Shooo guys i dont think you will ever know how much you helped me and my family understand what my sister went through because when it happened we thought she had an abortion and that she was exaggerating about the pain. I saw this video and watched it with the family, my sister just cried and said that's exactly what happened to her. Thanks guys for opening up to us, i know it was not easy. Stay blessed.😚😚
@@nontobekogumede4447 So sorry for ur loss girl, i hope you have the support you need to get through this and find healing. Sending you love and light.
@@misstheng5815 thanks alot dear, I thought I was strong until last week when I just busted into tears, I attended sessions with the psychologist after that and I feel far better than before. 😊❤️
Sorry guys. I saw your post on Instagram and immediately came here. May God wrap your hearts and heal you. May he bring hope for restoration. May it never happen again and may you bear a seed as your hearts desire in Jesus Name I pray♥️🙏
This is so hard I'm 28 and my husband is 31 we were married for four years and we heard two miscarriages and I it was not easy for us may God heal you guys 😭😭
I'm so sorry about your lost guy's. I also lost my twins during lockdown and it was the worst experience ever🥺 just earlier today i looked at my sonar picture and shed a tear or 2 again😭 it hurts so much 💔 Be strong guy's, I will definitely include y'all in my prayers I remember when someone committed on a video saying Steph looks pregnant, GOOD PEOPLE PLEASE STOP COMMENTING SUCH THING'S
A very clear and loud reminder to STOP asking people "When are you getting pregnant, when are you starting a family?".. who knew our faves were going through such a tough time? No one. Lets just mind our business ey. Im really sorry you have to go through that🥺No one deserves it. Love and warm hugs fam
I had a miscarriage in 2019 and another in 2021. Both happened at 10 weeks. I still cry when I think about it. I had to use the medication too and it was such an emotional and traumatic experience. Would not wish it on my worst enemy. I'm truly sorry for your loss!
I m sorry dear .. I had rapture of membranes when I was 15 weeks pregnant ND my water broke but God made it a miracle ND I gave birth to my baby at 41 weeks healthy this year January... I nearly gave up ND thought it was gonna be a miscarriage 😪
I'm so sorry for your loss guys. I went through a missed miscarriage at 5 months in 2018 and having to go through induction and giving birth to an already dead baby just messed me up... But this year I had my rainbow baby. Love and light to you guys. And I'll say take it easy on trying again, when the time is right it'll happen on its own❤️❤️❤️
Exactly the same thing happened to me in 2020.. Worst part is my partner only got to hold his first son when he was already sleeping.. Worst pain ever.. (he was born alive and only made it thru 17hrs with us)... But on my bday month God blessed us without another baby boy.. He's in my arms as we text.. God is great 👣😍
Really love what Stephanie said about people having this tendency of asking people inappropriate questions about their personal lives, although it isnt from a bad place . People need to stop doing it.
Went through the same in October 2020. I opted for the D&C because I read about the pain and could not handle. So sorry you had to go through that. A year later in 2021 I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.wishing you all the best
My girlfriend and I went through a very similar situation last month. We had a hard miscarriage and she also explains that the whole clean-up process was excruciating. I'll share this video with her and hope it'll help with the healing process she's currently in.
My heart breaks for the two of you. My husband and I experienced an ectopic pregnancy a few months ago and the excitement of knowing you're pregnant then being told its basically a phantom pregnancy is even more painful. The physical pain is nothing compared to the emotional trauma you deal with post the whole process. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Love and light to you both now on your pregnancy journey
Mine was a stillbirth in 2013. I am still traumatised. Finally went to therapy last year, 8 years later. It took me that long to come to terms with it. I have a rainbow baby, she will be 7 in December. She was born in the same month I lost her brother. I had to name my baby boy and Bury him last year, that was how I got my closure. Losing a child is rough guys.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that hey. Just a question....what's a rainbow baby ,I've seen people say I had my rainbow baby and always wondered where that term came from
The worst part for me was hearing the report "incomplete abortion", yoh good Lord I'm reminded of the scripture that says we are hard pressed on every side but not crushed, struck down but not destroyed. What the enemy meant for evil, God will change it for your good, you will be okay, you have already overcome, thank you for sharing such a personal touching experience ❤️🙏
An incomplete abortion is a medical term for an open cervix ot doesn't necessarily mean you had an abortion. At about 10 weeks pregnant, I started bleeding and that was the diagnosis at the clinic . I was so confused and when I asked my midwife, she said the medical term for a miscarriage before all the contents of a uterus are expelled is ' incomplete abortion'
The fact that you guys were making us laugh while going through says so much about how good hearted and strong you'll are, I could never, bengeke nisangbona, thank you guys❤️
Someone close to me recently experienced the same about 4weeks ago. Exactly how you've explained it. It's the worst pain ever. The fact that the baby wasn't physical doesn't make it less painful when lost. Love and light to all that have gone through this horrible experience and patience for those trying for another🤗
Hungani Mfowethu Thank You So much for being there for her I appreciate you and as much as you could assist in much you were there physically Thank You so much ♥️
Love and light to you guys. I've had the experience 10 years ago and till this day when I think about it, it hurts. The pain never goes away, you just learn to live with it.
I literally cried when you were telling your story and could see how hard it was for you to share it. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you went through. So sorry for your loss... Sending much love and hugs to you!!!
I am so sorry you guys had to go through that. I am a nurse in a public hospital and after a woman goes through a medical termination, the gynecologist will do a physical examination and a sonar thereafter to determine whether a uterus clean out will be done. That was poor management honestly. But I am glad you guys considered a second doctor ❤️❤️ sending all my love, you guys are awesome.
I’m sorry for your experience guys, I also went through a similar experience in 2021 after suffering two miscarriages and I must say that finding a good gynaecologist is very crucial during your pregnancy.
