I started to cry at the end. He had no remorse. The kid being 5 called him a big fat jerk over and over haha. That was the meanest thing he could say at 5
vincentrich - Banned But Not Forgotten there were likely some lines fed to him, but even as a kid I had a pretty good vocabulary? Like, it’s not too uncommon
How long do you think this boy thought about what he would say? I think coached is to strong of a description. I'm sure the adults in his life are helping him process and articulate his emotions. I don't know if you noticed but tiny humans can't process something like this themselves. If anything it affirms that he is with the best people he could be.
Mine too. At first I thought he was coaching Clay in a sort of cynical way... but when he reminded that narcissistic self centered douchebag that he wasn't the victim in the situation, I realized I was wrong. He meant it, and possibly was hoping to see signs of humanity in his convicted relative.
@@azazello1784 Proud of the fact that a 5 year old child was able to get on stand and talk in front of several people expressing how he feels about his own father literally MURDERING his mom and now being left without two parents. Whats your deal??
Chris Kibodeaux I sure hope someone does the same thing to you what Clay did to his wife. Who would be laughing then? Moron 🖕 Regards from Finland asshole.
I love you aunt Cheryl. You are an amazing sister, aunt, daughter. You would think I know you, but you speak and fight with such a passion for your sister and her children. God bless you.
On the bright side, he gets about 50 odd years to move on, away from the pesky people who would keep reminding him of his inconveniently murderous past.
No, it’s the definition of psychopathy. Insanity would be if he didn’t understand right from wrong; he’s just devoid of empathy and a full-blown narcissist so he doesn’t care.
ourcorrect opinions beat me to it. Thank you, it pisses me off when people try use that word. A heartless person isn’t insane, they know the difference between right and wrong
No. Evil. You harm the reputation of mental patients by terming monsters "insane"--not intentionally, I realize. It's a bad habit we learned from the culture. This man is simply evil.
well I mean... I feel like in a situation where a relationship was ended on good terms and they remained friends or something it would be okay.. maybe.
Anamarija Mihaljević I agree. He is a selfish, arrogant, needy little boy. He didn’t give a crap about those poor kids OR Jackie. He just didn’t want her to be happy. And claiming she wanted to have sex with him one last time? Yeah right. He is trying to get that last jab in on this poor woman.
Exactly! It was NEVER about the kids, always was about her, so sad after 18 yrs with someone and they hate you to that extent they would hurt&kill you like you are nothing! Absolutely disgusting! Poor kids and woman 😞
Omg the little boy’s statements and his message at the end 😭😭😭😭 . I couldn’t help tearing up . He will most definitely be a fierce protector of his sisters and future wife and children I’m sure of it .
I was literally crying my eyes out when the children were talking at the end. What absolutely beautiful, strong and resilient children. A true credit to their mother's sister. "You did a good job, Aunt Cheryl." Yes, she really did.
@The Better Society what is wrong with you man? you know what is really pathetic, calling yourself the better society when at the same time you are just acting like an ass
That boy is going to so protective of his sisters and grow up to be such a strong man. Wow. He’s so brave standing up to his dad and the way he was talking when he was older just showed how emotionally intelligent and strong he is. What amazing kids..
That blew me away and broke my heart at the same time. He was so articulate and sounded so strong when he was talking about his dad at the end. It’s so sad what’s been done to these kids. Thank God they have a wonderful family to raise them.
@coffee_singing23, *Damn, you sure are a lil’ CUTIE 😍! May I PLEASE make direct payments towards your college tuition/student loans (Soon-To-Be Dr.) 😩?*
I cried as well when the son said “ you big fat jerk” Those kids are so strong and especially at the end when one of the sisters said “ you did a great job Aunt Cheryl”
When I divorced my ex, our son was 12 and when his dad forced him to have visits (dad has bi-polar disorder), he would say to me," I wish you had picked me a better dad" . It is so hard on kids when parents with mental illness can't parent. The psychopathy displayed here is an extreme mental illness.
@@gwens5093 it's not your fault.you just wanted to be loved and cherished the way you deserved.. his actions and behavior are not your responsibility.. give yourself some grace.. you deserve it..I hope you both have found a small bit of healing.. and if it helps.. ALWAYS remember, when you're QUESTING "am I a good mom?" No bad mom EVER questions whether they are a good parent. Sending you ALL the love 🥰
@@TugIronChief I don't put my nose in anyone's business unless they reach out for help. It seems like you haven't experienced much of humanity or interpersonal relationships in your life, but you should know that people talk. People vent to their friends. And, this will amaze you, but sometimes people love each other so much, they look out for each other and care for each other's safety...especially women, who are vulnerable . A huge red flag for abuse is isolating the spouse and forcing the spouse into silence through fear of violence. Many women understand this and look out for it. It's not 'nosy' if you believe your loved one's life is in danger. Lots of shitty marriages broken up by 'friends' if you ask me. Sounds like you just want the right to torture your wife without consequences.
@@BeatlesFan1975-- ummmm you missed the part where he threatened to kill her and kill the kids and then he did kill her? Which part of the video did you even watch???
This brought heavy flow of tears to my eyes that im still wiping away. She was such a beautiful woman and loved her kids. That leach seen his free ride leaving and the punk in him had to destroy her and not a thought for the kids. Yea ive got tears in my eyes. May he end up everyones bitch in jail in every way.
@@nancypiccirillo405poor woman. She doesnt even look tired after all those years, work and taking care of everyone. Hes an overgrown brat, and how she put up with him I'll never know.
When my husband told me, "ill nail the doors and windows closed, and burn the house down w you and the children inside." I believed him. I immediately began to make plans to leave him...and from then on, I was preparing in my mind. The "marriage" was O-V-E-R....over. i did everything i could to keep the peace, never said "no" in the bedroom.....and the day we left, he left for work at 630am, the moving van came at 930am for the few items i was taking w us.( i put our few things in storage) and the children and i left. When he got home, No one was there. 😐... I left chicago area w 4 children under 5(the 8 mo old had pneumonia) I had $26 and a phillips66 card and i had to get to Hollywood florida. Thank God we made it.......😔🤦🏻♀️
Wow what a story.. That takes nerves of steel to pull off without showing any signs of what´s going on. Did he contact your family, friends etc? Have you and your children been able to visit your relatives or did they not live in the area where he did?
@@JoR-g3c I really felt like "God hid us"..... the "x" hired private detectives, They would.find my husband......but he would lose them on his way home. ...........when we finally wound up in court w him claim that I interfered w his visitation rights, which of course, I did.....SOMEONE gave him the idea that he would automatically win the court case and be able to take all 4 children w him, that day.......as the afternoon was coming to an end, he "lost it". He jumped over his atty table and came running across the court room w his hands outstretched to strangle me There were 2 armed guards in the court. They stood and both cocked their riot guns at the same time. Total silence ensued.....and the judge said, "mr "x" SIT DOWN !" he shouted over a microphone......his female atty stood up, slammed her briefcase and said, "find yourself another atty"...... And the court put the children and I up in a private littke quiet apt away from where OUR home actually was.....it WAS in the bayou. The local sheriff's escorted him to the edge of town and said something like,"Git offn mah land."......🤦🏻♀️......and thank God I was able to finish rearing my children as normal people instead of maniacs. Thank u for asking......👋🏻👵🏻
@@corwilliams3098 Narcissistic psychopath or malignant narcissist. He's a callous and selfish little baby without any of the promise that true children possess.
It’s the way a narcissist thinks; they always have to have the last word and make sure they frame themselves as the victim. All psychopaths are narcissists but not all narcissists are psychopaths; this man was both but his narcissism overshadows his psychopathy to the point where he practically convicts himself.
Right?! I was sobbing by the end.. Kids idolize they're parents at that age, normally and to see and hear how betrayed and angry that boy is at his dad its both heartbreaking and inspiring at the same time. Inspiring because he at that age is brave enough to stand up to his dad and say what you did was wrong, and hurt me, hurt them.. and heartbreaking that any kid at that age should have to go through what they did, and not just lose a mom but their dad too.. Its a blessing though that their aunt and grand parents shower them with love as they do..
@Ruru Home yeah cause the police are gonna drop everything and be your personal guardian for the day... I guess all you need to do is ring them and book one for the day.... right?
@Ion yes that's why they are also called the divorcing ppls escorts service. Unless the ex has already been arrested or has an injunction out on them no they wont do shit and their job is catching murderers and rapists not being the escort service for child access. You don't have a fucking clue what you're talking about.
Those triplets are very smart, especially the son. Wow. He articulated everything, and had such a great vocabulary. The understanding and thanking their aunt, just wow. What beautiful people.
Maddox sounds like such a bright kid... his mind seems much older than him. Probably a very high IQ as well as high emotional intelligence. Hearing him speak was so powerful.
@@hardware64 Which is also just bozo since it’s the opposite of “shady” for police to check blood found on a scene. This guy is what I would call a very low-intelligence narcopath (narcissistic psychopath).
No. Pretty sure she's still dead. Its a testament to children being resilient. A good mother chooses a good father for her children BEFORE her children are born.
@@elisee8925 I take it from your eloquent response you have a dissenting opinion? She chose to subject herself to abuse. Fine. She got what she sought. Subjecting her children to that same abuse meant she never loved her children. Children who are loved are protected from abuse, not subjected to it.
@@sk33m-qe3ym Oh my God! My secret code of Steven Hates has been cracked by yet another brilliant internet sleuth! I'm humbled by the vast reach of your intellect!
He killed his wife because she threatened to take the kids, but has lost them forever for murdering his wife. Very ironic. Edit: for the people who don't understand my comment, it's BLATANTLY obvious he didnt care about the kids. He said he didn't want to lose the kids, so regardless of the truth in his statement, it makes the situation ironic nonetheless.
@layla carter you don’t know that for sure. Not at any point in time was race every a focus on this situation. Why make everything out to be about race? I get it I’m an African American male living in North Carolina being pulled over and my own experiences with the law even though I have a clean record other than driving without my glasses years ago. But this story was about a beautiful mother, daughter, friend, sister and woman who left family, friends and her 3 kids behind after having her life taken from her and everyone else.
@Victor Hollingsworth I commend you sir. You’re 110% correct. This is a horribly sad case. My personal opinion - if this exact story would have a woman of any other race, religion, etc, it would not change the fact that 3 innocent children are now growing up without their beautiful mother and in reality, without a father. No human being should have to go through anything like this. Take care!
This dude had everything, gave almost nothing, and then killed the one who did everything for him. I was so glad to hear about the federal law and the additional 35 years. 20 years on a plea deal left me angry as hell.
