The sad truth is that although I agree with your comment, there are so many women who don't want to die alone. I mean, I am on the fence myself, being a millennial woman that dealt with undercover sassy men. Should I find as much love as I can or risk dying alone. It's a frickin hard pill to swallow. Especially because I'm not financially set so having extra income could prove detrimental to me not being old AF and homeless. Uhg, it breaks my heart because I just want real love and partnership. I'm just glad women are brave enough to talk about these things because it's become almost taboo. This is what real feminism was all about. It was about men dropping the ball and women trying to survive. We need more women and men speaking out about this.
I’ve been saying this for years. Women run the dating market. We control who gets action and who gets shut out. It’s why they hate us. It’s why incels and their various spin offs hate us.
And yet these sameen tell you to "choose better" when you give one of THEM a chance. This is why I never gave these types of men the time of day after dealing with just 1 of these vile men when I was 20.
@@samtula5946 that’s where withholding sex before marriage comes in. It’s so easy to weed out who’s serious and who only wants temporary pleasure like that. And then no harm no foul. Just move on. No heartbreak, pregnancy scares or energy sharing. Just keep it stepping.
@@DutchessSarahJy’all have to stop being so male identified. Withholding sex does nothing. A man can wait on sex before getting with you and when he finally gets it after months or years he switches up now that you’re stuck with him. A man can have sex with you earlier and stay with you for life. It’s not about sex it’s about the man so if you want to withhold sex do it because you want to not because you think it will weed out the dusties. Some men have no concept of time.
This is the most empowering channel on UA-cam. The world would be so much better for everyone if women had never lowered their standards in the first place. 🎉
The sad truth is that although I agree with your comment, there are so many women who don't want to die alone. I mean, I am on the fence myself, being a millennial woman that dealt with undercover sassy men. Should I find as much love as I can or risk dying alone. It's a frickin hard pill to swallow. Especially because I'm not financially set so having extra income could prove detrimental to me not being old AF and homeless. Uhg, it breaks my heart because I just want real love and partnership. I'm just glad women are brave enough to talk about these things because it's become almost taboo. This is what real feminism was all about. It was about men dropping the ball and women trying to survive. We need more women and men speaking out about this.
I would say that a sassy man is also a man that is jealous of women or resents his gender role. I see a lot of men resenting their gender role but because they know it's wrong, it manifests in sassy behaviors. Like when he says, oh i pay the bills, what do you do? He isnt grateful that you also go to work and pay bills or do all the cooking and cleaning. Men just don't appreciate that anymore because they say they can do that and would rather have someone take the lead especially financially. It also manifests when they wont take the lead at all. Or its like giving hint after hint to make a date and they dont. Theres your first clue ladies that he could have this mindset. Unfortunately, a lot of men are like this now. A lot of people are going to die alone because men don't hold themselves and each other accountable anymore. A lot of men are actually ok being predators. Don't get gaslit either, a man willing to lie and play games is definitely a predator. We should all call that out asap. Hurt people hurt people and we need to hold each other to higher standards by discreetly calling people out and talking through things with them to let them know their behavior is unacceptable. Its only harder now because they have a hardened heart filled with bitterness but if we keep fighting the good fight then things will change. I love this girl for having the strength and braveness to breach this taboo topic. Shes killing it in the spirit!
This was a whole word, my child father actually said that to me. Sir didn’t you ask me to be a SAHM? I left because if i got to do it by myself now… then why stay with a man like that. He still lives with his mom and I’ve been thriving but i know deep down it bothers him that i didn’t need him.
"And as a woman I have no way to make money, not enough to earn a living and support my family. Even if I had my own money, which I don't, it would belong to my husband the minute we were married. If we had children they would belong to him, not me. They would be his property. So don't sit there and tell me that marriage isn't an economic proposition, because it is. It may not be for you but it most certainly is for me."
“A man who depends on you subsidizing 50% of expenses. That’s a man dependent on you” you guys have the same insane focus on money as pull people. lol you all are a perfect example of horseshoe theory. You guys hate the pill people so much that you loop back around and agree with them on many issues. An insane focus on money and a relationship as a transaction, other top liked comments in this video argue that divorce being allowed is bad and sex before marriage is bad.
@@Amanda-hc5ldum no, it’s not black and white where we have to be dependent, we can hold down our own and we don’t need to lose our autonomy to attract a man who will take care of us. If you’re straight up dependent all you’re going to attract is a man who will make decisions for you and that’s dangerous. Until we find a good one men are optional.
I love this comment because if we switch the genders it remains as true “Just because you’re an independent man doesn’t mean you have to be with a dependent woman” And as a het man, I don't want a woman who depends on me (especially economically)
@@aayushtiwari3272The flowers also use the bees to create more of themselves. Also female bees search for bigger variety of flowers than male bees, because they gain not only their nectar, but their pollen too. Male bees drink nectar just to stuff themselves up, while female bees do it to create the hive.
I had a man tell me he has extremely bad financial habits. That "He might have six figures one day and he might be penniless in three days" I told him I need a man that understand finances...he said since I'm there I'll cover for him. I said I can't be keeping finances in check and you're ruining it...then I peaced the fvck out
Well done sis!! ❤🎉 Glad you walked away from that man child. I know a guy who makes £30K a year, yet, he is so good with finances, he will retire when he is 55. He's married with 3 kids and gis wife is a stay at home mum. He told me one word to having all this. Investing. Legend!
@@vikki8699he definitely wont retire that early taking care of five people on that tiny barely one person salary, definitely not in America, that's poverty level.
The reason men were courting women back in the day (and even being selective about women), instead of sitting on their high horse crying about 'yOu hIt ThE WaLl aT 30' like MoDeRN men today, is bc only a few decades ago, they HAD to marry the girl if they got her pregnant. For life.
Well ~ not always but it would definitely be highly pressured to do (because otherwise you were literally ruining that woman's life and condemning them to poverty). It definitely would harm your ability to get a proper wife as well, regardless of class.
Exactly it wasn’t necessarily because there was so much love back then it was because people weren’t allowed to have sex until marriage. Also women could not provide for themselves they needed a man for that
exactly! I heard a content creator (I believe Tonya) say 'Motherhood is determined by biology, but Fatherhood is determined by culture'@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 The culture not too long ago was that it was even shameful for men to walk away from their children and wife. Now that it's not (anymore), men are walking away in droves! There's no one to shame them into behaving correctly anymore. I believe the culture & the church/ religion kept them in check back then.
I remember meeting a ‘sassy’ guy at salsa recently. He tried to pull the ‘what do you bring to the table card,’ and when I said… ‘uhh myself,’ (because I knew not to play that game) he acted all smug and nasty like ‘that’s it?’ ‘Just yourself lol?’ You’d think after that, he’d leave me alone right? No! He KEPT asking me to dance And kept trying to squeeze out all my attention for the rest of the night. Proof that men who try devalue you totally know you have worth. They’ll just try talk you out of realising it. #ick
I remember going to a store and a man looked me up and down and asked me "Are you going to share what you buy with me?" I looked him up and down and said no lol he IMMEDIATELY changed his question to "will you let me share what I buy with you?" Men will literally test to see what they can get away with and I promise you he would've had zero respect for me if I had responded positively to the first question and a lot of women don't understand that unfortunately.
@@asiamaynemy brother is one of those sassy men. He hates my mom because she ruined his life. How? He never had to work (cause she bought him expensive clothes and gadgets during high school while my sister and I had to buy our own clothes and give her half for a phone if we wanted a new one). He used her car anytime he wanted as long as he dropped her off wherever she needed to be (my sister and I took the bus, subway, got rides from friends and bf’s and walked. We cleaned, cooked did laundry, the dishes, ironed the laundry post wash etc. while he played PlayStation Xbox and took naps. But now, both my sister and I have good jobs, I have a masters, my sister has a PHD, I live in a nice apartment alone, my sister lives in a nice apartment too and she has a daughter. We are financially stable, and we go on international trips. Guess where my brother is? Still at my moms house. Still never had a job (he’s 30 now). Dropped out of college. He smokes weed, plays Xbox, sneaks girls in and my mothers money has a habit of disappearing if you know what I mean. He still drives her car and they’re always bickering. My mother was so mean to my sister and I growing up. But now she brags to everyone about how she raised us right. Forget the fact that my sister and I have been in therapy for YEARS cause of her. She did a great job (to her). My brother blames her for not pushing him to success the way she ‘pushed’ us and he always talks about how life is easier for women. Teh! Btw, my mom wasn’t a typical single mom… my dad was in the home minding his own business like he was a housemate and not our father.
Congratulations to you and your sister for your success. I feel like this scenario happens a lot and is not discussed often enough. All the best to you.@@UltraMella
I was seeing a guy who was fine, tall and handsome but was expecting me to be happy if I just spend time with him / cook for him / give him massages - literally give him more than i recieve. That was exhausting. And he used to brag how he is such a man, a keeper, the one who protects cuz he used to be in military 😂😂 GIRLS dont trust what a guy says - trust what your gut says. If its draining, RUN
Omg! I hate that! Like if I'm cooking for you, at least wash the dishes. If I'm giving you a massage, I want one too! They think they're the only ones who work or go through stress, and that women are just there to serve them for crumbs in return. Exhausting.
I have a cousin who is a "sassy man" and now he is single and miserable. He has a whole host of psychological problems and he was actually healthy and okay to begin with. He has done this to himself.
Honestly very true! my ex lied about his degree and career and bummed in MY apartment, used my car, and financially/physically abused me. It was the biggest mistake and learning lesson i had in my life. He tried to hold me back in MY thriving career due to his insecurities.
