Multifandom - Can I Exist [Homosexuality] (Kdramas)

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  • @marietb
    @marietb  3 роки тому +2199

    ‼️PLEASE READ‼️
    - DRAMA NAMES IN THE DESCRIPTION
    - This video goes along with my previous video, please watch it too: ua-cam.com/video/trnLWi75Ylw/v-deo.html
    - Thank you for helping me making these videos! I’m doing not it alone, I couldn’t do it without you!
    🔺Why are these dramas considered good portrayals?
    I used the same points as in my previous video but I reversed them. Let me explain. To be included, dramas had to NOT: use homosexuality for humour purposes; poorly portray the only queer character (villain, killer, abuser..); portray and reinforce stereotypes (touching people without consent..); not condemn homophobia; portray homosexuality as something vulgar/scary/funny/disgusting or embarrassing; portray heterosexuality as a norm; (+ use the plot of pseudo-homosexuality; give a sad ending to the queer characters)
    If these dramas are here it's because they have globally done a good job, because they knew how to portray a queer person without falling in all the bad criteria mentioned above.
    It is important to know the difference between what is explicit and what is not, to know the difference between promoting and portraying homophobia. These dramas here have been able to portray homophobia in a way to denounce it. Did you feel uncomfortable, sad, angry while watching these scenes? That's because it was meant to be. The editing, the music, the dialogues, the acting of the characters, nothing is done to promote homophobia but it is done to condemn it.
    These representations give hope for future representations of LGBTQ+ people. Korea and its dramas know how to do a good job on the subject and I hope they can keep it up.
    🔺Why didn’t I include any BLs ?
    I didn't include BLs first of all because it wouldn't have made much sense considering my previous video. My previous video was about Kdramas so this video is about Kdramas. The other reason is that some people from the LGBTQ+ community have expressed their discomfort with the idea of including BLs, a genre that is debated because of the many stereotypes they contain. Although I agree that Korean BLs can be quite good, I didn't want to ignore these comments from the people concerned themselves and I didn't want to risk including something I shouldn't have. To be on the safe side, I opted not to include any in view of the video's title. As with my video on healthy relationships, I decided to play it safe. I hope you can understand that.
    🔺Why some dramas that feature gay characters or address the topic are not included?
    If you haven't seen my previous video on bad representations in dramas, I invite you to go and see it, maybe the drama you have in mind is there. If not, it's possible that they are one of the ones that were recommended to me for this video but that I didn't include. Not necessarily because it was a bad portrayal in my opinion but maybe because they could have done better, or because it wasn't really a portrayal (Her private life).
    🔺Why are some dramas in both videos?
    If you saw my previous video, maybe you noticed that some dramas are in both. As I said in one of my posts, I considered that some dramas made a few mistakes (So not worth it, Prison playbook) but overall they did a good job.
    🔺Why did I include dramas with sad endings when I also included them in the other video?
    Because as I had said in the pinned comment of my last video, I don't think this is the worst. I understand and maintain that sad endings are frustrating and don't help. But then again, I considered that some dramas did a pretty good job overall and therefore deserved their place here.
    Thank you for watching!

    • @unbotheredmin1785
      @unbotheredmin1785 3 роки тому +23

      Thank you for making these videos

    • @bhashachatterjee598
      @bhashachatterjee598 3 роки тому +30

      Oh my, this felt so wholesome. I sincerely hope that there are more instances/ portrayals of all kinds of people and relationships. Loved this edit. Thank you.

    • @Priyanka-dx3ux
      @Priyanka-dx3ux 3 роки тому +23

      Thank you for including Moment at Eighteen,these were one of my most favourite moments of drama when Oh Je's friends took a stand for him

    • @adelinemukashema1244
      @adelinemukashema1244 3 роки тому +11

      Thank u for making these videos 😊

    • @tess.mp3
      @tess.mp3 3 роки тому +13

      Thank you for reading the comments about our discomfort regarding BLs, really!

  • @lowquality2609
    @lowquality2609 3 роки тому +6028

    "i have no reason to apologize to anyone for my sexual identity"

    • @OLGA-io1kp
      @OLGA-io1kp 3 роки тому +76

      This one hit hard

    • @lovey5809
      @lovey5809 3 роки тому +47

      Ikr this hits on another level .....

    • @ash0811
      @ash0811 3 роки тому +14

      Yass queen

    • @peachype2936
      @peachype2936 3 роки тому +20

      I screamed at this part shes a queen indeed

    • @6idle4ever49
      @6idle4ever49 2 роки тому +4

      Louderrr

  • @Annie-pj6vr
    @Annie-pj6vr 3 роки тому +4786

    oh God, that girl saying: "I like men too, what's to special about liking men anyway?"
    I'm just in love with her.

    • @mmecrayonneapapier8141
      @mmecrayonneapapier8141 2 роки тому +79

      It's in the drama “run on” if you want to know

    • @amivivi6420
      @amivivi6420 2 роки тому +21

      same. i smiled when i heard it

    • @peresidiana1646
      @peresidiana1646 2 роки тому +28

      This was the comment I was looking for...she's a mood 😂

  • @_bangtan_armyot7290
    @_bangtan_armyot7290 3 роки тому +5123

    "I'm good with the way I am"
    Yes you don't need to explain anything to anyone nothing is wrong you are COMPLETELY FINE AND OKAY

    • @DEEZNUTS-yo1dx
      @DEEZNUTS-yo1dx 3 роки тому +21

      Please I needed to hear that so bad!! I live in such a homophobic society and internal homophobia too damn real

    • @_bangtan_armyot7290
      @_bangtan_armyot7290 3 роки тому +9

      @@DEEZNUTS-yo1dx i know how must you have feel..i have seen my friend struggling due to this and IT'S was so painful but im that NOW HE DON'T GIVE A FUVK trust me nobody cares here so live your life FULLY i hope you are doing good

    • @DEEZNUTS-yo1dx
      @DEEZNUTS-yo1dx 3 роки тому

      @@_bangtan_armyot7290 thank you so much

  • @ceiceikim4175
    @ceiceikim4175 2 роки тому +1311

    This vid has four parts.
    1st: the confession
    2nd: the discrimination/criticism
    3rd: the supporters
    4th: the acceptance 😊

  • @cybeleagatha8438
    @cybeleagatha8438 3 роки тому +4157

    Another masterpiece it is! I'm very sorry that whenever I see your community post regarding the videos you're making, I can't suggest or give you something to add up also I can't support you through donating cause I'm still just depending on my parent's money. But I'm so happy that you didn't stop making this types of videos and speaking for those who can't even tho it doesn't benefit. You're a very open minded, talented person, I'm hoping you'll achieve that one thing you want and have a piece of mind.

