Dear fellow Intoverts: My girlfriend and I are both intoverts, and we are both so lucky we found each other. Small talk? Nope. We thrive on the deep conversations that help us grow. We thrive on peace and quiet. We are alone, but together. Mahalo so much for this personal and insightful video. We are smiling and nodding with you Kind Introvert:-) Keoki and Kate
I just need to find me a fellow introverted female and perhaps I can enjoy the sort of blissful relationship that you guys (as well as Malalma and her husband) have too 😁
@@stevethomas74I wish I’d known I was an introvert from a young age, instead I felt like something was wrong with me and I should change to fit in. I’ve been with an extrovert for 22 years and it’s affected my mental health in quite a big way. I dream of meeting someone and going on quiet walks together and having them accept me for who I am, and being able to live the life we want to, together.
@@Sarah-ft8jr Hi there Sarah - Wow. that's quite a heady admission there if you don't mind my saying so?! 😯 I can totally relate to feeling like there was/is something 'wrong' with you. I think that's quite a common thing for both introverts and/or Highly Sensitive People (HSP) which is what I class myself as. And it's even HARDER as a man, because we're supposed to be stoic (I am more quietly stoic) and not sensitive to stuff, but I've found it (and find it) quite tiring to try and keep up a bit of a 'fascade' on that front. That's why I love it when I talk to or meet people who are like-minded. It reminds me that I'm not alone 🙂
When I am alone, I feel a greater connection to myself. I think clear, see my path brighter, and feel a great calmness in my heart. It is a wonderful, peaceful feeling. Even my art is better when I am alone, without distractions. I can't stand negativity. I am very sensitive to it. I see it as a poison. I rather just walk away, and never talk to them again. How you explained an introvert in this video, is spot on.
You're such a cool person! I'm a introvert as well with no friends, and let me tell you. It's the best feeling in the world! Focusing on yourself, no drama, save all the money for yourself, and you can make all the choices you want without anyone's approval! I'm glad you're helping other introverts out there! Introverts are the best!
Yeahh it's better to be alone than to be with someone else so that no one can hurt you and disturbed you and also I completely understand that being an introvert it is not easy because we can't let it go easily when small things happen :) I'm an extremely introvert too :) I talked but not that much and I feel lonely to be in a crowd and yes I just don't like people but as human beings we can't do anything all alone we need help from other people too and yes I've anxiety of being judge by other people for being an introvert but I never gave up in my life and I never gave and excuses for that feelings to feel and Yes I get hurt easily but I'm trying my best to make myself happy and I just believe in myself and I be myself 🧘♀️I'm proud for being an extremely introvert girl:)
This was so beautifully articulated....I'm an introvert and most of my friends ..including my husband is an extrovert and I just love the way they light up the room with their conversations which I enjoy and they have told me in turn that they appreciate my insights and creativity as an introvert ...we truly do need both ...thanks for your video😊
I’m an introvert, I keep my circle of people that are close small. To be honest, I don’t have much interest in trivial conversations, or small talk. Spend most of my time with my dog.☺️ Thx for the video.
When I say I’m an introvert people would respond to me like “i’m an intorvert too. I like staying home and being quiet” but then they don’t stop talking about so many senseless things. We, introverts, are most of the time mistaken as someone who “just likes being alone or shy or someone who prefers to stay home”. I’m an introvert and I love going on adventures. Either alone or with the someone or two who are closest to me. I can’t stand small talks, gossips and negativity. They drain my energy. I admit that I sometimes feel alone and lonely but still, being alone is the best way for me to recharge and heal. I love being an introvert.
I am a hardcore introvert. I wish my upbringing was one of acceptance and empowerment. Instead I felt forced being in an extroverted world. Introverts are a gift to this world. We have a strong intuition and know when to shine our light. I now know why I was drawn to your channel. Your energy is beautiful and feel like I have a kindred spirit that walks this journey with me even though we are miles apart. You inspire me and are a great comfort to my frazzled nervous system that lives in an extroverted environment daily. Thank you for shining your light and unique gifts with the world. Blessings
Great video Sophie! Introversion is often misconstrued as being shy or lacking confidence and I think that’s more the case in western nations where society is conditioned to favour extroverted behaviour. Susan cain’s book, Quiet, is a great read on this subject!
Many people think I'm an extrovert but I am in fact an introvert. I just feel like we live in a world that favors extroverts so whenever I am at work and such, I present myself as such. I just want to be given the same opportunities as other people and this is what I have to do
I am an introvert most of the time, but I can be an extrovert when I want to. Thank you for explaining the benefits of being introverted. I had a professor who made me feel bad because I wasn’t the most chatty person in my group for projects. I tried to explain that I didn’t know my group members very well and I preferred to listen to others and process. It wasn’t until I went to go on to graduate school that I had another professor who understood this completely and made me feel normal. She was in the counseling field, so I think she understood different types of people better. We all have something different to bring to a group, but that is what makes it interesting.
I am an extrovert. I respect the introverts, many of my friends are like that, also my family and my bf. I speak a lot sometimes,so it's difficult when they remain silent. I have learnt to accept this difference and not judge it like others. Introverts are very strong people and they keep your secret forever. They have a passion for many things and great advice to give you. Personally I love to be with a different type of personality next to me than a similar one. It's more interesting!
I’m an introvert and only really understood it a few years ago. I wish I could have known myself better as It could have saved me decades of pain wondering why I’m not like the others. Now I embrace it and see it as a power. It’s ok not to want to be around others all the time and not have to make a huge mark on the world. Liberating
"You've created boundaries for yourself, and the world should honor it." I have started setting boundaries for myself and those around me, and it has truly made a difference to my mental health and well-being. Love this video.
"You've created boundaries for yourself, and the world should honor it." I really benefited from this simple but impactful reminder. In world where boundaries are constantly being pushed, personally and professionally, I needed the reminder that boundaries should be honored. I sincerely appreciate your content, and the ending to this video most of all.
