transmasc TikToks Part 2 because being trans is hard sometimes

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  • @jamieanson4769
    @jamieanson4769 Рік тому +314

    I relate so hard to the “watching cis relatives get what you want” it hurt. Sure the things I got weren’t so bad, but when I asked for legos, they got me the “feminine” version. If I wanted to play with hex bugs, beyblades(the metal kind of course), play with little cars, I’d have to borrow them from my brothers because they never got me those. They kept buying me things in pink even when I displayed my displeasure. I watched as my brothers got the neutrally colored clothing items, hoodies, pants, while I got all these frilly shirts, hoodies with the tiniest pockets in a feminine cut in the color pink, skirts. Man I fucking hate skirts. Needless to say, I related to the video.

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +29

      Bro same I would get a bunch of girly toys and my mom got me skirts (that I never wore bc I grew out of them too quickly thank God) like I wanted to get hoodies and sweatpants (thinking I was a tomboy) but only recently in the past 2 years I started getting hoodies and sweatpants and same with Legos I asked for Legos they got me Lego friends so it had all girls and only for my 13th and 14th birthday I got masc related Lego sets

    • @depressoespresso5904
      @depressoespresso5904 Рік тому +12

      THE DANG POCKETS THO

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +10

      no fr when I was younger none of my pants had pockets if they did it would be very small or even fake pockets

    • @thatboringone7851
      @thatboringone7851 Рік тому +10

      I still remember the horror when I realised that the make-up, lip gloss, soaps and bright pink clothes that people were buying me more and more of over holidays and birthdays would be permanent. Just that for every holiday and birthday ever. Complete ungifts that I never wanted or would use, other than a shirt or two in a shade of pink that I actually didn't mind (prob because someone called it bacon pink and I just... that was my weird ass sense of humor). At least before that, when I was really little, people would occasionally get me things I'd asked for or wanted, or sometimes picked things that weren't explicitly and only marketed as "for girls".
      Like, even when I was young and thought I was cis, I might not have hated that stuff at first but I just wasn't into it at all. So much of it was just a complete waste some other kid would have loved and actually used. If anything they just ended up feeding a stupid aversion I had to learn to undo out of refusing to ask about the things I was actually interested in.
      Took me a long time to be comfortable with anything fem on my own terms and reconcile that with what I was working out in terms of gender, longer than I bet it would have taken otherwise.

    • @mercurbee
      @mercurbee Рік тому +5

      flashback to when my brothers and cousins (all guys) got these cool monster trucks and stuff with opening doors and springs and rubbery tires and had cool themes and colors, and i had asked specifically for a scooby doo one, but my brother got the scooby doo one while i got the pink cowgirl truck a quarter of the size with the only moving parts being the shitty plastic tires ✌️😗
      yeah i cried every time i saw it and threw it away :/ i ended up completely shutting myself off from my siblings because i was so upset that they got what the wanted and more but i couldn't get what i explicitly asked for

  • @arirossiter889
    @arirossiter889 Рік тому +88

    YES
    THE IKEA WHALES
    TRANS ICONS.
    Blavingad the orca is my personal favorite.

  • @Jack-uo9lw
    @Jack-uo9lw Рік тому +160

    i hate being trans sometimes, but sometimes im proud of who i am

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +11

      I'm the same way

    • @rainykid9155
      @rainykid9155 Рік тому +2

      can i ask why? just curious

    • @Jack-uo9lw
      @Jack-uo9lw Рік тому +10

      @@rainykid9155 the gender dysphoria, the hate, the discrimination and violence, and the fact that i’m going through the wrong puberty and shit

    • @rainykid9155
      @rainykid9155 Рік тому +2

      @@Jack-uo9lw ah okie

    • @coffee.is.lovely
      @coffee.is.lovely Рік тому +6

      it's a "I love it and i hate it at the same time" kind of thing for me

  • @toe.snatcher94
    @toe.snatcher94 Рік тому +27

    bro the top secret 6 step guide to curing gender dysphoria for trans masc people is very helpful 😌

  • @EludingRu
    @EludingRu Рік тому +49

    I'm almost 19 years old and I'm still questioning my gender identity and whether or not I want to transition. Truth is I was transitioning before and I talked myself out of it because I was thinking about what the people around me wanted, not what I wanted and what I still want.