@Dodge Ram You are blaming her for his speech impediment? LOL Who burn the house down? AND... They were still married when he killed her. They both had *new partners* while filing for divorce. Child support? Never received one payment. Can't believe you blame his wife for his misery.
Self centred sociopaths like that can't change. He was only wanting to use the children like he used her. For money. He would have gone though any money they inherited (including life insurance (she would have had a big policy too working for an insurance agency)). And when he went through that he would have got government benefits using them too. If he got tired of any of them or wanted more money to laze around, they would have had their lives insured too.
hearing the sons impact speech made me bawl. hearing how angry and upset they so rightfully are and how it didn’t even bother the man who murdered his wife for “taking his kids” what a monster. I’m so happy that those babies have their aunt and uncle who are such amazing hero’s; adopting the children and raising them themselves. a somewhat nice ending to such a tragedy.
When the state added the 35 years AFTER he thought he “outsmarted” them. I was up high-fiving myself! Maddox broke my heart. He’s such an intelligent and inspirational little man.
I hated him before but after that… screw him - I hate how he believes that he is the victim here when the real victims are the kids, her sister and parents. Also the fact that he was so determined that he wanted his kids - but then when said kids tell him that he can go screw himself he doesn't even react - yeah he is a sociopath for sure.
When Maddox made that statement “He gets that he has ruined the bond between us and him, and that he is never going to have that back. He just took our mom away and i was just trying to show him that you cant undo that” my heart broke, He took a womans life and a loving amazing mother away from her 3 amazing kids, God bless them and their aunt for being so strong and always having eachother so back❤️❤️ LLJ❤️❤️
Yep, then tried to derail the investigation by smearing fish blood on his truck, then driving by and flipping off the people searching for his wife... not the actions of an innocent man.
@AshTheOne homicides in the us for 2017 amounted to around 20000 deaths, (for ALL homicides, not just those perpetrated by ex partners). The same number for suicides stands at around 50000, If you're so paranoid about your ex that you HAVE to have a backup even if your ex seems unlike a psychopath, you perhaps should also have them around ALL THE TIME just to protect you from YOURSELF 😱 Statistically speaking you're a greater threat to your life than your ex 😂😂😂 But sure, call someone else an idiot because they have the simple capacity to acknowledge how meeting an ex is an extremely common thing and is nowhere near as dangerous as you seem to want to believe it is. Then there's the whole, "bad grammar = idiot" lunacy. So in conclusion, YOU'RE the paranoid idiot, who was forced to double down on their argument because they got called out on their idiocy 🤷♂️
@AshTheOne Sounds like you need to be avoided - you obviously have a huge temper and are triggered easily and quickly, which would make you a risk too. DEFINITELY need to be avoided, after reading your other comments. Certainly come across as very aggressive and potentially a real danger; hope a partner of yours never disagrees with you cos that temper...
Xcruze. She said if you feel scared. If you don't feel scared of your ex, crack on, but if you are scared of them, trust your instinct. Which is sound advice you thicko
Most men get jealous when their wives become more successful than them. In this case, he abused her to make her feel worthless. He had affairs to humiliate her. An abuser is a sociopath so don’t say anything, just leave and don’t ever return.
بنت الصومال اول شي انا ما ناسي الكيبورد عربي ال ت عبارة عن ابتسامة 🙂 وبعدين بس لان تجاربك او القصص اللي انتي تسمعيها مش يعني ان الكل نفس الشي. غلط تعممين الشر. انا اتمنى انه زوجتي تكون انجع مني لانها نجاحها يفرحها وفرحتها هي فرحتي وايضا اغلب الشباب اللي اعرفهم عندهم نفس المنضور. انتي يا اختي للاسف سلبية ت
kity kate he has no job and went bankrupt Anything she did was probably making him feel worthless so he couldn’t take it This is why a job and goals are so important
not even just that "i don't care for him" not hate.. i don't care for him, "he destroyed the bond between us and him" not you destroyed this family or ruined our lives. all of his words show a positive reinforcement from his aunt and uncle that, hate only poisons you and does nothing for the person who you hate, he didn't ruin your family because we're youre family and you're always gonna be loved instead he destroyed our bond ie, hes lost us not us lost him. all in all.. youre so right, that kid has clearly found grace out of all this and i have a lot of respect for that family and that kid. good for them honestly!
You're all joking right ??? The kid said something, "you can't undo that". And y'all now think that he's some kind of genius, or super mature emotional and spiritual giant ???
Teena Courtney I'm not being negative. I'm just saying, the kid stated the obvious and people are committing as though he said something profound or wise beyond his years. When all he did was state a fact.
Jack Sparrow - I said he’s a smart young man and others here also admire his maturity and his ability to express himself cogently. Why is this something you’re pretending to take any sort of issue with?
I was just passively watching this story until I heard the testimony by Maddox. Holy lord, my heart was broken but empowered at the same time. I'm so proud of him for bringing the heat to someone so flippant about what he's done. Bravery in the utmost degree, braver than his piece of shit cop (1312) ass father at 5 years old. The check in on the kids had me in tears. It's amazing that the family was so quick to tell them what had happened to their mother and gave them the relief of knowing they would keep them safe, like holy shit, thats incredible of them to not sugarcoat it. Those kids are happy not because they 'moved on', but because they were fully supported and loved while this was happening, and given space to express themselves and grieve. Incredible. I wish this family the absolute best.
Yeah. I heard that and it broke my heart. He's such a polite kid too cuz the worst insult he can think of was Big Fat Jerk. He was so brave saying that. I can only imagine the amount of rage and frustration he must have felt. Feeling that sad and helpless and he still made a point to say all that.
Me too! I’m soooo proud of Maddox. I watched this whole episode feeling so angry and annoyed but when that baby spoke it broke me all the way down. The sad part is nothing anyone says will ever have any impact on that sociopath. I’m so glad he’ll die in prison.
Ashleeb and Jasson, y'all are messed to the fullest. If even any of my 3 flesh and blood children did such an act, they'd be cut off indefinitely. I'd make sure they stay locked up for the safety of myself, the rest of the family, and the rest of society. You all should take heed in staying close with/to murderers, you might eventually be on the receiving end of their wrath.
I know I agree alot of times you see the family of the criminal in a way make them a victim so I am glad when his family member stood up. He said they can't do anything else to me. right. ? Well apparently they can and thank god for that.
It’s refreshing to see a good police department on it so quickly, especially after seeing another episode where the police department ignored all obvious evidence of attempted murder by one of their own, a cop.
Piling on 35 years for a federal crime was a pretty fucking brilliant move. The loser is going to be in jail for life regardless of what he thought, HAh! RIP, beautiful mama of three. The kids are adorable.
Appreciate your heartfelt comment and court tactical description. As for this arrogant idiot, well his new sentence sure wiped that stupid smirk right off where it belongs.
@@redsloane879 Totally wasn't expecting that part haha. Was expecting his plea to be null because he lied and didn't tell the truth about something. But that'll definitely do.
Her sister is one AMAZING woman! She didn’t hesitate at all from not only going to the police a mere 3 hours after not hearing from her sister but also with taking in her three kids! And to have done such an amazing job in raising the kids, to the point people can’t believe how happy they are after all they went through, is… well, I really don’t even have words for how beautiful that is! Shows that not all heroes wear capes! We need more people like her in the world! And we ALL need someone like her in our own lives! ❤️ the whole family is so strong that it’s inspiring! My prayers still go out to all of them and I really hope they’re doing well and are as happy as they can be!
The mom's smile as he said that was really funny. Before he even started answering she was smiling because she knew her husband would take care of that cocky SOB no problem.
“ did a good job aunt Sheryl” after she said how much she loves them at the end was a moment shows the mutual love,affection & appreciation for each as they went and grew through this situation together nothing but blessings to them
It's just a shame that more young women don't listen to Mum, when it comes to the appropriateness of their boyfriends? Mums know best for their daughter's? Girls? Listen.....
I’m so grateful for a sister just like hers!! We’re 3 years apart, and have butted heads many times over the years, but when it comes to someone else causing pain to the other, we go full psycho.
One thing these types of shows has taught me is NEVER compare your life to other people’s lives especially the ones who seem to have it together with picture perfect lives. You never know what’s going on behind closed doors. This is just so sad..I feel sorry for the kids.
That son is such a strong anchor for his sisters. He let their father know it wasn’t right with him what he did and that the consequence was the son dismissing him from their lives. A strong young made made a difference to his family with that statement. I wish them each success in all the world has to offer them. ❤️
Chris buried himself knowing there was video from the neighbor that's why he parked the truck the way he did and of course they would be found at some point when Police tracked his whereabouts on those days. Also, he dumps them on his job site? How on earth he ever thought he'd get away with it is beyond me. Then again, how he could do that to those girls is also beyond me... Ugh, HAD to bring him up. :(
@@juliannah5721 Even they neighbor said he knew, that's why it was partially in so you could not see what he was loading. Nobody partially pulls into a garage inches. You either pull into it or up to it. Nate said it himself.
@Cathy L See? I knew you could find the caps lock. Fantastic! In reality, I just choose not to argue with idiots, but whatever helps you sleep tonight. 💩
@Cathy L It's interesting how aggressive you are to a complete stranger. If you choose to stereotype every police officer, that's your business. As I said before, I don't argue with ignorant people. Why are you getting so worked up? Lol
Janice Knight it’s neat that they adopted the kids but she is still Aunt Cheryl. Many family members adopt and confuse the kids more by suddenly being “mom.” Good job Aunt Cheryl!
When the part that she doesnt have any evidence but she is telling to the police and the police are listening, that's when i reacted, "as they should be!"
@Baby Yoda Up In This Mofo Surprised you even have a wife with your attitude, especially still using the term "Karen" like you're so relevant and edgy yourself.
TugIronChief Are you not clear on the point that the man killed his child??? Of course he seems like an angry asshole, he is scarred for life. I don’t think you want to know the pain of losing a child, you’re obviously not grasping the concept. Smh
He reminds me of my husband. My ex found me when I was 17 and got me hooked on drugs and used to beat the ever loving shit out of me. My husband and I have known each other since high-school so when I kinda went off the deep end it hurt him badly to see me in such a state and when I finally escaped my ex I got back together with him (my husband) ended up getting married and had two beautiful girls. he says that all the time "I hope I see him. Don't care where it is. I'm gonna kick his ass up one side of the street and down the other" 😂
The guy was a sociopath. My daughter was married to one. He wanted to leave the area with her and my grandkids but she divorced him and moved in with me. He was too scared of me to do anything to her after that so he left but kept trying to get her to move out of state with him and then even met another girl and had a kid with her and was still trying to get my daughter to move with him. I am sure he would have done something bad had that happened but Thank God she smartened up and didn't bite.
