What I’ve learned from rejection is this: those will love me, will…those who won’t, won’t. In a relationship it takes two to peddle the bicycle to make it go forward. It is not good to dwell overly long on making it about right and wrong, good or evil. To thine own self be true, steady the course and forgive yourself and in fact, everyone, their frailties. We are all just poor little lambs who have lost our way and love is when you find it. From an 83 years old gal.
Hello I would like to just let you know you have helped me so much especially as I’ve been struggling over the past little while Your words have made an impact on my life. And you explain things so beautifully. Your videos,They resonate with me deeply to my situations and listening what you say calms me down a lot. Thank you for being here. Take care
Hi Dee, that is so hard to smile and bear rejection too in front of others and cry alone. I had taken care of my heart in private because I didn't feel safe to be vulnerable when rejected in public. Thank you Dee for your message and your bravery 💞💕 bear hug to you🐻
I really needed to hear this. Im 27 in a new city. The job market here is unforgiving but I am trying my best and I am so lucky to have the life I have, setbacks and all. Gratitude helps me. And knowing it is simply a part of life makes me feel less frustrated
Years ago, I read a phrase that I have to remind myself about sometimes. "Rejection is God's protection." I think it is easier if there are not deep entanglements. If it is early I am grateful I didn't invest too much time, or energy. In life, rejection certainly happens. I divorced after being betrayed so many times. He didn't skip a beat. By the time I decided to end the perpetual betrayal I had kind of gotten over the hurt. Other times and for no reason, people will intentionally exclude someone. With age comes the wisdom that those were not my people anyway. I am grateful I was made aware from the beginning. Ultimately, one must learn to be his/her own friend knowing one's own value. That is nonnegotiable. Thank you for sharing such subjects of depth. Many blessings to you.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts - I really appreciate it. It is good to learn at an early age that not everyone will like you, want to be with you - but as you rightly say - we need to be our own best friend and know that we have value in this world of ours. Thank you again - take care. D
Morning Dee. Looking good - that’s a beautiful colour on you. Thank you for your videos. Have a lovely day. 🌹 🌹 🌹 Roses in lieu of hearts, following yesterday’s video!
I have lost both my grandmas in 2015. You fill that void somewhere within me, I can listen to you for hours, it feels like a warm hug. Thank you for your gentle words of wisdom, more power and love to you 💌💝💖💫
The power of colour. That purple on Dee is great. We oldies should all be braver with our clothing colour choices, men included. Colour says confidence and courage to stand out from the crowd. You never saw the Queen wearing beige. I have a zingy orange sweatshirt that I'm too chicken to wear. But not today.
I always enjoy your splendid Reflections. I'm 70 & only recently learning about the concept of "radical acceptance" (of the good, the bad, & the ugly in life!)
I’m so sorry you had to go through this awful hardship. This was so unfair the way he did this to you and the kids and family. I will never be able to understand how people can be so darn cruel. You are a Beautiful, Strong , Woman. ❤❤❤
Good morning Dee ❤ always nice to sit and chat with you, I have had a lot of rejection in my life, both real and imagined, some made a lasting mark, and most didn't, as you rightly say, it comes with life hun, time to relax with one of my cats and my morning brew, hope you are keeping well, lots of love to you and yours Ralfy
Being rejected by two of my beautiful five children after a deeply emotional divorce has broken my heart. This was over ten years ago and I’m still trying to get over the hurt. Thank goodness I have a very loving relationship with the others. Thank you for your video 🎄❤️🎄
Yes divorce is tough. I know of people that have divorced after 20, 30 and 40 years of marriage. But my belief is that its meant to happen, part of our path. Sorry for your personal experience its never easy xx
In this world of uncertainty, I find comfort in embracing the answer "I don't care what happens." So it it possible to live a life in which we're not bothered about what happens? Is it possible to accept things as they are, and act of you need to act? If you're hungry you eat, if you're thirsty you drink.
