Black Feminist Says No Man Has Ever Tried To Marry Her For THIS REASON!!
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- Опубліковано 25 тра 2022
- Much has been said on the subject of single Black women, our marriageability rates and the abysmal dating pool available to us. You might even say too much has been said about all this, but I have yet to hear the perspective of one who is perpetually single like myself. There is no shortage of people within and outside our community telling us that our standards are too high, and how we need to be “high-value women” or settle for whoever shows us a modicum of attention.
As if that weren’t enough, it seems like mainstream media can’t get enough of this subject, either. In the early 2000s, there was a flood of exposés on all the major U.S. news outlets about the “Single Black Female,” which often focused on the question, “Why can’t successful Black women find a man?” Much of the reporting devolved into paternalistic advice, false assertions about Black pathology, and overworn stereotypes about “the strong Black independent woman.” Not unlike a frog cut open during a middle school science experiment, Black women were prodded, poked, sliced, and examined like specimens as our interior lives were dissected under the microscope of America’s paternalism. - Розваги
If you’re in your 30’s, and a man has never taken you home to meet his family, the problem is not with the men. She seriously needs to do self reflection to figure out why no man deems her worthy to meet his family 🤷🏾♀️
Say it again Ms. Sandra 💯👊🏾🔥
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I. E. Travis Kelce's side chick what's her name smh
@@truestdude ooooohhhhh can i get a ohhhhh
You can't be both repulsive and attractive at the same time. Looks is one thing but personality is another!
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You know that's right but some black women think being repulsive, is being attractive that's why they, don't care how they look or behave.
Men should take them how they are, yet they aren't willing to take black men how they are. They want special but refuse to be special for a BLACK MAN!
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Ugly inside and out choose one lol
These women claim they want to be married but as there actions show they are perfectly content with "situationships"..Marraige is too restrictive for these woman, so they might as well just admit to it. Men wont care either way.
Once they admit that they can't blame any more.
Fax... I couldn't give less of a fuq
Black women are the most complaining ist women in America when it comes to men and their dating preferences....... Like either meet them or leave the room🧐🧐🧐
Sounds exactly the reason Meagan Good is single af
Young ladies, don't be a feminist if you want a masculine man or any man at all.😉
🤔 Sounds easy right 🤗
Facts!
Facts
they won't listen plus they don't care abt what Men have to say.
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but an effort is always a good start to warn those who want change for the better
As a modern woman and feminist, she has spent her formative relationship years in riding the carousel. As a result, she may have really bad relationship habits and skills. After getting to know her, marriage-minded men will find her to basically have been effing around for 10 to 15 years and will realize that she is not equipped to be married because it was not important to her. If there is a war on black marriage, it has been waged by feminists, black or otherwise. They don't realize that their shitty attitudes make them less attractive as prospective partners. It's never their fault.
It definitely is a deep problem for the black community, but it is increasingly spreading into all other groups as well and across Europe and the West in general.
Facts 💯💯💯 Speak 🗣 on it….. Well said, Bro 🫡
i will never give them the benefit of the doubt by saying "they don't realize xyz"
yes they do
Word.. straight bars
@@EdgewiseSJ it’s at least 100 years away I. Europe but it’s spreading but Europe got to much tradition and less fuckery then Canada usa wayyyyyyyyyy less 100 years less but yes it’s spreading but I’m not so sure Europe will tolerate this they are really a prideful bunch I live there and I’ve lived in Canada and usa and trust me it’s nights and days
Sounds like she's trying to avoid looking at herself when wondering why she isn't married.
Wonder why I don't have any $$$$ in my pocket?.... Could it be because I don't have a job?... Naw that couldn't possibly be the reason I'm broke!😂
0 zero accountability
It is far easier to point your finger then it is to take personal responsibility. The thing is when you learn to take personal responsibility, and work from a realistic perspective. That's when you really start to improve.
