Shopping Addiction - 7 Signs & 7 Solutions || SugarMamma.TV
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- Shopping Addictions are a serious problem and not to be laughed at. I see the regret, damage, shame and hard work that it takes to heel from this problem. Shopping is not a form of therapy for some people, but actually a serious addiction that if left for too long can be come incredible self destructive.
This video shares with you 7 signs that you have a problem, and 7 solutions to work through the problem. I promise when you step up and make a change or improvement, you will feel great and back in control but also see what potential exists within you.
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I am two days into a no spending month, I didn’t realize how much I use online shopping as a form of escapism and self soothing. I was feeling anxious about not opening the amazon app. I feel some shame in how much I’ve struggled I just two days! Thank you for this video it gave me some perspective and hope that I am going to make it.
My pleasure! Hang in there and look for the lesson! Sounds like you are healing already! xCC
How are you doing now? I need to do the same thing.
I deleted amazon app so its a detour cuz i have problem...
There's nothing funny about shopping addiction, specially when it effects your mental wellbeing, you feel down so you buy and your happy for a day then the same feelings will come back.
Sjmillerxo X exactly! I just wish everyone saw it this way...xCC
Sugar Mamma Exactly. I find the media glorify endless spendless specially with instagram, what those photos or background story of it all is those people could be struggling finically and even emotionally, they can have a closet full of clothing and products but a fridge that's empty and barely making it to their next payday.
100% this is me my depression makes me shop because it's one of the only things i can do to feel genuinely excited I'm so tired of faking my joy to seem normal i fake laugh and smile all day when I'm out in the world my husband knows me like the palm of his hand and he's realized i do this with him at times too it's just because i have no more genuine happiness within myself and i don't want him to get sad so i laugh if he laugh at something funny on tv etc
@@SugarMamma For me it's instant gratification. I absolutely get a rush when I buy something for my Sports Cars or Jeep.
As soon as I get money into my bank account, I get this anxious feeling. Almost like a little voice saying "Okay. I have money. Now how am I going to get rid of it?". It's really frustrating because I desperately try to save but then some scenario comes up like a mall trip or a convention where I just can't stop myself from spending and then I overspend. I haven't gotten a credit card because I have enough student debt to worry about. It's income based so right now it's based on my tax return from when I was unemployed. When my new job's tax return kicks in, I don't know what I'm going to do.
I just spent maybe $800 on online shopping in the course of just three days. I always knew I had an addiction. But I’m having a child soon and so I know/need to stop. So hearing this was good for me. Thank your for making this video.
Its gotten so bad. I have nothing to show for myself. This really spoke to me
Trenae DaVinci I feel much the same, but her advice is so good and non-judgmental I'm hoping I can improve myself and you can too. Sending lots of good vibes your way =)
I know exactly how u feel sis
Vani I know how you feel I want to improve on myself too.
People don't like bad news about their bad habits. Love that you're sticking to your beliefs...that is brave & really helpful 👊👏👏👏
I love that this video isn't a put-down. It feels informative and helpful. My mom suffered from this for a long time and it really affected the family. She is fully recovered now but it was a hard process. This is a real issue and the effects on people are real. Thank you again for treating it with such respect.
Katie P thank you, I really want to help people and make them realise what they are capable of achieving. Glad to hear that your mother has overcome this, it must have been hard for you to experience watching this xCC
I noticed my shopping addiction about 2 years ago. Since then I had worked super hard to stop it.
I discovered minimalism, and have been trying to put my money to good use.
When I feel a little sad, I tend to look at clothes online - mainly the ethical brands (Everlane). I place things into my shopping cart, but close the tab.
I still have one issue, when I really feel like spending money, it goes to food.
When I do buy something for myself, my hands get so sweaty! Not from the rush anymore, but because I'm realising it's my money I'm spending.
Auvro it is so good that you are aware of this, and that you are consciously doing clever things that work for you. I too sometimes add things to the basket and then get a reality kick and shut it down. I also love saving up and waiting to buy things...layby is also a great strategy. Thank you for sharing xCC
I shop whenever I get sad or feel self conscious. I have so many clothes that Ive bought and after a few days I hate them and I feel like I need new clothes.