An interesting concept, but for me, there are so many instances in which I care - or even care with a passion about what happens. Yes, the smaller things I am content to not be bothered - and selfishly I guess if I am not directly affected then it is easier to not be bothered - but conversely, I would be bothered by the affect that there is on innocent people. D
@chardo24 not so much "don't care" as accept what you can't change. Life happens. Sometimes there's nowt we can do. Life is easier if we accept that fact. We may care very much at the same time. Xxx
Dear Dee, oh rejection.. I’m sure we’ve all had a taste of that one.. it’s a bitter pill to swallow & bounce back from that’s for sure. I’m sorry you were treated so badly(a cowardly act on his behalf) goodbye to him. We soon find out how strong we are. Please look after yourself Dee xx 💗💗
@@Cheshirelass Hi Dee, just checking you’re ok! That message involving that Oliver I think.. I couldn’t quite figure out what was happening last night. Sending love. Xx 💝
I broke up with my girlfriend. It was very messy, it's been 3 months and i still couldn't move on yet. Last week i put aside all my pride and basically begged her to reconcile with me. It was my last ounce of stregth trying to pull the relationship back. She rejected it throughly. She said she has moved on and she loves her current self better, her new self of not having me in her life even though she used to tell me she couldn't live without me. Here i am, feeling rejected even humilliated that i tried to save the relationship. Thank you Mrs. Dee for the video. It brings me comfort in this chaotic and messy break up i'm facing.
Take care - we cannot make someone love us if they don't. Stop beating yourself up for trying to save your relationshp and let her go. Focus on building yourself back up and doing things that bring you comfort and happiness. D
@Cheshirelass thank you, i will try my best. I recently discovered your channel after i've broken up and it's been helping me since. I really appreciate you taking your time to respond. I actually just want to get it off my mind, didn't expect such a heartwarming respond. But thanks anyway
@@missmutie6939 Guess what now that you mention it, she made the decision to demand break up with me. And i’m not trying to play no victim, this conversation is about my appreciation toward Mrs. Dee, i didn’t ask for your kindness.
You were so brave. I can't imagine how I'd handle that. I get hurt so easily, heartbroken so easily. My friend said im too sensitive. Idk but I get hurt and it hurts a lot and im so scared of pain.
We have to build up our coping strategies - coping with the smaller things and then we - hopefully - are more able to look after ourselves when bigger things come our way. Not always so - in which case, we have to set about mending. Maybe work backwards in your last sentence. Find ways of accepting and coping with pain. It's not nice, but a fact of life. We deal with it the best that we can. Take care D
what I've learnt (the long and hard way) is not to take it personally. People act the way they do, because they are who they are, not because we are who we are. So Dee's dearly beloved ex did what he did, because he was who he was.....not at all bc Dee was somehow not good enough. It's easier to see in someone else's situation than our own. For instance, if a child is rejected by its mother, bc the mother is hopelessly lost in addiction (for example) that is not the child's fault. It's the mother going through whatever she has to go through. Or the person being mugged.....it's not that they are a bad person. It's that the mugger needs money for drugs. Similarly, if someone is angry with me (now....took a while to get here) I don't react with anger back. I understand that the person is upset about something (usually something else, not me) and is venting bc they don't know how to handle their emotions - or even how to recognise their emotions. Often sadness, shame, anxiety, fear....all come out as anger. And never get properly recognised. I listen, bc it MIGHT be something I've done. And if it is, I apologise and try to repair that. If it's nowt to do with me, I just listen. It will be ok. I'm not suggesting you accept abuse. Of course now. Remove yourself. I hope this is somehow helpful. It helped me. There's a teacher called Michael Singer on yt - he teaches very well. Worth a listen. xx