Yes if your dumb don't try and study Physics, stick with the basics..1+1=2..Start there and work your way up, it can be done it just takes effort😂
Now if you are still dumb after giving maximum effort, give up and try something else, physics isn't for you. Perhaps being a cashier at Walmart is your thing😂
Nothing wrong with being a cashier at Walmart!✌
Whenever you point the finger remember there are 3 pointing back at you
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@John Dot First off stop with the BS!!! stuff!... I don't allow people to use expletives when replying to a comment of mine!
Again there is nothing wrong with working at wall-mart, yeah it might not be the best place to work, but if you are unemployed it comes in handy.
I read the article and ALL she did was try to “social justice” her way into explaining why she isn’t getting chosen. She is like most of these MW. Holding out til their damn near 40 to get a man and mad that younger, more agreeable women getting scooped up over her. She went as far as calling this a civil rights issue for BW like her.Delusional.
💯 The same playbook they've been using for decades. Some will change this up and that in an attempt to disguise the play but it's the same ole playback.
Didn’t hear anything about being feminine, friendly, cooperative, submissive. These are the qualities that will make you a wife to a man that has value.
As a woman I agree but he must be cooperative masculine respectful and a leader as well so it definitely takes two for it to work but I get exactly what you're saying I would never dispute it
Didn’t hear anything about being feminine, friendly, cooperative, or submissive. These are the qualities that will make you a wife to any man...Period!
@@joannwilson9097 💯
@@joannwilson9097 so chose those men of those qualities.
The #1 problem w/these forgotten women is they don't care what he wants. They give him what they think he should have rather what he needs/wants. When has this marketing strategy every worked?
Her: If he would just buy what I'm selling rather than what he really needs everything would be alright. (That's insulting the customer)
I don’t many women in particular BW understand that relationships are a privilege. It’s not right and like musical chairs… people are gonna be left out. Spending time on the complaints and not being willing to do the work… Is why they lose.
Winner
I once dated a girl for 3 weeks, pretty light skin BW, she was 34, I usually don't date that old, but I was very interested in her. This woman told me the longest relationship she ever had was 6 months. The reason I believe her is because after getting to know her, I saw that SHE WANTS TO MUCH FROM A GUY RIGHT AWAY WITHOUT HER DOING ANY WORK. The guys see that and run away from her including me. This women doesn't have a god damn clue on how to hold on to a man. This women wanted me to jump through hoops and climb mountains just to get in her pants, i know women personally that give it up FOR NOTHING, ghosting her was self explanatory.
Especially when she is not a virgin.
@@1230mkelly A FU***N MEN 🤣
So you know a lot of h♡es.. idk what you mean by jumping theough hoops, idk her, idk you, but easy women have difficulty pair bonding and usually are the ones most likely to divorce a man and take him for as much as she can
@@FirstnameLastname-yc2mt I never commit, is how I protect myself and yes I know a few hoes
@@user-nd9re8vr6l so you undermined your entire post because you never planned to commit to her in the first place anyway..
Pure COPIUM
Usually when it's an underperforming issue, instead of looking at themselvesin a mirror, they will blame it on something else. Whatever excuse it takes to avoid being accountable.
He's gay. They're intimidated by me. He's not masculine enough to handle me. Colorism.
He's in jail...He's broke...He's a momma's boy...He's not ambitious enough...He's weak...He's a lair...He's a cheater...He's an abuser...He's not on my level...He can't be trusted.
He's a low-down dirty dog...He's not in touch with his feminine side...He's dumb...He expects too much out of me...He doesn't bring anything to the table...He's not in shape.
He's not intelligent...He can't figure things out...He can't protect me...He won't put his trust in me...He has too many baby momma's...He's scared I might put him on C/S.
He's too short...He doesn't have a car...He won't leave the toilet seat down...He just got released from prison...My G/F's told me about him...The D isn't good enough.
He has too many standards...He's too lazy...He's not popular enough...He only wants poon-tang...He works all the time and is not there for me...He can't please me.
He can't cook...He can't clean...He's Muslim!
She herself is all the above things as well, but she wants to be excepted as she is... The above conditions are aimed at black men only, she will accept other men with many, if not all of the above conditions.
