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Great point, But Not only that. If an issue can't be addressed, worked out and agreed upon, how is it suppose to go away? It's only a matter of time before it happens again.
Quick summary negative things: - Don't tease her about her physical characteristics. -Be careful with how you address other people because it might be different. -Don't try to make her Jealous. -She will want herself to be the only woman in your life. -Don't help other filipinas (even innocently). -Don't talk about ex's. -Don't raise your voice. -Don't get involve into family matters unless they involve you.
My Filipina (I love calling her that. I hope it’s not taken as being condescending), definitely wears her emotions on her sleeve. So much that I have learned to be more thoughtful I’m my speech. She is so kind and loving that I will do what I can to discuss differences in a more reserved manner.
Successful relationships are a 2 way street with a lot of give and take and built up trust. Having to walk on egg shells around your partner is a recipe for failure. in my humble opinion.
Agree 100%.....my exa filipino changed so much after she got her visa here. Plus it was always her yelling at me.Not all of any nationality are good or bad.Cheers.
I don’t know where you’re from but us southern men it’s habit we call women ma’am, hun, sugar it’s in our genes, nothing disrespectful in fact right the opposite. It shows we respect women because we were raised that way.
I find it best to let your opinions, feeling and thoughts be known upfront even if she does not like it. I always tell my wife "Would you rather I be honest or keep my thoughts to myself". She prefers honesty.
I can't believe sometimes how my soulmate is for real. We both had wild roots and adventures before we met and finally settled down for each other. We assure each other of our love every day multiple times, it never gets old because we never take each other for granted.
I loved your video and I have seen it in the Philippines because I have some expat friends there; some married to Filipinas and some with girlfriends. In your video you said that if you chat with another Filipina and you tell your Filipina girlfriend, “She’s just a friend,” this will not cut it with your girlfriend. Well, a couple of guys with Filipina girlfriends I know have heard this line from their Filipina girlfriends, “He’s just my cousin.” Some of the expats explained to me that when the Filipina says this, it really means. “He’s my lover when you are not around.” I have also heard what you talked about regarding sending money to another woman. Expats have told me that this means you should never send money to another woman because your wife, or girlfriend, thinks that money was for her and her family; not another woman. In regards to family matters, it seems impossible according to my friends. My friends tell me they are constantly being involved in family matters (at least those requiring money). The expats tell me they are always hounded for money by relatives needing money for hospital care, medicine, clothes, food, cell phones, school supplies, and the list goes on.
Both of my ex wives had this habit of the “silent treatment” in the behavioral health field I work in its referred to as “hostile silence” it’s considered a dishonest form of anger. A man can spend hours or days trying to mentally retrace everything you have said and done. Usually after I finally figured out the problem, it’s the last thing that I would have guessed. All I ever want in a relationship is for my lady to just tell me what I did wrong right then and give me a chance to fix it. If something is important to the lady I’m with, I will make it important to myself. I just can’t handle anymore hostile silence 🙏🏽
I've been married to three western women, one American, one Native American from Canada and one western Canadian woman, I found that the silent treatment usually meant that as long as I went about my business the next few hours to days it somehow got resolved and they'd start talking to me again or they'd come at me full on battle ready for an argument until they'd had their say, once they ran out of wind I'd reach up and pretend to turn my Miracle Ear back on (hearing aids) and say "sorry, did you say something?" by then they were done with it, got it out of their system and things went back to normal, or I ended up sleeping on the couch which really wasn't punishment it was kind of like camping without the bugs and weather and I had full control of the tv remote.
A man that doesn’t know how he hurt his partner and can’t figure out what make her angry why the women gave her a silent treatment is an insensitive man that’s my opinion. A sensitive man know immediately his in trouble, he immediately aware what he has done. Especially a man that really loves and cares to his partner.
Miss Pea... you keep bringing it: episode after episode. you're funny, entertaining and incredibly informative. since I'll be moving to Davao City at the end of August 2022, your insights are super helpful. I've heard that Filipinas are hard working girls... but you're taking it to a different level.
I appreciate a lot the quality of your content. Saying this as media producer I enjoy your energy, excellent balance between seriousity and fun. As a European I learn a lot about your culture. Warm greetings from Netherlands/Cpt. JayR
@Dale Daniel...I have made a similar comment about her awareness of western culture...it is truly amazing because I am pretty sure she has never lived in the west and she sometimes references some pretty obscure stuff. She is a sharp cookie.
100% right 😀 Like to add my Filippina wife (best wife of all) likes to travel. I could wake her up in the middle of the night and say let's go to the Mars. She would say ok just give me a second so I can put some gifts in the (overloaded) suitcases for my family on the Mars.
That's funny my Filipina girlfriends name is Maria lol. I really do love her. I think these small culture differences are totally worth it, she's unlike any other woman I've dated before. These videos have really helped me to understand her and let my guard down and open my heart to her. We haven't been dating that long but I feel like I already know I wanna marry her and spend the rest of my life with her.
@@TheFilipinaPea I was stationed there while I was in the Marine Corps. I was raised just like the culture- all about family and treat each other like a king and queen. I hope I find one someday. I have a friend living there that was in Marine Corps too. I hope to come back also
I can relate to a lot of what you were talking about. I've been with my lady four years now and the first couple of years it was definitely a learning curve. But over time I learned about her ex and how he treated her and cheated on her. So I did everything I could to put her mind at ease by being open and transparent and very honest to her. And life has been great 😺
You’re not a foreigner? According to me, you possibly are for me; that’s if you use the definition of foreigner properly. I don’t know your country of origin, so I can’t say for sure if you’re a foreigner.
I love this episode Pea. You really got this one right because I have watched it several times now. "Does it make us look neurotic? Yes, but ARE we neurotic? YES!" I Love it.
Thanks Pea, You reminded me why I'm single. No wife, no girlfriend, no pets and the kids are grown and gone and successful. When I come home, it's nice and quiet. And as a bonus, I love my job. When I need some human interaction, I just get a massage. Life is great !
