I noticed that I failed the give examples of clutter-safe spaces in this video. I don’t want to leave you without this valuable piece. So here are a few examples: An office space A den A basement A spare room Bonus room Loft space Etc. These rooms vary depending on your living situation. It’s best to have this conversation with whoever you live with and decide who gets what space to call their own. It’s healthy to have both clutter free and clutter safe spaces because you never want someone feel not like themselves in their own home. Hope this helps!
I've been trying to do this for two years. First point for me is to focus on my own stuff first. As my husband has seen progress, he's started to declutter himself. I like the idea of establishing "clutter - free" and "clutter - safe" zones.
My partner is absolutely not a minimalist and I struggle with letting go of control so coming to a compromise on clutter has been a challenge. We've worked it out though and the clutter-safe spaces are absolutely something we've put into action. By accident of course.
I’m the practicing minimalist in the family. I have my husband, and two boys and they LOVE stuff. When it got really bad (my husband loves buying them toys- like he never really got as a kid) I’d establish a 1 in, 2/3 out rule. I helped my boys understand that it would be less clean up for them, and the first big purge we did we all felt better afterward. They watch me give things away all the time in our buy nothing group on Facebook- I want to teach through my actions and let them know that the things that once served a purpose in my life was ready to serve someone else’s now. As a mom with young kids my hip use definitely has toys and other things lying around daily, but we do the best we can.
Oh my goodness. This is such perfect timing! My partner is a… hmm… “collector”… and we are about to move in together so I’ve been a little anxious about this… great advice from someone who’s living it! (I guess the good news is he’s all for the minimalist approach… buuuut… he keeps collecting… so it’ll be a slow, patient journey with constant communication…) ❤️
@Jamie Tan KonMari method helped me a lot in this sense. Usually collectors have a lot of stuff they don't use (as so my husband,too) so Marie Kondo suggests to keep this stuff in a spare room or storage space or something like that -that is the clutter space that Ronald suggests. Actually the best would be to throw away a lot of it,but since they don't want to,at least it is not in your living space. Also have in the house specifically cabinets for each of you (except kitchen and bathroom which is a shared space). He will probably need more cabinets than you and this will give him visual evidence that he has taken over more space than you. What I did additionally is that I set him boundaries in collecting,I gave my husband 3-4 times more space in the living area (and we live in a house,lol,and only two of us in it) and storage space is almost completly his,but it is still not enough,he wants to collect more,so I set boundaries that he can only have as much stuff as the cabinets in the house and cabinets in the storage space can hold. He can have 30 times more stuff than I do,but he cant have 40 or 50 times more stuff,so that we are drowning in his stuff. There has to be an end to it. This made sense to him and he respects it.
I'm old (laughing). When my husband and I married 9/16/1966 (55 years ago) we were on the same page when it came to major life issues, which included a less is more lifestyle, as well as the importance of honest communication. Never ignoring an issue hoping it would go away. Honest communication that depending on the issue may require humor or serious concern. Serious concern like post partum depression where I wasn't cleaning or caring about anything and needed medical help. As a kid I remember my Dad saying that if I marry someone who is great and it gets even better that that is called, frosting on the cake. But that no one has the right to make someone change, that this must be the persons choice. Which is why I should always pay attention to the red flags BEFORE getting to serious with a man, So if his place was always messy and cluttered I knew we would be a bad match. And that I should never get rid of my husbands favorite t-short without his permission (big smile) No problem there, he did it! (laughing)
It’s taken me time to accept the differences my partner and I have. I have come to realization that my home might not be as minimalist as I would like but that’s just what comes with living with a non minimalist
I had this conversation with my husband. When he made a comment about me starting the minimalist and the kids need to. I told him this is my thing not something I'm putting on them. Because they are young and will find their own thing. Not me putting my idea on them. (I dont think my kids have a lot of stuff anyway) I told him let them find their way they still have a lot of life.
I’ve been trying to be a minimalist for a couple of years, it’s hard work seeing the consumption within my own home. We moved to a smaller home and this has helped.
Hi Ronald. I am the minimalist, or at least aspiring minimalist. I totally agree that you should not declutter other people's things. I am a professional organizer, and I tell people this all the time. It can be really detrimental to the relationship and also to the person's journey to let go - THEY need to learn to let go of things and if we declutter behind their backs they do not learn this lesson. The funny thing is my husband likes the idea of minimalism, but he struggles to let go of things and doesn't want to prioritize the time to declutter. I like your idea of having your own spaces and keeping them the way you would like - I have started allowing my husband to keep his side of the bed and his desk however he would like to keep it. I think by letting him do this, he has seen the benefits I experience from not having a lot of stuff and keeping my things tidy. Thanks for sharing this. Your videos are always thought provoking!😊💗
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share this with you! I’m glad you enjoyed this. Plus you’re right sometimes allowing someone to observe the benefits you’re receiving from owning less might be enough to spark a change in them.