Maybe she just is not marriage material or is letting men not interested in marriage hit it because she is not actually marriage material?
Uf
HOPE BLACK WOMAN FIND PEACE SPIRIT AND MIND
And a mirror
I’m 37 years old. Early 300K annually. No kids. Single. Never married. Work out 5x/wk. Women still turn their nose up as if I’m supposed to be pursuing them. This generation of women have been poisoned on so many levels.
Bro, what work do you do ?
Any remote jobs in your company 😊?
Hell yea wat u do i need a app im tryna break another bracket fuck them lol ?
Women as in black women or women overall
As a man, you want to be pursued?
If you are not willing to compete, then you will not eat. Simple as that
Only the strong will survive in the end.
Just goes to show that looks get the initial “hello” but not the “I do”.
Your right, make up is a hell of a drug!😂😂😂😂
Black men need to start travelling.
Yup start traveling!
Leave that B/W alone if she doesn't want you, move on to someone who will!
What logical person on this earth would think a good, marriagable man is in jail. Like the cops targeted ALL the good black men and wrongly convicted them to prison. This can't be real.
A woman who is neither logical or sensible? Unfortunately it is real, that is what is so unbelievable.
“Continuing to run in the Victim Olympics…” - Anton Daniels
@Ms.OnnaMargret (As Known As Troll) 😶⁉️
If I can’t see peace I can’t see it happening 😅 just facts
There are plenty of Trans black men and other black women for her. She should expand her options.
That's funny because even the trans dudes don't want her! They are trying to be women and are willing to be feminine, friendly, cooperative, or submissive. These are the qualities that will make you a wife to any man..Black women take heed you can learn something from trans men😂😂😂😂😂
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Don't be savage 😭😭
This pitting the black woman against ALL other ethnic women crap... is getting SUPER Old❕fr fr. 😒
Black women simply don't stake up with women worldwide!
They do it to themselves
Accountability is a feminist if not any woman's kryptonite.
There’s cottage industry for Black Female grievance related to dating/marriage. It’s fueled by perception, aged troupes, misinformation and a lack of personal accountability. The most corrosive is affirmation/confirmation has usurped the truth. Black Men must remain diligent, determined and disciplined to further establish themselves in domestically and internationally.
The first issue is the system. Women aren’t that bad, what is bad is they are abusing the system. Women get cs, alimony and can wreck the home two people built together & walk away with the kids and a bag. The other issue is Liberation has lowered the price of 🐱.
If the price of 🐱 is low and it’s generally what women bring to the table a man can’t get easily outside of marriage, why take all of the liability of signing papers. The system is messed up but the market is just now adjusting.
The real problem is by the time they fix it men will be too far gone.
Bruh, I understand what you're saying but to say "women aren't that bad" is to remove all culpability from them. Granted the system is part of the problem. A big part of the problem. But to say women have no culpability is like arguing that guns is a problem rather than the people that use them. Before guns existed, murder was committed w/bows & arrows, swords, spears, blunt objects, knives, etc. When people are ready to deal directly w/the problem rather than blaming the secondary then we will start to get some resolve.
The system was SETUP for women to be USED by women for the BENEFIT of women with the state getting a piece of the action against men.
I can't believe I'm actually about to side with the women for once but think about how many couples who have been together for 20 plus years in a marriage and they're not happy or satisfied at all being married is one thing but a marriage where you both are happy and are on the same page as another that's a rarity today. But on the flip side a lot of women want the title of wife and a ring but they don't want the wife duties
a lot of women want the title of wife and a ring but they don't want the wife duties...That's the problem and it's not going to go away!
Those women are willing to die alone, we black men should just accept that and move on!
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@@TheTruthcometh I accepted this back in high school.😎👍🏿
Nothing will make some folks happy.