Hey Sofia, This is pretty relatable. I'm an introvert but as you mentioned I never felt alone too and people are sceptical about the things that we revolve around, nevertheless being an introvert never makes me regret about anything. And, I'm just in love with all your videos. Do upload more videos than usual if possible, I'll be waiting to know more. Thank you so much. Loads of love.❤
As always, thank you for this, Sophie. I am an introvert myself and for years, people around me, sadly even ones in my family, have made me believe that there was something wrong with me for preferring AND craving solitude. But now, with the help of videos like this, I am slowly moving away from the shame people tell me I should feel and into appreciation and celebration of my uniqueness as an individual.
Story of my life! Explained perfectly. Sometimes this introverted side of me gets called stuck up but this is exactly how I feel sometimes and it's not wrong. We need to recharge ourselves sometimes and some don't understand that. 😔
This video and explanation hits the nail on the head. Introverts are often misunderstood and are seen as intimidating, hateful, not friendly etc. However, its quite the opposite. When we warm up to a person, is when we are able to freely express ourselves. Until then, we're either just shy, or unsure of how to have silly little chit chat. Myself, i rather enjoy deeper conversations, ones that have meaning and purpose. That also doesn't mean i hate those little silly chats, i just don't know how to keep up with them. Thats what drains me in a large crowd
Beautiful. This is where Socrates' expression, "know thyself" feels so important. I cherish my introversion and feel more deeply at peace understanding my inherent needs. I think it's something to celebrate, because so often it lends itself to soulful and artistic expression, not to mention deeper realms of relationship.
Hi Sophie. You describe us introverts so well. I find I need to spend time alone after dealing with people. Being out in nature really helps me unwind and recharge. Our little community sure has grown. Congrats on 250K subscribers!
Dear Sophie, this video is literally me. I love myself the way I are, but not the way I am towards other people, especially "friends". At 29, I feel like I don't have any friends. I lost some of my "good" friends over the years. I struggled with very bad anxiety the past two years, so that I'd cancel on meet-ups, sometimes even last minute. I wasn't a great friend at times, but when you needed me I always tried to be there as good as I can. The girls I used to be with, were very gossipy and we would also hardly see each other. I feel like I've lost myself when I lost my one and only best friend in 2017. We had the most amazing connection for around 5 years. We'd see each other at least once a week and hang out all the time. She betrayed me and was talking very bad behind my back until it came out. I was crushed and immediately over the friendship as gossiping is the no go for me. The trust is immediately gone. So ever since I had a few friends here and there, but we only met up because we were single and got out of the house that way when we were together. This other girl got really close to me and we had an amazing friendship, we've known each other since childhood but always lost contact over the years. And again, we lost contact when we had some again for a few months and I was crushed again. I'd also hang around her place and we'd go out all the time. And then it was over again. All these experiences made me question myself. Am I the bad guy? What is wrong with me that people just easily leave me like that. I focused my time on the other friends I had but it never felt like I found my one and good friend. I'd see my past friendships all the time, but these here were very distanced and more of an online friendship and would meet up here and there. I lost those friendships due to my very very bad anxiety, I felt misunderstood and judged. Again of course, they talked very negatively behind my back and said very nasty things about me. Ever since, I try to understand why people don't want to be my friend but also why I just cannot click with people as my past best friends who betrayed or left me. I've never ever felt such a connection with someone again, and I hope one day I'll find my person or my group. I just feel like most people don't get me, or they think I'm weird because I don't like partying no more, no drinking, not going out until 6am. I prefer reading, being by myself, watching content that brings me to the next level, be out in nature... I often feel like I am not good enough and I don't bring value to people's lives, that's what makes me lonely. When I see others going on holidays or trips together, or all the guests and bridesmaids people have at their wedding...I'm like who's going to be there for me? It's bittersweet. I don't want a huge group of friends, 1-2 are so enough for me. It's the only thing I wish for to find in the next couple of months. I crave this connection to people as I don't want people to think I'm weird. I have a very loving relationship, with men I was never worried to not find a partner etc. He loves his friends and has a few of them, he loves going out and stuff. Sometimes I'm jealous of his tribe, as I just haven't anyone and I'm almost 30. That's the only fact that makes me sad. Still to this day I cancel on people.. Which I think that is also my biggest problem. I love making plans, but then when they arise I just prefer being alone and not going somewhere. I know I need to work on that very hard as it very disrespectful to do that, I know. I just don't know what's wrong with me. I had friends all my life, and now I'm in that alone phase. I am also healing past wounds and events that happened. Maybe the Universe wants me to be alone, to become and be better so I can give my best in the future for others. Or maybe it makes me slow down as I was so social with others until they left me. I do accept the fact that I am this way, and I love myself for being an introvert and not having to depend on others and go out 24/7. Crowds make me tired and I need to recharge deeply after. Oh well. I love your videos so much, they make me feel less alone at times when I have negative thoughts coming up, and I appreciate you so much.
Don't be too hard on yourself. You had a friend who betrayed you in the past, so no wonder you are reluctant to trust others easily. If you decide that you're ready one day to get close to people again, I hope you find courage to put yourself out there.
I am an introvert and I love finding videos like these because it feels like I have found my community. It’s tough being an introvert in an extroverted world. I am constantly exhausted and misunderstood. Glad I am not alone. Love to all my fellow introverts. We’re awesome!
Watching this video was like listening a description of myself. I'm an introvert also, I like my own company and I like to observe rather than expressing my opinions in a group. People would say that I'm shy, but I need time to get used with that person.
I feel the same with you. Being as a human, we all have different personalities and different mindset. That's Ok to live the way we love. That's never wrong. We just need to value, understand others and empathize each other. My most favorite sayings from this video, "Nothing can dim the light that shine from within" "You have set boundaries for yourself and the world should honor that". Thank you for this video and get to reflect myself too. 💚
Really enjoyed this video and beautifully shot. As an introvert who has roamed and lived throughout world, I enjoy meeting people from other cultures, but I really don't care for small talk. I prefer long talks with loved ones in intimate setting, while sharing food, drink, tea or coffee. I also don't feel I've ever been bored. Always a new language or skill to learn, books to read, music or audiobook or podcast to listen to, or a new trail to hike, river to cross...
