Why He'll Choose You Over Another Woman

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  • @JonathonAslay
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  • @1991windsor
    @1991windsor 11 місяців тому +2

    I enjoyed this video, but a couple of things I will add are that a lot of the times, people are not honest when you try to vet them. Of course, they will tell you that they are looking for a relationship because if they didn't disclose that, they pretty much know they wouldn't get past the first date with you. On top of that, Thais Gibson deals with attachment styles/issues and I think that is obviously what a lot of people have. I do agree though with Jonathon when he says that in order to find our forever person, we must first do the healing work on ourselves. I dated a man who was married for over 25 years then divorced and was nothing but a serial dater. I really can't even blame him for that because his ego was severely wounded, and he didn't have the greatest childhood either. Instead of working on himself, he just cycled from woman to woman and once the honeymoon phase was over, he bolted. I feel so bad for him because he is one of the kindest people I have ever met, but he should truly not be dating until he does the inner work on himself. We all have to find that out for ourselves, though.

  • @michellegagne540
    @michellegagne540 Рік тому +11

    I'm thinking that the reason he doesn't go all in with you is because he was never that into you to begin with but you are good company.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 Рік тому +1

      He may not be ready for all in-- committment or he may be incapable, lack the ability to commit to anyone. Transactional.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  Рік тому

      Maybe...

  • @andreastarr9382
    @andreastarr9382 Рік тому +1

    Why do some people get blessed with a 30 + year relationship and some of us have to go through several people? It doesn't seem fair

  • @CatherineInColorado
    @CatherineInColorado Рік тому +4

    I love, love, love this video after just breaking up with my boyfriend and first serious relationship since my husband passed away almost five years ago. Getting intentional with vetting questions to determine compatibility and not discarding my intuition will be my next steps in the future along with following your steps and wisdom.

  • @glamaz0n
    @glamaz0n Рік тому +3

    My two ten year marriages were mostly transactional. My marriage No. 2 started with moving onto our 40ft sailboat and cruising the Carribean and Central America for 3 years.
    We were committed to ourselves, each other, the boat and to the total experience. It was nirvana.

    • @glamaz0n
      @glamaz0n Рік тому

      I just want to thank you again for helping me realize that I have no idea what an actual relationship is, the way you describe it. It certainly wasn’t my two marriages.. except for the sailboat phase. And I do remember projecting my first marriage into an intellectual scene. He was a theater major, I was a design major - I imagined an intellectual life like the round table at the Algonquin. But then his first job was marketing for a beer brand.😖

  • @kayesmith8040
    @kayesmith8040 9 місяців тому +1

    I love the self health, I love enalegy, that's great, you are healing,bless you .

  • @CatCassandra
    @CatCassandra Рік тому +3

    He was never ready to commit… he left me for someone that was rich.

    • @Inyourdreamzalways43
      @Inyourdreamzalways43 11 місяців тому

      Similar she has farm & house & side business enchanted animal farm also a nurse & 10 yrs younger he always wanted a farm now he can move into to hers keep his house we were together 10 yrs broke up end of Nov he met her Jan & practically moved into her house he is 58

  • @tyannefisherloeffler5836
    @tyannefisherloeffler5836 Рік тому +19

    I took a 13 year break. Now I am starting over again and it was done by God not me or him.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  Рік тому +1

      Spirit, yes...

    • @renette0506
      @renette0506 Рік тому +2

      When you are ready, the universe will bring them to you. Good work.❤

    • @SunShine-zb1zb
      @SunShine-zb1zb Рік тому

      I can relate to you enormously. I sincerely letting the Lord take the wheel and let it be His will. Not mines. Being patient and waiting to hear from Lord. 🙏🛐📖😊🕊️🩸🤍

    • @dthoneybear
      @dthoneybear Рік тому

      This man that wants to date me called me before I started watching your video. I really like Tim. Tim tells people he really likes me.

  • @OhioGalReads
    @OhioGalReads Рік тому +12

    Compatibility on many levels, plus chemistry, can lead to something amazing! I am blessed. But much relationship advice doesn't apply or doesn't work with us. You have to take the time to figure out what works for the two of you. You are unique individuals. Your relationship will be unique also.❤

  • @tialynn1111
    @tialynn1111 Рік тому +2

    Jonathon is so awesome!! Thanks for the golden advice

  • @janetroberts5140
    @janetroberts5140 Рік тому +4

    All great information Jonathan! Life is too short to be with the wrong person (man) for me. Vetting and time shows us who the person really is. We need to ask those important questions so we can build and grow that beautiful relationship for the rest of our lives.

