Your Parents Don't Want You To Go Abroad?
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This is the email that I received:
Hi bharat
I have seen a lot of your videos in youtube channels and I love them. I am currently working in TCS in India. I have 8years of work experience and I am currently preparing for masters in Germany in Computer science. But my parents at this time are unconvinced with my decision to go Germany. They think I will go away and will never come back. My father is retired and they think they will become alone. So they want me to get married this year and settle here in India. I too feel guilty that am I becoming selfish and thinking only about myself and my career. I am not happy working in TCS and I always wanted to do masters. So now I don't know if I am doing right and I also don't want to hurt them or leave them alone as they are or they will get old as time passes.
Can you give me any advice?
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Most of the Indians faced this. To the guy who wrote the email to bharath: Please do not feel that you are selfish. It's completely about the mentality most of the Indians have. Just fly... to achieve your dream. There will be a day that your parents will proud of you. I can tell this with my full voice, as I made that decision years ago being as an Indian unmarried woman by then.. and now I am still living happily with no regrets.
Woww... motivation
Small correction most Indian's did not face this the are facing it
I also face same...
my parents did not support me for moving abroad but my dream is to move to another country...😔😔😔
😥
@@shivanitanwar4415 same
This is even worse for Indian women. Agar ladki bahar padhne chali gayi toh shaadi kab karegi. Dahej kaise denge. Over qualified hui toh shaadi kaun karega.I dont understand why is marriage such a big deal in this country. Live and let live. People should get married only when they feel like it not because they are running out of age.
🤲🏻🤲🏻🎯🛐
On point
You are 10000% correct
This. 👏
This is true but if you want to purse higher education you just need to convince your parents to invest in your dream
As I'm in my teenage, i feel like the next 20 years are going to be the most important time in my life, and i have no plans to get married or anything like that before 40, or even more!
Really hate the dark side of indian culture.
Also here in this video, the parents are being selfish.
We were born to achieve our dreams. i get it they love us as well, but tbh i wouldn't do anything like this to my child if i had one!
Try staying single past 27 and see things going south. Buddy! If you are really career oriented abhi se mehnat karo and MS padhne India se bahar niklo. Yahan shaadi ke alawa kuch nahi rakha hain. All the best
@@saranibhattacharya2849 Thanks I'm already on it. Bachelor from delhi, ms in germany is my plan & Thankyou!
@@adi5601 oh hi adi i mean AR Tech,me too planning for film school in germany
@@adi5601how you are doing now?
Ah man , can you make this in hindi version . I would love to show it to many parents.
After watching this, I bet most of the parents would say stuff like " Do not waste your time on youtube/phones" 🤭
my parents wants me to get govt job, but i want to go abroad
Same here
Do anything.. Beg on streets but dont waste time for government job..I have wasted 5 years in that..
Exactly man I wanna die😭
Same
@@aherahirrao6328depends on the govt job
I have the same situation at home...My parents don't want me to go abroad....They feel insecure that their son will go away and will not take care of them. They are educated but very traditional. Their mentality is I should stay with them, make their life happy during their old age, in short be their servant or bonded labour. That's why when I asked my father to let me go abroad, he took away all my money and forced me into an arrange marriage. This is my story. Now my life just revolves around them. They have become very happy and I am depressed. End of the story
This sounds horrible Harsh. Anyway I can help?
@@BharatinGermany Thanks for your reply..Currently I have taken admission for masters here in India...and things are becoming normal...I have been following your channel since last 1.5 years and I really like the way you explain things..if I need any help I will surely ask you..Once again I am very much thankful to you
Fortunately that's not the case with me. My parents are supporting and encouraging me to apply for a german university.
Lucky haie bhai tu
Lucky you :D
Make sure you prove them right and set an example!
@@adi5601 bhai tere bata sahi haie lakin parents ko mana kaie baad ek aur filter ata haie jisa kaha tha haie relatives inha kon samjaya parents ko bhi galat advice deta ratha haie
@@prakhar3636 Bhai smjh skta hu tera dard, ye relatives khud ki life figure out jo nhi kr paye wo dusre ki krne chal dete h. Inhe ignore kro pura, disrespect lge inhe toh lgne do because they aren't going to pay your bills or buy you a house!
