What a Man Really Needs | The MarriageToday Podcast | Jimmy and Karen Evans
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- Опубліковано 23 чер 2024
- Men and women are equals, but men gravitate to the place where they are honored.
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Wow. I needed this. "Let your husband fail" . .. . . what a concept. Always thought a wife was supposed to do the exact opposite. . . Thanks Pastor Jimmy.
Absolutely love these guys, Jimmy and his wife are a beautiful and transparent example of our Heavenly Father’s grace! Thank you both for the seeds you sow for a healthy and Godly marriage. Life changing, much love and blessings 🙏🏽✨
-Honour and respect.
( let him fail not constantly correct him )
-confront him is ok ; it's how you say not what you say.
- sexual touch
- be his buddy and a best friend
- support at home .
I really hope wives are listening and husband's,nothing but the truth spoken 👏🏾 🙏🏾
We are watching and learning to be better wives 😊
We are watching and learning to be better wives 😊
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God to me to change my perspective on sex. He said, remember when your husband wants you sexually it's his way of telling you he loves you. This changed my heart and healed some wounds caused from past abuse.
Men can have sex with women they don’t love.
My husband was very disrespectful.. Never kind.
Very difficult to offer him sweet words of kindness and gentleness. I tried so many times for so many years... 38 years married. Going through divorce now. I was dying inside which in turn turned into physical health issues.. Chronic health issues. So so sad. 🙏🙏🙏
I’m so sorry. Listening to Jimmy and Karen, and applying their principles, turned our marriage around. It’s better than it ever was, and I thought we were in love back then. We both got into very bad habits- sarcasm is definitely a tool of the enemy. Continue praying for your husband; it isn’t too late. Praying for you, your health, and the resurrection of your marriage.
Yes, same here! They said talk to him and respect your husband the way you would Jesus. I know that Jesus would never speak to me the way my husband does. He also swears at our 26 year old son who farms with him. He is constantly bitter and the words from his mouth are like venom. We have been married over 32 years and I think of leaving him daily.
To: Karen Tillma -
Why haven’t you?
Perhaps facing a consequence like that might inform him effectively what is or is not acceptable to you?
Are you doing God a favor by pretending an unacceptable situation is ok with you? Is that honest?
If telling him isn’t working, could he need clearer, firmer boundaries enforced?
Are you being honest? With God, your husband, or yourself?
Or are you pretending you’re willing to cope with unacceptable behavior on the outside when the reality of your inside doesn’t agree? To keep the peace or save face? It doesn't keep the peace - your inner peace is disturbed enough to vent in comment sections to strangers. Complaining to us can't help effectively but make your more bitter by getting it off your chest for a few hours - until he does it again.
Would taking action for you that illustrates the fact that you don’t abide certain behavior be a clearer indication of what’s on your heart to your husband? Could that be a gift to him?
Why haven’t you?
It’s not as brave to post and vent your very understandable anger as it would be to turn your life upside down to support your truth, or at least put your foot down with the one it should matter most to. Right?
@@brightpage1020 you are the first person to call me on my feelings. I can’t decide if I’m angry at you or myself. The original poster gets prayers and I get a kick in the gut (or butt?) Thanks for your response. Since it’s posted here, I’m going to assume it’s given out of love.
Sounds like YOU we're trying to "change" him for almost 40yrs! Why did you say "I DO"? Money? Security? Looks? Your mother "stressing" you?
How old were you?
Did your dad/mom teach you what to look for in a HUSBAND? Did you listen?
There's a hierarchy of God that women are tempted/deceived to alter/change. Jesus, Man, Woman, first born male, female daughter..
All through God's word it's shown! If YOU'RE "offended" by that, YOU have the problem! How many wars would Israel have won if Women we're the warriors?
I wonder how many women are going to "try" to change God's heaven to suit themselves?
YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH SUBMISSION!
It's a Jesabell spirit!
Do you let/support your children to rule your house and tell you what to do?
I'm sure women demand that their husbands "submit" to their bosses, so they can have THAT house, in THAT neighborhood. But yet YOU don't want to submit to your husband..
That's why Satan went after Eve. The weaker of the two.. (Divide and conquer!!) Learn your place and be happy doing it.
Men build the house and women make it a home, according to the rule of the husband! You WILL FAIL if you have two trying to rule the house! "Submit one to another" means to use the "strengths" of both husband and wife to BUILD the ultimate goal, the "family".
I tell my two boys that if the woman they want to marry wants to pursue "HER CAREER" that's outside of your wants. That you're starting off ALREADY DIVIDED. And if the male can't support a family, he shouldn't even THINK ABOUT IT!!
I discovered your videos today. All I can say is thanks to God for directing me to you and thanks to you for speaking what we all need to hear!
Thank you so much, Christi!
This is soooo good & insightful & the presentation is hilarious. Excellent, love it💗💗💗
It's always a blessing listening to you.
