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Totally! I was in a 20 year marriage with a Narcissist who didn't start showing his way until 11 years in. I had no idea what gaslighting and what a Narcissist was until 3 years after he divorced me. So now I'm trying to educate myself on how to avoid them.
To sum it up: 1) Criticism and dehumanize 2) Withholding affection for leverage 3) Blaming their partner for their own negative emotions - even berate others with blame-shifting I have experienced all of those! And BetterHelp was super helpful in learning how to set boundaries and see that mutual respect and love go hand in hand. A narcissist will say they criticize out of love, which is false. There is a difference between criticism and constructive criticism
I'm dealing with that right now in a 10 year relationship, all 3, and I'm supposed to be the reason they cheated 2 yrs into the relationship. I wish I would have been educated on all this way earlier, but thank you for schooling me now,I am very appreciative... God bless you all...
Totally!! Saw all 3! That #2 with holding affection was my existence all 16 years of my former marriage. I’m glad I for the hell out! I’m now in a good place and it was worth divorcing
@@RebeccaZungEsq I sure do! I found my peace with Dr Craig Childress who has diagnosed what my narc ex did with pathogenic parenting. Have you done a video about pathogenic parenting? "shared induced delusions" using children as weapons and basically the narc is guilty of child abuse with mental abuse on the child forcing an emotional cut off and rejection of the target paren as well as spousal/partner abuse using the child as a weapon to inflict emotional pain and rejection? The truth has set me free! You know this pathology from a negotiating standpoint however this pathogen has defenses and it has colluded with the current legal system as well as many of the current mental health professionals of our day have zero understanding of pathogenic parenting.
I've lived without affection, haven't been kissed in 7 years or anything else...it started when he read my Will and he wasn't getting 100%. I have a son who he didn't want to receive anything from my estate. Then he stopped with affection. I prayed and prayed, begged for Restoration and even sought counseling but he had no intention of making it work.
I’m so sick of that “ everyone is a Lawyer” our daughter went to Law School and is the best Lawyer ever! I just listened and watched how many narcissistic family members were negative and unhappy about their own lives.. manipulation and unhappiness. It’s a pattern .. beware and ignore!
TOTALLY!! "Who would listen to you?" "Who would bother with you." "What would you know about it!" "No-one cares what you think." And when succeeding at something: "You're just too big for your boots." Examples of the endless negatives the child of a narc parent spend the formative years enduring. No wonder we grow up to be a mess.
Totally ! It’s difficult when you have 2 kids and married to someone who has Narc traits and is emotional immature. He says he wants to change but hasn’t started therapy and he hasn’t improved. My kids and I are receiving help and If I don’t see changes we are leaving because no one can live healthy with a Narc. Control, insults, and being ignored is not living your best life ❤
I can't really talk about it. My reactions are hidden behind a thick defensive wall to save me from getting flooded by negative reactions I have to cruelty.
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I'll see you all there!
Totally! I was in a 20 year marriage with a Narcissist who didn't start showing his way until 11 years in. I had no idea what gaslighting and what a Narcissist was until 3 years after he divorced me. So now I'm trying to educate myself on how to avoid them.
You got this! 💪
To sum it up:
1) Criticism and dehumanize
2) Withholding affection for leverage
3) Blaming their partner for their own negative emotions - even berate others with blame-shifting
I have experienced all of those! And BetterHelp was super helpful in learning how to set boundaries and see that mutual respect and love go hand in hand. A narcissist will say they criticize out of love, which is false. There is a difference between criticism and constructive criticism
I'm dealing with that right now in a 10 year relationship, all 3, and I'm supposed to be the reason they cheated 2 yrs into the relationship. I wish I would have been educated on all this way earlier, but thank you for schooling me now,I am very appreciative... God bless you all...
Totally!! Saw all 3! That #2 with holding affection was my existence all 16 years of my former marriage. I’m glad I for the hell out! I’m now in a good place and it was worth divorcing
Do you have a good support system in place?
@@RebeccaZungEsq I sure do! I found my peace with Dr Craig Childress who has diagnosed what my narc ex did with pathogenic parenting. Have you done a video about pathogenic parenting? "shared induced delusions" using children as weapons and basically the narc is guilty of child abuse with mental abuse on the child forcing an emotional cut off and rejection of the target paren as well as spousal/partner abuse using the child as a weapon to inflict emotional pain and rejection? The truth has set me free! You know this pathology from a negotiating standpoint however this pathogen has defenses and it has colluded with the current legal system as well as many of the current mental health professionals of our day have zero understanding of pathogenic parenting.
I've lived without affection, haven't been kissed in 7 years or anything else...it started when he read my Will and he wasn't getting 100%. I have a son who he didn't want to receive anything from my estate. Then he stopped with affection. I prayed and prayed, begged for Restoration and even sought counseling but he had no intention of making it work.
I’m so sick of that “ everyone is a Lawyer” our daughter went to Law School and is the best Lawyer ever! I just listened and watched how many narcissistic family members were negative and unhappy about their own lives.. manipulation and unhappiness. It’s a pattern .. beware and ignore!
People need Jesus Christ in their lives because Jesus satisfies, the ways of the world are troubled that is for sure.
Totally! Narcisists are cruel cold-blooded and often sadistic people. Thank you Rebecca❤
Stay strong! ❤
Totally. Just wish I had know what I was dealing with when it was happening.
The most cruel I've experienced is financial - sabotaging my jobs with lies about me, stealing from me, and more.
You sure deserve better! Stay strong! 💪
Totally...this is happening to me....
Stay strong! ❤
Totally withholds 110 %
Was just in one.
The knowledge and research just wasn’t here until the last several yrs ….
It’s everywhere now as the research is available
Totally, Rebecca! I’m so grateful I am getting this information. Thank you!
You got this! ❤
TOTALLY!!
"Who would listen to you?" "Who would bother with you." "What would you know about it!" "No-one cares what you think."
And when succeeding at something: "You're just too big for your boots."
Examples of the endless negatives the child of a narc parent spend the formative years enduring. No wonder we grow up to be a mess.
He would open a cabinet or drawer to say how horrible my housekeeping
Totally ! It’s difficult when you have 2 kids and married to someone who has Narc traits and is emotional immature. He says he wants to change but hasn’t started therapy and he hasn’t improved. My kids and I are receiving help and If I don’t see changes we are leaving because no one can live healthy with a Narc. Control, insults, and being ignored is not living your best life ❤
Stay strong! ❤
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I can't really talk about it. My reactions are hidden behind a thick defensive wall to save me from getting flooded by negative reactions I have to cruelty.
i do not understand how to use tech because I was not trained. i understand the way email works
TOTALLY!
You got this! ❤
SLAY
Stay strong! ❤
Totally
You got this! 💪
Rebecca, you look like you had some experiences with narcissists. Good video picture 🤭😋🥰
Totally!
Stay strong! ❤
Totally! 🚩
Stay strong! ❤
Totally
Check this out - slaythenarc.com Keep slaying!
Tj the ex a covert narcissist commits all three and more. He’s the most deceptive liar I’ve ever met!
You sure deserve better! Stay strong! 💪
Totally
Stay strong! ❤
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