@@adi5601 Bas bhai because ka age tujha bolna ki jarurat nahi maie samaj gaya Tu kya kahana chata haie 😂😂😂😂 Bharat bhai iski aur bata do ki relatives ko kase deal kara
My parents are the ones who gave me the idea of moving abroad in the first place.
in one video I commented about how some of us can't leave India because of our parents are here so I think this video is coming from some of us that thought. Thanks for considering on this topic. 👍
I appreciate a lot that you help other students,Who are working hard to get College in Germany .
I think I should go to next Lecture now! You're too good and really addictive to watch all the videos and even some again! Good luck Bharat and Alina 🎉
I really wanted to come to Germany for studies and I saw many many videos for information I researched everything but at last my dad didn't allowed me to go my dreams shattered ☹️ idk why they gave me hope at first and said I could go but now I ask them why they say they were joking about it who jokes about their child's future... I'm lost right now and am ranting about it over here just to feel a little bit fine I guess.
Don't worry what's your age ?
@@Hinderbergisabitch this is happening with me too
i m 19
@@Hinderbergisabitch same here and I’m 28 and I’m married very tough.
Initially parents agreed now they are not ready to discuss
Same literally:((
@@Hinderbergisabitch 19:'(
As soon as i saw the title i clicked
You just read my mind
my parents don't want to study abroad, i partially understand loans and all but there main concern is I wont come back or want me to go for UPSC
Same here 😭
I'm so depressed I was forced by my parents to pursue bcom I hated it 💔 they've shattered my dream 😭😭😭
@@Stephjohn26 so what u want to take up instead?
@@Stephjohn26 this all Happens because the lack of our independence in indian society. I hate every minute of it. Being told what to do! Cause what I don't have fucking Money? Guess what we are never taught to figure out our part time jobs instead the society questions the financial status of students who hold jobs. Parents don't let us. Don't go abroad cause u may not come back. The fact they don't know if I go to the Near city I still may be not come back
@@moumitareads3738 I have completed my bcom but I couldn't able to score really good grades now I can't study abroad.
Thanks Bharat for speaking about this delicate topic much needed.
Well said Bhai!!!!
I'm 16 and my father said a straight no(just an hour ago before posting this comment) when i told him that I want to study abroad and want to take the SAT in this August. For the past year and a half I've been preparing for Jee(i never wanted to do it and I'm pretty sure I'm not gonna clear the it) . I don't know why I'm even writing this comment ....maybe just trying to the weight off my chest........
@Mayukh Basu he doesn't need this right now. You're only making things worse for the poor chap. THIS! This is what's wrong with Indian parents and no I absolutely find your message discouraging, inaccurate, wrong. This is exactly what's wrong with the society. You might think youre right and stand by ur words and think you're wise..you're not :)
Hope ur keeping well, follow what YOU desire. You'll get there eventually buddy
Kya baat sir aaj video aapne 4 baje ke baad video post kari hai german time ke hisaab se
So damn true.
thanks bharat for such a helpful video
You are lucky to have such parents... bcas they tried to make ur dream come true... ... not everybody will get such parents... who understands their kids...
Same situation here as well. 😥
Well said Chaudhary.
I'm both glad and sad after seeing this. Glad as Bharat is available to help and solve all kinds of problems. Sad as I feel the person who wrote this email needs to make his own decision. No matter how much other's can advise, the person has to face it himself.
From this video I learn a lot thanks
I m facing completely opposite situation. As I am convinced to go abroad though I am not highly motivated. I want to be with my parents in their old age.
My appoinment date is 11 march while classes starting date 1 march.what i should do now deferment for sept intake and logg file 11 march or also need of change appoinment date .is i can go for interview for september classes on march appoinment
You really said it and it is true
Well my problem is opposite
my parents are forcing me to go abroad, I want to stay here, but they won't let me.
I would take your opportunity
@@hari0794
but why tho? Abroad is expensive. My country is altho poor but everything here is cheap.
@@Enacaus education is more practical than theoretical and it will make us more responsible, also many times of scholarships are available (my cousin received a good scholarship and she is an average student), it will provide you much better opportunities and will in turn make your parents and relatives proud of you.
@@hari0794
so you don't care about your own life. you just wanna make your relatives and parents happy?