Same I always feel like I need new clothes and hate the ones I bought
I definitely grew up in a low-income household and a shopaholic mother who shopped to make herself feel better. I am trying to kick those habits that I picked up on living at home, and now that I am out as a full-time college student I know that finances are important as ever. I do find myself shopping when stressed/bored/depressed and I find that when I'm not shopping for beauty/clothes it's on food. Thank you for being so upfront and honest and I'm going to try to adopt a healthier lifestyle of switching habits and small changes. Like now I recently got a library card instead of buying at the large chain bookstore.
It is great that you are so motivated to do things differently ! Spending in a healthy way is fine but making sure you are in control at all times is essential xCC
Thank you hun. I'm coming to terms that I have a shopping issue. My home is literally busting at the seems and my poor man is so upset. Piles everywhere. Under things, on every surface, drawers, on too of drawers, a book shelf in the bathroom to hold allllll my make up.....I'm going to start writing things down to see how much I really blow every week. Good luck to you all!
FANTASTIC Canna! I've just spent the last hour unsubscribing to the majority of email 'newsletters' and 'updates' that I get from stores. That's a huge precursor for my shopping :/
tastytulip I have done that too in the last weeks and I can say has helped me resist that temptation! Hopefully we can come out recovered shopping addicts 😂 Good luck x
Yes did that today👍
I am 20. I make the most money compared to my friends, I spend the most, but have somehow saved the most. However I get so many packages, want to go shopping all the time, and am running out of space in my room and closet. My sister and father are concerned with my spending but it feels so good. I used to have a stealing problem, and it seems spending has become my new habit. It's an overconsumption problem, and I know I need to address it. Thank you for posting this.
My oh my!! I just realised I have all the 7 signs! Now I better work on the solutions!😧😧😧
I'm really trying to save money but there comes a point when I feel like being a spendthrift.. sometimes if I see money on my credit card I just can't stop wasting it online. I enjoy buying stuff but at the end of the day I always think about the amount spent. Then I get too excited when I get my orders & then realize I dont really need them.
Thank you for this video. I really needed this. I am a single mother of 2 girls. I cant afford to let this shopping addiction anymore. I can see that this has been happening and everything you said was true. I think I will watch this video several times to help me. Thank you again.
really helpful - I recognised a number of signs. I shop as a reaction to loneliness and stress and have little or no savings because that new top / skirt always make me feel a bit better. I think keeping diary of how much you spend and when is a really good tip! I will adopt it and monitor for 1 month what I have spent and why I haven't spent money on said item!
Of course companies would like to have everyone be addicted to shopping
Thank you Cana, such helpful ideas & suggestions.For those who don't understand shopping addiction, they won't understand but this was heartbreaking for me to watch. I could answer YES to all the symptoms. I even stole money from my work to fund my addiction. After recently falling seriously ill, it made me take a long hard look at myself & I hated what I saw. I've stopped the shopping, am selling some items to pay off debt & have started saving, which I love & am so proud of. It took me years & nearly dying before I could finally face my problem. These posts have helped so much thank you & made me feel not so alone. The guilt & shame is overwhelming and it is a real addiction just like drugs or alcohol.i wish I had done something sooner but I can only look forward to future.
My pleasure! Take care of yourself and focus on small baby steps and constant awareness xCC
I only turned shopaholic when I was depressed. I’m thankful to God For Breaking that Habit. I av got God now so I don’t need the shopping 🛍 Therapy. Sis if I av listened to any feeds by mistake,pls forgive me coz It’s difficult to tell the difference pls. I will always support u no matter what Sis,I want u to be Happy & I know God will Honour His Promises to us🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
glad you made this video! i feel like this issue isn't taken nearly seriously enough by many people. i put myself on a "no-buy" this summer for clothes & cosmetics (for financial reasons, not because i was addicted...though looking back i probably was a little addicted) and found that it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be..especially the more that time passed. It doesn't take long to regain a sense of control and empowerment. Thanks for these wonderful tips
This is going to sound so silly 😂 but I have a pandora charm addiction. I've spent thousands. The thing is I only have 2 wrists and tons of completed bracelets. I need to stop! This video helped, thanks 👍
Thank you. Hearing 10 mins of this video, I requested cancellation of 2 unnecessary purchases.
I will go out and buy a bunch of stuff and then go through it carefully when I get home to ensure I will use the items. I used to be embarrassed when I returned things, but I have gotten a lot more comfortable with it. When I buy luxury, I plan out my purchase for months and ensure it is something I will use. I have a monthly budget and I have to pace myself throughout the month. My husband thinks I am a shopaholic, but I think I have pretty good restraint. I may have an out of control moment, but I end up returning a lot when this happens.
