1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. My childhood is over, all childish things i put away, No longer time to stare at the sky and breath, for i breath fine without staring the sky. Truth is what must i share, light is what i must shine, THE WILL OF GOD is needed to be done on this earth until the end of the days. Salvation must be worked out with fear and trembling. Souls must get saved. Choosing whom to serve must take place. /GOD OR MAMMON? Keeping oneself human based on DNA ´, must be looked after. Finding and keeping the faith while enduring till the end. There is no more time given to be a child, now is the time to be an ADULT. Since I dared to grow up, I also dare to ask: Where are you in your lifetime? Still in childhood or is it a time to BE AN ADULT? Divide the BIBLE rightly(Study what biblical text says in reality):Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 1 Corinthians 14:20 Brethren, be not children in understanding: howbeit in malice be ye children, but in understanding be men. We, humans, are the CHURCH OF CHRIST, there is no need of a building made with hands: 1 Corinthians 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? Psalms 4:4 Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still. Selah. Numbers 23:19 God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good? Matthew 6:31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? Luke 12:22 And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Luke 12:29 And seek not ye what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink, neither be ye of doubtful mind. Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Luke 6:22 Blessed are ye, when men shall hate you, and when they shall separate you from their company, and shall reproach you, and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of man's sake. Matthew 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; Luke 6:27 But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, John 15:18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. 1 John 3:13 Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you. Job 13:5 O that ye would altogether hold your peace! and it should be your wisdom. Job 33:33 If not, hearken unto me: hold thy peace, and I shall teach thee wisdom. Exodus 14:14 The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace. If mankind aint SPIRITS then there be no reasons for warnings in the BIBLE. For dust turns back to dust, therefore the reasons to warn a dust? - none given. Spirits are in danger of torment, therefore SPIRITS are who are warned. THE BIBLE IS FILLED WITH WARNINGS, Cause we are SPIRITS, that`s why death is only here, carnal. That's why there is warnings of being forever tormented in the lake of fire. WE ARE SPIRITS, STOP DENYING, HUMANS ARE SPIRIT BEINGS. Yes we eat for from the tree of knowledge, but the tree of life, before we could eat from there also, GOD send us away from the garden of the Eden. Because we were already with sinful nature, doing wrong/evil rather then good, it was wise from GOD to keep us form eating of the tree of life, to keep us to become immortal in this world. Now as our lives here were left to be temporary, up to 1000 years back then, up to 120 years nowadays - there can and shall be end of our evil deeds. GOD dose not want to lose us all, the whole mankind, that`s why GOD calls us unto repentance and to repent and to born again. GOD calls us all back home, but are we willing to answer to that calling and go? or are we turning our heads, closing our eyes and ears, pretending to be blind and deaf and perish, leaving GOD brokenhearted? Are we willing to be that CRUEL and broke the heart of the one who made us? Or is there a tiny chance of repentance? Matthew 9:13 But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Mark 2:17 When Jesus heard it, he saith unto them, They that are whole have no need of the physician, but they that are sick: I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Luke 5:32 I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Acts 17:30 And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent: ua-cam.com/video/Vbfa7J9N8Ls/v-deo.html WE DON´T DIE, BUT WE SURLY PERISH IF NOT COMING INTO REPENTANCE. All muslims, All hindus, All satanics, All ignoratns, All atheists, All prideful, All buddisths, All lgbtq ++++++ All new agers, All sell outs, All whites, All blacks, All under the unheard titles. All are expected and called to REPENT. Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Lamentations 5:16 The crown is fallen from our head: woe unto us, that we have sinned! No Christians on that list? Why?. - Cause a REAL Christian have already come to repentance, had new birth and dared to call upon the name of the LORD. Psalms 145:18 The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. Psalms 55:16 As for me, I will call upon God; and the LORD shall save me. Psalms 18:3 I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies. Isaiah 55:6 Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Psalms 99:6 Moses and Aaron among his priests, and Samuel among them that call upon his name; they called upon the LORD, and he answered them. Psalms 116:13 I will take the cup of salvation, and call upon the name of the LORD. BIBLE + FREEMASONRY, that`s all you have to search. www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/ ua-cam.com/play/PLHYOKu9d9bz4C3cQSNdox1372n1iOljGt.html Be thankful always 1 Thessalonians 2:13 For this cause also thank we God without ceasing, because, when ye received the word of God which ye heard of us, ye received it not as the word of men, but as it is in truth, the word of God, which effectually worketh also in you that believe. Talk to GOD daily: 1 Thessalonians 5:17 Pray without ceasing. Pray for others,/who are without, wisdom/knowledge/freedom: Romans 1:9 For God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of his Son, that without ceasing I make mention of you always in my prayers; 1 Thessalonians 1:3 Remembering without ceasing your work of faith, and labour of love, and patience of hope in our Lord Jesus Christ, in the sight of God and our Father; Don`t forget to pray for your own soul too: Luke 21:36 Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man. There is a real chance for us to escape it all in RAPTURE. 2 Thessalonians 1:11 Wherefore also we pray always for you, that our God would count you worthy of this calling, and fulfil all the good pleasure of his goodness, and the work of faith with power: GO and seek out THE WILL OF GOD and be ye therefore busy doing it: - KEEP, - PREACH, - EXPOSE. Matthew 7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Philippians 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. 2 Corinthians 13:5 Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates? Come out from BABYLON, have no fellowship with/in her: Revelation 18:4 And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues. Ephesians 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. Revelation 18:3 For all nations have drunk of the wine of the wrath of her fornication, and the kings of the earth have committed fornication with her, and the merchants of the earth are waxed rich through the abundance of her delicacies. 1 John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. Be your judging found righteous: John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. John 8:15 Ye judge after the flesh; I judge no man. Ecclesiastes 3:17 I said in mine heart, God shall judge the righteous and the wicked: for there is a time there for every purpose and for every work.
I'm not a psychology student however men can bond easily as well, so it depends on the first impression on the first date, if he were attracted by the girl he's dating or seeing for a while. Second, I'm totally agree w/u of all what you've set out there, however the technique of noting down some red flags after seeing a guy for couple of weeks or months is really BIZARD! I get the fact it is helpful when u just want to know what's good for u but Like it definitely refers to the trust issues of that person! Like how the relationship will work if u do mathematics and count every step, eventually they would become an ex just like the other ex and it goes like that and third, why guys don't take notes after meeting or knowing a girl for several months? Why guys always make girls fall in love w/them! Cuz they DON'T FOCUS ON DETAILS. There are some things require acceptance from both partners. U see, by noting down you're actually imprinting him within your mind. Plus that means u over valuating the person. I've been into psychology for years, but what I've become aware of it actually is by living your life spontaneously. Yes u should be aware of yourself more and be educated about these things but don't literally be slave of instructions cuz at the end of the day those advice were giving by other imperfect people just like you an me nd no matter you dig in it u CAN NOT be perfect. Simply you'll remain perfect for some people and imperfect for others no matter how GREAT or ATTRACTIVE you are. Ps: I love your channel Smmm! I love to debate about these stuff, they give the excitement I need LOL
I'd derail you like a derailer on train tracks, bestowed upon da don the pond, to slip the duck along da ice rink of dapuck sliding to the goal I mole, the goal. In other words, F##K YOU. Nicely, in a nice way, nice enough to keep this world from collapsing but enough to get a point across.
