Don't really know what people are thinking necessarily, but the biggest issue I have is I can pick up conflicting emotions/desires that even the person isn't conscious of at least in the moment, and if I dare point these out they may get defensive and claim I'm seeing things that aren't there because they're coming off in a way they didn't intend to. You don't sigh that dramatically if you're enthusiastic about the request I'm making of you, for instance. It's easy to forget not everyone has the same ability to hide physical emotional reactions to promote harmony, or even the desire and attention to social dynamics in the first place to do so.
I used to have this problem but what I have found is when I do not want to know something someone is thinking it means more about what I think about myself than anything else. Since this feeling is formed by myself, about myself it means I have the power to do with that knowledge what I will, I choose to let it bother me or not but ultimately I am in control, which is an amazing feeling for someone who traditionally cares too much about the happiness of everyone but themselves. Self effacement/acceptance is powerful and can lead to better immunity to other's thoughts/opinions when one might find said thoughts hurtful, distasteful or disgusting. The better balanced a person is internally the better We can help others which is important for INFJs, pretty much one of our major drives. Years ago someone started telling me "oxygen mask" in reference to placing one's oxygen mask on first so you can take care of helping others put their mask on: AKA take care of yourself and you will find you can help those you care about even more effectively. With keeping in mind this ultimate goal of doing what we have been wired to do, helping others who need and deserve it, I cannot recommend enough to try and accept yourself for what you are, never apologize for it and you will slowly find that the feelings you take on when you know what someone is thinking is not so all consuming as it once might have been allowing you to get out of that common cycle of overanalyzing.
INFJs : Do you guys ever feel physically sick e.g stomach churning when someone on the table says something that is generally offensive or tries to start a heated debate or argument? Does it make you feel uncomfortable and pressurized internally like something heavy is weighing on your heart? I feel that way.
no fucking way.my family hates holidays because I blather whats on my mind and they even admit "how do you know this"? I just know....and go calm. Yes somewhat control but I truly want to know so many things especially certain history
You Are Beautiful It all depends on the context. If it's a subject I dont care about but it harms someone else, I feel a stomach/chest squeeze. Meaning: I already -know- that I feel I -have- to step in. So then, I analyze the situation and the best course of action. Then I know how to present myself in protecting or consoling this person. If it's something said against me and, (not by someone that matters), I usually don't let their issues bother me. I don't have the energy to put in to them. If it's someone that matters I of course feel that squeeze and pressure. It's more self directed. Im very blunt and address the issue logically, no punches pulled. I make note of how to better myself and my relationship with that person. If it's something I feel strongly about then it's not a squeeze. It's a blaze! A wicked jump start and all my thinking capacity becomes accelerated. Who is this person? What are their real intentions? How upset should I be? How will they react? What speaks to them? Because I know I must react strong, appropriate, and with absolution.
Manic Marie You're a lot better at being a mediator than I am. I can't even bring myself to change the subject and it's terrible because I feel a strong force inside of me begging me to do something to make the tension in the room go away and solve the issue. The only problem is that I'm not comfortable speaking to a group or rather when it comes to speaking , generally, I hesitate a lot. I feel for everyone equally : myself, family, friends, strangers etc. And I don't want to offend anyone even if the opposing side is someone I don't know. I don't like it when people intentionally try to mess with others. And I can tell that the other person is bothered by the smallest details, and I find myself wondering.. Do INFJs absorb other people's emotions? And if they do, why is that? Is there a psychological term that explains this? Thank you for taking the time out to comment.
@@ash.613 HELL YEAH! I have embraced that trait. Luckily for me I was able to separate that from my professional life. I was a very different person at work. I was the "goto" man, because I got shit done and done right when all others fell short. I'm using the past-tense because I picked a fight with a dumptruck and got my ass beeeat so bad it was permanent.
I'm an INFJ. The thing about speaking is completely true. I go off on tangents like CRAZY and will have tangents for the tangents and then, 20 minutes later, I sometimes circle back to the original point, but everything is so convoluted, that the person I'm speaking to gets confused. I get flustered and tongue-tied sometimes too because of my frustration at not being able to get to my point quicker. Now, when I write, I can organize my thoughts with little to no effort.
luckdragongirl I love how your comment itself proves your point. I’m INFJ and I have the exact same problem. It’s so bad that when I was younger my mom would give me a five minute talking limit to let other people speak. It happens when I comment on UA-cam as well 😬
that is SO me omg i ramble like a mf and can struggle getting to the point. I feel like i say too much sometimes, like the message has already sunk in to whoever im talking to, but i keep going..i think its because im trying to drill it in the other persons head and really make them believe that they CAN do this, and get through it (whatever that may be), but maybe its unneccessary and i should get to the point quicker.. i don't know what is more effective.
cool im an infp and my girlfriend is an infj... although i have no idea what im doing as im an awkward teenager, so hopefully maybe a happily married/generally good future on the way?
I am an INFP who only ever is attracted to INFJs, so I am so glad to see your comment. I have been told many times that those relationships don't really work because we are too similar in a lot of ways.
I'm an INFP and one thing I've noticed is that INFPs are more likely to be described as 'cute' and INFJs as 'cool' (cool, not as in popular cool, but in the sense of being calm, collected, interesting/mysterious) but it seems like INFPs would rather be 'cool' than 'cute' and INFJs would rather be 'cute' than 'cool.'
@@vsml333 As an INFJ too, people always call me cute as if it's the only personality trait that I have. Many people do call me "cool" too, just not as many. And everyone freaks out every time I show something of myself that I hadn't before, like I'm a mystery chest that they sometimes solve the puzzle to, so they can open it to discover something new.
@@qri3522INFP think emotionally, INFJ feel logically. For example, the INFP may see a cat running for cover in a rainy day and will feel sympathy for the cat. The INFJ may see the cat in the rain, and understand why the cat is running, by connecting the dots; the cat doesn’t like water and is therefore seeking refuge.
I’m an INFJ with an INFP friend. I realize how different we are just by examining her. She’s very spontaneous and likes to do things without a plan, like shaving her eyebrows or simply hanging out. For me i have to do everything with a plan and think of things more logically. it’s funny seeing the differences
Same! I'm still not sure about my type but my fi dom friends are usually much more spontaneous while i prefer to make plans (with my entj friend) when going somewhere. Me and my entj friend are usually the 'planners' and my infp and isfp friends are usually the 'idea givers' 😯
I am an INFP and ALL my friends are extrovert so i feel very different, and that it is something wrong with me.. I hate the way i am, and i am a very deep thinker.. When i tell them something deep, it's like they don't hear it or get it.. And that makes me feel soo lonely.. I feels like everyone is growing up.. starting to party and drink, and people expect so much of me.. I still have these "child" feelings, but no one else does... like.. I never post anything on fb or instagram and everyone else does.. I wish phones did not exist... why can't we go out, see the world, do something fun... Is there any INFP's out there that want's to be friends?.... I usually don't ask for these things but.. Btw I'm a 18 year old girl from Norway..
Anette tre I think I am more of an Infj, but know you are not alone. I still do spontaneous, childlike things. I’m going to be an adult soon and I hate it. I feel like everyone is going to leave, go to college, get married, and become boring. That’s scares me. But you know what? Since we have a soul of a child, we have an ability to write things others are too afraid to say. Use the beautiful gifts God has given you. You are not alone.
Anette tre as an older male infp my advice to you is to live your life the way you would like to live in be positive confident and people will like you for who you are and they will come to you.
I'm an INFP too and all my friends are extrovert and that makes me feel kinda left out bcs when they're having fun and I'm the one who feel awkward and super embarrassed to do things like going crazy or stuff like that so I just keep silence and just watch them having fun and smiling like an idiot yeah ik. I even distance myself from my family like my sister, brother, father,grandparents I mean all of them except my mother :c I rarely speak to them and I hate it. I don't like to be an introvert person it sucks.
"heres the easiest way to tell the difference between INFP and INFJ" *rubs hands together and puts on a grin* "INFJs have a hard time being in the moment, and INFPs tend to have trouble with time management and thinking in logical steps...." welp. back to square one.
The statement you have quoted helps me sort it out. I have trouble staying in the moment because I can see either where something is heading and then analyze future possible outcomes, or because, I busily read whomever is around me and play ping-pong with my relationship with them in that setting. This is all going on in my head. I'm probably just the weird lady eating her weird lunch at the end of the table. PS: 4th edit
thats because the meyer-briggs personality test was never meant to be 100% accurate, but more so a general idea. the truth is our personalities can change slightly from time to time based on our environments and how we react or if we have a significant change in our lives/ways of thinking. you're a living, breathing, evolving human being and you will never just be one personality your entire life
Me also . Strongly inf but split p/j. More j in my old age, maybe, but self-expression important, too. Rigid pigeonholes are only good for sorting mail : )
This guy is a genius. I wish to see you with more “Signs that you’re _____.” I also want comedy so I want to see you in a video like “Signs that you’re a piece of shit.” Seriously though, it’ll be hilarious.
So then I suppose that based on what you're saying, that watching a video of Jim Carry would make you him as well - Or something to that effect... How does watching a video on something make anyone anything? Well, unless of course you're watching gay porn or something. Suppose that could make you something. #nohomo
I think Andre may have been making a reasonable prediction, myself. I think using the information from the video to cause one to contemplate his or her place on the scale (as opposed to using intuition gained from interaction) is an example of using introverted intuition, hence being basically an INFJ. Rebel, if you've taken an MBTI and it determined you use intuition heavily, I think you may benefit from further study to enhance the accuracy of your intuition. You may also consider retaking the MBTI, and perhaps explore your homosexual tendencies with less trepidation. Your self-esteem will thank you. Straight guys who are probably tired of having to defend their secure sexuality may also thank you.
I'm starting to feel like I'm INFJ with INFP traits. I'm a chameleon but definitely not a people pleaser. Inner peace is the most important thing to me ABOVE ALL ELSE.
I am an INFP but also very intuitive and see beauty in everything, I also like to think about how things work, It's so difficult to connect with people, specially now a days. Because I fall in love with minds and I do not like gossip and it seems that people don't really value life anymore, instead they value material things. It's so difficult and so frustrating! So glad that I came to this channel. Thank you!
I initially tested as an INFP but recently tested as INFJ and the more I look into the differences, the more confused I get 😭 like I feel so strongly about both but it all depends on the situation I'm in, who I'm around, and what mood I'm in. Truly, I feel 50/50 about both. I'm equally committed to individuality but also love to learn and help others and am very empathetic. I want to stay true to myself but I also don't like confrontation. I love to think deeply and keep it to myself but I also love to learn about many different subjects and sharing them and have a hard time finishing projects. I'm good at figuring out quantities and time and I'm also detail-oriented and good at picking up the little things in social situations. But how I go about moving through the world really depends on a lot of factors that can change daily. Does anyone else have this problem??
I totally get you! Have you had to face trauma in your childhood? cos it can reshape your nature through adapting and for example developing extraverted feeling function to survive or the contrary.... As for myself I feel I swap between both too... and I can perfectly identify in which situation I'm which actually... Have you now solved out this question of yours? cos I can see you wrtote this a few years ago... so you might have some insights to share here :) all the best!
@@alexadellastella5247 That is very interesting. I feel like both aswell. Your mention of trauma rings true and as I recover I feel like my personality is shifting. What an adventure!
This is so interesting because I feel I am both too. Having experienced trauma seems to a common thread in those that relate to both INFP and INFJ. Trauma from a covert narcissist relationship and the subsequent healing process seems to blur the lines between both. I can be either depending on the situation, I think more research is needed on my part here.
As an INFJ, the practice of yoga and meditation helped me a lot to control awareness and thoughts ! As a result I find myself enjoying "being in the moment" more often when I want to !
I like how making a guide for the INFJ personality is such an INFJ thing to do. Although i assume your target audience will probably have had the pleasure to explore there mental aspect to.
As an INFJ I relate to all of these things. Being in the moment is always a struggle, but as a musician I find that performing or recording is one of the few times in life that I can actually be fully in the moment. Maybe it's one reason why I chose this career. Every other social situation is endless analysis, connecting the dots and anticipating the future...
Recently I took the personality test and I discovered that I'm 49% Infj and 51% Infp. Which makes sense to me because I can relate to both these personality types. Depending on the situation and people around I can fluctuate between the two. Example if Im around a close friend I'm giving and more concerned about their feelings or motivations. Also I become more outgoing then when I'm around people I don't know. I then focus on my inner feelings and motivations. I am also more reserved because I'm listening as a way to learn about those I don't know.
I know this comment is one year old but I wanted to respond anyways. You can't be both INFP and INFJ because they are completely different, they literally share no functions: INFJ Ni Fe Si vs INFP Fi Ne Ti. I think you shouldn't rely on 16personalities to type yourself because it often mistypes people and the questions are full of stereotypes, ex: Feelers can't be logical, thinkers are robot, intuitives are genius (a lot of sensors are mistyped as intuitives), extroverted are party animals ecc. I thinks studying every functions is way better than 16p to understand your type
I keep bouncing back and forth when testing so thank you for this. After watching this video I’ve realized that the testing is correct. I bounce back and forth between INFP and INFJ over the years. In highschool I was INFP but as I gained experience in college I became INFJ. Then went back into INFP because of my artistic career, then switched into management career wise, so now I am INFJ again and relate to that more. Crazy.
I'm confused with my personality type. I'm stuck between INFJ and INFP. 😂 Edit: After one year of researching this and checking my cognitive functions, I am an INFP. 😁
I know, when I hear infj's traits I was like yeah that's relatable And then when I hear infp's i also think it's relatable Maybe because the inxp traits? I'm not sure I took the test and changing back and forth
I've always been amazed by how in the majority of IDENTICAL twins 1 is an INFJ and the other is an INFP. My father in law & his identical twin brother were a great example of this. They were fascinating to watch when they were trying to work TOGETHER ... they left no stone unturned! 😉
You Are Beautiful I didn’t do it to retake it I just ended up trying two different tests. It’s possible to have a blend of the two personalities though.
Delano Santiago Yes, it is. I think it's possible to have both personality traits. I also think it's possible to relate more to one type than the other. Have you found your type ?
It is possible. I am both INFP and INFJ. In my personality test results it keep showing the same thing which is the difference between the two traits are only about 2-3% for me so i may crossed those characteristics. Which means sometimes I'm INFJ and sometimes I'm INFP.
Personally, I’ve taken the official test multiple times, and always seem to get either INFJ and INFP. I know personality is sort of a spectrum; no one is exactly one type or the other, so I guess I’m kinda both. And they’re both personality types that I’m happy with.
