When I came out as trans, my very catholic grandma was super accepting. A few days later she called my mum, saying that she had told one of my aunts "Oh, (deadname) is transgender, his name is Benedikt now" and my aunt straight up told her "No, you're imagining that, you're making it up, your dementia is showing" So my grandma called my mum to ask if she had just imagined it, and when my mum said "No, he's trans", she was like "But why did Christa get so angry when I told her? I don't understand why she didn't want to believe me. If I had said (deadname) is studying at university now, or has a boyfriend, she wouldn't have said I imagined that! But she just wouldn't believe me that he's a boy now. Why would I make that up, I didn't even know that was possible before he told me!" My grandma was great, sadly, she did develop dementia and the last time I saw her before her death, she didn't remember who I was. But I have my memories of her.
I'm really sorry to hear she passed, but that's such a sweet story of her! My great grandma has really bad dementia, and she never met the real me, just (deadname). I know she'd accept me, but unfortunately her mind is too far gone. I also can't see her anymore because she doesn't recognize me this far into my transition, but I still talk to her on the phone. Sometimes she remembers me as an adult, but other times she thinks I'm a child because I was staying at my grandma's house during top surgery recovery. Dementia is a bitch...
the person in the last one, Jude, does talks at my school every year about transitioning and how they found out they were non-binary and about their experiences. Its such a great thing to hear about especially in an "all girls" school since it means that theyre at least starting to recognise the diversity of the students :]
HEY! my school has just agreed to change my name on the school register to my middle name! It's Jamie too! I'm so happy because we also have unisex bathrooms but so ppl don't get outed for going into them, they are labelled as "universal bathrooms" instead and I'm so so happy!
I'm not trans but when I came out as asexual (and eventually aromantic too). My family was supportive but my grandfather never said anything or seemed to acknowledge it. One day he was out with my mom and he ran into someone and they ended up talking about me being aroace and my mother said the person said something about me being weird and how I should be married, and my grandfather immediately told that person to 'eff off' she'll do what she wants, she's my granddaughter and walked off with my mom in hand. He never mentioned it and I wouldn't have known had my mom not been there and it just made me so happy to know that he cared and would defend me
I am a middle age gay cis man but I feel so close to the trans community in a way that I can't explain. Your struggles, your strength, the courage to find and build yourselves no matter what you are repeatedly told not to do - it just resonates so deep. Jamie you opened a world to me and made my mind wider and free so that it could embrace it. Thanks forever and ever. Love your hair and this pullover;)
As a Trans Femme, your videos were my first experience with the Trans Masc experience. I know a few Trans Men now in offline space and watching your videos really helped me avoid too many awkward questions. Thank you so much! Keep up the amazing work. Your enthusiasm and joy are infectious!
My grandma, who I live with, is really accepting of my gender non-conformity. When I wanted a hysterectomy to alleviate gender dysphoria, she took me and was willing to help me pay if insurance didn't cover it all. When I try to explain my gender she goes "I don't fully get it, but that's okay" (but when I specifically explain the disconnect and masquerading of femininity she goes "yeah, that's just how that feels"- who is gonna tell her?) And I love her. I think part of the reason she gets it (other than the fact that I think she may have identified similarly if she were born now) is because I have a lesbian-identified great aunt who she is very close with, and who will occasionally choose to go by the masculine version of their name (so I figure they would probably identify as gender-fluid or gender queer if given the labels and understanding that we have today). Queer people didn't not exist before, and everyone has probably loved a queer person.
9:19 Yes! I remember something like this happened. I'm transmasc and on our last day of primary school, we went around having our friends sign our shirts. One of my friends wrote "Good luck sir!" on my shirt as a joke and it made me so happy for reasons I didn't understand.
9:18 - Honestly, I can relate to this. My "moment" was when I was 10 years old and some boy I barely knew in the year above me at school decided to tease me by randomly asking when I was going to get a sex change. I didn't even know what a sex change was until I asked one of the teachers who told me that it would mean me "becoming a boy"...and I realised I was rather happy and relieved at the idea that there was a way for me to "become a boy" (which I'm fairly sure freaked the teacher out even more than me randomly asking her what a sex change was). To this day 16 years later, I still occasionally whether that boy was actually aware of how accurate he was with his attempt at insulting me...
Is it weird to be happy whenever you see trans fem or woman having flat chest/small chest as a cis girl? I don't like my chest all that much, but seeing trans women and fems rocking it makes me feel better about myself.
This is a wholesome moment. We can have people accepting bodies they don’t like AND people accepting that they don’t like their bodies. Breaking down the idea that there is only *one* answer that everyone has to live by actually helps *everyone*
Thank you so much for showing the tiktok about tucking. I could never see myself with a women's swimwear because of my genitals but thank to this video I now have a reason to have a lot more confidence in public pools or at the beach. Thank you Jamie 😊
If you want something with a little more fabric than standard women's swimwear, try a swim skirt! They're still very feminine but with a little more coverage. ❤️
@@maxthemannequin4143 I am a cis woman. I was perfectly fine with wearing "standard" women's (girls') swimwear as a girl, but after puberty I just found it awkward to have that little coverage... So swimskirts sounds like a good idea. Thanks!
I love the wholesome grandparent ones! When I told my g-ma that I changed my name, I learned that she kept a file folder for all of her grandchildren and kept all of our holiday cards and thank you notes in it... anyway I learned that because she told me that she immediately updated my name on the folder! She was such an amazing ally and I miss her very much. Meanwhile, nearly 10 years on my mum still has me in her phone under my dead name 🙄
Not trans-related, and only kind of queer-related, but I sent out last year's Christmas cards with my preferred title of Ms on the return labels, in part because I have some aunts who keep sending Christmas cards to "Miss Erin K". My grandpa's card subsequently came addressed to "Ms Erin", but either none of the aunts got the hint or they addressed theirs before they saw mine. (I say kind of queer-related, because while I am an Ace Lesbian, a theoretical straight version of me could be having the same issue)
the last one is from Italy! And with me being italian it was even more touching, we don't have a lot of people so supportive like this here, it honestly made me feel so happy seeing something like that happen in my country :)
Her name is Dylan and she's awesome! Btw just to avoid confusion she still uses her original name cause she likes it. Just thought it was worth mentioning in case anyone doesn't know of her and might suspect that's her dead name or anything. I first saw her on one of Anthony Padilla's videos on trans women, and I highly recommend you check it out if you want to see a bit more of her! They also usually link everyone's socials in those videos so you could find where to follow her there also
@@kaileychambers6969 Thanks so much, I'll definitely check out that video! And I can totally understand why she would stick with that name, it's both beautiful and awesomely gender neutral ...
I came out at school start of this week. Or well, I didn't necessarily really come out, I just changed my pronouns and I wrote down my pronouns under my name a bunch of times when teachers asked us to make nametags (start of the schoolyear, teachers don't know us yet) and honestly so far so great. I've caught some peeps using the right pronouns and I've never heard anyone use the wrong name for me either, even though they did already memorize my name from the introduction week. I'm loving it. Makes me feel so awesome
Oh, since we like wholesome accepting grandparents, last time I saw my grandma she asked which name I'd prefer she put on gifts and cards for the future. So now she's putting my preferred name, sometimes she's a little confused tbh but she's got the spirit.
9:12 That reminds me of my childhood best friend & I. I remember us joking about how our “souls got swapped before birth” (we’re born 2 weeks apart) and I was “supposed to be the boy” and she was “supposed to be the girl”. We were 5 at the time and didn’t know what being trans was, but now 20 years later, turns out 5-year-old us already knew what was up lol I’m non-binary and she’s a trans woman
@element of truth Oh, a transphobe who thinks anyone asked tries to tell a trans person that what they are isn't real. How surprising. I am so shocked right now You're gonna have to find a more believable excuse to be a shithead than big pharma and plastic surgery conspiracy theories, trans and non binary people existed and are documented to have existed in Akkad, you know, 4000+ years ago. Big pharma or whatever you're paranoid about didn't exist back then (and still doesn't exist today but I'm assuming you're a Trump stan so there's no point in arguing with you over that) Get fucked
I’m a trans guy and every one of these videos were so wholesome and actually made me happy about who I was. Lately i’ve been having some negative thoughts so its nice to see people like me happy, making me think I actually have a chance at life. Of course I know not to expect that much, but maybe it will turn out alright. I can’t wait for people to see me as a guy, who I really am.
someday u will find the right ppl who fully accept u as u are, I am absolutely sure of that and then u can feel as much joy about urself as the ppl in the videos (u can feel joy about it without them too, but it really helps to have them) ❤❤
We can always tell a trans. What do you accomplish being called a guy? There are many women who are very masculine. I'm a woman I hate makeup and high heels. Wearing makeup and high heels is not the definition of woman. It's the definition of feminine but not definition of woman. Woman definition is having a vag, ovaries etc. Do you believe in science? That is what science has established.
