As someone healing from profound childhood abuse, I fully agree that Self can very effectively re-parent internal parts, which I call my Littles, better than any therapist can. The trouble with attaching to a therapist for repair is that we then rely on another rather than on our own strength and inner Self-wisdom. My youngest exiles called me mommy during this work, and I was able to love and comfort them in all the ways that my parents had failed to. A therapist has guided and supported me along the way, but the core work is within.
I admire the courage of a leader in psychotherapy who openly shares personal life experiences in an interview, rather than solely relying on theories to persuade others. It’s powerful to see someone in that position offer insights grounded in both knowledge and personal experience.
I resonate so much with how he explains what we call our protectors- no bad parts but they are really our protectors being looked at with bad light on them…and hence tagged as bad parts by the society…
One of the best Interviews I've seen. So much wisdom and common sense, beautifully intermingled. Not to me mention the healing salve of attachment theory finally elucidated in a way where people can be helped rather than weakened. Thank you Mr Schwartz from the bottom of my heart and to the wonderful young interviewer.
Thank you so much for your candidness! I, too, had grown up with similar feelings and beliefs about myself, and developed perfectionism, workaholism and ADHD as a young child, as coping mechanisms for the difficult emotions I had suppressed. Since learning from Dr Gabor Matè about childhood ‘small-t’ traumas, I have used many different approaches to access and release my suppressed emotions. For me, I haven’t needed an attachment figure, but instead, have learned to go deeply into old traumatic memories, to finally release those buried emotions. I have healed myself and am finally a new person.
I relate to the part about not being sure you could accomplish what you set out to do. I too felt like an imposter when I had jobs with greater responsibilities.
Interested in the next, spiritual level of this conversation? We are excited to share on our channel a groundbreaking interview with Dick, with the below description. In this fascinating conversation, Dick discusses for one of the first times the spiritual implications of working with parts of self. In line with many traditions of the ancient world, we appear to have many parts that we are not consciously aware of. Though most of those parts belong to us, and are best integrated and healed, some parts do not. It is these that need to be removed, and their apparent sentient nature shakes up much of what current, scientific psychology is willing to see and accept. No matter what your views, you will be fascinated by Dick’s honest report of his decades of experience working first-hand at the crossroads of psychology and spirituality. Clinical evidence has shown that IFS works, and it is one of the most widely trained psychotherapy interventions today. We cannot, then, easily dismiss Dick’s wealth of clinical experience. The implications of this conversation are immense and only beginning to be understood. Deep gratitude to both Dick and his guides for their willingness and clarity in giving this thirsted-for guidance to the psychedelic provider community.
hmmm...do you think there is an end to parts? Dick sounds a little rote and familiar with his "part" story...wonder if there isn't a lively undiscovered part lurking in the wings???
I've considered the same thing. Does it have to be solemn & serious?.I think of the videos of sociologist Dr.William Bengston. His motto.."Avoid ritual. Be playful"..On the other hand, I wonder if the "parts" need the seriousness in order to feel truly understood. To feel connected when given a voice of their own for the first time. I wouldn't want for "parts" to feel marginalized & unheard by fun & games. Can something like an "ecstatic dance" part be introduced after the serious talking? ..Not sure.
Give it a chance - have a look at longer interviews or demo sessions, articles about ifs or his books are excellent. This video here ist just twenty minutes and it's just a beginning part of a longer session. Here he's asked about how this system was developed and it does have to do with the transformation that his work methods had to go through. So naturally he speaks of himself.
His wives were good at triggering him? That's victim-speak. Ownership would be stating he was easily triggered. And his almost monotone voice -- the lack of energy or juice ... he seems like a nice guy but I can't imagine working with someone who has zero enthusiasm for a singe word he utters.