Thomas , I am happy for your outcome, in my daughters situation , she could have stayed with me. She chose to go with him. They moved to Texas a few hours away from the Cherokee nation. He is a Cherokee and our grandchildren are now also. Our daughter was told if she tried to leave he would take them into the reservation and she’d not see them again. My only hope is Gods Devine intervention. He alone can bring them back home. I miss my daughter and three babies every single day.
@Iulia Ionela Petcu he is actually right. A lot of women suffers from what we called in italy " the red cross syndrome", they are attracted by the bad ass guys( normally the one having more girls around) and after they try and pretend to change the demeanors of those guys, failing miserably. It s particularly hard if they have children w those kind of men, they will spend life suffering and feeling depressed
she did the choosing she ignored the red flags she married him she had kids with him she chose against being with a good sane man it was all her choice there is no denying that
Omg bless those kids. She must’ve been a really good mother because she sure did right by those kids. Poor babies smh what a shame that they have to be as strong as they are, but thank goodness that they seem to have a wonderful support network in their lives. Literally made me cry hearing them talk about their mom 😭❤️
People can be so evil. How can you live with someone for years, love them and make a family with them but kill them in such a brutal way or kill them at all? It's so evil and scary.
Sheryl acted the way Shannan Watt’s friend did. Sure of the danger their sister/friend was in and absolute about the evil potential of the man in their lives. Everyone needs someone like that in their life
@4ceof5pades 🙄....my 22 year old niece shared this with me and her mother passed as well this September....just like the aunt in this video who stepped up I as well have myself....I have nothing negative to say...have a good day....
Pops is killing me! “Was I afraid of Clay?! No, I was praying to God he’d come up here!” I think we all wish he’d have went up there just so Pops could whip his ass 7 ways from Sunday!
slovní curling actually...no. He wouldn’t have. Too much recent precedence that would allow Pops to go free. OR he could just drag his sorry ass to South Alabama, and well...handled with no body to speak of. (Always puncture the lungs and rip the gut or they float)
people always ridicule victims of domestic abuse by asking “why did they never leave?” when they do or try to, they are put in so much more danger. things like this can and obviously have happened. this case shows that
As a women who 20 years ago and along with her two small children, escaped under cover of night from an extremely abusive alcoholic and crackhead who was also bipolar, I 💯 agree with your comment. I fled with only my children, my life, a hope and a prayer. I ran down the street at around 2 am with my two babies one on each hip, to the waiting police car four houses down. We went to the battered women’s shelter, and I started over. I was granted full custody of the children. I worked hard and got us our own place, 4 cities away. I put myself through college working two jobs and raising my kids, bought a double wide. Got my degrees, got a job in state government, providing a good life for my two children who grew up happy and safe. I bought a nice house. My kids graduated from high school; now my courageous son runs the PT department on his base, is an ammunitions and ballistics specialist in the US Air Force and about to graduate with a BS in forensic psychology, with a minor in sociology, and my talented daughter is a licensed cosmetologist having graduated from the prestigious Paul Mitchell The New School, and is also an artist and photographer. I even found real and actual love that didn’t hurt and abuse and remarried. My cruel, abusive, addicted and mentally ill ex husband?? Well about five years after I left him in the middle of the night, an FBI agent showed up at my door asking when the last time I saw him was. Of course I told him the truth, that there had been no contact in five years. The agent came back several times. He couldn’t tell me what he’d done or why they were looking for him except that he had outstanding warrants, and was suspected of serious criminal activity and I needed to tell them immediately if we heard from him. They also said if I harbored him I could face criminal charges. I was like no chance of that happening!! Of course we never heard from him or saw him. As far as I know he has been on the run ever since. Why did I write all this? Because if someone reading this right now needs help to escape domestic violence, I wanted them to read this and know I wrote it for them. Because maybe this could save someone’s life. So to those wanting to escape, Here is what you have to do: First thing you have to do is GET A PLAN. Coordinate your departure to coincide when the abuser will be gone or sleeping. Very important to escape in secret. And when you leave make sure you go to a shelter so that you are protected. Family and friends cannot protect you like they can. A couple of days before you leave, Secretly Contact the shelter first and arrange for an escape. They will help you, and they will coordinate the police pick up. Prepare yourself if things go wrong. Come up with a story (one women used her back up scenario by pretended to her abuser like she was taking out the garbage, but really it was her bag of clothes. Once outside she ran like hell) or a way out or back up plan. TELL NO ONE AHEAD OF TIME, NO FRIENDS OR FAMILY, THAT YOU HAVE LEFT. ALSO DO NOT TELL THEM THE LOCATION AFTER YOU HAVE LEFT. ONLY THAT YOU ARE SAFE. Even well meaning people can slip up and accidentally give you away. If you feel safer carrying pepper spray or mace as you escape, do so ONLY if you can buy it in secret. If the abuser finds out about the purchase, say you got it for when you are walking through empty parking lots alone like at the grocery store or something. DO NOT FRET ABOUT MATERIAL THINGS YOU MAY HAVE TO LEAVE BEHIND. THEY CAN BE REPLACED. YOUR LIFE AND THE LIVES OF YOUR CHILDREN CANNOT; YOU ALL ARE WHAT MATTERS MOST. YOU CAN DO IT. BUT PLEASE DO IT SAFELY AND QUIETLY. HOW YOU LEAVE AND WHEN COULD BE A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH. BUT YOU CAN BUILD A BETTER LIFE. A LIFE WHERE YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN ARE SAFE. I KNOW BECAUSE I DID. AND IF I DID IT, SO CAN YOU. IF YOU NEED HELP I WILL HELP YOU. JUST MESSAGE ME BACK.
Spring tome you really can’t sympathize with that at ALL? what happens if the mother tries to leave with the child and fails, maybe she gets injured or even killed, what will happen to the child? the abuser takes them and runs? the abuser hurts or kills them too? i think having a child complicates the leaving process, because you have to ensure the safety of yourself AND the child/children. i’m sure abusers probably use the child as leverage too, probably threatening to hurt them if they try to leave. and i’m sure it’s even more complicated than this. these are just things i thought of on the spot
катя синюк so you saying they might as well stay? So they want get killed. But take the physical and mental abuse on them and the kids. That don’t sound b right either
@@Ailenna Happened with my wife's sister, too. Guy she married was a total narcissist. Took her years to get out of that marriage. Luckily she's married to a good guy now.
"You did a good job, Aunt Cheryl." She did, indeed. So sorry those children lost their mom! I pray they find healing over time. Can't imagine the anger they must feel towards their dad, which is justified.
LG They do NOT have to forgive this man. They are the victims and it is 100 percent their right to live and experience their true feelings. Any anger, pain or other feelings they have are completely justified. The perpetrator’s emotions came first in all his horrible actions and it’s time their emotions come first. This narrative of always forgiving regardless of how the victim feels is so damaging. Let the victims make their own choices!!
This video made me cry! Those precious children. Her son calling that filth bag a big fat jerk was so horribly sad, because you could here the anguish in his little voice.
D Kahn If you thought a 7 year old (Maddox gave his statement in 2013) couldn’t speak for himself and make those remarks you are crazy. Those children are not oblivious as to what their father did to their mother. I think it was great therapy for Maddox to be given that ability to speak his feelings, it will help him with coping of losing both parents.
D Kahn clearly you have no children to even understand. I’m confused...would you have suggested that the child say he forgave his father at that age???
Seems like it would have been an excellent time to let that boy use some better 4 letter curse words. I was on the edge of my seat wanting to hear him call him worse than a "jerk".....
@D Kahn ,I think that kid is probably going to be a little messed up no matter what. He already knows his dad killed him mom so the better thing in my opinion is for him to be allowed to call the evil act EXACTLY what it is. This false theory that you have to white wash what is bad and put a happy smile on everything isn't helpful to kids. That only encourages them to think that killing their spouse is a normal thing....maybe something they should someday do. No, the proper perspective is to call out evil and allow kids to call out evil when they see/experience it too. You shouldn't have to be 18 or 21 to know what is evil and denounce it. It goes towards forming a pattern if responsible character and judgment.
@D Kahn , I dont see the point you are seeking to make. You play stupid games you win stupid prizes. The two black women in the video seem to be out of line and behaving belligerently. I dont see anything wrong (if say) one of their grandparents spoke to these little boy and told them their mom is a distasteful, hateful, idiot. With no intervention these kids will learn this is "normal" behavior and the ignorance and bad behavior will infest multiple generations. It is good to call out bad behavior when it rears its ugly head, no matter the location. Keeping silent, gives validity to bad behavior. Everyone should seek to inform a child the difference between what is good and bad behavior. Ideally a child should only see good examples, but since that is not always possible, then when they witness (or come to know of evil behavior) then they should also be informed that the bad is BAD. Allowing bad to exist, without calling it out or condemning it, allows it to exist in a formidable mind as normal behavior. What ever we see and experience as a child, tends to become our benchmark for what we believe is "normal". Therefore something that is wrong, bad, or evil, needs to be exposed as not normal or something to be viewed as normal.
Nothing is creepier than a parent in a public setting asking their kid “Do you love daddy?” He wants you to hear the kids say that so you think he’s a “good” dad
Katelyn Young Well, that’s not entirely accurate. That 40% figure was from a survey, not a scientific study done over 30 years ago and from what I read it included things like shouting at ones mate as ‘spousal abuse’ and didn’t specify who was the aggressor. The 40% figure is very misleading and gives the impression that 4 of 10 officers are physically abusive to their domestic partners.
Totally scary!! Where I live a deputy sheriff kidnapped his wife from the babysitters house, took her to a abandoned barn and shot her and himself. There were signs but the sheriff department overlooked it. Said he needed counseling. Left 2 little ones
My heart just breaks for those kids. Maddox's maturity at the end; "He ruined the bond, You can't undo that" to a monster of a dad who des not deserve the beauty and heart of those kids. I want to hug those precious kids. Thank God they had loving family to take them in.
Absolutely, she's really the one that deserves ALL of the credit. Not only did she get the ball rolling on the investigation, she even adopted her sisters 3 children. That's what TRUE love is towards a siblong. Please forgive me here, I'm NOT trying to sound like a male chauvinist, but Maddox is really the one who is the man in that family. Notice how when he starts to talk, his sisters let him take charge. Not trying to suggest male superiority, but he's just that take charge kind of thing, & his sisters let him be the man. He will be a great "protector" of his sisters in the near future, & I would even surmise he will be an excellent father someday, he definitely won't be anything like the jerk his father is like!
The biggest heroes in this story are Sheryl and Bob. Got married at 16, still together, and adopted the three kids. God bless them!
Very Well Said!