What a great fucking way to destroy your life
@@Enacaus bro if abroad is expensive the salary is also way higher
#meToo
Same problem is with my parents.
I hope my life story get you motivated and see that you are in better position than me so fight for you dream
In my case
My whole family's is against me going abroad for study because they want me to take care of my parents. They fear I won't return and I won't survive the harsh world and I am a single child
They are educated !
Reasons I want to study abroad
They have kept me in home my whole life
If I ever get home late after school they would hit me
If I hang out with others till dark I would get scolded
I have never been to any trip bcoz they think accident may occur
They have never let me joined ECA which I really wanted bcoz they think that accident may occur
They will never take my opinion in family problem and discuss about family(I am already 20)
So I want to fly ,I want to experience
I want to learn I want to get hit and stand on my own. If I stay in this country I would never experience these things
My story is like movie but I hope this movie has happy ending
I get u..and im in the same position as you..hope u would achieve ur dream..
so bro where are you now abroad or??
Same situation like me brother, my father is an army retired and he doesn't allow me to go abroad
bhai..same situation yr....if ysomething happens let me know!!! I will pray that your dreams get fulfilled!!!!
My parents don't want me to go abroad coz they feel it's better to spend the money on my marriage.. it's the perfect investment for them.. and I am tired of convincing them hence I am giving up
Please don't give up
I'm having the same problem and more,
my parents don't want to send me abroad thinking I will never come back and I will leave them, till my high school they have been controlling my life because of that I never went out with my friends, till high school fine I somehow survived till then, but even after high school, no I really want to explore the world and do my studies abroad but they say that I cannot do it! I feel really bad to tell them this but I also feel very angry because they are severely limiting me and controlling me!! I haven't told my parents this. I need your help!! pls!!
Bhai ye vdo aap ek hindi me bhi upload kar do fir apne mother father ko dikhaunga as they don't understand english. I hope it might help me.
True plz translate in hindi so that my parents understand...
Sir any chance to set up in a germany for musicians....
Parents are ready for sending us abroad but I am unable to process right and correct choice I had misconception regarding which course I should pursue some technical anomaly
Hi Bharat. Its nice to come across your channel. I am in my late 30s and a single mother. I do have retired parents. I lost chance twice of going abroad and I actually feel that one of the reasons for me not being able to move ahead was kind of emotional blackmail from my parents. But still I am not giving up and am still trying cos I also want to give a better future for my kid. Its kind of really depressing where I am currently at and now will be my third time attempting. I have decided to keep all the emotions aside and give my third attempt again to build a better future for my kid.
What are your views on it? Will highly appreciate it.
I want to study abroad and my parents are against my choice to go abroad and they also don't have money.So I am thinking that first I should go to earn money in any gulf country and then go to study abroad and they are not.....What now 😭? I am so angry and depressed they are just saying bad things to me that you will go for trucking in gulf.They are saying that driving a truck is a bad work.They want me to do what they want.They are not agree with my own decisions for my life
I'm 16 and I've been watching your videos for a while now. I'm doing my 12th in Indian. I was an exchange student in Bargtheide (A small town near Hamburg ). I've lived in Germany for a year and I know how great the country is.
After watching this video I am more greatful towards my parents who believed in me and making me able to do the exchange with Rotary.
@@name8166 why should he come back to this wrecked country 🤣
people behave and think as they learn when they grow up .
thats a programmed behavior and its almost impossible to change someone's thinking process
Well said bhai
Same condition here is also...
Same situation is mine. I have a onsite opportunity but my parents are ruining their life due to this. I might travel this month .. even my gf crying like hell , my mom is crying like hell. And now m thinking to put down paper
......!! 😊
*The video we didn't expect, but needed*
This is same happening with me in my home. I want to go US for MS, I am 28 now.. N my parents telling me agar chali gyi so whn u ll marry, will not afford your expenses, dowry bhi dena hoga, and now wht u ll do of studying.. Then want me to marry and not to study 😔😢😔
Take a loan and repay it urself. dont try to put ur burden on ur parents
You nailed it 🤗😈
They would be more happy if they live in their own home ie where they have been living.what is point in bring and keep them around our city [Because we are selfish to lose them] :-|
Hey, can I dropout my 1st year of MBA and can I go for ms to other country, what will be the process to do that, how my college TC Plays role in that??
