At the beginning, John said this conversation isn't for younger viewers but I think this is the EXACT conversation we need to be having with our kids because it can start so young.
Her earlier belief that "I will be enough...", man, my heart goes out to her. So many women think or feel that way and it so often results in tragedy. It isn't about "being enough," it's about a man's struggle with a darkness in his soul. A woman alone can't fix that. My wife and I have had similar issues and I feel terrible about what I have put her though.
Preach! Yes Women’s addiction is so real. I was a part of that for so many years. I always had wanted to just find the man I was to marry at 15 onward... Instead I fell in love with a non Christian man and told myself having sex was fine because I am going to marry him, never happened. Each relationship I idolized more than God and more perversion came with it. I always thought “If you can’t beat that your man watches porn you do it yourself”.... it is so poisonous. I had to realize that I was trapped in such a bad spot and that God was so much more important to me than the world and flesh. I had to cry out to him and ask for him to help me become obedient. Thank you Jesus for your love, your grace, and your forgiveness! I now have my godly husband. Praise his holy name!
It's all about your identity! Identity precedes behavior. When you see yourself as a "sinner saved by grace", you'll act out as a person who is continually fighting your sin (primarily because you claim that sin as your own ... but that's another sermon). We are NOT "sinners saved by grace". We are Saints walking in Grace and GREATNESS! You're a Son and your Father DESPERATELY loves you!!! When you know who you are in Christ, you don't walk in sin and that knowledge of your identity makes if easy for you to walk away from things that don't line up with the person you know you are; a Son. When you see yourself as a sinner, you will struggle with sin. When you see yourself as a Saint washed in your Savior's Blood, you walk in that newness, knowing that Sons of the Most High God don't do those things. Bill Johnson was quoted as saying, "Jesus never sinned because he didn't see the value in it." You're a Son!! You have value! Walk in your identity! Walk in newness every day! Walk in Power and Grace!!! Be a Son!!!
(2 Corinthians 5:17) "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" (John 8:36) "So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed." (Philippians 1:6) "being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." (Romans 6:1-2) "What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?"
Absolutely amazing testimony. So refreshing to hear the openess and honesty. So often this is kept in the shadows and people struggling fail to get help and support.
Thank you for talking abt this and i look forward to reading your book. Yhe shame of this is whats unbearable. In my case i had trouble going out in public for a few days after. But the more we talk about it the more it helps peaple heal.
I'll tell you what, I'm a young adult in college (20 this year) and I've been looking at porn for the last 4+ years, I'm extremely artistic and my mental ability with my art skills increased fast every year starting from early childhood until 15 which is when my mental artistic ability started declining, because that's when I started watching pornography, it hit an all time low 2 years ago, when I got into watching some of the most depraved pornography out there, now I'm almost not watching it at all and my artistic mentality is starting to grow and thrive again
Recognize that millions of little girls all over the world are being abducted, caged, tortured, raped, and destroyed all because you want to jack off! Porn and sex trafficking are one in the same! If you don't learn to HATE it - you will never be free of it!
Porn is demonic, it will kill us like a viper kills it prey, Avoid spending time alone, and pray to God, if spent time alone, it must be a quiet time with God.. I'm struggling too and now I know that Christ has set me free.. Sexuality is God's gift to mankind, and to be honored in marriage for procreation, so that the offsprings would know God and magnify and sing praises to His holy name..
Is it ever any wonder why only very few make it to heaven. Be very hot 100% Christian, or nothing at all. There is NO spectrum. Sorry dear listener, I CANNOT lie to you. Pursue A PURE HEART in genuine prayer and fasting. Cry out to Jesus. Being a church attendee doesn't get you into the narrow gate. Being in a home group doesn't get you through the narrow gate. Living according to Christian principles alone doesn't get you through the narrow road to life. Pick up your cross daily. Pray and fast daily. Pursue Christ to the end. Much love and blessings to you all.
The churches I know haven’t mishandled this topic. They just won’t deal with it. They won’t talk about it. I have wondered if some of our pastors are not involved in this because they won’t talk about it. Us wives need a lot of help dealing with our husbands who have fought this battle since they were young boys or teenagers. And the church has been hopeless and helpless to us, and for us, on this topic.
Praying incessantly in tongues took this addiction out of my being. Simple as that. You increase your prayer life and the holy spirit will mortify all of the deeds of the body. Romans 8 13
Thanks for this informative podcast! Nick really knows his stuff, about the deeper insecurities men face when they feel tempted to watch porn. Women may not get as aroused visually by porn, but they may get aroused by reading erotic stories or writings describing sexual scenes. This is called Literotica or “mommy porn”. If left unchecked or fought against, this can become an addiction too, and women can get lost in fantasy rather than reality.