@@libraalibaba yeah comedian Chris Rock said it best "married and bored, or single and lonely ain't no happiness nowhere!" Because people think that marriage and long-term relationships are what they see in these romantic comedies and these fairy tales & Disney movies
Sounds to me like a BW trying to blame everyone but herself
Zero Accountability
I appreciate brother Oshay turning up the heat on the vids since the death of Kevin Samuels. We need that.
Matt Stone (Caucasian male) is married to Angela Howard (AA female)...
If you are raised to be a wife then you will find and become one. Single mothers are raising their children especially daughters to be independent (single).
Better independent than murdered. femicide is at an all time high. Value your life back queens.These men hate you cuz they hate themselves.
He's married to her simply because he had jungle fever and he knows, he can get any black woman on the planet!
Black women are easy for white men to hook up with, they own them and BM are comfortable with being their concubines.
Some of those women have deep self hate issues they never resolved and when they see other women married and happy they don't know how to process and accept the fact that the sisterhood has lied to them. Peace and happiness has to come from within yourself first be it man woman or whatever the people choose to identify as (keyword: choose 📌).
Looking for love is the biggest mistake anyone can make. If anything you have to set yourself up for that and truly assess amend and accept yourself. Let love be what it is and certainly don't try to create it with unrealistic self induced delusions of grandeur. Otherwise you're doomed to repeated failure.
Well that hit the nail right on the head most black women won't want to hear this, that's because it's going to ask them to change their behavior.
Black women are infallible and refuse to make the changes they need, in order to be better women and human beings!
Many black women are too broken to be loved, or to love anyone else!
Correct
She isn't telling the whole story. "No man has ever wanted to bring her to the family"...immediate red flag about her. Not the men. How horrible do you have to be if men don't want to bring a fit and outgoing woman to meet the family?
They always speak in code you gotta have a fine-tuned ear To understand exactly what shewas she saying
Exactly
She might also want to ask herself how many times she ended perfectly good relationships over the smallest disagreements.
On the other hand she might also want to ask herself how many relationships she held onto that were clearly going nowhere. Thus, waisting her time and youth.
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Thank you! Black women need to address the all too common secret relationships and flings they find themselves in. Most blk women in the dating market aren’t actually “single”, but are in some type of dead end situationship.
Because she turned down good men until it was to late. The music stopped and all the chairs she passed over.
Once again what is their mantra, I'm a strong independent BW who don't need no man...🤨
Chaos driven by immaturity, pride.
I'm tired of the whole dark skin colorism bs. Even in this video, Pimpin' Ken is sitting there with a dark skin baddie..... Lots of fine chocolate sisters out here.
Good points Oshay!
No man worth his salt would deal with a feminist
On point
Shalom
This world is changing-- More and more guys are not interested in being married-- its a liability at best- ladies good luck to you enjoy your 🐶 dog--- IM OUT. ✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿
They end up marrying themselves or make the cats miserable.
Black women don't behave like wife material in general.
Good Message🤘
All these reasons why which are unrelated to HER regarding why nobody wants to marry HER!! Seriously? No a gram of accountability!!
Why would these men want to marry her? Apparently all of her goods are for free for the men she wants. Hell they don't even need a title for situation-ship time. Why pursue what is free.
She's also probably batting above her grade. Sadly to many people miss out on good relationships because they overvalued themselves
Bruh,I'm not talking about physical looks,it's personality make you ugly, great channel,see I said negative things but I respect you because I can tell you just want the best for all of us, thank you.
An interesting video that leaves more questions than answers. All I can say is in life the stereo type of the angry scary aggressive masculine loud confrontational toxic hand on hip neck rolling African American / Caribbean British woman , has done untold 100% damage to their personal life’s. Due to the stereotypes mentioned , sadly many will remain single and on the shelf for life.
Where are all of the interdependent ladies at?!
I have never been to a mixer 😂😂😂 that’s for hooking up right like tinder but in person . Idk 🤷🏽♂️ I just never even thought about going to one
It’s very popular in Asia from what I heard
Bukakkee or something, swingers basically
@@brandonlongdikjones8117 nigga that’s a orgy 😂😂😂😂
Damn, that's funny: that’s for hooking up right like tinder but in person😂😂😂😂😂, I can't stop laughing!
