I FAILED...AND I'M OKAY WITH IT // the hard truth about writing a book

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  • Опубліковано 21 лис 2024

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  • @jaepelton
    @jaepelton 27 днів тому +15

    I also used to be scared of getting TOO inspired by what I read 😅 but now I trust myself to pull pieces I love from stories and turn them into something fabulous and original

  • @tayhuzzahn
    @tayhuzzahn 26 днів тому +13

    I've been sitting on a book idea for many years now, and while I'm currently too busy to write a book (two part-time jobs, graduate school in library science, student leadership work, and a relationship to manage), it's been nice to "feel" like a writer while I watch these! Keep going! Be gentle with yourself! Shoot for the stars, but don't punish yourself for being a little behind pace! You're still running the race, and I'm cheering for you. :)

    • @andesears
      @andesears  26 днів тому

      @@tayhuzzahn Thank you!!! & thank you for watching :) You got this too!

  • @SecretlyADino
    @SecretlyADino 27 днів тому +7

    I’ve been stuck during the drafting process and i feel like i’m losing motivation a little and the second act break through has been pretty tough but honestly it’s great to hear things like this from other writers! i think having “failure” or going through a dry spell it just apart of the process the only real failure comes if you quit completely! ❤

    • @andesears
      @andesears  27 днів тому +2

      @@SecretlyADino I agree!!! So glad you could relate and feel some comfort!

  • @malinxxx11
    @malinxxx11 26 днів тому +5

    I love that you have more hobbies than just writing too! I do several sports, like running, draw, paint, crochet, bake, etc... And I definitively have periods where I am more focused on one or more things, but I like to have other things to give my mind a break from writing

    • @andesears
      @andesears  26 днів тому +2

      @@malinxxx11 Thank you! Yes, multiple creative outlets makes a world of difference! I agree, it’s natural to have a flow between your interests and times when one things feels more prominent than others! Thanks for watching :)

  • @isabellajuanitalyn
    @isabellajuanitalyn 16 днів тому +1

    Your editing is so beautiful and calming!

  • @annaverabooks
    @annaverabooks 24 дні тому +1

    Andeeeee! I love you for this! I fully agree with everything you've talked about. Surround yourself with seasoned writers, critique partners, and experienced editors; they will catch anything that slips through the cracks. Also, I DNF'd Fourth Wing. 😅 Everything is so subjective.

    • @andesears
      @andesears  24 дні тому +1

      @@annaverabooks Thank you!!! I’m so glad you enjoyed the video! And honestly, so glad someone agrees with my hot take on Fourth Wing hahaha

  • @jaswriting
    @jaswriting 24 дні тому +1

    omg Ande I feel this so much!! I am having a hard time with Revision and I haven't even edited a single word!! I'm back at the brainstorming because I feel so disconnected with my characters after my read through but I feel so seen!! this is so validating!

    • @andesears
      @andesears  24 дні тому

      @@jaswriting I am SO glad you can relate!! Thanks for watching🫶🏼🫶🏼

  • @k.d.kitagawa
    @k.d.kitagawa 19 днів тому +1

    Love finding a new youtuber and mid-video they just drop that they also ran Chicago this year lol. Cool to find other endurance athlete writers out there! Hope your marathon experience was incredible!! Chicago is so so special I adore that race

    • @andesears
      @andesears  19 днів тому

      @@k.d.kitagawa Aww how fun!!! So glad you enjoyed the video and we seem to have so much in common!

  • @MeredithPhillipsWrites
    @MeredithPhillipsWrites 24 дні тому +1

    Ande, you’re doing great 🥰
    Revision is HARD. It’s taken me years to feel halfway competent in that arena and I’m still learning so much.
    There’s also the weird added pressure that having an AuthorTube channel brings to the mix. There’s a feeling like you can’t fail, can’t pivot, can’t change your goals or you’ll be letting down your viewers. But don’t let that influence the path you choose. You gotta do what you feel is best for you!
    Keep going! You’ll get there when you get there, so take your time. We’re all cheering you on!