I can't speak for everyone, but for me, it's because saying outright that I wanna do something sounds bossy to me, and I want to ensure that the other person genuinely wants to go, so I ask in a way that gives the other person the power to essentially make the decision (and it makes it so the other person can feel like they came up with the idea OR it can also give the other person an easier time turning down the idea without feeling bad cuz saying no sometimes feels mean to do). I also grew up with parents that would call me selfish and roll their eyes whenever I tried asking for things (like to watch a movie), so it could have stemmed from that too. Is it manipulative? Yes. Do we mean it to be manipulative and harmful? No. It's a defensive and fearful attempt at being assertive :P
I do this too (I think I'm an INFP -- but I used to test as an INFJ). It feels manipulative and I hate this about myself. But I'm usually pretty easy going and I assume the other person will have a stronger preference so I want to give them an out.
SlayHer 5 you can be an INFJ have traits of INFP and vice versa. These personalIty traits aren’t that concrete and can even change as you mature and time goes on. You can take a Myers Briggs personality test online for free if you’re really curious and it will give you exactly what percent of each trait that you are.
This is just false and bad advice. You cannot change types throughout your lifetime. Your type is more how you approach the world and how you are driven, not little personality quirks that are surface level. Do research into the functional stacks before relying on the tests that give you percentages for each letter in the acronym, because these test results tend to be very misleading and have lead huge amounts of people all over the internet to get completely false information that they start spreading all over in comments and other nonsense. Also, pay attention to the exact meanings of words in descriptions; for example, INFP preferring "authenticity" of self vs. INFJ preferring "genuineness" of others. You really have to take everything exactly and literally if the descriptions are accurate and based on the teachings of Jung, not coming from some colorful, whimsical, feels-good, bogus personality test website.
Infp focus more on their own feeling and morals. While infj focus more on others feelings and change according to the groups needs. So just try to find out where you focus your feeling towards.
I'm an INFJ and my good friend is INFP, so was curious about this video. It's spot on for both of us. She is more grounded and musically and athletically inclined - basically a bit more present. She always suggests things and asks if I want to do something rather than stating her own desire to do something. Yet I get trapped more into people pleasing than she does, but can also take command of a project when needed, which is often since I work as a project manager! And of course, I am so in my head, planning, wondering, putting pieces of puzzles together all the time. She does this too I believe, but can drop into being in the moment much faster and easier than me. Your assessment is so accurate, I find this fascinating! What's lovely is discovering that there is a whole group of people out there who think and feel the way I do. There is relief in that for some reason. Thank you!
Debbie L My boyfriend and are like that. I'm an INFJ and he's an INFP. Well I'm better at logic and math calculations, those where you use rational thinking. In the other hand, he's a passionated poet and writer, that cares about feelings and beliefs. Do you think we'll have a long last relationship? Cause I think we complete each other
It's definitely possible Adali 3. This past week I learned another long time friend of mine is an INFP too. So these two personality types can really compliment each other, especially when they recognize how they operate differently and how to manage those slight differences. It's easier in friendships though, where romantic relationships are always more tricky. And I'm thinking that even more important than personality type is whether or not a person has awareness of their wounds so to speak and has done some work around those. The gentler they are with themselves, the easier it will be to manage a relationship's inevitable challenges. A poet and writer sounds very interesting, you might have a good one there. :)
That was the clincher for me.. directly stating what you want. I was thinking "why the hell wouldn't you just state what you want to do?!" Lol and Debbie, infj cares about feelings too.. case in point, the lovely response to that random question about people you don't know ;) I'm sure you have a big, beautiful infj heart!
Thank you, that was so sweet! I would actually do this all day if I could. That's why I'm tuning into Bo Miller too, so I can do more of what I love...one day...soon. :)
I was going to say something about staying in the moment - but I couldn't stay in the moment long enough to pay attention to what I was thinking, then I realized that I didn't really know anything about staying in the moment. ; )
She Who Plays : I know - In fact, I had the album set and the book, by Ram Dass called " Be Here Now" I am sure that if I read it today - I would "get it" a lot more than I did back then. Namaste : )
This is the best infp vs infj. I related to infp a lot even though I’m an infj and started thinking I was infp instead. So I looked up the difference and still wasn’t sure and this vid just made me realize I’m definitely an infj. Thanks!
I AM CONFUSEEEED. I can relate to both!! I would never do something just to please others or just because it would be more “normal”, but at the same time I could not make a decision that I feel right to myself knowing it would cause conflicts...but not because I care about others opinions about that choice, just because I would feel PERSONALLY not well (and maybe regret the decision) in a conflicted environment. About the talking thing, I can surely express theoretical information better than my own feelings. But I CAN put my feelings in words...people may not get what I say, but TO ME my own words make sense (maybe partially though, there is always a part in my feelings that I can’t put in words, it’s just an internal energy that basically I can just experience). My weakness could be not being in the moment...but my definition of “the moment” is just not being in the moment! I’ll try to explain...if I stare with a blank mind at my wardrobe, it isn’t a moment, it is a waste of seconds. If I stare at it thinking about the wood it is made of, the tree the wood came from, the person who painted it, other people who are staring at their wardrobe around the world at my same time...THAT is a “moment”. So it can’t be my weakness, because I consider it as part of the way I am! Ok, I written too much things to which probably no one will relate, and which maybe no one will read, but now that I opened up a bit I feel better :’)
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. However, the Myers Briggs Personally Test is interesting but somewhat incomplete. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So let's start breaking some myths about the INFJ Personalty Type When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not attempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass. INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss. Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves. INFJ's feel uncomfortable being around large groups of people. However, once you get them talking, they never shut up. Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Some people become alcoholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed. INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane. INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows. INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries? INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. If they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they will lie to protect that person's emotions. INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment or making mistakes. INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice - then completely ignore their recommendations! They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn things the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook. INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in. Do not mistake a INFJ's confidence as egocentrismn. There is a difference. INFJ's are frequently interpreted as posessing a Narcissist Personalty Disorder. This stereotype is absolutely false. A Narcissist loves adoration and attention. The typical INFJ cares more about others than themselves, sometime to their own detriment. INFJ's dislike themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves. The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's are compassionate which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. (2) They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (3) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. These are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer. It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group. The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological Disorder rather than a Personality Dysfunction). Fortunately, INFJ's are not prone to violent behavior. They give up easily, This is where the 'Door Slam' or simply walking away from an argument comes from. Once they reveal their true inner nature, you will begin to understand why only 1% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are so dam charming. INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted) INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots....even when there are no dots! When the Zombie Apocalypse occurs, a INFJ will be eaten screaming, "I told you so... I told you so!" Imagine your on the Titanic. It's 1912. You see a Iceberg coming. Your jumping around and telling everyone the ship is about to sink. People just laugh and finish their Champagne. Welcome to the wonderful world of a INFJ. Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying. Occasionally, you will notice a INFJ acting mysteriously, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes. Never tell a INFJ they have a 'Old Soul'. They are absolutely terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't need the extra competition on who should run Heaven (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity....that would be considered cruel and unusual punishment. Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials. INFJ's have a difficult time forming a thought or idea into words. Yes. Someday a INFJ will develop Telekinesis and scare the hell out of everyone. Stop laughing, it's going to happen. So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. There represent only 1% of 7.7 billion people on planet Earth according to MBTI statistics. In my opinion, this Myers Briggs Personality represents the noblest aspects of humanity....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Virtuous, Observent, Altruistic and Protective. Dispight their faults (which everyone has, no one is perfect) INFJ's are genuine. You get exactly what you see meeting these people. No convert agenda, deeply empathic intellectuals who sincerely care about you. They have a excellent sense of humor also (wink).
Best videos by far, during these hard times I've beginning to question everything I've known abt myself and starting to lose track of my love for routines and coordination, I thought I've misinterpreted myself, maybe I'm not an Infj, but this video helps me gain my initial picture of myself. Thank you. I can relax now.
Thank you for sharing your own experience with Se. When I'm at the movies, I can get very lost in thought at certain points of the film that when a character makes a very important statement or the like, it can completely pass over my head. It can be frustrating, especially when my friends or family who had gone with me want to dissect the film afterward, and I can only speak of some parts of the movie because other times I simply did not pay full attention. It's pretty ironic considering movie theaters are built for the purpose of being fully immersed in the experience of movie-watching, and even that kind of experience the Ni-Ti filters.
I’m an INFP and my defining and most tragic trait is that I’m a hopeless people pleaser. Most of the bad decisions I’ve made in my life and what’s caused me to go into depressive spirals is this tendency to people please - when I end up doing something that upsets me simply because I don’t know how to say ‘no’
lol the end part where you talk about the INFJ struggle of being in the moment hit so close to home for me. Whenever me and my ISTJ husband are out on a nature walk, he's more prone to looking around and enjoying the nature while I'm more prone to use the enjoyment of being in nature as fuel for my theorizing and analyzing. My sweet ISTJ husband always humors me and listens, but sometimes I think he wishes I'd enjoy some silence. but it's never quiet in my brain!!! I don't know how to!! lol!
Very interesting. I'm INFJ and my closest friend is INFP. We talk almost every day and knowing her has really enriched my life. But more importantly, we used to run a Sunday school class together and we always worked like a really well oiled machine. We could run the class with little to no preparation just by bouncing ideas off each other and getting into a kind of flow where I'd raise a topic and she'd expand on it. It was like a cool dance we did every Sunday. Unfortunately she was moved out of my class and it's suffered for that poor decision. I really miss working with her. It was so easy and so enjoyable.
@@brianhoule3219 This is so true. I even asked why it was done and the response was basically "it's nice to try something different and you might even work better with the new person". It really did feel like watching a child break a perfectly good toy just for fun.
I enjoyed this video but it missed one very important point that I would like everyone who left a comment to consider. Anyone can cross between being INFJ and INFP. Depending on the circumstances you are experiencing may determine which personality type is showing through. For the most part I fall into the INJF category. But at times, I show the INFP personality type. And it is possible to show both at the same time.
That's why I became a conspiracy theorist due this built in desire for searching for new knowledge. TV wasn't cutting it for me because propaganda doesn't work on me as an INFJ. I see right through the bs. Just discovered that I am an INFJ btw and things make more sense to me now. If you don't know who you are then you are lost. Thank you, great channel INFJ SOUL BRO!
I feel like conspiracy theories would stress out a typical INFJ for a couple reasons. Though the ni function does push one to seek out knowledge, the fe function seeks harmony. From my experience, conspiracy theories are mostly destructive in intent and at the very least cause heated debates full of turmoil. Furthermore, as the video pointed out, INFJs are acutely aware of social norms and they do their best to abide by them for external harmony and conspiracy theories go against the grain too much. Also the knowledge and patterns that the ni function tends to seek out are generally geared to better understand individuals and behaviors because of the secondary function and not so much who actually killed jfk.
For me, being able to read people so accurately is a pain sometimes. I know when someone is lying, I get really angry if I call them out on it and they continue to lie, it’s very annoying. The reasons people lie are to protect their ego, or someone else’s feelings, or from cowardice. I can spot a paedophile from a mile off. They make my flesh crawl. But what do I do with that knowledge. People would think I’m crazy, if I said that someone is a paedo because I sense it!
Being an INFP 9, I agree that maintaining or at least working towards the inner harmony is important. That being said, outer/social harmony is important to me as well, as it directly affects my inner harmony. Put me next to a sad person and I will react by talking to them briefly or more in depth (depending on how well I know them) and letting them talk it out if they want while I listen. Put me next to an aggressive person and you'll see me withdraw from the situation while searching for a quiet, peaceful space.
This makes sense. My INFP friend doesn't like her work so I told her just to do what I do- think about stories you want to write, art you want to do or investigate, music you've had on your mind and why, quotes etc-whatever takes your fancy while you're working. Surprisingly she said she just couldn't do that. And that made me think about how differently wired her brain is which led me to wonder how and then become lost in thought.
Someone help. Okay so I can't read my own emotions, I never know what I feel, I don't know my values either, they change a lot. I am always feeling bad for others and worrying about waht they think of me, I am constantly trying not to stuff up anything, I am scared when others are mad at me. I want to fit in with others and understand others but I really want to understand myself but I can't idk how too. I am bad at comforting others and bad at comforting myself. Emotions make me feel awkward but I do cry a lot and get emotional, Idk why I do, I never know when I'm in the right or wrong either. I often write down my thoughts and come back to them later searching for a label to put them under so I don't feel so alone and trapped. I'm not much of a deep thinker, but I am an overthinker, big deep ideas hurt my mind and make me very very stressed giving me headaches. But I overthink everything and worry constantly about everything...it gives me a headache. I spent years trying to read other peoples bodylanguage and social cues, I was told I had autism at 5 and mum thought I sucked at reading social cues, so I trained myself on my computer everyday with bodylangauge and other stuff. I now obsess over peoples bodylanguage and their tone, I am worried someone hates me based on a slightly change in their tone or whatever...I obsess over people but I still can't comfort others or help them with their own problems cause I'm stuck in my own and need to figure out mine...but I try to figure out mine through theres... I never get my emotions but when I'm sad, I have to talk it out to my brother, or vent it out online, I can't handle the emotion intensity in my brain by myself, I need someone else to help explain. I'm an idiot in my opinion, most things go over my head and I don't notice things until days later, I draw everyday and never notice my own drawing mistakes until a week later, I get overexcited and post the art online but instantly feel the need to take it down once I realize how much mistakes are in it but at first I get overexcited and do dumb impulsive things. When I read one article about infj today, I got excited cause I resonated with it and I was so happy but then an hour later I realized that its just one interpretation of infj I read, and its not all so what is all, whats hte true meaning of infj..who knows how do I figure it out, how do I even know if I use ni or ne or se or si as aux or dom..no freeking clue, I've been searching this stuff up since 2017, Ive got thousands of tabs open and windows open about mbti and the thought of mbti never goes away, which I guess obsessions with topics is ni?...but I see ne in me wtih some things like I come up with lyrics for songs on the spot...Idk guys am I doing this right?..all this thinking really hurts my head. I was thinking maybe I just am an adhd disorganized infj...or maybe its my social anxiety making me care for others over myself and I really am just an infp. Well I don't care for others over myself, I just want to know if I'm doing the right thing, Ive been abandoned in the past and replaced so often that I have no clue what I'm doing and I don't trust my own ideas...is this maybe fi-si loop no clue?....ah this hurts my head so much...who am I , how do do I know who I am. How many people am I annoying right now, I really wish I knew. I just want to know. Its even harder, because as I write this, yeah I may be like this right now, but the next day my thoughts may be different again. I can't figure out my myers briggs type cause theres just too many things in each type I relate too and too many different interpretations. Id say I'm by functions infj but by other im infp?..but no its just all wrong...heck maybe I'm istp but just an emotional once..is that even possible? Does anyone else see my huge dilema...what am I doing!?... Do you guys think I'm INFP or INFJ or some other type completely. To add on, I also am quite observant and good at photography....but I'm just really confused on fi at the moment, I overnaliyize people and obsess over others..but I still care more about my own problems over theres... wtf./..wth
My test said I'm an INFP (60% P, 40% J) which makes sense to me as I relate to both P and J. This video really helped me see why the test leaned more towards P. Thanks!