What if u HAVE given him honor & respect & sex … & he ignores every need I’ve ever needed with the exception of providing financially. And I’ve praised him, supported him, encouraged him, upheld him -
With all my heart I did everything in my power to honor God & my husband
Have you told him what you need from him, actually asked?
Honestly you need to seek help from marriage guidance counselor, if he is unwilling to go. Why? Doesn't he want a better marriage, it takes two , you both need to make the marriage work. I am now divorced my ex would not go to see a counsellor or priest for guidance, eight years later I found out he was having an affair and had a seven year old child to her. I divorced him, it was mental and emotional torture for eight years. He did not care. Ask him to go to seek help with you, if not, how you going to work it out you can't. Your decision , take care x
Have you used boundaries?
Being too nice without boundaries allows someone to disrespect you.
I understand; I'm a nice sweet woman too and learning how to enforce boundaries.
Am totally feeling this topic especially the openning remarks
Great content Thank you Mr and Mrs Evans
Beautiful brother 🕊🤗🕊
Two weeks ago I've started listening to your channel on the End Times and it's a big blessing ☺🙏🏼
The message was so good. Nuggets for a successful happy marriage. 🙌🏽
So excited to have your teachings, we use to be members and so sad but understood when the baton was passed to another but it didn't have the same effect and so when this showed up in my email I was so excited or UA-cam subscription you have such a greater impact on us we are in our late '50s early '60s and it just seems to resonate better with us than a couple that's in there 20s 30s 40s very excited to see you again and it's great to have Karen's input just love it! God bless you both! ❤
Of course she's listening!
Love them. Very good😇❤
Lots of truth
I am a Christian granny and wife of 50 years and I love you 2. Sesame Street is 50 some years old and my kids watched always. There 2 muppets. One had long arms to reach the top of the apple tree and one had short arms. So they fed each other. Love it. Lol
Awesome information
I wish my husband would watch these.
So good......
THANKS JIMMY AND KAREN!!
So good
This was an amazing message. It has opened my eyes on the things that do and do not strengthen my marriage. Thank you!
❤️
What if a man gives all manner of kind and thoughtful non-sexual touch but never provides any sexual touching? That has been my experience. Don't women need sexual touching too?
Aaahhh no!!! Where is the woman's needs part??? So so so need this for my daughter's marriage crisis
Here you go: ua-cam.com/video/jk_UbSJQg3o/v-deo.html 😄
He speaks about womens' needs in another video.
How do I show respect for my husband after multiple affairs, porn, and illicit photos? Spending time with other friends without me, and not asking me about finances? I think he needs to earn my respect, and even sex now after what he's done.
Guard your heart, because he isn’t.
Hey there, Vanessa! Please feel free to visit our website at xomarriage.com and to select "Marriage Help" for many amazing resources! We will try to help however we can.
Sexual immorality is one of the only reasons where divorce is acceptable. Research setting boundaries, narcissism and codependency. Get into counseling.
I'd take a trial separation. This is sin and not acceptable to the Lord.
That's a one-way ticket to divorce.
What about men who want what they can't give?
How do u show respect to him without becoming a doormat?
easy by treating him like you would wanna be treated
that doesn't work bcuz the person is mean and rude. Won't get back same treatment. It seems I would become the doormat if I do all the right things while he gets away with treating spouse badly.
@@ginaroberts3346 kindiness is like water to fire, that why you must not always feed it, lets it burns you.
I just watched this & saw your question. Thought I should ask how it has been these 9 mos since you commented, instead of offering my opinion. Hugs!🤍
@@ginaroberts3346 Take a trial separation.
He went found another woman to be his best friend for the whole summer. It hurts so much that even though I want that, I hold myself back. I don't know what to do
Vanessa, we are so sorry to hear of the pain you are facing. Please feel free to visit xomarriage.com and the "Marriage Help" tab. If you have questions, please feel free to send them to info@xomarriage.com. We want to help however we can!
My husband always compares me with other women.
Hey, I'm sorry this is so heartbreaking when we are compare to other people. But here is what I will say: watch these videos with him and pray for him. Invite God to be part of your marriage and let Him take control of it by praying and surrendering your marriage to God. As Jimmy Evans often says, no one knows how to "do Marriage" but we are all able to be loving and carrying spouses when we invite God and let Him be the third person in our marriages. I am not married or dating but my friend and I have been watching Mr. Evans' videos since summer just to learn how to be good wives to our future husbands. Though we haven't met our husbands yet, we continue to pray for them and pray that they will be godly men of God. We also pray that when we start our unions with our husbands God will be part of it as well. Prayer is so important and reading the word of God. I hope this advice will help somehow :)
@@b.eunice he won't watch with me. I do pray for him. Im between a rock and a hard place. And I really feel like giving up. I feel worthless.
@@kimberlysullivan5319 aww please don't feel worthless, we might be worthless to humans but not to our Creator. To Him, we are worthy of everything. Keep praying and seek counseling (Christian counseling) study the word of God and have faith in Him that he will change your husband to a godly man. I will pray for you too!