Hey Bharath ... It's good to see you have have plans for present and future.but your present and future is based on your past right.and in your past it's your parents who stood for you to gain this level ,insights and thoughts! Please donot stop bonding betwween parents and son by spreading the word of independence! The parents of of our generation still depend emotionally atleast on their child though not financially atleast! The topics you mentioned about career plans ,you will definitely get this in India too!May be the independence of living holds good for our next generation as we would have seen the consequences alredy and know how to handle whereas parents of our generation cannot or find it difficult to stay alone as they r emotionally dependent on sons and daughters !
This was the same reason I dropped my VISA interview for US, and currently doing job.
Are you happy? Or do you regret it?
@@sunitashrestha7265 no living depressed 😭
Financial state strong nahi hai abroad study ki liye toh kya kare ? Should i Leave the dream ?
Kindly make a video on latest news of recession in Germany ... Plz ... It'll be very helpful
Sir tell me scope of LLM in Germany
I just know basic English, is it good decision for me to go and study in abroad?
Love u bro
Superlike
can i apply for canada visa without knowing my parents, after reaching canada can is this possible,
actually my parents want too
This video inspires me and scares me at the same time
don't listen to him just because you need to hear these things from someone.
He talking in terms of wouldn't and could haves because nobody can predict the future and what it holds,so anything can happen in your life,you can have good life in India too.Make your decision by yourself, he is right for himself might not be for you. Do what makes you happy.
That is the same question I have
I love someone who is from Germany and we are in homosexual relationship. My parents hate the idea and think I'm crazy for real. I have personal problems with my family and do not feel connected with them. They were being abusive yet they decline the accusation. My mindset is way different from people I m born. They do everything that result in shattering my self esteem and confidence. I built my confidence with help of my girlfriend but my parents hate her. I kinda got fed of their behavior and ran away. Yea I did that. They found me obviously and now I'm caged in my parents home. M I wrong for hating them now? Is it too much to ask if I want the person I love? Even my career is ruined and my parents blame it on me and wasting their money. Tell me what should I do? I can't live like this.
I'm afraid that while studying abroad, god forbid if anything bad happens to my parents like if they fall sick and die then I'll regret for my whole life that i couldn't able to see them in their last moment of their life.
bhai je apk pass cooking m vacancy h waha kahi restaurant or htl m agr h toh mereko batao
If I got job in abroad and got my family settled there
Bharat sir, is it impossible to get pr in Germany if somebody is the computer science engineer there ?
Sir pls reply
Yes...
bharat movie dekhe hai aap ne??
I am srikanth.....currently pursuing b.tech mechanical engineering with an aggregate of 86%....I am planning to do masters in germany.....I am really interested in doing masters. ...but I have some kind of visibility defect in my left eye mean ( scquent eye ) ......does it effect my career in getting job opportunities after completing my Masters and getting admit.....am worried about this....can u pls help me.....thanks
hey bro
whats your proress?
u in germany now?
The only people who are being selfish is the parents in this case
same here in bangladesh. I am totally depressed
Hi
but whats your email id cause i have a lot of questions for you bharat relating about studying in germany
please make a vedio that does international student face racism while getting jobs in germany?.my parents are tensed about that if i cant find a job after my bachlors from germany what will be the results😥..pls make a covencive vedio by giving some examples of successful indians there?please
I am begging from my parents to send me abroad for my studies . My two alder sisters are in abroad and live their life very well . They told to my parents that don’t send her to abroad let her study in india and get a government job . But I my dream is to go there and all the time I think about it and that’s why I do not concentrate on my graduation. I feel depressed due to this 😭
thank you for answering this! regards 🙏🙏
caption said, "email me at pirate and pirate in germany .com" :D
But what if your parents sacrificed their whole life just to make you happy? So leaving them at the time when they needed you the most and when it's your time to give them what they want. I think this is high level of selfishness.
Sir TU Munich mai mechanical engineering bachelors mai admission kitne noten pe milta hai??
Bhai....how much we can earn frm part time job nnnnn can we able to send that money and the money which we saved frm blocked account to our parents in India??????
Plz reply Bharat bhai plzzzz....