I would have loved Percy to fly into view! But he was there. Good enough. My rejections started in early childhood and I've had them in every possible way. It's taken me 7 decades to work out the "let them" attitude. Now, if people like me, fantastic! We'll have a nice time. And if they don't, and still, sometimes they don't, that's also fine. I'll do something else. My open heart is unconditional. People don't have to be like me, or feel like me. I will be kind to them anyway. I don't need to blame them. I'm quite prepared to recognise that they just don't like me. It's allowed. I've had people be quite angry with me, for being like that, as well. I just don't do the "us and them" mode anymore. The only thing I still struggle with is when a dear loved one passes away. If feels like the most awful abandonment, and digs that old wound. I've had so many of those now. And boy oh boy. It's a toughie. And no amount of reason and logic helps. I miss them. Hey ho. Life, innit. Grey old day today, Dee. Looks like a "it'll be dark all day" day. Oh well. I have Christmas cards to write, songs to practice ......never mind the housework! Cathedral was just beautiful yesterday. First Sunday of Advent. Their excellent choir brought me to tears, they were so fantastic. What a joy it is! How fortunate we are to have them. Gratitude, gratitude. Next week is the lights and trees.....but I am singing.....can I do both? I shall try 🙏🙏🙏 😅😅
You can hack it next week - maybe get the tree etc sorted ready to get on with the decorating. You have a great attitude towards others - by having a great attitude towards yourself. As for losing loved ones - it shows that you cared for them. I am the same. Take care - and glad that you enjoyed the Advent Service. PS - went in to the garage for something yesterday - Turned round and Percy had followed me in and was sitting on the tail gate of my car! D
@@Cheshirelass oh God love his little heart. What a dear little thing he is!! I had a tame robin when i lived in the cottage - did I tell you about the sparrow hawk? One day robin flew into the conservatory (where he was accustomed to be) hotly pursued by said SH. Robin was under a chair....and SH was so confused at being in the conservatory, he forgot about robin and panicked to get out, which he did. Robin hopped out, unscathed. Clever little thing! Fortunately, I don't need to decorate the trees - I don't have one as there's no room here. But I put lights on plants and round windows etc. Quite jolly. Tis the season to be jolly and joyous.....as the muppets sing.
I always love your stories Amanita! You should think about writing short stories. It sounds so beautiful over where you are,is it Sheffield? The cathedral,choir, lights, how pretty it all must be. Thank you for a wonderful description of events. Regards Tish xx 💗💗
Thank you Dee for sharing with us. Rejection is definitely hard for all of us but sometimes comes with life, but we have to go on especially when little ones are I volved. You did it with courage and a smile! Bravo! God bless you Dee! With love and appreciation. Feel better🙏🙏🙏🌷
I keep a notebook by my bed also. I keep a small flashlight by my bed as well. That way I don’t have to totally wake myself up. My notebook is for the times I have panic attacks wake me up. I ground myself by writing about it.
Morning Dee 🌄 as a "little miss fix it" in my experience it's been relief that I've felt. As a counsellor you will probably find that odd. Says something about my ability to manage challenging personal relationships. I have also been the "leaver" and that's easy - " who's zooming who" so to speak! You do provoke thought 😊 a good thing. Big love from Scotland as always ❤
thank you Ms Dee. that sounds like a difficult time, thank you for sharing with us on your wisdom from then. take care too! love from the other side of the world.
My thoughts went to a poem by Robert Frost: the road not taken. When I was young I thought the world would end if xyz happened. Now I know that there are always choices and in looking back I see what good has come out of the path that I had thought of as the wrong one ...
That is one of my favourite poems - despite having had to disect it for English Literature many moons ago. Even doing nothing is a choice. Take care. D
Thank you. Yes as we travel through life we do experience painful rejections and they do hurt so deeply especially if it involves family members. I guess that’s how we grow and learn though right? We learn that even though it hurt so bad we made it through and in most cases our life still has a lot of good in it and we did gain some wisdom.❤ PS Life isn’t always a bowl of cherries!!