I am so simular! And I am now really comfortable with returning things. Once I make that decision to return something I cannot wait to head to the store and get a refund. And planning luxury purchases is something that I ike to take slowly and build up on the excitement so that I truely appreciate the experience of buying and enjoy my purchase...this has saved me making a lot of bad decisions....thank you for sharing! xCC
Thank you so much for this excellent video. This is my line in the sand. Today I start spending in my life for things that really matter.
I am a UA-camr and unfortunately this does fuel a lot of intense shopping. Lately, I have been buying lots and lots of clothes that I really don’t need as I just retired. I am looking forward to working with you and your channel and learning more about this process. I did just unsubscribe to all of the emails I get from the stores I frequent.
I am really looking forward to starting to emphasize real meaning in my life instead of just endless buying. I want what you have for sure. Fortunately I have no debt, but I am spending my available money too much. I am wasting funds. I have really done this all my life. When I was a child, I lived in a substandard house, and I was always embarrassed by how we lived. Now, I live in a beautiful home, and I keep redecorating to make it even better spending thousands of dollars each year.
I also like to look good and of course this feeds into make up and clothing purchases I don’t need.
Thank you so much for being who you are and for sharing so honestly about your life. It is time for me to change and today is day one.
Shopping addiction is widespread and serious. Recently, the pressure for everyone, regardless of resources, to buy luxury items like designer handbags has only exacerbated the problem. We should remember that while the problem and cure come from within us, there is a lot of social pressure to buy things we just can’t afford, also. I see a lot of young women who are still living at home with their parents, and without any financial responsibilities, who spend all their pay on their wardrobes and going out for meals and drinks with friends. This is not the real adult world.
Yeah I spend when I am depressed... it gives a temporary happiness boost...
It's like any other addiction like gambling. But people laugh about it because you have to shop or you have to for another example eat anyway. So you try to convince yourself it's ok.
I am currently on a downward spiral, but I’m ready to change. I’m going to succeed. It starts here and now. Thanks, I do needed to hear this.
When i shop online you are sitting on my shoulder talking to me...i now take my time choose style and quality over impulse quantity. I don't go to the shops often but now put a lot of thought into what i truly want and how it makes my existing wardrobe work. (If I'm impulse buying or over spending i bust for the toilet and get out!!!) I haven't purchased the beautiful handbag yet as that is something I'm going to work towards (my vegan one is good for now) Now to my budget and savings plan. Can't thank you enough Canna ⚘💜
I am a recovering shopping addict. You nailed it with this video. I still feel all these emotions and own all 7 signs but have at least gotten out of debt. I think it will be a long-term temptation but your solutions are sound.
i became chronically ill and disabled 2 years ago and lost my career, social life, independence, unable to walk for >1 minute and and have been housebound at 27. i started online shopping because i thought i deserved a bit of happiness and to treat myself because of this crappy situation. but now i need to stop, i realise it's not giving me long term happiness, wealth or health. friends always encourage you to buy things and shop because that's what we do! stop asking your friends if you need something if you are trying to justify your spend.
It is a perfect video for me and am trying to get out from my impulsive shopping
Thank you much for that. Someone I deeply care about has a serious shopping addiction, much worse than I thought, AND I just realized (after watching your vid) that I have been only supporting it, and it is driving me and this person into completely unnecessary debt. We’ll see how this story unfolds. Your vid gives me hope. So so sad.
I’ve always loved shopping ever since I was a kid, but as I grew older and had the chance to go shopping by myself, I ended up feeding into my shopping addiction. When I’m not shopping, I feel anxious. It’s hard for me to stay home because I always want to go out and shop. I’ve lost a lot of money and want to change. I’m only a teenager right now but I don’t want to take the bad habits of shopping too much into my future. Thank you for your video it’s very helpful and informative 💕
I clothes shop when I feel down, and I think that clothes shopping will make me feel better buying new material items but that rush doesn’t last me for very long, and what has it brought me... okay lovely items but on the other hand not very much! but also it has brought me into debt with my credit cards which is stressful and makes me feel anxious but enough is enough now I need to take control of my life! 😊 and stop! this easily led habit! 👍, this video has really helped me thank you! 😊, I’m now going to start saving my money rather then wasting it on clothes 😊
6 out of 7. Can't deny it anymore. Thank you.
