Part of the biggest reason I believe why lots of women get caught up with that type of man is because alot of men are great pretenders in the beginning. They groom by way of manipulation and wearing false masks until there's an emotional attachment formed. Boom they got her. Now they're trauma bonded, and this is why it takes so long to wake up, know your worth, detach, and leave.
yup - because of men's lies AND also because many women have never seen a good example in their lives of a woman, who has a self respect.... Most parents condition their daughters to take and tolerate abuse of all kinds, so b the time a woman enters a marriage or bf/gf situation -it is ingrained into her to just shut up and put up.
I had an ex who said...."all women want money from men". He was the one who ended up borrowing money off me. I had no respect for him in the end as he gave very little of himself back. He was a taker not a giver. Thank god I got rid of him but my god he was hard to shake off
Astonishing video as always, at first i wasn't really into watching such relationship experts video, but it turned out to be a blessing in so many ways, 10 years ago i was with a narcissist and i broke things up 4 years ago, found someone who truly cared for me and i messed things up because i was trauma bonded. then i started watching a lot of youtube videos and some christian videos about relationships and marriages, i learned a lot, and something actually happened as well, i was able to get my ex back with the help of watching matthew hussey videos and reaching out to a spiritual counselor.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i have been battling with a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended a year ago, and till now, I am still in the crossroads on what to do, it is really sad.
The money thing is so true. I had a guy who I gave a chance and never expected him to offer more than what he could financially. I offered to take us to do a fun thing with another couple we met. He started viewing my money as his and accused me of “being weird” because I have a budget. Started wanting to “plan things” he was only interested in to “show me how much he cared” all while he never managed to pay for everything he wanted to do - gambling and excessively drinking at the casino, loosing his winnings falling out of his pocket while I was in the room then throwing a fit like a toddler because “we” couldn’t find it. Like a child I gave him $20 to stfu. Bro starting complaining about wanting to get out of the house when I was busy like it was my problem. Spending all his money on tattoos and stupid designer stuff and acting like a victim because he didn’t have his own space. Same ole story, dude thinking he is a provider while having behaviors that directly contradict that. Good learning experience, goodbye and wish him well. My filter and bs director is so strong now.
It hurts to hear this cuz this is exactly what I'm dealing with. I WISH it was 2k...🤦🏾♀️ I was promised to be paid in 2 days and its been months and counting.. I was being used and manipulated, and my kindness taken advantage of. Men are just no good and I'm ashamed of myself. I've told absolutely no one.
Why do you generalize and stereotype all men being no good because of your situation? You can't think that way and ever meet a good one since your mind is already made up about all men hun. Just learn from it and keep praying for God's guidance in partnership.
It is a tough lesson, for sure . Learn to love yourself, deeply. And then no one will be able to treat you in a way that your self love will not allow.
It's so easy to feel as though all men are like this. I agree. What is hard is to heal enough to come to a time, someday, where you will no longer feel that way. It will take time AND work on your part to feel better and open your heart. Grieving a loss is hard work - whether it's the loss of a person, or money, or your dignity or anything you valued. Forgiving yourself for being duped by a rotten human being is hard work. You'll only heal, feel better, and start to open your heart again is to look HARD in the mirror and do whatever inner work you have to do to become damn near bulletproof in the future. You will find that balance for the future of being trusting and loving, and being hard as hell when it comes to your boundaries. Do men steal, ghost us, lie, etc... yes, some men do. And some women are the same. Many humans lack integrity. But someday, after YOUR work on yourself and healing, you'll see that this isn't about them... it isn't about the bad people out there, outside. You'll come to see it's about YOU knowing yourself. You'll have a healthy radar upon any new first date. You'll observe and become like ... the Terminator 😂 - you'll be listening to them, all the while your brain will tell you the red flags. And you'll be strong enough to walk away. Again, it's about knowing yourself...and YOUR needs. If too many things about someone deviates from that, you WILL be strong enough to get out. I don't care if it's 20 minutes into a first date - if they say something that you know is not right, you throw down a $10 bill (if drinks were ordered already) and you stand up, thank them for their time, and you go. Trust me, if you take time to work on yourself, you WILL make better choices in the future. I'm sending a hug 🫂 because it is a jungle -and survival of the fittest out here in single land. Become fit! People will still try to manipulate and fool you, but when you're "fit" (as in fit in your mind) you'll be able to handle any fool who comes at you... and you'll notice the great guys much faster. I hope I've made sense and maybe given you something useful. ❤
Im saying having been scammmed for a couple of thousand dollars, its an emotional trauma bond, and by the grace of God I got away, and going through healing, big lesson learnt, never again, very hurtful.😢
You know what's crazy Stephan, is if you realized this guy disguised himself as the landlord and ran a wild game on you and had you under the illusion that you was renting the place where you lived but was pocketing your money and that was not his property to be renting in the first place, and you have been there for 13 yrs and everyone knew it but chose not to tell you. 😒 Cold world. I was forced to move, and I'm glad I did. 😐 Still gotta keep trucking, tho.