People say that - but just once in a while, I wish that I coould have a period of cherry eating. I pull myself up and make sure that i don't forget the good things in my life. D
It's very hard to find the right person as your so called "soul mate". I found mine at age 44 after 2 divorces and telling myself no more. It sounds like you're going through the grief process with the feelings you are having. Give yourself time and at some point you may find the right person but it is wise to always proceed with great caution. I found "let them prove themselves to me" as a way to protect myself from making a big mistake. If I had done this before I would never have had 2 divorces. Best wishes to you❣️👍🙏
My man couldn’t call me his girlfriend after 2.5 years so I finally just stopped talking to him and he just.. didn’t try.. he let me go. That’s 2.5 years of sex without commitment that’s a form of rejection I feel like shit. 💩
@@InessaRoma Sorry - my comment was aimed at him. I hate it when replies seem to be in wrong place! Have now added his handle into the comment! It actually really hurt me a lot. I endeavour not to let comments get to me - but this did. D
what does that mean Oliver? A month off? Do you mean that Dee doesn't post on the day she records? We all know this - she records in advance. She's said so often. I don't know if English is your first language, but "false" implies that someone is being deceitful. And that's quite an insult! People won't take kindly to being called false. If you said that to a bloke in the pub, you'd be likely to get very short shrift!! I don't advise it. Maybe you could rephrase your comment?? 😄
What I’ve learned from rejection is this: those will love me, will…those who won’t, won’t. In a relationship it takes two to peddle the bicycle to make it go forward. It is not good to dwell overly long on making it about right and wrong, good or evil. To thine own self be true, steady the course and forgive yourself and in fact, everyone, their frailties. We are all just poor little lambs who have lost our way and love is when you find it. From an 83 years old gal.
Thank you for sharing your feelings. I really appreciate it. D
Rejection is gods protection ❤
That's a great way to look at life. 👍
What a beautiful thought. Thank you.❤️
@sashaenglish2755 yeah...
Could so be dodging a bullet!!!
@@sashaenglish2755 yes
Rejection is simply showing us we’re we aren’t supposed to be or where we no longer belong, thank you for sharing this reflection 💌🌷
You are so welcome D
Hello I would like to just let you know you have helped me so much especially as I’ve been struggling over the past little while Your words have made an impact on my life. And you explain things so beautifully. Your videos,They resonate with me deeply to my situations and listening what you say calms me down a lot. Thank you for being here. Take care
Thank you so much for your kind words. Take care. D
@@oliviamorawska7698 she's a gift, isn't she?
Hi Dee, that is so hard to smile and bear rejection too in front of others and cry alone. I had taken care of my heart in private because I didn't feel safe to be vulnerable when rejected in public. Thank you Dee for your message and your bravery 💞💕 bear hug to you🐻
Thanks for sharing and a huge hug back to you too. D
Ms. Dee, your videos help keep me sane. I work a lot and your voice is just so pleasant. You are all that is good in the world ❤
You are very kind. D
I really needed to hear this. Im 27 in a new city. The job market here is unforgiving but I am trying my best and I am so lucky to have the life I have, setbacks and all. Gratitude helps me. And knowing it is simply a part of life makes me feel less frustrated
Those positive attitudes will help you get through and move onwards and upwards in your new city. You can so do this - take care. D
@@CheshirelassThank you so much, this video has already changed the tone of my day :)
@@glideagain Take care. D
Years ago, I read a phrase that I have to remind myself about sometimes. "Rejection is God's protection." I think it is easier if there are not deep entanglements. If it is early I am grateful I didn't invest too much time, or energy. In life, rejection certainly happens. I divorced after being betrayed so many times. He didn't skip a beat. By the time I decided to end the perpetual betrayal I had kind of gotten over the hurt. Other times and for no reason, people will intentionally exclude someone. With age comes the wisdom that those were not my people anyway. I am grateful I was made aware from the beginning. Ultimately, one must learn to be his/her own friend knowing one's own value. That is nonnegotiable. Thank you for sharing such subjects of depth. Many blessings to you.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts - I really appreciate it. It is good to learn at an early age that not everyone will like you, want to be with you - but as you rightly say - we need to be our own best friend and know that we have value in this world of ours.