As always this is such a beautiful video! Thank you for articulating the world of introverts so thoughtfully. I am often mistaken for an extrovert but need alone time to energize and recharge - and often. It took a long time for me to understand this about myself, but it has been the most valuable learning. Thank you again for your work! xx
Thank you so much for this video. I too am an introvert. Sometimes, I stay in my home for days. Then, when I have to go to work I will have anxiety attacks. My son lives with me. But, he works alot and when he’s home he stays in his room gaming and watching movies and working on his laptop. He checks on me because I am an Esophageal cancer survivor and I still have some other health issues. I have a few friends that I keep in touch with. But, it’s mainly messaging and texting. I hate talking on the phone. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone in my struggles. I’ve always felt different from my peers. Thank you again for sharing this. God bless you. 🌹❤️
As an introvert I'm now understanding why I'll sometimes go to the most greatest extremes just to be alone (but not feel alone) to recharge my batteries away from people.
Hello, I'm from Thailand since I can remember. I tend to enjoy doing things alone, introverted, less talkative, and don't like to do things with large groups. I'm very old, I have few friends, unlike my other brothers and sisters. with a favorite In most Asian societies, they tend to group together. Whoever does anything alone always looks different. They say that they are selfish, don't want anyone, don't have a relationship, don't have a society because they are a patron society, have ties, especially in the countryside, there is no privacy at all. Likes to interfere in personal matters and ask questions about everything until it becomes uncomfortable.😃
This made me want to cry. My 4 year old is very introverted, and this is what I try to articulate to people... but cant' sometimes. Thanks for helping me find the words to support my son.
The truth about being introverted is very different from being alone. It's about prioritizing time to yourself and towards things that interest you a over being with others all the time :) loved this video!
🇬🇧 I too am an introvert and love spending time alone. My husband says I’m unsociable but that’s not the case, I like being around people and chatting but prefer my own company more. There is nothing wrong with it, it’s just the way we are programmed. I’m more productive when I’m alone x
I'm also an introvert. I love being by myself. When you describe yourself it's like you were describing me. Didn't know we were so much alike🤗. Few persons in my circle ♥️
I thought I was seeing myself. I thought I was hearing myself. All these feelings, all these thoughts, getting constantly judged by people around me, sometimes make me feel like, i shouldn't have been born this way, but rest of the time, I can't express howmuch I love being myself, being who I am.
I’m also an introvert, too. I love people and I love talking to a certain kind of people but I don’t know how to make small talks with them, which makes me an awkward person. 😆☺️ it’s so hard to make people understand me though when I genuinely want to talk just about anything.
can we please take a moment to just appreciate the beauty of her hair? So shiny and flawless!!! love this video! i'm an introvert too! love your content!New subscriber!!!
Oh once again you’re saying so much that I feel. I’m creating my own world, as I feel more than ever, ironically since the pandemic, that I just want to be alone. I love UA-cam so much because you can have a community, like this one, where you can have contact with people on the same wavelength - so peaceful and comforting.
I listened to every and each word, and I feel like you have been describing me.. I love to be alone, not that I don’t like people, but when I stay for so long with people and days, I feel like I need a break because I miss my space so much…. 👉🏼👈🏼 but when I have guest I give them all my hearth and my soul to make them feel very welcome!
I can relate to this video to myself. I am an introvert and I love my company. I know how people misjudge introverts and consider them as unsocial beings, which hurts. Thank you, Sophie1 Stay blessed. :)
Love this! 😌🥰💜🌈 I too am an introvert🦋. I have felt lonely too with people and if I am too much alone I can feel lonely with myself. Not all the time. I often find peace and respite sometimes loneliness can kick in. This pandemic has shown me how much of an introvert I am by learning to embrace being alone and make the most of it in a way that fits me.
I realize extroverts feel they are being kind by trying to draw introverts into social situations but if we decline we truly prefer not to. Please do not feel offended.
Usually introverts are calm and patient but when it comes to people that you are less comfortable with just makes you leave the event early. This happened to me 4 years ago (I think) An introvert is supportive and caring person that would do anything to have a good relationship with his friend or loved ones
I've always been on the outside looking in. It suits me fine. I've travelled all over the world by myself. It's been truly amazing. There's a great book called "Party of One." This is a great video, many thanks for posting. Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪
Beautifully said Sophie! I’m an introvert too, but there’s occasions when I like to become an extrovert. So I’ve learned to become both. I think introverts are very good listeners, and think about things before they speak. Sometimes I find myself becoming extroverted and speaking out when a friend needs help and needs a new direction.
Described in such a beautiful way! I'm INTJ-A and so happy since I found out. Actually it's the rarest personality type for women. Also what helped me quite a lot was to understand how our brains work and that it's different from other persons.
Never thought I would put in - INTROVERTS in the UA-cam search box..I did bcz I finally had to know myself , bcz i can't take it anymore n also bcz I'm tired of being confused n seeing myself from other's eyes. I recently got a job n need to go office quite often. I stay away from people but close to myself n my books. The words that touched me the most were... Introverts crave attention n company too. Bcz i do crave it in the office but it's so very difficult to imagine myself going through the process..the fake smiles , the shallow things n all. I can't! Plus the awkward comments on my silence. I'm glad to know that I'm not faking my inability to socialize much. Thank you. I feel your words ❤️
So enjoying your channel! I’m also an introvert and recently learned I’m a Highly Sensitive Person, as well. I’m reframing my past and restructuring my present in a way that works with this new knowledge and it’s absolutely life-changing. Looking forward to hearing more of your quiet, calm, and authentic videos.
Love this video, i was very shy when i was little, timid, still have social anxiety, and to accept these, was very difficult for me… why i am like this .. i used to think… in the last months, i realized that, its fine, its who I am, and this make me different, special, and stop to try to fit in .. thank you so much for this video !!! Loove it !!
entering college had me a little worried because I knew that it would be hard for me to try to speak up more and stand out more when there is a lot of strange people, whether it is online or not. But now, your words reminded me that I don't have to be like that. I would just be trying to be someone else I am not.