@@kimberlysullivan5319 never give up God doesn’t give up on us. It took me 14 years till I got Jesus in my heart and it felt like I had a new wife that day 🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@kimberlysullivan5319 He probably does it to get a reaction. To push your buttons. I'd get away for a while. Take a break to seek God about it. It's not a deal breaker, though. If it were me, I could care less about it, but I'm very confident. Nevertheless, it's wrong so take a break! Visit friends or something.
why isn’t there any teaching on toxic relationship, emotional abuse?
these teachings only work if both partners understand who they are in Christ and are willing to do the work in themselves first and then the marriage.
Hello there...
That’s the point if your in one of those you both needa work on yourselves together find yourselves in Christ it’s possible only through God, if not needa go read 1 Corinthians 7 on the boundaries and rules of marriage
He's spoken alot about abusing his wife. He changed though.
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me." -John 14:6
This video was titled “what a man needs” but all the needs actually cater to the woman.
You have to check out his other videos. He cares deeply for his wife.
Hit replay. He listed all four needs.
How do you respect when they've been neglectful, distespectful, dismissive, and then broke your trust..I totally trusted him and believed in him. I've lost both. How do I respect him now?
Pray that God will give you the strength to truly forgive when you were wronged. Love your husband and put God first. Pray that God will surround your husband with the holy spirit and change his heart. Hope that helps.
Personal relationship with Jesus Christ
Only God can
Than we Love one another
He needs Sex and Affection
I want Affection and sex
Serve one another we have what. It takes in order to have a good marriage
Honor and respect
husband the way one would treat Jesus
Let God be the inforcer informer too
Praise and thanksgiving
Sex I except
Thank you for not
Comparing my body to any others body (important to me)
What about for the wives out there that want sex more than their husbands??
Interesting and frustrating that we are so different - no wonder there is divorce and people turning to same sex relationships - very concerning
I love pastor jimmy and Karen. But I know that I will never get married. I'm av69 year OKs man, never wanted a marriage and still don't. As a devout christian I've separated myself unto to christ as a young man. Have there been temptations of course. Have I given in no. Marriage just doesn't have any attraction for me and never has . I think I probably would drive Jimmy' crazy. But the simple truth is I have no interest at all. I prefer solitude and quiet I'm an introvert and don't relate .
What about the man thats looking for a mother.
Hello Miriam...
I think its totally wrong for a man to be jealous of his own kids.
He’s not “jealous” of his kids. He is a functional balanced person who realizes his wife’s priorities are out of balance.
@@laurenturk151 thank you.
It does happen. They should both make time for a date. Prioritize the marriage.
Obviously first if ur spouse is not ur best friend then ur children cannot compensate for ur spouse. Children r not a compensation for the spouse's love and friendship, children have their own separate place in parent's heart. Don't use children to enforce ur spouse to love u or be with u, they r not born for this purpose, they r born so that they can be given a good life.
What happens when the husband just wants non sexual affection and the wife is the one who wants sex?
Dress nice and look good. 👗 men are visual.
Is he into porn? On drugs? Something is remiss. Pray & fast on this.
@@danilaroche1156 very low testosterone, hormonal imbalance. He is very fit and eats healthy, but has this problem. Doctors are unsure what to do because their treatments causes infertility which he doesn't want.
@@heywuzzzupwithyaTRT may need to be in order, but make sure that's the last resort. He may not need those "treatments". Make sure it's not a spirit of infirmity.
@@ElizabethV01NORTruth! Most of the time if a husband is not having sex very often or a decline from what was normal in the marriage, it’s due to Porn addiction. This problem is becoming an epidemic especially in the Church today! Many marriages are dying because of porn and how it neglects, and abuses the victim spouse. This is my journey in my marriage. I pray more marriages are restored and healed thru the power of Jesus. It’s our only hope for reconciliation.
Why would he ask her "Karen, are you listening?
Why are you even asking this question?
@@danilaroche1156Some (most) women aren't happy unless they and everyone around them isn't happy.
Your Spouse cant be Jesus. That's very true
Count the cost guys. Is it worth all of the work and expense just for a few minutes of marital missionary starfish sex? Not to mention the more than likely chance that you will lose your house and kids and a lot of money. I always hear how hard marriage is, but never any tangible benefits for the man, and the extreme risk involved. As for me I know it is not worth it.
Sorry this happened to you
Statistically women generally give more in marriage hence they age faster and get sicker in marriages
Men's health and wealth are benefitted in marriage
Sometimes women give so much they resent giving sex and feel used
Sex in marriage is supposed to be mutually satisfying its about giving to each other
Again sorry if this was your experience
Blessings and prayers to you
Thank you! I was thinking the EXACT same thing. I Couldn’t have said it better. I see zero benefits for the man. ZERO.
We do not need to be married - we do need other people - we are interdependent on others. Many many great people did not have marriage ( Jesus Paul Mother Teresa to name 3 )
Wrong. We are called to be married. We are the Bride to Christ Jesus!! We are being prepared to receive our bridegroom King Jesus, come!!!