Love is not a feeling. It’s an action of actively wanting the best for the other person. Not the emotional feelings you have for them. That’s the reality. As for emotional feelings, that’s more to do with a good connection with the other person. Even that will fade eventually. Then you need some other reason to stay together and commit.
@@AutomaticDuck300 Love is far and wide, love is the horrizon, love is the moon, and the sky and stars. Do you think all persons are these princess the guy?
Women really need to have their own lives. It’s crazy to me that when I meet my friends, all we talk about is guys. I can guarantee you, men are NOT doing the same about us with their friends. If they do, it’s not to the same extent. They are not crying over us or writing pros and cons lists in their notes app lol women, you all are amazing! Stop giving so much power to men!!! Edit: I don’t need to hear your “oh my friends and I don’t do that” comments. Good for you, glad you have some great people around you. I feel you all are a minority. In many years of being a woman, I do not know many girls that DON’T talk about guys and who they’re dating. It’s been a main topic of discussion since middle school.
Lol, some of them are now *red pill community* Now, real men are definitely not wasting too much of their time talking ish about women, they got business to do.
men do talk about women, where I'm from they're constantly bragging about sleeping with many and getting ran through by women and how to get in their pants, it's disgusting how people can just give themselves away like that.
@@ITEEZ- As in: no, take it has a blessing in disguise. It is disgusting, but you learn their behaviour. When you date, let them talk, don't get offended, they'll completely exposes themselves to you, and because you already know the deal because of the vomit you heard from some men, you'll spare yourself the trouble in your relationship. Hear them out, know their game.
I just walked away from a situationship that was ruining my mental health. I wanted to take it back, but I saw this just in time. This gave me so much strength and assurance. Thank you, Simone.
note to self: don't latch yourself to every affection you experience. know yourself first and define what kind of love fits for you that doesn't break your heart, mind, and soul. SLAY QUEEN SIMONE! i'm earlyyyy 😘
She’s giving it to us so real. Something my bestie told me while I was going through heartbreak was, “If you guys were so perfect, then it would’ve worked out the first time around. Why didn’t it work out if you guys were so perfect?” It was our 3rd time trying to make things work and it’s the truth. We were not perfect for each other and I was stuck in that stupid fantasy of us being perfect for each other.
this is so on point. trust your intuition. if you feel something is wrong, leave! cut them off. unfollow/unfriend them in your socials. they doesn't deserve to know your life, they doesn't deserve to receive your energy. once you are avoided by someone, do not disturb them again. They know what they did and you have to respect yourself to leave that kind of situation where respect is no longer serving you. If they left you unread, ghosted you, cheated on you, but still views your stories, CUT. THEM. OFF. The energy they bring will just drain you. It's okay to lose anyone but not yourself! Train your mind and heart to know what you truly deserve. Yes, there are times you miss them but eventually, by time, you'll thank yourself for leaving someone who clearly doesn't help yourself grow. BE BETTER.
Whenever a guy asked for a second chance and I didn't give any, this thought of being too hard on them used to come in my mind but I could never give them a chance even if I try. For this video I'm feeling proud of myself. I have been single for 2 years now and I have realized that you really don't need any people but yourself to fulfill all your needs. Thank you Simone❤❤
Fucking finally someone who doesnt romanticize heartache and pain. In my country (philippines), people romanticize the idea of love and glorify making jokes out of participating in toxic coping mechanisms or not coping at all (ifykyk being marupok and whatnot). After my experience I decided to die down my main socials so I could go no contact. I even shared my journey with a close friend. Regretted that immediately because they were going through their own toxic cycle as well as using my experiences as comedic relief or as jokes to pull whenever romance or anything close was a topic in our circle. Really felt like a slap in the face after pouring my heart out to them. Needless to say theyre not a close friend anymore. Just focused on healing on my own
funny how when you finally walk away is when they choose to message you, crazy world we live in lol. embarrassing being hooked on someone who doesn't see the value in me, I hope I never get in that situation again.
This is not only for girls but for boys too. My sister shared this and asked to watch it, as I'm going through a situationship breakup. All of sudden we just became strangers. So I feel even boys feel the same when they get played. Nothing to do with the gender. The one who's true and real will always get hurt💔
Also, believe in the red flags, before going down the path that will lead to getting hurt. Real and truth and light always reveals the other persons red flags. Their reactions says it all. It’s just that sometimes we still don’t choose to believe our own self, even after three times or three chances, still continuing to have hope or thinking we might have misunderstood them. This is a result of being gaslighted for years where one starts to doubt their own intuition even with red flags. At the same time, be careful not to be so overprotective of self that it becomes projection.
Love this, very true that men in general don’t confront the pain but just go on the next person after brake up for which reason they never cut emotional ties with exes. When it comes to women in general we prefer to heal and move on.
Then I'm a woman, cuz every girl I've dated or been in a situation with either instantly slept with a friend of mine once they broke up with me, or cut me off once they found someone else to sleep with :,) I can't think of people as expendable like that... Therapist even told me once that I have a mindset a lot more akin to most women...
Thank you for your no bull approach. This helps. Also I absolutely hate when some guys do that thing where they say insults are “banter”. Like, no sir, trying to get a reaction out of me or upsetting me is not “banter”, it’s just manipulation.
Wow ok this is SO on point. The first thing you talked about was the chemical addiction/routine and this is something I've never seen talked about!! Thank you for covering this cos it's so scary to feel like you're dying. I went through an awful breakup this year (we'd lived together 6 years). Just putting it out there that it can take longer than weeks if you've been close with that person literally sharing the same space for years but I am so glad you covered this cos no one talks about the role of chemicals and the impact on mental/physical health when you are denied these. Sorry but I don't agree about the closure - I know this is a common belief and I wish I could agree that the closure comes from within you and you can validate yourself but damn. In reality if someone you have poured your heart into and shared such intimacy literally ghosts you or there is no explanation...I dunno, that can be extremely hard to recover from. My opinion is like you said go no contact but then further down the line if it's still causing you distress, some debrief conversations could be helpful for your own sanity.
i see videos like this a lot about short term relationships like a few months, maybe a year or 2. ive also loved him for 6-7 years and he is so toxic and its just been so so hard to detach and leave him. isnt it so much harder when said person knows you so deeply and so well and when you leave them there is no one else left that knows you on that level that you might keep wanna go back to them. they become your comfort zone despite that fact that they are bad for you. how did you manage in ur situation considering u lived together 6 years? do u still struggle and cry a lot some days? because for me it is so so hard. i went 6 months no contact before he msged and i totally fell in again cuz i was crying even after 6 months and missed him. i really wanna try again to leave him but sometimes feels like the pain is not worth it considering how long it lasts, maybe will last years
@@mimikyu_ you should leave him even if the pain will last years better that lasting a life time with a toxic person. I had a situation ship that ended less than an hour ago after many many getting back together but now I'm determined this is the last chance and it's over
@overagedvscogirl9104 heya! I dont know how it happened, but 2 months ago i got the strength to completely cut him off. I miss him a lot but i never felt that i wanted him back. I feel really angry now at how much he wouldnt respect me, and im so strong in my belief now that i can miss him yet still not want him back. There were many factors thats contributed to this decision - its hard to share all in a yt comment, im not sure about youre situation but i can only say dont rely on what he says or does, the strength can only come from within you, the day youre angry enough to leave forever, the day you finallt wake up and see the disrespect in their actions. I also realised theres people in the world dying in wars, etc, that we never hear about their tortures and they never even get justice. Theres a lot of pain in the world and that mine is nothing compared to it. How luck i am that i could just walk away if i wanted to, from my pain. That is my mindset ❤️
Your advice of not seeking closure from the other person really resonated with me. He was a liar and way too secretive. Even in last conversation we had, he said something which will make you question what he is gonna do next. I tried contacting him everywhere but got to know his true side. Now, I just went no contact. First days were brutal emotionally but I have improved now.