@@saturniiiidae that's right. I realised that the comment was a year old. I was very much into mbti and personality psychology at that time. To be honest now I don't care. It doesn't matter what type I am. It's better to understand yourself on your own, than to spend months trying to figure out the type and then wondering if the advice for the type will work. I prefer self observation now. So don't beat yourself up if you can't figure out your type. This typology system is flawed and has no scientific basis. Although I'm sure than I'm an introverted intuitive type because it has remained constant ...rest I can't figure out as it keeps on changing.
"I Speak People"> sat at my desk seeing & hearing you speak got my whole attention, it came across to me so pleasantly laying out the info > you just kept speaking as if you were enjoying your teaching lesson for we viewers so I found it captivating>ah> after going thru many other "experts" on these topics who either bored me or seemed inept or came across somehow smug> but not you, your easy way of speaking as if you're a content person enjoying speaking in vids to strangers at such length. You never skip a beat & know the info so well that sharing it is easy for you. You did this concisely yet chock full of relevant info the think about. Like your style.
YarpwarSongs i like learning here too. First day first Video! Never heard of this and im 73yy and a INFJ mostly. And I Speak is easy to learn from. Wow. I even ordered the ebook.
This really describes me well as infj. I find that experiencing my senses is very good experience for me. The more I experience in one setting, the better. I never forget those moments.
Rob Vel "Who would pick to be Frodo?" well...YOU. You choose to be an INFP by your actions and thinking patterns. Besides don't think about the Frodo from the movies (he is kind of lame) the Frodo from the book is a badass, and the author himself of the LOTR is an INFP. The thing about INFP's is that they DO have tremendous POWER (many of the most influential people in the world are INFP's) but this power is over people's ideals and how they THINK. INFP's are the catalysts of cultures and society (and so are INFJ's) it's just that the INFP does it in a more subtle way.
As an infp i tend to overthink a lot, even thinking what will happen tomorrow or in the future that cause me to sleepless nights my mind can't shut off i am blunt and some people say i'm tactless when i'm just being honest with what i feel.. I am a hermit and a dork at the same time some think i was an extrovert coz of my high energy, my sense of humor and being spontaneous i can also multi task i can do a lot of things at the same time coz of my scattered energy i'm bored in routinary works, i want something exciting to motivate me i don't like conflict as much as i can i will avoid it but i will say to ur face what i truly feel no filter if ever ask something.. I hate liars and i can feel what/how people really is u can't fool me i can feel their aura i am kind and patient person just don't test my limits i love animals i hate people who are cruel to animals most of the times i feel sad coz people don't understand me i can be overwhelm in socializing with a lot of people and need time to be alone to charge myself like reading, designing, playing casual games or watching anime or korean shows, i can get obsessed about something i really love
In your last comments on whether you are worse at Se or Te, the INFJ should be even worse at Te than the INFP, because for the INFJ it isn't even in the conscious function stack, but in the shadow functions, more explicitly, the PoLR function. Therefore, the INFJ must be better at Se than Te, even if the difference is minimal. Other than that, I agree with all the points you have made, very good video!
Good point, Jen! Thanks for sharing. :-) Perhaps I should have said an INFJ's struggle is more with sensing, whereas an INFP's struggle is with thinking. INFJs are slightly more in touch with their logical side than INFPs, and INFPs are more in touch with their sensing side than are INFJs. That's what I was getting at but could have done a better job communicating. Glad you liked the video!
I fully agree with Jen. Both INFP and INFJ struggle with Te and Se because those are the inferior or blind-spot for both types. The best way for me to differentiate these two personality types is to focus on tertiary functions. INFJs show way more Ti while INFPs show relatively strong Si.
I took this test about 15 years ago and forgot all about it until just recently an INFJ video showed up as a suggestion and I remembered I'm an INFJ, but never knew it was a rare type. I'm a complex individual.
Theses are good rules of thumb/foundation...but honestly i feel were much more fluid. I honestly feel im both an infj/infp i fluctuate it's the same as what the spiritual community calls an indigo/starseed/rainbow/crystal/earth angel/3rd gender/empath/psychic. All the same thing.
I'm an extreme people pleaser to a fault. I can not feel calm and at peace unless the people near me are at peace too. I had to learn to say no because people started to call me in the middle of the night and both my friends and family have for years and years and years told me semi seriously that I should get paid for all the hours I help people. My greatest reward is peace and gratitude though, I think that if a while of my time can teach them tools to deal with things and find their inner selves, their confidence and overcome their insecurities then their life upgraded for all eternity. Basically everything I ever learn will sooner or later help somebody.
Being in the moment is difficult for me aswell,that brownie example you gave is spot on.however my sensory awareness allows me to hear and see everything going on around me whilst I'm off in my own head deciphering the universe because my timmies coffee tasted like hay.meaning I can simply take a few of those awkward seconds their staring at me getting pissy because i wasn't listening and review all the sensory data my ears and eyes picked up and recorded while I was out(in my noodle) and provide the correct or expected (depending on who your talking to)response to the conversation I skipped out on. Isn't that neat? I do that to people when I'm playing a video game or watching a documentary while they talk to me, i can absorb all incoming stimuli and retroactively sort and respond to them appropriately.
brad block That's really cool. ☺ I do that to an extent but, Im not able to retain hard info accurately. When I was younger I'd get in trouble for reading novels during algebra. However I could always repeat back what the teacher was reviewing. Then, the trouble would come when I had to figure my homework out on my own. 😅
I used to operate like this when I was a child. I used to frustrate the hell out of my year 6/7 teacher by reading while he taught and being able to respond correctly to questions about both as well. But I had no trouble with my homework. Once my youngest son asked if he could brush my hair and tried looking fotlr the "eyes in the back of my head" cos he could not work out how I knew what he was doing from another part of the house. A combo of Mothers' intuition, perceiving or sensing, and listening. Now i can only do it sometimes. I miss the wholeness of it.
same here! its like im not in the moment cause im busy daydreaming but as soon as i snap out of it it's like my brain turns back time and fills me in on what i missed during the few seconds before. i think its cause our subconscious notices people (teachers, friends, etc) staring at us / the awkward silence / other sensory hints that show they know we aren't listening so we're unknowingly preparing ourselves for when we tune back in
I have done the test many times... The first time I got INFJ and I thought it really described me pretty well... After a while I did the test again like 3 times and all of them I got INFP and I also think I fit that description. So my conclusion is that I'm not one or another, I'm just both and it depends on thr moment, I don't know if it is possible or not, but I feel it that way. Also I think my mind is really powerful (not trying to show off or anything) so when I want to believe something I focus so much I end up believing it or acting differently
I am an extreme INFJ. I have 3 Guinness book record titles as a direct result of it too, but I never really enjoyed them because my mind was already on trying to advance to something new, more interesting to me and multiple levels beyond what I was doing currently. That, and titles are really beneath me. The best, God, King, teacher, verbal assassin, blah, blah, blah, what ever. Don't let your so- call title get your feelings hurt is my ultimate reflective thought to any of it, regardless of who you are or think you may be. That's where I will always stand. However, don't get me wrong. I am proud of my achievements with Guinness but it all just feels like a been there, done that sort of thing to me. No big deal. Never even hung the certificates on my walls, they are somewhere packed up now and they are fine where ever they are. And though I'd post and speak about my Guinness titles online, I rarely tell people in the real world a about them because I don't want anyone making a big deal about them around me. Just feels awkward. I also never really involve myself with most of the world's fads and desires for meaningless items of the materialistic nature. Don't care for other's fashions and name brands at all. I'd rather make my own design and wear it, than to buy a Nike product or such, especially since I've been enlighten with knowledge of these companies ways of corruptions since an early age. Don't eat fast food (or keep it at an extreme minimum) because I know that they are poisoning us and also profiting off of us while doing so. So people basically pay them (the corporations) to kill them slowly. I'd rather buy organic and make my own food, which I do most of the time. I knew before anyone was even speaking about it much that Big Pharma's medications are only a way to prolong your sickness(es), only to squeeze every cent out of you that they possibly can before your inevitable demise. I even noticed to go as far as to say that they work off of one another systematically. Set you up and knock you down. The products poisons us over time and sends us to Big Pharma as they continue to poison us with all of these synthetic meds, which they pass off as an illusion for hope. All this comes as a natural common sense to me. I have enough insight to know the games of our governments and shadow governments. everyone is beating up on Trump but at the end of the day, he is just another pawn under the persuasive influences of his handler(s) just like all presidents before him in this messed up system. If people saw the bigger picture, they'd know that we'd make more of an impact by not voting at all. A vote for anyone by anyone is nothing more than validation to them that you are still buying in into their bullshit and they will know from that, that they still got you... "Hello!!! Oh, you're so gullible McFly"!!! No matter who you vote for, they are still each a fist connected to the same body that will start punching the shit out of everyone as they always do once in office. You're attacking Trump, that's what they want you to do, while you pay them no attention because they keep you distracted with his entertaining dumb ass antics. And as usually, the masses fall for the illusion once again putting us all back at square zero because this simple concept is to hard for common folks to grasp, or believe even. I even know that Hollywood thinks that they are slick by exposing truths to the masses in plain sight, in forms of entertainment. I know that they cast spells and that "Holly" is a type of "wood", widely known for carving magic wands out of. They spell out words in scripts and cast for actors to pull your minds into their (the 1%'s) visions, which are filling those who's minds are weak enough to fall subject of their subliminal witch craft with influences and guidance in which benefits the will of those behind the scenes. I'd be highly insulted if anyone ever felt as if they can manipulate me. It would also imply to me that they may have felt as if they were more clever than I am, which is even more insulting to me. I rarely try to watch what is popular on television to people at times or whatever, but most times just lose interest in a series fast and never finish it. Mainly into documentaries and things like that. I sometimes watch movies every now and again as I depict and analyze what the writer(s) must have been thinking when they created a scene and things like that. I can read just about anyone at will. I can't be read unless I want to be. I know how to conceal the sense of my vibrations and energies completely from anyone on the fly. Without a vib to pick up on, It won't happen. My body will never reveal to you any clues for you to pickup on physically either. I could lie to you with the look of Jesus Christ (a fictional character to me) on my face and you'd have no idea as I am extremely efficient in covering ever single detail in my planing but I don't feel a need to lie to anyone, so I don't have to. People will always only know of me what I give, which is always selective. I can read and analyze a person based their on vibs alone, yet so many other things would be picked up upon in which I can also read people, such a body language, tone and such. I know that these gifts are within anyone but bringing them from out of dormancy, requires levels of self- inner enlightenment that most of the masses may never reach. That's what happens when your lack of thinking insists that others step in and think for you - if that statement applies to you. But I know it doesn't apply to you, because if it did, you sure as hell wouldn't be this far down in reading this. An average, typical mind would have stopped long ago. I haven't encountered anyone who could lie to me about something that is relevant to me in any way and I not know the truth - if it doesn't pertain to me in a way in which it would have some type of effect on me or mine, I don't care about it away. It really is like a 6th sense when it comes to being intuitive. I can't explain why or how I know certain things, I just do. I usually isolate myself from any and everything for months to go through what I call mental training in my Hyperbolic Mind Chamber. That is where all of my creative endeavors, focusing and practicing takes place. I never work with anyone. I only work alone. The exceptions would be my closest friends, family or an earned trust. And even they don't really see my creative side in action as how I do when I'm alone and totally letting lose. I even drop out of contact with my closest friends for weeks, months and sometimes years at a time because I am basically busy tuning into other things within myself. But still be able to get together with them after so long and be as cool as if it were just yesterday. Time is nothing more than a necessary illusion, in my mind. I have to be perfect within my craft, I can't take a step back creativity wise ever, only pushing boundaries to go even further ahead is excepted by me, for me. My craft gets most of my attention outside of my immediate family and I can tell that I have enhanced abilities within my crafts as to the point where my abilities work for me even in my state of slumber. Nothing short of a woman can get away from myself when I am creating :-D Many times I've waken up out of mid sleep only to correct something that I was working on in reality from tips that I've gotten from myself within dreams. This is happening now all through out the completions of my projects currently. A self evolved ability spawned from my intolerance of imperfection .I can feel myself thinking within my own dreams. I have total control over what I think, say and do in my dreams. I think of things that I may have no idea as to why I am even thinking of, only to have it present itself to me in maybe a day or two, or sometimes minutes away and even close to instantaneous. Example, reminiscing on an old episode of something that I used to love as a child, something that I really wouldn't expect I'd see again unless I sought it out, only for it to pop up to me somewhere, where as to having me saying that I must have thought it up. I do have an logical theory - Later on that. I study and research everything to my heart's content. My strongest dedication has been in studying and observing the power of words, for decades with my blood, sweat and tears. It's given me a very uncanny ability to manipulate words in any way that I so desire. I have absolutely zero problems explaining anything that I want to in painstakingly vivid details in a complex manner but still simple enough for anyone to follow alone, usually swapping out ridiculously big words for equally efficient smaller ones when I feel it necessary for an easier comprehension level for the general public. Basically, I am doing for overly complex and complicated writing what Bruce Lee did with Wing Chung, thus creating Jeet Kune Do. Basically I now keep the flow of what I'm writing fluid for readers by using more generally public relate-able words, I guess I'll call them. For instance, I could say something like "I feel as if I have enhanced my craft exponentially over the years" but I could always just say that they've enhanced considerably over the years and it would still mean the same thing basically but more people know what "considerably" means, opposed to "exponentially", is what my assumption would be based on an instinct, and or just common sense knowledge of word usage. By doing so, I find it to be more effective for anyone to be able to read what I have to say without seemingly trying to look like an over educated big shot. Now what you get from it is up to self. I usually make references to my connection with and power of manipulation over words to that of Magneto's ability to control the elements of magnetism lbvs. To be (fucking) continued, I got more to say but no more space to type here so I''m taking it into the comments.