I am practicing minimalism and so is my husband. Our 3 young adult kids live with us and we have too much stuff. I accepted the situation knowing it’s temporary. They will move out soon and the stuff will go. It will be bitter sweet
Excellent. The UA-cam algorithm knew I needed to discover this clear explanation as I struggle to know how to deal with my new and motivated journey of decluttering. Very inspiring and food for thought, thank you.
My wife is not a minimalist, and I don't want to change her, but just trying to get her to understand what I am trying to achieve. She likes to buy me clothes, which I appreciate, but I don't need and makes me feel guilty if I don't show that I appreciate the thought more than the gift. I prefer life experiences and spending time together.
I'm the practicing minimalist, well on the journey for a few years, still have a way to go, but the mindset is there...my husband loves stuff! But we are learning to compromise...
I’m dipping my toes into minimalism. I love it! But my husband is the “ let’s save it for the future” type guy. Without realizing it, I established spaces for him that he can have his stuff . Example : part of the back porch, or a tiny corner in the room. But, he has been watching me declutter a lot !
Man good thing I found this video it has helped me I guess in someway mentally. When you mentioned to simply just respect there boundary’s and accept the differences that helped because I’m not sure if I should just thrown out my dads junk just laying around and to talk with then instead because my situation isn’t the best I mean like it can be worst but we lost our apartment like 5 years ago (im just turned 18) and yeah he just isn’t the best dad but with that being said our family has to stay in one room therefor his side is so messy and it like I’m trying to become one my self because I hate living in a messy lifestyle like the way I was raised because now that I’m looking back there is so much stuff I realize now that was done that affect a child’s growth and it’s affected me and I’m aware of it now if not the super hyper awareness and the minimalist lifestyle is basically naturally becoming my life style even before I had herd of the word “minimalist”. No idea why I wrote this😅
I’m single and live alone 🌷 but I still enjoy watching this video very much 💕 and find this very informative and helpful ✨ I am trying to be a minimalist and I learn A LOT from you 🌟 thanks for being my role model ☀️☀️☀️
I am the one striving for a minimalist home and my husband and 3 kids are not. But leading by example has influenced my 2 younger ones to make some changes in their habits which is a total win!
Little late to this video but what I loved most was "Listen to understand, not to respond" this is such a valuable lesson for all relationships no matter the topic. It is a key foundation of successful dialogue too. Thank you for this. I also think we'll establish some clutter safe zones now. What a great idea.
Love your content🤍 I’m the one attempting to declutter & simplify. My husband & I have been together for over 10 years & he used to be the main housekeeper & I was the clutter bug lol. Now the roles are reversed. Your reminders for patience are clutch.
My parents are hoarders and maximalist, that's why I used to be a maximalist too. Then, when I get married, I changed to be mindful person rather than called minimalist (though people called me minimalist). My husband is not a minimalist but he can compromise and support me, so it's not a big deal. Every once in two months, I always declutter and my husband helps me to do it.
Thank you for your wisdom and insight. I am the one in our 40+ years of marriage who am working towards a minimalist environment. My husband gets it and actually loves the space when 'stuff' is reduced and it is a calm place to sit and be. However he strenuously resists letting go of stuff. He never knows where anything is and likes it to be left where he put it, even if hardly ever used. Think tools on the coffee table! I manage this by never throwing any of his stuff out but try to gather it in clear boxes, like going with like and putting the box in a store room we have in our attic. It is discouraging though when I am in declutter mode!
I find minimalism so fascinating and I am trying to be more intentional with what I bring into my life. My boyfriend isn't a minimalist but does not find it necessary to own so much which is helpful in clutter
I am very much the minimalist and my husband very much is not. He's not quite hoarder but..... we get along great though. We're incredibly lucky to have a house big enough that we each have our own spaces that we can keep how we like. Common areas are kept mostly tidy. But thankfully when they get to bad, he ever gets annoyed and helps clean it up. We work very well together.
Excuse my English but I just wanted to thank you for these advices (especially the "listen to understand, not to respond"). They actually help me in other parts of my life and I feel like I need to keep them in mind when I discuss with someone. Great video!
I'm endeavoring to practice or incorporate minimalism in my life, however my 17 year old son is a collector and wants a to hold on to most of his possessions.