Okay I needed this today, I was confused all the day about how to get over a person that don't like me back, I even asked a friend and he said "the best way to forget a person is to find another one, to find a person who knows your worth" and I was really amazed by his words. Thank you so much Simone for your awesome work and all the advice you give, God bless you 🙏🏻
This video came at the right time ❤. You are God sent. A guy started acting totally different after 3 amazing dates. I went no contact immediately. He didn’t like the fact I started distancing myself from him, he started blaming me saying I am sabotaging a good thing. Just to know he will constantly blame on me even when he is at fault. Plz don’t give second chances just to see where it goes. If you are anxious the first time chances are it won’t work.
After few breakups (most of them I did) I can say that its never easy to forget someone, its actually impossible but thanks God after months/years they mean nothing to you and its the best feeling ever after rough times. Hope it will helps someone. Especially if you have traumas or you are emotionally unavailable like me. Can recommend therapy :) and willing to change yourself, improve yourself and your skills, boundaries etc. Take care Simone, you are great
You're right, crushes give a little excitement + takes a lot of time from my everyday life. For me it hit like a ton of bricks because I had my first ever crush at work in Oct last year (I'm also in my early 20s), it took me till Feb 2023 to move on but eventually, the feeling does go away. Your channel is a gold mine for absolute facts that we need to hear.
The way I so needed this rn, i mean, it has been 2 months now, but still sometimes my brain goes back to the happy memories, but i always remind myself that after those times, came the real him that destroyed my feelings!! So he does not deserve me, and I truly deserrve someone better!♥️✨️
i recently decided to raise my standards cuz i was liking way too many questionable men and it has been amazing the only problem is that i started liking a girl when i did 💀💀 shes in a relationship so ill be using these tips to get over her anyways tysm for this simone
I haven't even dated yet in my life, but I just can't lose a Simone's video giving us a piece of her immense wisdom, at the same being so funny and like a best friend we wish we had by our sides. ❤️ ❤️
You haven't dated, and you think this is wisdom. I get it now, you live in limits and not digits. Cue the insults, desults, and the all knowing of the vagene.
Thank you so much for this. You help me understand my process better while making me feel less alone in this situation. To myself and anyone out there experiencing this kind of heartbreak- we'll get through it, and we'll come out stronger, healthier, and happier!
This is so helpful. Especially the distraction stuff. I haven't gotten over my ex. It's been four months and I still cry everyday. Buuut I also became a big boy stoner (sometimes from morning to falling asleep, and even in the middle of the night) to cope. I also listened to way too much sad music, and we both continued to text about past memories and that we still loved each other. Journaling and being alone and sober have been the best things for me. I finally feel like myself again, though life still feels a pointless without them sometimes. THANK YOUU, u funny too.
You mindset has been built by many experiences and I do respect it so much because the way you inspired it to people is so natural and friendly, no filter, no trick. Thank you!
I think you're the first person I've come across who said that you don't use distractions for when you're trying to heal and move on. Alot of my friends told me to distract myself - to not think about it and I too, think that, that's not the right way to go about things ( for me ) and I sat through. Experienced the pain, re-played what has happened again and again and deduced why things had ended. In regards to the notes' thing about what "staying with them" would say about me, I might actually try that right now. It's far more objective to have it down and motivating to not act in a way I don't want to be seen acting like. I'd do that for anyone I'd possibly be involved with in the future, too. Whether these flags are green, neutral or red and how I shouldn't let limerence cloud what they're really like and not just what I only want to see. Thank you, Simone
Not that I have literally any dating experience but all of the things you said are so true. I have this friend who’s been dating her first boyfriend for like the past 3? 4? Years and she even said they broke up many many times and what I find so ridiculous is that she claims he is “different” and she finds it so hard to let go bc of it. Now I’m not criticising her relationship or whatever but maybe I need to gather my courage and send her this video😭😭😭
what your friend is going through is a trauma bond. nudge her to research about it. i know because i went through this too and its hard to break free from. being with someone on/ off shows no stability and in turn no trust. you can see how this might not end well
that's so true, women *REALLY* gets over a guy bcs they less likely to avoid being vulnerable, at least the one's that connects to their feminine energy, which embrace being vulnerable, in a healthy extent of course. thank you Simone 🌹
It's take me more than a year to move on from my crush but finally I did but today I show his vedio on my youtube page basically he is a local actor so I show it and start feeling something then I show your vedio thankyou it is a blessing
I think looking at it as if people are like birds helps. Some will come into your garden every single day but some may only come once. Regardless of how long they stay for, there will always be at least one bird in your garden at any given time and that bird is you.
Thank you. Me and my bf broke up 3 days ago and it hurts. He was my first everything. And feels exactly how to described it. ( the feeling like you’re dying part) and I will do all of what you said cause the pain is unbearable
Same. My date did the same thing now except we're all in a good friend group. I loved him sm I can't see him with anyone other than me but sadly I was never a priority for him. Because we're in a group of good friends that insists me to not go no contact with him but the thing is, things really won't be the same.
lol, it won't go away in a couple of weeks. Okay, it's different for everyone. pain and addiction can go away for a couple of weeks, there will be a lull, then it will reappear. constant relapses. I've been thinking about a person like that for 7 MONTHS. as a result, we reconciled with him. damn. and now I want to leave again, but I have no idea how long it will take me to let him go, even if 7 months was not enough. in any case, you are saying the right and important things, thank you.
i completely agree with you. i left him for 6 months before he messaged me again, and we made up and started talking again. i was still crying consistently in those 6 months. it feels impossible to get over that kind of pain. it takes a long long time, not just 2 weeks. im also struggling to figure out how to leave him once again:(
Thanks for always being brutally honest. I like your" I don't care, attitude" in sending your message across, and I appreciate you for that. You are so real. Glad I found you here, and I'm acting accordingly. Love.
Notes: How to get over someone: - you’re a loser for staying with them - no contact - drug withdrawal - beginning is a mind battle - don’t seek closure - make conscious decision to heal - disrespect: RUN 🏃♀️ get out !!! Especially beginning because they should be their best - people reveal themselves in subtle ways So far so true - it’s like a drug addiction this experience - don’t get a rebound … women heal peacefully - don’t distract yourself (I do this all the time please stop) - crushes are a waste of time - by staying with evil person: you don’t respect yourself ( shocking)
great video i like how you touched upon alot of different perspectives of people going through breakups. i feel like in some instances you generalized men more often then not and i totally get it however its important to note that not all men are the same (as hard as that is to believe LOL). especially touching on the point where you discussed how men use rebounds to heal whereas women tend to heal alone (the proper way) its definetly not a gender thing but more so a personal choice in your journey to healing.
im grateful for this channel im grateful for the space i have I'm grateful that I'm reaching out for help to process my feelings I'm grateful that I'm journalling heaps now I'm grateful that even when I'm upset i always bounce back, and this channel has always helped with that
I had never been in a situationship before in my life. But I'm 29, and for the first time I dated a guy who is 23 and he just had so many red flags. He was secretive. Told me all the lies like "i only am dating you" "I've never felt this way before," even when i could see that he is flirting with other girls, hiding his chats. Treated me like a friend when we were in public places but made out privately. And told me all the crap. I just can't believe i wasted 2-3 months of my life. I really really really want to get over him. But i see him everyday and it's hard
As a gay male this was so helpful especially the part about closure being from yourself, because my ex was so friendly and flirty with me after we ended things and it just made me more confused and wanting him more when he had already moved on.