I know exactly what you went through. I lost my baby at 11weeks with the blighted ovum in October 2021. It was the darkest moment of my life and something I wouldn't wish for anyone to go through. My family and my partner gave me all the support I needed and with the grace of God I'm pregnant again 🙌 🙏 ❤
It's very painful, I cat erase the imagine of that empty sac ultrasound, happened to me November 2019 and November 2021 I had my rainbow. Congratulations on your bundle🤗
Thank you for sharing one of your most intimate experiences with us. This was hard for me to watch without crying and praying for your continued health and healing .For He who spared not His own son but gave Him up for us, how shall He not through Him give us all things? It is faith in Him that gave you guys the courage to share. We as believers overcome by the Word of our testimony and confession of Christ as our Lord. I see God using this pain for His glory and for your good. Blessings beloved
I'm so sorry guys. Just seeing how excited you guys were when you found out you were pregnant and linking it to the caption is so heartbreaking. Sending all my love and prayers to you ❤️
Today am healed thought I went through this alone maybe God was punishing me or wht never felt so alone while my husband is by my side all the time it was (2019) but even today it feels like yesterday thank u for dis and keep on keeping on its not an easy journey
This was very educational. I never knew how deep this issue was until listening to your story. I have a family member who went through, I couldn't offer supportive because I was totally clueless. But after listening here I am certain I am a better person🤞. I am ready to support and love on the next person close to me who experiences this.
Sending you guy's my love. I am an angel mom myself and one day I would like to tell my story. Listening to your story has brought back tough memories but we move. Therapy is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. Thank you
Just had a flashback of a similar horror gyne story that happened to me in 2014. The pain never goes away. They have no idea how much this negligence cause trauma. The process of suing the gyne is another traumatic road you wouldn’t wanna take. May God continue healing you ❤️
Thank you for sharing this story, this is what exactly happened to me and my husband also in 2020. I was told to do a D&C but I was scared then I decided to go to another doctor who told us of the way of the pills I used them but they didn't work went back to the doctor he prescribed them for me again and gave me another direction of how to use it still didn't work. I had no choice but to go do the D&C then I went to the government hospital I didn't get help I then decided to go to the private hospital then I did the procedure mind you it was during the peak of covid-19 so I was in the hospital by myself did the procedure then went home. I still owe the hospital some money but it was a very difficult journey I haven't healed emotionally. Thank you so much for sharing your story, may the Lord continue covering you❤️❤️
You two are so incredibly brave for sharing your story! The impact that pregnancy loss, abortion and other experiences like this have on people with uteruses and their relationships to partners can be so devastating and difficult to see past. It sos important to open up conversations like these, but can also be very traumatic for those affected. Thank you for being vulnerable! Sending warmth and love from one therapist to other folks struggling x
I agree that any stage of pregnancy, miscarriage is painful, I'm speaking from experience cos mine was one month, I only knew I was pregnant after I miscarried....... So sorry u went through this guy's, thanks for sharing your story.
Sorry for your loss guys, in 2009 I lost the baby into my fifth month, started spotting went to the doctor said it was normal sometimes, few hours later I was admitted heavily bleeding and they told me I lost the baby had to go to theater for cleaning. I stayed overnight till morning waiting for theater and the most traumatic moment was giving birth while waiting. Even talking about it today 13 yrs later my stomach hurts. Take one step at a time and be gentle with yourself s to heal. 💝💝
Had a miscarriage when I was living alone never told anyone I bottled things up, 2 months later I started losing my mind and my family admitted me into a mental institution and eventually started talking about it and i started my healing journey💔 a year later I can still say it hurts deeply love and light to you guys❤ thank you for coming our with your story
So sorry to hear about your loss. I’ve been through this and almost every woman experiences a miscarriage at least 2-3 times on average in their lives. The lesson through my own journey was to treat all my pregnancies as sacred as my marriage. All the pregnancies were challenging, birth even worse but I’m glad I kept it to myself and recorded the milestones and only shared with family and close friends after the children were born, healthy, alive and well. Just something to consider…All the best for the future. God is with you and blessings to you in your journey…
This is so painful so sorry guys😢😭.Praying for you and May god give you strength❤️. Those that love to assume Steph is pregnant please keep those to yourself this is painful. May God heal you, Love & Light❤️
I never been pregnant,I'm turning 35 this year and this stupid questions really really gets to us People need to just STOP. HUGS AND KISSES to you guys
Am feeling guilty I used to comment about glow Nd pregnancy etc out of excitement but not realising what you went through,, am sorry Mrs Ndlovu for your painful experience,,much love❤️❤️❤️❤️
My empathy goes to you for that traumatic experience. I admire your courage to share your story and I believe your sharing reaches out to many others with similar experiences.
I'm sorry for this horrendous experience may God strengthen you. Being in the public eye should never mean that you owe anyone explanation about your lives, and the parts you are comfortable sharing. People need to educate themselves, learn boundaries and stop being so entitled over people's lives!
There was a time this video would have literally paralyzed me😔 we lost our baby on the 1Dec2021 and it was hectic. I went through the opp and the emotional healing was the most difficult. I down played it for the sake of my man and family but it caught up with me in March. I felt like I lost my mind for a little and was angry with God. FF with therapy and support from my man/family, I'm in a better place. I don't cry when I see others pregnant, tv adds and baby clothes or announcements. I have accepted and I trust one day my tears will be wiped with another opportunity to meet my take home baby. Till then, thank you angel baby for having chosen me as your mama🥰 I LOVE U🤱🏾👼🏾
This was so hard for me to watch. Sending love and light 💡 I hope you guys are okay and I hope you guys are having a gentle healing process ❤️ And to anyone who’s experienced this, I’m so sorry 💡
Guys!!!! This was triggering but had to listen. My wife and I went through the same in 2018, waited also for 8-10 weeks then thought it’s time to go to a gynae. When we got there, we were told there’s no sign of a baby even though there’s traces of pregnancy. We were also mad at the gynae’s actions after as well. The trauma is real, we hate these questions as well, when are you having a child, you look pregnant, you’re glowing, don’t you want a child, you guys will make such good parents, yoh! It’s annoying, it’s triggering! This was some sort of therapy for us as well, thank you guys ❤️
Feels like I'm reliving the traumatic experience I had last year this month😭....I was so excited to hear the 1st heartbeat only to be told I had lost my 1st child and i went through the same process of removing the remains...seeing those clots and having those contractions knowing your baby is being pushed out of your body is heartbreaking 🫂💔
I am only watching this episode now because I was just not ready the past months. Thank you for closing with educating the public about how sensitive this is. So happy for you both to your big miracle from God.