I’m the minimalist and the one who likes organization and clean spaces. My husband is the one who doesn’t notice messes, or our perspective on what qualifies as a mess is very different. 😉 He leaves things everywhere and doesn’t mind living among disorganized spaces and clutter. I think he blocks it out because it really doesn’t bother him. I instantly see clutter and messes and literally feel the work that it adds to simple cleaning tasks and maintaining organization as a family of 6. I have 4 sons who I’m trying to teach to be responsible and organized because I don’t want them just relying on me and having no clue how to keep things organized as adults. So..I live with 5 boys that tend to all leave things everywhere and lose things!! Im constantly being asked where something is. I’m always saying if the items have homes and get put back in their homes, you will always know where it is. 😉💙
Hi Ron I'm the minimalist and my hubby has let go if something's but he has a hard time. We are in our 70s and I'm trying to reduce the amount of stuff. We are getting there slowly. Thanks for sharing great tips. ❤
I'm the minimalist, but with how I approached it, my partner and even family I don't live with have adopted some of my "techniques." The benefits of improved mental health and saving money were so apparent that they wanted in on it lol.
I have becoming minimalist for the past few years. Why? Because I have had much loss. My parents and son died young. I have experienced a devastating fire. Lost Barbies, Beatle albums, everything. Experienced 2 divorces. In Al-Anon now, for reasons... I want a cleaned-up life. I want to control what I keep and what I let go. I'm not extreme. I am happy w/my minimal wardrobe. Searching and rummaging through stuff, stuff, stuff is maddening and stressful. I need the most simple life. My boyfriend and I moved in together, and he hates when I let go of multiples. Few examples: four drain stoppers for kitchen sink. Many multiples of partly used products from 25 yrs ago - not exaggerating. The list goes on. He hoards. I used to, but I have changed. We don't need thousands of duplicates of everything. It makes me feel mentally ill and closed-in. He has hundreds (literally) of winter shirts and hundreds of summer shirts, all from the past 36 years, no lie, many w/holes, stains, too large, too small, smh... 😭 I have nice, basic cotton t-shirts and 3pr jeans and a few pants in basic colors. I have 1 wk of shorts in different colors. In summer it's shorts and t-shirts, then for winter I use same shirts, add basic jacket, jeans, boots. Keeps my part of the closet and my drawers neat. If I toss out or give anything away, he pulls it out of the trash or plastic bin, questions me, states why we should keep it (no matter what it is! Even when we have multiples). Lord help me. 😢
I started practicing minimalism since the pandemic and until now, I am still congratulating myself on every little thing that I declutter and minimize in my life. My husband was supportive but not minimizing. I did not bother, but now he is starting to help me. He is scanning pictures and getting rid of some that do not matter to us. Two more albums to go and we will be album-free around here. He is also talking about getting rid of CDs and VHS tapes. Yay!!!! When my youngest son grows up a little older, then maybe, just maybe we can get rid of some of his toys. At least he is learning to be organized.
Angelie, what scanner are you using? I’m looking at a top feeding Epson photoscanner rather than manually flatbed scanning thousands of photos. Fujitsu and some other brands have cheaper units, but I haven’t found good reviews about them other than for document scanning.
This video came perfectly!!!!! I'm trying to get my mom into minimalism she's interested but she was asking me this morning how can she when my stepdad is sentimental and would never be a minimalist! wow on point! thank you I love your videos so much! -- Kamryn
i am the one in the relationship who is a minimalist. but little by little my boyfriend also gets rid of stuff because I ask if he wants to sort it out because I want to keep things tidy in the house and want less stuff. I hope one day he will do this view himself
First of all wow, and congratulations!!! Always well thought out great details. In my journey I discovered I am unique in my organizational proficiency! I do not consider myself a minimalist, but entering my living situation you would have no idea! My clean organized environment isn't something that happens once a year or when someone is coming to visit... it is daily. My former partner due to their environment we did not live together... when you can't even open the door to the entry... ect... no bueno! Also after years of plans, conversations, agreements, and disagreements I have my own personal space that is mine... which is clean and I can find everything! The rest... I tidy up what I personally use. The are no compromises or disagreements here!
Working toward minimalism, and my kids aren't. Not saying they haven't changed over the years, They had a field day when I started trying the KonMari method a few years ago and they asked if they could do their closets too.
Ronald, a lot of what you’ve said, is great advice for a successful relationship with anyone, aside of it’s relevance to minimalism, wise words, thank you.
Ronald, I just found your channel and watched your trailer and found that you and the way you present your message are refreshing and resonate deeply with me. I’ve just subscribed and plan to go back and work my way through your library of videos. Thank you so much for this channel!!!
Congratulations on your marriage Ronald. Great content as always. I'm slowly living a minimalist life and I definitely have found this particular video very helpful.
It is very well to respect my bf's room as his own space where he can do and keep whatever he likes. The problem is that I more and more find it sooo uncomfortable to be there. As it doubles as living room, I hardly spend any time there any longer because there literally is no spot for me to rest the eye🙄he himself is very much at unease and stressed which I credit to the room partially as well. He notices how much nicer my space is and keeps saying he should tidy up some time. Once in a while he does it, pushing endless things around, feeling very tired in the end but the results hardly show, let alone are permanent.