I love how you are so on point my godd I want such clarity in life so much like no time waste nothing straight into it and end like everything you said were so on point I literally deleted and saved and re delete my exes number a dozen times was feeling like I need to see them what they are doing blah blah need to show them how I'm great but it's only going to hurt more..... really needed this one where was I even all this time in illusion really greatful for my feed today thank-you Simone😍💗
I’ve been stuck on one person for a while now and your advice is the only one that stuck to me. I unadded them on everything and I’m finally going to heal. ❤
THE TITLE 😭😭😭 I needed this. God my situation is so complicated with this guy but either way I hope this helps ! HAHA! (crying inside) love u Simone 🥹💞
I was waiting for him to call me so I could break up with him.. I was going to tell him that when he constantly stonewalls me every time he gets upset and then returns without explanation it really hurts me. Then you said “if he disrespected you, don’t talk to him” And I was like 😮 danm All those times he left without explaining himself, why should I give him the closure? Especially when I know he’s just going to act unbothered and it’ll leave me feeling some type of way. Thanks sis ❤ I know he’s gonna call me when he’s over this petty little thing that bothered him this time, and I’m straight up not gonna pick up. I know he’s gonna be shook because I’ve always been so quick to talk things out. It’s time for him to understand the feelings he put me through. I’m so done. It’s perfect. He can figure it out on his own just like I had to.
I recently saw a conversation, where they were talking like , I met this great guy , he was so good and…So on and then the other person asked on basis of what, is this person a great guy to you. She had no answer And I just have been thinking like yeah , we put people on pedestals for no reason, and think oh!! they are an amazing individual but really on basis of what can you say tht , think a bit. Idk if am making sense to anyone but it helped me, so… 😄💜
I was just going through a breakup and drunk texted him yesterday.. I didn't give any explanation to end this fucking 2 yrs relationship. This video gives me peace. Love you Simone ❤️
Hell yeah! Thank you for this, they are great tips. Its been 7 months for me but I am REALLY feeling better about things. Happy to be by myself ❤ also, really appreciate the captions!
Thank you so much Simone. ❤ first watched when you uploaded this now watching after my situationship basically cheated on me. 😭 i hope everything will be better. I promise myself to watch this video whenever i feel like texting him 🙏🙏
I did the pros and cons list like you suggested to do in the video, and oh my god. only 3 pros on that list 💀 I thought making that list would hurt me but it actually helped me realized how much of a terrible person he is, thank you so muchhh
I never understood why dudes say this when nowadays women have jobs that usually don't even pay as much as men while still taking care of themselves and or possibly their family.
I'm only a teenager and I just went through my first heartbreak in a while. It drove me crazy. Its like 5 am now and I cried for a while just to get things off of my chest. I hate that guy and honestly speaking girls he's dead to me now. I don't know him. There's no "strangers with memories" shit. Who is he? Idk. Live your lives ladies/gentlemens. Yall deserve sm better and I do too. In Sha Allah everything will be good again.
man i’m late to this vid but i needed this. I just went through a 5 year breakup and my boyfriend just never communicated to me and lied for years because he was too scared of making me anxious/ sad (because i have anxiety) nobody in the relationship was wrong but i kept nagging him and he kept pulling back. it just didn’t work out. and we’re still friends. but the attachment for sure hurts
2:40 No contact . Block them on everything . Also do not stalk them cos it will only reinforces them in your head and makes it longer to get over them. You are not moving on if you are stalking them 😂
This video pointed out all the red flags i ignored, i actually didn't like him but i had really low self esteem and thought i would never find another one or a better one so i accepted him. Then he showed how horrible he is and i regret it, i should've rejected him from the start, but this all came from my low self esteem and i had no way to change it since it has been that way since i was young
I had my first actual crush a while ago. I never told them. It was obvious they weren't interested in me, not as a lover or friend. The worst part was that they would sit with me and my friend in some of our classes but it was clear that they were sitting were sitting with us because they were interested in my friend. It hurt my confidence so bad.
check out my new main channel video on advice for your 20s hehe: ua-cam.com/video/ywokASZ3TKU/v-deo.html
1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
My childhood is over, all childish things i put away, No longer time to stare at the sky and breath, for i breath fine without staring the sky.
Truth is what must i share, light is what i must shine,
THE WILL OF GOD is needed to be done on this earth until the end of the days.
Salvation must be worked out with fear and trembling.
Souls must get saved. Choosing whom to serve must take place. /GOD OR MAMMON?
Keeping oneself human based on DNA ´, must be looked after.
Finding and keeping the faith while enduring till the end.
There is no more time given to be a child, now is the time to be an ADULT. Since I dared to grow up, I also dare to ask: Where are you in your lifetime? Still in childhood or is it a time to BE AN ADULT?
Divide the BIBLE rightly(Study what biblical text says in reality):Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 1 Corinthians 14:20 Brethren, be not children in understanding: howbeit in malice be ye children, but in understanding be men. We, humans, are the CHURCH OF CHRIST, there is no need of a building made with hands: 1 Corinthians 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? Psalms 4:4 Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still. Selah. Numbers 23:19 God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good? Matthew 6:31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? Luke 12:22 And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Luke 12:29 And seek not ye what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink, neither be ye of doubtful mind. Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Luke 6:22 Blessed are ye, when men shall hate you, and when they shall separate you from their company, and shall reproach you, and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of man's sake. Matthew 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; Luke 6:27 But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, John 15:18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. 1 John 3:13 Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you. Job 13:5 O that ye would altogether hold your peace! and it should be your wisdom. Job 33:33 If not, hearken unto me: hold thy peace, and I shall teach thee wisdom. Exodus 14:14 The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace. If mankind aint SPIRITS then there be no reasons for warnings in the BIBLE. For dust turns back to dust, therefore the reasons to warn a dust? - none given. Spirits are in danger of torment, therefore SPIRITS are who are warned. THE BIBLE IS FILLED WITH WARNINGS, Cause we are SPIRITS, that`s why death is only here, carnal. That's why there is warnings of being forever tormented in the lake of fire. WE ARE SPIRITS, STOP DENYING, HUMANS ARE SPIRIT BEINGS. Yes we eat for from the tree of knowledge, but the tree of life, before we could eat from there also, GOD send us away from the garden of the Eden. Because we were already with sinful nature, doing wrong/evil rather then good, it was wise from GOD to keep us form eating of the tree of life, to keep us to become immortal in this world. Now as our lives here were left to be temporary, up to 1000 years back then, up to 120 years nowadays - there can and shall be end of our evil deeds. GOD dose not want to lose us all, the whole mankind, that`s why GOD calls us unto repentance and to repent and to born again. GOD calls us all back home, but are we willing to answer to that calling and go? or are we turning our heads, closing our eyes and ears, pretending to be blind and deaf and perish, leaving GOD brokenhearted? Are we willing to be that CRUEL and broke the heart of the one who made us? Or is there a tiny chance of repentance? Matthew 9:13 But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Mark 2:17 When Jesus heard it, he saith unto them, They that are whole have no need of the physician, but they that are sick: I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Luke 5:32 I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. Acts 17:30 And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent: ua-cam.com/video/Vbfa7J9N8Ls/v-deo.html WE DON´T DIE, BUT WE SURLY PERISH IF NOT COMING INTO REPENTANCE. All muslims, All hindus, All satanics, All ignoratns, All atheists, All prideful, All buddisths, All lgbtq ++++++ All new agers, All sell outs,
All whites,
All blacks, All under the unheard titles. All are expected and called to REPENT.
Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Lamentations 5:16 The crown is fallen from our head: woe unto us, that we have sinned! No Christians on that list? Why?. - Cause a REAL Christian have already come to repentance, had new birth and dared to call upon the name of the LORD. Psalms 145:18 The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. Psalms 55:16 As for me, I will call upon God; and the LORD shall save me. Psalms 18:3 I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies. Isaiah 55:6 Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: Psalms 99:6 Moses and Aaron among his priests, and Samuel among them that call upon his name; they called upon the LORD, and he answered them. Psalms 116:13 I will take the cup of salvation, and call upon the name of the LORD. BIBLE + FREEMASONRY, that`s all you have to search. www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/ ua-cam.com/play/PLHYOKu9d9bz4C3cQSNdox1372n1iOljGt.html Be thankful always 1 Thessalonians 2:13 For this cause also thank we God without ceasing, because, when ye received the word of God which ye heard of us, ye received it not as the word of men, but as it is in truth, the word of God, which effectually worketh also in you that believe. Talk to GOD daily: 1 Thessalonians 5:17 Pray without ceasing. Pray for others,/who are without, wisdom/knowledge/freedom: Romans 1:9 For God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of his Son, that without ceasing I make mention of you always in my prayers; 1 Thessalonians 1:3 Remembering without ceasing your work of faith, and labour of love, and patience of hope in our Lord Jesus Christ, in the sight of God and our Father; Don`t forget to pray for your own soul too: Luke 21:36 Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man. There is a real chance for us to escape it all in RAPTURE. 2 Thessalonians 1:11 Wherefore also we pray always for you, that our God would count you worthy of this calling, and fulfil all the good pleasure of his goodness, and the work of faith with power: GO and seek out THE WILL OF GOD and be ye therefore busy doing it: - KEEP, - PREACH, - EXPOSE. Matthew 7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Philippians 2:12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. 2 Corinthians 13:5 Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates? Come out from BABYLON, have no fellowship with/in her: Revelation 18:4 And I heard another voice from heaven, saying, Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues. Ephesians 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. Revelation 18:3 For all nations have drunk of the wine of the wrath of her fornication, and the kings of the earth have committed fornication with her, and the merchants of the earth are waxed rich through the abundance of her delicacies. 1 John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. Be your judging found righteous: John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. John 8:15 Ye judge after the flesh; I judge no man. Ecclesiastes 3:17 I said in mine heart, God shall judge the righteous and the wicked: for there is a time there for every purpose and for every work.
I'm not a psychology student however men can bond easily as well, so it depends on the first impression on the first date, if he were attracted by the girl he's dating or seeing for a while. Second, I'm totally agree w/u of all what you've set out there, however the technique of noting down some red flags after seeing a guy for couple of weeks or months is really BIZARD! I get the fact it is helpful when u just want to know what's good for u but Like it definitely refers to the trust issues of that person! Like how the relationship will work if u do mathematics and count every step, eventually they would become an ex just like the other ex and it goes like that and third, why guys don't take notes after meeting or knowing a girl for several months? Why guys always make girls fall in love w/them! Cuz they DON'T FOCUS ON DETAILS. There are some things require acceptance from both partners. U see, by noting down you're actually imprinting him within your mind. Plus that means u over valuating the person. I've been into psychology for years, but what I've become aware of it actually is by living your life spontaneously. Yes u should be aware of yourself more and be educated about these things but don't literally be slave of instructions cuz at the end of the day those advice were giving by other imperfect people just like you an me nd no matter you dig in it u CAN NOT be perfect. Simply you'll remain perfect for some people and imperfect for others no matter how GREAT or ATTRACTIVE you are.
Ps: I love your channel Smmm! I love to debate about these stuff, they give the excitement I need LOL
I'd derail you like a derailer on train tracks, bestowed upon da don the pond, to slip the duck along da ice rink of dapuck sliding to the goal I mole, the goal.
In other words, F##K YOU. Nicely, in a nice way, nice enough to keep this world from collapsing but enough to get a point across.
So helpful!❤
Love is fantasy. This is what my last relationship taught me. And you what? ANYBODY can give you that fantasy. It’s not the person, it’s the feeling.
THIS
not with healthy relationships
as a grey aroace, I wish anyone could just give me that fantasy instead of the rare* person who does 💀
Love is not a feeling. It’s an action of actively wanting the best for the other person. Not the emotional feelings you have for them. That’s the reality.
As for emotional feelings, that’s more to do with a good connection with the other person. Even that will fade eventually. Then you need some other reason to stay together and commit.
@@AutomaticDuck300 Love is far and wide, love is the horrizon, love is the moon, and the sky and stars. Do you think all persons are these princess the guy?
I CANT TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY WITH THAT BACKGROUND-
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And the vine booms are taking me out lol
@@justaweirdowithglasses7540 ikrrr😭😭😭😭
semi agree 😂
Me to hahaahha
Women really need to have their own lives. It’s crazy to me that when I meet my friends, all we talk about is guys. I can guarantee you, men are NOT doing the same about us with their friends. If they do, it’s not to the same extent. They are not crying over us or writing pros and cons lists in their notes app lol women, you all are amazing! Stop giving so much power to men!!!
Edit: I don’t need to hear your “oh my friends and I don’t do that” comments. Good for you, glad you have some great people around you. I feel you all are a minority. In many years of being a woman, I do not know many girls that DON’T talk about guys and who they’re dating. It’s been a main topic of discussion since middle school.
Lol, some of them are now *red pill community* Now, real men are definitely not wasting too much of their time talking ish about women, they got business to do.
men do talk about women, where I'm from they're constantly bragging about sleeping with many and getting ran through by women and how to get in their pants, it's disgusting how people can just give themselves away like that.
@@ITEEZ- No, it's good for you and for the women who listen, data collection.
@@kenasssss what's good for the women and me? And what are you saying no to?
@@ITEEZ- As in: no, take it has a blessing in disguise. It is disgusting, but you learn their behaviour. When you date, let them talk, don't get offended, they'll completely exposes themselves to you, and because you already know the deal because of the vomit you heard from some men, you'll spare yourself the trouble in your relationship. Hear them out, know their game.
I just walked away from a situationship that was ruining my mental health. I wanted to take it back, but I saw this just in time. This gave me so much strength and assurance. Thank you, Simone.
Be strong!!
stay strong!
you are so strong for doing that! Hope you are healing very fast well now ❤️
So glad you seen this before the intrusive thoughts got to you 💔
How did you walk away from it? Im trying to do this but idk if I should say something or just remove him from my socials/contacts..
Closure is a myth. This is so so so true. Real closure comes from our heart not from anyone else.
Yesssss this comment needs to be pinned
note to self: don't latch yourself to every affection you experience. know yourself first and define what kind of love fits for you that doesn't break your heart, mind, and soul.