Thank you so much for this beautiful vídeo. While listening to you I felt as you were talking about me. I'm an introvert too and the way you describe yourself is exactly the way I describe myself. Regards from South America
I am not always introverted, but out of necessity, since I still work outside my home. I prefer to be in my own space doing my own things, being alone does not mean one is lonely. I prefer to think I am contemplative. I limit who I let in my life and I do feel a clearness of mind. Thank you for this lovely video,Sophie.
Sofia, I thought of this quote while viewing your video. "It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion, it is easy in solitude to live after our own, but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude." -Ralph Waldo Emerson I believe there are some common threads running through his and your statement.
Just found you're channel sweetheart being an introvert is perfectly ok you seem like such a soft spoken gentle trustworthy beautiful person iam an extreme introvert i always thought introverts had a certain cuteness about them love you the way you are
Thank you, thank you, thank you for representing and articulating this experience so well, to bring this topic to light. It is such an important matter, especially to fellow introverts like myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️🙏
I truly love and appreciate this video because you have expressed it beautifully. Its like you took all the words out from my mind and heart. 🥰 I grow up and was raised by extroverts and in an "assertive" environment where they speak their minds (debating etc.) and enjoy attention very much. I was told many times that I am an odd one out, the meek or the "silent one" for I enjoy alone time, doing art, and listen to music and get lost in my own fantasy. Even my profession or job is my passion and it's waaaay different from what they expected me to be. (Interior designer amongst the medical professionals) I was even told by my relatives to thicken my skin and to be "stronger" but I have a different perspective on my strengths. Despite all of these, I still like people and enjoy meaningful interactions because I feel and empathize with them. I just tend to feel overwhelmed at times so I really need retreat once in a while. I used to think introversion is something to be "fixed" because that's what I was told to change my behavior. But you know what? I have embraced it, accepted it and nothing beats being MYSELF and being TRUE. I can contribute something great to the world in my own ways. So thank you so much for this inspiring video. I felt relieved actually. 😍😍😍
Wow!! I needed to hear that today. Thank you for such a beautiful message. It’s exactly how I feel and I will longer feel the need to change who I am to appease others! I will remain my powerful, beautiful authentic self no matter how the world sees me. 🌸
Wise is someone who can appreciate their gift of life fully. Contemplation brings many rewards that cannot be purchased. Finally, not forcing oneself can be freedom unseen by many.
Thank You Malama for this beautiful video. In my word, being introvert means love and understand ourselves. And once we through this process and another process start where you are in and spreading your idea's and life.
This is so true. It feels good to hear reassurance in my preferences. I've often wondered if something was wrong with me since I prefer alone time to friendships.
Dear fellow Intoverts: My girlfriend and I are both intoverts, and we are both so lucky we found each other. Small talk? Nope. We thrive on the deep conversations that help us grow. We thrive on peace and quiet. We are alone, but together. Mahalo so much for this personal and insightful video. We are smiling and nodding with you Kind Introvert:-) Keoki and Kate
I love that you can be alone, together :) that's a rare and beautiful thing. Aloha Keoki and Kate
I just need to find me a fellow introverted female and perhaps I can enjoy the sort of blissful relationship that you guys (as well as Malalma and her husband) have too 😁
It's beautiful. This gives me hope
@@stevethomas74I wish I’d known I was an introvert from a young age, instead I felt like something was wrong with me and I should change to fit in. I’ve been with an extrovert for 22 years and it’s affected my mental health in quite a big way. I dream of meeting someone and going on quiet walks together and having them accept me for who I am, and being able to live the life we want to, together.
@@Sarah-ft8jr Hi there Sarah - Wow. that's quite a heady admission there if you don't mind my saying so?! 😯 I can totally relate to feeling like there was/is something 'wrong' with you. I think that's quite a common thing for both introverts and/or Highly Sensitive People (HSP) which is what I class myself as. And it's even HARDER as a man, because we're supposed to be stoic (I am more quietly stoic) and not sensitive to stuff, but I've found it (and find it) quite tiring to try and keep up a bit of a 'fascade' on that front. That's why I love it when I talk to or meet people who are like-minded. It reminds me that I'm not alone 🙂
When I am alone, I feel a greater connection to myself. I think clear, see my path brighter, and feel a great calmness in my heart. It is a wonderful, peaceful feeling. Even my art is better when I am alone, without distractions. I can't stand negativity. I am very sensitive to it. I see it as a poison. I rather just walk away, and never talk to them again. How you explained an introvert in this video, is spot on.
🥰 thanks for sharing your perspective! love it
introverts are more sensitive to stimulus - i hate gossip as i find it distracting.
You're such a cool person! I'm a introvert as well with no friends, and let me tell you. It's the best feeling in the world! Focusing on yourself, no drama, save all the money for yourself, and you can make all the choices you want without anyone's approval! I'm glad you're helping other introverts out there! Introverts are the best!
soooo relatable! I'd rather be alone than be with people who make me.feel alone.
It's always better to be alone :)
Yeahh it's better to be alone than to be with someone else so that no one can hurt you and disturbed you and also I completely understand that being an introvert it is not easy because we can't let it go easily when small things happen :) I'm an extremely introvert too :) I talked but not that much and I feel lonely to be in a crowd and yes I just don't like people but as human beings we can't do anything all alone we need help from other people too and yes I've anxiety of being judge by other people for being an introvert but I never gave up in my life and I never gave and excuses for that feelings to feel and Yes I get hurt easily but I'm trying my best to make myself happy and I just believe in myself and I be myself 🧘♀️I'm proud for being an extremely introvert girl:)
Being alone means everything to me. It’s my freedom…. My air to breath… 🙏🏻✨
yes! freedom ❤️
This was so beautifully articulated....I'm an introvert and most of my friends ..including my husband is an extrovert and I just love the way they light up the room with their conversations which I enjoy and they have told me in turn that they appreciate my insights and creativity as an introvert ...we truly do need both ...thanks for your video😊
I love both my introvert and extrovert friends dearly for different reasons :) thanks for sharing
I’m an introvert, I keep my circle of people that are close small. To be honest, I don’t have much interest in trivial conversations, or small talk. Spend most of my time with my dog.☺️ Thx for the video.