One of the things that pushed me into minimalism is that my partner is a bit of a hoarder. I got sick of living with his tools and clothes collection. I´ll try some of your suggestions, but I´m at a point when his habits really get me down and I´m not sure I want to continue with the relationship. I crave simplicity and empty space.
I'm a minimalist moving across the ocean to marry my best friend. I know she's not a minimalist. I want to compromise. I want us to have a peaceful, happy life together. :)
I’ve been married, but I finally had to face the fact that it’s just better for me to live alone. I can’t share my space because other humans in my personal space feel a lot like clutter.
welllll, I am single so unless they are ALREADY a minimalist they can't come into my (personal) life. LoL...This way of life (seriously) is important to me...
How would you deal with a parent who has so much stuff, they expect you to store some of it and they fight you when you ask them to take it away since they don't live with you?
You gave examples of shared spaces that should be clutter free but no example of rooms that can be used for personal processions or way of living? Are there any?
Absolutely! These rooms vary depending on your living situation. Maybe you have an office space, a den, a basement, a spare room, bonus room, etc. that serves as your personal space for you to create and use how you please. It’s best to have this conversation with whoever you live with and decide who gets what space to call their own. It’s healthy to have both clutter free and clutter safe spaces because you never want someone feel not like themselves in their own home.
I don't share my space with anyone, but I wonder who would take care (dust, wash, tidy up, repair, etc.) all the extra stuff. Each their own? Not sure it always ends up being that way. How do you not feel all that clutter is imposed on you?
I live with a hoarder and I do feel that his clutter is imposed on me. It's a matter of accepting that and finding the strategy that works for you. Crucial in my marriage was that my husband starts to respect some boundaries . And as it is mentioned in this video communication is key - I declutter with him his stuff from time to time (using KonMari method) and always explain to him what we are doing hoping he would understand one day completely. KonMari is an excellent strategy because she suggest to put away rarely used items in a storage space outside the area where you live. We actually have a storage space in our yard so I came to am idea to use it not just for our rarely used items,but also for his stuff he doesn't need and use (but he thinks he needs them,lol). But I told him that he cannot go overboard with the storage space,it neeeds to be neat and the stuff needs to be inside the cabinets (so it doesn't get so dirty). In regard to space where we live,a house, he needs to help clean shared space, and he needs to keep his clutter inside his cabinets. He has a lot more cabinets in the house, so I think it's only fair to ask that he doesnt go overboard. So the living area is quite mamagable now.
I noticed that I failed the give examples of clutter-safe spaces in this video. I don’t want to leave you without this valuable piece. So here are a few examples:
An office space
A den
A basement
A spare room
Bonus room
Loft space
Etc.
These rooms vary depending on your living situation. It’s best to have this conversation with whoever you live with and decide who gets what space to call their own. It’s healthy to have both clutter free and clutter safe spaces because you never want someone feel not like themselves in their own home. Hope this helps!
Thank you sooo much. I didn't see this at first. I feel hopeful and inspired.
“Listen to understand, not to respond” - this is the answer to a question I didn’t even know I had
This is really a masterclass on relationship communication.
Interestingly enough, my husband has always been more minimalistic than me. I’m the one coming around. I find this lifestyle so freeing!
I’m the one practicing minimalism and my husband does not but he also is not a collector of items which makes me happy.
I've been trying to do this for two years. First point for me is to focus on my own stuff first. As my husband has seen progress, he's started to declutter himself. I like the idea of establishing "clutter - free" and "clutter - safe" zones.
I didn’t know you and Lexi got married! Congratulations!!
Thank you!!
It’s difficult to have “clutter free zones” when you live in a tiny apartment where EVERY SQUARE INCH can be seen from anywhere you stand 😅
My partner is absolutely not a minimalist and I struggle with letting go of control so coming to a compromise on clutter has been a challenge. We've worked it out though and the clutter-safe spaces are absolutely something we've put into action. By accident of course.
I’m the practicing minimalist in the family. I have my husband, and two boys and they LOVE stuff. When it got really bad (my husband loves buying them toys- like he never really got as a kid) I’d establish a 1 in, 2/3 out rule. I helped my boys understand that it would be less clean up for them, and the first big purge we did we all felt better afterward. They watch me give things away all the time in our buy nothing group on Facebook- I want to teach through my actions and let them know that the things that once served a purpose in my life was ready to serve someone else’s now.
As a mom with young kids my hip use definitely has toys and other things lying around daily, but we do the best we can.
I'm trying to practice minimalism, living in a materialistic and clutter filled home of my parent's.