@@TheTruthcometh don’t seem like something a real person would do . But sounds something a narcissist would love ..
Scroll to 7:36 blue dress. Her feet. Dayumn!! Pretty face, nasty witchy toes. Why, my sista? WHY??? 😳😭
Oshay stays on top of things 25/8. Reason this man has his duckets in a row. Much love, much respect as always Oshay! ✊🏼
All this war on AA community that’s not the overwhelming reason why these women are unmarried. They need to be accountable they’re difficult to deal with
"Attacked online" or accurately observed?
35 no kids here 👋🏾
Black Women don’t want to settle for the black guy next door 🚪. The reality is that there is not a second or third option for most of us !! Most men don’t want an itch or a hyena.
Why blame the patriarchy for being unmarried? You didn't need a man, and men are responsible for you being single? Please ladies, I can take you seriously.
They might want pookie and Ray Ray 😂
This chick's taste is above her pay grade. She's also less cooperative than she thinks she is. She met her spouse in high school and college... She thought there would be an endless supply of good men.
Let me guess: she's a PhD.....
She needs to study some KS content.
She probably not putting out, lame in the sack, and a bad attitude
That's just about what's going on there😂😂😂😂😂 She won't slobber the nob every once and a while😂😂😂😂
Do that and she'll have to beat the men off of her with a stick🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Fir some reason they feel they don’t have to give up the ass. This is their main tactic for leverage and extortion and I simply chose not to participate.
FACTS...
Keep it up black women
I AM AN AFRICAN : MY WIFE IS JUST MAKING SURE I AM MAD ALL THE TIME.
I WORK 2 JOBS, $110K/year, all this for her.
NOT FAR FROM LEAVING AFTER 32YEARS.
JUST A NIGHTMARE AT THIS POINT OF MY LIFE
Dude save your money in a separate trust in your name just in case she wants to divorce you.
I'm now comfortable being a so called black male that's never dated a black woman. I'm happy this way
She sounds like those companies blaming its failure on the market and not the product itself.
KS: A man will downgrade on looks and upgrade on peace.
In my opinion, the biggest 4 lies that hinder women from marriage are...
1. Men only care about sex
2. There are an unlimited supply of men
3. How they act around other men and social media doesn't matter.
4. Men provide no value other than money.
The fourth one is a biggie, because if a woman really thinks that, then the man will know it. She doesn't have to say anything but he'll know. And he won't want to marry someone like that. That's why women are in years long relationships without a ring.
its so sad because black women dont give a F neither that makes it worst
Ya know, for black women who always play the I'm a strong black woman I Don't need no Man card, they sure do have a woe is me attitude an awful lot.
😂😂😂😂😂.........................................did she just ask herself 1 of the dumbest questions that she already know the answer 2?!! WoW, these females are getting the most out of those degrees I see, 😂😂😂!!!
Women tend to be like. They are not buying my product, imma blame the customers and raise my price
Black Men:....The writing is on the.. .wall":... Don't MARRY THEM... Don't IMPREGNATE THEM ( wrap it up ...pump and dump)... Don't support THEM Financially or EMOTIONALLY..... Don't "move in" with THEM...live .. Happy .. Wise....Secure... Wealthy...... Healthy...and . PEACEFUL 😎!...B1.
People aren't selfish
Ain't nobody putting titles or nothing no more. I don't expect commitment from anybody this ain't the generation.
Especially with no fault divorces. Basically they don't have to commit even if a man is being a good man in the marriage/relationship.
I'm glad, let the GODDAMN GLASS BREAK! They earned it 😂
5:18 you were on point with that question. Women definitely don't put forth the effort they expect of their men. Truthfully, if they're expecting men to risk everything on them, they should be giving more effort than that of the man they're positioning themselves for.
A man wants to marry a woman that fit, feminine, submissive, has a great attitude and a great personality.
They only perform on OF bro
One word: Femininity, men don’t like gangsters women.