Yes...they held everything together for those kids like a shelter in a storm.😢😢
Bada Bing bless them and the kids❤️❤️
@@kareemenya Haha? That's an awful thing to say. The sexual abuse of a child is not a funny joke. Ever.
@@kareemenya you're creepy
I started to cry at the end. He had no remorse. The kid being 5 called him a big fat jerk over and over haha. That was the meanest thing he could say at 5
Amy Bainbridge right? Incredibly sad and terrible.
He was obviously told what to say lol. That's why he kept repeating himself.. he ran out of scripted words to say
Robert Clayton you are an idiot. Children are a lot smarter than you think.
vincentrich - Banned But Not Forgotten there were likely some lines fed to him, but even as a kid I had a pretty good vocabulary? Like, it’s not too uncommon
How long do you think this boy thought about what he would say? I think coached is to strong of a description. I'm sure the adults in his life are helping him process and articulate his emotions. I don't know if you noticed but tiny humans can't process something like this themselves. If anything it affirms that he is with the best people he could be.
The relative who said "no, I dont understand you, you're not the victim" has my respect.
I feel bad for clays family as well. Knowing that peice of shit is vlood related to them
Mine too. At first I thought he was coaching Clay in a sort of cynical way... but when he reminded that narcissistic self centered douchebag that he wasn't the victim in the situation, I realized I was wrong. He meant it, and possibly was hoping to see signs of humanity in his convicted relative.
Yep, he told it like it was.
Sounds like Clay was a narcissist jerk.
😇 that was awesome!
The young man is so well spoken and you can still hear the hurt in his voice as he talks about that message. Sure his mother would be proud of him 🥺
Proud of what? He didn't accomplish anything.
@@azazello1784 Proud of the fact that a 5 year old child was able to get on stand and talk in front of several people expressing how he feels about his own father literally MURDERING his mom and now being left without two parents. Whats your deal??
"If I don't hear from my sister in five minutes, I'm going straight to the cops". This is a woman you don't mess around with.
@Chris Kibodeaux what?
@Chris Kibodeaux what are you, 12? She did amazing things.
@Chris Kibodeaux Then explain what you're trying to say. What did she do wrong in your opinion?
Chris Kibodeaux I sure hope someone does the same thing to you what Clay did to his wife. Who would be laughing then? Moron 🖕 Regards from Finland asshole.
Chris Kibodeaux only STUPID people care about their siblings. Smh people these days are so dumb 😫😫
Abuses her, cheats on her and doesn't help with the kids... But how dare she leave with the kids, amirite?
yep. thank God I have a final restraining order against mine.
@M. Di Federico Chill out weirdo
@M. Di Federico You should do your research before you open your mouth.
M. Di Federico You need to pop a rescue pastille and calm your ass down as you sound like you can go “full hockey mask” at any time.
Pretty much so and an abuser
When the state hit him with 35 years AFTER his 20 was completed I was smiling so big! Good job
he wont server the 35 years btw
@@roidnerd2501 he will he will sever it after the 20 years is up
Hi Where does it say in the video that he will serve an additional 35 years? I cant find it
@@sunknownhuman3883 32:50
@@naomilau2684 thanks
I love you aunt Cheryl. You are an amazing sister, aunt, daughter. You would think I know you, but you speak and fight with such a passion for your sister and her children. God bless you.
thank you for this comment because she really stands on buisness she reminds me of me about my sisters bruh.
When he said, "It happened two years ago. I just want to move on."... that is the definition of insanity
Exactly what I thought, I half expected him to say so thing like “ get over it already “ like he has just stolen some potato chips or somthing
On the bright side, he gets about 50 odd years to move on, away from the pesky people who would keep reminding him of his inconveniently murderous past.
No, it’s the definition of psychopathy. Insanity would be if he didn’t understand right from wrong; he’s just devoid of empathy and a full-blown narcissist so he doesn’t care.
ourcorrect opinions beat me to it. Thank you, it pisses me off when people try use that word. A heartless person isn’t insane, they know the difference between right and wrong
No. Evil.
You harm the reputation of mental patients by terming monsters "insane"--not intentionally, I realize. It's a bad habit we learned from the culture. This man is simply evil.
Never agree to meet your ex anywhere alone, ever ever!
Yes the crazy women could do any thing
Hahah got em
well I mean... I feel like in a situation where a relationship was ended on good terms and they remained friends or something it would be okay.. maybe.
Starbucks, dunking donuts, McDonald's I mean inside
So true
He never cared about the kids!! The claim that he had killed her because he didn´t want to lose them is a lie! He couldn't stand her being happy!
Anamarija Mihaljević I agree. He is a selfish, arrogant, needy little boy. He didn’t give a crap about those poor kids OR Jackie. He just didn’t want her to be happy. And claiming she wanted to have sex with him one last time? Yeah right. He is trying to get that last jab in on this poor woman.
Spoilers
@@alexanderson9842 Demolition
Exactly! It was NEVER about the kids, always was about her, so sad after 18 yrs with someone and they hate you to that extent they would hurt&kill you like you are nothing! Absolutely disgusting! Poor kids and woman 😞
Especially after he threatened to kill *them!* He's all about himself and what *he* wants.
Omg the little boy’s statements and his message at the end 😭😭😭😭 . I couldn’t help tearing up . He will most definitely be a fierce protector of his sisters and future wife and children I’m sure of it .
I said the same thing
those made me cry 😭
Everybody needs a Sheryl in their life. She didn’t hesitate to call the cops.
Like shannan watts best friend 😭
@@niviamaeva or neighbor dan and his surveillance video.
Elise Fincher absolutely!!
Elise Fincher ohh yesss. The GOAT in the neighborhood. Hopefully im surrounded by neighbors like that when i buy my first house
A good karen
I was literally crying my eyes out when the children were talking at the end. What absolutely beautiful, strong and resilient children. A true credit to their mother's sister. "You did a good job, Aunt Cheryl." Yes, she really did.
her son is my spirit animal...Atleast the sister took them in and made them feel loved.
bro Maddox hit him what a “BYE” at the end a true king😭
Wakey Wakey eggs and bakey I was crying too:(
She is a great sister and she provides a wonderful home for those kids.
I at least can hold onto the knowledge that they are safe and in a loving home
@The Better Society what is wrong with you man? you know what is really pathetic, calling yourself the better society when at the same time you are just acting like an ass
That boy is going to so protective of his sisters and grow up to be such a strong man. Wow. He’s so brave standing up to his dad and the way he was talking when he was older just showed how emotionally intelligent and strong he is. What amazing kids..
Those kids are beautiful, mum would be so proud of them!
That blew me away and broke my heart at the same time. He was so articulate and sounded so strong when he was talking about his dad at the end. It’s so sad what’s been done to these kids. Thank God they have a wonderful family to raise them.
@coffee_singing23,
*Damn, you sure are a lil’ CUTIE 😍! May I PLEASE make direct payments towards your college tuition/student loans (Soon-To-Be Dr.) 😩?*
Cheryl is a Trump supporter... The boy and all the triplet will come out fine...
@@alisonlee8153,
Well, are you actually cute?
I met Cheryl a few years ago at an event she was the keynote speaker at … she is an amazingly strong woman.
I started crying my eyes out when I heard that little boy calling him a big fat jerk and that he wished he wasn't his dad. That really hurt my heart.
Ohwww Lord me tooo
This had me in tearssss hearing him speak his heart out
I cried as well when the son said “ you big fat jerk” Those kids are so strong and especially at the end when one of the sisters said “ you did a great job Aunt Cheryl”
😭 Me too. I wish I could hug him.
When I divorced my ex, our son was 12 and when his dad forced him to have visits (dad has bi-polar disorder), he would say to me," I wish you had picked me a better dad" . It is so hard on kids when parents with mental illness can't parent. The psychopathy displayed here is an extreme mental illness.
@@gwens5093 it's not your fault.you just wanted to be loved and cherished the way you deserved.. his actions and behavior are not your responsibility.. give yourself some grace.. you deserve it..I hope you both have found a small bit of healing.. and if it helps.. ALWAYS remember, when you're QUESTING "am I a good mom?" No bad mom EVER questions whether they are a good parent. Sending you ALL the love 🥰
I can see why they named him clay. He's about as smart as a clump of it.
According to scripture, God made Adam from clay; we're all just pottery formed by His guiding hand... ✋
Good one 😂😂
😆😆🤦
André Linoge That’s a fairytale
@@sirandrelefaedelinoge we all know that but jokes are jokes. Don't take it like a hot rod up your lame ass.
We all need a loyal Sister like Sheryl she is a SUPERHERO naturally BORN...
Hug your sisters today...biological or otherwise ❤️
I thank god for the one I have! Daily!
@@h.g.9411 Mug your sisters today. Biological or otherwise.💜
@@TugIronChief So...she should've just let it go? Hot take, dude. I can tell your marriage is grrrrreat. You must really be loved. LOL.
@@TugIronChief I don't put my nose in anyone's business unless they reach out for help. It seems like you haven't experienced much of humanity or interpersonal relationships in your life, but you should know that people talk. People vent to their friends. And, this will amaze you, but sometimes people love each other so much, they look out for each other and care for each other's safety...especially women, who are vulnerable . A huge red flag for abuse is isolating the spouse and forcing the spouse into silence through fear of violence. Many women understand this and look out for it. It's not 'nosy' if you believe your loved one's life is in danger. Lots of shitty marriages broken up by 'friends' if you ask me. Sounds like you just want the right to torture your wife without consequences.
So sad 😭 being a mother who’s been through domestic violence this makes me cry. She found away out and he still took her life.
Hugs
I'm so sorry to hear! I hope you got out of that relationship and are safe now ❤ god bless you
He wasn't abusive towards her.
You stay, you’re a fool
@@BeatlesFan1975-- ummmm you missed the part where he threatened to kill her and kill the kids and then he did kill her? Which part of the video did you even watch???
I was smiling from ear to ear when they gave him another 35 years in prison after he's served the 20 years sentence.
The sentence to chris watt should be the same as him
@@softmambo6602 Chris watts is leagues above this guy
Chris watts was way worse !! chris killed the wife AND THE KIDS!
@@lamyae-c8i not just wife pregnant wife
@@Khulismonica another reason why he's worse!
She's the best sister ever. Thank you for taking care of the kids.
He could care less about the children's mother what a monster
I guess you could see digging the hole the day before is evidence I did not mean to kill her ??????#%@?
Maybe someone will kill in prison
Yes HAW .God got him on this one! This little boy made me 😢
The best sister EVER!
