Hate the SOUND of Your Voice? Try this…
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2024
- Many singers HATE the sound of their own voice.
But why is that? What is it about hearing our own voices that makes us have such a strong reaction.
Learning to love your singing voice is a journey that starts by following the right singing techniques. But there is so much mental work to be done as well.
Today, I'll talk about what really makes the difference in learning to love your voice.
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Wow!!! wonderful tips on being more gentle with ourselves. Self talk, self-doubt, shame, etc. are the real killers in this day and age! Literally and figuratively.
I started off singing so bad and I hated the way I sang, my family members told me I was terrible and it broke my confidence but I continued to work at it and I believe I have gotten better and the people who told me I couldn't sing tell me I sing lovely now yet I still struggle with liking my own voice.
i feel that
what helped u the most to improve ur voice
@@adrinakhatchikyan5472 Ive found that being pitchy and if your intervals arent tight is mostly what makes people sound bad. Some people have nice voices but they cant hold a tune
Its not that I don’t like my voice… its that everyone else hates it and start running away 😂
I came back to singing after 30 years, and when I first started again I sounded terrible. I began to improve after practice and the more I did the better I sounded and then the more I liked my mature resonance. Sometimes being afraid to sound bad is something we can all carry around with us if we allow it, and everything you have said is so very true …
This clip was extremely beneficial for me. My parents always told me to stick to dancing, because I couldn't carry a tune in a bucket. Recently I have taken authority over those word curses. I am finally able to believe that I can sing and someday I will do it well! Thank you for all your coaching I have been doing your warm ups for months. Since my last bout with covid and listening to your clips, and improving my sound. They have helped me Very Much! Thanks for being a huge encouragement!
Thanks that's just what I needed to hear today. I've lost so much confidence in last 2 years and hate my recorded voice. In the past I've had random people compliment me regularly so I'm gonna focus on recalling those comments and write down your great mantra. 😊
Record yourself. A lot of it is just getting used to the way you sound. It feels weird but it actually helped me. I have gone from cringing badly to be quite neutral about it.
I love your voice and words, so calm, not too fast, not too slow. Not too loud, not too soft. Very gentle and kind, just right❤❤❤❤
You have actually given me the hope to improve my voice. I sing in a choir, most time I feel discourage and even feel I can never make it in singing but there's this voice in me that keeps telling me I am made for this. This voice says work on your self and you will see the best in you and now I found this. Thank you.
A great video. I recall one of your tips awhile ago that seems to relate here - Speak it. Speak it on pitch. Sing it on pitch - it was straight to the point, spot on and very effective
Oh, this resonated so hard for me! I've always hated singing up in the high notes, because even in my twenties I was convinced I sounded like a little old lady, trilling away in some suburban church choir or something. So when I finally enrolled on a Performing Arts course in my mid-thirties, and I started having regular singing classes, I was baffled when I kept being given high solos to sing in our assignment performances. I remember asking "Why would you want me singing up high when I sound like my nan?"
I was so intimidated by this I signed up for extra singing lessons, hoping I could 'fix' my nasty-high-voice problem. I remember in one lesson I was given an option to sing K.D.Lang's 'Constant Craving,' amd by the end of it I was completely dispirited. The teacher asked me why, and my reply to him was "I love this song, and when I sing it I want K.D. Lang to come out... but all that comes out is me." He laughed and said "Well, that's because you're not K.D. Lang, isn't it? You're you. And you need to let go of wanting to be other singers when you sing, and learn to like you being the singer."
I remember those words, but I'm not sure I've learned to do that - even now. HOW do you even do that? It's especially hard when you have enough evidence to know you can sing in tune, do vibrato and all the technical stuff... but you just wish you didn't sound like you do.
I also used to think that I have an ugly voice, even though I have worked as a pub singer for my entire student period. Yet, that didn’t convince me…
Now, I trust my vocal coach so much that I actually believe her when she says that I sang the song perfectly… a vocal coach can really boost your confidence
When people do tell me that I sound good or compliment my singing I always think they are simply saying it just to be nice. My dancing I was confident in, my singing not so much even though I used to do gigs a bit in my 20's.
To think I actually wrote a mantra similar to this yesterday just because I hate my voice so much and then seeing this today is a sign I need to work harder on my vocal lessons and also to accept my voice because everything changes with time. Thank you 🥰
"Why are you singing like a 5 year old girl" LOL 😆 Love that! Agreed, be oneself.
This was exactly the pep talk I needed. Thank you 🙏
I m suffering from voice quality issues!!
Thank you for giving me these comforting thoughts!!!
This video literally saved my life from breaking. Thank you
This is going in my "Singing Mindset" playlist..... another fine addition to my collection!