Oh my goodness. This is such perfect timing! My partner is a… hmm… “collector”… and we are about to move in together so I’ve been a little anxious about this… great advice from someone who’s living it! (I guess the good news is he’s all for the minimalist approach… buuuut… he keeps collecting… so it’ll be a slow, patient journey with constant communication…) ❤️
@Jamie Tan KonMari method helped me a lot in this sense. Usually collectors have a lot of stuff they don't use (as so my husband,too) so Marie Kondo suggests to keep this stuff in a spare room or storage space or something like that -that is the clutter space that Ronald suggests. Actually the best would be to throw away a lot of it,but since they don't want to,at least it is not in your living space. Also have in the house specifically cabinets for each of you (except kitchen and bathroom which is a shared space). He will probably need more cabinets than you and this will give him visual evidence that he has taken over more space than you. What I did additionally is that I set him boundaries in collecting,I gave my husband 3-4 times more space in the living area (and we live in a house,lol,and only two of us in it) and storage space is almost completly his,but it is still not enough,he wants to collect more,so I set boundaries that he can only have as much stuff as the cabinets in the house and cabinets in the storage space can hold. He can have 30 times more stuff than I do,but he cant have 40 or 50 times more stuff,so that we are drowning in his stuff. There has to be an end to it. This made sense to him and he respects it.
@@sanjalisnjic7271 I LOVE your approach! So practical and reasonable. Happy to hear it’s working for you both too. Thank you for sharing! 🙏
Very interesting Ronald. Most minimalists stop with "never declutter another person's possessions". Thank you for delving more deeply into this issue.
I’m really happy I could share this value with you! Thank you for giving me the opportunity! Keep growing and learning!
I'm old (laughing). When my husband and I married 9/16/1966 (55 years ago) we were on the same page when it came to major life issues, which included a less is more lifestyle, as well as the importance of honest communication.
Never ignoring an issue hoping it would go away. Honest communication that depending on the issue may require humor or serious concern. Serious concern like post partum depression where I wasn't cleaning or caring about anything and needed medical help.
As a kid I remember my Dad saying that if I marry someone who is great and it gets even better that that is called, frosting on the cake. But that no one has the right to make someone change, that this must be the persons choice. Which is why I should always pay attention to the red flags BEFORE getting to serious with a man, So if his place was always messy and cluttered I knew we would be a bad match.
And that I should never get rid of my husbands favorite t-short without his permission (big smile) No problem there, he did it! (laughing)
Life as a minimalist is already helping me out
It’s taken me time to accept the differences my partner and I have. I have come to realization that my home might not be as minimalist as I would like but that’s just what comes with living with a non minimalist
I had this conversation with my husband. When he made a comment about me starting the minimalist and the kids need to. I told him this is my thing not something I'm putting on them. Because they are young and will find their own thing. Not me putting my idea on them. (I dont think my kids have a lot of stuff anyway) I told him let them find their way they still have a lot of life.
I’ve been trying to be a minimalist for a couple of years, it’s hard work seeing the consumption within my own home. We moved to a smaller home and this has helped.
Hi Ronald. I am the minimalist, or at least aspiring minimalist. I totally agree that you should not declutter other people's things. I am a professional organizer, and I tell people this all the time. It can be really detrimental to the relationship and also to the person's journey to let go - THEY need to learn to let go of things and if we declutter behind their backs they do not learn this lesson. The funny thing is my husband likes the idea of minimalism, but he struggles to let go of things and doesn't want to prioritize the time to declutter. I like your idea of having your own spaces and keeping them the way you would like - I have started allowing my husband to keep his side of the bed and his desk however he would like to keep it. I think by letting him do this, he has seen the benefits I experience from not having a lot of stuff and keeping my things tidy. Thanks for sharing this. Your videos are always thought provoking!😊💗
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share this with you! I’m glad you enjoyed this. Plus you’re right sometimes allowing someone to observe the benefits you’re receiving from owning less might be enough to spark a change in them.
I am practicing minimalism and so is my husband. Our 3 young adult kids live with us and we have too much stuff. I accepted the situation knowing it’s temporary. They will move out soon and the stuff will go. It will be bitter sweet
Excellent.
The UA-cam algorithm knew I needed to discover this clear explanation as I struggle to know how to deal with my new and motivated journey of decluttering.
Very inspiring and food for thought, thank you.
My wife is not a minimalist, and I don't want to change her, but just trying to get her to understand what I am trying to achieve. She likes to buy me clothes, which I appreciate, but I don't need and makes me feel guilty if I don't show that I appreciate the thought more than the gift. I prefer life experiences and spending time together.
Continue to have those conversations. Communication is extremely important and it will help you both understand each other!
You are an excellent orator. Gestures, tone, pace. Your flow reminds me of spoken word/ poetry. In that, it compliments your aesthetic. Great content!
I love poetry! Thank you my man! Keep growing on your journey!