Another sign is hiding receipts and not being able to find one you need in order to return something (constant returns is another sign). I shop when depressed for a high and escape. Clothes, makeup and shoes. Got a handle on the shoes by not going on websites that made me drool, mainly marked down sites of designers - my mentality wasn't how much I was spending, but how much I was SAVING. What?? After all, what's $50 here and there? Actually it added up to $1000 in ONE year. I decided enough was enough. What made me the most upset is I gave away most of the shoes because I didn't really like or want them after all. Just looking at the summary of my orders in a one year span was shocking. I have to see the numerical damage to "get" what's going on and it can be hard to admit there's a problem. Please talk about how to not beat yourself up from throwing away money because that's living in the past and holds me back. Thanks.
I’ve realize I have a shopping addiction! I know what triggers me to shop more! When I get calls from my favorite boutiques shops, letting me know they have the cuties tops in and how wonderful they would look on me! They just realed me in!! Other times depression. It is a high, but the high doesnt last long. I now use cash only. It is so much harder! To let go of that cash! For sure!! I have a ways to go but, have come to the realization that I do have a problem! Taking baby steps , to be happier without the need to shop all the time! Thank you for this video🙂
Lol I really need to stop shopping I'm obsessed😂😂
I really enjoyed this thank you so much. I'm a lot better this year than I have been in the previous years. I was definitely a shop acholic . It really started when my youngest was born and my husband worked away and we moved to s town where I knew no one. I used to go into this shop because the ladies were so motherly and shop. I sometimes went in everyday. Out of loneliness. Hate to think how much I spent. I now spend time walking , reading and doing things I love. I give myself a bit of money to shop. It's such a learning curve but I'm learning all the time. I had to realise I was filling a void in me with shopping . Had to face my hard facts which isn't always easy.
I know this is an older video so I’m not sure if anyone will ever see this, but I need help with a shopping addiction. I want to cry because I just can’t stop, I’m just so convinced that I truly need these things and it just never ends. My husband has asked me so many times to get this under control and I promise him that I will, just to go right back out and spend more and more. My heart breaks inside.
Sherri Hunt Start watching videos on minimalism. It will change your shopping habits as well as your entire life.
this is one of the best channels for finance none of this motivational talks that lead you no where just straight facts and good advice.
I tick the boxes for all the symptoms, I’m 19 and have been trying VERY hard the past 2 years to change my habits!
You were not being mean. You gave good advice. Thank you. I'm trying to get over a shopping addiction and I am considering becoming a minimalist.
Thank you for sharing your experience with shopping addiction. I find myself disciplining myself and then going bad to my old habits. These were some really coping tips and one thing I will do is invest in things that can help me grow as person or talents rather than just make me look good.
This video came at a very appropriate time as I've just recently blown through my savings and I literally can't get money out at the ATM. I'm also unemployed at the moment which is not good news. I'm not an extravagant shopper per se, but I do splurge on certain nice things without crunching the numbers and thinking twice and that really needs to change. Love these super practical tips. Thanks mum!!!!
John Law you are welcome John. Maybe having a think about your goals, values and dreams could be worth while so that you can set yourself a good game plan ? Time to ignite your inner motivation!!! xCC
I pay my bills on time, don't have debts, and save a little bit of money at the beginning of the month, but I still hate that I have to count every coin to make it to the end of the month. Sometimes if I'm not mindful for a week my money would go I don't know where! maybe I'm just poor, maybe I do shop more than I should, but I feel like I don't spend money on useless things, I use everything I buy/have. I don't know, any tips on organization? an average percentage number to save and spend from my salary? thanks in advance! loved the video
KittyPop you don’t have a problem you are all good
I have felt trapped for so long in this spending habit that it became the norm. I realised after many yeass of doing this that nothing will change unless i change it. I refused to start 2024 the same way i did previous years so i decided instead of buying stuff i really dont need, i will use the money towards my investments. Staying off social media also helps as i stop seeing ads for things i dont need.
I online shop because I’ve got depression and undiagnosed ADHD... I spend all of my money on food and clothes and have little to nothing to show for it. I get excited about new drinks and candles. Thank you for this video, I start getting help today.
I get anxiety when I DO shop, because I used to spend money blindly for a long time. Nowadays I think LONG AND HARD before spending money on ANYTHING. I have never been in debt, but I have definitely spent more money than I feel comfortable with in the past. I only buy something if I absolutely have to, and even then I try to find the cheapest alternative possible.
Shopping to fill a empty void.