    • @marietb
      @marietb  3 роки тому +285

      Don't apologize! I'm glad I can make this kind of videos and I'm really happy to read these comments! That's all I'm looking for and that's enough for me. Please, don't feel ashamed because you think you can't "help me", you're helping me and supporting me by posting this message and by watching my videos! So thank you a lot 💜

    • @vampiregirl3048
      @vampiregirl3048 3 роки тому +14

      Same

    • @ايهايه-ش1ث
      @ايهايه-ش1ث 3 роки тому +7

      You don't need people opinion to be who you are because nobody know you like you Know yourself 🦋🌸 so let it go shine🏵🌼 and be happy 🏵🕊🕊have a nice day 🥰

    • @pradeepbarik9416
      @pradeepbarik9416 2 роки тому +3

      💜

  • @superrsweetshop8572
    @superrsweetshop8572 3 роки тому +2883

    "It's not something you should be sorry about"
    Those are the words that many of us want to hear. I can't come out yet cuz if I do, I'm scared that they'll kick me out. It hurts whenever my younger siblings call gay relationships "weird" or "ew". Thank you for the video. I like how all of the scenes that were presented really showed what it's like for members of the LGBTQ+ community like me
    Edit: Thank you for the likes and all the encouraging messages. Update: I told some of my cousins and they accepted me. My younger brother too, he smiled at me for it and we got closer. Not my parents yet, maybe I will when I can confirm that they won't slap me in the face for it. I wish you all the best!
    Edit (2): i told my parents and they accepted me! they act like it never happened these days but they told me it was fine and that they love me either way. thanks for all the support and i hope everyone will get the same reaction as i did. i love you guys

    • @jchen8902
      @jchen8902 3 роки тому +62

      When I came out as bisexual to my Christian friend I was too scared to look her in the face. I was so worried she would be disgusted, or worse, say that I was just confused. But when I looked up she was crying. She hugged me and said that I must have had a hard time. She said she was sorry for everything I went through and told me that I was still the same friend she knew and that I wasn't wrong, weird, or evil. I'll remember that moment for the rest of my life. I know you might not have the same experience as me, but sooner or later you need to talk to your family about it. If you're really worried that they'll throw you out, then wait until you're financially independent, but you need to say it. Even though my parents don't seem to totally accept my sexuality now, it's freeing to live life without feeling like you're hiding something. There's nothing wrong with love.

    • @partytime3755
      @partytime3755 3 роки тому +32

      I’m sorry your siblings do that, I’m openly out to both of my parents but my sibling was apparently “too young” to understand what sexual orientation is. So we didn’t tell him, just kind of went on with life. But once when my mom was mentioning a relative (a female relative) was going to be proposed to by her girlfriend, my little brother whispered into my ear “She’s gay?” and then fake threw-up. I felt honestly hurt by that, so I asked him “What’s wrong with that?” And he just shook his head and said “Isn’t that gross?” So I understand what you’re going through, I’m sorry again, and I hope someday you’ll have the courage to tell your family!

    • @chocolatebonbon8741
      @chocolatebonbon8741 3 роки тому +16

      I was actually scared of the same thing but living a lie was really starting to break me so I just did it, things didn't go well but I'm happy I did, I might not have the support of my family but I'm finally free..Now I'm not saying you should come out, but if there's even a slight chance your parents might accept you then you should go for it only if you're comfortable with doing so

    • @chibaninada8517
      @chibaninada8517 3 роки тому +4

      I still remember the day that I've come out nd how my friend she hugged me so Hard nd she started crying and told me the day that peoples understand that we need to be different is the end of the word nd she was u need to be proud that ur different and and other day I was walking around with my classmate listening to music nd I was this song remembered me of sm1 nd he was how is he and then he was sorry how she is nd he was sorry I know that ur bi nd u don't need to be scared 'bout m so thankful for the community that I have even thou I live in a Muslim country

    • @healer7179
      @healer7179 2 роки тому +6

      am just a girl,may be i can't understand you well like others...but there is a think that i always trust ...am a human ,we are human ...there's no matter who you love,what is your gender...stay strong...you have the right to live this world...the people who hate you...they are not humans ...they don't have the right to be human....

  • @parkjiminliesalot2642
    @parkjiminliesalot2642 3 роки тому +1984

    If only the Korean entertainment industry understood this and take it seriously even it reality and variety shows they just romanticize any man and woman but if it’s a man and a man then it’s weird and people be like “I’m getting chills” or “I’m out of here” and when it’s a girl and a girl it’s “they’re good friends” like I don’t need anyone to call out any couple that’s not what I’m asking for but stop alienating us.

    • @Tehya20_
      @Tehya20_ 3 роки тому +123

      Especially these kpop idols, like when their idols could be catching feelings for the same sex without us knowing and their so quick to dismiss it as "just friends", I genuinely hate what this world has come to, and my heart breaks towards these idols who have to hide themselves from this messed up society.

    • @jchen8902
      @jchen8902 3 роки тому +132

      @@Tehya20_ I remember seeing a variety show recently where an idol said something along the lines of how gender wasn't as important as personality when it came to ideal type and how he slept in the same bed with guys he liked and the hosts literally told him to shut up because he might spark a controversy. The poor guy looked so scared and confused and said he didn't realize that it was bad.