  • @ginnybenett428
    @ginnybenett428 Рік тому +4

    I notice same when my back acts up - started when I returned from visiting toxic family members recently. I must have known because I signed up for retreat 😊.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  Рік тому

      Oh wow!

    • @tyannefisherloeffler5836
      @tyannefisherloeffler5836 Рік тому

      @@JonathonAslay did you want me to call you and is it free?

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  Рік тому

      Www.jonathonaslay.com/coaching​@@tyannefisherloeffler5836

    • @carlahabib1768
      @carlahabib1768 Рік тому

      Wow. Same thing happened to me when I went to visit a “toxic friend”. I had to come home and immediately go see the chiropractor.

    • @renette0506
      @renette0506 Рік тому

      Spiritually, the back is related to emotions.

  • @CD-ct6fc
    @CD-ct6fc Рік тому +2

    Very, very true. Timing and asking a lot of questions.

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому +3

    I agree compatibility and chemistry exactly.

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому +1

    I was so out of control I couldn’t have a relationship

  • @agathemassa-tumba4448
    @agathemassa-tumba4448 Рік тому +1

    Am so sorry the relationship didn’t work out. Be strong 💪🏽

    • @limbo232
      @limbo232 Рік тому

      Yeah, I was sad to hear that the relationship ended

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому +4

    I couldn’t imagine a relationship without compatibility. Men will push for sex which is immature if they want to be in a healthy relationship.

  • @lindym9450
    @lindym9450 Рік тому +5

    My sister dated a man for 2 yrs and he said she was the one but no marriage proposal ever materialized. One day she came home all his belongings were gone!😢. Poof, just like that. You think you know someone. We don't! She got a post card from him 6 weeks later saying he was marrying a woman in Malaysia. What?? All she got was a postcard? How cold to disappear without even a word. Jonathan are you going to delete the videos with Marie in them?

  • @AutumnLady46
    @AutumnLady46 Рік тому +5

    Thinking about he is choosing someone else over you , that means he isn't just dating you and what does that say about you putting up with things ?

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  Рік тому

      Maybe

    • @AutumnLady46
      @AutumnLady46 Рік тому

      I doubt that they will let you know but if they do and that doesn't fit your way of dating , break it off and don't wast your time .

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому +1

    Jonathon I have refused to be in a relationship since I was in my twenties (a very long time ago) I think I may have found someone but I will have to wait.

  • @mariamayub212
    @mariamayub212 Рік тому +1

    I've missed you! How are you? That was a great session!

  • @deejames1st
    @deejames1st Рік тому +1

    This made me think deeper about what comparability would be for me. Thank you

  • @marietgagliardi
    @marietgagliardi Рік тому

    Good stuff Jonathan. You are so right about romance needing to be in relationships

  • @Suessserat
    @Suessserat Рік тому +1

    Beautiful and wise video...thanks a lot!!

  • @GoldengirlofTarrytown
    @GoldengirlofTarrytown Рік тому +1

    This was very, very good. Thank you 🤔I can relate. Good things to put into practice

  • @tyannefisherloeffler5836
    @tyannefisherloeffler5836 Рік тому +2

    It's OK to go all in

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke Рік тому

    Yes many nagatives over few weeks upset ..sometimes give them enough time to sort them self

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому

    This is difficult when so many people are immature

  • @WandaYarbrough-mx3xf
    @WandaYarbrough-mx3xf Рік тому +2

    I want the emotional support not the sex or not right off any way

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke Рік тому

    Clear ..in .past.. few months..love of my life ..1 year six months...berging of pattens ..but burden of sturbon has many stories...

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому

    Thank God some men are not clueless

  • @andreastarr9382
    @andreastarr9382 Рік тому

    You're right!

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому

    Yes you are right about this archaic reasoning by men.

  • @stephaniepersin4222
    @stephaniepersin4222 Рік тому +9

    I know one thing. It’s not any woman’s job to fix any male mentally. Let the one he wants marriage from listen to his endless BS talk. Most women don’t want multiple sex partners. We aren’t in it for a short term for someone else to get the ultimate commitment like marriage.

