehm4098 13 днів тому

    Thanks for making this video, Madam Aisha. What a great wisdom! May Allah increase His blessings upon u. Truly delivered. 😅

  • @Franc-scholly2519
    @Franc-scholly2519 2 місяці тому +51

    I know what u re saying dear Aisha, 15 years ago i left Nigeria i nearly developed Bp from demands and stories from families and friends. I continued struggling to meet their demands until i sat down for introspection, then i realized the ppl i am losing my sleep for are living better, then i withdrew to look after myself. Since then, i have peace, though i omly help when i want and when the need comes.
    Some of them were angry with me that they stopped calling.
    I can say i know better now.
    Thanks for the advice

    • @TongTong-rh3br
      @TongTong-rh3br 2 місяці тому +3

      At this stage too 4 years on..
      and how dare you even try to explain to them that you also have bills, problems and targets 😅??
      It's baffling, but also a relief when someone deletes my number just because I said "sorry, I don't have".

    • @AigbeAustin
      @AigbeAustin 2 місяці тому

      @@TongTong-rh3br
      What will happened when you take one of these your family members to abroad? But you can club, travelled, spend money on men that will still leave you. Help just one person in your family and let the person also help another family member to abroad, things will change in your family and stop all these nonsense capping. Selfish being.

    • @TongTong-rh3br
      @TongTong-rh3br 2 місяці тому

      @@AigbeAustin please explain more sir you're making a point

    • @a.p4066
      @a.p4066 2 місяці тому +2

      @@AigbeAustin
      Is abroad heaven? You make it sound like once people get abroad they automatically become self-sufficient. This is the entitlement mentality that puts people off

    • @AigbeAustin
      @AigbeAustin 2 місяці тому

      @@a.p4066
      People migrated to other countries because their own country like Nigeria had failed them. If you like abandoned your family because of Aisha advice. If abroad was not better why did you left. Selfish set of people, nobody is entitled and don't feel proud because you are out of Nigeria. Tomorrow still get belle. Don't play

  • @carlosarugue9543
    @carlosarugue9543 2 місяці тому +8

    Absolutely! Thank you Aisha, you hit the nail right on the head

  • @victoryalltheway.
    @victoryalltheway. 2 місяці тому +9

    Thank you madam Aisha, Nigerians need to stand up and these criminals destroying Nigeria accountable.

  • @soyebigrace8264
    @soyebigrace8264 16 днів тому

    Aisha you got this right 100%. Ypur advice is well taken . God bless

  • @DiplomatKBBaba
    @DiplomatKBBaba 2 місяці тому +8

    Well spoken ! Well articulated! Well communicated ! Thanks for the advice . We appreciate and celebrate you

  • @donic97
    @donic97 2 місяці тому +7

    Always make sense.... Much appreciated and loved🌹

  • @GodFirst7479
    @GodFirst7479 2 місяці тому +25

    UA-cam just brought this up. I'm reading a book " Super Helper Syndrome" just to protect myself from those demanding family members and even friends here abroad. My empathy and willingness to help people has made me almost develop a Super Helper Syndrome. God has opened my eyes and showed me that I'm helping the wrong people. I still like to donate to the less privileged people and I used to have a sponsor child in Ghana for years. Now I will be getting another in any country God leads me. I've not spoken to my family in Nigeria for 2 years, because when I do which I will soon. I will ask them: Did you die without me ? 😊 They were all acting as if they will die if I don't give. Me after 25 years in Europe I'm going from one vacation to another just to pamper myself. Sitting at the beach playing my favourite music ❤

    • @zeezeebo
      @zeezeebo 2 місяці тому +4

      Same here, Nigerian in the United States for 32 yrs, I was 24 when I immigrated and started working and schooling within one month of arrival. All I did was sent them money, money, money, money back home. I’ve cut down and started taking vacations to relax. I’ve visited 5 countries so far and I’m going to 2 Asian countries in early December. My first ever cruise is coming in June 2025. Yes, I’ve a couple of orphans I sponsor

    • @GodFirst7479
      @GodFirst7479 2 місяці тому

      @@zeezeebo Very proud of you 🤗You are doing the right thing. God bless you and keep you safe !! I left Nigeria when I was barely 18 years old. Greetings from Andalusia Spain. But I live in Germany ♥️✌️

    • @BerthaAkagbue
      @BerthaAkagbue 2 місяці тому

      Way to go

    • @hartgodson9863
      @hartgodson9863 12 днів тому +1

      Thank you for that title " Super Helper Syndrome". I just got a copy from the county library. I just buried a cousin who died of cancer all the while bankrolling unappreciative family members back home. In death they did not contribute a cent but are sitting demanding for bounty distribution.