Ladies, a man should never be borrowing money from you. Something debased about that. And do not be conned either by someone being sweet and nice and respectful, and then asking to borrow money.
It is true, sometimes a person needs to hear it from someone in a way that hits them, finally. Signed, been there and appreciate the reality check reminders. I also appreciate having the logical phrasing from you in my thought bank to have, handy in case another lady is ready to hear it too.
Amen 🙏 not all women are on a purpose journey for God and hasn't had to endure trauma ! They have no clue how strong some of has have had to be and what we endured for love in unworthy state because of cptsd and ptsd! Thank you for this message ! I walked away from what doesnt serve me and I know my worth now because of The LORD God almighty! It took me many years to realize the abuse of suffered thinking it was normal ! So now that I know my worth I want to help other women as well!
If you loan someone large amount of money take something for collateral. Like there big screan tv or deed to there car or something of value you can hold on too. When they pay you back they can get there tv back. If not paid back keep tv. Sell it or keep it. Set a time frame on this.
Interesting video wisdom 😊😊Yes there are all types of men who play all kinds of games! RESPECT IS THR BIG WORD THESE DAYS! NOT ENOUGH OF IT ! No RESPECT 👎 in a relationship , well everything else doesn't match ! No Love .... 💔 😔 Thank you for sharing the video wisdom 😊😊
And if you break up before he🚩 refunds I’d be surprised if you ever, ever got your money back; he’d keep putting it off. And is he🚩 just checking if you’re financial or not? Why does he🚩 need to know so soon or at all & what makes him🛑 think you’ve got the funds to loan him in the first place? Are they smokers, expensive car, apartment he can barely afford, buy drugs etc - where does HIS money go, what causes him to live above his own means.
Part of the biggest reason I believe why lots of women get caught up with that type of man is because alot of men are great pretenders in the beginning. They groom by way of manipulation and wearing false masks until there's an emotional attachment formed. Boom they got her. Now they're trauma bonded, and this is why it takes so long to wake up, know your worth, detach, and leave.
YES!
So true 💯
yup - because of men's lies AND also because many women have never seen a good example in their lives of a woman, who has a self respect.... Most parents condition their daughters to take and tolerate abuse of all kinds, so b the time a woman enters a marriage or bf/gf situation -it is ingrained into her to just shut up and put up.
Predators
@TheDiamondEdge1 yes many men are natural-born predators unfortunately.
As soon as a man have the audacity to ask me for money, consider that the last time you would ever talk to me.
💯
AMEN!!!!
If a man ask me for money while we are dating is a turn off🤦🏾♀️
Absolutely! 🚩
That's why I love listening to Anwar White. Said nooo money to men. Men are supposed to be the providers. It's not a woman's job to fix any man.
I had an ex who said...."all women want money from men". He was the one who ended up borrowing money off me. I had no respect for him in the end as he gave very little of himself back. He was a taker not a giver. Thank god I got rid of him but my god he was hard to shake off
It also affects your PEACE OF MIND. Not about to tangle me up in something that had nothing to do with me in the first place.