Props to the sister for pushing justice for her sister , she is so strong
This brought heavy flow of tears to my eyes that im still wiping away. She was such a beautiful woman and loved her kids. That leach seen his free ride leaving and the punk in him had to destroy her and not a thought for the kids. Yea ive got tears in my eyes. May he end up everyones bitch in jail in every way.
@@nancypiccirillo405❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤I ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤11
@@nancypiccirillo405poor woman. She doesnt even look tired after all those years, work and taking care of everyone. Hes an overgrown brat, and how she put up with him I'll never know.
When my husband told me, "ill nail the doors and windows closed, and burn the house down w you and the children inside." I believed him. I immediately began to make plans to leave him...and from then on,
I was preparing in my mind. The "marriage" was O-V-E-R....over. i did everything i could to keep the peace, never said "no" in the bedroom.....and the day we left, he left for work at 630am, the moving van came at 930am for the few items i was taking w us.( i put our few things in storage) and the children and i left. When he got home,
No one was there. 😐...
I left chicago area w 4 children under 5(the 8 mo old had pneumonia)
I had $26 and a phillips66 card and i had to get to Hollywood florida. Thank God we made it.......😔🤦🏻♀️
Wow what a story.. That takes nerves of steel to pull off without showing any signs of what´s going on. Did he contact your family, friends etc? Have you and your children been able to visit your relatives or did they not live in the area where he did?
Just watching this video & you are one brave, smart, strong woman! Bless you & your children with happiness & a wonderful life. 🙏❤️
@@JoR-g3c I really felt like "God hid us"..... the "x" hired private detectives,
They would.find my husband......but he would lose them on his way home.
...........when we finally wound up in court w him claim that I interfered w his visitation rights, which of course, I did.....SOMEONE gave him the idea that he would automatically win the court case and be able to take all 4 children w him, that day.......as the afternoon was coming to an end, he "lost it". He jumped over his atty table and came running across the court room w his hands outstretched to strangle me
There were 2 armed guards in the court. They stood and both cocked their riot guns at the same time.
Total silence ensued.....and the judge said, "mr "x" SIT
DOWN !" he shouted over a microphone......his female atty stood up, slammed her briefcase and said, "find yourself another atty"......
And the court put the children and I up in a private littke quiet apt away from where OUR home actually was.....it WAS in the bayou.
The local sheriff's escorted him to the edge of town and said something like,"Git offn
mah land."......🤦🏻♀️......and thank God I was able to finish rearing my children as normal people instead of maniacs. Thank u for asking......👋🏻👵🏻
Im so glad that you believed him and you and your kids got out and are safe now!
Wishing you and your family everything you wish for yourself.
The way he almost tried to make himself seem like the victim in the confession makes me livid. YOU were the abuser. YOU were the killer. End of story.
Jotaro Kujo unfortunately all Pyschopaths behave like that.....
@@evaadams8298 Indeed :(
no remorse classic psychopath
@@corwilliams3098 Narcissistic psychopath or malignant narcissist. He's a callous and selfish little baby without any of the promise that true children possess.
It’s the way a narcissist thinks; they always have to have the last word and make sure they frame themselves as the victim. All psychopaths are narcissists but not all narcissists are psychopaths; this man was both but his narcissism overshadows his psychopathy to the point where he practically convicts himself.
Ugh, those poor kids. Her son speaking at the end just tears my heart apart. They are beautiful and God Bless their aunt and uncle.
yes they looked so sad talking about their mom just heartbreaking losing both of your parents
Right?! I was sobbing by the end.. Kids idolize they're parents at that age, normally and to see and hear how betrayed and angry that boy is at his dad its both heartbreaking and inspiring at the same time. Inspiring because he at that age is brave enough to stand up to his dad and say what you did was wrong, and hurt me, hurt them.. and heartbreaking that any kid at that age should have to go through what they did, and not just lose a mom but their dad too.. Its a blessing though that their aunt and grand parents shower them with love as they do..
Never threaten a man to leave and take the kids..Just do it
If someone has promised to kill you, you should never be alone with that person.
Hey great advice. You are so smart. I wish I'd thought of that
@Ruru Home yeah cause the police are gonna drop everything and be your personal guardian for the day... I guess all you need to do is ring them and book one for the day.... right?
@Ruru Home and wtf has being bipolar got to do with anything?
@Ion yes that's why they are also called the divorcing ppls escorts service. Unless the ex has already been arrested or has an injunction out on them no they wont do shit and their job is catching murderers and rapists not being the escort service for child access. You don't have a fucking clue what you're talking about.
he wld have caught her alone sooner or later.even if she took it seriously circumstance would have come along.
These kids are lucky to have aunt like theirs . May god bless them
Yes for sure. She’s got a lot of fight in her.
@johnnydeppisarapistjohnnyd8962 Now he is also raxist?! Woke people are insne and joke hahahaha
God created the killer and the victim, knowing what was going to happen, and did NOTHING to stop it! Oh and created the kids, to go through this.
Those triplets are very smart, especially the son. Wow. He articulated everything, and had such a great vocabulary. The understanding and thanking their aunt, just wow. What beautiful people.
yes, you said it precisely - I hope that they will be able to continue to honor their Moms'memory
Those kids are incredibly kind hearted, I love love LOVE that they said that about their aunt💜
Maddox sounds like such a bright kid... his mind seems much older than him. Probably a very high IQ as well as high emotional intelligence. Hearing him speak was so powerful.
They surely didn't take from the father, splashing fish blood in the car to "check if they're shady"
@@hardware64 Which is also just bozo since it’s the opposite of “shady” for police to check blood found on a scene. This guy is what I would call a very low-intelligence narcopath (narcissistic psychopath).
The way those children carry themselves is testament to the beautiful, positive spirit of their mother. She lives on through them.
No. Pretty sure she's still dead.
Its a testament to children being resilient.
A good mother chooses a good father for her children BEFORE her children are born.
@@stevenhates6345 shut up
@@elisee8925 I take it from your eloquent response you have a dissenting opinion?
She chose to subject herself to abuse. Fine. She got what she sought.
Subjecting her children to that same abuse meant she never loved her children.
Children who are loved are protected from abuse, not subjected to it.
@@sk33m-qe3ym Oh my God! My secret code of Steven Hates has been cracked by yet another brilliant internet sleuth!
I'm humbled by the vast reach of your intellect!
Steven Hates I’d say you’re a dick, but you clearly don’t even have a dick.
He killed his wife because she threatened to take the kids, but has lost them forever for murdering his wife. Very ironic.
Edit: for the people who don't understand my comment, it's BLATANTLY obvious he didnt care about the kids. He said he didn't want to lose the kids, so regardless of the truth in his statement, it makes the situation ironic nonetheless.
Sounds like Chris Watts
He didn't care about the kids. He was gonna kill her for not following directions.
End result is about the same
J.A.C Yea, very logical thinking right!?! In reality, he never gave a damn about those kids. Only thing he cares about is power!
Steven Hates You’re right on point! All he cares about is having the power!
Prayers of healing for the family! Praise to Cheryl for being such a strong and determined woman for standing up for her sister and her kids! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Finally...a police department that does the right thing from the beginning!!! Bless them and may Jacque rest in peace 🥺
If that was a black woman. They can kiss that goodbye they would have told hem wait 48hours and with no body
@layla carter you don’t know that for sure. Not at any point in time was race every a focus on this situation. Why make everything out to be about race? I get it I’m an African American male living in North Carolina being pulled over and my own experiences with the law even though I have a clean record other than driving without my glasses years ago. But this story was about a beautiful mother, daughter, friend, sister and woman who left family, friends and her 3 kids behind after having her life taken from her and everyone else.
@Victor Hollingsworth I commend you sir. You’re 110% correct. This is a horribly sad case. My personal opinion - if this exact story would have a woman of any other race, religion, etc, it would not change the fact that 3 innocent children are now growing up without their beautiful mother and in reality, without a father. No human being should have to go through anything like this. Take care!
shakira Z chi yeah being a white, middle class mother is really helpful in that regard.
Lol I thought the same thing.
"You did a good job, Aunt Cheryl". These children are an amazing testimony to the love of their mother's family and a future full of hope.
Robyn Barnes right. They will be amazing adults!
This dude had everything, gave almost nothing, and then killed the one who did everything for him. I was so glad to hear about the federal law and the additional 35 years. 20 years on a plea deal left me angry as hell.
Dodge Ram
Wasnt the guy having affairs too? Plus the dude did nothing in the relationship. Then became abusing.
@Dodge Ram You are blaming her for his speech impediment? LOL
Who burn the house down? AND... They were still married when he killed her. They both had *new partners* while filing for divorce. Child support? Never received one payment. Can't believe you blame his wife for his misery.
Dodge Ram - loser
Self centred sociopaths like that can't change. He was only wanting to use the children like he used her. For money. He would have gone though any money they inherited (including life insurance (she would have had a big policy too working for an insurance agency)). And when he went through that he would have got government benefits using them too. If he got tired of any of them or wanted more money to laze around, they would have had their lives insured too.
Dodge Ram I know what you’re trying to say, but dude...
hearing the sons impact speech made me bawl. hearing how angry and upset they so rightfully are and how it didn’t even bother the man who murdered his wife for “taking his kids” what a monster. I’m so happy that those babies have their aunt and uncle who are such amazing hero’s; adopting the children and raising them themselves. a somewhat nice ending to such a tragedy.
When the state added the 35 years AFTER he thought he “outsmarted” them. I was up high-fiving myself! Maddox broke my heart. He’s such an intelligent and inspirational little man.
misty lewis me too
It was the feds that charged him because he crossed state lines when he buried her.
Me toooooooo😅😅😅
Yes I was happy as shit when they threw the 35 on his ass
“I accidentally killed her” he says after admitting to digging her hole the day before...... ummmmmmm?
More like accidently on purpose! He truly is a Dumb Jerk! His son tagged him 100%
Lol chill, he wasn't intentionally pRe-planned to kill his wife!
I didn't believe it be a accident who accidently kills someone but digs there grave the day ahead
"she wasnt supposed to die like THAT"
THAT PART!!! Best damn comment on here. So real!!
“It happened two years ago. I just want to move on” that line pissed me off so bad.
That line really showcased how narcissistic he is. Not to mention delusional since he acts like murder is not a big deal.
I hated him before but after that… screw him - I hate how he believes that he is the victim here when the real victims are the kids, her sister and parents. Also the fact that he was so determined that he wanted his kids - but then when said kids tell him that he can go screw himself he doesn't even react - yeah he is a sociopath for sure.
Two days after my narc ex assaulted me he texted me "can we please just move on?"
I am blessed to still be alive. He wanted me to die.
Me too! he acted like he just stepped on her toes..."no big deal". What the hell is WRONG mentally with this guy?