    • @andesears
      @andesears  24 дні тому

      @@MeredithPhillipsWrites thank you!!!🥰🥰

  • @JemyRaeBooks
    @JemyRaeBooks 24 дні тому +2

    Wow!! I first want to say how proud and grateful I am for your genuine honesty. I think the disappointment and fear of failure to reach certain goals is so REAL whether that’s writing a book and trying to achieve different things in life in general. As a perfectionist and people pleaser (trying to be better lmao) I can relate to a lot of what you shared. It can be paralyzing and the heart of it which is ENJOYING the journey can get easily lost! Thank you for reminding me how important it is to prioritize reading for fun and how freeing it can be to let go of certain expectations. As I’m navigating postpartum and all the changes it involves, this is definitely something I need to keep in mind at all times. Also, it’s so powerful to admit when things are difficult but I think it’s necessary to grow. I think you’re doing amazing and I hope you know you’re such a light in the community! I look forward to reading your story whenever it is the right time and I am sending you a big virtual hug! We got this!🤍

    • @andesears
      @andesears  24 дні тому +1

      @@JemyRaeBooks Thank you for sharing all this! I’m so glad this video was useful and relatable to you. Thank you for your kind words and for tuning in!🫶🏼🫶🏼

    • @andesears
      @andesears  24 дні тому +1

      @@JemyRaeBooks Also, consider me sending you a virtual hug in return! You got this!!!

  • @Astrid_233
    @Astrid_233 13 днів тому

    Hi Ande, I just discovered your channel, and I really liked your video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, not enough people talk about this. I've been doubling down with my comic story for 4 years now, it's kind of comforting to know that other people experience these types of challenges as well. I'm still struggling with how long it's taking me to “finish” this project, but at the same time I'm very happy with the direction and shape the story is taking. I think it's okay if things take longer than expected, especially if it's the first time you're trying to do them. The important thing is to keep learning and keep moving forward. I wish you a smooth writing journey, I'm sure we'll enjoy your book when it's ready✨🙌

  • @crystalriches
    @crystalriches 9 днів тому

    I love how in tune you are with what you need in your writing process. Your honesty is refreshing and relatable. I am on draft sixty something at this point. My WIP is with a third round of beta readers before going to my editor in January. It's a long arduous process, but so creatively fulfilling as you stretch your writing brain muscles and understand the psychological factors behind a bingeable book.

  • @hallelujah.moritz
    @hallelujah.moritz 25 днів тому +2

    Rooting for you! Figuring out the balance for the writing and creative process is sooo challenging, especially as a debut author. And it constantly keeps evolving. Your realizations *are* progress, and it’s fully going to show in your manuscripts!

    • @andesears
      @andesears  25 днів тому +1

      @@hallelujah.moritz thank you!!🫶🏼🫶🏼

  • @hannahetienne
    @hannahetienne 23 дні тому +1

    ande you're still superwoman -- you're balancing a LOT and you're still writing a book!! that's still incredible even if the pace isn't what you thought it'd be. presenting myself as a writer on authortube is one of my 2025 goals now, partially because of how inspired i am by your channel! i've loved following along on your process and congrats on 1k!!!

    • @andesears
      @andesears  23 дні тому

      @@hannahetienne you are literally too sweet! wow; thank you for sharing this!!🫶🏼🫶🏼

  • @chargoeson
    @chargoeson 26 днів тому +1

    Ande I LOVE this message! Having a fulfilling practice in any form, whether it's painting or sewing or writing or anything requires a balanced life and breaks from those things. I think the breakthrough for me was this idea that I could trust my creativity. Taking a break from writing isn't scary anymore because I know beyond a doubt I'll come back to it! Writers will write, it's in our blood. Hope you have a really good week

    • @andesears
      @andesears  26 днів тому

      @@chargoeson I absolutely relate and absolutely love your sentiment about not needing to be afraid of breaks when you trust your creativity! Such a great reminder. Thanks for watching!