My uncle told me my dad would've died eventually anyways because of drinking due to living with 4 women (no other men). Why the absolute fuck would he tell me that? Placing that blame on me hurt so much. If men suffer from and hate women so much, why are they around them?
I had an alcoholic ex who actually blamed me for his drinking. He claimed he simply couldn't tolerate me sober. I left. He's still drinking. And still trying to get me back. I'd laugh if it weren't so insane and just plain sad.
@@rensii-e8b that's why they're mad if women don't need them to survive. They need us and want us to need them too. But we really don't. "Women need a man like a fish needs a bicycle" 😂
Don't fall for it. All lies. They blame you to guilt you into accepting responsibility so you'll stick around trying to make amends whilst they derail you. RUN!
"You can tell when they're energy is depleted." FELT THIS. Whenever I look at pictures from when I was in a relationship with a sassy narcissist that did not even want to buy a pizza for $30 unless we split it, but was benefitting from all my feminine energy, I can literally see how different my aura is. I don't have that glow in my eyes and aura, I was completely depleted, exhausted and in fact I ended up burning out. It was like a grey veil was over me. Whereas today, even though my life is not perfect, the results of being alone and getting rid of that narcissist are OBVIOUS. My eyes GLOW, my aura is VIBRANT. I feel like MYSELF again. All I´m saying there is truth in this, energy is real. Trust what you feel. If you feel like you´re being depleted of your energy, DUMP HIM as soon as you can. I wish I did that sooner, as I remember I always wondered why I felt drained around him, but did not understand why. I did not understand energy back then and wasn't into spirituality.
YES! I have been having this conversation with people for the last year. So many men talkin outta their necks about all the things women should be and do while simultaneously doing less and less of the bare minimum male tasks 🙄🙄🙄
Here here! I met a handsome man once who talked red pilled. Immediately made him ugly in my eyes so I left him alone. Funny thing was, he got really angry with me for walking away from him. He may have been beautiful then, now, hes run down unhealthy and ugly with no friends. The inside ALWAYS creeps to the surface.
I've never seen a hot red piller. If he opens his mouth and says stupidity, instant no and he's now ugly, downgraded from the "passable" face or nice body he might've had. They are usually just _ok_ in the face anyway, work out, and wear decent clothes. But fine? No. If they are actually handsome and/or the body makes them fine, they then downgrade to attractive, but still unattractive af 😂
@islakaySame thing I said. I've honestly never seen one and that's not just bcs they're icky when they speak. But on a physical level, never have I ever
Andrew tate and red pillers agree with 100% of what is is discussed in this video. Not ironic not exaggerating. Their key ideas are men are the providers to a hard degree (she doesn’t even have think a 50\50 relationship is ok) and relationships are transactional
I loved this video. Especially the last sentence: "You are the source. You are the creation. You are the prize. You have so much inherent worth and value, and everyone else is working overtime so you don't see that."⚡✨
Advice for young women: when you introduce the idea of not sharing 50/50 to a man, mind you that he might say "that's a great idea!" because he wants all that honey and will agree to anything. Happened to me twice in my life, and now I have a vengeful ex-husband blaming me for stealing all his money and using him, spreading gossip amongst our families and in our friend group. If a man doesn't get this naturally and shows that he is willing to spend on you naturally, don't go there. You shouldn't have to educate a man on the basic economics of being a woman: if he doesn't see it, you will not change his mind by sheer force.
But your basic economics is to cook and clean and be subservient to him, correct? If a man's duty is to uphold his traditional gender roles as buying you everything you ask for, or making sure you're in your "Devine feminine energy", wouldn't you do all the chores, do everything with the kids, cook and clean?
I know a woman who came out of an abusive relationship. She waited a year to "heal" but still ended up being in a relationship with a man who gave her the bare minimum. She doesn't see it as the bare minimum, to her he is a saint who would save her from her misery. 2 months into their relationship, she got pregnant, and engaged to him. She doesn't see the financial and life difficulties ahead. She is a well-educated woman who earns more than him, yet they can't move in together because no landlord wants to rent them a 2-bedroom house. Once the baby is born, the sassy boy plans to work part-time to be the "main carer" of the child, while the wife would work full time + overtime to make ends meet. She must work 12-hour shifts, six times a week just to support this sassy man she chose as her baby daddy. All this suffering just because she didn't see her worth. That she was worth more than this. She just rushed into the next man who showed her a bit of basic human decency. I wish I could tell her all of this and show her this video (and most of your videos), but she had cut me off from her life. It's safe to say she didn't want me to burst her bubble. To all women out there who accept the bare minimum from a sassy man, I really feel for them. I hope more people see your videos. This should be a wake-up call to all women who can't see their worth.
it's hard to be friends with women like this, isnt it? They'll be sitting there, with their entire life burning in the background, going 'I'm so blessed! I have the best life & babydaddy eVeRrRrrr'.
@@patty-pat-pat it really is. and they justify their impulsive decision like, "When you know, you know." like sis, how'd you know? what did you know? why do you know? like what---
@@typicalairhead6846 'When you know-' -you know you're in a storm of hormones. 🤷♀ And why should it _become_ love eventually, esp. when it's so forced by accidental procreation? I even get that she wants this romance+ happy family fantasy, and to be this lucky one, the chosen one to 'know' 🙄.. but esp. with this financial future, all this sounds sooo bad. ..At least you won't have to babysit and listen to years of drama and despair.
@@cp_honey You're right. it's the happy hormones. like the high, isn't it? I've only realised that if she didn't cut me off, I would babysit her for years. Thanks for pointing that out.
@@patty-pat-pat yes those women are delusional and it’s really sad they can’t see how their low self esteem is making their lives harder than it needs to be. I have a bestie that go with an older dusty man who lives with his mom , had dv accusations, court cases, he was verbally abusive to her, cheated on her, got her pregnant and had her get an abortion, came in between our friendship to the point where we almost fell out and they were on and off. They’re not dating now because of the cheating but I could see she was still in contact with him because “he’s a good friend” 🙄. NOW the fool lost his current court case and he’s finally in jail and she stays in contact with him. I said please don’t visit that man he is not worth all of that. She makes comments about her hopes for a better man but clings onto this man because she’s afraid to be alone. Oh and he was on drugs, forgot to mention that.
High test also causes lack of empathy and narcissistic qualities. It's a no win situation right now. Until both men and women take their responsibility to themselves and others seriously, it's going to continue to be a hot potato throwing contest of who loses first (it's telling that so many modern men are keen to make women make the sacrifice when that's literally THEIR role).
My 20 year old little brother sent me a message from a girl who asked him to give her something to remember him by and he said he's tired of giving girls things😂 I told him then he should consider dating men because women are receivers while men are providers I honestly blame the red pill movement and the effect it's having on these young men Thanks Elle, for this video. I'll encourage him to join a positive male group or club of some sort
@kibitzr well when it all gets broken down entirely in THEE most simplistic form, men claim they "need" sex they love our bodies and our beauty our companionship our nurturing. You come to us. We have to open our bodies TO you. You TAKE from us. It's a different experience. So yes. We get to just BE. But being taken by a man in and of itself already can be draining so you have a role to maintain us because again, it's MEN who want our bodies.
I feel like saying that is just building up old and dated gender roles. You’re brother doesn’t have to give her anything imo especially if this is the very start of the relationship. And her asking him for stuff right out the gate doesn’t sit right with me either.
The intro is too accurate😂 She’s hilarious! But seriously though. We should leave those sassy men alone and let them find their inner goddess. Until they finally realise nothing inside them is goddessing
It’s not nice or fair but some men hate their moms because he blames her for spoiling him. I had an ex who even stated he dislike that his parents made him the way he was. I read a book that stated in order to not turn into a masculine woman and create a feminine son you literally have to stop catering to your son’s needs after 5 years old. This doesn’t mean neglecting them of course but they are suppose to be given chores. You aren’t suppose to adhere to their cries when they demand wanting something (or everything when it comes to my kid) when you go to the store. If you choose to buy them something it has to be tied to a reward system. They have to actually earn whatever item they want so you basically start the allowance routine very very early for your boys. Meanwhile you give freely to your girls so they don’t feel they have to bring something to the table later. I feel the roles of how we raise boys and girls have been flipped by women that wanted approval from their spouse so they spoil the boys and punish the girls (thinking this is what they should have done in their relationship) when in reality they chose the wrong mate. Plenty of single women have raised healthy adjusted men (just think of the countless widows left after multiple wars). So this topic is so much more complicated than the whole men are this way because they are fatherless. It’s more about the culture of women for some odd reason that continue to raise their son’s like surrogate spouses even when they are married thinking these boys will magically become men that understand women and their needs in the future. Not going to happen, they just get worse the older they get. then due to guilt as well as how mothers are wired we just keep giving to them until they have turned into whole sassy men. So unless there is a man (husband, brother, father, even an uncle) around that can stop that mom from giving into that child/ boy without her flipping out or going into overprotective mode those men child are going to continue ruining our life/ society as a whole.