I'm the practicing minimalist, well on the journey for a few years, still have a way to go, but the mindset is there...my husband loves stuff! But we are learning to compromise...
I’m dipping my toes into minimalism. I love it! But my husband is the “ let’s save it for the future” type guy. Without realizing it, I established spaces for him that he can have his stuff . Example : part of the back porch, or a tiny corner in the room.
But, he has been watching me declutter a lot !
I've started practicing minimalism, but my family is not on board. It is frustrating, but I'm trying to be respectful of their things.
Man good thing I found this video it has helped me I guess in someway mentally. When you mentioned to simply just respect there boundary’s and accept the differences that helped because I’m not sure if I should just thrown out my dads junk just laying around and to talk with then instead because my situation isn’t the best I mean like it can be worst but we lost our apartment like 5 years ago (im just turned 18) and yeah he just isn’t the best dad but with that being said our family has to stay in one room therefor his side is so messy and it like I’m trying to become one my self because I hate living in a messy lifestyle like the way I was raised because now that I’m looking back there is so much stuff I realize now that was done that affect a child’s growth and it’s affected me and I’m aware of it now if not the super hyper awareness and the minimalist lifestyle is basically naturally becoming my life style even before I had herd of the word “minimalist”. No idea why I wrote this😅
I’m single and live alone 🌷 but I still enjoy watching this video very much 💕 and find this very informative and helpful ✨ I am trying to be a minimalist and I learn A LOT from you 🌟 thanks for being my role model ☀️☀️☀️
I am the one striving for a minimalist home and my husband and 3 kids are not. But leading by example has influenced my 2 younger ones to make some changes in their habits which is a total win!
Little late to this video but what I loved most was "Listen to understand, not to respond" this is such a valuable lesson for all relationships no matter the topic. It is a key foundation of successful dialogue too. Thank you for this. I also think we'll establish some clutter safe zones now. What a great idea.
Love your content🤍 I’m the one attempting to declutter & simplify. My husband & I have been together for over 10 years & he used to be the main housekeeper & I was the clutter bug lol. Now the roles are reversed. Your reminders for patience are clutch.
My parents are hoarders and maximalist, that's why I used to be a maximalist too. Then, when I get married, I changed to be mindful person rather than called minimalist (though people called me minimalist). My husband is not a minimalist but he can compromise and support me, so it's not a big deal. Every once in two months, I always declutter and my husband helps me to do it.
Thank you for your wisdom and insight. I am the one in our 40+ years of marriage who am working towards a minimalist environment. My husband gets it and actually loves the space when 'stuff' is reduced and it is a calm place to sit and be. However he strenuously resists letting go of stuff. He never knows where anything is and likes it to be left where he put it, even if hardly ever used. Think tools on the coffee table! I manage this by never throwing any of his stuff out but try to gather it in clear boxes, like going with like and putting the box in a store room we have in our attic. It is discouraging though when I am in declutter mode!
I find minimalism so fascinating and I am trying to be more intentional with what I bring into my life. My boyfriend isn't a minimalist but does not find it necessary to own so much which is helpful in clutter
I am very much the minimalist and my husband very much is not. He's not quite hoarder but..... we get along great though. We're incredibly lucky to have a house big enough that we each have our own spaces that we can keep how we like. Common areas are kept mostly tidy. But thankfully when they get to bad, he ever gets annoyed and helps clean it up. We work very well together.
Excuse my English but I just wanted to thank you for these advices (especially the "listen to understand, not to respond"). They actually help me in other parts of my life and I feel like I need to keep them in mind when I discuss with someone. Great video!
I'm endeavoring to practice or incorporate minimalism in my life, however my 17 year old son is a collector and wants a to hold on to most of his possessions.
Congratulations on your wedding!!!! 🎂🎉
Thank you!!
I will definitely be implementing clutter-free and clutter-safe zones. Seems like a perfect concept and great compromise.
I’m the minimalist and the one who likes organization and clean spaces. My husband is the one who doesn’t notice messes, or our perspective on what qualifies as a mess is very different. 😉
He leaves things everywhere and doesn’t mind living among disorganized spaces and clutter. I think he blocks it out because it really doesn’t bother him. I instantly see clutter and messes and literally feel the work that it adds to simple cleaning tasks and maintaining organization as a family of 6. I have 4 sons who I’m trying to teach to be responsible and organized because I don’t want them just relying on me and having no clue how to keep things organized as adults.
So..I live with 5 boys that tend to all leave things everywhere and lose things!! Im constantly being asked where something is. I’m always saying if the items have homes and get put back in their homes, you will always know where it is. 😉💙
Thank you so much for this video, it has given me a way on how to approach my partner about minimalism and also how to be more understanding of them.
I’m glad I could share this with you! Keep growing on your journey!