Continued... Rhyming words come to me so fast that I indulge in marijuana (although it isn't necessary anymore), just to slow my thoughts down so I can get a better sight of it all as to put it into better perspective as a whole. When I acquired my 3rd Guinness record title, it was on 7-27-2007. I rapped 852 syllables in 42 seconds. Basically 20 syllables per second. While it may It seem fast to everyone else, to me it seemed as if the words where coming slowly enough for me to see and read them as they breezed through my thoughts. My ability to rhyme immense amounts of words (perfectly and) at will is unreasonably unfair to 99.999% of MC's and reasonably unfair to the rest lol. Even more impressive is my ability to form them into punchlines, metaphors and conundrums just as fast while making perfect sense of multiple concepts, mostly at levels that is just way too complicated for an average mind to even begin to comprehend. I believe that my curiosity, dedication and understanding of words and how to use them efficiently in terms of spelling, grammar and exploiting the power of their meanings has honestly made me a word wizard, because I understand every aspect of science behind words and language. I think so far ahead that while thinking of one calculation of thoughts, my mind is already calculating relevant pertaining thoughts, many, many steps ahead. I love hard and If I love someone and I feel that we are in an agreement to be exclusive, than I want all of her in return for all of me, or nothing. If It's a woman that I am not in love with but I do like or is just infatuated with without feeling as if we are not in agreement to be exclusive, then what she does outside of me is of no concern to me. If I am involved with someone as a couple though, there wouldn't even be a chance of me getting with another women, unless I've been crossed by the one I was feeling. That's when gloves are off. it's usually a case of fool me once shame on me, fool twice then you may have no more chance, if I truly love you. After that, "you know you done fucked up, right"? My love is the greatest thing a women can lose from me because once it's gone, she'd never get it back. So either I can love and be one on one exclusive and remain faithful, or I could mingle with no true attachment to any one woman and feel content with flings because I wouldn't be in love with a female of a fling status, thus not having any jealously of feelings or territorial dominance. So basically, if you are mine and we are a couple, I don't want you fucking around as I wouldn't do it to you. But if you're a just a fling, when you aren't in my presence, you can do what ever you like without receiving any flack from me about it. I also feel like I have, what I refer to as my "Spidy senses", which are my intuitions about any and everything. My deep connection and concentration within the realms of playing with rhythms, mental mathematical calculation of word structuring within patterns, punchlines, multiple conundrums and such for over 3 decades of training from 1987 to present day takes my mind off to different frequencies that are different from that of our everyday physical realm. I also tend to know about things that I have never known about before hand in a matter of moments of researching. I have no problems with absorbing enlightening information that is of substance while deciphering an extracting useful knowledge from the added none sense from contents in which I read or watch. Like the INFJ personality traits for instance, I totally get it, and in my case, could even expound upon this exponentially based on personal experiences. I said "exponentially" lol I also died three times before - clinically. In 2004 I was put on life support and coded three times from an asthma attack, I've been clinically dead for over 45 mins in totally and after a week, I woke up from the life support system on the very same day the doctor was trying to discuss with my mom that she may want to consider pulling the plug on me because I was only still alive by the work of the machines. I have so many theories about that that I would have to write a book about it even to begin to feel like I'm scratching the surface. I am doing it now, in a way. This post is nothing more than another seed being planted. Someday this post, amongst many others that I've posted will be sought out, observed and peek the interest of so many and I know this because I can see it. Not sure when it will spark hard, but I'm guessing after my physical and spiritual departure from this realm someday. However, that won't be the day of my death because there is no such thing as true death for light (spiritual) beings. My conscious will only resurface somewhere else with even more knowledge and experience to share and nurture, and even observe. I totally believe that I understand what the Mandela Effect is, and how my conscious shifts through different dimensional realms play a part in it for me. I know that because of it, a part of my conscious from an alternate reality found it's way to my (physical) being here. For this, in many ways shows signs of not being my native Earth. I remember Fruit Loops, while this reality knows Froot Loops. "Mirror Mirror" on the wall is what I dominantly remember over "Magic Mirror". I can't recall Forrest Gump's Mom telling him that "life -WAS- like a box of chocolates, I (as clearly as day) remember her saying "Life -IS- like a box of chocolates. I know it is a lot to read lol. However, for me, this is nothing. I'm only stopping because I have so much more to ramble on about but since I am not trying to squeeze it all in one post, I'll just pick up from here. These are my public testimonies in which I will continue to post because something is compelling me to do so. And by something, I mean an hierarchy within myself. You may be thinking that I sat up here and have taken so much time to type all of this but thrust me, this is nothing. You should see my FaceBook page lol. This took about 20 -- 45 mins for me tops, but I felt the need to type it, so here it is.
Very interesting. Thank you, I appreciate that. I have been contemplating gathering all of my "spear of the moment" public writings (such as this) and organizing them on a blog or something. I think I'd have a few of them if I gathered it all constructed them as books. Thanks again for the name compliment as well. I have to tell people, that the "XD" is NOT a smiley face. It stands for something and it has ever since I came up with it 1987 - a time when the internet would have been look upon as something from a sci-fi movie. I jokingly tell people that I am just ahead of my time, but I secretly don't be joking lol. My thinking definitely is.
Sure, no problem. It stands for "eXtremely Dope". Of course we all know that the word "extremely' begins with an "e", but "Rebel ED" just would not look, or sound right at all lol.
I’m Still not sure, I kinda feel like I’m having both struggles going on. I’m consantly stuck in my head with my thousands of ideas and plans and then I end up just thinking through the whole day not doing anything productive. I also feel somewhat special but also have a low self esteem at the same time like I feel that I have a visionary’s mindset and I could solve so many problems but I never get done anything. The ideas are coming from within (intuition) and I want to make an impact on the world yet I’m also very curious and want to understand everything that’s going on under the surface . I also can connect everything and this kind of overthinking drives me crazy and flashes out all my energies..I can also see someone’s true self without even trying I can just feel everything what’s going on with others. I really want to help ppl as individuals but I also think and see a bigger picture to everything like a real idealist. I also second guess myself all the time and change my opinions on a lot of topics from time to time bc I always think that there are more truth to everything bc everyone seeing things differently and therefore everyone is right .. idk everything is so complex even my own mind I sometimes think I really am crazy. Hope this wasn’t too boring for you to read, I also hope there are some ppl out there who can relate as I often feel alone with this mindset:)
Well now that I searched the crap out of all mbti types and did loads and loads of tests I’m (almost) pretty sure I’m an infj, but one sign to prove that you’re actually an infj is that you’ll always second guessing yourself ahahah xx
This actually helped realize that I am definitely an INTJ. I'm acurate with body language too, but I don't use it to keep harmony or blend in. I learn more about someone else by observing them. Sometimes, I see that someone is shy, and I will help them. If I'm not being true to myself it's because I feel insecure at that moment.
Thanks to your video I am almost certain that I am an INFJ. I have only started to dab into MBTI last week so I still need to learn more about it to be 100% sure. I relate a lot to both INFJ and INFP, and many videos confused me even more. But this video, especially the last point, made me think that I am more like an INFJ and that my "INFP features" are either things that also apply to INFJ or are due to my own twist of being and things I developed over the years due to education, work on myself and life continually slapping me in the face. Hopefully figuring this out will give me new keys to improve, grow, and become a better version of myself. So again thank you.
I thought I was an INFJ like for a year but always doubt it. Some sites point out that Fi is ndividualistic and that Fe values harmony more. I saw myself as a caring person who was always helping around and thought Fe fitted me better for that reason. After reading a lot and bingewatching a bunch of videos I can declare that I'm one of those INFPs that thought they were INFJ. Thank you! Your video was really helpful.
So when I took the test (many times over the years), I consistently get INFP (occassionally ENFP). While I agree with a lot of stuff like the difficulty managing others and finishing projects we start, I disagree with a lot of the concepts on how we think. I'm gonna go through each kinda briefly (but it'll take me a while because I need to cross reference the video to make sure I'm responding accurately to it). I agree that INFPs care about being true to themselves. This is valid in my life experiences, but I'm not sure if that is unique to INFPs. Similarly, I don't think trying to express yourself with your words is unique to INFPs; I would argue most people have been in situations where they were using words to express something about themselves, though perhaps at varying degrees of complexity. Most of the INFPs I've spoken with would agree that we are soft spoken though. I also agree that we come across as thinkers because we are thinkers. We may not fixate on one topic for as long as an INFJ, but in my experience, I do my research as I'm pondering various things. What might be different is that as I research things, I slowly drift into other things (e.g. gravitational waves => black holes => gravity => speed of light and mass => subatomic particle => anti matter etc...) In that way, it may not be as deep into an individual topic, but it's still deep thinking in the sense that I'm trying to integrate what I'm learning about each individual one to better understand/theorize a larger picture spanning those topics (e.g. black hole collisions, the influence of gravity on a massless particle, how gravitational waves might influence light perception, how anti-particles could come into play). Now I agree that for INFPs inner harmony is important, but again I assume that's true for most people. I agree that INFPs want to help people as NFs, but their motivation for doing so isn't always self-fulfillment. Like INFJs, INFPs are in tune with other people's microgestures, body language, and subtle differences in behavior and speech. Sometimes, INFPs will alter their own personalities (be more extroverted, act funnier, or be quieter, less opinionated) to try to balance out the group dynamic or cheer a friend up. Unlike INFJs though, this isn't viewed through the lens of conforming. INFPs are aware of others expectations of them, but don't care about them unless they are friends' expectations of reliability. In fact, if accused of conforming, INFPs definitely get defensive or distant. That being said, so long as we aren't being accused of conforming, INFPs definitely consider social interactions deeply, often planning in advance various scenarios that may never come up so that they can handle them in the most harmonious or tactful way possible to meet a desired end. We are also more likely than some other personality types to inconvenience ourselves for the sake of others, again, provided that we don't not feel like we're being taken advantage of or being called a follower. With regards to social interactions, I would argue that INFPs are more analytical than INFJs for the sole reason that INFJs have a harder time being in the present moment. At the same time, both signs are known for zoning out, if about different things or for different reasons (INFPs I've spoken to daydream in a more escapist/philosophical way while INFJs seem to be thinking deeply about something they've been interested in). Epiphanies are not unique to INFJs or any personality type; those a-ha moments you refer to happen to anyone who understand something after not initially getting it. I do agree that INFPs have many interests and projects that they do not fully explore or finish, but its not specific to NEW things (i.e. religion/spirituality, purpose of life, science, social interactions, the evolutionary significance of different traits). I do agree that INFPs brainstorm better with others (at least for me). Anyhow, that's my critique of this video for whoever cares.
Infj. Lol that's true, probably why I'm writing a book then! Always found it easier to write :) I don't dress formal but I do walk with purpose lol. I am all about authenticity. I love that I'm able to deal with feelings so well :)
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Being able to read people's feelings is a curse most of the time you don't want to know what people are thinking .
it causes me to be a hermit and keep a very small circle of friends
:( It's awesome to have an INFJ friend though, when they know what's wrong, even if you haven't told them...
Don't really know what people are thinking necessarily, but the biggest issue I have is I can pick up conflicting emotions/desires that even the person isn't conscious of at least in the moment, and if I dare point these out they may get defensive and claim I'm seeing things that aren't there because they're coming off in a way they didn't intend to. You don't sigh that dramatically if you're enthusiastic about the request I'm making of you, for instance. It's easy to forget not everyone has the same ability to hide physical emotional reactions to promote harmony, or even the desire and attention to social dynamics in the first place to do so.
I used to have this problem but what I have found is when I do not want to know something someone is thinking it means more about what I think about myself than anything else. Since this feeling is formed by myself, about myself it means I have the power to do with that knowledge what I will, I choose to let it bother me or not but ultimately I am in control, which is an amazing feeling for someone who traditionally cares too much about the happiness of everyone but themselves. Self effacement/acceptance is powerful and can lead to better immunity to other's thoughts/opinions when one might find said thoughts hurtful, distasteful or disgusting. The better balanced a person is internally the better We can help others which is important for INFJs, pretty much one of our major drives. Years ago someone started telling me "oxygen mask" in reference to placing one's oxygen mask on first so you can take care of helping others put their mask on: AKA take care of yourself and you will find you can help those you care about even more effectively.
With keeping in mind this ultimate goal of doing what we have been wired to do, helping others who need and deserve it, I cannot recommend enough to try and accept yourself for what you are, never apologize for it and you will slowly find that the feelings you take on when you know what someone is thinking is not so all consuming as it once might have been allowing you to get out of that common cycle of overanalyzing.
Yeah and you dont even have evidence on what you read and everyone blames you
INFJs : Do you guys ever feel physically sick e.g stomach churning when someone on the table says something that is generally offensive or tries to start a heated debate or argument? Does it make you feel uncomfortable and pressurized internally like something heavy is weighing on your heart? I feel that way.
YESSS
i get really ticked off when people bring up the weather... lol
no fucking way.my family hates holidays because I blather whats on my mind and they even admit "how do you know this"? I just know....and go calm. Yes somewhat control but I truly want to know so many things especially certain history
You Are Beautiful
It all depends on the context. If it's a subject I dont care about but it harms someone else, I feel a stomach/chest squeeze. Meaning: I already -know- that I feel I -have- to step in. So then, I analyze the situation and the best course of action. Then I know how to present myself in protecting or consoling this person.
If it's something said against me and, (not by someone that matters), I usually don't let their issues bother me. I don't have the energy to put in to them.
If it's someone that matters I of course feel that squeeze and pressure. It's more self directed. Im very blunt and address the issue logically, no punches pulled. I make note of how to better myself and my relationship with that person.
If it's something I feel strongly about then it's not a squeeze. It's a blaze! A wicked jump start and all my thinking capacity becomes accelerated. Who is this person? What are their real intentions? How upset should I be? How will they react? What speaks to them? Because I know I must react strong, appropriate, and with absolution.
Manic Marie You're a lot better at being a mediator than I am. I can't even bring myself to change the subject and it's terrible because I feel a strong force inside of me begging me to do something to make the tension in the room go away and solve the issue. The only problem is that I'm not comfortable speaking to a group or rather when it comes to speaking , generally, I hesitate a lot.
I feel for everyone equally : myself, family, friends, strangers etc. And I don't want to offend anyone even if the opposing side is someone I don't know. I don't like it when people intentionally try to mess with others. And I can tell that the other person is bothered by the smallest details, and I find myself wondering.. Do INFJs absorb other people's emotions? And if they do, why is that? Is there a psychological term that explains this? Thank you for taking the time out to comment.
“heres the easiest way to tell the difference between INFP and INFJ"
*Sees video is 15 minutes and stop watching, goes to read comments.
tadm123 I did that, what does that make me?
Stiven Lopez def an INFP trait lol we lazy af
@@ash.613 HELL YEAH! I have embraced that trait. Luckily for me I was able to separate that from my professional life. I was a very different person at work. I was the "goto" man, because I got shit done and done right when all others fell short. I'm using the past-tense because I picked a fight with a dumptruck and got my ass beeeat so bad it was permanent.
I read comments at the same time. Always. Can't just watch! Presumed INFJ.
Edit: Oops, ExFP 🤩
Holy... Am doing it right now! -INFP
I'm an INFJ. The thing about speaking is completely true. I go off on tangents like CRAZY and will have tangents for the tangents and then, 20 minutes later, I sometimes circle back to the original point, but everything is so convoluted, that the person I'm speaking to gets confused. I get flustered and tongue-tied sometimes too because of my frustration at not being able to get to my point quicker. Now, when I write, I can organize my thoughts with little to no effort.
