This is what Bi people in ‘straight’ relationships want you to know

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  • Опубліковано 31 січ 2018
  • Two bi people sit down with their opposite-sex partners to talk mutual crushes, jealousy and bi erasure for a description.
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  • @Nick-eu5lb
    @Nick-eu5lb 5 років тому +115

    This video was really cute. I decided to type something so that there’d be one positive comment on this video. If you’re bi, know that there is nothing wrong with you, and you shouldn’t have to hide who you are.

    • @mushroom_pluto6598
      @mushroom_pluto6598 4 роки тому

      Mate, omg this might make me cry. Thank you....

    • @SANS-fz5ut
      @SANS-fz5ut 4 роки тому +1

      Callie Their is much negativity is these comments

    • @ThanksIhateyoutoo
      @ThanksIhateyoutoo 2 роки тому

      Unfortunately we do though. I know this is old, but being bi for most of us means being effectively gay since about two thirds of women immediately discount a man as a potential partner if they think he has ever done anything with another man. I still would not feel right not disclosing that since it matters to them, and a lie of omission is still a lie if you knew it might influence their opinion. I can't date guys because it feels like society won't LET you go back once you do. I can't date girls because I would feel like shit not disclosing it, but literally no women seem to show interest in me anyway (idk, i'm considered to be pretty chill, and It might sound conceited, but I would think I was pretty attractive if I wasn't me). This crippling double bind, and the fact that i never got to get started dating in high school (couldn't attend due to health issues, got ged instead) means that I have never dated, kissed, or had sex with anybody. I'm 24 now and of course lonely, but have no idea what to do. I have no idea how to even begin talking to women, much less any kind of flirting, and I feel like if I date a man that will be my only option for the rest of my life. I'm burying this frustration here even though it's old, but I have literally no one to talk to about it, and I had to get it off my chest because this problem has started to consume my every waking moment.

  • @ls-zo5tp
    @ls-zo5tp 3 роки тому +41

    so happy i found this video. i'm bi (female) and together with a bi man. and he seems gay and i seem lesbian to most people. so a lot of people question us being together and sometimes think we are just friends so it can be quite hard. but we're happy together and that's all that matters. much love to everyone!

    • @nathaneylar4263
      @nathaneylar4263 2 роки тому +4

      So y'all are swinger's huh..... Booooiiiii

  • @mikaylaharris8260
    @mikaylaharris8260 4 роки тому +31

    really cute video! i loved both of the couples, was really helpful to see/hear this as a bi/pansexual woman in a hetero relationship

  • @kenfordbody4lyfefitness
    @kenfordbody4lyfefitness 2 роки тому +7

    Bi is fine as long as the Bisexual person is not deceitful nor does it mean bi means I get to automatically be Polyamorous. Polyamory & bisexuality is two different things and two different conversations and agreement.

  • @notproudlysouthafricananym8508
    @notproudlysouthafricananym8508 4 роки тому +22

    After 10 years of marriage i found out my husband came out to me im bi sexual he said. Being a SOUTH AFRICAN we a a very concervitave nation.24 years later.So i dont go around telling people. But ive realized you cant change a person. But my opinion is if you are bi sexual tell your partner before you get married

    • @notproudlysouthafricananym8508
      @notproudlysouthafricananym8508 4 роки тому +6

      We still married

    • @alfonsoc.950
      @alfonsoc.950 2 роки тому +1

      If he loves and desires you sincerly, and he was faithful, he doesn't owe you anything else, he didn't decieve you. If one was to blame is the biphobic woman who reject his bisexual man. If he was cheating it's a different story.

    • @jenalva8
      @jenalva8 Рік тому +2

      He absolutely does owe her that. This comment is ridiculous

  • @Nadsow
    @Nadsow 9 місяців тому +1

    As a bisexual female I prefer dating bisexual men and women.

    • @user-dl1kr5ov1y
      @user-dl1kr5ov1y 3 місяці тому

      Which is fine. There are also many lesbian women and straight men who aren't into bisexual women, which is also fine.

  • @gregtoms1182
    @gregtoms1182 Рік тому +1

    We need more Bisexual men please stand up

  • @aris6756
    @aris6756 3 роки тому +39

    The sad part is that when you are bi pretty much no one accepts you lgbt or straight ppl 🙁

    • @shahilagh
      @shahilagh 3 роки тому +7

      I don’t understand these people ...Even straight people can live without sex. Is sex their key life concern so that this is a matter of interest to you?!!!