As a woman of 50, who understands the lesson Elle is talking about, the hardest way possible, I am so glad you get women know this decades before I did! Women don’t tear each other down, we clear the path for everyone in the future! People (men) are NOT a project!🔥
@@susannehuber3996men feel the same way about y’all . Women your age ruined marriage for men and women younger than you . We’re all bitter and use each other because that’s the standard and expectation y’all set
@@kanikakumari7219 actually I’ve got my own home no thanks to mom and dad it was all me . I’ve been on my own since 16 bc I’m a guy and we’re capable of financial responsibility self reliance unlike y’all 😁 being by yourself means nothing when all you girls are living on your dads money
Damn, this is relatable. My recent ex is a sassy man and it felt like he was an energy vampire. I was suffocated for 1.5 years with him and now that we are apart I’m starting to get my energy back. I’m so glad I found your channel today. ❤
This was GOOD Elle! I literally just had to get rid of 2 "sassy" men...both wanting me to get dressed up/look good (for them), wanted me to pay for dates (for them), and let them use me for my resources (for them). You did a great job addressing why the men are not "men-ing" in today's culture. I agree that the lack of manhood traditions/rituals and fathers who "checked out" early played a big part. Add the whole manosphere/red pill/incel culture and us spoiled girlies are set up to fail! Keep exposing this so all women can benefit💕
I literally have an uncle (grown, in his 40s) and his mother (my granny who is 64) is still working nultiple jobs to pay his bills. SMH, when I learned this, i realized how pervasive mooch men were 😔
I used to think it was normal to go 50/50 on everything with a man. Now men still ask me if I want to go 50/50 and I simply say "no" and "I wasn't raised like that." And then they pay. Men have no problem with providing for a woman. You woke me up haha
@@mitzara25its never actually 50/50. Men say that when they want to justify spending money on a woman but rarely split emotional labor, child rearing, cleaning, etc. in addition, it should be 100/100 where both partners give it their all and support one another. 50/50 men will keep tabs on you but get mad when you do the same to them.
@@Confettifunthat’s not what is discussed in the comment or the video. They are saying even if the relationship was truly 50/50 that’s still bad. I don’t get why you guys hate pill people when that’s one of their main ideas as well
There are so many “married” single mothers out here. We need an AA group…Hi.. my name is _____, and I used to lower my standards b/c I didn’t know my worth at the time … Group: Hi ____!
The feminist movement changed the guardian of a woman's body from her father, to herself. Back when women were owned by their father's, even the father would not allow his daughter to marry a man who could not provide for her financially. So just because the guardian has changed, does not mean, the transaction is now free and a woman should allow herself to be with a man who cannot fend for himself or her and their offspring. Being a married woman, means you are denying yourself the pleasures of other men ravishing your body with pleasure and showering you with gifts. It is more of a sacrifice for a woman because were she to have a child, she could die. Men do not die when their wives give birth. Therefore women should not cheapen the transaction of relationships, by giving themselves over to silly, immature men who cannot provide and if she MUST give herself over to an immature man, there had better be the best financial incentive in doing so.
I mean, men are still held liable for the child though which can ruin them financially for the rest of their lives, even if the child is a product of the woman raping the man he can still get taken to court for child support
@@KP-ej7gc it's kind of muddled by the points surrounding it. "Getting married means denying yourself of being ravished by other men" and "only get with an idiot if they have money" like, whatever happened to marriage and having a kid just because yall like each other
@@abrawolfBut, women did try that - the fact that it failed and keeps failing is how we had to learn it was a bunch of bull. A man just "liking" a woman will never be enough because of how men treat women statistically and because they are fickle - women who keep falling for it, keep ending up abandoned, broke, and struggling because a bad choice in a partner destroyed their lives. All over TikTok/YT/Instagram there are countless examples of women having breakdowns, after being abandoned by men during or right after pregnancy. All those men told them they loved them, and wanted to be with them, and the women believed it. The men clearly lied, and now those women are burdened with those children forever. Having a child is one of the single most financially calamitous events that a woman can undergo, married or not. It immediately puts her at risk for poverty and financial ruin, as well as being physically and mentally dangerous. To take on a risk like that, she needs every insurance possible, and that's just how it is. Sayings like "love isn't always enough," exists for a reason.
Sis, if you work your butt off so that you can have the power to purchase your own assets (vehicle, place to live, etc.), and he wants to move in with you, or use your car while you're at work, or have you pay his phone bill because it's "cheaper" for you to be on the same contract.... Sis, just let him go. I don't care how sweet or sexy he his. He will use you-either intentionally or unintentionally-by taking advantage of your natural feminine tendency and desire to nurture and nourish. He NEEDS to learn how to nuture himself. A man needs to learn how to hear his own needs. And he needs to learn how to honor those needs by responding to them in whatever way is most nourishing to him. (NOT by reacting impulsively to his feelings, or acting on some compulsion to smother a feeling). Because here's the thing-he can't treat you with the love and respect you deserve if he doesn't know how to treat himself.
my dad been a sassy man nearly my entire life (just recently he starts to provide financially, when we're all grown and sick of him lol). my ex also had this disease, and i was like "nah, not gonna suffer from this disease again" rather be single than interact w these men again
😲 Oh my goodness! I just had an epiphany: Buddhism solved the “men who are in receiving mode” problem by enticing them to be celibate monks! I mean, being a Buddhist monk is literally the highest form of receiving mode because everything they have must be given to them by laypeople. BUT it also solves the Incel problem by giving those men a higher goal to boost their self-esteem, methods to develop some real wisdom, and group living with other like-minded men to provide the social support that is essential for human happiness. Yet again, the wisdom of the Buddha can continue to solve “modern” problems!
I just want to say that entering the millitary isn't an indicator of a good man or a "ritual of manhood" that is and indicator that he has improved or is somehow more competent as other men. Some of the most selfish and misogonystic men I've met, have been in the millitary. The millitary might teach them dicipline etc. but most of the guys I've met only applies these teachings to themselves and doesn't change their view of women. The one's that I have met have horrible self-control when it comes to women and s*x. If they go in to the millitary having allready been taught sexist beliefs from their cultureb or at home it's not likely to change after. More likely it just becomes worse if the men around them thinks and acts the same, so they don't think there's anything wrong with it, so they don't change how they treat women. This is just speaking from personal experience - people I've known from the millitary (men and women) and the stories they've told. Ont time this guy told me how their friend got kicked out of the millitary for SA, and how he is scared that he might do something like it tpo at one of their parties when he gets drunk - IDK why he felt comfortable telling that, but he did. This also shows in the statistics of SA and R*pe of women in the US forces. www.rand.org/pubs/tools/TLA746-2/handbook/resources/data-on-sexual-assault-in-the-military.html So just please don't go around saying that the millitary is somehow a manhood ritual which imrpoves men/the quality of men and how they think of and treat women. But I do agree that something needs to change for men to grow up and start treating women better, and I think that you're spot on that it starts with what is being normalized and allowed in our culture by women.
The men are not adulting. And keep expecting adult women to be their new mom so they can keep on living as a dependent child having his mom provide for him.
But if you pay attention to how women say "I want a man to provide for me," they themselves are acting like children. Are they not? If you're saying that a man who wants his woman to provide for him is a child looking for a mother, than a woman looking for a provider man is looking for a daddy also. If you claim that a man's duty is to do exactly what your father did for you, wouldn't it also be acceptable for him to expect you to do what his mother did?
Having a son at a young age and his dad passing away at a young age while looking around and u realizing most of the ‘males’ aren’t actually grounded in there masculinity.. aka sassy but pretending to be mucho.. 😢 no choice but to do it until a good father figure is seen.. protecting his masculine energy
I love this channel. It makes me appreciate the man I have while also holding him to a standard that allows him to be deserving of me. Thank you for your wise words, bestie ❤
Men cant complain about being used, when they are the ones approaching you first, with an intent. Its transactional, thats playing the game. Men start the game, the moment men approach a woman who’s minding her business. Men approach women with the intent to use them.
thank you soo much elle, watching your videos has slowly been changing me to the woman i really want to be. Im extremely driven, proactive and independent but because of your videos i realized that's what made me depleted and in a horrible relationship before. I coddled my ex because i thought it was love and all he did was become a parasite in my life.and in no way im saying i want to or need to change but im learning how to act on dates so that i can attract the right man. Things are so much clearer to me now,. I know im capable of doing everything for myself, i work and provide for myself, im very career driven but i want a man to take care of me and take charge. ANd i realize now thats its okay for me to do nothing and let the man take charge. Im the type to take care of things if they arent gettign done, but now im using my resting ability to just let things happen and i feel so empowered in a way. Youve made me feel like its okay to be to expect things from men, and its taught me to attract the kind of men im looking for. It may be so small but i went on a date yesterday and didnt feel like ordering so i just told the guy to order for me and it felt so good. But it just goes to show i have a longway to go to find a balance. I just really wanted to thank you
Question: are you in America? I'm just wondering because you spoke about freedoms like women have equal rights in America. They don't. The equal rights amendment was never ratified. Therefore, all you have are equal privileges that can basically be rescinded at any time. So I'm just curious why that's never the thing that's mentioned or fought for. You'd think that constitutionally protected equal rights would be a much higher priority than the privilege, masquerading as rights, to be treated a certain way in the dating scene.
I been thinking these same about biological changes in women make us grow up in this reality we live, like using it for good affording our lifes wherever we are, all in a natural way, and men don't grow too much if they don't put their will into it. I'm out of a years long draining relationship with this type of man who also got into drugs. And bestie u can even imagine, that was hell teaching! Love your content! Hugs from Uruguay! Tani.
I have to comment one more time for the algorithm because she is literally on it. Some women could teach men but most men will not respect a woman in that aspect especially if she's not his mother. Only other men can teach each other and hold each other accountable. Please, any man that watches this, make your own podcast or video. Idc if you have to copy this amazing women because the messages are so detrimental for society to socialize better. We need men to have healthy family dinamics. Women can't be blamed for everything by these men anymore because we are supposed to be led and submit. Healthy men create healthy men and women period. There will always be bad apples of course. Men have to start really talking like this because women can not lead men into a healthier culture. It has to be men holding each other accountable. ❤
I really don t know what to do with dating apps. I'd like to delete all (because there i found Dangerous scam)and meet in real Life...but at parties no man Is trying with no woman.every man Is like a zombie. And I don't find a solution.i write you from Italy and i m 30...everywhere here are old men at every event and Is very difficult find someone Decent.