That sounds like ADD.
luckdragongirl I love how your comment itself proves your point. I’m INFJ and I have the exact same problem. It’s so bad that when I was younger my mom would give me a five minute talking limit to let other people speak. It happens when I comment on UA-cam as well 😬
You described my INFJ mom to a tee!
that is SO me omg i ramble like a mf and can struggle getting to the point. I feel like i say too much sometimes, like the message has already sunk in to whoever im talking to, but i keep going..i think its because im trying to drill it in the other persons head and really make them believe that they CAN do this, and get through it (whatever that may be), but maybe its unneccessary and i should get to the point quicker.. i don't know what is more effective.
Same I can ramble for hours
(hehehe) I'm an INFJ married to an INFP! (We've been happily married 37 years.)
Aww
Aww
cool im an infp and my girlfriend is an infj... although i have no idea what im doing as im an awkward teenager, so hopefully maybe a happily married/generally good future on the way?
I am an INFP who only ever is attracted to INFJs, so I am so glad to see your comment. I have been told many times that those relationships don't really work because we are too similar in a lot of ways.
They are both observational personality types, it's no surprise but expected.
I'm an INFP and one thing I've noticed is that INFPs are more likely to be described as 'cute' and INFJs as 'cool' (cool, not as in popular cool, but in the sense of being calm, collected, interesting/mysterious) but it seems like INFPs would rather be 'cool' than 'cute' and INFJs would rather be 'cute' than 'cool.'
I'm an INFJ and I hate being called 'cute', it's like almost offensive 🙄
I get called both 🙃
wtf i still don't know which one I am
@@vsml333 I'm an INFP and always describe as a cool and I don't like cute, or being called cute or seeing something cute Lol
@@vsml333 As an INFJ too, people always call me cute as if it's the only personality trait that I have. Many people do call me "cool" too, just not as many. And everyone freaks out every time I show something of myself that I hadn't before, like I'm a mystery chest that they sometimes solve the puzzle to, so they can open it to discover something new.
@Elijah Ken Amen....!! Though I still don't know which is me......my head hurts🐽
"Not all who wander are lost" -JRR Tolkien
Can we show a little INFP love?
Wuhoo go INFPs!
My daughter's tattoo says that, lol only by Dumbledore. Right across her chest.
I personally love to wander. ☺️🌺
INFPs are an emotional foundation to an intellectual flexibility
INFJs are an intellectual foundation to an emotional flexibility
Could you give some examples of this? Thanks!
@@qri3522INFP think emotionally, INFJ feel logically. For example, the INFP may see a cat running for cover in a rainy day and will feel sympathy for the cat. The INFJ may see the cat in the rain, and understand why the cat is running, by connecting the dots; the cat doesn’t like water and is therefore seeking refuge.
I’m an INFJ with an INFP friend. I realize how different we are just by examining her. She’s very spontaneous and likes to do things without a plan, like shaving her eyebrows or simply hanging out. For me i have to do everything with a plan and think of things more logically. it’s funny seeing the differences
Same! I'm still not sure about my type but my fi dom friends are usually much more spontaneous while i prefer to make plans (with my entj friend) when going somewhere. Me and my entj friend are usually the 'planners' and my infp and isfp friends are usually the 'idea givers' 😯
can you describing more?
I am an INFP and ALL my friends are extrovert so i feel very different, and that it is something wrong with me.. I hate the way i am, and i am a very deep thinker.. When i tell them something deep, it's like they don't hear it or get it.. And that makes me feel soo lonely.. I feels like everyone is growing up.. starting to party and drink, and people expect so much of me.. I still have these "child" feelings, but no one else does... like.. I never post anything on fb or instagram and everyone else does.. I wish phones did not exist... why can't we go out, see the world, do something fun... Is there any INFP's out there that want's to be friends?.... I usually don't ask for these things but.. Btw I'm a 18 year old girl from Norway..
Anette tre I think I am more of an Infj, but know you are not alone. I still do spontaneous, childlike things. I’m going to be an adult soon and I hate it. I feel like everyone is going to leave, go to college, get married, and become boring. That’s scares me. But you know what? Since we have a soul of a child, we have an ability to write things others are too afraid to say. Use the beautiful gifts God has given you. You are not alone.
You are infj not infp. It's really easy to guess after second part of your 1st sentence in this comment.
Anette tre as an older male infp my advice to you is to live your life the way you would like to live in be positive confident and people will like you for who you are and they will come to you.
You took the words from my mouth
I'm an INFP too and all my friends are extrovert and that makes me feel kinda left out bcs when they're having fun and I'm the one who feel awkward and super embarrassed to do things like going crazy or stuff like that so I just keep silence and just watch them having fun and smiling like an idiot yeah ik. I even distance myself from my family like my sister, brother, father,grandparents I mean all of them except my mother :c I rarely speak to them and I hate it. I don't like to be an introvert person it sucks.
Not being in the moment has been a great way to waste my entire life
this statement is so real for me right now
The struggle of INFJs... :(
I'M SO happy to know I'm not alone, I've always felt so different than everybody else.
😂 same here
Siku Vitall same. :/
"heres the easiest way to tell the difference between INFP and INFJ"
*rubs hands together and puts on a grin*
"INFJs have a hard time being in the moment, and INFPs tend to have trouble with time management and thinking in logical steps...."
welp. back to square one.
The statement you have quoted helps me sort it out. I have trouble staying in the moment because I can see either where something is heading and then analyze future possible outcomes, or because, I busily read whomever is around me and play ping-pong with my relationship with them in that setting. This is all going on in my head. I'm probably just the weird lady eating her weird lunch at the end of the table. PS: 4th edit
Who cares??? Your comment isn't going to affect my life. Except for the twenty seconds I wasted reading your comment and typing a reply.
F**, those are both me.
Marvin Alain Jose Sinchioco Same. lol
@@wildwoodtress omg I edit my shit so much
i did that test and the P/J part was literally 51/49
me too! kind of neat.
... hmm.
Same here.
seems that a curse of being an INFJ, or maybe its just me, but everything ends up being in the middle.
I was 51% J 49% P
I feel like I'm literally both. Wtf. I'm confused
Samee :/
thats because the meyer-briggs personality test was never meant to be 100% accurate, but more so a general idea. the truth is our personalities can change slightly from time to time based on our environments and how we react or if we have a significant change in our lives/ways of thinking. you're a living, breathing, evolving human being and you will never just be one personality your entire life
Me also . Strongly inf but split p/j. More j in my old age, maybe, but self-expression important, too. Rigid pigeonholes are only good for sorting mail : )
Same
I thought I was the only one, damn
I think I am an INFJ bc I doze off into space during conversations and tend to pause because there is just too much running on my mind lol!
So basically you're an INFJ if you watched this video.
Lol
This guy is a genius. I wish to see you with more “Signs that you’re _____.”
I also want comedy so I want to see you in a video like “Signs that you’re a piece of shit.” Seriously though, it’ll be hilarious.
So then I suppose that based on what you're saying, that watching a video of Jim Carry would make you him as well - Or something to that effect... How does watching a video on something make anyone anything? Well, unless of course you're watching gay porn or something. Suppose that could make you something. #nohomo
I think Andre may have been making a reasonable prediction, myself. I think using the information from the video to cause one to contemplate his or her place on the scale (as opposed to using intuition gained from interaction) is an example of using introverted intuition, hence being basically an INFJ. Rebel, if you've taken an MBTI and it determined you use intuition heavily, I think you may benefit from further study to enhance the accuracy of your intuition. You may also consider retaking the MBTI, and perhaps explore your homosexual tendencies with less trepidation. Your self-esteem will thank you. Straight guys who are probably tired of having to defend their secure sexuality may also thank you.
Hahahaha
I'm starting to feel like I'm INFJ with INFP traits. I'm a chameleon but definitely not a people pleaser. Inner peace is the most important thing to me ABOVE ALL ELSE.
If it looks like strawberry pie, tastes like strawberry pie, smells like strawberry pie, then it probably is strawberry pie.
You are infp then
s fz Exactly.
i would reccomend taking the 16 personalities test
Yeah im mix between the two
I am an INFP but also very intuitive and see beauty in everything, I also like to think about how things work, It's so difficult to connect with people, specially now a days. Because I fall in love with minds and I do not like gossip and it seems that people don't really value life anymore, instead they value material things. It's so difficult and so frustrating! So glad that I came to this channel. Thank you!
I initially tested as an INFP but recently tested as INFJ and the more I look into the differences, the more confused I get 😭 like I feel so strongly about both but it all depends on the situation I'm in, who I'm around, and what mood I'm in. Truly, I feel 50/50 about both. I'm equally committed to individuality but also love to learn and help others and am very empathetic. I want to stay true to myself but I also don't like confrontation. I love to think deeply and keep it to myself but I also love to learn about many different subjects and sharing them and have a hard time finishing projects. I'm good at figuring out quantities and time and I'm also detail-oriented and good at picking up the little things in social situations. But how I go about moving through the world really depends on a lot of factors that can change daily. Does anyone else have this problem??
I totally get you! Have you had to face trauma in your childhood? cos it can reshape your nature through adapting and for example developing extraverted feeling function to survive or the contrary.... As for myself I feel I swap between both too... and I can perfectly identify in which situation I'm which actually... Have you now solved out this question of yours? cos I can see you wrtote this a few years ago... so you might have some insights to share here :) all the best!
I feel like i am Both
@@alexadellastella5247 That is very interesting. I feel like both aswell. Your mention of trauma rings true and as I recover I feel like my personality is shifting. What an adventure!
Yes, I do too feel like I am both
This is so interesting because I feel I am both too. Having experienced trauma seems to a common thread in those that relate to both INFP and INFJ. Trauma from a covert narcissist relationship and the subsequent healing process seems to blur the lines between both. I can be either depending on the situation, I think more research is needed on my part here.
As an INFJ, the practice of yoga and meditation helped me a lot to control awareness and thoughts ! As a result I find myself enjoying "being in the moment" more often when I want to !
I like how making a guide for the INFJ personality is such an INFJ thing to do.
Although i assume your target audience will probably have had the pleasure to explore there mental aspect to.
INFPs, where yall at!!!
Here! 👋🏻
As an INFJ I relate to all of these things. Being in the moment is always a struggle, but as a musician I find that performing or recording is one of the few times in life that I can actually be fully in the moment. Maybe it's one reason why I chose this career. Every other social situation is endless analysis, connecting the dots and anticipating the future...
I still don't know if I'm either INFP or INFJ..
Did you find out yet?
It is possible to be both.
Me neither. I believe I am an INFP because I tend to procrastinate and only work when in close to a deadline
@@j.ronnygibson same
@@theErin nopE
Recently I took the personality test and I discovered that I'm 49% Infj and 51% Infp. Which makes sense to me because I can relate to both these personality types. Depending on the situation and people around I can fluctuate between the two. Example if Im around a close friend I'm giving and more concerned about their feelings or motivations. Also I become more outgoing then when I'm around people I don't know. I then focus on my inner feelings and motivations. I am also more reserved because I'm listening as a way to learn about those I don't know.
That's impossible according to the theory. You cannot be two personality types at the same time
I know this comment is one year old but I wanted to respond anyways.
You can't be both INFP and INFJ because they are completely different, they literally share no functions:
INFJ Ni Fe Si vs INFP Fi Ne Ti.
I think you shouldn't rely on 16personalities to type yourself because it often mistypes people and the questions are full of stereotypes, ex: Feelers can't be logical, thinkers are robot, intuitives are genius (a lot of sensors are mistyped as intuitives), extroverted are party animals ecc.
I thinks studying every functions is way better than 16p to understand your type
I keep bouncing back and forth when testing so thank you for this. After watching this video I’ve realized that the testing is correct. I bounce back and forth between INFP and INFJ over the years. In highschool I was INFP but as I gained experience in college I became INFJ. Then went back into INFP because of my artistic career, then switched into management career wise, so now I am INFJ again and relate to that more. Crazy.
I'm confused with my personality type. I'm stuck between INFJ and INFP. 😂
Edit: After one year of researching this and checking my cognitive functions, I am an INFP. 😁
I know, when I hear infj's traits I was like yeah that's relatable
And then when I hear infp's i also think it's relatable
Maybe because the inxp traits? I'm not sure I took the test and changing back and forth
@@missyuu9348 I edited my comment. I’m an INFP. You can look into cognitive functions.
I've always been amazed by how in the majority of IDENTICAL twins 1 is an INFJ and the other is an INFP. My father in law & his identical twin brother were a great example of this. They were fascinating to watch when they were trying to work TOGETHER ... they left no stone unturned! 😉
I took two tests. One said INFP and the other INFJ
Delano Santiago You're an INFJ because if you were an INFP, you wouldn't have retaken the test.
You Are Beautiful I didn’t do it to retake it I just ended up trying two different tests. It’s possible to have a blend of the two personalities though.
Delano Santiago Yes, it is. I think it's possible to have both personality traits. I also think it's possible to relate more to one type than the other. Have you found your type ?
You Are Beautiful yeah it kinda goes between the two.
It is possible. I am both INFP and INFJ. In my personality test results it keep showing the same thing which is the difference between the two traits are only about 2-3% for me so i may crossed those characteristics. Which means sometimes I'm INFJ and sometimes I'm INFP.
Personally, I’ve taken the official test multiple times, and always seem to get either INFJ and INFP. I know personality is sort of a spectrum; no one is exactly one type or the other, so I guess I’m kinda both. And they’re both personality types that I’m happy with.
I'm text book INFJ, I'm a Pisces and I'm being treated for clinical depression. It couldn't get any worse.
Just a girl * lmaoo me
Im infj and pisces too, hopefully you overcome depression
Oh, thank you, guys. I'm good. Taking it day by day. ♡
Me too!! Pisces, major reoccurring depression, and the cherry on top... *drumr roll* general anxiety disorder #JustKillMe lol
Best of luck.
100% INFP here. Especially the weaknesses are spot on and the brainstorming.
Most people: Let's go see the new movie.
INFPs: Oh! Looks like that new movie was released ...
Why do they say that? I m not an INFP so that s why I ask
I can't speak for everyone, but for me, it's because saying outright that I wanna do something sounds bossy to me, and I want to ensure that the other person genuinely wants to go, so I ask in a way that gives the other person the power to essentially make the decision (and it makes it so the other person can feel like they came up with the idea OR it can also give the other person an easier time turning down the idea without feeling bad cuz saying no sometimes feels mean to do). I also grew up with parents that would call me selfish and roll their eyes whenever I tried asking for things (like to watch a movie), so it could have stemmed from that too. Is it manipulative? Yes. Do we mean it to be manipulative and harmful? No. It's a defensive and fearful attempt at being assertive :P
I do this too (I think I'm an INFP -- but I used to test as an INFJ). It feels manipulative and I hate this about myself. But I'm usually pretty easy going and I assume the other person will have a stronger preference so I want to give them an out.
Sooo... I still believe I am both..
SlayHer 5 you can be an INFJ have traits of INFP and vice versa. These personalIty traits aren’t that concrete and can even change as you mature and time goes on. You can take a Myers Briggs personality test online for free if you’re really curious and it will give you exactly what percent of each trait that you are.