It's an interesting observation that you mentioned his present wife still triggering him. He created this model and still after 40 years the same "Parts" keep coming up that are triggered from his wife. So why weren't these "Parts" healed then? Psychology is a business like any other profession. If the cure was that simple then these psychologists would be out of business. A perfect example is at the beginning of this video. If you want to see the entire video then go to their website and pay for it. Once you are at their website it's all marketing. It's a shame that people who are really suffering can't get decent help that's affordable. psychologists that charge their clients anywhere between $180 - $250 per session should be outlawed. In many cases these clients need to return for several sessions and in some cases it takes several years all with the hope that the trauma will end. I say shame on those that take advantage on someone's health.
Oh it’s a shame you don’t yet know his sense of humour or how it’s actually a gift when we are activated by parts. He’s a very laid back guy in person and has a wonderful sense of humour and fully owns his parts role in his marriages. Please don’t think I m judging here. As you watch more videos or do a training it will make more sense. 😊
Yes, that's odd, and I also was surprised by his monotonous speaking. But when I watched his demo sessions I noticed how exactly that style may be helpful because the most important thing happening is in the mind of a patient or client where they have dialogues in their head. So having a monotonous voice giving you questions to ask yourself helps to focus on your own thoughts and feelings and not be interrupted by someone externally. And at least for me and apparently for so many other people, his ideas resonate so much, that his speaking style is no longer relevant. But yes I can see how when you are just beginning to learn about IFS this can be a bit off-putting.
This is what the power of truth sounds like when it is disentangled from ill-will and anger. It is rare. So much so that you are easily forgiven for being tone deaf in the face if it. The quieter you become the more you hear.
As someone healing from profound childhood abuse, I fully agree that Self can very effectively re-parent internal parts, which I call my Littles, better than any therapist can. The trouble with attaching to a therapist for repair is that we then rely on another rather than on our own strength and inner Self-wisdom. My youngest exiles called me mommy during this work, and I was able to love and comfort them in all the ways that my parents had failed to. A therapist has guided and supported me along the way, but the core work is within.
@glg1010- thank you for sharing your story. This is most encouraging.
Well done you- 😌
@@melliecrann-gaoth4789 Thank you ❤
I have found this to be true also
@@christinejolliffe8002 wishing you (and everyone here) so much Self-love and healing!
Thank you for your share
I admire the courage of a leader in psychotherapy who openly shares personal life experiences in an interview, rather than solely relying on theories to persuade others. It’s powerful to see someone in that position offer insights grounded in both knowledge and personal experience.
I think you have made quite an amazing contribution to understanding personality and healing people’s lives including our divine Self.
I resonate so much with how he explains what we call our protectors- no bad parts but they are really our protectors being looked at with bad light on them…and hence tagged as bad parts by the society…
One of the best Interviews I've seen. So much wisdom and common sense, beautifully intermingled. Not to me mention the healing salve of attachment theory finally elucidated in a way where people can be helped rather than weakened. Thank you Mr Schwartz from the bottom of my heart and to the wonderful young interviewer.
Thank you so much for your candidness!
I, too, had grown up with similar feelings and beliefs about myself, and developed perfectionism, workaholism and ADHD as a young child, as coping mechanisms for the difficult emotions I had suppressed.
Since learning from Dr Gabor Matè about childhood ‘small-t’ traumas, I have used many different approaches to access and release my suppressed emotions. For me, I haven’t needed an attachment figure, but instead, have learned to go deeply into old traumatic memories, to finally release those buried emotions. I have healed myself and am finally a new person.
Which therapy helped you?
Thank you for interview with Richard Swartz on IFS.
The concept of "Protector wars" makes a lot of sense - it is going on on so many levels of society from personal relationships to larger cultures.
As Native n Irish Grandmother Elder , I could not agree more.
I relate to the part about not being sure you could accomplish what you set out to do. I too felt like an imposter when I had jobs with greater responsibilities.
Thank You so much for your work! I think all your experiences made you a wise man.
Greeting from switzerland
Thank you for this interview.
Love this! very wise... creating moments of liberation💫
Im just getting involved in learning about IFS. I came into contact with this therapy from an unusual angle. I'm really enthused....
Interested in the next, spiritual level of this conversation?