@@ladivaeu7795 So by your definition, cis women who had removed their ovaries etc. due to medical reasons like cancer, are no longer women. Same when a trans guy have his stuff removed, he is no longer a woman.
I went thru a bit of a negative headspace about being trans but this genuinely made me smile so much. Thank you for doing another trans tik tok video today, Jamie 😭💖
4:24 Gay Gen-X guy here. While I've never done drag myself, I do know that drag queens have been tucking for … like forever. And for decades, there have been trans women who started as drag-queens before realizing that they were actually women. [No Carmen Carerra wasn't the first.] And despite what _some_ people claim, drag-queens and trans women have been helping each other out for decades, _especially_ last century. I very much hope that is still happening. To paraphrase someone: We must all hang together, or they [the bigots in our case] will hang us one by one.
im just entering a new school part time for theatre class and we have a gsa and theyre starting another program to fight for inclusivity and theyll always ask your preffered name/nickname and we have a transfemme person in my theatre class who goes by lexi and introduced themselves as saying “my name is -- but i prefer lexi” and my theatre teacher immediately went “alright, welcome to class lexi” and since has not called them the wrong name once, and we have unisex and gender nuetral bathrooms in most of the buildings and theyll let you go to another building to go to one in every building but C building (cause the door locks when class starts and you cant get back in), and theres still a bunch of transphobia in the school but most people are just really cool and ive already met like five trans kids and its just pretty cool edit: also my principal wears a pronoun pin and ive seen a bunch of the teachers with pride pins to show their support
@@thatonething1287 No, because pronoun pins are part of the trans cult, the idea that someone would/should use a pronoun that doesn't match their sex. That is an ideological and explicitly political position and introducing that to children is grooming. We shouldn't be encouraging anyone to go down that route, least of all vulnerable children.
I've been watching you for years, and I have ever shown my mom your videos and she loves them. You have helped me throughout so many years, I just recently got top surgery- and I genuinely don't know where I'd be in my transition without seeing you put yourself out there and I just wanted to thank you.
i know that for the other transmascs i know, trans men being pregnant and/or fictional cis men being pregnant triggers dysphoria, and i think that's the main reason why people might want to avoid that topic. obviously they shouldnt be shitty about it, and trans men who want to be pregnant or are pregnant are entitled to the utmost joy for their lives, but i do think that other transmascs have the right to avoid dysphoria triggering content. that means tws and willful disengagement, though, not harrassment.
Tbh I find like mpreg fiction far more dysphoria triggering than transmascs living their lives happily (I personally found this video of the pregnant guy far less triggering than it usually is, maybe because it was treated casually). I think pregnant men being viewed as a spectacle or as something inherently strange contributes to why this content can be so distressing for us, because we grow so used to seeing pregnancy as an exclusively women's thing. I don't think it's the whole reason why, but it probably doesn't help
@@camposporium4536 Fair, though I think that's why there should be more awareness, so such individuals aren't seen as "strange spectacles," but rather just people living their lives like the guy in the video.
I just wanted to say that i just sent to my college a document asking to my social name to be included in my records, and i'm soo happy! I will be oficially Elias in all data inside the college, my teachers will be notified to change my name in their attendance lists (most of them were happy to allready change it last semester, without it being official) That is a huge step for me, and i really excited^^
5:42 THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU SO FUCKING MUCH FOR SHARING THIS!!! I live in a place that's not too far away from the beach and I've had the chance to go with my family but haven't bc 1.- I'm closeted and 2.- Idk how to wear a swimsuit or anything like that while passing when I haven't had surgery, or at least I didn't before watching this!!! Definitely using that in the future! Thank you so much Jamie for sharing it and to Dylan for making the video!!!
My 78 year old grandma recently updated our family tree to include my new name and my gender identity (I’m ftm). She also tells me I need a haircut when my hair starts reaching my ears. 😂😂😂
Oh my goodness! Seeing that pregnant trans man was such an eye opener! I'm afab and ever since realising I'm Agender, I've wondered if my revulsion towards seeing naked pregnant bellies (yes, it only happens when the belly is naked for some reason) was due to a mix of gender dysphoria and not ever wanting to get pregnant myself or what is gping on and, I felt absolutely no repulsion or anything when seeing his pregnant belly, so I think that really is it!
Yay! Kudos for your new realization! 🤗 I'm afab and genderfluid/neutral and never had any emotional connection with the whole pregnancy thing. The "experience" so many talk about, I never understood that. It just... didn't click. Even when I had my little girl (who's 8 now and an adorable sweetheart 😁), which was... different all on its own. Asymptomatic footling breech (had no clue until I was screaming in the ER in the middle of the night and the doc was like "You're in labor" and I've never been more shocked in my whole life 😆), and I'd been told since I was a teenager that I'd probably never even have kids due to "weird" hormones.
I'm Ftm, and have always had a deepish androgynous voice. A lot of my classmates would comment on it and say I sounded like a guy. I should've realised that I was trans back then because of how happy having people thing I sounded like a guy made me
I've been on a gender journey for a while, and your content has helped me find a safe space and realise it's okay to be who I am, so thank you very much Jamie ❤️ I've finally found a label after thinking on it for a good long while; I identify as demifluid and prefer she/they pronouns, and damn it felt good to type that out properly for the first time. I'm planning on coming out to my LGBT best friend tomorrow, wish me luck!
I've been out for years and have loads of tips and tricks for ftms but I know very little about mtfs, and a member of my family recently came out as mtf so I actually found the tucking tape info really helpful and informative. And tbh I loved the fact she said you don't have to tuck , because alot of younger trans people feel like they need to do specific things to pass and in my experience just do what makes you comfortable ♡ Also im a twin and growing up my sister was always like "dead name is gonna be a boy when she's older." Turns out she was right lol.
I played two truths and a lie as part of icebreakers for my classes, and I used the Trans Card to win. No one believed that I was a soprano in high school
7:30 Also, it is not like you would get away with this even if you are are a cis woman or trans "passing" (I hate that word). You will be dragged out there in seconds no matter your gender or gender representation.
My mom once literally said “I don’t understand trans people, like everyone wanted to be the other gender growing up, when I was younger I wanted to be a boy” and I just gave her a crazy look and said “No-” 😭🤚 (she also clearly doesn’t understand that being trans isn’t *”wanting”* to be another gender) 😅
You feel you are trapped in the wrong body right? I'm a woman and I feel trapped in the wrong body too. I should have the body and face of supermodel Giselle Bundchen. No amount of surgery can make me have her body and face. Oh well I have to come to terms to accept that I will never have her beautiful body and face.
I’ve been having some kind of rough feelings about Gender Things over the last couple days and your content always makes me feel a little better about it all. Thanks💖
Same. I've stopped thinking about gender as a linear spectrum and more as a vortex of infinite chaos, with lack of gender I guess being the eye of the storm. Personally I like the label genderfae, it sounds soft and mystical and it describes me pretty well as someone who is not masculine at all but not 100% connected to femininity (demigirl is similar, but doesn't sound as cool imo). Idk if this helps, I just like sharing whenever I find a new gender. I hope your gendering works out, lots of love to you human ❤️
@@Luna-jk5mu Aw, I didn’t see this until today but thank you for sharing! Unfortunately my Gender Things have less to do with my actual identity and more to do with my expression and openness about it with the people in my life, but I’ve been feeling better about it recently. I haven’t really found a niche gender label I vibe with; neutrois is the closest I’ve gotten, which is basically gender neutral, but I like to describe myself as genderqueer because (if this doesn’t sound too pretentious) I like to think that my gender identity queers the concept of gender in the first place. I don’t like “nonbinary” for myself bc to me it feels like I’m defining my gender with respect to the fact that there /is/ a binary in the first place. Thank you again for the kind reply, and good luck on your own gender journey!