    • @GodFirst7479
      @GodFirst7479 5 днів тому

      @@hartgodson9863 My dear I'm so sorry...We are all learning a big lesson 🧡🙏

  • @afrikanheritage99
    @afrikanheritage99 2 місяці тому +5

    Beyond wisdom 🙌
    Thank you so much, my sister, for this wonderful advice that some of us needed to hear. I supported some of my siblings for more than 10 years, helping with their children's tuition and annual rent . I put them in a monthly payroll, and those siblings get so comfortable they don't want to help themselves. I cut them off to start putting more money into my retirement savings.
    I am 57 now, and most of my earnings went to family support.
    Once again, thank you so much.

  • @konkwoizzy
    @konkwoizzy 2 місяці тому +5

    It's just like you spoke to me directly Madam Aisha. May God bless you for reminding us what's necessary. I know it's not easy to implement, but I will have to try.
    Yeah, I know I have seen you once in ABDN before.

  • @benjaminiremiren6263
    @benjaminiremiren6263 2 місяці тому +4

    Don't think I have ever subscribed to any youtuber, but this advice made me do it. One greatest piece of advice that really touched me. Thanks a lot for this.

  • @ChichiBrownInspired
    @ChichiBrownInspired 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you Ma, your caption from UA-cam made me watch this and also my first time watching your videos. You gained a subscriber today. In fact, my sister was recently in Nigeria and was showing me our people and how they're are all relaxed and looking healthy and living their lives without stress. This has been our discussion for the past few days. That made us sit down and think about ourselves over here. We are now learning to slow down with work and stress. Driving cars and living in good houses. Imagine they all look well and live better than us living here in Europe. Sadly, we can't even go to shops and buy what we want over here. The truth is that once you live abroad, they see you as a milking machine. Even at their comfortability they still look at you to send or give them money or any way to extort from you once they learn you came from abroad. This their mentality need to change. I have more sad stories about family members in my mouth, but I will end it here 🥵

  • @JamesOludipe-tc2wi
    @JamesOludipe-tc2wi 2 місяці тому +5

    You said it all , that’s why I love your show very much, I live in the USA for many years and I know very well what you’re saying, may the Lord God almighty bless you and your family in Jesus Christ name amen.

  • @hyginusafanna3744
    @hyginusafanna3744 2 місяці тому +5

    God bless you ma, you are always on point. I will leave to see when you will be our minister of finance.

  • @emmanueljohnson8983
    @emmanueljohnson8983 2 місяці тому +19

    It’s hard but hell. Block anyone trying to put pressure on you and thank me later. That’s the best therapy you can give yourself. They will be alright

    • @everydayhen
      @everydayhen 2 місяці тому +2

      😂🤣😂

    • @MrNkyphil
      @MrNkyphil 2 місяці тому

      Well said!. I've been doing it & I don't waste time in blocking anyone. My health & peace of mind first before any other thing.

    • @beatriceajayi4970
      @beatriceajayi4970 2 місяці тому

      That it's what I do often. I only pick one child from each of my sibling and pay there school fees .Any other demands/pressure block.😮

  • @ekehpaschal2045
    @ekehpaschal2045 2 місяці тому +8

    The BEST VIDEO LESSON OF THE CENTURY ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
    THANK YOU JESUS

  • @BlackJournals
    @BlackJournals 2 місяці тому +2

    Thanks for the advice, but please increase the volume of the video in the future

  • @bayoosa-emmanuel2613
    @bayoosa-emmanuel2613 2 місяці тому +7

    Thanks so much madam Aisha... this is a recurring experience in the UK, where i reside... it's sometimes the "pressure", from back home, alongside the meeting up of bills to be paid... it's, so pathetic,that, some went into loans to getting down here...I, hope and pray,that these family members understand the true situation... Thanks for speaking for us...May Allah (SAW), continue to endow you and your family...

