@@kaihendee1139 Yes it is true. I caught myself in a mild projection with someone a few years ago. I apologized next time I saw them. They didn't know what I was apologizing for. I have been doing shadow work and watching for signs of disowning parts of myself. I likely still do it without awareness. Its why people have to call us on our stuff so we can evolve.
1.coversational narcissistic:love themselves talk 2.the straight jacket: who wants to control everything around them like thought and action and emotions 3.emotional moocher: they suck positivity around them, 4.Drama magnet: something is always wrong they want your empathy and sympathy 5.A jj: jealous jeadgement around them no one is ever enough gossip and 6.the fiber: liars exageraters it is impossible to trust them 7. A tank: constantly puts them first they see themselves important first How to deal toxicity Say no Have wonderful happy people around you
How do you deal with unavoidable toxic people? 2. Ask them for favor. 3. Accentuate the positives by thanking them for their kindness and good behavior. 4. Return the favor. 5. Rinse and repeat. Invite them to church, for Christ's sake, because knowing how to serve our Good Lord's Will always comes 1st. Remember that talk about a golden rule? Well, it's still applicable. And no one, not even our savior CHRIST, is an exception to God's Bidding.
SYAvideo Had the same problem about a year ago. Very hard, but you have to drop him/her. It will be emotionally painfull, but in the long run it is the best solution. Good luck!
Cut them off totally and quit whining about it. No contact. It works. And when your other "family members" pressure you, as they will, then you tell them that if they breach that boundary one more time that you will cut them off. Then follow through when they do it. You do not need them. You will be much happier in the long run Yes it reads cold. But life is too short. She is right about that. Besides...it is all about you, right? (Of course this is SATIRE.) .
You guys are being intolerant and way too serious. She clearly didn't have the intention nor did she mean it in that way. She was using it as an expression. Meh, moral police.
this video is a real eye opener :), kinda remind myself of when I was and still am toxic in certain settings :(. I feel it's also important to remind people not only to spot these traits in others but in ourselves as well, in a path to improve the way we interact with people as well as accepting and improving ourselves :)
I'm really glad you mentioned putting ourselves on a path of improvement. I think most people work on improving themselves. I was once a person who wasn't very skilled at conversation. There is no shame in not befriending somebody like that. You never know exactly why people talk too much, or are boring, or interrupt, etc. I think when people talk about themselves all the time it's like a step too far. That's just too much. I used to be shy and awkward because I had an overbearing sibling who teased me a lot. So school was hard for me. I said the wrong things at the wrong time and talked too little or too much. My sibling is still immature, but that's okay. I got through it. I'm just reticent to label somebody a narcissist when they might have other reasons for it, and especially if they haven't figured out the social amenities yet. PS, however... A really good way to get out of a horrible conversation is to say, "I'd love to talk, but I have things to do." It's a little rude, but they'll get over it.
I realised that I've been toxic in so many ways that u just mentioned. I'm not toxic anymore, atleast not according to me. But if u feel like u r one of these toxic people, don't beat urself up about it. The first step to becoming a better person is to acknowledge the fact that u r toxic. Be conscious about the way u act around other ppl, and talk to ur frnds and family about it. You will be okay, everything is amazing!!
Wow. I'm impressed of how you acknowledged it yourself and wasn't afraid to admit it, considering that you're willing to change for the better. Big respect for this commenter!
I wouldn't say everything is amazing if you're toxic, but it is good to know that you can work on your behaviors and stop yourself, or deliberately do the opposite of what you typically do. I myself am an emotional moocher, like Eeyore, but I try to keep a more optimistic attitude nowadays.
This describes my ex so well it's chilling, specifically the part where our opinions always had to align. I was living in a black and white world where everything had a "right" answer, aka his answer. Glad it's over #hallelujah
+Heather LeBas Do you have a specific example. One thing I have learned on my own personal intellectual pursuits is that our western school systems don't teach us how to be human beings. The majority of the population don't actually understand how to have healthy conversations. So when I ask "do you have a specific example," I'm also asking "how do you know that you've had the healthiest conversations possible with that person. Did you do everything you reasonably can to come to a compromise.
Heather LeBas Rarely are our exes 100% responsible for things not working out. Instead of focusing on how toxic your ex was, how about considering what things in you might have been slightly toxic?
But sometimes as time passes, a straight jacket can learn to communicate well, open up about their vulnerability and thus become more normal ( not always but sometimes and also only if they are willing to listen to u even if they think their view is right.)
they could be at some point. I guess is all about "how much" they do that. Like someone can really have a terrible moment in life and be dramatic about it, and that's ok. The problem comes if its their inner personality 24/7. At least that's how I understand it, we all can have this behaviours at some point in life the diference is how far you take them i guess.
I have a toxic person in my life. She’s my best friend. But I just can’t cut her out of my life, we've been friends for so long, and she’ve always been with me through hard times. Don’t know what to do...don’t wanna break her heart... She just doesn’t understand the saying that people come and go but life goes on... 😟
Ok so when you are wondering whether you are a toxic person this is the worst video to watch, some toxic people have serious underlying issues and to be called a weirdo and crazy is just as toxic, good for you 👌🏼
If you think that it is probably because you're trying to rationalize being a toxic and manipulative person. Whether it is intentional or not, that's what it is. And I know many people, including myself, who do not act like this. So.......... That's the tea sis
it's great that you are aware of this. Awareness is always the first step to becoming the person you want to be! The 2nd step would be to start socialising more, and understand your weaknesses through your interactions
Nobody wants to be in a toxic relationship because instead of making us to be a better person in which a relationship is supposed to be but it drag us down which is really traumatic. It's better to know your partner as early as you can before it's too late for you to get out in the relationship.
everybody's at least one of those things. its what makes us human and that's ok its how you deal with it and treat people that counts. I'm a total jj but I'm not proud of it.
You should also add what it can also mean when someone displays these behaviours as it is not cut and dry as you put it. I don't think it's nice to be so judgemental to a person as everyone comes from a different environment. Your videos may mislead people into ignoring people who need help or that extra bit of attention.
Thank you Vanessa for this helpful video :) I feel many who get offended when you consider them a hater / troll / toxic person, just don’t want to lose and need you so they can hurt you to feel better. We shouldn’t care, we should value our own happiness and values :) some in the comments did say you might have been a bit harsh on the toxic people, and that they need help not to be avoided. But I disagree, because I’ve been hurt too many times. I’ve even tried to help people before, it never works. So instead of wasting my time, I spend it on what I enjoy :) once again thank you for your lovely video. Have a good day :)
NC with these abusers is the only answer - even if it's your family - ESPECIALLY if it's your family. I've been NC with them now for over three years and it just keeps getting better by the day.... and no, I don't miss any of them. Of course no one wants to separate from their tribe, but sometimes it's the only way to survive. Now I can spot a toxic person before they can do any damage because I have my nadar on (narcissistic radar).