Thank you again - take care. D
Morning Dee. Looking good - that’s a beautiful colour on you. Thank you for your videos. Have a lovely day. 🌹 🌹 🌹 Roses in lieu of hearts, following yesterday’s video!
Good morning! I hope that you have a good week. D
I have lost both my grandmas in 2015. You fill that void somewhere within me, I can listen to you for hours, it feels like a warm hug. Thank you for your gentle words of wisdom, more power and love to you 💌💝💖💫
Thank you - I am plesed to be able to help even if just a bit! D
@@Cheshirelass Sending you hugs❤🩹❤🩹
The power of colour. That purple on Dee is great.
We oldies should all be braver with our clothing colour choices, men included. Colour says confidence and courage to stand out from the crowd.
You never saw the Queen wearing beige.
I have a zingy orange sweatshirt that I'm too chicken to wear. But not today.
Good for you - I hope you enjoy wearing it. D
I always enjoy your splendid Reflections. I'm 70 & only recently learning about the concept of "radical acceptance" (of the good, the bad, & the ugly in life!)
Thank you - but I will now have the tune to that film goinng through my mind for the rest of the day!! D
Good one! lol
I’m so sorry you had to go through this awful hardship. This was so unfair the way he did this to you and the kids and family. I will never be able to understand how people can be so darn cruel. You are a Beautiful, Strong , Woman. ❤❤❤
I admit that it took a good while to regain strength and confidence! D
Good morning Dee ❤ always nice to sit and chat with you, I have had a lot of rejection in my life, both real and imagined, some made a lasting mark, and most didn't, as you rightly say, it comes with life hun, time to relax with one of my cats and my morning brew, hope you are keeping well, lots of love to you and yours Ralfy
Good morning! Absolutely - pity we add in the imagined rejections! D
A delightful,clear-headed woman.So glad i came upon.
Thank you - you are very kind. D
Thank you for sharing. Your strength and message is so helpful in helping me move forward ❤
Once again thank you Dee
Absolutely love your posts, thank you so very much😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀
So nice of you D
Being rejected by two of my beautiful five children after a deeply emotional divorce has broken my heart. This was over ten years ago and I’m still trying to get over the hurt. Thank goodness I have a very loving relationship with the others.
Thank you for your video 🎄❤️🎄
It really is hard isn't it? I am so glad that you have that loving relationship to help you - you must really value that. D
@@Doobeedoo-xd1mw it took me 12 years. You'll be alright. Xxx
Yes divorce is tough. I know of people that have divorced after 20, 30 and 40 years of marriage. But my belief is that its meant to happen, part of our path. Sorry for your personal experience its never easy xx
Guess if we knew the path ahead, we may look for an alternative one. D
This is the only type of content the world actually needs
Many would disagree I'm afraid! But I do my best. D
In this world of uncertainty, I find comfort in embracing the answer "I don't care what happens." So it it possible to live a life in which we're not bothered about what happens? Is it possible to accept things as they are, and act of you need to act? If you're hungry you eat, if you're thirsty you drink.
An interesting concept, but for me, there are so many instances in which I care - or even care with a passion about what happens. Yes, the smaller things I am content to not be bothered - and selfishly I guess if I am not directly affected then it is easier to not be bothered - but conversely, I would be bothered by the affect that there is on innocent people. D
@chardo24 not so much "don't care" as accept what you can't change. Life happens. Sometimes there's nowt we can do. Life is easier if we accept that fact. We may care very much at the same time. Xxx
Dear Dee, oh rejection..