Crystal B it really isn’t
When Maddox made that statement “He gets that he has ruined the bond between us and him, and that he is never going to have that back. He just took our mom away and i was just trying to show him that you cant undo that” my heart broke, He took a womans life and a loving amazing mother away from her 3 amazing kids, God bless them and their aunt for being so strong and always having eachother so back❤️❤️ LLJ❤️❤️
The husband did it. They always make those phone calls begging for the wife to get in touch with them. It’s a classic ploy.
Yep, then tried to derail the investigation by smearing fish blood on his truck, then driving by and flipping off the people searching for his wife... not the actions of an innocent man.
The fake tears. Trying to make it seem as if he didn't know she is dead.
Lmao
Just more proof that girls like jerks, amirite?
@@investor.z huh tf are you talking abt she’s a victim not the time take that incel shit somewhere else
Women: when you're afraid of a man, trust your intuition. Do not meet with him alone. And your friends and family shouldn't allow it.
Agreed!
@AshTheOne homicides in the us for 2017 amounted to around 20000 deaths, (for ALL homicides, not just those perpetrated by ex partners). The same number for suicides stands at around 50000, If you're so paranoid about your ex that you HAVE to have a backup even if your ex seems unlike a psychopath, you perhaps should also have them around ALL THE TIME just to protect you from YOURSELF 😱
Statistically speaking you're a greater threat to your life than your ex 😂😂😂
But sure, call someone else an idiot because they have the simple capacity to acknowledge how meeting an ex is an extremely common thing and is nowhere near as dangerous as you seem to want to believe it is. Then there's the whole, "bad grammar = idiot" lunacy.
So in conclusion, YOU'RE the paranoid idiot, who was forced to double down on their argument because they got called out on their idiocy 🤷♂️
And ladies, don't date douche bags. If your family doesn't like him that's a big red flag.
@AshTheOne Sounds like you need to be avoided - you obviously have a huge temper and are triggered easily and quickly, which would make you a risk too. DEFINITELY need to be avoided, after reading your other comments. Certainly come across as very aggressive and potentially a real danger; hope a partner of yours never disagrees with you cos that temper...
Xcruze. She said if you feel scared. If you don't feel scared of your ex, crack on, but if you are scared of them, trust your instinct. Which is sound advice you thicko
When the girl said, you did a good job aunt Sheryl. Priceless
I started bawling when the son left his message towards the end of this video.
Me too! So evil. God bless those children
The man has a girlfriend, but has the nerve to kill his wife who wanted a divorce. F him
Exacly you can tell he was a narc he wanted to be able to do both
Riiiiiiiight
I’ve been seeing this a lot. The effing nerve!
And sent is son who is supposed to be with him, to his girlfriend. Who, I’m guessing, has never really met before
So true. What a hypocrite.
Most men get jealous when their wives become more successful than them. In this case, he abused her to make her feel worthless. He had affairs to humiliate her. An abuser is a sociopath so don’t say anything, just leave and don’t ever return.
Not most men ت
بنت الصومال اول شي انا ما ناسي الكيبورد عربي ال ت عبارة عن ابتسامة 🙂 وبعدين بس لان تجاربك او القصص اللي انتي تسمعيها مش يعني ان الكل نفس الشي. غلط تعممين الشر. انا اتمنى انه زوجتي تكون انجع مني لانها نجاحها يفرحها وفرحتها هي فرحتي وايضا اغلب الشباب اللي اعرفهم عندهم نفس المنضور. انتي يا اختي للاسف سلبية ت
Many many men cannot take their wives success, financially, socially. They want to be the only star of the show
kity kate he has no job and went bankrupt
Anything she did was probably making him feel worthless so he couldn’t take it
This is why a job and goals are so important
Women aren't as respected as they should be
That’s a smart young man. “You can’t undo that.”
Most adults can’t speak that gracefully.
The Afterhours I was so proud of him.
not even just that "i don't care for him" not hate.. i don't care for him, "he destroyed the bond between us and him" not you destroyed this family or ruined our lives. all of his words show a positive reinforcement from his aunt and uncle that, hate only poisons you and does nothing for the person who you hate, he didn't ruin your family because we're youre family and you're always gonna be loved instead he destroyed our bond ie, hes lost us not us lost him. all in all.. youre so right, that kid has clearly found grace out of all this and i have a lot of respect for that family and that kid. good for them honestly!
You're all joking right ??? The kid said something, "you can't undo that". And y'all now think that he's some kind of genius, or super mature emotional and spiritual giant ???
Teena Courtney I'm not being negative. I'm just saying, the kid stated the obvious and people are committing as though he said something profound or wise beyond his years. When all he did was state a fact.
Jack Sparrow - I said he’s a smart young man and others here also admire his maturity and his ability to express himself cogently. Why is this something you’re pretending to take any sort of issue with?
I was just passively watching this story until I heard the testimony by Maddox.
Holy lord, my heart was broken but empowered at the same time. I'm so proud of him for bringing the heat to someone so flippant about what he's done. Bravery in the utmost degree, braver than his piece of shit cop (1312) ass father at 5 years old.
The check in on the kids had me in tears. It's amazing that the family was so quick to tell them what had happened to their mother and gave them the relief of knowing they would keep them safe, like holy shit, thats incredible of them to not sugarcoat it. Those kids are happy not because they 'moved on', but because they were fully supported and loved while this was happening, and given space to express themselves and grieve. Incredible. I wish this family the absolute best.
Yeah. I heard that and it broke my heart. He's such a polite kid too cuz the worst insult he can think of was Big Fat Jerk. He was so brave saying that. I can only imagine the amount of rage and frustration he must have felt. Feeling that sad and helpless and he still made a point to say all that.
7 year old
I agree with you Nicole
Me too! I’m soooo proud of Maddox. I watched this whole episode feeling so angry and annoyed but when that baby spoke it broke me all the way down. The sad part is nothing anyone says will ever have any impact on that sociopath. I’m so glad he’ll die in prison.
Not gonna lie I choked up a bit at the end there. Strong kids
"You understand?" Relative: "No, I don't. You're not the victim here!" Bravo!!!!
I know! Narc to the fullest
Ashleeb and Jasson, y'all are messed to the fullest. If even any of my 3 flesh and blood children did such an act, they'd be cut off indefinitely. I'd make sure they stay locked up for the safety of myself, the rest of the family, and the rest of society. You all should take heed in staying close with/to murderers, you might eventually be on the receiving end of their wrath.
Jasson Poirier nope. You’re trash and should still be in jail if that’s how you view things.
@Jasson Murderers are “solid people” while those who care about innocent victims are “rats”? What’s the thought process behind this?
I know I agree alot of times you see the family of the criminal in a way make them a victim so I am glad when his family member stood up. He said they can't do anything else to me. right. ? Well apparently they can and thank god for that.
Impressed with this police force. Best I've seen on these kind of shows.
Agree. They didn't even wait 24 hours.
It’s refreshing to see a good police department on it so quickly, especially after seeing another episode where the police department ignored all obvious evidence of attempted murder by one of their own, a cop.
Yes. Agree. The show too. Really cool upbeat family.
💯😇💪💞
Yes they are incredible and didn't stop until they got all the evidence that they needed to get for this demon .
Piling on 35 years for a federal crime was a pretty fucking brilliant move. The loser is going to be in jail for life regardless of what he thought, HAh!
RIP, beautiful mama of three. The kids are adorable.
Appreciate your heartfelt comment and court tactical description. As for this arrogant idiot, well his new sentence sure wiped that stupid smirk right off where it belongs.
The beauty of it is that it is not a concurrent term. He has to do his 20 first. Then 35.
Bet when he found out about the extra 35 yrs, he wasn't smirking!!
😀😁😅😂🤣😀😁😅😂🤣!!
@@redsloane879 Totally wasn't expecting that part haha. Was expecting his plea to be null because he lied and didn't tell the truth about something. But that'll definitely do.
Do NOT tell an abuser your plan to leave. They WILL retaliate. Leave quietly for everyone's safety.
Her sister is one AMAZING woman! She didn’t hesitate at all from not only going to the police a mere 3 hours after not hearing from her sister but also with taking in her three kids! And to have done such an amazing job in raising the kids, to the point people can’t believe how happy they are after all they went through, is… well, I really don’t even have words for how beautiful that is! Shows that not all heroes wear capes! We need more people like her in the world! And we ALL need someone like her in our own lives! ❤️ the whole family is so strong that it’s inspiring! My prayers still go out to all of them and I really hope they’re doing well and are as happy as they can be!
I agree, and what amazes me is that this post doesn’t have hundreds of likes!
@@CoExist64 I guess maybe some people just don’t like taking the time to read a long comment but thank you!
@@CoExist64 Its a dated youtube....but "likes" aren't what make a good post and this was a good post.
@@marshallmintz7564 💯
Truly amazing people.
I love the victim's parents...Her Dad: Was I scared of Clay? No! I was wishing to God he'd come up here!"
The mom's smile as he said that was really funny. Before he even started answering she was smiling because she knew her husband would take care of that cocky SOB no problem.
@@gayvinmcginnes2508 Oh for sure...Lol..Before he even started to speak she was like..."haha, here it comes" **smirk***😏🤭
You all know he had a twelve gauge shotgun WAITING for Clay's @$$. He was ready to burn dat @$$. Rightfully so.
@@TheMsmith77 yep and probably knew some folks that would make this kind of problem....just go away lol🤷
Her dad looks like Santa, very likable man.
Kudos to Jackson police for taking it seriously and getting on the case immediately!
Kudos to the same police department for hiring a psychopath...
They did a wonderful job
I wonder how quickly they would have been to act if it had been a Black or Brown woman.
rockwell rockamoly huh? I’m confused 😐 what psychopath did they hire?
rockwell rockamoly sorry had a blonde moment 😝 now realise the perp was previously in law.
“ did a good job aunt Sheryl” after she said how much she loves them at the end was a moment shows the mutual love,affection & appreciation for each as they went and grew through this situation together nothing but blessings to them
“I always knew he was kind of a jerk!”....way to go Mom! Nailed it!!
Mums know best and she was so right on that! I love that she said that
It's just a shame that more young women don't listen to Mum, when it comes to the appropriateness of their boyfriends? Mums know best for their daughter's?
Girls? Listen.....
Monday morning quarterbacking.
T L...thank u very much!
Never threaten a man to leave and take the kids..Just do it !
She was so out of his league....and he knew that he would never get someone like that again.
His girlfriend physically looked so much like her it's creepy.
Out of his league, but lived together 11 years. What leads people to these decisions?!
She also supported him as he couldnt keep a job. He was loosing his free ride. Such a creepy WEAK so called man.
@@AS-hs5kk pity and enabling. maybe she was insecure as well.