I agree with that totally but for some reason youtube videos never mention the flip side. 'What to do if you're a toxic piece of s***' Uhhhhhhh, most people are at least sometimes especially us Americans just listen to yourself sometimes and pay attention to other's facial expressions and body language.
I wouldn't say I'm toxic, but after a lot of friends passed away, I became very negative for about a year. I was very cynical and argumentative...I ended up losing a lot of friends. If you see that you're toxic, make an effort to change your behavior because what you put out there is what you get back, be it good or bad. Just my 10 cents...
Pat M. At least you were honest about it. You can't change what you don't acknowledge and there are many people walking around that are too damn stubborn to admit they're wrong full behavior.
sakshi pathak We ALL are when we are at our worst because it's one of the flaws that makes us human. The fact that you just admitted it - clearly indicates that you are not particularly toxic because a truly toxic person would NEVER admit such a thing. They would be completely outraged and deeply 'wounded' by the mere suggestion. A toxic person is devoid of self-insight and will go to their grave unashamed of ANYTHING they have done because they truly believe that they are 'special'.
Empathy and compassion is lacking here, many of the traits she mentions are from the person being abused or neglected as a child and so they are defence mechanisms and signals the person is in emotional pain. What about trying to help them??
Mel A wow, really? Only because i deal w this in my significant other, and I always tell myself that..but the emotional abuse us just hard to take, day after day after day..but then I'm like"he was abused" ugh
Yeah if it really is affecting you then don’t worry, you’re not a therapist. But traits like someone who “exaggerates their stories” isn’t toxic, or negative people who don’t harm a fly. They shouldn’t just be abandoned.
Very poor generalities. Is there any science for this too? Love much of your work, but obviuosly this message has no system or logic, it's just a sequence of human flaws and mistakes.
If we all ignore all the toxic people they will get completely alone and will commit suicide. I had such a friend. Ignoring them can lead to drama. They don't need ignoring, they need help and your warmth.
+Castle of Costa Mesa So how do I deal with one? Help 'em out? I'd rather not concern myself with them anymore. Dealing with them just drains me emotionally and physically. Losing friends is something new to me.
+Yokky I don't think we shouldn't try to help people who are down and have problems, but it's different when it becomes apparent that they're just trying to bring the attention to themselves and do not care about your feelings. Unfortunately I have a "toxic" friend who is always upset about something. I've considered ignoring her because our conversations are always about her problems, and her legitimately telling me that my advice to her was ignorant and vacuous -_- So I agree with +Dei. If someone is leaving you physically and emotionally drained it's time to wring them out of your life and move on.
My mother matches all too! Sad is that my dad is on mom's side most of the time. Also watching the video I realized that I was sometimes toxic after her. Now I know she is toxic so I know what I was doing wrong.
I have to agree with some of the comments on here. "Toxic Person" has suddenly become a "trendy" and in my opinion nasty and spiteful way of describing someone who isn't all "sunshine roses and hysterically positive" all the time. Yes I daresay that there are folks who look on the gloomy side of life quite often. Maybe if all the "positive" all the time folks were to help these gloomy people, rather than say that they are "toxic", in other words "poison", they might start to feel a bit better about themselves! Yes I know I know! You have to learn how to feel better about yourself from yourself not others but maybe these "toxics" don't know how so.....how about all these life style experts show them how please? It is so very wrong, arrogant and smacks of bullying to call downhearted people toxic. I loathe that description of a person to be honest. The only people who could be called toxic are murderers or despots like Hitler. It's all over the internet now "how to deal with toxic people" etc. These people might just be severely depressed or have psychological problems from childhood. We must stop this dangerous name calling and generalising about people.
+Jools Factor-Jones Couldn't agree with you more. This is the result of a self obsessed society that lacks true interdepedence, humility, integrity and selflessness. I, myself used to embrace much of the independent lifestyle and mindset - but recently have been reading the well known book '7 Habits Of Highly Effective People'... and it has truly been opening my eyes. Introducing thoughts and ideas that I have always felt at my deepest core, but was not entirely sure how to incorporate them into my life. Feeling confused on many levels, by the plethora of information, like this video, that tells me in more or less words that it's wrong to care about the state of other people - especially when it gets in the way of your own mental or physical health. I agree that taking care of one's personal needs - physical and mental states are vital. But we live in a connected world - secluding others and condemning them for things that they probably are just uneducated on, seems dismissive, unmindful, demoralizing and even cruel. I understand that people want to live healthy lives, but my soul literally screams that true health is caring, concerned, enduring, empathetic as well as strong. Strong enough to show love, instead of hate. "How to spot a toxic person" feels almost toxic in its advice itself... We all need a helping hand and love sometimes in our life. And it is the Phoenix that rises from the flames... From what I've seen of this world, many people meet their darkest hour before blossoming into truly admirable characters.
+Jools Factor-Jones "I cried reading the last message you sent. You have such a beautiful soul if you only knew. You are a very special person. I know you are not much for God but I do thank him for you. Whether you believe it or not I want you to know that God has used you to answer one of my prayers." That was what I got one day from what here would be described as a Toxic Person. I won't go into her her personality, her issues. She has real problems. Some are horrible. My friendship, support for her, has been very stressful at times. Twice I have been able to keep her from killing herself. And the second time, knowing much more of her issues, I had a hard time coming up with a reason for her not to do it. I have known her now for over three years. It is an unusual relationship. My life would have been easier if I just abandoned her. But I haven't been able to. I care for her. She needs people to care for her. And I hope some of what I do will help her care about herself.
Jools Factor-Jones yes. i am quite of a positive person myself and i see the same way. i see good in everybody and for me the gloomy people are having something with their life and they don't know how to control their emotions yet. that's why i always try to bring my positivity to them by being myself around them. but, i should be balanced too because they do suck my energy. i do not think anyone should avoid those people and they should be called "toxic". we were all born nice and innocent, it's the circumtances that shape our personalities.
True, though sometimes you are struggling so much with your own stuff that dealing with people who behave in these ways takes too much energy...that you need to survive. If you have the energy to spare and be human with them, then that's great, but it's not always realistic and it's also important to take care of yourself first otherwise these people will drain you...and that helps no one. I think it's ok to cut people off if it really becomes a situation where they put all their issues onto you, via projection and play harmful psychological games, or emotional abuse is present. Helping people who are only interested in taking from you and don't want help is not helping them or you...it's actually enabling them to destroy you.
This video doesn't help in the slightest. First off, it's like impossible to have a person that doesn't have even one of the traits you listed. Also, you stated that these traits could belong to a toxic person, without providing any reasoning or backing as to why they could. At the end when you were "explaining" how to deal with toxicity, your pity answer of "Just say No" was extremely bland. How do you say no? The problem in most relationships is that the victim CAN'T say no!
Very helpful thank you! I read some comments on here that express that we should try to not judge and help toxic people. I agree that coming from a non-judgmental loving place when dealing with toxic people is very good because yes they need love and yes they need help. However, I learned the hard way boundaries are very important because we should not allow anyone to emotionally abuse us. It doesn't help anyone and reinforces the toxic person's actions.