Hi Ron I'm the minimalist and my hubby has let go if something's but he has a hard time. We are in our 70s and I'm trying to reduce the amount of stuff. We are getting there slowly. Thanks for sharing great tips. ❤
Keep growing and making progress Cathy! I’m excited about your journey!
I'm the minimalist, but with how I approached it, my partner and even family I don't live with have adopted some of my "techniques." The benefits of improved mental health and saving money were so apparent that they wanted in on it lol.
I have becoming minimalist for the past few years. Why? Because I have had much loss. My parents and son died young. I have experienced a devastating fire. Lost Barbies, Beatle albums, everything. Experienced 2 divorces. In Al-Anon now, for reasons... I want a cleaned-up life. I want to control what I keep and what I let go. I'm not extreme. I am happy w/my minimal wardrobe. Searching and rummaging through stuff, stuff, stuff is maddening and stressful. I need the most simple life. My boyfriend and I moved in together, and he hates when I let go of multiples. Few examples: four drain stoppers for kitchen sink. Many multiples of partly used products from 25 yrs ago - not exaggerating. The list goes on. He hoards. I used to, but I have changed. We don't need thousands of duplicates of everything. It makes me feel mentally ill and closed-in. He has hundreds (literally) of winter shirts and hundreds of summer shirts, all from the past 36 years, no lie, many w/holes, stains, too large, too small, smh... 😭 I have nice, basic cotton t-shirts and 3pr jeans and a few pants in basic colors. I have 1 wk of shorts in different colors. In summer it's shorts and t-shirts, then for winter I use same shirts, add basic jacket, jeans, boots. Keeps my part of the closet and my drawers neat.
If I toss out or give anything away, he pulls it out of the trash or plastic bin, questions me, states why we should keep it (no matter what it is! Even when we have multiples). Lord help me. 😢
I started practicing minimalism since the pandemic and until now, I am still congratulating myself on every little thing that I declutter and minimize in my life. My husband was supportive but not minimizing. I did not bother, but now he is starting to help me. He is scanning pictures and getting rid of some that do not matter to us. Two more albums to go and we will be album-free around here. He is also talking about getting rid of CDs and VHS tapes. Yay!!!! When my youngest son grows up a little older, then maybe, just maybe we can get rid of some of his toys. At least he is learning to be organized.
Angelie, what scanner are you using? I’m looking at a top feeding Epson photoscanner rather than manually flatbed scanning thousands of photos. Fujitsu and some other brands have cheaper units, but I haven’t found good reviews about them other than for document scanning.
This video came perfectly!!!!! I'm trying to get my mom into minimalism she's interested but she was asking me this morning how can she when my stepdad is sentimental and would never be a minimalist! wow on point! thank you I love your videos so much! -- Kamryn
I love minimalism and my husband is a borderline hoarder!
i am the one in the relationship who is a minimalist. but little by little my boyfriend also gets rid of stuff because I ask if he wants to sort it out because I want to keep things tidy in the house and want less stuff. I hope one day he will do this view himself
Excellent talk, lots of good points. Especially about creating zones and not trying to change the other person.
First of all wow, and congratulations!!! Always well thought out great details. In my journey I discovered I am unique in my organizational proficiency! I do not consider myself a minimalist, but entering my living situation you would have no idea! My clean organized environment isn't something that happens once a year or when someone is coming to visit... it is daily. My former partner due to their environment we did not live together... when you can't even open the door to the entry... ect... no bueno! Also after years of plans, conversations, agreements, and disagreements I have my own personal space that is mine... which is clean and I can find everything! The rest... I tidy up what I personally use. The are no compromises or disagreements here!
Great tips, you rock! 🤗
Working toward minimalism, and my kids aren't. Not saying they haven't changed over the years, They had a field day when I started trying the KonMari method a few years ago and they asked if they could do their closets too.
Brilliant as always 💚 I'm working on becoming a minimalist/simplifying my life
The rest of the house other than my room is a horrid mess. Expired food on the table, mountain of clothings on the sofa. It’s really driving me nuts!
Ronald, a lot of what you’ve said, is great advice for a successful relationship with anyone, aside of it’s relevance to minimalism, wise words, thank you.
I’m glad this resonated with you Christopher!!
Another great video Ron. Love your tips and how you explain things.
Thank you so much Lauren! I’m glad you enjoyed this video!
Hey, I think I just got done asking this question recently. Thanks so much Ronald for creating such a meaningful video with real solutions!!!
You’re welcome Susan! I’m really happy that I have the opportunity to share this with you! Thanks for watching!!
Ronald, I just found your channel and watched your trailer and found that you and the way you present your message are refreshing and resonate deeply with me. I’ve just subscribed and plan to go back and work my way through your library of videos. Thank you so much for this channel!!!