@Jimo yeah well she also had the right to leave him when she had enough.
clay "i didnt preplan to kill my wife that day, that wasn't the case at all"
also clay "i dug a grave the day before."
And he literally said it just a few minutes before he claimed that it wasn't pre-planned. How stupid can you be 🤦 Dumber than a box of rocks.
I’m so grateful for a sister just like hers!! We’re 3 years apart, and have butted heads many times over the years, but when it comes to someone else causing pain to the other, we go full psycho.
“You did a good job, aunt Cheryl.” Thank God they aren’t damaged.
I'm sure they are damaged, but kids are resilient, especially when they are surrounded by love and support.
@@FeelTheLack yes true 🥰
IFEOMA OKAFOR she should have gone with Cheryl. If someone is scared of their husband, have y
IFEOMA OKAFOR 😢
Yes, when she said that I just story yo cry.
One thing these types of shows has taught me is NEVER compare your life to other people’s lives especially the ones who seem to have it together with picture perfect lives. You never know what’s going on behind closed doors. This is just so sad..I feel sorry for the kids.
Agreed!! Sometimes I think my life is boring, but in fact I'm very happy and content.
Eve K.N. Facebook taught me that..if it seems too good to be true is because it is.
True indeed!!
Eve K.N. So true
What's up nigga! You're right about that.
Maddox is so STRONG! He's the man of that family. She raised him so well. May God bless and protect their family. 🙏🏽
He really is strong , my heart pours out to them
I think God did little to none to protect them. At this point they are fine with out his ass.
I think the mom is the man of the family. Women are strong, too.
ok if there was a god it wouldnt have let this happen in the first place so ignorant
That son is such a strong anchor for his sisters. He let their father know it wasn’t right with him what he did and that the consequence was the son dismissing him from their lives.
A strong young made made a difference to his family with that statement. I wish them each success in all the world has to offer them. ❤️
It's just like the chris watts case, in that a concerned friend notified the police early enough so the killers had no time to cover their tracks
Chris buried himself knowing there was video from the neighbor that's why he parked the truck the way he did and of course they would be found at some point when Police tracked his whereabouts on those days. Also, he dumps them on his job site? How on earth he ever thought he'd get away with it is beyond me. Then again, how he could do that to those girls is also beyond me... Ugh, HAD to bring him up. :(
@@tapoemt3995 Chris didn't know there was video. He parked that way bc it was easier to load the back.
@@juliannah5721 Even they neighbor said he knew, that's why it was partially in so you could not see what he was loading. Nobody partially pulls into a garage inches. You either pull into it or up to it. Nate said it himself.
@Silvercloud141 141 34:31 of Derek Van Schaiks video from Dec 15 2018. Can't even believe you made me re-watch it...
Yeah, that lady KNEW something was wrong. She put the cops on him ASAP.
The fact that he had an additional 35 years consecutive to look forward to after thinking he got away with a light sentence brings me so much peace.
@Cathy L You must be watching the wrong people then.
@Cathy L You forgot to turn on all caps before your comment. Try again. I've got time. Lol
@Cathy L See? I knew you could find the caps lock. Fantastic! In reality, I just choose not to argue with idiots, but whatever helps you sleep tonight. 💩
@Cathy L It's interesting how aggressive you are to a complete stranger. If you choose to stereotype every police officer, that's your business. As I said before, I don't argue with ignorant people. Why are you getting so worked up? Lol
Cathy L okay but in all honesty your the only stupid one here.
Omg i didnt cry until the last line “you did a good job aunt Cheryl”
I cried a little before but that line set me off as well.
Janice Knight it’s neat that they adopted the kids but she is still Aunt Cheryl. Many family members adopt and confuse the kids more by suddenly being “mom.” Good job Aunt Cheryl!
ME TOO!!
When the part that she doesnt have any evidence but she is telling to the police and the police are listening, that's when i reacted, "as they should be!"
GOSH he was so out of his league with Jackie...she seemed like such a beautiful soul and MOM!! And her sister the same!!
He was a loser and he didn't deserve HER
Aqua_Finessa I’m glad he didn’t killed the kids as well like that POS Chris Watts.
Alvaro aka Tico - while watching this video it reminded me of that POS Chris Watts too. Both men have some similarities between them
@Baby Yoda Up In This Mofo Surprised you even have a wife with your attitude, especially still using the term "Karen" like you're so relevant and edgy yourself.
Never threaten a man to leave and take the kids..Just do it !
The sister was so caring, we need more people like her in this cruel world.
Seems a right Karen tbh. Like mind ur own business 🤷♀️💯
@@sherrix6881 hard to say but she did care about her family and that’s worth something
@@sherrix6881 you wouldn’t care if your family member disappeared after seeing her abusive husband that threatened her life?
@@sherrix6881 are you even human?
@@sherrix6881 You seem like a right idiot tbh.
Her dad is an old school type of man! 💪💪💪 “Scared of him? No I was hoping to God he would come up here!” 👊👊👊
I loved that.. and would of said the same...Meanwhile the wife "nodding her head yes" god love her..
TugIronChief Are you not clear on the point that the man killed his child??? Of course he seems like an angry asshole, he is scarred for life. I don’t think you want to know the pain of losing a child, you’re obviously not grasping the concept. Smh
He reminds me of my husband. My ex found me when I was 17 and got me hooked on drugs and used to beat the ever loving shit out of me. My husband and I have known each other since high-school so when I kinda went off the deep end it hurt him badly to see me in such a state and when I finally escaped my ex I got back together with him (my husband) ended up getting married and had two beautiful girls. he says that all the time "I hope I see him. Don't care where it is. I'm gonna kick his ass up one side of the street and down the other" 😂
@@that_goth_bitch3899 glad you got a good one now hun
@@TugIronChief shut the fuck up.
What a heartless man, it is very heartbreaking to see this children go through this pain. May God strengthen and heal their hearts
The guy was a sociopath. My daughter was married to one. He wanted to leave the area with her and my grandkids but she divorced him and moved in with me. He was too scared of me to do anything to her after that so he left but kept trying to get her to move out of state with him and then even met another girl and had a kid with her and was still trying to get my daughter to move with him. I am sure he would have done something bad had that happened but Thank God she smartened up and didn't bite.
Worse still, he was a narcissist, which makes the sociopathy a million times more dangerous.
A lot of women prefer the bad boys and end up with sociopaths and psychopaths as a result.
Thomas , I am happy for your outcome, in my daughters situation , she could have stayed with me. She chose to go with him. They moved to Texas a few hours away from the Cherokee nation. He is a Cherokee and our grandchildren are now also. Our daughter was told if she tried to leave he would take them into the reservation and she’d not see them again. My only hope is Gods Devine intervention. He alone can bring them back home. I miss my daughter and three babies every single day.
@Iulia Ionela Petcu he is actually right. A lot of women suffers from what we called in italy " the red cross syndrome", they are attracted by the bad ass guys( normally the one having more girls around) and after they try and pretend to change the demeanors of those guys, failing miserably. It s particularly hard if they have children w those kind of men, they will spend life suffering and feeling depressed
she did the choosing she ignored the red flags she married him she had kids with him she chose against being with a good sane man it was all her choice there is no denying that
“You love your daddy?”
*Doesn’t answer*
WHAT A QUEEN
IK I LAUGHED AT THAT SCENE, but the rest of of the video I HOPE HE HAD THE WORST LIFE EVER
Minute
Who asks their kid that 🤣 weirdo
She said yeah so what do you mean?
What a queen.....what....that's horrible, she should of said yes, I don't know, kind of a brat if you ask me, ..
Her son is so articulate and strong at such a young age. Wishing the best to all of them.
Omg bless those kids. She must’ve been a really good mother because she sure did right by those kids. Poor babies smh what a shame that they have to be as strong as they are, but thank goodness that they seem to have a wonderful support network in their lives. Literally made me cry hearing them talk about their mom 😭❤️
People can be so evil. How can you live with someone for years, love them and make a family with them but kill them in such a brutal way or kill them at all? It's so evil and scary.
Because he's a insecure Narsissist.
When they never saw you as a person to begin with. Some people fall into these situations when they want to own somebody.
That's not love. That's a narcissist desire to possess someone.
Yea that man didn't love her at all. Guy had multiple affairs and didn't even care about raising his own kids.
Amazing 101 a
Cheryl, Jaque's sister, is an example of a strong woman with a heart of gold. She has my respect.
Also to the police who said the heck with waiting 24 hrs.... which 'could' have saved her..
My boy maddox gave him a piece of his mind!! I know that’s right! 🙌🏽 May her soul Rest In Peace
She was a terrible mother for putting her children in that situation. She would have let him kill the children.
@@MsMaryPatricia She chose a dangerous partner and paid the price.
Steven Hates This does not excuse the fact the he KILLED SOMEONE. Just because she picked the wrong guy doesn’t mean she deserved to die...
@@stevenhates6345 Jesus Christ dude ever heard the term victim blaming. You're a moron
Steven your a narcacistic prick
Sheryl acted the way Shannan Watt’s friend did. Sure of the danger their sister/friend was in and absolute about the evil potential of the man in their lives.
Everyone needs someone like that in their life
"He took away our mom, you cant undo that."
Oh My GoD My HeArt
ReverseDragon /*_*\ asshole lol
Seriously. These kids speaking is gutting me
Who else wants to smack that smirk out of his sorry face?
He’s the definition of a loser
John Smith 😕 that’s disturbing 😐
thats what he wants though. a good angry wank.
@@JohnGalt1960 ,
@@feybruce6897 not my real name.
That's how you handle a missing person's case!!! Well done Jackson PD!!!!
Exactly!!! Great job JPD
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When that baby said, "u did a good job, aunt Sheryl"....as a Aunt that made me feel proud....
As long as you felt good that's all that matters right? Never mind the kids that have no parents.
@4ceof5pades 🙄....my 22 year old niece shared this with me and her mother passed as well this September....just like the aunt in this video who stepped up I as well have myself....I have nothing negative to say...have a good day....
@@MrNota500 you ok? don't let it escalate, seek help before it's too late. ।
Jasmine Winn an* Aunt
Pops is killing me!
“Was I afraid of Clay?! No, I was praying to God he’d come up here!”
I think we all wish he’d have went up there just so Pops could whip his ass 7 ways from Sunday!