  • @sigaymamale47
    @sigaymamale47 Рік тому +12

    As a cis guy, I want to say something for all of you, YOU'RE VALID!
    Y'all are real men/boys and i'm actually proud of you

  • @greybee
    @greybee Рік тому +33

    shit has been super tough since my state put a ban on testosterone for minors so stuff like this has been super comforting

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +6

      Yeah the states that do that suck but I'm glad that you can still be comforted even if your state banned testosterone for minors

  • @atlasstappleyourhand
    @atlasstappleyourhand Рік тому +32

    Nooooo, I was at the store the other day and I was going to pay for my stuff and the woman said "I can help you young man" and I was all like, hmmm I like that, and then after she scanned my stuff I asked for my pictures to be wrapped so she said to the other worker " can you please wrap her pictures?" 😭

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +11

      Bro you were so close how did she mess up the second time

    • @katanah3195
      @katanah3195 Рік тому +6

      OK, but like, being genderfluid and using all pronouns, I absolutely love it when that kind of thing happens to me, mismatched pronouns are awesome.

  • @Bucky_Fierro818
    @Bucky_Fierro818 2 місяці тому +4

    2:09 when my sister and I were younger ( we're both trans I'm Ftm and she's Mtf ) she would get nerf guns and trucks and I would get makeup and dolls and we would just switch toys after 😂

  • @VexRavenhardt
    @VexRavenhardt Рік тому +39

    Not even trans masc. But I enjoy this kind of content to better understand others :3

  • @bleachnbones7107
    @bleachnbones7107 Рік тому +9

    I'm just gonna add a couple suggestions for clothing.
    First of all, cargo shorts. I know they're also a staple for lesbians but they do wonders to square off your lower body and they're extremely practical.
    For t-shirts my go-to are either band t-shirts or ones with very strong graphics, especially those with full back ones, bonus points if they're horror or psychedelic stuff. As he said, small neck, heavy fabric, longer sleeves, better if black or dark.
    Tanks with broad shoulders, the ones that go from your neck to the point where a regular t-shirt's sleeve would be attached. If you manage to find the right cut for you it will add a whole lot of bulk to your upper body.
    As for jackets, I know it's not for everyone but Harrington jackets are the absolute best and I'm willing to die on this hill. A couple other styles are great too but there's something about the Harrington that hits different, gives you that punky hardcore working class vibe that I really dig. Cuts short at the waist, broadens your shoulders and hides anything that needs hiding.
    The only problem with this style of clothing is that it's pretty similar to what skinheads and punks wear, at least in my country, so you need to be careful with haircuts, especially if you also have tattoos. Because if you buzz it all off you'll probably pass with no issues but you'll also probably look like a neo-nazi. Might be speaking from experience

  • @nellie3140
    @nellie3140 Рік тому +4

    i dont have much dysphoria so usually i feel like i’m faking it, but other times i’m like “bro i want a mustache and i wish i was born a boy so i could be more comfortable with my body” it’s so confusing sometimes💀😭 but if anyone has advice or an explanation about why or how i feel(even tho idk what i mean when i say that lol) i would really appreciate it

  • @aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh
    @aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh Рік тому +4

    Hell. Why when people are saying about 21 adult stuff(alcohol, car so on) I feel like "Bruh I'm still a kid". I'm 22. When I'm thinking about driving license I HAVE to remind myself that "Yeah, you're in that age. fcing grow up already". That childish face doesn't help.