I’m sure we’ve all had a taste of that one.. it’s a bitter pill to swallow & bounce back from that’s for sure. I’m sorry you were treated so badly(a cowardly act on his behalf) goodbye to him. We soon find out how strong we are. Please look after yourself Dee xx 💗💗
We do - and you take care too. D
G'day Tish. That's exactly what I thought. My mother used to say, It ain't what you do, it's the way that you do it. And it is. Have a good one xx
@@Cheshirelass Thank you 💗
@@amanitamuscaria7500 G’day Amanita, yes very true words indeed. Take care 💗
@@Cheshirelass Hi Dee, just checking you’re ok! That message involving that Oliver I think.. I couldn’t quite figure out what was happening last night. Sending love. Xx 💝
I broke up with my girlfriend. It was very messy, it's been 3 months and i still couldn't move on yet. Last week i put aside all my pride and basically begged her to reconcile with me. It was my last ounce of stregth trying to pull the relationship back.
She rejected it throughly. She said she has moved on and she loves her current self better, her new self of not having me in her life even though she used to tell me she couldn't live without me. Here i am, feeling rejected even humilliated that i tried to save the relationship.
Thank you Mrs. Dee for the video. It brings me comfort in this chaotic and messy break up i'm facing.
Take care - we cannot make someone love us if they don't. Stop beating yourself up for trying to save your relationshp and let her go. Focus on building yourself back up and doing things that bring you comfort and happiness. D
@Cheshirelass thank you, i will try my best.
I recently discovered your channel after i've broken up and it's been helping me since. I really appreciate you taking your time to respond. I actually just want to get it off my mind, didn't expect such a heartwarming respond. But thanks anyway
@@Phingkhun my pleasure. D
You broke up with her first, I guess you're the one who made that decision. Stop playing victim, you did it to yourself
@@missmutie6939 Guess what now that you mention it, she made the decision to demand break up with me. And i’m not trying to play no victim, this conversation is about my appreciation toward Mrs. Dee, i didn’t ask for your kindness.
You were so brave. I can't imagine how I'd handle that. I get hurt so easily, heartbroken so easily. My friend said im too sensitive. Idk but I get hurt and it hurts a lot and im so scared of pain.
We have to build up our coping strategies - coping with the smaller things and then we - hopefully - are more able to look after ourselves when bigger things come our way. Not always so - in which case, we have to set about mending.
Maybe work backwards in your last sentence. Find ways of accepting and coping with pain. It's not nice, but a fact of life. We deal with it the best that we can. Take care D
what I've learnt (the long and hard way) is not to take it personally. People act the way they do, because they are who they are, not because we are who we are. So Dee's dearly beloved ex did what he did, because he was who he was.....not at all bc Dee was somehow not good enough. It's easier to see in someone else's situation than our own. For instance, if a child is rejected by its mother, bc the mother is hopelessly lost in addiction (for example) that is not the child's fault. It's the mother going through whatever she has to go through. Or the person being mugged.....it's not that they are a bad person. It's that the mugger needs money for drugs. Similarly, if someone is angry with me (now....took a while to get here) I don't react with anger back. I understand that the person is upset about something (usually something else, not me) and is venting bc they don't know how to handle their emotions - or even how to recognise their emotions. Often sadness, shame, anxiety, fear....all come out as anger. And never get properly recognised. I listen, bc it MIGHT be something I've done. And if it is, I apologise and try to repair that. If it's nowt to do with me, I just listen. It will be ok. I'm not suggesting you accept abuse. Of course now. Remove yourself. I hope this is somehow helpful. It helped me. There's a teacher called Michael Singer on yt - he teaches very well. Worth a listen. xx
Well said ! 🌹
Your videos always pop up every single time I need to hear them. Thank you🩷
My pleasure. D
I would have loved Percy to fly into view! But he was there. Good enough. My rejections started in early childhood and I've had them in every possible way. It's taken me 7 decades to work out the "let them" attitude. Now, if people like me, fantastic! We'll have a nice time. And if they don't, and still, sometimes they don't, that's also fine. I'll do something else. My open heart is unconditional. People don't have to be like me, or feel like me. I will be kind to them anyway. I don't need to blame them. I'm quite prepared to recognise that they just don't like me. It's allowed. I've had people be quite angry with me, for being like that, as well. I just don't do the "us and them" mode anymore. The only thing I still struggle with is when a dear loved one passes away. If feels like the most awful abandonment, and digs that old wound. I've had so many of those now. And boy oh boy. It's a toughie. And no amount of reason and logic helps. I miss them. Hey ho. Life, innit.