I had a similar experience when I miscarried, I described those contractions as violent. I’ve had a baby before, had a natural birth and went through contractions. They were nothing compared to the contractions induced by those meds. I also got the surgery after the meds and then meds again a week when there was still a clot that remained. Glad you went to the second gynae/specialist. Miscarriage is such a traumatic experience, one needs all the support they can get and s specialist who cares. Thank you for sharing your story.
You just took me back to October 2018 the same thing happened to me exactly as you have explained it to me. The pain was unbearable 😭😭💔💔 I did everything on my own with the support of my partner the only thing he could do was to hold my hand. Lucky for me now I have 2 healthy babies after the angel baby 😇❤️
I'm so sorry you went through all that. My prayers! The last bit is everything I've always wanted to say. I'm also on an almost similar journey and I get triggered by people's questions all the damn time! Can people just learn to mind their business, goodness!!!!
I'm so sorry for your loss. May God be with you and continue to comfort you. Thank you for making the brave decision of sharing something so difficult and personal, your openness is appreciated ❤
So sorry guys for what you went through. My husband and I lost our pregnancy 3 months ago and we are still trying to figure it out. Worst experience ever and even though we are learning to live with the loss it breaks our hearts every time we think about it. Hugs and love to you both❤
Thank you for sharing your journey, I’m so sorry that you had to go through all of that on top of loosing a baby. Watching you guys reminds me of my journey of my miscarriage at 8 weeks, and having to go through it semi-alone. It took me almost 3 months to come to terms with everything. I send love and light to you guys, it will get better with time although it is not easy.❤️❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss guys. The loss of a child is never easy to fathom no matter the stage of the pregnancy. Time changes everything and everything changes in time; May you be covered. 💖🙏🏼
I really felt it when Steph said, "I just wanted my mother". I went through a similar experience in October 2021 and it's really true that going through the bleeding and pain is harder than hearing that I lost my baby honestly... I was also 8 weeks and due for my first doctor's appointment... My baby daddy and me also dealt with it separately even though we were still together. I had a friend who was pregnant with me at the same time.. It was really difficult.. I have so much in common with y'alls experience, my hormones were all over too
My people, you guys are my people. I love you both so much. Thank you for even sharing your life with us, I'm so appreciative cause you are teaching us about serious things all the time, I never knew blighted ovums were a thing , thank you so much. May God bless you and be with you and continue to heal you❤️
Also, the last part of the video really really needed to be said🙌🏾 We have so much to learn about minding our own business, even if people are public figures they are not obligated to share everything.
Sending warm hugs to the both of you Ndlovu's❤ you guys are very strong having to talk about this, informing us. May the Good Lord make you even stronger and heal you. I love you guys
Had a miscarriage 2017, at 16 weeks. My story is slightly different because I wasn’t given any medication it was all spontaneous for me, I started having pains at 14:00 went to the hospital around 18:00 I literally gave birth to my foetus in a public ward waiting for help. Still traumatised by it. I’ve since healed… but the emotions definitely come back 5 years later. Love and light to you ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I felt like you were narrating me and my hubby's experience in 2019 🥺 . Worst experience ever, we lost our angel at 28 weeks😢😢. But our hope and faith kept us going and we were blessed with our rainbow baby this year🤗. Love and light to you💝
Well said Steph I'm 100% with you. People need to respect other people's space and mind their own business. What doesn't sit well with me is the very same people that are probing in celebrities lives or any bodies life is going through worst pain are hoping that will make them feel better. No guys please as Hungani says drink your water and stay in your lane. Peace and Blessings over the Ndlovu's. Love you guys
So sorry family to hear about your painful experience. Sorry to everyone else in the comments who has gone through a loss of a baby whether it was an embryo or a fully formed baby, it's the most painful experience anyone can go through. I too lost a baby at 23 weeks, she was born lived for 4 days and passed. Strength to you guys, may God help you to heal. I pray that you may never go through this again in future 🙏🌹
A loss is a loss guys. Imagine when you've lost your phone, something you can and replace everything that was there but you still fall apart from losing it as had already had a particular bond with it. I've had several miscarriages and it kills me to think about it. Now I don't even want my partner to know when I've conceived because the pain of giving him falls hope is eating me. Public health care is failing to explain what's wrong and unfortunately, finances does not allow to seek speciality care. That time the question are all over about when are we having children. Thank you for sharing everything and we praise God for your survival and strength. May he continue to cover you all the time. Wish you more health and healing with a beautiful life ahead💚💚💚
You guys are strong. You guys are so inspirational. I watch these with my partner and discuss whatever we take from them. From this, we've taken everything. This is the reality that many encounter. All the best in everything you'll do. I'm glad that you'll do not allow negativity into your space. Once again, very inspirational
I am really sorry you had to go through that. Dont just think you are strong, know that you are strong because you are. ❤ thank you for being brave enough to share
THANK YOU for being strong and brave enough to share your story!!! May God continue to heal you, and may you find comfort in Him. And I strongly agree that people should stop asking or commenting on people's private matters.
"Drink your water and mind your business" this line killed me😅 but thank you for sharing with us your story, My deepest condolences to you both for what you've been through. This certainly was very educational and I have certainly learnt a thing or two about coping mechanism. Therapy is important.
Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️ Thank you for also letting people know that as much as you’re in the public eye, no one is entitled to know anything that you do not want to share. I’m so glad that you guys have found a good gynae now who is taking care of you and your current pregnancy. It really upset me to hear how careless your previous gynae was and did not ask you to come in for a follow up check in and make sure you everything had been expelled and that Steph was okay. I’ve seen it happen many a times and it really upsets me. More than anything, I’m so happy for you guys and it’s so beautiful to see the love you have for each other and the patience you have with each other’s coping mechanisms. 🥺 I wish you both nothing but the best with lots of love ❤️ ❤️
Sorry for your loss, it does not matter how far along one was, miscarriage is such a heavy loss and you always wonder about your child that you had prepared your mind and emotions to raise, and just like that they are no more, you will never know the gender they were or what kind of a personality they would have had, you question God. You just go through a lot and you get nasty comments that imply that because you were a few weeks pregnant you are not allowed to grieve that loss, or like another baby can just replace your loss. So sorry for that horrible terrifying experience you guys passed through and thank you for sharing your story.
Yoh the "Incomplete Abortion" diagnosis🥺😪 they did the same with me, I questioned and they said it's a medical term they use😪 Nothing broke me like having my Mom hear that coz then upto this day "abortion" is what she heard. I'm so sorry for your loss guys, may God continue to heal you, you wont forget but you will learn to live with the loss with time. Love and light🖤❤️
I think they should make it a habit to explain things in great detail, because "abortion" is also used medically for in utero loss of baby. So sorry you experienced this. Sending you hugs🫂💕
I can imagine dear .our moms will never understand what an.incomplete abortion means because that word abortion is such a strong term and it's the only word they'll hear. Hugs to you
Thank you guys for sharing your story. It just shows how strong you are to be able to unpack this traumatic experience. I've heard about it from close friends and also read about it. It is a painful one. God will strengthen you. I believe greater things are coming your way. People should make use of 1 Thessalonians 4:11 (Minding their own business). I love you
Thank you guys for teaching everyone about respecting others privacy and also about keeping our curiosities in check when it comes to certain aspects of people’s lives.
You know the saying "be kind to people, you never know what they may be going through". Looking back at your videos for during that time, you could never tell that you were going through what you are sharing with us now. I'm so sorry to the both of you, and I pray God heals you.
Sorry for your loss my darlings,even in times like this,he is still God and he is in control,You will heal with time,wish the best with your future .Stay blessed.
Imagine going through the most traumatic experience in your life and people are busy asking you about a character you played💔😣omg I'm so sorry you guys . May God be with you ❤Thank you for sharing this with us 🙏🏾I admire your strength
So sorry guys for your loss I know the experience I had 3 miscarriages between 2019 and 2020 it's so painful I know n the healing process is long .am just happy that now you are able to talk that means you have accepted the situation thank you guys🙏for helping a lot of people be blessed
I’m sorry for your loss julle. Thank you for sharing your story and the very important message that most of us need to learn. Love and light to you two.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. It will really help many. Sending so much Love 🥺❤️
Shooo guys i dont think you will ever know how much you helped me and my family understand what my sister went through because when it happened we thought she had an abortion and that she was exaggerating about the pain. I saw this video and watched it with the family, my sister just cried and said that's exactly what happened to her. Thanks guys for opening up to us, i know it was not easy. Stay blessed.😚😚
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺thank you for sharing your story and we hope your family will support your sister in the way she needs to heal 💯❤️🙏🏾🙌🏾
I had a miscarriage just last week. I'm in pain 😢😭😭😭😭😟😟💔💔
@@nontobekogumede4447 So sorry for ur loss girl, i hope you have the support you need to get through this and find healing. Sending you love and light.
@@misstheng5815 thanks alot dear, I thought I was strong until last week when I just busted into tears, I attended sessions with the psychologist after that and I feel far better than before. 😊❤️
Sorry guys. I saw your post on Instagram and immediately came here. May God wrap your hearts and heal you. May he bring hope for restoration. May it never happen again and may you bear a seed as your hearts desire in Jesus Name I pray♥️🙏
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Amen and Amen 🙏
Amen & amen 🙏🏾
I love how Hungani listens so attentively when Steph is speaking. May the Almighty be with both of you guys. Lots of love from 🇿🇼
This is so hard I'm 28 and my husband is 31 we were married for four years and we heard two miscarriages and I it was not easy for us may God heal you guys 😭😭
Love and light! ❤️
Watching this was hard my ovaries are unsettled 😔
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I feel this. I'm your age and have been trying to get pregnant for years now and nothing. And everyone always asks when I'm getting pregnant.
God is with you! Love and light
I love how Hunga has her back all the time! The support & gentleness! ❤️
I'm so sorry about your lost guy's.
I also lost my twins during lockdown and it was the worst experience ever🥺 just earlier today i looked at my sonar picture and shed a tear or 2 again😭 it hurts so much 💔
Be strong guy's, I will definitely include y'all in my prayers
I remember when someone committed on a video saying Steph looks pregnant, GOOD PEOPLE PLEASE STOP COMMENTING SUCH THING'S
Love and light to you for your loss ❤️ may you find healing
I pray God bless you abundantly with more twins 🙏 its my dream too. Love you !
Healing to you 💖
Healing to you.
Sorry for your loss Ashely, it is a pain we learn to live with.
You can tell that they were trying so hard not to cry. I'm so sorry you guys experienced that. Sending love and light
A very clear and loud reminder to STOP asking people "When are you getting pregnant, when are you starting a family?".. who knew our faves were going through such a tough time? No one. Lets just mind our business ey.