I blame Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson's let's get in touch with our inner, vulnerable man. Oh, and I would be remiss to forget the damage of the "not so illustrious" Incel movement.😮
@@lil_crossgg1029Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro and Matt Walsh are feminine and sassy men. I can't see them as men or protecting their family or women physically from harm. They seem like they need protection.
@9395gb You really haven't listened to andrew tate at all. Because he's said pretty much everything this woman is saying. "The woman doesn't chase the man. That's some prissy shit. It's YOUR job as a man to go out and provide for your woman. It's YOUR job to your roles as a man. It's YOUR job as a man to make sure you woman doesn't even work. Never sees a bill" -Andrew Tate.
@9395gb the only difference is that he says a woman has her duties to a man as he has his duties to her. Next time educate yourself before you make a comment. Because you only come out looking Goofy when you're proven wrong
My family tolerates this and I am FED UP! My mom’s therapist said she had that issue of married single mother because all she got from him was money. Everything else was her job or it didn’t get done. She is just glad at least she got money but in reality the world won’t evolve if men don’t evolve. My dad is an adult child to this day and it’s horrible. We need to stop letting boys be boys that never grow into men. I think we should also see the sassy women that are helping those men get too far. I had a relative that groomed and raped me at 14 and found out his mom was for it so I will never forget! My self-esteem is high now and it’s amazing!!!!!!!
@@lil_crossgg1029 Tate is saying this is what men are supposed to do, and women liek that, but hate when he tells women "This is what you're supposed to do when your man gives this treatment". You like to pick and choose
@@srizangupta1957The women here are supporting this when it comes to a man's roles and responsibilities. But will not accept when a man tells her what her roels and responsibilities are
Men cry about the whole 1/2 thing, but the reason that came about is because of their own bad behavior. Men will leave you and the children on the side of the road.🤔🤔🤔
Statistically speaking, it's the woman who takes from the man and leaves the man on the side of the road. Women also cry about going half when it comes to finance and duties and responsibilities. But demand that they are their partners equal in the relationship
Sassy is a feminine trait. Somehow in my 20s all i attracted were sassyy, whiny, feminine men just because I had my stuff together and was the level-headed one. It's like they attach themselves to stable people like me. How do I stop them from even talking to me? I do vetting now but it's too late for me maybe
@@Janon743 Hyperemotional and dramatic in every small thing/argument , nagging+catty comments, manipulating to get pampering princess treatment, needing coddling, silent treatment, gossiping about me behind my back (usually women do this). Two of them had borderline personality disorder. I found out. I am so tired of attracting this.
@@goddessvibes08I'm sorry to hear that, sis. You may need to just have a period of alone time and self reflection - maybe try therapy or journaling to become cognizant of some of your behaviors and what's contributing to these people being drawn to you - or rather, why you are drawn to them. If you are level headed, smart, compassionate, and kind (which it sounds like you are) then you are just an attractive person, period. Even flies week be attracted to a delicious feast. Now you just need to get some mesh in place to keep the flies from entering your palace. Find those points of entry (your insecurities, traumas, fears, etc) and seal them. Invest heavily into yourself, treat yourself take yourself out, read more, and try a hobby or new skill. Pour love and sweetness into yourself, and be alone for a while - then, slowly, evaluate people who enter your life. The space someone occupies shouldn't feel like it was better when it was empty, as opposed to being filled by them. If they disrupt the peace you've gained, let them go.
It's simpler than that actually, checkout "Calhoun's most famous utopia," it's about a society of mice who were given all the food and drugs they could consume. This experiment is reproducible, and all reproductions generate the same outcome. The mice become 'beautiful' and then the population dies due to lack of reproduction. This 'sassy man' is exactly the 'beautiful mouse' from Calhoun's mouse utopia. Manhood is definitely biological and genetic, but the transition to predator only occurs when we face death, hardship, and adversity. Look around at the men you know and you'll see that for yourself.
“Until You Find A Good One, Men Are Optional” I FELT THIS 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
So true
Girl. This sums it up perfectly.
basically
Bingo! 🎯
The sad truth is that although I agree with your comment, there are so many women who don't want to die alone. I mean, I am on the fence myself, being a millennial woman that dealt with undercover sassy men. Should I find as much love as I can or risk dying alone. It's a frickin hard pill to swallow. Especially because I'm not financially set so having extra income could prove detrimental to me not being old AF and homeless. Uhg, it breaks my heart because I just want real love and partnership. I'm just glad women are brave enough to talk about these things because it's become almost taboo. This is what real feminism was all about. It was about men dropping the ball and women trying to survive. We need more women and men speaking out about this.
I’ve been saying this for years. Women run the dating market. We control who gets action and who gets shut out. It’s why they hate us. It’s why incels and their various spin offs hate us.
And yet these sameen tell you to "choose better" when you give one of THEM a chance.
This is why I never gave these types of men the time of day after dealing with just 1 of these vile men when I was 20.
@@samtula5946 that’s where withholding sex before marriage comes in. It’s so easy to weed out who’s serious and who only wants temporary pleasure like that. And then no harm no foul. Just move on. No heartbreak, pregnancy scares or energy sharing. Just keep it stepping.
@@DutchessSarahJyuppppp
@@samtula5946yeah but we're the ones who have to say yes so, were the gatekeepers of it all, including men's lineages
@@DutchessSarahJy’all have to stop being so male identified. Withholding sex does nothing. A man can wait on sex before getting with you and when he finally gets it after months or years he switches up now that you’re stuck with him. A man can have sex with you earlier and stay with you for life. It’s not about sex it’s about the man so if you want to withhold sex do it because you want to not because you think it will weed out the dusties. Some men have no concept of time.
This is the most empowering channel on UA-cam. The world would be so much better for everyone if women had never lowered their standards in the first place. 🎉
Agree! ✨💖 elle is thee best!
There was a time when women were threatened with violence, lucky we are progressively climbing out of that ditch
It's their fault.
They bully you into lowering your standards. Some women couldn't stand the nuisance + headache and gave in to the pressure.
@@nicelypenn explain? Very vague to the point its meaningless
The sad truth is that although I agree with your comment, there are so many women who don't want to die alone. I mean, I am on the fence myself, being a millennial woman that dealt with undercover sassy men. Should I find as much love as I can or risk dying alone. It's a frickin hard pill to swallow. Especially because I'm not financially set so having extra income could prove detrimental to me not being old AF and homeless. Uhg, it breaks my heart because I just want real love and partnership. I'm just glad women are brave enough to talk about these things because it's become almost taboo. This is what real feminism was all about. It was about men dropping the ball and women trying to survive. We need more women and men speaking out about this.
I know you’re an Academia girlie. Pls make a video on tips to do well in any career as a girl.
Yess
I would say that a sassy man is also a man that is jealous of women or resents his gender role. I see a lot of men resenting their gender role but because they know it's wrong, it manifests in sassy behaviors. Like when he says, oh i pay the bills, what do you do? He isnt grateful that you also go to work and pay bills or do all the cooking and cleaning. Men just don't appreciate that anymore because they say they can do that and would rather have someone take the lead especially financially. It also manifests when they wont take the lead at all. Or its like giving hint after hint to make a date and they dont. Theres your first clue ladies that he could have this mindset. Unfortunately, a lot of men are like this now. A lot of people are going to die alone because men don't hold themselves and each other accountable anymore. A lot of men are actually ok being predators. Don't get gaslit either, a man willing to lie and play games is definitely a predator. We should all call that out asap. Hurt people hurt people and we need to hold each other to higher standards by discreetly calling people out and talking through things with them to let them know their behavior is unacceptable. Its only harder now because they have a hardened heart filled with bitterness but if we keep fighting the good fight then things will change. I love this girl for having the strength and braveness to breach this taboo topic. Shes killing it in the spirit!
This was a whole word, my child father actually said that to me. Sir didn’t you ask me to be a SAHM? I left because if i got to do it by myself now… then why stay with a man like that. He still lives with his mom and I’ve been thriving but i know deep down it bothers him that i didn’t need him.
*insert Greta Gerwig's Little Women, Amy monologue about marriage being an economic proposition*
"And as a woman I have no way to make money, not enough to earn a living and support my family. Even if I had my own money, which I don't, it would belong to my husband the minute we were married. If we had children they would belong to him, not me. They would be his property. So don't sit there and tell me that marriage isn't an economic proposition, because it is. It may not be for you but it most certainly is for me."
Can someone tell me, what sound is used in 14:30. How can I find it? Really need it
Elle is a bit wired in this episode lol. I totally agree with you. Everywhere I look I see sassy men that just want to take, take and take from women.
🚨 send this message out through the national emergency alert to all the girlies, expeditiously🚨
Sassy men >>>
“Just because you’re an independent woman doesn’t mean you have to be with a dependent man” yes sing it baby!
“A man who depends on you subsidizing 50% of expenses. That’s a man dependent on you” you guys have the same insane focus on money as pull people. lol you all are a perfect example of horseshoe theory. You guys hate the pill people so much that you loop back around and agree with them on many issues.
An insane focus on money and a relationship as a transaction, other top liked comments in this video argue that divorce being allowed is bad and sex before marriage is bad.
But with your attitude that's all you will attract
@@Amanda-hc5ldum no, it’s not black and white where we have to be dependent, we can hold down our own and we don’t need to lose our autonomy to attract a man who will take care of us. If you’re straight up dependent all you’re going to attract is a man who will make decisions for you and that’s dangerous. Until we find a good one men are optional.