Sounds like my sister who is a master minuplater & liar & uses people to get what she wants & then tosses them to the side. She will stab you in the back like she did me & talks bad about you like she does me behind my back. My sister is definitely a toxic person. Life is to short to let toxic person ruin your life.
To all the people commenting on this video suggesting that you might be 'toxic' and asking for help... My heart goes out to you, and I would like to suggest some things that helped me in my own personal journey. I highly recommend the book 'Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It'. This book couldn't be more vital in self healing. Also 'The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People' is a beautifully well thought out book that covers concepts like dependency and independence and more, that really helps one in understanding the human condition on a deeper level than the title of the book might suggest. I might also suggest that a healthy whole food diet could help. As having a healthy body also creates a healthy mind. I might also suggest the book 'Green For Life' as green smoothies have helped me tremendously in my own healing. I wish all of you people struggling with inner growth a beautiful journey towards health... and please do not let the judgements of other people sidestep you in your continued movement toward mental and spiritual health and growth.
+Fred Herrera Almost everything that men are taught by society as attractive is some symptom of fulfilling the emotional void. Any woman who'd rather face the void and get in touch on the soul level, would be so initially unattractive to the majority of men it's depressing!
Marian Montagnino I understand what you are saying. But just like "women" are not all the same, neither are all "men" the same...we're human beings before we are anything else. I am always surprised when I hear ANYONE describe "men" as if they are talking about ONE person only, as if we have the same exact soul, instincts, feelings, thoughts, and hopes...WE ARE DIFFERENT from person to person. As for my comment, it was meant to be in jest, but it is actually TRUE of the wives who married my buddies and relatives...they are very much toxic, hurtful, insecure, and vindictive...and it's not because they are "women", it's because they have an instinct to destroy. I hope you are not depressed over such a silly comment like mine. "Society"? Don't know who you are referring to; mothers? the State? the Media industry? Whatever it is, I can tell you that most "men" don't even pay attention to what "society" says, demands, or thinks...which explains our hold on power, prestige, wealth, and just about everything else, except for secretarial work, veterinary medicine, and prostitution...but I'm just sayin'.
+Princess Ariel ~ I honestly thought she was going to open up about her own experiences as a toxic person after saying that. But nope, she completely white washed over her own narcissism. Weirdo's would love to be told how to act properly, but then people just say "hahaha you fucking weirdo", making these people either desperate or toxic over time.
What if they're a spiritual vampire and a drama magnet wrapped into one package that believes I should be available to cater to their every whim 24/7? Seriously. One day I got 6 25+ minute phone calls, over a dozen email, and between 1-200 texts from someone complaining how miserable he was, nobody had it worse, and wanted to die over the fact his boss was making him do a part of his job he hated...while I was dealing with food poisoning. What's worse. If I don't answer, he'll show up at the house.
A lot of good insights and good delivery. I would disagree with the management suggestions. Granted, we don't have unlimited energy to pour into those around us, and there are cases when we need to distance ourselves. However, there is also a place for loving those around us, not just ditching them for our personal convenience.
A clinical psychologist would never label a special type of personality or a personality disorder by one thing someone "feels" about somebody else. Be aware that it is EXACTLY the way with disordered people, they always label other ones than semselfes as insane or toxic, whenever they can not get them under control? What you try to spot out can all just be your own projection of what in fact is wrong with yourself. For example, a false self of a pathological narcissist will always be threatened by beeing questioned or confronted with logical argumentation. Because it is only a skindeep fasade it can not stand the test. They will always project any insane trait in themselfes on to you. So you are the toxic.. When you simply asks them for more information or discuss their made up points - they will accuse you of beeing aggressiv and mad. And when then they jump and shout and cut of conversation, it was because of your evil will to cause trouble. Logical argumentation for them is YOUR insane way to put them down. It is you who is toxic and no one can stand that. They will always be the poor victim, played out by a tocic person. So what I want to say - to spot out others by way of one characteristic trait can be an easy way to deny Reality because your own mental disorder wants you to see it in that special light. Negativ. No well trained psychologist labels other human beeings just by one trait. There has to be a whole set of them, to qualify a propper diagnosis. And what you seamingly made out in another sometimes says much more about you than the other. Take care of how you judge and how propriet your own judgement is, based on real knowledge, selfreflection and the will, to look at your own behavior rather than down labeling somebody else. Maybee what you so easily spot out can be all about yourself.
Yeah one guy I know is a Conversational Narcissist & A Tank. Completely egocentric. Only ever asks a question he knows the answer to, so he can demonstrate you didn't know the answer but he did. Can't get a word in with him. Your view is wrong if not aligned to him. I recently cut him out of my social scene....and I feel so much better for it. Interesting to hear this list.
Points are valid but the sarcasm and "rising above" energy combined with a lack of compassion left me cold. Lots of potential but I will not be sharing this video with anyone.
I agree. The tone of this is saddening. This feels like a workshop on how to validate and encouradge lack of empathy and modesty by calling others "toxic". Wow. I'd be ashamed to give lessons on "toxic" people by starting off with calling others "crazy" and saying that I smell "the scent of a weirdo". Wow... Is this typology of "toxicity" valid scientifically? No. Scientists wouldn't make those generalisations and wouldn't use those words because they are not valid. The fact that some of these examples remind about some people to some extent doesn't give any merit to these generalised claims. All in all, this mode of thinking is more callous than helpful, more inhuman than human.
truth be told most people are not empathic, they are sympathetic maybe. u guys all sound like empaths that like to help people but most people are not like that. obviously the maker of this vid is not empathic either. most people just dont wanna help anyone just use people it seems
Vanessa some useful tips but you are trying to say that everything not positive is 'toxic' whereas there is a vast spectrum of mental health issues where the person does not mean to be negative. Most of what you describe is about depression and low self esteem which vast numbers of people suffer from. A liar is a different matter and I find it difficult but, again, these people have issues and need help probably (although I do stay away from liars I admit). If we just spent time with those who help us be our 'best self' we would be very lonely indeed! I find some of this video toxic to be honest in its labelling of complexs behaviours under one banner ie 'toxic'. By these criteria every 99 percent of politiicians are toxic and that I do agree with!
I was hoping to recognize which type of toxic person am I. No luck. However, images of couple of my closest friends came up during the video. So, thank you for this.
The scent of a weirdo? Sniff out toxic people? You know what's toxic? This video. If you're in a toxic relationship, distance yourself...i mean, if you feel like the bad outweighs the good. But don't talk about people as if they were some kind of disease. This world needs more compassion, not casting people in categories, when absolutely everyone is struggling. The world needs people who take their responsibilities and do something about their relationships instead of whining on the internet. Seriously this is awful.
Tatjana Uskokovic Thanks I feel both toxic and really low never put myself first and feel like all do is try to help others maybe I need to put myself which I find Hard but defo need to change my bad behaviour some of this hit home
Man this describes pretty much everyone i know does that mean i may be a toxic person? If so should i just cut off everyone i know and be alone until i heal?