No I don't wish that. Because law isn't youtube comments and her dad would go to jail if he killed him or beat him.
slovní curling actually...no. He wouldn’t have. Too much recent precedence that would allow Pops to go free. OR he could just drag his sorry ass to South Alabama, and well...handled with no body to speak of. (Always puncture the lungs and rip the gut or they float)
I love curling too! 🥌
Those kids are beautiful!! Their Momma would be SO proud of them and her sister!!
people always ridicule victims of domestic abuse by asking “why did they never leave?” when they do or try to, they are put in so much more danger. things like this can and obviously have happened. this case shows that
Eh more or less
As a women who 20 years ago and along with her two small children, escaped under cover of night from an extremely abusive alcoholic and crackhead who was also bipolar, I 💯 agree with your comment. I fled with only my children, my life, a hope and a prayer. I ran down the street at around 2 am with my two babies one on each hip, to the waiting police car four houses down. We went to the battered women’s shelter, and I started over. I was granted full custody of the children. I worked hard and got us our own place, 4 cities away. I put myself through college working two jobs and raising my kids, bought a double wide. Got my degrees, got a job in state government, providing a good life for my two children who grew up happy and safe. I bought a nice house. My kids graduated from high school; now my courageous son runs the PT department on his base, is an ammunitions and ballistics specialist in the US Air Force and about to graduate with a BS in forensic psychology, with a minor in sociology, and my talented daughter is a licensed cosmetologist having graduated from the prestigious Paul Mitchell The New School, and is also an artist and photographer. I even found real and actual love that didn’t hurt and abuse and remarried. My cruel, abusive, addicted and mentally ill ex husband?? Well about five years after I left him in the middle of the night, an FBI agent showed up at my door asking when the last time I saw him was. Of course I told him the truth, that there had been no contact in five years. The agent came back several times. He couldn’t tell me what he’d done or why they were looking for him except that he had outstanding warrants, and was suspected of serious criminal activity and I needed to tell them immediately if we heard from him. They also said if I harbored him I could face criminal charges. I was like no chance of that happening!! Of course we never heard from him or saw him. As far as I know he has been on the run ever since. Why did I write all this? Because if someone reading this right now needs help to escape domestic violence, I wanted them to read this and know I wrote it for them. Because maybe this could save someone’s life. So to those wanting to escape, Here is what you have to do: First thing you have to do is GET A PLAN. Coordinate your departure to coincide when the abuser will be gone or sleeping. Very important to escape in secret. And when you leave make sure you go to a shelter so that you are protected. Family and friends cannot protect you like they can. A couple of days before you leave, Secretly Contact the shelter first and arrange for an escape. They will help you, and they will coordinate the police pick up. Prepare yourself if things go wrong. Come up with a story (one women used her back up scenario by pretended to her abuser like she was taking out the garbage, but really it was her bag of clothes. Once outside she ran like hell) or a way out or back up plan. TELL NO ONE AHEAD OF TIME, NO FRIENDS OR FAMILY, THAT YOU HAVE LEFT. ALSO DO NOT TELL THEM THE LOCATION AFTER YOU HAVE LEFT. ONLY THAT YOU ARE SAFE. Even well meaning people can slip up and accidentally give you away. If you feel safer carrying pepper spray or mace as you escape, do so ONLY if you can buy it in secret. If the abuser finds out about the purchase, say you got it for when you are walking through empty parking lots alone like at the grocery store or something. DO NOT FRET ABOUT MATERIAL THINGS YOU MAY HAVE TO LEAVE BEHIND. THEY CAN BE REPLACED. YOUR LIFE AND THE LIVES OF YOUR CHILDREN CANNOT; YOU ALL ARE WHAT MATTERS MOST. YOU CAN DO IT. BUT PLEASE DO IT SAFELY AND QUIETLY. HOW YOU LEAVE AND WHEN COULD BE A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH. BUT YOU CAN BUILD A BETTER LIFE. A LIFE WHERE YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN ARE SAFE. I KNOW BECAUSE I DID. AND IF I DID IT, SO CAN YOU. IF YOU NEED HELP I WILL HELP YOU. JUST MESSAGE ME BACK.
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you really can’t sympathize with that at ALL? what happens if the mother tries to leave with the child and fails, maybe she gets injured or even killed, what will happen to the child? the abuser takes them and runs? the abuser hurts or kills them too? i think having a child complicates the leaving process, because you have to ensure the safety of yourself AND the child/children. i’m sure abusers probably use the child as leverage too, probably threatening to hurt them if they try to leave. and i’m sure it’s even more complicated than this. these are just things i thought of on the spot
America needs night moving agencies like in japan. Evaporated people.
катя синюк so you saying they might as well stay? So they want get killed. But take the physical and mental abuse on them and the kids. That don’t sound b right either
Those children are beautiful and I wish them the best. ❤😊
PSA: if you have a good father (or even a half decent dad) and he doesn't like the guy you're dating, run fast!
Bad advice here
All too often, though, when a woman's father doesn't like her boyfriend it will make her want to stick with him even more.
My uncle had that bad feeling with one of his daughters. Turned out he was right. Marriage from hell.
@@Ailenna Happened with my wife's sister, too. Guy she married was a total narcissist. Took her years to get out of that marriage. Luckily she's married to a good guy now.
"You did a good job, Aunt Cheryl."
She did, indeed.
So sorry those children lost their mom!
I pray they find healing over time.
Can't imagine the anger they must feel towards their dad, which is justified.
Part of healing is forgiveness. "... Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those that trespass against us..."
LG They do NOT have to forgive this man. They are the victims and it is 100 percent their right to live and experience their true feelings. Any anger, pain or other feelings they have are completely justified. The perpetrator’s emotions came first in all his horrible actions and it’s time their emotions come first. This narrative of always forgiving regardless of how the victim feels is so damaging. Let the victims make their own choices!!
OceanSwimmer She did an amazing job!!!! 💕💕💕🙏
This video made me cry! Those precious children. Her son calling that filth bag a big fat jerk was so horribly sad, because you could here the anguish in his little voice.
D Kahn If you thought a 7 year old (Maddox gave his statement in 2013) couldn’t speak for himself and make those remarks you are crazy. Those children are not oblivious as to what their father did to their mother. I think it was great therapy for Maddox to be given that ability to speak his feelings, it will help him with coping of losing both parents.
D Kahn clearly you have no children to even understand. I’m confused...would you have suggested that the child say he forgave his father at that age???
Seems like it would have been an excellent time to let that boy use some better 4 letter curse words. I was on the edge of my seat wanting to hear him call him worse than a "jerk".....
@D Kahn ,I think that kid is probably going to be a little messed up no matter what. He already knows his dad killed him mom so the better thing in my opinion is for him to be allowed to call the evil act EXACTLY what it is. This false theory that you have to white wash what is bad and put a happy smile on everything isn't helpful to kids. That only encourages them to think that killing their spouse is a normal thing....maybe something they should someday do. No, the proper perspective is to call out evil and allow kids to call out evil when they see/experience it too. You shouldn't have to be 18 or 21 to know what is evil and denounce it. It goes towards forming a pattern if responsible character and judgment.
@D Kahn , I dont see the point you are seeking to make. You play stupid games you win stupid prizes. The two black women in the video seem to be out of line and behaving belligerently. I dont see anything wrong (if say) one of their grandparents spoke to these little boy and told them their mom is a distasteful, hateful, idiot. With no intervention these kids will learn this is "normal" behavior and the ignorance and bad behavior will infest multiple generations. It is good to call out bad behavior when it rears its ugly head, no matter the location. Keeping silent, gives validity to bad behavior. Everyone should seek to inform a child the difference between what is good and bad behavior. Ideally a child should only see good examples, but since that is not always possible, then when they witness (or come to know of evil behavior) then they should also be informed that the bad is BAD. Allowing bad to exist, without calling it out or condemning it, allows it to exist in a formidable mind as normal behavior. What ever we see and experience as a child, tends to become our benchmark for what we believe is "normal". Therefore something that is wrong, bad, or evil, needs to be exposed as not normal or something to be viewed as normal.
She was my coworker. I kept her emails for years. Such a shame this happened to such a nice person.
Nothing is creepier than a parent in a public setting asking their kid “Do you love daddy?”
He wants you to hear the kids say that so you think he’s a “good” dad
Thought the same thing
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Exactly. It's a leading question. They know that a child won't say no.
Yeah, come to think of it, I've never asked my kids that, not even at home. They always just tell me.
I mean it’s not that weird the man just makes it weird because he’s weird and psycho
Clay: "yOu LoVe uR DaDdY?"
Child: 👁👄👁
It was also kinda like: 👀
She’s like “nah” but since the cameras on I’ll pretend I care.
For real
Mental why she didint get out with the kids
Lol you must be s good joker
And that guy was once in law enforcement? Scary.
Cops have a 40% spousal abuse rate
Katelyn Young Well, that’s not entirely accurate. That 40% figure was from a survey, not a scientific study done over 30 years ago and from what I read it included things like shouting at ones mate as ‘spousal abuse’ and didn’t specify who was the aggressor. The 40% figure is very misleading and gives the impression that 4 of 10 officers are physically abusive to their domestic partners.
Totally scary!! Where I live a deputy sheriff kidnapped his wife from the babysitters house, took her to a abandoned barn and shot her and himself. There were signs but the sheriff department overlooked it. Said he needed counseling. Left 2 little ones
@@christianbennett9514 That is also a problem. The brotherhood covers for their fellow brother always.
Years ago I was arrested by a cop who is now in jail for the rest of his life.
He was convicted of 8 counts of first degree murder.
My heart just breaks for those kids. Maddox's maturity at the end; "He ruined the bond, You can't undo that" to a monster of a dad who des not deserve the beauty and heart of those kids. I want to hug those precious kids. Thank God they had loving family to take them in.
"You did a good job Aunt Sheryl"
She really did
I love how she wasn't messing around from the very start. "If I don't hear from my sister in the next 5 minutes..."
She was not playing when she said she was gonna alert the police about her sister missing
Absolutely, she's really the one that deserves ALL of the credit. Not only did she get the ball rolling on the investigation, she even adopted her sisters 3 children. That's what TRUE love is towards a siblong. Please forgive me here, I'm NOT trying to sound like a male chauvinist, but Maddox is really the one who is the man in that family. Notice how when he starts to talk, his sisters let him take charge. Not trying to suggest male superiority, but he's just that take charge kind of thing, & his sisters let him be the man. He will be a great "protector" of his sisters in the near future, & I would even surmise he will be an excellent father someday, he definitely won't be anything like the jerk his father is like!
Wow a missing person case the cops took seriously right from the jump. Good on them.
A pretty white blonde mother.
Especially involving one of their own.
@@ridita5221 The sister's insistence and the divorce circumstances def played a role as well, I would imagine.
His confession is just him bragging! Such a narcissist! Bless Sheryl, everyone deserves a Sheryl in their life.
It was cute how she was saying hi to all 3 little babies sitting on the couch. It melted my heart.