  • @RSIALVR
    @RSIALVR Рік тому +4

    2:26 HIS HAIRRR⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️ I NEED THAT HAIR RN I NEED SOME PICS OF THAT HAIR CAUSE IM GETTING A HAIRCUT BEFORE SCHOOL ENDS 🤬🤬🤬🤬

  • @Fangs_with_wings
    @Fangs_with_wings 2 місяці тому +2

    5:24 I GO BY KY cause it’s literally my dad name after you remove two letters

  • @emiliegour7538
    @emiliegour7538 Рік тому +5

    2:27 u passed my man, u look awesome, hope i can pass as well as u

  • @mercurbee
    @mercurbee Рік тому +6

    flashback to when my brothers and cousins (all guys) got these cool monster trucks and stuff with opening doors and springs and rubbery tires and had cool themes and colors, and i had asked specifically for a scooby doo one, but my brother got the scooby doo one while i got the pink cowgirl truck a quarter of the size with the only moving parts being the shitty plastic tires ✌️😗
    yeah i cried every time i saw it and threw it away :/ i ended up completely shutting myself off from my siblings because i was so upset that they got what the wanted and more but i couldn't get what i explicitly asked for

  • @Virgil-the-rat
    @Virgil-the-rat 28 днів тому +1

    0:39 MY THEATRE KID ASS CANNOT!! We got space age bachelor man FINAL OFFER

  • @DumbDolphin333
    @DumbDolphin333 Рік тому +11

    5:13 I feel personally attacked. My name is Oliver with the nickname Ollie.

    • @dogeofpeace
      @dogeofpeace Рік тому +1

      My name is Finn lmao

    • @jakeistragicuwu
      @jakeistragicuwu Рік тому +1

      here were my name options: Oliver/ollie, owen, kai, elliot, jack, aiden, arlo, alex, noah.
      i went with Jacob.

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому

      I also had a lot of name choices but I went with Wilbur

  • @Evies_mt
    @Evies_mt Рік тому +3

    I’m so genuinely confused about my gender it makes me so frustrated. I recently got found out by my parents, they found my socials and I’m not allowed to have them and they found out I was trans. Well my whole family,(mom dad brother and sister in law) all said I was confused. Now I am very confused and frustrated. I talked to my therapist a few days ago about this and she made me feel a bit better, but my brother overheard this (I think) and told my parents and my asked if I had anything to tell them and asked how I was feeling, which lead me down a deeper hole of my identity. I’m so confused. I hate feeling like this. Nothing has helped me. I’m slowly just getting worse and losing friends and I feel so alone, and scared, and angry, and frustrated, I want to be normal so bad I am pushing myself to be what I’m not so I can please my parents which leads to breaking down and crying and relapsing. I just want to loved. I just want to be accepted. I didn’t ask to be like. :/

  • @matcha5325
    @matcha5325 Рік тому +11

    Being a closeted trans person I've never been more happy to be biologically named Quinn LIKE IT FITS BOTH GENDERS AAAAAAAAAA🤌🤌🤌

  • @Kazuma_Asogi
    @Kazuma_Asogi Рік тому +5

    Videos like these help me get over my anxiety and depression issues plus my gender dysphoria thank you so much for making these videos 👏😔👍

  • @valguzman4990
    @valguzman4990 Рік тому +18

    My best friend just came out as transmasc and I Want to help him

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +1

      That's good do you want more tips than just the ones in the vid

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому

      @IDFK1 well it depends one if your biological gender is female and now you don't want boobs and want to be flat

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому

      @IDFK1 and if you don't want a vagina but want a dick then that would be a sign that you are trans (but I'm not the one to say if you are or not you have to decide that on your own)

    • @gethelp6271
      @gethelp6271 Рік тому +1

      @𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖊𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖞 How do you know when you want something? What is your procedure of evidence for deciding that you want something?

    • @gethelp6271
      @gethelp6271 Рік тому +1

      @𝕾𝖊𝖗𝖊𝖓𝖎𝖙𝖞 How do you know what you want? What's your procedure of evidence?