  • @briellewrites
    @briellewrites 23 дні тому

    This video was SO amazing! Thank you for sharing your real and honest thoughts around revision. As you know, I completely relate 😅

    • @andesears
      @andesears  23 дні тому

      @@briellewrites 🥲🫶🏼 thank you Brielle! and yes, we are in this together lol; writing soul sisters or something

  • @profjeff9
    @profjeff9 21 день тому

    Thanks, I needed to see this today.

  • @Chryxsillis
    @Chryxsillis 27 днів тому +2

    Can't wait till you reach a thousand subscribers! Great initiative to take a break and re-fill the creative well, it help House of Eaftos(is that how you spell it?) in the long run.

    • @andesears
      @andesears  27 днів тому +1

      @@Chryxsillis Thank you!! And yes, it is spelled Eaftos :)

  • @liagracewrites
    @liagracewrites 25 днів тому +1

    congrats on 1k!!! you're my favorite authortuber and i'm so happy for you ^^ this was an amazing video though, and also definitely something i needed rn!! thank you so much and i can't wait to see what you do next

    • @andesears
      @andesears  24 дні тому +1

      @@liagracewrites Stop this made my day! Thank you!!🥲🫶🏼 Thank you for watching and supporting!

  • @NiveaK.
    @NiveaK. 27 днів тому +1

    You're so relatable. I often put huge expectations on myself too and I ended creatively paralyzing myself this month and I didn't really write at all. It's like rushing to finish a book because I feel behind after seeing everyone finish their book and start revising. Comparing yourself to others is never good. It's hard to remind yourself that you can go your own pace. Don't stress about not meeting self inflicted goals or expectations.
    I've also been creativity dry for a long time now. It makes it hard to draft and figure out what happens next. I need to be like you and start reading again lol 😅 Congrats on hitting 1k subs! You deserve it 🎉🎉🎊🎊

    • @andesears
      @andesears  27 днів тому +2

      @@NiveaK. I’m so glad you could relate!!! Yes, comparison REALLY is not helpful ever. Thank you for watching!!🫶🏼

  • @Myrecommends
    @Myrecommends 27 днів тому

    Love the idea of keep reading! I have been reading the whole time while I’ve been writing. I was thinking it was a bad idea at first, but I truly needed to keep reading and I’m happy that I stayed on track with my reading goals!

    • @andesears
      @andesears  27 днів тому +1

      @@Myrecommends that is so great! I’m glad you have done that. thank you for watching!

  • @vanessaskin
    @vanessaskin 24 дні тому

    the revision is HARD. sorry I'm only a minute in but I feel the juice from the video coming lol. I did the same with my memoir. I was sharing tiny progress and had hoped a yr release. When I completed the manuscript and sent to my editor I was a bit shocked with everything she shared. it's taken a bit longer to rewrite because I had quite a bit. (still working on it) as I had to take a couple breaks already intentionally sort of...Thank you for sharing. It's nice to hear as I'm on the journey with you. I'm looking to get back into it soon because I sort of also put together a small self help book which is less of a monster. lol so that distracted me a bit longer but I got SO inspired and I needed to channel it since I couldn't with the memoir.
    Oh and best of luck of course! Ran into this video and appreciate your input! ❤

    • @andesears
      @andesears  24 дні тому

      @@vanessaskin thank you so much for sharing!!! your experience sounds so relatable. I’m so glad you enjoyed the video! :)

  • @itsamina
    @itsamina 26 днів тому

    you're doing great bestie 🤍✨
    sending you good vibes and selfishly excited that we'll get to see your journey for even longer