If pastors had the guts to deal with themselves they could help their congregation but again it comes back to being selfish. Shame too is selfish. It’s “all about me” NO consideration for your wife and how her heart aches and how the families in your church are suffering. Deal with it openly and honestly with her and them. How many pastors are messed up? And we keep going to listen to them on Sunday and at Bible studies. I don’t trust any men in leadership around me anymore. Jesus is my only hope. I’m almost at the point I don’t want to go to church anymore. Why should I?
To help me i do these 2 things but their is no one step fix all its diffrent for everyone so take as much as you can. 1 pray to God to show you out. 2 surrender the addiction and all the parts attached to it. You must understand your own struggle where you are weak how it hurts you and why you cant do it any more. Prayers for you.
Recognize that millions of little girls all over the world are being abducted, caged, tortured, raped, and destroyed all because you want to jack off! Porn and sex trafficking are one in the same! If you don't learn to HATE it - you will never be free of it!
Praying incessantly in tongues took this addiction out of my being. Simple as that. You increase your prayer life and the holy spirit will mortify all of the deeds of the body. Romans 8 13
Obviously, addiction to pornography is terrible. If you can’t get through the day without watching porn, you have a problem. But this guy would go a full year without watching it and we’re still gonna act like he has some major problem? It’s not like he’s having an affair with a coworker or something. I think God forgives us if we’re trying to do what’s right, even if we make mistakes along the way.
At the beginning, John said this conversation isn't for younger viewers but I think this is the EXACT conversation we need to be having with our kids because it can start so young.
I agree with you!!
Right on!
Amen
I agree. We need to start having real, open conversations with our children otherwise these cycles are never broken
Her earlier belief that "I will be enough...", man, my heart goes out to her. So many women think or feel that way and it so often results in tragedy. It isn't about "being enough," it's about a man's struggle with a darkness in his soul. A woman alone can't fix that. My wife and I have had similar issues and I feel terrible about what I have put her though.
Preach! Yes Women’s addiction is so real. I was a part of that for so many years. I always had wanted to just find the man I was to marry at 15 onward... Instead I fell in love with a non Christian man and told myself having sex was fine because I am going to marry him, never happened. Each relationship I idolized more than God and more perversion came with it. I always thought “If you can’t beat that your man watches porn you do it yourself”.... it is so poisonous. I had to realize that I was trapped in such a bad spot and that God was so much more important to me than the world and flesh. I had to cry out to him and ask for him to help me become obedient. Thank you Jesus for your love, your grace, and your forgiveness! I now have my godly husband. Praise his holy name!
Please help me repent
Stigma causes Shame,
Shame causes Silence,
Silence harms all of us.
The understanding and openness is truly admirable between these two. This is an example of a Christ led marriage. God bless them both💛
I m going through this nd alcohol please pray fr me i lv my wife but i do this evry day
It's all about your identity! Identity precedes behavior. When you see yourself as a "sinner saved by grace", you'll act out as a person who is continually fighting your sin (primarily because you claim that sin as your own ... but that's another sermon). We are NOT "sinners saved by grace". We are Saints walking in Grace and GREATNESS! You're a Son and your Father DESPERATELY loves you!!! When you know who you are in Christ, you don't walk in sin and that knowledge of your identity makes if easy for you to walk away from things that don't line up with the person you know you are; a Son. When you see yourself as a sinner, you will struggle with sin. When you see yourself as a Saint washed in your Savior's Blood, you walk in that newness, knowing that Sons of the Most High God don't do those things. Bill Johnson was quoted as saying, "Jesus never sinned because he didn't see the value in it." You're a Son!! You have value! Walk in your identity! Walk in newness every day! Walk in Power and Grace!!! Be a Son!!!
Thank you so much for this
I want to remind pastors that this is a women's issue as much as it is a men's issue.
You're blessing so many people right now.
Thank you. John and Jim are such professionals. Much appreciated show.
Thank you for discussing this subject. It is so important.
Thank you for this video series.
So glad you did not leave him.
Do you ship your books to the UK?
(2 Corinthians 5:17) "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!"
(John 8:36) "So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed."
(Philippians 1:6) "being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
(Romans 6:1-2) "What shall we say, then? Shall we go on sinning so that grace may increase? By no means! We are those who have died to sin; how can we live in it any longer?"
Absolutely amazing testimony. So refreshing to hear the openess and honesty. So often this is kept in the shadows and people struggling fail to get help and support.
Thank you for talking abt this and i look forward to reading your book. Yhe shame of this is whats unbearable. In my case i had trouble going out in public for a few days after. But the more we talk about it the more it helps peaple heal.