I love this comment because if we switch the genders it remains as true
“Just because you’re an independent man doesn’t mean you have to be with a dependent woman”
And as a het man, I don't want a woman who depends on me (especially economically)
The bee doesnt come to the flower then ask it "what do u bring to the table" 😂
This needs more likes. I'm gonna frame this on my wall.
The bee looks for what the flower has to offer (nectar) no nectar, and the bee moves on.
Bee uses that flower and moves on to the next one if that flower is not good enough
@@aayushtiwari3272The flowers also use the bees to create more of themselves. Also female bees search for bigger variety of flowers than male bees, because they gain not only their nectar, but their pollen too. Male bees drink nectar just to stuff themselves up, while female bees do it to create the hive.
Except y’all aren’t some pristine flower y’all are more like a used car with 250,000 miles on it 🤢
I'd rather grow old with my cat than be a married single mother.
Same ❤❤❤
Same same. Ain't non way
Yess
hahaha me too
YESS. I feel so bad for them. Imagine having someone and still feel lonely
I had a man tell me he has extremely bad financial habits. That "He might have six figures one day and he might be penniless in three days" I told him I need a man that understand finances...he said since I'm there I'll cover for him. I said I can't be keeping finances in check and you're ruining it...then I peaced the fvck out
Well done sis!! ❤🎉 Glad you walked away from that man child.
I know a guy who makes £30K a year, yet, he is so good with finances, he will retire when he is 55. He's married with 3 kids and gis wife is a stay at home mum.
He told me one word to having all this. Investing. Legend!
@@vikki8699he definitely wont retire that early taking care of five people on that tiny barely one person salary, definitely not in America, that's poverty level.
@@Rosemary46840He lives in the UK if she used the pound “£” sign.
@@vikki8699 it sounds like he is only taking into account himself with those finances
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The reason men were courting women back in the day (and even being selective about women), instead of sitting on their high horse crying about 'yOu hIt ThE WaLl aT 30' like MoDeRN men today, is bc only a few decades ago, they HAD to marry the girl if they got her pregnant. For life.
Well ~ not always but it would definitely be highly pressured to do (because otherwise you were literally ruining that woman's life and condemning them to poverty).
It definitely would harm your ability to get a proper wife as well, regardless of class.
Yep, that's why my grandparents got married. They hate each other too 😂
Exactly it wasn’t necessarily because there was so much love back then it was because people weren’t allowed to have sex until marriage. Also women could not provide for themselves they needed a man for that
exactly! I heard a content creator (I believe Tonya) say 'Motherhood is determined by biology, but Fatherhood is determined by culture'@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 The culture not too long ago was that it was even shameful for men to walk away from their children and wife. Now that it's not (anymore), men are walking away in droves! There's no one to shame them into behaving correctly anymore. I believe the culture & the church/ religion kept them in check back then.
@@patty-pat-patit still happens in the east though.
I remember meeting a ‘sassy’ guy at salsa recently. He tried to pull the ‘what do you bring to the table card,’ and when I said… ‘uhh myself,’ (because I knew not to play that game) he acted all smug and nasty like ‘that’s it?’ ‘Just yourself lol?’
You’d think after that, he’d leave me alone right?
No! He KEPT asking me to dance
And kept trying to squeeze out all my attention for the rest of the night.
Proof that men who try devalue you totally know you have worth. They’ll just try talk you out of realising it.
#ick
Ewww I dance too and totally could see that happening. They are such con's. His behavior def told you the truth! But wow they are entitled
@@WynnWynn-gl3fk yeah, or just straight up ignore ha
I remember going to a store and a man looked me up and down and asked me "Are you going to share what you buy with me?" I looked him up and down and said no lol he IMMEDIATELY changed his question to "will you let me share what I buy with you?"
Men will literally test to see what they can get away with and I promise you he would've had zero respect for me if I had responded positively to the first question and a lot of women don't understand that unfortunately.
So he thinks you’re worthless, but still tries to get with you? What?
@@pReCiOuStHePiMpCeSs what a chad
Avoid mean, sassy, dusty & evil men xxxxx protect yourselves ladies. I like women opening up we need each other 👊🏾.
Vice versa to the fellas. Just sayin
My brother is a mommy's boy he's old and still want to be a mama's boy I can't. He does nothing for my mom
thank you for sharing🤎
These men are raised to be mommy’s boys 😢
😭
I’ve met sassy men who hate their mothers 😢cuz their mothers were neglectful
@@asiamaynemy brother is one of those sassy men. He hates my mom because she ruined his life. How? He never had to work (cause she bought him expensive clothes and gadgets during high school while my sister and I had to buy our own clothes and give her half for a phone if we wanted a new one). He used her car anytime he wanted as long as he dropped her off wherever she needed to be (my sister and I took the bus, subway, got rides from friends and bf’s and walked. We cleaned, cooked did laundry, the dishes, ironed the laundry post wash etc. while he played PlayStation Xbox and took naps. But now, both my sister and I have good jobs, I have a masters, my sister has a PHD, I live in a nice apartment alone, my sister lives in a nice apartment too and she has a daughter. We are financially stable, and we go on international trips. Guess where my brother is? Still at my moms house. Still never had a job (he’s 30 now). Dropped out of college. He smokes weed, plays Xbox, sneaks girls in and my mothers money has a habit of disappearing if you know what I mean. He still drives her car and they’re always bickering. My mother was so mean to my sister and I growing up. But now she brags to everyone about how she raised us right. Forget the fact that my sister and I have been in therapy for YEARS cause of her. She did a great job (to her). My brother blames her for not pushing him to success the way she ‘pushed’ us and he always talks about how life is easier for women. Teh! Btw, my mom wasn’t a typical single mom… my dad was in the home minding his own business like he was a housemate and not our father.
Congratulations to you and your sister for your success. I feel like this scenario happens a lot and is not discussed often enough. All the best to you.@@UltraMella
It’s to a point that I feel like if I were a boy mom in todays time, I’d be so embarrassed
you are just my UA-cam mom, thank you for existing, really! 😭🙏🏻
😭😭😭🤎
Yay❤
This is such a sweet and wholesome comment 💕
'In his divine feminine receiving mode era' is bloody hilarious 😅
The music had me dying 😂😂😂
@@НатальяБ-й5хomg!! saaaaaaame 😂 I swear it gave me Deedee from Dexter vibes. Dancing in her ballerina outfit 😂🤣🤣
Choose better my nigga 😂😂🤷♂️
@@devinchapman3912 it's a stand alone funny phrase!
I don't get it. Women been telling us to be more feminine and in tune with emotions and here is the result. Shame insult and guilt
I was seeing a guy who was fine, tall and handsome but was expecting me to be happy if I just spend time with him / cook for him / give him massages - literally give him more than i recieve. That was exhausting. And he used to brag how he is such a man, a keeper, the one who protects cuz he used to be in military 😂😂 GIRLS dont trust what a guy says - trust what your gut says. If its draining, RUN
Omg! I hate that!
Like if I'm cooking for you, at least wash the dishes. If I'm giving you a massage, I want one too!
They think they're the only ones who work or go through stress, and that women are just there to serve them for crumbs in return.
Exhausting.
The military is a double edged sword for men.
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And carefull when you leave that kind of men, some women got maimed and murdered for that 😬
And they wonder why women threat them bably
😭🤣, this ain't it
I have a cousin who is a "sassy man" and now he is single and miserable. He has a whole host of psychological problems and he was actually healthy and okay to begin with. He has done this to himself.
Like KS says “I’m going to hell and taking you all with me” like sheep led to slaughter.
Wow I going thru divorce with husband 24 yrs. As soon as he started KS red pill content all hell broke loose smh
Honestly very true! my ex lied about his degree and career and bummed in MY apartment, used my car, and financially/physically abused me. It was the biggest mistake and learning lesson i had in my life. He tried to hold me back in MY thriving career due to his insecurities.
And they're also quick to call WOMEN entitled for just having standards
Like just say you like tall guys and BOOM
@@muslimmetalman So what? Cry about it
@@JumpRopeQueen111 Are the tall guys in the room with us right now?
And they are also quick to call MEN entitled for just having standards
True on that! if I just ask for some decent respect and expect them to make a plan if they ask me out, all of a sudden I am entitled.
My uncle told me my dad would've died eventually anyways because of drinking due to living with 4 women (no other men).
Why the absolute fuck would he tell me that?
Placing that blame on me hurt so much.
If men suffer from and hate women so much, why are they around them?
I had an alcoholic ex who actually blamed me for his drinking. He claimed he simply couldn't tolerate me sober. I left. He's still drinking. And still trying to get me back. I'd laugh if it weren't so insane and just plain sad.
They need us. They do really do we have inherent value n some resent us for that
@@rensii-e8b that's why they're mad if women don't need them to survive. They need us and want us to need them too. But we really don't. "Women need a man like a fish needs a bicycle" 😂
Just reverse whatever they say and you've got the truth 😂
Don't fall for it.
All lies.
They blame you to guilt you into accepting responsibility so you'll stick around trying to make amends whilst they derail you. RUN!
My childhood bestfriend wound up having a sassy man’s child. They split up and wound up back together- he watches my IG stories more than she does 🤮
Tell her
"You can tell when they're energy is depleted." FELT THIS. Whenever I look at pictures from when I was in a relationship with a sassy narcissist that did not even want to buy a pizza for $30 unless we split it, but was benefitting from all my feminine energy, I can literally see how different my aura is. I don't have that glow in my eyes and aura, I was completely depleted, exhausted and in fact I ended up burning out. It was like a grey veil was over me. Whereas today, even though my life is not perfect, the results of being alone and getting rid of that narcissist are OBVIOUS. My eyes GLOW, my aura is VIBRANT. I feel like MYSELF again. All I´m saying there is truth in this, energy is real. Trust what you feel. If you feel like you´re being depleted of your energy, DUMP HIM as soon as you can. I wish I did that sooner, as I remember I always wondered why I felt drained around him, but did not understand why. I did not understand energy back then and wasn't into spirituality.
