This sounds exactly like my father. As time goes by he becomes more reclusive, withdrawn and bitter. He drinks and his personality is so different than he was when younger. He idolized Frank Lloyd Wright, a narcissist. He and mom always talked (obsessed) about being rich and famous. I think the reality has sunk in tht this won't happen. They tried putting the pressure on me to be that way too..I'm not either and have no problem wih it. It's just sad to watch him..and mom..deteriorate.
Wow, again Sam, one of your best. Thinking of the two narcissists that I've encountered, both propped up by their families, unemployed and unemployable because they don't have the discipline or desire for hard work, to gain degrees, to submit to an employer's requirements. They just "get along", barely getting by, yet either would tell you that they're brilliant, that their talents aren't appreciated in the corporate world. LOL
Sounds like my N who has never been employed, is almost in his 30's, and still lives at home with his mom who he loathes. To hear him talk you would think he's a workaholic supporting his entire family. Yet in reality he is on public assistance, he's unlicensed for both vehicle driving and construction, and he sits at home all day watching TV. However he says he would have both his licenses because he's an excellent driver and construction worker, but...and there's no real reason why he doesn't.
@Adam Kraft To be honest I'm 19 so I guess I wouldn't be. But I've engaged in some really self destructive behavior since my life disintegrated. I have to feeling I might be a covert/vulnerable narcissist since I am more quiet and introverted. I don't have the sadistic urges but i do have a inferiority/superiority complex. I can be passive aggressive occasionally when things are not going to my plans. I also had some periods where i rage when things are basically going against me. I can also be cynical about others successes but I'll try to give information about music to other people.
@Johan Vos same. The worst part is you spend so much of your youth chasing frivolous pursuits and what other people want you end up waking up one day not knowing where the hell you are. I could have had a wife and children but like you my standards for women were too high although as a contradiction I just wanted one that was feminine,sweet loyal kind and would be a good mother. Clearly didn't do anything to make use of my musical potential.
@exposingscams: I have a neighbour who matches your description. He lives in a tacky, grandiose mansion and drives a sports car with aloud engine to signify how important he believes himself to be.
Kudos to you for leaving. My N loves getting with women who work or collect aid so he can sponge off of them in order to pursue his dream of the week. I've never allowed him access to my money thank goodness.
WOW are you sure you're not referring to my narcissist ex-fiance?? His last employer contacted me to ask me if I had any information about his theft - apparently he's stolen thousands of dollars from his last two employers and I had no idea! He couldn't keep a job if it killed him.
My Narc becomes withdrawn and I wouldn't say nicer with the influence of marijuana. Alcohol sets off his mania though and after one sip he becomes what he believes to be is the of the party however to myself and everyone else he's actually an extreme buzzkill. It's annoying.
Solution? Been terrible, crazy behaviour, negative mindset and reckless actions then running from the situation making things worse. Now in a new location and feel inadequate and anxious so taken myself out. I am in my mid-life not sure why I have acted inappropriately and not thinking of the consequences. I know you have to get on at work, form good relationships to form a good team. I let my ego take over and sabotaged myself and my reputation for nothing wouldn't let go and didn't sort it. Now not sure of the path to take. Feel like my life has gone out of control and have ruined my child's lovely childhood for nothing. She had a great wee life and I've acted without kindness, compassion and empathy for the other person. Was comfortable came across conflict to the way I was spoken to tried to address it lost my self esteem then became negative/depressed and took it out on the person who tried to control me. Was unhappy feeling life was mundane/boring but now it's full of more unhappiness and pain. I lacked gratitude and never appreciated the good qualities. Now in a terrible situation in a new location as I asked for a move feel like I shouldn't be there and don't feel confident in my job over anxious so taken myself out. Only thing is not got much to occupy my time and not got a lot of friends. Burning bridges along the way and think I have ruined my career reputation for nothing. Feel stupid for not getting out and for not recognising the positives. In retrospect I never seen my situation as a opportunity for career development I seen the challenges and conflict as being hard. Is there a way to recover from this? I feel like I have lost confidence in my ability to do a good job as I haven't been fully submerged in my job. Feel like I have these traits and need to change.
and how to get rid of those traits if they're rooted deep inside? particularly in case of total resentment towards routine. how to stop being deluded if you're deluded? who to check with?? do you have answers?
beware Mariana, of the man who does not work, and also who tries to get YOU to pay for things, anything, all things, part of things, he should be paying...not sponging off of women, not now, not ever, not for any reason... be safe.
Lauri Rose Sponging of people is not good, but thinking you deserve to be pampered and never have to pay for anything simply because you are female is far from healthy as well!!
Sounds like a narcissism is just a place on the continuum of Affectionless Psychopathy to me. A common trait of psychopaths is ego mania, restlessness, inability to conform to routine. The inability to perceive the needs and wants of others, is a by product narcissism surely?
Some narcissists can produce good works though. I worked with one and in return for me applying my skills (language translation) to a job for a few months, he applied his skills (computer programming) for the same time period. Both led to good results (a translated book and a three good computer programs). But it's probably only intelligent narcissists who can do this. Unfortunately however, they cannot use this intelligence to diminish the symptoms and progression of this mental illness.