Wow. I am saving this to watch again every few months to do the best with my girlfriend. I thought I “knew it all” and clearly I did NOT. I learned so much from this.
Pea, here's an idea for a video that you might like and want to do. The Filipino idea of "family" and the Western idea of "family" and who is actually who are often different. When we first got married it was frustrating at times because my wife would refer to a relative as a "niece, nephew, auntie or uncle" and I knew for sure that that was not a real relationship. As an American, I wanted to slot the person into the right hole, so I would know just who/what she was talking about. Was this really a younger second cousin, twice removed, or perhaps just a very close friend's mother or father? I'd ask, "who are they really" and she would get upset because she knew what she meant, and she didn't understand my desire/need to be more precise in actual relationship. This took us years to get resolved to our mutual satisfaction. Now, decades later, I am happy and honored to be the 'cano Lolo to dozens of young relatives who are my apos -- even though it now confuses my friends who know for sure that I don't have grandkids over in the PI. So... could you do a lecture on just how the Pinoy community sees family and titles vs. how we do it in the West, and the confusion it can lead to?
Just think about literal vs. figurative. For example, there's literal uncles and aunties (siblings of your parents). And the figurative uncles and aunties (every other relatives (or neighbors) who are about the same generation as your parents. Another example, literal "kuya and ate" or brothers and sisters (your siblings and sisters). Then there's the figurative brothers and sisters who are everyone else older than you but within your generation. If above your generation, then that's already uncles and aunties. One other example that's the most confusion, I have 3 children which is 10-year old boy, 7-year old girl, 3-year old boy. Even though they are all my children, I would sometimes call the 10-year old boy as "kuya" (big brother), the 7-year old girl as "ate" (big sister). Isn't that confusing as hell? Haha! That's our way of instilling into their minds about their role in the family. By calling my 10-year old boy as "kuya", I'm teaching him that he has siblings younger than him, and the other younger 2 children would also know that they should address him as the "kuya" (or big brother). The same reason for calling my 7-year old as "ate". We can also call them by their names or call them "anak" meaning son/daugter.
Just so you know your compassion and ability to share in the depth you do is the greatest quality you have. Don't ever let anyone cause you to question that. It is the greatest quality you have to share with others especially a future husband.
Thank you so much Pea for shedding light on all the potential land mines a western man can step on with his Filipina. There were more than I thought but none of them seem that difficult to observe and well worth the small effort. Your insight into western culture and relationships is very impressive.
15 good reasons to sleep peacefully at night... I love your insight into the Western/Eastern cultures and your ability to break it down into bight size pieces for us who are awkward but have the good intentions towards the love of our lives Thanks again Po..
I have no intention of ever getting married again, and how UA-cam decided to show me your videos is a mystery to me. I watch them for your funny skits at the end. Love you young lady and god Bess and good luck 👍
I truly appreciate your channel, I recently met an amazing Filipina on date in Asia. Your content is very helpful, thoughtful, and appreciated. Thank you!
I am in the process of a substantial remodel of my house and when I told my fiancée that I was waiting until she got here so she can participate, man oh man did I make points. By the way she leaves Manila on December 3rd and arriving in Texas on December 4th. The best Christmas present I ever got.
I often say that dating us Filipinas is like walking on a tightrope suspended over a minefield ..... with a ticking bomb on your back. But at least it’s never dull! 😆
Hey FP I often use your advice and Filipinas always ask me, who taught u that,or how you know that. U are my secret weapon, and go to woman.ill never reveal my go princess! Thx a million for all your timely help. God bless stay healthy.
Great info as always, helping western men understand the Philipina psyche....a road map to keep you from making a wrong turn......Love the ending really drives the points home. Great back drop!
@@TheFilipinaPea gotta get the shoe on the other foot tho... for us guys in the USA...aim a video at getting a pinay to understand our side plz🙏 communication is the key to a successful relationship but my pinay drives me crazy at times even tho I do everything in my power to make sure that she is happy and extremely spoiled 😋
Ms. Pea, a very excellent cultural education video full of critical information about dating a Filipina! The points you made should be followed by any man wanting to have a relationship that is successful and have a strong potential for the future! Your beauty and knowledge is priceless!
The sad part of my story is that the woman I lived with, died prematurely. Your video remind me all the funny episodes we went through. She had a broad definition of what "fair competition" should be from other feminine persons. For her it meant, "no competition!" She was from the Philippines of course!
Great information. A lot of times it is the old adage of men really don't know what we did wrong. But knowing these ways are super helpful and gives us a map to look over. Thanks for the great videos.
And I totally understand that many times, you really Didn’t know what you did wrong (and many times it was so trivial that when you found out what it was, you just wanted to laugh - but didn’t dare) 😆
Thank you for telling it like it is. I am in a LTR and your words of wisdom make the world go easier for the both of us. I constantly give her words of reassurance and we talk about many of the items you mention. Keep up the good work as those of use who are involved are thankful someone is there to help us navigate through this culture.
I know this video is "old" by today's crazy standards, but I just want you to know that your work is appreciated and feels like a useful advise from a friend rather than just another video. Thank you!
Great video and a lot of good advice. I wish I had seen this many years ago. It would have saved me a lot of sleepless nites. Filipinas are very sensitive in so many ways but I believe that sensitive women are better lovers. It took me a long time to figure out the ways to get along with filipinas. Especially the part about talking to other girls that were old friends. These things do not end after marriage even if she feels more secure. After you bring her here is when the culture shock really hits her. It takes a lot of patience on a mans part to make a filipina feel secure and that she is the only one. I think I have it mostly figured out after all these years. Thanks for another great video. Don’t tell her I left this comment. Haha.
@@TheFilipinaPea I would do it all over again. No regrets. Now I know the ropes. I’m an old cowboy and I’ve learned when you fall off the horse you just get back on again till you get it right.