    • @xiao1695
      @xiao1695 3 роки тому +4

      @@shahilagh ...it my country I saw someone take a LGBT questions qna kinda thingy to the ppl, one most of them literally said-
      "No I think LGBT Marriages should stay illegal becuz they can't have kids and even if they get married they will not complete their lives becuz they did not have kids and having kids is a key to complete like"
      Wth-

    • @moonjae-in12thpresidentofr20
      @moonjae-in12thpresidentofr20 2 роки тому

      Straight femboy too. You face homophobia from people assuming your gay and there are always the lgbtq people that can’t see past your straightness

    • @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow
      @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow Рік тому

      bisexual whites are super problematic though....

  • @mushroom_pluto6598
    @mushroom_pluto6598 6 років тому +84

    I Am Done With The Comments
    I Am NOT Straight
    And NOT A Lesbian
    I LIKE BOTH
    Get It Right!

    • @glenjones7597
      @glenjones7597 6 років тому +7

      go creep back into the closet

    • @ahmedzone7022
      @ahmedzone7022 6 років тому +6

      Yeah sure 🤣🤣 bi people so funny I'm not GAY I'm not straight 🤣 what are you!! You can't be 2 thing's stop being in denial and leave the closet

    • @ahmedzone7022
      @ahmedzone7022 6 років тому +1

      @Lola Hollywood idk you tell me?

    • @ahmedzone7022
      @ahmedzone7022 6 років тому +1

      @Lola Hollywood ok did she answered your question?

    • @ahmedzone7022
      @ahmedzone7022 6 років тому

      @Lola Hollywood maybe she is busy you know bi people can't decide who is better man or a woman

  • @krs227
    @krs227 3 роки тому +1

    More people need to see this, yay!

  • @alexadrew5733
    @alexadrew5733 4 роки тому +35

    The amount of biphobia in this video is absolutely crazy wow

    • @SANS-fz5ut
      @SANS-fz5ut 4 роки тому +12

      Alexa Drew The comments are... horrible, they make me sick

    • @nivedhprem
      @nivedhprem 3 роки тому +5

      i know right my god like people grow up and educate yourself

    • @noosphericaltarzan
      @noosphericaltarzan 2 роки тому

      @@thedancemurderer15hellandh52 It's biphobic/transphobic if you match and are otherwise attracted to a person but then "discovered" your preferences don't match when you find out they are bisexual or transgender. You can sort of get away with this excuse with respect to transgender people who have not totally transitioned I suppose, and you simply have a preference for a specific sex organ, but when it comes to any other context the problem is in your head and therefore it's you, not the other person.

    • @user-dl1kr5ov1y
      @user-dl1kr5ov1y 3 місяці тому

      ​@@noosphericaltarzanNo, honey, no one owes you a relationship or sex. If they're not into you, whatever the reason, that's it. Don't moan about it.

    • @noosphericaltarzan
      @noosphericaltarzan 3 місяці тому

      @@user-dl1kr5ov1y LOL It's bi guys everybody actually wants. Straight and gays don't take care of themselves to the same degree as a distribution. Have a great time with the ball stink. Honey.

  • @pasta_girl124
    @pasta_girl124 4 роки тому +35

    it’s really weird being in a heterosexual relationship when your boyfriend is bi and you’re pan. most people thought he was gay (he wasn’t he’s had one boyfriend and two girlfriends before me) and idek what people thought about me. it’s great though cuz we can fangirl over both boys and girls.

  • @ItsJustAndrew89
    @ItsJustAndrew89 4 роки тому +17

    This is so inspiring 😊 some people like their coffee with milk, others like their coffee with milk and sugar. I like the good ol' milk and sugar in my coffee 😂 hope everyone understands themselves in my opinion.

  • @clevernickname8095
    @clevernickname8095 3 роки тому +9

    People are allowed to love whoever they want despite their gender. It's not dirty or wrong if the love is pure. What's wrong is all the judgmental people looking down on other's happiness. It's honestly sad and is you're biphobic I hope you can learn to let go of that hate

  • @Whiteshadow13444
    @Whiteshadow13444 5 днів тому

    I am bi male if you are bi female reply this coment and start conversation

  • @resmensa8312
    @resmensa8312 6 років тому +9

    hehehe... @ahmed zone
    of course you can be attracted to both male & female - it just doesn´t matter in this case. (in my opinion)

  • @Patricruss
    @Patricruss 3 роки тому +10

    I'm bi and I just assume that everyone is bi now. But I don't say it out loud lol.

    • @juliajade4173
      @juliajade4173 3 роки тому +17

      In my opinion, that's a stupid mindset to have. I don't think you should assume anything at all.