Yes but it is also nice to be around extroverts.. the energy is great… A nice balance of the two
When I say I’m an introvert people would respond to me like “i’m an intorvert too. I like staying home and being quiet” but then they don’t stop talking about so many senseless things. We, introverts, are most of the time mistaken as someone who “just likes being alone or shy or someone who prefers to stay home”. I’m an introvert and I love going on adventures. Either alone or with the someone or two who are closest to me. I can’t stand small talks, gossips and negativity. They drain my energy. I admit that I sometimes feel alone and lonely but still, being alone is the best way for me to recharge and heal. I love being an introvert.
I am a hardcore introvert. I wish my upbringing was one of acceptance and empowerment. Instead I felt forced being in an extroverted world. Introverts are a gift to this world. We have a strong intuition and know when to shine our light. I now know why I was drawn to your channel. Your energy is beautiful and feel like I have a kindred spirit that walks this journey with me even though we are miles apart. You inspire me and are a great comfort to my frazzled nervous system that lives in an extroverted environment daily. Thank you for shining your light and unique gifts with the world. Blessings
Thank you so much Shelly. I feel the same way about other introverts and I feel that I can instantly connect :) thank you for your kind words
Great video Sophie! Introversion is often misconstrued as being shy or lacking confidence and I think that’s more the case in western nations where society is conditioned to favour extroverted behaviour. Susan cain’s book, Quiet, is a great read on this subject!
I'm glad you enjoyed her book as well. It was very refreshing
Couldn’t agree more ☺️ Yes I think people conditioned to favour extrovert people 😅
Many people think I'm an extrovert but I am in fact an introvert. I just feel like we live in a world that favors extroverts so whenever I am at work and such, I present myself as such. I just want to be given the same opportunities as other people and this is what I have to do
I feel you. I felt the same pressure at work and often went out of my way to be more social
When I'm passing through on tough times only one voice make my mind calm and scare away all of my uncertainties thoughtfulness.
Thanks malama
I am an introvert most of the time, but I can be an extrovert when I want to. Thank you for explaining the benefits of being introverted. I had a professor who made me feel bad because I wasn’t the most chatty person in my group for projects. I tried to explain that I didn’t know my group members very well and I preferred to listen to others and process. It wasn’t until I went to go on to graduate school that I had another professor who understood this completely and made me feel normal. She was in the counseling field, so I think she understood different types of people better. We all have something different to bring to a group, but that is what makes it interesting.
I am an extrovert.
I respect the introverts, many of my friends are like that, also my family and my bf.
I speak a lot sometimes,so it's difficult when they remain silent.
I have learnt to accept this difference and not judge it like others.
Introverts are very strong people and they keep your secret forever.
They have a passion for many things and great advice to give you.
Personally I love to be with a different type of personality next to me than a similar one.
It's more interesting!
I love your take on this :) I have a friend who is an extrovert and she really helps me to get out of my comfort zone. We need both!!
That warmed my heart ❤️
i talk too much im a fire hose, im working on my listening skills
I’m an introvert and only really understood it a few years ago. I wish I could have known myself better as It could have saved me decades of pain wondering why I’m not like the others. Now I embrace it and see it as a power. It’s ok not to want to be around others all the time and not have to make a huge mark on the world. Liberating
I love hearing that! it is powerful
You're not the quiet one in this room... and 250K of us are happy about that. =)
❤😊 grateful that you all take the time to listen to me..
"You've created boundaries for yourself, and the world should honor it." I have started setting boundaries for myself and those around me, and it has truly made a difference to my mental health and well-being. Love this video.
"You've created boundaries for yourself, and the world should honor it." I really benefited from this simple but impactful reminder. In world where boundaries are constantly being pushed, personally and professionally, I needed the reminder that boundaries should be honored. I sincerely appreciate your content, and the ending to this video most of all.
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Hey Sofia,
This is pretty relatable. I'm an introvert but as you mentioned I never felt alone too and people are sceptical about the things that we revolve around, nevertheless being an introvert never makes me regret about anything.
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I'm just in love with all your videos. Do upload more videos than usual if possible, I'll be waiting to know more.
Thank you so much.
Loads of love.❤
You're so sweet. Thank you so much ❤😊
As always, thank you for this, Sophie. I am an introvert myself and for years, people around me, sadly even ones in my family, have made me believe that there was something wrong with me for preferring AND craving solitude. But now, with the help of videos like this, I am slowly moving away from the shame people tell me I should feel and into appreciation and celebration of my uniqueness as an individual.
Yes!
This video is like a warm blanket on a cold day: cozy and comforting :')
❤😍 yay!!
So beautifully expressed and spot on.
Thank you so much for watching
Sometimes , introverts and people who spend time alone to ponder and contemplate are intelligent...
Story of my life! Explained perfectly. Sometimes this introverted side of me gets called stuck up but this is exactly how I feel sometimes and it's not wrong. We need to recharge ourselves sometimes and some don't understand that. 😔
yes! we just have a different operating system
For an ultimate introvert, I do not even want to let people come into my world. Kudos for revealing yourself.
This video and explanation hits the nail on the head. Introverts are often misunderstood and are seen as intimidating, hateful, not friendly etc. However, its quite the opposite. When we warm up to a person, is when we are able to freely express ourselves. Until then, we're either just shy, or unsure of how to have silly little chit chat. Myself, i rather enjoy deeper conversations, ones that have meaning and purpose. That also doesn't mean i hate those little silly chats, i just don't know how to keep up with them. Thats what drains me in a large crowd
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Introvert's really want a genuine talks always,love the conversations that we can learn 💚💚💚
🥰 YES!
Beautiful. This is where Socrates' expression, "know thyself" feels so important. I cherish my introversion and feel more deeply at peace understanding my inherent needs. I think it's something to celebrate, because so often it lends itself to soulful and artistic expression, not to mention deeper realms of relationship.