SLAY QUEEN SIMONE! i'm earlyyyy 😘
louder !!♡
yess protect urself and dont trust the chemicals in ur brain fr
bruh why didnt i see this comment before LMFAOOOO
This!! Girls will run after a guy if he steps just one foot in their direction. It’s insane the power we give them over us
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1. grateful for simone
2. grateful for mee
3. grateful for life
4. grateful for self love
5. grateful for my problems
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She’s giving it to us so real. Something my bestie told me while I was going through heartbreak was, “If you guys were so perfect, then it would’ve worked out the first time around. Why didn’t it work out if you guys were so perfect?” It was our 3rd time trying to make things work and it’s the truth. We were not perfect for each other and I was stuck in that stupid fantasy of us being perfect for each other.
this is so on point. trust your intuition. if you feel something is wrong, leave! cut them off. unfollow/unfriend them in your socials. they doesn't deserve to know your life, they doesn't deserve to receive your energy. once you are avoided by someone, do not disturb them again. They know what they did and you have to respect yourself to leave that kind of situation where respect is no longer serving you. If they left you unread, ghosted you, cheated on you, but still views your stories, CUT. THEM. OFF. The energy they bring will just drain you. It's okay to lose anyone but not yourself! Train your mind and heart to know what you truly deserve. Yes, there are times you miss them but eventually, by time, you'll thank yourself for leaving someone who clearly doesn't help yourself grow. BE BETTER.
Whenever a guy asked for a second chance and I didn't give any, this thought of being too hard on them used to come in my mind but I could never give them a chance even if I try. For this video I'm feeling proud of myself. I have been single for 2 years now and I have realized that you really don't need any people but yourself to fulfill all your needs. Thank you Simone❤❤
You Go QUEEN!
i aspire to be like thissss !!!
Fucking finally someone who doesnt romanticize heartache and pain. In my country (philippines), people romanticize the idea of love and glorify making jokes out of participating in toxic coping mechanisms or not coping at all (ifykyk being marupok and whatnot).
After my experience I decided to die down my main socials so I could go no contact. I even shared my journey with a close friend. Regretted that immediately because they were going through their own toxic cycle as well as using my experiences as comedic relief or as jokes to pull whenever romance or anything close was a topic in our circle. Really felt like a slap in the face after pouring my heart out to them. Needless to say theyre not a close friend anymore. Just focused on healing on my own
totoo siz
ph talaga puro lang lovelife inaatupag 😭
that's why as a pinoy aroace, this is why I'm so alienated from society, people are so amatonormative here it hurts lmao
@@worstusernameintheworld9871abstaining from sex doesn't make you special
My idea of love is better than his idea anyway.
funny how when you finally walk away is when they choose to message you, crazy world we live in lol. embarrassing being hooked on someone who doesn't see the value in me, I hope I never get in that situation again.
This is not only for girls but for boys too. My sister shared this and asked to watch it, as I'm going through a situationship breakup. All of sudden we just became strangers. So I feel even boys feel the same when they get played. Nothing to do with the gender. The one who's true and real will always get hurt💔
Glad you mentioned this! Men also get hurt and they also have feelings. Please treasure each other.
Keep being real but also be smart about discerning who is real too.
Also, believe in the red flags, before going down the path that will lead to getting hurt. Real and truth and light always reveals the other persons red flags. Their reactions says it all. It’s just that sometimes we still don’t choose to believe our own self, even after three times or three chances, still continuing to have hope or thinking we might have misunderstood them. This is a result of being gaslighted for years where one starts to doubt their own intuition even with red flags. At the same time, be careful not to be so overprotective of self that it becomes projection.
Going through it ❤
This could have been written by someone I know, it's uncanny
Love this, very true that men in general don’t confront the pain but just go on the next person after brake up for which reason they never cut emotional ties with exes. When it comes to women in general we prefer to heal and move on.
Then I'm a woman, cuz every girl I've dated or been in a situation with either instantly slept with a friend of mine once they broke up with me, or cut me off once they found someone else to sleep with :,) I can't think of people as expendable like that...
Therapist even told me once that I have a mindset a lot more akin to most women...
"if I find the right man, that's not gonna be a crush, it's gonna be my husband" YAS
hate that i let myself care so much about this situationship when he let it go so easily 😒😒
Thank you for your no bull approach. This helps. Also I absolutely hate when some guys do that thing where they say insults are “banter”. Like, no sir, trying to get a reaction out of me or upsetting me is not “banter”, it’s just manipulation.
Wow ok this is SO on point. The first thing you talked about was the chemical addiction/routine and this is something I've never seen talked about!! Thank you for covering this cos it's so scary to feel like you're dying. I went through an awful breakup this year (we'd lived together 6 years). Just putting it out there that it can take longer than weeks if you've been close with that person literally sharing the same space for years but I am so glad you covered this cos no one talks about the role of chemicals and the impact on mental/physical health when you are denied these. Sorry but I don't agree about the closure - I know this is a common belief and I wish I could agree that the closure comes from within you and you can validate yourself but damn. In reality if someone you have poured your heart into and shared such intimacy literally ghosts you or there is no explanation...I dunno, that can be extremely hard to recover from. My opinion is like you said go no contact but then further down the line if it's still causing you distress, some debrief conversations could be helpful for your own sanity.
i see videos like this a lot about short term relationships like a few months, maybe a year or 2. ive also loved him for 6-7 years and he is so toxic and its just been so so hard to detach and leave him. isnt it so much harder when said person knows you so deeply and so well and when you leave them there is no one else left that knows you on that level that you might keep wanna go back to them. they become your comfort zone despite that fact that they are bad for you. how did you manage in ur situation considering u lived together 6 years? do u still struggle and cry a lot some days? because for me it is so so hard. i went 6 months no contact before he msged and i totally fell in again cuz i was crying even after 6 months and missed him. i really wanna try again to leave him but sometimes feels like the pain is not worth it considering how long it lasts, maybe will last years
@@mimikyu_ you should leave him even if the pain will last years better that lasting a life time with a toxic person. I had a situation ship that ended less than an hour ago after many many getting back together but now I'm determined this is the last chance and it's over
@@mimikyu_how are you doing now? Are you still struggling in the rship? I’m in the same boat and would love to maybe be each others support ❤
@overagedvscogirl9104 heya! I dont know how it happened, but 2 months ago i got the strength to completely cut him off. I miss him a lot but i never felt that i wanted him back. I feel really angry now at how much he wouldnt respect me, and im so strong in my belief now that i can miss him yet still not want him back. There were many factors thats contributed to this decision - its hard to share all in a yt comment, im not sure about youre situation but i can only say dont rely on what he says or does, the strength can only come from within you, the day youre angry enough to leave forever, the day you finallt wake up and see the disrespect in their actions. I also realised theres people in the world dying in wars, etc, that we never hear about their tortures and they never even get justice. Theres a lot of pain in the world and that mine is nothing compared to it. How luck i am that i could just walk away if i wanted to, from my pain. That is my mindset ❤️
Your advice of not seeking closure from the other person really resonated with me. He was a liar and way too secretive. Even in last conversation we had, he said something which will make you question what he is gonna do next. I tried contacting him everywhere but got to know his true side. Now, I just went no contact. First days were brutal emotionally but I have improved now.
I hate liars and hypocrites. They will destroy your self worth and femininity. 🤮
Okay I needed this today, I was confused all the day about how to get over a person that don't like me back, I even asked a friend and he said "the best way to forget a person is to find another one, to find a person who knows your worth" and I was really amazed by his words. Thank you so much Simone for your awesome work and all the advice you give, God bless you 🙏🏻
This video came at the right time ❤. You are God sent. A guy started acting totally different after 3 amazing dates. I went no contact immediately. He didn’t like the fact I started distancing myself from him, he started blaming me saying I am sabotaging a good thing. Just to know he will constantly blame on me even when he is at fault. Plz don’t give second chances just to see where it goes. If you are anxious the first time chances are it won’t work.