    • @Tehya20_
      @Tehya20_ 3 роки тому +71

      @@jchen8902 Jeez, poor guy.This society is based on judgement and constant criticism among the LGBTQ+ community, especially knowing S Korea is a conservative country that doesn't accept members of the LGBTQ+ community, which is heartbreaking. I bet there's a good majority of idols who continue to closet themselves due to how chaotic this society truly is. I think a lot of it has to do with their emotions and how certain things can affect them, in a way that could possibly affect their mental health. Like for instance, this is just my observation, When halsey was preforming at the MTV music awards (I think).BTS were there, and I noticed both facial expressions ans Taehyungs and jungkooks face, they had teary eyes. It was like maybe in a way they could relate to her performance, because it solely made them feel a certain kinda way. Even the other members were shocked to see both of the two crying. It just saddens me to see idols judged and criticized for being themselves.

    • @jchen8902
      @jchen8902 3 роки тому +66

      @@Tehya20_ even in the entertainment industry, idols are the most restricted among all celebrities. If it's difficult for a regular person to come out, imagine how much more so it is for someone in the public eye. Heechul from Super Junior literally got death threats after rumors about him asking out both male and female idols surfaced - he didn't deny them because he said there was no need to deny something that there was nothing wrong with, and he lost half his fanbase as a result. Idols have literally been physically attacked because they wore something too masculine or feminine, said something in support of the community, or even just interacted with an LGBTQ+ person. Apparently Seohyun and Moonbin (who acted in two of the dramas pictured here) got hate for acting the role of a gay character. It breaks my heart to think of how many people hate us just for existing.

    • @mariakal.
      @mariakal. 3 роки тому +8

      @@jchen8902 i know this is not important but could u maybe look into it again and perhaps find who the idol is?

  • @Moovanna
    @Moovanna 3 роки тому +1696

    I'm straight but your message at the end has me in tears. It makes me so sad that people can't just live their lives loving who they love and get shamed for it.

  • @moonbinisatongue
    @moonbinisatongue 3 роки тому +841

    so proud of our moonbin being right there on the thumbnail. he's always respected EVERYONE. this was his first regular drama and i'm so so so proud of him for taking up this role. and to ALL the others as well.
    we ALL deserve love. we can love whoever we want. nothing else matters

    • @olivetomatopizza
      @olivetomatopizza 3 роки тому +40

      I love him sm he deserves the world 🥺

    • @pica9327
      @pica9327 2 роки тому +12

      Ah no wonder I thought the guy in the thumbnail looked familiar iamo-

    • @fullsun2236
      @fullsun2236 2 роки тому +28

      I loved his character so much, he was very adorable and though he didn't really get with the boy he liked, he got a lot of support with his friends. It was wholesome but real, I also liked that the writers didn't give his character the typical unnecessary hardships of a gay character, sometimes the LGBT+ community wants representation that doesn't revolve around discrimination.
      Anyway, he did such a great job and this role was what made me a huge fan of him since I first saw that drama, he's a great actor and a respectful guy. Hope he gets casted in another drama soon:)

  • @Ohsashi
    @Ohsashi 3 роки тому +709

    Omg, I cried like crazy; why do people have to apologize for being who they are, and why do people have to be discriminated against just because of their sexuality. Love knows no gender. This edit is a masterpiece

    • @lovelylively2252
      @lovelylively2252 3 роки тому +5

      Yeah that’s so sad 😞

    • @Rhetzelle
      @Rhetzelle 3 роки тому +13

      I'm gay and yeah it's true people in public will show disgust holding hands with your boyfriend .. so I never done it ever again specially here in asian countries

    • @lovelylively2252
      @lovelylively2252 3 роки тому +2

      @@Rhetzelle I am so sorry 😞

    • @Ohsashi
      @Ohsashi 3 роки тому +8

      @@Rhetzelle I understand you completely. It makes me cry to know that people would be disgusted by other people being in love. I wish other people and people in Asian countries would understand that love doesn’t come with gender; it doesn’t look at the person's gender and say no, you cannot they of your gender. Love just happened; gender should not matter; the person you're in love with that should matter. I wish you could openly express your love for your Significant without hiding it from the world; I hope that day comes. Reading your comment makes me cry, and I am so sorry.

  • @the._.nabihouse
    @the._.nabihouse 3 роки тому +925

    The only thing we are asking for is good representation of lgbt in the media.
    No representation is better than bad representation

  • @namjoonslostairpod9775
    @namjoonslostairpod9775 3 роки тому +484

    not me crying throughout the video cuz finally someone is talking about this. thank you soo much for making this. the way you edited this is *chefs kiss*

  • @lupiitaa123
    @lupiitaa123 3 роки тому +239

    Moonbin is such a great actor. Thank you for going beyond and giving voice to others who can’t

    • @madmax3718
      @madmax3718 3 роки тому +17

      He indeed is an amazing actor!
      I wanna see him get casted in a major role

    • @zyuhaaini0926
      @zyuhaaini0926 5 місяців тому +1

      I really miss him

  • @kaaya86
    @kaaya86 3 роки тому +319

    Your work is outstanding as usual. The scenes, the placement and the series you chose were perfect. But what made me cry is the last slide with your message.I hope everyone thinks like this someday. This world will be a much better place then. God bless you.

  • @nahida3192
    @nahida3192 2 роки тому +78

    Loved the line by Nam do San
    "Sexual preference isn't something that needs to be fixed"

  • @Stranger-qv4jc
    @Stranger-qv4jc 3 роки тому +574

    I came out as bisexual three years ago. I know I wasn’t confused or going through some phase because I honestly didn’t even know that it was possible for someone to be able to like both men and women. When I started to developed feelings towards a girl for the first time, I was very lost and scared because up until then I thought I was straight and knew I liked boys. Later, someone who was very close to me had to explain to me what bisexuality was.
    Most people think that I was relieved to hear that I’m bisexual, because now I was part of a community, but in real life I was still very lost and still very scared. My first thoughts weren’t “Oh, thank goodness” or “Cool, I’m bisexual”, my thoughts were “Why me?” “Why am I like this?”
    It took a long time for me to get used to it and learn about who I truly was. But, in the end, I was able to figure it out and I had some amazing people to help me along the way telling me that everything will be ok, I’m ok, and that even if there are people who don’t like me that there will always be people that will love me.
    This video reminded me of my whole coming out story, and I hope that more people will find comfort in this video.