I see this in myself and in other introverts as well :)
So eloquently put. It warmed my introverted spirit, knowing there are others who are sitting quietly in the background listening.
Thank you Heather 🥰
“A strong person can always be found alone; a weak person can always be found in a crowd.”
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Hi Sophie. You describe us introverts so well. I find I need to spend time alone after dealing with people. Being out in nature really helps me unwind and recharge. Our little community sure has grown. Congrats on 250K subscribers!
I always try to spread out my social events, so I don't feel burnt out. I'm happy you can relate :) thank Sean. Thanks for always supporting!
Dear Sophie, this video is literally me. I love myself the way I are, but not the way I am towards other people, especially "friends". At 29, I feel like I don't have any friends. I lost some of my "good" friends over the years. I struggled with very bad anxiety the past two years, so that I'd cancel on meet-ups, sometimes even last minute. I wasn't a great friend at times, but when you needed me I always tried to be there as good as I can. The girls I used to be with, were very gossipy and we would also hardly see each other. I feel like I've lost myself when I lost my one and only best friend in 2017. We had the most amazing connection for around 5 years. We'd see each other at least once a week and hang out all the time. She betrayed me and was talking very bad behind my back until it came out. I was crushed and immediately over the friendship as gossiping is the no go for me. The trust is immediately gone. So ever since I had a few friends here and there, but we only met up because we were single and got out of the house that way when we were together. This other girl got really close to me and we had an amazing friendship, we've known each other since childhood but always lost contact over the years. And again, we lost contact when we had some again for a few months and I was crushed again. I'd also hang around her place and we'd go out all the time. And then it was over again. All these experiences made me question myself. Am I the bad guy? What is wrong with me that people just easily leave me like that. I focused my time on the other friends I had but it never felt like I found my one and good friend. I'd see my past friendships all the time, but these here were very distanced and more of an online friendship and would meet up here and there. I lost those friendships due to my very very bad anxiety, I felt misunderstood and judged. Again of course, they talked very negatively behind my back and said very nasty things about me. Ever since, I try to understand why people don't want to be my friend but also why I just cannot click with people as my past best friends who betrayed or left me. I've never ever felt such a connection with someone again, and I hope one day I'll find my person or my group. I just feel like most people don't get me, or they think I'm weird because I don't like partying no more, no drinking, not going out until 6am. I prefer reading, being by myself, watching content that brings me to the next level, be out in nature... I often feel like I am not good enough and I don't bring value to people's lives, that's what makes me lonely. When I see others going on holidays or trips together, or all the guests and bridesmaids people have at their wedding...I'm like who's going to be there for me? It's bittersweet. I don't want a huge group of friends, 1-2 are so enough for me. It's the only thing I wish for to find in the next couple of months. I crave this connection to people as I don't want people to think I'm weird. I have a very loving relationship, with men I was never worried to not find a partner etc. He loves his friends and has a few of them, he loves going out and stuff. Sometimes I'm jealous of his tribe, as I just haven't anyone and I'm almost 30. That's the only fact that makes me sad. Still to this day I cancel on people.. Which I think that is also my biggest problem. I love making plans, but then when they arise I just prefer being alone and not going somewhere. I know I need to work on that very hard as it very disrespectful to do that, I know. I just don't know what's wrong with me. I had friends all my life, and now I'm in that alone phase. I am also healing past wounds and events that happened. Maybe the Universe wants me to be alone, to become and be better so I can give my best in the future for others. Or maybe it makes me slow down as I was so social with others until they left me. I do accept the fact that I am this way, and I love myself for being an introvert and not having to depend on others and go out 24/7. Crowds make me tired and I need to recharge deeply after. Oh well. I love your videos so much, they make me feel less alone at times when I have negative thoughts coming up, and I appreciate you so much.
Don't be too hard on yourself. You had a friend who betrayed you in the past, so no wonder you are reluctant to trust others easily. If you decide that you're ready one day to get close to people again, I hope you find courage to put yourself out there.
I am an introvert and I love finding videos like these because it feels like I have found my community.
It’s tough being an introvert in an extroverted world. I am constantly exhausted and misunderstood. Glad I am not alone. Love to all my fellow introverts. We’re awesome!
Watching this video was like listening a description of myself. I'm an introvert also, I like my own company and I like to observe rather than expressing my opinions in a group. People would say that I'm shy, but I need time to get used with that person.
so happy you can relate :)
I'm an introvert and I'm loving it. Thanks for this uplifting video. ❤️🤗
I feel the same with you. Being as a human, we all have different personalities and different mindset. That's Ok to live the way we love. That's never wrong. We just need to value, understand others and empathize each other. My most favorite sayings from this video, "Nothing can dim the light that shine from within" "You have set boundaries for yourself and the world should honor that". Thank you for this video and get to reflect myself too. 💚
you're right! there is never wrong :) thanks for watching
Really enjoyed this video and beautifully shot. As an introvert who has roamed and lived throughout world, I enjoy meeting people from other cultures, but I really don't care for small talk. I prefer long talks with loved ones in intimate setting, while sharing food, drink, tea or coffee. I also don't feel I've ever been bored. Always a new language or skill to learn, books to read, music or audiobook or podcast to listen to, or a new trail to hike, river to cross...
Yes! I can totally relate
I used to think i was an introvert but now, i consider to be extraverted to ppl i am completely comfortable with
🥰 happy for you!
As always this is such a beautiful video! Thank you for articulating the world of introverts so thoughtfully. I am often mistaken for an extrovert but need alone time to energize and recharge - and often. It took a long time for me to understand this about myself, but it has been the most valuable learning. Thank you again for your work! xx
Thank you so much Alyssa ❤️ I'm 30 and just realizing this now :)
Thank you so much for this video. I too am an introvert. Sometimes, I stay in my home for days. Then, when I have to go to work I will have anxiety attacks. My son lives with me. But, he works alot and when he’s home he stays in his room gaming and watching movies and working on his laptop. He checks on me because I am an Esophageal cancer survivor and I still have some other health issues. I have a few friends that I keep in touch with. But, it’s mainly messaging and texting. I hate talking on the phone. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone in my struggles. I’ve always felt different from my peers. Thank you again for sharing this. God bless you. 🌹❤️
As an introvert I'm now understanding why I'll sometimes go to the most greatest extremes just to be alone (but not feel alone) to recharge my batteries away from people.