Toxic doesn’t necessarily mean “bad person”. It’s up to you how to define it. They just mess up/hurt your head. Move on, there are more worthy causes to help, like starving children and such.
I fall into these categories and I hate it when I do it. ( I'm sorry. ) I notice these things, and I do them. I can't control it. I want to be a better person.
Good stuff right here, Vanessa. I just recently deleted my FB account because of the high amount of toxic individuals I was connected to on that SM platform. It feels amazingly good to cut the toxicity out and take care of me.
Sad when all the seven personality type apply to me. I need to work on myself no wonder I’m still single. The good news is that I’m willing todo what ever it takes to improve myself❤️
Not all ideas are equal or valid and some ideas must be crushed. This idea that all ideas are equal, valid or carry the same weight is what has enabled or disabled the current fabrics of this so called, "progressive/liberal/humanistic" society. Life is not just about being happy go lucky all the time, because this is what breeds emotional instability and depression in the first place! People must also be grounded in spiritual prayer and things that are metaphysical in nature. To peddle to people all of this bubble gum and feel good candy dribble, without actually addressing deeper philosophical issues will in the end catch up to that person.
I’ve recently (1 month) disconnected from one of the most toxic person of my life who crushed my self esteem and confidence down to pieces alike. Please anyone knows how long does it take until I recover back? I knew him for 3 years. Please do you think recovery is possible?
You have to work on yourself daily to become a better person :) ua-cam.com/video/XUSrccjrOzk/v-deo.html This video talks about letting toxic people go and some useful tips on how to become a better person.
Pretty sums up almost every body I know. It feels SO good to have validation on why I feel yucky/upset/filled with self doubt/and exhausted after I get off the phone. Excellent video. 👍
I am amazed at all the negative comments here...maybe from people who recognise these character traits in their selves and feel the need to put you down. I think this video is very helpful to people who are victims of narcissistic abuse syndrome and who need validation to nurture themselves and not stay helpless people pleasers. Thank you.
+Michonne . Couldn't agree more. I too am amazed by the level of criticism, as well as the intentional misrepresentation of what she is actually saying. And yes, I too am now wondering if perhaps this is coming from people who have just now recognized themselves as the toxic people she so vividly described. Hopefully they will start doing something about their behaviour before they appear on other people's "Toxic people to dump" list. Kind of funny in a way. :)
Im sort of an emotional moocher, seeing as I've been depressed as long as I can remember, but I am aware of it, and I try to suppress it at manageable level. Ive learned very early on what it's like to be rejected for being a pessimist.
I watched the video on female alphas I was wondering if you can become an alpha or if people are boring that way or aren’t ? Or if you feel like an alpha in some situations but not others, how do you grow that and be consistent everywhere you go
Read more about toxic people in the article: www.scienceofpeople.com/toxic-people/
Funny how quickly people pop into you're head.
OMD YEEEESSS!!!
YES!!!!!!!! lots of them are in the workplace!
Yes, because she decribes a range of people that are annoying, but not toxic.
Exactlyy
This used to be everyone in my old "friend" group. Fortunately they have been since removed with strong boundaries and standards.
The most toxic ppl I know believe Everyone else is toxic!!!! lol
Sheila Gibson YES
I was just thinking this! We often project those attributes we like least about ourselves onto other people unconsciously.
They tend to blame shift, they lack internal awareness so the problems are always external. Narcs are like that in spades.
@@kaihendee1139 Yes it is true. I caught myself in a mild projection with someone a few years ago. I apologized next time I saw them. They didn't know what I was apologizing for. I have been doing shadow work and watching for signs of disowning parts of myself.
I likely still do it without awareness. Its why people have to call us on our stuff so we can evolve.
@@silentgrove7670 good for you! Having accountability for your actions.
1.coversational narcissistic:love themselves talk
2.the straight jacket: who wants to control everything around them like thought and action and emotions
3.emotional moocher: they suck positivity around them,
4.Drama magnet: something is always wrong they want your empathy and sympathy
5.A jj: jealous jeadgement around them no one is ever enough gossip and
6.the fiber: liars exageraters it is impossible to trust them
7. A tank: constantly puts them first they see themselves important first
How to deal toxicity
Say no
Have wonderful happy people around you
Fiber vs fibber
One lies, the other clears you out.
How do you deal with unavoidable toxic people?
2. Ask them for favor.
3. Accentuate the positives by thanking them for their kindness and good behavior.
4. Return the favor.
5. Rinse and repeat.
Invite them to church, for Christ's sake, because knowing how to serve our Good Lord's Will always comes 1st.
Remember that talk about a golden rule?
Well, it's still applicable. And no one, not even our savior CHRIST, is an exception to God's Bidding.
This is why I don’t have anyone left in my circle. No friends no family.
What if the toxic people are your family members 😩
SYAvideo Had the same problem about a year ago. Very hard, but you have to drop him/her. It will be emotionally painfull, but in the long run it is the best solution. Good luck!
SYAvideo i was just thinking that!
Cut them off totally and quit whining about it. No contact. It works.
And when your other "family members" pressure you, as they will, then you tell them that if they breach that boundary one more time that you will cut them off. Then follow through when they do it.
You do not need them.
You will be much happier in the long run Yes it reads cold.
But life is too short. She is right about that.
Besides...it is all about you, right?
(Of course this is SATIRE.) .
You can't pick your family, but you can always prune the tree.
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Calling someone "crazy" without having a deeper conversation is a form of toxicity.
+goaliedude32
It's also a way of devaluing a person. Feel the disrespect and don't pretend as if it means anything else.
Joey Tully
Devaluing a person without addressing any root causes or offering any constructive criticism. It's lazy and toxic.
goaliedude32
Agreed!
Calling people Crazy because you don't understand them is Dismissive. That's Toxic in itself.
You guys are being intolerant and way too serious. She clearly didn't have the intention nor did she mean it in that way. She was using it as an expression. Meh, moral police.
described my ex bestie completely. so glad i dumped her.
Same here !! 👏
Mind if I ask how you did It? I'm currently trying to unfriend someone.
Aspyn J. Ughh just dumped mine. She was awful - def a horrible experience
What that mouth do
Valkyrie_117 Just block and move on
this video is a real eye opener :), kinda remind myself of when I was and still am toxic in certain settings :(. I feel it's also important to remind people not only to spot these traits in others but in ourselves as well, in a path to improve the way we interact with people as well as accepting and improving ourselves :)
Agreed. I was raised by a narcissist and it's so hard to go against the default I was raised with. I'm really trying! 😔
I'm really glad you mentioned putting ourselves on a path of improvement. I think most people work on improving themselves. I was once a person who wasn't very skilled at conversation. There is no shame in not befriending somebody like that. You never know exactly why people talk too much, or are boring, or interrupt, etc. I think when people talk about themselves all the time it's like a step too far. That's just too much.