It's interesting seeing pregnant fathers. I can't think of that gentleman as anything other than a gentleman because that's what he IS even though he is pregnant. The pregnancy does not stop me from seeing a man. I'm so happy he had a successful pregnancy and I hope he and his new little one have many wonderful dad adventures.
The tattoo thing is so sweet! A lot of people are not extended the same courtesy with parents who have kids' deadnames tattooed 😭 I think that when I have kids, I wouldn't get their names tattooed just because tattoos are permanent and people can change their names if they want.
THIS, if you want to tattoo something from your children then tattoo a cute drawing of theirs, or their handprint.. names change and the guilt that comes with changing your name when someone have TATTOOED it on them... it sucks
My niece hit 6'1" in high school. She's cis, but because of her height, she's had a lot of transphobes attack her. Since she lives in a very conservative community, she decided to seek out LGBT+ people she goes to school with (first in high school and now in college). She befriends them and encourages them to live their best lives because she wants to make sure they have at least one person in their corner.
Really. As long as your not a short man you likely won’t face any height discrimination. Which country are you from? In Germany and Holland it’s not rare to find women over 180 and men over 195cm.
Hey hey! Another lovely video, Jamie! I've also got a moment where the people in my class were right(ish). So, I was in first grade, and because it was a private school with uniforms, we needed either black or white sneakers for gym. My mom buys me some black shoes and all is fine and dandy until it's gym time at school. The girls look at my shoes and my (supposed) best friend said, "You can't wear those." I asked, "why not?" and she replied with "because they're boy shoes, not girl shoes!" And I was just confused and bothered because all the boys had black shoes and all the girls had white shoes. And then later on, I realized I was, in fact, not a girl, but I'm agender so like... partial credit.
Jamie: Trans guy, who loves trans tik toks as he's trans. Me: A nonbinary demiboy, who loves nonbinary and demiboy tik toks as I see my gender as a nonbinary demiboy. Yeah, Jammie, I can't blame your love for trans tik toks. Nor can I blame myself for my love for nonbinary/demiboy tik toks.
My boyfriend is a trans man, and he is fairly short (5' 3" tall), but as I am only two inches taller than him, his height is one of the first things about him that I found attractive. 🥰 He also would like to carry a baby. At first, I was, like, "I didn't expect that . . ." but now I think it's really cool! I never thought that as a gay man I would be able to have a child with a boyfriend! 😁
Bigender here! I definitely had one of those things in the past that just makes sense later on. I've always preferred to sit whenever I have to pee (I'm AMAB). It just seemed more natural. I remember being kinda surprised to hear that some people would stand, even in the stalls where they could sit if they wanted. Now, of course, I'm pretty sure that at least one of the reasons I prefer to sit is that my ideal body would have different genitals. Not different hormone-based sex-characteristics; I like my beard and my voice quite a lot, and the male part of me still very much exists. But the female part of me would probably be happier with a vagina, uterus, and breasts. (I say this as if they're two separate parts of me, but that's really just for convenience's sake. I'm not half male and half female; I'm fully both. It's just some specific feelings align more with what might be expected of one gender than the other.)
@@dominiklehn2866 Yeah, that's a fairly good description. An AFAB body that had hormonally transitioned but not surgically transitioned. Although that said, I started feeling *more* comfortable in my current body once i realized it's not what my ideal body would look like, which is a little confusing but whatever.
I kind of feel the same I’m ftm but I love being feminine and loveeee my breast. But i want a deep voice and I wanna get bottom surgery. I have a while to wait since I’m a minor but when i have enough money and old enough to do it without guardian permission I wanna do it as soon as i can
@@dens7115 Trans ppl who are still happy with certain gendered aspects of their body are super cool! I mean, everyone else is super cool too, but like, we don't get as much representation, even within the already-small amount of trans rep in general. So it's important to say it.
When I came out to my grandparents we were at their house, I said 'hey I'm trans, blah blah coming out' and my grandpa said 'ok, but we still need to know if you want pasta for dinner' and they completely accepted me
its so refreshing to see trans content that celebrates joy, instead of what feels like an endless string of battles. Trans Happiness is real, and you are a major contributor to it jamie :)
oh my god, cute and accepting grandparent, I cried in the first and again in the last. Just woke up and that is how I open a day. I love you guys, wish you guys all the best, and thank Jamie to make this video. Your content always lights my day up.
Hi Jamie ^^ Today, despite much stress and anxiety behind my computer screen, I was able to tell my History class (on mic!) about my preferred name and pronouns. My heart is melted
This entire video made me super happy. I'm not trans, but seeing so many happy people and so much acceptance made me giddy. And seeing Dylan's video made me really glad that young trans fem people have somebody to explain these things 💜 (I recognize that there's probably many more people out there that provide the same info, and that trans fem people probably already know, but still, I'm glad). If I could describe my mood in one word right now, it would be HAPPY. Thank you so much for all your videos and for teaching this AroAce dummy a little more about the community as a whole. 💜😄💜😄💜😄💜 Edited because I can't spell lol
seeing trans people happy and smiling is some of the best stuff, because those are some of the most genuine smiles you can look at, most people smile to be polite, or just out of habit, but you see a trans person smile and you can almost feel their happiness high fiving your heart
It appears that you are the one trying to be witty, but instead just declaring loudly that you are just a miserable hate filled bigot. I mean, seriously... you just expressed disbelief at someone liking to see other people happy. What kind of sick sociopath do you want to be seen as? @@Andrew4Handel
Fun Fact: the guy at 9:05 in the vid actually wrote a book about his life and being trans. It’s called Welcome to St. Hell and it’s really good! I’d definitely check it out!
6:31 THAT IS SO SWEEET. My dad got one of those kinds of tats too! (a pineapple with me and my sister's nams it's wonderful) He did it as a surprise and I almost cried when I saw it had my right name!!!
I just met up with an old friend from highschool. Its been about 4 years since I last saw them in University. At any rate, they came out to me as trans. They are still not sure about the whole process. They want to start the process. i hope all goes well for them. I am rooting for them. They haven’t asked for a change of pronouns or name yet. I can’t wait for the day they feel happy.
Just a reminder Trans fems, you look pretty and I hope you have a good day Trans mascs, you look handsome and I hope you have a good day People outside the binary, you look positively perplexing and I hope you have a good day Xenogender people and non dysphoric trans people, your gender is valid and I hope you have a good day Allys, I can’t tell you how much the little things mean and I hope you have a good day (If this made your day please let me know it means a lot)
For starters, that yellow chair is amazing. On the child bearing, I get a bit confused, but that's only because I have 0 motherly feeling in my enby body. And omg forwarding this to my transfem daughter for the tucking advice.
I really needed this video today. Everything was feeling like just too much, the obstacles in the way, the worries regarding society and just people reacting to you. Thank you for putting the smile back on my face :)
Sometimes I just wonder when my parents realize that I’m still their kid, just not their girl anymore… that it’s not a phase… honestly, when I see these, I feel so much better. I’m going through a dark time rn, so this made me smile. 🤟
I just got approved for T, just got to get my blood work done first! I am so happy to be starting my journey at long last! Unfortunately my family isn't going to be coming with me as they completely ghosted me when i can out and are refusing to apologize.
@Please refer to my lawyer🇺🇦 Thank you! :3 I am trying to get a new job right now because with gas prices I cannot afford to go to anymore appointments besides the first one. But here's hoping life will finally be good to me! It' s a start right?
1. You will find your Logical Family to replace your bioillogical one. 2. Cis gay guy here: we didn't get all of the secondary-sex-characteristics the moment we hit puberty. Takes, oh, 4-6 years before they're all in place. And even then, not all cis men have the same amount or thickness of body & facial hair, or voices of the same deepness, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera … Also, if it takes 10 years of T before you can grow a nice beard, *_there is nothing wrong with you!!!!!!_* Lots of cis-men - like me - couldn't grow a decent beard until our 30s. Hell, I didn't need to shave every single day until I was in my 40s! Before then, I didn't get a 5-o'clock shadow so much as a "11am-the-next-day shadow". 😆 And I repeat: I am cis. So any time you start getting down because you're not "changing fast enough," just remember how long it takes puberty to do its magic on cis-guys. And then you'll realize that everything is really happening Right On Schedule.