I'm married to a Filipina. I've learned the hard way after many years of marriage many of the lessons you have expressed in this video. In the states, "the concept of trust" differs quite a bit. In the states, once trust replaces the evils of jealousy, a relationship becomes solid. Yet with Filipina, it appears this level of trust is not often reached. Kinda disappointing ...
I wonder if that level of trust would be achievable if one were to bring her back to America- where she’s not threatened by all the other Filipinas. Or would that make things worse for her…
@@1581zebra The trust/jealousy issue might be resolved, but the vacuum be filled with Western feminist toxicity. Out of the frying pan into the fire 🔥.
Tampo is easy to deal with,just go out for a drive for a couple of hours.when you get home she will want to talk and know where you have been lol.also you would of both cooled down and given things some thought and can work things out.
LOL Money wasn't the first thing to enter my mind at the start of this video it was HOW CAN I KEEP HER HAPPY, ROSES DAILY, LITTLE NOTES ...... not money! What does that say about me? And I do not flirt but I can see how it could be. I am the SGT of Arms in all my bowling leagues and I always get everyone before the start of bowling, the guys get a handshake and the ladies get a hug so I guess I can see that. Would she be upset when the money I sent to support women/children/families around the world? For the rest of the video, I got that covered, I am a ONE-WOMAN MAN! I think I would fit in perfectly there. Another GREAT Video!
Bahahahahahaha Pea your a real gem for your humor!! I wished id met you 5 years ago. You could have saved me from making all of my learn as i go mistakes. Keep em coming hun cause weather you know it or not. ALOT of us benefit GREATLY from your vids😁
@@TheFilipinaPea no the honor is mine. To meet someone that genuine is something thats truly rare. Thanks for all your humorous advice and hopefully i wont make any future mistakes with my wife lol. Thankfully shes been ofw for many years and is very forgiving of my mistakes hahahahaha
Your facility with English and western cultural reasoning is impressive and different from your general characterization of Filipino women. Would love to see you make an autobiographical video of your personal education to think across cultures. It's a true gift to each culture.
These tips are applicable to any woman from any culture. any guy who values his relationship with his woman would do well to listen close to these tips. You will be reassured of a lifetime
Amazing the double standard, I've heard the same thing with Filipina telling me such and such was "just a friend" or "just a coworker" or "just a classmate" then turn up pregnant by said person. Oh and the number of Filipina that try to involve me in their famiy's financial problems before even knowing me but the family will not talk to me outside of meeting them or social media.
Pea, I'm an Old Soul, but I've been watching your videos and I'm convinced you are amazing and I'm a midget compared to you. Love you for all your help. Wish you the best.
This is a video to watch again, and again. There is so much in here that is counterintuitive. I am sooooo glad I have found someone who is not offended by me having female friends. Ironically, a woman who I met early on & decided was not for me due to the jealousy thing, is now ONE of my female friends. I am happy also for her finding the right man for her just a month after we parted. My point? These are great rules to be careful about, but not all women are the same.
I'm a mature African-American man, easy-going, educated, good-looking (I've been told)... and I have HAD IT with all the mind-games and BS that women in this country want to put me through. I would love to visit the PI some day (if we ever get past the pandemic), and meet someone sweet, nice and pretty - like you, Pea. Perhaps one day... *sigh*
God you are so wrong. Never get married take a long term partner and this way you don’t get slammed in divorce court when she contests the prenup. And never bring a woman from the phillipines back to the USA. Keep her in the phillipines where you are In full control. Her Americanized friends back in the USA will corrupt her mindset as she plans on trading you in for the younger , handsome , wealthier version of you.
Interesting and informative as usual - I think it's important for any relationship to discuss what each others needs and expectations are to try and avoid hurting each other. I imagine where different cultures are involved this is even more important. Nice ending skit, I hope your fingers grow back for the next video 🤣🤣🤣
I don’t know if I ever felt invincible in my marriage/relationship and I was in that with one girl for 30 years. She passed away in 2016. That’s why I’m here picking up these insights in case I find myself with a Pea-alike. Take care. Peace ✌️
Thank you Pea, I have just married a beautiful Filipina with three beautiful kids. I have the best family ever. My Maria is my life. We dated for 2 months and we decided to marry. I have never been married and no kids. The best decision of my life. I love my Maria with all my heart till we depart.
Pea is an amazing psychologist,she can cut through the boloney and get to the real behavior of many different cultures and how men and women really think and behave.Great video Pea..!
@@TheFilipinaPea Then you won't like the movie "Love Story" which was a huge American hit movie in 1970. The tag line is "Love means never having to say your sorry"
I used the “I’m sorry line” only once to a Filipina...only when I’m telling her “goodbye”..plus I added..tht she was a “bang-bang.thank-you mdam” love to see them all of them “crashing-crying n begging forgiveness n not to leave them”...just love n enjoy breaking their hearts...
JOEL LEIVA, get it out in the open. Either you were crushed beyond belief (been there n carried a bleeding heart for six years. BUT, never bad mouthed her and treated other women with respect). OR you are a first class jerk/woman hater/closet gay. You spend an inordinate amount of time making sure everyone knows how much you hate women. Its gettin very disturbing and boring!
I try to uplift my Filipina wife, she is a good woman and her family is awesome! I'm very lucky and count my blessings everyday,she handles all our money for 12 years now,she's the reason I have money in the bank after living in the USA for 10 years prior to moving here permanently,and some people told me watch out but they were so wrong!! You're cool Pea!
No matter how low you talk, the Filipinas will always think you’re raising your voice. The clingy part sounds about right 😂😂. I don’t know about the rest, but I can agree with those two.
You are absolutely correct. I have big bass voice and it is difficult for me to control. So I will at times become frustratingly sarcastic and I speak in a 'Minnie Mouse' voice. After a while, ( especially in front of others ) , she accepts my normal speaking voice.
Filipinas are born insecure due to the toxic environment, so it take lots of patience and comprehension. Relationship should work if you affirm her everyday and help her heal.