I'll tell you what, I'm a young adult in college (20 this year) and I've been looking at porn for the last 4+ years, I'm extremely artistic and my mental ability with my art skills increased fast every year starting from early childhood until 15 which is when my mental artistic ability started declining, because that's when I started watching pornography, it hit an all time low 2 years ago, when I got into watching some of the most depraved pornography out there, now I'm almost not watching it at all and my artistic mentality is starting to grow and thrive again
Recognize that millions of little girls all over the world are being abducted, caged, tortured, raped, and destroyed all because you want to jack off! Porn and sex trafficking are one in the same! If you don't learn to HATE it - you will never be free of it!
Porn is demonic, it will kill us like a viper kills it prey, Avoid spending time alone, and pray to God, if spent time alone, it must be a quiet time with God.. I'm struggling too and now I know that Christ has set me free.. Sexuality is God's gift to mankind, and to be honored in marriage for procreation, so that the offsprings would know God and magnify and sing praises to His holy name..
Is it ever any wonder why only very few make it to heaven. Be very hot 100% Christian, or nothing at all. There is NO spectrum. Sorry dear listener, I CANNOT lie to you. Pursue A PURE HEART in genuine prayer and fasting. Cry out to Jesus. Being a church attendee doesn't get you into the narrow gate. Being in a home group doesn't get you through the narrow gate. Living according to Christian principles alone doesn't get you through the narrow road to life.
Pick up your cross daily. Pray and fast daily. Pursue Christ to the end.
Much love and blessings to you all.
The churches I know haven’t mishandled this topic. They just won’t deal with it. They won’t talk about it. I have wondered if some of our pastors are not involved in this because they won’t talk about it. Us wives need a lot of help dealing with our husbands who have fought this battle since they were young boys or teenagers. And the church has been hopeless and helpless to us, and for us, on this topic.
Awesome, I listen to their podcast
Praying incessantly in tongues took this addiction out of my being. Simple as that. You increase your prayer life and the holy spirit will mortify all of the deeds of the body. Romans 8 13
Very, very well told, thank you for your work. God Bless you two.
Wow. This is amazing! Listening to them talk is healing. I hope to create this environment with my family.
Thanks for this informative podcast! Nick really knows his stuff, about the deeper insecurities men face when they feel tempted to watch porn. Women may not get as aroused visually by porn, but they may get aroused by reading erotic stories or writings describing sexual scenes. This is called Literotica or “mommy porn”. If left unchecked or fought against, this can become an addiction too, and women can get lost in fantasy rather than reality.
Nick, thank you for your honesty and for explaining this more. I relate to Michelle's experience and don't know what to do?
Thx I will
Get out now!!
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Where is the second part?
If pastors had the guts to deal with themselves they could help their congregation but again it comes back to being selfish. Shame too is selfish. It’s “all about me” NO consideration for your wife and how her heart aches and how the families in your church are suffering. Deal with it openly and honestly with her and them. How many pastors are messed up? And we keep going to listen to them on Sunday and at Bible studies. I don’t trust any men in leadership around me anymore. Jesus is my only hope. I’m almost at the point I don’t want to go to church anymore. Why should I?
I wish we could have heard from Michelle more....
@Sarah S I agree. wife’s NEED to know what to do … there’s lot women go Thru and not talked about …
Don't do anything focus on family says or recommends
But I hat if a person cant find a partner? Does this still apply? Whats gods plan there?
Hmmmmm I cant stop watching idk what to do
To help me i do these 2 things but their is no one step fix all its diffrent for everyone so take as much as you can. 1 pray to God to show you out. 2 surrender the addiction and all the parts attached to it. You must understand your own struggle where you are weak how it hurts you and why you cant do it any more. Prayers for you.
Recognize that millions of little girls all over the world are being abducted, caged, tortured, raped, and destroyed all because you want to jack off! Porn and sex trafficking are one in the same! If you don't learn to HATE it - you will never be free of it!
Praying incessantly in tongues took this addiction out of my being. Simple as that. You increase your prayer life and the holy spirit will mortify all of the deeds of the body. Romans 8 13
In my case it was a rejection by a female friend that brought out the pain, getting lost in this is how i handled it for years.
Obviously, addiction to pornography is terrible. If you can’t get through the day without watching porn, you have a problem. But this guy would go a full year without watching it and we’re still gonna act like he has some major problem? It’s not like he’s having an affair with a coworker or something. I think God forgives us if we’re trying to do what’s right, even if we make mistakes along the way.
You are sadly ignorant - ua-cam.com/video/pN9zqPnRisM/v-deo.html