I‘m really that thankfull for this video because it gave me many ideas for my research paper about trans rights in America compared to Germany. I just got the approval from my teacher for this topic, so now i can finally write about it. Maybe i can close my presentation about it with my coming out as non-binary and tell my class my chosen name (P.S. i apologize if these sentences are a bit messy cause English is not my first language) :D
3:35 as a trans woman who isn't currently planning on bottom surgery. I totally get this, we don't NEED to have bottom disphoria, but you're no more or less trans with or without it.
Whoo! I love it when you react to fellow trans stuff, cheers! -Insane Ringneck Parret Btw i just said that in a hurry as for the first time in my life, I was early! EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
I love knowing that this stuff is up on tiktok. I teach, and have a number of students who are newly socially transitioning, and it's such a relief to know that they can find supportive, wholesome content on tiktok. I'm glad the platform I know many of them are on has content they can find that's affirming, and just so sweet. (The grandmother at the end, and the starter grandpa! 🥺💜)
ahh the first one hit me hard! my parents were very transphobic when I came out, and they were very upset when i asked them to remove old pictures of me. but!!! I'm so happy to see a grandparent supporting their trans grandchild! made me tear up :')) I wish the best for that OP and their family 💕💕
my mom posted a transparent joke on facebook to tell my family, (she asked me before hand) but she found it so funny that I couldn’t say no, and she got so excited when I said she could, definitely something I won’t forget.
Danny!!! Glad to see him here. 😊 Our families are friends, our toddlers have been close since before they were born ☁️ they're so sweet together and won't let go of each others' hands
You know what with the height thing I never realized till then (I'm mtf btw), I was always super short pre transition but now my track mates have literally said I'm exactly average height. Now with a grain of salt as I was real young pre (social) transition, transitioning summer rising to 4th grade. (thankfully, though my mom was literally one of the 4 main people in a movie about trans military members, so not necessarily surprising) So it could just be height changes from aging being timed weird, either way interesting
About the grandad taking down pre transition fotos, I’ve always felt uncomfortable and have told my mother that I don’t really appreciate fotos of younger me and she hasn’t ever taken them down, I never knew that it was sort of a transfobic thing, I’m glad I know now.
Omg I am so impressed by the woman in the Burberry swimsuit sharing the tools for tucking so openly and confidently. I'm so excited for her journey and helping others.
I'm cis but I used to think I was trans so I can relate to some of the struggles in some ways and I'm very happy that more trans youtuber's are around and that people are starting to accept trans people more. Love you all, whether you are straight, cis, LGBTQ, you deserve to be loved and looked after :) ❤️
@@xedgelord75x65 in all honesty, most people who do transition aren't transphobic themselves, when the terfs get a hold of it they spin it in a transphobic light.
I'm mtf trans and when I was in middle and high school the first things relatives would mention after they saw me for the first time in a while was my height. I'm also only 5'8''. Eventually most of the other AMABs pasted me up in height and people stopped commenting on it but when I started living full time as female I was all of a sudden the go to person for getting things on high shelves again.
@element of truth She looks so happy and so free! I was so happy for her! And sharing a vulnerable thing to help others is also very sweet! It got me emotional!
When I came out as trans, my very catholic grandma was super accepting. A few days later she called my mum, saying that she had told one of my aunts "Oh, (deadname) is transgender, his name is Benedikt now" and my aunt straight up told her "No, you're imagining that, you're making it up, your dementia is showing" So my grandma called my mum to ask if she had just imagined it, and when my mum said "No, he's trans", she was like "But why did Christa get so angry when I told her? I don't understand why she didn't want to believe me. If I had said (deadname) is studying at university now, or has a boyfriend, she wouldn't have said I imagined that! But she just wouldn't believe me that he's a boy now. Why would I make that up, I didn't even know that was possible before he told me!"
My grandma was great, sadly, she did develop dementia and the last time I saw her before her death, she didn't remember who I was. But I have my memories of her.
I am really sorry about that, but I am super glad that you have fond memories of her.
What is a woman to you?
I'm really sorry to hear she passed, but that's such a sweet story of her! My great grandma has really bad dementia, and she never met the real me, just (deadname). I know she'd accept me, but unfortunately her mind is too far gone. I also can't see her anymore because she doesn't recognize me this far into my transition, but I still talk to her on the phone. Sometimes she remembers me as an adult, but other times she thinks I'm a child because I was staying at my grandma's house during top surgery recovery. Dementia is a bitch...
@@ladivaeu7795 someone who considers themselves a woman
@@ladivaeu7795 a human who happens to identify or was born as a woman?
the person in the last one, Jude, does talks at my school every year about transitioning and how they found out they were non-binary and about their experiences. Its such a great thing to hear about especially in an "all girls" school since it means that theyre at least starting to recognise the diversity of the students :]
That sounds wonderful I’m glad your school does this!
same i go to an all boys school but im not trans or anything but its cool
AWESOME
They came to my school last year and while i already knew i was trans it was still super awesome since i go to an all boys school
sounds like the schools parents need to get involved.
HEY! my school has just agreed to change my name on the school register to my middle name! It's Jamie too! I'm so happy because we also have unisex bathrooms but so ppl don't get outed for going into them, they are labelled as "universal bathrooms" instead and I'm so so happy!
Damn your school seems amazing
@@potatostarch4362 ikr our "unisex toilets" are just disabled toilets, not helpful at all
Omg! You're so awesome
YAYYY CONGRATS!!!! 🥳
Imagine having a good school anyway congrats jamie
I'm not trans but when I came out as asexual (and eventually aromantic too). My family was supportive but my grandfather never said anything or seemed to acknowledge it. One day he was out with my mom and he ran into someone and they ended up talking about me being aroace and my mother said the person said something about me being weird and how I should be married, and my grandfather immediately told that person to 'eff off' she'll do what she wants, she's my granddaughter and walked off with my mom in hand. He never mentioned it and I wouldn't have known had my mom not been there and it just made me so happy to know that he cared and would defend me
I like your grandpa can he adopt me?
That's really sweet! :D
I'm so stupidly happy for you. 🥰😄🥰
i love that sm
That's awesome!
I am a middle age gay cis man but I feel so close to the trans community in a way that I can't explain. Your struggles, your strength, the courage to find and build yourselves no matter what you are repeatedly told not to do - it just resonates so deep. Jamie you opened a world to me and made my mind wider and free so that it could embrace it. Thanks forever and ever. Love your hair and this pullover;)
Sir, I love you /p
-trans kiddo
@@amity9163 a fellow trans AND The Owl House fan? You sure you're not me?
@@Andreaa_-_ Ha, I do love the Owl House, but my name irl is actually Amity!
@Amity Lucky! I have a boring name
@@amity9163 That's literally SO COOL! What's the meaning of it?
As a Trans Femme, your videos were my first experience with the Trans Masc experience. I know a few Trans Men now in offline space and watching your videos really helped me avoid too many awkward questions. Thank you so much! Keep up the amazing work. Your enthusiasm and joy are infectious!
My grandma, who I live with, is really accepting of my gender non-conformity. When I wanted a hysterectomy to alleviate gender dysphoria, she took me and was willing to help me pay if insurance didn't cover it all. When I try to explain my gender she goes "I don't fully get it, but that's okay" (but when I specifically explain the disconnect and masquerading of femininity she goes "yeah, that's just how that feels"- who is gonna tell her?) And I love her. I think part of the reason she gets it (other than the fact that I think she may have identified similarly if she were born now) is because I have a lesbian-identified great aunt who she is very close with, and who will occasionally choose to go by the masculine version of their name (so I figure they would probably identify as gender-fluid or gender queer if given the labels and understanding that we have today). Queer people didn't not exist before, and everyone has probably loved a queer person.
