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  • Опубліковано 6 сер 2024
  • [S1] EPISODE 5: LOSING A CHILD AS A HUSBAND
    I've always been fascinated by the confidence and stability "two-parent-household" kids carry themselves with (YES THIS IS A VERY BROAD STROKE) but generally, the foundation of a good, loving, nurturing, and dope character-building marriage tends to produce kids that move way differently in the world, compared to "single-parent-households" children. Hungani Ndlovu of ‪@TheNdlovusUncut‬ is exemplary of this and how his upbringing has shaped the way he moves as a Husband.
    We get into some of the work he is involved in, caring for men and their psychological, relational, and restorative healing journeys. These two areas of his life lead us to unpack in real time how it looked for him to be a husband who walks the tight robe of miscarriage. What does this do to his own psyche, how does he love his grieving wife while grieving himself? All of this in today's episode...
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  • @The_Dream_Space
    @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +3

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  • @fifs4sa
    @fifs4sa 3 місяці тому +25

    I pray that this podcast reaches my husband and I pray that he will be one of the husbands in the book. God knows how to get it to him. This channel heals the wife too. 😢

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +3

      This message is so loaded. We praying that same prayer for you. From our lips to his ears ❤️

  • @thabomahlagare9001
    @thabomahlagare9001 3 місяці тому +13

    Guys? I'm 5 to balling up here at the office listening to this. This is a podcast I never knew I needed. Yho. Learning gents. Learning.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +1

      Yeah this episode was quite emotional I feel you man! Let’s keep learning. Thanks so much watching 🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @Alvinslife37
    @Alvinslife37 3 місяці тому +8

    The "what if?" and "the could I have done to stop this?" games are ones that I played for years after my wife's first miscarriage. I remember the depth of the helplessness. I almost drowned.

  • @yolisalisanqari
    @yolisalisanqari 3 місяці тому +13

    ❤❤We need such husbands in our our communities, especially black communities. Thank you Dream space😊

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому

      Amen and amen! Thanks so much sis! 🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @michellemnisi7542
    @michellemnisi7542 3 місяці тому +4

    🎉🎉🎉Shout out to Matthews👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I wish more dad's can be like him

  • @BiancaLeesa
    @BiancaLeesa 3 місяці тому +7

    I wasnt gonna comment cause I'm just a gal in Sada 😂. But you said that you held your daughter and thought you understood why your father left, oooh man that hit home cause my father has never been there and I've always wondered why, but I've held onto the victim title, the child who was left title so dearly that it made no sense to reach out, even now i feel the same but i see what you mean, men are never given the platform to process. No matter how much the woman carries the whole junk, it's sad how men are never given a chance to process. I hope one day I'm gracious, kind and willing to ask him to start over and mend what never existed which is our relationship.
    Thank you, okay back to my little corner 🙃

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +2

      It's very much a tight rope. I think the older we get the more open we may be to understanding our parents as people and individuals with their own make up and histories not just as our parents. It excuses nothing and will not reverse anything but sometimes helps in realising most of their poor decisions have nothing to do with us but everything to do with them and how they see themselves and that ripple effect, thats where true accountability lies. But whether they are willing to go there to have that KIND of conversation is another story . I hope one day you are able to have the chat. And thanks so much for watching and sharing your thoughts too 🙏🏾

  • @nompumelelochirwa6193
    @nompumelelochirwa6193 3 місяці тому +11

    Yoh😮‍💨 the part about kids who grow up with both parents present versus kids who grow up in single parent households 🙌🏽

    • @lillymillion
      @lillymillion 3 місяці тому +1

      That thing rocked me to the core, explained soooo much of my own personal dynamic. I had never heard of it before

    • @nompumelelochirwa6193
      @nompumelelochirwa6193 3 місяці тому +3

      I’m so encouraged to break the cycle in my own generation

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +7

      I think we need a whole episode dedicated to this thing! We’ll make it happen!

  • @ntandomlonyeni6598
    @ntandomlonyeni6598 3 місяці тому +3

    This podcast has really opened my eyes like these things that you guys are talking about here are the reason why the rate of divorce is soo high coz im from a family of two parents and you not so i have my own expectations and so does my husband so we not hearing nor do we understand each other..Coz emotionaly we dont understand each other our reasoning too.
    Thank you so very much for this.
    I pray doors of favour may be opened for this podcast ,we need it the next generations needs it.

  • @lillymillion
    @lillymillion 3 місяці тому +5

    “A lotta gems in this episode” - accurate!

  • @nthabi_royaltymasango4915
    @nthabi_royaltymasango4915 3 місяці тому +5

    Came here from church reality channel, OMG this conversation 😮 wholesome, well done guys this is sooooo good, i stand in awe for such intentional, present loving husband of our day, our kids are definitely In good hands, may this channel grow to its Greatest potential, love love it, God bless🙌❤️🙏

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому

      Shout outs to you for stopping by and supporting what we trying to do this side 🙌🏾🙏🏾 Thank you for the well wishes we recieve it all. The support has been amazing so far

  • @TamaraCanham
    @TamaraCanham 3 місяці тому +6

    Great episode! We need a space like this especially in the society we live in.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому

      100% true! Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

  • @ChurchRealityCheck
    @ChurchRealityCheck 3 місяці тому +8

    Good one

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +1

      Brooooo!! thank you so much and thanks for sharing on you platform as well. Much love famo!