Im really sorry you have to go through that🥺No one deserves it. Love and warm hugs fam
Truly so so sorry for your loss. May God’s unwavering strength & comfort be with you both during this time🙏🏽❤️❤️
I had a miscarriage in 2019 and another in 2021. Both happened at 10 weeks. I still cry when I think about it. I had to use the medication too and it was such an emotional and traumatic experience. Would not wish it on my worst enemy. I'm truly sorry for your loss!
So sorry dear, one day God will make you carry the baby full time and deliver safely
I m sorry dear .. I had rapture of membranes when I was 15 weeks pregnant ND my water broke but God made it a miracle ND I gave birth to my baby at 41 weeks healthy this year January... I nearly gave up ND thought it was gonna be a miscarriage 😪
Oh mamas I'm so sorry ❤❤❤ hugs
Sorry that you had to go through that. Praying for God's divine intervention. May you for comfort in him.
I also had 2 miscarriages 2018 and 2019 and 2021 I gave birth to a healthy baby girl at the age of 42 wishing you all the healing
I'm so sorry for your loss guys. I went through a missed miscarriage at 5 months in 2018 and having to go through induction and giving birth to an already dead baby just messed me up... But this year I had my rainbow baby.
Love and light to you guys. And I'll say take it easy on trying again, when the time is right it'll happen on its own❤️❤️❤️
Exactly the same thing happened to me in 2020.. Worst part is my partner only got to hold his first son when he was already sleeping.. Worst pain ever.. (he was born alive and only made it thru 17hrs with us)... But on my bday month God blessed us without another baby boy.. He's in my arms as we text.. God is great 👣😍
Really love what Stephanie said about people having this tendency of asking people inappropriate questions about their personal lives, although it isnt from a bad place . People need to stop doing it.
Some people are so.insensitive yazi. And the audacity to ask such questions bothers me.
Went through the same in October 2020. I opted for the D&C because I read about the pain and could not handle. So sorry you had to go through that. A year later in 2021 I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.wishing you all the best
My girlfriend and I went through a very similar situation last month. We had a hard miscarriage and she also explains that the whole clean-up process was excruciating. I'll share this video with her and hope it'll help with the healing process she's currently in.
Wish you well guys
@@thepilot2530 Thank you.
Prayers to you guys🙏
Wish you both well as well guy's
I know the cleaning process it's so painful I nearly died
Now this level of maturity 🙌, after such a traumatic ordeal! You have my every respect. ♥
Two years later, it's still painful. May God be with you in this healing journey. Thank you so much for sharing
It never goes away but God makes it better I hope they find peace
My heart breaks for the two of you. My husband and I experienced an ectopic pregnancy a few months ago and the excitement of knowing you're pregnant then being told its basically a phantom pregnancy is even more painful. The physical pain is nothing compared to the emotional trauma you deal with post the whole process. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Love and light to you both now on your pregnancy journey
Mine was a stillbirth in 2013. I am still traumatised. Finally went to therapy last year, 8 years later. It took me that long to come to terms with it. I have a rainbow baby, she will be 7 in December. She was born in the same month I lost her brother. I had to name my baby boy and Bury him last year, that was how I got my closure. Losing a child is rough guys.
Same to me dear 2012 February I got miscarriage and the next year 2013 same month February I got pregnant again
I’m so sorry you went through that
I'm so sorry you had to go through that hey. Just a question....what's a rainbow baby ,I've seen people say I had my rainbow baby and always wondered where that term came from
@@kiwigirl359 a rainbow baby is a baby born subsequent to a miscarriage, still birth or death of an infant from natural causes.
@@segomotsobohule6991 Okay dear thank you for that
The worst part for me was hearing the report "incomplete abortion", yoh good Lord I'm reminded of the scripture that says we are hard pressed on every side but not crushed, struck down but not destroyed. What the enemy meant for evil, God will change it for your good, you will be okay, you have already overcome, thank you for sharing such a personal touching experience ❤️🙏
An incomplete abortion is a medical term for an open cervix ot doesn't necessarily mean you had an abortion. At about 10 weeks pregnant, I started bleeding and that was the diagnosis at the clinic . I was so confused and when I asked my midwife, she said the medical term for a miscarriage before all the contents of a uterus are expelled is ' incomplete abortion'
@@thiofhilambani9422 I understand now but hey that's a harsh term to use, especially when you needed a baby.
Man am literally in tears. I am so sorry guys, nobody deserves that 😢. I love you guys 💜💜💜💜
Me too😭😭
It's painful
"When the time is right I the Lord will make it happen " 💕 Love and light to you guys..
The fact that you guys were making us laugh while going through says so much about how good hearted and strong you'll are, I could never, bengeke nisangbona, thank you guys❤️
dude I was laughing 😂
Yey oe,that would be me saying goodbye to the socials 😭.
Someone close to me recently experienced the same about 4weeks ago. Exactly how you've explained it. It's the worst pain ever. The fact that the baby wasn't physical doesn't make it less painful when lost. Love and light to all that have gone through this horrible experience and patience for those trying for another🤗
Hungani Mfowethu Thank You So much for being there for her I appreciate you and as much as you could assist in much you were there physically Thank You so much ♥️
I can’t begin to imagine the turmoil you guys went and still going through. All love and strength to you ❤️
Love and light to you guys. I've had the experience 10 years ago and till this day when I think about it, it hurts. The pain never goes away, you just learn to live with it.
I literally cried when you were telling your story and could see how hard it was for you to share it. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you went through. So sorry for your loss... Sending much love and hugs to you!!!
I am so sorry you guys had to go through that. I am a nurse in a public hospital and after a woman goes through a medical termination, the gynecologist will do a physical examination and a sonar thereafter to determine whether a uterus clean out will be done. That was poor management honestly. But I am glad you guys considered a second doctor ❤️❤️ sending all my love, you guys are awesome.
Yes, the gynae was supposed to give them a choice about how it could be handled.