Really needed to watch this. I have some new strategies to try out because of this video, thank you so much. It’s been dark times. 🙏🏽
This just came up in my feed, I know it's an old video but thank you, this was helpful!
I guess some people don't take shopping addiction seriously because it's not seen as a very serious addiction compared to drug or alcohol addiction which directly affects one's health to a high degree. However, the massive financial problems that can come from having a shopping addiction are real and it's a stressful issue for many people, western women in particular, and it can of course, affect one's health. We're exposed to targeted advertising constantly, every day, and are pressured to look a certain way to be accepted in society. This is unhelpful - but we can overcome that.
I do have a shopping problem and I'll be doing a 'low-buy' year in 2021 to try to change this. I've set shopping rules for myself, but basically there will be no purchasing fashion or beauty products (excluding hygiene products). I have enough clothes and shoes for 3 people, maybe more! I shop out of boredom (usually at work).
I was used to binge shopping when I traveled abroad because there was nothing to buy back home. Now I live in Milan and I have an urge to shop at the same rate as those two weeks per year. I’ve started using cash and trying to stick to a daily budget. Realised I have quite a few clothes will try to restyle them and organise laundry . Will go out for coffee with friends instead of shopping alone.
Thank you for this video, I've been struggling with this ever since I lost my entire wardrobe to a water damaged home. I got sort of obsessed with replacing my wardrobe and it became a habit to go to discount stores where I'd occasionally find a "treasure" for a bargain. The rush I get is addicting. It's amazing how these smaller purchases add up and half the stuff I end up not liking later on because it was bought impulsively. I have a pit of anxiety in my stomach all the time because of it and I know it's not good but I do it anyway. All of your suggestions sound helpful and realistic and I'm making a commitment right here and now to change my habits and set some goals for myself. I'm thinking about all the time I could use for developing my talents, exercise, reading, etc instead of shopping, and how great it would feel to be debt free and have more savings.
I really needed this! I only work part time because I am a college student but I see that I spend money on little things because it's fun or some items are just cute. I am going to try to be stricter with myself because I find it so hard to be strict with myself. I feel inspired to plan out where my money goes and have a budget. I hope Ill be able to keep my budget and really buy things that I totally love and know are worth the money I have available in my budget. Thanks Canna! X
I shop to feel important. To feel like I am part of the in crowd. To have things that will make others see me. When I was little, I was not very seen by family or even other kids at school. I was quiet, and didn't really fit in. I always felt different. I was never the cool kid. Now, buying the things I want gives me that feeling of "look at me; look at how cool and important I am." All this has done is covered up my true issue of not feeling worthy or enough. I have been working on this and have started a debt snowball plan to pay off my debt. I am also trying to get a consolidation loan. I WANT TO CLEAN UP AND START OVER!!!! I deserve better, and so do my loved ones! I AM SEEN ALL THE TIME....BY GOD and those who LOVE ME! This is enough! I am enough, and this shopping and spending money un-necessarily......I HAVE HAD ENOUGH! Thank you for this video. It has really be helpful and an eye opener! Blessings to you!
Thank you so much for this. I know that negative emotions make me want to acquire new things. I’m about to embark on a moderately stressful work day and I was getting the urge to buy something but I watched this instead.
You’re so right about it being self-sabotage. It also wouldn’t solve anything, the problem would still be there but I would be further away from my goals than before. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re doing an excellent job
Wow i never felt ashamed or guilty until viewing this video. I love shopping so much. I crave it. It doesn't matter what im buying i feel good when im doing it. But usua8 after i start to feel that emptiness again. Im always broke, and always have family advising me against buying new things. I feel the need to buy at least one new thing a day. If i don't im often sad or lonely inside. 😥 idk how im gonna stop.
I've just watched your last vidéo. SO as you know I am back from Holidays and like everyone else I am tempted to buy. since I follow you I watch several times your videos every time I am tempted to spend. I have a passion is to learn and all Your advice helps me day by day and I apply them. So I achieve financial goals👍👏.
Thank you i am a total shopoholic but i now know this its took along time ,i have had a great time being carefree and never taking responsibility for my actions,it took until i was 40 i decided to learn to drive it was the first time i had to keep cash in envelopes ready to pay and could not believe how much money i was getting through ,also i could not go out with friends as i had no money because it all went on the three lessons sometimes five a week ,my interests changed i bought a dog i walk i don,t shop all day or lunch out with friends i'm calmer and happier,loved your honesty i just subscribed
Thank you so much for this video, Canna!! I recently came out to my partner about my hidden purchases & addiction. I also came face to face how much I'd spent which would've covered my costs for a holiday I have planned in Feb. so goals are in placed to put what would be my shopping money to an account for that holiday and hopefully can finally afford that bag I want for my birthday next year too!