A lot of these points are valid in Brazil too. Especially about lady friends, even if they are family, they are not allowed. Many things are similar between Brazil and the Philipines. The only problem here is that nobody speaks English and we have an idiot for president. I love your video’s Pea, kiss 😘
Yes Pea now you spilled the beans, this is probably the reason you are still single, 32 rules. Nevertheless, it’s always fun to watch your videos and today you looked like the sunrise 🌅❤️
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OMG ,.,.,,,THE ENDING -> SO JEALOUS after you cut off your fingers and he wanted to get your Pinay doctor ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
I am curious what you think about this video:
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Thanks for reminding me why I love being single.
Meh, with the right person even the challenges have value.
"We try to avoid conflict....unless it's you that did something wrong." Classic!!!!
It's never not been my fault.
But I personally don't feel that's the case.
lmao
I was thinking the same thing. Just like ALL women. They want us to sweep it under the rug when they do something wrong. Lol
Great point,
But Not only that.
If an issue can't be addressed, worked out and agreed upon, how is it suppose to go away?
It's only a matter of time before it happens again.
@@Ron-rk6iz hell yeah
Ahahahahahaha, RIGHT!!??
Quick summary negative things:
- Don't tease her about her physical characteristics.
-Be careful with how you address other people because it might be different.
-Don't try to make her Jealous.
-She will want herself to be the only woman in your life.
-Don't help other filipinas (even innocently).
-Don't talk about ex's.
-Don't raise your voice.
-Don't get involve into family matters unless they involve you.
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Been married to a Filipina for 28 years , fully agree with everything this lady says .
My Filipina (I love calling her that. I hope it’s not taken as being condescending), definitely wears her emotions on her sleeve. So much that I have learned to be more thoughtful I’m my speech. She is so kind and loving that I will do what I can to discuss differences in a more reserved manner.
I’ve never heard a Filipina that was offended by that 👍
We say “my foreigner” too 😂
Successful relationships are a 2 way street with a lot of give and take and built up trust. Having to walk on egg shells around your partner is a recipe for failure. in my humble opinion.
Agree 100%.....my exa filipino changed so much after she got her visa here. Plus it was always her yelling at me.Not all of any nationality are good or bad.Cheers.
Well don't get a philopena most are like that i have met. if your dating them. But you want too be taken care of there the best.
I did it for 25 years. I came home from Iraq in 2010 to a waiting divorce and lost everything. She was diagnosed as bipolar and it was true.
I don’t know where you’re from but us southern men it’s habit we call women ma’am, hun, sugar it’s in our genes, nothing disrespectful in fact right the opposite. It shows we respect women because we were raised that way.
@@gongme Filipina, they’re the best
My advice to men walking around the SM Mall with their honey-ko where there are stunners all over, keep your dark sunglasses on.
Oh yes! And learn to use your peripheral vision so you don’t show any head movement (we look for slight turning of the head)
Hahahahaha
But at least now we can say "Babe, I can't help it, Pea says it's an Involuntary Glance!"...lol
I learned early on its best to keep your head and eyes forward and pretend you have blinders on
@@TheFilipinaPea Pea you should do another channel for stand up comedy too, seriously! haha
@@TheFilipinaPea or wear a neck brace to go with those shades....
I find it best to let your opinions, feeling and thoughts be known upfront even if she does not like it. I always tell my wife "Would you rather I be honest or keep my thoughts to myself". She prefers honesty.
YES, upfront is best - always!
I can't believe sometimes how my soulmate is for real. We both had wild roots and adventures before we met and finally settled down for each other. We assure each other of our love every day multiple times, it never gets old because we never take each other for granted.
Your situation is different. There is nothing that equals a soul mate relationship. Those are very rare.
My girlfriend Mae said you missed one thing. To feed your pinay gf with Jollibees especially nearing red days :')
I loved your video and I have seen it in the Philippines because I have some expat friends there; some married to Filipinas and some with girlfriends.
In your video you said that if you chat with another Filipina and you tell your Filipina girlfriend, “She’s just a friend,” this will not cut it with your girlfriend. Well, a couple of guys with Filipina girlfriends I know have heard this line from their Filipina girlfriends, “He’s just my cousin.” Some of the expats explained to me that when the Filipina says this, it really means. “He’s my lover when you are not around.”
I have also heard what you talked about regarding sending money to another woman. Expats have told me that this means you should never send money to another woman because your wife, or girlfriend, thinks that money was for her and her family; not another woman.
In regards to family matters, it seems impossible according to my friends. My friends tell me they are constantly being involved in family matters (at least those requiring money). The expats tell me they are always hounded for money by relatives needing money for hospital care, medicine, clothes, food, cell phones, school supplies, and the list goes on.
Both of my ex wives had this habit of the “silent treatment”
in the behavioral health field I work in its referred to as “hostile silence” it’s considered a dishonest form of anger. A man can spend hours or days trying to mentally retrace everything you have said and done. Usually after I finally figured out the problem, it’s the last thing that I would have guessed. All I ever want in a relationship is for my lady to just tell me what I did wrong right then and give me a chance to fix it. If something is important to the lady I’m with, I will make it important to myself. I just can’t handle anymore hostile silence 🙏🏽
Thank you so much, Wm! I may have to use that definition of “hostile silence” because that’s exactly what I consider it - a dishonest form of anger! 😊
I've been married to three western women, one American, one Native American from Canada and one western Canadian woman, I found that the silent treatment usually meant that as long as I went about my business the next few hours to days it somehow got resolved and they'd start talking to me again or they'd come at me full on battle ready for an argument until they'd had their say, once they ran out of wind I'd reach up and pretend to turn my Miracle Ear back on (hearing aids) and say "sorry, did you say something?" by then they were done with it, got it out of their system and things went back to normal, or I ended up sleeping on the couch which really wasn't punishment it was kind of like camping without the bugs and weather and I had full control of the tv remote.