About the joke: i think it's wholesome, because it is a positive reaction. And we know we need more of that, in any form.
I agree, I would have loved if my dad had some super corny joke when I came out to him
hi! what are the two pride flags on the right side of your profile picture? i know demigirl, but have never seen the other two.
@@lammieshipper I'm not sure about the bigger one but the small one is the genderfluid flag
@@lammieshipper I second this comment
@@shoe777 i third this comment
9:19 Yes! I remember something like this happened. I'm transmasc and on our last day of primary school, we went around having our friends sign our shirts. One of my friends wrote "Good luck sir!" on my shirt as a joke and it made me so happy for reasons I didn't understand.
9:18 - Honestly, I can relate to this. My "moment" was when I was 10 years old and some boy I barely knew in the year above me at school decided to tease me by randomly asking when I was going to get a sex change. I didn't even know what a sex change was until I asked one of the teachers who told me that it would mean me "becoming a boy"...and I realised I was rather happy and relieved at the idea that there was a way for me to "become a boy" (which I'm fairly sure freaked the teacher out even more than me randomly asking her what a sex change was). To this day 16 years later, I still occasionally whether that boy was actually aware of how accurate he was with his attempt at insulting me...
Is it weird to be happy whenever you see trans fem or woman having flat chest/small chest as a cis girl? I don't like my chest all that much, but seeing trans women and fems rocking it makes me feel better about myself.
It isn’t weird, you just have more empathy than you know who.
not weird! chest size shouldn't define femininity
its kind of like how I love when Cis women have deeper voices and I'm like "I'm not alone!"
@@oliviawolcott8351 Yesssss! That's definitely what it is.
This is a wholesome moment.
We can have people accepting bodies they don’t like AND people accepting that they don’t like their bodies. Breaking down the idea that there is only *one* answer that everyone has to live by actually helps *everyone*
I've been hearing more and more people call pregnant trans men seashores dads and I love it
that's the name of the subreddit iirc!
Seahorse dads?!?! Oh my friggin' goodness, thank you for this adorably awesome factoid!
@@everfluctuating it's probably because there was a documentory of a trans man giving birth, he named it "seahorse" as well!
My mind went to "he bore a child who can kill Macbeth."
@@LeoTheVampire also with actual seahorses it is the male seahorse that carries and gives birth to the fry. Same thing with male sea dragons
Thank you so much for showing the tiktok about tucking. I could never see myself with a women's swimwear because of my genitals but thank to this video I now have a reason to have a lot more confidence in public pools or at the beach.
Thank you Jamie 😊
If you want something with a little more fabric than standard women's swimwear, try a swim skirt! They're still very feminine but with a little more coverage. ❤️
@@maxthemannequin4143 i've just ordered one following someone else giving me similar advice -- waiting to see if it works!
Yay!!! thats so cool!!!!
@@maxthemannequin4143 I am a cis woman. I was perfectly fine with wearing "standard" women's (girls') swimwear as a girl, but after puberty I just found it awkward to have that little coverage... So swimskirts sounds like a good idea. Thanks!
@@shawqin992 I'm glad this helped! Just one of the benefits of hanging out in a diverse community 💕
I love the wholesome grandparent ones! When I told my g-ma that I changed my name, I learned that she kept a file folder for all of her grandchildren and kept all of our holiday cards and thank you notes in it... anyway I learned that because she told me that she immediately updated my name on the folder! She was such an amazing ally and I miss her very much. Meanwhile, nearly 10 years on my mum still has me in her phone under my dead name 🙄
Not trans-related, and only kind of queer-related, but I sent out last year's Christmas cards with my preferred title of Ms on the return labels, in part because I have some aunts who keep sending Christmas cards to "Miss Erin K". My grandpa's card subsequently came addressed to "Ms Erin", but either none of the aunts got the hint or they addressed theirs before they saw mine. (I say kind of queer-related, because while I am an Ace Lesbian, a theoretical straight version of me could be having the same issue)
the last one is from Italy! And with me being italian it was even more touching, we don't have a lot of people so supportive like this here, it honestly made me feel so happy seeing something like that happen in my country :)
i agree, im also italian and there isnt a lot of support/representation so im glad there are some ppl :)
OMFG, the hot summer girl was SO sweet! And darn, does she have the perfect hot summer body! She was MADE for wearing that swim suit!
Her name is Dylan and she's awesome! Btw just to avoid confusion she still uses her original name cause she likes it. Just thought it was worth mentioning in case anyone doesn't know of her and might suspect that's her dead name or anything. I first saw her on one of Anthony Padilla's videos on trans women, and I highly recommend you check it out if you want to see a bit more of her! They also usually link everyone's socials in those videos so you could find where to follow her there also
@@kaileychambers6969 Thanks so much, I'll definitely check out that video!
And I can totally understand why she would stick with that name, it's both beautiful and awesomely gender neutral ...
She will fit in with all the other little girls!!
@@kaileychambers6969 I've seen her there too
@@kaileychambers6969 Dylan is an underrated girl name honestly
I came out at school start of this week. Or well, I didn't necessarily really come out, I just changed my pronouns and I wrote down my pronouns under my name a bunch of times when teachers asked us to make nametags (start of the schoolyear, teachers don't know us yet) and honestly so far so great. I've caught some peeps using the right pronouns and I've never heard anyone use the wrong name for me either, even though they did already memorize my name from the introduction week. I'm loving it. Makes me feel so awesome
Aww im so happy for you
Oh, since we like wholesome accepting grandparents, last time I saw my grandma she asked which name I'd prefer she put on gifts and cards for the future. So now she's putting my preferred name, sometimes she's a little confused tbh but she's got the spirit.
Older people being a little confused but trying are the cutest
9:12 That reminds me of my childhood best friend & I. I remember us joking about how our “souls got swapped before birth” (we’re born 2 weeks apart) and I was “supposed to be the boy” and she was “supposed to be the girl”. We were 5 at the time and didn’t know what being trans was, but now 20 years later, turns out 5-year-old us already knew what was up lol
I’m non-binary and she’s a trans woman
@element of truth What is that even supposed to mean
@element of truth Oh, a transphobe who thinks anyone asked tries to tell a trans person that what they are isn't real. How surprising. I am so shocked right now
You're gonna have to find a more believable excuse to be a shithead than big pharma and plastic surgery conspiracy theories, trans and non binary people existed and are documented to have existed in Akkad, you know, 4000+ years ago. Big pharma or whatever you're paranoid about didn't exist back then (and still doesn't exist today but I'm assuming you're a Trump stan so there's no point in arguing with you over that)
Get fucked
THAT'S SO CUTE OMGG
I’m a trans guy and every one of these videos were so wholesome and actually made me happy about who I was. Lately i’ve been having some negative thoughts so its nice to see people like me happy, making me think I actually have a chance at life. Of course I know not to expect that much, but maybe it will turn out alright. I can’t wait for people to see me as a guy, who I really am.
someday u will find the right ppl who fully accept u as u are, I am absolutely sure of that and then u can feel as much joy about urself as the ppl in the videos (u can feel joy about it without them too, but it really helps to have them) ❤❤
💙
We can always tell a trans. What do you accomplish being called a guy? There are many women who are very masculine. I'm a woman I hate makeup and high heels. Wearing makeup and high heels is not the definition of woman. It's the definition of feminine but not definition of woman. Woman definition is having a vag, ovaries etc. Do you believe in science? That is what science has established.
@@ladivaeu7795 So by your definition, cis women who had removed their ovaries etc. due to medical reasons like cancer, are no longer women. Same when a trans guy have his stuff removed, he is no longer a woman.
I went thru a bit of a negative headspace about being trans but this genuinely made me smile so much. Thank you for doing another trans tik tok video today, Jamie 😭💖
@Please refer to my lawyer🇺🇦 thank you sm 😭💖
4:24 Gay Gen-X guy here. While I've never done drag myself, I do know that drag queens have been tucking for … like forever.
And for decades, there have been trans women who started as drag-queens before realizing that they were actually women. [No Carmen Carerra wasn't the first.] And despite what _some_ people claim, drag-queens and trans women have been helping each other out for decades, _especially_ last century. I very much hope that is still happening.