I pay the bills and save a little money but I still have shopping addiction. Or book buying addiction to be precise. My shelves and cupboards are full. I'm running out of room so time to take action regarding stopping. Your video was helpful.
This was an excellent video. I"m 70 years old and coming to terms with the fact that I've developed a serious shopping addiction in retirement. I watch alot of the homeshopping networks like QVC and HSN.. There are so many reasons for it. Its mostly clothes. I believe the clothes thing is because as a young person, I had so many body image issues that I didn't want to shop for clothes and didn't get them. I was a large size but still very pretty. I can see that now. I just couldn't face dressing room mirrors but you don't have to with home shopping. It comes to your door. Besides making up for clothes that I didn't buy when I was young, watching these channels and connecting to these hosts which are quite entertaining fills a void. Sometimes I just want escapism. Reading a book, watching a great series on Netflix, studying on Creative Live are all good things I do but sometimes I just want to watch something that I really don't have to concentrate on. One thing I've found that does help that and takes me away from the television is getting a big cup of coffee and going to the park. I sit on a bench and sip. Being in nature helps me think straight and I get some Vit D too. I just recently told my daughter about the addiction. Of course she already knew and she was the one who suggested I watch this video. It was really helpful to tell her. I also think she likes knowing I'm not perfect and I need her sometimes. We decided that she would come to my house, block the channels and not tell me the code for starters. I did the budget thing but budgets on paper don't mean anything if you don't follow them. I need to follow it. This video was very helpful. I identified with all 7 signs. I need a community. Sorry I rambled on. Thanks so much. Do more. I need it.
I needed to watch this today.
I have a shopping addiction. It got bad this week. Currently speaking help. Thanks. Going to apply these solutions
Yes, I'm coming clean I have a shopping addiction, for sometime now, every sign you mentioned I raised my hand to. I plan to break this habit by being honest with myself and focus on solutions. I'm in credit card debt and it doesn't feel good at all. I have plenty of material things but no money saved at all because i have none to save because of my shopping. I keep shopping knowing that I need to payoff bills. To be honest I'm stressed and want to be free. I appreciate your videos, so helpful. I'm going to watch this video again.
PLEASE do a video on Law of Attraction and how to manifest and visualise. Would be so so helpful! I find it difficult to manifest, i feel like im following the process by visualising my goals but really not sure if I'm doing it correctly. Thanks in advance xxx
Great video. I'm happy to share that I am a shopaholic. However it's only after my bills and savings goals are paid. Problem is the more disposable I have, the more I spend. And I don't really NEED most of what I purchase. So I've started making lists and setting a higher savings goal but it's hard and sometimes I fall off the wagon and splurge but I'm learning how to get back on and talking about it is helpful. Thank you for sharing this. :)
Good video. I fall into this in time periods, related to depression. Unfortunately I'm in that phase now. Substituting for exercise or painting is good.
I shop because I'm a recovering alcoholic (3 years sober woop!), but i replaced the alcohol for overeating and buying home decor and clothes mainly. I also have cptsd and borderline personality disorder, so I know I'm just trying to fill the empty void and loneliness I feel most of the time , despite having an amazing network of friends. I've decluttered Alot over the past 2 years but have only just decided to start saving up for driving lessons and either a campervan to travel the world in. Or to invest to start myown business one day...its hard to plan when you're struggling to find your way in life but I'm just trying to find enjoyment out of the little things in life (knitting and my cats) and I understand now that shopping just makes me feel crap. I know I used to buy so many clothes because I was desperate to feel like I 'passed ' as pretty but deep down never felt good enough nomatter what I bought. So I'm working on understanding my self worth just as I am. It's really hard,its like a foreign language but I'm working really hard on it and ultimately, that's all we can do xxxxx
congratulations on your sobriety! Have you heard of Cr'appy Childhood Fairy? She's a therapist named Anna who makes content about c-ptsd coping. Her videos help me a lot 🥰
I needed this right now - perfect timing. Thank you!
I used to laugh it off, too... Until I BECAME a shopaholic. It's legitimate and it makes me cry because I cannot STOP. Even when I have nothing, I keep going. I hate it.
Thank you for this! I love your content, and needed to hear this after hitting rock bottom and getting in a hole.