    • @andesears
      @andesears  26 днів тому

      @@itsamina 🥰♥️

  • @BonnieNicoleWrites
    @BonnieNicoleWrites 27 днів тому +2

    I just came to a similar realization recently too. I had a goal for myself to finish a rough draft of a manuscript over the summer. That didn't happen. So then I was going to finish by the end of October. It's looking remarkably unlikely that will happen. And I had plans for November to be my Month of Aggressive Editing, in which I will (aggressively) edit my manuscript from last year's NaNoWriMo. I was pretty discouraged for a while that my summer project still isn't finished, and I thought that just sitting down and hammering out the words to finish it would be better than nothing, so at least I have something to edit later. But I think I came to the conclusion that, at least for this project at this time, it would be worse for my manuscript and for my creativity to try to force it and write from a place of discouragement instead of a place of inspiration. So.....there's still a lot of discouraging thoughts that periodically float through my brain. But I'm feeling a bit better about the process. Maybe taking a break from it in November to (aggressively) edit another project will be the switch my brain needs, so that I can come back to my summer project (now needs a rename) with fresh eyes.
    I'm still trying to figure out other ways of expressing my creativity. I've tried a handful of things and they feel more stressful than life-giving. So....I don't know if I just haven't tried the right thing or if I'm just not loving that I'm not immediately good at a new thing. 🤣
    So awesome that you are so close to 1k subs!! Congrats!

    • @andesears
      @andesears  26 днів тому

      @@BonnieNicoleWrites Thank you for watching and taking the time to share your thoughts and experience that can relate, Bonnie! 🫶🏼🫶🏼

  • @allymounga4902
    @allymounga4902 26 днів тому

    Hey Ande :-) I’m a recent subscriber, and I’ve been binging your writing videos!!! They’re so fun. I love your cozy living room in the morning challenge. Congrats on your race! You are amazing

    • @andesears
      @andesears  26 днів тому

      @@allymounga4902 Thank you, Ally! I’m so glad you’ve been enjoying the videos!🫶🏼

  • @AriBPK
    @AriBPK 27 днів тому

    loved this video, Ande! such great advice that I needed to hear 🥰

    • @andesears
      @andesears  27 днів тому

      @@AriBPK thank you! and thanks for watching 🫶🏼

  • @gstokker
    @gstokker 26 днів тому

    Thanks so much… this is exactly where I am and am struggling with at the same time… my timeline had been to be at the end of draft 3 by this time 😂 I’m only halfway through draft 2 and struggling with feelings of inadequacy

    • @andesears
      @andesears  26 днів тому +1

      @@gstokker I can completely relate! I have also been wrestling with feelings of inadequacy, but those feelings aren’t a representation of your ability! You got this! Thank you for watching!

  • @Arayawrites
    @Arayawrites 25 днів тому

    I also took the last week off from editing. I read three books and started working on a different project instead 🙃 But then yesterday I finally got myself to jump back into redrafting Ch 7!

    • @andesears
      @andesears  24 дні тому

      @@Arayawrites I totally relate! Thanks for watching!🫶🏼

  • @BlueBelle277
    @BlueBelle277 26 днів тому

    Girl I’m in the same boat I finished draft 1 in July and was hoping to have it ready to query in December life happened and I wound up not touching my draft for close to a month But when I got back to revision yesterday I was more motivated to do it revision is where I’ve given up in the past I’m forcing myself because I don’t want to look back two years from now and not be finished 😅 new goal is late February early March

    • @andesears
      @andesears  26 днів тому +1

      @@BlueBelle277 Oh gosh, these things happen that’s for sure! Congrats on getting back into revision, you got this!

  • @pentacliz
    @pentacliz 16 днів тому

    08:00 yes.

  • @EmmaBennetAuthor
    @EmmaBennetAuthor 21 день тому

    You're definitely not a wimp!

  • @beyondtheradio
    @beyondtheradio 19 днів тому +2

    just please don't write as bad as fourth wing. lol

    • @andesears
      @andesears  19 днів тому

      @@beyondtheradio haha I will do my best to write to the best of my ability!🫡

  • @palpatinedidnothingwrong3827
    @palpatinedidnothingwrong3827 19 днів тому

    So much talking... You remind me it's better to be single.