You just described most women.
A form of "Passive Agressive". Ignore it. Keep your frame.
A man that doesn’t know how he hurt his partner and can’t figure out what make her angry why the women gave her a silent treatment is an insensitive man that’s my opinion. A sensitive man know immediately his in trouble, he immediately aware what he has done. Especially a man that really loves and cares to his partner.
You always do an amazing job of bridging the gap between cultures and explaining In a way everyone can understand. Appreciate your videos!
THANK YOU, John - that’s exactly what I’m here to do! 😊
True I can imagine with all those expats and locals relationships are fragile
Your treatment of these topics is great !!
Miss Pea... you keep bringing it: episode after episode. you're funny, entertaining and incredibly informative. since I'll be moving to Davao City at the end of August 2022, your insights are super helpful. I've heard that Filipinas are hard working girls... but you're taking it to a different level.
Thanks SNZ! Yes, I’m a workaholic 👍😊
I appreciate a lot the quality of your content. Saying this as media producer I enjoy your energy, excellent balance between seriousity and fun. As a European I learn a lot about your culture. Warm greetings from Netherlands/Cpt. JayR
All that "work" is nothing compared to the expectations of entitled Western women.
All of that plus nowadays for even the most mediocre women....
That's the truth
THANK YOU!!! 😆
I agree 100%.
Agreed!!
I continue to be incredibly impressed with your command of English and awareness of western culture. So nice !
Thanks Dale! I really need to thank my old boss for hiring me at the call center - he gets a lot of the credit 😊
Maybe a good theme for a video Pea. .?
@Dale Daniel...I have made a similar comment about her awareness of western culture...it is truly amazing because I am pretty sure she has never lived in the west and she sometimes references some pretty obscure stuff. She is a sharp cookie.
@@TheFilipinaPea That call center was an "actor Studio" mixed with "Immersion in American Culture"......your partner is really lucky!!!
FILIPINA PEA, you don't become that SAVVY by working at a call center - no freaking way. That, too, is impressive!
Fine line between, sensitive Filipina and clever manipulate gaslighter.🤔
Fabulous video Pea; from the hardest working lady on UA-cam 🇵🇭🇬🇧👍
Aww THANKS iomtilt! Yes, a fine line indeed, and just pray you don’t end up with the gaslighting version - those can be HELL 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea
Been there, seen it, done it, have the T-shirt 😁👍
Hey don't call Pea a "working girl." 😠....🤣
100% right 😀 Like to add my Filippina wife (best wife of all) likes to travel. I could wake her up in the middle of the night and say let's go to the Mars. She would say ok just give me a second so I can put some gifts in the (overloaded) suitcases for my family on the Mars.
That's funny my Filipina girlfriends name is Maria lol. I really do love her. I think these small culture differences are totally worth it, she's unlike any other woman I've dated before. These videos have really helped me to understand her and let my guard down and open my heart to her. We haven't been dating that long but I feel like I already know I wanna marry her and spend the rest of my life with her.
Hello from the Dominican Republic! You are insightful, articulate, and adorable!
Hello from the Philippines! And thank you very much 😊
@@TheFilipinaPea I was stationed there while I was in the Marine Corps. I was raised just like the culture- all about family and treat each other like a king and queen. I hope I find one someday. I have a friend living there that was in Marine Corps too. I hope to come back also
Bonao, in the house...lol ... trying to decide mil Isla or quisqueya.
I can relate to a lot of what you were talking about. I've been with my lady four years now and the first couple of years it was definitely a learning curve. But over time I learned about her ex and how he treated her and cheated on her. So I did everything I could to put her mind at ease by being open and transparent and very honest to her. And life has been great 😺
I never clicked so fast to know this post was just recent. I'm not even a foreigner yet I find this really informative.
A local? THANKS! I’ve been hoping more locals would find me 😊
You’re not a foreigner? According to me, you possibly are for me; that’s if you use the definition of foreigner properly. I don’t know your country of origin, so I can’t say for sure if you’re a foreigner.
I will tell my fiance in the Philippines and my children in the Philippines to subscribe to your channel Pea
I love this episode Pea. You really got this one right because I have watched it several times now. "Does it make us look neurotic? Yes, but ARE we neurotic? YES!" I Love it.
Thanks Pea,
You reminded me why I'm single. No wife, no girlfriend, no pets and the kids are grown and gone and successful. When I come home, it's nice and quiet. And as a bonus, I love my job. When I need some human interaction, I just get a massage.
Life is great !
Wow. I am saving this to watch again every few months to do the best with my girlfriend. I thought I “knew it all” and clearly I did NOT. I learned so much from this.
That actually makes me so happy, JD!! 😊
Dr Phil .... Here comes your replacement 🤗
Pea, here's an idea for a video that you might like and want to do. The Filipino idea of "family" and the Western idea of "family" and who is actually who are often different. When we first got married it was frustrating at times because my wife would refer to a relative as a "niece, nephew, auntie or uncle" and I knew for sure that that was not a real relationship. As an American, I wanted to slot the person into the right hole, so I would know just who/what she was talking about. Was this really a younger second cousin, twice removed, or perhaps just a very close friend's mother or father? I'd ask, "who are they really" and she would get upset because she knew what she meant, and she didn't understand my desire/need to be more precise in actual relationship. This took us years to get resolved to our mutual satisfaction. Now, decades later, I am happy and honored to be the 'cano Lolo to dozens of young relatives who are my apos -- even though it now confuses my friends who know for sure that I don't have grandkids over in the PI. So... could you do a lecture on just how the Pinoy community sees family and titles vs. how we do it in the West, and the confusion it can lead to?
Just think about literal vs. figurative.
For example, there's literal uncles and aunties (siblings of your parents). And the figurative uncles and aunties (every other relatives (or neighbors) who are about the same generation as your parents.
Another example, literal "kuya and ate" or brothers and sisters (your siblings and sisters). Then there's the figurative brothers and sisters who are everyone else older than you but within your generation. If above your generation, then that's already uncles and aunties.