Women are so strong. The comment section, sending healing to everyone. One day at a time❤❤❤❤
Women are real life superheroes 💯🙌🏾❤️
I’m sorry for your experience guys, I also went through a similar experience in 2021 after suffering two miscarriages and I must say that finding a good gynaecologist is very crucial during your pregnancy.
I know exactly what you went through. I lost my baby at 11weeks with the blighted ovum in October 2021. It was the darkest moment of my life and something I wouldn't wish for anyone to go through. My family and my partner gave me all the support I needed and with the grace of God I'm pregnant again 🙌 🙏 ❤
It's very painful, I cat erase the imagine of that empty sac ultrasound, happened to me November 2019 and November 2021 I had my rainbow. Congratulations on your bundle🤗
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Thank you for sharing one of your most intimate experiences with us. This was hard for me to watch without crying and praying for your continued health and healing .For He who spared not His own son but gave Him up for us, how shall He not through Him give us all things? It is faith in Him that gave you guys the courage to share. We as believers overcome by the Word of our testimony and confession of Christ as our Lord. I see God using this pain for His glory and for your good. Blessings beloved
I'm so sorry guys. Just seeing how excited you guys were when you found out you were pregnant and linking it to the caption is so heartbreaking. Sending all my love and prayers to you ❤️
Today am healed thought I went through this alone maybe God was punishing me or wht never felt so alone while my husband is by my side all the time it was (2019) but even today it feels like yesterday thank u for dis and keep on keeping on its not an easy journey
This was very educational. I never knew how deep this issue was until listening to your story. I have a family member who went through, I couldn't offer supportive because I was totally clueless. But after listening here I am certain I am a better person🤞. I am ready to support and love on the next person close to me who experiences this.
Sending you guy's my love. I am an angel mom myself and one day I would like to tell my story. Listening to your story has brought back tough memories but we move. Therapy is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. Thank you
Just had a flashback of a similar horror gyne story that happened to me in 2014. The pain never goes away. They have no idea how much this negligence cause trauma. The process of suing the gyne is another traumatic road you wouldn’t wanna take.
May God continue healing you ❤️
Thank you for sharing this story, this is what exactly happened to me and my husband also in 2020. I was told to do a D&C but I was scared then I decided to go to another doctor who told us of the way of the pills I used them but they didn't work went back to the doctor he prescribed them for me again and gave me another direction of how to use it still didn't work. I had no choice but to go do the D&C then I went to the government hospital I didn't get help I then decided to go to the private hospital then I did the procedure mind you it was during the peak of covid-19 so I was in the hospital by myself did the procedure then went home. I still owe the hospital some money but it was a very difficult journey I haven't healed emotionally.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, may the Lord continue covering you❤️❤️
Am traumatized myself as you are talking about it. No one has ever unpacked it the way you guys did, stay strong❤️
You two are so incredibly brave for sharing your story! The impact that pregnancy loss, abortion and other experiences like this have on people with uteruses and their relationships to partners can be so devastating and difficult to see past. It sos important to open up conversations like these, but can also be very traumatic for those affected. Thank you for being vulnerable! Sending warmth and love from one therapist to other folks struggling x
I agree that any stage of pregnancy, miscarriage is painful, I'm speaking from experience cos mine was one month, I only knew I was pregnant after I miscarried....... So sorry u went through this guy's, thanks for sharing your story.
Only God can bless you for sharing this with all of Us... Thanks so much.Much love from Uganda
Sorry for your loss guys, in 2009 I lost the baby into my fifth month, started spotting went to the doctor said it was normal sometimes, few hours later I was admitted heavily bleeding and they told me I lost the baby had to go to theater for cleaning. I stayed overnight till morning waiting for theater and the most traumatic moment was giving birth while waiting. Even talking about it today 13 yrs later my stomach hurts. Take one step at a time and be gentle with yourself s to heal. 💝💝
So sorry for your loss Edith.
So so sorry to hear this. Must have been a life traumatic ordeal. Prayers n hugs for you
Had a miscarriage when I was living alone never told anyone I bottled things up, 2 months later I started losing my mind and my family admitted me into a mental institution and eventually started talking about it and i started my healing journey💔 a year later I can still say it hurts deeply love and light to you guys❤ thank you for coming our with your story
Sending you love and light ❤️🥺
Yoh ausi how are you holding up? ☹
@@Nokulunga.M thank you so much 😢❤
@@charmainephasoana6850 I am taking it day by day not rushing the process i know one day I will wake up and be at peace with what happened to me😢❤
So sorry Hungani & Stephanie... May Almighty God comfort you.Praying for you.May God restore what was lost in Jesus name
So sorry to hear about your loss. I’ve been through this and almost every woman experiences a miscarriage at least 2-3 times on average in their lives. The lesson through my own journey was to treat all my pregnancies as sacred as my marriage. All the pregnancies were challenging, birth even worse but I’m glad I kept it to myself and recorded the milestones and only shared with family and close friends after the children were born, healthy, alive and well. Just something to consider…All the best for the future. God is with you and blessings to you in your journey…
This is so painful so sorry guys😢😭.Praying for you and May god give you strength❤️. Those that love to assume Steph is pregnant please keep those to yourself this is painful. May God heal you, Love & Light❤️
I never been pregnant,I'm turning 35 this year and this stupid questions really really gets to us
People need to just STOP.
HUGS AND KISSES to you guys
Am feeling guilty I used to comment about glow Nd pregnancy etc out of excitement but not realising what you went through,, am sorry Mrs Ndlovu for your painful experience,,much love❤️❤️❤️❤️
My empathy goes to you for that traumatic experience. I admire your courage to share your story and I believe your sharing reaches out to many others with similar experiences.
I'm sorry for this horrendous experience may God strengthen you.
Being in the public eye should never mean that you owe anyone explanation about your lives, and the parts you are comfortable sharing. People need to educate themselves, learn boundaries and stop being so entitled over people's lives!