So glad I came across your channel. This is such wonderful info. Thank you!
There are so many videos on this topic, and never once have I found one that I felt had a meaningful solution “ Just keep practicing” and “ Don’t be so negative” are great, but I don’t really need a video to tell me that.
Hey man! I have been wanting to learn how to song for a while now. I've searched UA-cam for tutorials and everything. Your channel has been the most helpful so far. Still struggling tho. I used your online vocal range finder and I got a range of G1 to Bb6, with pretty bad straining in the higher note. Keep up the good work man.
I really needed this today thank you ❤
“My voice is annoying, I don’t sound masculine enough”
It’s held me back forever. So hard to break away from that thinking, especially with a lot of internalized homophobia (openly and happily living my life as a gay man now).
Moments in my past when I would find the courage to sing, I would get told to be quiet by those around me which only made it worse.
Those people are wrong, and my interpretation of my own thoughts are wrong. The positive things people say about my voice far outweighs the negatives…so no more keeping quiet.
Really appreciate this video 🥰
Allow me to present Exhibit A... Mitch Grassi of Pentatonix! Seriously, if you've never heard him, go listen to some of his stuff immediately; he's a counter-tenor with a voice that's been described as 'once in a generation' incredible - and he spent his entire childhood being teased for his 'girly' high voice. I guarantee you, those same people are NOT laughing at him now! Pretty much anything from Pentatonix will showcase his talent, but some highlights are: 'Hallelujah,' 'The Prayer,' 'Mary Did You Know...' oh, and his solo cover of Billie Eilish's 'Your Power' is sublime.
Hey Matt, it’s been 2 weeks since your last video, I hope everything’s ok and life is amazing to you!
Your livestreams really encouraged me to pursue singing further and I’m super grateful for that!
Hope to see you soon! :)
Impacted by this video, thank you.
I love Ed for sharing that recording!
The ed shereen part really helped me understand and feel better!
Thank you! This is really helpful.
You're making me cry. I've always loved singing so much but I've always hated my voice, but I still tried. But I sang wrong for so many years and damaged it so bad. I'd give anything to start over and not tear my voice up. I wish someone had told me how to sing when I was younger
Wow this was so so helpful thank you 🥹❤️
thank you so so much for this video
Thank you this was helpful.
Thanks for your video!!😊 it's so really hard to me to record my voice without to suffer inside. I have a good vocal teacher in conservatory that says me that I'm doing fine with my progress. However, I don't believe me and in my voice. That's the point. I think my voice so ugly and nasal, maybe like a child of 5 years old. Thank you for your tips, makes me feel better. 😊👍🏻
cant thankyou enough for this
Thanks!!
What finally me helped was i've started to think it's an other person who sings when i'm listening to my records and now, i love my voice :)
i just simply hate my voice and others and friends hate it, you cant fix it. its everything - from a high pitch, to a bad accent and just basically everything. Im kinda sad because i see eveyone talking so freely. yeah...
Love it!
Very good video. All problems covered. I can see myself here 😊
For my breakthrough mantra. Here it is.
"I don't have to be a Steve Perry to touch the hearts of others and myself with my voice"
My big issue is that my natural voice doesn't necessarily agree with my personality... I like to think I'm laid back, playful, quirky and introverted, yet I have one of those booming & powerful, piercing / larger than life voices. Sometimes I'm in disbelief when I hear men saying they wish their voice was bigger or stronger / masculine because I always wanted a softer voice.
Thank you sir
God bless you
For me, with the "close your eyes" part. I hate my voice cause I swear I sound like the most nerdy guy ever. I think that stems from me being alone and having no friends for over a decade. So building that confidence to sing is really hard. So when I hear my voice, I'm reminded of a unconfident nerd. Meanwhile at the same time one of my favorite singers, Adam Young (Owl City) has that same kind of nerdy chill voice. So he alone is proof to my I need to learn to love that voice I have and use it cause there are people out there that might love it even if I don't.
Thank yiu so much sir you are amazing
I LIKE TO SHARE HOW I FOUND MY TRUE VOICE ,, ALL I DID IS I SANG MY ORIGINAL SONG WITH OUT ANY MUSIC I AM NOT BEING FUNNY THAT IS WHAT HAS WORKED FOR ME HOPE HELPS GOD BLESS YOU ALL THERE
Good tips man. I'm cutting some stuff now and have been singing for about 35 years. I'm by no means a technically super awesome vocalist. For me (everyone is different of course), once I feel like the technical part is good (mic placement, level, mood, good warm up) I just try to go into my visual image of the "location" of the song. The vibe, the sights, the smells, any associated emotions and just go off of instinct, The other thing that helps is to listen to stuff back outl loud but very softly and you can discern pitch stuff that needs work. Usually I like to cut dry for a while until I know I'm hitting it and then maybe monitor with some reverb or delay or whatever for mood, but it's important to try and really make it sound good naked without pitch correction if you can. Then you can apply just the needed amount to certain phrases or retake a few little sections or comp or whatever. Anyway- via condios amigos. I have an album on you tube if you wanna check it out, ua-cam.com/video/oR5QrnKz5GI/v-deo.html
Ramsey: "Everyone can improve the flaws in their singing".