I used to be shy and awkward because I had an overbearing sibling who teased me a lot. So school was hard for me. I said the wrong things at the wrong time and talked too little or too much. My sibling is still immature, but that's okay. I got through it. I'm just reticent to label somebody a narcissist when they might have other reasons for it, and especially if they haven't figured out the social amenities yet. PS, however... A really good way to get out of a horrible conversation is to say, "I'd love to talk, but I have things to do." It's a little rude, but they'll get over it.
I realised that I've been toxic in so many ways that u just mentioned. I'm not toxic anymore, atleast not according to me. But if u feel like u r one of these toxic people, don't beat urself up about it. The first step to becoming a better person is to acknowledge the fact that u r toxic. Be conscious about the way u act around other ppl, and talk to ur frnds and family about it. You will be okay, everything is amazing!!
Wow. I'm impressed of how you acknowledged it yourself and wasn't afraid to admit it, considering that you're willing to change for the better. Big respect for this commenter!
I wouldn't say everything is amazing if you're toxic, but it is good to know that you can work on your behaviors and stop yourself, or deliberately do the opposite of what you typically do. I myself am an emotional moocher, like Eeyore, but I try to keep a more optimistic attitude nowadays.
This describes my ex so well it's chilling, specifically the part where our opinions always had to align. I was living in a black and white world where everything had a "right" answer, aka his answer. Glad it's over #hallelujah
+Heather LeBas Do you have a specific example. One thing I have learned on my own personal intellectual pursuits is that our western school systems don't teach us how to be human beings. The majority of the population don't actually understand how to have healthy conversations. So when I ask "do you have a specific example," I'm also asking "how do you know that you've had the healthiest conversations possible with that person. Did you do everything you reasonably can to come to a compromise.
same
Heather LeBas Rarely are our exes 100% responsible for things not working out. Instead of focusing on how toxic your ex was, how about considering what things in you might have been slightly toxic?
But sometimes as time passes, a straight jacket can learn to communicate well, open up about their vulnerability and thus become more normal ( not always but sometimes and also only if they are willing to listen to u even if they think their view is right.)
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i never realised I was so toxic' thanks for cheering me up.
Same, after watching this Vid, I realized that they are all about me. Thanks for this, i may grow and I will. Hayyyyyssss
You’re welcome ! :)
Yea it’s just geared towards feminist man hate lol
You mean all people are toxic?
they could be at some point. I guess is all about "how much" they do that. Like someone can really have a terrible moment in life and be dramatic about it, and that's ok. The problem comes if its their inner personality 24/7. At least that's how I understand it, we all can have this behaviours at some point in life the diference is how far you take them i guess.
#4 is so dangerous, #5 is terrible, #6 my dear god, #7 is so snaggy.
Yes so better get a dog instead
I have a toxic person in my life. She’s my best friend. But I just can’t cut her out of my life, we've been friends for so long, and she’ve always been with me through hard times. Don’t know what to do...don’t wanna break her heart...
She just doesn’t understand the saying that people come and go but life goes on...
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Damn, I am highly toxic, 6/7.
You must be hot
It's great that you can spot your flaws, that is the most important step. I hope you can find the tools to become a less toxic person. Good luck!
You can change. Step #1 is acceptance of the hard truth and not being in denial DrIncognito
You can change.
sounds like nobody should be meeting anyone.
Ok so when you are wondering whether you are a toxic person this is the worst video to watch, some toxic people have serious underlying issues and to be called a weirdo and crazy is just as toxic, good for you 👌🏼
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99 percent of all humans fall under this category
Totally disagree. 👎🏽
@@juns597 Hes right, stupid. See above.
@@revenueeeeeee I disagree, stupid. See my comment.
If you think that it is probably because you're trying to rationalize being a toxic and manipulative person. Whether it is intentional or not, that's what it is. And I know many people, including myself, who do not act like this. So.......... That's the tea sis
@@monicalako8533 you make no sense 🤔 whatsoever 😑
omg!!! this is everyone I know n probably this gorgeous Lady
+Dony Sandley Attitude, cancels gorgeous, should be compassionate ,sympathetic not act toxic her self.
I think, I'm a toxic person. How can I fix myself...?
Bryan Cruz lower your ego and care about other people. give and don't expect receive. then your positivity will increase.
Go to therapy.
it's great that you are aware of this. Awareness is always the first step to becoming the person you want to be! The 2nd step would be to start socialising more, and understand your weaknesses through your interactions
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Nobody wants to be in a toxic relationship because instead of making us to be a better person in which a relationship is supposed to be but it drag us down which is really traumatic. It's better to know your partner as early as you can before it's too late for you to get out in the relationship.
everybody's at least one of those things. its what makes us human and that's ok its how you deal with it and treat people that counts. I'm a total jj but I'm not proud of it.
SuzieBoo54 or everybody has at least done/been one of those things at one point in life ... people change all the time
Doesn't everyone sort of skew into these areas at some point? We are human after all.
at some point, yes. All the time that it becomes a part of their everyday habit/personality/mood then no
Of course, not a single human being is perfect. The problem arises when those attitudes are pervasive and constant thus hurting others.
You should also add what it can also mean when someone displays these behaviours as it is not cut and dry as you put it.
I don't think it's nice to be so judgemental to a person as everyone comes from a different environment.
Your videos may mislead people into ignoring people who need help or that extra bit of attention.
thank you for telling me that my decision of not getting involved with people who makes me feel bad about myself was right!! really thank you
Lol Donald Trump
Thank you Vanessa for this helpful video :)
I feel many who get offended when you consider them a hater / troll / toxic person, just don’t want to lose and need you so they can hurt you to feel better.
We shouldn’t care, we should value our own happiness and values :) some in the comments did say you might have been a bit harsh on the toxic people, and that they need help not to be avoided. But I disagree, because I’ve been hurt too many times.
I’ve even tried to help people before, it never works. So instead of wasting my time, I spend it on what I enjoy :) once again thank you for your lovely video. Have a good day :)
NC with these abusers is the only answer - even if it's your family - ESPECIALLY if it's your family. I've been NC with them now for over three years and it just keeps getting better by the day.... and no, I don't miss any of them. Of course no one wants to separate from their tribe, but sometimes it's the only way to survive. Now I can spot a toxic person before they can do any damage because I have my nadar on (narcissistic radar).
What if you know a person who has ALL SEVEN Toxic Qualities?
I Am toxic sometimes
I think we all are! You just have to be aware of your negative behaviors so you can check yo self
I agree with that totally but for some reason youtube videos never mention the flip side. 'What to do if you're a toxic piece of s***' Uhhhhhhh, most people are at least sometimes especially us Americans just listen to yourself sometimes and pay attention to other's facial expressions and body language.
I wouldn't say I'm toxic, but after a lot of friends passed away, I became very negative for about a year. I was very cynical and argumentative...I ended up losing a lot of friends. If you see that you're toxic, make an effort to change your behavior because what you put out there is what you get back, be it good or bad. Just my 10 cents...