We are excited to share on our channel a groundbreaking interview with Dick, with the below description.
In this fascinating conversation, Dick discusses for one of the first times the spiritual implications of working with parts of self. In line with many traditions of the ancient world, we appear to have many parts that we are not consciously aware of. Though most of those parts belong to us, and are best integrated and healed, some parts do not. It is these that need to be removed, and their apparent sentient nature shakes up much of what current, scientific psychology is willing to see and accept.
No matter what your views, you will be fascinated by Dick’s honest report of his decades of experience working first-hand at the crossroads of psychology and spirituality. Clinical evidence has shown that IFS works, and it is one of the most widely trained psychotherapy interventions today. We cannot, then, easily dismiss Dick’s wealth of clinical experience. The implications of this conversation are immense and only beginning to be understood.
Deep gratitude to both Dick and his guides for their willingness and clarity in giving this thirsted-for guidance to the psychedelic provider community.
❤
hmmm...do you think there is an end to parts? Dick sounds a little rote and familiar with his "part" story...wonder if there isn't a lively undiscovered part lurking in the wings???
I've considered the same thing. Does it have to be solemn & serious?.I think of the videos of sociologist Dr.William Bengston. His motto.."Avoid ritual. Be playful"..On the other hand, I wonder if the "parts" need the seriousness in order to feel truly understood. To feel connected when given a voice of their own for the first time. I wouldn't want for "parts" to feel marginalized & unheard by fun & games. Can something like an "ecstatic dance" part be introduced after the serious talking? ..Not sure.
He sounds tired in this video. Everyone gets tired. Especially telling the same story over and over.
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It’s no longer about him and he wants no credit but this is the 3rd interview I’ve watched where I only learn about him and nothing about IFS.
Sigh.
Give it a chance - have a look at longer interviews or demo sessions, articles about ifs or his books are excellent. This video here ist just twenty minutes and it's just a beginning part of a longer session. Here he's asked about how this system was developed and it does have to do with the transformation that his work methods had to go through. So naturally he speaks of himself.
His wives were good at triggering him? That's victim-speak. Ownership would be stating he was easily triggered. And his almost monotone voice -- the lack of energy or juice ... he seems like a nice guy but I can't imagine working with someone who has zero enthusiasm for a singe word he utters.
It's an interesting observation that you mentioned his present wife still triggering him. He created this model and still after 40 years the same "Parts" keep coming up that are triggered from his wife. So why weren't these "Parts" healed then? Psychology is a business like any other profession. If the cure was that simple then these psychologists would be out of business. A perfect example is at the beginning of this video. If you want to see the entire video then go to their website and pay for it. Once you are at their website it's all marketing. It's a shame that people who are really suffering can't get decent help that's affordable. psychologists that charge their clients anywhere between $180 - $250 per session should be outlawed. In many cases these clients need to return for several sessions and in some cases it takes several years all with the hope that the trauma will end. I say shame on those that take advantage on someone's health.
Oh it’s a shame you don’t yet know his sense of humour or how it’s actually a gift when we are activated by parts. He’s a very laid back guy in person and has a wonderful sense of humour and fully owns his parts role in his marriages. Please don’t think I m judging here. As you watch more videos or do a training it will make more sense. 😊
Yes, that's odd, and I also was surprised by his monotonous speaking. But when I watched his demo sessions I noticed how exactly that style may be helpful because the most important thing happening is in the mind of a patient or client where they have dialogues in their head. So having a monotonous voice giving you questions to ask yourself helps to focus on your own thoughts and feelings and not be interrupted by someone externally.
And at least for me and apparently for so many other people, his ideas resonate so much, that his speaking style is no longer relevant. But yes I can see how when you are just beginning to learn about IFS this can be a bit off-putting.
This is what the power of truth sounds like when it is disentangled from ill-will and anger. It is rare. So much so that you are easily forgiven for being tone deaf in the face if it.
The quieter you become the more you hear.
Some of the wisest people are the quietest people. I'm thinking also of Eckhart Tolle.