The real problem that some of these women are to smart or intellectual for there own good.smart does not equal happiness with most men it's a turn off.
If she really wanted someone, she would yave a husband
Adultery, thot life, that's the way to go lol
Men are attractive by what they see, women by what they here. If black women present themselves like a black version of their white counterpart, what do you think will happen?
She should ask herself : how she bring peace in someone else life. Look is vanity when the inside doesn’t match.
I bet she has a car and takes it to a technician...but never even considered him..or the plumber or the electrician working in her house worthy...only the men at those "social gatherings " qualify?
Pof too Oshawa amongst others
What about Candance Owens? She's married. How is it that she's able to find a man to marry her? Excuses, excuses and more excuses!
Maybe she needs to try a Pookie or RayRay, or a combination of both😂
That's really who they are looking for in reality😂
Gabby Who? 😭😭😭
Brothers stay on your grind and focus on yourself. 50 percent of marriages end in divorce , most men lose 50 percent or more of their shit.
She’s probably dating a bunch of upper middle class players. It happens. They never settle into the last minute. It may be her attitude too
Ain't no man in his right mind ever gonna marry no damn fmnst
Most of the GOOD women I know have a man, it ain't hard to do... unless you ain't a good one💯
There's no reason to choose a BW in today's world unless she exceptional ly femine, young, cooperative, debt free and child-free. BW are 8% of U.S. female population, it's easier to find this standard in 92% of other women.
BW be trippin. They want to be perused endlessly and lead men on to a dead end road. Just be honest and say u want all my money so we can add u to the blocked list in advance. Waste of time yo
This math too easy....she's the common denominator in the equation..
In my opinion...It's too late for most of BW.
It's like the late Kevin Samuels said blackwomen don't smile always on some ish, listening to bad advice from other bitter single blackwomen total in the factor of being the least desirable women for relationships and marriage. Even okcupid said that very same thing.
I learned that women lie alot about men wanting to marry them period lol. Much like how some dudes lie about having h0es. I know this dude from HS that posted a pic on his fb with my ex gf. I sent him a message and asked him if he was with her because he wasnt claiming her on the caption or his status, I was with her for 4 years so I was curious. He then tells me how she told him I was the toxic ex and she broke up with me, and how much I wanted to get married to her hahaha. Bruh, I would avoid the word marriage around her and I broke off the relationship with her. Makes me think how many women use this is a display of higher value when it is false, saying you have had men that want to marry you but she denied them haha.
Ludacris married a beautiful woman from Gabon. These African women are willing to compete. I have a connection in The Gambia. I'm considering going over there for a vacation, and checking out my options. I love Black women, but I'm too "nerdy" or "corny" for the ones I have came across.
She will fine. People need to stop looking for love. My Momma always told me you don't have to look for love, love will find you 💯👍🏾.
They don't want it though, too bitter and materialistic to see it if it smacked them in the face. You have to be ready for love or anything as well, they ain't looking but aren't ready either, so yeah ,don't look but don't be ready and you have 30,40, 50 year old etc dog moms. Talking about they ain't settling lol
@@brandonlongdikjones8117 Well no one should settle and age is irrelevant when it comes to love. 30 40 and 50 year olds get married everyday. Like I said all people have to do is stop looking for love and let love find them 💯👍🏾
@@candybartslim846 to each their own, you're right ,people have babies at 80 and get married at 80 ,90 too, so facts, it's possible.
@@brandonlongdikjones8117 Anyone who would have a baby by an 80 year old is mentally ill 😆😆😆😆 or the old man is rich and the woman is trying to get child support before that old man dies 😆😆😆😆 and that child will never know it's dad because he will be dead or in hospice by the time the child starts school. It's okay to marry at 70 or 80 but no children. Old men's sperm is not healthy and produce unhealthy babies with handicaps. Doctors say old men shouldn't try to have children for that very reason 💯👍🏾
Why don't BBW and older black females try to date yt.?It seems they think that when their value is less is the time to go after black mens