To paraphrase someone: We must all hang together, or they [the bigots in our case] will hang us one by one.
im just entering a new school part time for theatre class and we have a gsa and theyre starting another program to fight for inclusivity and theyll always ask your preffered name/nickname and we have a transfemme person in my theatre class who goes by lexi and introduced themselves as saying “my name is -- but i prefer lexi” and my theatre teacher immediately went “alright, welcome to class lexi” and since has not called them the wrong name once, and we have unisex and gender nuetral bathrooms in most of the buildings and theyll let you go to another building to go to one in every building but C building (cause the door locks when class starts and you cant get back in), and theres still a bunch of transphobia in the school but most people are just really cool and ive already met like five trans kids and its just pretty cool
edit: also my principal wears a pronoun pin and ive seen a bunch of the teachers with pride pins to show their support
Any teacher who wears a pronoun pin is an obvious groomer.
@@_Sakidora_ and youre garnering this opinion based on the fact that this teacher wants their classroom to be an inclusive space?!?!?
@@thatonething1287 No, because pronoun pins are part of the trans cult, the idea that someone would/should use a pronoun that doesn't match their sex. That is an ideological and explicitly political position and introducing that to children is grooming. We shouldn't be encouraging anyone to go down that route, least of all vulnerable children.
Gosh!!! Danny the dad video made me so happy.
I just needed something positive like that on this awful day
I've been watching you for years, and I have ever shown my mom your videos and she loves them. You have helped me throughout so many years, I just recently got top surgery- and I genuinely don't know where I'd be in my transition without seeing you put yourself out there and I just wanted to thank you.
I'm in transition, from female to male, and I've suddenly inherited all of the Dad jokes in the family. It is the burden I must bear. 😅
@element of truth But is it really?
From woman to man*
@@Daiyodo I meant what I said.
Do you have a father?
@@MalfunctioningAndroid Yes I do. That's where I learned all the dad jokes.
A very good friend of mine came out to me as trans and gay today, and then I came out to him. He's watching this video rn. :)
That's so beautiful!
i know that for the other transmascs i know, trans men being pregnant and/or fictional cis men being pregnant triggers dysphoria, and i think that's the main reason why people might want to avoid that topic. obviously they shouldnt be shitty about it, and trans men who want to be pregnant or are pregnant are entitled to the utmost joy for their lives, but i do think that other transmascs have the right to avoid dysphoria triggering content. that means tws and willful disengagement, though, not harrassment.
True, true. We all have our own journeys. By that same token, we don't have the right to judge others for theirs.
Tbh I find like mpreg fiction far more dysphoria triggering than transmascs living their lives happily (I personally found this video of the pregnant guy far less triggering than it usually is, maybe because it was treated casually). I think pregnant men being viewed as a spectacle or as something inherently strange contributes to why this content can be so distressing for us, because we grow so used to seeing pregnancy as an exclusively women's thing. I don't think it's the whole reason why, but it probably doesn't help
@@camposporium4536 Fair, though I think that's why there should be more awareness, so such individuals aren't seen as "strange spectacles," but rather just people living their lives like the guy in the video.
@@asherikamichaela8425 oh yeah, I fully agree. I think positive rep like this is great
@@camposporium4536 Same!
Dylan is so joyful about being a girl and woman it's so lovely to watch her 💖💖 glad she got a showcase here
I just wanted to say that i just sent to my college a document asking to my social name to be included in my records, and i'm soo happy!
I will be oficially Elias in all data inside the college, my teachers will be notified to change my name in their attendance lists (most of them were happy to allready change it last semester, without it being official)
That is a huge step for me, and i really excited^^
@@name02 thanks!^^
That's great! Really happy for you! 💜
Congratulations Elias!! I am so happy for you!! ❤
Whoo! Congrats! 😁🎈🎉🎊
5:42 THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU SO FUCKING MUCH FOR SHARING THIS!!! I live in a place that's not too far away from the beach and I've had the chance to go with my family but haven't bc 1.- I'm closeted and 2.- Idk how to wear a swimsuit or anything like that while passing when I haven't had surgery, or at least I didn't before watching this!!! Definitely using that in the future! Thank you so much Jamie for sharing it and to Dylan for making the video!!!
My 78 year old grandma recently updated our family tree to include my new name and my gender identity (I’m ftm). She also tells me I need a haircut when my hair starts reaching my ears. 😂😂😂
I LOVE DYLAN!
Oh my goodness! Seeing that pregnant trans man was such an eye opener!
I'm afab and ever since realising I'm Agender, I've wondered if my revulsion towards seeing naked pregnant bellies (yes, it only happens when the belly is naked for some reason) was due to a mix of gender dysphoria and not ever wanting to get pregnant myself or what is gping on and, I felt absolutely no repulsion or anything when seeing his pregnant belly, so I think that really is it!
Yay! Kudos for your new realization! 🤗 I'm afab and genderfluid/neutral and never had any emotional connection with the whole pregnancy thing. The "experience" so many talk about, I never understood that. It just... didn't click. Even when I had my little girl (who's 8 now and an adorable sweetheart 😁), which was... different all on its own. Asymptomatic footling breech (had no clue until I was screaming in the ER in the middle of the night and the doc was like "You're in labor" and I've never been more shocked in my whole life 😆), and I'd been told since I was a teenager that I'd probably never even have kids due to "weird" hormones.
@@asherikamichaela8425 Mama Doctor Jones would love you and your "I didn't know I was pregnant" experience.
@@TheoRae8289 I'm sure. Maybe she could explain wtf is up with my funky biology. 😂🤣
@@asherikamichaela8425 Thank you!
And man! What an experience that must have been!
So happy everything went well in the end💙
@@lampekartoffel You're welcome! 😁 And thanks! It was definitely an experience. Not one I'm looking to recreate, but there ya go lmao
I'm Ftm, and have always had a deepish androgynous voice. A lot of my classmates would comment on it and say I sounded like a guy. I should've realised that I was trans back then because of how happy having people thing I sounded like a guy made me
Same, absolutely same.
that's awesome! i wish i had a deep voice
I love supportive grandparents
I've been on a gender journey for a while, and your content has helped me find a safe space and realise it's okay to be who I am, so thank you very much Jamie ❤️
I've finally found a label after thinking on it for a good long while; I identify as demifluid and prefer she/they pronouns, and damn it felt good to type that out properly for the first time.
I'm planning on coming out to my LGBT best friend tomorrow, wish me luck!
@spluttering in confused exhaustion 🇺🇦 Thank you ❤️❤️❤️ means a lot!
congrats and good luck ❤❤❤
hey good luck!! im genderfluid and it's a fun trip :)
I've been out for years and have loads of tips and tricks for ftms but I know very little about mtfs, and a member of my family recently came out as mtf so I actually found the tucking tape info really helpful and informative. And tbh I loved the fact she said you don't have to tuck , because alot of younger trans people feel like they need to do specific things to pass and in my experience just do what makes you comfortable ♡
Also im a twin and growing up my sister was always like "dead name is gonna be a boy when she's older." Turns out she was right lol.
I played two truths and a lie as part of icebreakers for my classes, and I used the Trans Card to win. No one believed that I was a soprano in high school
7:30 Also, it is not like you would get away with this even if you are are a cis woman or trans "passing" (I hate that word). You will be dragged out there in seconds no matter your gender or gender representation.
My mom once literally said “I don’t understand trans people, like everyone wanted to be the other gender growing up, when I was younger I wanted to be a boy” and I just gave her a crazy look and said “No-” 😭🤚 (she also clearly doesn’t understand that being trans isn’t *”wanting”* to be another gender) 😅
r/egg_irl
who’s gonna tell her 😳😃
is this perhaps a case of glass closet
There are no age limits for being an egg ☺️
You feel you are trapped in the wrong body right? I'm a woman and I feel trapped in the wrong body too. I should have the body and face of supermodel Giselle Bundchen. No amount of surgery can make me have her body and face. Oh well I have to come to terms to accept that I will never have her beautiful body and face.
I'm always here to watch stuff with you Jamie. Thanks for being you!