The mindset of "I can make my own money. But when im with my men, I dont have to" have to spread more louder
So you agree with the patriarchy
Sounds like a call girl to me
@@adambarker749 i do. i want to be a stay at home wife
@krismadani德维帕 more than half of the people that agree with you don't, i think that's the problem
The title of the video is so accurate! I've been noticing this a lot lately.
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YES! I have been having this conversation with people for the last year. So many men talkin outta their necks about all the things women should be and do while simultaneously doing less and less of the bare minimum male tasks 🙄🙄🙄
Talking about high value/traditional women do this and that.. meanwhile they’re living in someone’s basement lmao
Let’s leave all those red pillers alone. Yes, even the hot ones.
Here here!
I met a handsome man once who talked red pilled. Immediately made him ugly in my eyes so I left him alone. Funny thing was, he got really angry with me for walking away from him. He may have been beautiful then, now, hes run down unhealthy and ugly with no friends. The inside ALWAYS creeps to the surface.
I've never seen a hot red piller. If he opens his mouth and says stupidity, instant no and he's now ugly, downgraded from the "passable" face or nice body he might've had. They are usually just _ok_ in the face anyway, work out, and wear decent clothes. But fine? No.
If they are actually handsome and/or the body makes them fine, they then downgrade to attractive, but still unattractive af 😂
@islakaySame thing I said. I've honestly never seen one and that's not just bcs they're icky when they speak. But on a physical level, never have I ever
@islakay Honestly I was thinking the same thing.. These red pill men usually look like garbage disposal trucks. Evil thoughts show on the surface.
Andrew tate and red pillers agree with 100% of what is is discussed in this video. Not ironic not exaggerating. Their key ideas are men are the providers to a hard degree (she doesn’t even have think a 50\50 relationship is ok) and relationships are transactional
Lets keep those standards high girls
Let's keep those standards high, men
You Can All Agree Right That's Not Working Out To Well In The Long Run... Don't Focus On The Now Look To The Future!
If something doesn’t work and you just keep doing it don’t expect people to look at you crazy 😂
@@jlspracher anyone who has their shit together deserves to keep their standards high 🙏
I loved this video. Especially the last sentence: "You are the source. You are the creation. You are the prize. You have so much inherent worth and value, and everyone else is working overtime so you don't see that."⚡✨
Hey! Can you tell me what does the last line mean,"Everyone is workinh overtime so you dont see that"?♡
@@yuookii150 It's like there is an entire system in place that is trying to make us feel like we are less than, flawed, unworthy, etc
we have high standards babyyyyyyy
purr🤎🤎
Advice for young women: when you introduce the idea of not sharing 50/50 to a man, mind you that he might say "that's a great idea!" because he wants all that honey and will agree to anything. Happened to me twice in my life, and now I have a vengeful ex-husband blaming me for stealing all his money and using him, spreading gossip amongst our families and in our friend group. If a man doesn't get this naturally and shows that he is willing to spend on you naturally, don't go there. You shouldn't have to educate a man on the basic economics of being a woman: if he doesn't see it, you will not change his mind by sheer force.
But your basic economics is to cook and clean and be subservient to him, correct?
If a man's duty is to uphold his traditional gender roles as buying you everything you ask for, or making sure you're in your "Devine feminine energy", wouldn't you do all the chores, do everything with the kids, cook and clean?
I know a woman who came out of an abusive relationship. She waited a year to "heal" but still ended up being in a relationship with a man who gave her the bare minimum. She doesn't see it as the bare minimum, to her he is a saint who would save her from her misery. 2 months into their relationship, she got pregnant, and engaged to him. She doesn't see the financial and life difficulties ahead. She is a well-educated woman who earns more than him, yet they can't move in together because no landlord wants to rent them a 2-bedroom house. Once the baby is born, the sassy boy plans to work part-time to be the "main carer" of the child, while the wife would work full time + overtime to make ends meet. She must work 12-hour shifts, six times a week just to support this sassy man she chose as her baby daddy.
All this suffering just because she didn't see her worth. That she was worth more than this. She just rushed into the next man who showed her a bit of basic human decency. I wish I could tell her all of this and show her this video (and most of your videos), but she had cut me off from her life. It's safe to say she didn't want me to burst her bubble.
To all women out there who accept the bare minimum from a sassy man, I really feel for them. I hope more people see your videos. This should be a wake-up call to all women who can't see their worth.
it's hard to be friends with women like this, isnt it? They'll be sitting there, with their entire life burning in the background, going 'I'm so blessed! I have the best life & babydaddy eVeRrRrrr'.
@@patty-pat-pat it really is. and they justify their impulsive decision like, "When you know, you know." like sis, how'd you know? what did you know? why do you know? like what---
@@typicalairhead6846 'When you know-' -you know you're in a storm of hormones. 🤷♀ And why should it _become_ love eventually, esp. when it's so forced by accidental procreation? I even get that she wants this romance+ happy family fantasy, and to be this lucky one, the chosen one to 'know' 🙄.. but esp. with this financial future, all this sounds sooo bad.
..At least you won't have to babysit and listen to years of drama and despair.
@@cp_honey You're right. it's the happy hormones. like the high, isn't it? I've only realised that if she didn't cut me off, I would babysit her for years. Thanks for pointing that out.
@@patty-pat-pat yes those women are delusional and it’s really sad they can’t see how their low self esteem is making their lives harder than it needs to be. I have a bestie that go with an older dusty man who lives with his mom , had dv accusations, court cases, he was verbally abusive to her, cheated on her, got her pregnant and had her get an abortion, came in between our friendship to the point where we almost fell out and they were on and off. They’re not dating now because of the cheating but I could see she was still in contact with him because “he’s a good friend” 🙄. NOW the fool lost his current court case and he’s finally in jail and she stays in contact with him. I said please don’t visit that man he is not worth all of that. She makes comments about her hopes for a better man but clings onto this man because she’s afraid to be alone. Oh and he was on drugs, forgot to mention that.
When elle said her “THAT IS NOT MY TASK” quote, i litterally yelled out loud “YEAAAA!” 👏😂💖✨
Elle thank you for my reup of girl power energy!💕
Yes! This is what feminism is actually about ❤🎉🎉
@@Tealaful aamen ! 😎💖
Testosterone levels in men are at an all time low. That may explain a few things.
Because of chemicals in food and everything else it isn't just cultural it's biological
High test also causes lack of empathy and narcissistic qualities. It's a no win situation right now. Until both men and women take their responsibility to themselves and others seriously, it's going to continue to be a hot potato throwing contest of who loses first (it's telling that so many modern men are keen to make women make the sacrifice when that's literally THEIR role).
My 20 year old little brother sent me a message from a girl who asked him to give her something to remember him by and he said he's tired of giving girls things😂
I told him then he should consider dating men because women are receivers while men are providers
I honestly blame the red pill movement and the effect it's having on these young men
Thanks Elle, for this video. I'll encourage him to join a positive male group or club of some sort
@kibitzr well when it all gets broken down entirely in THEE most simplistic form, men claim they "need" sex they love our bodies and our beauty our companionship our nurturing. You come to us. We have to open our bodies TO you. You TAKE from us. It's a different experience. So yes. We get to just BE. But being taken by a man in and of itself already can be draining so you have a role to maintain us because again, it's MEN who want our bodies.
@@redleeks6253 Women don’t die alone though, Women know how to build connections while men fail to do so.
It sounds like he's being used which a lot of women do all the time.
I feel like saying that is just building up old and dated gender roles. You’re brother doesn’t have to give her anything imo especially if this is the very start of the relationship. And her asking him for stuff right out the gate doesn’t sit right with me either.
Yea be quiet bro provide yo own shit 😂
The intro is too accurate😂 She’s hilarious!
But seriously though. We should leave those sassy men alone and let them find their inner goddess. Until they finally realise nothing inside them is goddessing
😂😂😂 why do I even try to imagine their inner goddess? I think I have a mental trauma now😅
Nothing inside of them is goddessing😭😭😭
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And rhe exact reason why theyre "lonely and depressed" and need women to pacify them and distract them from that gaping hole inside them.
"Inner goddess" is wild🤣🤣🤣🤣, I'm using that ma'am.
It’s not nice or fair but some men hate their moms because he blames her for spoiling him. I had an ex who even stated he dislike that his parents made him the way he was. I read a book that stated in order to not turn into a masculine woman and create a feminine son you literally have to stop catering to your son’s needs after 5 years old. This doesn’t mean neglecting them of course but they are suppose to be given chores. You aren’t suppose to adhere to their cries when they demand wanting something (or everything when it comes to my kid) when you go to the store. If you choose to buy them something it has to be tied to a reward system. They have to actually earn whatever item they want so you basically start the allowance routine very very early for your boys. Meanwhile you give freely to your girls so they don’t feel they have to bring something to the table later. I feel the roles of how we raise boys and girls have been flipped by women that wanted approval from their spouse so they spoil the boys and punish the girls (thinking this is what they should have done in their relationship) when in reality they chose the wrong mate. Plenty of single women have raised healthy adjusted men (just think of the countless widows left after multiple wars). So this topic is so much more complicated than the whole men are this way because they are fatherless. It’s more about the culture of women for some odd reason that continue to raise their son’s like surrogate spouses even when they are married thinking these boys will magically become men that understand women and their needs in the future. Not going to happen, they just get worse the older they get. then due to guilt as well as how mothers are wired we just keep giving to them until they have turned into whole sassy men. So unless there is a man (husband, brother, father, even an uncle) around that can stop that mom from giving into that child/ boy without her flipping out or going into overprotective mode those men child are going to continue ruining our life/ society as a whole.