Glad to help, wishing you the best!
I'm a EBay, Amazon, Ali express junkie...I get super excited when the mail and delivery men deliver my packages... I order multiple items on my debit card then impatiently await for my packages... constantly checking to see if I got a notification even when I already know when my packages are due to arrive... it's crazy ... I order it all ... home decorating items, make up, clothes, books, dvd's, shoes, furniture, I enjoyed this video and I am working on my shopping addiction... wish me luck 😫😫😫😔😔😔😔
Wow Canna, this was such a great video! Many important and useful advice, thank you for putting all of your advice together and sharing them, much appreciated. Keep up the good work and the longer videos, you have more time to elaborate! :)
Hi Canna! I finally took time to watch this video! So good! It would be great if there was this project/group of us shopping addicts supporting each other and sharing our experiences on how we quit. It is crazy, how fast things can get out of hand. Gladly I still can pay my bills in time, but you know, all your investing tips etc. have felt like from another world because I've never thought it could be my life. My income is quite small after all. I just came home from town, I visited a new local boutique that sells very good quality clothes. I would love to save money and get myself a good, soft and warm cardigan and also support a local entrepreneur. I also browsed through the cosmetics section at another bigger store, but bought only a face soap and makeup sponges that I had ran out of. I resisted the urge to shop! I feel so good about it. Online shopping is a problem to me, it is too easy these days. I'd love to see you do more videos on this subject and on makeup and beauty products. Thank you so much for all the good work and the tips you've given
emmaonfire I am actually working on a Beauty Budget Saving idea for a video! For the online shopping maybe ask yourself what feelings you are craving? For example warmth, kindness comfort and security from the feeling that a new soft cardigan gives you. Sometimes I do this and I realise I am craving an emotion and don't really need that item to satisfy it...xCC
I have all seven signs. So glad this video pointed it out to me.
Don't be bothered with negative comments or criticism Canna. You are an expert and know what you are talking about. This is a real problem and it creates a lot of suffering, over consumerism that is bad for working conditions of people and the planet's resources. You are taking about conscious and conscientious consumption. Recycle, buy only what you need and value and love like you have always said. You can swap and repair and do so many things before reaching for your wallet and creating credit card debt. Most people do not value what they buy because it is so easy and fast to get. Thank you for being an inspiration with a beautiful, kind, excellent manner of delivery. Keep the great work up. People will eventually catch up when they are ready and open to the message.
Ahh it's so difficult because I don't actually buy that much stuff, but when I look at my whishlist and my budget, I feel so bad. It's not reckless shopping, but it does feel wrong.
I’ve created a spreadsheet on my smartphone. A tab for every month. I set up a total spend for the month, record shop and amount spent and deduct the amount from the total. It really shows me how things add up. I slipped into buying lunch on workdays but I soon noticed how quickly it was adding up and curbed the habit. Now I make lunch 4 times a week and treat myself once a week.
My shopping addiction is because of boredom! Lockdown boredom has made me a serious shopaholic. I've lied to my parents and just now lied to my boyfriend about buying a dress. And it made me realize that it has gotten out of hand because I feel so guilty about lying to my babe. It's made me feel horrible. I need to stop it.
Canna this was wonderful! These are my most favorite of your videos (love them all though ...) - the ones where you inspire us to get real about our finances and get control. The rest of the world seems to scream ... buy buy buy! Your message is an antidote for the constant message that we need more to be "enough." Thank you for your motivation and for caring about us and our futures. Please keep the inspiration coming!! xoxo
Beth Holmes thank you Beth, I will keep these types of videos coming! xCC
I don't meet any of your criteria for shopping addiction, but I do feel I have too much stuff. I stopped following a lot of instagrammers where every post was "swipe Up" for my look or this makeup product. I also like the declutter videos and project pans to encourage me to use my stuff.