Grey old day today, Dee. Looks like a "it'll be dark all day" day. Oh well. I have Christmas cards to write, songs to practice ......never mind the housework! Cathedral was just beautiful yesterday. First Sunday of Advent. Their excellent choir brought me to tears, they were so fantastic. What a joy it is! How fortunate we are to have them. Gratitude, gratitude. Next week is the lights and trees.....but I am singing.....can I do both? I shall try
🙏🙏🙏 😅😅
You can hack it next week - maybe get the tree etc sorted ready to get on with the decorating.
You have a great attitude towards others - by having a great attitude towards yourself.
As for losing loved ones - it shows that you cared for them. I am the same.
Take care - and glad that you enjoyed the Advent Service.
PS - went in to the garage for something yesterday - Turned round and Percy had followed me in and was sitting on the tail gate of my car! D
@@Cheshirelass oh God love his little heart. What a dear little thing he is!! I had a tame robin when i lived in the cottage - did I tell you about the sparrow hawk? One day robin flew into the conservatory (where he was accustomed to be) hotly pursued by said SH. Robin was under a chair....and SH was so confused at being in the conservatory, he forgot about robin and panicked to get out, which he did. Robin hopped out, unscathed. Clever little thing!
Fortunately, I don't need to decorate the trees - I don't have one as there's no room here. But I put lights on plants and round windows etc. Quite jolly. Tis the season to be jolly and joyous.....as the muppets sing.
@@amanitamuscaria7500 Sounds really pretty. D
Well said toadstool lady 👏 🎉 hugs and woofs from Scotland ❤
I always love your stories Amanita! You should think about writing short stories. It sounds so beautiful over where you are,is it Sheffield? The cathedral,choir, lights, how pretty it all must be. Thank you for a wonderful description of events. Regards Tish xx 💗💗
Thank you Dee for sharing with us. Rejection is definitely hard for all of us but sometimes comes with life, but we have to go on especially when little ones are I volved. You did it with courage and a smile! Bravo! God bless you Dee! With love and appreciation. Feel better🙏🙏🙏🌷
Take care. D
Thank you, Dee. Tough subject this morning.
Yes - it is something that can hit hard and affect self-esteem, self-confidence. D
I keep a notebook by my bed also. I keep a small flashlight by my bed as well. That way I don’t have to totally wake myself up. My notebook is for the times I have panic attacks wake me up. I ground myself by writing about it.
Good idea. D
I do as well.....to write down dreams. I write in the dark, often, and wonder what planet I was on, in the morning lol
I love your videos, Dee! I hope you’re taking care xx❤ Much love
Thank you. D
Morning Dee 🌄 as a "little miss fix it" in my experience it's been relief that I've felt. As a counsellor you will probably find that odd. Says something about my ability to manage challenging personal relationships. I have also been the "leaver" and that's easy - " who's zooming who" so to speak! You do provoke thought 😊 a good thing. Big love from Scotland as always ❤
@margaretmcgregor5686 Not odd - just shows someone who is self-aware and has the courage of their convictions. D
@Cheshirelass that's a good way to frame it for my self-esteem - thank you Dee. I'll remember it. ❤
Dear Dee, I wish to hug you 😭Thank you 💜
Thank you too - send a hug winging through the ether! D
Thank you very much! ❤
it feels like youre my guardian angel xxxx
Take care. D
thank you Ms Dee. that sounds like a difficult time, thank you for sharing with us on your wisdom from then. take care too! love from the other side of the world.