This is just false and bad advice. You cannot change types throughout your lifetime. Your type is more how you approach the world and how you are driven, not little personality quirks that are surface level. Do research into the functional stacks before relying on the tests that give you percentages for each letter in the acronym, because these test results tend to be very misleading and have lead huge amounts of people all over the internet to get completely false information that they start spreading all over in comments and other nonsense. Also, pay attention to the exact meanings of words in descriptions; for example, INFP preferring "authenticity" of self vs. INFJ preferring "genuineness" of others. You really have to take everything exactly and literally if the descriptions are accurate and based on the teachings of Jung, not coming from some colorful, whimsical, feels-good, bogus personality test website.
Infp focus more on their own feeling and morals. While infj focus more on others feelings and change according to the groups needs. So just try to find out where you focus your feeling towards.
Mr. NoName Thank you!
Same here
I'm an INFJ and my good friend is INFP, so was curious about this video. It's spot on for both of us. She is more grounded and musically and athletically inclined - basically a bit more present. She always suggests things and asks if I want to do something rather than stating her own desire to do something. Yet I get trapped more into people pleasing than she does, but can also take command of a project when needed, which is often since I work as a project manager! And of course, I am so in my head, planning, wondering, putting pieces of puzzles together all the time. She does this too I believe, but can drop into being in the moment much faster and easier than me. Your assessment is so accurate, I find this fascinating! What's lovely is discovering that there is a whole group of people out there who think and feel the way I do. There is relief in that for some reason. Thank you!
Debbie L My boyfriend and are like that. I'm an INFJ and he's an INFP. Well I'm better at logic and math calculations, those where you use rational thinking. In the other hand, he's a passionated poet and writer, that cares about feelings and beliefs. Do you think we'll have a long last relationship? Cause I think we complete each other
It's definitely possible Adali 3. This past week I learned another long time friend of mine is an INFP too. So these two personality types can really compliment each other, especially when they recognize how they operate differently and how to manage those slight differences. It's easier in friendships though, where romantic relationships are always more tricky. And I'm thinking that even more important than personality type is whether or not a person has awareness of their wounds so to speak and has done some work around those. The gentler they are with themselves, the easier it will be to manage a relationship's inevitable challenges. A poet and writer sounds very interesting, you might have a good one there. :)
That was the clincher for me.. directly stating what you want. I was thinking "why the hell wouldn't you just state what you want to do?!" Lol and Debbie, infj cares about feelings too.. case in point, the lovely response to that random question about people you don't know ;) I'm sure you have a big, beautiful infj heart!
Thank you, that was so sweet! I would actually do this all day if I could. That's why I'm tuning into Bo Miller too, so I can do more of what I love...one day...soon. :)
What is it about this INFJ/INFP combo? lol! My and my bestie are INFJ and INFP.
I was in deep pain the other day but instead of helping myself, I helped a friend in the same situation
This was great! I'm an INFP, and my best friend is an INFJ. This just made me think of our interactions and I really enjoyed it. Thanks!
Same my bff is also an infj and I clicked this video because of it .
I'm an infj and my bff is an infp we get along really good ❤️
Tbh this comment section feels like family because I feel like we all understand eachother in some type of way
I am an INFP and my sister is an INFJ, she’s my best friend as well and it feels so good to share things that I would never do easily with others.
Same lol
I was going to say something about staying in the moment - but I couldn't stay in the moment long enough to pay attention to what I was thinking, then I realized that I didn't really know anything about staying in the moment. ; )
Haha! Good stuff, 12cunow!
Back in the 70s we used to say, “be here now”
She Who Plays : I know - In fact, I had the album set and the book, by Ram Dass called " Be Here Now" I am sure that if I read it today - I would "get it" a lot more than I did back then. Namaste : )
12cunow haha soo true!
weed????
This is the best infp vs infj. I related to infp a lot even though I’m an infj and started thinking I was infp instead. So I looked up the difference and still wasn’t sure and this vid just made me realize I’m definitely an infj. Thanks!
I AM CONFUSEEEED. I can relate to both!!
I would never do something just to please others or just because it would be more “normal”, but at the same time I could not make a decision that I feel right to myself knowing it would cause conflicts...but not because I care about others opinions about that choice, just because I would feel PERSONALLY not well (and maybe regret the decision) in a conflicted environment.
About the talking thing, I can surely express theoretical information better than my own feelings. But I CAN put my feelings in words...people may not get what I say, but TO ME my own words make sense (maybe partially though, there is always a part in my feelings that I can’t put in words, it’s just an internal energy that basically I can just experience).
My weakness could be not being in the moment...but my definition of “the moment” is just not being in the moment! I’ll try to explain...if I stare with a blank mind at my wardrobe, it isn’t a moment, it is a waste of seconds. If I stare at it thinking about the wood it is made of, the tree the wood came from, the person who painted it, other people who are staring at their wardrobe around the world at my same time...THAT is a “moment”. So it can’t be my weakness, because I consider it as part of the way I am!
Ok, I written too much things to which probably no one will relate, and which maybe no one will read, but now that I opened up a bit I feel better :’)
When I take these tests I got both and Its right at the cusp.. People are unique and cant be exactly like one thing you know?
Fuck! This comment is so damn relatable! Get out of my head lol
For those who are unsure.. How do you feel about Donald Trump? I'm not talking about your political leanings, but how you feel about him as a person.
This is one of the clearest explanations I've heard so far, and I've been diving into this INFJ-INFP stuff for quite some time now.
Awesome! Thanks for sharing! I'm glad it was helpful. :-)
I have found that being either of these two has been more of a curse than a virtue.
Feeling odd when young and rarely finding someone like me
Great video. I'm an INFJ and my wife INFP, you did a great job of explaining the difference.
Here's the link to grab the book for anyone that wants more INFJ goodness: ispeakpeople.com/infj-personality-guide/
Thanks, Master Human Video. :-)
Master Human Video INFJ info
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. However, the Myers Briggs Personally Test is interesting but somewhat incomplete. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So let's start breaking some myths about the INFJ Personalty Type
When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not attempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass.
INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss.
Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves.
INFJ's feel uncomfortable being around large groups of people. However, once you get them talking, they never shut up.
Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Some people become alcoholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed.
INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane.
INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows.
INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries?
INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. If they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they will lie to protect that person's emotions.
INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment or making mistakes.
INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice - then completely ignore their recommendations! They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn things the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook.
INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in.
Do not mistake a INFJ's confidence as egocentrismn. There is a difference.
INFJ's are frequently interpreted as posessing a Narcissist Personalty Disorder. This stereotype is absolutely false. A Narcissist loves adoration and attention. The typical INFJ cares more about others than themselves, sometime to their own detriment.
INFJ's dislike themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves.
The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's are compassionate which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. (2) They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (3) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. These are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer.
It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group.
The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological Disorder rather than a Personality Dysfunction). Fortunately, INFJ's are not prone to violent behavior. They give up easily, This is where the 'Door Slam' or simply walking away from an argument comes from. Once they reveal their true inner nature, you will begin to understand why only 1% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are so dam charming.
INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted)
INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots....even when there are no dots!
When the Zombie Apocalypse occurs, a INFJ will be eaten screaming, "I told you so... I told you so!"
Imagine your on the Titanic. It's 1912. You see a Iceberg coming. Your jumping around and telling everyone the ship is about to sink. People just laugh and finish their Champagne. Welcome to the wonderful world of a INFJ.
Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying.
Occasionally, you will notice a INFJ acting mysteriously, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes.
Never tell a INFJ they have a 'Old Soul'. They are absolutely terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't need the extra competition on who should run Heaven (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity....that would be considered cruel and unusual punishment.
Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials.
INFJ's have a difficult time forming a thought or idea into words. Yes. Someday a INFJ will develop Telekinesis and scare the hell out of everyone. Stop laughing, it's going to happen.
So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. There represent only 1% of 7.7 billion people on planet Earth according to MBTI statistics. In my opinion, this Myers Briggs Personality represents the noblest aspects of humanity....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Virtuous, Observent, Altruistic and Protective. Dispight their faults (which everyone has, no one is perfect) INFJ's are genuine. You get exactly what you see meeting these people. No convert agenda, deeply empathic intellectuals who sincerely care about you. They have a excellent sense of humor also (wink).
Oh, my im in love ♥️😁🌻
That was nice
Best videos by far, during these hard times I've beginning to question everything I've known abt myself and starting to lose track of my love for routines and coordination, I thought I've misinterpreted myself, maybe I'm not an Infj, but this video helps me gain my initial picture of myself.
Thank you. I can relax now.
I'm infj I read and I think deeper then most and I care more about my family and friends
Yes, there is a lot to it =)
Thank you for sharing your own experience with Se.
When I'm at the movies, I can get very lost in thought at certain points of the film that when a character makes a very important statement or the like, it can completely pass over my head. It can be frustrating, especially when my friends or family who had gone with me want to dissect the film afterward, and I can only speak of some parts of the movie because other times I simply did not pay full attention.
It's pretty ironic considering movie theaters are built for the purpose of being fully immersed in the experience of movie-watching, and even that kind of experience the Ni-Ti filters.
That is ironic, Lauren, but completely understandable. :-) Our minds work in very different, interesting ways. Thanks for sharing!
Same here!
I’m an INFP and my defining and most tragic trait is that I’m a hopeless people pleaser. Most of the bad decisions I’ve made in my life and what’s caused me to go into depressive spirals is this tendency to people please - when I end up doing something that upsets me simply because I don’t know how to say ‘no’
Their cognitive functions are very different! It's not just the letters that make a change.
lol the end part where you talk about the INFJ struggle of being in the moment hit so close to home for me. Whenever me and my ISTJ husband are out on a nature walk, he's more prone to looking around and enjoying the nature while I'm more prone to use the enjoyment of being in nature as fuel for my theorizing and analyzing. My sweet ISTJ husband always humors me and listens, but sometimes I think he wishes I'd enjoy some silence. but it's never quiet in my brain!!! I don't know how to!! lol!
I'm an INFP. I wuv INFJs.
And I as an INFJ LOOOOOOOOOOOOVE INFPs! :) Wish you a great day, as you read this possibly 4 months later!
We love you too!
Adelle Ramcharan
wuv, the cuddliest word in the world.
same lmao
Very interesting. I'm INFJ and my closest friend is INFP. We talk almost every day and knowing her has really enriched my life. But more importantly, we used to run a Sunday school class together and we always worked like a really well oiled machine. We could run the class with little to no preparation just by bouncing ideas off each other and getting into a kind of flow where I'd raise a topic and she'd expand on it. It was like a cool dance we did every Sunday. Unfortunately she was moved out of my class and it's suffered for that poor decision. I really miss working with her. It was so easy and so enjoyable.
People don't know how to leave good things alone when they're working out!
@@brianhoule3219 This is so true. I even asked why it was done and the response was basically "it's nice to try something different and you might even work better with the new person". It really did feel like watching a child break a perfectly good toy just for fun.
@@SomaKitsune Sometimes people don't like seeing things working good, especially if they didn't think of it.
I m supposedly an INFJ. But I seem to be both. I have traits of both.
This is an absolutely amazing breakdown description. Thank you so much this helps me more than I could ever express!
You're welcome, Brandon. :-)
I enjoyed this video but it missed one very important point that I would like everyone who left a comment to consider. Anyone can cross between being INFJ and INFP. Depending on the circumstances you are experiencing may determine which personality type is showing through. For the most part I fall into the INJF category. But at times, I show the INFP personality type. And it is possible to show both at the same time.
That's why I became a conspiracy theorist due this built in desire for searching for new knowledge. TV wasn't cutting it for me because propaganda doesn't work on me as an INFJ. I see right through the bs. Just discovered that I am an INFJ btw and things make more sense to me now. If you don't know who you are then you are lost. Thank you, great channel INFJ SOUL BRO!
conspiracy thing with me too. now i wish i had not been so eager to know!
I know exactly what you mean :)
I feel like conspiracy theories would stress out a typical INFJ for a couple reasons. Though the ni function does push one to seek out knowledge, the fe function seeks harmony. From my experience, conspiracy theories are mostly destructive in intent and at the very least cause heated debates full of turmoil. Furthermore, as the video pointed out, INFJs are acutely aware of social norms and they do their best to abide by them for external harmony and conspiracy theories go against the grain too much. Also the knowledge and patterns that the ni function tends to seek out are generally geared to better understand individuals and behaviors because of the secondary function and not so much who actually killed jfk.
I got rid of my TV many years ago...
CallMeNumber8 same here , tv is lacking in intellectual substance , i like pbs only or documentaries.
Loved the explanation between both personality types, as an INFP, I always wondered what was the difference. Thank you so much! 🖤
You have done a lot of self study it seems, accurate about INFJ !
For me, being able to read people so accurately is a pain sometimes. I know when someone is lying, I get really angry if I call them out on it and they continue to lie, it’s very annoying. The reasons people lie are to protect their ego, or someone else’s feelings, or from cowardice.
I can spot a paedophile from a mile off. They make my flesh crawl. But what do I do with that knowledge. People would think I’m crazy, if I said that someone is a paedo because I sense it!
Debbie Smith very true...
Being an INFP 9, I agree that maintaining or at least working towards the inner harmony is important. That being said, outer/social harmony is important to me as well, as it directly affects my inner harmony. Put me next to a sad person and I will react by talking to them briefly or more in depth (depending on how well I know them) and letting them talk it out if they want while I listen. Put me next to an aggressive person and you'll see me withdraw from the situation while searching for a quiet, peaceful space.
this video made me even more sure that I am both INFJ and INFP haha, i just relate so much to both!!
This makes sense. My INFP friend doesn't like her work so I told her just to do what I do- think about stories you want to write, art you want to do or investigate, music you've had on your mind and why, quotes etc-whatever takes your fancy while you're working. Surprisingly she said she just couldn't do that. And that made me think about how differently wired her brain is which led me to wonder how and then become lost in thought.
Someone help.
Okay so I can't read my own emotions, I never know what I feel, I don't know my values either, they change a lot. I am always feeling bad for others and worrying about waht they think of me, I am constantly trying not to stuff up anything, I am scared when others are mad at me. I want to fit in with others and understand others but I really want to understand myself but I can't idk how too.
I am bad at comforting others and bad at comforting myself. Emotions make me feel awkward but I do cry a lot and get emotional, Idk why I do, I never know when I'm in the right or wrong either. I often write down my thoughts and come back to them later searching for a label to put them under so I don't feel so alone and trapped.
I'm not much of a deep thinker, but I am an overthinker, big deep ideas hurt my mind and make me very very stressed giving me headaches. But I overthink everything and worry constantly about everything...it gives me a headache.