  • @hiromi1038
    @hiromi1038 Рік тому

    Thank you for the advice Btw found you on 🐝 🐝 🐝 🐝 🐝

  • @CD-ct6fc
    @CD-ct6fc Рік тому

    I’d like to see you do an interview with Schahrzad Morgan. She is on UA-cam and extremely candid about love and sex.

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke Рік тому

    Coming back isn't colour . Commitment journey has power

  • @celiaescalante
    @celiaescalante Рік тому +1

    He was picking my brain to see what a woman like me wants from a man. 🤔 Plausible. That's my plausible interpretation of the facts.

  • @Sunlightsam24
    @Sunlightsam24 Рік тому

    You said the overall issue with your relationship with Marie perfectly! She pursued YOU (she was operating out of her masculine energy) and i would assume you found this beautiful woman pursuing you to be ‘the answer’. It was obvious to me at least that you were never truly into her. Body language, live interactions, New Year’s Eve….(it’s always easier from someone outside to see these things). All of that doesn’t mean you both weren’t fond of each other or enjoyed each other’s company. I know you don’t buy into feminism and masculine energy, to me, it’s clear that was in play and what happened with Marie pursuing and then leaving. I identified with her and have had to consciously be aware of being in feminine energy-it’s way better for a woman.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  Рік тому

      You are mistaken...

    • @innisneill7510
      @innisneill7510 Рік тому

      Telling other people how they supposedly feel according to YOU and what their internal motivations are according to YOU is incredibly rude.

    • @Sunlightsam24
      @Sunlightsam24 Рік тому

      I’m curious, mistaken about what? You said in this recording ‘for those that believe I forced Marie to move, it’s not true. She contacted me and a decided to move here.’ (Paraphrased) Sorry you’re not able to see that, wishing you the best as always!

  • @LeafsIn2025
    @LeafsIn2025 Рік тому +4

    Listened to you again after the live. Definitely missed a lot and am glad I hit the replay loop. Well done, Jonathon! 👍🙏💙

  • @marthalopez6662
    @marthalopez6662 Рік тому +2

    Thank you Jonathan,
    I trust your back is recovering… great teaching 🌺

  • @dianethompson6804
    @dianethompson6804 Рік тому +2

    I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out.

  • @stephaniec5215
    @stephaniec5215 Рік тому +1

    It is my hope, and that of spiritual teachers, that we have evolved past ‘will he pick me?’ belief systems. This is the same using people and human grocery store (apps) mentality that prevents authentic connection. Pickmesha is no place for the dignified woman. Why are you comparing and waiting on a human to ‘pick you’? What a strange concept in the post modern age. Choose yourself if you need to regard people as products.

  • @rosiemac2538
    @rosiemac2538 Рік тому

    I find it so beautiful when you pray❤
    Maybe you should cosider going to Church to worship Jonathan plus the single ladies there are into good old traditional values 😅

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому

    I am learning Greek it and I love languages ❤

  • @tyannefisherloeffler5836
    @tyannefisherloeffler5836 Рік тому

    Good morning 🎉

  • @tyannefisherloeffler5836
    @tyannefisherloeffler5836 Рік тому

    Sorry, I lost my connection.i miss your answer to my last question

  • @charlottehanmann
    @charlottehanmann Рік тому

    GOOD

  • @glamaz0n
    @glamaz0n Рік тому

    But now, all I want to do is make art and I’d rather do that than anything. Definitely more than dating some bloke for entertainment. See? I’m just like the guys! I’m female, straight, but my brain is male.

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke Рік тому +2

    Chosen by god

  • @MargaretCampbell583
    @MargaretCampbell583 Рік тому

    Interesting thing about your back

  • @tyannefisherloeffler5836
    @tyannefisherloeffler5836 Рік тому

  • @BenjaminV-rj4is
    @BenjaminV-rj4is 7 місяців тому

    Wow thanks, I didn't realize that Merle updated his favorite way to make her explode in pure bliss, it’s amazingly satisfying. Although what he suggested before was fairly good, it doesn’t even compare, I did it go’ogling Merle Winestol, and she just can’t have enough now.

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke Рік тому

    Commitments .continues

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke Рік тому

    Casel . commitments matters