100% agreed
100% spot on. What's the name of this book?
As a woman of 50, who understands the lesson Elle is talking about, the hardest way possible, I am so glad you get women know this decades before I did! Women don’t tear each other down, we clear the path for everyone in the future! People (men) are NOT a project!🔥
Yes, I’m 40 and I’m astonished how much young women already know. I had to learn the very hard way.
@@susannehuber3996men feel the same way about y’all . Women your age ruined marriage for men and women younger than you . We’re all bitter and use each other because that’s the standard and expectation y’all set
@@Joe-qm4yvbut you are single staying in mom's basement.
@@kanikakumari7219 actually I’ve got my own home no thanks to mom and dad it was all me . I’ve been on my own since 16 bc I’m a guy and we’re capable of financial responsibility self reliance unlike y’all 😁 being by yourself means nothing when all you girls are living on your dads money
@@Joe-qm4yvNot dad's money, child support.
Damn, this is relatable. My recent ex is a sassy man and it felt like he was an energy vampire. I was suffocated for 1.5 years with him and now that we are apart I’m starting to get my energy back.
I’m so glad I found your channel today. ❤
I love to se guys in healthy “bro groups “ too
This was GOOD Elle! I literally just had to get rid of 2 "sassy" men...both wanting me to get dressed up/look good (for them), wanted me to pay for dates (for them), and let them use me for my resources (for them). You did a great job addressing why the men are not "men-ing" in today's culture. I agree that the lack of manhood traditions/rituals and fathers who "checked out" early played a big part. Add the whole manosphere/red pill/incel culture and us spoiled girlies are set up to fail! Keep exposing this so all women can benefit💕
💯 accurate
I literally have an uncle (grown, in his 40s) and his mother (my granny who is 64) is still working nultiple jobs to pay his bills. SMH, when I learned this, i realized how pervasive mooch men were 😔
Had to immediately come and give it a like. But I'll watch after my shift is over.
I appreciate u bestie🤎 get that bag
Entitled incels basically
There are a lot of chad men popular with women who are sassy baby boys. There is no single rule
It's so heartwarming to watch this video + read the comments and see women lifting each other up.
I used to think it was normal to go 50/50 on everything with a man. Now men still ask me if I want to go 50/50 and I simply say "no" and "I wasn't raised like that." And then they pay. Men have no problem with providing for a woman. You woke me up haha
What's wrong with 50/50?
lol if she say no then I guess we finna rob this mf today 🙈
@@mitzara25its never actually 50/50. Men say that when they want to justify spending money on a woman but rarely split emotional labor, child rearing, cleaning, etc. in addition, it should be 100/100 where both partners give it their all and support one another. 50/50 men will keep tabs on you but get mad when you do the same to them.
@@Confettifunthat’s not what is discussed in the comment or the video. They are saying even if the relationship was truly 50/50 that’s still bad. I don’t get why you guys hate pill people when that’s one of their main ideas as well
Literally what is wrong with like, spliting bills and such, literally no reason not to
The way this video opened, she’s so passionate ahhaa - I love
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“…and the OTTOMAN” bahahaha 😂 love that line
Yess! The title alone is a statement. We needed this session bad bestie 🙌🏽💛
Maybe men are acting how they truly are. They are done acting how patriarchy wants them to act 😅 men are sassy
yup..seems so more and more
I'm not
@@AmericanDreamerThey are tired of "masculine" being mistaken for "accepting of mistreatment"
There are so many “married” single mothers out here. We need an AA group…Hi.. my name is _____, and I used to lower my standards b/c I didn’t know my worth at the time … Group: Hi ____!
There are codependency groups on Facebook and such!
Love this coined term “Sassy men” that perfectly described the blocked men in my life 😂
The feminist movement changed the guardian of a woman's body from her father, to herself. Back when women were owned by their father's, even the father would not allow his daughter to marry a man who could not provide for her financially. So just because the guardian has changed, does not mean, the transaction is now free and a woman should allow herself to be with a man who cannot fend for himself or her and their offspring. Being a married woman, means you are denying yourself the pleasures of other men ravishing your body with pleasure and showering you with gifts. It is more of a sacrifice for a woman because were she to have a child, she could die. Men do not die when their wives give birth. Therefore women should not cheapen the transaction of relationships, by giving themselves over to silly, immature men who cannot provide and if she MUST give herself over to an immature man, there had better be the best financial incentive in doing so.
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I mean, men are still held liable for the child though which can ruin them financially for the rest of their lives, even if the child is a product of the woman raping the man he can still get taken to court for child support
@@abrawolfyes, and that’s wrong. But men don’t die in childbirth, which was the point of her commenr.
@@KP-ej7gc it's kind of muddled by the points surrounding it. "Getting married means denying yourself of being ravished by other men" and "only get with an idiot if they have money" like, whatever happened to marriage and having a kid just because yall like each other
@@abrawolfBut, women did try that - the fact that it failed and keeps failing is how we had to learn it was a bunch of bull. A man just "liking" a woman will never be enough because of how men treat women statistically and because they are fickle - women who keep falling for it, keep ending up abandoned, broke, and struggling because a bad choice in a partner destroyed their lives.
All over TikTok/YT/Instagram there are countless examples of women having breakdowns, after being abandoned by men during or right after pregnancy. All those men told them they loved them, and wanted to be with them, and the women believed it. The men clearly lied, and now those women are burdened with those children forever.
Having a child is one of the single most financially calamitous events that a woman can undergo, married or not. It immediately puts her at risk for poverty and financial ruin, as well as being physically and mentally dangerous.
To take on a risk like that, she needs every insurance possible, and that's just how it is. Sayings like "love isn't always enough," exists for a reason.
These dudes need the YMCA 🤣
The sound effect of “divine feminine receiving era” cracks me up! 😂 sassy man sound effect hahaha
I want it as a ring tone!!! So good 😊
Sis, if you work your butt off so that you can have the power to purchase your own assets (vehicle, place to live, etc.), and he wants to move in with you, or use your car while you're at work, or have you pay his phone bill because it's "cheaper" for you to be on the same contract.... Sis, just let him go. I don't care how sweet or sexy he his. He will use you-either intentionally or unintentionally-by taking advantage of your natural feminine tendency and desire to nurture and nourish. He NEEDS to learn how to nuture himself. A man needs to learn how to hear his own needs. And he needs to learn how to honor those needs by responding to them in whatever way is most nourishing to him. (NOT by reacting impulsively to his feelings, or acting on some compulsion to smother a feeling).
Because here's the thing-he can't treat you with the love and respect you deserve if he doesn't know how to treat himself.
Keep high standards we carry life 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶💗💗💗
my dad been a sassy man nearly my entire life (just recently he starts to provide financially, when we're all grown and sick of him lol). my ex also had this disease, and i was like "nah, not gonna suffer from this disease again" rather be single than interact w these men again
Lol I love that lil character you added 😂❤
😲 Oh my goodness! I just had an epiphany: Buddhism solved the “men who are in receiving mode” problem by enticing them to be celibate monks! I mean, being a Buddhist monk is literally the highest form of receiving mode because everything they have must be given to them by laypeople. BUT it also solves the Incel problem by giving those men a higher goal to boost their self-esteem, methods to develop some real wisdom, and group living with other like-minded men to provide the social support that is essential for human happiness. Yet again, the wisdom of the Buddha can continue to solve “modern” problems!
Genius
I just want to say that entering the millitary isn't an indicator of a good man or a "ritual of manhood" that is and indicator that he has improved or is somehow more competent as other men. Some of the most selfish and misogonystic men I've met, have been in the millitary.
The millitary might teach them dicipline etc. but most of the guys I've met only applies these teachings to themselves and doesn't change their view of women. The one's that I have met have horrible self-control when it comes to women and s*x. If they go in to the millitary having allready been taught sexist beliefs from their cultureb or at home it's not likely to change after. More likely it just becomes worse if the men around them thinks and acts the same, so they don't think there's anything wrong with it, so they don't change how they treat women.
This is just speaking from personal experience - people I've known from the millitary (men and women) and the stories they've told.
Ont time this guy told me how their friend got kicked out of the millitary for SA, and how he is scared that he might do something like it tpo at one of their parties when he gets drunk - IDK why he felt comfortable telling that, but he did. This also shows in the statistics of SA and R*pe of women in the US forces. www.rand.org/pubs/tools/TLA746-2/handbook/resources/data-on-sexual-assault-in-the-military.html
So just please don't go around saying that the millitary is somehow a manhood ritual which imrpoves men/the quality of men and how they think of and treat women.
But I do agree that something needs to change for men to grow up and start treating women better, and I think that you're spot on that it starts with what is being normalized and allowed in our culture by women.
The men are not adulting. And keep expecting adult women to be their new mom so they can keep on living as a dependent child having his mom provide for him.
But if you pay attention to how women say "I want a man to provide for me," they themselves are acting like children. Are they not?
If you're saying that a man who wants his woman to provide for him is a child looking for a mother, than a woman looking for a provider man is looking for a daddy also. If you claim that a man's duty is to do exactly what your father did for you, wouldn't it also be acceptable for him to expect you to do what his mother did?