Big facts 🤦🏾♀️
Astonishing video as always, at first i wasn't really into watching such relationship experts video, but it turned out to be a blessing in so many ways, 10 years ago i was with a narcissist and i broke things up 4 years ago, found someone who truly cared for me and i messed things up because i was trauma bonded. then i started watching a lot of youtube videos and some christian videos about relationships and marriages, i learned a lot, and something actually happened as well, i was able to get my ex back with the help of watching matthew hussey videos and reaching out to a spiritual counselor.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i have been battling with a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended a year ago, and till now, I am still in the crossroads on what to do, it is really sad.
it's difficult to let go of someone you love, like i said, I watched so many helpful videos but the key was the spiritual counselor.
What spiritual counselor? How can I reach him or her?
Her name is Shelly Renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Couldn't find her on youtube, but saw her website online, i will reach out. thank you
The money thing is so true. I had a guy who I gave a chance and never expected him to offer more than what he could financially. I offered to take us to do a fun thing with another couple we met. He started viewing my money as his and accused me of “being weird” because I have a budget. Started wanting to “plan things” he was only interested in to “show me how much he cared” all while he never managed to pay for everything he wanted to do - gambling and excessively drinking at the casino, loosing his winnings falling out of his pocket while I was in the room then throwing a fit like a toddler because “we” couldn’t find it. Like a child I gave him $20 to stfu. Bro starting complaining about wanting to get out of the house when I was busy like it was my problem. Spending all his money on tattoos and stupid designer stuff and acting like a victim because he didn’t have his own space.
Same ole story, dude thinking he is a provider while having behaviors that directly contradict that.
Good learning experience, goodbye and wish him well. My filter and bs director is so strong now.
Just imagine we started dating and you,re asking me for money ???😲
thats a hudge red flag , am not entertaining any grown boy period !!!!
You'd be surprised what pathetic desperate women would do 🙄😖🤨🤦🏾♀️
Exactly 1000% FACTSSS
AMEN!!!!!!!!!
It hurts to hear this cuz this is exactly what I'm dealing with. I WISH it was 2k...🤦🏾♀️ I was promised to be paid in 2 days and its been months and counting.. I was being used and manipulated, and my kindness taken advantage of. Men are just no good and I'm ashamed of myself. I've told absolutely no one.
Why do you generalize and stereotype all men being no good because of your situation? You can't think that way and ever meet a good one since your mind is already made up about all men hun. Just learn from it and keep praying for God's guidance in partnership.
All men are not like this love. We have all experienced this, don't close your heart. It will get better. I promise.
It is a tough lesson, for sure . Learn to love yourself, deeply. And then no one will be able to treat you in a way that your self love will not allow.
It's so easy to feel as though all men are like this. I agree. What is hard is to heal enough to come to a time, someday, where you will no longer feel that way. It will take time AND work on your part to feel better and open your heart. Grieving a loss is hard work - whether it's the loss of a person, or money, or your dignity or anything you valued. Forgiving yourself for being duped by a rotten human being is hard work. You'll only heal, feel better, and start to open your heart again is to look HARD in the mirror and do whatever inner work you have to do to become damn near bulletproof in the future. You will find that balance for the future of being trusting and loving, and being hard as hell when it comes to your boundaries.
Do men steal, ghost us, lie, etc... yes, some men do. And some women are the same. Many humans lack integrity. But someday, after YOUR work on yourself and healing, you'll see that this isn't about them... it isn't about the bad people out there, outside. You'll come to see it's about YOU knowing yourself. You'll have a healthy radar upon any new first date. You'll observe and become like ... the Terminator 😂 - you'll be listening to them, all the while your brain will tell you the red flags. And you'll be strong enough to walk away. Again, it's about knowing yourself...and YOUR needs. If too many things about someone deviates from that, you WILL be strong enough to get out. I don't care if it's 20 minutes into a first date - if they say something that you know is not right, you throw down a $10 bill (if drinks were ordered already) and you stand up, thank them for their time, and you go. Trust me, if you take time to work on yourself, you WILL make better choices in the future.
