i literally had a college presentation yesterday and i fumbled so bad. Forget what i was supposed to say, went silent for a whole minute, said all in a rush...it was a horrible time
Control Your Body: Use box breathing (inhale, hold, exhale, hold) to relax and prevent trembling. Shift Your Mindset: Focus on serving the audience rather than self-consciousness. Slow Down Your Speech: Speaking too fast increases nervousness; consciously slow down. Manage Adrenaline: Do brisk exercise to reduce excess adrenaline. Desensitize Fear: Gradually expose yourself small groups before speaking to public speaking situations and build confidence.
When I had to give speeches in school, as I made eye contact with my classmates, I noticed many were giving me nods of approval (which was comforting) and the rest didn’t really care what I was saying and didn’t really want to be there (which was also comforting to me because they clearly weren’t judging). It was win-win.
Method 2 the one piano recital i did okay in, and i actually enjoyed it a bit, was the one where i thought "i'm here so the audience can enjoy this piano piece as much as i do. I want to convey this music to them." That was the one time my mind wasn't thinking "I CAN'T MESS UP"
I have this mental trick that kinda work for me. Personally, I practiced martial art ( Muay Thai/ Kich Boxing) for over 3 years, and I kinda good at that. So basically, when even I have to present or speak in front of people, I speak to myself that I can easily whoop these guys' ass in the fight, consequently, this way of thought helps me to be confident and not to be afraid anymore ( it's like having a sense of overpower when I have something that I'm confident to do, compared to others)
I'm going to tell u my personal experience,,,courage is not about the absence of fear but actually perseverance in fear even if u reach the peak level of fear and still speak u are get to know the definition of real confidence.
Good tips! I would also add, practice, PRACTICE, *PRACTICE!* Practice in front of a mirror, practice in front of your pets, practice while standing on one leg with your eyes closed. It's exposure therapy without the exposure
I've written all the key points from this video and honestly when I started i didn't think I'd feel any different but I actually do and it's amazing what few changes can do and how they can affect how you behave. Thank you for your great work!
I will try all of these. Super helpful. I have high cortisol spikes when I wake up or shake when I have to face a trigger. This will help. "It's only weird if u make it weird" soooo true.
Another great video! This should be part of every student’s educational journey on Earth. Can you imagine a world where everyone knows how to communicate and feels confident in the presence of others? Thank you!
The thing that helps me the most is acting. I imagine like i'm an actor in a theater play and my role is an orator. It gets my mind out of my sense of self to focus on the material at hand
Great tips, but it's kind of funny; I just got finished watching a video you had about matching people's energy in a conversation, even if they're talking incredibly fast. I thought "surely if theyre talking fast because theyre nervous, it's not good for me to match their energy..."
Thank you Vinh, could you please give us tips for what to do when we are put on the spot to give a speech and you don’t have the time to do the breathing exercises etc. E.g. at a work event and the speaker mentions your name and asks you to come up and give a few words about yourself or a project?
I do this as well. I’m a closer for a relatively large M&A firm. With 4-5 people, I can be the center of attention and run the room and the process, getting a room of 50+ year old C-Suite members to trust me with their entire business. In a group of 20 trainees who have no idea what they’re doing, I speak 2.346 million miles an hour and repeat myself.
Amazing video!!! i love how this man teaches while using himself and his situations as example :) are you planning on making videos about communication frameworks? cause the ones you use are super amazing
i subscribed you today and i am very happy about this because you and your communication skills are actually wonderful and one more thing you know what i am thinking why didn't i find your channel earlier 😊😊😊keep doing good work....👍👍👏
That’s my biggest issue. I just commented that I go into high pressure situations regularly at work. I’m 33 and have to convince entire C-suites to trust my firm and I to allow full access to their books/records/personnel, but when I’m in a room of 20 people I’m training, I’m 5 million words a second, making ridiculous hand gestures, and you can see my heart beat through my shirt from the ISS
@@alexlevinson8629 31 here. Ah yeah, slower rate of speed gets me talking in situations where im overly nervous and couldnt do it otherwise. Then if im in the nervous-but-manageable zone, i also revert to too fast.
@@Juzzi9 I always thought that with expertise and reputation would come confidence. I could do a recording that I knew was going to be seen by every person on earth and nail it. As soon as there’s more than 15 20yr olds who I’ll never see before, my nuts are in my chest and I become the speed reader from ‘Africa’s got talent’
@@alexlevinson8629 xDD good analogy. Sometimes what helps me, is reframing the nervousness. Butterflies in the stomach dont mean im full of anxiety, they mean im full of excitement, full of adrenaline to tackle the task with my best capabilities. I only manage to do this is certain nervousness levels, but i practice it as i believe that really is the key. Some world class performers do say the nervousness never goes fully away after all. There are more people on youtube who talk about this reframing in further detail.