I can hit pretty high notes, not cracking often and stay on pitch. My problem is the very sound I'm producing being horrible. This can't be fixed.
Man I love you
I love sing but i only do it when the music is loud enough that it covers the sound of my own voice through the headphones. My voice sounds like absolute garbage whenever i listen to it back after recording so i only ever sing when no one is around
Excuse me, when getting that grit in your voice, what part of your voice are you meant to use? Thank you, great video!!
really interesting clip
Ever since i was 10 i wanna sing, listening to the songs that seems easy to follow, i was still not sure sbout my voice back then, so when they asked me to sing ill politely refuse, but then suddenly i got confident, i thought i could sing, i thought i could at least do it, they stopped me saying "if you don't want to sing so dont, its ok" but... I wanna sing is my voice really that bad? After that i barely speak, i keep my voice low so that they won't hear it full, I've been hating my voice, to the point where i just wanna apologize to people whenever i speak, but 7 years later, the fear of my voice gone light, i have a very small confident back it grew over time, I've been secretly practicing after that, so 3 years later i figured that i wanna sing again, my voice has been improved! or so i thought, i feel happy singing, with all my heart i sang the song i loved to sing, after i sang i felt them disappointed, no one wanna talk about my singing, they gone quiet as if no one wants to comfort me, soo 3 mins later someone else sang and the party continues, i felt i ruined the party so i left, soo 4 years untill today I've locked my self from singing, i dont want to sing, i dont want you to hear my voice, all these years I've been trying to improve but, what's the point if my voice is trash? Even tho i have no confidence left, i still wanna know if there's any hope, even just a spec of hope. That could keep me going. I wanna know. Cause I've hated myself for not being able to sing.
I didn't necessarily come to this video for singing; I just hate the sound of my voice when I talk. It's different than anyone else my age. It's really childish and the tone doesn't matter. I've tried to impersonate others in hopes that I would sound more mature. But life's too short to worry about your voice, man!
I hate the goat-like vibrato I produce. I didnt have that before, then I tried to train to have it. I love how I sound when I sing, but when I record it 🙉
Leanard Choen and Tom Waits, come to mind when thinking about how voices can change drastically over time.
Yeah I wish I were a bass but I pretty much have the voice of a child at the age of 36,
Hi thank you so much!
i just wanna ask you, i've been learning how to sing everyday for the past 2 months 30min a day and i just realized that vocal warmups are not the same as vocal workouts,i learn on my own cuz i can't afford a teacher so i never see improvements, i fix my posture and breath from my stomach and do it all yet i see nothing,my voice gets raspy fast and it's hard doing low notes & a stable pitch, i lose my breath fast and i just wanna give up please any advice?
I’m no professional but I’ve been taking lessons for 3 years so this is what I learned:
Shape of mouth is important, relax body except stomach, for breathing breath from your diaphragm and then tighten to help you reach higher notes. For going low the only advice I can think of is to not push it out and don’t stretch your voice too far. Make sure when shaping ur mouth you shape around the vowel not the consonant. That’s all I can think of. I hope this helps!!
@@HisJoy7 Thank you so much 🥰
You sly dog you tricked me into getting a free therapy lesson... well done! Great video!
I've got it bad with this. I like to go to karaoke to kind of test run my singing every so often (I also take lessons), and for every "Oh man, I think that sounded really good", I have ten "Oh god, I sound horrible" moments. So I invariably go home at the end of the night and think "Jesus, I'm delusional thinking I could sing, my voice is awful".
Case in point, just tonight I performed a couple of Ghost songs at karaoke. Technically speaking, I was hitting the notes and staying in key. Problem is, when I catch snippets of my own voice over the backing track while singing, I falter. I think "I sound terrible, let me try to fix it", and before I can stop myself with better judgment, I try to fix it. So I wobble and trail off, or my voice cracks, or I overcompensate on the next note and go WAY too sharp... it's a situation, is what I'm saying. Then I'm embarrassed and the rest of the song is a trainwreck.