I'm sending a hug 🫂 because it is a jungle -and survival of the fittest out here in single land. Become fit! People will still try to manipulate and fool you, but when you're "fit" (as in fit in your mind) you'll be able to handle any fool who comes at you... and you'll notice the great guys much faster. I hope I've made sense and maybe given you something useful. ❤
The man should be ashamed for being a user. Get your money back and tell him to get lost.... you deserve a good person, not a user.
Im saying having been scammmed for a couple of thousand dollars, its an emotional trauma bond, and by the grace of God I got away, and going through healing, big lesson learnt, never again, very hurtful.😢
I did the same. Was horrible. ❤ keep moving forward x
You know what's crazy Stephan, is if you realized this guy disguised himself as the landlord and ran a wild game on you and had you under the illusion that you was renting the place where you lived but was pocketing your money and that was not his property to be renting in the first place, and you have been there for 13 yrs and everyone knew it but chose not to tell you. 😒 Cold world. I was forced to move, and I'm glad I did. 😐 Still gotta keep trucking, tho.
GOD got You!!!
How did you stay there for 13 years if the money wasn't being given to the real landlord? Wouldn't they have picked up on that like 2 months in?
I’ve heard about this multiple times smh it’s so sad. Im sorry you had to experience this
That happened on The Parkers
How did he "fake" being a landlord?
If he ask to pray for finances red flag
Fully aware no more thoses men! turn off🙅🏻 actions speak louder than words
Thank you, Stephan, for your message.
Love is Blind...yaas thanks for caring
Ladies, a man should never be borrowing money from you. Something debased about that. And do not be conned either by someone being sweet and nice and respectful, and then asking to borrow money.
It is true, sometimes a person needs to hear it from someone in a way that hits them, finally. Signed, been there and appreciate the reality check reminders. I also appreciate having the logical phrasing from you in my thought bank to have, handy in case another lady is ready to hear it too.
Excellent message!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💯❤️❤️
Amen 🙏 not all women are on a purpose journey for God and hasn't had to endure trauma ! They have no clue how strong some of has have had to be and what we endured for love in unworthy state because of cptsd and ptsd! Thank you for this message ! I walked away from what doesnt serve me and I know my worth now because of The LORD God almighty! It took me many years to realize the abuse of suffered thinking it was normal ! So now that I know my worth I want to help other women as well!
1:51 YES! Exactly!
If you loan someone large amount of money take something for collateral. Like there big screan tv or deed to there car or something of value you can hold on too. When they pay you back they can get there tv back. If not paid back keep tv. Sell it or keep it. Set a time frame on this.
This lol!
@KevonnieElaine It works. I've done it. They will repay you and you don't have to go looking for them. They will find you.
Know when to told him and when to walk away, you gotta count...
Its "know when to hold'em; know when to fold'em, know when to walk away."
Sad too much time spent on #1. I thought we knew better in this area 😮
Thank you!
6:32 My question when this happens is, what you use to do before I came into the picture? lol.
Used the person before you. It’s a vicious cycle.😢
I absolutely agree
Yeah, I Hate that too. Mann. SMH 🤦♂️
Interesting video wisdom 😊😊Yes there are all types of men who play all kinds of games! RESPECT IS THR BIG WORD THESE DAYS! NOT ENOUGH OF IT ! No RESPECT 👎 in a relationship , well everything else doesn't match ! No Love .... 💔 😔 Thank you for sharing the video wisdom 😊😊
🥺😢I am her
Financial abuse
Sad story that there are so many muchares nowadays.
Too many cases like this on judge mathis 🤦🏾♀️🤔
And if you break up before he🚩 refunds I’d be surprised if you ever, ever got your money back; he’d keep putting it off. And is he🚩 just checking if you’re financial or not? Why does he🚩 need to know so soon or at all & what makes him🛑 think you’ve got the funds to loan him in the first place? Are they smokers, expensive car, apartment he can barely afford, buy drugs etc - where does HIS money go, what causes him to live above his own means.
Collareral or contract legal bind or you can 'afford' to give (charity)