    • @moomooinsomnia9419
      @moomooinsomnia9419 3 роки тому +21

      I feel you .. myself I grow as religion family catholic - christianity when my both group family knew about it . They judge me .. they started to feel the anger at me even put my own mother .. against me . I wasn't enough person .. then. This day I have to be with guy then I was pregnant ..but I didn't love the guy .. 😒😒😒😒 the hiproticie of my family was happy about it I was pregnant. . nobody ask how I was feeling .. never never I was felt less ..I feel the part ..when you get confused ...

    • @doraaaa0613
      @doraaaa0613 3 роки тому +6

      i had a similar experience, except my first crush was a girl, back when i was in maybe 1st or 2nd grade, and it was the usual crush that any kid would have. (side note, i dont know if all kids go through or act like this, but the way i expressed my crush was by being mean and acting like i didnt like being around that person, but secretly really treasuring every moment i spent with them, LOL.) my 2nd crush was with a boy a while later. for some reason, i blocked out the memories of my crush on this girl for years and years and only remembered the boy, probably once i realized that liking the same gender was never acknowledged in our society. it was only when i was going through my childhood diary a few years ago that all the memories of my crush came back, and i had written about both the boy and the girl. though maybe because it was taboo in my community rather than openly frowned upon, it made it a bit easier to accept and realize my sexuality. until i was a teenager, i didn't know and didn't want to acknowledge that i liked both girls and boys, because like you said, the fact that i liked boys and thought i was straight was like a comfort to me, to convince myself that i was like everyone else. i guess it's a struggle that every bisexual goes through. ignoring part of your sexuality until you're forced to confront it in some way or the other. it's difficult to accept that both those sides are you.. but at the same time, impossible to suppress and ignore forever.

    • @miniyoongles
      @miniyoongles 3 роки тому +7

      i found comfort in your comment, as i am experiencing the same. thank you.

    • @seansswamp
      @seansswamp 3 роки тому

      Aww God bless you your perfect the way you are

    • @seansswamp
      @seansswamp 3 роки тому

      @@moomooinsomnia9419 :(

  • @zhr3898
    @zhr3898 2 роки тому +91

    I just found this video, as few days ago i came out to my boyfriend about my sexual orientation and i'm a bi and i lean more towards same sex (i'm female). He said he was okay with it, and i also told him i dated him because of the pressure i got for never having a boyfie my whole 20 years and he said he was lucky to have me being honest. We have been dating for more than 2 years now and finally i got the courage to tell him the girl i have wanted to date for so long and even he set up plans for me so the date will go smooth. I can't ask for a better boyfriend and bestfriend, he is and will always be the best. He said he loved me, so he wanted the best of me and he wanted me to be honest of myself and we could remain bestfriends. We didn't break up because we agreed to keep the relationship status to protect me. I'm lucky, very lucky. He was my first date ever, and i'm lucky

    • @mirabelleabelle499
      @mirabelleabelle499 2 роки тому +15

      Best person goes to him.
      You are brave enough to tell him, and that's absolutely amazing.
      Hope you guys will be blessed, each and every day

    • @shweta255
      @shweta255 2 роки тому +1

      so happy to know your story. I happy for you to have a person in your life whom you can let your feelings out. I wish the best for you and this person...💜💜

  • @pranseyeswhenlookingatpat9639
    @pranseyeswhenlookingatpat9639 3 роки тому +39

    3:00 "i like men too" "what's so special about liking men" 🛐🛐
    you tell them

  • @yesjams6868
    @yesjams6868 3 роки тому +223

    I'm really excited about this. I appreciate the time and effort you put in this. Thanks.

  • @as-tt7xt
    @as-tt7xt 3 роки тому +186

    I adore how the video first talks about the rejection and the homophobic behavior, and then highlights the rare yet glowing rays of supportive people. Kinda made it stand out that even at the end, there's something worth to keep trying for. This was lovely, brought me into tears. ♥️

  • @pastelmxchii
    @pastelmxchii 3 роки тому +93

    In nevertheless, their chemistry and everything, it's so beautiful. It's been represented really well and I literally screamed when they got together, it made me so happy omg :')

  • @erebus1549
    @erebus1549 Рік тому +20

    Rest in peace Moonbin 🖤🌙

  • @whatsupdanger8048
    @whatsupdanger8048 Рік тому +15

    Moonbin rest peace In heaven 💔🕊

  • @same3769
    @same3769 3 роки тому +46

    “ Being accepted, Being normalised” that’s all we asked and craved for.

  • @juneseghni
    @juneseghni Рік тому +11

    So sad that both Moonbin of ASTRO and Cha In Ha (Love with Flaws) have passed away since this video was made

  • @anahi6370
    @anahi6370 3 роки тому +93

    i can't express how beautiful this video is :) growing up in a society where lgbt+ is still condemned and to make things worse our media doesn't portray us as decent human beings its been tough and scary. this video means alot to me

  • @lightseeker40
    @lightseeker40 3 роки тому +64

    Aa a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I'm very impressed by how much effort you put in here! I legit got a chill down my spine
    I'm out to all people I care about but I still don't know if I feel as free as I would like to be
    Thank you for your hard work 💜

  • @emsyfk
    @emsyfk Рік тому +17

    I’ll be forever proud of Moonbin for portraying a gay character. He smashed it. 🤍

  • @shanlilac771
    @shanlilac771 3 роки тому +80

    I’m srsly rooting for soljiwan 😭 the fact that they alr confessed to each other (tho jiwan is still a lil confused) but still, i could see them having a bright future (hopefully)

    • @pastelmxchii
      @pastelmxchii 3 роки тому +2

      THEY DID AAHHHHHH

    • @shanlilac771
      @shanlilac771 3 роки тому +1

      @@pastelmxchii yass soljiwan dating 😍

    • @shanlilac771
      @shanlilac771 3 роки тому +2

      @Ohana Moraes Dos Santos soljiwan is a side couple in a kdrama called “nevertheless” ^^ edit: oh they’re the couple at 0:56 !