One other example that's the most confusion, I have 3 children which is 10-year old boy, 7-year old girl, 3-year old boy. Even though they are all my children, I would sometimes call the 10-year old boy as "kuya" (big brother), the 7-year old girl as "ate" (big sister). Isn't that confusing as hell? Haha! That's our way of instilling into their minds about their role in the family. By calling my 10-year old boy as "kuya", I'm teaching him that he has siblings younger than him, and the other younger 2 children would also know that they should address him as the "kuya" (or big brother). The same reason for calling my 7-year old as "ate". We can also call them by their names or call them "anak" meaning son/daugter.
You had me rolling when you chopped off your fingers.....very imaginative. Love it!
Thanks Tim! I love being silly 😂
Just so you know your compassion and ability to share in the depth you do is the greatest quality you have. Don't ever let anyone cause you to question that. It is the greatest quality you have to share with others especially a future husband.
Thank you so much Pea for shedding light on all the potential land mines a western man can step on with his Filipina. There were more than I thought but none of them seem that difficult to observe and well worth the small effort. Your insight into western culture and relationships is very impressive.
My couple theory: Take on the world not each other.
Great advice! Now just get your Filipina to agree 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea Sound more like "Mission Impossible" to me , hahahaha
If it were that simple. That's how I used to see it.
@@MVProfits Well did your girlfriend actually agree on you with this?
15 good reasons to sleep peacefully at night... I love your insight into the Western/Eastern cultures and your ability to break it down into bight size pieces for us who are awkward but have the good intentions towards the love of our lives
Thanks again Po..
No wonder my relationships did not work out with a Filipina. Thanks for your enlightenment.
I need learn more about filipinas.... thank you so much
YOU ARE A VERY INTELLIGENT LADY! I LIKE ALL WHAT YOU ADVISE US. GOOD ON YOU. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!
I have no intention of ever getting married again, and how UA-cam decided to show me your videos is a mystery to me. I watch them for your funny skits at the end. Love you young lady and god Bess and good luck 👍
I truly appreciate your channel, I recently met an amazing Filipina on date in Asia. Your content is very helpful, thoughtful, and appreciated. Thank you!
Thanks so much, Christopher!
I really like her sense of humor.
Pea has to be the best Vlogger in the world! Entertaining and Smart. So glad I found her.
I’m sure glad you found me too! 👍😊
I am in the process of a substantial remodel of my house and when I told my fiancée that I was waiting until she got here so she can participate, man oh man did I make points. By the way she leaves Manila on December 3rd and arriving in Texas on December 4th. The best Christmas present I ever got.
That’s Wonderful and exciting, Paul - I wish you both the best ❤️
Aren't internet brides great...!
@Paul Brown. It's almost 12 months later. How's the relationship going?
Wow that’s a list , lots to be tripped up by , but sounds like fun 🤩
I often say that dating us Filipinas is like walking on a tightrope suspended over a minefield ..... with a ticking bomb on your back. But at least it’s never dull! 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea After bomb disposal training, getting the sniffer dog and balancing pole through customs she better be worth it 😊
Hey FP I often use your advice and Filipinas always ask me, who taught u that,or how you know that. U are my secret weapon, and go to woman.ill never reveal my go princess! Thx a million for all your timely help. God bless stay healthy.
Wow, Yeshua, I’ve never been a secret weapon before! I love it! 😆
so impressive ,,,straight talk truth ,,,,,you could be a relationship counselor ,,,,,well done ,,,,
Thanks Steve! Yes, my motto is “tellin’ it like it is” 👍👍👍
I'm overwhelmed bye her beauty and her cuddly cuteness!
Great info as always, helping western men understand the Philipina psyche....a road map to keep you from making a wrong turn......Love the ending really drives the points home.
Great back drop!
Thanks Rogue - I just LOVE my new green screen! ❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea gotta get the shoe on the other foot tho... for us guys in the USA...aim a video at getting a pinay to understand our side plz🙏 communication is the key to a successful relationship but my pinay drives me crazy at times even tho I do everything in my power to make sure that she is happy and extremely spoiled 😋
Ms. Pea, a very excellent cultural education video full of critical information about dating a Filipina! The points you made should be followed by any man wanting to have a relationship that is successful and have a strong potential for the future!
Your beauty and knowledge is priceless!
And your compliments are equally priceless - they make me happy that I do what I do ❤️
Thank You for the good advice
I want my Filipina girlfriend to be happy and feel safe always
You're talking about most women. I love my wife and I know she thinks like you even though she isn't Filipina. Thanks for sharing!
I probably will never make it to the Philippines but I do love your videos and I feel your honesty and your integrity I love your videos
The sad part of my story is that the woman I lived with, died prematurely. Your video remind me all the funny episodes we went through. She had a broad definition of what "fair competition" should be from other feminine persons. For her it meant, "no competition!" She was from the Philippines of course!
I’m so sorry for your loss, Francois, but I’m glad my video reminded you of the good times ❤️
Great information. A lot of times it is the old adage of men really don't know what we did wrong. But knowing these ways are super helpful and gives us a map to look over. Thanks for the great videos.
"The reason men are so good at playing dumb is because most of the time, we're not playing."
Larry Miller
And I totally understand that many times, you really Didn’t know what you did wrong (and many times it was so trivial that when you found out what it was, you just wanted to laugh - but didn’t dare) 😆
Thank you for telling it like it is. I am in a LTR and your words of wisdom make the world go easier for the both of us. I constantly give her words of reassurance and we talk about many of the items you mention. Keep up the good work as those of use who are involved are thankful someone is there to help us navigate through this culture.
I have been with my Filipina for 2 years and I can say one thing for a fact you are absolutely right on every point
I know this video is "old" by today's crazy standards, but I just want you to know that your work is appreciated and feels like a useful advise from a friend rather than just another video.