You guys have been through a lot but still stand together and strong ❤️❤️❤️Love you guys🥺❤️
There was a time this video would have literally paralyzed me😔 we lost our baby on the 1Dec2021 and it was hectic. I went through the opp and the emotional healing was the most difficult. I down played it for the sake of my man and family but it caught up with me in March. I felt like I lost my mind for a little and was angry with God. FF with therapy and support from my man/family, I'm in a better place. I don't cry when I see others pregnant, tv adds and baby clothes or announcements. I have accepted and I trust one day my tears will be wiped with another opportunity to meet my take home baby. Till then, thank you angel baby for having chosen me as your mama🥰 I LOVE U🤱🏾👼🏾
This was so hard for me to watch. Sending love and light 💡 I hope you guys are okay and I hope you guys are having a gentle healing process ❤️
And to anyone who’s experienced this, I’m so sorry 💡
Guys!!!! This was triggering but had to listen. My wife and I went through the same in 2018, waited also for 8-10 weeks then thought it’s time to go to a gynae. When we got there, we were told there’s no sign of a baby even though there’s traces of pregnancy. We were also mad at the gynae’s actions after as well. The trauma is real, we hate these questions as well, when are you having a child, you look pregnant, you’re glowing, don’t you want a child, you guys will make such good parents, yoh! It’s annoying, it’s triggering! This was some sort of therapy for us as well, thank you guys ❤️
Feels like I'm reliving the traumatic experience I had last year this month😭....I was so excited to hear the 1st heartbeat only to be told I had lost my 1st child and i went through the same process of removing the remains...seeing those clots and having those contractions knowing your baby is being pushed out of your body is heartbreaking 🫂💔
Eish sorry sisi,as someone who had a miscarriage and a stillborn I understand your pain but with God's grace you gonna be ok 🙏🙏
Eish I'm so sorry love
@@noziphonxumalo3494 nawe engathi ingaphola inhliziyo mama❤️
@@andiswavilakazi4721 ngiyabonga sisi🙏❤
I am only watching this episode now because I was just not ready the past months. Thank you for closing with educating the public about how sensitive this is. So happy for you both to your big miracle from God.
I'm so sorry my loves😔❤I'm very proud of you guys for having the courage and strength to share your story with us❤Love and light to you guys❤❤❤❤
I had a similar experience when I miscarried, I described those contractions as violent. I’ve had a baby before, had a natural birth and went through contractions. They were nothing compared to the contractions induced by those meds.
I also got the surgery after the meds and then meds again a week when there was still a clot that remained. Glad you went to the second gynae/specialist. Miscarriage is such a traumatic experience, one needs all the support they can get and s specialist who cares.
Thank you for sharing your story.
Sending you hugs to both of you , thank you so much for the strength and courage to share I really appreciate it. 💗
You just took me back to October 2018 the same thing happened to me exactly as you have explained it to me. The pain was unbearable 😭😭💔💔 I did everything on my own with the support of my partner the only thing he could do was to hold my hand. Lucky for me now I have 2 healthy babies after the angel baby 😇❤️
I'm so sorry you went through all that. My prayers!
The last bit is everything I've always wanted to say. I'm also on an almost similar journey and I get triggered by people's questions all the damn time! Can people just learn to mind their business, goodness!!!!
I'm so sorry for your loss. May God be with you and continue to comfort you. Thank you for making the brave decision of sharing something so difficult and personal, your openness is appreciated ❤
So sorry guys. I really hope people will stop asking couples when they’ll have children! Lots of love to you guys❤️
So sorry guys for what you went through.
My husband and I lost our pregnancy 3 months ago and we are still trying to figure it out. Worst experience ever and even though we are learning to live with the loss it breaks our hearts every time we think about it.
Hugs and love to you both❤
Thank you for sharing your journey, I’m so sorry that you had to go through all of that on top of loosing a baby. Watching you guys reminds me of my journey of my miscarriage at 8 weeks, and having to go through it semi-alone. It took me almost 3 months to come to terms with everything. I send love and light to you guys, it will get better with time although it is not easy.❤️❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss guys. The loss of a child is never easy to fathom no matter the stage of the pregnancy. Time changes everything and everything changes in time; May you be covered. 💖🙏🏼
The pain 💔 😢 in both your voices, may you guys be comforted. I love you guys
I really felt it when Steph said, "I just wanted my mother". I went through a similar experience in October 2021 and it's really true that going through the bleeding and pain is harder than hearing that I lost my baby honestly...
I was also 8 weeks and due for my first doctor's appointment... My baby daddy and me also dealt with it separately even though we were still together.
I had a friend who was pregnant with me at the same time.. It was really difficult.. I have so much in common with y'alls experience, my hormones were all over too
My people, you guys are my people. I love you both so much. Thank you for even sharing your life with us, I'm so appreciative cause you are teaching us about serious things all the time, I never knew blighted ovums were a thing , thank you so much. May God bless you and be with you and continue to heal you❤️
Also, the last part of the video really really needed to be said🙌🏾 We have so much to learn about minding our own business, even if people are public figures they are not obligated to share everything.
Sending warm hugs to the both of you Ndlovu's❤ you guys are very strong having to talk about this, informing us. May the Good Lord make you even stronger and heal you. I love you guys
Had a miscarriage 2017, at 16 weeks. My story is slightly different because I wasn’t given any medication it was all spontaneous for me, I started having pains at 14:00 went to the hospital around 18:00 I literally gave birth to my foetus in a public ward waiting for help. Still traumatised by it. I’ve since healed… but the emotions definitely come back 5 years later.