    • @pastelmxchii
      @pastelmxchii 3 роки тому

      @Ohana Moraes Dos Santos nevertheless, it's a netflix original

  • @_...BUTTERFLY..._
    @_...BUTTERFLY..._ Рік тому +13

    Look at his smile 4:10 😭 I miss him

  • @Jiu_zule
    @Jiu_zule 2 роки тому +7

    2:04 then you should punch a lot of people in Korea, cuz when I was there i was shocked by how many gay people are actually there. Half of Itaewon are gay clubs that gay men visit, also if u go on Korean gay side of UA-cam, you'll see it, guys openly talk about their sexuality even in this country. It's funny how most of the k society still acts as if there are no gay people in Korea and it's something foreign/Western lol
    Hope that one day it will change, you shouldn't be discriminated for loving someone 🌈💔

  • @fwmaii___4360
    @fwmaii___4360 3 роки тому +98

    3:13 I cried so friggin hard at this part in Love with Flaws because it's so rare to find a loving or open minded parent

  • @dromeson
    @dromeson 3 роки тому +72

    im coming back to this edit whenever my mom says anything homophobic and i feel like i want to cry because im still in the closet..thank you so much for this video i cried watching it knowing that i one day will find a safe place where i can love whoever keeps me going another masterpiece i had no chose but to subscribe, and i look forward to your next video

    • @blackrose4174
      @blackrose4174 2 роки тому +1

      Yeah buddy. You will find a safe place one day. 🦋

  • @SaiThiagarajan
    @SaiThiagarajan 8 місяців тому +3

    It's been over a year since I watched this for the first time, and it still tears me up when I see this edit. This is so emotional and editor did their best to bring out the emotions and the music choice is perfect.
    I have come to terms with my gender identity and sexuality but it's not like its happy forever. There are times I encounter people who hate us and it all comes back to zero. And I have to try hard again to make me feel better.
    I hope someday I can find true love and good circle of friends.

  • @sirensmelody5529
    @sirensmelody5529 2 роки тому +5

    If I had a homosexual child in future I will let him or her to love the person they like not the person I and the society likes.

  • @gracelumbangaol3815
    @gracelumbangaol3815 3 роки тому +15

    3:38 "Sexual preferences isn't something that needs fixing"

  • @pradnyawira5427
    @pradnyawira5427 2 роки тому +3

    it’s fucking 2022 guys, i just can’t understand people who still can’t get enough to the people who always thought that being part of the LGBT are bad,weird and wrong. i mean even tho i’m not part of them but i really supports people who are brave to reveal their sexual orientation, and i’d love to make a friends with those peoples wht i can’t event get it was why do people keep blamed on me and just like mocking me it just bcoz i’d choose to make a friend of lgbt people!!! just bcoz i do have a gay or lesbian friends it wouldn’t change my sexuality orientation dude:))) nowadays i think people have to clear their mindset

  • @gtfo3609
    @gtfo3609 3 роки тому +63

    “I have no reason to apologize to anyone for my sexual identity” 🌈❤️

  • @unavailablewuxian4923
    @unavailablewuxian4923 3 роки тому +4

    A character in a drama confessed of being gay and his friend literally didn't react, he just asked who's the person and the one who confessed asked if it's strange, then his friend went "Would you feel strange if I told you I liked women?"
    "No?"
    "Then what's the difference. It's not strange"
    The planet needs those people

  • @kkqum9072
    @kkqum9072 3 роки тому +109

    If choosing sexuality was an option i would choose to be straight.
    "You love who you love, and that’s all there is to it. Nobody gets a choice in who that person is.”

    • @leeseo3469
      @leeseo3469 3 роки тому +26

      If choosing sexuality was an option I would choose to be gayer bruh what yo takin bout 👁️👄👁️
      I'm sorry I had to 😩😩😩😩😩

    • @kkqum9072
      @kkqum9072 3 роки тому +22

      @@leeseo3469 Being gay is amazing stay gay we have the brains

    • @pair4409
      @pair4409 2 роки тому +1

      @@leeseo3469 if i was gayr rn ill be disowned and be living on the streets

    • @luanunes14
      @luanunes14 2 роки тому +1

      The thing with this question is that it's answer is both yes and no. Yes, I love being queer, it took time to understand myself, but I'm proud of who I am and I don't wanna change myself for the sake of others. No, I don't wanna be discriminated against

  • @naleerawm9810
    @naleerawm9810 3 роки тому +5

    I have seen Thai bl fans complain about Korean dramas not having hotter scenes for bls but I swear Korean dramas do a better job at representing lgbtq than Thai bls do. They seem realistic not fantasized like most thai bls I have seen

    • @amanditititauwu
      @amanditititauwu 3 роки тому +1

      i recommend you lovely writer tho, it's my favourite drama, it really does a good job representing the community and its struggles

    • @naleerawm9810
      @naleerawm9810 3 роки тому +3

      @@amanditititauwu I have watched it ,such a healthy relationship,beautiful drama. I was just saying majority of them are fantasized even though they make bls the most. Korea doesn't make a lot of bls but most of them are realistic.

    • @melonkio3178
      @melonkio3178 3 роки тому +2

      @@naleerawm9810 ib agree so much. It's so sad when bl fans get mad at not having a hot scene. I saw someone say they hate series that don't have hot scenes and I think that's straight up fetishizing gay men.

  • @winterbear9554
    @winterbear9554 3 роки тому +17

    "So you're gonna watch a kdrama that is not entirely about lgbtq+ but just because there is lgbtq+ representation??"
    Me: yes

  • @maëstvsn
    @maëstvsn Рік тому +8

    i just really wanted to thank moonbin for playing ohje so well and also that he’ll always be loved wherever he is ❤️

  • @vividhaingawale570
    @vividhaingawale570 2 роки тому +13

    I literally feel so angry when i see HOMOPHOBIC people around me , like whats your problem dude ....its there life ...Not everyone are supposed to get attracted to their opposite sex , you can't force someone to be a person who they aren't

  • @yashikasharma8469
    @yashikasharma8469 3 роки тому +55

    i just wanted to say that as a questioning person myself, u dont need anyone's validation u r who u r no matter yr sexual preference or yr gender identity u have the whole autonomy to be with the person u want to be with and there is nothing wrong with it. being different from others doesn't make u weird, society says a lot of crap dont give heed to it. Also i really really appreciate all the efforts the creator has put into this. 💜

  • @Yesimdululu
    @Yesimdululu 3 місяці тому +4

    There is just something special about Moonbin playing the gay role. He did a unbelievably good job. I am proud of him. Fly high angel Moonbin ❤

  • @yune5597
    @yune5597 3 роки тому +4

    ㅡ모든게 빠르게 변하는 한국이지만 인권, 동물권 보호에 있어선 정말 후진국이다. 특히나 동성애에 대해 여전히 편견이 심하다. 학교에서 인성 교육조차 안하고 있고. 언제쯤이면 성소수자, 약자에게 관대해질까? 그래도 언젠간 좀더 좋아지고 나아질거라 희망한다 ㅠㅠ

  • @SeleneLedezma
    @SeleneLedezma 7 місяців тому +4

    "Sexual preference isn't something that needs to be fixed" Say it louder!