  • @roxyene
    @roxyene Місяць тому

    Words on Marble!!!!!. Especially the part of not being able to climb when people are depending on you or holding your legs; pullung and limiting your flight. Thank you Mama Aisha. God bless you.❤❤❤

  • @RealJulianaInspiration
    @RealJulianaInspiration 2 місяці тому +1

    Excellent advice; thanks for sharing. You have a new subscriber. The Nigerian mentality and extended family dependency are dragging us down; people have become lazy and focusless.

  • @joanomoruyi862
    @joanomoruyi862 2 місяці тому +4

    Madam Aisha thank you very much for this great advise may God bless you richly.

  • @ugowilo5712
    @ugowilo5712 2 місяці тому +25

    I do out of town job, 14 days on and 7 days off, on my days off I do nothing, and I don't do 2 jobs anymore...

  • @MrLAPAZ
    @MrLAPAZ 2 місяці тому +7

    I once gave a friend 10k naira and that money came to him after my rent was paid in the USA 🇺🇸, we all know how it goes and his response was "thanks for the token" I felt insulted, only if he knew I sacrificed to give him that... since then I turned back and faced my front...

    • @Ekpe1Angwan
      @Ekpe1Angwan 16 днів тому

      What did you do for heating?

  • @noahrachael1821
    @noahrachael1821 2 місяці тому +3

    You nailed this. Exactly what is happened to me.thank you for this advice

  • @jenniferiyah9302
    @jenniferiyah9302 2 місяці тому +5

    Thank you ma for this message this is all I needed to hear

  • @ajahstephen3954
    @ajahstephen3954 2 місяці тому +1

    Aisha Yusuf, God bless you for this wonderful advice. I wish our people would work with that.
    A word is enough for the wise.

  • @reginaejekpokpo4828
    @reginaejekpokpo4828 2 місяці тому +5

    Very profound to our day to day and experiences from family members and friends back home in Nigeria. They own cars when some of us in diaspora don't any. We move about by city buses and trains. God bless you Aisha.

  • @chizobaumeh3571
    @chizobaumeh3571 2 місяці тому +9

    My dear sister what you said is the truth. I have learned to say I don't have. Sometimes I don't even sleep just to make more money to send back home. After I came back from vacation, I decided to maintain my full time job because I had 3 jobs for this same reason. All my life I have put myself Last and put others first. Something in me told me this year to take care of yourself. I can help but not to my detriment.

    • @queenofthenile2485
      @queenofthenile2485 Місяць тому

      If you die or get bed ridden they will find a way to survive. Please care for yourself.

  • @osemwengieomede8379
    @osemwengieomede8379 2 місяці тому +4

    Thank you very much for this message. Someone was counting my years. I have learnt a lot. Thanks

  • @TaiwoOgunbayode-f2h
    @TaiwoOgunbayode-f2h 2 місяці тому +6

    Givers need to set a limit because takers haven't got limit. They will continue to ask till thy kingdom comes!

  • @igwechriso4931
    @igwechriso4931 2 місяці тому +7

    God bless you my dear sister, you just said it all

  • @LukeOkoye-ib1se
    @LukeOkoye-ib1se 2 місяці тому +3

    Aishaaaa! Thank you so much. You are really a sister, a blessing. God bless you.

  • @MrOgom
    @MrOgom 2 місяці тому +2

    Aisha I really want to thank you for all you have been doing for Nigeria and your advice for us in diaspora and may God Almighty continue to protect and bless you as long as you are alive. We have learned our lesson about the people back home .

  • @martinokeke5457
    @martinokeke5457 2 місяці тому +3

    Madam Aisha thank you multiple times for your wonderful advice to us.

  • @johnedokpayi4051
    @johnedokpayi4051 2 місяці тому

    Good video. I never knew you were so full of wisdom.

  • @nimolion1564
    @nimolion1564 2 місяці тому +2

    Aisha I love you sooo much! Thanks immensely for THIS admonition 👍💝

  • @danielokoro
    @danielokoro 2 місяці тому +1

    Thanks!

  • @doctordodo3742
    @doctordodo3742 2 місяці тому

    THANK YOU AISHA. ALLAH YA QARA MIKI ALBARKA (MAY ALLAH INCREASE HIS BLESSINGS UPON YOU).

  • @jaziny_insight
    @jaziny_insight 2 місяці тому +3

    Timely message Ma'am, God bless you for your show of love.

  • @toniyke1698
    @toniyke1698 2 місяці тому +2

    Aisha you're an angel. God bless you. The message is clear, well delivered and received by me.