I am a story teller but I am troubling how to a narrate a story wheather it is a faceless UA-cam chhanel, I am troubling with 1) which pitch I should talk , in which word should louder and where should slow the pitch 2) where to be take pause , how long the pauses should. 3) my voice is ruder always it's not sweet whenever I talk even a calm situation it's sounds rude and it's became very rude whenever I talk like negotiations or anything special dissatisfied with someone's particular behaviour. How to solve it ? I am from India , help me 😢
I remember just 1-2 months ago i had to give a presentation infront of principle about something. And i had to do it all by myself because my group was absent. I delivered the presentation smoothly no mistake no nothing and it was my first time presenting something by myself. After all of the presentation was done the principle said all the presentations were neat and presentable this line gave me a sigh of relief 😌
Pls reply to my query Basically i am confident in my speech but sometimes it feels like people arent interested or they aren't listening. And that moment when i feel this, makes me nervous and fumble. Also am really comfortable when i have some sources or page or slide to look onto and deliver but when its generally about normal public speaking I become clueless or feel out of words How to cope up with these things
Well i dont know if it helps but i think you talk about everday situations where u are nervous and feeling clueless. Well if it is a normal conversation or public speech without any requierements of knowledge (Holding a weeding speech or talking infornt of q Group about the weather) u dont need to know data, diagrams or studies in this topic. And if it is a topic you are not educated in, be open about and Show intrested in learning from perplex that know Mode about the topic the you. I hope that helps
I'm a bad speaker 😢 the last time I spoke infront of a room full of people my whole body began to shiver which was evident because I was holding the mic.
Start by meeting with a friend and ask if they could bring along one of their friends. Use this opportunity to get to know their friend better, talk about mutual interests, and see if you have any shared hobbies or passions. This approach can help you make new connections through your existing friendships. If you don’t have a friend to meet with, consider joining a club or group related to your interests. People often form friendships with others who share similar passions. I hope this helps!
Cool tips, but remember if you have a hand in a fire, instead of pouring it with water, putting bandages over it etc. and asking what now? Ask why? And that's what you have to face.
When I see thing greatful video I admitted and realize that I was taking your course of being good communicator and speaker. That's why thank you so much vinh @Vinh
the amount of value you give away for free is criminal, mad respect
Absolutely true.
i literally had a college presentation yesterday and i fumbled so bad. Forget what i was supposed to say, went silent for a whole minute, said all in a rush...it was a horrible time
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Oohh man, don't give up on courage. You will do better next time, brother. Go back and learn from your mistakes. I believe in you!
lol I spoke in front of my church and got so nervous. I had a Joe Biden moment
same :(
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Control Your Body: Use box breathing (inhale, hold, exhale, hold) to relax and prevent trembling.
Shift Your Mindset: Focus on serving the audience rather than self-consciousness.
Slow Down Your Speech: Speaking too fast increases nervousness; consciously slow down.
Manage Adrenaline: Do brisk exercise to reduce excess adrenaline.
Desensitize Fear: Gradually expose yourself small groups before speaking to public speaking situations and build confidence.
"it's only weird because you make it weird". Wow that sentence hits me hard and I truly love it.
When I had to give speeches in school, as I made eye contact with my classmates, I noticed many were giving me nods of approval (which was comforting) and the rest didn’t really care what I was saying and didn’t really want to be there (which was also comforting to me because they clearly weren’t judging). It was win-win.
Method 2
the one piano recital i did okay in, and i actually enjoyed it a bit, was the one where i thought "i'm here so the audience can enjoy this piano piece as much as i do. I want to convey this music to them."
That was the one time my mind wasn't thinking "I CAN'T MESS UP"
I have this mental trick that kinda work for me. Personally, I practiced martial art ( Muay Thai/ Kich Boxing) for over 3 years, and I kinda good at that. So basically, when even I have to present or speak in front of people, I speak to myself that I can easily whoop these guys' ass in the fight, consequently, this way of thought helps me to be confident and not to be afraid anymore ( it's like having a sense of overpower when I have something that I'm confident to do, compared to others)
anyway, huge fan of you Vinh, love form Vietnam
It works kinda cause in school I too used this as I was the topper so I was like I am the smartest here so they can't defy me
I'm going to tell u my personal experience,,,courage is not about the absence of fear but actually perseverance in fear
even if u reach the peak level of fear and still speak u are get to know the definition of real confidence.