  • @kayel_dom
    @kayel_dom 3 роки тому +20

    i'm really more than happy that kdramas now are being gender inclusive. these representation are better than the western films i've seen.
    kdramas w/ queer themes are really pure and they seem to show more of the struggle of being a part of the lgbtq+. unlike in western films, queer people are there just for the 'inclusisvity' but poorly doing so.

  • @averagearoha9243
    @averagearoha9243 2 роки тому +8

    Moonbin in the thumbnail!!! He represented his role in moments of eighteen very well. Hope to see him again in more dramas in the future.

  • @mahimaluis2306
    @mahimaluis2306 2 роки тому +2

    These dramas should be recommended to a lot of people. And I hope that people will change their stupid mentality after watching these kdramas and understand the things that people who are part of Lgbtq go through. Love is love. Whether you love a person of the same gender as you or if you love multiple genders or if your straight. It's not weird to love someone.

  • @theascicada
    @theascicada 3 роки тому +6

    Mee seeing moonbin in the thumbnail:
    👁️👄👁️
    Apart from this, I so so proud of Moonbin and every other actor who've played this role.. Every person deserves to be loved and love.. 💜

  • @atlaxxedits564
    @atlaxxedits564 2 роки тому +7

    "She likes someone and that someone happens to like her back. You guys are lucky"
    No because before i knew sexiality [more like labels and homophobia] was a thing, i always thought its nice that couples got together, i never thought of the gender, i just wanted to have love too lmao.

  • @live_smiling
    @live_smiling Рік тому +2

    Fact that people are accepting it q little more due to special BL series.
    It's not just thanks to Korean, but Thai dramas have encouraged it very much. it's a good thing.

  • @elsaberisha6452
    @elsaberisha6452 3 роки тому +65

    hiii!!! i really love your videos so much and i really really appreciate that you’re making this series of exposing and showcasing the bad and good sides of what kdramas portray!! thank you so much!
    i just thought maybe one day if you ever have the time, you could make a video like this about feminism in kdramas and like performative feminism? just an idea but i think that would spark some interesting discussions!
    nonetheless, thank you for this series, it truly means a lot!

    • @marietb
      @marietb  3 роки тому +9

      Yeah I already thought about it! But there is not a lot of recommendations :/

    • @elsaberisha6452
      @elsaberisha6452 3 роки тому +6

      @@marietb that’s true unfortunately 🥺😪 i got a few reccs so if you ever make a video i’ll write them down! nonetheless can’t wait to watxh this video!!!

    • @sanshrinandikol9608
      @sanshrinandikol9608 3 роки тому

      @@marietb not a lot of "recommendations", meaning not a lot of feministic Kdramas? or not a lot of people recommend it? I'm confused :/

    • @marietb
      @marietb  3 роки тому +8

      @@sanshrinandikol9608 I mean not a lot kdramas with this kind of content. I don't know if you follow the news from Korea but feminism is not so "common" and a lot of South Korean (mostly men) have a wrong image of it and a misconception. Being called a feminist sounds like an insult there, maybe more than it's already the case everywhere. South Korea is still a country where patriarchy remains well established.
      So yeah I'd like to make this video. I really though about it and I'll keep considering it. But there are really only a few dramas that came to my mind which adresses the subject and I'm afraid it will be complicated.. But I'll try!

    • @sanshrinandikol9608
      @sanshrinandikol9608 3 роки тому +5

      @@marietb oh...I get it, cz when you said there are not many dramas, I was confused because I have seen many multifemale edits on youtube(so many!!), but now that I think there is a very fine line between a drama showing FL character as a badass, savage woman (which is amazing) and a drama that actually portrays/preaches feminism...
      Anyways, in my opinion, the most feministic Kdrama that I have watched is
      "Search WWW" waiting for your next video!

  • @emiso8243
    @emiso8243 3 роки тому +13

    recently i told my mom i'm bi and i was confident about the coming out because her brother is gay. but plottwist, she didn't accepted it at all, i tried to explain but she didn't want it to understand. I'm sad and disappointed. i already came out to some close friends and all the reactions were positive as i hoped and expected. but from the person who is the closest to me...it just hurts that she isn't supportive at all
    btw i cried the shit out of me, this video is a holy masterpiece

    • @eos5019
      @eos5019 2 роки тому

      tell your uncle !!!!

    • @snickbiordking5748
      @snickbiordking5748 2 роки тому

      I'm so sorry, this happened to my dad too. He still thinks I'm influence by social media, he even said he don't like gay people in front of me when we were talking about the meaning homophobic (he didn't know the word). I wonder "I don't like gay people" includes me. I just told him "Don't be surprise if I bring a girlfriend at home, if I get married to a wife. Or adopt kids." You'll get through this don't worry, it hurts. But don't let it get through your head.