Pat M. At least you were honest about it. You can't change what you don't acknowledge and there are many people walking around that are too damn stubborn to admit they're wrong full behavior.
sakshi pathak We ALL are when we are at our worst because it's one of the flaws that makes us human. The fact that you just admitted it - clearly indicates that you are not particularly toxic because a truly toxic person would NEVER admit such a thing. They would be completely outraged and deeply 'wounded' by the mere suggestion. A toxic person is devoid of self-insight and will go to their grave unashamed of ANYTHING they have done because they truly believe that they are 'special'.
All the points in this video points towards...guess who ?
My narcissist mother 😂😂😂
Empathy and compassion is lacking here, many of the traits she mentions are from the person being abused or neglected as a child and so they are defence mechanisms and signals the person is in emotional pain. What about trying to help them??
+Mel A You hit the nail on the head, She sounds like she is better than hurting people, That is narcissitic.
Mel A wow, really? Only because i deal w this in my significant other, and I always tell myself that..but the emotional abuse us just hard to take, day after day after day..but then I'm like"he was abused" ugh
Yeah if it really is affecting you then don’t worry, you’re not a therapist. But traits like someone who “exaggerates their stories” isn’t toxic, or negative people who don’t harm a fly. They shouldn’t just be abandoned.
Nah that has been proven wrong, being neglected or abused doesnt give you an excuse to be a dick.
Emotional responses are just as valueable as intellectual responses.
Very poor generalities. Is there any science for this too? Love much of your work, but obviuosly this message has no system or logic, it's just a sequence of human flaws and mistakes.
Владимир Лютин my thoughts exactly !
is it possible someone has all of these?
Yes
Thank you so much im moving out at the end of the month. So helpful
If we all ignore all the toxic people they will get completely alone and will commit suicide.
I had such a friend. Ignoring them can lead to drama. They don't need ignoring, they need help and your warmth.
That is wonderful. However, sometimes toxic people can drag me down unless i am well balanced.
+Castle of Costa Mesa So how do I deal with one? Help 'em out? I'd rather not concern myself with them anymore. Dealing with them just drains me emotionally and physically. Losing friends is something new to me.
+Yokky then we must develop unconditional love towards all people and not expect something in return.....but this is hard for all of us
+bangmeister2012 Ooh that's baaad. He sounds quite hurtful and evil.
+Yokky I don't think we shouldn't try to help people who are down and have problems, but it's different when it becomes apparent that they're just trying to bring the attention to themselves and do not care about your feelings.
Unfortunately I have a "toxic" friend who is always upset about something. I've considered ignoring her because our conversations are always about her problems, and her legitimately telling me that my advice to her was ignorant and vacuous -_-
So I agree with +Dei. If someone is leaving you physically and emotionally drained it's time to wring them out of your life and move on.
she talked a lot but didnt say anything of real substance
just general statements
she seems like a simpleton
My father matches all of these🙃
Same here . . .
oh no we are made of toxins:)
My mother matches all too! Sad is that my dad is on mom's side most of the time. Also watching the video I realized that I was sometimes toxic after her. Now I know she is toxic so I know what I was doing wrong.
My mother
I have to agree with some of the comments on here. "Toxic Person" has suddenly become a "trendy" and in my opinion nasty and spiteful way of describing someone who isn't all "sunshine roses and hysterically positive" all the time. Yes I daresay that there are folks who look on the gloomy side of life quite often. Maybe if all the "positive" all the time folks were to help these gloomy people, rather than say that they are "toxic", in other words "poison", they might start to feel a bit better about themselves! Yes I know I know! You have to learn how to feel better about yourself from yourself not others but maybe these "toxics" don't know how so.....how about all these life style experts show them how please? It is so very wrong, arrogant and smacks of bullying to call downhearted people toxic. I loathe that description of a person to be honest. The only people who could be called toxic are murderers or despots like Hitler. It's all over the internet now "how to deal with toxic people" etc. These people might just be severely depressed or have psychological problems from childhood. We must stop this dangerous name calling and generalising about people.
+Jools Factor-Jones Couldn't agree with you more.
This is the result of a self obsessed society that lacks true interdepedence, humility, integrity and selflessness.
I, myself used to embrace much of the independent lifestyle and mindset - but recently have been reading the well known book '7 Habits Of Highly Effective People'... and it has truly been opening my eyes. Introducing thoughts and ideas that I have always felt at my deepest core, but was not entirely sure how to incorporate them into my life. Feeling confused on many levels, by the plethora of information, like this video, that tells me in more or less words that it's wrong to care about the state of other people - especially when it gets in the way of your own mental or physical health.
I agree that taking care of one's personal needs - physical and mental states are vital. But we live in a connected world - secluding others and condemning them for things that they probably are just uneducated on, seems dismissive, unmindful, demoralizing and even cruel.
I understand that people want to live healthy lives, but my soul literally screams that true health is caring, concerned, enduring, empathetic as well as strong. Strong enough to show love, instead of hate.
"How to spot a toxic person" feels almost toxic in its advice itself...
We all need a helping hand and love sometimes in our life.
And it is the Phoenix that rises from the flames... From what I've seen of this world, many people meet their darkest hour before blossoming into truly admirable characters.
+IdiomofSad Thank you. Your comments are very well received.
+Jools Factor-Jones
"I cried reading the last message you sent. You have such a beautiful soul if you only knew. You are a very special person. I know you are not much for God but I do thank him for you. Whether you believe it or not I want you to know that God has used you to answer one of my prayers."
That was what I got one day from what here would be described as a Toxic Person. I won't go into her her personality, her issues. She has real problems. Some are horrible. My friendship, support for her, has been very stressful at times. Twice I have been able to keep her from killing herself. And the second time, knowing much more of her issues, I had a hard time coming up with a reason for her not to do it.
I have known her now for over three years. It is an unusual relationship. My life would have been easier if I just abandoned her. But I haven't been able to. I care for her. She needs people to care for her. And I hope some of what I do will help her care about herself.
Jools Factor-Jones yes. i am quite of a positive person myself and i see the same way. i see good in everybody and for me the gloomy people are having something with their life and they don't know how to control their emotions yet. that's why i always try to bring my positivity to them by being myself around them. but, i should be balanced too because they do suck my energy. i do not think anyone should avoid those people and they should be called "toxic". we were all born nice and innocent, it's the circumtances that shape our personalities.
True, though sometimes you are struggling so much with your own stuff that dealing with people who behave in these ways takes too much energy...that you need to survive. If you have the energy to spare and be human with them, then that's great, but it's not always realistic and it's also important to take care of yourself first otherwise these people will drain you...and that helps no one.
I think it's ok to cut people off if it really becomes a situation where they put all their issues onto you, via projection and play harmful psychological games, or emotional abuse is present. Helping people who are only interested in taking from you and don't want help is not helping them or you...it's actually enabling them to destroy you.
This video doesn't help in the slightest. First off, it's like impossible to have a person that doesn't have even one of the traits you listed. Also, you stated that these traits could belong to a toxic person, without providing any reasoning or backing as to why they could. At the end when you were "explaining" how to deal with toxicity, your pity answer of "Just say No" was extremely bland. How do you say no? The problem in most relationships is that the victim CAN'T say no!