Breathe Boxing
Slow rate of speech
These two methods are life changing.... Grateful to share with us. Really Appreciated!!!
Love it Man!!
Bring the focus on audience. How will you serve the audience.. That's just brilliant.
Good tips! I would also add, practice, PRACTICE, *PRACTICE!*
Practice in front of a mirror, practice in front of your pets, practice while standing on one leg with your eyes closed. It's exposure therapy without the exposure
I've written all the key points from this video and honestly when I started i didn't think I'd feel any different but I actually do and it's amazing what few changes can do and how they can affect how you behave.
Thank you for your great work!
I will try all of these. Super helpful. I have high cortisol spikes when I wake up or shake when I have to face a trigger. This will help. "It's only weird if u make it weird" soooo true.
You are helping me vihn. Thank you so much🌸
Vin you are brilliant. Been being watching a bunch of your videos and I hear myself improving my speech. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge
You are so great, I really appreciate all the free advice
Great advice. Thank u for sharing.
Your videos give me courage and confidence. Thank you so much!
Another great video!
This should be part of every student’s educational journey on Earth.
Can you imagine a world where everyone knows how to communicate and feels confident in the presence of others?
Thank you!
Box breathing is golden 🙌🏽
My king you drop this 👑
"It's only weird, if you make it weird' words to live by.... THANK YOU Vinh
The thing that helps me the most is acting. I imagine like i'm an actor in a theater play and my role is an orator. It gets my mind out of my sense of self to focus on the material at hand
Awesome information ! Thanks
thank you so much for this amazing video I liked the breathing tip it is very useful, love and respect from Saudi Arabia🌼
Such a great advice!
Great tips, but it's kind of funny; I just got finished watching a video you had about matching people's energy in a conversation, even if they're talking incredibly fast. I thought "surely if theyre talking fast because theyre nervous, it's not good for me to match their energy..."
thank you vin it's so much helpful
I love to hear only storytime. I'm also Christian. I love to listen to people's experiences and how they survive. Especially how God plans on them .
Sometimes it the voice also.. If the voice is good, you feel more confident.. If voice is bad, we tend to feel less confident.
I do box breading but it still sometimes makes me anxious . I will try other methods thanks for this.
stand in an online meeting is super powerfull!
Thank you Vinh, could you please give us tips for what to do when we are put on the spot to give a speech and you don’t have the time to do the breathing exercises etc. E.g. at a work event and the speaker mentions your name and asks you to come up and give a few words about yourself or a project?
Master class ❤
the last one is gold! thank you!
I'm a part of your students Vinh! Please keep making video like this! Really thankful to see one like this 😁😁
Can you give some rhetorical advices/tips for teachers?
I do this as well. I’m a closer for a relatively large M&A firm. With 4-5 people, I can be the center of attention and run the room and the process, getting a room of 50+ year old C-Suite members to trust me with their entire business. In a group of 20 trainees who have no idea what they’re doing, I speak 2.346 million miles an hour and repeat myself.
Sir, the quality of your content improved, hope we keep growing ❤
At first i love you! You’ve changed my life.
does food matters for presentations etc?
Amazing content!! I’ve been binge watching and practicing your tips past few days and already see a difference!! Thank youuuu
this is gold
Very helpful video..thank you ❤
Amazing video!!! i love how this man teaches while using himself and his situations as example :)
are you planning on making videos about communication frameworks? cause the ones you use are super amazing
Great advice! Thank you!
For myself I failed alot of presentations due to nervousness and poor confidence.😢
Hey Vinh, I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you.
First, love the content on this video. Second, and random, but where are those glasses from?
i subscribed you today and i am very happy about this because you and your communication skills are actually wonderful and one more thing you know what i am thinking why didn't i find your channel earlier 😊😊😊keep doing good work....👍👍👏
Thank you ❤
Slower rate of speech was a game changer for me
That’s my biggest issue. I just commented that I go into high pressure situations regularly at work. I’m 33 and have to convince entire C-suites to trust my firm and I to allow full access to their books/records/personnel, but when I’m in a room of 20 people I’m training, I’m 5 million words a second, making ridiculous hand gestures, and you can see my heart beat through my shirt from the ISS
@@alexlevinson8629 31 here. Ah yeah, slower rate of speed gets me talking in situations where im overly nervous and couldnt do it otherwise. Then if im in the nervous-but-manageable zone, i also revert to too fast.