    • @emiso8243
      @emiso8243 2 роки тому

      @@eos5019 he knows now

    • @emiso8243
      @emiso8243 2 роки тому

      @@snickbiordking5748 in the end she was ok with it but before some drama happend. with a lot of tears from both sides. but now shes ok with it. anyway im still not comfortable talking about girls infront of anyone except my friends. my dad was very supportive and was also helping with my mom...fighting

  • @raysacarvalho3685
    @raysacarvalho3685 3 роки тому +11

    “Liking each other shouldn’t be something wrong” OMG yes yes yes it’s so so hard for the people accept that we shouldn’t discriminate love, we should discriminate hate

  • @aylin0393
    @aylin0393 3 роки тому +4

    0:55 and they are not main characters right? Oh BoY

  • @nayjashah7368
    @nayjashah7368 3 роки тому +21

    "I like men too." I loved this
    "I would prefer it if they were talkative... I am referring to the guy you will bring to me one day." I also love this
    I love your awareness edits 💜

  • @meks4655
    @meks4655 2 роки тому +5

    "It is better to be HATED by who you truly are than to be LOVED by what you are NOT" my MOM said when I came out. You got a friend in ME

  • @15randomperson
    @15randomperson 3 роки тому +15

    That was a beautiful message at the end, made me cry a little. I'm straight, but I suffer from a fear of intimacy, even though I also really want to be in a relationship. It often makes me feel abnormal, frustrated, and worried. The things you said about it being okay to doubt, change your mind, take your time, be afraid and so on really spoke to me. Thank you for this

  • @sanshrinandikol9608
    @sanshrinandikol9608 3 роки тому +10

    You know what? your video makes me view Kdrama as something more!
    Like it's hard to explain, but your videos make a Kdrama look like an art, maybe cz of the song you choose or maybe it's editing, it is like your videos are deep, much layered, and it looks artistic! It makes me proud that I watch Kdramas...(sound funny but true..)
    Keep up the good work!!

  • @cbatown5370
    @cbatown5370 2 роки тому +5

    Does love has a shape ?
    Does love has a colour ?
    Can you touch love ?
    No right !
    *Then how can you give a Gender to love ?!*
    *Love Is Love* ❤️

  • @purpleheart8737
    @purpleheart8737 2 роки тому +5

    This vid has almost a million views, other lgbtq kdrama edits also have more than million views and thousands of positive comments, so come on Korean industry everyone is waiting to see more representation in kdramas

  • @nosoynadie9715
    @nosoynadie9715 3 роки тому +10

    " love is not shameful " 🥺❤️
    "I will love you until my last breath" 😭💔
    "You are my favorite person in the world "🥺

  • @joya9785
    @joya9785 2 роки тому +6

    I'm proud of Moonbin for doing the role Oh je in moments of 18. 0:41 and 0:49 that's himm! As an idol I'm glad he did this role giving out a msg that no one's to be discriminated!

  • @imanmuyeeb881
    @imanmuyeeb881 2 роки тому +3

    It's crazy because I've known I am attracted to women my entire life and I never hid it. I didn't "come out" because I thought I was already normal and often talked about marrying women at a young age. In high school I started watching kdramas and loved them but didn't see any lgbtq dramas. Then I started watch thai bls and the stories opened my eyes to how some people actually see people in this community. It's so sad and it made me realize how lucky I am to be brought up in such a way were I didn't feel ashamed or scared. Till this day I still watch some of the first dramas I love and I'm so fucking happy everytime I find a new korean bl and etc.

  • @rutha2403
    @rutha2403 3 роки тому +5

    That slap at 1:51 was so satisfying

  • @kimycarladejumo5848
    @kimycarladejumo5848 3 роки тому +2

    I'm a 13 year old person that's part of the LGBTQ+ community I told my bestfriend that I'm a person that doesn't particularly care about gender she told me if I like her I didn't get mad I mean why would I she accepted me for who I am , I got brave for a moment , I thought i knew that my family knew of it and felt relieved but this is reality they thought it was a mistake or I'm confused they(some of my relative's ,mostly aunts) knew from Deep within their hearts or feeling that they like the same gender or both. I just don't get why they can't accept it when they're part of it be brave for a moment it's not wrong,it's completely fine ,I'm part of it too! There's no need to be scared, I'm with you.

  • @dson1923
    @dson1923 2 роки тому +4

    0:10 his finger being so close is bugging me and trying my fight or flight response 🐥

  • @_...BUTTERFLY..._
    @_...BUTTERFLY..._ Рік тому +3

    Reat in peace moonbin you played your role perfectly 🥰

  • @moons_star
    @moons_star 7 місяців тому +4

    I cried seeing Moonbin 🫂

  • @iloveoffgun
    @iloveoffgun 3 роки тому +3

    I don't know if y'all notice BUT directors are sneakily including homosexual relationships in dramas, so we'll have to support the dramas even though we don't like it (you don't have to force yourself though!) so Korea will think about Homosexuality normally.

    • @amanditititauwu
      @amanditititauwu 3 роки тому +2

      definitely, i'm not really a kdrama fan but i literally just added all of those dramas to my list cause i feel that they deserve more support

  • @nul6518
    @nul6518 3 роки тому +20

    This really made me think of the outcome of me coming out to my parents one day. It won't be easy but I want to be able to stand proud infront of them and show them that I am okay with who I am regardless of their reactions. Thank you for giving me some inspiration ❤

    • @prernashree4545
      @prernashree4545 3 роки тому

      You've got this!!! I love your confidence baeb...Don't forget you are who you are...nobody can decide or approve of that...nobody has the authority to do so... it's us... we are the one Living this amazing life of ours...so that's all up to us to decide...♥️

    • @madmax3718
      @madmax3718 3 роки тому

      You are really strong!! I hope you succeed in whatever you have planned for!
      Best wishes❤

    • @nul6518
      @nul6518 3 роки тому

      @@madmax3718 Thank you

  • @Yaya-ov5gk
    @Yaya-ov5gk 3 роки тому +8

    I'm crying while watching this. I just came out to a cousin last night and she passed it off as a phase, and told me something along the lines of "if it's still there, we're a family and we'll help you through it" and I feel like she is talking about conversion therapy. I hated it, and I'm stil upset about it. How can she say that about something that I know very well? She's not me, she doesn't know me like I do. I know what I feel and I know that it's real.
    Thank you so much for making this amazing fmv, it made me cry but also made me feel a tad bit better. I'm glad UA-cam recommended this to me.