Social media can be very tempting. If we can change our perspective and look to it for inspiration to be happy with what we have this would also make a difference to our addictions...xCC
Love this video, so glad I found you on here! I've been ignoring my debt for a while, and it's not a lot to some people but I'm now returning to work after maternity leave to a minimum wage job only 16 hours a week (all I can get childcare for) and I've watched tons of your videos, I want to be free of credit card debt and have a small emergencies fund by August 2019- I know it's a long way away but with such a reduced income plus I'm getting married next year, I know it's something I can achieve if I really knuckle down. I'm not sure if I have a shopping addiction but I definitely buy things when I feel low and there's been a lot of times since my baby was born 8 months ago that I've felt very low and just gone out spending on my credit card and then couldn't pay it off x
SoontobeMrs Craftlover I have been there too but it is so good that you have set yourself some goals and are putting the right actions and already making progress. When you feel like buying something, stop and ask yourself what feeling are you trying to create for yourself to feel better...sounds so silly but I remember craving to buy a big knitted jumper, then I realised that deep down I just wanted to be nurtured and cuddled. So I gave myself a hot bath and lit some scented candles to lift my spirit. The need to buy a new jumper passed...xCC
Great video! This is me 🙋🏻♀️ I need to scale it back so it isn’t out of control!
1 sign number one is
02:04
you never have enough money you're
02:07
always borrowing money you're always
02:08
reaching for a credit card to pay for
02:10
things you never have any money in
02:12
savings and you certainly don't have any
02:13
money set aside for an emergency
2 you are lying or hiding
purchases now this may mean you may
downplay how much something really cost
or can lie about how often you shop or
simply hiding those items
3 you buy new things
before you even used or worn the
previously purchased items
4 you've had friends and family
confronts you and share with you their
concerns about your shopping habits and
what the way that you are managing your
personal finances now this may make you
angry or ashamed or a whole range of
uncomfortable emotional feeling
5 you have a sense of anxiety
when you don't shop almost like that
feeling of going out for the day
leaving your mobile phone or water at
home almost like a you feel miss naked
without it and when you do put yourself
on a shopping ban you quickly find that
you *relapse and spend even more
6 you find yourself
shopping purely out of a reaction to an
uncommon
or situation or feeling (e.g. depression e.t.c)
7 you tend to
experience a euphoric high or rush or
even a form of anxiety when you are
actually shopping or you know you're
about to go shopping is this an intense
explosion and excitement running through
almost like a high and you know that
you're gonna have a great experience but
it's very short-lived and you do come
crashing back downyou tend to
experience a euphoric high or rush or
even a form of anxiety when you are
actually shopping or you know you're
about to go shopping is this an intense
explosion and excitement running through
almost like a high and you know that
you're gonna have a great experience but
it's very short-lived and you do come
crashing back down
Thank you for this video Canna!!! It's very helpful!
Thank you for this video. Helped me get honest with myself and focus on making a budget since I am fuzzy about how much I can afford to spend on shopping per month.
That's great to hear! Please feel free to share with anyone you may know who could also be struggling. xCC
The only thing worse than shopping addiction is gambling addiction. Although they are in many ways equally bad the consolation is maybe having something to show for it with shopping addiction. However the compulsion guilt shame and devastation of lives is exactly the same.
Thankyou so much. I needed to hear this today.
You have the best video on this ,I buy and find out I already had it ,or dresses with tags .I have a lil problem ,this will help ty
Thank you, Hoping to build my credit back up, hopefully I can recover within 2 years, I was having a hard time with my personal life and ended up going shopping 10k,but I do love the items I purchased. I hope to save for the more expensive items and stop spending frivolously. I like that you say give yourself a budget. My goal is to spend less, I tend to buy more expensive stuff, which is what I hope to change and maybe treat myself once a year,Not every opportunity I get. I’m very giving and can be hard sometimes, so xmas and birthday I can be generous with my family and buy them too many gifts. All the extra money I spend on frivolous stuff I can save for the higher end items.
I am always dressed well and with my hair done or with a new set of lingerie. I am also a foodie, Uber eats and doordash are my best friends. But I don’t have a car, so I ride the bus and Uber, I’m on the way to recovery though. I’ve been gradually placing myself towards a no-buy challenge. So thank you.
I would suggest that you take this checklist to see if you have an addiction and apply it to other things in your life as well. Food, Gambling, Alcohol, Social Media, Family Drama etc. A lot of things can become the way we ESCAPE our problems and they can also lead to financial stress.
thank you for making this video!
Im battling this Thank you for this, its like I shop when Im stressed and going in bill money, I have to stop
this helped me so much !! i m so thankful
Definitely found this at the right time🥰
I have definitely been there and racked up a great credit card debt. My mum tried to get me out of my own debt, but I had to do it myself and learn from my own mistakes. I no longer have credit cards, I have not been in debt for over 2 years now and am finally saving money for a house deposit
There's a small book titled "30 Days to Stop Being a Shopaholic" by Harper Daniels, that's popular. I recommend it.