  • @jennifercordb7252
    @jennifercordb7252 2 місяці тому +3

    Ma...thank you so much for this great cousel..much ❤❤

  • @sundaysamsun3385
    @sundaysamsun3385 2 місяці тому +14

    That's what i have been dealing with for the last 17 years i left Nigerian to the US. And they feel entitled and talk crab about you when they ask and you said you don't have they forget the good stuff you have done for them. When i say am sick and still working to help they will think you lieing i have put all full stop to it and don't care what you say about me it don't change me.

    • @whymillie
      @whymillie 2 місяці тому +1

      Free yourself. Freedom is the value of love we give to ourselves

  • @iyke3155
    @iyke3155 2 місяці тому +14

    Aisha is almost always on point. Well done

  • @ofodileonyekajohn9943
    @ofodileonyekajohn9943 2 місяці тому +2

    Thanks Aisha for this wonderful advice

  • @floa7768
    @floa7768 2 місяці тому +4

    Very well said. Thank you. I have learnt to say NO with ease

  • @TheLegend-uq1gz
    @TheLegend-uq1gz 2 місяці тому +19

    And the sad part of this, some of the people you are sending money to in Nigeria are building houses & hiding it from you so that you don’t stop sending money to pay for their kids university education. One of my brothers has 2 houses and yet I get called for school fees, medical bills, this & that. I have reduced what I send home drastically.

  • @seyijoseph8125
    @seyijoseph8125 2 місяці тому +2

    Thanks. What a powerful advice 👏 God bless you and increase you more in wisdom 🙏

  • @wilfredeze2436
    @wilfredeze2436 2 місяці тому

    Aisha, may God bless you. This video will save lots of lives. I live here in Texas and you are just 💯% correct. Thank you once again.

  • @mosesobidiegwu291
    @mosesobidiegwu291 2 місяці тому +6

    Free advice but worth billions. Thanks

  • @frankimrana3158
    @frankimrana3158 Місяць тому

    Aisha this is a good counsel to those in diaspora,I wish Nigeria recognize your worth and make you a Nigeria Ambassador or minister of foreign affairs in Nigeria God bless you from Bishop Dr Frank. Imrana Ojehunme (JP Ph.D.) in Benin

  • @jennymagicupcomingsuccess8490
    @jennymagicupcomingsuccess8490 2 місяці тому

    Words of wisdom, thank you madam people need this advice to learn hear and fo with it

  • @Hey_me
    @Hey_me 2 місяці тому +2

    I think our parents are actually the problem as most of us are just trying to please them by helping out those who are draining us. I can remember telling my mum that I want to cut off my siblings dependency on me but she always comes up with this story of how the one that managed to succeed has to carry the rest. Then my question is if I keep doing this and one day I could no longer, who do they turn to for help? Why can't they learn to help themselves?
    Helping people back home is NOT in fact, a help. We have turned them into lazy beggars. And if we do not break off from them, we will either be dragged back into poverty or be carried off in a body bag.
    I think that most of us in the diaspora are shedding the same tears and having realized what our problems are, most of us are ready to break that yoke into freedom and peace. Pray for us.

  • @Neddie2k
    @Neddie2k 2 місяці тому +37

    A few years ago we lost a brother here in the UK, he worked a night shift, got home slept and never woke up. He left a young child behind. Like you said, his family back in Nigeria have moved on. This is a lesson to the rest of us.

    • @oluwafemioladeji
      @oluwafemioladeji 2 місяці тому +5

      ​@@AigbeAustin if is easy run nam

    • @tanasun1161
      @tanasun1161 2 місяці тому +16

      ​@AigbeAustin this your emotional blackmail will not work in this time and forward. Lazy people everywhere

    • @AigbeAustin
      @AigbeAustin 2 місяці тому

      @@tanasun1161
      Can you survive in Nigeria with a work of 80k as a graduate with family and children? Someone lend you hand to get to the place you are now, why not do the same for your family. You can club, buy things you don't really want but you can not send money to your family to survive Nigeria hardship. God is watching.

    • @mylifeisinhishandsamen4167
      @mylifeisinhishandsamen4167 2 місяці тому

      ​@@AigbeAustinYou are one of those beggars

    • @czogg99
      @czogg99 2 місяці тому +4

      @@AigbeAustinlike you have bought a cup of gari and given it to your relatives abroad. . 😂😂😂😂

  • @owanateerekosima1895
    @owanateerekosima1895 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so much, Madam Aisha, for this video . God bless you.