It wasn't bad on the first song, I was getting good crowd reactions and that helped me just ride through and overlook my mistakes, but the second song? Spoilers, I pretty much put the mic down and went home silently the moment the fadeout ended, lol. And all because I hear my own voice and think "Just listen to what's coming out of my yaphole right now, I'm not singing, I'm making mouth noises and putting shame on the very concept of music, and I've spent thousands in learning how to do so".
Funny thing is, I couldn't begin to tell you what's bad about my voice. I can nitpick tiny things all day, but it's not like I'm Gilbert Gottfried over here, I have a fairly pleasant bass voice with decent range, weak perhaps, but that can be improved... but listening to myself talk or sing makes me want to go back in time and slap myself for not going back in time and slapping myself for wanting to pursue singing.
I'm not a singer, but I do hate my own voice so much that that's probably the only reason that I can't even really just sing for fun. I sang for the first time only like a year ago. Like as a kid I wouldn't even sing happy birthday, I actually mean FIRST time. I'd definitely have never wanted to do it professionally or anything but I am admittedly kind of bummed out that my normal range is literally exactly one octave. My highest note is middle C and it's a huge strain to get there.
I mean there's also falsetto, no idea how high that is, but I think I use it to talk to my cat sometimes lol, my "baby voice" for my cat is the same feeling as when I try to do falsetto... I think the "quality" of my falsetto is AWFUL but eh I guess it exists- there's an utterly massive gap between the lowest I can do in falsetto and the highest I can do normally, I know that much
Funny enough, my speaking voice actually sounds really high though. I've realized recently that even within that one octave, my normal speaking voice is fairly constrained to the higher end of it. It's actually physically more comfortable for me to speak with a much deeper voice, but mentally it's way less comfortable. Maybe that's because I'm a tiny gay 4'11 guy so my true natural voice just doesn't fit how I look, idk.
Anyway I wish I could learn to be more confident about speaking in general, but preferably so I could actually practice singing for fun... Well if I had a way to do that anyway. I'm also curious, anyone else have a similar experience with the speaking voice thing? Like, realizing your own seemingly natural speaking voice is actually a slight strain to one end of your range?
My issue is I don’t like how it sounds overall. My singing voice is clean and I hit high notes but it sounds wrong and I’m not sure why or how to explain it. It’s like, there’s a way some voices sound and they don’t have to hit high notes to sound good but my voice in particular I don’t like hearing it, even when I talk I hate the sound so I’m not sure what this means.
Hello to everyone I want to learn singing, but I can't afford a teacher right now. I am currently learning everything through UA-cam,that's why I started a UA-cam channel where I sing cover songs because I don't know what voice type I have. I'd appreciate it if you could point out where I'm going wrong.I will be grateful for your efforts. Thank you in advance for your assistance.
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what does “My voice broke” mean ?
I’ve been told that before.
How can I sing higher than e5 ? What can I do to be able sing g6 ?
Love it! Let’s connect?
7 year old me in line at Disneyland: "🎵🎶WHO IS THAT GIRL I SEE STARING STRAIGHT BACK AT ME? WHY IS MY REFLECTION SOMEONE I DON'T KNOW? 🎵🎶👸🥰"
Those silly older kids who thought only the luckiest little girls get to be a Disney princess couldn't tell me nuthin', because I'm special and my mommy and daddy said I sound like a princess.
2023: *surprised Pikachu face when people are nice to me on StarMaker*
I like the voice I normally hear, but hate my voice on recordings. Can't hear any StarMaker covers that I didn't get an insanely high score on play back without pretty much dying of cringe and wondering how I ever passed my middle school and high school choir auditions. (For international people, USA middle school is ages 11-14, and high school is 14-18)
Am I the only one that actually loves the sound of my own voice? Even when I'm talking. I just love to hear my voice.
ngl i hate my speakung voice, and i always lose respect the moment i speak, made me so insecure and felt so sad when singing is one of my dreams,
its not only the recording, me hearing the best in my voice i see it insainly bad how about recorded ones
idk what to do with it
My voice is annoying af
it's distgausting when I sing
I cringe when I listen to myself. Especially when attempting to sing higher notes.
If it’s easier to imitate our favorite singers than why do when I copy their voice I sound like a dying cat🤣🤣🤣
So, it's easier to copy your favorite singer is it?... Not when you favorite singer is Klaus Nomi and/or Nico (AKA Christa Päffgen) and you're 63year old male who can't hold a note.🙂
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6% looking like luke Davidson
he could have worded his criticism much better, what a rude thing to say to a stranger!
The sound of my own voice makes me want to vomit !
Ok this video was not helpful
Lol, singing like a 5 year old girl.