I swear it’s something In the water. They don’t want to do NUTHIN😭
They are haggling your worth and you are letting them, BESTIE WAKE UP!
Hell yeah! ❤ Excellent video lovely!
Having a son at a young age and his dad passing away at a young age while looking around and u realizing most of the ‘males’ aren’t actually grounded in there masculinity.. aka sassy but pretending to be mucho.. 😢 no choice but to do it until a good father figure is seen.. protecting his masculine energy
I love this channel. It makes me appreciate the man I have while also holding him to a standard that allows him to be deserving of me. Thank you for your wise words, bestie ❤
Men cant complain about being used, when they are the ones approaching you first, with an intent. Its transactional, thats playing the game.
Men start the game, the moment men approach a woman who’s minding her business. Men approach women with the intent to use them.
bingo
We can and we do complain about it. And if we feel mistreated; we take our ball and we go home. Cry about it.
Spoiled girlies unite! 👑💕💫
thank you soo much elle, watching your videos has slowly been changing me to the woman i really want to be. Im extremely driven, proactive and independent but because of your videos i realized that's what made me depleted and in a horrible relationship before. I coddled my ex because i thought it was love and all he did was become a parasite in my life.and in no way im saying i want to or need to change but im learning how to act on dates so that i can attract the right man. Things are so much clearer to me now,. I know im capable of doing everything for myself, i work and provide for myself, im very career driven but i want a man to take care of me and take charge. ANd i realize now thats its okay for me to do nothing and let the man take charge. Im the type to take care of things if they arent gettign done, but now im using my resting ability to just let things happen and i feel so empowered in a way. Youve made me feel like its okay to be to expect things from men, and its taught me to attract the kind of men im looking for. It may be so small but i went on a date yesterday and didnt feel like ordering so i just told the guy to order for me and it felt so good. But it just goes to show i have a longway to go to find a balance. I just really wanted to thank you
🥹im happy to help bestie 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
I missed you! Thanks for posting ❤
thank you🤎🤎🤎
Listening to you teach literally makes my spirits soar! Thank you for speaking truth!!!!!!!!
The “man” who raised me also ab**ed me, mentally & physically. Looking back, he was the sassiest man I’ve ever known. My mother worked full time. 😒
The music you play when you talk about divine feminine energy in men takes me out every time 😭😂
The opening statements and the dramatic music, I hit like STRAIGHT AWAY
Bestie is so fiery today🔥! I missed this energy. Hope we can see more of this.
Wishing for 100 000 subscribers very soon for you, Queen Elle! You deserve it - you practically gave me knowledge I never would have known otherwise!
Why do I sometimes feel you're about to slap me 😂
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YES GIRL
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Question: are you in America?
I'm just wondering because you spoke about freedoms like women have equal rights in America. They don't. The equal rights amendment was never ratified. Therefore, all you have are equal privileges that can basically be rescinded at any time.
So I'm just curious why that's never the thing that's mentioned or fought for. You'd think that constitutionally protected equal rights would be a much higher priority than the privilege, masquerading as rights, to be treated a certain way in the dating scene.
I been thinking these same about biological changes in women make us grow up in this reality we live, like using it for good affording our lifes wherever we are, all in a natural way, and men don't grow too much if they don't put their will into it. I'm out of a years long draining relationship with this type of man who also got into drugs. And bestie u can even imagine, that was hell teaching! Love your content! Hugs from Uruguay! Tani.
thank you elle ❤ i was so confused about wtf a sassy man was and um....nope nope nope
really appreciate the captioning too!
Period bestie you said everything every woman need to hear
love your videossssss
thank you bestie🤎
I have to comment one more time for the algorithm because she is literally on it. Some women could teach men but most men will not respect a woman in that aspect especially if she's not his mother. Only other men can teach each other and hold each other accountable. Please, any man that watches this, make your own podcast or video. Idc if you have to copy this amazing women because the messages are so detrimental for society to socialize better. We need men to have healthy family dinamics. Women can't be blamed for everything by these men anymore because we are supposed to be led and submit. Healthy men create healthy men and women period. There will always be bad apples of course. Men have to start really talking like this because women can not lead men into a healthier culture. It has to be men holding each other accountable. ❤
yessss !!!! You really vocalized it 💯💯💯
Pose for a photograph
Put on my pretty face
Thank God I'm not a boy
I'd always have to pay
Pretend that I was strong
And never got afraid
I really don t know what to do with dating apps. I'd like to delete all (because there i found Dangerous scam)and meet in real Life...but at parties no man Is trying with no woman.every man Is like a zombie. And I don't find a solution.i write you from Italy and i m 30...everywhere here are old men at every event and Is very difficult find someone Decent.
Instead of using apps, maybe delve into communties or clubs, especially online. You can make connections more naturally by relating on a hobby!
@@0shawhat i deleted app just today. Online sucks. I try in clubs near my house.
I blame Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson's let's get in touch with our inner, vulnerable man. Oh, and I would be remiss to forget the damage of the "not so illustrious" Incel movement.😮
It’s funny you say that because they say very similar things to what this lady is saying to a point where they agree on a lot of things
@@lil_crossgg1029Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro and Matt Walsh are feminine and sassy men. I can't see them as men or protecting their family or women physically from harm. They seem like they need protection.
@9395gb You really haven't listened to andrew tate at all. Because he's said pretty much everything this woman is saying.
"The woman doesn't chase the man. That's some prissy shit. It's YOUR job as a man to go out and provide for your woman. It's YOUR job to your roles as a man. It's YOUR job as a man to make sure you woman doesn't even work. Never sees a bill"
-Andrew Tate.
@9395gb the only difference is that he says a woman has her duties to a man as he has his duties to her.
Next time educate yourself before you make a comment. Because you only come out looking Goofy when you're proven wrong
@@9395gb they aren't feminine, they are masculine but toxicly
😢😢😢 I needed you like 15 years ago. Thanks for your videos, you are literally the best.
i’m a man, and a gay one, but you’re so mother for this
The sound effect at 14:29🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 . 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ BESTY IV woken up.... Thank you 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓
My family tolerates this and I am FED UP! My mom’s therapist said she had that issue of married single mother because all she got from him was money. Everything else was her job or it didn’t get done. She is just glad at least she got money but in reality the world won’t evolve if men don’t evolve. My dad is an adult child to this day and it’s horrible. We need to stop letting boys be boys that never grow into men.
I think we should also see the sassy women that are helping those men get too far. I had a relative that groomed and raped me at 14 and found out his mom was for it so I will never forget! My self-esteem is high now and it’s amazing!!!!!!!
You're on point with this!! Great job.
I can’t 😂 “the pickmeishas” 😂
Her descriptions are a whole
Mood.
This is actually almost word for word what Tate is telling men but the RP clan don't wanna hear this part of the message.
Sorry what does RP clan mean I am not trying to be rude I just don’t know 😅
@@lil_crossgg1029 the "red pill" community
Finally someone gets it. Do women here not get that this is a ' PinkPill' channel, a RedPill equivalent of men ??
@@lil_crossgg1029 Tate is saying this is what men are supposed to do, and women liek that, but hate when he tells women "This is what you're supposed to do when your man gives this treatment". You like to pick and choose
@@srizangupta1957The women here are supporting this when it comes to a man's roles and responsibilities. But will not accept when a man tells her what her roels and responsibilities are
Men cry about the whole 1/2 thing, but the reason that came about is because of their own bad behavior. Men will leave you and the children on the side of the road.🤔🤔🤔
Statistically speaking, it's the woman who takes from the man and leaves the man on the side of the road.
Women also cry about going half when it comes to finance and duties and responsibilities. But demand that they are their partners equal in the relationship
Sassy is a feminine trait. Somehow in my 20s all i attracted were sassyy, whiny, feminine men just because I had my stuff together and was the level-headed one. It's like they attach themselves to stable people like me. How do I stop them from even talking to me? I do vetting now but it's too late for me maybe
@@Janon743 Hyperemotional and dramatic in every small thing/argument , nagging+catty comments, manipulating to get pampering princess treatment, needing coddling, silent treatment, gossiping about me behind my back (usually women do this). Two of them had borderline personality disorder. I found out. I am so tired of attracting this.
@@goddessvibes08I'm sorry to hear that, sis. You may need to just have a period of alone time and self reflection - maybe try therapy or journaling to become cognizant of some of your behaviors and what's contributing to these people being drawn to you - or rather, why you are drawn to them. If you are level headed, smart, compassionate, and kind (which it sounds like you are) then you are just an attractive person, period.
Even flies week be attracted to a delicious feast. Now you just need to get some mesh in place to keep the flies from entering your palace. Find those points of entry (your insecurities, traumas, fears, etc) and seal them. Invest heavily into yourself, treat yourself take yourself out, read more, and try a hobby or new skill. Pour love and sweetness into yourself, and be alone for a while - then, slowly, evaluate people who enter your life. The space someone occupies shouldn't feel like it was better when it was empty, as opposed to being filled by them. If they disrupt the peace you've gained, let them go.
@sheraseven says, ask them for money. They will run away 😅 it works !!!
Sassy isn't feminine. It's just annoying. But it's more acceptable in women. Men doing it is just plain weird.
It's simpler than that actually, checkout "Calhoun's most famous utopia," it's about a society of mice who were given all the food and drugs they could consume. This experiment is reproducible, and all reproductions generate the same outcome. The mice become 'beautiful' and then the population dies due to lack of reproduction. This 'sassy man' is exactly the 'beautiful mouse' from Calhoun's mouse utopia. Manhood is definitely biological and genetic, but the transition to predator only occurs when we face death, hardship, and adversity. Look around at the men you know and you'll see that for yourself.