SO am I unemployed because I'm a narssacsit. I Hate the idea of working for =someone else, I'm staying at home with my mom and i'm 25 getting unemployment, but I am studying and trying to start an accounting business and I graduated in accounting, and really have few friends, none currently talking to. I feel I don't have job because of the economy, and I feel I don't have any friends because nobody want you unless they get something out of it. I really don't trust anyone but my mom.
@Omgsome1just look up the "spot the twat" video here - that's the alleged narcissist. Then you'll see what I mean. He's like an archetypal case for the psychologists.
Lightacandle so you think they will do anything to keep their lies together. because they believe there own lies. don't indulge in what u think u see or no about them. everything is a lie remember that. it's much easier for a person to believe someone else's lies. if the person that's telling the lies believes their own lies. complete fiction!
Hello Sam, im wondering if you think that a seemingly grandiose cycle of npd could be capable of killing a perceived threat to that grandiosity? I cant shake this feeling. Thanks.
Well my covert narc works just normal. But of course he keeps the money for his own pocket and not for me or his children. Fat car and watch and dresses and bragging and travels with guys. Yeah. This is him.
Patty S I agree. You never know. And the next thing is you're gone. I get nauseated when I think about how close I came. Sometimes I think that his smear campaign was so good: that what he told everyone about me and how he pretended to other people to be so kind and loving that no one would ever suspect him. When I look back I think that he was definitely setting it up and just a matter of the right time. I'm so glad he's gone. But I do let him know via his flying monkeys that I'm seeing other people. That will keep him away.
This sounds exactly like my father. As time goes by he becomes more reclusive, withdrawn and bitter. He drinks and his personality is so different than he was when younger. He idolized Frank Lloyd Wright, a narcissist. He and mom always talked (obsessed) about being rich and famous. I think the reality has sunk in tht this won't happen. They tried putting the pressure on me to be that way too..I'm not either and have no problem wih it. It's just sad to watch him..and mom..deteriorate.
Wow, again Sam, one of your best. Thinking of the two narcissists that I've encountered, both propped up by their families, unemployed and unemployable because they don't have the discipline or desire for hard work, to gain degrees, to submit to an employer's requirements. They just "get along", barely getting by, yet either would tell you that they're brilliant, that their talents aren't appreciated in the corporate world. LOL
The Narcissist is an artist alright, a "Con-Artist"! 😈
Thanks for all your videos. My brother is going thru a horrible divorce/custody battle w a NPD ex. This has helped all of us during the court process.
Sounds like my N who has never been employed, is almost in his 30's, and still lives at home with his mom who he loathes. To hear him talk you would think he's a workaholic supporting his entire family. Yet in reality he is on public assistance, he's unlicensed for both vehicle driving and construction, and he sits at home all day watching TV. However he says he would have both his licenses because he's an excellent driver and construction worker, but...and there's no real reason why he doesn't.
I am a narcissist and I know I suck. Hard.
Same here
@Adam Kraft I could have had a decent life as a musician but my failure to atain narcissistic supply led to my collapse.
@Adam Kraft To be honest I'm 19 so I guess I wouldn't be. But I've engaged in some really self destructive behavior since my life disintegrated. I have to feeling I might be a covert/vulnerable narcissist since I am more quiet and introverted. I don't have the sadistic urges but i do have a inferiority/superiority complex. I can be passive aggressive occasionally when things are not going to my plans. I also had some periods where i rage when things are basically going against me. I can also be cynical about others successes but I'll try to give information about music to other people.
@Johan Vos same. The worst part is you spend so much of your youth chasing frivolous pursuits and what other people want you end up waking up one day not knowing where the hell you are. I could have had a wife and children but like you my standards for women were too high although as a contradiction I just wanted one that was feminine,sweet loyal kind and would be a good mother. Clearly didn't do anything to make use of my musical potential.
@Johan Vos agreed its a sad way of living but we don't need no pity.
Yep. This described my narc exactly. Especially the parasitic lifestyle part. Thank goodness he's sponging off his elderly parents now instead of me.
@exposingscams:
I have a neighbour who matches your description. He lives in a tacky, grandiose mansion and drives a sports car with aloud engine to signify how important he believes himself to be.
MrOmegaBeams he may just have bad taste and like fast cars...
Kudos to you for leaving. My N loves getting with women who work or collect aid so he can sponge off of them in order to pursue his dream of the week. I've never allowed him access to my money thank goodness.
Thank you again for this insight. This describes him exactly. I do mean exactly.
WOW are you sure you're not referring to my narcissist ex-fiance?? His last employer contacted me to ask me if I had any information about his theft - apparently he's stolen thousands of dollars from his last two employers and I had no idea! He couldn't keep a job if it killed him.
My Narc becomes withdrawn and I wouldn't say nicer with the influence of marijuana. Alcohol sets off his mania though and after one sip he becomes what he believes to be is the of the party however to myself and everyone else he's actually an extreme buzzkill. It's annoying.