“It’s like the grandpa changing the photo, but like, a bit more permanent” i don’t know why that made me laugh so much (6:41)
I’ve been having some kind of rough feelings about Gender Things over the last couple days and your content always makes me feel a little better about it all. Thanks💖
Same. I've stopped thinking about gender as a linear spectrum and more as a vortex of infinite chaos, with lack of gender I guess being the eye of the storm. Personally I like the label genderfae, it sounds soft and mystical and it describes me pretty well as someone who is not masculine at all but not 100% connected to femininity (demigirl is similar, but doesn't sound as cool imo). Idk if this helps, I just like sharing whenever I find a new gender. I hope your gendering works out, lots of love to you human ❤️
@@Luna-jk5mu Aw, I didn’t see this until today but thank you for sharing! Unfortunately my Gender Things have less to do with my actual identity and more to do with my expression and openness about it with the people in my life, but I’ve been feeling better about it recently. I haven’t really found a niche gender label I vibe with; neutrois is the closest I’ve gotten, which is basically gender neutral, but I like to describe myself as genderqueer because (if this doesn’t sound too pretentious) I like to think that my gender identity queers the concept of gender in the first place. I don’t like “nonbinary” for myself bc to me it feels like I’m defining my gender with respect to the fact that there /is/ a binary in the first place. Thank you again for the kind reply, and good luck on your own gender journey!
This cult isn't your friend and will do you terrible damage if you let it.
It's interesting seeing pregnant fathers. I can't think of that gentleman as anything other than a gentleman because that's what he IS even though he is pregnant. The pregnancy does not stop me from seeing a man. I'm so happy he had a successful pregnancy and I hope he and his new little one have many wonderful dad adventures.
When did you learn that two and two make five?
@@_Sakidora_ I didn't. Oh dear, did you fail out of preschool? I'm so sorry.
@@widowkeeper4739 Says the moron who thinks men can get pregnant.
The tattoo thing is so sweet! A lot of people are not extended the same courtesy with parents who have kids' deadnames tattooed 😭 I think that when I have kids, I wouldn't get their names tattooed just because tattoos are permanent and people can change their names if they want.
THIS, if you want to tattoo something from your children then tattoo a cute drawing of theirs, or their handprint.. names change and the guilt that comes with changing your name when someone have TATTOOED it on them... it sucks
@@vintereventyr_ Damn, yeah, I can imagine.
My niece hit 6'1" in high school. She's cis, but because of her height, she's had a lot of transphobes attack her. Since she lives in a very conservative community, she decided to seek out LGBT+ people she goes to school with (first in high school and now in college). She befriends them and encourages them to live their best lives because she wants to make sure they have at least one person in their corner.
The world would be a better place with more people like her 🖖🏻
@@AnneOnymaus I strive every day to be more like my niece. She's my role model.
Really. As long as your not a short man you likely won’t face any height discrimination. Which country are you from? In Germany and Holland it’s not rare to find women over 180 and men over 195cm.
@@grizzlybear2702 I'm in the US.
Hey hey! Another lovely video, Jamie! I've also got a moment where the people in my class were right(ish). So, I was in first grade, and because it was a private school with uniforms, we needed either black or white sneakers for gym. My mom buys me some black shoes and all is fine and dandy until it's gym time at school. The girls look at my shoes and my (supposed) best friend said, "You can't wear those." I asked, "why not?" and she replied with "because they're boy shoes, not girl shoes!" And I was just confused and bothered because all the boys had black shoes and all the girls had white shoes.
And then later on, I realized I was, in fact, not a girl, but I'm agender so like... partial credit.
At school the bullies called me "Wonder Woman". Turns out they were right
Jamie: Trans guy, who loves trans tik toks as he's trans.
Me: A nonbinary demiboy, who loves nonbinary and demiboy tik toks as I see my gender as a nonbinary demiboy.
Yeah, Jammie, I can't blame your love for trans tik toks. Nor can I blame myself for my love for nonbinary/demiboy tik toks.
You go, Your Highness!
(haha it's the gender neutral version of king and queen)
ahhh a fellow demiboy 😍
all the love to u❤🤗
My boyfriend is a trans man, and he is fairly short (5' 3" tall), but as I am only two inches taller than him, his height is one of the first things about him that I found attractive. 🥰 He also would like to carry a baby. At first, I was, like, "I didn't expect that . . ." but now I think it's really cool! I never thought that as a gay man I would be able to have a child with a boyfriend! 😁
Bigender here! I definitely had one of those things in the past that just makes sense later on. I've always preferred to sit whenever I have to pee (I'm AMAB). It just seemed more natural. I remember being kinda surprised to hear that some people would stand, even in the stalls where they could sit if they wanted.
Now, of course, I'm pretty sure that at least one of the reasons I prefer to sit is that my ideal body would have different genitals. Not different hormone-based sex-characteristics; I like my beard and my voice quite a lot, and the male part of me still very much exists. But the female part of me would probably be happier with a vagina, uterus, and breasts. (I say this as if they're two separate parts of me, but that's really just for convenience's sake. I'm not half male and half female; I'm fully both. It's just some specific feelings align more with what might be expected of one gender than the other.)
So... Your ideal body would be AFAB that transitioned without surgery? Like... Female organs but overall male looks?
@@dominiklehn2866 Yeah, that's a fairly good description. An AFAB body that had hormonally transitioned but not surgically transitioned.
Although that said, I started feeling *more* comfortable in my current body once i realized it's not what my ideal body would look like, which is a little confusing but whatever.
I kind of feel the same I’m ftm but I love being feminine and loveeee my breast. But i want a deep voice and I wanna get bottom surgery. I have a while to wait since I’m a minor but when i have enough money and old enough to do it without guardian permission I wanna do it as soon as i can
@@dens7115 Trans ppl who are still happy with certain gendered aspects of their body are super cool! I mean, everyone else is super cool too, but like, we don't get as much representation, even within the already-small amount of trans rep in general. So it's important to say it.
im bigender too! it’s so cool seeing other bigenders other than me :DDDDD
When I came out to my grandparents we were at their house, I said 'hey I'm trans, blah blah coming out' and my grandpa said 'ok, but we still need to know if you want pasta for dinner' and they completely accepted me
its so refreshing to see trans content that celebrates joy, instead of what feels like an endless string of battles. Trans Happiness is real, and you are a major contributor to it jamie :)
What a lovely comment!🖖🏻
oh my god, cute and accepting grandparent, I cried in the first and again in the last. Just woke up and that is how I open a day. I love you guys, wish you guys all the best, and thank Jamie to make this video. Your content always lights my day up.
You posting always makes my day!!
Yeah, he makes everyone’s day when he uploads.
Hi Jamie ^^
Today, despite much stress and anxiety behind my computer screen, I was able to tell my History class (on mic!) about my preferred name and pronouns. My heart is melted
Congrats 🎉 May your day and week be filled with positivity 👌
@elementoftruth
Uhhh wdym
My accomplishment?
@elementoftruth
Omg I forgot I’m not allowed to be happy with my identity 😱
So sorry I hurt your fragile snowflake exterior
This entire video made me super happy. I'm not trans, but seeing so many happy people and so much acceptance made me giddy. And seeing Dylan's video made me really glad that young trans fem people have somebody to explain these things 💜 (I recognize that there's probably many more people out there that provide the same info, and that trans fem people probably already know, but still, I'm glad). If I could describe my mood in one word right now, it would be HAPPY. Thank you so much for all your videos and for teaching this AroAce dummy a little more about the community as a whole. 💜😄💜😄💜😄💜
Edited because I can't spell lol
I'm italian, and hearing the grandma explain how the beard should look is amazing
i love your videos jamie ! they helped realise i am actually queer and they are always lots of fun !! thank you so much
seeing trans people happy and smiling is some of the best stuff, because those are some of the most genuine smiles you can look at, most people smile to be polite, or just out of habit, but you see a trans person smile and you can almost feel their happiness high fiving your heart
Are you joking?!?!
It appears that you are the one trying to be witty, but instead just declaring loudly that you are just a miserable hate filled bigot. I mean, seriously... you just expressed disbelief at someone liking to see other people happy. What kind of sick sociopath do you want to be seen as? @@Andrew4Handel
Fun Fact: the guy at 9:05 in the vid actually wrote a book about his life and being trans. It’s called Welcome to St. Hell and it’s really good! I’d definitely check it out!