    • @juliethomas377
      @juliethomas377 3 роки тому

      @@juliajade4173 I agree

    • @candaceseitz7689
      @candaceseitz7689 Рік тому

      Well you're wrong there I'm 💯 straight and proud 👏

  • @kenfordbody4lyfefitness
    @kenfordbody4lyfefitness 2 роки тому +4

    Most homosexuals are cool with bisexuals just not bisexuals who feel because they are attracted to both sexes NEEDS to get with both sexes simultaneously and most bisexual men are only “out” about the female they’re involved with, that’s what many gays have a problem with if we’re being 100% honest here.

  • @Blazeww
    @Blazeww Рік тому +1

    Still counts as cheating.
    And your identity should be how you treat others and the kind of person you are not who you sleep with.

  • @raymondjblaze7761
    @raymondjblaze7761 Рік тому

    I am bisexual looking for a casual relationship with a female

  • @korruptedbezanji3301
    @korruptedbezanji3301 3 роки тому +5

    Question, the main thing is that when it comes to marriage and your spouse is in love with another, what then?

    • @ErinDeNis
      @ErinDeNis 3 роки тому +26

      What if a straight man marries a woman, but he is in love with another woman? If a person marries and they still have feelings for another, that has less to do with orientation and more to do with infidelity.
      Bisexual people can fall in love with one person and commit, if they are dedicated to the relationship. Bisexuality doesn’t equal infidelity.

    • @binghamguevara6814
      @binghamguevara6814 3 роки тому +2

      @@ErinDeNis If you’re in a monogamous relationship and you tell your straight partner that your bi, what are you asking your straight partner to accept?

    • @qymeanjaishelaal1731
      @qymeanjaishelaal1731 3 роки тому +6

      @@binghamguevara6814 Accepting them for who they are.

    • @binghamguevara6814
      @binghamguevara6814 3 роки тому +2

      @@qymeanjaishelaal1731 be precise. What does that mean in terms of the relationship?
      Does it mean …
      a) you will be with your opposite-sex partner till the day you die
      b) you will possibly divorce your opposite-sex partner and will marry a same-sex partner
      c) you will bring a third “queer” ,or bi, person into the 2-person relationship

    • @juliethomas377
      @juliethomas377 3 роки тому +13

      @@binghamguevara6814 bruh if a straight man marry a woman ,there is a chance they would live together till the end and there is a chance to divorce/separate for some reason...bi doesn't mean we are greedy and want everybody , we can live with one and fall in line be with one person till the end if we are in love just like a hetero person

  • @hove7008
    @hove7008 2 роки тому +4

    If I were to be attracted to same sex and wanting sex with same sex I would have a feeling that I lack something in sex so, logically, that tells me that bisexuality is not safe for long term relationships where partner does not like to share you sexually.

  • @moonjae-in12thpresidentofr20
    @moonjae-in12thpresidentofr20 2 роки тому

    Straight femboy can relate to the “but your” and the “are you sure your/he’s”

  • @keithm.3456
    @keithm.3456 4 роки тому +4

    Lewis Oakley today in a few years she will be Louise Oakley transgender woman

  • @justicethedoggo3648
    @justicethedoggo3648 3 роки тому +20

    I mean bi people should date bi
    Bcoz it's disappointing for straight people sometimes.

    • @Inspirit-gp4dp
      @Inspirit-gp4dp 2 роки тому +1

      can you elaborate?

    • @OrbitalDeathRay
      @OrbitalDeathRay 2 роки тому +13

      Sounds like a ‘you’ problem.

    • @justicethedoggo3648
      @justicethedoggo3648 2 роки тому

      @@Inspirit-gp4dp yeah straight people should date straight people

    • @alfonsoc.950
      @alfonsoc.950 2 роки тому +8

      It's your problem for being biphobic. Bisexual people don't owe straight people any explanation or confession.

    • @III1IlIIlIllIl
      @III1IlIIlIllIl 2 роки тому +1

      @@alfonsoc.950 straight men with value will not marry a bi woman,. Chads(rich men)isn't interested in a bi woman. The only guy that will marry a bi woman is a guy that has no respect for himself(simps)

  • @emmajaynefischer
    @emmajaynefischer 4 роки тому +5

    Daisy should break up with him and get with women.

  • @ericw9490
    @ericw9490 6 років тому +10

    save them Jesus

    • @frogtownroad9104
      @frogtownroad9104 4 роки тому +13

      Jesus saves them 2000 years ago. Chill.

    • @pedropenailillo7418
      @pedropenailillo7418 4 роки тому +3

      Yes please Jesus save me I soooo need your help right now Big J

    • @NayrAnur
      @NayrAnur 2 роки тому +2

      Bruh, we're already saved.