@@Juzzi9 I always thought that with expertise and reputation would come confidence. I could do a recording that I knew was going to be seen by every person on earth and nail it. As soon as there’s more than 15 20yr olds who I’ll never see before, my nuts are in my chest and I become the speed reader from ‘Africa’s got talent’
@@alexlevinson8629 xDD good analogy. Sometimes what helps me, is reframing the nervousness. Butterflies in the stomach dont mean im full of anxiety, they mean im full of excitement, full of adrenaline to tackle the task with my best capabilities. I only manage to do this is certain nervousness levels, but i practice it as i believe that really is the key. Some world class performers do say the nervousness never goes fully away after all. There are more people on youtube who talk about this reframing in further detail.
I am a story teller but I am troubling how to a narrate a story wheather it is a faceless UA-cam chhanel, I am troubling with
1) which pitch I should talk , in which word should louder and where should slow the pitch
2) where to be take pause , how long the pauses should.
3) my voice is ruder always it's not sweet whenever I talk even a calm situation it's sounds rude and it's became very rude whenever I talk like negotiations or anything special dissatisfied with someone's particular behaviour. How to solve it ?
I am from India , help me 😢
You are awesome! 🙌💯
great
I remember just 1-2 months ago i had to give a presentation infront of principle about something. And i had to do it all by myself because my group was absent. I delivered the presentation smoothly no mistake no nothing and it was my first time presenting something by myself. After all of the presentation was done the principle said all the presentations were neat and presentable this line gave me a sigh of relief 😌
I speak so fast without breathing when im nervous and forget to breath in work environments so this is a game changer
Thaks I neded that
Bro, you're legend❤
Vinh! Big fan from Philippines. Do I need to learn singing to be a better communicator?
Knowledge without action is just hallucinations, so make sure to apply this golden tips immediately!!
So, when to do box breathing
How to control the volume and preventing it from becoming too low or too loud
Pls reply to my query
Basically i am confident in my speech but sometimes it feels like people arent interested or they aren't listening. And that moment when i feel this, makes me nervous and fumble. Also am really comfortable when i have some sources or page or slide to look onto and deliver but when its generally about normal public speaking I become clueless or feel out of words
How to cope up with these things
Well i dont know if it helps but i think you talk about everday situations where u are nervous and feeling clueless. Well if it is a normal conversation or public speech without any requierements of knowledge (Holding a weeding speech or talking infornt of q Group about the weather) u dont need to know data, diagrams or studies in this topic. And if it is a topic you are not educated in, be open about and Show intrested in learning from perplex that know Mode about the topic the you. I hope that helps
@@NdzLost Noted. Thankyou so much
I recommended this dude to my friend that has stage fright.
What camera settings are you using?
I'm a bad speaker 😢 the last time I spoke infront of a room full of people my whole body began to shiver which was evident because I was holding the mic.
You are vietnamese ?
I like your vedio
Facts 1:35
the last part doing a zoom presentation while standing does that mean my notes have to be elevated
1:23 so Flash is always nervous when he runs 🫥🙀
That's not helping someone like me, because I feel scared and nervous if I just went outside home,I can't even walk alone in the street 😖
Start by meeting with a friend and ask if they could bring along one of their friends. Use this opportunity to get to know their friend better, talk about mutual interests, and see if you have any shared hobbies or passions. This approach can help you make new connections through your existing friendships.
If you don’t have a friend to meet with, consider joining a club or group related to your interests. People often form friendships with others who share similar passions.
I hope this helps!
No offense but if it’s really that bad then you need to go see a professional.
I wish I could have known you earlier.
2 seconds in hits like button
Same❤
Everyone knows the roadmap but no one going to first try
Anh là ng việt mà
Breathe in box
Do not think about yourself. But audience
speak slow
Small exercise To manage adrenaline
Gut
I will subscribe you next time.
I tried box breathing while riding a bike. I almost suffocated 😅
Lol why would you such thing during biking? Biking is already box breathering 😅
0:43 😅😅😅😅
I mean everyone has a standing desk these days so you have the " I don't want to sit as much"
Cool tips, but remember if you have a hand in a fire, instead of pouring it with water, putting bandages over it etc. and asking what now? Ask why? And that's what you have to face.
Stay hard
2:37
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Vhin I think it's okay to not take your course because I already gain more knowledge and learnings about you video content
Thank you awesome tips 🙏💜🪷
When I see thing greatful video I admitted and realize that I was taking your course of being good communicator and speaker. That's why thank you so much vinh @Vinh
I got nervous just from listening to the story 😅