  • @daretobehappy.
    @daretobehappy. Рік тому +3

    I've been really pushing my feelings away and recently I've felt dysphoria SOOO badly so today I shaved the little hair on my lips so I'll eventually get a little mustache there and I'm gonna get my hair cut soon

  • @thedoodleverseart
    @thedoodleverseart Рік тому +2

    petition to add tyler to the no more name list

  • @Milo-hp9fw
    @Milo-hp9fw Рік тому +1

    For the second tiktok, I've had dreams where I go back and save my younger self from my mom. I also have dreams about my mom being gone and someone taking me in. Mommy issues, they suck.

  • @handsomerat5926
    @handsomerat5926 Рік тому +6

    5:24 got me at this time

  • @ElliotKing15
    @ElliotKing15 Рік тому +1

    Man at that name one (5:14) I was like "please not my name, please not my name, please not my name, DAMN IT"

  • @impala_6677
    @impala_6677 3 місяці тому +1

    I’m Genderfluid (afab) and I have a large chest so when I’m feeling masc it’s really hard for me to deal with the dysphoria 😢

  • @TheBugUderUrBed
    @TheBugUderUrBed Рік тому +2

    Its elliot....
    ITS UNKOMMON WHERE I LIVE OK

  • @TheKingOfCreepyPasta
    @TheKingOfCreepyPasta Рік тому +1

    5:21 bro really just called ALL of us put like that💀💀

  • @gaminglily8244
    @gaminglily8244 Рік тому +2

    5:19 i win my name is reiley but i considered kai at one point

  • @Nerdosaurus
    @Nerdosaurus Рік тому +11

    Woof, dodged a bullet 5:13 , I almost chose the name Malichia and would have the nickname Kai lmaooo, decided to go with something else in the end lol

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +3

      Yeah I went from Alex/Alexander to Chris/Christopher to now Wilbur/Will

    • @Nerdosaurus
      @Nerdosaurus Рік тому +2

      @@Wilbur_1_ those are all great names, I went from Zim to Newt to Malichia/Kai to now Greyson/Grey

  • @jiyaajoy4454
    @jiyaajoy4454 Рік тому +1

    Growing up I had a weird obsession with the names Aiden and Noah and Kai and now ik why lol

  • @Mistarainbow
    @Mistarainbow Рік тому +2

    1:48 THAT HIT A BIT TOO HARD HOME. WHAT THE FUCK?!?

  • @Father5Gremlin
    @Father5Gremlin Рік тому +2

    The first video literally describes me and my dysphoria 💀

  • @jilliandittrich8810
    @jilliandittrich8810 Рік тому +3

    4:20 it’s called a French tuck! :D

  • @ANXIETY_DEFENDERRR
    @ANXIETY_DEFENDERRR Рік тому +1

    5:21 WHY DID YOU CALL MY TRANSMASC NAME OUT OH MY GOSHHH HOW DID U KNOWWWW

  • @Carol-gy8py
    @Carol-gy8py Рік тому +1

    as a young minor (middle schooler) I’m not trans (yet) but I’m a girl but i wish people could recognise me as a guy and call me he/they pronouns but I also love girly things but my family would still love me but not support me and no one would respect my pronouns as I once told a few of my friends about my pronoun change but they never used them. I’m not uncomfortable as a she but seeing all these openly trans people makes me feel jealous but I force myself into an endless cycle of wishing I could be like them and it’s sooo sad yet soo funny

  • @MAX_THE_PUPPY
    @MAX_THE_PUPPY 6 місяців тому +1

    5:33 Nah brothers my name is Randall / Maxwell. PLUS I can go by Randy and Max for short 🤑

  • @sage-does-stuff
    @sage-does-stuff Рік тому +2

    5:31 LMAOOOO I HAVE BEEN CALLED OUT

  • @Asher-pb5js
    @Asher-pb5js 4 місяці тому +1

    Honestly I'm so glad that I few up with all boys. This means I know how to act cis, and because most of them are older, all my clothes are their clothes, so I have a bunch of men clothes. I've always been a "tomboy" so if i wanted something for boys, I'd get it! My family is homo and (especially) transphobic. They just see me as a tomboy bc of the way I grew up. I'm grateful for that. I feel so had for all the guys who grew up being taught that you can only have girl things💔

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  4 місяці тому

      You're lucky i grew up as a tomboy and I had a brother, but my parents always got me female things instead of male things

  • @SiIlyGuy
    @SiIlyGuy Рік тому +1

    5:18 IT GOT ME ON THE FIRST ONE

  • @-Lukaa-
    @-Lukaa- Рік тому +2

    Yeah seeing.g ur cis relatives get stuff you want, height, deeper voice, fitting in with cis dudes. I always get femme things.