6:31 THAT IS SO SWEEET.
My dad got one of those kinds of tats too! (a pineapple with me and my sister's nams it's wonderful)
He did it as a surprise and I almost cried when I saw it had my right name!!!
The abuelo at the beginning🥰
Addendum: Now that I've seen the whole video so many of these were lovely. Great video!
I just met up with an old friend from highschool. Its been about 4 years since I last saw them in University. At any rate, they came out to me as trans. They are still not sure about the whole process. They want to start the process. i hope all goes well for them. I am rooting for them. They haven’t asked for a change of pronouns or name yet. I can’t wait for the day they feel happy.
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The son so manly his father gave birth to him
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Just a reminder
Trans fems, you look pretty and I hope you have a good day
Trans mascs, you look handsome and I hope you have a good day
People outside the binary, you look positively perplexing and I hope you have a good day
Xenogender people and non dysphoric trans people, your gender is valid and I hope you have a good day
Allys, I can’t tell you how much the little things mean and I hope you have a good day
(If this made your day please let me know it means a lot)
As someone who uses xenogenders, thank you.
Im a feminine trans man so shut the heck up thanks I'm not handsome I'm a beautiful male princess
@@_404shcats_ Fatherless
@@odessawales get a life
this did in fact make my day as a xenogender user
For starters, that yellow chair is amazing. On the child bearing, I get a bit confused, but that's only because I have 0 motherly feeling in my enby body. And omg forwarding this to my transfem daughter for the tucking advice.
Aaalrightey!.. I had to go and get my glasses because I thought 'wtf, is is he doing the video naked?'
I really needed this video today. Everything was feeling like just too much, the obstacles in the way, the worries regarding society and just people reacting to you. Thank you for putting the smile back on my face :)
I just love how you love on people loving other people. It's a big ol' love-fest going on around here. Worldwide group hug!
hugs all around!'
5:26 Dylan doing the unclockable WAS PERFECT. That actually allowed me to rock a bikini for myself this summer in Winnipeg.
I recently figured out that I’m trans and I came out to my friends and they INSTANTLY accepted me and were on it in a flash. I adore them so so much
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that's always a great feeling.
This has brightened my day! I needed some refreshing wholesomeness from the most wholesome channel
"I was called the t slur in maths class by some people"
"Turns out they were right but in a very mean way"
I was having a down day, then watched your video. Thank you! This is incredibly sweet and adorable, especially the grandparent ones!
Sometimes I just wonder when my parents realize that I’m still their kid, just not their girl anymore… that it’s not a phase… honestly, when I see these, I feel so much better. I’m going through a dark time rn, so this made me smile. 🤟
Good for you. Womanhood is a social construct.
@Yung Mohel it's not a phase bruh
I just got approved for T, just got to get my blood work done first! I am so happy to be starting my journey at long last! Unfortunately my family isn't going to be coming with me as they completely ghosted me when i can out and are refusing to apologize.
@Please refer to my lawyer🇺🇦 Thank you! :3 I am trying to get a new job right now because with gas prices I cannot afford to go to anymore appointments besides the first one. But here's hoping life will finally be good to me! It' s a start right?
1. You will find your Logical Family to replace your bioillogical one.
2. Cis gay guy here: we didn't get all of the secondary-sex-characteristics the moment we hit puberty. Takes, oh, 4-6 years before they're all in place. And even then, not all cis men have the same amount or thickness of body & facial hair, or voices of the same deepness, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera … Also, if it takes 10 years of T before you can grow a nice beard, *_there is nothing wrong with you!!!!!!_* Lots of cis-men - like me - couldn't grow a decent beard until our 30s. Hell, I didn't need to shave every single day until I was in my 40s! Before then, I didn't get a 5-o'clock shadow so much as a "11am-the-next-day shadow". 😆
And I repeat: I am cis. So any time you start getting down because you're not "changing fast enough," just remember how long it takes puberty to do its magic on cis-guys. And then you'll realize that everything is really happening Right On Schedule.
Pray you never come to regret this when it can't be undone
I‘m really that thankfull for this video because it gave me many ideas for my research paper about trans rights in America compared to Germany. I just got the approval from my teacher for this topic, so now i can finally write about it. Maybe i can close my presentation about it with my coming out as non-binary and tell my class my chosen name (P.S. i apologize if these sentences are a bit messy cause English is not my first language) :D
Jamie's reaction to the baby just has me like, "Oh man, you have baby fever real bad dude". I can certainly tell he's excited to be a father one day.
3:35 as a trans woman who isn't currently planning on bottom surgery. I totally get this, we don't NEED to have bottom disphoria, but you're no more or less trans with or without it.
Congrats on your transitioning dude!! You look amazing and gorgeous!!!
Whoo! I love it when you react to fellow trans stuff, cheers!
-Insane Ringneck Parret
Btw i just said that in a hurry as for the first time in my life, I was early! EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
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I love knowing that this stuff is up on tiktok. I teach, and have a number of students who are newly socially transitioning, and it's such a relief to know that they can find supportive, wholesome content on tiktok. I'm glad the platform I know many of them are on has content they can find that's affirming, and just so sweet. (The grandmother at the end, and the starter grandpa! 🥺💜)
YOU HAVE ONE MILLION SUBSCRIBERS!!! CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🎉
ahh the first one hit me hard! my parents were very transphobic when I came out, and they were very upset when i asked them to remove old pictures of me. but!!! I'm so happy to see a grandparent supporting their trans grandchild! made me tear up :')) I wish the best for that OP and their family 💕💕
my mom posted a transparent joke on facebook to tell my family, (she asked me before hand) but she found it so funny that I couldn’t say no, and she got so excited when I said she could, definitely something I won’t forget.
Danny!!! Glad to see him here. 😊 Our families are friends, our toddlers have been close since before they were born ☁️ they're so sweet together and won't let go of each others' hands
You know what with the height thing I never realized till then (I'm mtf btw), I was always super short pre transition but now my track mates have literally said I'm exactly average height. Now with a grain of salt as I was real young pre (social) transition, transitioning summer rising to 4th grade. (thankfully, though my mom was literally one of the 4 main people in a movie about trans military members, so not necessarily surprising) So it could just be height changes from aging being timed weird, either way interesting
I'm 8 months on T! My peach fuzz is coming in already. Those Tik-Toks are adorable! :) Much love from the US.
About the grandad taking down pre transition fotos, I’ve always felt uncomfortable and have told my mother that I don’t really appreciate fotos of younger me and she hasn’t ever taken them down, I never knew that it was sort of a transfobic thing, I’m glad I know now.
She is mourning the child she knew before they became lost in the cult
The girl that did the tucking video was absolutely adorable. Good on her. 🤗🤗🤗
These videos put such a huge smile on my face. My cheeks hurt now lol
Omg I am so impressed by the woman in the Burberry swimsuit sharing the tools for tucking so openly and confidently. I'm so excited for her journey and helping others.
I'm cis but I used to think I was trans so I can relate to some of the struggles in some ways and I'm very happy that more trans youtuber's are around and that people are starting to accept trans people more. Love you all, whether you are straight, cis, LGBTQ, you deserve to be loved and looked after :) ❤️
whoa an actual detrans that isn’t transphobic! you’re amazing, don’t stop being you
That sounds very interesting, love the support!
@@xedgelord75x65 in all honesty, most people who do transition aren't transphobic themselves, when the terfs get a hold of it they spin it in a transphobic light.
I love Dylan's tiktok's, her days of girlhood are so joyful!
I'm mtf trans and when I was in middle and high school the first things relatives would mention after they saw me for the first time in a while was my height. I'm also only 5'8''. Eventually most of the other AMABs pasted me up in height and people stopped commenting on it but when I started living full time as female I was all of a sudden the go to person for getting things on high shelves again.
I love how wholesome these were! Your videos always brighten my day!
Every time I see the "trans parent" joke it makes me want to groan. It also makes me involuntarily grin.
Trans women sharing her tuck experience... OMG! So cute I got tears in my eyes!! You go girl!!
@element of truth She looks so happy and so free! I was so happy for her! And sharing a vulnerable thing to help others is also very sweet! It got me emotional!