  • @torielschild
    @torielschild 3 роки тому +12

    this was beautifully done

  • @rkiveseditsx
    @rkiveseditsx 2 роки тому +2

    Did I just watched all these show's just because of gay plots of these side roles and skipped all the other parts!? What's happening with me
    👁️👄👁️

  • @SeleneLedezma
    @SeleneLedezma 7 місяців тому +3

    This is so beautiful 🥺❤️

  • @rememberme12
    @rememberme12 2 роки тому +4

    I'm straight but my friend is bisexual. I don't know how she feels or maybe how she handles but I wish one day there is a day when people don't need to be handled or deal with the fact that they like another person.I hope there will be a day when people just say causally I like girls, boys, or maybe both. I wish there will be a day when there is no need to be even come out. people weren't behaving weirdly. don't become different. I don't even want to be anything special. I wish and want to be normal it's just like I like boys so what is so special about that. Nothing right. I hope there will be one day when there is no need for the LGBTQ community. that it's just they are people nothing different. I hope one day in the form where we have to sign our sexuality instead of writing others it will start mentioning gay, lesbian, bisexual. I hope when people start talking about gender equality it just didn't of men and women I know it's a long way a really long way but I hope all the people out there feel don't need to hide their sexuality. It's you it's your choice if you feel that you need to hide this then I am sorry you are the wrong one. You need to believe yourself, you can come out when you want you don't need to tell anyone but you don't feel weird even. I am a straight girl but I am fujoshi I am a crazy bl fan. There will be people like me in this world who are okay not BCS we have a great mentality but because there is nothing different.

  • @sarahj6795
    @sarahj6795 2 роки тому +3

    I got so excited when she said "bisexual". Like probably too excited. Bi erasure is so prevalent everywhere, it's always a big deal for me when people acknowledge we exist, especially in a lot of Asian dramas I've watched and even more so in BL. Don't even get me started.

  • @kfantasyfandom1301
    @kfantasyfandom1301 Рік тому +1

    Warning slight spoilers
    I watched the school nurse files and the fact that the teachers where laughing to made me sick I applaud Mackenzie in Pyo and han A reum for not Laughing the rest were so immature
    If you notice at the end you don’t see radi ,hye min or gyengo hwa sitting with them I love that they left their toxic friend group the fact that their friends seemed okay with her friend being gender less but straight up was homophobic when finding out her and radi were going out and made and insensitive joke about it

  • @shutupblaze
    @shutupblaze 3 роки тому +8

    I LOVED IT SM!!!! LIKE OMG. U R SO TALENTED. THIS EDIT STOLE MY HEART.
    Guys, be proud of who u are. It's hard, I know, but do not repress those feelings and try to be someone who u are not. There is no such thing as 'normal.' I stand by you

  • @cikksyuhadah6946
    @cikksyuhadah6946 Рік тому +1

    Ahhh this is make me remember that one extraordinary attorney young woo episode

  • @kazuhasgloves
    @kazuhasgloves 3 роки тому +7

    this video is going to make smile so big, I just know it. :)

  • @xoxo.woniie
    @xoxo.woniie Рік тому +3

    This made me cry so hard help

  • @DarkFaeCosplay
    @DarkFaeCosplay 3 місяці тому +2

    The school nurse files is so good and I love all the characters

  • @lovecatslovetv6155
    @lovecatslovetv6155 3 роки тому +8

    I’m pansexual and this video really helped me feel less alone and supported. Thank you and I’ll support you more in the future!!!

  • @astrovrse
    @astrovrse 3 місяці тому +2

    moon bin's jung oh je in moments at eighteen!!! 💗💗💗

  • @Rei-md3sv
    @Rei-md3sv 3 роки тому +7

    I love this. It makes me so emotional because of the homophobia, but i feel like this is exactly what you wanted to contradict from your previous video. I’m going to watch this like 5 more times now

  • @Ntgfeelsreal
    @Ntgfeelsreal 7 місяців тому +2

    The person in my heart ..my one and only love is A Woman.

  • @adithi3884
    @adithi3884 3 роки тому +7

    i literally waited for this for 32 hours T-T

  • @OohIShipIt
    @OohIShipIt 3 роки тому +2

    Sobs in gay

  • @goodvibez9415
    @goodvibez9415 2 роки тому +10

    I am straight female
    But I really feel bad for old fashioned parents who dont understand or have decent sexual education about the current era.
    I am concerned about all my friends who are still in the closet. I hope you get the prettiest wings to fly and remember. Dont apologise for who you are let people apologise to you because they were wrong~

  • @jayem.4368
    @jayem.4368 2 роки тому +1

    Why can't everyone just be themselves! Why can't this world accept people as they are; leave all couples, no matter what genders they are, alone. I am a Mom of a transgender , bi and pansexual. I've stood up against my own parents in support for my family. No I didn't raise them this way or path but I 100% love them and we are non-judgmental in this family. Love to all!!!

  • @May8Day
    @May8Day 3 роки тому +11

    I really hope to see more BL and LGBT+ korean contents!

  • @princy6544
    @princy6544 2 роки тому +2

    I cried after watching this video.. 😭😭

  • @akhileshdandge
    @akhileshdandge 3 роки тому +4

    I bawled my eyes out after I watched Reply 1997 😭! I could relate to it so much at so many levels, yet feel tragically sad for all the pain and false hopes that Jung Hee garnered! They showed some good character development and helped him moved on in life on positive note. Yes, indeed it was tragic yet the character was so realistically portrayed, I couldn't help but not deny it! And yes indeed I did watch it with my mom and for the first time in my life I saw her actually sympathising with some queer character on screen, and that is indeed some REAL POSITIVE REPRESENTATION!💪🏻
    I wish we would be able to see more of such good and beautiful portrayals in the future, as they for sure do shape the viewers perspective to a large extent. Even if there might be a plethora of queer representation in the western media, they aren't really something which can be watched with say the entire family, especially most of our conservative Asian and Indian families, as they're always usually over-sexualized. And that's when some powerful media vent like KDramas hold an upper hand as they're all age appropriate and have really meticulous, sensitive and realistic storyline.
    And then maybe, on some other hopefully not so distant bright sunny day, I might be able to feel a little safe, come out and not be an object of mockery, at least not to my family! 🙂
    Thank you for reading! 🙏🏻

  • @justlurking5203
    @justlurking5203 2 роки тому +1

    Soljiwan couple from Nevertheless is different. Their struggle is not about the society but about their friendship being at risk.

  • @BTSArmy-us9zz
    @BTSArmy-us9zz Рік тому +3

    Moonbin🥀🥀🥀...