  • @EEMM76
    @EEMM76 Рік тому +4

    THANK YOU FOR THE FIRST ONE😭
    Bro help, I hate my body I just wanna be a guy. But I can’t let go of being a girl. My crush won’t like me as a guy, my best friend is transphobic I’m pretty sure 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 TIPS PLEASEEEE

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +2

      Bro I'm trans to idk how to help and same my crush won't like me as a guy and my dad is transphobic and homophobic

  • @thatboringone7851
    @thatboringone7851 Рік тому +1

    Decided on keeping my birth name for now and I'm still right there at 5:23 having a generic transmasc name 💀

  • @ev7575
    @ev7575 Рік тому +11

    anyone else kind of sick of the transmasc name jokes? like sure they were kind of funny at first but now they just seem unnecessary and mean-spirited, like there's literally nothing wrong with any of those names

    • @homosapien7316
      @homosapien7316 7 місяців тому +4

      yeah. It made me put off choosing a name because any name you choose no matter how normal and non-stereotypical, gets you made fun of purely because you're trans and chose it yourself. (for example I chose Will, then Charles, then Ed and all got me made fun of. I'm sticking with my current name which I won't say but even that one wasn't safe)

  • @skrimblesnuff
    @skrimblesnuff Рік тому +1

    the first one was the best i should follow that tutorial

  • @Pokeymario
    @Pokeymario Рік тому +1

    came out to my bestsie girls yesteday and today i transitioned so quick- but my voice is so high 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @Leo_WildPawzzz
    @Leo_WildPawzzz Рік тому +2

    I'm 11 and from the time I was three to now I've hated being a girl so when I was 9 I told my brother and I told him to tell my sister but I got embarrassed so I said that I changed my mind but in reality I'm just waiting until I'm 14 to tell my fam but I want to know how to tell them

  • @charlie.hugs_
    @charlie.hugs_ Рік тому +1

    WILBUR PFP YESSSSS

  • @neotyppe4469
    @neotyppe4469 11 місяців тому +1

    4:26 it's called a french tuck

  • @RobynTheCadaver
    @RobynTheCadaver Рік тому +1

    5:33 you fools, my name is Lux…

  • @rawrxd56
    @rawrxd56 Рік тому +3

    Just a tiny thing- how tf do y'all find a name nothing seems to fit for me like it always just another word like it never holds any value and idk if it's bc names j aren't important or because i just haven't found the right one. that being said for now i go by Atlas or (uh oh) Oliver 💀 (i got called out in that one clip fr)

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +2

      I went through a lot of names before I picked the name I liked but for advice if you don't like the name you picked try taking a guys name from something you watch, music you listen to, because if you have a favorite person and take their name it will make you happy from what I've seen

    • @rawrxd56
      @rawrxd56 Рік тому +1

      Thanks for the advice! I've decided to stick with Atlas and i hope that i don't go thru another name change crisis (this is like my 7th name lmfao)

  • @keyboarddancers7751
    @keyboarddancers7751 Рік тому +2

    It's all make believe until you think about the men's showers.