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Hello, I'm from Thailand since I can remember. I tend to enjoy doing things alone, introverted, less talkative, and don't like to do things with large groups. I'm very old, I have few friends, unlike my other brothers and sisters. with a favorite In most Asian societies, they tend to group together. Whoever does anything alone always looks different. They say that they are selfish, don't want anyone, don't have a relationship, don't have a society because they are a patron society, have ties, especially in the countryside, there is no privacy at all. Likes to interfere in personal matters and ask questions about everything until it becomes uncomfortable.😃
This is beautiful. Hi, wonderful fellow introverts 🥰
Hello fellow introvert ❤
This made me want to cry. My 4 year old is very introverted, and this is what I try to articulate to people... but cant' sometimes. Thanks for helping me find the words to support my son.
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The truth about being introverted is very different from being alone. It's about prioritizing time to yourself and towards things that interest you a over being with others all the time :) loved this video!
5.7k like. Yep true btw I love the environment it's so beautiful and stunning. 2:06
🇬🇧 I too am an introvert and love spending time alone. My husband says I’m unsociable but that’s not the case, I like being around people and chatting but prefer my own company more. There is nothing wrong with it, it’s just the way we are programmed. I’m more productive when I’m alone x
glad you can relate! I'm also way more productive when working alone :)
I'm also an introvert. I love being by myself. When you describe yourself it's like you were describing me. Didn't know we were so much alike🤗. Few persons in my circle ♥️
:) introverts can relate to each other. I love that
I thought I was seeing myself. I thought I was hearing myself. All these feelings, all these thoughts, getting constantly judged by people around me, sometimes make me feel like, i shouldn't have been born this way, but rest of the time, I can't express howmuch I love being myself, being who I am.
I’m also an introvert, too. I love people and I love talking to a certain kind of people but I don’t know how to make small talks with them, which makes me an awkward person. 😆☺️ it’s so hard to make people understand me though when I genuinely want to talk just about anything.
can we please take a moment to just appreciate the beauty of her hair? So shiny and flawless!!! love this video! i'm an introvert too! love your content!New subscriber!!!
Oh once again you’re saying so much that I feel. I’m creating my own world, as I feel more than ever, ironically since the pandemic, that I just want to be alone. I love UA-cam so much because you can have a community, like this one, where you can have contact with people on the same wavelength - so peaceful and comforting.
Yes, thankful for this platform. I've connected with so many others who are like me :)
I listened to every and each word, and I feel like you have been describing me.. I love to be alone, not that I don’t like people, but when I stay for so long with people and days, I feel like I need a break because I miss my space so much…. 👉🏼👈🏼 but when I have guest I give them all my hearth and my soul to make them feel very welcome!
I can relate to this video to myself. I am an introvert and I love my company. I know how people misjudge introverts and consider them as unsocial beings, which hurts. Thank you, Sophie1 Stay blessed. :)
assumptions hurts me too. I'm happy you can relate
Feelings cannot be hidden behind speech, because the tone of voice reveals the truth
Quietness is a underrated virtue.
very true.
everything is relaxing ... your beautiful face your home your way of living your brushes the light in your home and nature puts us at peace.
Love this! 😌🥰💜🌈 I too am an introvert🦋. I have felt lonely too with people and if I am too much alone I can feel lonely with myself. Not all the time. I often find peace and respite sometimes loneliness can kick in. This pandemic has shown me how much of an introvert I am by learning to embrace being alone and make the most of it in a way that fits me.
Pandemic revealed a lot for me too 😊❤
@@MalamaLife it has been quite eye opening in so many ways.
I realize extroverts feel they are being kind by trying to draw introverts into social situations but if we decline we truly prefer not to. Please do not feel offended.
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Usually introverts are calm and patient but when it comes to people that you are less comfortable with just makes you leave the event early. This happened to me 4 years ago (I think)
An introvert is supportive and caring person that would do anything to have a good relationship with his friend or loved ones
You explain what I feel so well. I don’t feel so alone now. Thank you for this video and a glimpse of you’re thoughts ❤️
I've always been on the outside looking in. It suits me fine. I've travelled all over the world by myself. It's been truly amazing. There's a great book called "Party of One." This is a great video, many thanks for posting. Greetings from Ireland 🇮🇪
Thanks for the recommendation :)
Beautifully said Sophie! I’m an introvert too, but there’s occasions when I like to become an extrovert. So I’ve learned to become both. I think introverts are very good listeners, and think about things before they speak. Sometimes I find myself becoming extroverted and speaking out when a friend needs help and needs a new direction.
I think it's a powerful thing to embrace both introvert and extrovert qualities. Thank you Mark :) as always
@@MalamaLife Thank you Sophie so much Sophie 🙏 I always feel better after talking to you.😊 :))))
Every introvert right now : "O Goodness! You just narrated my story." 🌺✨
glad you can relate :)
Described in such a beautiful way! I'm INTJ-A and so happy since I found out. Actually it's the rarest personality type for women. Also what helped me quite a lot was to understand how our brains work and that it's different from other persons.
I'm also INTJ :)
Now I don't need to explain myself because the next time I meet new people, I can simply share them this video!
Haha :) thank you
Never thought I would put in - INTROVERTS in the UA-cam search box..I did bcz I finally had to know myself , bcz i can't take it anymore n also bcz I'm tired of being confused n seeing myself from other's eyes. I recently got a job n need to go office quite often. I stay away from people but close to myself n my books. The words that touched me the most were... Introverts crave attention n company too. Bcz i do crave it in the office but it's so very difficult to imagine myself going through the process..the fake smiles , the shallow things n all. I can't! Plus the awkward comments on my silence. I'm glad to know that I'm not faking my inability to socialize much. Thank you. I feel your words ❤️
So enjoying your channel! I’m also an introvert and recently learned I’m a Highly Sensitive Person, as well. I’m reframing my past and restructuring my present in a way that works with this new knowledge and it’s absolutely life-changing. Looking forward to hearing more of your quiet, calm, and authentic videos.