Very helpful thank you! I read some comments on here that express that we should try to not judge and help toxic people. I agree that coming from a non-judgmental loving place when dealing with toxic people is very good because yes they need love and yes they need help. However, I learned the hard way boundaries are very important because we should not allow anyone to emotionally abuse us. It doesn't help anyone and reinforces the toxic person's actions.
MY sister in law is a MAJOR DRAMA magnet, and a terrible FIBBER....and also a FULL ON COW....( you left that one out Vanessa)
Sounds like my sister who is a master minuplater & liar & uses people to get what she wants & then tosses them to the side. She will stab you in the back like she did me & talks bad about you like she does me behind my back. My sister is definitely a toxic person. Life is to short to let toxic person ruin your life.
To all the people commenting on this video suggesting that you might be 'toxic' and asking for help... My heart goes out to you, and I would like to suggest some things that helped me in my own personal journey.
I highly recommend the book 'Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It'. This book couldn't be more vital in self healing.
Also 'The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People' is a beautifully well thought out book that covers concepts like dependency and independence and more, that really helps one in understanding the human condition on a deeper level than the title of the book might suggest.
I might also suggest that a healthy whole food diet could help. As having a healthy body also creates a healthy mind.
I might also suggest the book 'Green For Life' as green smoothies have helped me tremendously in my own healing.
I wish all of you people struggling with inner growth a beautiful journey towards health... and please do not let the judgements of other people sidestep you in your continued movement toward mental and spiritual health and growth.
+IdiomofSad Downloading the 7 Habits Of Highly Effective people now. I'm liking the description you've given.
+Midnight Marauder I hope it offers you the same deep insights it's given me. :) Happy reading!
Doctor Scientist Read it; good book.👍
IdiomofSad Thank you so much 😙
IdiomofSad came back to this comment after reading the book to say thank you. 7 habits is a life changer 😊 thanks for telling us about it
The funniest thing is as human beings, everyone has one of the seven qualities.
The way she comment on these quality is quite hypocritical.
Sounds like most of the people in my family
Thank you Vanessa! The best video!
oh my god my ex friends have sooo many of these qualities. im glad i've pushed them out of my life.
This video is PURE GOLD!!! :^)
This video just described EVERY girlfriend I've ever had...and ALL of my buddies wives. Hahaha.
+Fred Herrera ~ What does that say to you?
Because I'm wealthy, that's why. Also, can you learn to spell ATTRACT? Thanks, stupid.
+Fred Herrera Almost everything that men are taught by society as attractive is some symptom of fulfilling the emotional void. Any woman who'd rather face the void and get in touch on the soul level, would be so initially unattractive to the majority of men it's depressing!
Marian Montagnino
I understand what you are saying. But just like "women" are not all the same, neither are all "men" the same...we're human beings before we are anything else. I am always surprised when I hear ANYONE describe "men" as if they are talking about ONE person only, as if we have the same exact soul, instincts, feelings, thoughts, and hopes...WE ARE DIFFERENT from person to person. As for my comment, it was meant to be in jest, but it is actually TRUE of the wives who married my buddies and relatives...they are very much toxic, hurtful, insecure, and vindictive...and it's not because they are "women", it's because they have an instinct to destroy. I hope you are not depressed over such a silly comment like mine. "Society"? Don't know who you are referring to; mothers? the State? the Media industry? Whatever it is, I can tell you that most "men" don't even pay attention to what "society" says, demands, or thinks...which explains our hold on power, prestige, wealth, and just about everything else, except for secretarial work, veterinary medicine, and prostitution...but I'm just sayin'.
Fred Herrera men are part of society eg. 50%. Also, why do all the "men" marry or date toxic women in ur life?
You know your life is really toxic when 5 of these types describe the 3 closest people in your life.
Fr(-iend)+Enemies = Frenemy
Stay away from unhappy miserable complaine people , nope , stay closer with disciplined functional people
That's why I stay to myself
'do i smell desperation or is that just the scent of a weirdo?' ...damn vanessa i've never been outed so quick :(
+Princess Ariel ~ I honestly thought she was going to open up about her own experiences as a toxic person after saying that. But nope, she completely white washed over her own narcissism. Weirdo's would love to be told how to act properly, but then people just say "hahaha you fucking weirdo", making these people either desperate or toxic over time.
What if they're a spiritual vampire and a drama magnet wrapped into one package that believes I should be available to cater to their every whim 24/7? Seriously. One day I got 6 25+ minute phone calls, over a dozen email, and between 1-200 texts from someone complaining how miserable he was, nobody had it worse, and wanted to die over the fact his boss was making him do a part of his job he hated...while I was dealing with food poisoning. What's worse. If I don't answer, he'll show up at the house.
what about her eyebrows
Dishonesty keeps me on an edge..... how can a relationship exist when all trust vanished?
it's not surprising to me, how many of these points fit my family
This video isn’t even accurate,
....it’s PRECISE. 👀
My wifes toxic then! Thanks for the advice. I will go get a lawyer. 4:43
A lot of good insights and good delivery. I would disagree with the management suggestions. Granted, we don't have unlimited energy to pour into those around us, and there are cases when we need to distance ourselves. However, there is also a place for loving those around us, not just ditching them for our personal convenience.
Sure but we need to protect ourseves by setting boundaries
What if you are a "toxic person"?
A clinical psychologist would never label a special type of personality or a personality disorder by one thing someone "feels" about somebody else. Be aware that it is EXACTLY the way with disordered people, they always label other ones than semselfes as insane or toxic, whenever they can not get them under control? What you try to spot out can all just be your own projection of what in fact is wrong with yourself. For example, a false self of a pathological narcissist will always be threatened by beeing questioned or confronted with logical argumentation. Because it is only a skindeep fasade it can not stand the test. They will always project any insane trait in themselfes on to you. So you are the toxic.. When you simply asks them for more information or discuss their made up points - they will accuse you of beeing aggressiv and mad. And when then they jump and shout and cut of conversation, it was because of your evil will to cause trouble. Logical argumentation for them is YOUR insane way to put them down. It is you who is toxic and no one can stand that. They will always be the poor victim, played out by a tocic person. So what I want to say - to spot out others by way of one characteristic trait can be an easy way to deny Reality because your own mental disorder wants you to see it in that special light. Negativ. No well trained psychologist labels other human beeings just by one trait. There has to be a whole set of them, to qualify a propper diagnosis. And what you seamingly made out in another sometimes says much more about you than the other. Take care of how you judge and how propriet your own judgement is, based on real knowledge, selfreflection and the will, to look at your own behavior rather than down labeling somebody else. Maybee what you so easily spot out can be all about yourself.
i am all of the above mentioned points.
Yeah one guy I know is a Conversational Narcissist & A Tank. Completely egocentric. Only ever asks a question he knows the answer to, so he can demonstrate you didn't know the answer but he did. Can't get a word in with him. Your view is wrong if not aligned to him. I recently cut him out of my social scene....and I feel so much better for it. Interesting to hear this list.