Welcome to the community Lance! I happy you’re enjoying my content and decided to subscribe!
Great video. Very timely content here! You must have been eavesdropping!
Congratulations on your marriage Ronald. Great content as always. I'm slowly living a minimalist life and I definitely have found this particular video very helpful.
Thank you Emma! I’m happy you found value in this as well!
I’m the minimalist; husband is NOT. But he understands and is very supportive!
I’m practicing minimalism - staying with relatives
It is very well to respect my bf's room as his own space where he can do and keep whatever he likes. The problem is that I more and more find it sooo uncomfortable to be there. As it doubles as living room, I hardly spend any time there any longer because there literally is no spot for me to rest the eye🙄he himself is very much at unease and stressed which I credit to the room partially as well. He notices how much nicer my space is and keeps saying he should tidy up some time. Once in a while he does it, pushing endless things around, feeling very tired in the end but the results hardly show, let alone are permanent.
Decluter behind his back 😀but with little spoon I and doing that since years 😀
One of the things that pushed me into minimalism is that my partner is a bit of a hoarder. I got sick of living with his tools and clothes collection. I´ll try some of your suggestions, but I´m at a point when his habits really get me down and I´m not sure I want to continue with the relationship. I crave simplicity and empty space.
Love this positivity 💛
I did thrown away some of my husband’s things. I’ll maybe think about asking.
WOW. This is really well thought out and well said. And applies to SO much more than minimalism:) Thank you!!
I'm a minimalist moving across the ocean to marry my best friend. I know she's not a minimalist. I want to compromise. I want us to have a peaceful, happy life together. :)
I’ve been married, but I finally had to face the fact that it’s just better for me to live alone. I can’t share my space because other humans in my personal space feel a lot like clutter.
Thank you for your contents! I’m trying to live a more intentional life, thanks for your suggestions!
Glad I could share this with you Mike! Keep growing on your journey!
The weird thing is 20 years ago my husband owned so much less than I did. I have come so far that he seems like a hoarder to me now!
This is so interesting. Thank you for sharing, Ronald.
I’m glad you enjoyed this! Happy I could share this with you!
Muy buen video
welllll, I am single so unless they are ALREADY a minimalist they can't come into my (personal) life. LoL...This way of life (seriously) is important to me...
I'm the one practicing minimalism while the rest of the family members aren't.
Im the one working on becoming minimal
Im trying to be more of a minimalist. I don't live with my partner but i do live with cats, kids and a dog...
Great video 💚🌿
Thank you!!
minimalist
I'm the one who wants to be frugal and minimal
How would you deal with a parent who has so much stuff, they expect you to store some of it and they fight you when you ask them to take it away since they don't live with you?
You gave examples of shared spaces that should be clutter free but no example of rooms that can be used for personal processions or way of living? Are there any?
Absolutely! These rooms vary depending on your living situation. Maybe you have an office space, a den, a basement, a spare room, bonus room, etc. that serves as your personal space for you to create and use how you please. It’s best to have this conversation with whoever you live with and decide who gets what space to call their own. It’s healthy to have both clutter free and clutter safe spaces because you never want someone feel not like themselves in their own home.
Im trying and having a hard time.
What are you struggling with? Let’s talk it through!
My wife has tons of stuff and she keeps buying and buying....
My partner has too many heels and purses I just have 3 pair of sneakers 😂
I don't share my space with anyone, but I wonder who would take care (dust, wash, tidy up, repair, etc.) all the extra stuff. Each their own? Not sure it always ends up being that way. How do you not feel all that clutter is imposed on you?
I live with a hoarder and I do feel that his clutter is imposed on me. It's a matter of accepting that and finding the strategy that works for you. Crucial in my marriage was that my husband starts to respect some boundaries . And as it is mentioned in this video communication is key - I declutter with him his stuff from time to time (using KonMari method) and always explain to him what we are doing hoping he would understand one day completely. KonMari is an excellent strategy because she suggest to put away rarely used items in a storage space outside the area where you live. We actually have a storage space in our yard so I came to am idea to use it not just for our rarely used items,but also for his stuff he doesn't need and use (but he thinks he needs them,lol). But I told him that he cannot go overboard with the storage space,it neeeds to be neat and the stuff needs to be inside the cabinets (so it doesn't get so dirty). In regard to space where we live,a house, he needs to help clean shared space, and he needs to keep his clutter inside his cabinets. He has a lot more cabinets in the house, so I think it's only fair to ask that he doesnt go overboard. So the living area is quite mamagable now.
@@sanjalisnjic7271 Thank you for sharing your experience.
Me trying to go minimalist
I’m in the middle.. ha 😆
The non miminalist is myself
Have some kids and see how the minimalistic life style goes!!!!!!!
We have separate bathrooms lol