    • @ChurchRealityCheck
      @ChurchRealityCheck 3 місяці тому

      Awesome leadership... When you see Mr Pule pls tell him I'm looking for him

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +1

      No stress, send me a text on IG @BlaqueNubon

    • @ChurchRealityCheck
      @ChurchRealityCheck 3 місяці тому

      @@The_Dream_Space done

    • @maphanganomcebo4584
      @maphanganomcebo4584 3 місяці тому +1

      Here because of your comment on this video . Ricky 🎉

  • @mercymsezeni838
    @mercymsezeni838 3 місяці тому +4

    "Two-parent kids are more stable and move with a confidence single-parent kids don't have." Tjoe!!!

    • @smondsnomonde6051
      @smondsnomonde6051 3 місяці тому

      Isn't offensive for the single-parent raised?

    • @mercymsezeni838
      @mercymsezeni838 3 місяці тому +4

      @@smondsnomonde6051 This statement isn't meant to disqualify or undermine the work that single parents do, but it's the truth. Studies show the stability that comes with having both parents. A child needs both parents and it's unfortunate that it's not a reality for every child.
      I was raised in a single home and I can totally relate with lacking self-confidence and security.

  • @mbulelomaliza3236
    @mbulelomaliza3236 3 місяці тому +5

    Much appreciated…thanks Gents for the conversation. #thathusband

    • @davidkobedi9615
      @davidkobedi9615 3 місяці тому +2

      The leadership is here 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +2

      Leadership!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @116ntobeko
    @116ntobeko 3 місяці тому +8

    We in here like we getting paid🎉🎉🎉

  • @nkatekomayimele5141
    @nkatekomayimele5141 3 місяці тому +5

    This was so wholesome and very very needed. Thank you to both of you for your vulnerability and rawness 😍😍

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +2

      Thank you so much for watching. These conversations are so important. Much Love!

  • @kelesitse6618
    @kelesitse6618 3 місяці тому +3

    I am wrecked by this interview because FOUNDATIONS, man. 😭

  • @nompumelelochirwa6193
    @nompumelelochirwa6193 3 місяці тому +2

    “Sometimes it’s not about reaching out once to one person” 🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому

      It’s hard but it’s true. We got to Reach out!

  • @LiFace-gf1hv
    @LiFace-gf1hv 3 місяці тому +5

    What a beautiful episode. I appreciate the level of honesty. 🙏🏾

  • @ntsieseeiso2414
    @ntsieseeiso2414 3 місяці тому +1

    What a fresh podcast thank you so much brother, keep doing the great work lovely to hear from the other gender blessings to you and brothers all over the world.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +1

      Thanks so much for watching!! Do check out our latest episode. We post every wednesday at 11:30

  • @innocentiaradebe9314
    @innocentiaradebe9314 3 місяці тому

    Thank you❤❤

  • @Princekendy.
    @Princekendy. 3 місяці тому +3

    This is so informative wow 🙌

  • @similedlamini5425
    @similedlamini5425 3 місяці тому +2

    This is beautiful. We need more podcasts like this.

  • @tumisithole8858
    @tumisithole8858 19 днів тому

    22:32 this is point on!!

  • @zodumoxhavulani7289
    @zodumoxhavulani7289 3 місяці тому +4

    Emotional intelligence is the key ☺️great conversation guys🙏

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому

      You said it!! Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

  • @AbongileDombo-ov7cw
    @AbongileDombo-ov7cw 3 місяці тому +3

    ❤❤❤🔥

  • @Princekendy.
    @Princekendy. 3 місяці тому +1

    🔥🔥

  • @nolwazindlovu2320
    @nolwazindlovu2320 3 місяці тому +5

    Yikes, triggering but in a good way, hardly ever hear the side of the man when it comes to processing a miscarriage.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +2

      Totally understand it can be triggering but it’s unfortunate their stories and experiences don’t get as much attention. Thanks for watching 🙏🏾

  • @tumisithole8858
    @tumisithole8858 19 днів тому

    How can i get the book?
    Im a woman😂

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  18 днів тому

      😂 you are more than welcome to engage. We will definitely be making an announcement when it’s out

  • @michellemnisi7542
    @michellemnisi7542 3 місяці тому

    I am sorry to share this opinion of mine but the awkward laughs were throwing me off because I've experienced having a miscarriage it's a next level moment you become something only God can understand...

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  3 місяці тому +2

      Thanks for the feedback and sorry for your loss as well. It’s an an undeniable trauma to deal with
      There was natural laughter in the general conversation where it flowed organically and was in the context of what was being said at the time.
      However have to disagree with you in that there was not a point where the actual miscarriage Hungani and his wife experienced was laughed at, made light of or joked about. That would be insensitive and inappropriate.

  • @privilegendlovu4662
    @privilegendlovu4662 2 місяці тому +2

    But the host talks too much more than the guest

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  2 місяці тому +1

      We will continue to grow. Thanks for watching!

  • @jimmabuela906
    @jimmabuela906 3 місяці тому

    That's 20 years black and white comparison is every reductionist view, have to stop glorifying white,three are a lot of black great marriages out there.if you don't have the evidence don't talk about it. Talking down on black people is every exhausting.