After few breakups (most of them I did) I can say that its never easy to forget someone, its actually impossible but thanks God after months/years they mean nothing to you and its the best feeling ever after rough times. Hope it will helps someone. Especially if you have traumas or you are emotionally unavailable like me. Can recommend therapy :) and willing to change yourself, improve yourself and your skills, boundaries etc. Take care Simone, you are great
I love your brutal honesty....it hurts but it is therapeutic.
thank u for talking about the neuroscience of it all!! it’s so true the brain will never stop wanting answers until you give it to yourself
You're right, crushes give a little excitement + takes a lot of time from my everyday life. For me it hit like a ton of bricks because I had my first ever crush at work in Oct last year (I'm also in my early 20s), it took me till Feb 2023 to move on but eventually, the feeling does go away. Your channel is a gold mine for absolute facts that we need to hear.
The way I so needed this rn, i mean, it has been 2 months now, but still sometimes my brain goes back to the happy memories, but i always remind myself that after those times, came the real him that destroyed my feelings!! So he does not deserve me, and I truly deserrve someone better!♥️✨️
Simone dropping the exact videos i need at a certain point in my life is a blessing but also slightly unnerving.
i recently decided to raise my standards cuz i was liking way too many questionable men and it has been amazing the only problem is that i started liking a girl when i did 💀💀 shes in a relationship so ill be using these tips to get over her anyways tysm for this simone
I haven't even dated yet in my life, but I just can't lose a Simone's video giving us a piece of her immense wisdom, at the same being so funny and like a best friend we wish we had by our sides. ❤️ ❤️
hits harder when youre going thru it honestly😂
You haven't dated, and you think this is wisdom. I get it now, you live in limits and not digits.
Cue the insults, desults, and the all knowing of the vagene.
Thank you so much for this. You help me understand my process better while making me feel less alone in this situation. To myself and anyone out there experiencing this kind of heartbreak- we'll get through it, and we'll come out stronger, healthier, and happier!
how are you feeling now?
Simone you have really evolved into a mature, blunt woman and it’s truly inspirational! Keep going ❤
This is so helpful. Especially the distraction stuff. I haven't gotten over my ex. It's been four months and I still cry everyday. Buuut I also became a big boy stoner (sometimes from morning to falling asleep, and even in the middle of the night) to cope. I also listened to way too much sad music, and we both continued to text about past memories and that we still loved each other. Journaling and being alone and sober have been the best things for me. I finally feel like myself again, though life still feels a pointless without them sometimes.
THANK YOUU, u funny too.
i just wanna say that im really really proud of you simone ♡ ilysm
thank u my loveeee
she is literally the best therapist ever!!
You mindset has been built by many experiences and I do respect it so much because the way you inspired it to people is so natural and friendly, no filter, no trick. Thank you!
I think you're the first person I've come across who said that you don't use distractions for when you're trying to heal and move on. Alot of my friends told me to distract myself - to not think about it and I too, think that, that's not the right way to go about things ( for me ) and I sat through. Experienced the pain, re-played what has happened again and again and deduced why things had ended. In regards to the notes' thing about what "staying with them" would say about me, I might actually try that right now. It's far more objective to have it down and motivating to not act in a way I don't want to be seen acting like. I'd do that for anyone I'd possibly be involved with in the future, too. Whether these flags are green, neutral or red and how I shouldn't let limerence cloud what they're really like and not just what I only want to see. Thank you, Simone
Not that I have literally any dating experience but all of the things you said are so true. I have this friend who’s been dating her first boyfriend for like the past 3? 4? Years and she even said they broke up many many times and what I find so ridiculous is that she claims he is “different” and she finds it so hard to let go bc of it. Now I’m not criticising her relationship or whatever but maybe I need to gather my courage and send her this video😭😭😭
SEND IT. EVERY EFFORT COUNTS
please send it, she might need to see it especially if you thought about her. she might be upset but it will be worth it.
Most of the time life is the best teacher- she has to go through that experience and make that mistake to learn.
@@nastianastia9639 I hope she does! 😭
what your friend is going through is a trauma bond. nudge her to research about it. i know because i went through this too and its hard to break free from. being with someone on/ off shows no stability and in turn no trust. you can see how this might not end well
that's so true, women *REALLY* gets over a guy bcs they less likely to avoid being vulnerable, at least the one's that connects to their feminine energy, which embrace being vulnerable, in a healthy extent of course. thank you Simone 🌹
I am so happy to see how smart, strong, and amazing the new generation of women is. You are a great example!!
It's take me more than a year to move on from my crush but finally I did but today I show his vedio on my youtube page basically he is a local actor so I show it and start feeling something then I show your vedio thankyou it is a blessing
needed this, I love you! my ex situationship chose another girl over me and I still wanted him, now I don’t!!
I think looking at it as if people are like birds helps. Some will come into your garden every single day but some may only come once. Regardless of how long they stay for, there will always be at least one bird in your garden at any given time and that bird is you.
Thank you. Me and my bf broke up 3 days ago and it hurts. He was my first everything. And feels exactly how to described it. ( the feeling like you’re dying part) and I will do all of what you said cause the pain is unbearable
I'm sorry you had to go through this. Stay strong and hope you heal soon. Sending love ❤
Same. My date did the same thing now except we're all in a good friend group. I loved him sm I can't see him with anyone other than me but sadly I was never a priority for him. Because we're in a group of good friends that insists me to not go no contact with him but the thing is, things really won't be the same.
im going thru the exact situation rn and its comforting to see im not the only one 🥲
the getting closure from yourself is so real.
watching you makes me feel confident happy calm and gives me assurance that i am correct in my way.
omg the closure thing is so true, its like an never ending CYCLE OMG.
thank you for sharing this! I needed to hear this....
Her last video changed me so much😅she's honestly like the older sister you never had💗💗
yesss
this acc helped SM it seems so obvious but when told directly and bluntly it snaps u to reality immediately ❤️
lol, it won't go away in a couple of weeks. Okay, it's different for everyone. pain and addiction can go away for a couple of weeks, there will be a lull, then it will reappear. constant relapses. I've been thinking about a person like that for 7 MONTHS. as a result, we reconciled with him. damn. and now I want to leave again, but I have no idea how long it will take me to let him go, even if 7 months was not enough. in any case, you are saying the right and important things, thank you.
i completely agree with you. i left him for 6 months before he messaged me again, and we made up and started talking again. i was still crying consistently in those 6 months. it feels impossible to get over that kind of pain. it takes a long long time, not just 2 weeks. im also struggling to figure out how to leave him once again:(
You are the big sister everyone needs. Thank you for this video. ❤️
Simone is the big sister we all need in life 😩❤️
Thanks for always being brutally honest. I like your" I don't care, attitude" in sending your message across, and I appreciate you for that. You are so real. Glad I found you here, and I'm acting accordingly. Love.