Love and light to you ❤️
You guys are loved and appreciated ❤ sending healing ,protection n light to the both of you.....I respect 🙏 your's mindsets keep maturing together.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. I felt like you were narrating me and my hubby's experience in 2019 🥺 . Worst experience ever, we lost our angel at 28 weeks😢😢. But our hope and faith kept us going and we were blessed with our rainbow baby this year🤗. Love and light to you💝
Well said Steph I'm 100% with you. People need to respect other people's space and mind their own business. What doesn't sit well with me is the very same people that are probing in celebrities lives or any bodies life is going through worst pain are hoping that will make them feel better. No guys please as Hungani says drink your water and stay in your lane. Peace and Blessings over the Ndlovu's. Love you guys
So sorry family to hear about your painful experience. Sorry to everyone else in the comments who has gone through a loss of a baby whether it was an embryo or a fully formed baby, it's the most painful experience anyone can go through. I too lost a baby at 23 weeks, she was born lived for 4 days and passed.
Strength to you guys, may God help you to heal.
I pray that you may never go through this again in future 🙏🌹
Sending hugs and lots of love guys❤️❤️
A loss is a loss guys. Imagine when you've lost your phone, something you can and replace everything that was there but you still fall apart from losing it as had already had a particular bond with it.
I've had several miscarriages and it kills me to think about it. Now I don't even want my partner to know when I've conceived because the pain of giving him falls hope is eating me. Public health care is failing to explain what's wrong and unfortunately, finances does not allow to seek speciality care.
That time the question are all over about when are we having children.
Thank you for sharing everything and we praise God for your survival and strength. May he continue to cover you all the time. Wish you more health and healing with a beautiful life ahead💚💚💚
You guys are strong. You guys are so inspirational. I watch these with my partner and discuss whatever we take from them. From this, we've taken everything. This is the reality that many encounter. All the best in everything you'll do. I'm glad that you'll do not allow negativity into your space. Once again, very inspirational
I am really sorry you had to go through that. Dont just think you are strong, know that you are strong because you are. ❤ thank you for being brave enough to share
I’m really sorry for what you guys went through, I went through a similar situation twice, the pain never goes away but we learn to live with it.
This made me cry so so much . I am so so sorry that you guys experienced all of this 🥹. Much love
THANK YOU for being strong and brave enough to share your story!!! May God continue to heal you, and may you find comfort in Him.
And I strongly agree that people should stop asking or commenting on people's private matters.
"Drink your water and mind your business" this line killed me😅 but thank you for sharing with us your story, My deepest condolences to you both for what you've been through. This certainly was very educational and I have certainly learnt a thing or two about coping mechanism. Therapy is important.
Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
Thank you for also letting people know that as much as you’re in the public eye, no one is entitled to know anything that you do not want to share.
I’m so glad that you guys have found a good gynae now who is taking care of you and your current pregnancy. It really upset me to hear how careless your previous gynae was and did not ask you to come in for a follow up check in and make sure you everything had been expelled and that Steph was okay. I’ve seen it happen many a times and it really upsets me.
More than anything, I’m so happy for you guys and it’s so beautiful to see the love you have for each other and the patience you have with each other’s coping mechanisms. 🥺
I wish you both nothing but the best with lots of love ❤️ ❤️
🙏🏾💯🤗💛 Thank you so much for this comment!
I'm so sorry for your loss guys, I pray that God will continue to heal you both ❤❤❤
Sorry for your loss, it does not matter how far along one was, miscarriage is such a heavy loss and you always wonder about your child that you had prepared your mind and emotions to raise, and just like that they are no more, you will never know the gender they were or what kind of a personality they would have had, you question God. You just go through a lot and you get nasty comments that imply that because you were a few weeks pregnant you are not allowed to grieve that loss, or like another baby can just replace your loss. So sorry for that horrible terrifying experience you guys passed through and thank you for sharing your story.
Yoh the "Incomplete Abortion" diagnosis🥺😪 they did the same with me, I questioned and they said it's a medical term they use😪 Nothing broke me like having my Mom hear that coz then upto this day "abortion" is what she heard. I'm so sorry for your loss guys, may God continue to heal you, you wont forget but you will learn to live with the loss with time. Love and light🖤❤️
I think they should make it a habit to explain things in great detail, because "abortion" is also used medically for in utero loss of baby. So sorry you experienced this. Sending you hugs🫂💕
I can imagine dear .our moms will never understand what an.incomplete abortion means because that word abortion is such a strong term and it's the only word they'll hear. Hugs to you
Thank you guys for sharing your story. It just shows how strong you are to be able to unpack this traumatic experience. I've heard about it from close friends and also read about it. It is a painful one. God will strengthen you. I believe greater things are coming your way. People should make use of 1 Thessalonians 4:11 (Minding their own business). I love you
Thank you guys for teaching everyone about respecting others privacy and also about keeping our curiosities in check when it comes to certain aspects of people’s lives.
You know the saying "be kind to people, you never know what they may be going through". Looking back at your videos for during that time, you could never tell that you were going through what you are sharing with us now. I'm so sorry to the both of you, and I pray God heals you.
Came back here after your pregnancy announcement…God is good 🙌🏾🥳💃🏽
Sorry for your loss my darlings,even in times like this,he is still God and he is in control,You will heal with time,wish the best with your future .Stay blessed.
Imagine going through the most traumatic experience in your life and people are busy asking you about a character you played💔😣omg I'm so sorry you guys . May God be with you ❤Thank you for sharing this with us 🙏🏾I admire your strength
I know right, someone is in pain n going through the most traumatic experience and all they doing is being ignorant😔💔
Am very sorry for your loss, pray that God will wipe out all your tears. We serve a miracle working God. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I loved what you said about people should not pry into other people's lives unless they are invited 👏🏽beautiful
So sorry guys for your loss I know the experience I had 3 miscarriages between 2019 and 2020 it's so painful I know n the healing process is long .am just happy that now you are able to talk that means you have accepted the situation thank you guys🙏for helping a lot of people be blessed
I’m sorry for your loss julle. Thank you for sharing your story and the very important message that most of us need to learn. Love and light to you two.
I am deeply sorry that both of you had to undergo such a traumatic experience. May God grant you strength and healing.❤