  • @VictoriaAmadi-d9b
    @VictoriaAmadi-d9b 2 місяці тому +1

    Thankyou my Great Sister - As usual you come out with true realistic talk. True advice and very apt. God bless you

  • @oriobosaawanle9487
    @oriobosaawanle9487 2 місяці тому

    Thank you amazing woman. You're a blessing to this generation and you said it all

  • @princessdianeamaize1312
    @princessdianeamaize1312 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you so much my dear sister for saying the truth. God bless you 🇳🇬 🇺🇸 😘👍🏾🙏🏽

  • @mo1n2o3
    @mo1n2o3 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you my sister for this wonderful pot cast. I quite understand what you said. I’m a Nigerian woman in Canada.I have been practicing what you said.I used my head and strength properly for the fifty years lived in Canada.I gave my children good education and looked after my self. and helped a bit of my relatives .Nigerians listen to to this lady,you can not go to your grave with money or cars.When you die the people you helped will forget you that is if they have not even forgotten you while you are still living.

  • @TheWeirdoinchains
    @TheWeirdoinchains Місяць тому

    Thank you. I am glad my mum has people she can trust and our family live well, and now there are things to show for it, but honestly as her child, the day she can go back to Nigeria and enjoy her sacrifices I’d be happy. No need to suffer in the U.K. without a full support system.

  • @silverokoro8161
    @silverokoro8161 2 місяці тому

    My sis you are very right may God help us over hear you know what l like when talking is ovvevekuve one love❤

  • @Yessy-b3h
    @Yessy-b3h 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for valuable advice! Thanks.

  • @obyanyikwa1427
    @obyanyikwa1427 2 місяці тому

    Thank you. Wise counsel. I love you 💞

  • @inusaabdullahi4294
    @inusaabdullahi4294 2 місяці тому

    Aisha, you spoke directly to me. Thank you and I must learn from everything you said.

  • @joycee696
    @joycee696 2 місяці тому +2

    The bitter truth 😢
    Thank you, sister, for sharing this truth . Much love ❤

  • @FrancescoBarbera-i1k
    @FrancescoBarbera-i1k 2 місяці тому +1

    I really appreciate this message.
    God bless you richly.
    U are right.
    Am just waking up now after many years.

  • @ngozikanduaguba7333
    @ngozikanduaguba7333 2 місяці тому +1

    There's a greater joy in giving than in receiving. But only the living can give. Those that are dead cannot give!

  • @jj249761
    @jj249761 2 місяці тому

    My dear, Thank you for your warm advice God bless you.

  • @ginikatalks
    @ginikatalks 2 місяці тому +1

    I am working to pay my own bill first, they should call me selfish😂
    Thank you for the message maam ❤!
    I will be resting and taking care of myself better 🙌

  • @LadyJaneAnams
    @LadyJaneAnams 2 місяці тому +4

    You are so true my lovely sister I'm one of those people you are telling this, but I will stop. God bless you.

  • @nwachukwu54
    @nwachukwu54 2 місяці тому +8

    Thank you Aisha.

  • @AbdulB-z7b
    @AbdulB-z7b 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for this wonderful wisdom message.

  • @bamikai.w1383
    @bamikai.w1383 2 місяці тому

    THANK YOU MA, YOU ADVICE IS REALLY USEFUL EVEN THOUGH SOME OF US WITH WEAK MIND FIND IT DIFFICULT TO SAY NO WHEN THEY KEEP CALLING CONSTANTLY, BUT THANKS FOR THE GREAT ADVICE ONCE MORE

  • @edirinomoefe5185
    @edirinomoefe5185 2 місяці тому

    Thank you, my sister. You're dam, right!!!!
    God bless you for speaking the truth.

  • @babssloans7945
    @babssloans7945 2 місяці тому

    Best video ever, thank you so much
    Much love from newjersey

  • @judeuchenna-no9hx
    @judeuchenna-no9hx 2 місяці тому

    Aisha, i love you with all my heart. God bless you a trillion times. This video has made my day and has taught me plenty of things. God bless you my sister

  • @ugoericRedeemed
    @ugoericRedeemed 2 місяці тому

    I sincerely appreciate this piece of advice. Thank you so much.