ANd back to you. D
My thoughts went to a poem by Robert Frost: the road not taken.
When I was young I thought the world would end if xyz happened. Now I know that there are always choices and in looking back I see what good has come out of the path that I had thought of as the wrong one ...
That is one of my favourite poems - despite having had to disect it for English Literature many moons ago. Even doing nothing is a choice. Take care. D
Very helpful today for me
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Happy to help D
❤ thank you again
It’s so lovely to see you, D!❤
Thank you. D
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Thank You Dee for sharing such good advise!…take care of yourself! ❤☕️
You too Kathy. D
Thank you. Yes as we travel through life we do experience painful rejections and they do hurt so deeply especially if it involves family members.
I guess that’s how we grow and learn though right?
We learn that even though it hurt so bad we made it through and in most cases our life still has a lot of good in it and we did gain some wisdom.❤
PS Life isn’t always a bowl of cherries!!
People say that - but just once in a while, I wish that I coould have a period of cherry eating. I pull myself up and make sure that i don't forget the good things in my life. D
Exactly! And you especially deserve a big bowl of cherries!
@@mousegirl3678 Sounds yummy! Thank you - take care. D
I appreciate you, Dee. 💛
Thank you so much. D
Dear Dee thanks for the video & take care❣️☕️🍫✨️
You too!! D
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Thanks Dee ❤
You are so welcome D
The only thing I learned from rejection after rejection is cynicism and ambivalence towards the opposite sex. It becomes 'learned' helplessness.
It's very hard to find the right person as your so called "soul mate". I found mine at age 44 after 2 divorces and telling myself no more. It sounds like you're going through the grief process with the feelings you are having. Give yourself time and at some point you may find the right person but it is wise to always proceed with great caution. I found "let them prove themselves to me" as a way to protect myself from making a big mistake. If I had done this before I would never have had 2 divorces. Best wishes to you❣️👍🙏
What we learn - we can unlearn if you choose to. D
The only thing I've learnt from rejection 😊
Is that it hurts enormously 🎉🎉🎉
It sure can! D
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Lovely purple colour 💜
My man couldn’t call me his girlfriend after 2.5 years so I finally just stopped talking to him and he just.. didn’t try.. he let me go. That’s 2.5 years of sex without commitment that’s a form of rejection I feel like shit. 💩
I'm so sorry you went through this :(
@@Ladymumma444 What a piece of work he was.. I’m sorry he hurt you, please know you deserve so much better. Take care of yourself xx 💝
@@victoriacaja6301 I can’t even believe men do this !! Worse I stayed for so long waiting to be official
@@tishdish1824 thank you omg I’m angry now that I’m out of it I can see he basically used me that’s so wrong
I completely understand you. Situationships are more painful than a breakup in relationship. Was there twice, it's heartbreaking.
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U seem really false recently maybe a month off?
You must be her ex? 😲
@oliverdann3155 Maybe when you have no idea what is going on for other people, you could refrain from nastiness. D
@Cheshirelass 😅 But I really thought so..It's strange that he typed this 🫣
@@InessaRoma Sorry - my comment was aimed at him. I hate it when replies seem to be in wrong place! Have now added his handle into the comment! It actually really hurt me a lot. I endeavour not to let comments get to me - but this did. D
what does that mean Oliver? A month off? Do you mean that Dee doesn't post on the day she records? We all know this - she records in advance. She's said so often. I don't know if English is your first language, but "false" implies that someone is being deceitful. And that's quite an insult! People won't take kindly to being called false. If you said that to a bloke in the pub, you'd be likely to get very short shrift!! I don't advise it. Maybe you could rephrase your comment?? 😄
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