Points are valid but the sarcasm and "rising above" energy combined with a lack of compassion left me cold. Lots of potential but I will not be sharing this video with anyone.
I agree. The tone of this is saddening. This feels like a workshop on how to validate and encouradge lack of empathy and modesty by calling others "toxic". Wow. I'd be ashamed to give lessons on "toxic" people by starting off with calling others "crazy" and saying that I smell "the scent of a weirdo". Wow... Is this typology of "toxicity" valid scientifically? No. Scientists wouldn't make those generalisations and wouldn't use those words because they are not valid. The fact that some of these examples remind about some people to some extent doesn't give any merit to these generalised claims. All in all, this mode of thinking is more callous than helpful, more inhuman than human.
THANK YOU. I was so shocked after about 20 seconds cause this is just so wrong and judgmental...
Yes, exactly. I found the delivery toxic in how demeaning and compassionless it was.
I agree with this. I was thinking the whole time where is the empathy
truth be told most people are not empathic, they are sympathetic maybe. u guys all sound like empaths that like to help people but most people are not like that. obviously the maker of this vid is not empathic either. most people just dont wanna help anyone just use people it seems
Vanessa some useful tips but you are trying to say that everything not positive is 'toxic' whereas there is a vast spectrum of mental health issues where the person does not mean to be negative. Most of what you describe is about depression and low self esteem which vast numbers of people suffer from. A liar is a different matter and I find it difficult but, again, these people have issues and need help probably (although I do stay away from liars I admit). If we just spent time with those who help us be our 'best self' we would be very lonely indeed! I find some of this video toxic to be honest in its labelling of complexs behaviours under one banner ie 'toxic'. By these criteria every 99 percent of politiicians are toxic and that I do agree with!
I was hoping to recognize which type of toxic person am I. No luck. However, images of couple of my closest friends came up during the video. So, thank you for this.
Stevo Ilišković I read closet friends as if you keep ur friends in your closet
Great video I have certain people pop into my head including family members, which is the hardest to accept and stay away from.
The scent of a weirdo? Sniff out toxic people?
You know what's toxic? This video.
If you're in a toxic relationship, distance yourself...i mean, if you feel like the bad outweighs the good. But don't talk about people as if they were some kind of disease. This world needs more compassion, not casting people in categories, when absolutely everyone is struggling. The world needs people who take their responsibilities and do something about their relationships instead of whining on the internet. Seriously this is awful.
Tatjana Uskokovic
Thanks I feel both toxic and really low never put myself first and feel like all do is try to help others maybe I need to put myself which I find
Hard but defo need to change my bad behaviour some of this hit home
Man this describes pretty much everyone i know does that mean i may be a toxic person? If so should i just cut off everyone i know and be alone until i heal?
I think whoever labels the other person as 'toxic' is the one with the problem.
Toxic doesn’t necessarily mean “bad person”. It’s up to you how to define it. They just mess up/hurt your head. Move on, there are more worthy causes to help, like starving children and such.
You yourself seem like you have plenty of tools missing
I notice most toxic people don't even realize they. are toxic ,petty unfair, small minded,and jealous, and judgemental.....
I fall into these categories and I hate it when I do it. ( I'm sorry. ) I notice these things, and I do them. I can't control it. I want to be a better person.
@@laineyq At least you're admitting it you. can change.Most people Deny.Good Luck.
Good stuff right here, Vanessa. I just recently deleted my FB account because of the high amount of toxic individuals I was connected to on that SM platform. It feels amazingly good to cut the toxicity out and take care of me.
Sad when all the seven personality type apply to me. I need to work on myself no wonder I’m still single. The good news is that I’m willing todo what ever it takes to improve myself❤️
Toxic people just want love, they create situations for that to happen by being toxic.
The most toxic person I know is me.
Watching this video made me realize that I'm the one people should stop talking to lol
I've met a guy who is all... All this things mentioned in this video!!!!!!
Well I have a person in my life which has all these toxicities all of them its very hard for me to deal with that person 😩
Not all ideas are equal or valid and some ideas must be crushed. This idea that all ideas are equal, valid or carry the same weight is what has enabled or disabled the current fabrics of this so called, "progressive/liberal/humanistic" society. Life is not just about being happy go lucky all the time, because this is what breeds emotional instability and depression in the first place! People must also be grounded in spiritual prayer and things that are metaphysical in nature. To peddle to people all of this bubble gum and feel good candy dribble, without actually addressing deeper philosophical issues will in the end catch up to that person.
I’ve recently (1 month) disconnected from one of the most toxic person of my life who crushed my self esteem and confidence down to pieces alike. Please anyone knows how long does it take until I recover back? I knew him for 3 years. Please do you think recovery is possible?
Guess all my friends are toxic 😃👍🏼
I'm definitely toxic... 🤷🏾♂️ Now what must happen?
You have to work on yourself daily to become a better person :) ua-cam.com/video/XUSrccjrOzk/v-deo.html This video talks about letting toxic people go and some useful tips on how to become a better person.
Thanks a lot for this video very helpful 🙂
I have a friend like this. They keep telling me that I’m the only person they trust and so whenever I distance myself I start feeling guilty.
SO TRUE! Thank you, this is very helpful.
So you are toxic too. Watch out Im a toxic person too. Toxic people everywhere. :P OMG.
Pretty sums up almost every body I know. It feels SO good to have validation on why I feel yucky/upset/filled with self doubt/and exhausted after I get off the phone. Excellent video. 👍
I am amazed at all the negative comments here...maybe from people who recognise these character traits in their selves and feel the need to put you down.
I think this video is very helpful to people who are victims of narcissistic abuse syndrome and who need validation to nurture themselves and not stay helpless people pleasers. Thank you.
+Michonne . Couldn't agree more. I too am amazed by the level of criticism, as well as the intentional misrepresentation of what she is actually saying. And yes, I too am now wondering if perhaps this is coming from people who have just now recognized themselves as the toxic people she so vividly described. Hopefully they will start doing something about their behaviour before they appear on other people's "Toxic people to dump" list. Kind of funny in a way. :)
Im sort of an emotional moocher, seeing as I've been depressed as long as I can remember, but I am aware of it, and I try to suppress it at manageable level. Ive learned very early on what it's like to be rejected for being a pessimist.
GreatestGulag you can change
This was beautiful Vanessa Van Edwards.
Thank You, because You've learn me lot about my self. Peace to every living being. Let all that Creator creates be prosperous and flourish.
I watched the video on female alphas I was wondering if you can become an alpha or if people are boring that way or aren’t ? Or if you feel like an alpha in some situations but not others, how do you grow that and be consistent everywhere you go
i watchedthis formyself lmao
Interesting point of you❤️👌👍
This video makes me want to draw on my toxic eyebrows with a Sharpie . . .
1: my friend
2:me
3:my friend
4:my friend
5:...my friend again xD
6:me xD
7:my friend of course
What if you are the toxic person?
i'm like 30% tank :D