Thank you!
Great video and a lot of good advice. I wish I had seen this many years ago. It would have saved me a lot of sleepless nites. Filipinas are very sensitive in so many ways but I believe that sensitive women are better lovers. It took me a long time to figure out the ways to get along with filipinas. Especially the part about talking to other girls that were old friends. These things do not end after marriage even if she feels more secure. After you bring her here is when the culture shock really hits her. It takes a lot of patience on a mans part to make a filipina feel secure and that she is the only one. I think I have it mostly figured out after all these years. Thanks for another great video. Don’t tell her I left this comment. Haha.
It sounds like you had to go through Filipina Purgatory a few times, but it’s nice to see you made it out alive! 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea I would do it all over again. No regrets. Now I know the ropes. I’m an old cowboy and I’ve learned when you fall off the horse you just get back on again till you get it right.
I'm married to a Filipina. I've learned the hard way after many years of marriage many of the lessons you have expressed in this video. In the states, "the concept of trust" differs quite a bit. In the states, once trust replaces the evils of jealousy, a relationship becomes solid. Yet with Filipina, it appears this level of trust is not often reached. Kinda disappointing ...
Agree. Same with Thai girls
Major insecurity issues that aren't attractive at all
I wonder if that level of trust would be achievable if one were to bring her back to America- where she’s not threatened by all the other Filipinas. Or would that make things worse for her…
@@1581zebra The trust/jealousy issue might be resolved, but the vacuum be filled with Western feminist toxicity. Out of the frying pan into the fire 🔥.
Alternative title should be "15 ways to avoid Tampo."
Amen Keith,,,,well,,,unless you like the quiet life that is,,,,,,,lol.
Hahahaha
Yup, that would work too! 😆
ignore tampo!! your not 12 so tell them to grow up or leave you will see a drastic change .
Tampo is easy to deal with,just go out for a drive for a couple of hours.when you get home she will want to talk and know where you have been lol.also you would of both cooled down and given things some thought and can work things out.
Lol
LOL Money wasn't the first thing to enter my mind at the start of this video it was HOW CAN I KEEP HER HAPPY, ROSES DAILY, LITTLE NOTES ...... not money! What does that say about me?
And I do not flirt but I can see how it could be. I am the SGT of Arms in all my bowling leagues and I always get everyone before the start of bowling, the guys get a handshake and the ladies get a hug so I guess I can see that.
Would she be upset when the money I sent to support women/children/families around the world?
For the rest of the video, I got that covered, I am a ONE-WOMAN MAN! I think I would fit in perfectly there.
Another GREAT Video!
She wouldn’t be upset unless you personally knew women around the world that you were chatting with, and called them your ‘friends’ 😊👍
Wow you’re absolutely right she is absolutely change my world
Bahahahahahaha Pea your a real gem for your humor!! I wished id met you 5 years ago. You could have saved me from making all of my learn as i go mistakes. Keep em coming hun cause weather you know it or not. ALOT of us benefit GREATLY from your vids😁
I’m so glad to hear that, Ron! I’m honored to be your gem 😘
@@TheFilipinaPea no the honor is mine. To meet someone that genuine is something thats truly rare. Thanks for all your humorous advice and hopefully i wont make any future mistakes with my wife lol. Thankfully shes been ofw for many years and is very forgiving of my mistakes hahahahaha
Your facility with English and western cultural reasoning is impressive and different from your general characterization of Filipino women. Would love to see you make an autobiographical video of your personal education to think across cultures. It's a true gift to each culture.
Hello Pea, thanks for constantly preparing me for my potential first visit to the Philippines to find a nice girl.
Any time, PTF! It’s my sworn duty 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿❤❤❤🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭
These tips are applicable to any woman from any culture. any guy who values his relationship with his woman would do well to listen close to these tips. You will be reassured of a lifetime
The long beautiful hair is so amazing. Thanks for the advice Pea.
Amazing the double standard, I've heard the same thing with Filipina telling me such and such was "just a friend" or "just a coworker" or "just a classmate" then turn up pregnant by said person. Oh and the number of Filipina that try to involve me in their famiy's financial problems before even knowing me but the family will not talk to me outside of meeting them or social media.
Exactly, Taku! I never said it was fair, just that it’s the way it is 😆
Pea, you are way wise beyond your years.
Please Lord give me strength not to turn around and look at others when I’m with a Pinay. They are so beautiful I just must.
If Jesus loves you, he’ll give you tunnel vision, yes 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea Maybe his girlfriend can get the eye doctor to give him the wrong eye prescription? ;-)
If that is your prayer, give up, you are not worthy.
@@TheFilipinaPea But, lead me not into temptation because I can easily find it myself.
Lol
You are so informative. I love your videos. What keeps me coming back for more is your humor. You are hilarious. I love your little skits at the end.
Pea, I'm an Old Soul, but I've been watching your videos and I'm convinced you are amazing and I'm a midget compared to you. Love you for all your help. Wish you the best.
This is a video to watch again, and again. There is so much in here that is counterintuitive.
I am sooooo glad I have found someone who is not offended by me having female friends.
Ironically, a woman who I met early on & decided was not for me due to the jealousy thing, is now ONE of my female friends. I am happy also for her finding the right man for her just a month after we parted.
My point? These are great rules to be careful about, but not all women are the same.
Wow, you found a keeper then! 👍❤️
I'm a mature African-American man, easy-going, educated, good-looking (I've been told)... and I have HAD IT with all the mind-games and BS that women in this country want to put me through.
I would love to visit the PI some day (if we ever get past the pandemic), and meet someone sweet, nice and pretty - like you, Pea.
Perhaps one day... *sigh*
Wait, good-looking and black skin? Nvm.
@@zsualite7984 huh? Was that a racist joke?
Dating seems way too complicated, much better to just find someone and get married. I really enjoyed your video as always Pea!