I spent years trying to read other peoples bodylanguage and social cues, I was told I had autism at 5 and mum thought I sucked at reading social cues, so I trained myself on my computer everyday with bodylangauge and other stuff. I now obsess over peoples bodylanguage and their tone, I am worried someone hates me based on a slightly change in their tone or whatever...I obsess over people but I still can't comfort others or help them with their own problems cause I'm stuck in my own and need to figure out mine...but I try to figure out mine through theres... I never get my emotions but when I'm sad, I have to talk it out to my brother, or vent it out online, I can't handle the emotion intensity in my brain by myself, I need someone else to help explain. I'm an idiot in my opinion, most things go over my head and I don't notice things until days later, I draw everyday and never notice my own drawing mistakes until a week later, I get overexcited and post the art online but instantly feel the need to take it down once I realize how much mistakes are in it but at first I get overexcited and do dumb impulsive things.
When I read one article about infj today, I got excited cause I resonated with it and I was so happy but then an hour later I realized that its just one interpretation of infj I read, and its not all so what is all, whats hte true meaning of infj..who knows how do I figure it out, how do I even know if I use ni or ne or se or si as aux or dom..no freeking clue, I've been searching this stuff up since 2017, Ive got thousands of tabs open and windows open about mbti and the thought of mbti never goes away, which I guess obsessions with topics is ni?...but I see ne in me wtih some things like I come up with lyrics for songs on the spot...Idk guys am I doing this right?..all this thinking really hurts my head. I was thinking maybe I just am an adhd disorganized infj...or maybe its my social anxiety making me care for others over myself and I really am just an infp. Well I don't care for others over myself, I just want to know if I'm doing the right thing, Ive been abandoned in the past and replaced so often that I have no clue what I'm doing and I don't trust my own ideas...is this maybe fi-si loop no clue?....ah this hurts my head so much...who am I , how do do I know who I am. How many people am I annoying right now, I really wish I knew. I just want to know. Its even harder, because as I write this, yeah I may be like this right now, but the next day my thoughts may be different again.
I can't figure out my myers briggs type cause theres just too many things in each type I relate too and too many different interpretations. Id say I'm by functions infj but by other im infp?..but no its just all wrong...heck maybe I'm istp but just an emotional once..is that even possible?
Does anyone else see my huge dilema...what am I doing!?...
Do you guys think I'm INFP or INFJ or some other type completely. To add on, I also am quite observant and good at photography....but I'm just really confused on fi at the moment, I overnaliyize people and obsess over others..but I still care more about my own problems over theres... wtf./..wth
@@saturniiiidae Same. Gosh. I thought Iam the only one
My test said I'm an INFP (60% P, 40% J) which makes sense to me as I relate to both P and J. This video really helped me see why the test leaned more towards P. Thanks!
My biggest hobby and my weakness is daydreaming. Does that qualify me as an infj?
I thought that was an infp thing... this is why I’m so confused
@@saturniiiidae that's right. I realised that the comment was a year old. I was very much into mbti and personality psychology at that time. To be honest now I don't care. It doesn't matter what type I am. It's better to understand yourself on your own, than to spend months trying to figure out the type and then wondering if the advice for the type will work. I prefer self observation now. So don't beat yourself up if you can't figure out your type. This typology system is flawed and has no scientific basis. Although I'm sure than I'm an introverted intuitive type because it has remained constant ...rest I can't figure out as it keeps on changing.
@@AS-ke6co - oh okay thank you :)
No. Everybody is constantly chattering to themselves in their minds. This is partly why meditation has been getting much more popular.
This guy actually knows what’s he’s talking about
"I Speak People"> sat at my desk seeing & hearing you speak got my whole attention, it came across to me so pleasantly laying out the info > you just kept speaking as if you were enjoying your teaching lesson for we viewers so I found it captivating>ah> after going thru many other "experts" on these topics who either bored me or seemed inept or came across somehow smug> but not you, your easy way of speaking as if you're a content person enjoying speaking in vids to strangers at such length. You never skip a beat & know the info so well that sharing it is easy for you. You did this concisely yet chock full of relevant info the think about. Like your style.
YarpwarSongs i like learning here too. First day first Video! Never heard of this and im 73yy and a INFJ mostly. And I Speak is easy to learn from. Wow. I even ordered the ebook.
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This really describes me well as infj. I find that experiencing my senses is very good experience for me. The more I experience in one setting, the better. I never forget those moments.
I'm totally a infj
I tried to explain a math problem to my friend and she blacked out and said she thought I stopped speaking english😂
I am an INFJ and my wife is an INFP. This made so much sense now that I have watched this!
I hear that INFJ is more like Gandalf and INFP is more like Frodo from LOTR
I think that's spot on, Michael. :-) Fantastic books!
I actually heard Frodo was INFJ....
The thing is who the hell would pick to be Frodo over Gandalf. This is my issue with being an infp...
Rob Vel "Who would pick to be Frodo?"
well...YOU. You choose to be an INFP by your actions and thinking patterns. Besides don't think about the Frodo from the movies (he is kind of lame) the Frodo from the book is a badass, and the author himself of the LOTR is an INFP. The thing about INFP's is that they DO have tremendous POWER (many of the most influential people in the world are INFP's) but this power is over people's ideals and how they THINK. INFP's are the catalysts of cultures and society (and so are INFJ's) it's just that the INFP does it in a more subtle way.
ohwow.. soo this is whyyyy i feel so much alike with frodo! thank you sir 🙏 i like frodo and there's nothing wrong with him.
As an infp i tend to overthink a lot, even thinking what will happen tomorrow or in the future that cause me to sleepless nights my mind can't shut off i am blunt and some people say i'm tactless when i'm just being honest with what i feel.. I am a hermit and a dork at the same time some think i was an extrovert coz of my high energy, my sense of humor and being spontaneous i can also multi task i can do a lot of things at the same time coz of my scattered energy i'm bored in routinary works, i want something exciting to motivate me i don't like conflict as much as i can i will avoid it but i will say to ur face what i truly feel no filter if ever ask something.. I hate liars and i can feel what/how people really is u can't fool me i can feel their aura i am kind and patient person just don't test my limits i love animals i hate people who are cruel to animals most of the times i feel sad coz people don't understand me i can be overwhelm in socializing with a lot of people and need time to be alone to charge myself like reading, designing, playing casual games or watching anime or korean shows, i can get obsessed about something i really love
I’m an infp and I overthink aswell. I also can get really obsessed with something if I am passionate for it 🤣
In your last comments on whether you are worse at Se or Te, the INFJ should be even worse at Te than the INFP, because for the INFJ it isn't even in the conscious function stack, but in the shadow functions, more explicitly, the PoLR function. Therefore, the INFJ must be better at Se than Te, even if the difference is minimal.
Other than that, I agree with all the points you have made, very good video!
Good point, Jen! Thanks for sharing. :-) Perhaps I should have said an INFJ's struggle is more with sensing, whereas an INFP's struggle is with thinking. INFJs are slightly more in touch with their logical side than INFPs, and INFPs are more in touch with their sensing side than are INFJs. That's what I was getting at but could have done a better job communicating. Glad you liked the video!
I fully agree with Jen. Both INFP and INFJ struggle with Te and Se because those are the inferior or blind-spot for both types.
The best way for me to differentiate these two personality types is to focus on tertiary functions.
INFJs show way more Ti while INFPs show relatively strong Si.
I’m an infp and my best friend is an isfp and it works out so great, she inspires me and I keep her from feeling like she’s alone
I've always said I like smoking weed because it helps me stay in the moment. Ironically INFJ here.
😁 smoke daily. . Makes me feels better
Same
This is why weed is so great for me as a fellow INFJ. Literally why I do it.
for me alcohol
I took this test about 15 years ago and forgot all about it until just recently an INFJ video showed up as a suggestion and I remembered I'm an INFJ, but never knew it was a rare type. I'm a complex individual.
Theses are good rules of thumb/foundation...but honestly i feel were much more fluid. I honestly feel im both an infj/infp i fluctuate it's the same as what the spiritual community calls an indigo/starseed/rainbow/crystal/earth angel/3rd gender/empath/psychic. All the same thing.
I'm an extreme people pleaser to a fault. I can not feel calm and at peace unless the people near me are at peace too. I had to learn to say no because people started to call me in the middle of the night and both my friends and family have for years and years and years told me semi seriously that I should get paid for all the hours I help people. My greatest reward is peace and gratitude though, I think that if a while of my time can teach them tools to deal with things and find their inner selves, their confidence and overcome their insecurities then their life upgraded for all eternity. Basically everything I ever learn will sooner or later help somebody.
Being in the moment is difficult for me aswell,that brownie example you gave is spot on.however my sensory awareness allows me to hear and see everything going on around me whilst I'm off in my own head deciphering the universe because my timmies coffee tasted like hay.meaning I can simply take a few of those awkward seconds their staring at me getting pissy because i wasn't listening and review all the sensory data my ears and eyes picked up and recorded while I was out(in my noodle) and provide the correct or expected (depending on who your talking to)response to the conversation I skipped out on. Isn't that neat? I do that to people when I'm playing a video game or watching a documentary while they talk to me, i can absorb all incoming stimuli and retroactively sort and respond to them appropriately.
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That's really cool. ☺ I do that to an extent but, Im not able to retain hard info accurately. When I was younger I'd get in trouble for reading novels during algebra. However I could always repeat back what the teacher was reviewing. Then, the trouble would come when I had to figure my homework out on my own. 😅
I used to operate like this when I was a child. I used to frustrate the hell out of my year 6/7 teacher by reading while he taught and being able to respond correctly to questions about both as well. But I had no trouble with my homework.
Once my youngest son asked if he could brush my hair and tried looking fotlr the "eyes in the back of my head" cos he could not work out how I knew what he was doing from another part of the house. A combo of Mothers' intuition, perceiving or sensing, and listening. Now i can only do it sometimes. I miss the wholeness of it.
same here! its like im not in the moment cause im busy daydreaming but as soon as i snap out of it it's like my brain turns back time and fills me in on what i missed during the few seconds before. i think its cause our subconscious notices people (teachers, friends, etc) staring at us / the awkward silence / other sensory hints that show they know we aren't listening so we're unknowingly preparing ourselves for when we tune back in
I have done the test many times... The first time I got INFJ and I thought it really described me pretty well... After a while I did the test again like 3 times and all of them I got INFP and I also think I fit that description. So my conclusion is that I'm not one or another, I'm just both and it depends on thr moment, I don't know if it is possible or not, but I feel it that way. Also I think my mind is really powerful (not trying to show off or anything) so when I want to believe something I focus so much I end up believing it or acting differently
I am an extreme INFJ. I have 3 Guinness book record titles as a direct result of it too, but I never really enjoyed them because my mind was already on trying to advance to something new, more interesting to me and multiple levels beyond what I was doing currently. That, and titles are really beneath me. The best, God, King, teacher, verbal assassin, blah, blah, blah, what ever. Don't let your so- call title get your feelings hurt is my ultimate reflective thought to any of it, regardless of who you are or think you may be. That's where I will always stand. However, don't get me wrong. I am proud of my achievements with Guinness but it all just feels like a been there, done that sort of thing to me. No big deal. Never even hung the certificates on my walls, they are somewhere packed up now and they are fine where ever they are. And though I'd post and speak about my Guinness titles online, I rarely tell people in the real world a about them because I don't want anyone making a big deal about them around me. Just feels awkward.
I also never really involve myself with most of the world's fads and desires for meaningless items of the materialistic nature. Don't care for other's fashions and name brands at all. I'd rather make my own design and wear it, than to buy a Nike product or such, especially since I've been enlighten with knowledge of these companies ways of corruptions since an early age. Don't eat fast food (or keep it at an extreme minimum) because I know that they are poisoning us and also profiting off of us while doing so. So people basically pay them (the corporations) to kill them slowly. I'd rather buy organic and make my own food, which I do most of the time. I knew before anyone was even speaking about it much that Big Pharma's medications are only a way to prolong your sickness(es), only to squeeze every cent out of you that they possibly can before your inevitable demise. I even noticed to go as far as to say that they work off of one another systematically. Set you up and knock you down. The products poisons us over time and sends us to Big Pharma as they continue to poison us with all of these synthetic meds, which they pass off as an illusion for hope. All this comes as a natural common sense to me. I have enough insight to know the games of our governments and shadow governments. everyone is beating up on Trump but at the end of the day, he is just another pawn under the persuasive influences of his handler(s) just like all presidents before him in this messed up system. If people saw the bigger picture, they'd know that we'd make more of an impact by not voting at all. A vote for anyone by anyone is nothing more than validation to them that you are still buying in into their bullshit and they will know from that, that they still got you... "Hello!!! Oh, you're so gullible McFly"!!! No matter who you vote for, they are still each a fist connected to the same body that will start punching the shit out of everyone as they always do once in office. You're attacking Trump, that's what they want you to do, while you pay them no attention because they keep you distracted with his entertaining dumb ass antics. And as usually, the masses fall for the illusion once again putting us all back at square zero because this simple concept is to hard for common folks to grasp, or believe even.
I even know that Hollywood thinks that they are slick by exposing truths to the masses in plain sight, in forms of entertainment. I know that they cast spells and that "Holly" is a type of "wood", widely known for carving magic wands out of. They spell out words in scripts and cast for actors to pull your minds into their (the 1%'s) visions, which are filling those who's minds are weak enough to fall subject of their subliminal witch craft with influences and guidance in which benefits the will of those behind the scenes. I'd be highly insulted if anyone ever felt as if they can manipulate me. It would also imply to me that they may have felt as if they were more clever than I am, which is even more insulting to me. I rarely try to watch what is popular on television to people at times or whatever, but most times just lose interest in a series fast and never finish it. Mainly into documentaries and things like that. I sometimes watch movies every now and again as I depict and analyze what the writer(s) must have been thinking when they created a scene and things like that.
I can read just about anyone at will. I can't be read unless I want to be. I know how to conceal the sense of my vibrations and energies completely from anyone on the fly. Without a vib to pick up on, It won't happen. My body will never reveal to you any clues for you to pickup on physically either. I could lie to you with the look of Jesus Christ (a fictional character to me) on my face and you'd have no idea as I am extremely efficient in covering ever single detail in my planing but I don't feel a need to lie to anyone, so I don't have to. People will always only know of me what I give, which is always selective. I can read and analyze a person based their on vibs alone, yet so many other things would be picked up upon in which I can also read people, such a body language, tone and such. I know that these gifts are within anyone but bringing them from out of dormancy, requires levels of self- inner enlightenment that most of the masses may never reach. That's what happens when your lack of thinking insists that others step in and think for you - if that statement applies to you. But I know it doesn't apply to you, because if it did, you sure as hell wouldn't be this far down in reading this. An average, typical mind would have stopped long ago. I haven't encountered anyone who could lie to me about something that is relevant to me in any way and I not know the truth - if it doesn't pertain to me in a way in which it would have some type of effect on me or mine, I don't care about it away. It really is like a 6th sense when it comes to being intuitive. I can't explain why or how I know certain things, I just do.