    • @JesterHiraeth-yq8lp
      @JesterHiraeth-yq8lp Рік тому +1

      This comment broke into my house, slapped me across the face, and then escaped by jumping out the window

  • @noxxamu.
    @noxxamu. 7 місяців тому

    5:34 I audibly went "yess ✊"

  • @finn_the_spooky_man
    @finn_the_spooky_man 18 днів тому

    5:29 I almost got away with it 😭
    Lmao I love my name tho

  • @mayleeluvsjesus
    @mayleeluvsjesus Рік тому +1

    5:13 bro i almost chose kai 😭

  • @SincerelyBumble
    @SincerelyBumble 2 місяці тому

    5:18 Fénix

  • @braceface.cosplay
    @braceface.cosplay Рік тому +1

    5:33 its vin. Not finn. I dodge a bullet right there

  • @AquaKeyBlade98
    @AquaKeyBlade98 Рік тому +1

    My name is Kai.... the FIRST ONE mentioned!! 😭

  • @lane95
    @lane95 Рік тому +2

    As a southerner, that first video absolutely slaps its so real

  • @I.luv.chase.Atlantic
    @I.luv.chase.Atlantic Рік тому +2

    Ha! I, transmasc but my name is rayne

  • @nex_r9750
    @nex_r9750 11 місяців тому +1

    STOP I THOUGHT I WAS BEING ORIGINAL AS A TOBY WDYM THERE'S MORE 5:21

  • @tiredtherianz
    @tiredtherianz 11 місяців тому +1

    I'm a trans boy, but I still like to wear dresses. Am I still valid as a trans boy? I am a trans drag queen, I think.

    • @_W0rm_F00d_
      @_W0rm_F00d_ 10 місяців тому +1

      You are valid as a trans guy!! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
      Expression ≠ gender

  • @rosekeqing4881
    @rosekeqing4881 Рік тому +4

    how did youtube kno-

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +2

      Bro I know it's weird I randomly started getting transmasc videos recommended to me to

  • @teadarling8154
    @teadarling8154 Рік тому +1

    5:13. I always win these: Torey 😎😎😎😎😎😎

  • @leosparkflame
    @leosparkflame Рік тому +1

    This is just my fyp😅

  • @TobiasIsBiased
    @TobiasIsBiased Рік тому +6

    Is it ok to be trans masc and not want bottom surgery?

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +1

      Yeah that's ok

    • @skrimblesnuff
      @skrimblesnuff Рік тому +5

      yea that’s fine you could be transmasc and not want any surgery at all :)

  • @Dazais_MustyBandages
    @Dazais_MustyBandages 16 днів тому

    5:18 I don’t see Elias on there 😗

  • @ilovemilfz.yuh.
    @ilovemilfz.yuh. Рік тому +1

    5:15 arlo gang
    👇🏻

  • @KayD3n_27
    @KayD3n_27 Рік тому +1

    5:24 umm..No… defo not 😅😅

  • @momsspaghetti-sd9sn
    @momsspaghetti-sd9sn 6 місяців тому +1

    Transmasc isn't the same as trans man

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  6 місяців тому

      I figured that out only recently

  • @Xanadu_VII
    @Xanadu_VII 2 місяці тому

    5:33 but- my online name is Levi?

  • @Dandnayak778
    @Dandnayak778 Рік тому

    What the hell did I just witness

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +1

      What do you mean?

    • @Dandnayak778
      @Dandnayak778 Рік тому

      @@Wilbur_1_ I mean I'm usually an alt right guy. It's my first time ever being on this side on the internet. It isn't as hateful as it looks. I'm confused

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +1

      oh ok I just wanted to make sure you weren't a hater

  • @JohnSmith-ry7wh
    @JohnSmith-ry7wh Рік тому +1

    Just be a big fake huh

    • @Wilbur_1_
      @Wilbur_1_  Рік тому +6

      What?

    • @Red_1789
      @Red_1789 Рік тому

      Listen you are fake how about that

    • @raine_rainegoaway
      @raine_rainegoaway Рік тому +4

      Ok John Smith

    • @n210n7
      @n210n7 Рік тому

      be u

    • @rat_teethhhh
      @rat_teethhhh Рік тому +4

      Bro please answer me these questions:
      1. Does being trans affect u?
      2. Does it affect ur day to day life?
      3. Is there really, like REALLY any reason to hate on people who are trans at all?
      Please go sort out ur life and be nicer to other humans no matter what:)