Thanks John! Just be careful who you marry (and get a prenup!) 😊
God you are so wrong. Never get married take a long term partner and this way you don’t get slammed in divorce court when she contests the prenup. And never bring a woman from the phillipines back to the USA. Keep her in the phillipines where you are In full control. Her Americanized friends back in the USA will corrupt her mindset as she plans on trading you in for the younger , handsome , wealthier version of you.
@@TheFilipinaPea already married, no prenup!
@Damon Yuen Not as much as dating
You are amazing! Sweet, funny, practical, thorough, and so, so helpful! Thanks for these reminders for us thicker, denser male heads in the world.
This applies to almost any woman in the world, it is just they never tell us about it. Great video!
Thanks James! 😊
Thanks for another video pea! Looking well too :)
Well thanks, Nathan!
Great Job Pea! You should include.."Did you eat yet?" I learned that the hard way.
Awww darn - I forgot that one! 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea Next time!!
Now Im curious ......
Hmmm
Interesting and informative as usual - I think it's important for any relationship to discuss what each others needs and expectations are to try and avoid hurting each other. I imagine where different cultures are involved this is even more important.
Nice ending skit, I hope your fingers grow back for the next video 🤣🤣🤣
Well the MGTOWS call me a chameleon, and fortunately those DO regrow their fingers, so I’m hopeful 😆
When I will be in a relationship with a Filipina I will have to refresh over and over by watching this.
It is very serious for me now.
Another insightful and informative video. Maraming Salamat po. Respectfully
Thanks RDC! 😊
I don’t know if I ever felt invincible in my marriage/relationship and I was in that with one girl for 30 years. She passed away in 2016. That’s why I’m here picking up these insights in case I find myself with a Pea-alike. Take care. Peace ✌️
I’m so sorry for your loss, L4P, and you never know when you might just find a partner for the next 25 .........
Great advice. Thanks!
Anytime, Gordon! (It’s my job) 😊
Thank you Pea, I have just married a beautiful Filipina with three beautiful kids. I have the best family ever. My Maria is my life. We dated for 2 months and we decided to marry. I have never been married and no kids. The best decision of my life. I love my Maria with all my heart till we depart.
Then I wish you both the best for your future!! ❤️
Excellent video; great information. I've been married to a Filippina for 13 years, I wish I had your video 13 years ago.
Pea is an amazing psychologist,she can cut through the boloney and get to the real behavior of many different cultures and how men and women really think and behave.Great video Pea..!
Thanks Gaf! 😊❤️👍
Totally agree all the way through the vlog .... You would make a great replacement for Dr Phil ... Much Prettier TOO 🤗😂
You're amazing and give the best advice,. You should write a book,. I would buy it , especially if you sign it
I’ll not only sign it, but I’ll throw in a free napkin with my DNA so you can grow your own Pea! If you don’t know how to do it, just ask Sheldon 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea He would need a healthy ovum, but I'm sure all he will get is the napkin! :)
@@stevefoster5172 are you thinking of feminine pads?
Dr. Phil-i-Peana, The perfect relationship is "NEVER" to have to say I'm sorry!
Then don’t date a Filipina - we require those words a lot!
Hahahahaha
@@TheFilipinaPea How about "sorry not sorry"? Does that work?
@@TheFilipinaPea Then you won't like the movie "Love Story" which was a huge American hit movie in 1970. The tag line is "Love means never having to say your sorry"
I used the “I’m sorry line” only once to a Filipina...only when I’m telling her “goodbye”..plus I added..tht she was a “bang-bang.thank-you mdam” love to see them all of them “crashing-crying n begging forgiveness n not to leave them”...just love n enjoy breaking their hearts...
JOEL LEIVA, get it out in the open. Either you were crushed beyond belief (been there n carried a bleeding heart for six years. BUT, never bad mouthed her and treated other women with respect). OR you are a first class jerk/woman hater/closet gay. You spend an inordinate amount of time making sure everyone knows how much you hate women. Its gettin very disturbing and boring!
I try to uplift my Filipina wife, she is a good woman and her family is awesome! I'm very lucky and count my blessings everyday,she handles all our money for 12 years now,she's the reason I have money in the bank after living in the USA for 10 years prior to moving here permanently,and some people told me watch out but they were so wrong!! You're cool Pea!
Thank you for explaining... Filipina here listening to understand my self more lol...
No matter how low you talk, the Filipinas will always think you’re raising your voice. The clingy part sounds about right 😂😂. I don’t know about the rest, but I can agree with those two.
they want you to shut up and sit in the corner and be ready to hand out money when they demand it or else.
You are absolutely correct. I have big bass voice and it is difficult for me to control. So I will at times become frustratingly sarcastic and I speak in a 'Minnie Mouse' voice. After a while, ( especially in front of others ) , she accepts my normal speaking voice.
Filipinas are born insecure due to the toxic environment, so it take lots of patience and comprehension. Relationship should work if you affirm her everyday and help her heal.
A lot of these points are valid in Brazil too. Especially about lady friends, even if they are family, they are not allowed.
Many things are similar between Brazil and the Philipines. The only problem here is that nobody speaks English and we have an idiot for president.
I love your video’s Pea, kiss 😘
The Spanish influence maybe?
Duterte isn't an idiot?
@@RebelliousCanadian yes
Very useful information Pea. Thank you.
I've been happily married to my beautiful filipina for 5 years and I still love learning what makes her feel more loved and secure
Yes Pea now you spilled the beans, this is probably the reason you are still single, 32 rules. Nevertheless, it’s always fun to watch your videos and today you looked like the sunrise 🌅❤️
Hahahahaha
Thanks Gregory! (and I have way more than 32) 😆
@@TheFilipinaPea I would marry you 😍
First! Nice vid again
4th
Thanks AiP!! 😊
This video came out perfect timing. Thank you lol. I hope you can make a video about clingy Filipina girlfriends.
Oh I’m sure I will! 😊
You are providing great value to people with your videos. Take care!
Very wise words from a young lady for us old blokes