I usually isolate myself from any and everything for months to go through what I call mental training in my Hyperbolic Mind Chamber. That is where all of my creative endeavors, focusing and practicing takes place. I never work with anyone. I only work alone. The exceptions would be my closest friends, family or an earned trust. And even they don't really see my creative side in action as how I do when I'm alone and totally letting lose. I even drop out of contact with my closest friends for weeks, months and sometimes years at a time because I am basically busy tuning into other things within myself. But still be able to get together with them after so long and be as cool as if it were just yesterday. Time is nothing more than a necessary illusion, in my mind.
I have to be perfect within my craft, I can't take a step back creativity wise ever, only pushing boundaries to go even further ahead is excepted by me, for me. My craft gets most of my attention outside of my immediate family and I can tell that I have enhanced abilities within my crafts as to the point where my abilities work for me even in my state of slumber. Nothing short of a woman can get away from myself when I am creating :-D Many times I've waken up out of mid sleep only to correct something that I was working on in reality from tips that I've gotten from myself within dreams. This is happening now all through out the completions of my projects currently. A self evolved ability spawned from my intolerance of imperfection .I can feel myself thinking within my own dreams. I have total control over what I think, say and do in my dreams. I think of things that I may have no idea as to why I am even thinking of, only to have it present itself to me in maybe a day or two, or sometimes minutes away and even close to instantaneous. Example, reminiscing on an old episode of something that I used to love as a child, something that I really wouldn't expect I'd see again unless I sought it out, only for it to pop up to me somewhere, where as to having me saying that I must have thought it up. I do have an logical theory - Later on that.
I study and research everything to my heart's content. My strongest dedication has been in studying and observing the power of words, for decades with my blood, sweat and tears. It's given me a very uncanny ability to manipulate words in any way that I so desire. I have absolutely zero problems explaining anything that I want to in painstakingly vivid details in a complex manner but still simple enough for anyone to follow alone, usually swapping out ridiculously big words for equally efficient smaller ones when I feel it necessary for an easier comprehension level for the general public. Basically, I am doing for overly complex and complicated writing what Bruce Lee did with Wing Chung, thus creating Jeet Kune Do. Basically I now keep the flow of what I'm writing fluid for readers by using more generally public relate-able words, I guess I'll call them. For instance, I could say something like "I feel as if I have enhanced my craft exponentially over the years" but I could always just say that they've enhanced considerably over the years and it would still mean the same thing basically but more people know what "considerably" means, opposed to "exponentially", is what my assumption would be based on an instinct, and or just common sense knowledge of word usage. By doing so, I find it to be more effective for anyone to be able to read what I have to say without seemingly trying to look like an over educated big shot. Now what you get from it is up to self. I usually make references to my connection with and power of manipulation over words to that of Magneto's ability to control the elements of magnetism lbvs. To be (fucking) continued, I got more to say but no more space to type here so I''m taking it into the comments.
Continued... Rhyming words come to me so fast that I indulge in marijuana (although it isn't necessary anymore), just to slow my thoughts down so I can get a better sight of it all as to put it into better perspective as a whole. When I acquired my 3rd Guinness record title, it was on 7-27-2007. I rapped 852 syllables in 42 seconds. Basically 20 syllables per second. While it may It seem fast to everyone else, to me it seemed as if the words where coming slowly enough for me to see and read them as they breezed through my thoughts. My ability to rhyme immense amounts of words (perfectly and) at will is unreasonably unfair to 99.999% of MC's and reasonably unfair to the rest lol. Even more impressive is my ability to form them into punchlines, metaphors and conundrums just as fast while making perfect sense of multiple concepts, mostly at levels that is just way too complicated for an average mind to even begin to comprehend. I believe that my curiosity, dedication and understanding of words and how to use them efficiently in terms of spelling, grammar and exploiting the power of their meanings has honestly made me a word wizard, because I understand every aspect of science behind words and language. I think so far ahead that while thinking of one calculation of thoughts, my mind is already calculating relevant pertaining thoughts, many, many steps ahead.
I love hard and If I love someone and I feel that we are in an agreement to be exclusive, than I want all of her in return for all of me, or nothing. If It's a woman that I am not in love with but I do like or is just infatuated with without feeling as if we are not in agreement to be exclusive, then what she does outside of me is of no concern to me. If I am involved with someone as a couple though, there wouldn't even be a chance of me getting with another women, unless I've been crossed by the one I was feeling. That's when gloves are off. it's usually a case of fool me once shame on me, fool twice then you may have no more chance, if I truly love you. After that, "you know you done fucked up, right"? My love is the greatest thing a women can lose from me because once it's gone, she'd never get it back. So either I can love and be one on one exclusive and remain faithful, or I could mingle with no true attachment to any one woman and feel content with flings because I wouldn't be in love with a female of a fling status, thus not having any jealously of feelings or territorial dominance. So basically, if you are mine and we are a couple, I don't want you fucking around as I wouldn't do it to you. But if you're a just a fling, when you aren't in my presence, you can do what ever you like without receiving any flack from me about it.
I also feel like I have, what I refer to as my "Spidy senses", which are my intuitions about any and everything. My deep connection and concentration within the realms of playing with rhythms, mental mathematical calculation of word structuring within patterns, punchlines, multiple conundrums and such for over 3 decades of training from 1987 to present day takes my mind off to different frequencies that are different from that of our everyday physical realm. I also tend to know about things that I have never known about before hand in a matter of moments of researching. I have no problems with absorbing enlightening information that is of substance while deciphering an extracting useful knowledge from the added none sense from contents in which I read or watch. Like the INFJ personality traits for instance, I totally get it, and in my case, could even expound upon this exponentially based on personal experiences. I said "exponentially" lol
I also died three times before - clinically. In 2004 I was put on life support and coded three times from an asthma attack, I've been clinically dead for over 45 mins in totally and after a week, I woke up from the life support system on the very same day the doctor was trying to discuss with my mom that she may want to consider pulling the plug on me because I was only still alive by the work of the machines. I have so many theories about that that I would have to write a book about it even to begin to feel like I'm scratching the surface. I am doing it now, in a way.
This post is nothing more than another seed being planted. Someday this post, amongst many others that I've posted will be sought out, observed and peek the interest of so many and I know this because I can see it. Not sure when it will spark hard, but I'm guessing after my physical and spiritual departure from this realm someday. However, that won't be the day of my death because there is no such thing as true death for light (spiritual) beings. My conscious will only resurface somewhere else with even more knowledge and experience to share and nurture, and even observe.
I totally believe that I understand what the Mandela Effect is, and how my conscious shifts through different dimensional realms play a part in it for me. I know that because of it, a part of my conscious from an alternate reality found it's way to my (physical) being here. For this, in many ways shows signs of not being my native Earth. I remember Fruit Loops, while this reality knows Froot Loops. "Mirror Mirror" on the wall is what I dominantly remember over "Magic Mirror". I can't recall Forrest Gump's Mom telling him that "life -WAS- like a box of chocolates, I (as clearly as day) remember her saying "Life -IS- like a box of chocolates.
I know it is a lot to read lol. However, for me, this is nothing. I'm only stopping because I have so much more to ramble on about but since I am not trying to squeeze it all in one post, I'll just pick up from here. These are my public testimonies in which I will continue to post because something is compelling me to do so. And by something, I mean an hierarchy within myself.
You may be thinking that I sat up here and have taken so much time to type all of this but thrust me, this is nothing. You should see my FaceBook page lol. This took about 20 -- 45 mins for me tops, but I felt the need to type it, so here it is.
Rebel XD if you ever write a book, i'd love to read it. :)
Ps. Nice name
Very interesting. Thank you, I appreciate that. I have been contemplating gathering all of my "spear of the moment" public writings (such as this) and organizing them on a blog or something. I think I'd have a few of them if I gathered it all constructed them as books. Thanks again for the name compliment as well. I have to tell people, that the "XD" is NOT a smiley face. It stands for something and it has ever since I came up with it 1987 - a time when the internet would have been look upon as something from a sci-fi movie. I jokingly tell people that I am just ahead of my time, but I secretly don't be joking lol. My thinking definitely is.
Rebel XD i'd love to know what does it stand for, if you don't mind sharing :)
Sure, no problem. It stands for "eXtremely Dope". Of course we all know that the word "extremely' begins with an "e", but "Rebel ED" just would not look, or sound right at all lol.
I just knew he's an INFJ since the beginning... just look at when he smiles!! ;)
I’m Still not sure, I kinda feel like I’m having both struggles going on. I’m consantly stuck in my head with my thousands of ideas and plans and then I end up just thinking through the whole day not doing anything productive. I also feel somewhat special but also have a low self esteem at the same time like I feel that I have a visionary’s mindset and I could solve so many problems but I never get done anything. The ideas are coming from within (intuition) and I want to make an impact on the world yet I’m also very curious and want to understand everything that’s going on under the surface . I also can connect everything and this kind of overthinking drives me crazy and flashes out all my energies..I can also see someone’s true self without even trying I can just feel everything what’s going on with others. I really want to help ppl as individuals but I also think and see a bigger picture to everything like a real idealist. I also second guess myself all the time and change my opinions on a lot of topics from time to time bc I always think that there are more truth to everything bc everyone seeing things differently and therefore everyone is right .. idk everything is so complex even my own mind I sometimes think I really am crazy. Hope this wasn’t too boring for you to read, I also hope there are some ppl out there who can relate as I often feel alone with this mindset:)
elekesful I can definitely relate
Hey soulmate 👋 nice to meet you :)
"I end up just thinking through the whole day not doing anything productive" - OMG this is so me. I also Identify with both.
Well now that I searched the crap out of all mbti types and did loads and loads of tests I’m (almost) pretty sure I’m an infj, but one sign to prove that you’re actually an infj is that you’ll always second guessing yourself ahahah xx
You're not alone. I can totally relate :)
Very clear and helped me understand my weaknesses as an infp and understand my infj husband. Thank you!
I want to watch a video like this with an INFP talking. Because I feel like you're being bias for INFJs???
This actually helped realize that I am definitely an INTJ. I'm acurate with body language too, but I don't use it to keep harmony or blend in. I learn more about someone else by observing them. Sometimes, I see that someone is shy, and I will help them. If I'm not being true to myself it's because I feel insecure at that moment.
I'm at 50% of INFJ and 50% INFP. Dr. Ceasar told me after having answered questions that I'm half of each So vs doesn't work for me.
Thanks to your video I am almost certain that I am an INFJ.
I have only started to dab into MBTI last week so I still need to learn more about it to be 100% sure. I relate a lot to both INFJ and INFP, and many videos confused me even more. But this video, especially the last point, made me think that I am more like an INFJ and that my "INFP features" are either things that also apply to INFJ or are due to my own twist of being and things I developed over the years due to education, work on myself and life continually slapping me in the face. Hopefully figuring this out will give me new keys to improve, grow, and become a better version of myself.
So again thank you.
INFJs are judging
INFPs are perceiving
That’s literally it.
...unless INFJs experience the same amount of pain as us..
Excellent delivery with your intent. Thanks for the investment with this explanation. You 'cleared the air' in measurable terms!
What about the idgaf.
Joking! Interesting stuff.
I thought I was an INFJ like for a year but always doubt it. Some sites point out that Fi is ndividualistic and that Fe values harmony more. I saw myself as a caring person who was always helping around and thought Fe fitted me better for that reason. After reading a lot and bingewatching a bunch of videos I can declare that I'm one of those INFPs that thought they were INFJ. Thank you! Your video was really helpful.
Depending on what test I take I can be an INFP or INFJ.
I don't know why but being in this comment section surrounded by all INFPs and INFJs feels like home. 🙈❤️
Love you folks! We are the best ❤️
So when I took the test (many times over the years), I consistently get INFP (occassionally ENFP). While I agree with a lot of stuff like the difficulty managing others and finishing projects we start, I disagree with a lot of the concepts on how we think. I'm gonna go through each kinda briefly (but it'll take me a while because I need to cross reference the video to make sure I'm responding accurately to it). I agree that INFPs care about being true to themselves. This is valid in my life experiences, but I'm not sure if that is unique to INFPs. Similarly, I don't think trying to express yourself with your words is unique to INFPs; I would argue most people have been in situations where they were using words to express something about themselves, though perhaps at varying degrees of complexity. Most of the INFPs I've spoken with would agree that we are soft spoken though. I also agree that we come across as thinkers because we are thinkers. We may not fixate on one topic for as long as an INFJ, but in my experience, I do my research as I'm pondering various things. What might be different is that as I research things, I slowly drift into other things (e.g. gravitational waves => black holes => gravity => speed of light and mass => subatomic particle => anti matter etc...) In that way, it may not be as deep into an individual topic, but it's still deep thinking in the sense that I'm trying to integrate what I'm learning about each individual one to better understand/theorize a larger picture spanning those topics (e.g. black hole collisions, the influence of gravity on a massless particle, how gravitational waves might influence light perception, how anti-particles could come into play). Now I agree that for INFPs inner harmony is important, but again I assume that's true for most people. I agree that INFPs want to help people as NFs, but their motivation for doing so isn't always self-fulfillment. Like INFJs, INFPs are in tune with other people's microgestures, body language, and subtle differences in behavior and speech. Sometimes, INFPs will alter their own personalities (be more extroverted, act funnier, or be quieter, less opinionated) to try to balance out the group dynamic or cheer a friend up. Unlike INFJs though, this isn't viewed through the lens of conforming. INFPs are aware of others expectations of them, but don't care about them unless they are friends' expectations of reliability. In fact, if accused of conforming, INFPs definitely get defensive or distant. That being said, so long as we aren't being accused of conforming, INFPs definitely consider social interactions deeply, often planning in advance various scenarios that may never come up so that they can handle them in the most harmonious or tactful way possible to meet a desired end. We are also more likely than some other personality types to inconvenience ourselves for the sake of others, again, provided that we don't not feel like we're being taken advantage of or being called a follower. With regards to social interactions, I would argue that INFPs are more analytical than INFJs for the sole reason that INFJs have a harder time being in the present moment. At the same time, both signs are known for zoning out, if about different things or for different reasons (INFPs I've spoken to daydream in a more escapist/philosophical way while INFJs seem to be thinking deeply about something they've been interested in). Epiphanies are not unique to INFJs or any personality type; those a-ha moments you refer to happen to anyone who understand something after not initially getting it. I do agree that INFPs have many interests and projects that they do not fully explore or finish, but its not specific to NEW things (i.e. religion/spirituality, purpose of life, science, social interactions, the evolutionary significance of different traits). I do agree that INFPs brainstorm better with others (at least for me). Anyhow, that's my critique of this video for whoever cares.
Infj. Lol that's true, probably why I'm writing a book then! Always found it easier to write :) I don't dress formal but I do walk with purpose lol. I am all about authenticity. I love that I'm able to deal with feelings so well :)