Solution? Been terrible, crazy behaviour, negative mindset and reckless actions then running from the situation making things worse. Now in a new location and feel inadequate and anxious so taken myself out. I am in my mid-life not sure why I have acted inappropriately and not thinking of the consequences. I know you have to get on at work, form good relationships to form a good team. I let my ego take over and sabotaged myself and my reputation for nothing wouldn't let go and didn't sort it. Now not sure of the path to take. Feel like my life has gone out of control and have ruined my child's lovely childhood for nothing. She had a great wee life and I've acted without kindness, compassion and empathy for the other person. Was comfortable came across conflict to the way I was spoken to tried to address it lost my self esteem then became negative/depressed and took it out on the person who tried to control me. Was unhappy feeling life was mundane/boring but now it's full of more unhappiness and pain. I lacked gratitude and never appreciated the good qualities. Now in a terrible situation in a new location as I asked for a move feel like I shouldn't be there and don't feel confident in my job over anxious so taken myself out. Only thing is not got much to occupy my time and not got a lot of friends. Burning bridges along the way and think I have ruined my career reputation for nothing. Feel stupid for not getting out and for not recognising the positives. In retrospect I never seen my situation as a opportunity for career development I seen the challenges and conflict as being hard. Is there a way to recover from this? I feel like I have lost confidence in my ability to do a good job as I haven't been fully submerged in my job. Feel like I have these traits and need to change.
Marjorie - Yes they capable of killing. Get away. Follow your intuition! Sending you love and protection. Please get away
and how to get rid of those traits if they're rooted deep inside? particularly in case of total resentment towards routine. how to stop being deluded if you're deluded? who to check with?? do you have answers?
Self initiated delusion is a choice. The narcissist feel they don’t have any other choice but to be sick manipulators.
This is totally my first bf. He was proud of not working.
beware Mariana, of the man who does not work, and also who tries to get YOU to pay for things, anything, all things, part of things, he should be paying...not sponging off of women, not now, not ever, not for any reason... be safe.
Lauri Rose Sponging of people is not good, but thinking you deserve to be pampered and never have to pay for anything simply because you are female is far from healthy as well!!
Sounds like a narcissism is just a place on the continuum of Affectionless Psychopathy to me. A common trait of psychopaths is ego mania, restlessness, inability to conform to routine.
The inability to perceive the needs and wants of others, is a by product narcissism surely?
Thank you for all of your videos they have been very informative
Some narcissists can produce good works though. I worked with one and in return for me applying my skills (language translation) to a job for a few months, he applied his skills (computer programming) for the same time period. Both led to good results (a translated book and a three good computer programs). But it's probably only intelligent narcissists who can do this. Unfortunately however, they cannot use this intelligence to diminish the symptoms and progression of this mental illness.
SO am I unemployed because I'm a narssacsit. I Hate the idea of working for =someone else, I'm staying at home with my mom and i'm 25 getting unemployment, but I am studying and trying to start an accounting business and I graduated in accounting, and really have few friends, none currently talking to.
I feel I don't have job because of the economy, and I feel I don't have any friends because nobody want you unless they get something out of it. I really don't trust anyone but my mom.
Hpw did it go
@@Tightness8 His Mothers corpse is carefully preserved, along with her room.
@@onastick2411 lol
my narc was a kindergarten teacher
What happens if you write loser on a pc of paper and give it to a narcissist
@Omgsome1just look up the "spot the twat" video here - that's the alleged narcissist. Then you'll see what I mean. He's like an archetypal case for the psychologists.
Marjorie - Yes they capable of killing. Get away. Following your intuition.
Success follows my narcissist. Seems like everything he touches turns gold.
Lightacandle so you think they will do anything to keep their lies together. because they believe there own lies. don't indulge in what u think u see or no about them. everything is a lie remember that. it's much easier for a person to believe someone else's lies. if the person that's telling the lies believes their own lies. complete fiction!
The ending of this video was the best part. Microphone drop 🎤 Boom!
Amazing
Thank you Sam!
Exact description of what I called my husband
Hello Sam, im wondering if you think that a seemingly grandiose cycle of npd could be capable of killing a perceived threat to that grandiosity? I cant shake this feeling. Thanks.
Thank you Vaknin!
Well my covert narc works just normal. But of course he keeps the money for his own pocket and not for me or his children. Fat car and watch and dresses and bragging and travels with guys. Yeah. This is him.
sounds like my dad.
Mine too!😫
Marjorie - Yes they capable of killing. Get away. Following your intuition.
Marjorie - Yes they capable of killing. Get away. Following your intuition.
Patty S I agree. You never know. And the next thing is you're gone. I get nauseated when I think about how close I came. Sometimes I think that his smear campaign was so good: that what he told everyone about me and how he pretended to other people to be so kind and loving that no one would ever suspect him. When I look back I think that he was definitely setting it up and just a matter of the right time. I'm so glad he's gone. But I do let him know via his flying monkeys that I'm seeing other people. That will keep him away.