this queen is hella amazing. She is really something different that read my mind so well 🥺 I love you and your energy sm pls do more
Notes:
How to get over someone:
- you’re a loser for staying with them
- no contact
- drug withdrawal
- beginning is a mind battle
- don’t seek closure
- make conscious decision to heal
- disrespect: RUN 🏃♀️ get out !!! Especially beginning because they should be their best
- people reveal themselves in subtle ways
So far so true
- it’s like a drug addiction this experience
- don’t get a rebound … women heal peacefully
- don’t distract yourself (I do this all the time please stop)
- crushes are a waste of time
- by staying with evil person: you don’t respect yourself ( shocking)
great video i like how you touched upon alot of different perspectives of people going through breakups. i feel like in some instances you generalized men more often then not and i totally get it however its important to note that not all men are the same (as hard as that is to believe LOL). especially touching on the point where you discussed how men use rebounds to heal whereas women tend to heal alone (the proper way) its definetly not a gender thing but more so a personal choice in your journey to healing.
im grateful for this channel
im grateful for the space i have
I'm grateful that I'm reaching out for help to process my feelings
I'm grateful that I'm journalling heaps now
I'm grateful that even when I'm upset i always bounce back, and this channel has always helped with that
Skincare routine please!! Your skin is flawless
I had never been in a situationship before in my life. But I'm 29, and for the first time I dated a guy who is 23 and he just had so many red flags. He was secretive. Told me all the lies like "i only am dating you" "I've never felt this way before," even when i could see that he is flirting with other girls, hiding his chats. Treated me like a friend when we were in public places but made out privately. And told me all the crap. I just can't believe i wasted 2-3 months of my life. I really really really want to get over him. But i see him everyday and it's hard
looks like we were talking to the same person 🤣
@@ngxoxo lord save us sister🤣🤣
As a gay male this was so helpful especially the part about closure being from yourself, because my ex was so friendly and flirty with me after we ended things and it just made me more confused and wanting him more when he had already moved on.
But what if you have to see them ?🙂
brooo my thought exactly cos… work
We r in the same class😭
I love how you are so on point my godd I want such clarity in life so much like no time waste nothing straight into it and end like everything you said were so on point I literally deleted and saved and re delete my exes number a dozen times was feeling like I need to see them what they are doing blah blah need to show them how I'm great but it's only going to hurt more..... really needed this one where was I even all this time in illusion really greatful for my feed today thank-you Simone😍💗
You have no idea how badly I needed this! Thank you so much for posting:)
I’ve been stuck on one person for a while now and your advice is the only one that stuck to me. I unadded them on everything and I’m finally going to heal. ❤
Great job!
this is really gud , positive influence on gen z n gen a
Such a beautiful and wise lady, respect!
THE TITLE 😭😭😭 I needed this. God my situation is so complicated with this guy but either way I hope this helps ! HAHA! (crying inside) love u Simone 🥹💞
Your video helped me a lot, thank you!! Big hugs from Greece 🇬🇷♥️
Love your straightforwardness.
I was waiting for him to call me so I could break up with him.. I was going to tell him that when he constantly stonewalls me every time he gets upset and then returns without explanation it really hurts me. Then you said “if he disrespected you, don’t talk to him”
And I was like 😮 danm
All those times he left without explaining himself, why should I give him the closure? Especially when I know he’s just going to act unbothered and it’ll leave me feeling some type of way.
Thanks sis ❤
I know he’s gonna call me when he’s over this petty little thing that bothered him this time, and I’m straight up not gonna pick up.
I know he’s gonna be shook because I’ve always been so quick to talk things out.
It’s time for him to understand the feelings he put me through. I’m so done. It’s perfect. He can figure it out on his own just like I had to.
Girl, your advice helped me so much, I’m trying to heal an obsession over a stupid idiot and your video hit me hard
Honestly I love how unafraid you are to give a fair point of view on what women experience.
I recently saw a conversation, where they were talking like , I met this great guy , he was so good and…So on and then the other person asked on basis of what, is this person a great guy to you. She had no answer And I just have been thinking like yeah , we put people on pedestals for no reason, and think oh!! they are an amazing individual but really on basis of what can you say tht , think a bit. Idk if am making sense to anyone but it helped me, so… 😄💜
thanks, you got a point there
DUDE this is so damn damn true and to the point im so glad i found you!! seriously girl you have no idea how great it feels to relate to your words
I really need this one. the best gift to myself was watching this vid
I'm so glad that you guys I mean content creators like you exist you don't know how much help you guys are doing
Yessss I’m going through it now and these are all things I do. Heal alone! Stellar advice gf!
She’s very right listen to her!! Thank you girl
I was just going through a breakup and drunk texted him yesterday.. I didn't give any explanation to end this fucking 2 yrs relationship. This video gives me peace.
Love you Simone ❤️
Girl the way I needed this yesterday and now im just sure im gonna be ok
Hell yeah! Thank you for this, they are great tips. Its been 7 months for me but I am REALLY feeling better about things. Happy to be by myself ❤ also, really appreciate the captions!
she speaks facts. also her accent >>>
i love you
I needed this because a man that loves me broke up with me . Someone I knew for 13 years!
i love the twilight picture in the back 💘
Thank you so much Simone. ❤ first watched when you uploaded this now watching after my situationship basically cheated on me. 😭 i hope everything will be better. I promise myself to watch this video whenever i feel like texting him 🙏🙏
Simone always there for rescue ♥️♥️
I did the pros and cons list like you suggested to do in the video, and oh my god. only 3 pros on that list 💀 I thought making that list would hurt me but it actually helped me realized how much of a terrible person he is, thank you so muchhh
“Women live life on easy mode” as if the top 10 highest paid youtubers aren’t all men-
Lmaooo and he was saying it like only women get brand deals
You compare everything to top 0.0001% of men. Stop doing it. Most men are at the bottom or at the middle.
I never understood why dudes say this when nowadays women have jobs that usually don't even pay as much as men while still taking care of themselves and or possibly their family.
Omgggawddd thankyou....my bestfriend needs this right now...and im not the one who can be straightforward and throw facts at her.... thankyou luvvvv
I'm only a teenager and I just went through my first heartbreak in a while. It drove me crazy. Its like 5 am now and I cried for a while just to get things off of my chest. I hate that guy and honestly speaking girls he's dead to me now. I don't know him. There's no "strangers with memories" shit. Who is he? Idk. Live your lives ladies/gentlemens. Yall deserve sm better and I do too. In Sha Allah everything will be good again.
man i’m late to this vid but i needed this. I just went through a 5 year breakup and my boyfriend just never communicated to me and lied for years because he was too scared of making me anxious/ sad (because i have anxiety)
nobody in the relationship was wrong but i kept nagging him and he kept pulling back. it just didn’t work out. and we’re still friends.
but the attachment for sure hurts
2:40 No contact . Block them on everything . Also do not stalk them cos it will only reinforces them in your head and makes it longer to get over them. You are not moving on if you are stalking them 😂
Recently found out about your channel and I love it. Keep going babe you're doing amazing!
Girl u just gave me the most efficient speech ever
This video pointed out all the red flags i ignored, i actually didn't like him but i had really low self esteem and thought i would never find another one or a better one so i accepted him. Then he showed how horrible he is and i regret it, i should've rejected him from the start, but this all came from my low self esteem and i had no way to change it since it has been that way since i was young
Thank you so much Simone😭 currently going through a heartbreak 💔
I had my first actual crush a while ago. I never told them. It was obvious they weren't interested in me, not as a lover or friend. The worst part was that they would sit with me and my friend in some of our classes but it was clear that they were sitting were sitting with us because they were interested in my friend. It hurt my confidence so bad.
So good, honest and straight to the point. I started laughing at the end ❤ thank u