Thank you so much Cheryl 😊❤
Love this video, i was very shy when i was little, timid, still have social anxiety, and to accept these, was very difficult for me… why i am like this .. i used to think… in the last months, i realized that, its fine, its who I am, and this make me different, special, and stop to try to fit in .. thank you so much for this video !!! Loove it !!
Added to my "Favorites" playlist.
Thank you so much :)
wow blown my mind.. i am one of you.thanks for explaning introverts point of u.. i wish if the world could be nicer to us..
Welcome to the club 😍
U r absolutely right 👌❤️
🥰 thank you so much for watching
Absolutely agree with what you were saying. As an introvert I appreciate this video so much. Thank you!
Thank you for the beautiful message. I’m also an introvert, always have been and always will be. I just found your channel and subscribed right away!
entering college had me a little worried because I knew that it would be hard for me to try to speak up more and stand out more when there is a lot of strange people, whether it is online or not. But now, your words reminded me that I don't have to be like that. I would just be trying to be someone else I am not.
Thank you so much for this beautiful vídeo. While listening to you I felt as you were talking about me. I'm an introvert too and the way you describe yourself is exactly the way I describe myself. Regards from South America
Thank you so much. So happy you could relate to me
I loved this really. As an introvert myself, I feel understood and, in a way, heard🥺❤
I'm happy to hear that! thanks Sarah
I love how you spoke to us introverts at the end. Made me smile and proud to be who I am 😍☺️😀
I am not always introverted, but out of necessity, since I still work outside my home. I prefer to be in my own space doing my own things, being alone does not mean one is lonely. I prefer to think I am contemplative. I limit who I let in my life and I do feel a clearness of mind. Thank you for this lovely video,Sophie.
Sofia, I thought of this quote while viewing your video.
"It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion, it is easy in solitude to live after our own, but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude." -Ralph Waldo Emerson
I believe there are some common threads running through his and your statement.
This is so therapeutic because it's like describing myself to the tee....thank you for this beautiful video 😊
I love being alone...my daughter and my Mom are my favorite people to spend time with in the world
I love that
So very well said, thank you for speaking your truth, it helps me articulate my own introvert feelings, blessings from Australia
I'm happy you can relate to me :) thanks Michelle
I am pretty much in the middle. It’s so easy for me to be extroverted and I enjoy my introverted side. I’m comfortable with either and both.
I love that. You have best of both worlds :)
Hearing your voice is better than any medication
Just found you're channel sweetheart being an introvert is perfectly ok you seem like such a soft spoken gentle trustworthy beautiful person iam an extreme introvert i always thought introverts had a certain cuteness about them love you the way you are
Thanks so much for your kind words Liam ❤
You're the greatest philosopher woman
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Beautiful message Thank you.🌻🌞 I am a Introvert as well. May you and your family have a blessed week.
Thank you so much 😊❤
Thank you, thank you, thank you for representing and articulating this experience so well, to bring this topic to light. It is such an important matter, especially to fellow introverts like myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️🙏
I'm so happy to hear that :)
I truly love and appreciate this video because you have expressed it beautifully. Its like you took all the words out from my mind and heart. 🥰
I grow up and was raised by extroverts and in an "assertive" environment where they speak their minds (debating etc.) and enjoy attention very much. I was told many times that I am an odd one out, the meek or the "silent one" for I enjoy alone time, doing art, and listen to music and get lost in my own fantasy. Even my profession or job is my passion and it's waaaay different from what they expected me to be. (Interior designer amongst the medical professionals) I was even told by my relatives to thicken my skin and to be "stronger" but I have a different perspective on my strengths. Despite all of these, I still like people and enjoy meaningful interactions because I feel and empathize with them. I just tend to feel overwhelmed at times so I really need retreat once in a while.
I used to think introversion is something to be "fixed" because that's what I was told to change my behavior. But you know what? I have embraced it, accepted it and nothing beats being MYSELF and being TRUE. I can contribute something great to the world in my own ways. So thank you so much for this inspiring video. I felt relieved actually. 😍😍😍
so happy you decided to embrace it as well. I always felt like I had to fix my introversion as well, but I wouldn't be true to myself :)
Wow!! I needed to hear that today. Thank you for such a beautiful message. It’s exactly how I feel and I will longer feel the need to change who I am to appease others! I will remain my powerful, beautiful authentic self no matter how the world sees me. 🌸
I agree about wishing I could say something clever on the spot.
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Wise is someone who can appreciate their gift of life fully.
Contemplation brings many rewards that cannot be purchased. Finally, not forcing oneself can be freedom unseen by many.
Messages like this are very powerful, thank you , for these peaceful words ,much appreciation.
Thank you for listening 😊
I accepted that years ago. I don’t like being around too many people at one time . & I don’t like holding long conversation.
Thank You Malama for this beautiful video. In my word, being introvert means love and understand ourselves. And once we through this process and another process start where you are in and spreading your idea's and life.
Beautifully said 😍❤
@@MalamaLife Thank you!
Thank you for this.
Thanks for watching ❤
Sofia I'm an introvert too thanks for sharing your thoughts that's beautiful artwork you're doing right there love and hugs xx 🌺
❤️ thank you so much Deborah
I'm an introvert person and this is exactly the way I feel.
Thanks Sophie, I love you and I love your videos so much!!❤️
I am introverted and extroverted thank you Sofia💚
it's great to have both qualities :)
Very soothing voice just to listen too. What a beautiful place you live in!
Thank you so much 😍
Such an amazing video. What hit my heart hard was this line here 2:30 ❤❤❤
This is so true. It feels good to hear reassurance in my preferences. I've often wondered if something was wrong with me since I prefer alone time to friendships.