Not with the part-time job. You earn anywhere from 10 to 15 Euros an hour.
@@BharatinGermany can we save those euros n send to our parents so dat they can repay the debt ????
@Deepak Garg thanks bro :)
No. Because you'd never have excess money. The reason is you would have money sufficient only for 1 year in your blocked account. For the next year, you would have to make savings from the part time job. If you send that money home, you would have to again ask for money for the second year from your parents. Also, it won't be possible for you to do the part time job all the permitted time (e.g. during exam months) as that would reflect badly on your studies, which is the reason why you're there, not for the part-time job. Now, if you continue to do the part-time job in the second year of your studies as well, you can save a certain surplus (not your whole earnings) and send them home once in a while, as by then you'd already have savings from your first year. Hope this answers your question fully.
BHI mere parents ne BHI mujhe bahar NHI jaane Diya 😑😑
Hi brother ..I completed mechanical engineering with 68% .i want to do masters in Germany but I bothered about my precentage and survival in Germany and also i don’t know the German language. Is it mandatory, learning German language?
And my other question is can I survive there with this knowledge and percentage?
Tell me your suggestion brother?
It will help a lot to me.
+1
Brother I can’t understand what do you me..
You are addressing some genuine points, Bharat. Keep it up and address these different but important topics.
Iranian parents have the same belief unfortunately...It is Eastern tradition.
Why we Indians are so obsessed to live abroad?
Bharat: Can I tell you something do not "over"think, also do some bit of research. From my personal experience I remember most of my cousins graduated from international univ. and some are in the process. My parents were after me too (9 years back), but I never preferred to walk down the same lane as others and now when I look back I have remarkable accomplishment to talk about.
If I am thinking the same way like you do sir, I think I am doing right... The frequency match and motivate to get into the real world......thanks
Totally pleased by this video!😁👌
Sir ....I m confused about part time work limit .......we can do 20 hours a week. Or 120 full days within the year .... please resolve it. ....try to make video on it
Painful truth
Big fan sir
They will hate this video because of different mentality
Bhai mera parents bhi yahi kaha raha haie ki Ghaziabad saie kabhi Tu bhar gaya nahi Germany maie kaisa rahega!!!!!
After 8 years of experience you would probably be touching 30. And after your masters you would be 32+, and If you see the stats of Indian students many are depressed/sad when they don't find the right partner at a later age. So your parents are not completely wrong. Independence and all is important but you know what there is no replacement for parents in this world. Maybe I am wrong but this is Indian culture where parents and kids are not separated as soon as they become 18. It's not that kids don't grow up or can't make decisions. It's the love and respect that make us asking for advice from parents lifelong, even when it's actually not required
Ill say u one thing ,now u r telling as ease but tomorrow same thing happens with u (for God sake) after bcoming parents ,u will come to know and realised at that time🙄🙄
Hey sir! My name is Nayan and I m from Assam a small state of India. I am a your big fan. I regularly watch your UA-cam Videos. I mail you beacause i was in great doubt that after my Graduation in B-Tech of Automobile Engineering. How can I apply for my job in abroad. Can you please explain me in brief the method the way through which i can apply for my job in Germany.
Joi ai Okhom
They chose to be parents . It's there choice . They lived their life .but you have your whole life .
You got be selfish . It's the way life works .
Achieve your dreams and find perfect future for yourself.
If they pulling you down they are the one who is selfish
I said the same thing and guess what my dad said "yes I'm selfish what are you gonna do about it?" I mean I can't go without him paying for studies. So I'm just accepting this stupid thing in my life.
@@timilaxtha4925 u know you can pay the tuition fees in germany yourself
Bhaiya please make a video about investors visa.
I don't know why students wants to pursue higher studies in abroad? They live and brought up in this soil but wants to work in abroad ,this is not fair..we should not forget our country...f they have skills they get jobs easily.. parents or kids needs to understand those countries are behind our work and brilliant workers only to progress n develop their country... remember their first priority will always for their citizens... we never know when they will throw from their company.. and the one who is working there will always be in fear n feel insecure.. it's a fact.. one should not go behind the money.. there we may get luxuries/comforts but not the bonding relationship which is really precious.. first we need to serve our nation and not their's.